EDIT: Verbal abuse may not hurt *physically* but it takes a toll on your *mental* health. I don’t understand why people think verbal abuse doesn’t count, it hurts just as much as physical abuse.
Why? Because its way easier to do, isn't considered a crime and most people think it is necessary to live through this stuff to "mature", which just means to join them in the bullying or look the other way. And yes it sucks obviously.
I never quite got over being called a "slob" I never quite got over being called chubby or ugly, either. the people who called me those things were apparently trying to "motivate me to be better" or were just "pushing my buttons" and didn't intend harm. It hurt the most when those words came from someone older than me, and they often did. I made peace with what happened, and forgave, but I will always view myself as an unkempt, homely imperfect person. I feel like I need to work extra hard to feel accomplished. I struggled with eating disorders throughout my my entire teenage years. it feels odd having something from the 1980's validate my stance on negative language in regards to children, because I was always told I was far too sensitive and that I'd get over it.
I'm sorry those kinds of stuff happened to you... I do hope that you stop seeing yourself as what those people have told you...... Please, know that you are enough. You are perfect just the way you are. Please don't carry all those hurtful words all your life... Please. You deserve better. :) I hope you have a nice day... 💛 Take care!
For the people who don’t think some of these words hurt, I just wanna say that it does hurt for the child. Kids are more sensitive and it’s also the way parents say it. That’s why they hurt for them. Edit: for the ones saying that it isn’t offensive to them, it doesn’t have to be for every child, I’m just saying that words can hurt. Also congrats to the random gay dude for coming out Edit 2: People stop fucking replying to this💀
@@v1swaIt hurts the worst when it is said by the ones you hold close. Not jokingly, not sarcastically, but seriously. If you have parents who call you stupid for you doing the slightest bit wrong, you'll start to believe it because they're your family, right? They couldn't lie. Maybe you should try harder, but you were never really told how to try. All you know is that you have to try harder.
Yes, even something small can be hurtful. My grandma once gave me a dough mixer (whisk) to play with and I broke it. She said “I’m never going to give you anything ever again”. And I cried because I felt like a burden.
It wouldn't have changed anything. I was raised by a mother who said all these things and more to me. Once, I made the mistake of asking another adult to intervene. She just played it cool and told the person that I was making it up. They bought it and I went back home for more severe abuse. According to her, she doesn't have a problem.
"You're" Is A Shortening Of "You Are". Example: "You're Kind" "Your" Is Referring To A Belonging Of A Certain Individual. Example: You Dropped Your Keys" "You're" & "Your" Have Different Meanings You Dumbfounded Radish.
@@Eosinophyllis ... The former refers to the first statement. The latter refers to the second statement. My comment was, when people are told "what you did is stupid", they take it as "you're stupid", whether the wording of the former was intentional so they could say "no I didn't say you were stupid"
Do you happen to have the PSA of the abusive parent giving themselves a lecture while looking into a mirror? There were two versions created-one with an abusive father, another with an abusive mother. These were from the early '90s. A voiceover concluded them by saying, "Take time out. Don't take it out on your children".
Very interesting to hear they made more in the "Take time out. Don't take it out on your kid." series. The only PSA I remember from with that tagline is the Prevent Child Abuse one from the 80s with the different adult mouths saying things like "You can't be my kid", "You're pathetic", etc and then the little girl looking down sadly at the end, along with its print ad counterpart. I always loved the tagline that followed it so I hope these PSAs show up one day!
displaced anger is one hell of a drug. a drug that most parents are chronically addicted to but wont admit it. no child deserves to hear words like this on a consistent basis by their parents or family.
It's true, until the child grows up as a teenager (i.e matured by itself) and has the mental capacity to take it instead of being told "mature up" at such a young age. Like at one point terms like dummy, clumsy, loser, you're disgusting dont impact as hard when you get past the usual child age like jokes. I wish you were never born, I hate you however. Yeah that's a huge fuck-no to say regardless on how old your child is, that goes past the line of insults to straight up gasligthung your child.
While the parents break their backs everyday providing for your every need? I find it amusing how words hurt apparently so much and yet there is the iraq refugee with no arms and shrapnel wounds for life still cracking a smile after all hes gone through.
@@pipsapossu1699 If you got a nail through the hand, would it hurt? If you say yes, then you must be lying, because someone out there has nails all through their body. That's what you're saying, right? Parents choose to be parents and they can't even do it right. By becoming a parent you literally sign up to caretake for a defenceless human being who needs your help with basics such as food or water. If every parent wanted an easy parenthood, every child would die abandoned. Just because these people have it "easier" doesn't mean it affects them any less. Has someone told you you can't be upset about things like emotional abuse? If that's the case then I'm sorry for the life you've had so far. It sounds horrible.
@CrazyPinataYT that's terrible. Our society sees children as "not fully human yet" and treats them with no respect at all. I hope your situation gets better ❤
Someone once told me a qoute "the axe forgets, the tree remembers" i think it was made to get this very message across and I keep it in the back of my head when I talk to people about verbal abuse in trauma
This does not matter much, but the voice that says dummy at the start actually sounds like a older kid, perhaps an older sibling. What the announcer in this commercial misses is that it is not just the parents who berate children, but older siblings, grandparents (the one that says clumsy sounds like one), teachers, classmates, etc., they all can have a great impact, on the self esteem of children. It is true some parents do say these things to their children and may not actually be that abusive, perhaps they may even regret their actions later on, and these people are not saying these words that powerfully, but words still have a life lasting effect. Remember what you say and how you say it. Children are our future, so let us give them a hopeful one.
I’m pretty sure these were drawings made by real children Whatever it was, I hope the kiddos who drew those managed to make it out in life, escape from those terrible family dynamics, and grow up into better adults, or even, better parents.
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What really sucks is that there are people who genuinely care for their kids, but still do this. There are times where my parents have called me hurtful things, but I know they love me more than anything. It's not always a matter of cruelty, sometimes it's a matter of handling your emotions. That needs to be raised of awareness. Like, it's not an excuse, but it's not always hateful. But those people need to get help, because it'll help their kids too.
Or I imagine sometimes it’s trying to motivate them to change, like the idea that punishing behavior will motivate change (which is often not true because what’s the reason for the behavior? Address that first and think), like someone else mentioned above
I wish my mom and other emotionally aversive parents see this. My mom thinks using this will make me ‘stronger’ and more ‘prideful’. Ever since she started saying these and being tough on me ever since the age of 12, a few days after my birthday, she started using words that crushed me. They broke me. I felt useless, like my soul has never deserved to land onto this planet. ‘Disgrace, weak, crybaby, lazy, spoiled piece of crap. Potato sack, etc.’, she even kept on saying this until half way through the age of 12, i got ptsd, i felt hanging on the edge. I one day snapped. When my parents were arguing, i shouted STOP! For the first and only time, they became quiet, while i was poring my heart out, my mom tried comforting me, helping me, but I felt like the world was against me. When i stopped, my dad said he has done nothing wrong, and that its my fault my mother birthed me, but i felt like my fate is choking me. I went into my room, and proceeded suicide. I was choking, i felt my throat lump, as i was choking myself on the ground, my mom was the first one to walk in. I wasn’t controlling my tears. She kept saying ‘are you stupid? What’s wrong with you?’, but when i started explaining, instead of understanding and treating me better, she used my suicidal attempt just to get money in her pockets. Up to this day, they never understood me. Never listened. My mom was the only person who is showing a change. Mother, i love you❤
@@VoidsGames thanks, but things are going for the better, i kept fighting the urge for another suicidal attempt, but my mom started caring alot more than usual, and i started getting friends, but im kinda shocked you readed all this😨
I’m 16 and ever since I turned 12 my mom has also started insulting me a lot more. I’m constantly being told I’m like my dad who’s is a terrible person, and I’m not like him at all. Even so, sometimes I feel like she’s right and that I am like him. And my mom gets angry whenever I tell her I want to move out in my 20’s. I’ve tried committing suicide 4 times but the last time I tried has been over a year ago I think. But sometimes when I’m outside or walking I wish I could get hit by a car or something.
@@Konata_TheRappa07 SAMEEEE!!! MY MOM TELLS ME THAT TOO!!! but just know, (from what i learnt) if you have issues with anyone's opinion; ignore it. its your life, not theirs, so just treat yourself with respect and patiently wait for life to easen. (Im 13 btw)
My parents/caregivers have always been indirect with destroying my ego along the rest of my mental health, they are extremely subtle, they mean no harm, they're just extremely ignorant & seemingly completely oblivious to the harm that they cause. They make me say these things about myself & then ask "why do you put yourself down? We don't do that to you?" As if they're completely innocent & I'm the cruel one. They're narcissists, they're completely unaware unwilling with empathy Its a constant competition & I'm the looser by default
Oh my science youre right. This PSA was redpilled for its time, and the people who made it are such chads! Only in Ohio can you find a person who doesn't agree with this PSA, you've got some serious rizz if you think verbally abusing children is bad.
I used to be abused by my mother and it took finding out about my suicide plans and ending up in a psych ward for her to change. I'm defenitely glad she changed and understood what she was doing was messed up but stuff like this just stucks with you man
my own mother constantly verbally abused me as well as physically abused me on the rare occasion, however it was moreso verbal. i had to deal with this throughout my entire childhood, and whenever i actually had the courage to speak up, to tell her what she was saying was rude, abusive, hurtful, etc. she would turn around and downplay the entire situation and claim i was overreacting or that it wasn't a big deal, or even straight up lie and tell me she never said certain words and i was delusional. she told me her constant abuse and harassment was normal because it's normal for families to fight then make up, it was the worst when she was drunk (which was quite often) where she would literally start attacking me and throwing insults at me out of nowhere, calling me all sorts of swear words, telling me how much she hates me and sometimes she'd straight up just start screaming at me and get in my face. my entire childhood was a constant cycle of this, of her abusing me, then telling me she was sorry and that she didn't mean it, she always used the excuse that she was either drunk or she was just angry in that moment, and then her forcing me to accept her apology and make up with her. when i was around ten years old she married a new man as my parents had been divorced since i was about five years old. my step dad was physically violent and aggressive, he would sometimes take his anger out on me by yelling but never hit me, however he did often threaten my mum he was going to hit me or my sister, and did often beat up my mum or hit her, me and my sister both witnessing it several times. my father was also abusive but in a slightly different way, his behavior was much more aggressive however while he never hit me he would get incredibly aggressive and shout right in my face, slam things and throw things around. he was an extreme control freak and clean freak, he couldn't stand mess no matter how small. if i accidentally spilled a few drops of water or milk on the kitchen counter he would blow up and go crazy, or if i tried cooking something then set the dishes in the sink to wash up after i ate he'd overreact and get angry and make passive aggressive comments like how disgusting the house looks or angrily asking why there's dishes in the sink, mind you while i was still busy eating and would have cleaned up afterwards. he expected me to make my food and immediately clean the dishes before even eating, which obviously i didn't want to do because then my food would get cold. he would go out his way while i was eating to clean up my own dishes, then turn around and passive aggressively complain how he has to do everything around the house, that no one helps him with chores, etc. he did this almost constantly to the point where i was too afraid of cooking anymore and when older i mostly just ordered takeouts or ubereats because i didn't want to make any mess in the kitchen with pots/pans/bowls/etc. because i didn't want him to get angry. i'm 25 now and i'm just rotting. i have severe anxiety, depression, ptsd and agoraphobia, i can rarely ever go outside because i'm scared of people and people hurting me. i am paranoid, i find it very hard to trust people, especially strangers because i always feel like they're going to hurt me or have ulterior motivations. i don't go outside, i've never had a job, i don't have any real life friends and i've never been in a serious relationship before. i rely on government benefits which barely gets me by, i have enough to pay for rent and food but that's about it. both my parents are poor, they both rely on government benefits as well so i don't have any financial support from family. i was born by failures and i will die a failure. i have zero motivation for anything, i am so lonely and while i do have some online friends it's not the same as a real life friend who you can hug and hold hands with, i guess i just really crave affection and touch because i've never really felt genuine love or care before. i even struggle with thoughts about my online friends on whether or not they actually really do like talking to me or not, even though i've known some of them for years now, i really can't comprehend how someone could genuinely like me or enjoy my company because i don't view myself as a good person. i have thought about ending it all so many times throughout the years and a few times have committed to harming myself, but never enough to permanently end myself. i am barely holding on and as each year passes by i feel like time is ticking away and it's only a matter of time before i disappear
my dad was always very emotionally abusive towards me. he still is to a lesser degree (im 21 and moving out soon 😊) ppl dont realize how much being treated badly emotionally by someone whos supposed to love and protect you feels. i know every person has their off days -- my mom and i fight sometimes and hurl insults. but abuse is so much worse. i have constant nightmares about my father and i doubt ill ever truly forget the negative emotional impact
My parents used these words with me when I was young, now I say much worse things to them, especially since they fall short of what they pretended to be.
My mother was very verbally abusive to me as a child up until 2 months after I turned 18, then I woke up after spending the night at a friends houe and found all my clothes on their front porch when I went to head home 😢 I'm 61 yrs old and it still hurts more than anything that I've been through.
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@@hecutsdown91Being pressured into childhood isn’t an excuse to abuse your child. Your child is not at fault for others pressuring you, it doesn’t mean that the parent has not gone through anything negative, but it still doesn’t excuse you to take out your problems on your child.
Also, you or your parents' culture or race doesn't matter. If they put you through verbal or physical abuse, it's still horrible. Just because they or other people treat it as joke doesn't mean it's not important. Make sure you can tell the difference, between tough love and abuse.
I wish my parents saw PSAs like these and I wish I saw these too. To make a long story short my parents have a verbal abuse problem (especially my father) and both of my parents were kinda absent in my childhood, with my dad just being not able to come bc custody shit and my mom being neglectful, I was bullied to no end as well which made me develop massive anger issues and take it out on everyone around me including my sisters. Yeah on the surface I was just the mean older sister type but turns out I wasn't any better than my parents. I feel so fucking awful about being such a negative role model around them that they're starting to pick up from me just like how I picked up from my mom and dad. I wish I wasn't such a bitter and angry child back then. I want to comfort them about all of this and make them know that they're loved but I don't get to do that a lot since I live in a completely different state than they do. I know I have nothing to blame but myself for how I acted like a imature little brat but at the same time there's so many factors that could have prevented this I just wish I knew the impact of what I was saying/doing.
I say this because I noticed one of the voices were that of a teenager, I'm 16 at the time of writing this. It just reminded me of too much. I thought this would be important to get out there plus I'm sick of keeping it all bottled up inside of me
@@Shawna-lx6nnDang. I feel bad for you, bro. Same fate as you, I abused by my parents since I was little until now, I was abusing myself because of my ADHD and I started hitting my head so hard on the wall, that made my parents so worried and scared and felt guilty of how I've become. I haven't gotten therapy yet. I kind of blame my parents because of my mental illness.
@@akumakibutsuji7999 yeah, for me I had a lot of crazy shit happen in my childhood that made me the way I am today. I haven't gotten therapy either but I'm definitely wanting to when I turn 18 (since my dad doesn't like therapy)
@@n.e.r.d.2213 can you fuck off mate? This is literally a psa about child abuse I don't know why there's so many imature kids in this comment section but let me fucking vent oh my God no one is forcing you to read it
Does your mom ever just...you know...abuse you to the point that you're too scared to speak up for yourself, but when you do, she just calls you a "smartass"? Imagine abusing your child in any shape or form 🙄
Here is the most saddest part, kids will usually blame it on themselves and not their parents because they think that they’re the problem and they’re the reason why their parents are yelling at them.
Or rather we should, I wish there were more people like you in the world. The saying "there is a bit of good in everybody" is bull squirt, never listen to it and never believe it, Hitler was evil, Peter Sutcliffe, Ivan the terrible, Jeffrey Dahmer, Harold Shipman, Fred West, I could go on listing many more evil people but if I did that, you all would be here till next Christmas reading through the list, there are GOOD people in the world granted but sadly there are also the evil ones, there is evil in this world sadly. ☹
Ive been dealing with this type of thing recently, bc my dad just said im not his kid anymore and that my mom doesnt love me and is fine with me dying My own mother even prevented me from talking to anyone because "their side doesnt get explained" So i just try to please them, i cant really do anything without them
Do they ever bother trying to explain your side when they, doubtlessly, complain about you? They don't want you talking to anyone about it because they know they're in the wrong and don't want to face it. You deserve support and unconditional love as much as anyone else - stay safe but get far away from them as soon as you can. I promise things really do get better and one day you will find the comfort and healing you never got from them. Life is worth living and you are worthy of being part of it!!!
People when they find out that belittling and demeaning someone just leads them to internalize the comments instead of forming a fortitude against them: 😮
I didn’t get child abuse but I can prove that the words that come out of adults hurt way much as a kid and can change their perception about themselves for a long time. When I was around 5-10 years old maybe, my family always said that I had a really flat and big nose, they said it was funny and ugly all the time, I became really anxious about that since then, and even until now I still hated my nose so much. And the thing is I’m not a person who’s very easily feels insecure about what other people say as a young adult. One day I asked my mom “Do you still think that I have a flat nose?” I thought for sure she would say yes cause that’s what I always see in the mirror, but surprisingly she said “No it’s not? It’s only like that when you were a child” She also said she can’t believe I still remember that cause it was so long ago, but all these years I remember all the words so clearly and it bothers my life. I felt really strange, cause I always saw a flat nose on my face and I started to wonder if it was only in my brain, and no one else saw that. So I can’t even imagine what’s gonna happened to a kid when their parents constantly call them “useless” or a “moron”, I just hope they can move on from those words
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I was verbally abused for 7 years by my own. I was dismissed for years until it got so bad i started fearing physical abuse. I ended up having emergency lines on a watch at 7 years old and I was always ready to run to the neighbours. But once I got away the damage had already been done and I now have nightmares most nights that revolve around my trauma. So to all those in the next generation of parents and up coming parents words last longer than bruises
I wonder if the people I grew up around knew that what they said would go straight to my head if they would say it again. Took a lot of therapy to learn that the evil inner voice wasn’t mine but of everyone who ever abused me because I was an easy target
My mom saying that she felt like taking her own life because she was exhausted of taking care of me and my siblings will never leave me. We had a very hard childhood and I understand how much it must’ve affected her but hearing something like that when I was just a child really changed how I saw her
My parents are good(?) They give me many things I want…toys, food, shelter, tv, heck, even a dog..! But, they get angry really easily, most of the time at stupid reasons, usually at me and my sister. Me and her try to figure out ways to realize and defuse situations if we know they’re going to get upset, because when they’re mad they will stay mad. They can threaten us about taking away privileges (which is fair), but also using things like food and house, their affection, things like that against us. If they don’t get their own way, they’ll guilt trip, especially when I’m having an argument with them about something they did or something they won’t listen to me about. They call me names they know I don’t like that make me uncomfortable and my dad likes to get really close and in my face when we’re fighting, despite me telling him to back up to keep me comfortable in my personal space. But when they’re not mad, or upset, or any of that, they’re loving, so it confuses me on if they love me or not. Does anyone know here, as maybe an adult or an older teenager? :(
If a parent threatens to take away essentials like food, shelter and love; then that is absolutely abusive! They may not realize what they are doing would have an impact and might just genuinely have trouble controlling their anger, but that is still no excuse to do so. Just know that I believe in you and I know you can work things out! I know I was lucky to have amazing parents, but I hope your parents can realize their faults and apologize to you, it might take a while seeing how stubborn people can be when talking with kids, but I believe in you!
@@maowohammer2577 Thank you, I’m really hoping one day they’ll apologize, even if it’s when I’m grown up. I appreciate you read all that, and took the time to reply when it’s just a random comment on this video from so long ago. Thank you.
I can really relate to this. I'm having the same problems as well. However, my dad says that Gen z people can't handle anything when it comes to the most minor things. My dad wants me to not act negatively because I'm processing adulthood, so if I was an adult and I would react that way, people are going to call me out for being sensitive. I'm Gen z, and my dad is Gen x, so, I basically break down when it comes to very minor things, well at least my dad calls it minor. My life sucked every single day, and my dad just says 'everyone went through the same thing, so get over it'. I hate being born in gen z, I hate being sensitive, I just wish I could be as apathetic as my dad so he doesn't have to hurt my feelings about it. I hate it.
I’ve never been abused in my life, but I do find this ad incredibly frightening. To everyone out there who is experiencing abuse, verbal, emotional, or physical, I’m really sorry that you’re going through that and I hope you will recover from it.
We live in the same world where spanking and using someone as punch bag of anger are considered 'Discipline*. I've lived with emotionally unavailable and absent parents throughout my life. Humans can't be changed. Just be grateful that you are able to live in this moment.
This is why we must become -adopted- childs of God. The adoption part insinuates our biological parents are no longer in the picture. Most ppl will cling to abusive parents because they've been manipulated into doing so. Sad.
At this point I honestly wished my parents didn't give birth to me. All I've been my entire childhood was their verbal punching bag, and now I have to find a way to live with the trauma.
@@nacloot8700 I've wished for the same. But since that's not possible, now I wish to become asexual and stop being so manipulated by this human need for sex. I don't even want kids or relationships anyway.
Its sad, my parents constantly call me these and expect me not to cry and/or tell someone I really trust. If I sob really hard, the only answers I get are " WHY ARE YOU CRYING, B!TCH? I SHOULD BE THE ONE CRYING" or "IF YOUR GONNA CRY, DONT DO IT IN FRONT OF ME USELESS IDIOT". But I feel luckier than other kids who face it worse than me... Love from me if your a child abhcse victem ❤❤
I think it depends on the context. The clumsy thing makes me think it'd most likely be little, unnecessary digs to belittle a child that cause a great deal of harm to their sense of self over time. I wish your were never born is awful but also sounds like something easily said in anger, in a way that even a child would recognize to be dramatic.
This video is basically a 1to1 of my childhood, my mom wasn't to bad but my school was for some reason so dedicated to making me feel horrible. They tried so hard to diagnose me with autism so they could kick me out. They never did. But maybe throughout the years I did develop it.
Autism is inborn btw, and regardless if you have it or not, that is absolutely horrific and ableist to kick a child out of a school for ASD. Disgusting and heartbreaking
it doesnt even have to come from parents to hurt. it can come from siblings or your parent’s s/o or your aunts or uncles or cousins. it hurts coming from anyone.
Looking in the comments here and seeing the experiences of others with verbal abuse as children is absolutely harrowing. I never had experience with verbal abuse as a child, at least not to the extent many others did. However, on the handful of occasions either of my parents have made remarks to me they shouldn't have (mostly my father) it cuts to my core. If it cuts a seventeen year old to his core, imagine how a kid ten years younger would take it. A stranger's sympathy may not count for much, but for what it's worth, if you've ever had to deal with something like this, wherever you may be in this world or whatever your situation may be or may have been, you have my sympathy and my heart goes out to you.
You don't think it impacts them, but it does. From a young age, when I forgot things or made too many mistakes while my mom was in a bad mood, she directed it on me. The worst of her many bad quotes was "I wish you'd just think," and while that doesn't sound bad, it engrained itself in me and even to this day, while I encourage others often, I notice that I self degrade, I call myself stupid, an idiot, dumb. Because I believe I am, even though deep down I know I'm not and I'm told by people close to me that it isn't true. But I continue to say it, almost like a reflex, because as a child and even now, when things are tough for her, I'm an idiot for not getting things done right. The words you say to a child are so impactful. It's almost ironic, because when i was small and felt bullied by other kids, she'd tell me "sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can't hurt you" and somehow, she became my worst bully.
words like these doesnt hurt because it is hurtful. it hurts because it came from a person who is suppose to love you unconditionally. in child's mind. "if my parents dont love me, no one can" well at least that's what i thought when i was a kid.
"I don't care about you anymore, I don't want to parent you anymore." "JUST EAT!! EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT!! WHAT DO YOU WANT TO EAT?? STOP SAYING "I don't know"!" "How come you don't know what you want to eat?!" "You sound dumb asking me that over and over again!" "STOP COMPLAINING! OR I'LL LOSE MY TEMPER AND SLAP YOU" ..
My dad: I wish I could sleep forever. Me: Why? My dad: No one helps me, you also never helped me. I was scared to talk back to my dad, he himself never even helped me through the hard things I face,heck, he even tells me to do things, and if I do it wrong, he gets mad and threatens me.
Once, a wise old man said " think of mean words like rocks and pebblea, you throw a pebble at the water, it toes really far. That is when u say a mean word to others, it hurts really bad." Also fteev once said " think of a person as a paper, just say the bullie crunbles you up, when he says sorry, and tries to fix you, see the paper doesnt get back to what it was before, it stays crunpled up. See this is you, you change when u get bullied. " Abuse needs to stop. The fact that the PARENTS that take care of KIDS don't even DO anything about it.
Until I was a later teenager, my father was extremely verbally and emotionally aggressive with me and my mother. I already am autistic, and I realize more and more how many times I was terrified crying permanently, literally scarred my brain. Anxiety, possible BPD, you name it. ;_;. I've only had healing of any significance by being an Orthodox Christian and receiving sacraments like the Eucharist. I pray for all who suffer mentally and the calloused hearts out there. As Christ said, one day we'll account for "every idle word"!
I hope to God that my father gets to witness every horrific thing he's said to me over the years that he claims never happened, and that I'm lying and ruining his life just for fun... This man has told me as an 11 year old that I was incapable of love and a sociopath. He claimed if I ever got vaccinated he would shoot and kill my mother, brother, me, and then himself in the head. He doesnt speak to me, or acknowledge conversation from me. He Just grabs my shoulders and shakes me, a 21 year old, 5'1 woman, as hard as he can and walks away because he thinks its funny. He's thrown plates at my mother. Etc etc. I hope in my heart of hearts he'll understand one day that it was not okay. Your comment comforted me in a weird way. Thank you.
I don’t know if this is normal or not but my parents would call my sibling and I super smart and they “couldn’t live without us” but when we weren’t agreeing with them or did something wrong they would always have this tone where they call us stupid and annoying saying especially to my sister they would not feed her so we basically need to agree with them all the time or else they would lash out on us.
Why does this work so well with pictures that actually look like they’ve been drawn by a child? Ok but seriously. Child abuse is actually a bad thing, and being disrespected is already bad enough. Now we’re at the age of “cyber bullying”, and it WILL be bad, by calling other people slurs on voice chat, to straight up trying to make kids commit suicide (Especially teenagers). Long story short, don’t bully children.
Bullying is less of a problem nowadays than 20/30 years ago... The reason? Becuase it more punished now... Even cyberbullying has severe consequences today, schools also can kick you out if they figure you out guilty This was just unthinkable 30 years ago...
@@lemoniphobiaand also the people saying those comments would never say that to a person in real life, so they say it 9n the internet and see 0 consequences, until people notice it.
Yesterday, at dinner, I got myself a helping. It was hot, so to cool it down, I placed it in the fridge. After I did so, my mom got up and rushed to the fridge. She said, “I want to see how much you got. Let me see it.” So I opened the fridge. I was fairly hungry, so I had a little more than usual. She said “Oh my god, that’s so much! No more food afterwards. That’s it.” I didn’t say anything. A little while later, I decided I wanted a little something sweet. I grabbed a couple strawberries from the fridge, and one for my Guinea pig. She said “You don’t need to be eating right now. Put it away. Have you lost your mind?” So I put the strawberries back. It was only two small strawberries. I didn’t eat anything for the rest of the night. I’m not quite sure this is verbal abuse, but it hurt my feelings a lot. When I was younger, I never used to question it. But now I do.
Ive been verablly abused sense i was little, myabe 4 or 5, im currently 15 and still face verbal abuse every day of my life. My parents scream at me so much, thry call me names like "retard" *i have adhd btw.* "fucking moron" "stupid" "fat" stuff like that. I deal with it everyday and still go to school and put on a fake smile and act like i didnt just get threatend to be beaten for taking slightly to long to get dressed, my mom emotionally manipulates me and shes crazy, she always screams at me for doing nothing wrong and yells at me with no reason behind it, words have an effect.
Same but I have a sneaky feeling those drawings were made by real children probably some of the adults in the video who handed in their old drawings from their childhood for the PSA (which would double the awareness) or those drawings are from children who's artwork was found either after the child was taken away or...died. Like for example I don't remember the year but a church fire had happened to a cult (can't remember the name either) and a child's drawing was found
My mother used to severely verbally abuse me for years. Words hurt. It was when I was between the ages of… well, the worst of it was 7-12. But it was to a lesser extent when I was younger because my father was there. I’ll never forget us arguing when I was 11 and I was attempting to get her to see how she was hurting me and she yelled out “WHAT THAT MOUTH DO?!” It was obviously in a sexual context (she never physically or sexually abused me) and I wasn’t stupid, I knew how she meant it. I broke down crying. Once because I didn’t share chips with my cousin fast enough she started praying and said “God, I’m so sorry for having such a piece of shit child…” I was 10… that one stuck with me. She once gave me a cup of water, told me it was drain cleaner and told me if I wanted to kill myself so bad I should just do it. She told me to drink it. I was 8. It wasn’t until I broke down crying after an argument in the corner of my room and begged her to take me to therapy that she realized I was serious. She was verbally abused by her own mother and attempted suicide twice. We’ve spoken about these things in therapy when I was a teenager, and I was lucky enough that I got my mother to change & grow as a person. We talked about how her being verbally and physically abused might not have been an excuse, but it was definitely a reason and since that moment we’ve both been attempting to break the generational trauma curse. Words hurt. Sticks and stones may break your bones but time heals all wounds. Words will stick with you forever. This isn’t to downplay physical abuse, but remember that verbal abuse can be just as bad.
It's good you finally broke the cycle. It's unfortunate that your mother was instilled with traits by her mother so that when you have a child (if you ever do) they never have to go through that
EDIT: Verbal abuse may not hurt *physically* but it takes a toll on your *mental* health.
I don’t understand why people think verbal abuse doesn’t count, it hurts just as much as physical abuse.
Why? Because its way easier to do, isn't considered a crime and most people think it is necessary to live through this stuff to "mature", which just means to join them in the bullying or look the other way.
And yes it sucks obviously.
Because uhhhh peepee poopoo brain on most people
Verbal abuse & physical abuse both hurt the victim's mental wellbeing, I don't understand why people don't think twice about these issues nowadays?
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words leave psychological wounds that never heal
Because they are most likely some kind of abusers themselves.
I never quite got over being called a "slob" I never quite got over being called chubby or ugly, either. the people who called me those things were apparently trying to "motivate me to be better" or were just "pushing my buttons" and didn't intend harm. It hurt the most when those words came from someone older than me, and they often did. I made peace with what happened, and forgave, but I will always view myself as an unkempt, homely imperfect person. I feel like I need to work extra hard to feel accomplished. I struggled with eating disorders throughout my my entire teenage years.
it feels odd having something from the 1980's validate my stance on negative language in regards to children, because I was always told I was far too sensitive and that I'd get over it.
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that, even if it was meant (as you saw it) to “motivate” you. You are perfect as you are.
@@AlastorAltruistGaming thank you, nice people like you are what make life brighter.
@@AlpacaCutieDemonFLUFFYKITTENS ur sad
@@mints4997 werk
I'm sorry those kinds of stuff happened to you... I do hope that you stop seeing yourself as what those people have told you...... Please, know that you are enough. You are perfect just the way you are. Please don't carry all those hurtful words all your life... Please. You deserve better. :)
I hope you have a nice day... 💛 Take care!
For the people who don’t think some of these words hurt, I just wanna say that it does hurt for the child. Kids are more sensitive and it’s also the way parents say it. That’s why they hurt for them.
Edit: for the ones saying that it isn’t offensive to them, it doesn’t have to be for every child, I’m just saying that words can hurt. Also congrats to the random gay dude for coming out
Edit 2: People stop fucking replying to this💀
@@v1swa SHUT UP LMAO 😂
@@v1swaIt hurts the worst when it is said by the ones you hold close. Not jokingly, not sarcastically, but seriously. If you have parents who call you stupid for you doing the slightest bit wrong, you'll start to believe it because they're your family, right? They couldn't lie. Maybe you should try harder, but you were never really told how to try. All you know is that you have to try harder.
@@torimidori7705never heard a comment that hits so close to home before
dude im gay
Yes, even something small can be hurtful. My grandma once gave me a dough mixer (whisk) to play with and I broke it. She said “I’m never going to give you anything ever again”. And I cried because I felt like a burden.
I remember this psa just wish that my abusiers had seen it too.
It wouldn't have changed anything. I was raised by a mother who said all these things and more to me. Once, I made the mistake of asking another adult to intervene. She just played it cool and told the person that I was making it up. They bought it and I went back home for more severe abuse. According to her, she doesn't have a problem.
Sorry to hear that.
@@Kendragon01968 Oh yes it certainly is. Very much so.
Oh, good lord. You do have abusers? That's messed up. I feel sorry for you. :(
@@stuffwellbro..
The difference between “What you did was stupid.” And “Your stupid.” is big
"You're" Is A Shortening Of "You Are". Example: "You're Kind"
"Your" Is Referring To A Belonging Of A Certain Individual. Example: You Dropped Your Keys" "You're" & "Your" Have Different Meanings You Dumbfounded Radish.
You know absolutely when they say the former they mean the latter though.
@@calyxman a six year old doesn’t.
@@Eosinophyllis ...
The former refers to the first statement. The latter refers to the second statement. My comment was, when people are told "what you did is stupid", they take it as "you're stupid", whether the wording of the former was intentional so they could say "no I didn't say you were stupid"
- or not
it's trippy as fuck watching this PSA and realizing these were the less harsh of the names you were called as a kid
Squid ward
@@FamilyGuyBallsbased
@@FamilyGuyBalls mr. squidward
i wrote this when i was drunk as shit my bad my bad
@@JamesWagner-vv9iz say normal words
Do you happen to have the PSA of the abusive parent giving themselves a lecture while looking into a mirror? There were two versions created-one with an abusive father, another with an abusive mother. These were from the early '90s. A voiceover concluded them by saying, "Take time out. Don't take it out on your children".
I'm afraid I don't. Sorry.
Very interesting to hear they made more in the "Take time out. Don't take it out on your kid." series. The only PSA I remember from with that tagline is the Prevent Child Abuse one from the 80s with the different adult mouths saying things like "You can't be my kid", "You're pathetic", etc and then the little girl looking down sadly at the end, along with its print ad counterpart. I always loved the tagline that followed it so I hope these PSAs show up one day!
Good news! I found the father one here! th-cam.com/video/QHvVmrWpkeg/w-d-xo.html
*demonic voice* I SAID STOP F***ING ABUSING CHILDREN LIKE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*DEMONIC VOICE* IF YOU ABUSE THAT LITTLE KID AGAIN YOU’ll DIE JUST LIKE YOUR MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
displaced anger is one hell of a drug. a drug that most parents are chronically addicted to but wont admit it. no child deserves to hear words like this on a consistent basis by their parents or family.
It's true, until the child grows up as a teenager (i.e matured by itself) and has the mental capacity to take it instead of being told "mature up" at such a young age. Like at one point terms like dummy, clumsy, loser, you're disgusting dont impact as hard when you get past the usual child age like jokes.
I wish you were never born, I hate you however. Yeah that's a huge fuck-no to say regardless on how old your child is, that goes past the line of insults to straight up gasligthung your child.
While the parents break their backs everyday providing for your every need? I find it amusing how words hurt apparently so much and yet there is the iraq refugee with no arms and shrapnel wounds for life still cracking a smile after all hes gone through.
@@pipsapossu1699 If you got a nail through the hand, would it hurt? If you say yes, then you must be lying, because someone out there has nails all through their body. That's what you're saying, right? Parents choose to be parents and they can't even do it right. By becoming a parent you literally sign up to caretake for a defenceless human being who needs your help with basics such as food or water. If every parent wanted an easy parenthood, every child would die abandoned. Just because these people have it "easier" doesn't mean it affects them any less. Has someone told you you can't be upset about things like emotional abuse? If that's the case then I'm sorry for the life you've had so far. It sounds horrible.
@@Satanicks Im saying its an attitude problem.
Everywhere I go I see a curse word in a comment
Another reason why I say, 'Abused children are helpless unless you help.
Alyx: ENOUGH OF YOUR BULLSH*T!!!!!!!!!
@@KingDragonBoyTV1998 sthu this isn't #child-furry-rp
Fr fr!
It's sad how adults don't take children's emotions seriously
Yeah, so sad.
My parents did for me❤
@man_of_sigma5ain’t no way he just vented and you are having a go at him for how old he is and bro he literally did nothing
@man_of_sigma5 yeah i know i am i dont understand what age has to do with this
@CrazyPinataYT that's terrible. Our society sees children as "not fully human yet" and treats them with no respect at all. I hope your situation gets better ❤
Every child deserves a Parent but not every parent deserves a child😢
generic phrase. I'm already bored reading it all the time.
@@MilesFoxGDSHUT UP
@@MilesFoxGDit might be overused,but it's still true.
@@MilesFoxGD No one cares bro
@@MilesFoxGDshut up
Someone once told me a qoute "the axe forgets, the tree remembers" i think it was made to get this very message across and I keep it in the back of my head when I talk to people about verbal abuse in trauma
When you called me useless, I didn’t stop loving you, I stopped loving myself
This hurts so much because its true.
This video hits me like a truck.
It actually made me cry.
I get the picture.
I feel the picture.
Bro can feel through the screen
@@Jose-Campos.If they actually cried this isn't funny
@@princessintestines I'm not thinking it's funny man
Bro has super powers
@simplymaplelyah yes nz
This does not matter much, but the voice that says dummy at the start actually sounds like a older kid, perhaps an older sibling. What the announcer in this commercial misses is that it is not just the parents who berate children, but older siblings, grandparents (the one that says clumsy sounds like one), teachers, classmates, etc., they all can have a great impact, on the self esteem of children. It is true some parents do say these things to their children and may not actually be that abusive, perhaps they may even regret their actions later on, and these people are not saying these words that powerfully, but words still have a life lasting effect. Remember what you say and how you say it. Children are our future, so let us give them a hopeful one.
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LOL
Why are you guys laughing???
@@C00K13-Z_9 XDDD
@discovario What's the joke??? I know that I can be as dense as rock, but seriously, what's the joke????
its unbelievable that kids actually made these drawings (in a good way)
Not every kid is good at drawing
@@TerryWilliams-ys7px i never said something about child abuse i only said that its unbelievable
@@da_kine that's what I was talking about? The drawings,I mean not every kid is good at it
@@TerryWilliams-ys7px ok, but still. i never said nothing about child abuse.
@@TerryWilliams-ys7px and i wasn't saying they were bad.
I love how the font is like a child’s handwriting… it makes us more emotional.
I’m pretty sure these were drawings made by real children
Whatever it was, I hope the kiddos who drew those managed to make it out in life, escape from those terrible family dynamics, and grow up into better adults, or even, better parents.
They deserve better. 😔
We need more of these commercials, I’m sick of people treating their children like subhumans, it makes me angry.
Or even any other human being in general, right Pyro...
@@seronymus I'm sick of terrible women breeding when they are nothing but horrible so called humans who don't deserve to have children.
As someone that has been called dumb three times, spoiled, stupid, ugly, clumsy, and weak, this hits hard.
three times omg!?
yes. Three times.@@tie7626
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As someone that have been called all these + idiot,stupid,shit,cry baby, animal,"shut up" i can confirm this person is right.
god damn, this guy records every time anyone wrongs them
What really sucks is that there are people who genuinely care for their kids, but still do this. There are times where my parents have called me hurtful things, but I know they love me more than anything. It's not always a matter of cruelty, sometimes it's a matter of handling your emotions. That needs to be raised of awareness. Like, it's not an excuse, but it's not always hateful. But those people need to get help, because it'll help their kids too.
Or I imagine sometimes it’s trying to motivate them to change, like the idea that punishing behavior will motivate change (which is often not true because what’s the reason for the behavior? Address that first and think), like someone else mentioned above
I wish my mom and other emotionally aversive parents see this. My mom thinks using this will make me ‘stronger’ and more ‘prideful’. Ever since she started saying these and being tough on me ever since the age of 12, a few days after my birthday, she started using words that crushed me. They broke me. I felt useless, like my soul has never deserved to land onto this planet. ‘Disgrace, weak, crybaby, lazy, spoiled piece of crap. Potato sack, etc.’, she even kept on saying this until half way through the age of 12, i got ptsd, i felt hanging on the edge. I one day snapped. When my parents were arguing, i shouted STOP! For the first and only time, they became quiet, while i was poring my heart out, my mom tried comforting me, helping me, but I felt like the world was against me. When i stopped, my dad said he has done nothing wrong, and that its my fault my mother birthed me, but i felt like my fate is choking me. I went into my room, and proceeded suicide. I was choking, i felt my throat lump, as i was choking myself on the ground, my mom was the first one to walk in. I wasn’t controlling my tears. She kept saying ‘are you stupid? What’s wrong with you?’, but when i started explaining, instead of understanding and treating me better, she used my suicidal attempt just to get money in her pockets. Up to this day, they never understood me. Never listened. My mom was the only person who is showing a change. Mother, i love you❤
I'm really sorry you had to go through that, I hope everything is better now.
@@VoidsGames thanks, but things are going for the better, i kept fighting the urge for another suicidal attempt, but my mom started caring alot more than usual, and i started getting friends, but im kinda shocked you readed all this😨
I’m 16 and ever since I turned 12 my mom has also started insulting me a lot more. I’m constantly being told I’m like my dad who’s is a terrible person, and I’m not like him at all. Even so, sometimes I feel like she’s right and that I am like him. And my mom gets angry whenever I tell her I want to move out in my 20’s. I’ve tried committing suicide 4 times but the last time I tried has been over a year ago I think. But sometimes when I’m outside or walking I wish I could get hit by a car or something.
@@Konata_TheRappa07 SAMEEEE!!! MY MOM TELLS ME THAT TOO!!! but just know, (from what i learnt) if you have issues with anyone's opinion; ignore it. its your life, not theirs, so just treat yourself with respect and patiently wait for life to easen. (Im 13 btw)
@@krisr327 aw tyy
Also sorry your mom keeps comparing you to your dad ;-;
My parents/caregivers have always been indirect with destroying my ego along the rest of my mental health, they are extremely subtle, they mean no harm, they're just extremely ignorant & seemingly completely oblivious to the harm that they cause.
They make me say these things about myself & then ask "why do you put yourself down? We don't do that to you?" As if they're completely innocent & I'm the cruel one.
They're narcissists, they're completely unaware unwilling with empathy
Its a constant competition & I'm the looser by default
This is actually pretty based for a pre 90s PSA, really gets the point across!
Oh my science youre right. This PSA was redpilled for its time, and the people who made it are such chads! Only in Ohio can you find a person who doesn't agree with this PSA, you've got some serious rizz if you think verbally abusing children is bad.
@@claus4670 I cant tell if this is a joke
I used to be abused by my mother and it took finding out about my suicide plans and ending up in a psych ward for her to change. I'm defenitely glad she changed and understood what she was doing was messed up but stuff like this just stucks with you man
Even then it feels like it never ends…I still have to look at her face or hear her voice
@man_of_sigma5 go find a hobby instead of spamming a bunch of edgy no substance responses to random people
@man_of_sigma5you know your employers will see this in the future?
@man_of_sigma5 Digital footprint. Even if you’re trolling, its gonna be MUCH harder to be employed.
Get away from your mom. She won't change. Once you're fully recovered she'll just strike again- happens every time.
I can't imagine my parents insulting me like that, I feel grateful
my own mother constantly verbally abused me as well as physically abused me on the rare occasion, however it was moreso verbal. i had to deal with this throughout my entire childhood, and whenever i actually had the courage to speak up, to tell her what she was saying was rude, abusive, hurtful, etc. she would turn around and downplay the entire situation and claim i was overreacting or that it wasn't a big deal, or even straight up lie and tell me she never said certain words and i was delusional. she told me her constant abuse and harassment was normal because it's normal for families to fight then make up, it was the worst when she was drunk (which was quite often) where she would literally start attacking me and throwing insults at me out of nowhere, calling me all sorts of swear words, telling me how much she hates me and sometimes she'd straight up just start screaming at me and get in my face. my entire childhood was a constant cycle of this, of her abusing me, then telling me she was sorry and that she didn't mean it, she always used the excuse that she was either drunk or she was just angry in that moment, and then her forcing me to accept her apology and make up with her. when i was around ten years old she married a new man as my parents had been divorced since i was about five years old. my step dad was physically violent and aggressive, he would sometimes take his anger out on me by yelling but never hit me, however he did often threaten my mum he was going to hit me or my sister, and did often beat up my mum or hit her, me and my sister both witnessing it several times.
my father was also abusive but in a slightly different way, his behavior was much more aggressive however while he never hit me he would get incredibly aggressive and shout right in my face, slam things and throw things around. he was an extreme control freak and clean freak, he couldn't stand mess no matter how small. if i accidentally spilled a few drops of water or milk on the kitchen counter he would blow up and go crazy, or if i tried cooking something then set the dishes in the sink to wash up after i ate he'd overreact and get angry and make passive aggressive comments like how disgusting the house looks or angrily asking why there's dishes in the sink, mind you while i was still busy eating and would have cleaned up afterwards. he expected me to make my food and immediately clean the dishes before even eating, which obviously i didn't want to do because then my food would get cold. he would go out his way while i was eating to clean up my own dishes, then turn around and passive aggressively complain how he has to do everything around the house, that no one helps him with chores, etc. he did this almost constantly to the point where i was too afraid of cooking anymore and when older i mostly just ordered takeouts or ubereats because i didn't want to make any mess in the kitchen with pots/pans/bowls/etc. because i didn't want him to get angry.
i'm 25 now and i'm just rotting. i have severe anxiety, depression, ptsd and agoraphobia, i can rarely ever go outside because i'm scared of people and people hurting me. i am paranoid, i find it very hard to trust people, especially strangers because i always feel like they're going to hurt me or have ulterior motivations. i don't go outside, i've never had a job, i don't have any real life friends and i've never been in a serious relationship before. i rely on government benefits which barely gets me by, i have enough to pay for rent and food but that's about it. both my parents are poor, they both rely on government benefits as well so i don't have any financial support from family. i was born by failures and i will die a failure. i have zero motivation for anything, i am so lonely and while i do have some online friends it's not the same as a real life friend who you can hug and hold hands with, i guess i just really crave affection and touch because i've never really felt genuine love or care before. i even struggle with thoughts about my online friends on whether or not they actually really do like talking to me or not, even though i've known some of them for years now, i really can't comprehend how someone could genuinely like me or enjoy my company because i don't view myself as a good person.
i have thought about ending it all so many times throughout the years and a few times have committed to harming myself, but never enough to permanently end myself. i am barely holding on and as each year passes by i feel like time is ticking away and it's only a matter of time before i disappear
Wow.. Your life is very saddening to hear. Are you alright, by any chance? My apologies if I can't comfort you in a correct way.
shut the hell up nobody cares
@man_of_sigma5 Just read it. this is a serious comment.
@man_of_sigma5 new DIY project: how to rid yourself of your existence on this mortal plane
my dad was always very emotionally abusive towards me. he still is to a lesser degree (im 21 and moving out soon 😊) ppl dont realize how much being treated badly emotionally by someone whos supposed to love and protect you feels. i know every person has their off days -- my mom and i fight sometimes and hurl insults. but abuse is so much worse. i have constant nightmares about my father and i doubt ill ever truly forget the negative emotional impact
Good luck moving out
What did he do to deserve all of this? He's still your father after all.
@@usibistro Being related by blood doesn’t excuse abuse
My parents used these words with me when I was young, now I say much worse things to them, especially since they fall short of what they pretended to be.
I was abused by my mother as a child. It ruined me, it made me abuse animals
@@Tabby5899 wanna be my next prey?
My mother was very verbally abusive to me as a child up until 2 months after I turned 18, then I woke up after spending the night at a friends houe and found all my clothes on their front porch when I went to head home 😢 I'm 61 yrs old and it still hurts more than anything that I've been through.
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@@orangestastebadare you ok
Whoever made that sticks and stones saying accidentally created a generation of psychopaths who believe words have no power.
That was perfectly stated.
Watching this after getting verbally abused hits different
"i wish you were never born" made me scarred for life
edit: there’s a war down there 👇
Sounds like parent pressured into parenthood.
I was sometimes told that too, and I myself sometimes felt I wish I didn’t exist.
@@hecutsdown91and is that the fault of the child?
@@hecutsdown91Being pressured into childhood isn’t an excuse to abuse your child. Your child is not at fault for others pressuring you, it doesn’t mean that the parent has not gone through anything negative, but it still doesn’t excuse you to take out your problems on your child.
@@hecutsdown91that’s not an excuse to act like a shit to your child. They literally can’t control their birth.
Also, you or your parents' culture or race doesn't matter. If they put you through verbal or physical abuse, it's still horrible. Just because they or other people treat it as joke doesn't mean it's not important. Make sure you can tell the difference, between tough love and abuse.
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yes i hate the fact that abuse is normalized in POC families but wouldn't be treated the same for per say, a white family.
Some families do yell at their kid, but they are being careful with their words..well if you wake them up after they just got off a long shift
I wish my parents saw PSAs like these and I wish I saw these too.
To make a long story short my parents have a verbal abuse problem (especially my father) and both of my parents were kinda absent in my childhood, with my dad just being not able to come bc custody shit and my mom being neglectful, I was bullied to no end as well which made me develop massive anger issues and take it out on everyone around me including my sisters.
Yeah on the surface I was just the mean older sister type but turns out I wasn't any better than my parents. I feel so fucking awful about being such a negative role model around them that they're starting to pick up from me just like how I picked up from my mom and dad. I wish I wasn't such a bitter and angry child back then. I want to comfort them about all of this and make them know that they're loved but I don't get to do that a lot since I live in a completely different state than they do.
I know I have nothing to blame but myself for how I acted like a imature little brat but at the same time there's so many factors that could have prevented this I just wish I knew the impact of what I was saying/doing.
I say this because I noticed one of the voices were that of a teenager, I'm 16 at the time of writing this. It just reminded me of too much. I thought this would be important to get out there plus I'm sick of keeping it all bottled up inside of me
@@Shawna-lx6nnDang. I feel bad for you, bro. Same fate as you, I abused by my parents since I was little until now, I was abusing myself because of my ADHD and I started hitting my head so hard on the wall, that made my parents so worried and scared and felt guilty of how I've become. I haven't gotten therapy yet. I kind of blame my parents because of my mental illness.
@@akumakibutsuji7999 yeah, for me I had a lot of crazy shit happen in my childhood that made me the way I am today. I haven't gotten therapy either but I'm definitely wanting to when I turn 18 (since my dad doesn't like therapy)
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@@n.e.r.d.2213 can you fuck off mate? This is literally a psa about child abuse I don't know why there's so many imature kids in this comment section but let me fucking vent oh my God no one is forcing you to read it
The whole “sticks and stones break my bones, but words don’t hurt me” thing is a lie. Words DO hurt.
Fr. Physical or Mental, it still hurts.
and then those parents act surprised when you don't want anything to do with them later in life.
Does your mom ever just...you know...abuse you to the point that you're too scared to speak up for yourself, but when you do, she just calls you a "smartass"?
Imagine abusing your child in any shape or form 🙄
Here is the most saddest part, kids will usually blame it on themselves and not their parents because they think that they’re the problem and they’re the reason why their parents are yelling at them.
We don't use words that hurts us, we use words that helps us.
Here, here
THESE WORDS THAT HURT ALWAYS PISS ME OFF!!!!!!!!!!!
Or rather we should, I wish there were more people like you in the world. The saying "there is a bit of good in everybody" is bull squirt, never listen to it and never believe it, Hitler was evil, Peter Sutcliffe, Ivan the terrible, Jeffrey Dahmer, Harold Shipman, Fred West, I could go on listing many more evil people but if I did that, you all would be here till next Christmas reading through the list, there are GOOD people in the world granted but sadly there are also the evil ones, there is evil in this world sadly. ☹
@@KingDragonBoyTV1998only a few words are not hurtful
@@begest_poliois_ IT DOES DOESN’T IT????!!!!!!!!!!! *RAGE GROWL*
Ive been dealing with this type of thing recently, bc my dad just said im not his kid anymore and that my mom doesnt love me and is fine with me dying
My own mother even prevented me from talking to anyone because "their side doesnt get explained"
So i just try to please them, i cant really do anything without them
Do they ever bother trying to explain your side when they, doubtlessly, complain about you?
They don't want you talking to anyone about it because they know they're in the wrong and don't want to face it. You deserve support and unconditional love as much as anyone else - stay safe but get far away from them as soon as you can. I promise things really do get better and one day you will find the comfort and healing you never got from them. Life is worth living and you are worthy of being part of it!!!
People when they find out that belittling and demeaning someone just leads them to internalize the comments instead of forming a fortitude against them: 😮
I didn’t get child abuse but I can prove that the words that come out of adults hurt way much as a kid and can change their perception about themselves for a long time.
When I was around 5-10 years old maybe, my family always said that I had a really flat and big nose, they said it was funny and ugly all the time, I became really anxious about that since then, and even until now I still hated my nose so much. And the thing is I’m not a person who’s very easily feels insecure about what other people say as a young adult.
One day I asked my mom “Do you still think that I have a flat nose?” I thought for sure she would say yes cause that’s what I always see in the mirror, but surprisingly she said “No it’s not? It’s only like that when you were a child” She also said she can’t believe I still remember that cause it was so long ago, but all these years I remember all the words so clearly and it bothers my life.
I felt really strange, cause I always saw a flat nose on my face and I started to wonder if it was only in my brain, and no one else saw that.
So I can’t even imagine what’s gonna happened to a kid when their parents constantly call them “useless” or a “moron”, I just hope they can move on from those words
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@@orangestastebad ok
Hopefully your mom learned a thing or two that day
I was verbally abused for 7 years by my own. I was dismissed for years until it got so bad i started fearing physical abuse. I ended up having emergency lines on a watch at 7 years old and I was always ready to run to the neighbours. But once I got away the damage had already been done and I now have nightmares most nights that revolve around my trauma. So to all those in the next generation of parents and up coming parents words last longer than bruises
I wonder if the people I grew up around knew that what they said would go straight to my head if they would say it again. Took a lot of therapy to learn that the evil inner voice wasn’t mine but of everyone who ever abused me because I was an easy target
1989, and yet to this day people still don't get it
My parents never cared how much their words/actions hurt me. They only cared how much it hurt them when I left and quit talking to them.
I don’t get hurt physically.
I only get hurt mentally, when people say something that would leave me in scars for days.
@TH-camViral2673 nah it would be a drama japanese dramatic character
I’m on the brink of tears just watching this man
i literally just found this in my recommended and i gotta admit the drawing horrifies me in a psychological way
Reminder: The US is the only developed nation in the world that hasn't signed the UN "Convention on the Rights of the Child".
My mom saying that she felt like taking her own life because she was exhausted of taking care of me and my siblings will never leave me. We had a very hard childhood and I understand how much it must’ve affected her but hearing something like that when I was just a child really changed how I saw her
My parents are good(?)
They give me many things I want…toys, food, shelter, tv, heck, even a dog..!
But, they get angry really easily, most of the time at stupid reasons, usually at me and my sister. Me and her try to figure out ways to realize and defuse situations if we know they’re going to get upset, because when they’re mad they will stay mad. They can threaten us about taking away privileges (which is fair), but also using things like food and house, their affection, things like that against us. If they don’t get their own way, they’ll guilt trip, especially when I’m having an argument with them about something they did or something they won’t listen to me about. They call me names they know I don’t like that make me uncomfortable and my dad likes to get really close and in my face when we’re fighting, despite me telling him to back up to keep me comfortable in my personal space.
But when they’re not mad, or upset, or any of that, they’re loving, so it confuses me on if they love me or not. Does anyone know here, as maybe an adult or an older teenager? :(
If a parent threatens to take away essentials like food, shelter and love; then that is absolutely abusive! They may not realize what they are doing would have an impact and might just genuinely have trouble controlling their anger, but that is still no excuse to do so. Just know that I believe in you and I know you can work things out! I know I was lucky to have amazing parents, but I hope your parents can realize their faults and apologize to you, it might take a while seeing how stubborn people can be when talking with kids, but I believe in you!
Also know that it is not your responsibility to fix your parents, apologies if I did not make that clear in my comment
@@maowohammer2577 Thank you, I’m really hoping one day they’ll apologize, even if it’s when I’m grown up. I appreciate you read all that, and took the time to reply when it’s just a random comment on this video from so long ago. Thank you.
that sounds like love bombing 😅 u may find info regarding it online
I can really relate to this. I'm having the same problems as well. However, my dad says that Gen z people can't handle anything when it comes to the most minor things. My dad wants me to not act negatively because I'm processing adulthood, so if I was an adult and I would react that way, people are going to call me out for being sensitive. I'm Gen z, and my dad is Gen x, so, I basically break down when it comes to very minor things, well at least my dad calls it minor. My life sucked every single day, and my dad just says 'everyone went through the same thing, so get over it'. I hate being born in gen z, I hate being sensitive, I just wish I could be as apathetic as my dad so he doesn't have to hurt my feelings about it. I hate it.
"What the hell is wrong with you?"
Sorry, dad, i can't have a mental breakdown. You literally know about my depression why do you pretend I'm fine?
"If I knew you'd turn out this way, I'd never would of adopted you"
Asian parents when you get a 99 instead of 100
As a victim I can confirm
It hurts..
The crap-
Parent: *yells at siblings*
Child1: *cries*
Parent: what’s wrong? I’m not yelling at you!
I’ve never been abused in my life, but I do find this ad incredibly frightening. To everyone out there who is experiencing abuse, verbal, emotional, or physical, I’m really sorry that you’re going through that and I hope you will recover from it.
this reminds me of the drawings that we did in kindergarten💀
SAME
Yeah mines too😅
Prolly because they were likely made by actual Kindergarteners
We live in the same world where spanking and using someone as punch bag of anger are considered 'Discipline*. I've lived with emotionally unavailable and absent parents throughout my life. Humans can't be changed. Just be grateful that you are able to live in this moment.
This is why we must become -adopted- childs of God. The adoption part insinuates our biological parents are no longer in the picture. Most ppl will cling to abusive parents because they've been manipulated into doing so. Sad.
At this point I honestly wished my parents didn't give birth to me. All I've been my entire childhood was their verbal punching bag, and now I have to find a way to live with the trauma.
@@jacksonrelaxin3425 Yeah, it's terrible. But if there is God, then probably there is some hope.
@@nacloot8700 I've wished for the same. But since that's not possible, now I wish to become asexual and stop being so manipulated by this human need for sex. I don't even want kids or relationships anyway.
@@experienceseeker07well you have a sad life, your whole lineage will die with you
“I wonder what sin I’ve done that made me have a child like you” is what my mom used to tell me.
ah, it appears that you and i have the same mother.
Its sad, my parents constantly call me these and expect me not to cry and/or tell someone I really trust. If I sob really hard, the only answers I get are " WHY ARE YOU CRYING, B!TCH? I SHOULD BE THE ONE CRYING" or "IF YOUR GONNA CRY, DONT DO IT IN FRONT OF ME USELESS IDIOT". But I feel luckier than other kids who face it worse than me... Love from me if your a child abhcse victem ❤❤
God bless you, you and your family are in my prayers, I totally understand ☦️🙏
One side of us is like “I feel bad for the children who had to go through this. 😢”
and the other side is like “Roblox Ban Speedrun be like 💀”
Jesus Christ I get what they’re trying to say but there’s probably a difference between being called clumsy and “I WISH YOU WERE NEVER BORN”
I think it depends on the context. The clumsy thing makes me think it'd most likely be little, unnecessary digs to belittle a child that cause a great deal of harm to their sense of self over time. I wish your were never born is awful but also sounds like something easily said in anger, in a way that even a child would recognize to be dramatic.
I assume it’s showing the different types of things to not do- do not say really mean things, do not belittle people either
This video is basically a 1to1 of my childhood, my mom wasn't to bad but my school was for some reason so dedicated to making me feel horrible. They tried so hard to diagnose me with autism so they could kick me out. They never did. But maybe throughout the years I did develop it.
Autism is inborn btw, and regardless if you have it or not, that is absolutely horrific and ableist to kick a child out of a school for ASD. Disgusting and heartbreaking
0:12 Sonic Sez "I HATE YOU!"
*DEMONIC VOICE* THAT’S ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*DEMONIC VOICE* YOU’RE PISSING ME OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We all know all of us 1990-2015 went through this
I can’t help but think that I have heard the narrator’s voice in the first Land Before Time movie.
Maybe you have, he sounds familiar to me too.
the first 14 seconds describe exactly how i think everyone feels around me at all times
😢
it doesnt even have to come from parents to hurt. it can come from siblings or your parent’s s/o or your aunts or uncles or cousins. it hurts coming from anyone.
Finally a PSA that uses genuine words that abusive parents say in real life instead of making something that will traumatize you for life
the burning urge to send this to my dad lol
"wish you were never born" hurts when my mom and my dad and my brother have said these
Wow, an ad from the 80's that actually holds up.
Looking in the comments here and seeing the experiences of others with verbal abuse as children is absolutely harrowing. I never had experience with verbal abuse as a child, at least not to the extent many others did. However, on the handful of occasions either of my parents have made remarks to me they shouldn't have (mostly my father) it cuts to my core. If it cuts a seventeen year old to his core, imagine how a kid ten years younger would take it.
A stranger's sympathy may not count for much, but for what it's worth, if you've ever had to deal with something like this, wherever you may be in this world or whatever your situation may be or may have been, you have my sympathy and my heart goes out to you.
You don't think it impacts them, but it does.
From a young age, when I forgot things or made too many mistakes while my mom was in a bad mood, she directed it on me. The worst of her many bad quotes was "I wish you'd just think," and while that doesn't sound bad, it engrained itself in me and even to this day, while I encourage others often, I notice that I self degrade, I call myself stupid, an idiot, dumb. Because I believe I am, even though deep down I know I'm not and I'm told by people close to me that it isn't true. But I continue to say it, almost like a reflex, because as a child and even now, when things are tough for her, I'm an idiot for not getting things done right.
The words you say to a child are so impactful. It's almost ironic, because when i was small and felt bullied by other kids, she'd tell me "sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can't hurt you" and somehow, she became my worst bully.
@TH-camViral2673Dude, stop.
words like these doesnt hurt because it is hurtful. it hurts because it came from a person who is suppose to love you unconditionally. in child's mind. "if my parents dont love me, no one can" well at least that's what i thought when i was a kid.
Jesus said that even calling someone "fool" is worthy of Hell
@@seronymusdidn’t the bible call non believers fools?
As a person who has been abused by my father for 11 years, this needs to be said
"I don't care about you anymore, I don't want to parent you anymore."
"JUST EAT!! EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT!! WHAT DO YOU WANT TO EAT?? STOP SAYING "I don't know"!"
"How come you don't know what you want to eat?!"
"You sound dumb asking me that over and over again!"
"STOP COMPLAINING! OR I'LL LOSE MY TEMPER AND SLAP YOU"
..
My dad: I wish I could sleep forever.
Me: Why?
My dad: No one helps me, you also never helped me.
I was scared to talk back to my dad, he himself never even helped me through the hard things I face,heck, he even tells me to do things, and if I do it wrong, he gets mad and threatens me.
The daddy drawing was an absolute violation
Once, a wise old man said
" think of mean words like rocks and pebblea, you throw a pebble at the water, it toes really far. That is when u say a mean word to others, it hurts really bad."
Also fteev once said
" think of a person as a paper, just say the bullie crunbles you up, when he says sorry, and tries to fix you, see the paper doesnt get back to what it was before, it stays crunpled up. See this is you, you change when u get bullied. "
Abuse needs to stop.
The fact that the PARENTS that take care of KIDS don't even DO anything about it.
omg i never felt so shaken
Until I was a later teenager, my father was extremely verbally and emotionally aggressive with me and my mother. I already am autistic, and I realize more and more how many times I was terrified crying permanently, literally scarred my brain. Anxiety, possible BPD, you name it. ;_;. I've only had healing of any significance by being an Orthodox Christian and receiving sacraments like the Eucharist. I pray for all who suffer mentally and the calloused hearts out there.
As Christ said, one day we'll account for "every idle word"!
I hope to God that my father gets to witness every horrific thing he's said to me over the years that he claims never happened, and that I'm lying and ruining his life just for fun... This man has told me as an 11 year old that I was incapable of love and a sociopath. He claimed if I ever got vaccinated he would shoot and kill my mother, brother, me, and then himself in the head. He doesnt speak to me, or acknowledge conversation from me. He Just grabs my shoulders and shakes me, a 21 year old, 5'1 woman, as hard as he can and walks away because he thinks its funny. He's thrown plates at my mother. Etc etc. I hope in my heart of hearts he'll understand one day that it was not okay. Your comment comforted me in a weird way. Thank you.
Clumsy is the least hurtful one
Im still struggling and it feels like i alwasy will be. this is a perfect representation of how i felt growing up, unloved and uncared for.
I like the thumbnail of this video. That literally has my message to Dan Schneider
We must protect children and children do not deserve to go through this
At all times.
I don’t know if this is normal or not but my parents would call my sibling and I super smart and they “couldn’t live without us” but when we weren’t agreeing with them or did something wrong they would always have this tone where they call us stupid and annoying saying especially to my sister they would not feed her so we basically need to agree with them all the time or else they would lash out on us.
they couldn't live without your validation :(
thats relatable
Why did this appear on my fyp 8 years later wtf
same
bro said fyp on youtube💀
@@starfieldgames5976It means “For You Page” 🙄
Same
children remember everything.
Why does this work so well with pictures that actually look like they’ve been drawn by a child?
Ok but seriously. Child abuse is actually a bad thing, and being disrespected is already bad enough. Now we’re at the age of “cyber bullying”, and it WILL be bad, by calling other people slurs on voice chat, to straight up trying to make kids commit suicide (Especially teenagers).
Long story short, don’t bully children.
Bullying is less of a problem nowadays than 20/30 years ago... The reason? Becuase it more punished now...
Even cyberbullying has severe consequences today, schools also can kick you out if they figure you out guilty
This was just unthinkable 30 years ago...
@@Ultra289 i think it's the opposite; i think bullying has gotten worse with the cyberbullies and people rarely do shit about it
@@lemoniphobiaand also the people saying those comments would never say that to a person in real life, so they say it 9n the internet and see 0 consequences, until people notice it.
Yesterday, at dinner, I got myself a helping. It was hot, so to cool it down, I placed it in the fridge. After I did so, my mom got up and rushed to the fridge. She said, “I want to see how much you got. Let me see it.” So I opened the fridge. I was fairly hungry, so I had a little more than usual. She said “Oh my god, that’s so much! No more food afterwards. That’s it.” I didn’t say anything. A little while later, I decided I wanted a little something sweet. I grabbed a couple strawberries from the fridge, and one for my Guinea pig. She said “You don’t need to be eating right now. Put it away. Have you lost your mind?” So I put the strawberries back. It was only two small strawberries. I didn’t eat anything for the rest of the night. I’m not quite sure this is verbal abuse, but it hurt my feelings a lot. When I was younger, I never used to question it. But now I do.
This is how you breed eating disorders in children. Im so sorry that happened
Do you trust your mother enough to bring it up with her?
Abusers don't care, is the thing.
True, thats why we need to teach kids born to shitty parents to leave them behind when possible
@@MayaMaya-tj7kwnot all of them since most kids are extremely sensitive when they're told the least hurtful things
Ive been verablly abused sense i was little, myabe 4 or 5, im currently 15 and still face verbal abuse every day of my life. My parents scream at me so much, thry call me names like "retard" *i have adhd btw.* "fucking moron" "stupid" "fat" stuff like that. I deal with it everyday and still go to school and put on a fake smile and act like i didnt just get threatend to be beaten for taking slightly to long to get dressed, my mom emotionally manipulates me and shes crazy, she always screams at me for doing nothing wrong and yells at me with no reason behind it, words have an effect.
I'm sorry. I was born autistic and I think my mom hated me for it and only was nice to me when I was being "perfect" and making no mistakes.
My dad calls me retarded, he was referring to an ignorant person I guess :/
Verbal and emotional child abuse commercial.
*demonic voice* DON’T YOU DARE LAY A FINGER ON THAT LITTLE BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*demonic voice* ENOUGH OF YOUR ABUSIVE BULLS**T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Those words that hurted actually offended me
No wonder the children are messed up today!
I hope these drawings are not real, children should not be afraid of their parents, I hope these drawings are made for this PSA.
Yeah about that
I can confirm this is very real. My parents told me to kill myself and I think that's proof enough
Same but I have a sneaky feeling those drawings were made by real children probably some of the adults in the video who handed in their old drawings from their childhood for the PSA (which would double the awareness) or those drawings are from children who's artwork was found either after the child was taken away or...died. Like for example I don't remember the year but a church fire had happened to a cult (can't remember the name either) and a child's drawing was found
@@LowSelf-EsteemLordjeez that's even worse than my mom threatening to laugh at me when i get injured
If only more parents had actually listened.
My mother used to severely verbally abuse me for years. Words hurt. It was when I was between the ages of… well, the worst of it was 7-12. But it was to a lesser extent when I was younger because my father was there. I’ll never forget us arguing when I was 11 and I was attempting to get her to see how she was hurting me and she yelled out “WHAT THAT MOUTH DO?!” It was obviously in a sexual context (she never physically or sexually abused me) and I wasn’t stupid, I knew how she meant it. I broke down crying. Once because I didn’t share chips with my cousin fast enough she started praying and said “God, I’m so sorry for having such a piece of shit child…” I was 10… that one stuck with me. She once gave me a cup of water, told me it was drain cleaner and told me if I wanted to kill myself so bad I should just do it. She told me to drink it. I was 8. It wasn’t until I broke down crying after an argument in the corner of my room and begged her to take me to therapy that she realized I was serious. She was verbally abused by her own mother and attempted suicide twice. We’ve spoken about these things in therapy when I was a teenager, and I was lucky enough that I got my mother to change & grow as a person. We talked about how her being verbally and physically abused might not have been an excuse, but it was definitely a reason and since that moment we’ve both been attempting to break the generational trauma curse. Words hurt. Sticks and stones may break your bones but time heals all wounds. Words will stick with you forever. This isn’t to downplay physical abuse, but remember that verbal abuse can be just as bad.
It's good you finally broke the cycle. It's unfortunate that your mother was instilled with traits by her mother so that when you have a child (if you ever do) they never have to go through that