I think this is a well thought out, timely episode that was properly delivered! I would like to stress Ryan’s point about standing up, pulling out chairs, opening doors, and other chivalrous acts. Take your daughters on dates! Set a date/time, show up on time (for me that’s usually 15 minutes early; thanks Army!), clean up (shower, dress nice, smell good), bring flowers, take her out, compliment her sincerely, put her in the car, escort her to the restaurant/date, focus on her, drop her off on time, escort her to the door, and thank her for her company. Set the bar so flipping high that the jack@$$ that shows up late and honks won’t ever see her again! It may be tough to do but it is worth it!
As a woman, I appreciate everything you're saying so much. As an older woman, I can tell you that girls are naive, they think they are safe when they are not, they think they are strong and can win in a physical fight with a man. Aside from belief in Jesus Christ as their Savior, training our children of either sex to see and avoid danger and to consider the consequences of their actions is the most valuable thing we can give them.
Indeed. As a man follows Christ, & points his family to Christ, this should encourage daughters to follow Him likewise. Prov 22:6 “`Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. “
Hey man. I just want to say thank you very much. I've learned so much from your podcast. I am very thankful for your help. I was a drug addict for most of my life and when I got clean I started listening to your podcast cause I didn't know how to be a man and take care of myself or family. Thanks Ryan. Your show has helped me so much.
My 7yr old had seen the video of the little girl punching the tree and took interest. She's now been in krav maga classes for a year. She also gets mad when she can't wear "her pretty dress" every time she goes out 😂. I think she's getting a good start on life.
Very valuable content ❤ This is one confirmation to myself healthy men do exist and I am always surrounded by healthy, authentic, kind and generous people who accept me for who I am. 🙏🌈
YES! I had hoped you would make something like this, I can definitely relate to this now. In the past, I had really looked forward to attending some of your masterminds or break outs but I don’t have a son, all I ever see is father son “camps” or gatherings so that pretty much leaves me out
I’ve been blessed with daughters and sons and you’re not wrong about the ratio of father/son events to father/daughter events. I just started working with my church’s men’s ministry and creating more opportunities for father/daughter time is high on my list of priorities. Greetings from San Antonio, sir.
Just want to say thank you for the great content that you provide. I wish i had heard and learned more of this when i was younger. Keep up the good work!
Well done and glad you did this video. As a father, I have been workign with my daguhter on all of this. We have to nurture and encourage them to grow into good women while balancing the ability to show them enough love and affection. I really enjoy the relationship I am cultivating with my daughter and always looking to improve it. This video has some action items that will help.
One of the most important lessons I've ever heard said about protecting a cherished daughter of dating age was for a Dad to tell his daughter in a very casual way that she was to let the boy she was dating know that she and her Dad were very close and therefore she told him everything about her dating life. It naturally causes the boys to think twice before doing anything that might compromise the young lady's safety or innocence before she is ready for anything more intimate than they arguably "should be doing".
I agree with everything. My only question would be when you say teach her to be independent, you are wanting to her to be independent of what? Independent means self reliance, it's natural progression is to not need anyone. Your thoughts..
I don’t presume, nor do I wish, to speak for Ryan but let me take a stab at this if I may. As a father of both daughters and sons, I do my best to teach them to be independent. That means that the are free to choose to be with someone because of how they compliment them versus trying to complete them. For my sons, it means not needing someone to “run the house” but being fully capable of cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, shopping, etc. so that they don’t end up with someone who is good at that but lacking in other areas of a wife. Likewise for my daughters, I want them to be able to handle the lawn, plumbing, electrical, maintenance, finances (earning AND budgeting because it’s not ok to pay the bills and blow the rest), etc. so that they don’t end up with a husband who is good at that but treats them poorly. In the end, it’s about giving them the options to CHOOSE to be with someone (for my girls, a husband) instead of marrying to fill a need. I want them to be complete by themselves so they can bring and contribute their whole selves to the marriage and not be incomplete and/or broken, seeking someone to do for them. Let me ask a rhetorical question: do you want your wife to NEED you or WANT you? Being capable of independence does not mean that they cannot willingly enter into a mutually interdependent relationship; we just want to help the avoid a one-sided dependent relationship which isn’t good for anyone. Again, I don’t speak for Ryan but I hope my perspective helps. Greetings from San Antonio, TX.
@@infra_r3d133 the youngest is 21 GRILS are miserable to deal with once they turn 12 good news they usually do the " I hate mom thing " but its draining .........to many hens in the hen house is what my working theory is ...........
I have raised (8) Daughters Steps, and natural, I love them all the same ............ Situational awareness is a lesson I grind into them ...park under bright lights ...never walk by yourself if possible ...never have headphones on moving to your car etc I have a safety brief of sorts I always walk them to their cars .....and pretty much any female friend of my wife that comes to visit and leaves at night ......most women will not prevail against a determined male attacker ....... This is a FACT ......news flash, men and women are biologically different That is why I know moving women into combat arms is a MISTAKE Small unit cohesion is destroyed. They are physically weaker (There some men can't cut the physical or mental demands of the infantry ) and to move them to Infantry and especially Marine Infantry, makes no sense to me. I was a Marine and I EARNED my slot to Ranger school ... There is no way in God's green earth. Back in 1992, I went to Ranger school, where a chick was getting through physically and perhaps even mentally The services must keep THE STANDARD ..... and If you are a female ..........just because you can does not mean you should There should never be women commanding men in direct battle ( ie leading a company or PLT) ...you have to lead from the front, and in that situation, it's life and death. That's pretty much what I have to say about that.
I like to say that men and women are of equivalent worth in GOD's eyes. Both genders can do many things equally well within the family unit, but each gender is supposed to bring their own unique "spin" on how they communicate those behaviors. But, they were specifically designed to fulfill some essentially differing responsibilities within the nuclear family unit.
Congratulations man! Biggest most frightening most fulfilling assignment you’ll ever have! I’ve been blessed with two of my own so I welcome you to the fraternity of girl dads! 😉 Learn to braid hair, play with dolls, and have tea parties; it’ll pay off.
@@griffinmead934 congratulations to you good sir and welcome to the fraternity. My firstborn was also a girl (as was my second) and I’m pretty sure that I cried more than she did that first day!
Me i have two daughters. Saw them 4 times in 10 years because ex is out of her mind and judge expect me to pay each visitation so no-go for me including false aleguations almosr each time ans trials as a consequence.. I have not much idea how they look like now nor how is their life looking like. If you have the chance to be with your daughter everyday you have no idea how "lucky" you are. There is no word to express how much i regret to have had children. It has simply destroy me how they got "used" and how they were taken away and still are completely absent today since 2012. We were all "christians"/"Jesus believer". I guess christians are the worse when it comes to those things. It is difficult for me to believe something else.
Brother my heart goes out to you because I read a lot of my own story in yours. When they’re young their mom has control over whether you get to see them or not and the current state of family court does little if anything to support a father’s right to be in his kids’ lives. I would encourage you to not give up on your girls though. Give up on the drama their mom (your ex) wants to bring, sure. But not your girls. I used to call, text, send cards (without money cuz mom would take it which is why I also didn’t send presents), and stop by at school just to stay close and remind them that I love them. They are now in their early 20s and we are starting to deepen our relationship. I grieve the loss of the formative years but I’m thankful for what I have now. You have to consider long-term actions/goals/consequences/results above immediate ones (which sucks, I know) because childhood is such a brief time compared to their whole life which in turn is brief compared to eternity. PS it isn’t the Christian in them that’s bad (although they may have some bad theology), it’s the fact that they claim to be Christian without the faith and actions it requires. Saying it doesn’t make it so; doing it/being it does. “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” It’s a common complaint of Christians but please don’t judge an ideology/religion based upon its abuses or the misguided actions of a wounded person. Praying for you from San Antonio, TX.
One interesting thing here is that if we raise our girls following these ideas, they will also be less likely to end up with some weak aggressive guy. Because she will be independent and self secure, she will find a guy who is also strong and so on, but most importantly, very self secure and balanced.
I have two daughters and I think about this everyday, I have nightmares about messing this up all the time. I would hate my self 10 years from now and my daughters think that the only thing they jave to offer is their bodies.
To bad my chick had a horrible farther figure and know she doesn’t have respect for me Actually she has only dated bad boys so I’m the good guy that comes along, and it doesn’t work in my favor ha even her dad said I’m the only man she has ever dated everyone else was a boy,
I think this is a well thought out, timely episode that was properly delivered! I would like to stress Ryan’s point about standing up, pulling out chairs, opening doors, and other chivalrous acts. Take your daughters on dates! Set a date/time, show up on time (for me that’s usually 15 minutes early; thanks Army!), clean up (shower, dress nice, smell good), bring flowers, take her out, compliment her sincerely, put her in the car, escort her to the restaurant/date, focus on her, drop her off on time, escort her to the door, and thank her for her company. Set the bar so flipping high that the jack@$$ that shows up late and honks won’t ever see her again!
It may be tough to do but it is worth it!
What stood out for me was the self defense and situational awareness 👌🏿
This was absolutely needed.well done and thank you, sincerely..
As a woman, I appreciate everything you're saying so much. As an older woman, I can tell you that girls are naive, they think they are safe when they are not, they think they are strong and can win in a physical fight with a man. Aside from belief in Jesus Christ as their Savior, training our children of either sex to see and avoid danger and to consider the consequences of their actions is the most valuable thing we can give them.
Indeed. As a man follows Christ, & points his family to Christ, this should encourage daughters to follow Him likewise.
Prov 22:6 “`Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. “
Great episode. Fathers play a very important and unique role in the lives of daughters. Well done.
Hey man. I just want to say thank you very much. I've learned so much from your podcast. I am very thankful for your help. I was a drug addict for most of my life and when I got clean I started listening to your podcast cause I didn't know how to be a man and take care of myself or family. Thanks Ryan. Your show has helped me so much.
That self defense part 👌🏿 That's something I've been thinking about more.
My 7yr old had seen the video of the little girl punching the tree and took interest. She's now been in krav maga classes for a year. She also gets mad when she can't wear "her pretty dress" every time she goes out 😂. I think she's getting a good start on life.
Lol that's amazing! I got two girls and they challenge me every day! I just subscribed to you!
Highly recommend the book “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters”, by. Dr. Meg Meeker
That book is a game changer. I give this out as a gift to all new fathers. I re-read as needed.
This is exactly what I was going to recommend as well.
Very valuable content ❤ This is one confirmation to myself healthy men do exist and I am always surrounded by healthy, authentic, kind and generous people who accept me for who I am. 🙏🌈
I've been planning to ask this exact question, Thanks.
YES! I had hoped you would make something like this, I can definitely relate to this now. In the past, I had really looked forward to attending some of your masterminds or break outs but I don’t have a son, all I ever see is father son “camps” or gatherings so that pretty much leaves me out
I’ve been blessed with daughters and sons and you’re not wrong about the ratio of father/son events to father/daughter events. I just started working with my church’s men’s ministry and creating more opportunities for father/daughter time is high on my list of priorities. Greetings from San Antonio, sir.
Just want to say thank you for the great content that you provide. I wish i had heard and learned more of this when i was younger. Keep up the good work!
Well done and glad you did this video. As a father, I have been workign with my daguhter on all of this. We have to nurture and encourage them to grow into good women while balancing the ability to show them enough love and affection. I really enjoy the relationship I am cultivating with my daughter and always looking to improve it. This video has some action items that will help.
It's hard, but worth it. I have two girls and continue to be challenged! Just subscribed to you
Looking forward for the content of this one!
Good to here this I've two girls
Great Content.
One of the most important lessons I've ever heard said about protecting a cherished daughter of dating age was for a Dad to tell his daughter in a very casual way that she was to let the boy she was dating know that she and her Dad were very close and therefore she told him everything about her dating life.
It naturally causes the boys to think twice before doing anything that might compromise the young lady's safety or innocence before she is ready for anything more intimate than they arguably "should be doing".
I like it brother. Very good and very true.
Love this.. thank you
Hey man, I always appreciate you and what you do. Heres a comment for the algorithm.
Thank you. Very informative.
I agree with everything. My only question would be when you say teach her to be independent, you are wanting to her to be independent of what? Independent means self reliance, it's natural progression is to not need anyone.
Your thoughts..
That's a great question.
I don’t presume, nor do I wish, to speak for Ryan but let me take a stab at this if I may.
As a father of both daughters and sons, I do my best to teach them to be independent. That means that the are free to choose to be with someone because of how they compliment them versus trying to complete them.
For my sons, it means not needing someone to “run the house” but being fully capable of cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, shopping, etc. so that they don’t end up with someone who is good at that but lacking in other areas of a wife.
Likewise for my daughters, I want them to be able to handle the lawn, plumbing, electrical, maintenance, finances (earning AND budgeting because it’s not ok to pay the bills and blow the rest), etc. so that they don’t end up with a husband who is good at that but treats them poorly.
In the end, it’s about giving them the options to CHOOSE to be with someone (for my girls, a husband) instead of marrying to fill a need. I want them to be complete by themselves so they can bring and contribute their whole selves to the marriage and not be incomplete and/or broken, seeking someone to do for them.
Let me ask a rhetorical question: do you want your wife to NEED you or WANT you? Being capable of independence does not mean that they cannot willingly enter into a mutually interdependent relationship; we just want to help the avoid a one-sided dependent relationship which isn’t good for anyone.
Again, I don’t speak for Ryan but I hope my perspective helps. Greetings from San Antonio, TX.
@@davidguidry657 Sound advice, sound logic.
I have 8 of them ........
Woah!! Much love to you brother!
@@infra_r3d133 the youngest is 21 GRILS are miserable to deal with once they turn 12 good news they usually do the " I hate mom thing " but its draining .........to many hens in the hen house is what my working theory is ...........
Read a Book Titled- She calls me Daddy- Robert Wolgemuth- a resource
You the man bro👍
I have raised (8) Daughters Steps, and natural, I love them all the same ............
Situational awareness is a lesson I grind into them ...park under bright lights ...never walk by yourself if possible ...never have headphones on moving to your car etc I have a safety brief of sorts
I always walk them to their cars .....and pretty much any female friend of my wife that comes to visit and leaves at night ......most women will not prevail against a determined male attacker .......
This is a FACT ......news flash, men and women are biologically different
That is why I know moving women into combat arms is a MISTAKE
Small unit cohesion is destroyed. They are physically weaker (There some men can't cut the physical or mental demands of the infantry ) and to move them to Infantry and especially Marine Infantry, makes no sense to me.
I was a Marine and I EARNED my slot to Ranger school ...
There is no way in God's green earth. Back in 1992, I went to Ranger school, where a chick was getting through physically and perhaps even mentally
The services must keep THE STANDARD ..... and If you are a female ..........just because you can does not mean you should
There should never be women commanding men in direct battle ( ie leading a company or PLT) ...you have to lead from the front, and in that situation, it's life and death.
That's pretty much what I have to say about that.
God bless you on the journey you have been on. Just subscribed to you
I like to say that men and women are of equivalent worth in GOD's eyes.
Both genders can do many things equally well within the family unit, but each gender is supposed to bring their own unique "spin" on how they communicate those behaviors.
But, they were specifically designed to fulfill some essentially differing responsibilities within the nuclear family unit.
Must of been fate. I don’t usually check TH-cam anymore and I have a daughter in 10 weeks!
Congratulations man! Biggest most frightening most fulfilling assignment you’ll ever have! I’ve been blessed with two of my own so I welcome you to the fraternity of girl dads! 😉 Learn to braid hair, play with dolls, and have tea parties; it’ll pay off.
Congratulations brother! My daughter is my firstborn and I wouldn’t change it for anything.
Congratulations! I just had my daughter 10 days ago. Shes my firstborn
@@griffinmead934 congratulations to you good sir and welcome to the fraternity. My firstborn was also a girl (as was my second) and I’m pretty sure that I cried more than she did that first day!
Congratulations, I just had my daughter as well, she is the best thing in the world and makes one strive to be a better man for her! God bless
Me i have two daughters. Saw them 4 times in 10 years because ex is out of her mind and judge expect me to pay each visitation so no-go for me including false aleguations almosr each time ans trials as a consequence.. I have not much idea how they look like now nor how is their life looking like. If you have the chance to be with your daughter everyday you have no idea how "lucky" you are. There is no word to express how much i regret to have had children. It has simply destroy me how they got "used" and how they were taken away and still are completely absent today since 2012. We were all "christians"/"Jesus believer". I guess christians are the worse when it comes to those things. It is difficult for me to believe something else.
Brother my heart goes out to you because I read a lot of my own story in yours. When they’re young their mom has control over whether you get to see them or not and the current state of family court does little if anything to support a father’s right to be in his kids’ lives.
I would encourage you to not give up on your girls though. Give up on the drama their mom (your ex) wants to bring, sure. But not your girls. I used to call, text, send cards (without money cuz mom would take it which is why I also didn’t send presents), and stop by at school just to stay close and remind them that I love them. They are now in their early 20s and we are starting to deepen our relationship. I grieve the loss of the formative years but I’m thankful for what I have now. You have to consider long-term actions/goals/consequences/results above immediate ones (which sucks, I know) because childhood is such a brief time compared to their whole life which in turn is brief compared to eternity.
PS it isn’t the Christian in them that’s bad (although they may have some bad theology), it’s the fact that they claim to be Christian without the faith and actions it requires. Saying it doesn’t make it so; doing it/being it does. “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” It’s a common complaint of Christians but please don’t judge an ideology/religion based upon its abuses or the misguided actions of a wounded person. Praying for you from San Antonio, TX.
One interesting thing here is that if we raise our girls following these ideas, they will also be less likely to end up with some weak aggressive guy. Because she will be independent and self secure, she will find a guy who is also strong and so on, but most importantly, very self secure and balanced.
Agreed, man. Looking for other like minded dads. Just subscribed to you
I have two daughters and I think about this everyday, I have nightmares about messing this up all the time. I would hate my self 10 years from now and my daughters think that the only thing they jave to offer is their bodies.
By your great efforts in being a great dad they will find good men to be with cheers 🍻
Same here! I have 2 girls as well and worry all the time. Just subscribed to you
Awesomeness
Do you support Defendant trump?
fathers should have date nites with there daughters...some 1 on 1 time
To bad my chick had a horrible farther figure and know she doesn’t have respect for me
Actually she has only dated bad boys so I’m the good guy that comes along, and it doesn’t work in my favor ha even her dad said I’m the only man she has ever dated everyone else was a boy,
Sorround your daughter with femininity, not feminism.
Exactly