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The Truth About Large Age Gaps in Relationships
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I'm a woman, and I can 100% confirm what he's saying. From my experience, majority of the young women I've known wanted men their age, and they found much older men gross and intimidating, despite their money and status. But there was a handful of young women that exclusively went for much older men. These women were already highly sexual in high school, and they usually had no male or female friends because boys found them intimidating and us girls could not relate to them (like, it was shocking to hear what they were doing with their "older boyfriends"). These women grew up to be very promiscuous, but only with men that were able to meet their interests (get them into exclusive clubs, buy them nice things, take them to nice places, etc.). When I was younger, I couldn't understand how blind men were to the emptiness of those transactions. When I got older, I realized that the men were just as empty as the women. For the betterment of the world, the rest of us sane folk should step back and leave the empty shells to date and destroy each other.
Very well said. I’ll pin your comment, so that more people can read the wisdom you have written. God bless you.
@@RelearningRelationships Thank you. I appreciate it. God Bless you too.
@@RelearningRelationshipsthose guys missed out because they didn’t had the looks women want . Now they’re older and more financially secure , they can level up with money and resources
Levelling up financially will not make a woman who doesn’t find you attractive, suddenly “want the guy”. Unless she’s a gold digger who will settle for him.
@@RelearningRelationships yes !!!! Your absolutely right . If she doesn’t find you attractive, no amount of money will make her attracted to you. You should make a video about men leading with their wallet and how it is a very stupid thing to do.
I'm a single man in my 40's. Recently I've noticed a pretty girl younger than me who plays music in the worship team giving me attention. She must be in her early 30's. For my age I look 10 years younger as I take good care of myself and I'm in good shape. I was worried about the 10 or 11 years age gap but hey if we love each other and have a connection then why not? I'll make my move very soon regardless what people think as long as God gives us his blessing.
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There are exceptions where it works. Quite frankly, at your age if you’re in your 40’s and she’s younger in her 30’s it’s doable. Best of luck!!
thanks for debunking the lies of all these annoying redpillers and tbh I used to watch and believe them but not anymore and your videos really help debunk the bullcrap that they spew.
can you do a video about cold approaching girls? if its effective or not? like is it not weird to cold approach random girls to get to know them? because the redpillers encourage cold approaching too but I dont think its an effective way to meet women since women dont wanna go with a guy they dont know, right?
In this video I made, I do mention why cold approach isn’t optimal: th-cam.com/video/zvu1YS2ZGCM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=QwHUDzztIUbOoIRd
@@RelearningRelationships thank you that video really helped!
I am 40 and single. I want to have my own children-not be a stepdad. The only way I can do this is to marry a woman in her 30s.
In your case, at your age at 40 it’s perfectly normal if you go for a lady in her 30’s as your age gap is close and she can still bear children if she takes care of her health. Go for it!
Ideally you'd both be young. But if that's not the case an age gap might be the next best thing.
It's not easy to start new relationships when you're both 30+. You've become full-fledged adults, you're fully grown. The two of you are set in your ways. There is no growing together. You butt heads on issues small and large, and politics ofc. Perhaps this changes once again when you grow out of adulthood and into maturity, at around 60. But that's mostly irrelevant(because these are not very fertile years.)
But if one is younger, typically the woman, she can attach to you and grow with you and adapt to you. Studies show men prefer women who are about 20-25 years old, regardless of age. Makes sense, that's when they're the most fertile. Women prefer men their own age.
It’s not “typically the woman” it’s likewise just as important and better for the man to grow with a woman by his side when he is also in his youth.
@@RelearningRelationships That would be for the best.
But doesn't a woman want financial stability in her man (not talking about making millions but just being stable). And what about hypergamy cause you might've seen that a woman who's a doctor won't marry a receptionist)?Im confused.
Financial stability only matter once the physical attraction is already there.
Great video. Can you censer the spicy images for future purposes?
What images exactly? What?
@@RelearningRelationships The woman in the bikini. For real, I respect your content, but have respect for the young men trying to learn information while protecting their purity. Not that hard.
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I get your concern and will be more mindful. Overall, I don’t put any sexual thumbnails, neither do I showcase any lewd or sexual images on any of my content.
If the mere sight of a woman on the beach in a bikini zoomed out in a Twitter post that happens to be in the background of a video that I’m talking over is going to cause a guy to stumble in his lust, then that is something he must control. Leo dicaprio is also photographed in the post wearing swim shorts with no t shirt, should I also censor that? Because surely a young woman might lust over him? You only mentioned how seeing the woman could cause a young man to stumble in his purity, what about the women? Do they not struggle with lust too?
I can’t be responsible for someone else lusting over a couple photographed at the beach.
Furthermore, the fact that I had to ask you, “what picture?” Proves my point. I didn’t even see that in a sexual way. I played back the video and I get where you’re coming from, but, my point still stands.
I get where you’re coming from and I will do my best to censor anything that may be deemed inappropriate in the eyes of others.
@@RelearningRelationships Thank you. I notice, which is why I was confused on why you didn't censor the twitter picture of this video.
@@joehankers7176 1) I didn’t censor it because It didnt even register as something inappropriate because I’m not focused on looking at other women.
2) I’ll make sure to censor men wearing swim shorts as that can cause women to lust too? Or is that too far ?
There are some things I agree with in this video and there are some things I disagree with.
Awesome. What do you disagree with?
@@RelearningRelationships I disagree with the part that all age gaps are bad but I see your point you're trying to make, but I do agree with the part of the red pill community spreading inaccurate and negative minded information, and I would like to add this one thing it really doesn't cover how did we get here in the first place if it's a problem we need to figure out the route and then provide a solution. Thank you for your time and work you do.
This is just close-minded thinking. Ppl can have the lifestyle and dating experiences they want. Basically this guys telling you if you don’t marry your high school sweet heart your a degenerate lol. There’s more than one way to skin a cat! Also this guys relationship is prob a bore.. imagine going on a first date and it’s like a job interview, shoot me nah
What I said was that is is optimal/ ideal to utilise your youth (where you are most attractive) to find a spouse since you can go through life together as intended.
The older you are, the harder it is to find someone. That is a fact.
Thus, it should be prioritised in young people to take finding love seriously.
Nowhere did I say if you don’t find your high school sweetheart you are doomed. I’m simply stating is optimal with the right knowledge to date to marry as soon as possible.
Sorry dude, but you are totally off the mark on this one. Like WAY off. You are transposing the logic of SMV dynamics of women over to men, which are polar opposite.
Women's SMV is given to them at birth largely through physical beauty which will generally peak at 25-ish and spiral down from there, with their only duty being to maintain it and avoid doing damaging behavior to their purity and emotional stability along the way. On the contrary, unless you are born with absolute Greek god genetics, almost all men's SMV is residual at birth and slowly earned through life with the grind of failures, achievements and experience.
In other words, your SMV as a man cannot possibly peak, by definition, in your 20s. Likewise, if you have not raised your SMV in magnitudes versus your 20s by the time you hit the 35-55 age range, then you have some serious rethinking to do about your priorities, growth and self improvement as a man. The same goes for physical attributes. Maintaining workout and dieting discipline will keep a man sharp and attractive, likely very close to his 20s form, well past his 20s.
The reason why top-shelf women aim for older men is not necessarily because they are damaged or gold-diggers. Many look for relationship maturity, increased self awareness, emotional safety, sexual experience, better self-control in handling life hardships, a wider set of life skills, more interesting conversations due to increased knowledge etc... none of which relate to material qualities bound to be exchanged in a transactional relationships.
@@TheBlackGlovesOfficialyou must’ve have watched the entire video without any volume; because everything you have said comes from the lense of lustful, insecure, misguided red pilled men who think men peak in their 30-40’s looks/ fertility wise. It’s a total lie. But hey, keep being delusional if you wish. Thinking any moral/ beautiful woman in her 20’s wants a 40 yrs old man for genuine reasons and you’re way past the mark of insanity.
@@RelearningRelationships Experience, both mine on the daily as well as by observing acquaintances over decades, not dogma, an internet cult or a calcified ego, are leading me to this conclusion. You are using the most outlandishly extreme case of LDC to "prove" a behavioral average applicable to an entire social dynamic, then proceeding to insult whatever version of reality does not fit with the outlier. This is logically flawed on its face.
Self-growth as a man will hopefully lead you one day to be able to contain your emotions and avoid resorting to ad hominems when confronted with a list of articulated empirical facts. You obviously have a long way to go. Hopefully you will learn self-control before a woman punishes you for it.
You are part of the manosphere which is a delusional ideology for insecure & immoral men. Seek help when possible. You aren’t getting any younger, and thinking you can exchange “material things” for genuine desire, won’t end well for you. Perhaps next time watch the video on full volume. And also, stop projecting, it’s very cowardly.
@@TheBlackGlovesOfficial Sight* Time for me to destroy this logic as I always have to. Relearning Relationships is correct here. What you say does not reflect real life. You are saying there is no such thing as physical attraction for men? The attraction is based on the material possessions the man has? If you observe media online and in real life it should be obvious that that is simply false, the same way we know the sky is blue. None of the girls I know want older guys. No one in my college wants older guys. The sooner you pursue a relationship the better.
Never too late until it is. Jesus loves you.
Well said Joe, I sadly believe this black gloves official guy is very deep in the red pill. I pray he comes to Christ and turns his life around.