If he doesn't forget me he doesn't forget any of the others either. So what difference does it make? In other words don't go back because who cares if he remembers you because you aren't the only one he's remembering. 😮
When you are healed you actually don't care. You have learned the lessons they came to teach you and move forward. You can't move forward looking backwards. It's their loss not yours.
He lost out on being with a really good person. He taught me a valuable lesson on who I don't need to be with. I don't care if he remembers me or not 😮😂
Hit me hard too. I always knew he was trying to turn me into his little pet that landed in jail, likely because of him. It doesn’t make me sad anymore, it makes me sad I was so desperate for connection that I allowed it, but I don’t care anymore that he didn’t care about me the way I did him.
I will never give him another chance. He was manipulative, abusive, smeared me all over the place, the complete disrespect. I wont fort him as if i ever ßee signs like he gave i will run straight àway. He was nothing more than a bully, i like my peace and things to be simple.
I remember one time I said something to the guy I was dating. I said something like "oh you weren't even listening to me were you" And he looked me straight in my eyes and snapped back "I remember everything you've ever said " I was like wtf lmao
I asked him was he going to let me go. He said never. I literally had to leave without notice and change my phone number. 6 months NO CONTACT. Listening to you keeps me determined to never go back.
My ex kept in contact with all his exes he would tell me they all still loved him and he could go back anytime you wanted. I am the one he will never ever reach out to because when I finally figured out what he was doing to me with my super empath self I brought this narcissist to his knees and left I will never contact him and I know never reach out to me
My x NPD guy also told me his x wives al still love him. But (one of) his x mother in law said that is not true (about her daughter) with vehemence. So funny, they all say that. Is it self-delusion they tell others and possibly themselves as well? To hold up an image like they are so desirable? Is it just more of the manipulative tactics?
When people don't forget you narcissistic or not. It's because you left a big impact on them. You can move forward with confidence, not arrogance, just confidence. Put God first and keep moving on. I know in every relationship the man that I was with, Is never going to forget me? But my friend always told me to do the little things because it counted and I did.
I hope he doesn’t forget us. My rose colored glasses are coming off and I’m realizing he’s not that great of a person overall but I don’t understand how getting caught having an affair can cause him to drop every last person he’s ever known and move 3000 miles across the country… I personally hope he never has the peace of forgetting us
Agree with that. They remember the stuff they like, even in the middle of the relationship, and seem angry and confused about things you do or say or think that they don't like. Those are the parts they don't seem to remember later on.
My ex used me as a placeholder….. only until after the relationship was over did I know there was a long term gf. It was the most painful Realisation. Everything that he wanted me to work on or fix about myself, seemed to be a characteristic of this woman….I am not sure if he would ever forget me, but I may never forget this experience. I felt lower than dirt underneath shoes…. Nothing I did was ever right.
I feel the same but the long term relationship he had was supposed to be my best friend they both gaslight me for four years and I won't ever forget it
And nothing that other gf does will ever be right either. Just imagine how much hell every other person that comes along has to deal with his lies and high expectations for the fantasy he lives in, and then ask yourself if that would make you happy going back to that? No one will ever be good enough so always tell yourself that you are good enough and someone genuine will see that without lying to you in time.
One that got away... He will never find another one like me... He will never forget me... But he should have thought about it when he had me! I will never forget him either. But I WILL NOT BRAKE NO CONTACT! Of course he will forget me! In due time. Nothing lasts forever. And I will forget him. Or at least the memories will fade away... But deep down memories are for ever in our brain and soul. 😅
Thats why they lovebomb so strong next time an majority time the narc mainly remember supply only thing thats missed. Sadly while we saying theyll never find any1 as good they groom an finess like its smooth manipulation to make the next one work harder an prove more. Challenge to hear oh my girl never did this for me. Wow she never made this An sometimes it be just so they can push them to give them alottt more smh so sick
THEY TRY TO FIND YOU IN SOMEONE ELSE , absolutely agree & then they can't so they will come back to you to find out its too late unless you are not healed yet so you go back to the same cycle....
I feel like most people (narcissistic or not) probably don't fully forget their exes if they spent a significant amount of time with them. I still remember all of mine ocassionally, My feelings for them just faded as time went on.
Longest relationship, only one he wanted to have a baby with and build a house with, he will never find anyone that treated him as good as me, I hope he remembers that. His loss. But he won't remember how good and loving I was. He will remember I won in the end and took everything from him when he tried to take it all from me. Tried to take my home, money, everything I was and owned but I made sure he left with nothing and had to start over.
Most narcs, (at least the ones I know) will hold on to pics, video and phone numbers from the relationship, even when you've moved on and not thinking about them, ( they use it as leverage to regain access ) they are thinking about you...when my ex would hoover and try to get me back, he would always send a pic we took together or by myself...his tactic to regain access never changed, he would try whatever he could to come back, it used to work in the beginning but as I always say, you gotta remove your emotions from the situation and really pay attention to the detail, their words, actions and patterns, they can be very predictable....usually when they wanna come back, it's because the person they chose when they discarded you didn't work out, so they want you to forget about their bad behavior, how they mistreated you, give them a pass and start over, or as he used to say " hit the restart button", so basically excuse ALL of their crap for the 20th time and let them come play with you again, like we are little kids at the play ground..If you really sit back and study a narc, from the outside. Looking in, and the things they do and say, it's funny, sad, pathetic, and twisted ALL at the same time...
I am currently in a situation where my Narc-Ex was telling others that I was the crazy one in our relationship, and was also trying to get that particular person who is close to me to feel bad by telling him she was abused, and mistreated and that i was the one who broke up with her, Etc. It amazes me to what LENGHTS these people will go and the lies they will tell others to gain sympathy and to also get you to react.
Dammit forget me. Turned my life upside down after 3 decades. Lee I appreciate all the knowledge. All of this is true. Listen people. Wish I had this knowledge early on. Keep putting out those golden nuggets.🔥🔥🔥🔥
My diagnosed narcissist mom discussed her exes a lot. She first started telling me about these men when I was about 6 years old. These exes were as far back as the 1960s. My mom cheated on all these men because she was extremely jealous of them and wanted to see them hurting like she was. My mom was hurting because of the trauma her narc parents put her through. One guy she was jealous of because of the love and closeness between him and his mom. She was jealous of my dad's loving relationship with his parents. She dated and cheated on her coworker because she was jealous of his relationship with his mom. On my mom's deathbed, days before her death, she kept talking about her exes. She kept saying she didn't like a certain ex and saying a certain ex was better, delusional, talking like they were her options, as if she could just call them at any moment, like they were waiting around for her. All the men moved on to better women and due to her reputation as a cheater this left my mom with nobody since the 90s. This made her angry and she made sure to take it out on me, still a minor child. Watching my mom die slowly but still talking about exes was very bizarre. It was triangulation, as if to say she will miss her exes, but didn't say anything about her own daughter who sat silently listening at her bedside who changed her dirty diapers and spoon fed her her favorite foods before she passed away. She gave me the last and final FU.
Yeah I will let mine rot themselves in poop if they have any to begin with. That final f u is on them. Like for real I can conceive taking care of a narc who still abuses on deathbeds.
💣💣💣💣 *I am in the process of divorcing my husband who was diagnosed with not just NPD but also borderline ASD. He made threats against not just my life but also the lives of our/my twin girls that are just a year old. He has tried to kill me before and I am terrified because he gets out of prison next month.* Please pray for us y'all. Edited: auto incorrect
Please move and get recording devices and document everything. Don’t take his threats lightly esp if he has ASD. Pray to God to send his angels to protect you and your family and that he won’t be able to harm you all. Ask the Holy Spirit to intercede for you during the prayer in Jesus name Amen.
The one that got away!!! I've been told that! As I'm sitting next to the person and he's telling me how much he wants to settle down with me!! Then he ghost me... I blocked him
She said that to me, she compares every man to me and they're not the same... I'm actually concerned now.. I want a life of peace, you just don't get that with a narcissist
Omg! He told me the same. That he compares every woman to me but I didn't think much into it. He always comes back convincing me that I am his soul mate and than cheats and dogs me out. I can't live a lie anymore, he's own his own now.
@@KarenDelores Oh goodness, the whole soulmates thing, Yup, I got that on the regular too... "we're soul mates, I don't know how to let you go"... that's because I never made her feel as shitty as she made me feel... talking to her is like talking to a kid and I told her that..." I don't like repeating myself to my own kids, I shouldn't have to repeat myself to an adult in their 40s"...allowing men too much access to her to express themselves in the same way I, as her then "soulmate" was, but she doesn't know "how to be mean" to them... yet their feelings matter more than mine.. disgraceful attitude... she can have all their attention cos mine is not available anymore :).... image image image is everything to her.. I'm sure it was everything to yours also?
They also look for someone like you because they are chasing the dragon. Maybe this is only extreme Narcissists (read: Antisocial Personality Disorder), but they feed off destroying happy, healthy people. You were probably their first and most thorough experience. They are looking to do that again, with their new supply.
It’s a tough process to fully move on. But I learned by going no contact and not budging it helps. I also have a list of things I probably would have forgotten that were red flags that at the time I didn’t realize. The list is my reminder not to go back . I miss him terribly but the way I allowed myself to be treated I will never allow again.
The Father of of my children will never forget me so he can continue to blame me for all his problems 😂 13 nearly 14 years since I left and in his eyes everything is still my fault
This is so true. I was a friend, a colleague and I had enough of the pushing me away. I don't need him for anything, he needed me. So I did what you said...okay, it is what it is and I walked away a year and half ago. Now he's on this quest to try and get my attention via the drive by my house every couple of weeks and I live over an hour and half away. The endless scam calls - on and on. I was a good friend and he blew it and he knows it. Oh well.
Similar here. I helped them a lot and thought we were true friends. All I got in return after the first few months was emotionally abusive mind games and disrespect. Their loss - not mine. Indirect hoovers only as they fear the inevitable rejection. They know what they do. They just don’t understand why.
💣 💣 Love bombed twice! 2yrs into 1st marriage he cheated. I divorced him. I was trauma bonded horribly. Mentally and physically hurt so bad I had to be put on meds. After 10mons he came back a "better man" he said. We remarried. It's been 7yrs. Still in the same position. He hasn't grown an once mentally. Still says and does the EXACT same shit as 10yrs ago. Like it's a broken record. When he's pissed I know exactly what he's going to say and do b4 he says it or does it 🤦🏻♀️ Never met a more vindictive SOB!
Lol because she knows what she’s dealing with now. Trauma bonding is a bitch. But also some people come to a place of acceptance and make it work. And some people literally cannot leave.. I mean the reasons can be endless.
They won't forget you if the narcissist is a corrupt cop who is responsible for abusing you. They especially don't like the word NO and will do anything to win at all costs
When people are only worried about cheek clapping as he says, or are dumb enough to put themselves in an ugly light by saying, " They won't forget me cause of the great cheek clapping. " That says a lot about them. You don't want somebody to forget you anywhere, narcissistic or not, because of the impact you left on them with your heart and your character.
Interesting. I'm recovering from a split that happened yesterday with covert narcissist. Pretty much reeling from it because of the betrayal aspect. But this video reminded me that I had dated another narcissist years ago (who I had forgot about lol). We had a pretty short time together and then he broke it off with me. I was initially upset, but got over it very quickly. After a brief ignoring of me, maybe a few months, he then spent the next 4 years chasing me while with another woman. None of it makes any sense. It's just delusion. They don't appreciate what they have, but miss it when it's gone. Same thing with his girlfriend. He isn't appreciating her, he's chasing me. But guaranteed if I turned around and said yes, let's date again, he'd probably vanish in a month. I never thought I'd find myself with a narcissist again, but this covert one I was just with, wow. Completely conned me into believing he was this great, loving, caring guy. Today I sit knowing he is actually the most plotting, cruel, lying, vindictive person I've ever met in my life. We only were together 7 months, but it has affected my mental health. Hopefully not too bad. I'll do what I can to get healing around it.
My ex manager was narcisist and was obssesed with me..for 5 years harrassed everywhere, reputation destroyed, harrassed me on my phone, facebook, instagram, friends. Wildley crazy
This channel has been amazing . Within two months he wanted to marry me and even bought a ring. Sadly after 15 months he discarded me two months ago. He left and has not contacted me… Uggggggg….. Lord give me strength.
Within 2 months is definitely love bombing and impossible for you to truly know someone in such a tiny period of time. Most men are narcissistic so it’s a clear red flag if a man is interested in marriage and/or proposes to you that fast. RUN.
It’s really sad and I can ensure you will get better with time. My narc love bombed me for 15 years. I was 16 years old, now I am 31. It was a mind blowing relationship. I couldn’t get out because I loved him, then I came across those channels. Finally, I knew that the problem wasn’t me and the monster I saw in the end was actually who he really was. Totally shocked but also relieved. When you see, you can’t unsee.
I usually try to avoid these NPD channels because I find it exhausting trying to understand horrible people, but this video resonates with me because the narcissist from my life texts me about every six months from a new number. I ain't changing my number because I need my existingnumber professionally. This fool just texts/calls me from a new number each time and I block, but I did ask myself this last time around why this man can't just leave me be. It's been almost two years and we are on two different continents now, thankfully. The distance is why I don't freak out about it, but they do have some fantastical, long a** memories.
If knew of this channel when in my toxic 6 year relationship i would have left the relationship sooner...it has been two years now and he still tries to contact me ,and family members .Feel bad for the next one however glad it is not me!
I know she'll never forget me, I'm the only one she had with so much genuine emphaty.. Dammit, I still miss the good person she was, even though I know she's dangerous.. But shes blocked and she can keep my stuff
She never was a good person. She acted that way. It was all a great show. They are great actors and talkers... (But it is all fake - they fake to use people...).
I appreciate your videos LEE! I never knew what a narcissist was until I met my ex. We had "everything" in common, felt like a dream (I know it s mirroring now) , I got devalued and I caught her cheating with the new supply. I left her and then 10 days later her and the new supply were married. I'm just glad it was him and not me. But watching your videos brought clarity to what happened. THANKS and Keep up the GREAT WORK!
My ex boyfriend, had to be a narcissist.. he would brag about how many women he had been with and how he had never taken anyone seriously “up until” me (yeah sure, but I was trauma bonded at the time 😥) he would also add that he was good with phone numbers and remembered almost every phone number of his casual hook-ups..
True ..first narcissist husband i waited 30ys for him to change...just walked out when my don turned 21...havent had anything to do with him for more than a decade...he mssg me out of the blue ...hi i still love you...dude let it go
Whats long term? Different for everyone. They forget us, they dont forget the supply they had , especially if it was the best, they in turn make it their mission to find that in someone else, which they never will. They don’t care, miss us, it’s the supply they love and miss. I left mine over 3 years ago , they can have him. Best of luck.
One sign I missed that a woman I worked with and suffered abuse from, was that she kept talking about a previous male member of staff and the 'horrible' things he did that she said was because he thought he was better than them. It was just silly things like saying how many documents he had checked over a week. It was only when I realized she was a narcissist that it made sense that she would remember him forever because by being proud of himself, it made her feel worthless. She decided to take her unfinished business out on me.
💣 💣 💣 I've had one since 16 years old that comes in and out of my life we're now 41 years old. He recently showed up at my home sat in my drive way while I was at work and in a new relationship. He said it was about our 24 year old son but he stayed over all night talking to the new guy (in which the new guy is a bigger narc than him and invited him in). I walked into my bedroom and their both sitting down staring at me come through the door watching my reaction. I was bewildered. I'm not exaggerating I think they're drawn to me, it sometimes has me paranoid of dating again
My former narc would constantly reflect and talk about his ex when we were together. Yet accused me of talking about about my ex, which I didn’t. Weird. Just get away from the narc and live your best life.
It's unbearable because every affection I gave him he rejected and now I feel guilty because I know he will never forget me (an others ofc) and might be in pain but it was a good decision to leave him. Just breaks my heart.
Interesting that the narcissist could use you as a placeholder, I have heard the term coat-hanger also - someone they can use to look after all their gear and their stuff and not charge them rent.
6:51 what makes these people someone a narc wouldn’t go near? What makes them unattractive? The problem with being “unhooverable” is it could deal such a narcissistic injurious blow that being unreachable makes them want to destroy you even more instead of just accept that you are “unhooverable” and leave you alone? Really wondering what makes the difference.
Thank you for making that clear.....you are completely correct. Never going back is the plan no matter how painful. I'm in pain but I will not return to my ex-narc
Love 💣 and 18 years later, just realizing what actually happened in my relationship. I just found out he cheated on me, he didn’t leave her, then she and I met confronted him, and then I “did a thing-12 stitches later”, I think he is still cheating, and I don’t know how to get out. Yes he sits in my parking lot even though he said he didn’t want to be with me and never loved me. We are years into the stalking phase. So I feel stuck!!
Is funny but I the same time so hurtful and crazy ! Don’t waste a minute! Try to move to another state . Be strong 💪 we can do this …. He is full of hatred towards me but he drove to his friend house because he knew that I went to talk to him!
I was dating mine for 1 year and realised he was a Narc as I saw the signs having a Narc sister. He was ignoring me then would love bomb me but I started ignoring him then one day he said he thinks he needs someone younger as he was 10 years younger than me. I think he said this hoping it would hurt me but it didn't so I just said OK thats fine and never spoke again. He has never reached out and I'm happy he hasn't as the roller coaster was annoying. Good luck to the new supply who might not see the signs and go through hell with him, they are a waste of energy.
Well, maybe he really needed somebody younger. Why would a young healthy man stick to an old woman when there are young, fresh beautiful options all around. Just saying…
This video hit me particularly hard. I am in the process of ending my 8-year marriage. Spouse is TOXIC at a minimum, but as far as I can tell is a full blown narcissist. Serial cheating, lying, triangulation, telling everyone a separate story. She doesn't see ANYTHING wrong with her own behavior. No accountability. No legitimate apology. She even said she's too emotionally unavailable to give me a REAL apology......she was cheating with 5 other guys over the last year and a half. I'm doing my absolute best to go NO CONTACT. Thank you Lee! God BLESS you!
My covert Narc ex never had a proper relationship in his 42 years, only 2 years with me traumabonded. He holds grudges against every single woman who refused to be with him, who left him after only a few days and also against his ONS. He can't cope with refusal at ALL. While I criticized him for this negative way of thinking, he made me believe it was normal. He'll never ever forget me, either. Especially since I reported him to his feminist organisation for abusing me and another woman.😀
3 year relationship, strong love bombing, then devaluing and effort to reverse discard, my persistence to stay caused her to discard. So I didn't get away. I don't think she'll not forget me.
I love all your videos, i did the no contact and left him 2 months ago i was with my ex for 4 years just to find out that he moved on to a new supply after 2 months , still wanted to have me around just for sex. I take back all my power back. Thanks Lee 🙏🏽
My ex narc husband suddenly show up again and threaten my new BF not to visit our house or our kids. My BF did not bow down to him that why he's so upset. I don't think he will ever moved on, he's weird he hates me but doesn't want to see me happy either.
He was like that about his wife. Always tried comparing me. Unfortunately for him, I've never been someone who wanted to be like anyone else. I would always be like, ok good for her. I left him after telling him everything. He had just told me I was gonna be his wife and but him a house... 😅😅 WTH...
Yes I totally agree. I blocked him from every social media and the last thing he did was to upload a picture with another woman so only people who knew me could see that but I didn't do anything. Dont know if thats his new supply but he doesn't look happy at all.
After a life of abusive family and partners I left an abusive marriage after 9 years and started to date a good friend. When I noticed the past abusive behavior started to come out of me I was broken and embarrassed. I broke up with him and I do try to talk to him but he ignores me. I never knew that their influence can attach it's self on to me. I never got to live a life where I was safe and not abused and in the end I became what I had wanted to escape.
I just learned the hardest way. A narcissist will never care for you. I am currently in the hospital after almost one month of life support after having an addisonian crisis. I had to beg him to get him to bring me simple things like shampoo/conditioner 4 days. He spent all our rent and car payments on escorts. Then he used my phone to ask his daughter if he would go to hell for breaking up with me while I’m in the hosposital. I am just coming out of a coma and learn how to do everyday things again but now he just wants to be friends. I don’t have friends s at this point. You’re either my person or or not. Dont make it my problem. Leave me what’s mine and step off.e
He would try to make me the women he was cheating on me with. Before I knew he was cheating he would say you should wear your hair like this or that or you should wear this type of clothing.Things that were totally not me he would try to get me to wear. Then I found out he was cheating and the styles he liked they were wearing it. He even told me I should be a paralegal because one of the chicks was a paralegal.
If he doesn't forget me he doesn't forget any of the others either. So what difference does it make? In other words don't go back because who cares if he remembers you because you aren't the only one he's remembering. 😮
Good point!
Exactly!
Yes absolutely
Right!
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When you are healed you actually don't care. You have learned the lessons they came to teach you and move forward. You can't move forward looking backwards. It's their loss not yours.
Definitely their loss.
We really to cut it just a simply as you said it. We'll get there.
My lesson was to set boundaries, I had to learn that because I’m willing to give the shirt off my back doesn’t mean anyone else is.
Amen
Love it! You can't move forward, by looking backwards 😊so true! Thanks
A narcissist not forgetting you is NOT A GOOD THING. Having someone who wants to destroy you “never forget” is a very bad thing.
To be honest why would they forget us, unless they’re senile? Doesn’t mean they give a shit about us.
THIS. 🔥
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He lost out on being with a really good person. He taught me a valuable lesson on who I don't need to be with. I don't care if he remembers me or not 😮😂
This was deep...."trying to create YOU in someone else..." Makes total sense with toxic narcs.
Hit me hard too. I always knew he was trying to turn me into his little pet that landed in jail, likely because of him. It doesn’t make me sad anymore, it makes me sad I was so desperate for connection that I allowed it, but I don’t care anymore that he didn’t care about me the way I did him.
I will never give him another chance. He was manipulative, abusive, smeared me all over the place, the complete disrespect. I wont fort him as if i ever ßee signs like he gave i will run straight àway. He was nothing more than a bully, i like my peace and things to be simple.
Every narcissist I've met has had an exceptionally good memory so I believe this.
Yes too good i couldnt believe that couse some things that are not important i forget
You'd need a good memory to keep all the lies straight
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@@Raeth28 Fact!
I remember one time I said something to the guy I was dating. I said something like "oh you weren't even listening to me were you"
And he looked me straight in my eyes and snapped back "I remember everything you've ever said "
I was like wtf lmao
I asked him was he going to let me go. He said never. I literally had to leave without notice and change my phone number. 6 months NO CONTACT. Listening to you keeps me determined to never go back.
I did that same. Called police and git escorted. Got my stuff and no contact at all. Moved on.
my narc talked constantly about his exes 🙄
I’m happy that your wife came back to you.. you deserve a great life , Lee
My ex kept in contact with all his exes he would tell me they all still loved him and he could go back anytime you wanted. I am the one he will never ever reach out to because when I finally figured out what he was doing to me with my super empath self I brought this narcissist to his knees and left I will never contact him and I know never reach out to me
My x NPD guy also told me his x wives al still love him. But (one of) his x mother in law said that is not true (about her daughter) with vehemence. So funny, they all say that. Is it self-delusion they tell others and possibly themselves as well? To hold up an image like they are so desirable? Is it just more of the manipulative tactics?
Same here sister
@debraannedimezzano8075 how did you accomplish bringing him to his knees?
How did you bring him to his knees?
Same with mine.
When people don't forget you narcissistic or not. It's because you left a big impact on them. You can move forward with confidence, not arrogance, just confidence. Put God first and keep moving on.
I know in every relationship the man that I was with, Is never going to forget me? But my friend always told me to do the little things because it counted and I did.
Please forget me!! Life is peaceful
I hope he doesn’t forget us. My rose colored glasses are coming off and I’m realizing he’s not that great of a person overall but I don’t understand how getting caught having an affair can cause him to drop every last person he’s ever known and move 3000 miles across the country… I personally hope he never has the peace of forgetting us
And I mean it when I say everybody. He won’t talk to his grandma, best friend, kids.. we’ve all been dropped.
They won't forget me, but they won't remember me correctly either.
That's a powerful statement and likely very true
Agree with that. They remember the stuff they like, even in the middle of the relationship, and seem angry and confused about things you do or say or think that they don't like. Those are the parts they don't seem to remember later on.
In fact they only use you and so they don´t even know you... So what is there to remember? In there fantasy world you sure are a different person ...
“Oh they never forgot me? Imma go back!” Lol Lee cracks me up 😂😂
He is so funny sometimes 😅😂😂😂
I actually thought that until he made the joke - sounded like a good thing they never forget me. Jeez. Hard to move on, but it hasn't been long yet.
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My ex used me as a placeholder….. only until after the relationship was over did I know there was a long term gf. It was the most painful Realisation. Everything that he wanted me to work on or fix about myself, seemed to be a characteristic of this woman….I am not sure if he would ever forget me, but I may never forget this experience. I felt lower than dirt underneath shoes…. Nothing I did was ever right.
Same
I feel the same but the long term relationship he had was supposed to be my best friend they both gaslight me for four years and I won't ever forget it
And nothing that other gf does will ever be right either. Just imagine how much hell every other person that comes along has to deal with his lies and high expectations for the fantasy he lives in, and then ask yourself if that would make you happy going back to that? No one will ever be good enough so always tell yourself that you are good enough and someone genuine will see that without lying to you in time.
You being you is always right, peace and blessings to you and much love ❤
@@_MaKeR_21 🎯♥You are absolutley right!
You killed it bro. You’re getting more comfortable, you’re getting good at this 👍🏽
Yesiiirrr he hit that jank on the nose !!! 💯💯
Appreciate it
Most feral animals don't forget a good feeding location!🥴
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True!
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One that got away... He will never find another one like me... He will never forget me... But he should have thought about it when he had me! I will never forget him either. But I WILL NOT BRAKE NO CONTACT! Of course he will forget me! In due time. Nothing lasts forever. And I will forget him. Or at least the memories will fade away... But deep down memories are for ever in our brain and soul. 😅
Thats why they lovebomb so strong next time an majority time the narc mainly remember supply only thing thats missed.
Sadly while we saying theyll never find any1 as good they groom an finess like its smooth manipulation to make the next one work harder an prove more. Challenge to hear oh my girl never did this for me. Wow she never made this
An sometimes it be just so they can push them to give them alottt more smh so sick
THEY TRY TO FIND YOU IN SOMEONE ELSE , absolutely agree & then they can't so they will come back to you to find out its too late unless you are not healed yet so you go back to the same cycle....
They won’t forget you if they want revenge for all their perceived injustices.
I feel like most people (narcissistic or not) probably don't fully forget their exes if they spent a significant amount of time with them.
I still remember all of mine ocassionally, My feelings for them just faded as time went on.
Maybe not. But then I'll probably never forget them either. The greatest lesson I've even been given.
Longest relationship, only one he wanted to have a baby with and build a house with, he will never find anyone that treated him as good as me, I hope he remembers that. His loss.
But he won't remember how good and loving I was. He will remember I won in the end and took everything from him when he tried to take it all from me. Tried to take my home, money, everything I was and owned but I made sure he left with nothing and had to start over.
I can relate! We can be very proud of ourselves... Because lying on the ground and standig up is not easy.
Most narcs, (at least the ones I know) will hold on to pics, video and phone numbers from the relationship, even when you've moved on and not thinking about them, ( they use it as leverage to regain access ) they are thinking about you...when my ex would hoover and try to get me back, he would always send a pic we took together or by myself...his tactic to regain access never changed, he would try whatever he could to come back, it used to work in the beginning but as I always say, you gotta remove your emotions from the situation and really pay attention to the detail, their words, actions and patterns, they can be very predictable....usually when they wanna come back, it's because the person they chose when they discarded you didn't work out, so they want you to forget about their bad behavior, how they mistreated you, give them a pass and start over, or as he used to say " hit the restart button", so basically excuse ALL of their crap for the 20th time and let them come play with you again, like we are little kids at the play ground..If you really sit back and study a narc, from the outside. Looking in, and the things they do and say, it's funny, sad, pathetic, and twisted ALL at the same time...
It's actually better if they do forget that you ever existed. That is a blessing
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I am currently in a situation where my Narc-Ex was telling others that I was the crazy one in our relationship, and was also trying to get that particular person who is close to me to feel bad by telling him she was abused, and mistreated and that i was the one who broke up with her, Etc. It amazes me to what LENGHTS these people will go and the lies they will tell others to gain sympathy and to also get you to react.
Dammit forget me. Turned my life upside down after 3 decades. Lee I appreciate all the knowledge. All of this is true. Listen people. Wish I had this knowledge early on. Keep putting out those golden nuggets.🔥🔥🔥🔥
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My diagnosed narcissist mom discussed her exes a lot. She first started telling me about these men when I was about 6 years old. These exes were as far back as the 1960s.
My mom cheated on all these men because she was extremely jealous of them and wanted to see them hurting like she was. My mom was hurting because of the trauma her narc parents put her through.
One guy she was jealous of because of the love and closeness between him and his mom. She was jealous of my dad's loving relationship with his parents. She dated and cheated on her coworker because she was jealous of his relationship with his mom.
On my mom's deathbed, days before her death, she kept talking about her exes. She kept saying she didn't like a certain ex and saying a certain ex was better, delusional, talking like they were her options, as if she could just call them at any moment, like they were waiting around for her.
All the men moved on to better women and due to her reputation as a cheater this left my mom with nobody since the 90s. This made her angry and she made sure to take it out on me, still a minor child.
Watching my mom die slowly but still talking about exes was very bizarre. It was triangulation, as if to say she will miss her exes, but didn't say anything about her own daughter who sat silently listening at her bedside who changed her dirty diapers and spoon fed her her favorite foods before she passed away.
She gave me the last and final FU.
So sorry you had to go through that. Deep condolences to your inner child.
I'm so sorry.
Yeah I will let mine rot themselves in poop if they have any to begin with. That final f u is on them. Like for real I can conceive taking care of a narc who still abuses on deathbeds.
what a sad story, sorry you experienced this... it really is an awful disorder to be on the receiving end of
Wow how awful😔
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*I am in the process of divorcing my husband who was diagnosed with not just NPD but also borderline ASD. He made threats against not just my life but also the lives of our/my twin girls that are just a year old. He has tried to kill me before and I am terrified because he gets out of prison next month.*
Please pray for us y'all.
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I know how you feel. Move.
I will add u to my prayer list.
Please, get yourself some protection and learn to use it!!!!
Run! Run like the wind!!
Hmm no update. Hope she's safe
Please move and get recording devices and document everything. Don’t take his threats lightly esp if he has ASD. Pray to God to send his angels to protect you and your family and that he won’t be able to harm you all. Ask the Holy Spirit to intercede for you during the prayer in Jesus name Amen.
The one that got away!!! I've been told that! As I'm sitting next to the person and he's telling me how much he wants to settle down with me!! Then he ghost me... I blocked him
She said that to me, she compares every man to me and they're not the same... I'm actually concerned now.. I want a life of peace, you just don't get that with a narcissist
Omg! He told me the same. That he compares every woman to me but I didn't think much into it. He always comes back convincing me that I am his soul mate and than cheats and dogs me out. I can't live a lie anymore, he's own his own now.
@@KarenDelores Oh goodness, the whole soulmates thing, Yup, I got that on the regular too... "we're soul mates, I don't know how to let you go"... that's because I never made her feel as shitty as she made me feel... talking to her is like talking to a kid and I told her that..." I don't like repeating myself to my own kids, I shouldn't have to repeat myself to an adult in their 40s"...allowing men too much access to her to express themselves in the same way I, as her then "soulmate" was, but she doesn't know "how to be mean" to them... yet their feelings matter more than mine.. disgraceful attitude... she can have all their attention cos mine is not available anymore :).... image image image is everything to her.. I'm sure it was everything to yours also?
If they are embarrassed they do
They harvested a diamond 💎 That was never meant for them Remember that. ❤
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They also look for someone like you because they are chasing the dragon. Maybe this is only extreme Narcissists (read: Antisocial Personality Disorder), but they feed off destroying happy, healthy people. You were probably their first and most thorough experience. They are looking to do that again, with their new supply.
They don’t love anyone but themselves
They love the fake themselves but the real themselve they hate it . Period.
Google will tell you otherwise. They don´t love themselves either.
Well I got told "I will always love and treasure you. I know you will do great staff"beautiful words except I was immediately treated horribly
It’s a tough process to fully move on. But I learned by going no contact and not budging it helps. I also have a list of things I probably would have forgotten that were red flags that at the time I didn’t realize. The list is my reminder not to go back . I miss him terribly but the way I allowed myself to be treated I will never allow again.
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The Father of of my children will never forget me so he can continue to blame me for all his problems 😂 13 nearly 14 years since I left and in his eyes everything is still my fault
I hope he doesn’t because he can’t come back. Ever.
This is so true. I was a friend, a colleague and I had enough of the pushing me away. I don't need him for anything, he needed me. So I did what you said...okay, it is what it is and I walked away a year and half ago. Now he's on this quest to try and get my attention via the drive by my house every couple of weeks and I live over an hour and half away. The endless scam calls - on and on. I was a good friend and he blew it and he knows it. Oh well.
Similar here. I helped them a lot and thought we were true friends. All I got in return after the first few months was emotionally abusive mind games and disrespect.
Their loss - not mine.
Indirect hoovers only as they fear the inevitable rejection.
They know what they do. They just don’t understand why.
💣 💣 Love bombed twice! 2yrs into 1st marriage he cheated. I divorced him. I was trauma bonded horribly. Mentally and physically hurt so bad I had to be put on meds. After 10mons he came back a "better man" he said. We remarried. It's been 7yrs. Still in the same position. He hasn't grown an once mentally. Still says and does the EXACT same shit as 10yrs ago. Like it's a broken record. When he's pissed I know exactly what he's going to say and do b4 he says it or does it 🤦🏻♀️ Never met a more vindictive SOB!
Why you still with him?
Lol because she knows what she’s dealing with now. Trauma bonding is a bitch. But also some people come to a place of acceptance and make it work. And some people literally cannot leave.. I mean the reasons can be endless.
Wow. That was raw to share. Thank you.
He is already trying to make his new supply into me. I'm flattered lol.
Mine is gone for good..I ended that..I walked away finally after 6yrs..Mine use to pop up at my job my apartment etc..I'm done
And I need some sort of Hypnosis Therapy or something to re-program my mind so I can FORGET him...
Sometime is natural to remember so you never go back live your best life be kind to yourself.
Eight months of hot /cold, back/forth, up/down, crying/fighting, silence and tension. Bye Felicia!
They won't forget you if the narcissist is a corrupt cop who is responsible for abusing you. They especially don't like the word NO and will do anything to win at all costs
When people are only worried about cheek clapping as he says, or are dumb enough to put themselves in an ugly light by saying, " They won't forget me cause of the great cheek clapping. " That says a lot about them. You don't want somebody to forget you anywhere, narcissistic or not, because of the impact you left on them with your heart and your character.
Interesting. I'm recovering from a split that happened yesterday with covert narcissist. Pretty much reeling from it because of the betrayal aspect. But this video reminded me that I had dated another narcissist years ago (who I had forgot about lol). We had a pretty short time together and then he broke it off with me. I was initially upset, but got over it very quickly. After a brief ignoring of me, maybe a few months, he then spent the next 4 years chasing me while with another woman. None of it makes any sense. It's just delusion. They don't appreciate what they have, but miss it when it's gone. Same thing with his girlfriend. He isn't appreciating her, he's chasing me. But guaranteed if I turned around and said yes, let's date again, he'd probably vanish in a month. I never thought I'd find myself with a narcissist again, but this covert one I was just with, wow. Completely conned me into believing he was this great, loving, caring guy. Today I sit knowing he is actually the most plotting, cruel, lying, vindictive person I've ever met in my life. We only were together 7 months, but it has affected my mental health. Hopefully not too bad. I'll do what I can to get healing around it.
My ex manager was narcisist and was obssesed with me..for 5 years harrassed everywhere, reputation destroyed, harrassed me on my phone, facebook, instagram, friends. Wildley crazy
I was really thinking she wants to kill me...and I am still scared really.
This channel has been amazing . Within two months he wanted to marry me and even bought a ring. Sadly after 15 months he discarded me two months ago. He left and has not contacted me… Uggggggg….. Lord give me strength.
Within 2 months is definitely love bombing and impossible for you to truly know someone in such a tiny period of time. Most men are narcissistic so it’s a clear red flag if a man is interested in marriage and/or proposes to you that fast. RUN.
It’s really sad and I can ensure you will get better with time. My narc love bombed me for 15 years. I was 16 years old, now I am 31. It was a mind blowing relationship. I couldn’t get out because I loved him, then I came across those channels. Finally, I knew that the problem wasn’t me and the monster I saw in the end was actually who he really was. Totally shocked but also relieved. When you see, you can’t unsee.
I usually try to avoid these NPD channels because I find it exhausting trying to understand horrible people, but this video resonates with me because the narcissist from my life texts me about every six months from a new number. I ain't changing my number because I need my existingnumber professionally.
This fool just texts/calls me from a new number each time and I block, but I did ask myself this last time around why this man can't just leave me be. It's been almost two years and we are on two different continents now, thankfully. The distance is why I don't freak out about it, but they do have some fantastical, long a** memories.
Omggggg that’s exactly what he did never spoke bad about any of his exes. Of course, he did me badmouth me all over town.
All is true to what you say. They get the next one and clone them as the person they left. There is truth to what you speak about.
If knew of this channel when in my toxic 6 year relationship i would have left the relationship sooner...it has been two years now and he still tries to contact me ,and family members .Feel bad for the next one however glad it is not me!
I assumed my ex did the way he's moving on with his life looking "happy" on social media with my former friends
We all remember people that we loved .
I remember my first love, didn’t have nothing but a person of high morals and values!
Don’t want no more “love bombs”, no “explosions” 😂😂
I know now what it is - so thank you I don´t want that either because I know what follows....
Guaranteed some of them will never ever forget me😊
I know she'll never forget me, I'm the only one she had with so much genuine emphaty.. Dammit, I still miss the good person she was, even though I know she's dangerous..
But shes blocked and she can keep my stuff
She never was a good person. She acted that way. It was all a great show. They are great actors and talkers... (But it is all fake - they fake to use people...).
I appreciate your videos LEE! I never knew what a narcissist was until I met my ex. We had "everything" in common, felt like a dream (I know it s mirroring now) , I got devalued and I caught her cheating with the new supply. I left her and then 10 days later her and the new supply were married. I'm just glad it was him and not me. But watching your videos brought clarity to what happened. THANKS and Keep up the GREAT WORK!
My ex boyfriend, had to be a narcissist.. he would brag about how many women he had been with and how he had never taken anyone seriously “up until” me (yeah sure, but I was trauma bonded at the time 😥) he would also add that he was good with phone numbers and remembered almost every phone number of his casual hook-ups..
They want to create insecurity
Happy birthday, Lee!
True ..first narcissist husband i waited 30ys for him to change...just walked out when my don turned 21...havent had anything to do with him for more than a decade...he mssg me out of the blue ...hi i still love you...dude let it go
The message should better be: I would love to use you again. Because that is all they do.
Whats long term? Different for everyone.
They forget us, they dont forget the supply they had , especially if it was the best, they in turn make it their mission to find that in someone else, which they never will. They don’t care, miss us, it’s the supply they love and miss.
I left mine over 3 years ago , they can have him. Best of luck.
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One sign I missed that a woman I worked with and suffered abuse from, was that she kept talking about a previous male member of staff and the 'horrible' things he did that she said was because he thought he was better than them. It was just silly things like saying how many documents he had checked over a week.
It was only when I realized she was a narcissist that it made sense that she would remember him forever because by being proud of himself, it made her feel worthless.
She decided to take her unfinished business out on me.
I know two right now who stalk me and also talk to a lot of other women at the same time.
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I've had one since 16 years old that comes in and out of my life we're now 41 years old. He recently showed up at my home sat in my drive way while I was at work and in a new relationship.
He said it was about our 24 year old son but he stayed over all night talking to the new guy (in which the new guy is a bigger narc than him and invited him in). I walked into my bedroom and their both sitting down staring at me come through the door watching my reaction. I was bewildered. I'm not exaggerating I think they're drawn to me, it sometimes has me paranoid of dating again
Lee just trying to show his muscles 💪🏾🤣💯
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Sheeeeeeeeeet. I wish they WOULD forget me. Forget AAAALL about me baby ✌🏽✨💯
My former narc would constantly reflect and talk about his ex when we were together. Yet accused me of talking about about my ex, which I didn’t. Weird. Just get away from the narc and live your best life.
It's unbearable because every affection I gave him he rejected and now I feel guilty because I know he will never forget me (an others ofc) and might be in pain but it was a good decision to leave him. Just breaks my heart.
Interesting that the narcissist could use you as a placeholder, I have heard the term coat-hanger also - someone they can use to look after all their gear and their stuff and not charge them rent.
The narc i was dealing with acted like he didnt care if i left or not he told me i could move on
6:51 what makes these people someone a narc wouldn’t go near? What makes them unattractive? The problem with being “unhooverable” is it could deal such a narcissistic injurious blow that being unreachable makes them want to destroy you even more instead of just accept that you are “unhooverable” and leave you alone? Really wondering what makes the difference.
Every time Lee sighed during this video, SAME 😂 lol
Thank you for making that clear.....you are completely correct. Never going back is the plan no matter how painful. I'm in pain but I will not return to my ex-narc
Love 💣 and 18 years later, just realizing what actually happened in my relationship. I just found out he cheated on me, he didn’t leave her, then she and I met confronted him, and then I “did a thing-12 stitches later”, I think he is still cheating, and I don’t know how to get out. Yes he sits in my parking lot even though he said he didn’t want to be with me and never loved me. We are years into the stalking phase. So I feel stuck!!
File a Restraining order
Wow
Is funny but I the same time so hurtful and crazy !
Don’t waste a minute! Try to move to another state . Be strong 💪 we can do this ….
He is full of hatred towards me but he drove to his friend house because he knew that I went to talk to him!
You better get a restraining order ASAP!!! I had this happen to me and it turned out badly for me!!
I had one stalking Me for 20 + years and the whole hovering as well.
I was dating mine for 1 year and realised he was a Narc as I saw the signs having a Narc sister. He was ignoring me then would love bomb me but I started ignoring him then one day he said he thinks he needs someone younger as he was 10 years younger than me. I think he said this hoping it would hurt me but it didn't so I just said OK thats fine and never spoke again. He has never reached out and I'm happy he hasn't as the roller coaster was annoying. Good luck to the new supply who might not see the signs and go through hell with him, they are a waste of energy.
Well, maybe he really needed somebody younger. Why would a young healthy man stick to an old woman when there are young, fresh beautiful options all around. Just saying…
What if they discard you, do they still don't forget you
🧯🧯🧯 No bombs... but... fire extinguisher. 😂 put that darn bomb out! 🧯🧯🧯
This video hit me particularly hard. I am in the process of ending my 8-year marriage. Spouse is TOXIC at a minimum, but as far as I can tell is a full blown narcissist. Serial cheating, lying, triangulation, telling everyone a separate story. She doesn't see ANYTHING wrong with her own behavior. No accountability. No legitimate apology. She even said she's too emotionally unavailable to give me a REAL apology......she was cheating with 5 other guys over the last year and a half. I'm doing my absolute best to go NO CONTACT. Thank you Lee! God BLESS you!
I appreciate your honesty about your past and presence. Stay blessed in your marriage
My covert Narc ex never had a proper relationship in his 42 years, only 2 years with me traumabonded. He holds grudges against every single woman who refused to be with him, who left him after only a few days and also against his ONS. He can't cope with refusal at ALL. While I criticized him for this negative way of thinking, he made me believe it was normal. He'll never ever forget me, either. Especially since I reported him to his feminist organisation for abusing me and another woman.😀
3 year relationship, strong love bombing, then devaluing and effort to reverse discard, my persistence to stay caused her to discard. So I didn't get away. I don't think she'll not forget me.
Most people dont forget people they are or were in a relationship with
I love all your videos, i did the no contact and left him 2 months ago i was with my ex for 4 years just to find out that he moved on to a new supply after 2 months , still wanted to have me around just for sex. I take back all my power back. Thanks Lee 🙏🏽
you’re welcome 🙌🏾
My ex narc husband suddenly show up again and threaten my new BF not to visit our house or our kids. My BF did not bow down to him that why he's so upset. I don't think he will ever moved on, he's weird he hates me but doesn't want to see me happy either.
He was like that about his wife. Always tried comparing me. Unfortunately for him, I've never been someone who wanted to be like anyone else. I would always be like, ok good for her. I left him after telling him everything. He had just told me I was gonna be his wife and but him a house... 😅😅 WTH...
Yes I totally agree. I blocked him from every social media and the last thing he did was to upload a picture with another woman so only people who knew me could see that but I didn't do anything. Dont know if thats his new supply but he doesn't look happy at all.
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i guess you mean that if you had the person as supply not a one-night stand then they will remember the person!
After a life of abusive family and partners I left an abusive marriage after 9 years and started to date a good friend. When I noticed the past abusive behavior started to come out of me I was broken and embarrassed. I broke up with him and I do try to talk to him but he ignores me. I never knew that their influence can attach it's self on to me. I never got to live a life where I was safe and not abused and in the end I became what I had wanted to escape.
Jesus can heal you.
They don't forget and they don't forgive.
I just learned the hardest way. A narcissist will never care for you. I am currently in the hospital after almost one month of life support after having an addisonian crisis. I had to beg him to get him to bring me simple things like shampoo/conditioner 4 days. He spent all our rent and car payments on escorts. Then he used my phone to ask his daughter if he would go to hell for breaking up with me while I’m in the hosposital. I am just coming out of a coma and learn how to do everyday things again but now he just wants to be friends. I don’t have friends s at this point. You’re either my person or or not. Dont make it my problem. Leave me what’s mine and step off.e
I enjoy listening to you! I'm learning alot! Keep bringing the videos!
Mine never lovebombed me! We were together 5 years and had great times. I kicked him out because he got too toxic. He does not care that I am gone
Everything you say is “ spot on”. Amazing stuff
He would try to make me the women he was cheating on me with. Before I knew he was cheating he would say you should wear your hair like this or that or you should wear this type of clothing.Things that were totally not me he would try to get me to wear. Then I found out he was cheating and the styles he liked they were wearing it. He even told me I should be a paralegal because one of the chicks was a paralegal.