Number one, I cannot express how proud I am to hear you guys talking about “cascade of intervention” and different types of breathing and adrenaline va oxytocin etc etc. I am like Tasha - if I feel like I’ve done my research and read up on something, I can go into it settled and feeling well prepared. I was just like you six years ago when I was getting ready to deliver our boy. My biggest takeaway is: TRUST YOUR BODY because it really does know what to do! ❤️ I left my OB-gyn at 37 weeks when it became obvious she was coaching me toward a c-section just because I’m plus-sized. They were also trying to push me to schedule an induction with absolutely zero medical reason to do so. I went to a midwife… went into labor on my own at 40+1… labored at home for 13 hours and left for the hospital when I was contracting every 90 seconds. Baby boy was born four hours later. I did not tear at all. I needed no drugs, no interventions. In fact, I pushed for an hour but I would say that’s because I was fighting my body for the first 45 minutes. The first time I gave in and “went with” a contraction the way my body needed, I moved him a lot and my midwife was all excited “That’s it! That’s the way you push!” Two more and he was out. After 15 years of infertility I don’t think I took my eyes off him for the first hour for even 30 seconds. I just looked at him in awe. And because we’d had no drugs, he was alert and staring back at me. It was the most magical moment I’ve ever experienced. I wish all the same for you both - all my positive thoughts and prayers coming your way for an empowering, safe, and healthy birth for baby boy and for you, Tasha. So excited for you guys to join the parent club… you are going to be amazing at it. ❤
The fact that you both are already seeking guidance & are asking questions around multiple topics of parenthood shows you genuinely care which is what good parents look like. It will be challenging at times because it’s new to you, but if you continue to let love for each other be your guiding light you will thrive. Some people have rules that whatever is said between 11pm & 6am doesn’t count. As in you’ll often be your grumpiest self during that time & if you both can remember that you were meaning to be short tempered with each other offering forgiveness as the next day starts you’ll be ok. I’m excited to continue to follow your journey 💜
Best advice I've ever heard was listen to your unique body . Go with it . Remember needing help is never a failure . A mom with baby in arms is always a success. Here's to new beginnings!
Don't worry, if you don't have a bag packed when you go into labor you could go to the hospital without much. The hospital will provide about anything you actually need except a camera, a car seat, and a prewashed going home outfit. Everything else is nice, but not critical. Blessings on the two of you as you become a family of three.
Sending you all the ❤❤❤ and can’t wait to hear about your birthing experience. Each one is unique and an individual journey. On the other side is one of the most magical moments of your lives. Continue to take good care of her, Dave!! Tasha - you’re an awesome mom already!
As a woman who had her first child in 1971 when the father’s basically just sat in the waiting room compared to now. Dave I think you are a great example for what a supportive husband and future father should be like. Thank you both for sharing your honest thoughts, I’m sure it has helped some people. Tasha, you look absolutely beautiful.
Denise...I had my son in 1972 & his dad could not even see or hold him until we got home. I also didn't have a C-section...however I was put to sleep right before he was born. I wonder did they do that to you? I have never met anyone that had that experience. They way they way do it now is awesome.
@@theresa9925 I woke up at home at 9 AM and my son was born at 11:32 AM the same day. My husband drop me off because the nurse said it’s him it’s her first baby, She’s gonna be here for hours. So he went home to get out of his work clothes and by the time he got back, I had my son. We lived in Massachusetts, and thats where I had my son. My husband was allowed to be in my room only at certain times, and was allowed to hold the baby. The babies were in the nursery and only came to your room at certain times, for about a half hour at a time. Sad
@@deniseharvey211 We lived in Florida. I woke up around 7am with contractions & went to the hospital around noon. I had him at 11:45pm. He stayed in the nursery too & they brought him to me a few times during the day. It is sad that it was like that. I am glad your husband could come in the room when you had the baby. So different now. It is also so nice it is easy for parents to record their experience. PS My mom is from Massachusetts.
I had 3 babies including a set of twins. I read and prepared as much as I knew how. From hearing your preparation mentally and physically my gut is you are going to be just fine. You seem ready to address whatever comes your way with this delivery and with raising this little one!!!
It think it’s great going the natural way. However if it’s too tough and you decide to get an epidural that’s ok too. What ever works. Congratulations!
TWO BABIES… I got to the hospital with only ONE hour, until each of those girls were born!!! PLEASE pack your bag for your special day!!! Wishing you a wonderful “miracle” in birth!!! So excited for you & Tasha❣️🎉🎉🎉
You’ll do great, Tasha! I gave birth at 38+5 (spontaneous labor). Hypnobirthing got me through most of my labor. Mindset is also important! You’ll kick butt. Can’t wait to see you both be parents! ❤️
I did hypno-births with both of my kids. Best decision I made! They both came fast when they decided they were coming, and it really helped me relax and focus.
Being a parent I have come to live by the motto, "Prepare for the worst, hope for the besr". The fact you are worried about being a parent and your marriage means you are going to do great! It will be harder and better than you expect! Remember you're on the same team, and decide ahead of time who you are willing to take advice from! Excited for y'all!
Beautiful episode! I appreciated hearing your perspectives and predictions of how you will transition into parenthood as you grow and become a family of three. Best wishes for a healthy and safe delivery and all that is ahead for you both plus your newborn! 🎊❤
This entire conversation was such a joy to listen to. Brought back so many memories of when I had my kids. You two are going to be amazing parents. I have some IMPORTANT advice for you, Tasha! After you have the baby, do Kegels!! They help tremendously! 😉 Love you guys! ❤
This video should be required listening for every expectant couple! You two are so inspirational. Your communication is amazing. You’ll be able to manage everything that parenting presents. God Bless. ❤️
I heavily practiced hypnobirthing with my first 5 1/2 years ago. I listened to the birth affirmations in the environment I wanted to birth in (low lights, essential oil diffuser, warm bath) and that really helped me tap into the peaceful mindset during labor. My active labor was 25 hours so I was very tired but I felt calm throughout my birth. I didn't practice hypnobirthing as much with my second and I noticed the difference. Hypnobirthing took the intensity out of the experience much more the first time. Both births were at birth centers and they helped me get connected with lactation consultants before and after birth. You are setting yourself up so well to be able to parent how you want, information is everything. I'm so excited for you both, this parenting journey makes life worth living in a new way. Remember to have grace for you both and baby because you'll be learning everything together. Baby Neal already has the best mom and dad he could ask for. ❤️
A rule I learned and wish I had known or thought of when my boys were babies ( they're now 25 and 17 ) is not to tiptoe around; just live normally and the baby won't wake up or be bothered if it does get a little noisy...
So excited that you found hypnobirthing and attachment parenting to support your family during your birth into parents. ❤ I had 2 gentle, life changing water hypnobirths 15+ and 10+ years ago. I can’t recommend it enough and am so happy you’ve tapped into this physiologically-normal and supportive birthing way that helps clear biochemical barriers to this life changing experience and optimal breastfeeding. This prep and knowledge will help everything, even when surprises arrive or plans change. I still turn on the Rainbow Relaxation Steven Halpern music when my kids or I are getting stressed! 🙌🏼
I appreciate your honesty about your fears. My husband and I have 4 children and the fear happens with each pregnancy even though we knew what to expect after the first. Our first baby barely slept and I had no postpartum. Our second baby, I cried for 2 months and my postpartum was horrible. It showed up in a way that made me think I was never going to be happy again. My husband was a saint during this time which helped. Our first two children are only a year apart so while I had the newborn in my arms, I had a one year old on my hip. I was beyond exhausted which made the postpartum worse. After the first month, my doctor put me on an antidepressant for postpartum and after about 6 weeks I took myself off of them. I found myself loving being a mother and smiling again. Our third baby, I had minor postpartum depression that only lasted about 2-3 weeks but it was easier to manage because I knew what it was and that this too shall pass. Our fourth child was the best baby I could have ever dreamed of. He was always happy, rarely cried and slept through the night at 1 month old. I would wake him up just to feed him because he was about getting his sleep lol. You both will be fine because you are discussing your concerns and fears with one another and that is the best thing you can do. Congrats to you both! You are going to be great parents.
Politicians will spend billions on foreign wars, but somehow we don’t support families with paid leave, regardless of widespread support. To me, it’s because funding endless wars is profitable for lawmakers but family leave is not. It’s maddening. But on a positive note, I’m so happy for you both! You’re going to do great! All babies and births are unique. Stay open to what you’re experiencing and breath through it all-you’ll surprise yourself with how strong & capable you are to move through it.
So beautiful your wife is …❤️❤️❤️❤️Congratulations…. Nothing better in life than becoming a parent :)) I am the proud mother of Twin Boys who just graduated from Penn State College….. it goes way too fast…. Best of luck to you both … your an adorable couple ❤️
Take the time to do a "Sunday check in" with each other. Discuss how each of you have felt that week. Discuss new joys, frustrations, fears and if more support is needed in certain areas. The chores will pile up, guaranteed! And it will get frustrating for one or both of you. If finances permit, allow yourself to hire someone to come in and deep clean the house a couple of times a month and help you play catch up. And always say YES any and all help that's offered to you ;)
My second son was an unmedicated birth but not by choice- he came fast and no doctor was at the hospital. Totally manageable- afterwards I was told I was the healthiest new Mom the ward had seen - out of bed quickly, not bloated etc. Breathing works! Exciting days for you two
I had an unmedicated home birth for my first baby by preparing in a very similar way You can do it! Dad you are so important in this happening for you both, keep being there and supporting your woman Sending you so many positive vibes for a beautiful birth❤
Do you and Tasha both have ADHD? I think you’ve mentioned it a few times. My son also has it and I’m always trying to find better ways to relate to him and help him. He’s creative and last minute and chaotic and all the things. He’s 21 now and raising him and his sister as a single mom is my greatest source of joy and pride. So enjoying this discussion you’ve had today and know you are going to be the most amazing parents. Listening to you both and your philosophy on life has been instrumental in helping me get through my days since I found you with the first Colton Underwood story back during the pandemic. I want to thank you for all you do. You are bright lights in this world.
Don't overthink and over stress. Tasha should pack her bag lightly. As someone mentioned earlier, take bare necessities. Don't assume that you will have a certain number of hours to deliver. Even though it could be the average norm, everyone is still different. My sister had little to no labor. She pushed 3 times, and the baby was here. It was her first and only child. She was expecting a longer labor. 😊. In a nutshell, pack the bag now because you might get over stressed if you wait until you are in labor. I wish the best for the three of you.
I had a baby at 15, a single mom, on my own (no family help). He’s 19 now but it’s so cool seeing somebody around my age like you guys, going through it for the first time. It warms my heart so much, I’m so excited for you guys. Y’all’s baby is going to have so many Internet aunties! These talks make me really happy to be contributing my 5 bucks a month on Patreon is going to a great family & home. 🥹🥹🥹 You guys are going to be great great great parents.
I just saw this video and I love that you were preparing for birth in a very intentional way. I credit Hypnobirthing (and my midwives) with allowing me to labor at home for nearly three days with virtually no pain, just pressure and hard work. My son was nearly 11 pounds with a 16-inch head so I was not terribly disappointed with my ultimate decision to opt for a c-section at 9:30pm on the third day. It was totally my decision, not pressured from doctors watching a clock, and for that I'm thankful for Hypnobirthing.
I had a medicated birth without hypnobirthing in 2013 and then my second was an unmedicated birth in 2017 using hypnobirthing. Wishing you the birth you both desire and the peace to accept any changes that come about. ❤
@@amylynn3353I had a birth that turned into a cesarean with my 1st and my second I had a 25 hour unmedicated water birth with a posterior baby and back labor and I personally liked the unmedicated labor process better. Yes it is hard and yes you get to a point in transition when you rethink yourself but it passes and you focus on one contraction at a time and just ride the wave and before you know it baby is out and it’s an amazing feeling. You’re up and walking after the placenta is out. And most people have a lot shorter Labors on average than I did so it’s less of a prolonged thing than I had. I feel like if you go into a labor with the mindset and mental prep on having an unmedicated birth you handle it better. Usually you hear the horror stories of unmedicated from people who weren’t expecting an unmedicated labor. Probably because they’re more tense which makes it hurt more. I would have an unmedicated birth every time going forward if I can healthy pregnancy wise.
@@amylynn3353For me it was a lot about what Tasha said on this episode: the importance of education. I understood my body on a deeper level and fought the birthing process much less. I’d be lying if I said I’d do it again though. Haha. We are done with two though so no need to seriously consider it.
You are a beautiful couple. Of course Tasha is more beautiful than hairy Dave but you are both so happy and together and looking forward to baby Neal. Thanks for sharing this exciting time, you have so much to enjoy and experience as a family. I’m old now and the old cliche is so true, appreciate each day and enjoy life because time does pass quicker as the years go by. 🥰💕
This video was truly moving. Real, honest, and did I mention real and honest? I found it very helpful in coping with fear and stress and I’m not even pregnant. 😂Nothing but love, joy and excitement for you both and I cannot wait to meet baby Neal! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This was one of the best DWD videos I've watched! Thank you Tashia for joining Dave and sharing your thoughts and ideas on things it was a lot of fun! BTW as for the exploding diaper issue I found that usually when that happened it meant it was time to size up in diapers! Good luck with everything but I know you will both do great! ♥💙♥
The Bradley method was one of them. in the 90s specifically for a strict non medicated birth. I tried really really hard and was all in. I had to give myself grace because I failed the non med. After being induced with pitocin, everything came on so quickly that OMG I screamed for the anesthesiologist! Bless you bless you for being ready for anything! And already giving yourself grace. I felt so badly for some time. It's so important to Listen to your body. I had a breech birth 1st, a normal birth and a C-section for my 3. I had been in labor for 18 hours after months of preterm contractions for all of them. So there is no garden type pregnancies and deliveries. Grace. And going with the flow. The best of luck and love for both of you! It's beautiful watching your journey from Westelry, RI!!!
I understand. The nurse told me I was almost there and I looked at my husband and told him to go get me the needle. This was 1989. But it was all good.
1997 my oldest daughter was born. I was all about the Bradley method except I had back labor. Woke up in labor thinking I had broken my back! My husband made what he called”pup boards” with photos of our puppy for me to focus on.. we still laugh because I was all about that epidural until her head turned. All worked out fine and I had 4 more healthy baby boys non medicated because they all came so fast.
Love y’all. ❤️Don’t feel badly if you need relief. My Doc was old school & believed pain relief brought a healthier experience for Mom & Baby. Less unnecessary stress. My daughter had a nearly perfect Apgar score…we were induced with pitocin…no regrets. Merconium necessity induced Beautiful & very pleasant experience 💕💕💕 whichever is amazing!!❤💞
This is great that you are having the baby on your terms. My generation, we just listened to the Doctors. When my daughter was working on her PhD, she took a class on medicine and how they affect our systems. When it came to child birth my generation did it all wrong! She learned that your way is much better for the baby.
I noticed it starting during the eclipse livestream and NOW she has really dropped!! She is so beautiful and I just know they're going to be amazing parents!!
Love that you are sharing this! I did all natural and did the Hypnobirthing technique!. It makes for such a calming peaceful environment. The hypnobirthing really helps with controlling the contractions. Happy for you both!
I am loving every minute of this journey with you guys! This one seemed extra special. You keep me wanting more! I listen to you when I'm riding my horses & when I'm in the tractor farming & sometimes when I'm buying groceries & cleaning the house. I just love you two!
You two are an adorable couple. I am a fan of u both. The communication between u two seems to be on point which I think is super important. May everything go as smoothly as possible. Can’t wait to see the little cutie 🥰. 💜☮️
My daughter had her second baby this February and she did hypno birthing with both kids and it went really well. She highly recommends it! No pain medications either time, except a gel for inducing. She had her son a week earlier than her scheduled inducement, at 38 weeks and two days(just like you are in this video) so she didn't have things ready at all because she was going to put it all together on the weekend before she was scheduled. It's not a huge deal, Dave can run home and get whatever is needed before you leave the hospital. You two are going to be amazing parents!
I loved this chat, guys. You are so cute together, honestly, the cutest. 😍I cannot wait for the arrival of your little angel. And don´t worry about packing bags for the hospital and stuff ... I packed mine when my water broke (at almost 38 weeks), had no stroller, no bed linen for the baby, no car seat to take my baby home in LOL and all the clothes I had ready for him were too small as I found out when we got home (he was bigger than an average newborn). This was 14 years ago (and feels like yesterday). 😅And despite all that things somehow worked out anyway. You know what they say "when God gives you a baby he also gives you everything else". (I mean, I had to purchase the stuff but everything worked out just fine, I guess that is what is meant by the saying. 🤣) Best of luck you two, I will be thinking of you and your little bundle of joy! ❤ (BTW Get ready for the absolutely unreal amount of love that you are about to feel!)
You guys are so well prepared, done worry about eveything too much.I had an emergency c-section, wasn't prepared for it but my body was not co operating. The only decision I regret is not doing the circumcision at birth. My son had to have one at age 8 and that was hard for him being school going age. All the best for this part of the journey. ❤
I used Lamaze with all 3 of my deliveries in the late 70s to mid 80s. All 3 completely medication-free. I hope your delivery went as well and smoothly as mine did. BTW, I never packed a bag…once labor started, I was too busy to need anything.
I had two unmedicated… not by choice.. and one medicated. I was so happy I chose the medicated for my third baby. It was much more relaxing for me and easier on my baby. My last birth was a joy. I wish I had that option for my first two babies.
I arrived at the hospital dilated to 1 the day before my induction in 1975. The nurses wanted to send me home but my doctor said no. 45 minutes later I was dilated to 10. My 8 lb 9 oz baby was born after 2 hours of pushing unmedicated. One year later a had my second fast unmedicated birth. The nurses were to busy to trying to get a room ready to think about any interventions.
Love this! All births are so different! My first was more like Tasha was talking about with the pitocin being painful-wish I would’ve gotten the epidural first then the pitocin! My second birth was so lovely and calm. Pushed for 5 mins as the sun rises laughing and crying as I pushed. You’re going to do great! Best thing to do is just be real relaxed and enjoy it!
The pressure of breastmilking. Dave you are cracking me up. Btw I’m a lactation counselor and help people online all the time. Feel free to reach out if needed. Make sure you find good lactation support after leaving hospital if needed.
Love!!! I did hypnobabies and only followed it half way, maybe even less. I really didn’t do everything. But it was amazing. I had two peaceful wonderful births. Love the affirmations, looking forward to baby coming out, knowing that it’s feeling how it’s supposed to be feel and looking forward to meeting my little ones, knowing it’s going to be ok. Oh my goodness. 38 weeks. Baby is coming any time!!! ❤️❤️
Also, there is no wrong way. But having that ability to know it’s going to be ok, to relax and trust your body and the process (and docs) is wonderful whatever root you go!! So excited!!!!
Sounds like you guys have done well in preparing for baby Boy. There's acupressure points to help baby when they are colicky, to help them sleep, digestion or constipation. Lots of videos on that and is simple, natural and mostly effective. And maybe ask your lactation nurse on lecithin supps that help w/ breastfeeding to avoid plugged ducts. You guys will do amazing.
It's just the new age lamaze It helped me. I had all 3 of mine naturally too. I didn't want an epidural and pain stuff. I'm so glad I did. You'll be glad you did too
You guys are going to be such great parents! Watching you chat about it was the sweetest. And regarding a no med birth… I did it twice. Once with pitocin and once without. Pitocin actually made it easier! It was constant pain, like one long contraction. Easy enough to relax into it. Second was fast and furious! No doula this time, husband was useless (he really is a wonderful man but…), and I still made it!! You have a fantastic mindset. You’ll do great!!
Go to your local fire station and they will help you properly install the car seat. Here in RI, a nurse will walk you outside and show you the proper way to strap baby in car seat for the ride home.
Be kind to yourself about breast milk. I found that I began to really trust myself and my body. I what works for some doesn’t for others and it’s ok. Being a loving parent and present is the most important. ❤
Love bugs, for a humorous view on those crazy first weeks with the baby, I found comedian Rachel Dratch's book hilarious, eye opening, and comforting! 😂❤
I had natural childbirth in 1976. My 2nd child. It was Lamaze. Beautiful experience. Not sure i could have done on my first baby. But I eas young and dumb. I wish you the best! ❤️
Sounds like Boone has prepared you both for pee and poop everywhere! Blowouts often happen during breastfeeding, since the liquid goes in and comes out. It’s just science. My recommendation is for Tasha to sleep when the baby sleeps. In the beginning, babies sleep most of the day, but wake up every two hours for feeding. Do not hesitate to nap. You need the rest. Childbirth is exhausting. Your body needs to recover. To wake up when you hear the baby cry, change the diaper, then feed and maybe have to change another diaper takes a while, then you go back to sleep and do it again. With the nursing, just really keep very well hydrated yourself and try to relax about it. It is very natural and not really that difficult to master. Really trust your instincts, Tasha. Don’t overthink it. You two do make such a great team and are both so emotionally mature, you will do great!
If y’all can swing it, I 100% recommend lining up meals (whether that is meal delivery or having a meal train of friends drop off frozen meals), hiring someone to do housework the first few weeks, finding someone to wash Boone, they even have night nurses so you can both get a full 8 hours sleep. This kind of post-birth nanny is a common thing in other countries and it will help with your mental load. 🙏
Best of luck to you two! I had an unmedicated water birth with a midwife and loved it. Just get through the contractions one at a time like riding a wave. You might get to a point in transition that you second guess yourself but it passes. Sometimes there’s a pause between completing transition and pushing and I was really hungry all the sudden and luckily we had peanut butter on hand and it gave me the energy to push baby out. So snacks are a good idea cause you might want something. Something to keep in mind is if you’re using a hospital midwife there’s a good portion who do a bait and switch and the joke is they are (Med)wives not midwives lol doulas are a great idea if it’s an in hospital midwife birth. Just my 2 cents.
Number one, I cannot express how proud I am to hear you guys talking about “cascade of intervention” and different types of breathing and adrenaline va oxytocin etc etc. I am like Tasha - if I feel like I’ve done my research and read up on something, I can go into it settled and feeling well prepared. I was just like you six years ago when I was getting ready to deliver our boy. My biggest takeaway is: TRUST YOUR BODY because it really does know what to do! ❤️ I left my OB-gyn at 37 weeks when it became obvious she was coaching me toward a c-section just because I’m plus-sized. They were also trying to push me to schedule an induction with absolutely zero medical reason to do so. I went to a midwife… went into labor on my own at 40+1… labored at home for 13 hours and left for the hospital when I was contracting every 90 seconds. Baby boy was born four hours later. I did not tear at all. I needed no drugs, no interventions. In fact, I pushed for an hour but I would say that’s because I was fighting my body for the first 45 minutes. The first time I gave in and “went with” a contraction the way my body needed, I moved him a lot and my midwife was all excited “That’s it! That’s the way you push!” Two more and he was out. After 15 years of infertility I don’t think I took my eyes off him for the first hour for even 30 seconds. I just looked at him in awe. And because we’d had no drugs, he was alert and staring back at me. It was the most magical moment I’ve ever experienced. I wish all the same for you both - all my positive thoughts and prayers coming your way for an empowering, safe, and healthy birth for baby boy and for you, Tasha. So excited for you guys to join the parent club… you are going to be amazing at it. ❤
Yes!!!! :D The body knows what to do! :) No $hot$, no eye goop, no Vitamin K, no circumcision. :) XO = Happy Baby, Happy Family!
you won't be prepared for how much joy your sweet baby brings you! It is unimaginable how much fun it is!!!!
The fact that you both are already seeking guidance & are asking questions around multiple topics of parenthood shows you genuinely care which is what good parents look like. It will be challenging at times because it’s new to you, but if you continue to let love for each other be your guiding light you will thrive. Some people have rules that whatever is said between 11pm & 6am doesn’t count. As in you’ll often be your grumpiest self during that time & if you both can remember that you were meaning to be short tempered with each other offering forgiveness as the next day starts you’ll be ok. I’m excited to continue to follow your journey 💜
I love this 11pm-6am rule!!
Best advice I've ever heard was listen to your unique body .
Go with it .
Remember needing help is never a failure . A mom with baby in arms is always a success.
Here's to new beginnings!
Don't worry, if you don't have a bag packed when you go into labor you could go to the hospital without much. The hospital will provide about anything you actually need except a camera, a car seat, and a prewashed going home outfit. Everything else is nice, but not critical. Blessings on the two of you as you become a family of three.
Read together as a family day one get the kid used to hearing correct grammar. Kids whose parents read to them do exponentially better in school.
My mom would put me in her lap to read to me and I was reading, on my own, before I started kindergarten.
That’s brilliant advice. The love of books and the written word is a gift for life.
So true 👍
Sending you all the ❤❤❤ and can’t wait to hear about your birthing experience. Each one is unique and an individual journey. On the other side is one of the most magical moments of your lives. Continue to take good care of her, Dave!! Tasha - you’re an awesome mom already!
As a woman who had her first child in 1971 when the father’s basically just sat in the waiting room compared to now. Dave I think you are a great example for what a supportive husband and future father should be like. Thank you both for sharing your honest thoughts, I’m sure it has helped some people.
Tasha, you look absolutely beautiful.
Denise...I had my son in 1972 & his dad could not even see or hold him until we got home. I also didn't have a C-section...however I was put to sleep right before he was born. I wonder did they do that to you? I have never met anyone that had that experience. They way they way do it now is awesome.
@@theresa9925 I woke up at home at 9 AM and my son was born at 11:32 AM the same day. My husband drop me off because the nurse said it’s him it’s her first baby, She’s gonna be here for hours. So he went home to get out of his work clothes and by the time he got back, I had my son. We lived in Massachusetts, and thats where I had my son. My husband was allowed to be in my room only at certain times, and was allowed to hold the baby. The babies were in the nursery and only came to your room at certain times, for about a half hour at a time. Sad
@@deniseharvey211 We lived in Florida. I woke up around 7am with contractions & went to the hospital around noon. I had him at 11:45pm. He stayed in the nursery too & they brought him to me a few times during the day. It is sad that it was like that. I am glad your husband could come in the room when you had the baby. So different now. It is also so nice it is easy for parents to record their experience. PS My mom is from Massachusetts.
I had 3 babies including a set of twins. I read and prepared as much as I knew how. From hearing your preparation mentally and physically my gut is you are going to be just fine. You seem ready to address whatever comes your way with this delivery and with raising this little one!!!
It think it’s great going the natural way. However if it’s too tough and you decide to get an epidural that’s ok too. What ever works. Congratulations!
TWO BABIES… I got to the hospital with only ONE hour, until each of those girls were born!!! PLEASE pack your bag for your special day!!!
Wishing you a wonderful “miracle” in birth!!! So excited for you & Tasha❣️🎉🎉🎉
Being pregnant is such a wonderful and strange world. I loved every minute. Enjoy.
You’ll do great, Tasha! I gave birth at 38+5 (spontaneous labor). Hypnobirthing got me through most of my labor. Mindset is also important! You’ll kick butt. Can’t wait to see you both be parents! ❤️
I did hypno-births with both of my kids. Best decision I made! They both came fast when they decided they were coming, and it really helped me relax and focus.
Hearing Tasha talk stolen wages has me head over heels in love with her! (In a straight girl bestie way). ❤❤❤ more than just a pretty face! 😊
Thank you for bringing us along on your journey. We all feel like aunts and uncles for baby Neal.
You both are so gosh darn cute! You will be amazing parents because you are great at talking through all the things.
Being a parent I have come to live by the motto, "Prepare for the worst, hope for the besr". The fact you are worried about being a parent and your marriage means you are going to do great! It will be harder and better than you expect! Remember you're on the same team, and decide ahead of time who you are willing to take advice from! Excited for y'all!
Beautiful episode! I appreciated hearing your perspectives and predictions of how you will transition into parenthood as you grow and become a family of three.
Best wishes for a healthy and safe delivery and all that is ahead for you both plus your newborn! 🎊❤
This entire conversation was such a joy to listen to. Brought back so many memories of when I had my kids. You two are going to be amazing parents. I have some IMPORTANT advice for you, Tasha! After you have the baby, do Kegels!! They help tremendously! 😉 Love you guys! ❤
This video should be required listening for every expectant couple!
You two are so inspirational.
Your communication is amazing. You’ll be able to manage everything that parenting presents.
God Bless.
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I heavily practiced hypnobirthing with my first 5 1/2 years ago. I listened to the birth affirmations in the environment I wanted to birth in (low lights, essential oil diffuser, warm bath) and that really helped me tap into the peaceful mindset during labor. My active labor was 25 hours so I was very tired but I felt calm throughout my birth. I didn't practice hypnobirthing as much with my second and I noticed the difference. Hypnobirthing took the intensity out of the experience much more the first time. Both births were at birth centers and they helped me get connected with lactation consultants before and after birth. You are setting yourself up so well to be able to parent how you want, information is everything. I'm so excited for you both, this parenting journey makes life worth living in a new way. Remember to have grace for you both and baby because you'll be learning everything together. Baby Neal already has the best mom and dad he could ask for. ❤️
A rule I learned and wish I had known or thought of when my boys were babies ( they're now 25 and 17 ) is not to tiptoe around; just live normally and the baby won't wake up or be bothered if it does get a little noisy...
So excited that you found hypnobirthing and attachment parenting to support your family during your birth into parents. ❤ I had 2 gentle, life changing water hypnobirths 15+ and 10+ years ago. I can’t recommend it enough and am so happy you’ve tapped into this physiologically-normal and supportive birthing way that helps clear biochemical barriers to this life changing experience and optimal breastfeeding. This prep and knowledge will help everything, even when surprises arrive or plans change. I still turn on the Rainbow Relaxation Steven Halpern music when my kids or I are getting stressed! 🙌🏼
Not as a baby, but when he becomes a toddler and a little bit older, trust me, you’re gonna love… LOVE that screen time lol😊
I appreciate your honesty about your fears. My husband and I have 4 children and the fear happens with each pregnancy even though we knew what to expect after the first. Our first baby barely slept and I had no postpartum. Our second baby, I cried for 2 months and my postpartum was horrible. It showed up in a way that made me think I was never going to be happy again. My husband was a saint during this time which helped. Our first two children are only a year apart so while I had the newborn in my arms, I had a one year old on my hip. I was beyond exhausted which made the postpartum worse. After the first month, my doctor put me on an antidepressant for postpartum and after about 6 weeks I took myself off of them. I found myself loving being a mother and smiling again. Our third baby, I had minor postpartum depression that only lasted about 2-3 weeks but it was easier to manage because I knew what it was and that this too shall pass. Our fourth child was the best baby I could have ever dreamed of. He was always happy, rarely cried and slept through the night at 1 month old. I would wake him up just to feed him because he was about getting his sleep lol. You both will be fine because you are discussing your concerns and fears with one another and that is the best thing you can do. Congrats to you both! You are going to be great parents.
Politicians will spend billions on foreign wars, but somehow we don’t support families with paid leave, regardless of widespread support. To me, it’s because funding endless wars is profitable for lawmakers but family leave is not. It’s maddening.
But on a positive note, I’m so happy for you both! You’re going to do great! All babies and births are unique. Stay open to what you’re experiencing and breath through it all-you’ll surprise yourself with how strong & capable you are to move through it.
So beautiful your wife is …❤️❤️❤️❤️Congratulations…. Nothing better in life than becoming a parent :))
I am the proud mother of Twin Boys who just graduated from Penn State College….. it goes way too fast…. Best of luck to you both … your an adorable couple ❤️
Take the time to do a "Sunday check in" with each other. Discuss how each of you have felt that week. Discuss new joys, frustrations, fears and if more support is needed in certain areas. The chores will pile up, guaranteed! And it will get frustrating for one or both of you. If finances permit, allow yourself to hire someone to come in and deep clean the house a couple of times a month and help you play catch up. And always say YES any and all help that's offered to you ;)
My second son was an unmedicated birth but not by choice- he came fast and no doctor was at the hospital. Totally manageable- afterwards I was told I was the healthiest new Mom the ward had seen - out of bed quickly, not bloated etc. Breathing works! Exciting days for you two
I had an unmedicated home birth for my first baby by preparing in a very similar way
You can do it! Dad you are so important in this happening for you both, keep being there and supporting your woman
Sending you so many positive vibes for a beautiful birth❤
Do you and Tasha both have ADHD? I think you’ve mentioned it a few times. My son also has it and I’m always trying to find better ways to relate to him and help him. He’s creative and last minute and chaotic and all the things. He’s 21 now and raising him and his sister as a single mom is my greatest source of joy and pride. So enjoying this discussion you’ve had today and know you are going to be the most amazing parents. Listening to you both and your philosophy on life has been instrumental in helping me get through my days since I found you with the first Colton Underwood story back during the pandemic. I want to thank you for all you do. You are bright lights in this world.
Don't overthink and over stress. Tasha should pack her bag lightly. As someone mentioned earlier, take bare necessities. Don't assume that you will have a certain number of hours to deliver. Even though it could be the average norm, everyone is still different. My sister had little to no labor. She pushed 3 times, and the baby was here. It was her first and only child. She was expecting a longer labor. 😊. In a nutshell, pack the bag now because you might get over stressed if you wait until you are in labor. I wish the best for the three of you.
You two are incredible. Wish nothing but beautiful things ahead.😊
Didn't want this convo to end. More Tasha please.
I had a baby at 15, a single mom, on my own (no family help). He’s 19 now but it’s so cool seeing somebody around my age like you guys, going through it for the first time. It warms my heart so much, I’m so excited for you guys. Y’all’s baby is going to have so many Internet aunties! These talks make me really happy to be contributing my 5 bucks a month on Patreon is going to a great family & home. 🥹🥹🥹 You guys are going to be great great great parents.
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🥰well said.
I just saw this video and I love that you were preparing for birth in a very intentional way. I credit Hypnobirthing (and my midwives) with allowing me to labor at home for nearly three days with virtually no pain, just pressure and hard work. My son was nearly 11 pounds with a 16-inch head so I was not terribly disappointed with my ultimate decision to opt for a c-section at 9:30pm on the third day. It was totally my decision, not pressured from doctors watching a clock, and for that I'm thankful for Hypnobirthing.
The two of you are a fantastic couple & I believe, even with a hiccup here and there. You'll be great parents.
This is so wonderful! Your love of each other is inspiring! Happy delivery when it happens !!
I had a medicated birth without hypnobirthing in 2013 and then my second was an unmedicated birth in 2017 using hypnobirthing. Wishing you the birth you both desire and the peace to accept any changes that come about. ❤
What were your thoughts on the differences
@@amylynn3353I had a birth that turned into a cesarean with my 1st and my second I had a 25 hour unmedicated water birth with a posterior baby and back labor and I personally liked the unmedicated labor process better. Yes it is hard and yes you get to a point in transition when you rethink yourself but it passes and you focus on one contraction at a time and just ride the wave and before you know it baby is out and it’s an amazing feeling. You’re up and walking after the placenta is out. And most people have a lot shorter Labors on average than I did so it’s less of a prolonged thing than I had. I feel like if you go into a labor with the mindset and mental prep on having an unmedicated birth you handle it better. Usually you hear the horror stories of unmedicated from people who weren’t expecting an unmedicated labor. Probably because they’re more tense which makes it hurt more. I would have an unmedicated birth every time going forward if I can healthy pregnancy wise.
@@amylynn3353For me it was a lot about what Tasha said on this episode: the importance of education. I understood my body on a deeper level and fought the birthing process much less. I’d be lying if I said I’d do it again though. Haha. We are done with two though so no need to seriously consider it.
You are a beautiful couple. Of course Tasha is more beautiful than hairy Dave but you are both so happy and together and looking forward to baby Neal. Thanks for sharing this exciting time, you have so much to enjoy and experience as a family. I’m old now and the old cliche is so true, appreciate each day and enjoy life because time does pass quicker as the years go by. 🥰💕
This video was truly moving. Real, honest, and did I mention real and honest? I found it very helpful in coping with fear and stress and I’m not even pregnant. 😂Nothing but love, joy and excitement for you both and I cannot wait to meet baby Neal! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This was one of the best DWD videos I've watched! Thank you Tashia for joining Dave and sharing your thoughts and ideas on things it was a lot of fun! BTW as for the exploding diaper issue I found that usually when that happened it meant it was time to size up in diapers! Good luck with everything but I know you will both do great! ♥💙♥
❤❤So happy for you two. Tasha looks radiant. Baby boy is going to be beautiful
The Bradley method was one of them. in the 90s specifically for a strict non medicated birth. I tried really really hard and was all in. I had to give myself grace because I failed the non med. After being induced with pitocin, everything came on so quickly that OMG I screamed for the anesthesiologist! Bless you bless you for being ready for anything! And already giving yourself grace. I felt so badly for some time. It's so important to Listen to your body. I had a breech birth 1st, a normal birth and a C-section for my 3. I had been in labor for 18 hours after months of preterm contractions for all of them. So there is no garden type pregnancies and deliveries. Grace. And going with the flow. The best of luck and love for both of you! It's beautiful watching your journey from Westelry, RI!!!
I understand. The nurse told me I was almost there and I looked at my husband and told him to go get me the needle. This was 1989. But it was all good.
1997 my oldest daughter was born. I was all about the Bradley method except I had back labor. Woke up in labor thinking I had broken my back! My husband made what he called”pup boards” with photos of our puppy for me to focus on.. we still laugh because I was all about that epidural until her head turned. All worked out fine and I had 4 more healthy baby boys non medicated because they all came so fast.
@@faithdomster5081 1997 was my oldest too! It's a great goal! I'm glad it worked out!
Love y’all. ❤️Don’t feel badly if you need relief. My Doc was old school & believed pain relief brought a healthier experience for Mom & Baby. Less unnecessary stress. My daughter had a nearly perfect Apgar score…we were induced with pitocin…no regrets. Merconium necessity induced Beautiful & very pleasant experience 💕💕💕 whichever is amazing!!❤💞
This is great that you are having the baby on your terms. My generation, we just listened to the Doctors. When my daughter was working on her PhD, she took a class on medicine and how they affect our systems. When it came to child birth my generation did it all wrong! She learned that your way is much better for the baby.
Oh Boy, she HAS dropped!
I was thinking the same thing. Any day now, heck, maybe this weekend! 😅
I noticed it starting during the eclipse livestream and NOW she has really dropped!! She is so beautiful and I just know they're going to be amazing parents!!
Love that you are sharing this! I did all natural and did the Hypnobirthing technique!. It makes for such a calming peaceful environment. The hypnobirthing really helps with controlling the contractions. Happy for you both!
I am loving every minute of this journey with you guys! This one seemed extra special. You keep me wanting more! I listen to you when I'm riding my horses & when I'm in the tractor farming & sometimes when I'm buying groceries & cleaning the house. I just love you two!
You two are an adorable couple. I am a fan of u both. The communication between u two seems to be on point which I think is super important. May everything go as smoothly as possible. Can’t wait to see the little cutie 🥰. 💜☮️
Love you both and pray for a healthy birth, baby and Momma. You will be fine as long as you put each other first. ❤️❤️❤️
My daughter had her second baby this February and she did hypno birthing with both kids and it went really well. She highly recommends it! No pain medications either time, except a gel for inducing. She had her son a week earlier than her scheduled inducement, at 38 weeks and two days(just like you are in this video) so she didn't have things ready at all because she was going to put it all together on the weekend before she was scheduled. It's not a huge deal, Dave can run home and get whatever is needed before you leave the hospital. You two are going to be amazing parents!
I loved this chat, guys. You are so cute together, honestly, the cutest. 😍I cannot wait for the arrival of your little angel. And don´t worry about packing bags for the hospital and stuff ... I packed mine when my water broke (at almost 38 weeks), had no stroller, no bed linen for the baby, no car seat to take my baby home in LOL and all the clothes I had ready for him were too small as I found out when we got home (he was bigger than an average newborn). This was 14 years ago (and feels like yesterday). 😅And despite all that things somehow worked out anyway. You know what they say "when God gives you a baby he also gives you everything else". (I mean, I had to purchase the stuff but everything worked out just fine, I guess that is what is meant by the saying. 🤣) Best of luck you two, I will be thinking of you and your little bundle of joy! ❤ (BTW Get ready for the absolutely unreal amount of love that you are about to feel!)
Thanks for sharing your joyful journey to parenthood. The excitement is building!
Yes on the mini fridge! I didn't have one with my first and it was game changer with my second. Great for pumping or storing milk too 👍👍
I love all of the prep that you two are doing until he's here! Good for you! You got this!
Great “Driving with Dave” loved your conversation and your positivity! You are going to do great things!
All 3 of you ~ well 4 including Boone ~ are winning🥰 Much love🙋🏼♀️💟
"with precious honor" so sweet!!!
love an light an blessings !!!!!!!
Wishing you all the best. Get as many tools and info as you can. You guys will be fantastic. It’s a life changing moment.
You guys are so well prepared, done worry about eveything too much.I had an emergency c-section, wasn't prepared for it but my body was not co operating. The only decision I regret is not doing the circumcision at birth. My son had to have one at age 8 and that was hard for him being school going age. All the best for this part of the journey. ❤
What an interesting and fascinating conversation. Wishing you all the best for the upcoming birth and core memories made. 🙂
I used Lamaze with all 3 of my deliveries in the late 70s to mid 80s. All 3 completely medication-free. I hope your delivery went as well and smoothly as mine did. BTW, I never packed a bag…once labor started, I was too busy to need anything.
I had two unmedicated… not by choice.. and one medicated. I was so happy I chose the medicated for my third baby. It was much more relaxing for me and easier on my baby. My last birth was a joy. I wish I had that option for my first two babies.
Love your channel ❤ So encouraging to each other!
you guys are adorable. Thanks for sharing with us and being so honest :)
I arrived at the hospital dilated to 1 the day before my induction in 1975. The nurses wanted to send me home but my doctor said no. 45 minutes later I was dilated to 10. My 8 lb 9 oz baby was born after 2 hours of pushing unmedicated. One year later a had my second fast unmedicated birth. The nurses were to busy to trying to get a room ready to think about any interventions.
Love this! All births are so different! My first was more like Tasha was talking about with the pitocin being painful-wish I would’ve gotten the epidural first then the pitocin!
My second birth was so lovely and calm. Pushed for 5 mins as the sun rises laughing and crying as I pushed.
You’re going to do great! Best thing to do is just be real relaxed and enjoy it!
Cant wait to meet this little guy!!!!
11:33 the way tasha looks at you talking about the baby !!
Good luck with the birth. Just listening to this i feel you will be great parents, baby boy is lucky! All the best
The pressure of breastmilking. Dave you are cracking me up. Btw I’m a lactation counselor and help people online all the time. Feel free to reach out if needed. Make sure you find good lactation support after leaving hospital if needed.
Love!!! I did hypnobabies and only followed it half way, maybe even less. I really didn’t do everything. But it was amazing. I had two peaceful wonderful births. Love the affirmations, looking forward to baby coming out, knowing that it’s feeling how it’s supposed to be feel and looking forward to meeting my little ones, knowing it’s going to be ok.
Oh my goodness. 38 weeks. Baby is coming any time!!! ❤️❤️
Also, there is no wrong way. But having that ability to know it’s going to be ok, to relax and trust your body and the process (and docs) is wonderful whatever root you go!! So excited!!!!
We need an update video on the nurseries additions. Bassinet, car seat etc.
Thanks!
Aw how kind of you!!
Sounds like you guys have done well in preparing for baby Boy. There's acupressure points to help baby when they are colicky, to help them sleep, digestion or constipation. Lots of videos on that and is simple, natural and mostly effective. And maybe ask your lactation nurse on lecithin supps that help w/ breastfeeding to avoid plugged ducts. You guys will do amazing.
It's just the new age lamaze
It helped me. I had all 3 of mine naturally too. I didn't want an epidural and pain stuff. I'm so glad I did. You'll be glad you did too
You guys are going to be such great parents! Watching you chat about it was the sweetest. And regarding a no med birth… I did it twice. Once with pitocin and once without. Pitocin actually made it easier! It was constant pain, like one long contraction. Easy enough to relax into it. Second was fast and furious! No doula this time, husband was useless (he really is a wonderful man but…), and I still made it!! You have a fantastic mindset. You’ll do great!!
Go to your local fire station and they will help you properly install the car seat. Here in RI, a nurse will walk you outside and show you the proper way to strap baby in car seat for the ride home.
Be kind to yourself about breast milk. I found that I began to really trust myself and my body. I what works for some doesn’t for others and it’s ok. Being a loving parent and present is the most important. ❤
Tashas glow is bouncing off you Dave❤
Exciting!!
I know a lot of people who did this and said it was amazing !
Dave are you really having your baby on 420? This is amazing! I’m sorry I just smoked a joint 😅😂 congrats to you & Tasha 💚🍃
420 baby here...✌️😚💨
Happy Birthday to me🙌
@@cookinginthecucinawithrose2214 Happy birthday.
They’re not having the baby today.😂 they’re due May 1.
@@cookinginthecucinawithrose2214happy birthday
@@louisechopyak2384 since when does the due date mean that's the exact day the baby will come? Neither of mine came on their due date
Fed is best. 💙💙
Love bugs, for a humorous view on those crazy first weeks with the baby, I found comedian Rachel Dratch's book hilarious, eye opening, and comforting! 😂❤
I had natural childbirth in 1976. My 2nd child. It was Lamaze. Beautiful experience. Not sure i could have done on my first baby. But I eas young and dumb. I wish you the best! ❤️
Does it still come with the CD where it starts out “and now, it’s time to relax…” so great. Did hypno for 4 of my babies it’s great!
The Goal Line keeps moving.
Dawn soap will save those poop stained clothes!
Sounds like Boone has prepared you both for pee and poop everywhere! Blowouts often happen during breastfeeding, since the liquid goes in and comes out. It’s just science. My recommendation is for Tasha to sleep when the baby sleeps. In the beginning, babies sleep most of the day, but wake up every two hours for feeding. Do not hesitate to nap. You need the rest. Childbirth is exhausting. Your body needs to recover. To wake up when you hear the baby cry, change the diaper, then feed and maybe have to change another diaper takes a while, then you go back to sleep and do it again. With the nursing, just really keep very well hydrated yourself and try to relax about it. It is very natural and not really that difficult to master. Really trust your instincts, Tasha. Don’t overthink it. You two do make such a great team and are both so emotionally mature, you will do great!
If y’all can swing it, I 100% recommend lining up meals (whether that is meal delivery or having a meal train of friends drop off frozen meals), hiring someone to do housework the first few weeks, finding someone to wash Boone, they even have night nurses so you can both get a full 8 hours sleep. This kind of post-birth nanny is a common thing in other countries and it will help with your mental load. 🙏
I’ve got goosebumps 🥹🤩😍 !!!!
You both will do great. ❤❤❤
Best of luck to you two! I had an unmedicated water birth with a midwife and loved it. Just get through the contractions one at a time like riding a wave. You might get to a point in transition that you second guess yourself but it passes. Sometimes there’s a pause between completing transition and pushing and I was really hungry all the sudden and luckily we had peanut butter on hand and it gave me the energy to push baby out. So snacks are a good idea cause you might want something. Something to keep in mind is if you’re using a hospital midwife there’s a good portion who do a bait and switch and the joke is they are (Med)wives not midwives lol doulas are a great idea if it’s an in hospital midwife birth. Just my 2 cents.
Pitocin can also cause PVCs or pre ventricular contractions in the heart.
I loved this ❤
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤ I should send you the video of Evelyn’s blowout on Kiley. Hilarious!