Growing Up White in India | Aparna Mulberry @invertedcoconut | Invisible India Podcast | Episode 45
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ต.ค. 2024
- At first glance, one may assume Aparna Mulberry is a Western woman who has merely visited India. But only a few moments after speaking to her, you realize the depth and knowledge of her experiences as growing up in the Amritapuri Ashram in Kerala, India.
Aparna is an American born, but India raised woman who spent her formative years in Kerala. Fluent in Malayalam, her story of finding her place of fitting in in India and also America is inspiring and enlightening for anyone living a multicultural life or finds themselves struggling to raise children in a cross-cultural environment.
Now married to a Spanish woman, living in France, her multicultural journey continues. During this episode, she reflects on her Indian roots and gives Jessica advice on raising children in a context where they may feel they are “third culture kids” between worlds.
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Am a Keralite.I am really proud of Aparna.She is like our family member
Aparna is really amazing and bold. She is bold enough to keep her Indian name with pride. Now she is known world over, because Malayalee is at every corner of the world and each Malayalee knows Aparna and accepts her ss one among them.
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@@IndiaWithJessica tum kitne saalo se ho India mein ?? :)
Love this
This is bhagwan You can be white & Indian,black & Indian
We need more genetic variations
India is love
It was lovely listening. Just happened to come across this video. Best wishes to you both on your life going forward..
Listening to Aparna, some of her issues regarding social contact & conversation, I feel it might also be a personality issue rather than "growing up in India" one as I have faced similar awkward situations in India as an Indian in Indian milieu. My sister doesn't feel that awkwardness, & able to say the right thing & join the conversation, whereas I never know when to join the conversation. Same with critical thinking. I went to a school run by a Convent, & there wouldn't have been much difference with the Public school ( did she mean the Government / village school?) Except for the medium of instruction, it would be the same , expecting obedience & silence & ability to memorise from the children. I had the critical thinking despite my Convent education write upto my P.G. Even in U G or P.G. classes we were given notes which we had to adhere to when writing tests! & Answers expected were the rote ones. I wouldn't have got marks if I had written differently.
Growing up white is easy ... you should try growing up black in India.
My love and respect to both women who had given enlightment to values of Indian culture
So much value that you ensure to give birth to a child in USA.
Two great ladies. I live in Princeton ,USA. Your kids will appreciate later.
Has an Indian I have nothing but love for both of these women . It was enlightening to listen to you both and to be truthful you are true daughters of mother India
Has an Indian?
I remember Aparna from Amritapuri in the 1990 s. She was a darling little girl very free spirited.
Really liked your conversation . Need more podcast like this for Cross culture married life staying in India . This is a future which awaits India as we move into 21st century where individuals from abroad settle down in a changing and upwardly mobile India.
Such a great talk! Super enlightening! What an amazing person Aparna is! It was very good to hear from her. Thank you Jessica! 🙏
Thank you. I am so glad I got to hear her story and share it with others
This was delightful, Jessica. Thank you so much!
thanks for listening, Pam!
Lovely insight ,kudos to you both. Being from Ammas ashram myself Aparnas face looked very familiar to me. This helped me understand the westerners point of view.
OMG everything aparna has said and all of her characteristics that she' stated that shes had due to her upbringing makes soo much sense. OMG, I was sooo confused growing up how I was a bit reluctant to speak to my seniors compared to my white counterparts and IT MAKES SENSE, it's DUE TO OUR CONSERVATIVE CULTURE!!!!!. to ask a senior so casually in Indian culture is to be shunned and looked down upon cuz you can't do that. That has prevented me from actually speaking to people much older than I.
i'm so glad you enjoyed the episode and could relate.
I think problem of Indians towards Westerners is that Indians are not habitated of being looking white skin and/with blonde hair for daily basis or regular day of their life.
So that's why Westerners feels very weird when Indians stare at them.
But may be in future this mindset's of Indians may be change sometime😀😀😀.
yes, but people see it on TV all the time, which is why it is a bit odd.
It's not because of that. 🤦
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We r not used to blonde
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*I am used to blonde. My dog has blonde hair.*
@@IndiaWithJessicait’s not like it does not happen in western cultures. Even though they may have seen brown or black people on TV, in real life they may act very racially detached or even bully other races. So let’s not act like the West is any better in these terms, historically they’ve been way worse
Wow. I'm in USA, raised here and will be doing the same. Dhirendra Shastri really blew things up for me. Amazing country
wow
Both Jessica and Aparna are really good teachers. This podcast is really educational one should learn it.
God bless both of you! Keep on such nice useful podcast.
Krishna bless you all.... pranaam 🙏
I think this was very interesting. The conclusion of love and be yourself was priceless. I am African /West Indian grew up among public school English boarding school girls and i found value in this experience.
Loved this so much. I especially appreciate the conversation about teaching the kids that their unique "Third-Culture" is just as precious and valuable as being from only one country and cultural identity. I think this is so important for adults too as we find ourselves with different people groups even if we were born and raised in just one culture, and it makes us more empathetic to others! What was the biggest struggle you had personally in integrating into Indian life when you first moved there? Is there anything specific your kids struggle with, growing up with roots across the ocean?
i did have a lot of challenges when I first moved. I have shared some of them in my other earlier episodes.
I think my kids are doing fine with the changes. They just struggle with missing family when we are away for so long.
Great discussion...huge respect for both, Jessica as well as Aparna....!!!
Thanks for the great talk and amazing insights about the “somewhere between two cultures” some of us and our children experience.
our pleasure. lots of relatable information in Aparna's story!
It always hard to go against the flaw but only brave Soldier can do that...I am so impressed with Jessica ma'am...for me you're Soldier in fact every woman is Soldier ❤️🇮🇳🙏
thank you so much
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Great conversation! Jessica ji, i am not from Bihar, now i live in the West. I always found Bihari humour is great, kind of its own style and quite frank.
Aparna ji, you have everything and please be yourself and fitting in will come naturally, as your dad said just express your own beauty and great learning from land of wisdom, kerala.
Need more interviews like this.
Indian culture is very ancient and open. It has been been enriched by foreigners who either invaded+settled and traders and students.
The Indian culture journey continues and I am happy to be part of it.
Aprna was very friendly and gave useful advice.
Thanks for this. The perspectives with reference to two different cultural experience is worth understanding. Aparna's father's advice to her was crucial.
You have experienced what all non-whites go through when they travel to rural parts of the US. Language, accent, your mannerisms and your perspectives help ease the gap, but the gap always exists. This is universal. It is typical human nature to draw lines and boundaries, forming groups and forming one’s identity around it.
Aparna Mulberry has adapted to Keralite culture. Awesome.
Excellent information for me for raising my kids in Munich, me my wife born in Patna.
Jessica and aprna one day both of you known as Indian goddess Durga and sarswati. Very lovely talking with both .
What an interesting theory that coconut generation, I really understand that as I have been living here in Kerala for 7 years now :) loved this video, greetings from Trivandrum!! 🤗✨💕🦋
Thanks for sharing. glad to connect with yoU!
Both the women are wonderful. Please continue to bring such conversations and continue to enlighten us.
Great podcast. Learned so much about cross cultural upbringing. Thanks!
Jessica, your pronunciation of Hindi and diction are really good. All the best to you and your kids as you grow and adjust in an Indian environment. I'm sure by the time your kids are adults, these cultural differences and nuances between the west and the east will reduce significantly.
i can relate to this indian married to german. thank you for this video❤
You're welcome 😊
Nice conversation...I really proud of you both...so openness & candid talks about both side cultures...!°
Loved your discussion. My kids are growing coconut. I can relate to many of the comparisons my self.
Great conversation
Very informative to Indian diaspora in USA
You both epitomize the beauty and diversity of Indian culture and broad inclusiveness of our sanatana dharma
You should realize America is the Secret Colony of Ashkenazi Jews/Khazarian Mafia/Banking Cartel/13 Illuminati bloodlines Rothschilds..Federal Bank of America is the Private bank of Rothschilds..
I believe that you are an inspiration to Indians born and brought up in the diaspora, feeling removed from their ancestral culture!
thx
You may want to connect and interview other foreigners who are living in India and raising their kids in India! We also have a beautiful story to tell!
thats not the point of my show, but thanks,
Beautiful conversation … Namaste sisters 🥰
Love and respect to all ladies who joined us
thanks
This is a different experience or a kind of mirror for Indian society !.... Thanks!....
ok
you both are very genuine and beautiful people inside out, good conversation, Aparna elaborated her insights as she had experienced in her life very beautifully
UKG is upper kindergarten and LKG is lower kindergarten.
It is not "Under kindergarten".
Great video. I Love d questions and answers of them. I'm sure you are proud of yourself as Indian and enjoying. God bless
thx
Jessica you have the Indian nod!!!
Culture in Kerala and in Bihar, both are completely different. You shouldn't worry about how your kids look like. I remember we had a girl in our class with blonde hair, we would call them "Bhuwri" both of her parent's were indian though. Once she speaks language, no one would care. Give her best of both worlds - now is the opportunity.
The best of both worlds, brilliantly said.
You are truly Indian, both of you!
Thanks for sharing so much. God bless you all.
Teach children only of humanity and being good human rather than complicate cultures . Being good human is the point.
The education n humor bit was perfect
This was a really interesting talk. I moved to the US over 26 years ago and was able to assimilate with the culture here relatively quickly. In other words, I became a coconut. Now I joke with my daughter that I’m as white as they come! Anyway, diversity is so important, anywhere in the world. If we all looked and behaved the same, the world would be a boring place. Oh, and you speak impressive Hindi!
thanks for your thoughts
We want to see more and more white ppl in India. Their contribution is beyond to write.💕💕💕💕💕💕
Cross immigration....
Hats off to these 2 women ❤
At 15 yrs old, its a lot easier to pick up the American accent and usually kids of that age carries an American accent into adulthood. However, at age 19 if you move to America, you tend to have a bit of your mother tongue along with American accent. Thats my experience.
Wonderful session ... truth bomb ... definitely
Bihar and Kerala real everyday living and culture would be pretty seriously different.
BETI JESSIKA I SAW UR INTERVIEW WITH KHATTER.VERY NICE TO SEE U NOW.ENJOY PEACE IN INDIA.
If this conversation was in Hindi language it will be very impressive to us...
You are both so AMAZING ladies. 🌹
Your thoughts is very respectfully and Irespect you as a Indian .
My perspective to this is , the kids can identify themselves with the good things of both countries, rather than confining to one. The current education system in Bharat is not the real education system as in Gurukul system but the British colonial crap formulated by Mcauley. Kids should be exposed more into the real Vedic way of life which sadly schools don’t provide, Home schooling should pick up in the modern day Bharat , just like the US.
many people don't do homeschooling in the US. a very small portion do. but its increasing with the pandemic
The lady on the left is so pretty, I have no idea how she survived in India. She would get harassed in a western country for being so pretty, let alone India. Well at least until they find out she has a wife. OMG.
Good conversation, I like it very much.
This video has a very interesting topic about identity especially when not living in the country of your ethnic origin or belonging to dual ethnicity. I have an Indian route (4th generation away from India) born and raised in Mauritius but lived most of my life in UK. My two daughters have an Asian mother of a different religion and my two sons have a white English mother. Therefore, I found your conversation very relatable. I’d just like to say that I believe the world is already shifting slowly towards a global village due to east media access and I think the sooner more people would realise and accept this the quicker we will have a better and peaceful world.
glad you enjoyed
Lovely conversation 🙏
thanks
Jessica & Aparna, Liked your Chit chat very much.
But surprised to see different food habits were missing totally.
Next time
Really loved the podcast.
thanks!
15:03 Dance Music these more in Southern states spread across the cities, villages, districts. The same is not the case in North. Either you will find it bigger cities and that too only some paid places or else not. So that is quite difficult it could be.
You both are great
Kerala and Bihar are 2 “ different countries “ as different as Germany and Somalia. One with high literacy and social indices. So a general advice may not work.
we feels very proude because of you people these child will control india
You R So Wonderful Mam...Really Great And Brilliant...Nice Discussion Both of You...🏆👍🙏
Love your podcast 👏
Amazing podcast 🙏
appreciate it
Nice intervew love from kerala 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks a lot
Cultivate the habit of critical thinking, because that definitely makes an individual different from the mass. That's actually what is missing in the Indian cultural context.
this was really amazing both of you,,,❤
thank you
You might want to interview Jamie Alter as well ♥
Great talk!! 2 free minds.
Loved it Jessica. Thanks :)
Thank you. Really enjoyed
Glad you enjoyed it
Love this conversation
Glad you liked it!
I would kindly propose that Arpana visit d ISKCON temple in Kerala or Mayapur temple to really know India.Im sure she will be transported to a different plane.Please give it a try.Tq.God bless.
14 :42 ma'am ans 🎉🎉🎉🎉
15:51 it's fine 😊 u have time
Both womens is really nice
Didi u both look beautiful in hindu look ❤❤ Radha radhe
Great chat!
Thanks!
I wish you true happiness and bliss every second of your life, no matter who you are or where you come from.
We all have the same amount of time as humans, and living a happy life is God's wish.
If there is such a thing as GOD.
That's the meaning of SANATHANI.
Nyc conversation 🧡
thank you.
Wonderfull convesation
Beautiful episode
Nice to listen n learn thanks
Nice Video + Good Message.
First of all it's outright disgusting to tell anyone what they are brown but white on the inside.What actually does that mean and who gets to decide that??No sorry that is not the way it works.You are what the country and culture you are raised in no matter what your skin tone is or religion or family culture.This whole nonsense of saying someone of a certain race has to act and be a certain way or that means they truly are not that race is childish and the meaning of racism.You feel out of place anywhere that you were not raised and in cultures you never experienced no matter what race you are.Aparna seems very honest and well adjusted.
whats the idea of nose rings, earrings etc?
U both have great personality
very kind
Good video ❤
Thanks 😁
Can you interview @Jamie Alter who is a White Indian of American origin?
i already did! See my audio versions. www.invisibeindiapodcast.com/episodes
I ENJOY TO HAVE REINCARNATION REIKI CONVERSATION
and a cup of tea 🍵 coffee ☕️
sorry no pakora bhajiya emoji