we broke up and I’m moving away
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- Making this got me through the worst weeks of my life. Thank you for giving me the space to share myself so openly and honestly. It saved me.
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I'm overwhelmed by the amount of love and support you've given me at a time when I need it most. This video went up later than usual and that's because I was sitting here in front of my computer, unsure if I should publish it. Truthfully, it only published because I had it 'scheduled,' and it went live while I was deep in thought. I was so scared. I was scared of feeling embarrassed, wrong, and letting people down. I was scared of what people would say and think. I think, mostly, I was scared that once it was out there... it was finally 'real.' And now I'm sitting here in front of my computer again reading through each message and I feel so seen and supported. I feel like it's going to be okay. I don't know how but I trust that it will. The belief you have in me, the love you have for me and the confidence you have in my strength is.... it means more than I can put into words. So I'll just say thank you and do my best to show you over the coming months just how much you've helped me. I truly love each and every one of you x
Phoebe what you're going through is real. Like Facebook, people usually only post the best bits of their life. You've given us a glimpse of your life before discussing your fears and overcoming them. I'm sure it's helped people. It's certainly made me determined to travel on my own overseas next time friends back out. So I'm positive sharing this crushing news will help people in a similar situation. You will overcome this. You haven't let anyone down, on the contrary, you're an inspiration to many. There is nothing to be embarrassed about, this is real life. It's not Fakebook life. Totally real life shit. But you will rise from this stronger than ever.
@@WiseGuy02 agree, these life experiences give us a rebirth, a new direction, and the opportunity to find strength within. And like the Phoenix rise again, stronger, wiser, and with a new capacity for empathy for all travelers on this road of life.
I rewatched your video today. Your analogy reminded me of a song that I think you might take comfort in:
I breathe in, I breathe out
Got friends who let me talk about
What ain’t working, what’s still hurting,
All the things I feel like cussing out.
Now and then I let it go
I ride the waves I can’t control
I’m learning how to build a better boat.
Keep swimming, Phoebe. We’ll be your friends when you need. And work hard to build your better boat.
Sending ❤❤❤
So sorry to hear but really thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your experiences. I look forward to seeing the next phase of your journey!
You, young Phoebe are a fighter...you showed us that last week in your Thailand video. Yes, it absolutely sucks right now but we have watched you grow so much over the months since you took over the channel on your own. You have a fantastic You Tube community that loves you and supports you and i'm sure everyone feels the same that we want nothing but the best for you so here it is...here is my best being sent to you 🥰. Stay strong young lady and keep doing the things that you want to do and make your life what you want it to be. Things I have learnt from you this year....be brave, be honest and be awesome!!!!!!
Thank you so much Tracie... you know, I was getting so anxious as the publishing time for this video came around. I think one of the hardest things for me is the fear of judgement and other people's opinions and feelings being pushed onto me, particularly the negative stuff. And to have that in your head and then read a comment like yours that just... shines so much love and positivity... it really means a lot to me x
Sorry you are going through this, breakups suck 😢 but thank you for sharing & go you for moving towns & solo travelling 👏🏻 look forward to seeing where life takes you & hope you’re doing better every day ❤❤
Thank you so much 🙏🏼 little by little I’m getting there
Ah Phoebe! Choosing yourself is a beautiful decision! It’s a beautiful, terrible, painful thing….but oh so worth it. I’ve been on a similar journey with self love and self discovery and I feel so much more of who I am and want to be than I ever have! Thank you for baring your heart and soul to us!
So much love and light your way!
It’s so good to hear you’ve been through a similar journey and found so much love for yourself. That’s exactly what I’m focused on right now ♥️
I was going to check your channel today for some travel inspo because your videos were always so bright and happy but I am so sad to hear about your breakup. I wish you all the strength and healing. ❤
Thank you so much ♥️
Awww Phoebe! I am so sorry you're going through this! Sending virtual hugs! Xx
Thank you Krista, I really appreciate it darling x
thank you for sharing your journey with us - even in this trying time - sending love from Texas!
I really appreciate the kindness and support. Thank you for watching and listening to me x
Hey Phoebe, so sorry for what you are going through. You are so strong and brave for sharing this with us. I admire your vulnerability! You will get through this 💪
Thank you so very much, it means the world ♥️🙏🏼
Feel your pain and looking forward to hearing from better times ahead. Brave to share. ♥
Thank you, I really appreciate it xx
I’m really sorry that this had happened. To be able to remain so graceful and eloquent just shows how unbelievably strong you are. I wish I could’ve helped you pack! Thankyou for allowing us in. Sending you love 😘❤️🤗
I would've loved the help packing :) In a weird way I think it was good for me to do it... cathartic to cleanse so much and put my life away and move it... good for the soul somehow. Thank you for the love x I needed it!
Just discovered your channel. Very proud of you for making it! Keep going.
Oh honey! You’re so brave to share your story, you’ve got this! Sending lots of positivity your way ❤
I really appreciate that love 🙏🏼 I was so nervous to share this. I was scared to even watch the footage. Normally I edit each video ahead of time but I couldn’t bring myself to do this one until Friday lunchtime. It was tough but I’m glad I did in the end… making this healed me a little somehow
Hey Phoebe, sending love from the UK. I am going through something similiar and I see you and you have a friend here in the UK. "Change can be both frightening and beautiful. Open your heart to whatever life has in store for you and the unlimited potential the future holds". He gave me a necklace with this quote before he left, and ironically It helps each day. Sending love and hope you both are alright.
Wow... it's wild you got that on a necklace from the person who left... Thank you for sharing it with me. It really is incredibly insightful x
In all your videos you radiate with confidence, and you will get that back, emerging stronger than ever before. On another note, lots of appreciation for the amount of effort you put into the videos - it’s helped me with my travel enormously. You’ve built yourself an amazing community through which you have all the support you need to get through these tough days. Just one more day, put one step in front of the other to get that pain far behind you.
I hope I can get it back 🙏🏼 thank you for the belief and the lovely words about the videos. I can’t tell you how much I love making them so hearing that you enjoy them so much and they’re helpful means the world to me ♥️
Stay strong girl ! I’ve spent two months in Cairns (December last year and January this year) and loved it so much, went there after a break up (which happened in Canada) as well, was crying for the first month and the second month really enjoyed it! It has amazing healing flora and fauna there, so peaceful, people are very friendly, lot of nature, yin yoga on the beach, beautiful islands with coral reefs, snorkling, fresh seafood, and a lot of yummy Asian food, I loved it so much!! Healing can be messy, take one step at a time, love yourself, meditate, go for long walks. We love your channel, it’s very inspiring and you’re doing an amazing job with it! We’ve seen you grow up spiritually with it so much, your vibes are so high now and positive that the Universe decided to give you this change to welcome people in your life who can resonate with new you better! You fare going though this because you’re growing and on your path! Cheer up and cry it all out before smiling and laughing again. (Yoga helps me, they say pain is stored in the hips), so happy healing !! We love you!!
I couldn’t agree more - this part of Queensland is so magical! There are endless spots to connect with nature and have fun. I really need that. Thank you also for the perspective on the universe deciding to give me a change. It feels so much better than ‘this awful thing is happening to me.’
I'm so sorry that you're going through this, sending you lots of love and I hope you take care of yourself and always continue to be the beacon of happiness that you are ❤️
Thank you so much I really appreciate it ♥️🙏🏼
Phoebe, I am so sorry you're going through this. Watching your journey from the old blogging days (circa 2012 on Wordpress if you recall!) to starting your TH-cam channel to now, watching your solo travel videos, I have been so inspired and humbled by how authentically you choose to show up no matter the challenges, the pressures, and the judgment of others. Despite how challenging things are now, I applaud you for speaking and acting on your truth and recognizing what you need and want in this season of your life. You are resilient and you will come out of this stronger than ever. Sending you best wishes and good energy for the days to come. ✨❤
I feel like I owe you some kind of badge or award, you've been following since day one! Really, I'm sure you're the longest follower here and I can't thank you enough for sticking with me for so long. Thank you so much for seeing the strength in my struggle and sharing it with me. I wasn't feeling very strong and empowered before I shared this video (I very nearly didn't but I'm so glad I did). Thank you also for believing in me. It's so empowering x
This is sad. I noticed so many couples who are travel vloggers breaking up. But you'll be fine, girl. Keep doing what you do. You inspire so many female solo travellers, including me.
Thank you so much! Nothing heals quite like solo travel huh ♥️
@@travelforphoebe yeah its like pure meditation 😁😁😁❤❤❤👍👍👍
Looking forward to seeing you blossom into your new life and surroundings. Hopefully some travel videos around your new location when you are feeling ready for it. Stay strong and live each day to the fullest. My husband lost his father a few years ago and we found walking helped a lot to relieve stress.
Thank you so much for watching and listening. I’ve been walking the dog and doing home workouts - physical activity like that is so good for giving the mind a break! You can’t think about all the bad stuff AND workout at the same time thank goodness 😌 maybe in time I’ll have a healed heart and big biceps!
Sending you all the vibes! Best of luck with the move and your new start🙂
I really appreciate the positivity - exactly what I need right now! thank you x
Thank you for being so raw and real. Parts of this video really brought back uncomfortable memories of my own but also made me see how happy I am now I am on the better end of it. How necessary it was to go through to be here today. Phoebe I am so sorry you're going through this. As painful as it is, as daunting as it is, as exhausting as it all feels, you will come out better for it.
Oh my gosh, thank you so much. I really didn't know if I was going to edit this or post it... I didn't know if I could. Hearing that you found it raw and real... I really feel so seen. Thank you.
Aww. I’m so sorry about your breakup. I salute you for sharing your feelings and what you’re going through. It is what it is and you’ll slowly accept it and move forward. I hopefully you’ll make some videos of your future travels when you’re better. Virtual hugs 🤗
Thank you so much, it's terrifying sharing so much on the internet but the amount of support from people who have been there is so helpful! Making the videos is such a great outlet for me - I'll definitely still be making them :)
@@travelforphoebe you’ve got this 💪🏻
You are making it. Your recent videos are awesome and you have turned the corner I think. God bless you. Keep the good videos coming for all of us.
Thank you so very much 🥰
I’m sorry you’re going through this! I’m glad you have that lovely cat to be by your side. They deserve all the treats and you deserve the best!
Thank you so much! She has been amazing for me. I don’t know what I would’ve done without her
I'm a long-time silent follower and couldn't help but comment on this video as it struck a chord with me. You're so brave to share something deeply personal, it was so raw and vulnerable that I wanted to share my experience with you and give you strength.
I went through a separation 2 years ago during lockdown, we were together for nearly 8 years and had 2 dogs and 1 cat. The de-coupling stage is the most challenging with finances, logistics, fur babies and assets not to mention dealing with the grieving for the relationship on top of all that. I too went through a rollercoaster of emotions and bad days where I did question life but I'm in such a better place now. It took me about 6 months to grieve, to focus on myself (I called it "my road to self-discovery".. I too struggled with communicating feelings, my wants, my needs and putting myself first) and opening my heart to someone new. I can now think back about the memories without it being painful. I just want to say it gets easier! I'm now with someone who I can express myself openly and went on our first holiday to NZ North Island with our itinerary based on your travel videos :)
I love that even during these tough times you expressed so much gratitude. Now you just need to practice self-love
I cannot thank you enough for sharing this with me. It was so helpful. I was reading it just taking these deep breaths. I dunno, it was incredibly soothing and validating. It’s cruel that people have to go through all this ‘admin’ stuff while going through so much emotionally. You really are in no state to deal with anything and yet you have to. It’s awful.
Thank you again, your comment really touched my soul and gave me so much confidence and hope
To every end there’s a new beginning Phoebe . Been through a breakup myself and all I can say is it gets easier to move on but you never forget after all it’s what shapes you. Take care lovely lady and be kind to yourself ❤
Thank you... reading your comment is so helpful, truly. It's so encouraging and soothing to hear from people who have gone through it and come out the other side x
The travels you keep making (many times alone) and the great videos are a testament to you as a person. Keep it up. You can do it.
It is heartbreaking but oh so freeing, lovely! Heal at your own pace, in whatever way you need to. Big hugs! xx
I love that sentiment - I'm learning things can be both good and difficult!
OMG, I was shocked to see this video pop up!
I’m so sorry, this is absolutely heartbreaking. You had me in tears.
Congratulations on your bravery. Posting this video took guts. You go girl. I hope you are receiving loads of love and support.
I’ve only discovered your videos in recent months while looking up NZ videos for a trip I’m taking in August. I haven’t made my way through all of them yet (I watch them when I go on the crosstrainer) but the ones I’ve watched I’ve absolutely loved.
Sadly, you and Matt reminded me of me and Kieran, which makes this news even more devastating.
I hope things get brighter as the year continues, and that you find ‘whatever it is’ that makes you feel happy and complete.
Ps. It was cool to see your childhood photos. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much love and glad I could keep you company on the cross trainer ♥️ We’ve been so close for so long. Truly, best friends for 15 years. Losing that person is so very painful.
@@travelforphoebe I can only imagine. 🥲
I look forward to catching up on all of your videos. Keep up the good work and hopefully something amazing will come of it. Sending positivity your way. 🥰
You are the strongest Phoebe . So sorry to hear that you are going through a tough phase in your life Life is a roller coaster . You have been inspiring so many people including myself and I am sure you continue to do so through your travel videos . Much love and power to you ❤❤❤
Thank you so so much love 🥹
sending you a virtual hug I am familiar with the pain. I applaud you for being this vulnerable and sharing this video, it's going to take time to heal, this video is the start of your healing journey. I have been a subscriber to your channel for years I remember I took your advice and visited a hotel from one of your suggestions in Thailand, but I have never commented on any of your videos before. I am sharing this to say you are appreciated and I hope you continue and if you don't that's ok too. Be blessed.
Thank you so much for the virtual hug, it's so good to hear from other people who have gone through it. I will absolutely be continuing on. This space has given my life so much meaning and making the videos, sharing them here... nothing lights my soul up in quite the same way. It makes me so very happy and I'm going to be clinging to that quite tightly :) Thank you x Glad you commented for the first time tonight - I needed it!
You always brought so much joy to us in these videos. The universe will reward you soon for all that you've done :) stay strong and beautiful
Oh gosh 🥹 I really appreciate that - it’s just the motivation I need to keep going
Thank you so much for this video. I'm so sad to hear about the pain you're going through and pray for your happiness. At the same time so excited to see your journey. I have never felt so seen and heard by listening to someone. All my life I suffered from crippling anxiety and self doubt and always prophesied for the worst. When the worst happened, I picked myself up, focussed in on my emotions and healing.. almost a year later my life has turned upside down and is better than I could have ever imagined because I believe in the power of me. Feel everything that you're feeling, accept and relish how you're feeling and give yourself the space to breathe and process it all.. is there a way I can contact you xxx
Wow, your comment was so inspiring! Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. It's great to hear other people's journeys and know you're not alone :)
Phoebe. I’m so sorry, my heart broke when I saw this notification. I’m so happy to get to know you both throughout your videos and (I reckon I speak for everyone here) I’ll continue to listen to your advice, check your videos and just enjoy everything you’ve built. Change is hard, change is difficult, but what doesn’t change is the people who give a damn and want to support you. You’ve got this ❤
Oh my gosh James... oof... I'm overwhelmed by the love and support. I can't tell you how much it means to me, truly. Just.... thank you. from the bottom of my heart.
Sending hugs Phoebe ♥️ xx. I’m not in your situation but with every obstacle I face, I find that taking it one day at a time really helps (I’m also going to adopt your idea of having a countdown calendar - I think that’s a great way to remember a goal/destination). I’m sure NQ will be a good change. All the best ♥️
The countdown calendar got me through it… that first week I couldn’t function at all. I had nothing. But that little cross just… ✨ it saved me! Thank you so much - I think I’m really learning what one day at a time actually means 🙏🏼
Keep your head up and keep pushing threw this extremely hard time. I have been thru this myself and trust me if I can do this you can do this as well. From what I've seen on your channel you seem like a very strong and brave women. Keep up the amazing work cause your channel makes people smile. Thinking of you and all the best, Dan
It’s so good to hear from people who have been through it and made it out the other side. Thank you so much 🙏🏼
Phoebe, you have opened up so much over the months and it has been so refreshing. I know being vuneralbe can be so scary, but you are not alone in any of this. I moved across the world in the name of love only to be left heartbroken, re-building on my own in a different country away from everything I knew. It was one of the hardest things I went through, still to this day, but it made me SO strong, it made me stand tall in who I am (even if I had to figure out who I was all over again) it was a journey, it was a rollercoaster, it was confronting and demanding but I would do it all again for who I am now, the strength it gave me, to know that if I could get myself out of that hole, I can do anything. I also went on a journey of just complete and utter selfishly loving on myself, what I need, what I wanted, and learned to become stronger in my voice. It has helped me cultivate a life full of more things I love and less people pleasing, but it is a journey. One that many aren't willing to take as it is uncomfortable. I am cheering you on every step of the way, thank you for sharing this. It definitely hit home and I wish I had used something like this to help me through back then, so i am happy that you have that. You have so much. and you are SO right in saying you already have everything you need within you to overcome this! No external factors will really be able to help you overcome a battle that from the sounds of it, is very much rooted internally. And that's okay. It's a journey of unbecoming, unlearning and discovery. Who you become on the other side of this will be EVERYTHING. and I can promise you that. You will be and should be so proud. we all are so proud of you getting to this point, keep going, day by day! sending all my love and strength! xox
Oh my gosh Jaime… wow… reading this lifted my whole soul up. I felt so much of myself in your words. Thank you so so much for sharing your story with me, you’ve no idea how helpful it was. I felt so much resonate with me. There’s so much I’ve been worried about and little by little I’m starting to learn how much I’m capable of and how much of that fear was just my mind telling me I can’t do something without actually knowing if I could or not! I also loved the part about totally and completely loving yourself. That’s the journey I want. I’ve never lived alone, been by myself like this. I really want to learn how to love myself and give that to myself. I want to be really selfish in the best possible way ♥️
I’m so sorry for what happened to you, Phoebe… I did go through an awful breakup of my own during COVID, and I wouldn’t wish something like that even on my worst enemy (and clearly not on someone that’s so incredible and sweet as you). Even if you don’t want to hear it right now : time heals all things… It took me 3 years, a big trip and a lot of support from friends, family and even a psychologist to get where I am today, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I found myself and just how capable I truly am and I know you will too. Can’t wait to share this journey with you and see what you get up to! Never forget that you’re not alone… Sending your hugs from Canada! Xxx
Wow... I really appreciate that Coralie. The part about 'I found myself and just how capable I am...' that resonates with me deeply. I have so many limiting self-beliefs I need to work through this year and I think pushing myself out of my comfort zone, travelling and having new experiences will give me the chance to do that!
Hi Phoebe, thanks for showing us your vulnerability that’s really hard especially on this forum. I am so sad your hurting and going through your breakup. I know how hard it is and how painful it is, a broken heart is the worst. I have been watching your vlogs for ages and feel your strength and courage shine through. My advice is don’t doubt yourself and spend this time building yourself back up and know you will be happy and loved again in the future. This is heart breaking but it’s also a brand new beginning on the horizon. You will be ok promise!💋
Listen to Ross Rosenberg on YT he’s amazing and will help you understand what makes people tick. Your home work is to be soft with yourself and every time self doubt creeps in, nip it in the bud and remind yourself that you are a beautiful, intelligent, caring, loving and kind human being and deserve to be loved just the way you are. You will not only be ok you will thrive in the not distance future. All my love and hugs xox ❤️💜💙
Ps you are enough!
Sending you so much love xxxx You've got this, you are an amazing person! xxx
Thank you so much T ♥️
Haven't had that kind of life event but this is relatable in grief of loss, things being upended, and being overwhelmed in overthinking. Struggle is real. Best of luck on your next steps.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing, it's so helpful x
I dealt with a break up and divorce a few years ago and it was one of the hardest things I overcame. You will get through this! You have an amazing community behind you. Sending you love and hugs! ❤
I really appreciate that love. Thank you. It’s so helpful to hear from others who came out the other side ♥️
Phoebe I'm so grateful not only for the amazing content you put out, but also the amount of vulnerability you share with us in your videos. This must have been the most personal video you've put out into the world, and I'm just in awe of your courage. When I went through my divorce it felt like all I ever saw on the internet was happy couples and amazing relationships. While I'm always happy for happy people in love, at that time it made my personal hell feel even darker and more abnormal and embarrassing. I know this journey isn't one you planned on ever making or sharing, but I know your openness about this subject is helping so many people you'll never even know.
Wow, thank you so much for this comment. It really feels like you saw so much that wasn’t said. It’s so very validating and soothing for me 🥹♥️
Have loved watching your videos on travelling to some beautiful places in the world and I’m so so sorry to be seeing this video, so personal and upsetting to watch, but you will get through this and will shine even brighter than before, keep doing what your doing sending lots of love from the UK 🇬🇧 xx
Thank you so very much.... the love and support right now is... woah... it really means the world to me.
Proud of you ❤ sending healing and loving vibes ❤
Thank you ♥️
Sweatheart, you appear to have been hit with something you didn't see coming, and I have so much respect for you to even be able to put together a video like this. I started watching your videos about a week ago to plan for an upcoming family trip to Thailand. And from the first video I watched, I could tell you had an enormous energy about you. You vibrate at higher frequency than most people. I hate to see you going through this. But you are right, there is a plan for you! I watched some of your earliest videos all the way up to videos last week about Thailand. You have evolved so much! It sucks, but now you have nothing holding you back to fly. Think bigger and don't let people hold you down. You are young, you are beautiful, and most important, you are going to be ok 😉 You've got so much potential and you've only just scratched the surface! Hoping to make it over to Thailand in June. Looking to purchase a vlogging camera and documenting our family adventure. My daughter, 8, wants to be a TH-camr 😀 I have no idea what I'm doing, but we will have fun with it 😀 Keep your head up. You are a strong woman!
Thank you so much! I started filming just to have an outlet, somewhere/something to talk to and get it out. I'm not the best at talking to people face to face about stuff so talking to the camera in my house was just what I needed. I didn't watch any of the footage back until a few days before I posted the video and it was so hard to watch. But, weirdly, editing it all together healed me a little.
Thank you so much for all your kindness and the belief you have in me. I can't tell you how much impact that has on my heart and soul right now :)
@@travelforphoebe you are most welcome. You are going to meet someone just like you when you least expect it and you guys are going to travel the world and have a blast. Also, remember to surround yourself with good energy/people. I seen a Lost LeBlanc video recently on a digital nomad resort he built in Bali for content creators. People from all over the world stay at his resort and colaborate with one another on creating digital content. It would seem like a really cool experience if I lived closer. But if you are needing something to dive into to take your mind off things, surrounding yourself with digital gurus and learning new things could be a positive experience 😉
Bury yourself in work takes all the pain away
Oh Phoebe, I am so sorry to hear this. I had a feeling something had happened tbh, I don't know why exactly.. you both seem like such lovely people and it has been a pleasure to watch you and take on your advice about places to visit. Separating doesn't change that fact, I am sure you are both beautiful people who will go on to lead a wonderful life. Your journey up until this point was meant to be with Matt, I mean would you have created Little Grey Box without Matt? But as with friends, family and also lovers, they are not always meant to be in our lives forever, but they are meant to help us grow and learn about ourselves, and everyone who comes into our lives are a blessing, even if it doesn't end quite the way you hoped. I was in a long term relationship and when we separated I felt so lost. I never imagined becoming a single mum, but 5 years on I could not imagine my life any different. I am grateful for my ex for teaching me lots about myself (the good and the bad) and for also giving me my beautiful son. No regrets. I spent the first couple of years after our seperation mending myself, being around people who made me happy, travelling solo, growing as a person. It seems like you have already started on a similar journey and I promise in time you will start to feel whole again. Be grateful for the time you had together, stay friends if you can, but focus on yourself now and healing. I wish you all the best and look forward to watching your solo adventures. From one women to another, I will be rooting for you! Xx
Oh, thank you so much for taking the time to share... I really appreciate it. Reading your comment was so helpful. I agree - so much good has come from our relationship and there's nothing but love and respect between us x
Oh Phoebe, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sending lots of love from the UK
Thank you so much Kelly x
Hi Phoebe, I recently just came across your channel and it’s so unfortunate to see this kind of video come out. You seem like such a warm and fun person! Pain is temporary but flourishing is forever. It seems like nowadays we’re all going through hell, but it’s burn or keep on walkin’. Stay strong, you’ve gained a new subscriber. We’re all here for you and your new chapter. Cheers.🍻
Thank you so much! Appreciate the advice and support :)
Oh Phoebe! I am so sorry to hear about you and Matt! I know all to well everything you are going through. When my first husband of 13 years and I separated it was devastating! Especially because we had a 4yr old son. I had so much fear of the unknown, sadness and anxiety about how I was now going to manage raising a child everyday without a partner at home. I didn’t tell anyone, not even my parents about the separation for 6 months! I went through every emotion, fear, extreme loss, grief, anger , depression…all of it and I have to say that it does get better. Getting up everyday and going to work, seeing my son’s face everyday and taking care of him, helped me not to spiral into a really dark place.
My Ex-husband and I did co-parent our son and each one of us has re-married. We remain friendly…not always the case in divorces. Our son has lived with me and is still with me…he turns 21 in a few weeks. It was hard for him not seeing his Dad everyday but he too adjusted. He now has two separate families and is grateful for his parents and step-parents.
All I can tell you is this:
Allow yourself to go through every emotion that hits you when it hits you…there will be many! It’s part of the process to getting back to YOU! Yes, there are so many unknowns and change is hard, especially when you don’t know what is coming. There will come in time a feeling of self-liberation, when you truly realize the freedom you have to live your life without having to include someone else in your decisions. Until you get to that part, you have the support of your loved ones, your fur-babies and of course all of us!
You are wrapped in love & support…hope you can feel it!❤
At the end of the day, when everything is stripped away, the most important thing you will always have is YOU and that is monumental in you getting to the end of this very hard road. Take it one day at a time and stay strong. You will grieve for your marriage because it is a massive loss. If there are things you want to hold on to that’s ok but just pack them away. A lot of things I gave to my son as mementos for him to have.
You will make it through this and someday meet someone new who will restore your faith in love…I did! He was a guy I knew from High School and we have been married almost 9 years!
You got this love! Sending you as much love and hugs as you can handle from NY!! ❤❤❤
P.S. Wishing you a safe journey to your new place and the start of your new life!! 😘
I cannot thank you enough love. Honestly reading this was so very helpful 🥹
You are more stronger, courageous and best version of yourself than before. We always support you. Love from India
I really appreciate that, thank you!
Phoebe, you are such an inspiration with your strength and positive attitude. I look forward to watching you heal and having the best adventures in your life. Sending you love from California!
Oh, bless you, love! Thank you SO much. I really appreciate you seeing strength and positivity in me right now :)
Hey Phoebe, you've done great and keep your heads up. The amount of content and the travel vlogs have brought great joy to your viewers and myself!
I guess time will heal. Take some time off and we are definitely looking forward to your new journey!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate your kindness and support right now :)
@@travelforphoebe Keep your excellent videos coming. Your story really struck a chord with me, and apparently many others as well. You are not alone. I know so many who have gone through incredible grief, rebuilt their lives and ended up much happier. I am also in that group. Be strong and take it a day at a time for now.
I appreciate how vulnerable you were to share your story of heartbreak. I see your pain. Grief in divorce seems to linger even when you think it’s gone, even when you’re moving forward. It’s a heavy loss even if you know you’re better off. Keep smiling when you can and explore the world some more. You’re never really alone. God loves you and so do we❤️ I’ll keep you in my prayers lovely, Phoebe.
I really truly appreciate that Leah 🥹
Hey Phoebe, it made us sad watching your video tonight. We hope you’re ok ❤ We always tell our children…’Everything will turn out fine…it always does’ and we believe it will for you too. Take extra special care of yourself xoxo
Just adore you both so much, thank you so much for the lovely message. Felt like I was reading a note from my own family. I really appreciate the support ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Sending virtual hugs the 1st few weeks will suck but once you’ve moved hopefully everything will work out , I’ve been in a long term relationship that ended after 8 years, I was mess for the 1st few weeks maybe even a month then things get easier , you’ve got this stay strong x
Thank you so very much. Those first few weeks were gut wrenching - the grief is so physical! You can’t eat, you can’t sleep. It’s painful in your whole body.
Firstly just want to say I am sending you all the good energy and love. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable online! And GIRL I've been where you are multiple times! And each and every breakup was the PRECIPICE of me completely changing my life, my identity, becoming even more confident, self-assured, happy and just vibrant and colourful. I journaled everyday, let myself cry, I wrote down what I learnt from the relationship, how I could improve myself and listed out every single goal I wanted to accomplish in every aspect of my life! I moved from Brisbane to Gold Coast, then Gold Coast to Melbourne (now) and in 3 weeks moving to Bali and starting my trip around the world SOLO! I am so happy and comfortable in my company and so open and ready to call in my dream man too! This will be such an amazing journey for you. I know it's so painful and heartache is soo exhausting so I completely feel you and can empathise. I know you will look back in a year, in 2 years and you would have grown immensely from this experience! ❤Nourish your soul, do things you love, build new friendships, try new things. One day you will look back and you'll remember this time from all the things you DID do and ACHIEVE from this! P.S I also want to say, being single after these breakups pushed me to do so many things I probably wouldn't have done if I had to think of someone else. This is your chance to completely up-level and surprise yourself to becoming THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE (YOU)!!
Brenda…. Your comment just ✨✨✨ oh my gosh. It just went straight into my heart and soul. I’ve screenshot it and I’ll be re-reading it many times. It was exactly EXACTLY what I needed tonight. Thank you so very much ♥️ I love the part about writing what you learnt and all your accomplishments, I’m absolutely doing that tomorrow morning. Thank you for so much good energy and inspiration and love. It was so needed ♥️
@@travelforphoebe Ahhhh, so happy to hear girl!! All the best and so excited to tune into all your adventures and your journey! I love all your videos and vulnerability 😍
Be strong. Take one day at a time, and slowly come back to a new life - and please keep on making videos.
There are already so so so many sweet messages here to support you, Phoebe... I feel for you, sending you a virtual hug. You are strong, you are beautiful, you are young, you are talented. You have no prerequisite whatsoever to not be happy in your life and this happiness is right within you. I know it's hard, but you will see that eventually you would not be able to look back. I have been dating with my partner and later husband for over 8 years, then we broke up after moving to Australia together. Our divorce was brutal, there was insane amount of paperwork and hurdles, travelling to Sydney multiple times over months! Tears, tears, sadness etc. I've moved out, leaving literally everything behind, except bare essentials. And started my "alone" me era, with a not well paid job, completely devastated, same as you. That seem to be the end of the World back then, and I had no idea how can I survive alone and go on. I kept showing up. To work, to the World, discovering Melbourne around me every day as much as I could, travelling as often as I could, quitting my job, and starting to build my career in another place. I tried not to think about the past, only about the future and about the now. Self caring and putting all my power into my professional and personal growth. I have got so much free time, I've red so many books I could not have red in years. I was doing new things I've never done before and had something exciting to look forward every day or week, wether if it's simply a fancy cooked meal at home or bucket list travel. I know it's hard, but it will get easier with time. And it will be the more easy the more you do other things for yourself. This has been incredible, magical time in my life, full of solo experiences, travels and independence that I miss today, true mindfulness. Eventually, and unexpectedly, without even looking for it, I've felt in love again with my new partner and now have much better quality of relationships even after years together (almost 8, and I keep joking to him, that we will break up then). Without that breakup I wouldn't be my current me, stronger, happier, with amazing career and quality relationships. Those things happen for the better, not for the worse, just wait and you will see, it's magic, just try not to look back (again, I know it's hard). If you broke up, it just means those relationships no longer serve you, and, if they no longer serve you both, then why holding to them if you could be happier without? I still love and respect my ex-husband, but this is just a mellow memory and I could no longer imagine my life with him. Nowadays, I sometimes keep coming back to that solo period in my life, and think this was amazing, and today, this simply gives me confidence that even if this would happen again, I will make the most out of it and it seems to be quite exciting. I hope this is not going to happen, but still, I look positively at it if it does happen. If I got through that, I'm sure you can too. Hugs 🤗❤
Thank you so much for sharing, Anna. It's so comforting to hear your own struggles in someone else's words! It's incredibly cruel that we go through this heart-wrenching experience and in the midst of it have to start all this legal, admin stuff and make these huge decisions when all you want to do is crawl into a ball and hide for a while.
Reading about your journey starting with nothing and no idea how you'd survive to finding your strength and love again brought me tears. It felt like you were reading all the fears in my soul and putting them to rest. Truly. You've given me a huge amount of hope and faith. I can't say thank you enough.
@@travelforphoebe 🤗 I am glad that it helped, even if just a tiny bit. You are welcome. And I hope you're getting ready for your new, exciting, incredible, wonderful, fabulous chapter in your life, it's going to be awesome, I'm sure 😉
I hope you have all good things in life! Your videos have touched all of us in different ways and I hope that impact is reflected back to you a million times over. Stay as strong as you can and break when you need it. You’ve got a whole world of humans here to support you and your journey.
Thank you so very much x
So sorry for what you're going through, Phoebe. Sending out so much love and support from the other side of the country 🫂❤️
I really appreciate it 🙏🏼
Phoebe, you are strong, brave and resilient. You have already shown us how great you are independently. Great things await you because you deserve it. Big virtual hug to you
Thank you so much darling. I truly appreciate it x
Just remember that you’re a beautiful person and you deserve all the love and happiness. All the best! Stay strong!
Thank you x I really appreciate it
Sorry to hear that. Have a good rest to recuperate!
Wow, that's tough and both very personal to share as well. Take care and stay strong. You'll find your way and will get back doing what you enjoy most! Big hug!
Thank you! Really appreciate the support :) x
I’m very sorry this has happened to you Phoebe, life throws up so many surprises, but if there’s one thing I have learned watching you over the past 5 years is I’m so impressed by how tough & strong you are. I don’t know what this year has instore for you as you start your new journey, but never stop putting yourself first, to make time for yourself, I know & everyone who subscribes to this channel knows you will succeed.🙂❤️
Thank you so much 🙏🏼 I don’t always feel tough and strong so to know you see that in me, builds my own belief it’s there. I’m just so ready to travel and find some amazing places to heal 🙏🏼
I told you not long ago that you were the only TH-camr to make me cry happy tears,so I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. I don’t know you but I’m here for you, you’re a very beautiful person who deserves so much happiness ❤
We have a lot more happy tears to come I think 🥹 it’s gonna take a while but we’ll get there! I think it’s gonna be a big year of healing moments ♥️🙏🏼 thank you so very much for your kindness and love
We’ll be right there with you. Looking forward to it 💜
I’ve followed you from last two years now, watched and love your videos. Bit sad to see this but as they say,” time is a great healer”. Be strong and am sure you will do just better in future.
Thank you so much for all the love and support and now and over the years
I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. It must've been so hard. I hope your new life in a new place is amazing and look forward to seeing it if you feel ready and strong enough to share it.
Thank you so much 🙏🏼
Dear Phoebe, as many others have said, change is sometimes uncomfortable and painful, but I'm sure you're going to be okay. You are such a beautiful soul and have the necessary strenght to go through difficult things. You have already grown so much! We are going to keep supporting you, remember this: you are not alone. Love and hugs from Germany! :)
🥹 thank you so so much. Reading your comment just gives me so much hope and strength. Thank you love ♥️
Hello Phoebe, know that we're with you during this phase. It's the darkest before the dawn, and we hope you have a great dawn awaiting you at the other end of this phase. This will pass too. We know you'll emerge stronger from here - we're fully confident about you. Take care of yourself, focus on yourself and your well being, and keep marching ahead. May this be the beginning of something magnificent in your life! We pray for you and to give you the strength to make it through those grueling phase. If you need a shoulder for support, know that your fans are here to lend you the supporting shoulder.
Do continue your work on the channel - it'll help you take your mind off the present. Your videos have been super helpful and very much to our tastes and preferences, and no other travel channel has come so close to our preferences. So, know that your work is valuable and helps a ton of people!
Lots of love from India, from my wife and myself, who have loved your content for the past four years!
We're here for you and rooting for you! Go, girl! Win the world and live your life you the fullest!
Thank you SO so much, I really appreciate the kindness and support from both you and your wife :)
Aww, I’m so sorry, Phoebe. When I went through this what got me through was telling myself every single morning that I just needed to get through the end of the day, one day at a time. For me, that way of thinking was tremendous. Stay strong! Starting somewhere else is also a tremendous help.
I hear that - it really is just one day at a time, huh?! I never truly knew what that meant until now. Just get up, exist, do what you gotta do even if you feel rotten, and go back to sleep at the end of it. Rinse and repeat. Thank you so much for the love and support over the years and now when it's needed most x
Hi Phoebe moving is always a challenge but many times it is for the better. I hope all good things come your way ❤. I like the way you can turn a negative into a positive. Something that many of us can learn from , including me ❤
I really appreciate that. I try my best to always look for the positive or, in the darkest moments, know that it's there even if I can't see it x
Phoebe, I don't know you, but I have watched/loved your videos for a few years now. When I saw this all I wanted to do was reach through my screen and give you the biggest hug, my heart broke for you. Thank you so much for letting us all in and sharing this part of your life with us. Everyday things will become a little better, a little brighter and we cannot wait to see what you do next. All the love and strength in the world ❤️❤️❤️
You're so sweet love, thank you for the big virtual hug - I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. If you were here right now I'd be squeezing you tight too! My poor cat has been copping all my weepy hugs haha. I appreciate your lovely message so much. Thank you for the belief and support x
Phoebe we love you so much
My last Grandaughter 4 weeks old was named Phoebe as we all love you
You radiate with the love of God .. Call on your Heavenly Father who loves you the most ever..
Praying you find your next chapter and hold you up in prayer and love...
Your da best xx
Thank you so very much 🙏🏼 I can’t tell you how much that means to me 🥹♥️
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're ok and sending you positive vibes
Thank you so much, it means the world to me right now x
I'm so sorry! My heart breaks watching this. I know you'll be shining on the other side of it, whenever that comes. Sending positive vibes 😊
Oh gosh, thank you so much love. I really appreciate the support, belief and good energy right now. It's exactly what I needed, you know... I can't keep feeling so overwhelmed by the bad stuff x
Phoebe, you will get through this. I'm sure many people are telling you this right now. It is true. I went through a divorce after 13 years of marriage and it was one of the worst time of my life. It was also turned out to be one of the best things that has ever happened to me (besides the birth of my children) because it enabled me to become my true self. Keep that wedding present that you love, but pack it away for now. When you unpack it years from now, if it brings back bad memories, then chuck it. But if it still holds a place in your heart, hang onto it.
Thank you so much, it's really really helpful hearing from people who went through it and know the pain. Thanks for the advice on what to do with the present too. xx
Hi Phoebe, my daughter and I are so sorry to hear about this but to be quite honest we kind of felt it coming so we are not very surprised. Please know that you are such a beautiful soul and you are loved by so many people which is telling of who you are and how your personality shines. You are enough and you deserve to be the kind of happy that you dream about. Sometimes when things are not good for us but we don’t wanna take the difficult action to fix it, it happens anyway so that it can open the way to a much better future. It maybe difficult at first or for sometime but trust me it will get better and someday you will look back and realize that this had to happen so your life can go where you need to be. It’s only after you love yourself that things will get better and please never think you are not good enough or it’s your fault, you are more than enough for the right person and all what you are going through was meant to be for the good of future you. I get the feeling that you always put other ahead of yourself but something big had to happen for you to choose you and love yourself first before taking care of another person. We love you and support you and pray for you ❤ love from Ghada and Shahd from Egypt.
Thank you so much to you both for the kindness and support ♥️🙏🏼
Sending you lots of healing light ✨️ 💛
Thank you, I really appreciate it x
Powerful. As a TH-cam fan can only wish you the best from afar! Your last series has been one of the best. Looking forward to seeing you doing things that make YOU happy 🙏 best of luck from 🇮🇪
Thank you so much... I'm looking forward to that too x
Hey Phoebe,
Don't ever let anyone or anything define who you are, that beautiful soul with such a zest for life. We love you, even though we have never met, we wake each morning and turn on TH-cam to see what you've been up to. You brighten our day. You will get through this. New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. You will be okay and we will still be with you on this journey.
Thank you so much - hearing that the videos brighten your day like that and that you look forward to them means so very much to me :) Thank you for saying you'll still be with me on the journey... it is incredibly soothing.
I’m also at the beginning of a divorce. We were together 10 years. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable ❤️ It’s the hardest thing I’ve experienced and relate so much to what you are going through.
Oh love, we were married for ten as well. I feel you. We’re in this together now okay. When it gets hard, you think of me and I’ll think of you and we’ll know the other one is out there surviving through it 🙏🏼 we got this! ♥️♥️♥️ you should read through all the comments under this video. So many women have been where we are and found strength and happiness ♥️
@@travelforphoebe thank you!! I’ve definitely been remembering your story a lot when I’m feeling down. We can do this 💜
I'm so sorry this has happened to you Phoebe. :( And I can definitely relate. Break-ups can be really painful, but it's okay to feel all sorts of emotions right now. Your worth isn't defined by this relationship or its end. You are still an amazing person with so much to offer. So don't be too hard on yourself, and keep travelling and doing what you enjoy. x
Thank you so much for the kind words 🙏🏼
You're an amazingly strong inspiring woman! I wish you all the best things in the world and I'm sure you'll get through this hard time. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" it's the old saying uhn?! :) Lots of love!!! xxxx
Oh my gosh haha you're so right. You know, you hear these cliches and then you live through something like this and... it's so true...
awwww. No comment from someone who only knows you through the channel can help much. Just parental best wishes from my wife and I. You seem strong. But hearts bleed and need time to recover. Most of us have been there. Take time, be kind to yourself - focus on you. You seem a special person to me. You'll make it. We will hear from you again when you are strong enough and healed. Take Care.
Thank you so much for the kindness and support, for sharing and listening. I really appreciate it. So thankful to have such an amazing family and friends supporting me as well x
I think your parents always care about you. Stay strong always. Me used to be kicked out from my own house by my wife and her lover. She put restraning order on me. She claimed that I abused her after I saw them cheating on me on hidden cameras. I became homeless for a while. After the divorce had done I returned to Thailand until now. Stay strong girl.
Sending a warm heart to you as you go thru your transition. The good news is, you are smart, successful and beautiful. Your path may not be clear yet, but I feel a great future ahead of you. I often struggle with loneliness but, in loneliness there is freedom. Hope that helps 🙏 Namaste 🙏
It does help - thank you for listening and for sharing x
@@travelforphoebe anytime 💝
Stay strong. I pray for you. We like to see you happy as always. Thanks. Good luck 👍
Thank you so much 🥹♥️
I was married for 7 years, and have now been divorced for 7 years. I cannot even begin to tell you how much better and brighter things get; my life has turned out so much more wonderful than I ever would’ve expected in the first days, weeks, and months after. I hold so much empathy for you and your videos reminded me so strongly of all the feelings I had at the time, but you will come out so much stronger and look back at how brave you were. My cats were also a nice therapeutic perk that helped me through. You’ll mourn this period, but strangely enough one day you’ll look back and know you did the best things for you.
Wow. Wow. Wow. You’ve no idea how this resonated with my entire heart. Thank you so much! I feel like I can see my d future in your words (hope that makes sense) 🥰
That's not the truth for everyone sometimes it goes in the opposite direction but faith in God always brings u to a better place
What a massive journey you are about to embark on.. good on you for deciding that north Qld will be a good reset for you and I hope all goes well up there for you 💝 time to make time for yourself Phoebe and we will be here to support you...
Thank you so much love - I really truly appreciate your support x
I am glad you bared your feelings. It is healing and it makes you a "real person with real personal feelings" to the rest of us. Keep it up for the world to see. It shows courage. Things will get better over time. You will come out of this a stronger person.
Thank you so so much ♥️
Sending you Love and Light Bella ❤your stronger then you know and think you have got this 🥰
Oh gosh... thank you ❤
Thank you too share your emotional. You are great. Just keep going forward!
Thank you for watching and listening ♥️
Sending you lots of love and strength girl, you got this 🤎
thank you so very much x
Life goes on... Never give up! Phoebe 💕
Thank you x
I first discovered your video when I was planning a 2 weeks trip to Thailand Oct last year and been following you even since. Great videos and amazing personality. I split up with my partner about 2 months ago and now I'm leaving NZ for Europe for an open end trip in less than 2 weeks. My whole life I have been making plans and chasing my goals, for the first time I have no plans and I’m a bit lost. Like you said, just keep going and one day at a time. All the best.
I hear you!! Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏼
Keep on going! 🧡💪 You are strong! All the LOVE to you!🧡🧡
Thank you! 🙏🏼♥️
So raw and so brave. Sending you strength and love Phoebe!
oh gosh ... I'm overwhelmed :) thank you. I was scared to post it
It would have been so scary to post, but sharing your journey not only helped you process but will reach hundreds of others too. Never stop being brave and true to yourself.....whether you share it on TH-cam or not :)
So sorry you have had to go through this! Having been through a divorce myself, I can totally relate to the rollercoaster of emotions you are experiencing. I can vouch for the fact you WILL get through it and come out the other side and smile again. I admire you for prioritising yourself and focusing on what you want. I’m at the stage in my life too after being a chronic people pleaser and suffering anxiety and now I feel it’s time ti reclaim my life for me. So I relate to what you said about that too. Sending much love as you embark on the next chapter of this journey called life. Make it your own authentic story xx
I really appreciate that love ♥️
Hi Phoebe, so sorry to see you going through this distressing time,it was tough to see you go through your illness a while back and now this,you are so honest and I feel so sorry for you, god bless Phoebe XO
Thank you so very much, Bill. I really appreciate your support right now x