Many women date men they are not sexually attracted to because he's "nice"...so after marriage..the sex stops because she had no interest in it to begin with. This is a disservice to both ppl in the long run. The attraction will not come.
This is a great message and reminds us as wives that we have to be conscious to have intimacy with our husbands. I also think you should address men who suffer from ED and are in denial about it. And being in denial they don’t consider other ways to be intimate. This is not my story but I know couples that are dealing with this very issue. As you say men have big egos this is def one of them. God bless you ❤.
I find that when i think I dont want to be intimate with my husband, that changes when we can share a simple kiss that doesn’t anoumt anything but to simple say, " I love you ❤". From there its on lol
🤔 Interesting. I respect the Word and your thoughts on it. Its alot more to be said about this subject especially since we're dealing with imperfect people on both sides.
I remember seeing a thread on Twitter and it was a bunch of women talking about how long they went without sleeping with their men. They kept saying it was “mental health” and yea I get that but like you said in the other video, are you taking care of yourself? Eating properly, exercising, meditating etc. Sometimes ppl use “mental health” as a crutch. Then in the same thread, those women would be mad if their men cheated 😭? Like wth lol?
I've been abstaining for over 2 years now. In a relationship, coming up on 1 year. The libido is there chile but the physical boundaries are on lock. We hug, kiss, hold hands. No sexual touching. It's all self-control from the strength of my Lord. But y'all please make sure you are actually physically attracted to your man😓. What do you feel when he gives you a long hug first thing in the morning or at the end of a long day, when he looks in your eyes, when he kisses you? Do you ever get the urge to initiate a kiss? If it feels forced or you get the ick, you don't really like him as much as you should. Discuss the things you look forward to experiencing with each other if the Lord blesses your union. All I know is I'm going to be all over mine😂 but I know the real work begins when we start having kids. But also make sure you are with someone who genuinely cares about your well being (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually). Make sure he is someone who wants to be a good husband and father. Ask him what that means to him...what does that look like (give examples). What was his example in his own childhood? For example when I see my bf in uncle mode, my heart melts a little more, and I can't wait to see him as a dad. My bf and I follow the Christian Marriage subreddit on Reddit and discuss the posts that peak our interests. Husbands and wives go in there daily to ask advice on the current conflicts in their marriages. It's a great way to assess each other's values in applied situations. You get to see each other's thought process and how you communicate through conflicts/disagreements/differences of opinion. What are the firm non-negotiables vs what you're willing to compromise on? Then going back to "well what does scripture say about this topic?" Lack of sex is a such a common issue. Need to ask what can we put in place in marriage to ensure we don't end up there. Are we pouring into each other's love language buckets every day? How are we managing our stress individually (exercise, therapy, etc)? How are we supporting each other physically (rubbing each other's backs/feet/head, cooking so they don't have to, etc), mentally/emotionally (listening to each other vent after a long day), and spiritually (praying with, for, and over each other)? Are we holding onto any resentments? Has something he has said or done caused me to lose respect for him? Is this a medical issue? Do I need to talk to my doctor to change my birth control or antidepressant? Communicate these things to each other and start working on it.
@@Didi-fr5ic Thank you. Definitely not. We discussed from the very beginning the 1-2 year range. 1 year was more ideal but some circumstances slowed us down a bit on my end. I turn 30 this year, so I don't have time to waste.
I like the Message version as well 1 Cor 5-6, I believe: “Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting-but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence-only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.”
In my religion (Catholicsm) there is something called Marital Debt which basically means it’s a sin to deny your spouse sex unless there’s grave matter approve by a priest. Usually its a surgery or something extreme that makes it impossible to have sex. Financial reasons is not considered grave matter.
I am so lost about some of the things that people talk about. I am single and have been married. I am trying to save myself for when I get married again because who wants to have soulless sex. If you are married you should be showing your partner intimacy . These women are so lost these days. I am going to have to just stop listening to these type of conversations because they press buttons for me.
I actually did last weekend. I am not married and I was fasting & since I was celibate for 3 years before late last year I did express to my partner the desire to abstain sexually while I fasted.
When you’re married and not really in the mood, quickies are your friend! I’ll always offer a quickie or a ‘job’ when I’m not really feeling like doing much.
@@NinaR1738 This! Lol. My bf and I discussed a future system for marriage. 1= Super in the mood, ready to go (even for a quickie). 2= Not fully there but either of us can be warmed up (slower foreplay and use each other's known "weak" spots). 3= Not now. Address their needs first. Really tired? Options: nap, rest + cuddles, give relaxing massage, help finish whatever task needs to get done, and so on. 4= Not today. Feeling sick, period cramps, etc. Tend to their needs. Check how they are feeling the next day before you even think of asking again or trying to initiate lol.
What's the concern?! I thought it was a great analogy. He is simply stating what if the husband didn't go to work bc he didn't feel like it yet it's his responsibility as is the wife to have sex with her husband. The Bible says to only refrain if u both agree. Of course there are medical times and reasons as to when it may be permitted but he is saying u shouldn't take advantage of an ailment to deny your husband. Would you call off of work bc of a headache or would u take some meds and go bc you are obligated🤔
i think its crazy you just posted this and said the 1st corinthinas verse. because me and my boyfriend have actually refrained from sex to pray and then i smoked a blunt and bought a vape pen. and he got so upset with me because i was supposed to be praying. now hes saying im disrepecting my God by putting this in my body... im glad i heard this message....
Please read up on ED, I've spoken on this issue for at least 2 years, but nothing. He feels it's his libido... I'm trying to be understanding but I'm at my Whit's end... and No... I will not have any extra marital affairs...and don't want to leave him but I'm done speaking on it with him .. Tired
Suggest that he goes to the doctor and have his hormones checked. Men's testosterone levels drop just like women's estrogen levels drop with age. Lower testosterone can cause ED.
Providing is not the man’s only job. Most of the reason women withhold sex is because the man isn’t meeting her needs in other areas. Such as emotional needs or help raising his own kids. Or making you feel bad about having concerns about something. Most men leave these issues unresolved and that’s why women shut down sexually.
I am 40. I have only had a few sexual experiences-only few and Far between. This was not my desire At All. Never have I ever experienced the love, s*x, and relationship of which I dreamed. Everytime I have touched the fire, I was burned severely. It took me Years to recover. I am at the point now where I am not really recovering at all, the pain and disillusionment has set in. A man can run through women and keep his smile. Women cannot do the same. We must keep it low to maintain our sanity. Our hearts are in most of the men we involve ourselves with, in addition to the shaming and guilt we endure when we give ourselves to a dead end. We dream of the man and being desired. When your marital options are men who aren't really that interested and neither are you...well. Women need the internal release of a man. There are scientific studies that show women who receive (with no barrier) vs. those who do not (or there is a barrier) depression, anxiety, etc. Women NEED men and their love. I had an ovarian tumor a few years ago. Risk factors? Being my age and never having been pregnant and never having breastfed a baby. These things have MUCH larger ramifications than we realize.
Mmmm that is great commentary. I totally agree. I'm going to stop right now and pray for you sister. I pray God's blessings over your health and love life. I definitely feel your pain.
I am not going to lie when I was married I held back on sex with my husband he gained a lot of weight and I was not as attracted to him. Now he told me you wonder why men go out and cheat on their wives when they do that. Now we didn’t divorce. I loss my husband 11 years ago. Now if I remarry I will never do that again to my next husband.
How do you become intimate with a man who only sees your faults? No matter what you do to please him but he always gives you a feeling you’re not good enough?
You need to work on your self worth and relationship with God. The deeper and stronger you walk with God, you will not only see a change in your response but your husband's as well! Pray that God will reveal his ways to him but a lot of times we go through things for our own growth. Continue or walk in love with your husband even when it hurts and you're uncomfortable. God will bless you! I pray that God will strengthen you during this season😊
Lol I didn't notice Tony responded but you should still work on your relationship with God and pray for your husband because if he is following God he should not desire to say things that hurt u
Agree. It is cruel if women does that, yes. If you have a decent, loyal, hardworking husband. It is privilege to pleasure your man. Thank you for the word. Amen ❤⚔️🙏
Someone help me understand the ending. Wouldn’t they be technically unequally yoked if one was a believer and the other was not? Why at that point wouldn’t they be able to leave one another?
I believe that is why Paul specifies that this part is advice from himself and not ordered by God. But God allowed it to be written in His holy book. Maybe He thought it's worth a try to make the partner a believer? IDK
Question ⁉️ I have been married for 25 years and my husband is emotionally and spiritually absent for years. I have consistently expressed to my husband the need for emotional, mental and spiritual intimacy. However, years later I am still not a priority to him. So if intimacy begins outside of the bedroom how is priority made for Emotional and Mental connection ⁉️. My husband is disconnected and consumes himself with sports, sci-fi and martial arts. I noticed this change when my husband turned from his belief in Christ our Messiah about 7 years ago. At this point we are spiritually unequally yoked and have no connection... Can anyone give some righteous perspective on this⁉️ Inviting Biblical wisdom please.
Keep praying for him. Keep following Christ. Read 1 Peter 3 for what God tells us to do. Talk to your pastor as well for guidance. Seek fellowship with fellow women you trust at church. Now for practical tips. Maybe try to connect with him in his areas of interest that you mentioned. Watch an MMA game and ask him to teach you. Do a class together. It's good to learn self defense and it's good exercise. I've always wanted to try a muay thai class. Watch a scifi show/movie or read a scifi book together. I just started watching Star Trek Voyager last week. My bf is a huge Star Trek fan. While I had never watched it, I'm a huge scifi and fantasy person anyways, so I indulged him. He was so happy and surprised when I suggested we watch it. And I'm loving it so far. Doing these things to connect on his level will introduce opportunities to talk and connect mentally and emotionally. Having fun together and making those memories will hopefully increase your physical wanting of each other. Then ask him to join you in some of your interests. Try new things neither of you have tried before. And keep going from there.
Thank you for taking the time to provide feedback. I am seeking Elder guidance and counseling and it has been helpful. I also have a positive spiritual circle that helps to keep me uplifted 🙏🏽💕 In my therapy sessions it has been affirmed that I have been experiencing Emotional abuse and control based on other behaviors that I choose not to mention on a public platform. He joined a radicalized Hebrew Israelite ideology where women become like concubine or hand maids. My situation is very complex but I believe in God for deliverance, healing, and restoration in the name of Jesus 🙏🏽🙏🏽💕
@@Hi.Shadow I wonder why it's such an issue with so many Christians. I believe it's too difficult for people to accept. In Matthew 19:10 they were aware that everything is so strict and they even mentioned maybe it's best for a man not to marry because of this. But not everybody is called to not marry. As I understand, during the betrothal period among the Jews, a man could put away his wife if he found fornication in her. I don't believe those men allowed women to do the same, but if the man put her away for fornication during the betrothal process, they both could get married and it was not adultery. We see one case of this with what Joseph was going to do when he thought Mary cheated on him. Notice, in Mark, Luke, and Corinthians we do not see any exception clause such as allowing for divorce and remarriage, saving for the cause of fornication. As I understand it, Apostle Paul was addressing the Jews in Matthew, but not in the other books that discuss divorce and remarriage. I believe when speaking to the Greeks / Gentiles, there is no exception for allowance of divorce and remarriage. We don't have a betrothal process and it was during this process that a man can put a woman away for fornication and they both could marry someone else without it being adultery in the Jewish customs and traditions. We see that when speaking to the Gentiles marriage is permanent, no allowance for divorce and remarriage. The Bible confirms this Mark 10:11, Luke 16:18, 1 Corinthian 7:10 -11. It talks about a wife not departing from her husband, but if she does she is either to return to him or remain unmarried. Clearly he is supposed to be available and not running off marrying someone else because she is told to return to him or remain unmarried. They both aren't allowed to remarry as I can see it. Everything is clearly permanent. I think a bigger issue than divorce is the remarriage. Some people end up in horrible situations and they may have to get away from their spouses. But they remain married to them as long as the spouse is alive as I understand it. 1 Corinthians 7:39
Amen, that’s exactly what I read. I don’t see were people keep saying they can get remarried. All I see when I keep reading the scriptures over and over is to remain single or be reconciled. A lot of people are mixing up the scriptures.
Disappointing. This is why there’s non believers of today’s sermons. What man is so perfect or so good to sleep with while in pain or anguish? The original Bible has been plagiarized and misconstrued thousands of years ago.
Many women date men they are not sexually attracted to because he's "nice"...so after marriage..the sex stops because she had no interest in it to begin with. This is a disservice to both ppl in the long run. The attraction will not come.
This. Deceived themselves and him and it's not right. Yes he is a great man of God but you need to be attracted to him too.
THIS IS SO TRUE. I been trough this in my marriage.
men are like this with money. it does matter and it will bother them how much a woman makes when they get overwhelmed.
This is a great message and reminds us as wives that we have to be conscious to have intimacy with our husbands. I also think you should address men who suffer from ED and are in denial about it. And being in denial they don’t consider other ways to be intimate. This is not my story but I know couples that are dealing with this very issue. As you say men have big egos this is def one of them. God bless you ❤.
Alot of people speak on abstinence but still masturbate either with or w/o pron. this needs to be talked about.
Uncle Tony been dropping back to back!! 🔥🔥
Right 💯
I have been abstinence for lonnnng time! I am ready to get a man / my husband pregnant! 🤣🤣 jk I am ready .. come on God! Where is he!!
When Tony said "AINT NONE OF Y'ALL NOT HAVING SEX SO YOU CAN PRAY BETTER" 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
This the comment I was looking for. Had me rolling cuz he right! 😂😂😂
I find that when i think I dont want to be intimate with my husband, that changes when we can share a simple kiss that doesn’t anoumt anything but to simple say, " I love you ❤". From there its on lol
Haha just like that 😅
Sometimes I’ll just treat him like meat and he won’t like it and understand that I don’t want to be treated like that
Tony, I'm glad you touched on the Corinthians part of how husbands and wives should conduct themselves. A lot of churches only talk about Ephesians!!!
This was a very needed message.
Tony I’ve learned soo much from watching your videos! Continue doing the Lord’s work. Great message 💯🔥
🤔 Interesting. I respect the Word and your thoughts on it. Its alot more to be said about this subject especially since we're dealing with imperfect people on both sides.
Tony! The message has been received in so many ways. Thank you!
I remember seeing a thread on Twitter and it was a bunch of women talking about how long they went without sleeping with their men. They kept saying it was “mental health” and yea I get that but like you said in the other video, are you taking care of yourself? Eating properly, exercising, meditating etc. Sometimes ppl use “mental health” as a crutch. Then in the same thread, those women would be mad if their men cheated 😭? Like wth lol?
I just watched your video from 3 years ago titled “99%wont admit” I got my breakthrough from that video Brother Tony 🎉
Yesssss!!! I remembered that one, he truly was speaking from the Spirit of God!
I've been abstaining for over 2 years now. In a relationship, coming up on 1 year. The libido is there chile but the physical boundaries are on lock. We hug, kiss, hold hands. No sexual touching. It's all self-control from the strength of my Lord. But y'all please make sure you are actually physically attracted to your man😓. What do you feel when he gives you a long hug first thing in the morning or at the end of a long day, when he looks in your eyes, when he kisses you? Do you ever get the urge to initiate a kiss? If it feels forced or you get the ick, you don't really like him as much as you should. Discuss the things you look forward to experiencing with each other if the Lord blesses your union. All I know is I'm going to be all over mine😂 but I know the real work begins when we start having kids.
But also make sure you are with someone who genuinely cares about your well being (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually). Make sure he is someone who wants to be a good husband and father. Ask him what that means to him...what does that look like (give examples). What was his example in his own childhood? For example when I see my bf in uncle mode, my heart melts a little more, and I can't wait to see him as a dad.
My bf and I follow the Christian Marriage subreddit on Reddit and discuss the posts that peak our interests. Husbands and wives go in there daily to ask advice on the current conflicts in their marriages. It's a great way to assess each other's values in applied situations. You get to see each other's thought process and how you communicate through conflicts/disagreements/differences of opinion. What are the firm non-negotiables vs what you're willing to compromise on? Then going back to "well what does scripture say about this topic?" Lack of sex is a such a common issue.
Need to ask what can we put in place in marriage to ensure we don't end up there. Are we pouring into each other's love language buckets every day? How are we managing our stress individually (exercise, therapy, etc)? How are we supporting each other physically (rubbing each other's backs/feet/head, cooking so they don't have to, etc), mentally/emotionally (listening to each other vent after a long day), and spiritually (praying with, for, and over each other)? Are we holding onto any resentments? Has something he has said or done caused me to lose respect for him? Is this a medical issue? Do I need to talk to my doctor to change my birth control or antidepressant? Communicate these things to each other and start working on it.
That's amazing but don't be in a relationship with this man 3 or more years with no ring.
@@Didi-fr5ic Thank you. Definitely not. We discussed from the very beginning the 1-2 year range. 1 year was more ideal but some circumstances slowed us down a bit on my end. I turn 30 this year, so I don't have time to waste.
Thank you for breaking this thing all the way down 🔥🔥🔥💯
It’s nothing casual about sex…Tony Gaskins another tshirt idea!
I like the Message version as well 1 Cor 5-6, I believe: “Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting-but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence-only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.”
That fasting is fasting spiritually period not just fasting from sex… but good stuff TG 💯
Thanks!
Wow thank you my brother for this❤❤❤
Hi. Biblical instruction on marriage, amen.
In my religion (Catholicsm) there is something called Marital Debt which basically means it’s a sin to deny your spouse sex unless there’s grave matter approve by a priest. Usually its a surgery or something extreme that makes it impossible to have sex. Financial reasons is not considered grave matter.
I am so lost about some of the things that people talk about. I am single and have been married. I am trying to save myself for when I get married again because who wants to have soulless sex. If you are married you should be showing your partner intimacy . These women are so lost these days. I am going to have to just stop listening to these type of conversations because they press buttons for me.
Great info 🔥🫡🫡
Amen Brother Gaskins
I actually did last weekend. I am not married and I was fasting & since I was celibate for 3 years before late last year I did express to my partner the desire to abstain sexually while I fasted.
When you’re married and not really in the mood, quickies are your friend! I’ll always offer a quickie or a ‘job’ when I’m not really feeling like doing much.
He better get me in the mood
@@NinaR1738 This! Lol.
My bf and I discussed a future system for marriage. 1= Super in the mood, ready to go (even for a quickie). 2= Not fully there but either of us can be warmed up (slower foreplay and use each other's known "weak" spots). 3= Not now. Address their needs first. Really tired? Options: nap, rest + cuddles, give relaxing massage, help finish whatever task needs to get done, and so on. 4= Not today. Feeling sick, period cramps, etc. Tend to their needs. Check how they are feeling the next day before you even think of asking again or trying to initiate lol.
Thank you for sharing these nuggets for relationships and marriage minded people like myself. I enjoy reading them. @amaragrace94
Thank you ❤we agree
I appreciate this video
I’m concerned that he is comparing a man going to work to a woman not having sex because of her not feeling up to it…
What's the concern?! I thought it was a great analogy. He is simply stating what if the husband didn't go to work bc he didn't feel like it yet it's his responsibility as is the wife to have sex with her husband. The Bible says to only refrain if u both agree. Of course there are medical times and reasons as to when it may be permitted but he is saying u shouldn't take advantage of an ailment to deny your husband. Would you call off of work bc of a headache or would u take some meds and go bc you are obligated🤔
i think its crazy you just posted this and said the 1st corinthinas verse. because me and my boyfriend have actually refrained from sex to pray and then i smoked a blunt and bought a vape pen. and he got so upset with me because i was supposed to be praying. now hes saying im disrepecting my God by putting this in my body... im glad i heard this message....
Preach
Please read up on ED, I've spoken on this issue for at least 2 years, but nothing. He feels it's his libido... I'm trying to be understanding but I'm at my Whit's end... and No... I will not have any extra marital affairs...and don't want to leave him but I'm done speaking on it with him .. Tired
Is he watching corn online? Thats the main reason men get ED. Sounds like he doesn't want to give it up.
@@la6136get him some of that honey stuff or start putting maca powder in his smoothies or drinks
Suggest that he goes to the doctor and have his hormones checked. Men's testosterone levels drop just like women's estrogen levels drop with age. Lower testosterone can cause ED.
Give him sea moss and or ashwaganda 😊
Seamoss
Providing is not the man’s only job. Most of the reason women withhold sex is because the man isn’t meeting her needs in other areas. Such as emotional needs or help raising his own kids. Or making you feel bad about having concerns about something. Most men leave these issues unresolved and that’s why women shut down sexually.
Blessing
Good word
I am 40. I have only had a few sexual experiences-only few and Far between. This was not my desire At All. Never have I ever experienced the love, s*x, and relationship of which I dreamed. Everytime I have touched the fire, I was burned severely. It took me Years to recover. I am at the point now where I am not really recovering at all, the pain and disillusionment has set in. A man can run through women and keep his smile. Women cannot do the same. We must keep it low to maintain our sanity. Our hearts are in most of the men we involve ourselves with, in addition to the shaming and guilt we endure when we give ourselves to a dead end. We dream of the man and being desired. When your marital options are men who aren't really that interested and neither are you...well. Women need the internal release of a man. There are scientific studies that show women who receive (with no barrier) vs. those who do not (or there is a barrier) depression, anxiety, etc. Women NEED men and their love. I had an ovarian tumor a few years ago. Risk factors? Being my age and never having been pregnant and never having breastfed a baby. These things have MUCH larger ramifications than we realize.
Mmmm that is great commentary. I totally agree. I'm going to stop right now and pray for you sister. I pray God's blessings over your health and love life. I definitely feel your pain.
Come on Tony !! These pains are from the adversary
I am not going to lie when I was married I held back on sex with my husband he gained a lot of weight and I was not as attracted to him. Now he told me you wonder why men go out and cheat on their wives when they do that. Now we didn’t divorce. I loss my husband 11 years ago. Now if I remarry I will never do that again to my next husband.
When you play games ….EVERYBODY lose 👎🏽
so so so..........good😊😊😊😊😊
Our bodies don't belong to ourselves.
....ummm yes they do
@@vsperatos 😂 💯
@@user_abcxyzz some folks are clearly insane
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Come on with the word ❤
Can you talk about the marriage of Ms. Netta and Charles? Charles, your lunch is ready!!! :)
When you are fasting you got to get permission from your husband and he doesn’t agree you can’t do it.
I was really I’ll during pregnancy. Baby just born can’t wait to have some great s again 😊😂❤
How do you become intimate with a man who only sees your faults? No matter what you do to please him but he always gives you a feeling you’re not good enough?
Tell him that’s what’s stopping you and he will stop it
You need to work on your self worth and relationship with God. The deeper and stronger you walk with God, you will not only see a change in your response but your husband's as well! Pray that God will reveal his ways to him but a lot of times we go through things for our own growth. Continue or walk in love with your husband even when it hurts and you're uncomfortable. God will bless you! I pray that God will strengthen you during this season😊
Lol I didn't notice Tony responded but you should still work on your relationship with God and pray for your husband because if he is following God he should not desire to say things that hurt u
@@TonyGaskins and what if he doesn't...asking for a friend?
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Hey tony
playing 3x❤
Agree. It is cruel if women does that, yes. If you have a decent, loyal, hardworking husband. It is privilege to pleasure your man. Thank you for the word. Amen ❤⚔️🙏
Someone help me understand the ending. Wouldn’t they be technically unequally yoked if one was a believer and the other was not? Why at that point wouldn’t they be able to leave one another?
I believe that is why Paul specifies that this part is advice from himself and not ordered by God. But God allowed it to be written in His holy book. Maybe He thought it's worth a try to make the partner a believer? IDK
@@sadetrelove I see
Question ⁉️ I have been married for 25 years and my husband is emotionally and spiritually absent for years. I have consistently expressed to my husband the need for emotional, mental and spiritual intimacy. However, years later I am still not a priority to him. So if intimacy begins outside of the bedroom how is priority made for Emotional and Mental connection ⁉️. My husband is disconnected and consumes himself with sports, sci-fi and martial arts.
I noticed this change when my husband turned from his belief in Christ our Messiah about 7 years ago. At this point we are spiritually unequally yoked and have no connection...
Can anyone give some righteous perspective on this⁉️ Inviting Biblical wisdom please.
Keep praying for him. Keep following Christ. Read 1 Peter 3 for what God tells us to do. Talk to your pastor as well for guidance. Seek fellowship with fellow women you trust at church.
Now for practical tips. Maybe try to connect with him in his areas of interest that you mentioned. Watch an MMA game and ask him to teach you. Do a class together. It's good to learn self defense and it's good exercise. I've always wanted to try a muay thai class. Watch a scifi show/movie or read a scifi book together. I just started watching Star Trek Voyager last week. My bf is a huge Star Trek fan. While I had never watched it, I'm a huge scifi and fantasy person anyways, so I indulged him. He was so happy and surprised when I suggested we watch it. And I'm loving it so far. Doing these things to connect on his level will introduce opportunities to talk and connect mentally and emotionally. Having fun together and making those memories will hopefully increase your physical wanting of each other.
Then ask him to join you in some of your interests. Try new things neither of you have tried before. And keep going from there.
Thank you for taking the time to provide feedback. I am seeking Elder guidance and counseling and it has been helpful. I also have a positive spiritual circle that helps to keep me uplifted 🙏🏽💕
In my therapy sessions it has been affirmed that I have been experiencing Emotional abuse and control based on other behaviors that I choose not to mention on a public platform.
He joined a radicalized Hebrew Israelite ideology where women become like concubine or hand maids.
My situation is very complex but I believe in God for deliverance, healing, and restoration in the name of Jesus 🙏🏽🙏🏽💕
Affection, attention and intimacy from his wife. Husband does not always want to initiate the intimacy. Don’t withhold sex.
Yes, first chorinthians 7
I think Christians are too casual about divorce and remarriage as well. Too permissive.
Yes and it’s scary
@@Hi.Shadow I wonder why it's such an issue with so many Christians. I believe it's too difficult for people to accept. In Matthew 19:10 they were aware that everything is so strict and they even mentioned maybe it's best for a man not to marry because of this.
But not everybody is called to not marry. As I understand, during the betrothal period among the Jews, a man could put away his wife if he found fornication in her.
I don't believe those men allowed women to do the same, but if the man put her away for fornication during the betrothal process, they both could get married and it was not adultery.
We see one case of this with what Joseph was going to do when he thought Mary cheated on him.
Notice, in Mark, Luke, and Corinthians we do not see any exception clause such as allowing for divorce and remarriage, saving for the cause of fornication.
As I understand it, Apostle Paul was addressing the Jews in Matthew, but not in the other books that discuss divorce and remarriage.
I believe when speaking to the Greeks / Gentiles, there is no exception for allowance of divorce and remarriage.
We don't have a betrothal process and it was during this process that a man can put a woman away for fornication and they both could marry someone else without it being adultery in the Jewish customs and traditions.
We see that when speaking to the Gentiles marriage is permanent, no allowance for divorce and remarriage.
The Bible confirms this Mark 10:11, Luke 16:18, 1 Corinthian 7:10 -11.
It talks about a wife not departing from her husband, but if she does she is either to return to him or remain unmarried. Clearly he is supposed to be available and not running off marrying someone else because she is told to return to him or remain unmarried. They both aren't allowed to remarry as I can see it.
Everything is clearly permanent. I think a bigger issue than divorce is the remarriage. Some people end up in horrible situations and they may have to get away from their spouses.
But they remain married to them as long as the spouse is alive as I understand it. 1 Corinthians 7:39
Amen, that’s exactly what I read. I don’t see were people keep saying they can get remarried. All I see when I keep reading the scriptures over and over is to remain single or be reconciled. A lot of people are mixing up the scriptures.
Ist Corinthians 7th chpt,
Disappointing. This is why there’s non believers of today’s sermons. What man is so perfect or so good to sleep with while in pain or anguish? The original Bible has been plagiarized and misconstrued thousands of years ago.
Not all the time because some men and women don't want to serve God they like serving the devil instead