Losing Friends As a Christian | Story Time
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Isolation is great for a really close relationship with Jesus.
People have been treating me differently ever since I gave my life to the Lord.
It's fine, but sucks. All i can do is pray for them.
The enemy is now using tactics to have my family members look and treat me differently as well...
Trial, after trial, test after test.
I shall not be defeated, in Jesus mighty name I pray.🙏
Amen.
God bless you all, let the Holy Spirit envelope and let your heart shine!
I’m so glad to hear this. It’s been really hard to have people freak out on me and end the friendship when I am just saying no to their abusive behaviour or communication. I am sure Jesus will weed our garden so we both get friends that are equally yoked. I will pray for you sister in Christ + God Bless❤
I find that I can’t talk to my friends about anything really. I’m in a transitioning point because I was just baptized in January and my friendships feel so foreign to me. I want better friends.
You want better for them too, they are yet to make the choice as you have.
Ask the Holy spirit to show you friends, first let Holy spirit be a friend.
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Yes! I am in the same boat
Just recently lost a friend of 14yrs because she was open to opening doors with witches, etc. From palm readings, psychics, crystals, etc. And i didn't want those spirits around me. But i never judged her
SAME 🎯🎯🎯
Sounds like my story. I converted from evangelical Christianity to Eastern Orthodox Christianity after a major traumatizing event in my life with the loss of a family member ( my grandmother) and brief flirtation with the New Age. A friend from high school who was originally in the Pentecostal Charismatic tradition virtually drifted off once he got deeper and deeper into New Age stuff like tarot, astrology, natal chart reading, psychic channeling etcetera. He heard of my conversion to another faith tradition of Christianity, and virtually went radio silent on me. Maybe he was busy, maybe he really didn't like Orthodox/Orthodox Christianity and wanted to distance himself, maybe he had new friends who fit in with his phase in life. Whatever it is, I stopped bothering too. As we age, we lose friends and changes in our relationship with God will also reflect in the friendships that remain.
Great video on such an important topic. I went through something similar where I had a friend who was so on fire for God. We met in small group at bible study. We became super close but then after a few years she started to become more and more worldly, more and more profanity, and she ultimately became super critical and harsh towards people who identify as Christians. She would especially dog on Christian women and it was hurtful because when she'd speak disparaging words against Christianity, I felt persecuted by her words as well since I happily identify as a follower of Christ. She would elevate herself so much above church going Christians especially after she stopped attending church. She wanted to be married and she felt like Christianity was holding her back from finding a husband since there's more women than men in the church. She eventually met a non believer and married him. I stayed friends with her throughout that whole time, praying for her in private that she'd return to the Lord. But ultimately she became so worldly that it was as if I was speaking to someone who had never truly believed in the first place. And she made me feel very uncomfortable to even bring up Jesus name or anything faith related. She also reccommended to me to open myself up to dating non believers as well. Then finally I got to a place where I felt no joy in the friendship, only lack of peace and turmoil every single time we interacted. I prayed and prayed and felt something in my spirit tell me it was okay to release her and let go because it wasn't a healthy friendship anymore. It was hard and emotional, but I let go and immediately I felt free. I was surprised to feel a rush of freedom and that something heavy had been instantly lifted from my life, but that's exactly how it felt and to me was confirmation that the friendship was seasonal.
I like that you shared from the perspective of losing a friend who was going hard for the kingdom and then fell off because I don't feel like this topic is talked about a lot. Its usually the topic of losing your old friends once you become a believer. Thank you for your honesty and sharing the wisdom you gained from your experience.
Wow- thank you for sharing. I never had language to capture the “lack of peace and turmoil” in each interaction with these kind of friendships, but you encapsulated it so poignantly in simply saying “a lack of joy”. It sounds simple, but acknowledging that this friendship is devoid of joy is sobering. Courtney, this was such a timely video. Thank you for reminding us to continue to pray for these people. So many times, especially in a world where cut off culture is rampant, and there are so many things to pray for, I forget to pray for their hearts. Love this video! And your braids are so pretty!
Wow, just reading what you went through sounds draining so I can only imagine how it felt for you going through it. Honestly, my situation was somewhat similar. I love that you've found peace with everything and a sense of freedom. It sounds like it was really needed. And you can always pray for a person from afar and allow the Holy Spirit to work on them. He can make changes we never could.
Thank you so much! I love when I share and others can relate lol it feels like we're all friends! And these braids... its my first time with goddess braids! I love them but they get tangled soooo easily! Thats the only downside :)
I need Christian friends. My old friends are gone bc I’ve changed and I’m ok with it. I’m looking for Christian female friends.
What state are you in?
@@ByTheShepards Ga
@@DonnakaySimone Hey girl I live in Georgia as well. My name is Shawna, I'm 30, and I would love to meet up one day.
@@shawnayancy6923 hey Shawna ok kool. I’m not sure if YT got private message we can exchange info.
I need a friend are you still needing one?
I’m dealing with this now. Me and a friend who I actually met on social media connected when we were going through a heartbreak so were so close & could relate so much. But I know God was calling me to surrender FULLY to His will for my life and as soon as I did. Our friendship became extremely surfaced level. It sucks because it’s like after surrender comes a feeling of being rejected by others who may not understand. But I’m learning 😊to move forward in grace and love because that’s exactly what Christ does. So glad I came across this video.
Always remember that God removes and he replaces. When God want someone to leave your life he will bring confusion along the way. Sometimes this may hurt but trust God in all this. He sometimes break your heart to save your soul. All things work for Good for those who love the Lord.🙌🙂 Romans 8:28
When we get closer to God certain people will leave your life for the best. God remove and he replace🙏
I just lost a friend of 38 years, he went off on me with the usual anti-Christian rhetoric. He pressed me whether I thought he was going to heaven for being a Buddhist, and then got angry when I told him the truth. I'll continue to love, and pray for him.
This happened to me today with my friend of 6 years. She began pressing me on my views of Islam and as I shared to her my views she told me we can no longer be friends. It’s for the best.
@@TrishaBaby97I can relate to your situation. I had just lost a 9 year friendship my exfriend is catholic I am a christian shetold me that she can no longer be friends with me because I dont worthship pope francis I was shocked later went on telling me I will burn in hell that is so rude. I have friends of different religous and races and we never not once got 8nto this tense situations.
Glad to find this video, i an experiencing this exact thing for the last year n half with all my friends. I thought i caused it but my mom helped me realize the deeper i go with my relationship with Christ,the less friends ill have in the world. I lost the last few on my birthday this year. Just a decision i made n fhe more i do some reflecting on this,the more i realize we've been growing apart cz i couldn't share this part of me with them ,and God is the most important part of my life.
Hopefully soon ill have a few good girlfriends i can relate to and get to share n grow in Christ
This is exactly my situation. It would be extremely unfair of me to say my friends alienated or isolated me, in fact it was quite the opposite. When the Lord called and impressed on my heart to drop everything and follow him, i distanced away from my friends because of who I am whenever I’m around them and the lifestyle. I’ve felt guilty for the longest time because I love them and do pray for them, but I would be worldly if I stuck around. I haven’t really seen or heard anyone talk about making the decision themselves to walk away from friendships to follow Christ. I’m hoping one day for restoration or for new friends in Christ, but until then I know the Lord is doing a work in me. Thank you so much for your comment ❤️
This really helped me, I was talking to a girl and fellowshipped with her for half a year and she wanted more than I can give and she didnt want to remain friends in where we didn't grow intimately because she said it was emotionally unhealthy for her. We never had sex and we met a few times in real life but talked on the phone everyday. I always let her know we were just friends. She said she was going to delete my number because things were too hard.. I truely didnt look at her like this and I will pray for her always, Its hard because I felt she was leading me on as a "friend" and maybe she thought I was leading her on for something serious. Sad part is she is a believer and I liked our fellowship, but almost felt she was mostly going a long with anything I wanted at times expecting something more. I don't know, pray for me and this person please.
By being friends with atheists, other believers of different religions different from mine, and non-faithful Christians that actually are not really living up to their Christian morals and promises is one of the reasons why I was slowly moving further and further away from the Lord in the first place.
Thank you for this video girl! I’m going through this now as I wait for God to bless me with Christian friends. It really hurts but it’s ok because I know all things will work out for his glory
Thanks for your transparency. I’ve made the same mistake. An apology was the key 🔑 that opened the door 🚪 for a conversation.
Prayerfully someday I'll get the chance to explain and apologize!
I thought the same... Unfortunately, they didn't accept it and we didn't reunite...
@@marianadobreva_ at least you apologized and tried to reunite.
I have recently gone through something similar. I keep wondering if I should have handled things differently but it’s just like you said, not everyone needs to be cut off. We can always just create boundaries rather than throw away a whole relationship.
Wow, I'm so thankful you spoke on this topic Courtney. Thank you for sharing your own experience on this!! I struggle with this daily, not with friends, but within my own family. Which has been especially difficult because unlike friends, I can't really distance myself from my family, since I currently live with them. I'm the only one saved in a family of 5 and there are days I just feel so hopeless and helpless because they're not willing to open their hearts to even the idea of making Jesus their Lord and Savior. But just like you said, as much as it breaks MY heart, it breaks God's heart even more. But I know God won't give up on them, He leaves the 99 sheep to seek the one lost, and so I too won't give up and I will continue praying for their salvation and interceding for them in prayer. One thing I've had to learn and accept is as much as I want them to get right with God and save their souls, it is the Lord who does the saving, not me. Therefore, I have to TRUST God's perfect will and timing for their lives, and continue to pray for them and be the light of Christ in their lives. I look back at my own testimony and whewww, it took me 28 years to finally come to Jesus and surrender my life to Him! ❤ Oh how patient and merciful is our God! Thank you Jesus! All glory be to God forever and ever! 🙏🏽🤍
I am looking for a good Christian friend in her 30s.A good friendship that will last. I am always up for daily Bible study/ praying with each other. Adult friendship is not hard once the other person put in the same effort as you. One love from Jamaica 🇯🇲😉
I really need Christian female friends. My life is changing drastically and I’m on fire for God. I want my friends to be just on fire but we have different journeys and o pray they too find their way to Christ like I did. I’m trusting God for new friends 🥹♥️
A lot of Christians feel isolated because of their faith but I don’t see any videos about what I am going through so I’ll post it here and maybe someone can relate. I am a Christian as is my boyfriend’s brother. We are all pretty new to the faith and new to the church. My boyfriend’s brother has finally started dating after his wife died 2 years ago. He met this Christian woman in a foreign country and together they’ve been on this journey to deepen their faith. Well suddenly last night he sends my boyfriend an email saying he can no longer talk to me and will not be responding to my texts because him and his gf both agreed not to talk to the opposite sex. We text casually here and there but over the years he felt like a brother to me. I’ve never spent alone time with him. But now he’s saying everything is too much. I texted him to tell him this hurt me and he didn’t respond back. He was fine to be my friend when he needed something but now as a Christian he has to shut me out. We do not and have never had an inappropriate relationship. He is 30 years older than me. He really did feel like family to me and it’s sad bc I didn’t realize he thought so little of me.
Can def relate. I am def looking for Christian friends. It is difficult to lose friends when you are focused on Christ. I really appreciate your encouragement. It really is inspiring and encouraging to see someone focused on their relationship with God. I love all people, but sometimes we need people to encourage us as well through our walk. I am glad you touched on having friends of different faiths. I believe grace is important as well. Great video and advice. Thanks!!
Thank you so much. This truly is what I needed to hear from our lord. I am currently experiencing this with a long time friend. I am teary eyed but yes I will keep praying. Have a blessed day.
I'm so sorry to hear that. It's a heavy feeling. Keep praying sister!
For me God slowly showed me little by little the people who were good for me and who weren't. So my relationships started to weaken and now I'm waiting for the day God sends the right people to me.
Thanks for the wisdom. I’m praying for your friend. Lord knows I have backslid many times in the past and He had mercy on me.
Same for me! Thank you so much!
This is so relatable!! Thank you for sharing, it's good to know im not alone
Wow....thank you so much. I needed to hear this! God bless you.
This was a great explanation and great points and perspectives for us to look at this circumstance through, this video was great thank you!
Thank You for shedding light on this topic that is not always spoken about on the journey. I didn’t know saying yes to Christ meant saying No to people that I love. Dying to your old self and old ways is real, Good news we heard the good news but bitter sweet bad news our old life has died. 🙏
One of my close friends just told me she a non believer and I’m so lost on how to move forward with the relationship 😢
Yeah I have a couple of friends I’ve known for a while lost there way since being in our fist year of college but keep the positivity and your life will be an example and a testament to them
This video blessed me so much🥹😇im currently in this season but i know God has a purpose for me. Thank you for being a light😊
I can relate, I used to also be lowkey offended that I wasn’t invited to certain events and stuff. I have friends of all different backgrounds as well, we just gotta be a light in their lives! It’s nice to be an example of Christ to them. I try not to be influenced by them. You are a reflection of what you hang around, meaning you should be around a community of people who desire God. But some people don’t have many people who are on fire for God. Like, I have a few friends that genuinely desire holding eachother accountable, and getting closer with Christ. It’s nice to have at least 2-3 people who you can go to for advice and prayer. Anyways, bless you sistaaaaa
Great content Courtney. I love your spirit and content style. You're one of the few channels I have just discovered on my Christian TH-cam journey. I look forward to learning from you
Really needed to hear that. Thank you
I really really needed this. I only have 2 best friends and that is all. Ive been feeling like you said prideful or on fire for God and I didn't know how to navigate it. I love my friends and I want to love everyone even if we are in different paths. Very helpful video. Thank you for sharing. I hope one day she answers your call and you both can heal. 🙏
My best friend is lukewarm, I’ve known her since 1st grade and I don’t think I could be happy without her. However, I feel like God might be calling me to let her go, but I just can’t bring myself too. :(
I so needed this!!!!
Thank you, this helped a lot to get. Different perspective. 🙏
Thank you so much for being 100% transparent and just really putting things in perspective. I’m so thankful for Gods grace and that he still loves despite our flaws. Love you Courtney ❤️
Girl yes! We all need His grace lol. I love you too!
I love this video this is a must share 😍. This really hit home especially the pride my goodness do not point 👉🏽 because one finger is pointing back at you. I'm learning to pray before anything ❤
I really needed to hear this , thank you
Your hair looks stunning btw sis! 🤍
You’re glowing☺️
This hit home. ❤ Thank you for sharing. I met my best friend ghost hunting. I stopped and then became a Christian and she's pulled back from me. I'm trying to have peace, but this really helped me deal with it. Thank you.
Girl 😭 you literally hit every nail on the head as to my own personal thoughts and what I’m experiencing now. Idk how to feel but at least I have God
It’s gotten to the point where I don’t really have friends. Im 25 now and chose to follow God but now my friends are non existent. Like I only hear from them if I text and that’s not for long. And communicating with them is so weird now because they indulge and talk about things I’m separating myself from. And the cussing they do irks my spirit. I don’t mind being by myself but sometimes it’s nice to have someone to talk to
My best friend of 40 years ditched me , she has been leaving me out, being very disrespectful, saying very mean hurtful things to me etc. She has been hanging with another female that posts on social media that she and her are witches.
Hey 👋🏾 I live in Prosper not too far from Dallas and I would love a friend like you! Thanks for making this video because I’m in a serious pruning season right now 😢 hope you’re doing well
Yes same here I am currently going through a lot of friendship breakups and just trying to put them in the past because they were hindering my walk in faith. My walk with Jesus Christ/God.
Yeah I lost a lot of friends when I decided to truly follow God. I myself don’t understand it cuz before I used to get attacked cuz I was pretty wild and made a lot of bad decisions but now that I’ve changed and decided to fully follow God, I’m not being made fun of. Literally I used to get attacked for dressing in black and using black eyeshadow and wearing shorts and dying my hair red, pink and orange cuz apparently that’s “demonic” but now I’m getting attacked for deciding to quit so many things and now following God. Like why can’t they just be happy for me. I mean before they attacked me for being wild and all that and now I’m getting attacked cuz I decided to Fully follow God, it doesn’t make any sense. I was into a lot of crazy stuff. I got involved into new age practices and in 2021 I quit all of that junk and I went through deliverance. I literally threw away all of occult objects as in clothes, decorations, shoes, posters, stickers and jewelry and even blankets cuz man like I said it was that bad. Even my own family attacks me. Both of my brothers literally attack me every freaking week. Like why can they just be happy that I’m no longer the person who i used to be and that I finally decided to follow God. Like I can’t have a normal conversation with my brothers cuz they will literally flip the conversation to use it as a way to attack me. What’s worst is they’ll get on fb and post something that has to do with how they attacked me and make fun of me on fb. I respect their opinions and beliefs without attacking them but they can’t do the same for me. They do the same with my parents but not as much as how they do it to me. For example I get attacked by them if I don’t want to watch a horror movie or go ghost haunting cuz I personally don’t think that’s going to do me any good cuz I’m over here going through spiritual warfare and watching horror movies and going ghost haunting isn’t going to do anything good for me. So why do I want those two things in my life if I’m already going through so much spiritual warfare. I understand the enemy uses people to attack us but it’s so tiring cuz I get treated like if I’m crazy. For the first time I’m happy with who I am and I want my brothers to be happy for me as well.
Keep fighting the good flight of faith and keep Jesus near don’t let things or people get to you because that’s what the enemy wants simply turn the other cheek and focus on on him because Jesus cares for you and loves you❤
I think, just be friends. God will bring about an opportunity. But just love and friendship. That's it.
Sometimes we walk through this wolrd by ourselves.
This is how I feel right now
I met my female friend 1 years ago. The past couple months I don't know what to do with our friendship. I live for the Lord now and she still caught up with earthly pursuing things and the devil has her fools in with her ungodly behavior. I think it's time for me, that's God has planned for me.
off-topic but you're stunning!!! have a blessed day :)
Thank you ☺️ you too!
I have depression so i cant always be joyfull does that make me a not good christian? I notice most christians are always happy
I have zero christian friends and never ever had any christian friends in my entire life. I am 36
When you gave your life totally to the Lord and your friends can't ha😢ve what ever form of control they had over you anymore that UPSETS them. So when you use certain boundaries 🤔 it doesn't work for some. You become the CRAZY one and they become the victim 😮
I lost one close friend today because i didnt agree on the worldly things and how im a christian who practices what Jesus said to doo :]] oh well
It's not always about friends excluding you, good friends I mean real good friends will respect your beliefs and it's not always about leaving you out but they know your really not into the worldly things anymore so there's no need to press you about it anymore,.. good friends are there regardless of your situation,.. it's not easy to cut off everything in life you love I believe it's a process,..I don't fully understand faith and I need to Reed the words of God because Christians do judge people let's be honest.
A few days ago my two muslim friends were forcing me to become muslim i said nothing that you say will make me change my mind and they were pitying me saying why do Christians sing to there god its weird and stuff i don't know what to do should i dtop being friends with them wich i think is for the best l will eat alone but i don't mind it❤
I try and find Christain friends but no one ever reaches back out
I’m unsure if your church has small groups? That & serving has worked wonders for me!
@@ByTheShepards it's hard to find a good church, one church had a store in it, one didn't believe in baptisms, one said you have to do a 2 week class before getting baptized and one sprinkles water as baptism, and makes people say "I believe in the Catholic church". Why are all these church's sinning?
@Dangerous Beauty you should go to different demonination that follows the word and teaching of God and the bible closely
I repented for my sins and gave my life to God. I told the people in the church I was a drug dealer, a robber, a scammer, and a career criminal now it seems the people have distanced themselves from me.
I ask thy sisters, please, be my friend. -- Peter
Amen. 🙏
6:40 literally me with my family rn
I need some Christian friendssss I’m 14 with Wordly friends 😢
Dw they'll come at their own time.
God blessed everyone differently at the right time.
Great video❤ side note- how do you get your teeth so white? You're gorgeous!!
Thank you! I brush with hydrogen peroxide & baking soda at least once a day, typically right after food or drinks that stain (coffee)
I lost two friends recently. And I am still a bit sad. They left me in April. To be honest, I have suicidal thoughts. I don't know why my friends left me one after another. Maybe I am a failure in life. The only friends I have are Christian
Hey do you have Discord? Please don't take your life. Ik how it feels to loose friends. But please understand that you aren't a failure. Sometimes, God removed people in our lives bc He understands what the future is going to be when they are in our lives.
I used to have two friends two, until a sudden change. But till this day, I don't have any friends. Idk how to communicate with others the way I want to.
But please, pray to God to help you. But if you have Discord or maybe some gaming apps like rblx or smth. I want to get to know new ppl too! (If you're comfortable)
But God has a reason for everything. You're not a failure. You're a masterpiece created by God. Don't doubt yourself. You're doing what you can. God is with you and your REAL friends will come at it's own time. ❤
Hey don’t take your life I’m in college and I don’t have much of connection to people
I sometimes feel alone walk alone because I’m different I know one day I’ll get good friends
Acts 2:40 "And with many other words did he testify and exhort, saying, Save yourselves from this untoward generation.”
Me too
The bible says the fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, and the one who is wise saves life NIV version
My close friends are non christian.
Honestly if I have atheist friends I'm gonna be led astray so I really can't have them.
Alright hear this. What if you're a believer (I've been baptised) but i dont believe in christianity i believe in the word. So i try my best to keep the commandments and do what the bible says (if you follow what im saying). However, even before being baptised i have never set foot in a club or party, dont drink, dont smoke, etc. And now being baptised i make sure i stay in line dont fornicate, dont do none of that. So i find that a lot of people come with this "nobody is perfect" mentality and if you're not falling into sin they either hide things or act fake or like its a competition. And for me its difficult to find other believers who maybe just had one bad streak then. Im tired of people, pretty much making it look like its a crime to not be someone who is doing those things or someone who hasn't done those things.
I feel like God wants me to ask E for forgiveness, I feel like he wants me to preach to her. I’m 13 and I’m scared how she’ll react but I’ll still preach to her :) we haven’t been friends since beginning of school for something stupid. I just have recently became truly loving to the lord, but I can’t understand how in supposed to approach her
Pray to God for guidance. He'll give you the right words to say.
Hello, my name is Mariah and I’m a Christian female in Colorado looking for any female friends! 🥺🥺🙏🏼
My neighbor invited me to her Christian church. I bought her cookies. We went to church together. Now she wants nothing to do with me. lol Make it make sense.
I need Christian friends, that are similar to me,. Married and have two children, I'm 29. Long distance friends is fine, I have no friends and I don't really leave the house due to me being a stay at home mom. I don't use Facebook anymore, but I have Twitter and Instagram
May God bless you all and please comment of you are needing a friend also. We have to encourage one another in this dark world
I read your other comments that's why I put all this info. Also they have kids house of prayer meetings on zoom every Friday 7pm eastern time on zoom. Where they join and learn. You'll love it. They also have kids ministry on zoom for the long distance members on Sundays at 11AM.
@@user-im1te8jz9j thank you.