Brendan Murphy, "What Do I Blame My Depression On?" (Counterparts Interview)

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  • Brendan Murphy from Counterparts discusses his frustration with feeling depressed without having something to "blame it on." He talks about what has and hasn't worked when dealing with his struggles.
    If you struggle with depression, you're not alone.
    Jacoby Shaddix from Papa Roach went through depression as well:
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    So did Jesse Leach from Killswitch Engage:
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    They all mention it's important to talk about the pain you're going through. Comment below your story, or share on our anonymous Support Wall and receive encouragement on the same day you post: forum.heartsupport.com
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  • @guyonagravitronmachinestan7595
    @guyonagravitronmachinestan7595 6 ปีที่แล้ว +239

    Brendan Murphy: one of the most humble, hilarious, honest vocalists in the entire hardcore scene.

  • @Jman8345
    @Jman8345 6 ปีที่แล้ว +190

    Sat behind him in highschool, great dude

    • @alexbaribeault
      @alexbaribeault 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Clams McGee Oddly specific question

    • @socalstoners7107
      @socalstoners7107 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Questions sometimes need answering.

  • @thatguyreiji1045
    @thatguyreiji1045 6 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    Guess this is why I've always been able to relate to counterparts music.Cause it's like the lyrics always spoke to me in a way.

  • @ricardorangel7301
    @ricardorangel7301 6 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    Counterparts is my go to band when I feel like shit. They are one of the bands that has helped me get through some tough times. I will forever be grateful.

    • @guyonagravitronmachinestan7595
      @guyonagravitronmachinestan7595 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Richy Rangel Counterparts has been my favorite band since I discovered them when they dropped The Current Will Carry Us. And ever since they've been the only band that has consistently been able to release albums that just completely destroy and rebuild you at the same time, mentally and metaphorically as well. They've kept me feeling like I'm not alone anymore for 6 years now, and I could never be more grateful for them.

    • @flammingdragon
      @flammingdragon 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love them but i have to give time between listens or it really fucks me up lol, should be seeing them in detroit on wednesday.

  • @Miikeeeyyyy
    @Miikeeeyyyy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    I love you Brendan Murphy.

  • @Soil_Bound
    @Soil_Bound 6 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Anxiety is the reason I found and love Counterparts. The lyrics continue to speak and find hope. Everyone gives me shit for this band, when in reality, it brings me positivity-When everyone else immediately sees this music as negative. It could not be anymore the complete opposite.

  • @tonesofdef2144
    @tonesofdef2144 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    dude's lyrics took the words out of my mouth when I couldn’t speak at all. It made so much sense to me in a time when nothing really made any sense.

  • @strngr4752
    @strngr4752 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I love Counterparts because of how honest their lyrics are. They are my method of catharsis, love 'em.

  • @Scriibble4
    @Scriibble4 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This man/band saved my life

    • @benjaminbass2607
      @benjaminbass2607 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You saved your own life. Don’t sell yourself short.

  • @kasimeritak119
    @kasimeritak119 6 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Great! Bands like this should get more recognized. He speaks truth!

  • @braydenpresley1437
    @braydenpresley1437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I needed their new record. Thank you Brendan and all the Counterparts boys.

    • @lordfizzz
      @lordfizzz ปีที่แล้ว

      Ayyyyy bump

  • @ceryseira
    @ceryseira 6 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    The ol' quarter-life crisis, I feel you.

  • @SamJanuary17
    @SamJanuary17 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Counterparts have helped me so much throughout many a hard time, Ive recently started writing shit down and it really helps, music/art is a saviour

  • @mattehrke1725
    @mattehrke1725 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This was really cool man, you guys make great music and the lyrics have helped helped me

  • @haydnbrine
    @haydnbrine 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This has explained alot for me, i couldn't figure it out as im currently going through what he's explaining. But im really appreciative of this video.

  • @ChristIsRisen33
    @ChristIsRisen33 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You're awesome man. Inspirational.

  • @whtvrfrvr
    @whtvrfrvr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    he's a true inspiration! i love Counterparts

  • @jeremiahcummins8896
    @jeremiahcummins8896 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thats why i listen because no one else gets it.

  • @AOpsyche
    @AOpsyche 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    what a fantastic channel, thank you!

  • @kekkedawg
    @kekkedawg 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    tragedy is probably my favourite record this year as well, thank you for that. Ill see you bois in Tilburg!

  • @dynatwenty
    @dynatwenty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You have the power Brendan!

  • @kfreedom470
    @kfreedom470 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This dude pretty much explained how I'm feeling right now, idk what it is but I just listen to tracks like this

  • @SmallVictories9
    @SmallVictories9 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel this so hard.

  • @alienrace6665
    @alienrace6665 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have been also dealing with social anxiety...bands like Counterparts, Underoath, Senses Fail etc... inspired me to learn how to play guitar and write music and ironically I am a vocalist in a HC band now :D it really helps me to cope...

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's awesome that you turned your pain into inspiration and purpose, man. Super rad. If you ever want to talk more about anxiety, depression, or anything else, I invite you to post on our forum at forum.heartsupport.com because others who love the same music and deal with the same things will listen to you and encourage you in your journey. Hope the writing continues to go well!!

  • @HaleFilms
    @HaleFilms 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Really honest reaction to the anti-depressants. I'm getting off them right now and I've always been pretty thin but I gained a shit ton of weight on them and they make my head feel cloudy and really stifle my creativity. Just creates more problems than it alleviates.

    • @jayceorourke5672
      @jayceorourke5672 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Anti-depressants have completely changed my life for the better. I wouldn't eat properly at all and I hated being skinny. I hate to be so honest when I say this but, if I didn't go on them I'm sure I would be dead by now. Counseling sessions didn't help me at all.

    • @abodydividedtn
      @abodydividedtn 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Different strokes for different folks. I'm all for anti depressants if they are doing good for you. My issue is that it is promoted as THE cure for depression, and that is just not always the case. We don't have a very honest healthcare system.

  • @mitchellduke9447
    @mitchellduke9447 ปีที่แล้ว

    2023 and i needed that

  • @haileyhylian8746
    @haileyhylian8746 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Slightly fangirling cause i have the same my chemical romance sweatshirt as him

  • @nicolethomson7722
    @nicolethomson7722 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love u counterparts

  • @jlansdale536
    @jlansdale536 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Relatable.

  • @gr3y5had0w
    @gr3y5had0w 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have the same shirt, MCR omg

  • @rhcp357
    @rhcp357 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    fuck this hits home

  • @break_it_bill
    @break_it_bill 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome talk aside...I have that MCR shirt. #coolstorybro

  • @SamsGFX
    @SamsGFX 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Brendan Murphy is the reason I haven't killed myself

    • @Lord_Swoledemort
      @Lord_Swoledemort ปีที่แล้ว

      how are you doing these days bro?

    • @brownpunk1794
      @brownpunk1794 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He died😢​@@Lord_Swoledemort

  • @Syktris
    @Syktris 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i also have really bad anxiety and depression and mental problems, but i feel like it can be traced back to childhood and family, is it wrong for me to blame it on that?

    • @HeartSupport
      @HeartSupport  6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      No, it's not wrong at all! Sometimes our depression and other issues stem from multiple things and can't be traced back to one thing. But no matter where it comes from, it is helpful to be able to talk to someone about what is going on. You should check out our support wall on our website if you haven't already! Know that we love you and are here for you!

  • @avnc10
    @avnc10 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What is the background song?

  • @joshuamoore1091
    @joshuamoore1091 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Counterparts is amazing. However, Jesus and a healthy church seriously changed my life. I spent hours crying to my favorite counterparts songs. It was therapeutic in a way. But then I turned to Jesus and it was like I didn't have to carry all those burdens anymore. I still revisit counterparts every now and then (obviously). Because I still get upset with things in my life. "I refuse to let this selfish take control of who I am!"

    • @rlfs2853
      @rlfs2853 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Joshua Moore how were you convinced god is even real.

    • @joshuamoore1091
      @joshuamoore1091 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rlfs2853 I observed the outcomes of those who attended church and those who did not. I concluded that there were many many good things to come from church and even in the bible itself. Yes, God can be perceived as a megalomaniacal creationist who seeks complete domination of everything in existence... Haha which is what I once thought. I once thought that there was no God and I simply didn't matter at all. But then I realized Jesus Christ had all the answers to life's hardest questions. He answered alot of my concerns. Especially with anxiety and depression. Jesus said to come to him if you are weary, and He will give you rest. And Jeremiah wrote that God had plans for me. And to see me prosper. So stopped distrusting the old bearded magician in the sky and I put on the lense of a Christian Worldview. It has been incredibly difficult especially when other Christians can be so awful but I know that God is not. He sent His son Jesus to die on the Cross for my Sins. And I believe it because it's a good thing. And I have freedom and purpose because of it. That's how I know. But I don't expect anyone to be converted over the internet. I just know that if you are suffering from hate, anger, doubt, bitterness, discontent... I know that Jesus is the answer. And although His church is a broken thing, please remember that He will perfect you in the Glorious Image of Himself. Behold, He is making a new thing!
      Huzzah!
      Thanks for asking bro.

    • @rlfs2853
      @rlfs2853 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Joshua Moore but how did you
      Go about actually believing it was real? I’ve been torn for awhile now. On one hand I believe in absolute morality. Which I don’t think you have without a god. On the other hand , the gospels have tons of holes in them.

    • @joshuamoore1091
      @joshuamoore1091 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Brett, that's a great question. And I could tell you that God seriously humbled me in my life. I was a sex addict with multiple girlfriends and I used to abuse them. I abused every girlfriend I ever had at least in one way or another. And I'm just telling you the truth. I was a Casanova masogynist. Deep down I hated women because of what my mother did to me. I hated my mom for never getting her life together. She dated terrible men who proved to me that abusing women was a manly thing to do. So I just couldn't get away from it all. I hurt my last girlfriend very badly and it landed me in jail. Once again, I'm just speaking out of experience. I don't expect any sympathy or anything like that. But since I believed in evolution, my life had no meaning; I was just a composition of cells that just happened to exist. And since we just exist and then we die, I decided to follow my every instinct and that was to naturally treat people like sh*t. I'm not saying that you wake up every morning and decide to be evil. But what I am saying is that without the biblical scope of truth, naturally, all of society falls apart. Clearly fear is a good example of what is happening right now in 2020.... But that's for another conversation. So I've prayed so much for you in the last 48 hours Brett and God is telling me that you should believe Him... He's also telling me that I have no power to make you become a Christian. The most highlighted part of Scripture that keeps arising during my prayer for you is 1 Corinthians 3:7. And it says one man plants, another man waters, but the Lord brings the increase. So I converted to Christianity back in January of 2017 during my time in jail in Greeley Colorado. It was one of the most liberating experiences I ever had. I can't say it enough. And God has blessed me with more blessings than I could ever handle. If it's absolute morality you believe in, I solute you because I believe that absolute morality comes from an absolute God. And if there are discrepancies or contradictions in the Bible, I would suggest that you pray to Jesus, the Father & the Holy Spirit to guide you and give you wisdom. And don't stop asking questions. You will know the Truth and the Truth will set you free. Keep studying with an open heart. Allow the Scriptures to change you. It can be done! It's much better to have a spiritual problem than it is to have a carnal one. Because the spirit has been paid for by the Blood of Jesus and we know that Satan is cast away into the eternal lake of fire. We know the Victor and His Name is Jesus! The carnal person is always struggling in the physical sense. He lacks reason and for his disobedience, he is led astray. But Jesus is Good and He promises to protect you and keep you.
      The man who truly gives his life to Jesus will never hunger or lack any good thing
      "For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them." -Ephesians 2:10

    • @oofydoom
      @oofydoom ปีที่แล้ว

      Praise God! I have a similar thing..but things are a little more bleak for me admittedly..depression still eats me up myself...and a lot of the emotionally entrenching-hardcore/metal music like Counterparts still definitely hits home for me...but I guess that just makes me human too at the end of the day.
      But yeah, I'm glad to have Christ in my life now too..even though admittedly he feels pretty far in the dark place I've found myself for some time now..But that's on me I guess..a lot more I could get into there..but yeah, I rather not go there honestly.
      For I would like to go on a brighter note and still say that He has been a hope to me for sure-through it all He has, and I need to remind myself that He's still granting me the strength and opportunity to breathe and survive another day and that's something..even though I tend to take that for granted far too often..Lord have mercy.
      Anyway, sorry I made this a lot longer than it intially was. I tend to do that..But back to your end:
      That's beautiful man! And I appreciate you for being vulnerable too in the thread. It was helpful for me even though it was directed to someone else.

  • @At_water_band
    @At_water_band 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    We want to tour with them

  • @justsomeguys1121
    @justsomeguys1121 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Why is all the stress and relationship problems happening to me this soon. I'm literally 14.

    • @2000Doriyas
      @2000Doriyas 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You’re getting hit with those adolescent hormones, technically the most turbulent mental period of your life

    • @ChasingxRaindrops
      @ChasingxRaindrops 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      x _ x through good music taste, I suppose xD

    • @cherished.__
      @cherished.__ 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @x _ x LMFAO

    • @mckinnonwolf7877
      @mckinnonwolf7877 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      x _ x it’s not that hard these days

  • @LOLM8USWE
    @LOLM8USWE 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hell of a band, how old is Brendan btw?

  • @Yesdomutante
    @Yesdomutante 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    👏😎

  • @smokehill7912
    @smokehill7912 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    brendan looks twice his age here.

  • @SamDisaughster1
    @SamDisaughster1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    it's really worrying that there's a lot of kids out there suffering from "depression" and "anxiety" for just growing up...

    • @Sleepwalkourlives
      @Sleepwalkourlives 6 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Shut the fuck up

    • @JeremiahFernandez
      @JeremiahFernandez 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      shut up you're ju...holy shit you're kinda right

    • @2000Doriyas
      @2000Doriyas 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      A lot of people don’t learn how to express it or learn to cope with their emotions and experiences or don’t find their outlets, people just need to be reached out to and find help.

    • @miguelesparza6001
      @miguelesparza6001 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JeremiahFernandez Right??

    • @oofydoom
      @oofydoom ปีที่แล้ว

      It's likely because they're growing up in a ever-growing darker & more sicker world, who have-for the most part, lost the foundations of truth and any semblence of certainty and considerations of God and Christ' teachings.
      And some of the most popular things we may use today, could be perpetuating unconscious psychological damage to varying degrees aswell (e.g. mostly over-indulgence in internet/social media/p0rn/other media use). And so inevitably, its becoming a norm. And maybe, it's sometimes human to become so now aswell.
      But I'm not saying it's good to be mentally ill in any respect-and I'm not saying it's always the worlds fault for such illnesses that take place, but something to consider if we're seeing such a widespread epidemic of people who have no particular reason as to why they became mentally ill in the first place.
      From what I can tell at least, there's just something deeply wrong with the world at hand, and everything that I've seen just seems to be a strange irony or paradox man...and there's so much we don't know..but trusting in Christ has helped me to find some hope amidst all the chaos and doubt..and may He help you too.
      God bless!

  • @Barcasaur
    @Barcasaur 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jews

  • @DemonEmbarasser
    @DemonEmbarasser หลายเดือนก่อน

    He has depression bc he shits on other local Ontario bands like ATSF over $500