As someone who was bullied as a kid, the second story nearly made me tear up. Even if it might be morally dubious, I 100% support what the parent did to help Becky. Especially since even a 10 year old IS old enough to realise bullying a cancer survivor is shitty, little bastard had it coming. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
as a fellow former bullied kid, i agree. that place’s responses tho to both instances had me ready to RAGE. that’s pretty much exactly how every one of my schools “handled” my bullies. just a bunch of lazy, ignorant, unqualified, power tripping, dumb fcks who ofc dgaf abt doing their job or abt their students. 😅🙄
After Josh read that op got pregnant by accident the second time this nauseating feeling settled in my stomach, which only worsened after finding out that he is a medical professional. I instantly thought that he might have tempered with her birth control. It would absolutely fit with his general vibe, dating a 21 year old at 35 and adamantly wanting her to be a stay at home mom. I hope op gets some testing done to see if her birth control is being tempered with or talks to him directly. Although I highly doubt that he would confess to anything if he actually did it. He would probably rather gaslight her into oblivion. But even if he didn't temper with her birth control I think op should still divorce him. He is not a supportive husband and very clearly displayed creepy behavior by dating that young. Plus his attitude towards the nanny. Op should really leave his ass and take the children and nanny with her. She deserves way better.
I was thinking she should talk to him too, but the more I think about it, the more I believe if she did talk to him about it, she should do it AFTER she’s able to gather evidence proving he did in fact tamper with her birth control. Because if she confronts him before she’s able to prove it, I get the feeling he will find a way to cover his tracks so she can’t get the proof she needs. So I think she should investigate it and gather what she can proving he did tamper with her birth control, and then confront him. And when she does, she needs to at least audio record the confrontation, that way he can’t try to deny anything he says at a later date. This is very dangerous and controlling behavior. This girl is literally going through Stockholm syndrome with this man.
@@mellissa61390 Stockholm syndrome is when you feel empathy/sympathy or can see yourself in your captor. Media has changed what it actually is (source: A Swede). But this woman obviously haven't heard of the thing where doctors/medical professional should NOT give medical advice to friends/family because of bias.
In the story of OP getting pregnant while on three birth control methods, I found in an online search that certain supplements make birth control pills ineffective. Didn't OP say that her spouse prescribed her supplements?
2nd story - John is the GOAT! Make 'em paaaaaay 🤣 When I was a kid, about to start secondary school my Dad gave me the "talk" about what to watch out for and school life. "If a kid tries to bully you, just hit them square in the face and do it hard enough they won't forget about it anytime soon". His advice used to make me laugh (I absolutely loved school and my school mates) but now as an adult, I've seen the extent of inaction from some adults who are in positions of authority. I'm starting to think my Dad may have had a point...🤔😂
Story 4: she definitely got baby trapped. Different kinds of birth control failing more than once at times that just happen to align with major events in OP's life. Not a chance in hell that's an accident.
Who's gonna tell story 4 OP that her husband is tampering with her BC? Because she keeps getting pregnant every time she's trying to move on with her life and not be his good little housewife...
@42:21 "Nah, I'm sus sometimes." Realizing I really am the Jon of my friends and family. Also, I wonder if he tried to hit up on the nanny and she turned him down so he's trying to get her out of there before she rats him out.
Given the wife whose husband was prescribing her “birth control” there will be a record of what was prescribed to her. She needs to get legal help into looking into that. It’s against the law for a dr to manipulate someone’s health and well being. That’s psychotic behavior and it was a way for him to trap you to a point where if you ever leave him, he will still be apart of your life weather you want to be or not. This is Stockholm syndrome. SMH. Girl take the kids and run.
As a member of the LGBTQ community, I kind of agree with OP, IF sister knew at the time of getting together with that boy. If she was dating him as a beard and he didn’t know, that is really selfish and screwed up. She’s young so I think being young and dumb is why she did it but I think it should be a lesson to her. Instead of getting mad at her sibling for pointing it out, she should apologize to the boy for leading him on. Do the right thing and maybe OP would be supportive then.
That’s what I was thinking. And almost an entire year, that’s a long time, enough for your to decide if you “weren’t sure”. It’s also alot of time to have wasted for someone.
for real. im also lgbt and i agree with op cause like.. judging by what she said, aka "i knew i was a lesbian for a year" its INSANEEEE to keep dating that guy. no mentions of comphet, no confusing platonic love with romantic love, not "looking back on it, it was obvious," just full on knowing she was a lesbian and leading this guy on. people shouldnt be mad at op for pointing out that their sister hurt someone, the sister should be apologizing to that guy for leading him on for so long as you said. queer people dont get and excuse because we're queer, we have to face consequences and own up to mistakes. staying with someone you dont have feelings for, especially longer than 2 weeks (giving grace here because sometimes you have to reflect on how you feel) is just horrible
Yeah, I'd agree with that. I'm always very critical of the collateral damage ppl leave in the wake of their sexuality journeys. Those of us who aren't straight have had it rough, but life isn't just about us, so if there's even a possibility we're toying with someone's feelings, it needs to stop. At the very least you should let a partner know you're questioning your possible bisexuality when it starts becoming something that may affect the relationship. Apart from that, as a gay guy I don't even think congratulations are necessary, regardless of how much courage it may take to come out. It never felt like an appropriate response to me, especially when it's something we're trying to normalize as not being a big deal. A person should be able to respond with a simple "cool" or "okay" and move on. Congratulations for coming out is giving "Gender Reveal Party" energy. Meh.
Story 4: I honestly think that OP should pull an uno reverse and leave her husband for their nanny. That’s the happy ending I choose to believe in 😂 the nanny and OP just run off into the sunset while her old ass husband goes on conservative forums and cries about it.
To lead a young boy on for 10 months , if you knew for years, that you are not into this gender, is f***** up. Just because you are too afraid to come out, you shouldn't use another person as cover, who is really in love with you. Just stay single and pretend to be in love with a celebrity you don't stand any chance with. So I understand that OP is disappointed in her sister. She probably doesn't see what the big deal is with being a lesbian, the way she tells this story. So at least she's not homophobic.
The woman in the birth control story should go to another doctor and have blood work done to see if she even has birth control hormones in her system, sus AF 😭
She should also look into the supplements he recommended to see if any of those affect birth control efficacy. Also, in a comment she mentioned that for their 3rd kid, her birth control was stolen and she had to skip 2 days the cycle she got pregnant. So 2 birth control failures, and for the 3rd it was conveniently stolen? Sounds extremely suspicious
oh i’d bet he’s ONLY been giving her vitamins & supplements, i bet he’s just been giving things that can imitate the same side effects as birth control as well just to keep it convincing enough! & ofc any protection he’d use he definitely poked holes in them or would probably even just take it off when she wasn’t looking 😅 he’s scary tbh & im very concerned for op 😅😅
@@tubblebub nah she should leave him. She wanted to get an IUD before and he talked her out of it knowing she would trust his opinion because of his profession. Dude’s gotta go
can you imagine if story 4 (the husband who wants to trap his wife) tried making moves on the nanny, it didnt work, and so he tried to get her fired? ooor he wanted the nanny gone so he can safely see her if she were to accept his advances 💀💀 also coming from an lgbt person, the fifth story.. ops sister was fcked up for that. she *knew* she was a lesbian (for a YEAR....). that means she was done being in her comphet phase (intentional or not) and knew she couldnt like him. unless she was on the fence about it while confusing platonic love for romantic love, she was in the wrong and i agree with op. looking back is different cause its like "i shouldve known based on x y and z." and if she didnt break up with him while fully knowing/accepting herself because she'd feel bad for him,, thats also terrible. you cant just lead people on like that and instead of being mad at op for pointing out that she hurt someone, she should apologize for hurting that guy even though the dude was just a "mutual," even if he was a full on stranger id be upset for him. thats how empathy goes
Coming out story, I understand not congratulating her because she was pretty sure for a while and 10 months is huge when you're a kid like that. 10 months is leading someone on if you've already been interested elsewhere. She should've stayed single. Being young doesn't mean you didn't do anything hurtful or handle something improperly.
I would love to have a baby. So if my partner brought home an affair baby and then had a heart attack, I would adopt the baby and leave 😅 I understand that the parents of the 22 year old don't put blame on their daughter. If my 22 year old step daughter would get pregnant by an almost 50 year old married, I would probably put all my and toward the older man.
The sexiest husband one I’m wondering if it’s a trauma response to agree with his parents. many people who are people pleasers have this trauma response
If that's the case that still feels like an issue because he caved that fast while not being the breadwinnee and bad with finances, but when she throws is back at him, he holds his head down and cries? It could be linked to trauma but tell the wife that over letting mommy dearest influence you.
As a fully Bisexual human, OP is not the ass hole for not being on board with his sister's behaviour. He says she's known for a long time she's gay. What was the purpose of leading that dude on for 10 months? She should have stayed single if she was unsure where she stood that whole time. It's a dick move to drag an innocent person into the complicated and confusing period of figuring stuff out
Exactly also Bi here I hate when people r used as skirts or beards just don't date of u know ur not heterosexual and ur not ready to come out that's more then ok just stay single until ur ready
I love the Jenny story. ohhh, Petty Labelle came out to play😂🔥🔥. The with the Affair baby is such nonsense. If it were the other way round? If the wife fell pregnant by a boy, would everyone have the same energy? Everyone is crazy. Sorry, but she does owe that baby anything. The fact that she even helped a little is enough! The grandparents can take over since their daughter is one of those undeservingly fertile humans. She'll probably end up homeless and then wanna come back🙄 - this is Earth!
My best friend is a guy u dated years ago. We broke up bc he came out as gay. Our friendship is even closer than our relationship ever was. (Also as he told me about his experience, I realized I was lesbian lmao)
The coming out story - OP isn't an asshole. So people must discover at someone else's expense? She said she's known for years🙄. This is the line where I might have unpopular opinions of the community.
I disagree so hard with your takes on the last one... It's not about "choosing a stranger over a sister", it's about morals. She said she had known for years, so no excuses on dating that poor guy. And "try it out" and "make sure", if those were her motives, are absolutely no excuse on hurting a guy who was "head over heels" for her. So, she knew this could hurt badly and still did it to "try it out"... that's just emotional negligence.
You can't just experiment on people. Where is the empathy there??? she should just get confirmation through other means, with no emotions attached on either end.
@@martina6700 fr, ideally you should wait till you have a crush on a dude or are really attracted to a guy. coming from an lgbt person, what she did waa absolutely horribly fcked up
@@kaitlynmorgan4613And I'm 80% sure I am asexual and aromantic. However, I WON'T EXPERIMENT ON A PERSON I DON'T HAVE FEELINGS FOR, THAT WOULD BE CRUEL. It's not that hard to just wait until you sort it out or look for a way that has no one getting hurt 😭
The first red flag after the age gap is that she said she was on THREE different birth controls…you don’t take 3 at once…that makes no sense and would do nothing for you. My literal first thought was who tf would prescribe her three at once, because like no. No one is going to. Of course it’s the creep husband. He 100% did it, he’s the one who prescribed it…there’s no way he wasn’t messing with it. The signs are blazing.
About the 3rd story. I have a half sister that was consequence of adultery on my father's part. My mom and part of my family knew all along she existed, but not me, they hid from me for 7 years. Until one day when I was 14 years old my father came and told me everything (I discovered later that most of it was a lie). She was 7 at the time and the only reason he told me that was that her mother passed and she was going to live with us next year. He said to me "well, you always wanted a brother or sister right?" No. I never wanted siblings, never ever, but that wasn't a choice I could change. She moved in with us, but it was super difficult at the beginning. I admit I was a bitch to her and hated her presence. Well, she's 14 now and I'm 21. It was a though ride to get to accept her, accept that she's innocent and to see her as my sister and not just a blood related person. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I don't blame OP at all, I understand her more than anything. Of course I would not blame on the baby, but that is a thing she need to heal and mature on like i did. Oh, and a lot, A LOT of therapy! Sorry if I missed spell something, English is not my first language ❤
For the last story, I think y'all are missing the fact that the boyfriend is a human being and shouldn't be treated like an experiment. Same as when women/men use members of the LGBTQIA community as their own experiment. It's wrong to toy with people's feelings. If you're not sure, you shouldn't be stringing someone along. It's not cool.
The last story was crazy because there’s a difference between knowing your gay and accepting it and feeling ready to say to yourself and others your queer. And it’s so likely that the sister feels bad for the guy to she doesn’t need you making her feel bad.
Story 2: I love that evil monologue from John XD Also fuck every school or whatever system that only confronts the bullying when the victim fights back. Also as much as the divorce comment is cruel, it's not as cruel as mocking a cancer patient so it's not even matching her energy!
My kids got made fun of by the neighbor kids for not having a dad (divorce) so I told my kids their (the neighbor kids ) step dad was also their uncle. True and also devastating. Don't fuck with my kids.
Only hospital doctors have such a long schedule. Clinic doctors have much shorter hours. Sounds like he may be a nurse practitioner or something and not a doctor per se
Affair baby story, the wife accepted the affair, he came home with the baby. She said fine, but I'm not doing anything. After 4 months, he had an affair. She helped out while he was in bad condition, but as soon as he was recovering, she filed for divorce. You guys seemed a little confused on the timeline. ❤
I'm not gonna say how because I don't want to risk giving anyone any ideas but you can also easily tamper birth control pills at home and don't need to be a medical professional giving them the prescription yourself, so if you're concerned about this it's safer having them where your partner can't get to or doesn't know where they are
Birth control: if he’s tampering with it, it’s NOT in the prescription. You can’t prescribe placebos. The only supplement that interferes with birth control is St John’s Wort, and even there the data is mixed. My best friend’s mother was on birth control, including an IUD, with all three of her pregnancies. So it DOES happen. Most likely it has something to do with how OP’s body metabolizes the medication and she needs a higher dose. TLDR if he’s tampering with the birth control it’s not through the prescription
I'm offering a correction to your understanding on drug/drug and drug/supplement interactions: *Any product that interferes with how the birth control (BC) is metabolized in the body can make the BC ineffective.* In general, when a person swallows a drug, that drug is processed through the digestive tract for absorption in the blood stream. If you have IBS, Crohn's, or other gut issues, you aren't absorbing some drugs in the same manner. From the digestive blood stream, the drug passes through the liver where it is metabolized. Some drugs aren't activated to be therapeutic _until_ they are metabolized by the liver. And, one way that other drugs and/or supplements (D/S) can inactivate BC is by making the liver work harder than it should to keep up with the metabolization process. Some D/S have more affinity for metabolization, some inactivate therapeutic levels of BC once the D/S is metabolized, etc etc. St John's Wort is famous for inactivating many other drugs, but there are antibiotics, and other seemingly innocuous over the counter medications that are known for this effect. It is also recommended that an individual take their BC at the same time everyday, simply to maintain the needed level of hormones in their bloodstream so an egg isn't released. If you have BC of too low a dose, say the dosage for hormone replacement therapy, it is only going to be as effective as a placebo. *TLDR* There are too many ways for a medical professional husband to inactivate birth control, but many of the ways are through simple biochemistry with drug/drug and drug/supplement interactions.
This dude telling his wife to be proper woman.. the op is ah for not kicking the in-laws out for continually disrespecting me in front of the kids. Anyone know if there ever was an update?
Its very possibly for the woman who got pregnant on birth control to have LITERALLY GOTTEN PREGNANT ON BIRTH CONTROL. My best friend has 6 GIRLS and 5 were conceived ON birth control, so it DOES happen.
While it does happen (I knew a teacher who's kid was in my class who shared that's how they were born when someone said birth control was 100%). The fact the husband prescribes the birth control is enough to be skeptical when it kept happening and that he is adamant about her staying home with the kids.
as a gay woman who tried to come out to her “long term abu$er” to try to finally leave, & was then abu$ed again & forced to stay a bit longer pretending to be “that happy lil straight girl w her super sweet bf”(bc ofc in front of others he put on a show) - op is ABSOLUTELY tah. he has no idea what it’s like to be like us, he hasn’t lived her life or had to go through the social gymnastics just to hide from others & blend in, he didn’t have to listen to what she had to hear her peers her say abt other ppl like her before they knew, he has no idea what he’s talking abt. the kid will be fine.. they’re literally teenagers, he’s got plenty of time to fall in love w plenty of ppl.. his sister however, has just FINALLY come up for air. & what she needs is her ppl there for her to encourage her & lift her up & show her they love & support her nmw. what hes doing is telling/showing her the exact opposite of that.
Just because LGBTQ+ people have a hard life and "he has more time in his hands" doesn't mean she should have played with his feelings. It's cruel and unreasonable. Of course your experience was terrible and I don't wish it on anyone, but that doesn't entitle people to just use someone else as a "cover" because there was NOTHING that could have gone wrong in avoiding the relationship, but there's plenty that is wrong in leading someone on while KNOWING that you aren't attracted to their genre. With this, I don't mean in any way to belittle your life or your experiences, but I do want to bring light into how it isn't the argument with which to defend certain actions.
The last story he’s acting like his sister dated him maliciously when more than likely her story is like a lot of women that realize they are fully lesbian and not just bi. I have a friend that said she dated men in high school and trust me when I say if you met her you would not be able to even imagine it lol but yeah it sucks that boys heart was broken but later he will be grateful that his ex was strong enough and had ppl that support her enough for her to tell the truth cus some ppl don’t and they stay in the relationship cus they are scared to tell ppl the truth. Even tho the sister may have known she is still a kid and obviously was confused for a while. You can say hey I feel bad for the dude and still be there for your sis
“You’re too broke to be sexist.” Perf 👌 Definitely using that line next time a man over-steps with me.
As someone who was bullied as a kid, the second story nearly made me tear up. Even if it might be morally dubious, I 100% support what the parent did to help Becky. Especially since even a 10 year old IS old enough to realise bullying a cancer survivor is shitty, little bastard had it coming. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
as a fellow former bullied kid, i agree. that place’s responses tho to both instances had me ready to RAGE. that’s pretty much exactly how every one of my schools “handled” my bullies. just a bunch of lazy, ignorant, unqualified, power tripping, dumb fcks who ofc dgaf abt doing their job or abt their students. 😅🙄
It wouldn’t literally kept going. The school would’ve never stopped the bully. She went to the school first. So ya gotta do what you gotta do!
Becky’s dad should have reply “my daughter is just stressed by having cancer”
I was already suspicious at the first "birth control" baby, but a SECOND one?! Dude has to be sabotaging
Definitely. It’s called “reproductive rape” and he is for sure a reproductive abuser.
My thoughts EXACTLY.
After Josh read that op got pregnant by accident the second time this nauseating feeling settled in my stomach, which only worsened after finding out that he is a medical professional. I instantly thought that he might have tempered with her birth control. It would absolutely fit with his general vibe, dating a 21 year old at 35 and adamantly wanting her to be a stay at home mom. I hope op gets some testing done to see if her birth control is being tempered with or talks to him directly. Although I highly doubt that he would confess to anything if he actually did it. He would probably rather gaslight her into oblivion.
But even if he didn't temper with her birth control I think op should still divorce him. He is not a supportive husband and very clearly displayed creepy behavior by dating that young. Plus his attitude towards the nanny.
Op should really leave his ass and take the children and nanny with her. She deserves way better.
My thoughts went exactly the same way!
I was suspicious after just the first pregnancy and then a second one and then he’s a doctor. Yeah this man is jail!
I was thinking she should talk to him too, but the more I think about it, the more I believe if she did talk to him about it, she should do it AFTER she’s able to gather evidence proving he did in fact tamper with her birth control. Because if she confronts him before she’s able to prove it, I get the feeling he will find a way to cover his tracks so she can’t get the proof she needs. So I think she should investigate it and gather what she can proving he did tamper with her birth control, and then confront him. And when she does, she needs to at least audio record the confrontation, that way he can’t try to deny anything he says at a later date. This is very dangerous and controlling behavior. This girl is literally going through Stockholm syndrome with this man.
@@mellissa61390 Stockholm syndrome is when you feel empathy/sympathy or can see yourself in your captor.
Media has changed what it actually is (source: A Swede).
But this woman obviously haven't heard of the thing where doctors/medical professional should NOT give medical advice to friends/family because of bias.
In the story of OP getting pregnant while on three birth control methods, I found in an online search that certain supplements make birth control pills ineffective. Didn't OP say that her spouse prescribed her supplements?
2nd story - John is the GOAT! Make 'em paaaaaay 🤣 When I was a kid, about to start secondary school my Dad gave me the "talk" about what to watch out for and school life. "If a kid tries to bully you, just hit them square in the face and do it hard enough they won't forget about it anytime soon". His advice used to make me laugh (I absolutely loved school and my school mates) but now as an adult, I've seen the extent of inaction from some adults who are in positions of authority. I'm starting to think my Dad may have had a point...🤔😂
John's revenge monologue is most relatable thing I've ever heard 27:40
Story 4: she definitely got baby trapped. Different kinds of birth control failing more than once at times that just happen to align with major events in OP's life. Not a chance in hell that's an accident.
Who's gonna tell story 4 OP that her husband is tampering with her BC? Because she keeps getting pregnant every time she's trying to move on with her life and not be his good little housewife...
everyone in the comments 😭😭
@@kaitlynmorgan4613 I foolishly typed that before they'd read the comments and I may never recover
"Nobody is teaching their kids to bully"
...Frank Gallagher would like a word 😂
@42:21 "Nah, I'm sus sometimes." Realizing I really am the Jon of my friends and family.
Also, I wonder if he tried to hit up on the nanny and she turned him down so he's trying to get her out of there before she rats him out.
John becoming a papa bear over Becky is so funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂
if he ever decides to be a dad, he’ll be the best dad fr! like a teddy bear but w tattoos type vibe 😂🫶🏼
Given the wife whose husband was prescribing her “birth control” there will be a record of what was prescribed to her. She needs to get legal help into looking into that. It’s against the law for a dr to manipulate someone’s health and well being. That’s psychotic behavior and it was a way for him to trap you to a point where if you ever leave him, he will still be apart of your life weather you want to be or not. This is Stockholm syndrome. SMH. Girl take the kids and run.
34:00 the absolutely _rancid_ look on Sean's face. I've never seen such potent stank.
As a member of the LGBTQ community, I kind of agree with OP, IF sister knew at the time of getting together with that boy. If she was dating him as a beard and he didn’t know, that is really selfish and screwed up. She’s young so I think being young and dumb is why she did it but I think it should be a lesson to her. Instead of getting mad at her sibling for pointing it out, she should apologize to the boy for leading him on. Do the right thing and maybe OP would be supportive then.
That’s what I was thinking.
And almost an entire year, that’s a long time, enough for your to decide if you “weren’t sure”.
It’s also alot of time to have wasted for someone.
for real. im also lgbt and i agree with op cause like.. judging by what she said, aka "i knew i was a lesbian for a year" its INSANEEEE to keep dating that guy. no mentions of comphet, no confusing platonic love with romantic love, not "looking back on it, it was obvious," just full on knowing she was a lesbian and leading this guy on. people shouldnt be mad at op for pointing out that their sister hurt someone, the sister should be apologizing to that guy for leading him on for so long as you said. queer people dont get and excuse because we're queer, we have to face consequences and own up to mistakes. staying with someone you dont have feelings for, especially longer than 2 weeks (giving grace here because sometimes you have to reflect on how you feel) is just horrible
Yeah, I'd agree with that. I'm always very critical of the collateral damage ppl leave in the wake of their sexuality journeys. Those of us who aren't straight have had it rough, but life isn't just about us, so if there's even a possibility we're toying with someone's feelings, it needs to stop. At the very least you should let a partner know you're questioning your possible bisexuality when it starts becoming something that may affect the relationship.
Apart from that, as a gay guy I don't even think congratulations are necessary, regardless of how much courage it may take to come out. It never felt like an appropriate response to me, especially when it's something we're trying to normalize as not being a big deal. A person should be able to respond with a simple "cool" or "okay" and move on. Congratulations for coming out is giving "Gender Reveal Party" energy. Meh.
Story 4: I honestly think that OP should pull an uno reverse and leave her husband for their nanny. That’s the happy ending I choose to believe in 😂 the nanny and OP just run off into the sunset while her old ass husband goes on conservative forums and cries about it.
THIS 👏👏
To lead a young boy on for 10 months , if you knew for years, that you are not into this gender, is f***** up. Just because you are too afraid to come out, you shouldn't use another person as cover, who is really in love with you. Just stay single and pretend to be in love with a celebrity you don't stand any chance with. So I understand that OP is disappointed in her sister. She probably doesn't see what the big deal is with being a lesbian, the way she tells this story. So at least she's not homophobic.
Remind me not to get on John’s bad side 😂😂😂
The woman in the birth control story should go to another doctor and have blood work done to see if she even has birth control hormones in her system, sus AF 😭
She should also look into the supplements he recommended to see if any of those affect birth control efficacy. Also, in a comment she mentioned that for their 3rd kid, her birth control was stolen and she had to skip 2 days the cycle she got pregnant. So 2 birth control failures, and for the 3rd it was conveniently stolen? Sounds extremely suspicious
She should get an IUD. They're actually very effective, he can't tamper with it, and it can be removed when/if you want to try again.
oh i’d bet he’s ONLY been giving her vitamins & supplements, i bet he’s just been giving things that can imitate the same side effects as birth control as well just to keep it convincing enough! & ofc any protection he’d use he definitely poked holes in them or would probably even just take it off when she wasn’t looking 😅 he’s scary tbh & im very concerned for op 😅😅
@@tubblebub nah she should leave him. She wanted to get an IUD before and he talked her out of it knowing she would trust his opinion because of his profession. Dude’s gotta go
@@Taylor13328 oh absolutely! I was just saying get the iud if she stays, but top choice is gtfo.
30:00 "Yeah!" "Yeah. "Yeah" "Yeah" "Yeeaah" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
can you imagine if story 4 (the husband who wants to trap his wife) tried making moves on the nanny, it didnt work, and so he tried to get her fired? ooor he wanted the nanny gone so he can safely see her if she were to accept his advances 💀💀
also coming from an lgbt person, the fifth story.. ops sister was fcked up for that. she *knew* she was a lesbian (for a YEAR....). that means she was done being in her comphet phase (intentional or not) and knew she couldnt like him. unless she was on the fence about it while confusing platonic love for romantic love, she was in the wrong and i agree with op. looking back is different cause its like "i shouldve known based on x y and z." and if she didnt break up with him while fully knowing/accepting herself because she'd feel bad for him,, thats also terrible. you cant just lead people on like that and instead of being mad at op for pointing out that she hurt someone, she should apologize for hurting that guy
even though the dude was just a "mutual," even if he was a full on stranger id be upset for him. thats how empathy goes
Josh is moving on from the lumberjack style and moving into soy latte millenial and im not sure how to feel
#freethebeard 😭
😂😂😂
Nah those are two sides of the same millennial coin it’s just one is winter version and the other is summer version lol
THIS TOOK ME OUTTTTTT very accurate
Wym?? He's just transitioned from Winter Canadian to Summer Canadian
Coming out story, I understand not congratulating her because she was pretty sure for a while and 10 months is huge when you're a kid like that.
10 months is leading someone on if you've already been interested elsewhere. She should've stayed single. Being young doesn't mean you didn't do anything hurtful or handle something improperly.
I would’ve preferred takeout too but just for me and the kids as well
Harris didn't come from a traditional family. His mother worked outside the home
*harrison
His mother is a literal physicist ho is still working. Idk wtf is wrong with him
I would love to have a baby. So if my partner brought home an affair baby and then had a heart attack, I would adopt the baby and leave 😅
I understand that the parents of the 22 year old don't put blame on their daughter. If my 22 year old step daughter would get pregnant by an almost 50 year old married, I would probably put all my and toward the older man.
The sexiest husband one I’m wondering if it’s a trauma response to agree with his parents. many people who are people pleasers have this trauma response
If that's the case that still feels like an issue because he caved that fast while not being the breadwinnee and bad with finances, but when she throws is back at him, he holds his head down and cries?
It could be linked to trauma but tell the wife that over letting mommy dearest influence you.
As a fully Bisexual human, OP is not the ass hole for not being on board with his sister's behaviour. He says she's known for a long time she's gay. What was the purpose of leading that dude on for 10 months? She should have stayed single if she was unsure where she stood that whole time. It's a dick move to drag an innocent person into the complicated and confusing period of figuring stuff out
Yeah, the dude never wanted to be a "skirt" (which I believe is the male version of a female being a "beard" for a gay man)
Exactly also Bi here I hate when people r used as skirts or beards just don't date of u know ur not heterosexual and ur not ready to come out that's more then ok just stay single until ur ready
John, all of my love to you, my guy! Stay petty! 😂
I love the Jenny story. ohhh, Petty Labelle came out to play😂🔥🔥.
The with the Affair baby is such nonsense. If it were the other way round? If the wife fell pregnant by a boy, would everyone have the same energy? Everyone is crazy. Sorry, but she does owe that baby anything. The fact that she even helped a little is enough! The grandparents can take over since their daughter is one of those undeservingly fertile humans. She'll probably end up homeless and then wanna come back🙄 - this is Earth!
37:49 Sounds like OPs husband may be sabotaging the birth control.
That's one magnificent cat in the background
I think every time someone gives Drake some shit, I get so much joy it adds an extra year to my life.
My best friend is a guy u dated years ago. We broke up bc he came out as gay. Our friendship is even closer than our relationship ever was. (Also as he told me about his experience, I realized I was lesbian lmao)
sorry you’re what 17 or 18 having this dudes baby??? and he’s like 30????
Love the hard hitting bully story
What jenny gunna do when ops kid makes a mech suit 😅
The coming out story - OP isn't an asshole. So people must discover at someone else's expense? She said she's known for years🙄. This is the line where I might have unpopular opinions of the community.
35k ?!!! For a family of 5?!! Oh nah he shouldn’t the saying NOTHINGGG. A real real broke boy.
I disagree so hard with your takes on the last one... It's not about "choosing a stranger over a sister", it's about morals. She said she had known for years, so no excuses on dating that poor guy. And "try it out" and "make sure", if those were her motives, are absolutely no excuse on hurting a guy who was "head over heels" for her. So, she knew this could hurt badly and still did it to "try it out"... that's just emotional negligence.
You can't just experiment on people. Where is the empathy there??? she should just get confirmation through other means, with no emotions attached on either end.
@@martina6700 fr, ideally you should wait till you have a crush on a dude or are really attracted to a guy. coming from an lgbt person, what she did waa absolutely horribly fcked up
@@kaitlynmorgan4613And I'm 80% sure I am asexual and aromantic. However, I WON'T EXPERIMENT ON A PERSON I DON'T HAVE FEELINGS FOR, THAT WOULD BE CRUEL. It's not that hard to just wait until you sort it out or look for a way that has no one getting hurt 😭
Sean is a Swiftie. I knew there was a reason I liked him so much. 😂😂😂
Huh, I didn't realize Josh is so...handsome... I mean, I have nothing against the beard, but... I really like the new style 🙂
I was thinking the same thing!
So it’s ok to play with others emotions when the person doing it is gay like why not say something to the guy instead of stinging him along like a toy
The first red flag after the age gap is that she said she was on THREE different birth controls…you don’t take 3 at once…that makes no sense and would do nothing for you. My literal first thought was who tf would prescribe her three at once, because like no. No one is going to. Of course it’s the creep husband. He 100% did it, he’s the one who prescribed it…there’s no way he wasn’t messing with it. The signs are blazing.
About the 3rd story. I have a half sister that was consequence of adultery on my father's part. My mom and part of my family knew all along she existed, but not me, they hid from me for 7 years. Until one day when I was 14 years old my father came and told me everything (I discovered later that most of it was a lie). She was 7 at the time and the only reason he told me that was that her mother passed and she was going to live with us next year. He said to me "well, you always wanted a brother or sister right?" No. I never wanted siblings, never ever, but that wasn't a choice I could change.
She moved in with us, but it was super difficult at the beginning. I admit I was a bitch to her and hated her presence. Well, she's 14 now and I'm 21. It was a though ride to get to accept her, accept that she's innocent and to see her as my sister and not just a blood related person.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I don't blame OP at all, I understand her more than anything. Of course I would not blame on the baby, but that is a thing she need to heal and mature on like i did. Oh, and a lot, A LOT of therapy!
Sorry if I missed spell something, English is not my first language ❤
For the last story, I think y'all are missing the fact that the boyfriend is a human being and shouldn't be treated like an experiment. Same as when women/men use members of the LGBTQIA community as their own experiment. It's wrong to toy with people's feelings. If you're not sure, you shouldn't be stringing someone along. It's not cool.
The last story was crazy because there’s a difference between knowing your gay and accepting it and feeling ready to say to yourself and others your queer. And it’s so likely that the sister feels bad for the guy to she doesn’t need you making her feel bad.
My wife is goated merch? Loolol
Story 2: I love that evil monologue from John XD Also fuck every school or whatever system that only confronts the bullying when the victim fights back. Also as much as the divorce comment is cruel, it's not as cruel as mocking a cancer patient so it's not even matching her energy!
The birth control baby lady feels way too suspicious... Are you sure he isn't messing with them?
My kids got made fun of by the neighbor kids for not having a dad (divorce) so I told my kids their (the neighbor kids ) step dad was also their uncle. True and also devastating. Don't fuck with my kids.
Only hospital doctors have such a long schedule. Clinic doctors have much shorter hours. Sounds like he may be a nurse practitioner or something and not a doctor per se
Affair baby story, the wife accepted the affair, he came home with the baby. She said fine, but I'm not doing anything. After 4 months, he had an affair. She helped out while he was in bad condition, but as soon as he was recovering, she filed for divorce. You guys seemed a little confused on the timeline. ❤
Maybe the counselor was Jenny's cousin
Just curious, what happened to the timestamps?? The next ep doesn’t have them either. I love the timestamps.
I'm not gonna say how because I don't want to risk giving anyone any ideas but you can also easily tamper birth control pills at home and don't need to be a medical professional giving them the prescription yourself, so if you're concerned about this it's safer having them where your partner can't get to or doesn't know where they are
Birth control: if he’s tampering with it, it’s NOT in the prescription. You can’t prescribe placebos. The only supplement that interferes with birth control is St John’s Wort, and even there the data is mixed.
My best friend’s mother was on birth control, including an IUD, with all three of her pregnancies. So it DOES happen. Most likely it has something to do with how OP’s body metabolizes the medication and she needs a higher dose.
TLDR if he’s tampering with the birth control it’s not through the prescription
I'm offering a correction to your understanding on drug/drug and drug/supplement interactions:
*Any product that interferes with how the birth control (BC) is metabolized in the body can make the BC ineffective.*
In general, when a person swallows a drug, that drug is processed through the digestive tract for absorption in the blood stream. If you have IBS, Crohn's, or other gut issues, you aren't absorbing some drugs in the same manner. From the digestive blood stream, the drug passes through the liver where it is metabolized. Some drugs aren't activated to be therapeutic _until_ they are metabolized by the liver. And, one way that other drugs and/or supplements (D/S) can inactivate BC is by making the liver work harder than it should to keep up with the metabolization process. Some D/S have more affinity for metabolization, some inactivate therapeutic levels of BC once the D/S is metabolized, etc etc.
St John's Wort is famous for inactivating many other drugs, but there are antibiotics, and other seemingly innocuous over the counter medications that are known for this effect. It is also recommended that an individual take their BC at the same time everyday, simply to maintain the needed level of hormones in their bloodstream so an egg isn't released. If you have BC of too low a dose, say the dosage for hormone replacement therapy, it is only going to be as effective as a placebo.
*TLDR* There are too many ways for a medical professional husband to inactivate birth control, but many of the ways are through simple biochemistry with drug/drug and drug/supplement interactions.
Story 5: I feel for the guy, but the sister is young. It's not like she spent years with him and even got like married to the guy
This dude telling his wife to be proper woman.. the op is ah for not kicking the in-laws out for continually disrespecting me in front of the kids. Anyone know if there ever was an update?
i just ate 47 chocolate chip cookies
why not go for the 50?
@@AleTitan i’m lactose intolerant
7:04 if you'd kick her out then you're not a momma's boy
As a chiefs fan.... I want a new kicker... and maybe new owners. They suck too.
I know this is really late but I feel like the husband was giving his wife prescription s for fertility meds not birth control
Its very possibly for the woman who got pregnant on birth control to have LITERALLY GOTTEN PREGNANT ON BIRTH CONTROL. My best friend has 6 GIRLS and 5 were conceived ON birth control, so it DOES happen.
While it does happen (I knew a teacher who's kid was in my class who shared that's how they were born when someone said birth control was 100%). The fact the husband prescribes the birth control is enough to be skeptical when it kept happening and that he is adamant about her staying home with the kids.
as a gay woman who tried to come out to her “long term abu$er” to try to finally leave, & was then abu$ed again & forced to stay a bit longer pretending to be “that happy lil straight girl w her super sweet bf”(bc ofc in front of others he put on a show) - op is ABSOLUTELY tah. he has no idea what it’s like to be like us, he hasn’t lived her life or had to go through the social gymnastics just to hide from others & blend in, he didn’t have to listen to what she had to hear her peers her say abt other ppl like her before they knew, he has no idea what he’s talking abt.
the kid will be fine.. they’re literally teenagers, he’s got plenty of time to fall in love w plenty of ppl.. his sister however, has just FINALLY come up for air. & what she needs is her ppl there for her to encourage her & lift her up & show her they love & support her nmw. what hes doing is telling/showing her the exact opposite of that.
Just because LGBTQ+ people have a hard life and "he has more time in his hands" doesn't mean she should have played with his feelings. It's cruel and unreasonable.
Of course your experience was terrible and I don't wish it on anyone, but that doesn't entitle people to just use someone else as a "cover" because there was NOTHING that could have gone wrong in avoiding the relationship, but there's plenty that is wrong in leading someone on while KNOWING that you aren't attracted to their genre.
With this, I don't mean in any way to belittle your life or your experiences, but I do want to bring light into how it isn't the argument with which to defend certain actions.
So where's the respect to the poor kid she used as a beard, huh!? She deserves to be called out for being an awful person.
The last story he’s acting like his sister dated him maliciously when more than likely her story is like a lot of women that realize they are fully lesbian and not just bi. I have a friend that said she dated men in high school and trust me when I say if you met her you would not be able to even imagine it lol but yeah it sucks that boys heart was broken but later he will be grateful that his ex was strong enough and had ppl that support her enough for her to tell the truth cus some ppl don’t and they stay in the relationship cus they are scared to tell ppl the truth. Even tho the sister may have known she is still a kid and obviously was confused for a while. You can say hey I feel bad for the dude and still be there for your sis
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