I’m 44 and took the advice you are giving when I was 40. After a string of poor relationships I had to stop dating and revamped my whole life. I had no real mentors on how to do it. I have well meaning parents, but they never did their own work. So I’m out here in the world at 44 trying to piece together a life I can be proud of. This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And I know I’m well worth it.
Please know you are not the only one. I am on the same mission with my 8 yr old in tow. I hate learning as I go. SOMEBODY could have told me SOMETHING. (But maybe I should've asked....My kid will not have to ask though.)
Nope! I didn't have any support. But by the grace of God I was able to go to school and get an education while raising 5 kids all on my own. I've put 3 of them through college, purchased my own home and have a good paying job. I moved away from my home town in 1998 and haven't looked back. I've went to therapy, and took a deep honest look at myself. I am 100% better than I was even 2 years ago. Healing is the children's bread and God is working on me every single day.
@@marymalloy2848 He honestly did. All things work together for the good. God never said all this would be good. He said they would work together for good. It took me a long time to understand that. Our trials, as painful as they are, have a purpose. They are not for nothing. Joseph came from a dysfunctional family. They hated him. Plotted to kill him. Threw him in a ditch, sold him into slavery. Told his father he was dead. But God had a plan. Esther had to go to the palace against her will. She didn't have a choice. When you really think about that process of being prepared to go before the king. Only to have him sexually violate you. If he doesn't chose you, you become a servant girl, a hand maiden or a concubine. Again, God had a plan. My life hasn't be easy, but I know God has a plan.
Your age has nothing to do with self-esteem or maturity. You can be 50 with low self esteem and low self worth. That course will be valuable to women of all ages! Thank you Rebecca!
I’m grateful to have found this at 27. I’m single and abstinent waiting for marriage after two divorces. Attracted narcissists and been cheated on and abused. After running for my life from my last marriage, I’ve been happily single ever since. I’m in school on tract to become a RPA (radiologist physicians assistant) and doing my self work. Life has been bliss taking your advice.
I cried so hard watching this. I started watching RLP in 2020 and I started working on every area of my life from cutting off fake friends, ended a toxic relationship, and so much more. So many ppl hate how much Ive changed but Im still doing so much daily to work on me and I will be taking the work masterclass soon. I'm in therapy, reading self help books, etc. Ive experienced everything she named and more, but I will not allow the bs Ive been through hinder who Im capable of becoming.
Your comment is the first thing I'm reading this morning and it has me in tears. I'm so grateful for your courage and your determination to work on you because you deserve it. So proud of you and i love you. 💙
@@RebeccaLynnPope Thank you for doing what GOD sent you to do . Your a vessel . As black women we life as we climb , sometimes people feel like they have to be so much older or so much more successful to begin mentoring an that’s not true . One of my mentees just graduated from college an dealt with homelessness an more another one has their Own successful biz an hiring there friends to put money in there pockets, after loosing both parents to gun violence. We need them just as much as they need us . We all need each other to navigate this spiritual journey where on . Healed people hear differently.
Damn i am a dude and I am crying. My narcissistic dad ruined me. I came from being an excellent student in elementary school to being an average student in college just because my self esteem was shunned by my narcissistic divorced illiterate parents.
Imagine 2 parents like this I’m 44 I’m learning that my own family sabotage my life yet I’m so thankful for God and for the stability I do have today but I know that I can do so much better it’s a shame
I’m 27 , I have been going through a lot in my young life. I lost my mom when I was 19 and I was my mother’s only child, along with losing my grandmother a year ago. My dad has never been in my life, yet he expects me to chase him down to have a relationship with him. I am single, it’s hard a lot of days, I work full time and I’m looking into getting my bachelor’s degree, I already have my associate’s degree. I cry a lot of nights but I’m trying to trust God with my life going forward. I do feel extremely lonely in my daily life.
This video was also for me "I deserve it all" I'm currently out here trying to claim everything that is rightfully mine righteously. Lots of us have been given seeds of insecurities and self-doubt on top of not being raised up in healthy stable environments. There will be difficult days, however we are creating new normals and we all will get there if we remain active, hopeful, and optimistic!
I am 24 years old and I cry DAILY figuring things out and I am slowly taking step on life but growing up I had my mom in my life but she didn’t teach me and my 3 sisters how to be women, didn’t talk about boundaries, self respect, self esteem, loving myself, believing in myself so I believe that followed me in my adult life. When I started college at 22 I knew and understand I was smarting and more capable than what was taught to me and I learned I didn’t believe or trust myself like I should because I was never taught how to go for what I want and believe in myself and it hurts me daily that I do not have that type of person or a mentor in my life as a women. Going through everyday with a 5 year old daughter and I’m learning on my own and I cry because I don’t have women who have more than me in my life that I can see that are successful and I can also follow and learn from them so I pray and manifest new friendships and women that are doing more than me that can teach me and show me how to be a women in my essence so I can teach my daughter what I was not taught growing up. I love you Aunt Rebecca and you have taught me so much. ❤️❤️
Thank you for speaking to so many women. 💖 I struggled a lot when I was younger, dated abusive men, a married man, well I didn't care about myself. Until I met my husband who is wonderful man. We've been married for 25 years, have 3 kids, house, good jobs, nice life... I still like to listen to you because I do feel down from time to time (when I remember prior traumas) and I still need words of encouragement to keep me going. Thank you again.
Woo when God puts that burden on your heart for his people, its no joke!...Thanks for speaking life over all the young women. So many women just need to be shown love, edified and encouraged. God bless you!
This is what i needed to hear today. I organically cried twice because it resignated with me especially on the part where you always wanted a daughter. 💗
This whole video is a recap of my life. I thank GOD I realized things were wrong and I needed additional help. For years I couldn’t figure out what people meant when they said “you must do the work”. I finally figured it out and my life has been better than ever before.
This hit home on so many levels! In the counseling profession we call it “reparenting” and this is so needed. We (millennial women and men) need the encouragement, validation and support. Thank you! 🙏🏽
Say that Rebecca! At 48 I wish I had a mother figure to tell me these things 20-25yrs ago. Somebody needed to hear this. Thank you! Love your hair....Love your channel too! God bless😘
I checked into therapy 8 months ago. As my sessions progressed my mind has healed so much and with time things are revealed about myself. I asked my life coach if it were wise for me to date after realizing just these past few weeks that I have (fear of commitment) from being used and taken advantage by people. She said no, and your message co-signs it with confirmation that I need to stay focused on healing my life. I’m getting ready I’m so thankful! I am figuring this out earlier on in my youth. Thank you so much Auntie Rebecca❤️
I'm 32, and I have lots of trauma that have caused me low self-esteem that came from narcissistic parents! I'm in therapy now and need coaching too. I'm not dating because I'm healing and focusing on myself. I need to start reading books based on my own trauma. I need those confidence courses. I needed this message, Mrs. Rebecca!
This video really touched my heart. I’ve always wanted a mother figure I could talk to for the things you listed, but everyone around me is unhealthy. Today I just wanted a conversation, seeking motivation. Because it’s hard sometimes having it myself. Thank you Rebecca.
This advice is Solid and MUCH needed!! For us guys as well! I started going to therapy about 5 years ago and started to “do the work” and still doing it as a 31 year old single guy!Thank you.
Rebecca, I’m older than you at 52, so much of what you said spoke to the younger and current me. I cried along with you. I was loved no life altering trauma, but trauma nonetheless. My parents did the best they could based on their own trauma. I deal with and recognize father abandonment issues=low self esteem= choices through a filtered lens. Dating is draining because I do the work.. to remain good hearted, open, not so guarded but I’m a 🎯 of the ✨good energy ✨ vampires. It’s a continued process “unlearning” so that I properly decipher thoughts & behaviors.You and your work are appreciated, continued Blessings♥️
Thank you so much for this, I really felt like you were talking to me. You are right, it is not fair at all. I had a physically and verbally abusive mother growing up and my father just let her beat me up. I cut contact with her over six years ago and have no mother figure at all. What's worse is I realised that from my early teens she neglected all duties- I just hadn't realised it until I had my own child. It is bewildering walking through life being your own matriarch at a relatively young age, it feels strange and alien having no guidance. I felt your tears because I knew that you connected with how people like me feel.
Thank you for this. I just turned 42, and I have done so much work on myslef, (with all you have said) but the wait for the next is hard. Thank you. You spoke a word.!!
As a young person, I just want to say Thank You for your words of wisdom! I’ve been trying my hardest to be a better person, and I will be applying everything you’ve said to my daily life!🙏🏼❤️
I so wish I could meet you. I started watching you a couple of years ago. You have gotten me through so many life lessons. You inspire me, to go out into the world and walk in my purpose. Everything you said spoke to my soul. I've struggled throughout my life with low self-esteem and never feeling good enough to enjoy more than the bare minimum. You are so genuine and your words are rejuvenating. I have kept my head up no matter how hard things have gotten. With the world on my shoulders and tears in my eyes I've pushed forward. Thank you for being a guide to follow in life.
I believe in you love! With all my heart and soul! I know that my followers are not random. God brings exactly who I'm assigned to and who needs me. #divineconnections
I tell people we all have work to do. Ur wounds may not look like mine but u have stuff too that u need to deal with too. Ur wounds are not ur fault but ur healing is ur responsibility. Those same wounds will control u until u do so.
May GOD Continue to Bless you and your Family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 the only person who ever believed in me was my Grandma, she transitioned home when I was 12 year's old 🌹 You have no idea how much this video means, you truly have a Anointing.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌻🙋🏽♀️
Thank you so much Auntie Rebecca, I just received the therapy that I didn’t even know I needed. I think this was also just God confirming what he has already dropped in my spirit 🥺. We really appreciate people like you ♥️
Aww, 😢see this ain’t right! Y’all got Auntie out here crying - now I’m crying through this video. RLP is really dropping gems and coming deep from the soulful, heartfelt pain of a very loving woman! Some people will not understand this, But we have To, And WE MUST DO BETTER!! She is sounding an alarm!! 🚨 We really need to listen, understand, surrender, and make changes- before it’s too late 😢😢
Around 27 minutes I was just happily listening and nodding my head, but when she started talking about a warrior, overcomer.....man it is 354 and I am at my 2nd job ....not bout to cry because I swear the Lord must have whispered in her ear about me. So many of us need this message. I needed this so much. Been paid for the master class. Gonna sit down and crack it open next off day.
Right on time for 2022. RLP you and I are seeing the same thing. Traditional Values need to be taught in schools. Facts they are out here vacationing and shopping instead of getting therapy/coaching/education!!
At the first 4 minutes I knew right away that you were speaking to me. This entire video is what I’ve never been told! Though I knew from a very early age that God made me unique and special, as I grew up my parents’ insecurities rubbed off on me. I had a mom (though we’ve reconciled and mended our bond) she picked on me and compared herself to me my entire childhood, but mostly during my awkward stages of preteen-hood and as a teenager. My Dad was my refuge but he was and still is very passive by nature. I am 26 and have done so much introspection and work on undoing previous programming and I believe the next step is receiving a real life mentor that I can walk closely with. I’m so ready for that! You’re the first woman to inspire me in this way and I don’t know you from a can of paint lol I’m grateful that I came across this video because the little girl inside of me needed this so bad ❤
I am 39yrs and I need a mentor because my therapist says she doesn’t see how I’ve made it this far. But I need a mentor and I’m glad I found this channel ❤one that doesn’t sneak dis women or downplay black women and still sends the message with real truth and elegance 👏🏾🙌🏾
I spent 20+ years with a person with All of these issues you mentioned. I thought I would love them and heal them from their pain and traumas. I did my best, I wasn't always perfect in every situation, especially after being someone's punching bad for Years. I did choose this life. So it's on me.... But it was Extremely Difficult to leave when I looked at my children and her twins that I help to raise from the age of 2yrs. But again, it's on me. I get this now.
You did the best that you knew sis. So no guilt. Take the energy from the guilt, & transform/channel it into helping & educating young women on what you learned & how you got out of the abusive relationship. Some women die/ are killed in these relationships, so you are very strong mentally to have even left the situation.♥️
@@iyanttahowellmd Joy you misunderstood his comment, he is talking about his woman with those issues. You automatically assumed he is a woman talking about her man. He’s taking responsibility that he chose her with her mental issues thinking he could change her. Too funny smh.
It's crazy! I was just telling a 42 year old lady this same thing, with respect. I told her, she need to speak to some Grown Women. And please understand, this was not said in a disrespectful way. But when you watch a 42yr old trying to vicariously relive their life through our 21yr old daughter and her friends. It is scary!!
The older women are too busy bullying and competing with younger women. I haven’t been treated so bad until I started working in a “professional” environment with middle aged women 50+! I’ve been attacked left and right it’s so ridiculous. I was thinking that these women would be welcoming but no it was the opposite.
The dumpy ones ( old or young) are always jealous of any woman who will presents herself well and is confident. It drives them nuts....You can feel that dementor energy around them......always clock these types in any office you get into.....and always dodge them....and never ever try to be friendly with them....it never works
This is exactly why I have not had any relationships with a man at 24yrs old. I need DEEP healing and it’s not fair to bring that baggage into a relationship to a man. I really appreciate the work you do honestly you’re more passionate about your work compared to some of the therapists I’ve had but luckily now I have a good one. But keep it up I loved the work mastercourse and I’ve started to realize healing may be a lifetime for me but I’m dedicated to it. Again I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart!💕
I'm 33. Thank you for this. I have been trying to understand my life. And I just realized that it's deep down within me and all the things I've been through that are starting to cause my low self esteem and negative thinking and everything about me. I really do need to talk to someone. Thank you!
Dayummmmmm that’s the key. It’s who we accept and what we accept from ppl! And yes the problem is the person who accepts it. Friends family etc! That was deep ❤
I had to take my mental health and my life back after breaking my back on the job and going through a divorce at the same time. I was at rock bottom but I took the time to get me right in those areas in my life
Just keep going. Follow your heart. Say whatever you authentically think and feel. Dedicate your videos to helping people. I used to set my intentions before I went Live, this is what I would say, "God, if this reaches just one person who needs it I've done my job." Focus on helping and ignore the numbers. They will come.
Sista Pope was dishing it out that day🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 It’s not who you attract, it’s what you accept 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 work on yourself first 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 I am continually astonished when I talk to single woman and hear about some of the trauma they’ve been through with men. And actually, men go through some of the same things it’s just not as physical. Sista Pope thank you for this healing word🦾🦾🦾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I been a fan of your videos because of your passion and the messages that you send. You are a beautiful soul and if nobody has ever told you, I will tell you. Thank you for everything you do. You have empathic abilities. I can see that. You’re making a difference in many people’s lives. I will do that one day too.
Thank you Auntie Rebecca! I was crying right along with you. I needed these words of wisdom more than you could ever know. Keep being a beacon of hope and light. Praying I get the chance to meet you to just give you a hug. But until then, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Much love. 💗
Thank you Rebecca. God gave you a whole bunch of daughters. Because he gave you the wisdom to teach for thoughs ready to receive and learn. Job well done!
Im 24 and pain broke me to the point I said enough. Yes I want to know if you in therapy and aware of your triggers and negative defenses. Because i hold a magnified glass on mine. Men will gaslight you to insanity until you say enough. We falling in love and trying to heal people who don't see they need healing
I’m also in the forties club 😊 and I WISH I had a mentor like you in my 20s and 30s. I just started self development in the last 5 years and it’s a constant journey. My father left early and my mother and I still have a dysfunctional relationship, I really felt like she hated me most of the time….she doesn’t speak to me to this day. That’s part of the reason I took the healing work masterclass. You and Kerry helped me realize I have to let go, forgive her, forgive me and let go. I had grandparents, aunts and uncles who loved me and encouraged me, spoke into my life, prayed for me…but there’s nothing like having a mother’s love. It’s taken me awhile to deal with that. Thank you Coach Rebecca. We need this, the world needs this 💕💕🙏🏾🙏🏾🦋✨🦋✨
Rebecca! Thank YOU for this message. It hit home and I’m not even ‘a young lady’ lol. Sooo many women, teens and young girls need what you have. Love the point you made about us checking if the men that we might date also believes in therapy & working on themselves. Sooo extremely important!🌟🌟
Ms. ma’am! My spirit is rumbling because these are things I say aloud in private that I want to talk about in public. You were so honest and eloquent. Loved this and THANK YOU for sharing this. 🙏🏾🙌🏾♥️
Rebecca this was a mini master class prerequisite to If I were Single...ABSOLUTELY NEEDED!! I'm 50 years old & single and started my healing journey 5 years ago. You spoke real truth about everything it takes to be on the right path to healing and self-love...it takes work! Thank you so much beautiful sister and I'm going to add your master class and more reading to my journey.🙌🏾💟
All Facts!!! You and Mr Pope be getting me all the way together. You two are such a powerhouse! Thank you for sharing your gift with us, you both are saving lives. 💙
I'm a New follower....This One Here Really Spoke to Me....I am barren, and always wanted to be the Mother of Daughter....I would pour into her this wisdom, just as you have blessed 🙌 us....Thank You.....Got Me Crying with Ya 😢...
This is such a good message. I’m a young man in therapy for relationship issues. I had to realize that I was holding myself to a false standard because of my past experiences. I don’t have to be an ultimate alpha male to have value, I was just sharing myself with the wrong women. I no longer care when a women wants me to coddle them and treat them like a princess and they bring nothing but looks to the table. Loads of amazing genuine women adore me who for who I am.
I am not settling for less, I never have but I struggle I feel everything and I make the tough decisions every time. So I definitely need that therapy so I could walk away without a scratch and stay consistent on my growth journey. I’ll do better because of this video.
WOW! I'm balling in tears. Rebecca, you are truly a blessing to many. I just came across your page and oh my God is all I can say. You definitely have a new subscriber. This message was truly for me. Thank you so much! 🙏💜🙏
Thank you so much for everything you are doing Ms. Pope. I want to be that person that brings light to other people's lives and not be a vampire. I want to also recognize the vampires and understand how to deal with them better with appropriate boundaries.
This video made me cry. Signing up for counseling/coaching TODAY! I am 54. I have had counseling over the years, but I have also been single and abstinent for 10 years. Yes, I have gone out on a few dates during that time, but no one appealed to me enough to want to let down my guard. Recently, I have met someone and have been dating them consistently for the past four months. I want to give a relationship a try. My daughter is now 20, dating, etc., and I now realize that my broke little best-friend has left me to myself… This is bringing up my abandonment and rejection issues. I feel myself breaking down a little more each day.
I have been single and abstinent for 10 years and I'm 35. So, I know the struggle. I thought I was ready to date but I'm not ready. Everytime I try to get on an online dating site, I get crushed and insecure and I delete my account.
@@zinagrace2113 Get off of the dating apps. It is really a meat market for men. I’ve tried them over the years, but then I realized that it forces me to initiate by “Liking” their profile or picture, in hopes that they will respond back with conversation. They usually don’t And at other times I have even develop a false connection with a picture and/or a voice. You will meet him so organically that you won’t even see it coming.
@@moniquebelle429 I've already been off of them and don't plan on getting back on it. Yes I agree that online dating is catered to the needs and whims of men. And to be honest, I find those dating apps put women in danger. I'm at the stage at my life where I need to meet a man in person first in order to read his energy, etc.
Much love from Paris💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏Thank you so much for this Mrs Pope. I needed this. Today I had a session with my therapist and she told me just what you've said in your video. I went through hell and I'm still alive and I'm doing the work. I'm alone with 2 kids in a foreign country with no friends no family no nothing. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to heal to grow and make it happen. I'm no longer a target for predators. I'm focused on me 💯 at 34. For the first time in my life. I want to lead by exemple and become the living embodiment of resilience for my beautiful daugther and my awesome son. (They will probably have a high IQ like me. I was potential wasted) I listened to your videos everyday when i need a wake up call. PS : I'm french sorry if i made mistakes and bad grammar.
wow this was powerful. I absolutly love woman and videos who aren't afraid to be RAW and speak the ugly TRUTHS in life about this. A lot of people literally hate subjects like this but they do need to be discussed so many women and men need healing in so many areas, especially woman of color we raised and not treated like princesses or taught to get help. Its okay to get and receive help. We don't have to be a super hero for everyone, especially our familys who have abused us.
I’m 44 and took the advice you are giving when I was 40. After a string of poor relationships I had to stop dating and revamped my whole life. I had no real mentors on how to do it. I have well meaning parents, but they never did their own work. So I’m out here in the world at 44 trying to piece together a life I can be proud of. This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And I know I’m well worth it.
There is something beautiful about turning 40. Reset time. Follow your dreams with vision and action. Blessings!
Resonates!! Happy continued Healing 💚✨
Please know you are not the only one. I am on the same mission with my 8 yr old in tow. I hate learning as I go.
SOMEBODY could have told me SOMETHING. (But maybe I should've asked....My kid will not have to ask though.)
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Nope! I didn't have any support. But by the grace of God I was able to go to school and get an education while raising 5 kids all on my own. I've put 3 of them through college, purchased my own home and have a good paying job. I moved away from my home town in 1998 and haven't looked back. I've went to therapy, and took a deep honest look at myself. I am 100% better than I was even 2 years ago. Healing is the children's bread and God is working on me every single day.
Wow!!! That’s amazing! Good for you!!
@@noirfit9721 Thank you!
Sending love and hugs to you for overcoming and prospering! 💖💖💖
Carolyn, it sounds like God had you from the Beginning.
@@marymalloy2848 He honestly did. All things work together for the good. God never said all this would be good. He said they would work together for good. It took me a long time to understand that. Our trials, as painful as they are, have a purpose. They are not for nothing. Joseph came from a dysfunctional family. They hated him. Plotted to kill him. Threw him in a ditch, sold him into slavery. Told his father he was dead. But God had a plan. Esther had to go to the palace against her will. She didn't have a choice. When you really think about that process of being prepared to go before the king. Only to have him sexually violate you. If he doesn't chose you, you become a servant girl, a hand maiden or a concubine. Again, God had a plan. My life hasn't be easy, but I know God has a plan.
Your age has nothing to do with self-esteem or maturity. You can be 50 with low self esteem and low self worth. That course will be valuable to women of all ages! Thank you Rebecca!
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I’m grateful to have found this at 27. I’m single and abstinent waiting for marriage after two divorces. Attracted narcissists and been cheated on and abused. After running for my life from my last marriage, I’ve been happily single ever since. I’m in school on tract to become a RPA (radiologist physicians assistant) and doing my self work. Life has been bliss taking your advice.
I cried so hard watching this. I started watching RLP in 2020 and I started working on every area of my life from cutting off fake friends, ended a toxic relationship, and so much more. So many ppl hate how much Ive changed but Im still doing so much daily to work on me and I will be taking the work masterclass soon. I'm in therapy, reading self help books, etc. Ive experienced everything she named and more, but I will not allow the bs Ive been through hinder who Im capable of becoming.
Your comment is the first thing I'm reading this morning and it has me in tears. I'm so grateful for your courage and your determination to work on you because you deserve it. So proud of you and i love you. 💙
@@RebeccaLynnPope Thank you for doing what GOD sent you to do . Your a vessel . As black women we life as we climb , sometimes people feel like they have to be so much older or so much more successful to begin mentoring an that’s not true . One of my mentees just graduated from college an dealt with homelessness an more another one has their Own successful biz an hiring there friends to put money in there pockets, after loosing both parents to gun violence. We need them just as much as they need us . We all need each other to navigate this spiritual journey where on . Healed people hear differently.
Damn i am a dude and I am crying. My narcissistic dad ruined me. I came from being an excellent student in elementary school to being an average student in college just because my self esteem was shunned by my narcissistic divorced illiterate parents.
Imagine 2 parents like this I’m 44 I’m learning that my own family sabotage my life yet I’m so thankful for God and for the stability I do have today but I know that I can do so much better it’s a shame
I’m 27 , I have been going through a lot in my young life. I lost my mom when I was 19 and I was my mother’s only child, along with losing my grandmother a year ago. My dad has never been in my life, yet he expects me to chase him down to have a relationship with him. I am single, it’s hard a lot of days, I work full time and I’m looking into getting my bachelor’s degree, I already have my associate’s degree. I cry a lot of nights but I’m trying to trust God with my life going forward. I do feel extremely lonely in my daily life.
I wish u all the best plz stay strong and pray to your ancestors 😻get an hobby and yes plz complete college and wrk on your purpose 😻🤟🏾✊🏾u got this 👌🏾
This video was also for me "I deserve it all" I'm currently out here trying to claim everything that is rightfully mine righteously. Lots of us have been given seeds of insecurities and self-doubt on top of not being raised up in healthy stable environments. There will be difficult days, however we are creating new normals and we all will get there if we remain active, hopeful, and optimistic!
I am 24 years old and I cry DAILY figuring things out and I am slowly taking step on life but growing up I had my mom in my life but she didn’t teach me and my 3 sisters how to be women, didn’t talk about boundaries, self respect, self esteem, loving myself, believing in myself so I believe that followed me in my adult life. When I started college at 22 I knew and understand I was smarting and more capable than what was taught to me and I learned I didn’t believe or trust myself like I should because I was never taught how to go for what I want and believe in myself and it hurts me daily that I do not have that type of person or a mentor in my life as a women. Going through everyday with a 5 year old daughter and I’m learning on my own and I cry because I don’t have women who have more than me in my life that I can see that are successful and I can also follow and learn from them so I pray and manifest new friendships and women that are doing more than me that can teach me and show me how to be a women in my essence so I can teach my daughter what I was not taught growing up.
I love you Aunt Rebecca and you have taught me so much. ❤️❤️
I love you too! I've got some new courses coming to help you more. And very affordable. 💙
See Rebecca.. I have always said that..you attract all kinds of people, but IT IS WHAT YOU ACCEPT!! I am so grateful for you!!
Amen, so so True
Thank you for speaking to so many women. 💖 I struggled a lot when I was younger, dated abusive men, a married man, well I didn't care about myself. Until I met my husband who is wonderful man. We've been married for 25 years, have 3 kids, house, good jobs, nice life...
I still like to listen to you because I do feel down from time to time (when I remember prior traumas) and I still need words of encouragement to keep me going. Thank you again.
I am so happy I can help in any way that I can. 💙
Woo when God puts that burden on your heart for his people, its no joke!...Thanks for speaking life over all the young women. So many women just need to be shown love, edified and encouraged. God bless you!
This is what i needed to hear today. I organically cried twice because it resignated with me especially on the part where you always wanted a daughter. 💗
This whole video is a recap of my life. I thank GOD I realized things were wrong and I needed additional help. For years I couldn’t figure out what people meant when they said “you must do the work”. I finally figured it out and my life has been better than ever before.
This hit home on so many levels! In the counseling profession we call it “reparenting” and this is so needed. We (millennial women and men) need the encouragement, validation and support. Thank you! 🙏🏽
Ok! Then that's my goal. I'm going to virtually reparent your generation!! 😘
Say that Rebecca! At 48 I wish I had a mother figure to tell me these things 20-25yrs ago. Somebody needed to hear this. Thank you! Love your hair....Love your channel too! God bless😘
That part when you said you'll talk as if you're our mother. I absolutely need that in my life.
I checked into therapy 8 months ago. As my sessions progressed my mind has healed so much and with time things are revealed about myself.
I asked my life coach if it were wise for me to date after realizing just these past few weeks that I have (fear of commitment) from being used and taken advantage by people.
She said no, and your message co-signs it with confirmation that I need to stay focused on healing my life.
I’m getting ready I’m so thankful! I am figuring this out earlier on in my youth.
Thank you so much Auntie Rebecca❤️
I'm 32, and I have lots of trauma that have caused me low self-esteem that came from narcissistic parents! I'm in therapy now and need coaching too. I'm not dating because I'm healing and focusing on myself. I need to start reading books based on my own trauma. I need those confidence courses. I needed this message, Mrs. Rebecca!
This video really touched my heart. I’ve always wanted a mother figure I could talk to for the things you listed, but everyone around me is unhealthy. Today I just wanted a conversation, seeking motivation. Because it’s hard sometimes having it myself. Thank you Rebecca.
This advice is Solid and MUCH needed!! For us guys as well! I started going to therapy about 5 years ago and started to “do the work” and still doing it as a 31 year old single guy!Thank you.
Mark I don’t even know you and I’m proud of you. So many black men don’t have the courage to go to therapy let alone can talk about it.
I'm sooooo proud of you and your courage, self awareness and growth. Keep it up young man.
Rebecca, I’m older than you at 52, so much of what you said spoke to the younger and current me. I cried along with you. I was loved no life altering trauma, but trauma nonetheless. My parents did the best they could based on their own trauma. I deal with and recognize father abandonment issues=low self esteem= choices through a filtered lens. Dating is draining because I do the work.. to remain good hearted, open, not so guarded but I’m a 🎯 of the ✨good energy ✨ vampires. It’s a continued process “unlearning” so that I properly decipher thoughts & behaviors.You and your work are appreciated, continued Blessings♥️
Thank you so much for this, I really felt like you were talking to me. You are right, it is not fair at all. I had a physically and verbally abusive mother growing up and my father just let her beat me up. I cut contact with her over six years ago and have no mother figure at all. What's worse is I realised that from my early teens she neglected all duties- I just hadn't realised it until I had my own child. It is bewildering walking through life being your own matriarch at a relatively young age, it feels strange and alien having no guidance. I felt your tears because I knew that you connected with how people like me feel.
It is ONLY by the GRACE of God that I am here. I cried the entire time while I watched this video. Thank you Rebecca🦋
Thank you for this. I just turned 42, and I have done so much work on myslef, (with all you have said) but the wait for the next is hard. Thank you. You spoke a word.!!
As a young person, I just want to say Thank You for your words of wisdom! I’ve been trying my hardest to be a better person, and I will be applying everything you’ve said to my daily life!🙏🏼❤️
“There are people out here who couldn’t of survived half the stuff you been through. People have folded over less….” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😭
One of your best videos❤️
I so wish I could meet you. I started watching you a couple of years ago. You have gotten me through so many life lessons. You inspire me, to go out into the world and walk in my purpose. Everything you said spoke to my soul. I've struggled throughout my life with low self-esteem and never feeling good enough to enjoy more than the bare minimum. You are so genuine and your words are rejuvenating. I have kept my head up no matter how hard things have gotten. With the world on my shoulders and tears in my eyes I've pushed forward. Thank you for being a guide to follow in life.
I believe in you love! With all my heart and soul! I know that my followers are not random. God brings exactly who I'm assigned to and who needs me. #divineconnections
You have a passion for us that was given to you by God. May God continue to bless All of your endeavors!
Blessings and Abundance( In your voice)
I tell people we all have work to do. Ur wounds may not look like mine but u have stuff too that u need to deal with too. Ur wounds are not ur fault but ur healing is ur responsibility. Those same wounds will control u until u do so.
May GOD Continue to Bless you and your Family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 the only person who ever believed in me was my Grandma, she transitioned home when I was 12 year's old 🌹 You have no idea how much this video means, you truly have a Anointing.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌻🙋🏽♀️
Thank you so much Auntie Rebecca, I just received the therapy that I didn’t even know I needed. I think this was also just God confirming what he has already dropped in my spirit 🥺. We really appreciate people like you ♥️
Aww, 😢see this ain’t right! Y’all got Auntie out here crying - now I’m crying through this video. RLP is really dropping gems and coming deep from the soulful, heartfelt pain of a very loving woman! Some people will not understand this, But we have To, And WE MUST DO BETTER!! She is sounding an alarm!! 🚨 We really need to listen, understand, surrender, and make changes- before it’s too late 😢😢
Most Grandmothers and Moms did not get what they needed either so they cannot teach what they never got themselves
Absolutely getting help while dating really filters put so much and forced me to place boundaries and be unapologetic about my standards.
Around 27 minutes I was just happily listening and nodding my head, but when she started talking about a warrior, overcomer.....man it is 354 and I am at my 2nd job ....not bout to cry because I swear the Lord must have whispered in her ear about me. So many of us need this message. I needed this so much. Been paid for the master class. Gonna sit down and crack it open next off day.
Right on time for 2022. RLP you and I are seeing the same thing. Traditional Values need to be taught in schools. Facts they are out here vacationing and shopping instead of getting therapy/coaching/education!!
35 and still single. At this point I'm not expecting anything from anyone, nothing not a thing.
Know your worth! Stand in your Magnificence! Be the Unicorn!
At the first 4 minutes I knew right away that you were speaking to me. This entire video is what I’ve never been told! Though I knew from a very early age that God made me unique and special, as I grew up my parents’ insecurities rubbed off on me. I had a mom (though we’ve reconciled and mended our bond) she picked on me and compared herself to me my entire childhood, but mostly during my awkward stages of preteen-hood and as a teenager. My Dad was my refuge but he was and still is very passive by nature. I am 26 and have done so much introspection and work on undoing previous programming and I believe the next step is receiving a real life mentor that I can walk closely with. I’m so ready for that! You’re the first woman to inspire me in this way and I don’t know you from a can of paint lol I’m grateful that I came across this video because the little girl inside of me needed this so bad ❤
This is so good and the absolute truth ❤ This self healing/Selflove journey is a lifetime commitment 🧘🏽♀️ God Bless us all on our journey's 🙏🏽
My, MY, MY....I'm a few videos behind and am trying to catch up, but this is POWERFUL🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾IS 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾!!!!!!! You are definitely GOD sent!!!!
I am 39yrs and I need a mentor because my therapist says she doesn’t see how I’ve made it this far. But I need a mentor and I’m glad I found this channel ❤one that doesn’t sneak dis women or downplay black women and still sends the message with real truth and elegance 👏🏾🙌🏾
I spent 20+ years with a person with All of these issues you mentioned. I thought I would love them and heal them from their pain and traumas. I did my best, I wasn't always perfect in every situation, especially after being someone's punching bad for Years. I did choose this life. So it's on me.... But it was Extremely Difficult to leave when I looked at my children and her twins that I help to raise from the age of 2yrs. But again, it's on me. I get this now.
You did the best that you knew sis. So no guilt. Take the energy from the guilt, & transform/channel it into helping & educating young women on what you learned & how you got out of the abusive relationship. Some women die/ are killed in these relationships, so you are very strong mentally to have even left the situation.♥️
@@iyanttahowellmd Joy you misunderstood his comment, he is talking about his woman with those issues. You automatically assumed he is a woman talking about her man. He’s taking responsibility that he chose her with her mental issues thinking he could change her. Too funny smh.
It's crazy! I was just telling a 42 year old lady this same thing, with respect. I told her, she need to speak to some Grown Women. And please understand, this was not said in a disrespectful way. But when you watch a 42yr old trying to vicariously relive their life through our 21yr old daughter and her friends. It is scary!!
The older women are too busy bullying and competing with younger women. I haven’t been treated so bad until I started working in a “professional” environment with middle aged women 50+! I’ve been attacked left and right it’s so ridiculous. I was thinking that these women would be welcoming but no it was the opposite.
The dumpy ones ( old or young) are always jealous of any woman who will presents herself well and is confident. It drives them nuts....You can feel that dementor energy around them......always clock these types in any office you get into.....and always dodge them....and never ever try to be friendly with them....it never works
This is exactly why I have not had any relationships with a man at 24yrs old. I need DEEP healing and it’s not fair to bring that baggage into a relationship to a man. I really appreciate the work you do honestly you’re more passionate about your work compared to some of the therapists I’ve had but luckily now I have a good one. But keep it up I loved the work mastercourse and I’ve started to realize healing may be a lifetime for me but I’m dedicated to it. Again I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart!💕
I really really needed this video....I am in tears 😢 😍
I'm 33. Thank you for this. I have been trying to understand my life. And I just realized that it's deep down within me and all the things I've been through that are starting to cause my low self esteem and negative thinking and everything about me. I really do need to talk to someone. Thank you!
Dayummmmmm that’s the key. It’s who we accept and what we accept from ppl! And yes the problem is the person who accepts it. Friends family etc! That was deep ❤
God bless you Rebecca!! I found my tribe 💚
Miss Pope keep on blessing your subscribers with golden nuggets. You are awesome. I'm doing it with young men in my area.
I had to take my mental health and my life back after breaking my back on the job and going through a divorce at the same time. I was at rock bottom but I took the time to get me right in those areas in my life
I’ve been saying that for years it’s who u entertain wow 🤩 thank u for the confirmation 😻😻😻
That's why I started my channel to encourage other women. Idk what I'm doing.
Just keep going. Follow your heart. Say whatever you authentically think and feel. Dedicate your videos to helping people. I used to set my intentions before I went Live, this is what I would say, "God, if this reaches just one person who needs it I've done my job." Focus on helping and ignore the numbers. They will come.
Aww..bless your heart! Thank you for caring, Rebecca❣🥰
Sista Pope was dishing it out that day🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 It’s not who you attract, it’s what you accept 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 work on yourself first 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 I am continually astonished when I talk to single woman and hear about some of the trauma they’ve been through with men. And actually, men go through some of the same things it’s just not as physical. Sista Pope thank you for this healing word🦾🦾🦾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I been a fan of your videos because of your passion and the messages that you send. You are a beautiful soul and if nobody has ever told you, I will tell you. Thank you for everything you do. You have empathic abilities. I can see that. You’re making a difference in many people’s lives. I will do that one day too.
I can relate to so many topics on this segment.
As always, great advice
Thank you Auntie Rebecca! I was crying right along with you. I needed these words of wisdom more than you could ever know. Keep being a beacon of hope and light. Praying I get the chance to meet you to just give you a hug. But until then, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Much love. 💗
This is the talk I didn't know I needed ❤ you're appreciated, thank you!
Thank you Auntie and I am grateful for your wisdom. ❤❤
This video is literally everything!
Thank you Rebecca. God gave you a whole bunch of daughters. Because he gave you the wisdom to teach for thoughs ready to receive and learn. Job well done!
9 minutes in and yasssss! Hallelujah to these words of love!
Im 24 and pain broke me to the point I said enough. Yes I want to know if you in therapy and aware of your triggers and negative defenses. Because i hold a magnified glass on mine. Men will gaslight you to insanity until you say enough. We falling in love and trying to heal people who don't see they need healing
Rebecca you made me cry. Thanks for speaking life.
I’m also in the forties club 😊 and I WISH I had a mentor like you in my 20s and 30s. I just started self development in the last 5 years and it’s a constant journey. My father left early and my mother and I still have a dysfunctional relationship, I really felt like she hated me most of the time….she doesn’t speak to me to this day. That’s part of the reason I took the healing work masterclass. You and Kerry helped me realize I have to let go, forgive her, forgive me and let go. I had grandparents, aunts and uncles who loved me and encouraged me, spoke into my life, prayed for me…but there’s nothing like having a mother’s love. It’s taken me awhile to deal with that. Thank you Coach Rebecca. We need this, the world needs this 💕💕🙏🏾🙏🏾🦋✨🦋✨
Thank you so much for this Auntie...I needed this ❤💗💖
Wow!! That is hitting me hard because I never had this.
Rebecca! Thank YOU for this message. It hit home and I’m not even ‘a young lady’ lol. Sooo many women, teens and young girls need what you have. Love the point you made about us checking if the men that we might date also believes in therapy & working on themselves. Sooo extremely important!🌟🌟
Don’t cry don’t cry ok I’m crying, I really needed this 😭😭😭
THANK YOU THANK YOU REBECCA!!! FACTS FACTS AND WISDOM!!!
Ms. ma’am! My spirit is rumbling because these are things I say aloud in private that I want to talk about in public. You were so honest and eloquent. Loved this and THANK YOU for sharing this. 🙏🏾🙌🏾♥️
Got it out the mud!! Keep telling us because for some YOU are the Auntie/Coach/blessing 🙏🏽💕🙌🏾
Thank you for the Love!
Rebecca this was a mini master class prerequisite to If I were Single...ABSOLUTELY NEEDED!! I'm 50 years old & single and started my healing journey 5 years ago. You spoke real truth about everything it takes to be on the right path to healing and self-love...it takes work! Thank you so much beautiful sister and I'm going to add your master class and more reading to my journey.🙌🏾💟
All Facts!!! You and Mr Pope be getting me all the way together. You two are such a powerhouse! Thank you for sharing your gift with us, you both are saving lives. 💙
I'm a New follower....This One Here Really Spoke to Me....I am barren, and always wanted to be the Mother of Daughter....I would pour into her this wisdom, just as you have blessed 🙌 us....Thank You.....Got Me Crying with Ya 😢...
About to listen to today's talk, but first things first... LOVING THE CURLY HAIR & BEACH BABE LEWK.
This is such a good message. I’m a young man in therapy for relationship issues. I had to realize that I was holding myself to a false standard because of my past experiences. I don’t have to be an ultimate alpha male to have value, I was just sharing myself with the wrong women. I no longer care when a women wants me to coddle them and treat them like a princess and they bring nothing but looks to the table. Loads of amazing genuine women adore me who for who I am.
Thank you so much for this! This is a good word! ❤
I am not settling for less, I never have but I struggle I feel everything and I make the tough decisions every time. So I definitely need that therapy so I could walk away without a scratch and stay consistent on my growth journey. I’ll do better because of this video.
WOW! I'm balling in tears. Rebecca, you are truly a blessing to many. I just came across your page and oh my God is all I can say. You definitely have a new subscriber. This message was truly for me. Thank you so much! 🙏💜🙏
She’s so patient about her work :).
Glad you are back for a bit! Laura
I found this Video Rebecca & When tell you it hit my soul. God bless "YOU" Thankyou "Linda" We appreciate the Woman you poured into.🙏🏾❤️
Beautiful talk, my dear one. Rebecca, are you an empath? Such a big, kind, reaching out heart. Blessings, kindred spirit.
A lot of good points...
Thank you so much for everything you are doing Ms. Pope. I want to be that person that brings light to other people's lives and not be a vampire. I want to also recognize the vampires and understand how to deal with them better with appropriate boundaries.
This video🤍 life has torn me down in so many ways this pandemic but i am so thankful for this reminder. Today will mark a change. Love from the UK💕💕
Blessings and Abundance love!
This video made me cry. Signing up for counseling/coaching TODAY! I am 54. I have had counseling over the years, but I have also been single and abstinent for 10 years. Yes, I have gone out on a few dates during that time, but no one appealed to me enough to want to let down my guard.
Recently, I have met someone and have been dating them consistently for the past four months. I want to give a relationship a try. My daughter is now 20, dating, etc., and I now realize that my broke little best-friend has left me to myself… This is bringing up my abandonment and rejection issues. I feel myself breaking down a little more each day.
Time to get to work Mom. You deserve a great life too. 💙
I have been single and abstinent for 10 years and I'm 35. So, I know the struggle. I thought I was ready to date but I'm not ready. Everytime I try to get on an online dating site, I get crushed and insecure and I delete my account.
@@zinagrace2113 Get off of the dating apps. It is really a meat market for men. I’ve tried them over the years, but then I realized that it forces me to initiate by “Liking” their profile or picture, in hopes that they will respond back with conversation. They usually don’t And at other times I have even develop a false connection with a picture and/or a voice. You will meet him so organically that you won’t even see it coming.
@@moniquebelle429 I've already been off of them and don't plan on getting back on it. Yes I agree that online dating is catered to the needs and whims of men. And to be honest, I find those dating apps put women in danger. I'm at the stage at my life where I need to meet a man in person first in order to read his energy, etc.
@@zinagrace2113 Exactly!
Today is my birthday. This word was one of the best gifts I've received today. Thank you lady Rebecca! ❤
Happy birthday beautiful!!! You're welcome 💙
❤️ Amen, preach Sistah, you are on point with your message as always, Peace and Blessings to you!!
HALLELUJAH ‼️
❤️By God’s Grace end Mercy✨💕
Man this hit different!!!
Much love from Paris💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏Thank you so much for this Mrs Pope. I needed this.
Today I had a session with my therapist and she told me just what you've said in your video.
I went through hell and I'm still alive and I'm doing the work. I'm alone with 2 kids in a foreign country with no friends no family no nothing. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to heal to grow and make it happen.
I'm no longer a target for predators.
I'm focused on me 💯 at 34. For the first time in my life. I want to lead by exemple and become the living embodiment of resilience for my beautiful daugther and my awesome son. (They will probably have a high IQ like me. I was potential wasted)
I listened to your videos everyday when i need a wake up call.
PS : I'm french sorry if i made mistakes and bad grammar.
Rebecca this is your calling and God's purpose for your life. I thank you for following your purpose and share your God's giving gift. I love you
wow this was powerful. I absolutly love woman and videos who aren't afraid to be RAW and speak the ugly TRUTHS in life about this. A lot of people literally hate subjects like this but they do need to be discussed so many women and men need healing in so many areas, especially woman of color we raised and not treated like princesses or taught to get help. Its okay to get and receive help. We don't have to be a super hero for everyone, especially our familys who have abused us.
Thank you for operating in your purpose and for this video. This just confirmed what my purpose is, and I'm forever grateful 💜
You're welcome love 💙