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- Exotelic tasks are stealing your time.
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Rían Doris is the Co-Founder & CEO of Flow Research Collective, the world’s leading peak performance research and training institute focused on decoding the neuroscience of flow states and helping leaders and their teams unlock flow states consistently. Clients include Accenture, Audi, Facebook, Bain & the US Airforce.
Along with being listed on Forbes 30 Under 30 Rian's thought leadership has been featured in Fast Company, PBS and Big Think and he hosts Flow Research Collective Radio, an iTunes top 10 science podcast.
Rían is also the Executive Chairman & Owner of Consulting.com. On the side, Rian does some angel investing in health and performance companies like Levels Health, Neurohacker Collective, The Way & Myodetox.
Rían holds a degree in Philosophy, Politics & Economics (PPE) from Trinity College Dublin, an MSc in Neuroscience at King's College, London and an MBA. Rian is currently pursuing a PhD at the University of Birmingham-focusing on how flow states affect perceived meaning in life.
Prior to co-founding Flow Research Collective with Steven Kotler, Rian worked with NYT Bestselling Author Keith Ferazzi, and 12X NYT Bestselling Author Dr. Dan Siegel, distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association.
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Rían here. The research shows exotelic tasks are stealing your time. With these science-backed protocols, you can waste-proof your life instantly.
A friend owned a plant maintenance company (watering and tending to plants in hotel lobbies, malls, etc). One of his clients was a famous tv ad/ billboard lawyer. He was mocking the client - "this guy pays me $200 to stop by his beach mansion and water plants for an hour". I told him, "No he pays you $200 for an hour so he can charge $1,000 an hour for the legal work he is doing instead of watering plants". Facts.
I love this, it’s something a lot of broke people won’t understand
@@oscard9429I don’t get it
Both are getting paid that’s crazy
nice story, wonder how much it costs to set up an auto watering system though =P
Amazing - how he even launched that company with that attitude?)
one of my favourite quotes is -
"Perfection is not achieved when there is nothing left to add, but when there's nothing more to remove"
This video really inforces that and i really like it
Very true.
Success is dependent on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Show me a man who doesn't have an investment, and i will tell you how soon he will go broke. Investment is building a safe heaven for the future.
"Eliminate instead of optimizing". I have seriously never thought of that. Thank you, sir!
Remember, don't be a dumb optimizer!
@AngelTFC
Fascinating...
Debugging the code instead of simply stacking fixes, almost.
@@riandorisDon’t be a dumb influencer. Delete this channel, get a real job and stop programming people’s minds with false mindset. You’re not a doctor all your info is just a useless dust that eventually will lead to nothing but disappointment.
I grew up knowing a now-famous artist. She had little money and 4 children. She made simple healthy meals, never shopped for anything except necessities, had no TV. She had strong friendships and often invited them for dinner. She painted every day because that was her purpose and she was a good mother, by stripping every unnecessary activity out of her life. She wasn’t deprived but happy doing what she loved.
Thank you for this... "stripping every unnecessary activity out of her life." This makes me realize I've been giving too much mental energy
,and adding to my anxiety, to things I simply can not make time for and if they were really important I would get done and out of the way.
This is high class content! Thank you!
It's time to cut:
-Social Media Scrolling
-Gaming a lot
-Buying unnecessary stuff
-Focus on good hobbies, cut unnecessary things
-Less Clothes means less laundry
-Less Display Stuff, less dusting
-Less Kitchen utensils if the functions only copy the other ones
-Less of bad habits that consume valuable time; ego, pride, anger, etc
-I think this is like more of Minimalist Living, we can adjust it base on our lifestyles.
More clothes* means less laundry
10:52 Creating wealth entails establishing positive routines, such as consistently setting aside funds at regular intervals for sound investments. Financial management is a vital subject that many avoid, often leading to future regrets
Keep in mind that some activities that take up time and seem like life maintenance load activities actually help balance and maintain mental health. We are not just robots. Some of us have PTSD and anxiety disorders. We are aware the load activities accumulate and keep us from making progress, but some activities help us survive with our mental health issues. Cooking can be theraputic. The pandemic has isolated us into lonely people living in big cities, so the logistics of going grocery shopping can be an outlet for depression. Just something to consider in the context of this advice.
You make an excellent point. The advice in the transcript oversimplifies things and doesn't account for the nuances and realities of human mental health and wellbeing.
You're absolutely right that some activities that may seem like pure "life maintenance load" can actually serve an important purpose in supporting one's mental health and emotional balance. Things like cooking, running errands, and engaging in household tasks can provide structure, routine, and a sense of purpose - especially for those dealing with mental health challenges like PTSD, anxiety, or depression.
The pandemic has also dramatically changed the context, making activities like grocery shopping potentially an important social outlet for those dealing with isolation and loneliness.
Your feedback is an important reminder that optimizing for pure productivity and flow state isn't the be-all and end-all. Maintaining mental health and having outlets for coping with difficult emotions and circumstances has to be factored in as well.
The advice to ruthlessly eliminate life maintenance activities should be tempered with compassion and an understanding that some of these tasks, while burdensome, may serve vital functions in supporting one's overall wellbeing. A more nuanced, balanced approach is needed that doesn't sacrifice mental health in the pursuit of productivity. Thank you for providing this important perspective.
I agree, but he does make the point that some things that are exotelic for some people may be autotelic, I find gardening therapeutic for example and it is a good opportunity to ruminate on my weekly challenges or what my priorities for the week are
13:44
He literally makes this point in the video
"The pandemic has isolated us into lonely people living in big cities" Well, it's done that for the people who choose to live in big cities. It hasn't done that for anyone else. The pandemic has also been over for 2+ years now.
Me and my dad have recently found this channel. This is a GOLD MINE.
Cleaning, cooking, driving kids, driving for work, doing taxes and work for the government is 80% of living time.
It's disgusting that we need to resort to this sort of thing. Life shouldn't be as busy as it is.
what’s your idea of how life should be then? some perspective, average quality of life is highest than it’s ever been in human history especially for the demographic that is on TH-cam watching this. if you’re feeling disgust a lot, I’d suggest looking into conscious meditation/gratitude.
@@huntma3787 If you actually think "average quality of life" is highest it's ever been you're either a bot or you aren't paying any attention.
NEEDED THIS FUCKIN VIDEO. I'M 26 AND FEEL LIKE A FUCKIN LOSER. IM GETTING MY FUCKING TIME BACK. WASTED TOO MUCH TIME ON VIDEOGAMES AND I WANT MY FUCKIN LIFE BACK.
Reclaim your years brother. Rooting for you.
If you have no education, go into trade. Takes a few years to learn, but the income for skilled tradesman is right up there with the engineers. The guy that puts my beer towers on bars, charges 100$ per hour.
In slowing momentum of the direction you don't want, its already progress and in releasing resistance to the present moment you've already got your life back on track. now ask yourself deeply what you want and keep it simply, something that makes you happy, something you enjoy such as interactive challenges, and something to offer others by way of appreciation. give yourself some empathy
31 years old here, worked my ass off for others and never got something in return.. done with it o
Now, omw back to get a bachelor's degree from college, while working on the side.. 26 is very young, keep ur head up!
Me
WE GETTING OUR LIVES BACK WITH THIS ONE 🔥🔥🔥‼‼
Yes we are.
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Yes!
I’ve come to a point where I can experience the autotelic in everything. I had to wash candle soot off my walls the other day. One might think of this as low-grade life maintenance work, which takes me away from my theoretically more important work on my business. But I don’t see it that way. I put on some music and made a day of it. I got enormous satisfaction from completing the wall washing job. And now I can focus better at my desk. Everything can be symbiotically autotelic if we make it so. Life maintenance is a part of your telos if you see it that way, not an inconvenience.
That said, there may be useless activities that do not contribute to symbiotic autotelic experience. These would, as Rian points out, benefit from being eliminated from life.
There's also a lot to be said for doing the hard stuff as well though - just cherry picking the stuff you want to do seems to me like it will make a person a bit soft and entitled
@@GizaByrd I see both arguments. I think some people might eliminate the exotelic activities they don't love and then just scroll TikTok instead of doing something worthwhile to improve their lives. I think he is speaking from a place of using that time you save to do more productive things (e.g. buying food so you can spend more time working on your business, thereby making more money than you spent on the food). And there is something to be said from getting more time to yourself to relax and recharge. But if you use that time on mindless tasks that don't provide fulfillment, then I think you'll be worse off than if you did the exotelic tasks yourself.
On the other end of the spectrum, I know somebody who hates spending money so much that he will spend inordinate amounts of time on things that could easily and quickly be done by a professional for a small fee. This person is a high-income earner too, so I try to tell them that their time is worth so much more than the money they are saving by DIYing everything. I'm going to send them this video.
I feel like I am somebody who manages to find flow in a lot of things that other people find mundane, so I'm also at risk of spending way too much time on things that aren't helping me accomplish my goals. So even though it saves me money to do all the life-maintenance things myself, it might not be beneficial in the long run and might even cost more. I don't think there's any right or wrong answers but good things to think about
I love this comment. It reflects some of the ideas found in the power of now
I can't believe I'm getting this information for free. Thank you so much, Rian. Keep up the good work!
I really appreciate you watching. Use the information well. ✌️
Rian is one of the few people I have to watch on normal speed. So much concentrated wisdom. Thank you!
Having ADHD I have time blindness. I am recently waking up at 52, but it is like waking up from a coma. The last I recall I was early thirties.
woah, i've never heard something like this... so the last time you remember you were in your early thirties and when you regained sense of time, you're... 52?
It sounds like some really severe dissociation
Theres an ed edd eddy episode where eddy wakes up as an old man after having hundreds and hundreds of stuff fall on as a kid. He cant recall anything past the age of 12. That sounds extreme terrifying.
I was a drunk from14-37 and when I finally quit I was in a similar situation. I was a functional drunk for the most part but I was also intoxicated so I wouldn’t always remember what I did the day before or if I even did my responsibilities. Thankfully I was on autopilot. When everything hit the fan is when I woke up. I also have adhd but never took medication for it for the most part. I started it back up again but sometimes I prefer to go back to my wild self minus the drugs.
@@EMan-cu5zo peace be with you my friend
I love the idea of seeing establishing low life maintenance as an investment. I have been a minimalist for around 9 years, and an extreme minimalist for around 2 or 3.
Sometimes people wonder why I would bother to have spent so much time and even money meticulously minimising my life maintenance needs over a decade.
For example, I spent 4 grand digitising my papers and books.
Might sound like a lot, but I am reaping countless dividends from this… I never have to dust a book or a shelf again, or purchase book shelves or filing cabinets again… I never have to lug files or books in boxes when I move, or hire a moving company to do this for me. I don’t need to pay for check in baggage when travelling with heavy books and files. I have everything at my fingertips whenever I need it, anywhere in the world.
Most profoundly I have a greater sense of mental peace and spaciousness.
This is just one of so many examples in my life.
Investing in systems which precipitate low life maintenance is definitely a thing!
Getting up 4 or 5 AM fasted with a coffee a few hours towards my goals, then exercise is my favorite way to start the day productively ☕ Lunch at noon breaking the fast as a reward with a high protein meal 😊🔥
I know this is a productivity channel, but am I the only one whose biggest life maintenance load activity is work? 😅 Work is simply a means to an end, which unfortunately one cannot eliminate.
I think the true productivity hack is to be rich. This way work won't be in the way of your goals, and you can pay people to do chores for you. 100% efficiency, baby!
But seriously, we don't do these things because we're disorganized hacks, we do this because it needs to be done. Cook and clean? Sure, I'd love to make someone else do this for me. Live close to work? I'd love to, but that would mean exchanging more than half of my income just on rent. Work from home? I would fucking love that, but the industry trend is getting everyone back into the office to appease the egos of incompetent managers.
Talking the talk is easy, but walking the walk is another thing entirely. It all comes down to money, and for many people it's way harder than just fill a spreadsheet.
Your work needs to be autotelic - that’s the key to freedom - if money is the driver you’ll stop when you get the money, burn out etc. you’ll have to sustain doing what you don’t want to do. Find an autotelic way to make money.
You can also apply what he’s saying to whatever you do for work now.
Within the work.
Things you love doing in your work, things you don’t but need to be done, things you can eliminate.
Eliminate / delegate / automate all you can.
If you truly can’t for some - see how they give you more than they cost, learn to want to do them by seeing the value - the pain of not doing them needs to feel worse than doing them, look for ways to make them pleasurable- listen to music /podcast while doing it - pair something fun with it - let go of perfectionism judgments make it an experiment, gamify it. Just some examples.
If all else fails might be a sign it’s time to pursue work that’s more aligned with who you truly are.
No, for me too. I don’t mind doing laundy and enjoy grocery shopping, but work… At first I thought it was a problem with my job. Then I turned my hobby into my job and I stopped enjoying it. I just hate the expectations that come with work. I have a different job now and I sort of enjoy it, but being unemployed for three months was the best time of my life.
I believe in the discipline of the mundane. I get up at 4 am, my morning ritual making my bed, green and red juice, supplements and green tea before my lymphatic body brush, layout of cloths, shower and shave. Walk to gym, walk to work, walk back home. Read, write, make dinner, dishes, clean prepare for bedtime, chamomile tea, brush teeth, sleep. Next day rinse and repeat. I’m 63 and I’ve been doing this for over a decade after tuning this routine for over 40 years. One size does not fit all. Lots of trial and error, lots of the mundane, lots of introspection, self actualization, and forward trajectory. Simplicity and minimalist agenda is much harder than it would seem.
Gotta add: If you think while doing mundane stuff, that time is not wasted.
@@spambot_gpt7 it's actually time gained. Humans need time doing monotonous, mindless tasks where they have freedom to be bored, to process emotions, to dream, to let the mind do whatever the mind wants to do. If you keep yourself occupied 24 hours a day, your mind doesn't have time to do that and this drastically limits your quality of life. You can't dream on cue, it happens organically when your mind is unoccupied, and it happens more freely when your body is active but your mind is inactive. This is one of the big dangers with smart phones. Not only do they waste a lot of time, they also have the potential to fill every dull moment. It's part of why there is such a major mental health problem in the West now. You can't process those emotions when your mind is distracted, and the world has endless distractions now. In the short term, this means you don't have to think about the unpleasant things that happen to us, but in the long term, it means the unpleasant things are never resolved and continually accumulate.
I think this video has a ton of value. It's very easy to get caught up with all the maintenance required to keep our lives in order. But I don't think it's ideal to eliminate all of that maintenance work. If you can keep the maintenance work to a single block of time -- eg the first (or last) hour of the day -- then it doesn't interrupt your ability to get into a flow state, but it still gives you mental downtime to deal with your emotions (assuming you don't distract yourself with audiobooks or podcasts or whatever). Yes, you could go for a walk and do the same, but if your house needs to be cleaned anyway, you can save yourself some money by doing it yourself.
I have too many things that I waste time on, and the comment about buying new things that turn out to just create more life maintenance load was spot on -- I've noticed that the past few months and it's now a thought I have before every purchase -- but having some amount of life maintenance load, regardless of what it is, is intrinsically valuable.
Not everyone is capable of having a routine
@@Ash-bc8vw hahaha
I like to watch Rian videos 3 times to really absorb his ideas, this is 2024 wisdom!
Same here!
One of the most personally important videos I have ever watched. Period. Thank you,Rian.
This guy should release videos once in a month... The massive amount of wisdom he imparts in a single video took my mind a whole month to understand and replicate.🔥🔥🔥
This why for centuries these tasks have fallen on women, wives, mothers and the men have had the freedom to flourish and the women have struggled to keep their heads above water. Glad to see things changing.
Another possibility I want to add for commuting is to walk or cycle to work.
Instead of driving to work then hitting the gym on different times, why not just combine the needs?
Yes, walking and cycling don't really build out muscle --- but for most people, who aren't looking to be body builders and are just looking to be more fit and healthy, it's the perfect way to combine the need to commute and the need to exercise. Not only does it save time, but it saves money.
There's something really dystopian about driving everywhere then setting out time to walk on a treadmill, instead of just walking on the natural ground.
You're optimizing, mister. Cycling is ecological and healthy (unless you get hit by a car). But I suggest remote work until you get financially independant. =) Unless you insist on having a job, of course... =)
@@assezzen194 Remote work is great if that's the sort of work you're into, but many people like jobs where you have to move around instead of just sitting at a computer all day.
This video hit me at the best time. Feeling very burnt out wasting time on life maintenance. Thanks for posting this content, it makes an impact.
Sounds really nice, but time alone is not enough. Doesn't matter if you have the whole day to do what you want. You won't have unlimited energy to do things the whole day. Chilling a bit and doing some boring stuff is also good for the brain, one can't be at 100% the whole time.
I get into flow whenever I watch your videos. You know how to make your viewers get into flow while watching your video. 👍
Glad I can provide you with flow ✌️
Found this channel a few weeks and since then, every video I've seen is simply gold, packed with productive guidelines for life. Thank you Rian, hope you'll continue releasing these vidoes
As a college kid, PANINI PRESS, 15 minutes, a warm meal made, consumed and cleaned up. 15 minutes. Doesn't include the time at the grocer or potentially bulk cooked ingredients like meat or chopped veggie toppings but I do those a head of time and save time by doing that in bulk then per meal. It's like having a Subway in your kitchen at all times.
I’m a broke college student about to graduate soon or within this year, hopefully I can put all the information you’re giving us to good use, and I really appreciate any moments where you talk about that part of your life!
Ryan dorris really out here saving us. 🛐🛐🛐
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This guy deserves more than 10 million subscribers.
This information is solid GOLD! I noticed this Life Maintanance Load when i was studying for an exam. But every 2 hours i had to stop to run errand, either being preparing meals or washing clothes. The problem is that, by stopping every 2 hours i lost the flow of increasing productivity associated with intelectual work. Now i´m organizing to reduce L.M.L by money. When that would not be possible, i´ll use creativity. Thanks for the life saving information!
Love the content but can't get past the excessive editing cuts and overstimulating visuals. Would prefer plain talk tbh
That would end up with less view time and more people getting bored and leave the value in the video due to low dopamine compared with overly stimulated brains of ours in this era. The guy is a genius in doing so, he's actually applied his knowledge in his channel this way.
I just read the comments the whole time and almost never pay attention to what’s on the screen.
@@EMan-cu5zo Bro's got next level attention span 😂
Listen to it while doing something else (i.e. gym, folding laundry)
I m from India and I got to realized that these time waster which you are talking about is actually maintained by my family. Don't you think its good idea to live with our families instead of doing everything alone
Depends if your Mummy cooks the optimal healthy meals that you require to perform your best.
Depends on how productive and motivating environmentthey create around...if all they do is compare you with your siblings or neighbors...and keep a chaotic environment around but feed you timely, than it's like a prison you are trapped in...where you wager your freedom for 3 timely meals.
@@avgb2115 I think most of the families are supportive, think about it, how many times your family compared you with others, hardly few times in 2o yrs, even if u live outside still u have some friends who do this shit with u. Personally I lived alone and with family as well, based on that I find I have more time to study when I am with family.
Thank you Rian 🙏 I appreciate everything you’ve uploaded. Simplicity attracts wisdom!
My pleasure! Thank you for the support.
Thank you so much brother I am 14 years old and with the knowledge you give us I can optimize my life for peak perfomance 😁
I absolutely love this so much and love all of your videos!!! It would be so amazing if you did a video on how to plan all your ongoing projects, life goals combined with small tasks, how to keep track and how to stay ahead of to-do lists etc!
Rian thank you so much for this video. Keep making amazing content and sharing your knowledge with the world. This video will help me IMMENSELY. You're a life saver!
Rian!
Your channel means a lot for me! I can resonate a lot with your video's. You give me and my girlfriend great insights in various topics to upgrade my life. And yeah those daily life mundane maintenance tasks are taking my precious time and giving me more stress. I experience more stress and workload since the day I was born in the past 2 months. This because I have been blessed with a new born son, recently moved back to my home country whilst also trying to keep up with a lot of my work and trying to optimize my food and squeezing some gym sessions.. the things I have been hammering on are optimising my clothes, for example: I am only wearing the same clothes with slight difference (long or short pants xD)., optimising my food to keep in flow state. Doing workouts in home! Sleep is a difficult thing to do with a new born but that is getting better each month.. Well enough talk! Thank for your video's dude and keep going! - Rob
The people who are really watching his video with consistency and using it in his life are at next level
Your work is genuinely appreciated with all my heart MR Doris, and I'm ineffable on how engaging your content is due to the depth of your consciousness (Articulation) and the alliance of a great media team for such high quality content production.
Wish you greater success in your spirituality, business, relationships, fitness, knowledge, and it all that I can't comprehend about you but your psyche yearns for.
And also equally importantly enough, the gems that you threw here. (The concept of autotelic and exetelic activities)
This is quite possibly the most important video on this channel so far. Practical flow.
Using money to lessen my life maintenance load :✅
Me with no money : 👁️👄👁️
Same 😵💫
This content is fantastic!! Thank you for all the attentiveness to detail and the hard work and the self disclosing.
Really interesting suggestion, doing a "life maintenance load audit". Very timely video, I've been feeling frustration over this exact subject, as sometimes it feels more that my occupation is "housewife" or "cleaning professional" than entrepreneur. I don't want to change some things, like cooking, but they may be something that requires both optimization and a perception shift, so I can actually use them as outlets of creativity and enjoy them with greater presence. Thank you for the suggestions! 🙏
This might be the most educational and well articulated video I’ve seen on TH-cam… and I’ve watched a lot of TH-cam.
I genuinely appreciate your time energy and effort bro.
This is exactly the video I needed right now. I'm starting a business and there is so much Admin that sometimes I don't feel like I'm making progress. I've been pretty adverse to hiring freelancers to help get some stuff done because I'm not yet profitable but now I realise that it's probably worth calculating how much time I can save by delegating vs the cost it takes to hire others. I hired a video editor for 1 video cos I was behind schedule on my uploads, but if it turns out good, I might do it again.
Ive been struggling with this for about a year now working not living. Thank you
Get your life back!
As usual, excellent video Rian.
I come from a middle class Indian family, now in a position to eliminate Life Maintenance Load activities. It has been hard because I am wired to do everything on my own.
I have been successful in eliminating LML activities, but, filling in the spreadsheet should make it clearer. Thanks!
Great Video - Learned about this in Marine Corps boot camp LOL
And I too ♥ the Irish Goodbyes
For me is cooking meditation. I calm down and think about what life is. I dont wanna identify my whole self about my work. Sure I have also times where Im 24/7 produktive.
But after this period of time I have to calm down that the time stop flewing by in high speed
Started work straight out of college, it feels like im in a loop for last 3 years
Rooting for you.
Great video-thank you for sharing your insights! Perhaps one can also reframe these life maintenance tasks. Activities such as dishwashing, cooking, or laundry do not require much focused attention and are therefore excellent opportunities for meditation. As I see it, performing these activities in this way makes them function more as active recovery (and increases their autotelicity), making them actually conducive to flow.
Elephant in the room: people used to have wives for all of this.
12:11 step 1 Audit
15:32 step 2 Eliminatie
19:18 step 3
These videos have changed lives. Good work Rian
I'm very glad they are helping. Thank you for watching and supporting the channel brother!
Sam Ovens says the same thing. It's nice you give all this a name
thank you so much, discovering your channel is such a boon to my academic life 😄
edit- now that i have been watching this, i realised how badly i wished for this
Thank you!
I know that many people enjoy cooking and preparing food, but mother nature does prepare a certain food that ripens as it grows and can be bought fairly cheap. fruit and greens save time and energy. as well, fasting in the morning gives you a boost in energy and time!
Good advice. I set aside cleaning to Sat. mornings. I use amazon to deliver products and groceries instead of going in person to shop.
Something huge to consider is effective multitasking 🔥 granted reading an audiobook in the car on the way to work is frowned upon in this video relatively, it is still not a bad option. Aim for the total immersion technique 📚
This video describes how I've been trying to manage my life. I'm only 16, in highschool. Trying to deal with friends and relationships and learning my guitar, driving to see the sights, trying to take my life as far as it will go. I can fold origami, I can paint on a digital canvas like nothing else. But school started to feel empty. So, I switched schools looking to find meaning in it. The new school, though, while it was a great community, a lovely place where it felt like I was learning, there was so much empty life management with the homework I decided to leave and go back to the first place, given these were my two options. Now, my first school has given me friends on my return, but the work is just tasks, and I'm finding no meaning in it. That's why I'm leaving, to go find any other kind of education. A GED, or this program I've been looking into which gices you home education. I cut out the housework being piled on me, I stopped drowning in homework by deciding not to do it and finding other ways to manage my classes. And it might sound like failure, or an inability to make it through school, but like he said it's not about being above school, or below someone willing to do that work, I wasn't built for paperwork, and I never will be. In my free time, I've made so much art, my figures increasing dramatically in style and skill, my guitar playing is better than ever, and I have time to build community and friendships around me, and I feel happier that way. Because I stopped trying to make the worthless things more effiecient, but I cut them out entirely. So go for it, live your life before it's over. It can be a hard path to forge, it can be scary to change things, but it will all be for the better. Quit your miserable job for a nice one, stop scrolling endlessly through Social Media, stop cleaning and fighting your own life every day and go make something of yourself. You got this. If I can do it at 16, you can do it at 43, or 26, or 87, just make it worth it.
Eliminate or automate unfulfilling tasks. There, I just saved you the 23:09 of watching this video.
For tasks that can't be eliminated, allocate a set amount of time for them and do it really fast, and not perfectly.
I try to squish LML, including exercise, etc, into up to two hours, consolidated, a day, five days a week. Everything is treated as urgent in that time and multitasked.
When the time's up, I'm finished.
Unavoidable errands are allocated to once a month.
Been watching these videos for a few days and these are very helpful.
Glad to help!
Thank you for this ❤
When Tim Ferriss talked about automating business and life, he mentioned elimination as high on the list to do first. Many people forget that, and move quickly to automate a process without ever questioning whether they really need the process at all.
WOW 😮 Having children makes this SO hard lol but I agree 100% and it's so important to organise time and resources to have mental health and success in life ❤ I ll be checking more of this videos Thanks!!!
Children... So you're already doing the most important thing. 👍🏻
Thanks for your video Rian. I gues its one of the secrets of being constantly in a flow state - convert everything you do into endotelic (autotelic) action.
What do we do if we can’t afford eliminating the maintenance load? :( should we sacrifice money for time?
I optimized by not watching this video entirely 👍
rian, i habve been grateful for the information u provide us fro free and it has helped my life greatly, but i have adhd, its like rather difficult fro me to concentrate than other people, cause my purpose rn is to study so that i can get into IIT , i dont liek study so i cant hyperfixate on it which i wished i could, but i have a willpower to do it, cause it is necessary , how do u think i might be able to help myself in concentrating or is there any other channel which caters the needs of adhd, have a great day ahead
Your videos are very helpful. Thank you. Is there anywhere I can listen or watch them without Fairground music, because it’s quite distracting and makes me work to concentrate on your words. with appreciation, Nadia!
I ran into ome of your videos weeks ago, and it was great. A few more and I subscribed... this one, however, is just a prolonged word salad, and time wasted in, for example, an over wordy illustration of a smoothy you took to hopefully stave-off a future hangover!
You're talented, and I understand creating content must be challenging, but a respect for the listener has to be part of your aim!
Get an immigrant maid to batch cook and clean twice per week! With your money she will be putting several family members through private school, and you can actually eat healthy meals the way you want by giving her a recipe and getting her to chop and cook multiple meals and put them in containers.
CRAZY!!! But I’ve been thinking of doing that one day, so I can pay them like 12.5 dollar an hour? 🤔
Rian Never fails to amaze us. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯
Make me proud brother.
The Tao without doing anything leaves nothing undone.
Aristotle said that the goal of activity is contemplation.
One day a man of the people said to Zen master Ikkyu, "Master, will you please write for me some maxims of the highest wisdom?"
Ikkyu immediately took his brush and wrote the word: "Attention."
"Is that all?" asked the man. "Will you not add something more?"
Ikkyu then wrote twice running: "Attention. Attention."
"Well," remarked the man rather irritably, "I really don't see much depth or subtlety in what you have just written."
Then Ikkyu wrote the same word three times running: "Attention. Attention. Attention."
Half-angered, the man demanded, "What does that word 'attention' mean anyway?"
Ikkyu answered gently, "Attention means attention."
Hi Rian. 👋. Im in my college right now. Glad to come across your video
Good luck!!
Hello sir one question coming from the "How to focus like a God video"
When we are in a flow state, are we aware of that? Or we just execute without thinking at all?
And when we are in a struggle phase, how do we know when we should go to the release phase?
Thanks for your videos, this channel is pure gold
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14:25 Hiking with friends at night is great way not to get sunburnt
Great vid ❤
Sir could you please tell me a method to do prolonged work on a thing which does not give results any soon or work which is instantaneously boring, and I don't have any time to do a more boring task than that.
I am a Big Fan of this channel. I am looking forward to meeting you in person and let's see what opportunities we can make.
@riandoris hi, can you please show us how do you make these simple/clean looking day plans that you show in video, or maybe create an app for it?
What can I do once I have reduced or eliminated most of those tasks to get back into flowstate? Because my mind is thinking about if they are going to get done correctly by depending on others to complete them properly, which inhibits me from getting into the zone.
I am really struggling with keeping up with school because it drains me so much. I spend hours working on my business and feel fulfilled but then when time comes for school, I just feel extremely drained. Gotta get through that feeling though nothing I can do about it :(
Amazing reminder again!🙏 one question, I've read once how Jeff Bezos like to wash dishes because the manual activity like that gave him tremendous idea bursts, i experienced this myself. and many entrepreneurs get ideas in shower or mindless activities. or would you say flow state is far more productive than having these activities since the risk is greater?
Very interesting vid!!!
Great video as always Can you please tell sir how to utilize these videos to maximim
if someone does not enjoy studying, would you classify it as exotelic or autotelic, because it is neither an end in itself, nor you have intrinsic motivation to do so?
This is great stuff
i have a question: what if the autotelic blockers are the irrational demands of others, those you can't get rid of so easily?
Rian, Your poping. congrats for all your deserved and earned success.
can you make a flow state video for a high school student.
Thank You for helping us save our lives in an indirect way😁😊
I've been working on one! Just trying to get it perfect before releasing. 😊
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thank you for sharing😊
@@riandoris That would be very helpful. Also, not just students, but also for adults who need to work on upskilling
High school is not a complete waste of time because it is the last chance to make friends and build relationships. For example, in Finland, if you don't have close friends at the end of high school, then you don't have close friends all your life, and then it happens that in relationships quantity replaces quality, i.e. you can have several acquaintances and a work community but no friends and you feel lonely most of the time. This phenomenon has been studied a lot in Finland and researchers haven't found a solution to this problem because after school people can't be forced to be together so that they become friends and many already have their own lives at that stage and no time for making new friends.
how about a video about the recovery stage in the flow cycle ?....it would be really helpful
Im a simple man, i see a new rian doris video i click
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