As a straight man, don't be afraid to report any sexual assault or rape! I don't care it's same or opposite sex! Taking advantage of someone is a cowardly act!🙄
You act like women get to Sexual Assault men and rape them thats rare. Nobody respects this country or thier women except for disrespectful for companies that never hired everyone or women that were evil as well and males that just as criminal as thier spouse. Coward are American women, Companies and culture if you choose to respect this gender and country nationality instead of go agianst this country enterely. Even in the NBA most men never dated or married thier college degreed women, they married women that never even earned a degree
its funny you dont see this on conservatives platforms because the man is straight but if it was a gay man commiting these crimes, they would be talking about this for months on their conservative platforms. this dont fit their hateful agenda @officertatum and @therightwingedangel
@@Verdeishern An Eye for an Eye makes the whole world blind said by the Flash of DC Comics. Who was played by Ezra Miller in Live action who took his time to be a KKK Member who hated black people in the era of lynching my race and has been in multiple projects working with black people. Make sure you know its that Hypocrite of a term
A lot of women in the UK here who would call themselves feminists would say otherwise. I’ve been shocked at how some women don’t even believe male rape can happen
@@supreme_vida I think it is - or they’re so scared of every man being a potential rapist somehow they have to deny reality. I don’t know. I’d like to see both male & female & even trans sex crimes all dealt with the exact same.
@@C.Church who is lying about women? Cos I’m not. Watching the British news here & not long ago they had a panel on one debate show where 2 of the 3 women said male abuse is nonsense & they should fight back (blaming weakness on this idea men are no longer masculine anymore which is ludicrous). I’ve even heard women myself say that men who abuse other men - if they’re gay they might enjoy it. It’s disgusting - because that’s the same thing as saying a woman in a short skirt is raped she asked for it.
Yo, these guys that reported it are really courageous. i'd get rapped and robbed and only mr. rapist, me, and the lord would ever know of the incident.
When a man gets raped he should not be ashamed. He needs to report it immediately. Don't let anything or anyone get in your way. You are a victim and deserve justice.
It’s normal to feel ashamed/embarassed by a traumatic event. But i think men would be angrier rather than fearful/ashamed when compared to women in these cases.
@@themed7434, why do you say that? Men who are sexually assaulted feel embarrassment/shame as much as their female counterparts. If anything they feel immense fear regarding their sexual orientation and that their assault will be downplayed and ignored.
@@springfilter im sure thats the case in men or women but i mean anger plays a bigger role in men, men are more violent hence i assume will resort to revenge more often than women?
Let’s be honest. Things like this were happening before dating apps, however these apps have made it easier for predators to lure potential victims. I feel horrendous for the victims.
I had a similar situation happen to me a year ago. I wasn’t going to report the rape but I’m glad I did because he had raped women too but they couldn’t match the DNA to anyone. I had to do a rape kit at the hospital I worked at and it was embarrassing as a man but they caught him days later and took his DNA. Not only did it match my case but several other unsolved cases. Most scariest day of my life. I thank God for his mercy. Man or woman please report these cases. I know it’s scary but it gives you justice when they are caught. DO NOT SHOWER AFTERWARDS this can wash away the DNA that they leave.
The way that sexual assault destroys your psyche is insane. I was SA'ed when I was seven years old and it took me 26 years to tell anyone about it. I literally blocked it out of my head and coming home from a third shift at the hospital that I used to work triggered it.
Same thing happened to me. Three years ago, I came back from a horrible night shift in a cardiovascular icu. Went to bed, couldn't sleep. Then at 3am i suddenly remembered, i was SA'd by my father on Christmas eve when I was 12. I was paralyzed. Took me a whole month to pick myself up together. Still working on my mental health to this day. Everything suddenly clicked: why i act the way i act, my depression and anxiety, my reactions to trauma, my sexual well- being, everything. I haven't spoken to my parents since then.
@@sheenasimon1399 aww, I'm sorry. I hope you were Okay after that. ❤️ Online dating can be such a horror show. At least meeting in real life you can feel them out first 😬
As a gay man myself, I’ve had minor scares and similar situations once or twice on my life, but NOTHING to the extend of this terribleness. My heart goes out to these victims. It’s sad and heartbreaking. I’m just so glad that unspeakable monster was caught. The more people they would have terrorized and victimized if he didn’t…I hate to think of it
And I hate when you say that! No it’s clear it’s WORSE now the, the Bible and Quran even say as the world comes to and end more evil will happen, and natural disasters. We clearly see this. Most prophecies have already come to pass
@@WH012Vids YES AND PEOPLE TRY TO MAKE A REALITY AND SOME OF THESE SITUATIONS BELIVE IT OR NOT CAN BE STEMMED FROM THE BIBLE DUE TO THE SICK DERANGED PERSON DOING IT
I'm a man, so I never thought it could happen to me, until it did. He was just too big and too strong for my 5' 9," 145 lb. body. I am not ashamed to disclose this, either; people need to know that we're all at risk of sexual assault, regardless of gender.
Well like Dave chappelle said what grown man is going to the cops and saying he got raped by another man. Don’t worry 😉 this guy in prison we’ll be turned out and his cheeks and mouth will get plenty of use. Prisoners love rapist and child chomos.
As a 29 year old, I remember being on grindr at 16 because i felt like i needed to find someone like me, and is very scary to think that I was at risk of this happening to me.
You used to could just go hang out at the gay bars, which were safe places for gay men to be. But now they're taken over by straight people, trans and desperate Women, so now gay guys have nowhere..
Glad the victim spoke up. Whenever someone asks me why I don’t use apps (I’m in my 20s and it’s the norm I guess), I have no shortage of stories like these to defend my choice.
In my 40s, still look at the apps, but you are not wrong sister. Total waste of time at best, you might meet some fun pen pals but it's more headache than it's worth. I'm just a rare sexuality and gender and I live in a small town, so you know, it's not like I could just go meet someone at the club which is how I used to do it as a youngster.
It can also happen by meeting someone in a grocery store, church, in person, it doesn't matter. Most people think it will never happen to them untill it does. No one is safe but we can try to be.
Why are people meeting complete strangers online and going off to secluded places with them and expecting a fairytale ending? It’s 2023 people!!! Don’t any of you watch the news?
Funny how people would be attacked for saying this if it happened to a Woman possibly even blocked or censored. If you are a man though, victim blaming is en vogue it would seem.
@@CJBhattarai which is why what was said was said. It dont matter about the gender point is dating ppl online it's real easy to run across a criminals and coocoos
When I was 19 I went out to a bar to get drinks and meet a guy I’d been talking to for months, the night went pretty well he was super nice and polite and funny and stuff I actually liked him a lot, after the bar closed he drove me home and he pulled over the car 2 blocks away from my home and he tried to kiss me and touch me but he was being too aggressive so I got scared and I told him to stop, when I said pls stop something changed on his eyes the way he was looking at me was scary almost as if he was getting turned on seeing me get scared, he kept trying to touch me and when I tried to open the door to get out he locked it and at that point I was literally petrified I thought that if I made an impulsive move or something he would r*pe or ki11 me, he was bigger than me and stronger so every time I tried to push him away he would grab my arm very strongly and pull me closer. I don’t even remember how but I opened the door and ran to my house. I remember the feeling of shame because I thought because I was a men that could never happen to me. But it almost happened and of course I learned my lesson, so yeah there are creeps out there that at first don’t look like creeps, be careful people
Something similar to your situation happened to me as well but I was 17 or 18 at the time and it was definitely scary. Never know who you're going to meet out there whether it's in a bar or dating app
I had an experience like that. We were in the middle of action and I told him to stop because it hurt and he didn’t stop. He was bigger and older than me, and he was on top and had me pinned down. I got all the strength I had and made one hard push upward and got him off of me. When you’re about to get raped (or are already being raped), you need to fight every second until you are free.
Something similar happened to me when I was 14., but this was before the dating apps.. met a guy on a group chat, The day he came to pick me up. He was obviously not a teenager or a white male as he would always tell me on the group chat. He ended up taking me to his apartment and practiced some sexual things on me that I wasn't even aware of at that time. I beg him to take me home and he did. A day later I told him to stop calling or texting because I didn't want to speak to him. He threatened me and said was going to make my life a living hell for having rejected him.. Turns out he wasn't really 18, but 24, his name wasn't Nick.. it was Miguel and was Cuban not Caucasian... He really wanted to be with me even though I was an underage kid in HS and he was 24.
as someone who has been sexually assaulted more than 1 time by a man the trauma you get from it is tough. i still get nightmares and have extreme anxiety when i’m out in public and trust issues. my heart goes out to these victims i know exactly what they are going through.
Anthony, hang in there . anxiety can trigger a bunch of other issues in the body. Sleep deprivation is terrible. i really pray it gets better for you and that you live in a safe place where you can heal at you own pace. may God bless you
In Thailand, Far-Left political party and political university (5 guys politician in Move Forward Party you can check in the news) rape and sexual assault to many fan club. The political party silent and don't do anything until opposite side people protest by speak out loud together in social media.
@Antony Hang In There!! Keep The LORD By Your Side!! Get Counseling Help!! It Helped Me Out!! Because Of A Certain Member Of My Family.. But!! I Forgave And Moved On!! I Now Feel Good 👍 About Myself!! And Feel Good 👍👍.. About Yourself!! Stay Strong And Keep Your Head Up.
Tell me again how advanced we are now. Imagine a system that protects the criminals and treats victims like criminals. Then they pretend they don't understand why people won't come forward. It's amazing they showed this guys picture. Usually they are blurred.
I had an encounter like this and the police shamed, belittled, and mocked me. It took 3 attempts to get someone who took it seriously and showed any type of empathy. It was a mortifying experience and they still didn’t even arrest him!!!! Not even a restraining order was possible! It’s ridiculous how far behind the system is and this was in Atlanta!!!!
I never went to the police, and I probably never will. I was 18 and at university. I told a friend about it, and their reaction was so careless that I don’t talk about it much anymore. I left the city and moved back to the country. I kept tabs on the person who assaulted me, and I keep track of where he is. He ended up leaving Australia and now he lives in a country where the age of consent is 14, which makes me feel very sick thinking he might be fooling around with young teens. I do okay in life, but I still feel very, very, dark about it sometimes, and still lose sleep over it. I hope you are doing well in life, and are healing from it. I know all too well that sometimes we’ve got no choice but heal alone.
I'm old school, If I can't meet someone organically, then there is no way I will subject myself to dating online. Unfortunately, this is how people meet these days. I much rather stay single.
I’m an 19 year gay guy and scary situations like this happen to me very often. However, the crazy thing is, the men that do these things aren’t or wouldn’t even say they are gay men. They would say they are bi (cause I’ve had multiple bi men sexually assault me) or they would say they are straight men (they are mostly likely DL but most INSIST they are straight and still try and come on to you sexually and its very overbearing and intimidating). From my observation of my own personal experiences and its just my opinion. I think a lot of men are just sexual deviants or perverts and their actions have nothing to do with a given sexuality, but just their own sexual fantasies and desires and most of the time for some these sexual deviants its about power and humiliation and not connection or sexual attraction at all. As for what can be done about this all I can say is have very high standards on who you allow yourself around no in the closet or dl men because they have shown to be quite spontaneous and unpredictable in behavior and just stay as safe as possible. I am so freaking angry this happened to those poor men and I relate so much it hurts.
Situations like these happen to me very often? I say this in the most loving way: CHANGE YOUR MO! You’re the common denominator here! Not those deviants! Get therapy. It helps a great deal. When we’re young, self esteem issues can put us in life threatening situations, and it’s not worth it 😣 I wish you the best!
Most victims have repeat assaults, not because the victims are the problems, but because in the victims mind there is still hope that bad won’t happen in hopes of finding a equal. In order to date you have to be vulnerable, don’t listen to that guy about “YOUR MO” has nothing to do with other people causing you harm. You don’t know what plans someone has in their mind when they first meet you, you don’t know people true intention until they show you, carry mace, tase gun, share your location and only except dates that are top shelf, sending love ✨
@@Jeremy-vo3ul Don’t get it twisted. Taking ownership of your life and the direction it’s going in ISN’T victim blaming. You’re solely responsible for your life. Not your attackers. When you’re being victimized over and over and over, the way this guy is, you MUST take a long, hard look at how it is that you put yourself in those situations so many times! If you don’t believe there is such thing as self destructing behavior patterns, then you need to get yourself an education, cupcake
The key piece is that he was robbing people. The suspect is very attractive so he could have had a lot of consensual meet-ups if that's all he wanted....
I highly doubt he had a consensual relationship with anyone. Mah doode just can't stop effing up it seems. He's accumulating quite the criminal rap sheet in the MD courts and it also says he has domestic violins! 🫢
I live in India. I was sexually abused since I was a child by my cousin. I was so small, i dont even remember the time from when it was happening. It stopped when i developed my own conscience and i stormed out of the room at around 11 years of age. He understood that. I suffered from depression and trauma later. But i am recovering thanks to my Dog..who passed away lastyear.
Straight AND gay people use dating apps. Make the first few dates in very public places until you get to know the person you're dating, and let people know where you'll be so if anything goes wrong, they know to contact you (or the police).
Hard for gay men to meet other gay men outside dating apps. Its not like you can simply go to the office and hit on the guy you like because most of the time they are straight and if they happened to be gay by any sort of miracle, they might not be into you or it might not be a match.
I'm glad that he has been caught and if you are too ashamed or embarrassed to report your encounter with this man, please understand that reporting your experience with him is probably saving someone else.
Speaking as a gay man who lives in a very big city, this is one issue far too many people are afraid, or embarrassed to talk about it, but we have to, because it happens a lot more than you could imagine. I have a friend who works on the Toronto police force. He tells me that men being raped, and/or assaulted is not that uncommon, particularly through these dating apps. Most of them are too ashamed and embarrassed to come forward and tell the police, even though Toronto is a very gay friendly city, that stigma still remains, and we are shaming people into silence. I’ve been very lucky in my life, having met my husband, when I was only 20, before the Internet existed, I met them by a newspaper advertisement in the personal section, remember those? It was love at first sight, and we have been together for 34 years now, but not everybody is so lucky. Even back, then, through personal advertisements in the newspaper, men have been attacked and raped more times than I care to remember. No hesitation, I can honestly say that almost every friend who is gay that I know of, has had either violence or rape happened to them sometime over the past few decades, while using advertisements, either in the old fashion newspapers, or the more modern dating apps. take heed of the advice they give you in this video, if you’re going to meet somebody you haven’t met before, make sure at least one person knows where you’re going, allow them to track your movements using the find friends app, it’s available for Apple, and android, allowing whomever you designate to follow your movements. Option number two, you can use a tracking device like an apple AirTag. I keep both with me at all times, because you never know what could happen. I’ll share with you one thing that’s very painful for me to share. About five years ago, one of my dearest and oldest friends, who had been single for a few years, decided to start dating, used tinder, and another app called grinder, I don’t know which app it was, but he met a man, didn’t tell anybody that he had arrange a date, and foolishly agreed to meet this complete stranger in his own house. That was the last time anybody saw him alive. He went to the guys house, and from what the police have told us, he was pulled inside, immediately beaten over the head with a crowbar, knocked unconscious. He was then tied up, stripped, naked, raped, and then beaten to death. Because it happened in a private residence the police don’t have all the details, and they never will. Forensics can only tell them so much. Blunt force trauma was the cause of death, but I just keep playing it over and over in my head what he must’ve went through in those last few moments. Even if you are homophobic, we are still human beings, nobody deserves this, and it happens to a lot of women as well. The media doesn’t cover it as much as they should, but most times, especially if it’s a gay man, families, do not want the media to know. I was there with his parents when they found out, you do not want to ever hear a mother scream the way I heard her scream that day, it’s the most heart wrenching, horrific sound you could ever imagine. they nor I will ever be the same, luckily, they caught his murderer, and he was sentenced to life in prison with no parole, but that will never bring back my dear friend. So please be careful, it might seem like a lot of fun, but the Internet is full of danger, people pretending to be somebody they’re not, if you decide to use an app, that’s fine, millions of people do, just make sure that you meet in a public place for the first time, make sure at least one person knows exactly where you are, and at what time, and make sure somebody has the ability to track your location. 99% of the time nothing happens, but that 1% is well worth the extra effort of making sure someone is watching out for you, I wouldn’t wish what I went through with my friend and his family on anybody, it completely devastated me, and his poor family will never recover. Please don’t ever let it happen again, just imagine if it was somebody that you loved, how would you feel? Thank you for listening, and please be careful and stay safe, thank you.
Gay men are the least likely to rape people. Rape has nothing to do with sexual orientation but it has to do with exerting power and dominance over a victim. In fact most male rapists are heterosexual men.
This happened to me a few years ago on Grindr. I didn’t report it because I felt like an idiot for putting myself in that situation and truth be told, I didn’t even allow myself to call it “rаpе” until a few years later when I saw the guy who did it on the local news for doing the same thing to someone else. Be careful out there.
It is beyond unfortunate that these man were victimized like they were and I am so glad that they reported it. A lot of times, men don't report out of guilt or embarrassment.
@No, I'm not a nice person well duh notta big deal when they make out as If they do care bout the dykes u gotta wonder do they wear make up beside do this 🤰
“Hooking up” with strangers, whether through an app, at a club, bar, party or anywhere is simply dangerous. The fact this has become so normal is a huge concern. Why would anybody take such a life threatening risk? We’ve all heard about drink spiking, rapes, kidnapping and murders. It’s like a grown person experimenting with drugs knowing full well the dangers and risks involved.
It's part of gay culture from having to hide for so long, and honestly it's safer now than ever for LGBTQ+ communities. Either he's closeted, knows how easily the circumstances are to abuse, or both. Looking at his build, I can imagine he also went for DL/discreet guys who he'd assume wouldn't report so easily. People's ignorance has always created a cesspool of abuse and then they love to victim blame by accusing the "lifestyle/sin".
I was just assaulted by this grown ass man in Denver and if I didn't have my knife he probably would have hurt me really bad but I was able to get to my knife and fight back I stabbed him pretty good and he stopped attacking me so I just walked away but the point is if I didn't have my weapon on my I could have easily become another victim or sadly another statistic
If someone asks you if you have AIDS your answer should be yes as well as herpes and Hepatitis. Always assume they are NOT asking because they care about your health
Sexual abuse is horrible for anyone! It's a violation of trust, taking advantage of the victims at their most vulnerable state. It's also a stripping away of your bodily autonomy and it's most of all, a wound on the deepest psychological level. I'm happy though that they are alive and that I hope they get the healing they need!! Peace ✌ to all!!
Violation of trust? Who in their right mind would trust a stranger? Your comment makes no sense. It's a violation that you were forcibly attacked could not protect yourself therefore you were violated. It's a power trip it has nothing to do with trust. Obviously you've never been raped
@@patriciapadilla2022 OK because clearly someone wants to have beef this early in the morning. Let's do this: First off- When someone goes on a dating app which the guy in this video clearly did, that individual is putting themselves out there with a stranger (in most cases) hoping that it would lead to a connection, a good time or whatever the individual maybe seeking. Nobody is hoping to get assaulted or raped or any of that shit and yet that was what happened. Second Sexual assault is just as much a psychological attack as well as physical. It's not just forcing someone to do something against their will but it involves so much more than that. Why do think people rarely report these things? Girl I'm not going to engage in verbal combat because yeah that's clearly what you're seeking 😒 🙄 I got way better shit to do with my precious time, but friendly piece of advice yeah; "if you have nothing valuable to contribute in this space, don't.... as that's an affront to everyone here." Furthermore you know nothing about me, so don't assume or make assumptions. This conversation thread is about safely venting our feelings on a matter that was unfortunate to befall the man.
Imagine this happens to you when you're preschool age, and your family can do nothing more than support the victimizer, I renounced all ties with my family and moved abroad.
That's why when he goes to prison then all the inmates need to be informed that he's gay and they'll know what to do with him. I'll give you a hint: Well paid female officers.
I met this guy in Chicago who told me a story of a man who offered to give him a ride and the guy tied him up in a van parked in the alley and he tore off his finger nails one by one. This guy could not even allow you to touch his hands. This guy was so traumatized by this it broke my heart. You cannot trust people.
WHAT!!!? I wish y’all would leave these dating alone. Apparently, some of not caring about what kind of people are on these sites knowing you know what’s out here. Think about your life for Christ sakes.
Dating used to mean having dinner and seeing a movie. Now it's hooking up with random strangers as often as you can. They aren't 'dating apps', they're promiscuous sex apps.
Back in the 90s, my mother was coming home whe it was dark and some guy pushed her in to a doorway and was about to rape her until she shouted at him that she had Aids. She never really but in her quick thinking, it saved her.
Makes you wonder…. If he said yes , will he have shot him to put him out of his misery!?!?! The situation honestly left him with no true option! Jus an evil person with an evil agenda! Glad they caught him! (Male or female) 🤮🤢
Just the tip of the iceberg I think,so many men will feel too ashamed to report such crimes because of the stigma and lack of empathy/sympathy from police.
oh my goodness that breaks my heart. this world is soooo scary. my prayers go out to the victims and their families. this is exactly why i dont meet people online anymore. people are scary anymore and this world is a mess right now
I have heard so many horror stories from my friends about being assaulted/molested/harassed and many of these creeps walk free/they never press charges because of how our “justice” system works. f&cked up hope the victims get help :(
Well put yourself in the situation of the judges though, it's extremely hard to judge of things that are subjective and very hard to prove. You can't just expect the judges to just sentence someone for rape when there is no evidence?
It’s called malignant narcissist with psychopathic tendencies !!! Male or female that has attractive physical features went through severe trauma as a child and they suppress there inner being (empathy, emotions, heart) as a defense mechanism in order to go num to survive the trauma!! After a long period of time staying that way they transform into a narcissist which is simply a person that has lost the ability to empathize or have empathy or feelings !! They no longer have the ability to love another soul not even themselves correctly because they’ve cut off all emotions for so long, the term if you don’t use it you lose it gives the best understanding of this !!! Just look up narcissism and it will back up my comment !!
So sad. Please come forward. Even if you haven’t came out yet you don’t deserve to be violated. There are ppl who will love you and accept you for you. We are rooting for you, even strangers are having hope for you. He went after gay victims because he knew some would be scared to say anything. Don’t give into this.
Please, only state the facts or send me to those facts that this news video isn't playing. What you're saying may be true, but only when those facts come out or are referenced.
@@jaehparrk and that’s literally 1 man out of 7 billion people. I hate when people act stupid lol the reality is online dating is more dangerous than organic period.
@@SMgail_ women are killed, raped, and abused by dudes they meet in person all the time though. Its not just apps. Its also known that rapists have multiple victims before they're caught.
This happened to me when I was 15 years old, I got a job in West Hollywood and met a girl on tinder, and did not want to sleep with her, she invited men over and they raped me later. Insanity
The attractive ones usually do. It boggles the brain because being that they are attractive they could easily land a mate. It's a lot deeper than that a lot of them just plain have issues
Being gay has always been dangerous i remember I met up a guy online he straight up said " your lucky you look like your picture because I would have kicked your ass and more". We still hooked up but by that point I felt like I had to do it for my safety
I have a friend who met somebody on Grindar a few years ago, ( before I knew him ) he agreed to meet this person in a local park one evening. He ended up getting stabbed twice and robbed, he said it was a stupid way to learn a lession.
My former assistant boss. For over a year tried to get me to sign up for Tinder. Kept telling other coworkers I need a man for my child( they would tell me what she says). One time at a work get together she was like. Let me take your picture and use it for tinder. No matter how much times I told her No, stop etc. She is always in everyone’s private business asking people things a boss should not be asking a coworker. She talks bad about everyone and what she doesn’t know. Not only does no one not like her, majority tells each others what she says about them. Little did she know. I was already talking to someone. Who I did not meet on tinder. Told no one nothing and kept him far from place. Had another coworker asked me about my child’s father one day. The way I watched the woman. She backed up. That coworker is buddy buddy with the assistant boss. When you don’t engage in what they are asking. They say you are difficult to work with. So happy I left that toxic environment.
Horrible. Just horrible. What the first man had to deal with was awful but what the other guy had to suffer all night - being subjected to criminal sexual assault the whole night! I know of an incident in Boston, it was a murder disguised as a BDSM same-sex encounter. A certain 40 y.o. man agreed to meet this creep at a certain crag in a park in Dorchester. The crag overhanged the ground below. The creep stripped the victim naked, hogtied him, tied the other end of the rope in a noose around his neck, and threw him over. The rope snagged on the crag, suspending the poor guy in mid-air above the ground below. No matter what he tried to do, whether struggle to get free, untie the knots, or just rest, the rope around his neck got tighter and tighter. His last minutes alive must have been terrifying. 😨😰😱😭😭😭
you have to be monumentally, and i mean medical diagnosis level, stupid to say that. i’m gonna apologize in advance for even engaging with you because no one without fetal alcohol syndrome wouldve said that.
And he could possibly be a person of interest in missing young men or men deleted by meeting him, check all #DNA, #CODIS, #coldcases, #forensics #CheckYourPeople #America #justice
I made my sister in law download a tracking app because she dates online and it scares me. Shes got a 3 yr old and I just can't let anything happen to her. But I also can't tell her what to do so the least I can do is track her while she's on a date. And she always immediately sends me a good description of them just in case.
What u should tell her to do is say to the man /woman I don’t know what she like oh let’s have a selfi and then send it to u. Or just take pic of the person they won’t know unless flash is on 😂😂
This is why I never download dating apps. Also glad the victim reported this into the news. My regards to the Victim no one deserves to go through this.
I cannot trust any guy who likes to take advantage of me because that's not love and I don't appreciate that. I need to get myself out of that but one of those guys are acting like they have control over me 😠
Something like this happened to me, unfortunately for the dude I do boxing Brazilian jujitsu, Krav Maga, Muay Thai and boxing for years, I started doing this because I live in a world where I’m black and I’m gay when you’re vulnerable to hate you need to learn how to protect yourself. This goes for women as well. Saying all of that we don’t have guns here and taking a knife off someone is different than having a gun pointed at u, why Americans feel guns are necessary after all the bad things that have happened regarding guns is mind boggling
Stay in the Bible bro. Homosexuality is an abomonation to The Most High. Fight them demons. Its not too late, but time is running short. We are the True Children of Israel 💯
@@jeromecastro3051 Jerome be safe in the knowledge that all sin is sin in the eyes of God, so what I suggest is, I should concentrate on my relationship with God and you do the same, because trust and believe we are all filthy in the eyes of God. And don’t sin your soul with the sin of judgment, because as you know, only the Lord can do that.
@@jeromecastro3051 "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? Don’t make me pull out a list of the 10 Commandments, so we can ask you how many of them you break I’m at Seventh-day Adventists, I even keep the actual sabbath do you?
@@ThePsalmzion Agreed ! I have a serious question , why do homosexuals quote the Bible when it denounces their sexuality and classified it as sin? Even if you follow the Bible and god would you not end up in hell regardless?
Y’all I used to talk to him! I lived in Alexandria. We met on tinder, he told me his name was Joe as well. When we started talking, I felt like he wasn’t right for me. So I stopped talking to him. A few months later, he hit me up outta the blue. This was December. We ended up meeting, he took me out for food, came back to my place, and we chilled. We had a good time. He ended up telling me his real name, so idk what’s going on. I’m in shock!! Like I literally can’t believe this! What are the odds of me even coming across this on TH-cam! He was so sweet to me, paid for everything, asked if I wanted more. Like I’m in shock!!
I’m so glad that this was brought to everyone’s attention. Many don’t realize how often this happens in the gay community, simply because men don’t report it out of fear or shame. This is breaking the stigma and addressing the sexual assault that happens VERY often in the gay male community.
This is really sad… I just found out that a 12 year old is raping his 10 year old brother and 4 yr old sister…. 😢😢 the mother just got her children from the grandmother and is scared confused and do not know what to do…. I believe the first thing that should be done is take the children to the doctor for an exam.. SMDH…. I can’t help but wonder who raped the 12 year old….
Most likely there are more victims out there, maybe they are feeling horrible and ashamed. Please come forward help the prosecutors so this monster get the maximum sentence.
One of the issues are that people tend to feel less at risk with people that are considered more attractive so they let their guard down more than they would with someone who is average. some tips are out there on apps but always get more than one picture, try to get Instagram , facebook , or another profile to verify they are legit. Also don't go to places that are secluded. If you are going to hookup don't try for the first night or meeting, talk over the course of multiple days and have someone be able to track your phone. Also have another person send a text message to check up. IF IN TROUBLE send" I am okay and I'm probably going to spend the night" If you are okay have a code word like banana or pineapple" It can be scary out here but I get that this won't prevent or be every situation but protect yourself like it was your child going to a new friends house
That's why I keep telling people that prison is not a real punishment, especially for those who are into male on male or female on female action. Biblical punishments for crimes are true punishments, but because our society disregards the Bible, we will continue to see these type of evil, despicable crimes.
@@blacknmild you clearly don't even know the first thing about being gay. I'm gay and I can tell you I'm not a slut for every man I see. I have standards, just like you. I wouldn't wanna get taken by a man I don't even know. That's weird.
This is defiling for the victim who was not only sexually assaulted but also robbed. He is due for ongoing therapy of some sort. Not sure what to make of this other than, cruel. ☹️
I worked with a man who had been raped. He said same emotions as the girls I worked with. BUT in his case he felt it difficult to talk about it. We must do better with boys. Its ok to show emotion & its ok to cry. I never forgot that man & to date hope I made a difference in therapy. 😢
As someone who was sexually assaulted by another man I wasn’t brave enough to speak out or up out of embarrassment. These are some brave courageous men.
Absolutely horrific! This has been happening for a long time, before these dating apps. It use to be Craigslist, or other ads where gay men would advertise for massage, etc. There have been numerous cases where gay men were found murdered. One case that I can think of was when I lived in Seattle was a young man who met up with someone and he became missing and he was found dead in the trunk of his car. Many of these situations are targeted attacks/hate crimes with straight men pretending to be gay. One reason why they were targets was a lot of gay men or closeted men would not tell anyone why they were meeting up with someone, one being shame, especially if it was for sex. You cannot trust anyone. You have to be very careful with meeting anyone. You could even become a target if you’re selling something to someone, which is why the transaction should be done in public if possible. Prostitutes have been targets as well; men and women, or anyone meeting someone regardless. I think there was even a case where a man was intentionally infecting other men with HIV. It’s not worth it. It breaks my heart that a lot of these people are too trusting. You can’t be. 💔
Sorry, but I know from experience, it’s often straight men posing as gay men. Gay men are often more vulnerable than women, less likely to report the crime. Many fear exposure as well.
@@rehanrassi9410 the commenter didn’t actually say straight men “always” posing as gay men. He said straight men “often” posing as gay men. There are plenty of cases where they don’t end up raping them but doing other awful things to them such as robbing, hurting, or killing them. Also, sometimes straight men actually do rape other men and it may have nothing to do with sexual attraction to the other man. In some cases it’s a dominance thing; a way to make a gay/bi guy feel less than. Think of the stories that are told from prisons. It’s the same thing when a woman gets raped, when an elderly person gets raped, or when a child gets raped. A sane person would think how could someone do something like that. At times it’s just about power and control. I know it’s hard to think of how a straight man could get an erection for another man let alone have an orgasm, but sometimes they get off on being dominant, lack of sex from women, etc.
As a straight man, don't be afraid to report any sexual assault or rape! I don't care it's same or opposite sex! Taking advantage of someone is a cowardly act!🙄
Why will a straight man using dating APP to meet another man?
You act like women get to Sexual Assault men and rape them thats rare. Nobody respects this country or thier women except for disrespectful for companies that never hired everyone or women that were evil as well and males that just as criminal as thier spouse. Coward are American women, Companies and culture if you choose to respect this gender and country nationality instead of go agianst this country enterely. Even in the NBA most men never dated or married thier college degreed women, they married women that never even earned a degree
its funny you dont see this on conservatives platforms because the man is straight but if it was a gay man commiting these crimes, they would be talking about this for months on their conservative platforms. this dont fit their hateful agenda @officertatum and @therightwingedangel
I wouldn't snitch but it'd take a 1 on 1 approach like a man eye for an eye
@@Verdeishern An Eye for an Eye makes the whole world blind said by the Flash of DC Comics. Who was played by Ezra Miller in Live action who took his time to be a KKK Member who hated black people in the era of lynching my race and has been in multiple projects working with black people. Make sure you know its that Hypocrite of a term
Male on male rape is way more common than most know. Thank you for reporting this. I hope anyone who goes through any sexual assault seeks counseling.
A lot of women in the UK here who would call themselves feminists would say otherwise. I’ve been shocked at how some women don’t even believe male rape can happen
@@DannyBoy89 because they hate men
@@supreme_vida I think it is - or they’re so scared of every man being a potential rapist somehow they have to deny reality. I don’t know. I’d like to see both male & female & even trans sex crimes all dealt with the exact same.
@@DannyBoy89 I seriously doubt that. People exaggerate and lie about women to make them appear always wrong... a LOT. It's vastly common.
@@C.Church who is lying about women? Cos I’m not. Watching the British news here & not long ago they had a panel on one debate show where 2 of the 3 women said male abuse is nonsense & they should fight back (blaming weakness on this idea men are no longer masculine anymore which is ludicrous). I’ve even heard women myself say that men who abuse other men - if they’re gay they might enjoy it. It’s disgusting - because that’s the same thing as saying a woman in a short skirt is raped she asked for it.
I am very proud of these men for reporting these crimes!
A male would’ve never typed this.. SMH
Please enlighten me on your outrage. Men often do not report sex crimes. Too bad you disagree, but I assure you that I know from where I speak.
Right and not waiting 30 years
Yo, these guys that reported it are really courageous. i'd get rapped and robbed and only mr. rapist, me, and the lord would ever know of the incident.
Quite now did he ever get his things back cuz last fool burrowed my cellphone
When a man gets raped he should not be ashamed. He needs to report it immediately. Don't let anything or anyone get in your way. You are a victim and deserve justice.
It’s normal to feel ashamed/embarassed by a traumatic event. But i think men would be angrier rather than fearful/ashamed when compared to women in these cases.
@@themed7434, why do you say that? Men who are sexually assaulted feel embarrassment/shame as much as their female counterparts. If anything they feel immense fear regarding their sexual orientation and that their assault will be downplayed and ignored.
“Come try that on me, I bet you won’t….. no, I mean really try please, on me .”
- The Diddler
@@springfilter im sure thats the case in men or women but i mean anger plays a bigger role in men, men are more violent hence i assume will resort to revenge more often than women?
tee hee
Let’s be honest. Things like this were happening before dating apps, however these apps have made it easier for predators to lure potential victims. I feel horrendous for the victims.
Exactly, the apps have made it easier for predators.
PEOPLE HAD SENSE THEN SO NOT REALLY.
You and Izaak are so RIGHT.
Jeffery Dahmer
@@travishardy1761 THANK YOU!!! How do you pick up a complete stranger in 2023?
I had a similar situation happen to me a year ago. I wasn’t going to report the rape but I’m glad I did because he had raped women too but they couldn’t match the DNA to anyone. I had to do a rape kit at the hospital I worked at and it was embarrassing as a man but they caught him days later and took his DNA. Not only did it match my case but several other unsolved cases. Most scariest day of my life. I thank God for his mercy. Man or woman please report these cases. I know it’s scary but it gives you justice when they are caught. DO NOT SHOWER AFTERWARDS this can wash away the DNA that they leave.
Because it's just another day of Tampons and pap smears for women to do a kit?
Am so sorry you went through this I hope you're doing well....and your courage was able to help other victims God bless you 🙏🏼
@@JB-sg1vy
God bless you and help you through all that.
You are truly a hero. Thank you for your courage and I’m so glad you were able to get justice.
Those men who spoke on this are strong for telling their story. It's very hard telling the world you have been vulnerable and violated.
Waouh !
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But the guy was gay so I fon't get it
get in line pal
@@EdmundSookermanyit was still rape tf?
The way that sexual assault destroys your psyche is insane. I was SA'ed when I was seven years old and it took me 26 years to tell anyone about it. I literally blocked it out of my head and coming home from a third shift at the hospital that I used to work triggered it.
Dats true
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it easy to be a heartless but it hard to be like the lamb of god
Same thing happened to me. Three years ago, I came back from a horrible night shift in a cardiovascular icu. Went to bed, couldn't sleep. Then at 3am i suddenly remembered, i was SA'd by my father on Christmas eve when I was 12. I was paralyzed. Took me a whole month to pick myself up together. Still working on my mental health to this day. Everything suddenly clicked: why i act the way i act, my depression and anxiety, my reactions to trauma, my sexual well- being, everything. I haven't spoken to my parents since then.
I'm sorry that you had to live with that terrible pain and experience.
Leave these dating apps alone.
Leave males like him
HIV POSITIVE
@@davedave3236 what the fuck are you talking about?
I agree.. I rather meet ppl in Public.. I met one guy on Black planet back in the day and never again..
@@sheenasimon1399 aww, I'm sorry. I hope you were Okay after that. ❤️ Online dating can be such a horror show. At least meeting in real life you can feel them out first 😬
As a gay man myself, I’ve had minor scares and similar situations once or twice on my life, but NOTHING to the extend of this terribleness. My heart goes out to these victims. It’s sad and heartbreaking. I’m just so glad that unspeakable monster was caught. The more people they would have terrorized and victimized if he didn’t…I hate to think of it
Yup, same. I stopped using dating apps cause I had a few stalkers situations.
Too many weirdos on these types of apps.
Heartbreaking is the jealously that these 👨❤️👨👨❤️💋👨 relationships are more stable y mus they tear us apart ? (bawling)😢😭😭
Just visit a psychiatrist and stop playing a fool
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how can a man rape a man he has a willy silly.
I hate when people say it’s a scary place NOW, it’s ALWAYS been a scary place.
And I hate when you say that! No it’s clear it’s WORSE now the, the Bible and Quran even say as the world comes to and end more evil will happen, and natural disasters. We clearly see this. Most prophecies have already come to pass
@@Dideeeee Ummm… The Bible and Quran are mythology books.
@@WH012Vids YES AND PEOPLE TRY TO MAKE A REALITY AND SOME OF THESE SITUATIONS BELIVE IT OR NOT CAN BE STEMMED FROM THE BIBLE DUE TO THE SICK DERANGED PERSON DOING IT
@@WH012Vids So is democratic solutions to problems
Exactly. Like 300 yrs ago, she would be tried as a witch. Hahaha
Why would anyone do this and think they will never be caught. My heart goes out to the victims.
Compulsion and mental degeneracy. They can’t control themselves.
Because he’s a psychopath. Psychopaths don’t believe they will ever be caught. They have an inflated sense of superiority
So true... additionally men rarely ever report being raped because of the stigma.
“Come try that on me, I bet you won’t….. no, I mean really try please, on me .”
- The Diddler
I'm a man, so I never thought it could happen to me, until it did. He was just too big and too strong for my 5' 9," 145 lb. body. I am not ashamed to disclose this, either; people need to know that we're all at risk of sexual assault, regardless of gender.
always know you’re not alone and i’m truly sorry this happened to u, i hope ure recovering well❤
It’s ugly and no need to go that far
@@SarahD-uy5pf I’m here if you need to vent and someone to talk
Im so sorry you had to endure that. Praying for your healthy mental 🙏
"He was just too big and strong for my 5'9", 145 lb. body"
The whole situation is demonic af
Sam Smith be like “yaasss demonic”
Exactly. Demons are around us.
@@jonnyfendi2003 😂yup. This world is going to hell in a hand basket, as they say
Well like Dave chappelle said what grown man is going to the cops and saying he got raped by another man. Don’t worry 😉 this guy in prison we’ll be turned out and his cheeks and mouth will get plenty of use. Prisoners love rapist and child chomos.
Wyte
He didn’t want to use Grinder because he might get a bad rep.
🤣🤣😂😂
I mean is not funny what happened to him … why when is a women its taken seriously but for men no body gives a f
He probably has been on Grindr but was one of those “discreet” or “dl” guys who absolutely refuse to send any face pics.
@@Krzrrazrrokrlike you 😂
@@MOTORMOUNT606 I don’t do that sis
As a 29 year old, I remember being on grindr at 16 because i felt like i needed to find someone like me, and is very scary to think that I was at risk of this happening to me.
Same
Apps like Grindr are sex hook up apps. I don't know why people call them "dating apps."
Me 3
And I remember being 16 meeting up with mid 20 yo’s for “fun”
You used to could just go hang out at the gay bars, which were safe places for gay men to be. But now they're taken over by straight people, trans and desperate Women, so now gay guys have nowhere..
When he drove to the bank, I would've drove straight through the building. Bless his heart.
you will get killed like that. its not worth it,
LMBO!!!! I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!!
Lmao
That's right! Monique ain't giving it up that easy. Uh-Uh. 🤕
And kill others???? But I get what you mean I’d do something crazy too. We both Finna die before I let you get away with anything.
Glad the victim spoke up. Whenever someone asks me why I don’t use apps (I’m in my 20s and it’s the norm I guess), I have no shortage of stories like these to defend my choice.
I don't use dating apps either. Good for you, sister.
@@kaiser1295 stay safe 👍🏾 best to meet people while doing things you already enjoy
In my 40s, still look at the apps, but you are not wrong sister. Total waste of time at best, you might meet some fun pen pals but it's more headache than it's worth. I'm just a rare sexuality and gender and I live in a small town, so you know, it's not like I could just go meet someone at the club which is how I used to do it as a youngster.
Wanna hang out? 🥶🥶🥶🥶
It can also happen by meeting someone in a grocery store, church, in person, it doesn't matter. Most people think it will never happen to them untill it does. No one is safe but we can try to be.
As soon as he asked if I had AIDS I would’ve been like YES I got super aids
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Funny 😂 but not funny lol
Yup
"Unfortunately, I have all the AIDS, Sir"
Why are people meeting complete strangers online and going off to secluded places with them and expecting a fairytale ending? It’s 2023 people!!! Don’t any of you watch the news?
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Exactly.
That's tinder.
Funny how people would be attacked for saying this if it happened to a Woman possibly even blocked or censored. If you are a man though, victim blaming is en vogue it would seem.
You could meet a psycho at the grocery store, gym, mall, school and they still end up harming you.
I mean it's online dating. Majority of people on those apps are bad news with 2% being honest people
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bro even the women are crazy in online dating...one time my friend got his knife pulled.
Dating, even without the internet being involved, is dangerous nowadays..
@@CJBhattarai which is why what was said was said. It dont matter about the gender point is dating ppl online it's real easy to run across a criminals and coocoos
@@jaaycb3907 It’s easy to run across those kind of people regardless of the internet..
When I was 19 I went out to a bar to get drinks and meet a guy I’d been talking to for months, the night went pretty well he was super nice and polite and funny and stuff I actually liked him a lot, after the bar closed he drove me home and he pulled over the car 2 blocks away from my home and he tried to kiss me and touch me but he was being too aggressive so I got scared and I told him to stop, when I said pls stop something changed on his eyes the way he was looking at me was scary almost as if he was getting turned on seeing me get scared, he kept trying to touch me and when I tried to open the door to get out he locked it and at that point I was literally petrified I thought that if I made an impulsive move or something he would r*pe or ki11 me, he was bigger than me and stronger so every time I tried to push him away he would grab my arm very strongly and pull me closer. I don’t even remember how but I opened the door and ran to my house. I remember the feeling of shame because I thought because I was a men that could never happen to me. But it almost happened and of course I learned my lesson, so yeah there are creeps out there that at first don’t look like creeps, be careful people
Something similar to your situation happened to me as well but I was 17 or 18 at the time and it was definitely scary. Never know who you're going to meet out there whether it's in a bar or dating app
Wow that dude was going to mash up your guts good glad you made it out bro
I had an experience like that. We were in the middle of action and I told him to stop because it hurt and he didn’t stop. He was bigger and older than me, and he was on top and had me pinned down. I got all the strength I had and made one hard push upward and got him off of me. When you’re about to get raped (or are already being raped), you need to fight every second until you are free.
@kyle99 OK, edgelord
Something similar happened to me when I was 14., but this was before the dating apps.. met a guy on a group chat, The day he came to pick me up. He was obviously not a teenager or a white male as he would always tell me on the group chat. He ended up taking me to his apartment and practiced some sexual things on me that I wasn't even aware of at that time. I beg him to take me home and he did. A day later I told him to stop calling or texting because I didn't want to speak to him. He threatened me and said was going to make my life a living hell for having rejected him.. Turns out he wasn't really 18, but 24, his name wasn't Nick.. it was Miguel and was Cuban not Caucasian... He really wanted to be with me even though I was an underage kid in HS and he was 24.
as someone who has been sexually assaulted more than 1 time by a man the trauma you get from it is tough. i still get nightmares and have extreme anxiety when i’m out in public and trust issues. my heart goes out to these victims i know exactly what they are going through.
Anthony, hang in there . anxiety can trigger a bunch of other issues in the body. Sleep deprivation is terrible. i really pray it gets better for you and that you live in a safe place where you can heal at you own pace.
may God bless you
@@PHlophe thank you so much. prayers are always welcome
In Thailand, Far-Left political party and political university (5 guys politician in Move Forward Party you can check in the news) rape and sexual assault to many fan club. The political party silent and don't do anything until opposite side people protest by speak out loud together in social media.
@Antony Hang In There!! Keep The LORD By Your Side!! Get Counseling Help!! It Helped Me Out!! Because Of A Certain Member Of My Family.. But!! I Forgave And Moved On!! I Now Feel Good 👍 About Myself!! And Feel Good 👍👍.. About Yourself!! Stay Strong And Keep Your Head Up.
Sending you love ❤❤❤
This is something very horrible my condolences and heart goes out to all the victims I hope they can feel better.
Who cares they are gay
@@johndon2536 lmao
@@johndon2536😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹
@@johndon2536 obviously you do. You down low?
@@johndon2536 agreed so wut
Tell me again how advanced we are now.
Imagine a system that protects the criminals and treats victims like criminals. Then they pretend they don't understand why people won't come forward.
It's amazing they showed this guys picture.
Usually they are blurred.
The suspects photo is always shown... I don't understand what you're referring to.
@@sophine7189 YEAH, I DON'T EITHER. I'VE NEVER SEEN A BLURRED MUGSHOT OF ANYONE.🙄
Right I don’t know what they are talking about!! Like are you the guy they just showed?? Anytime you say sum shit like that you sound sus!!
@@sophine7189 maybe your just a bit slow
@@VAULT865 another co-sign of stupidity
I had an encounter like this and the police shamed, belittled, and mocked me. It took 3 attempts to get someone who took it seriously and showed any type of empathy. It was a mortifying experience and they still didn’t even arrest him!!!! Not even a restraining order was possible! It’s ridiculous how far behind the system is and this was in Atlanta!!!!
Did you get the officers’ name and badge numbers?
I never went to the police, and I probably never will. I was 18 and at university. I told a friend about it, and their reaction was so careless that I don’t talk about it much anymore. I left the city and moved back to the country. I kept tabs on the person who assaulted me, and I keep track of where he is. He ended up leaving Australia and now he lives in a country where the age of consent is 14, which makes me feel very sick thinking he might be fooling around with young teens. I do okay in life, but I still feel very, very, dark about it sometimes, and still lose sleep over it. I hope you are doing well in life, and are healing from it. I know all too well that sometimes we’ve got no choice but heal alone.
@@HarrisonRackemannno one should go through this. I hope you completely heal from this and let go. You didn’t deserve that
This is the experience for many many victims, especially children who cannot verbalize or defend themselves.
I'm old school, If I can't meet someone organically, then there is no way I will subject myself to dating online. Unfortunately, this is how people meet these days. I much rather stay single.
I’m an 19 year gay guy and scary situations like this happen to me very often. However, the crazy thing is, the men that do these things aren’t or wouldn’t even say they are gay men. They would say they are bi (cause I’ve had multiple bi men sexually assault me) or they would say they are straight men (they are mostly likely DL but most INSIST they are straight and still try and come on to you sexually and its very overbearing and intimidating). From my observation of my own personal experiences and its just my opinion. I think a lot of men are just sexual deviants or perverts and their actions have nothing to do with a given sexuality, but just their own sexual fantasies and desires and most of the time for some these sexual deviants its about power and humiliation and not connection or sexual attraction at all. As for what can be done about this all I can say is have very high standards on who you allow yourself around no in the closet or dl men because they have shown to be quite spontaneous and unpredictable in behavior and just stay as safe as possible. I am so freaking angry this happened to those poor men and I relate so much it hurts.
Situations like these happen to me very often? I say this in the most loving way: CHANGE YOUR MO! You’re the common denominator here! Not those deviants! Get therapy. It helps a great deal. When we’re young, self esteem issues can put us in life threatening situations, and it’s not worth it 😣
I wish you the best!
No, these men like men. Straight male has never been with a guy in life
Most victims have repeat assaults, not because the victims are the problems, but because in the victims mind there is still hope that bad won’t happen in hopes of finding a equal. In order to date you have to be vulnerable, don’t listen to that guy about “YOUR MO” has nothing to do with other people causing you harm. You don’t know what plans someone has in their mind when they first meet you, you don’t know people true intention until they show you, carry mace, tase gun, share your location and only except dates that are top shelf, sending love ✨
@@colitaayala yes bc victim blaming is helpful
@@Jeremy-vo3ul Don’t get it twisted. Taking ownership of your life and the direction it’s going in ISN’T victim blaming. You’re solely responsible for your life. Not your attackers. When you’re being victimized over and over and over, the way this guy is, you MUST take a long, hard look at how it is that you put yourself in those situations so many times! If you don’t believe there is such thing as self destructing behavior patterns, then you need to get yourself an education, cupcake
The key piece is that he was robbing people. The suspect is very attractive so he could have had a lot of consensual meet-ups if that's all he wanted....
I highly doubt he had a consensual relationship with anyone. Mah doode just can't stop effing up it seems. He's accumulating quite the criminal rap sheet in the MD courts and it also says he has domestic violins! 🫢
I live in India. I was sexually abused since I was a child by my cousin. I was so small, i dont even remember the time from when it was happening. It stopped when i developed my own conscience and i stormed out of the room at around 11 years of age. He understood that. I suffered from depression and trauma later. But i am recovering thanks to my Dog..who passed away lastyear.
Unless you've known a person for a while. Don't invite them to your house and definitely don't let them know where you live.
The message is stop using dating app
before apps ever existed there was jeffry dahmer
@@jaehparrk we get it , u watched 1 netflix docum
Straight AND gay people use dating apps. Make the first few dates in very public places until you get to know the person you're dating, and let people know where you'll be so if anything goes wrong, they know to contact you (or the police).
Hard for gay men to meet other gay men outside dating apps. Its not like you can simply go to the office and hit on the guy you like because most of the time they are straight and if they happened to be gay by any sort of miracle, they might not be into you or it might not be a match.
I'm glad that he has been caught and if you are too ashamed or embarrassed to report your encounter with this man, please understand that reporting your experience with him is probably saving someone else.
Speaking as a gay man who lives in a very big city, this is one issue far too many people are afraid, or embarrassed to talk about it, but we have to, because it happens a lot more than you could imagine. I have a friend who works on the Toronto police force. He tells me that men being raped, and/or assaulted is not that uncommon, particularly through these dating apps. Most of them are too ashamed and embarrassed to come forward and tell the police, even though Toronto is a very gay friendly city, that stigma still remains, and we are shaming people into silence. I’ve been very lucky in my life, having met my husband, when I was only 20, before the Internet existed, I met them by a newspaper advertisement in the personal section, remember those? It was love at first sight, and we have been together for 34 years now, but not everybody is so lucky. Even back, then, through personal advertisements in the newspaper, men have been attacked and raped more times than I care to remember. No hesitation, I can honestly say that almost every friend who is gay that I know of, has had either violence or rape happened to them sometime over the past few decades, while using advertisements, either in the old fashion newspapers, or the more modern dating apps. take heed of the advice they give you in this video, if you’re going to meet somebody you haven’t met before, make sure at least one person knows where you’re going, allow them to track your movements using the find friends app, it’s available for Apple, and android, allowing whomever you designate to follow your movements. Option number two, you can use a tracking device like an apple AirTag. I keep both with me at all times, because you never know what could happen. I’ll share with you one thing that’s very painful for me to share. About five years ago, one of my dearest and oldest friends, who had been single for a few years, decided to start dating, used tinder, and another app called grinder, I don’t know which app it was, but he met a man, didn’t tell anybody that he had arrange a date, and foolishly agreed to meet this complete stranger in his own house. That was the last time anybody saw him alive. He went to the guys house, and from what the police have told us, he was pulled inside, immediately beaten over the head with a crowbar, knocked unconscious. He was then tied up, stripped, naked, raped, and then beaten to death. Because it happened in a private residence the police don’t have all the details, and they never will. Forensics can only tell them so much. Blunt force trauma was the cause of death, but I just keep playing it over and over in my head what he must’ve went through in those last few moments. Even if you are homophobic, we are still human beings, nobody deserves this, and it happens to a lot of women as well. The media doesn’t cover it as much as they should, but most times, especially if it’s a gay man, families, do not want the media to know. I was there with his parents when they found out, you do not want to ever hear a mother scream the way I heard her scream that day, it’s the most heart wrenching, horrific sound you could ever imagine. they nor I will ever be the same, luckily, they caught his murderer, and he was sentenced to life in prison with no parole, but that will never bring back my dear friend. So please be careful, it might seem like a lot of fun, but the Internet is full of danger, people pretending to be somebody they’re not, if you decide to use an app, that’s fine, millions of people do, just make sure that you meet in a public place for the first time, make sure at least one person knows exactly where you are, and at what time, and make sure somebody has the ability to track your location. 99% of the time nothing happens, but that 1% is well worth the extra effort of making sure someone is watching out for you, I wouldn’t wish what I went through with my friend and his family on anybody, it completely devastated me, and his poor family will never recover. Please don’t ever let it happen again, just imagine if it was somebody that you loved, how would you feel? Thank you for listening, and please be careful and stay safe, thank you.
I'm sorry for your loss. Thats awful
Thank you for sharing ❤
Holy smoke you must be high AF to write down all that 😂😂😂
Gay men are the least likely to rape people.
Rape has nothing to do with sexual orientation but it has to do with exerting power and dominance over a victim. In fact most male rapists are heterosexual men.
@@PG-tc6os 🤣😂🤣😂
This happened to me a few years ago on Grindr. I didn’t report it because I felt like an idiot for putting myself in that situation and truth be told, I didn’t even allow myself to call it “rаpе” until a few years later when I saw the guy who did it on the local news for doing the same thing to someone else. Be careful out there.
It is beyond unfortunate that these man were victimized like they were and I am so glad that they reported it. A lot of times, men don't report out of guilt or embarrassment.
I'll say he least remember too kiss him ? (Rimshot)
@@zoidlloyd7736 Awesome comment!!!!!!! 🤣😂
Thanks@@bratzboyz I always was free thinker I'm really the only one who post wisecracks no one else ?
Embarrassment sure... But why would they feel guilty ? It's not their fault that this has happened to them.
@No, I'm not a nice person well duh notta big deal when they make out as If they do care bout the dykes u gotta wonder do they wear make up beside do this 🤰
“Hooking up” with strangers, whether through an app, at a club, bar, party or anywhere is simply dangerous. The fact this has become so normal is a huge concern. Why would anybody take such a life threatening risk? We’ve all heard about drink spiking, rapes, kidnapping and murders. It’s like a grown person experimenting with drugs knowing full well the dangers and risks involved.
It's part of gay culture from having to hide for so long, and honestly it's safer now than ever for LGBTQ+ communities. Either he's closeted, knows how easily the circumstances are to abuse, or both. Looking at his build, I can imagine he also went for DL/discreet guys who he'd assume wouldn't report so easily. People's ignorance has always created a cesspool of abuse and then they love to victim blame by accusing the "lifestyle/sin".
This has always been a problem, no matter where in time you go.
Well the way it talking sounds very childlike
Victim blaming at its finest.
People hook up all the time and usually nothing bad happens. There's nothing wrong with it if they're consenting adults just be sure to use a condom.
I was just assaulted by this grown ass man in Denver and if I didn't have my knife he probably would have hurt me really bad but I was able to get to my knife and fight back I stabbed him pretty good and he stopped attacking me so I just walked away but the point is if I didn't have my weapon on my I could have easily become another victim or sadly another statistic
This exact man in the video? 💃
I'm guessing you didn't report it?
@@chinaarlene7035 ,
Probably does not announce the side gig.
Grown man? Are you underage? I'm glad you were able to fight him off. Every woman needs a weapon of some sort.
how did u meet
This world has gone to Hell in a hand basket!
No - this only happens in America.
Biden’s America is scary
@@ddhh1270 lol liar
@dd hh please, what do you think Roman bath houses were about. This is nothing new and it didn't originate in America lol.
I agree
If someone asks you if you have AIDS your answer should be yes as well as herpes and Hepatitis. Always assume they are NOT asking because they care about your health
And if he said yes I have AIDS , it's highly doubtful he had a condom ready.
I would be scared that they would shoot me if I said that lol
There was a woman who was sexually assaulted. She told the attackers she had AIDS so they made her perform oral sex on them.
@@NobleUncleanexactly wut if he just wants 2 kill da gays take money n he’s actually str8😮
@@NobleUnclean lmfao🤣 right either it will deter them or anger them. Which one you wouldn't know 🤷
These sexual predators should "never" be let out of prison. No deals, no probation. They can not be rehabilitated.
Exactly yet they put them back out in the streets....
“Come try that on me, I bet you won’t….. no, I mean really try please, on me .”
- The Diddler
Dang. Who took your buns?
Sexual abuse is horrible for anyone! It's a violation of trust, taking advantage of the victims at their most vulnerable state. It's also a stripping away of your bodily autonomy and it's most of all, a wound on the deepest psychological level. I'm happy though that they are alive and that I hope they get the healing they need!! Peace ✌ to all!!
benjqamin father is very rich
Rape is not sexual abuse. It is a violent assault. You should know the difference
Violation of trust? Who in their right mind would trust a stranger? Your comment makes no sense. It's a violation that you were forcibly attacked could not protect yourself therefore you were violated. It's a power trip it has nothing to do with trust. Obviously you've never been raped
@@patriciapadilla2022 OK because clearly someone wants to have beef this early in the morning. Let's do this: First off- When someone goes on a dating app which the guy in this video clearly did, that individual is putting themselves out there with a stranger (in most cases) hoping that it would lead to a connection, a good time or whatever the individual maybe seeking. Nobody is hoping to get assaulted or raped or any of that shit and yet that was what happened. Second Sexual assault is just as much a psychological attack as well as physical. It's not just forcing someone to do something against their will but it involves so much more than that. Why do think people rarely report these things? Girl I'm not going to engage in verbal combat because yeah that's clearly what you're seeking 😒 🙄 I got way better shit to do with my precious time, but friendly piece of advice yeah; "if you have nothing valuable to contribute in this space, don't.... as that's an affront to everyone here." Furthermore you know nothing about me, so don't assume or make assumptions. This conversation thread is about safely venting our feelings on a matter that was unfortunate to befall the man.
Imagine this happens to you when you're preschool age, and your family can do nothing more than support the victimizer, I renounced all ties with my family and moved abroad.
I just don’t think it’s fair that he’s going to be able to have a lot of likeminded lovers in prison.
You are so right.
To be fair, they are gonna make him their bitch now, taking turns plugging him in the a hole. So he does have some type of punishment. 🤷🏾♂️😈
LMAO!!!
They have the lipstick, the rope and the dress ready for this dude…. 😂😂😂
Don't worry!! There r hitterz put in prison 4 niggaz like him, such as the "BOOTY WARRIOR!!"
That's why when he goes to prison then all the inmates need to be informed that he's gay and they'll know what to do with him. I'll give you a hint: Well paid female officers.
I met this guy in Chicago who told me a story of a man who offered to give him a ride and the guy tied him up in a van parked in the alley and he tore off his finger nails one by one. This guy could not even allow you to touch his hands. This guy was so traumatized by this it broke my heart. You cannot trust people.
WHAT!!!? I wish y’all would leave these dating alone. Apparently, some of not caring about what kind of people are on these sites knowing you know what’s out here. Think about your life for Christ sakes.
This also happens on Social Media, it's not only a dating app thing 🙄
Imagine being this guy's mother and finding out your son is in jail for xxxxxxx men.
Well at least he can continue doing what he loved in prison
@@vitigaymer1053 🤣
His mother probably ain’t shit her damn self.
I’m sure his upbringing wasn’t roses to grow up and be as demonic and disgusting as he is…
Mom is first to know, she’s always known.
He could very well be regularly raped in prison himself.
Dating used to mean having dinner and seeing a movie. Now it's hooking up with random strangers as often as you can. They aren't 'dating apps', they're promiscuous sex apps.
What’s your point? The man was still sexually assaulted and robbed. How about commenting on that instead of essentially calling him a whore. 🙄
@@MyKali2009 Right and also without the victim's consent too. The perpetrator is heartless.
The truth hurts I see. @@MyKali2009
Hooking up also used to mean dating, it didnt always just mean sex
Not asking him if he has aids.. I would have said yes. I have every disease known to man.. ridiculous 🤦🏾♀️
lol Then he might have killled him maybe
Back in the 90s, my mother was coming home whe it was dark and some guy pushed her in to a doorway and was about to rape her until she shouted at him that she had Aids. She never really but in her quick thinking, it saved her.
@@leeriches8841 Yell FIRE!
Everyone loves a good fire. They come running.
Probably would of got shot
Makes you wonder…. If he said yes , will he have shot him to put him out of his misery!?!?!
The situation honestly left him with no true option! Jus an evil person with an evil agenda! Glad they caught him! (Male or female) 🤮🤢
This is why dating apps like hinge, bumble, tinder, etc, need to disappear. I hate that this has become the norm for dating.
Facts they need to start TH-cam dating.
@@blackjesus2510 LMAO
Hi
It can happen just as much in the real world 🌍. Nowhere and no one is safe these days.
Just the tip of the iceberg I think,so many men will feel too ashamed to report such crimes because of the stigma and lack of empathy/sympathy from police.
oh my goodness that breaks my heart. this world is soooo scary. my prayers go out to the victims and their families. this is exactly why i dont meet people online anymore. people are scary anymore and this world is a mess right now
I have heard so many horror stories from my friends about being assaulted/molested/harassed and many of these creeps walk free/they never press charges because of how our “justice” system works. f&cked up hope the victims get help :(
Well put yourself in the situation of the judges though, it's extremely hard to judge of things that are subjective and very hard to prove. You can't just expect the judges to just sentence someone for rape when there is no evidence?
@@Activated62 They don’t like to hear that part. On top of that they wait 40 years to finally come forward and expect everyone to believe their story
It's because 70% of all rape accusations are proven to be false before charges are ever filed. This is according to FBI data.
@@Activated62 children don't put themselves n that situation. And creeps are everywhere. There is no safe place.
Yeah but why they have to go that far (unzips) geez no poseur will stoop that low
Damn. Why would he have to do all of that. He's handsome enough to have dated honestly smh. You can't trust anyone no matter how nice they look.
@@iuhsdihdslifuvholuidfh clearly
It’s called malignant narcissist with psychopathic tendencies !!! Male or female that has attractive physical features went through severe trauma as a child and they suppress there inner being (empathy, emotions, heart) as a defense mechanism in order to go num to survive the trauma!! After a long period of time staying that way they transform into a narcissist which is simply a person that has lost the ability to empathize or have empathy or feelings !! They no longer have the ability to love another soul not even themselves correctly because they’ve cut off all emotions for so long, the term if you don’t use it you lose it gives the best understanding of this !!! Just look up narcissism and it will back up my comment !!
Thank you for reporting the News. God Bless
Report all rape it's not nothing to be ashamed of . Predators like him need to be in jail for ever .
This world getting more weirder and eviler
Men certainly are.
Yes Biden’s destroyed everything
@@bombaybeach208 2nd biased comment I've seen in 5 minutes.
Women are doing crazy s#_&# too.
Stop being delusional
It's the same way It's always been.
Not evil, just personality disorders creating more and more personality disorders and no one wants to except it.
So sad. Please come forward. Even if you haven’t came out yet you don’t deserve to be violated. There are ppl who will love you and accept you for you. We are rooting for you, even strangers are having hope for you. He went after gay victims because he knew some would be scared to say anything. Don’t give into this.
Maria Moxey: We use to hear only women being victims. They would always come forward way long before men or boys ever did.
Please, only state the facts or send me to those facts that this news video isn't playing. What you're saying may be true, but only when those facts come out or are referenced.
Met a guy outside of a church?
Just leave it alone 😅
@@empressnigeria well that's the tell you that religion basically is not working for him no matter what you do.
🤣 outside a church, or liquor store. As they both do the same
Gayest place in Black America is the church.
Be careful. The devil stays in church (especially the pulpit).
Hide yo kids, hide yo men..
i’ve always thought dating apps were weird, i stay away from them
Jeffrey dahmer existed long before apps
@@jaehparrk and that’s literally 1 man out of 7 billion people. I hate when people act stupid lol the reality is online dating is more dangerous than organic period.
@@jaehparrk Jeff was hot af
@@SMgail_ women are killed, raped, and abused by dudes they meet in person all the time though. Its not just apps. Its also known that rapists have multiple victims before they're caught.
I’m proud that there is being light shed on this!!! We are so sorry for the victims.
This happened to me when I was 15 years old, I got a job in West Hollywood and met a girl on tinder, and did not want to sleep with her, she invited men over and they raped me later. Insanity
I'm sorry that happened to you. That must be difficult. I hope you find healing.
I’m so sorry this happened to you this awful. I hope you heal from this, it always upsets me how people can do cruel things to hurt others. 😢🙏🏾
Are you male or female?
I’m sorry this happened to you
@@horizontoday7874 that doesn't make this less horrible
Those apps need to be ban.. Disgusting
Sick man, like some Pulp Fiction.
Booty warrior.
jeffrey dahmer
This man has forever changed the mental health and well-being of these men.
that's one of the results of throwing yourself at strangers
The fact that he didn’t have to rape someone and did is crazy. He’s an attractive dude obviously. That means he’s psycho
Men do not rape because they are not attractive enough to find a partner, what do you mean by 'he didn't have to rape someone, he's attractive' ?
The attractive ones usually do. It boggles the brain because being that they are attractive they could easily land a mate. It's a lot deeper than that a lot of them just plain have issues
Being gay has always been dangerous i remember I met up a guy online he straight up said " your lucky you look like your picture because I would have kicked your ass and more". We still hooked up but by that point I felt like I had to do it for my safety
🤣🤣🤣🤣
He might have given you a disease. I mean, seriously...don't go to isolated places w STRANGERS.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 no i got checked after every hookup I've ever had 6 total
That’s hot😂
What kind of fuck up response is that
I have a friend who met somebody on Grindar a few years ago, ( before I knew him ) he agreed to meet this person in a local park one evening. He ended up getting stabbed twice and robbed, he said it was a stupid way to learn a lession.
Ugh
This is awful. There are horror/true crime stories about these dating apps. People need to be careful using them.
Hes a very sick sick predator
My former assistant boss. For over a year tried to get me to sign up for Tinder. Kept telling other coworkers I need a man for my child( they would tell me what she says). One time at a work get together she was like. Let me take your picture and use it for tinder. No matter how much times I told her No, stop etc. She is always in everyone’s private business asking people things a boss should not be asking a coworker. She talks bad about everyone and what she doesn’t know. Not only does no one not like her, majority tells each others what she says about them. Little did she know. I was already talking to someone. Who I did not meet on tinder. Told no one nothing and kept him far from place. Had another coworker asked me about my child’s father one day. The way I watched the woman. She backed up. That coworker is buddy buddy with the assistant boss. When you don’t engage in what they are asking. They say you are difficult to work with. So happy I left that toxic environment.
People like him will lower the trust levels men and women will have on tinder.
Horrible. Just horrible. What the first man had to deal with was awful but what the other guy had to suffer all night - being subjected to criminal sexual assault the whole night!
I know of an incident in Boston, it was a murder disguised as a BDSM same-sex encounter. A certain 40 y.o. man agreed to meet this creep at a certain crag in a park in Dorchester. The crag overhanged the ground below. The creep stripped the victim naked, hogtied him, tied the other end of the rope in a noose around his neck, and threw him over. The rope snagged on the crag, suspending the poor guy in mid-air above the ground below. No matter what he tried to do, whether struggle to get free, untie the knots, or just rest, the rope around his neck got tighter and tighter. His last minutes alive must have been terrifying. 😨😰😱😭😭😭
He should answered yes to “do you have aids” smh that would have saved him from the rape..
or that would have gotten him killed?
But the guy was gay so didn't need to rape him
you have to be monumentally, and i mean medical diagnosis level, stupid to say that. i’m gonna apologize in advance for even engaging with you because no one without fetal alcohol syndrome wouldve said that.
@@Azuvanya I came to say the same thing
The danger is to the one getting raped. Not to the one doing it. This has been PROVEN over the years.
And he could possibly be a person of interest in missing young men or men deleted by meeting him, check all #DNA, #CODIS, #coldcases, #forensics #CheckYourPeople #America #justice
Good point 👍
I made my sister in law download a tracking app because she dates online and it scares me. Shes got a 3 yr old and I just can't let anything happen to her. But I also can't tell her what to do so the least I can do is track her while she's on a date. And she always immediately sends me a good description of them just in case.
Is she hot or fat?
your a good sister in law HG. your golden
@@erth2ingrid thanks but I'm just sharing this information to help other people and to give them ideas on how to stay safe
What u should tell her to do is say to the man /woman I don’t know what she like oh let’s have a selfi and then send it to u. Or just take pic of the person they won’t know unless flash is on 😂😂
@@samanthaday8708 Yes, exactly. She also sends me a recent picture as well
This is why I never download dating apps. Also glad the victim reported this into the news. My regards to the Victim no one deserves to go through this.
I cannot trust any guy who likes to take advantage of me because that's not love and I don't appreciate that. I need to get myself out of that but one of those guys are acting like they have control over me 😠
I would want to love you. Not hurt you, or take advantage of you fr. I hate manipulators. You are beautiful yo.
Things like this make you not even want to leave the house…
Something like this happened to me, unfortunately for the dude I do boxing Brazilian jujitsu, Krav Maga, Muay Thai and boxing for years, I started doing this because I live in a world where I’m black and I’m gay when you’re vulnerable to hate you need to learn how to protect yourself. This goes for women as well. Saying all of that we don’t have guns here and taking a knife off someone is different than having a gun pointed at u, why Americans feel guns are necessary after all the bad things that have happened regarding guns is mind boggling
Stay in the Bible bro. Homosexuality is an abomonation to The Most High. Fight them demons. Its not too late, but time is running short. We are the True Children of Israel 💯
@@jeromecastro3051 Jerome be safe in the knowledge that all sin is sin in the eyes of God, so what I suggest is, I should concentrate on my relationship with God and you do the same, because trust and believe we are all filthy in the eyes of God.
And don’t sin your soul with the sin of judgment, because as you know, only the Lord can do that.
@@ThePsalmzion John 7:24 💯
@@jeromecastro3051 "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
Don’t make me pull out a list of the 10 Commandments, so we can ask you how many of them you break I’m at Seventh-day Adventists, I even keep the actual sabbath do you?
@@ThePsalmzion Agreed ! I have a serious question , why do homosexuals quote the Bible when it denounces their sexuality and classified it as sin? Even if you follow the Bible and god would you not end up in hell regardless?
That is not human behavior.
Evil demon human.
Unfortunately...sadly...
history begs to differ. It's *BAD and EVIL* Human Behavior
@F D More men have always been raped outside of prison.
@F D So they do. That's not modern homo sapiens behavior. We disagree.
It’s animal behavior lol 😂
Y’all I used to talk to him! I lived in Alexandria. We met on tinder, he told me his name was Joe as well. When we started talking, I felt like he wasn’t right for me. So I stopped talking to him. A few months later, he hit me up outta the blue. This was December. We ended up meeting, he took me out for food, came back to my place, and we chilled. We had a good time. He ended up telling me his real name, so idk what’s going on. I’m in shock!! Like I literally can’t believe this! What are the odds of me even coming across this on TH-cam! He was so sweet to me, paid for everything, asked if I wanted more. Like I’m in shock!!
Wow😮
How many times have you said thank u God during the last year? 😅
I thought tinder was a ‘straight’ app.
@@Mo-my8zh that's insane
I’m so glad that this was brought to everyone’s attention. Many don’t realize how often this happens in the gay community, simply because men don’t report it out of fear or shame. This is breaking the stigma and addressing the sexual assault that happens VERY often in the gay male community.
Online dating has become more common than meeting someone in person and going from there. People don't realize how dangerous online dating is
I'd rather fight to death than to go through what these poor men went through.
when u in the moment u dont know its easier to talk the talk online
Easier said than done.
@Broski Snowski Then don't be gay....simple!
@Broski Snowski yes, being gay is tough in this society. I feel for the gay men, they get the most hate.
@Broski Snowski Being gay isn’t a choice. Harming someone is.
This is really sad… I just found out that a 12 year old is raping his 10 year old brother and 4 yr old sister…. 😢😢 the mother just got her children from the grandmother and is scared confused and do not know what to do…. I believe the first thing that should be done is take the children to the doctor for an exam.. SMDH…. I can’t help but wonder who raped the 12 year old….
The fact that he looks like someone I would be willing to hook up with and I have probably seen him on dating apps in the area before 😭😭
Omg he looked familiar to me too for a sec. If he was straight he definitely wouldn't have trouble landing a date😂
Who knew meeting strangers for sex online would have a bad outcome?
The rainbow community does it all the time but they think nothing bad will ever happen.
@@blacknmild yep and then they wonder why bad things like this happen to them 🤷🏼♂️
Always worked for me. Times are changing, though.
@cayennecaptain8327mee too
@ Black N Mild, I’m sure the “black community” has NEVER gone online to look for a hookup.
You’re all innocent angels!🕊️👼🏾👼🏾😇
Most likely there are more victims out there, maybe they are feeling horrible and ashamed. Please come forward help the prosecutors so this monster get the maximum sentence.
This is crazy man
One of the issues are that people tend to feel less at risk with people that are considered more attractive so they let their guard down more than they would with someone who is average. some tips are out there on apps but always get more than one picture, try to get Instagram , facebook , or another profile to verify they are legit. Also don't go to places that are secluded. If you are going to hookup don't try for the first night or meeting, talk over the course of multiple days and have someone be able to track your phone. Also have another person send a text message to check up. IF IN TROUBLE send" I am okay and I'm probably going to spend the night" If you are okay have a code word like banana or pineapple" It can be scary out here but I get that this won't prevent or be every situation but protect yourself like it was your child going to a new friends house
It’s called the halo effect
How about not using Tinder at all? These apps are just for quick hook -ups and the risk is far greater than the reward. SMH What is wrong with ppl?
yeo agreed
Haha so having social media makes someone legit? 😂
@@bbginc694 hell no, but you definitely find more information on the person hopefully through that method
Gross! He will probably enjoy prison.
That's why I keep telling people that prison is not a real punishment, especially for those who are into male on male or female on female action. Biblical punishments for crimes are true punishments, but because our society disregards the Bible, we will continue to see these type of evil, despicable crimes.
@@blacknmild you clearly don't even know the first thing about being gay. I'm gay and I can tell you I'm not a slut for every man I see. I have standards, just like you. I wouldn't wanna get taken by a man I don't even know. That's weird.
@@blacknmild that was a stupid comment
@@kennyroberson6216 You must be into this kinda stuff. You keep trying your best to defend it. 🤮
@blacknmild, tell me some biblical punishments, I am generally interested as I have not focused much on those in the Bible.
He is going to place where he will be on the receiving end of unwanteed action.
Especially when it's gonna be female COs will get paid to do him good!
Thk u for reporting this 🙏
This is defiling for the victim who was not only sexually assaulted but also robbed. He is due for ongoing therapy of some sort. Not sure what to make of this other than, cruel. ☹️
As if being robbed at gun point wasn't scary enough then have to endure being raped also is barbaric.
HE'S ON HIS WAY TO HEAVEN 🤣😂
Not even close, he'll thrive in there beings he's with his own kind.
@@natedawg9890 what's that supposed to mean?
I dont get it
@@ceceprincess4758 he’s going to be surrounded by violent men like himself who want to trade sexual favors. He should be happy there.
@@ceceprincess4758 he mean he goin to jail / prison since he into that he gonn get it 😂😂😂😂
I worked with a man who had been raped. He said same emotions as the girls I worked with. BUT in his case he felt it difficult to talk about it. We must do better with boys. Its ok to show emotion & its ok to cry. I never forgot that man & to date hope I made a difference in therapy. 😢
As someone who was sexually assaulted by another man I wasn’t brave enough to speak out or up out of embarrassment. These are some brave courageous men.
Most men all over the world are afraid to report these crimes committed against them, but it is all too common.
Right even more common then Women
Absolutely horrific! This has been happening for a long time, before these dating apps. It use to be Craigslist, or other ads where gay men would advertise for massage, etc. There have been numerous cases where gay men were found murdered. One case that I can think of was when I lived in Seattle was a young man who met up with someone and he became missing and he was found dead in the trunk of his car. Many of these situations are targeted attacks/hate crimes with straight men pretending to be gay. One reason why they were targets was a lot of gay men or closeted men would not tell anyone why they were meeting up with someone, one being shame, especially if it was for sex. You cannot trust anyone. You have to be very careful with meeting anyone. You could even become a target if you’re selling something to someone, which is why the transaction should be done in public if possible. Prostitutes have been targets as well; men and women, or anyone meeting someone regardless. I think there was even a case where a man was intentionally infecting other men with HIV. It’s not worth it. It breaks my heart that a lot of these people are too trusting. You can’t be. 💔
I think that's part of the reason why they shut down the craigslist personals...
This is so scary!
Sorry, but I know from experience, it’s often straight men posing as gay men. Gay men are often more vulnerable than women, less likely to report the crime. Many fear exposure as well.
@@rickberglund2134 that is so sad, but I dont understand if they are straight why would they rape a guy?
@@rehanrassi9410 the commenter didn’t actually say straight men “always” posing as gay men. He said straight men “often” posing as gay men. There are plenty of cases where they don’t end up raping them but doing other awful things to them such as robbing, hurting, or killing them. Also, sometimes straight men actually do rape other men and it may have nothing to do with sexual attraction to the other man. In some cases it’s a dominance thing; a way to make a gay/bi guy feel less than. Think of the stories that are told from prisons. It’s the same thing when a woman gets raped, when an elderly person gets raped, or when a child gets raped. A sane person would think how could someone do something like that. At times it’s just about power and control. I know it’s hard to think of how a straight man could get an erection for another man let alone have an orgasm, but sometimes they get off on being dominant, lack of sex from women, etc.