we broke up, but my life is NOT over this time
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.พ. 2024
- As the title says, Limbz and I broke up. I'm pretty sure for good this time. But I'm okay. My life is not over.
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You cannot stop therapy just because you’re happy in life. That’s a lesson learned. We all want you to be healthy and strong… this is a stepping stone in the journey. Just don’t forget what your priority needs to be. ❤
It took me two years in therapy to realize that. She's not even a year into therapy I guess, so she's good haha
You are so right. I'm happy Cindy is back, but I knew this was coming the moment she announced she wasn't going to be vlogging anymore. I was truly concerned, and not mean spirited. I didn't want to see her lose Limbz and her TH-cam channel, so I'm thankful she still has her channel. Priority is the key, and therapy/mental health should always be #1.
Limbz is no prize. We saw firsthand that the positive attributes you listed about him were NOT accurate. This is the exact time to work on your extreme codependency. I really, really believe you will be an independent, happy and healthy person.
Now I can't help but wonder, will he come back again and "graciously" proclaim he "forgives her" and will they just repeat that until Cindy finally figures out he's just some weird guy who once again is not perfect and loving like she thought he was (but I don't know of course, we are not in a relationship with them we don't know what's really going on as her viewers).
But despite everything I get it because mental illness is a very difficult thing to overcome, same of course for mental disorders.
@BeautyQueen2023Xare you Andrew’s baby mumma or something cos you got a lot of shit to say against her 😂
@BeautyQueen2023X this is such a weird response to Cindy considering all the trauma she has been through. Trauma changes people and it isn’t an excuse for her behaviors but it does give a clearer understanding of some of her actions and mental health. Y’all are weird.
It’s interesting they broke up when her lease was up. He lives with his parents. Does he not want to have to pay rent anywhere? Maybe it’s just a coincidence. Who knows?
I can’t help but feel this was made *for* limbz. And honestly putting him on a pedestal saying how amazing he is isn’t doing you any favors. It takes two to tango.
Thank you
Of course it is... every time she gets dumped she does the same video again claiming "I'm gOiNg TO gEt bEttEr tHIs tImE" hoping her "mayun" will see it and come back, and when it doesn't work she begins the smearing campaign. Wait for it, it will happen very soon lol.
I feel the same. Felt this was made with the intentions of him seeing it, knowing he was involved with her community online.
@kristincunningham1253 yes me too!
@laurenlulu0192 Saying it takes two to tango is as old as saying the hills. And also no it doesn't always take two! It can take one and the other one looks and says not going to do this anymore and that is it. Been there in the past and walked out! People don't have to put up with being treated bad!
Honestly girl, the guy you kept describing to us and the guy we saw on camera and on that website talking about you and getting his friends to read about it so they could laugh were not the same. You may not realize it now but I think you dodged a bullet with this dude.
@BeautyQueen2023Xthe druggie pizza delivery boy at 40 who cheated with multiple women and knocked one up?
@BeautyQueen2023Xand what her ex husband did to her. My god give it a break 😂
I’m dying to know everything he did
@BeautyQueen2023Xbtw you seem more obsessive than here when you comment on all of the comments on her videos lmao. have you perhaps considered getting your own diagnosis.
@@Amoq2220 I noticed that too, lol
Perhaps you should stop all dating for the next year so you can focus on healing. Relationships are a distraction from the hard work and this will also prevent meeting someone before you are ready.
@BeautyQueen2023Xwhy are you so obsessed with her? You're commenting on nearly everyone's comment. It's hilarious honestly
This is just an observation but the last time you and limbs had problems you said you weren’t taking your medication or doing therapy. And today you said it again. Those are very important when trying to heal and grow.
@BeautyQueen2023Xomg you’ve literally gone through all the comments
@BeautyQueen2023Xpov a person with a personality disorder engages in symptoms of their disorder
At no point has Cindy said she was a victim in this video.....no one thinks she's a victim. She doesn't think she's a victim..so why are you trying to turn her into one? Go take a nap.@BeautyQueen2023X
@@hg393yeah this person is obsessed with Cindy obviously. Commenting on every post 😂
@BeautyQueen2023Xbully
1) you just quit therapy in January ? Come on girl. We know you quit as soon as you thought you had Limbz locked down 2) You are idealizing Limbz. He is not nearly as good as you making him out to be right now . And no he didn't make you feel better about yourself. You started acting more insecure with him. You are just feeling shaking right now because you don't have a favorite person anchor right now
All of this is exactly what you were saying the first time you guys broke up 😢
Sometimes, you have to circle the mountain a few times before you finally learn your lesson. For over a decade, I had a horrible addiction that I tried and tried to rid myself of. When I was clear-headed, I would say the same things over and over again about how I was going to stop and that things were going to change. I sounded like a broken record. But the last time I repeated those sentences to myself were thankfully, the last time. It's been a year since I've engaged or been tempted to engage in my addiction. But I also had the benefit of praying to God to take the addiction from me and give me strength to resist temptation. I've been faced with a lot of temptation over that year and found the desire to indulge gone. It takes time, and you will sound like a broken record, but at some point, if you truly want to grow and heal, you will stop circling the mountain and find your way.
@@skyegroome223amazing!! Well done you 😊 take true strength to do this
@BeautyQueen2023X what's you're deal? I keep seeing negative comments from you on her videos. Would it kill you to be encouraging or do you get some pleasure out of watching someone you clearly don't like? I'm not making excuses, I'm pointing out how mental illness and addiction works and how difficult it is to heal and grow. Maybe you need to do some healing and growing yourself. The negativity that seeps from your comments screams that you're an unhappy person who enjoys putting others down because of something you might be lacking in your own life.
They're a fan. They're one of those people that think mental health isn't real because it's invisible. Cindy has one of the most authentic channels I've seen on TH-cam. It's not a highlight reel. She shows the good, bad and even the ugly and that's refreshing. People like this hater think social media is supposed to show only the positive....we're supposed to see Cindy break down once and then suddenly have everything together.
Encouragement is not allowed according to haters.
@@skyegroome223
@BeautyQueen2023Xgirl you need help seriously
It seems my comments always get deleted somehow🤷♀️this vid is not for anyone except him..thats why you cant stop gushing about him and what an amazing person he is and how he has changed you so much..youre still holding out hope for the relationship and thats why you arent breaking down as much as you normally do. If he left you for someone else, that would be more final and youd be absolutely insane right now. You can fool LOTS of people, but you cant fool someone with bpd, most of us have been there and we know what will happen before it happens. You can get better but you have to stay away from relationships and actually focus on getting better. You stop therapy and working as soon as you get in a relationship..youll do it again too because youre so desperate to have someone around..you're ultimately only hurting yourself though
Limbz was a walking red flag.
Why, what did he do?
@BeautyQueen2023X If that is the reason its really a stupid one.
@BeautyQueen2023X she has issues, in my opinion she should be alone for some time and not storm into relationship and repeat everything on and on. A lot of people including me have BPD and we have normal life and relationships without any therapy. No one can help her until she helps herself.
@@Amoq2220ahah I said the same!! Probs Limbz’s mum
I really wanna know all the things he did
To be honest he has always seemed like a jerk to me. Never liked him. He gives off creepy vibes. And I suppose in a couple months you’ll start sharing what he was really like and that he wasn’t 100%?perfect 😂
I'll just throw an idea - this Valentine's Day doesn't have to suck. Make a date for yourself - cook your favorite meal, go on a walk in nature, do some self-care shit like take a long bath, just basically treat yourself!
You got this ♥
That's such a cute idea ❤
Dude be real with yourself. If your favourite thing about someone is that they keep you company, you should probably work on yourself. For real.
You don’t need to be ALONE either. Not that that should be such a fear. You can surround yourself with friends and keep busy learn to live a life of balance? Friends, hobbies, alone time, and eventually when youre ACTUALLY ready, a partner.
Cindy you’re literally too old to be spending time with just anybody because you’re lonely. It’s also not healthy to feel lonely constantly just because you’re alone. It just means if you jumped into a relationship it would have to revolve around nothing except you for your partner and that will never work. Trapping someone in a relationship is no way to live for either party.
I’ve supported you this whole time tbh, this is me not saying this as a hater but you do sound like a broken record. I think you need further help maybe even more than just work books and therapy. Clearly you have multiple emotional traumas which I understand aren’t your problem that they happened to you but they are your responsibility. I think you need to seek further mental help more than you have in the past. I do hope you find happiness and get the help you need. This is not a healthy life to live for anyone. I think you also need to accept that you do keep going around in circles and do something different. All the best Cindy.
You are going to be okay your gonna be fine on your own you don’t need a man to be happy it’s not your fault we support you
@BeautyQueen2023X You're literally in all the replies, why are you even here if you don't support her
@BeautyQueen2023X I was literally checking on her if she’s ok
girl you should be jumping up and down celebrating that man leaving you, he was not good news
You don’t need dbt books like it’s schoolwork, you need weekly therapy and medication. I cannot stress enough the effects of stopping any medication having BPD. It messes with your brain. And regular therapy might have helped regulate you and avoided the fight that broke the camel’s back. But you never learn
Why am I not surprised? You got with someone too quickly.
I would strongly advise against getting back together if he wants to rekindle things at some point. You have your own faults, but it takes two to tango. The back and forth is definitely not part of any healthy relationship imo. Hang in there and keep working on yourself!
One thing I've noticed about men or I should say most men, their lives aren't 'over' when a relationship ends....they go right on about their lives, to their jobs, their hobbies and projects...it used to blow my mind. But men have a way of compartmentalizing relationships. The relationship is only one thing, the job is another thing and so on. I was like you and a lot of women, my life revolved around my relationships...if my relationship wasn't good I couldn't even focus on anything else. It's been 5 years now since my last relationship ended and I haven't even looked or sought anyone out because I became determined that I wasn't going to be in another relationship until I no longer 'needed' to be in a relationship. It didn't happen overnight but I'm so good now and so happy I don't even want to be in a relationship. It feels so good to not have the drama and even the part where it's me that's did something wrong....I don't even want to have to cope with that anymore. I love living alone and even if I do eventually decide to date I want my house, my space to be mine. I'll never ever ever let someone else become my 'everything' again.
Same after being single for so long we get set in our ways and have zero tolerance for bull crap and less anxiety and more time to spend with Jesus
This👆
Spot on LynnS they seem to move on pretty quickly imo
I've been telling people this for years. Being single is awesome! I've been single for going on 14 years now, and it's been the best years of my life. No complaints, and no desire to seek out a relationship. If I happen to meet someone that could change, but if it doesn't that's cool too. The only time I ever felt like a needed romance was because of societal expectations anyway. It was never anything that I truly wanted for myself.
This community's desire to never think anything is your fault is so bizarre. I just want to be clear, I feel for you, Cindy. Break ups suck. Even when they're amicable or necessary, they do still suck. Additionally, they can be complex. It's not always an issue of one person being so supremely in the wrong.
All of that being said, it's so strange to me how many people jump to blaming and demonising Limbz. I have always been pretty apathetic to him and I personally never saw what you did in him (which is fine. I wasn't the one dating him after all) but, my god the way people want to absolve you of any potential wrongdoing is so weird. Especially when you are adult enough to admit places you misstepped that contributed to this relationship ending. I swear, sometimes it feels like your "supporters" are here to stunt you and infantalise you.
Either way, good luck. I hope you maintain the healthy steps you've been taking to improve your mental wellbeing and, I can't tell you what to do, I am stranger on the internet but, I hope you focus on yourself for some time before jumping into seeking validation from men again.
I agree with you in a way, but let’s not forget that BPD downfalls are usually triggered behavior and when you love someone with mental condition you can’t expect them to behave like a person with no mental condition.. you should be aware of the things that triggers them and avoid to trigger them… Limbz is kinda known here for his backhanded comments, know it all, Mr perfect guy behavior and engaging with her haters on snark subs… I think she’s downplaying what he did or said and puts all the blame on herself because she’s the one who reacted…
I’ve had a narcissistic partner in the past and that exactly how it usually went. For example he knew my triggers and still continued on to pushing them and then blamed my reaction to his disrespect with a smirk on his face while playing the victim. I was the bad guy, always. I’m not saying he’s at fault completely but to say it’s completely her fault is also not right. it’s never one person’s fault. It’s easy to blame her because she’s the one with mental illness right… well no. It takes two to tango…
@ssimona I wasn't solely blaming her. I state pretty clearly that it's not always the case that it's one person's fault that a relationship breaks down. My issue is people in these comments trying to absolve her of any part she played and, treating her like a child because she's mentally ill. I say that as a person with my own mental illnesses. So what, Cindy is just never responsible for anything she says and does because she's mentally ill? This is what I mean by some people who "support" her coddling her and stunting her.
@@l.1586yeah you were
Now this just shows how much both you and this relationship were better this time around. While you slid back into habits, you came out of it much faster- moreover, you weren’t with some lying, cheating douche who gave you false hope: he gave it to you straight.
Remember what you said: progress is not a straight walk. This is a hill, after all long valley. But it’s shorter then it was before
Stop dating for least a year and heal
Exactly.. the reasons her relationships fail constantly is that she doesn't let it rest for a while and even work on herself before even thinking about dating anyone again.
Limbz ain't paying no rent. Rent is for suckerz!
You don't need no man to know your worth. Please take time to get to know Cindy. Call friends and that chik you used to hang out with Lodaine. I got the same vibe from him that i did andrew. I don't believe he was your person. You deserve so much better. Find you another earth sign or water signs.
Everything can’t always be your fault.
I feel the same way.
That’s true but both times that they’ve broken up, Cindy had stopped therapy. She HAS to continue with therapy probably for the rest of her life which is ok.
Yes! It’s good to be honest with yourself about your faults, without beating yourself up. But sometimes these things happen and it’s just no one’s fault, or his fault! That’s just how it is. But never always her fault.
@@calidaizy Yeah I mean I know she has this disorder, and I know she says he’s a great guy. And he might be. But sometimes a partner will subconsciously use this against someone to manipulate them, or as an excuse to blame everything on them, or to break up. I mean she was doing a lot better. Where’s the staying power? Nobody’s perfect. My husband and I have been together for years and had some wicked fights. But we just work through stuff. Hell we’ve had bad months here and there, but you just don’t give up that easily in my opinion. I don’t know what’s going on but gee. You can’t expect perfection if somebody mostly tries. I don’t know. I may be way off base.
@@88kayleigh Right?
Cindy, a year ago, I kicked my husband out. It was the first time in my life that I had ever lived alone. This past year has been great! I come and go as I please. I stay out late if I want without making sure i let him know what's going on. I have learned so much about myself and realized that I really like me! At 50 years old, I came to that realization. Get back to hanging out with your friends. Drive across the country to go see a concert! Make a bucket list and start doing what you want! I'm really proud of you! You're doing it!
I agree you seem to be dealing with it better. I noticed you keep thanking Limbz. You keep talking about all the things he gave you. This is part of the BPD. You view others as better than you. You put people above you and don't see yourself as an equal. The relationship was mutual. You were two equals. It doesn't seem to have occurred to you that Limbz might have his own issues that make him not compatible with a good partner. He doesn't own his own home and didn't seem ready for a long-term relationship. He wasn't perfect. I think too many women do the "I am perfect the way I am" bit when they are really awful people. I don't get that you are awful. You aren't perfect but neither was Limbz. You don't have to be perfect. You were probably both about the same and just not compatible long-term. You act like him being with you was some sort of gift he bestowed upon you. Every time you are with someone, when you are with them, you think of how perfect they are. You will do the same with the next guy. View dating as an adventure. Each guy is a new country you want to visit and come back with some stories.
Agreed! She brought things to the relationship too.
Absolutely this.
I used to make excuses for my ex boyfriends behaviour and over criticised my own faults. I thought it was how I kept myself a good and fair person within the relationship... Only after leaving did I accept that I over-excused too much of his truly awful behaviour and disrespect, that I accepted from him - because I didn't love or value myself, and I didn't want to lose him.
He left way too easily to be worth Cindy wanting to hold onto. He definitely has his own issues for that alone, or truly just doesn't want to be with her anymore. And if that's the case, then let him go Cindy, because you deserve more. ❤
I so agree also I wish it would occur to her and every single woman that after a break up you are free don’t wait around for him he’s not waiting on you in fact he’s likely going to move on way faster and it’s going to hurt like hell because you hold hope for a maybe some day. She thought no one was better than Andrew and bam here came better now she thinks he’s the best… he was nice I’m sure the relationship meant something but for Christ sakes there’s so many people out there and you don’t have to hold on to someone who more than once told you to let go
I know this video is for him not anyone else but if he is SO great he’s lucky to get away from your manipulation and hurtful ways.
It's so obvious that you didn't make this video for your audience, you made it for Limbz. You're using your classic manipulation tactics to try to get him back. We aren't dumb Cindy.
No, love doesn't end a relationship! Please don't buy into that bullshit! If he loves you he would demand therapy for both of you! He doesn't deserve shit to make you feel this way!
First sentence I don't get
-hugs- Love you girl. I'm sorry about the breakup but very proud of how you're handling it. I know It's hard.
My whole heart, the way Morty looks up at you. He knows Momma needs his cuddles. Don't look at this as a set back. Or at least try not to. We love you miss Cindy! If you need anything, reach out. We gotchu.
I hope you're okay Cindy! One thing, do not refer to him maybe being in your future or you're never gonna get over him as you will always have false hope and somebody with BPD as well such as myself, it will ruin you if he moves on. Close all contact and focus on you
Here we go again
Sounds corny but you need to find happyness within! Not somewhere else
The best way to make yourself feel good is to do something kind and good for someone else. Go volunteer at a homeless shelter, or something like that.
Girl…return that shit u got him for Valentine’s Day and go buy yourself something. 👍
For what it’s worth, we missed you and though we hate that it’s under these circumstances, so glad to see you again. And this too shall pass.
He was toxic for you imo based on what I saw
Stop taking the blame for these shitty relationships. Start realizing your own worth and you'll find happiness, as long as you are willing to accept a low standard from a partner. You will continue having these same problems, stop making it easy for a man to treat you like shit and then you take the blame. I'm not saying you don't have issues yourself, but my goodness, look at yourself and realize that you deserve more than you have received. Then your insecurities that cause you to behave irrationally will stop.
Taking accountability is not a bad thing. The bad part is idealizing his side of the relationship. Nobody is perfect and there's no doubt he has his own issues. But we shouldnt discourage her from acknowledging what she did wrong. Neglecting her known diagnosis of BPD and falling into old toxic habits is 100% an issue. It's great Cindy can see that
Cava is fine. But give the whiskey away or dump it. Don’t have it sitting there, please.
Get the refund if you have receipt or gift it to somebody or pay with it to someone for making a favour or something.
Easier said than done. I've been thinking for a few weeks now of getting some booze back in the house. Tonight it is finally over with someone I thought I had a future with after 1 1/2 years. Totally not my fault. 100% his. He should have told me that he DIDN'T break up with his GF LAST Jan. He flirted with me, texted with me, made plans to have lunch, hugged me into dips, told me he missed me, and all the while he had a LIVE IN GF.
Men suck major @$$. If he loves HER so much then why did he have ME in his arms?? Now all of a sudden he wants to be respectful of her?? FK that sh-t.
Don't do it, alcohol will just cause you to cry and do and say stupid things like drunk texting and drunk calling or driving drunk etc. believe me, I lived that drunk life because of heartbreak after heartbreak for 25 years. Now I'm sober for almost 3 years.🎉@@terryl.cooper
I must have misread Limbz...I didn{t think he was ALL that! He made me cringe but I'm happy for Cindy that he taught her valuable lessons.
I never tried to read Limbz, and I know no one is perfect, but he was sweet in that he made her feel good and did sweet things for her(flowers, helped her cook, watched her dogs, he wrapped the Christmas presents beautifully etc) so we always have sweet memories in every relationship once they are over. Even my evil ex had a few sweet characteristics about him. But the bad far outweighed the good, and I've never been happier alone.
I miss the regular weekly vlogs.
Never ever stop therapy. Good luck to you Cindy
PLEASE work on yourself. you don’t need a man. you need to learn to love yourself and be content with being with yourself. there’s a million things i could say about limbs but I’ll just say that this is a blessing in disguise. if you don’t take the time to actually heal, this is a pattern that is going to keep repeating. go to therapy and do things for yourself that make you feel good that aren’t because of or for a man. learn to rely on yourself. i promise you will be a lot happier. love will come once you learn to love yourself.
You look great!! Love your hair. You are so strong, and I'm glad you feel stronger. You don't have to pretend anything. You are stronger. It is not all your fault. Even if you feel it's coming, it can still be a surprise. I'm proud of you and the progress you've made. I hope you get back into therapy. It is worth it and so are you!!
Hi Cindy, I’m sorry that sucks. But I’m really proud of you for how well you’re handling this. You’ve come so far and grown so much. All you can do is keep going.
Cindy a guy shouldn't give you your worth EVER!!!! You can be a runway model 1 day, then get sick and become obese/ill and the guy might flee because he was an ass. Our worth comes from God, humans are all fallen sinners and they should never be responsible for our worth. Only God/our Holy spirit can do that. I know you aren't a Christian but I was like you too after all my break ups. My entire worth was tied to men and it almost lead me to suicide. I wish you the best always
same only God helped me too, jesus said single is default and a relationship is an extra cherry on top of life/only if you have passions, it is not our purpose on earth. That helped me a lot. I'm not part of any religion but I follow what jesus says and I study near death experiences. Almost all near death experiences have visions of God in them, everyone sees God or Jesus, I feel it in my heart it is 100% the truth too
Girl I swear our lives are so similar sometimes. This just happened to me yesterday basically, tysm for sharing this really helps.
So glad you updated us Cindy. I’ve missed your videos. Take care of yourself.
Kava is great, but _please_ make sure to *never* drink alcohol with it and to space them at least 24 hours apart. Both are heavily metabolized by the liver, and mixing the two is just asking for liver toxicity. I'd also highly caution against acetaminophen while using kava or alcohol as well.
You're so strong and you're going to get through this ❤❤❤
Best thing you can do is take your time💓. Always remember you are The Gift. This is a misogynistic world and mass of women can be programmed to believe otherwise. It will be okay & its also okay to rest as you need ❤
I’m sorry to hear it didn’t work out. Sending you all the love💜
Cindy, I am sorry that you are going through the breakup (they’re hard no matter what) but please don’t beat yourself up. You still have an idealized view of your ex, and there are likely things he did that contributed to the end of the relationship as well.
The fact that you are not drinking and not incessantly calling shows growth from your past breakups, and you should give yourself credit for that. It’s a big improvement. However, even if you enter another relationship in a few years, you should not stop therapy or medications. Therapy is important to keep up when life is good and when life is bad. If you stop as soon as things feel easier, you will undo your progress and lengthen the time it takes for you to heal. You can’t pause the important self-work because there’s a man in your life or you feel happy. I hope you’ve learned that lesson and don’t repeat it.
I don’t know you or your ex personally, but he should’ve encouraged you to keep going to therapy and not taken you go out for drinks so often if he knew you struggle with alcohol. He was not “your person” if he kept you in situations you were trying to heal from. He may have been the best partner you had so far, but he’s certainly not the best you could ever have.
The more you get out of the BPD idealized view, you may start to see some of the red flags you overlooked.
I’m going through a breakup right now too and I’m so happy for you being able to continue on with life and work on yourself and solving the problems you have, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Maybe try and see that he isn’t perfect and I’m sure made some mistakes in the relationship, just like you did, as you’re both human. That’s something I’ve had to come to accept and know, and be able to look at what went wrong and what to avoid in the future. I am totally also going to take time to work on myself. This caused sort of a second ego death for me and I’m trying to figure out who I want to be in the future and what I want to do with my life because now my future is so unknown with no family to move in with, no little ones in my life anymore, and no wedding to look forward to. It’s hard, but we can do this. I believe in you.
Edit to say that learning to love and accept and forgive yourself is such a hard thing for people to do and such a struggle for me as well. All the hugs and love for you in this time. 🫂💖
Thanks for the update. I miss you here
I'm happy to see a vlog again but I'm sorry to hear the reason why. I can't imagine at all what it's like BPD and although it's likely to be a life time battle: you can do this!
CINDY NO 🥺 PLEASE DONT FEEL BAD. YOURE PROGRESSING A LOT YOURE DOING A LOT BETTER❤❤❤
you're so resilient an always thrive by yourself 💗💗
Appreciating your vulnerability and accountability Cindy. Remember that healing is a lifelong journey. We slip when we’re complacent, but what’s important is to get up again. It’s a lot of work and never-ending, but oh so worth it. You’ve matured and grown so much. This video is proof of that. I think you’re a badass lady! Always sending you love dear! ♥️
I'm so sorry sweetie, you are stronger than you think 🌹🥰
It's okay too be sad and too work yourself up again.
Mabey he wasn't the right person fore you, if not, the right person is still out there. ❤❤❤❤
Much love and hugs to you from Denmark. 💝🌹🥰
you're just posting this because you expect he will watch it. stop it. stop posting about your personal life, it's not good for you.
Stay strong Cindy ✨️
Stick to your commitment, keep the alcohol out of your house, seriously it will destroy you...........return the alcohol....it's too tempting
awww....i was just thinking about you~ im so sorry cindy, sending you much love an energy
I just wish you didn't blame it all on yourself... He probably has stuff to work on as well, as we all do. However, this is such a great improvement from before, you are showing so much growth! Stay strong ✨💝✨ I wholehartedly understand you and support you
Have you thought about going to AA? It might help.
You will be fine. Right person will come. ❤ keep working on your bpd and it really be OK. ❤
Proud of you for the work you’re putting into yourself and your sims channel and your healing. 🙏🏼💖
Missed your videos. Im so glad you are finding your strength. Sending light and love.
Love Cindy, stay strong! ❤ Proud of you for continuing to move forward. One step at a time, one day at a time
I'm sorry about the breakup, I know that hurts but I'm happy you're handling it better. That is growth...
I’m so sorry you are sad:( everything happens for a reason, and you will get through this. Hugs ♥️
Hi Cindy. Sending you best wishes for a better tomorrow. Take care of yourself.❤
You are so right, so please never stop Cindy, never lose your momentum. Progress isn't linear, and this hurt is a temporary setback in the grand scheme. Feel what you need to feel, and when it passes, try to stand on your own two feet without anyone else's validation, because YOU are *enough* . I have struggled with PTSD/BPD my entire life too. Prove to yourself that you don't need a partner to be whole, and then will you be ready for one. Most of my relationships failed until I learned this, because until that point I clung for dear life to every guy who came into my life out of fear. Fear of abandonment, rejection, etc.
I think many of us have been a bit tough on you, and it's something I myself personally regret, because while viewing BPD from the outside can be frustrating to others (even those with BPD), most have no idea what the person *with* BPD is going through, and people evidently lack compassion. I can see the hurt in your eyes, and I don't want it for you, no matter what's transpired. I know too well how deep the trauma runs, and I know how long it takes to heal from it, but I have faith in you. Xx
as someone diagnosed with BPD, please please please don't beat yourself up too much & blame yourself for everything. i understand that we go out of our way to do things to keep people in our lives, & it fails; but do not put him on a pedestal. limbz has honestly given me a very weird, odd energy from the start. from the way he acts to the constant uti's & sicknesses you would get while with him. your body was literally rejecting him. this is another lesson for you to learn that you need to be alone for awhile, i know how hard it is to not have someone constantly filling that void. after every failed relationship, i would keep finding other people to fill that empty void & it's not good. i know it's hard but please take this time to flourish on your own. you can get through this
I really hope you defining a “BPD meltdown” wasn’t just expecting him to be on a lease with you if he was going to continue living with you.
The least he could do is be on a lease. He’s gaslighting you if he says it’s unreasonable to ask / expect that after “sleeping over” as long as he did.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other, eventually you will get to where you want to go! Next time you get into a realtionship, don't forget about You and continuing your healing journey. Just because you are in a new relationship and happy doesn't mean you should stop working on yourself.
You are both ok. You're right! It"ll be ok❤
I'm so proud of you!!
Keep gaining your strength girl - you've got this!! 💪❤️🌞
Oh man, this is tough- Sending so much love Cindy, your future is going to be so bright ☀️ you got this 💕
I'm proud of you, Cindy! This is not a failure, you are dealing with all of this in a healthier way, and it shows. Healing is a learning process, and making mistakes is an important part of the process when you take the opportunity to learn from them. You've got this!
Hey darling, I am so sorry that you two didn't work out, but you are so strong! You've grown a lot, and you can heal from this too. You are worthy and beautiful. I know it's rough with a break up, but please remember you are loved. You are amazing and lovely. Take some time to breathe, you can do this!! I love you Cindy!
I'm so happy to see your resilience, this is proof that there is always a future after times like this. Blaming yourself is that slipping point, keep the course. Things will only improve if you stick with self love and self improvement. I believe in you. So many people do. 💜💜
Glad to hear from you again!
I’m confused: what DID you do, more specifically, please, to bring about the demise of this relationship? I agree with the alcohol prohibition (for a while anyway). I hit that part. So you want to keep someone close, but your manner of doing so might overwhelm a partner… am I close? Any particulars would go a long way to helping your viewers understand, and maybe even help others in your boat avoid making the same mistakes. You are wished the very, very best!
I agree with all the good things which are said here! And a big hug of course ❤
It's not only you, dear. I refuse to believe that. Where there are 2, 2 did fault. But it always sucks and I know your in pain right now. But look how strong you are now, how much you have learnt about everything! You did so good, dear. And the fact that Limbz was such a honest guy etc, that is also a reason I guess that this situation is much more to deal with than back with mr. Douchback.
We are here for you, dear. Always. Take care and we're proud of you ❤
Sorry to hear this. You will get through it. Focus each day on different tasks to distract yourself. Spring is coming, weather is getting better and better. Go out, socialise, spend time in nature. Meet your female friends. Each day, week will hurt less and less. ❤ one day, you will meet the one.
I think the whole "loving yourself" is so forced and you can at least learn to accept yourself. For me, it is impossible to love myself, so I chose the path of accepting and that can change a lot! :) You just cannot force anything.
Hi Cindy! Thank you for sharing, I had been thinking about you. I am currently alcohol and tobacco free now for 15 months after using those for many years. I might return to sensible alcohol use when I have healed mentally. I say tip the alcohol you bought down the sink and try to return the valentines gift.
Will be thinking of you, Cindy. Its hard but you are strong and you know that now, which is amazing. Proud of you. Xx
My boyfriend of 3+ years broke up with me this friday night too. What an unlucky day! The reasons are not the same but I feel with you Cindy! It hurts so much, no matter how much you know you’ll make it…
But I’m rooting for you - and remember you are valuable with or without a lover in your life! ❤
Dear Cindy! You've learned a lot (from him, from your self-work, from the time spend together), you look beautiful and healthy and you are a strong woman who will help herself forward - you've proved that to yourself in the past year and now in the past week! Give yourself time to cry and feel sad, give yourself love by treating yourself well (food&drinks, beauty&songs and walks in nature) and for sure you are already heading the right way to eventually loving yourself inside and out! 🌷💖🌷
Here for you Cindy ❤ happy to see you, not under these circumstances.. but ill take you however i can get you :)
I’m sorry to hear things didn’t go well don’t blame yourself too much I know it’s hard just do your work and thinks will work out ❤ you got this and I’ll be watching the sims content too I enjoy your game videos too
You've been through so much heartache. I'm m sending you healing, positive,loving vibrations!🫂🍄🦋✨🖤
The first time I realized I didn’t wanna off myself after something tragic happened to me, I knew I finally made progress. Keep going Cindy! I haven’t been keeping up with all the vlogs so I’m not sure of what exactly is going on, but I hope you can see just as well as I can that you will be fine and healthy, be it alone or in a relationship.
I’m so sorry to hear this, Cindy. I know how much it hurts. Sending you all my love and hugs. I am so proud of you ❤️🙏
I am so proud of you. Yes, there was a step back, it can happen when you start feeling better, but it's important that you recognize it. But I see incredible growth, you've gone a long way in the last year.