What Are Japan's True Feelings? Honne and Tatemae Explained
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Tofugu asks Japan about honne and tatemae, that is true feelings vs. outward feelings. What are ways to find out Japan's true feelings and innermost secrets? Is this trait unique to Japanese people? (The answer to both is no, btw)
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This is pure TH-cam gold.
And is a beautiful nation
I love the comedic aspect of this video. It's funny and cute.
Is it legal to marry a nation?
+HardcoreTentacleRape But she's not a nation.
You want there to be deceit and no sex in your marriage?
with a name like that... youd definitely pass...
HardcoreTentacleRape I guess in Hetalia it is
I worked with Japanese & Koreans and learned while you never know how you stood with the Japanese (tatemate), you knew straight up how you stood with the Koreans. They are direct & to the point, no caring for how it sounds or effects you!!
Koreans sound like my kind of people.
"This girl is not nation" I laughed so hard my cat freaked out. I missed this segment!
Japan remains the cutest nation on this planet.
+Koujinkamu2 this girl is not nation
+kaito -kun who are we talking about again
RunningRiot I can barely remember this, so idk
kaito -kun ok...
Life before Tofugu seems so empty and pointless now...
Ah these videos about Japan are great. Keep interviewing Japan please!
After watching the video, I wonder how people in Japan give each other constructive criticism.
Shona McCarthy Maybe it's like in our thread here.
i love these type of videos!
I find this series ironic. xD People think "oh this guy is being so naive about Japan" and yet...interviewers do this ALL THE TIME!! People do this to a lot of cultures that they don't understand. XD At least this series in intentionally being stupid on purpose......i hope??
紫花 Are you... kidding me?
;)
There's nothing wrong with not knowing something, nor is it wrong to ask, but in an interview setting, on tv (which i was referring to) it's best to do some research before you ask questions! That way you are getting the most out of an interview. :)
It’s in the Louis Theroux handbook. You should come in without any preconceived notions. Be like a blank page and let the information come to you.
Hahaha these are great, keep em coming!
Contrary to what people believe, the presenter of this video was trying to accurately recreate the content creators of every other youtube channel about Japan and not doing a parody of any type.
*whispers* not nation.
please write down i'm not nation.
'this girl is not nation' please write that down. she said it seriously lol
hahaha, i love these videos.
If foreigners had even the slightest spirit of diversity, they would consider why honne and tatemae are so ingrained in Japanese society, but unfortunately many of them are more concerned with criticizing Japan for the purpose of gaining a sense of superiority.
please! do more interviews with japan!
"Maybe they don't have the words 本音 and 建て前 but people all over the world do this"ってそれな!People in England definitely have 本音 and 建て前 we just don't have the words. I think it's something that comes out naturally when politeness and strategies for avoiding offence are valued in a culture. Great answers "Japanさん".
+Roobster100 Twice a day mate.
It reminds me of what the Portuguese missionary João Rodrigues "Tzuçu" said about them, when Europeans first met them:
"They are so crafty in their hearts that nobody can understand them. Whence it is said that they have three hearts: a false one in their mouths for all the world to see, another within their breasts only for their friends, and the third in the depths of their hearts, reserved for themselves alone and never manifested to anybody. As a result all other decays here for everyone acts merely according to the present moment and speaks according to the circumstances and occasion. But they do not use this double dealing to cheat people in business matters, as do the Chinese in their transactions and thieving, for in this respect the Japanese are more exact; but they reserve their treachery for affairs of diplomacy and war in order not to be deceived themselves. And in particular when they wish to kill a person by treachery (a stratagem often employed to avoid many deaths), they put on a great pretence by entertaining him with every sign of love and joy - and then in the middle of it all, off comes his head".
João Rodrigues
I think the best English equivalent to Tatemae would be Tact. At least, that's my understanding of the concept where you're just being polite to the other person because you think your actual opinion is rude or hurtful.
Agreed. However because it is so important in Japan this leads them to be more genuinely kind and considerate. As evidenced in their lower crime rate.
i DON'T THINK YOU UNDERSTAND WHY JAPAN HAS A LOWER CRIME RATE.
“Don’t you think your friend will aprreciate your honesty?” “Uhmm, uhmm”. Ahahah, I love her, they are talking about honne and tatemae and to say “no” is stil difficult
I feel so sorry for her having to put up with this...
Oh man, this is so funny :)
Guy: Welcome back again Japan
Girl (Japan): Are you crazy? (When she said that, I started laughing {though it's scripted, but still funny}, especially from their first interview)
Then Ironically they jump in and cover the difference between Honne and Tatemae :)
Marc and eventually the 'thank you for honestly explaining the difference...'. So wait, were all those examples about honne and tatemae bring... Tatemae?
Thank You For The Share ! 😁
Haha, I love them both! So entertaining :)
you came back!! yay!!
She said Honne eventually.
..She is so cute!
It's been so long and we never found out what girl Japan was talking about, you can't just stop a series on a cliffhanger like that!
Saying and thinking different things is a universal female characteristic
The ending made me LOL XD!!
Pls continue this series. It's pretty funny.
Japan is so cute! XD
Ohh Japan, why are you so pretty!
The country or this girl? XD
***** this girl is not a nation ;-)
I didn't know Japan was so beautiful!
Lol that was a duck move at the end
I hope you continue these! :-> Awesome! :D
*still waiting for new episode*
*still waiting for a new episode*
I just spent four minutes staring at a tiny picture of Steve Buscemi...
lol, how cute the gril is!!
Perhaps that is one of the reasons why there are fewer Christians in Japan than in South Korea, the Philippines, and Singapore despite the efforts that missionaries have made in Japan for hundreds of years. In Japan I imagine that the Christians there must have a more difficult life than normal because of the concept of honne and tatemae. In the Bible we see that God and the Lord Jesus used the honne concept 100%. There is no example of Them using tatemae on anyone. They never hid their ways of thinking nor their intentions regardless of whether someone was offended or confused or not. Jesus was crucified because His way of thinking was 100% honne. Biblical teachings promote honne and not tatemae. Also related to this, it promotes individualism more than collectivism or the group. The Japanese see these biblical philosophies very foreign to their way of thinking.
I like how she speaks englisheru.
Japan is BAE
😂😂😂
Yes she is 😂😂😂
Honne Tatemae is a good thing. Being rude and saying the cookies are bad is the wrong thing to do as it is inconsiderate of the other persons feelings. In order to be a kinder person one must always consider the feelings of others before themselves. This is the core believe of Japan as a nation and what makes them so beautiful and yes there are many many times where they are telling the truth both good and bad. However because their culture is about always considering the needs of others before themselves they are almost always good because it is so deeply ingrained into the culture and it molds them to be kinder and gentler human beings.
Wrong.The very concept of Tatemae is outdated and incompatible with the modern world. A remnant of bygone medieval Japan. A cruel truth is always better than a genuine lie
The usual answer to "do I look fat in this?", is an example of tatemae. (mine'd be pure honne. If you don't want my opinion, don't ask for it)
I don't know that I have a lot of tatemae, if any.
I may not always show all everything of myself, all the sides of my personality (not that you can, really) and I may keep some things unsaid or even, though rarely, secret
...but I don't lie. Ever.
I might lie if, say, I'm at gunpoint or something ...but the things that are usually referred to as "white lies", are not white at all, IMO.
If you give me a present I don't like, I'll truthfully say I appreciate it, as I appreciate the gesture and the thought/intent behind it. I won't say I like it, though.
Depending on the situation/person, I might also mention that I actually don't like it.
whos the girl any infos??
Let's all be honest here, if she wasn't that cute, these really wouldn't be that popular, and there wouldn't be so many of them here... not that it's a bad thing heheh
i totally love girl japan. i want to see more ^^,
pause at 3:38 - this girl is not nation...she's another world!
She's not nation, but seems awesome
"Who are we talking about????" ROOOFLLLL
😂😂😂😂
Yesssss!!! 😂😂😂
Winn!!!
japan 100% thinks you're crazy
"who are we talking about?" LOL! please make more videos.
I love you guys
Come on any country has this
Gosh! She's so cute! does she has facebook or twitter account?
Whoaa, shes so beautiful
Who is she?
We need moooooooooooooooore intervieeeeeeeeeeeeeeews with Japan !!!!!! :)
oh my god, japan is adorable and cute
That friend will never make better cookies, he/she will be doomed to a life of unkwillingly tormenting other people with awful cookies. Saying what you really think it's not vomiting your opinion without any empathy, there are many ways other than avoiding conflict at all costs.
Can I marry Japan? she's so cute.
Was Steve Buscemi there before...? I feel haunted
im in love with her
The last part is cute. hahaha
1:20 - 1:35 Become Jean Grey.
Does this cutie have an Instagram account?
I feel like she was forced to do this interview because of tatamae and her honne is she is really uncomfortable. AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
Tatemae is a big reason I could not integrate into japan.
Kosaku ko When thinking about it, honne and tatemae exists and practiced in all places on Earth. So, one is screwed unless you happen to be a mind-reader (satori).
The girl looks like Suzy
Choose a better person who can answer more precisely-
It was going so well, until the odd ending.
Why is she so cute?
I only came for the real life waifu.
Who can tell me the girl's name please? She is cute!
In the ending credits it said juri on the first video of the series so yeah that's about all it said though so I don't know
I also am at a loss..😕😐
Also this :/ hehe
This is one of the things I REALLY dislike about Japan.
But... I love Japan. *ドキドキ*
***** If that's the case, then you dislike the whole world because everyone does practice honne and tatemae at some point.
Mysterious Future At some point, less than Japanese people. I didn't say people don't. But it's extreme in Japan and I didn't say I dislike Japan for it, I said it's a think I really dislike about Japan.
Somehow, I hate Tatemae.
Because when I made a delicious cake for a girl, if she did want to eat or that cake is マズイ. She does need to say “it is delicious”. She can say “it is fine”, “it is OK”.
If she said “delicious “. I would think so and next time, next time and forever, I will make that cake again. But that girl will avoid to meet me. At that time, I don’t know what happened, what I did wrong. Maybe, I did “Sex Harassment”, that’s why she doesn’t want to meet me again. While the true reason is my まずい cake.
This is a simple example. The hurt example is: You love a girl, and she told you, you are the best person in this world, (but she never want to talk and see you again).
That is Tatemae of Japan culture.
yEP THAT SOUNDS ABOUT JAPAN
The stupid look on his face is soo funny
That look he gives her when he says
"Who are we talking about"??
Genuine confusion 😂😂😂
Or when she says "I'm not nation"
His face is truly intrigued 😂😂😂
Win!!
日本が大好き!(笑)
Japan, what is it? A girl???
Or truly a nation😏🤔😜☺️????😳
Well, its never good to hurt someones feelings TAKE NOTES CHINA.
I want a Japanese girlfriend ;_;
Elin Male Your name is Elin... But you're male? What?
this girl is not nation