a moment of silence for our fallen brothers, may the big algorithm in the sky keep them safe ok now that that’s over thanks for the support dude!!! means a lot, thank you for watchin and hope u have a beautiful rest of your night :)
This is genuinely my take on social media. I'm not exaggerating when I say that social media has been nothing short of catastrophic for humanity. It has destroyed our ability to socialize, made us all phone-addicts, facilitated the mass proliferation of misinformation, and provided a central platform for fringe extremist groups. Study after study after study aftet study has only found primatily negstive psychological and sociological effects of prolonged social media use. We're absolutely screwed.
Yes they did. Dating apps killed normalcy, and they inflated the egos of people to the point where now two normal people both think they are too good for the other.
It's not even dating apps, it's literally instagram. More girls meet guys off insta than tinder. What's going on is the girls have access to the hot guys and the hot guys have access to all the girls. Simply put, women have shown that most perennially single women who "want a man" would rather fantasise that Chad will eventually choose them, than date guys on their level. Hot guys who either want non committed polygyny, or to sort through all the women to find his queen, and average to above average women with great charm (who never would have got access to attractive guys without being online and seeming easy) but who the guys really enjoy the company of are the ONLY ones who benefit. Oh, and less good looking girls who want short term fun (i think most are in denial here though). The average guy is the biggest loser out of this
Inflated the egos of WOMEN. This ain't on men. Don't even go there. Men are done being blamed for their bullshit. They wanted to be part of Chad's Tinder harem. That's on them.
I always get the feeling that the dating apps are literally just forcing people to only see a few other people. Like you can't tell me there's only like 17 girls in NYC on this forsaken app.
i have definitely seen the same person multiple times on the apps before which I feel like should be statistically impossible??? lmao. plus i think dating apps themselves have algorithms to pair people up on the same “attractiveness level” (or what the algorithm perceives to be attractiveness level) which i think further limits people and contributes to this monke brain thinking thanks 4 watchin and commenting dude, appreciate it, hope u have an amazing day :)
6:30 This is so true. How are you going to decide if you like someone without seeing the way they joke with friends, do things for their parents, work on things they love doing? Seeing people do things and interact with others is what attracts us to them
This is how I attracted all my girlfriends in high school. They saw how I interacted with my friends and classmates and liked what they saw. Now phone addiction and social media have made people such buzzkills that it's not the same.
i couldnt deal with dating apps bc it always felt so ingenuine. choosing ppl based on looks and a very filtered curated personality feels just... not good. wrong. i really highly doubt i could ever make a real relationship off of those. im content with being single rn bc there's just no one in my life that i look at that way. but id rather have a same of like 3 flawed choices than a hundred thousand perfect people.
yeah especially when i think these apps nudge you towards just going though a high volume of profiles and making snap judgements based on like 5 seconds of seeing someone’s profile. i guess when you choose to talk to someone in person at a bar or something, you’re also making a snap judgement, but idk, it feels different doing it in a situation like that vs on a phone screen lol appreciate the comment and you explaining your thoughts dude, interesting stuff. thanks 4 watchin and hope u have a wonderful day :)
What's really interesting about dating apps is that when I was younger and on them, they really leveled the playing field. In my early 20s I went out with hundreds of women before meeting my first ex. I was a socially anxious, nerdy, twig-boy and I was able to get multiple dates per week for a two year period. In 2012, I met my ex was with her for 8 months and took some time off of dating sites. In 2013, 3 months later, just three months, I went from being able to get multiple dates a week to a couple dates a month on good months. In this 8 months I had gotten in very good shape and put on a bit of muscle and abs but it didn't do much. Was on those sites with decreasing success for 3 years eventually getting one date a month to one date ever few months. I then met my most recent ex, was with her for 2.5 years and got back on the apps after that and have been on less than 10 dates in 4 years. Now this is significant because I make 4x what I made when I was with my most recent ex, I'm 210lbs at 16-18% body fat, am very handy, and have numerous accomplishments under my belt such as going from no experience in boxing to starting to train for amateur fights in 8 months and training powerlifting and getting my weights up to the beginner competitive levels; not to mention I moved across the country and have been on a professionally upward trajectory over the last 3 years that invalidates the first 8 years of my 20s completely. Guess what? With everything I've said, I'm single today and I'm lucky to get 1 match a week on tinder, one mach a month on bumble, I get about 1 match every 4 months on hinger, OK Cupid and POF I haven't matched with a real profile in literally years... The apps didn't ruin dating, women not understanding the difference between the online world and the real world did.
@@deltacharlieecho4732 Brother, you'll really start feeling a difference if you tell these apps you wanna fuck men. Suddenly a match is actually obtainable
DAMN the message of this video is so on point. we should really be okay with meeting people where they're at in their life journey, rather than comparing them to an idealized version of what we think our significant other should be
That's why I date for personality and a "checkbox" of attractiveness. (Not many points for being even more attractive past a point) They're the only things that matter long term. Do I find them physically attractive enough to enjoy kissing them, and would spending a whole day with them drive me crazy or would I have tons of fun? Everything else changes one decade to the next with people if not one year to the next.
It’s weird because now if you approach someone in real life it almost feels surreal. Recently got a girl’s number at the gym and I realized how odd that must be for the current “vibe” of dating.
@@JohnSmith-pv3kj Don't approach anyone, ANYWHERE!? How do you think people meet? I went on a date TODAY after walking up to a stranger and giving them my number. It's completely fine to approach people in a respectful and humble manner
@@david29565 what are you talking about? You’re gonna let the few psychotic women that think guys that approach them irl are creepy dictate you approaching women? There are normal women out there that don’t mind being approached. It would be in your best interest to take a chance even though women that think all guys are creeps and no one should approach them exist. I’m not the only one that doesn’t mind being approached there are a lot of women that don’t mind. I wouldn’t let the few women that blow up on social media for calling guys creepy dictate what you do in life
yes! and people pick the best photos of themselves. it's like going to mcdonald's and expecting the food to look exactly like it does in the commercial
The incentives are misaligned, you keep paying them until you find a partner so they obviously don't can't have you to find and keep one for long. A male friend of a friend went on 200+ Tinder dates these past 2 years and Tinder reached out to him like thanks bro for casually dating all of these women we're going to give you premium forever so you can keep up the good work!
Geez all this hypergamy is going to end up making finding a date you aren't unknowingly related to much more difficult in the future Iceland already has this issue
"The KEY to form relationship is to see each other CONSISTENTLY in time and VARIABLY in situations." is a stroke of GENIUS, my friend. That was worth the entire video! +1 sub 👍👍👍
aye thank you for the kind words bro :’) working on more vids about college fosho, we will tear the institution of higher learning apart brick by brick on this channel!!! lmao for real appreciate you for being here and the support, hope u have a terrific day :)
I used dating apps for 5 years until I finally gave up, all I got were 2 dates, 8 fake accounts and a whole lot of flaking and ghost. Part of the reason why I drink.
I started tabulating my "success" rate and realized one day that I got about 2 responses out of every 100 messages I sent. Tailored specifically to every girl, I might add, not just a generic "hey" but I would go through and read their profile, comment on shared interests, things like that. Not being a creeper either, generally tried to avoid comments on their appearance at all since it makes most people uncomfortable rather than being flattering. It's just not worth it lol
Seriously, dating apps destroyed my ego. I became obsessed with working out and my appearance to get the highest amount of likes on them. It was damaging to my mental health, so I left it, stopped caring about my singledom, and I've been a lot happier since.
thank u for sayin this dude, it touches me in a warm and fuzzy place in my heart :') appreciate you for bein here, and i hope u have a legendary rest of your day
I love the point about settling for perfect with infinity options. Infinite options are just an illusion. Most of us are mid at best. Be grateful for getting someone mid whose company you enjoy.
That "how couples met" chart at the beginning is one of the most depressing things I've seen in a while. Since the 80s, all the normal human interactions have cratered, and the two most degenerate methods have exploded.
@@91toinfinity Exactly, those same relationships most likely failed anyway. It's the same shit, different day and method of meeting someone. Usually ends in heartache no matter what.
It's not bleeps and bloops controlling online dating, its people, marketing and software engineers. They're not interested in helping people find love, they're interested in making a profit
Found my current partner through a dating app, looking back neither one of us were expecting anything, but we both engaged in actual conversation. According to his words was the only person to do so, and from my expierence I couldnt find many people who did the same. It was very lucky meeting someone like him through an app, and long term relationships only come out of it if people are willing to give others an honest shot.
@@snowballeffect7812 i watched so many stanford cs lecture at 4x speed lmao but also there’s a difference between information stuff at 4x and watching a freaking movie at 4x lmao. like if you’re gonna watch a movie at 4x speed you might as well just read the wikipedia summary
i kinda wish they put a ban to these apps for like a year to see the difference it makes, the amount of people that would go out to bars/social circles more and possibly get dates would probably be higher
The biggest problem with online dating IMO is that people expect Las Vegas levels of serotonin from a text chat and all they give you to work with is hi or hey or tiny uninterested responses. 90% of all interactions are like this. I'm not a Chad by any means but I'm solid average guy 5 to 7 depending on who is scoring. My options as a average 28 yo white guy are, women who are 40+ (massive egos still intact) or women with multiple children or our favorite, poly relationships. What a time to alive experiencing this horrible reality.
yeah i feel like it's this big paradox where it feels like everyone is on dating apps, but it seems really hard to find a good match?? at that point we have to question whether the medium itself is the problem lmao
5:05 I think it has more to do with social media as a whole than dating apps, while for example scrolling on instagram and tiktok you see SUPER attractive people all the time which in real life you would see very sparsely
aye thanks for saying that dude!! it’s really cool to see tho im still getting used to it a bit lol. but i mega appreciate you being here, thank you and i hope u have a magnificent day :)
I need an app where I can make a groupchat with strangers and we all meet up. I feel more comfortable meeting people in a group setting. I can judge whether they're actually nice or not that way.
Well I think these dating apps have so much success because we don't have as much time to be social with others organically and we don't have the occasions either. It's even worse if you live in a big city, paradoxically! In small towns people all know each other and have that element of living close and seeing each other.
we have just as much time we just spend alot more of it on phones. why go up and talk to someone new when ur bored when have all ur friends and an endless dopamine supply in ur hands.
What do you mean we don't have the time? you think people in the past had more time? the issue is that everyone is on their phones or tv or whatever all the time.
Easiest sub of my life. Contemplating showing this to my parents to explain our gen. Or maybe just use the points here to win future arguments. Who needs communication when you can win arguments.
Here's some advice for guys using dating apps. If you get a match, chat a little but you're ultimate goal is to ask them out asap. You can't really tell what a personality is like through a phone screen and I've wasted a lot of time texting back and forth to the point of boredom. A plan B is to call them, but personally that makes me more nervous than just meeting up in person. Whatever works for you but make it clear that you're interested in them as a person, rather than an idea of a person behind a phone.
Sorry but no... If a guy asks me to meet up asap it's a red flag for me, makes me think that he's just looking for sex. I think it's best to talk for a few days to see if you even vibe.
i havent really heard anything positive about dating apps other than its an ego booster for chicks and an ego killer and a chore for men. i much prefer face to face interactions anyway instead of texting dozens of randoms and never end up meeting most of them
It’s the same for women, I’ve been unmatched just because I didn’t have insta, when I was verified they kept calling me out as a fake when they never met me because I was too hot to be true. There’s way to many incel men on tinder, don’t blame just women.
I think it is creating division between men and women as it brings out the worse in humam nature, tinder is pretty much attracting the most attention seeking chicks and thirsty men for them to prey upon. Since people don't socialise anymore as much, the perception men grow up with comes from social media, which would be the attention wh*r*s ... and since girls on datinv apps all go for the same guys, they project their hate toward the top 10 percent on the average guy, creating further division
The women I’ve met so far online dating have zero tolerance for any short comings in the conversation. Texting on dating apps feels like 4D chess. I’ve been afraid to make shitty jokes because in the past they’ve resulted in straight up ghosting. I swear this cannot be happening to just me
oh my goodness cause there is this one man who I have been trying to get over for months. I have been going on online date after online date and none of the men I have went on dates with have held my attention like he has and this video is making me think t's cause I met him in person, and we started off as friends, and we got to know each other thru talking and sharing stories, and it felt so much more full and meaningful than when you meet someone on an app. Like when you meet somone in person theres the introduction, the tension, the getting to know each other, the will they or wont they, ITS SO MUCH BETTER. IM NOT MESSING W THESE FUCK ASS DATING APPS EVER AGAIN. this man does not like me tho RIP but IMMA FIND ANOTHER REAL LIFE NON INTERNET MAN
Choice paralysis is real, it happens at super markets, it happens on dating apps. You’re definitely touching on something very real here but I also want people to remember that although datings apps made the scene (intentionally) worse to drive up their revenue, it’s not impossible to find someone! Just keep yourself clean cut, working on other things, developing yourself, etc, it’ll happen eventually if you do those (and even if it didn’t, having a positive attitude is good for you , maybe focus on being a good friend to the people around you instead)
I think when you meet someone, you start ti see their mannerisms and personality as endearing and cute along with their physical appearance, but on dating apps its just a photo. What photo taken on an iPhone camera can capture the beautiful nuances of someone’s features. It doesn’t capture their laugh or their smile, or their sense of humor. These are all things that make people so much more beautiful in my eyes. I don’t think that amount of beauty is ever shown through a profile pic unless you’re a supermodel
yep, i think we have this weird culture where we feel like we need the BEST of everything, including relationships. even in this vid, i made a joke about chasing after supermodels with jordans lmao. but i feel like the truth is there is no true "best" thing, and we can all be very happy in relationships with flawed human beings :) thanks for takin the time to comment and watch dude, means a lot, and i hope you have a spectacular rest of your day!
@@introvertedmadness exactly. But people get big heads nowadays because it's so easy to get validation from random internet creeps (P.S. to everyone on insta, we know you don't look like that IRL, ya portrait mode mf)
It's very... grossly capitalistic in how these apps have you selling an idealized version of yourself on the internet. We're fucking commodifying relationships.
@@icyjiub2228 america already made housing and humans health commodities so this is the next step 😣 I bet more corporations own houses than millenials
That still doesn't change the fact that there are 49million kangaroos in Australia and 3.5million people in Uruguay which means if the kangaroos were to invade Uruguay, each person will have to fight 14 kangaroos 😤
I'm so glad that I met my partner through high school. All this dating app stuff has completely pasted me by and it looks fucking exhausting and demoralising to engage with. I really never want to ever deal with it.
Every relationship I've been in took time to build actual feelings. I was attracted at first, but it took time and consistency for any emotions to grow. With dating apps, we're seeing people we have no broader connection with and thus, we don't feel any responsibility to give the other person a shot if we see anything we don't absolutely love. It feels hopeless.
Modern dating has brought out the worst in both male and female nature. When social media and porn exist most people don’t feel the need to start and nourish real relationships. Leading to loneliness
@@TylerSolvestri people like you with your victim, no accountability mentality are part of the problem. Blaming women for your problems is nor gonna solve your problems.
The thing about meeting someone organically is that their personality can really shine through in a way that is impossible over apps. Less attractive people have way more of a chance of getting dates by approaching someone in real life than an app where you are judged solely on looks. Also seeing someone smile and talk makes them way more attractive than they would ever be in a photo. Yes, you can get rejected to your face but no risk no reward.
@Love Cactus Not sure what your situation but I know lot of Indian guys who were bigshots in India and who come here for college expecting to sleep with a different white girl each day lmao. That's not happening. Most people prefer to date and sleep with people of their own race. As an Indian guy you will have no issue dating other Indians girls in the US but you will most likely not have much success with white, black, Hispanic, East Asian girls.
This video gives me a lot of vindication. I spent the last 2 weeks talking to a girl every day, and we were both having a great time looking forward to a date. And when I asked for a second one, she said she had no complaints about me, but wasn't interested because "I have a very specific idea of what I'm looking for."... I guess the past 2 weeks of good vibes wasn't it. :(
Man you really said it and i feel like we all kinda feel it. Also what weird about dating apps: We are not truly authentic on there. Everyone is a fabricated character almost and making connection becomes so hard.
I've only used hinge on and off for about a year. I've been on plenty of dates, dated a few cool girls. But it's true about peoples standards being raised ridiculously high due to such high supply of people, especially if you're a woman. I noticed most of the relationships fizzled out because something better comes along for either side. I've done it and have had it done to me.
I agree with your idea. People have infinite capacity to make your life miserable but almost no influence on how happy you are. When dating just look for someone who isnt a serial killer/give you legal problems and someone who can negotiate/compromise and put in effort into the relationship. The bar should be really low, god knows so few people can even clear these few expectations.
I actually like dating apps. As someone who struggle in social situations it feels so much easier to connect through text and get a feel for the person before you meet. And there is no anxiety around if they are interested or not because when you go on a date through a dating app you alteady know there is some level of interest there.
Just started watching your videos ~2 weeks ago and I'm so happy to see your channel growing!! You really deserve it man, this is some of the realest content on youtube
aye thank you for being here and the support bro!!! goal of the channel is just always to keep it real, so you saying that is awesome to hear. thanks again for watchin and taking the time to comment, hope u have a sensational day :)
The issue with dating apps is the practicality remove scarcity those can get a date but they know they have an almost infinite amount of other options thus always leaving someone to think about said option and not being fully committed
This video convinced me to stop using dating apps. Ever since the pandemic I have been using them because I wanted to start meeting more people but if anything it just ruined my sense of sociality
After trying online dating again for the 12th time a few months ago, it's worse than it's ever been. If you're not at least 6 feet tall, you will be ignored or just told you're not tall enough. It's beyond aggravating. I've decided I'm just staying off dating apps for good and I'll either meet someone out at a bar or doing a hobby, through friends, or not at all. I'm no longer obsessing about it and have made peace with the fact that I may die alone. Sounds defeating but it's more that I'm just done living in sadness and anger for something I only have so much control over. It's needs to be natural or not happen at all and scrolling endlessly through apps that are trying to game me to make a profit is not a system I want to partake in or support anymore. They're all so gross.
I think that this is right on, because of the increased supply of people makes people think they have more options than they do and tend to be pickier. That said I met my wife on a dating app so obviously YMMV.
Social media and media in general has romanticized that your perfect partner will be perfect the moment you meet. That if sparks don't fly (and usually it's not sparks, it's lust) instantly, it won't work. Barely anyone takes the time to learn about partners anymore unless they take them to bed first. A relationship ends how it starts, everytime. If a relationship starts in a bedroom, it will end in someone else's.
You're spot on. It's definitely had a negative impact on society as a whole, however from a guy living in a small town in Florida, where every bar is filled with drunk fishermen and botoxed-up ladies, dating apps work pretty well for me.
Honestly tho, tinder is such a bullshit app if you are a dude. I remember me and my friends made one when we were drunk for fun and I used it for a week then realized the app is truly bullshit. I can go on a whole rant on why it’s bad but I’ll spare everyone that. I just remember I would swipe a bunch and then get told I swiped on popular users and then realize that I ain’t ever finding love
I kinda hate them too, but on the other hand I don't wanna date people I work with and I'm at a unique place in life where I have no friends and life hundreds of miles from family. It's very hard to drum up a relationship from scratch at 25 and at least Tinder let's someone know you're looking for that instead of the assumption (which I get a lot) that I'm married and have kids.
I met my gf on Bumble. I started looking for a gf during sophomore year of college. Dating apps were simultaneously stupid fun and could also be extremely depressing. It really just depended how lonely I was feeling. It definitely felt dystopian though. I’m glad to be free from constantly having to market myself. I’m getting engaged to my gf soon. Trying to find a nice Christian girl on dating apps was a challenge lol. But I found, her and I’m her first boyfriend/ soon to be husband
I met my wife in the early years of Tinder . However, as the trend with most things internet/apps ; it got mass adoption , focused on profit for company, and the users started being one sided and/or nothing more than advertisement to other “influencer” ventures. And as the video points out, everyones minds got warped to thinking they are a 10 and gift to humanity . Social Media in general has warped peoples minds for the worse 🤔
Thank you! Dating apps have totally messed up relationships and I think we are only just waking up to it. A lot of people seem to think more choice has to equal a better chance to meet someone. Looking at all the single and frustrated people on all sides seems to point to it not being the case. Honestly think they should be heavily regulated or banned. I also say this as someone who has met the girl I am currently seeing on tinder but the matches that actually go somewhere are so few and far between.
I may of never used dating apps/websites but I still feel like nothing beats how I met my fiancé by chance and the powerful connection we instantly had for each other. That intense bond, connection, passion & desired commitment that we happened by surprise and without expectation can’t be beat
Because it was discussed in the comments - how to approach women irl 101 (written by me, a woman): 1. Make sure she is not way younger than you. I got approached by mid-30s guys and my late teens and was a little disgusted ngl 2. Don't ask for her number, give her your number! That way, you have a ~20% chance that she actually texts you instead of a ~95% chance of a fake number 3. Don't do the whole heavy-eyecontact, touchy thing - it's creepy! Act natural. It's okay if you're nervous 4. Don't approach her if she has headphones on/ is reading/ is riding her bike (happened to me, no joke) 5. Don't compliment her on things she cannot change (hair, body, facial features), but on things that she decidied on (style, vibe, something that she has with her like an instrument) - you can also just say that she seems like a nice and fun person 6. If she says no or doesn't want to talk, just thank her and leave. You never know if you will meet her or her friends somewhere again, creepy is probably the worst reputation
You can't get a good sense of who these people are, though, until you meet them in person. And then at that point you've likely already put a lot of time and energy into hoping they aren't bannana nut crazy or boring. The disapointment can be immeasurable and it kills the vibe. Even a good bio tells you so little. I havn't been on dating apps in 2 years and the one time I met someone in person that I thought I'd be happy with they're already in a relationship. If I saw him on a dating app I'd struggle and hesitate and eventually swipe left. Is there no love under capitalism? (For me specificallly)
Every asian lateboomer is out here getting PTSD (post-traumatic swagger disorder) seeing that 2011 abercrombie oversized tee photo. I resonated with that heavy.
The reality is that even the past iteration of ‘Romance’ was equally fake. It was a product of the film industry and advertising. This is also true of our current conception of ‘love’ itself. Nothing has truly been lost.
All of the girls I’ve been with, I got by talking to them in the dining room at school. Dating apps I, even tho I get matches, I rarely go out with anyone
I follow you for sometime and can't help to notice you start to growth your subscribers exponentially, glad that you now start to get a bigger audience and recognition, can't wait for the next video.
They might have killed the vibe, but you sir do nothing but increase the vibes. You deserve way more views and subscribers so here's to hoping this comment tips the scale that makes you blow up in the youtube algorithm.
I feel when meeting on dating apps, it should still be a romantic love story. My best first dates are ones you can happily tell your uber driver and they tell you that's the best story they have ever heard. Just because the connection is easy and instant doesn't mean the rest doesn't take work.
aye thank u for all the support bro 😭 started from the bottom and now we are no longer at the bottom. thanks for being an OG man, hope summer is treating you well! ps love the blog :)
We lost NakeyJakey, CasuallyExplained, and O’Nella Academy but I’m glad that now I found a depressed Stanford CS grad to fill the content hole
a moment of silence for our fallen brothers, may the big algorithm in the sky keep them safe
ok now that that’s over thanks for the support dude!!! means a lot, thank you for watchin and hope u have a beautiful rest of your night :)
Wait what happened to them? Did they leave TH-cam or something?
@@stacksmasherninja7266 It's been a while since any of them have posted anything, Sam O'nella especially
@@UllerAres Sam O'nella stopped uploading because he was going to college, as far as im aware
Wait wat happend to nakey?
We need a dating app for people who don’t want to meet people on dating apps. It doesn’t do anything. It just gives you hope.
hell yeah!! couldn't agree more. we gotta set up a giant pen pal network to replace dating apps
@@introvertedmadness men would send pics of their dongs and women would flee. That is why no video app has been successful.
Make a bunch of cool merch for the app
It's called World of Warcraft
@@introvertedmadness I turn every app I'm on into that because I put my range out of the state I'm in.
They didn't "kill the vibe"
They inflicted a nearly fatal blow to society
rocky vs ivan drago moment for society
This is genuinely my take on social media. I'm not exaggerating when I say that social media has been nothing short of catastrophic for humanity. It has destroyed our ability to socialize, made us all phone-addicts, facilitated the mass proliferation of misinformation, and provided a central platform for fringe extremist groups. Study after study after study aftet study has only found primatily negstive psychological and sociological effects of prolonged social media use. We're absolutely screwed.
No they didn’t
@@LilXancheX I literally laughed at your videos. It's over buddy boyo.
No.
By keeping staying ignorant like thzt you only keep the cycle going.
Yes they did. Dating apps killed normalcy, and they inflated the egos of people to the point where now two normal people both think they are too good for the other.
everybody thinks they always have better choices, ect. its ridiculous lol
It's not even dating apps, it's literally instagram. More girls meet guys off insta than tinder.
What's going on is the girls have access to the hot guys and the hot guys have access to all the girls. Simply put, women have shown that most perennially single women who "want a man" would rather fantasise that Chad will eventually choose them, than date guys on their level.
Hot guys who either want non committed polygyny, or to sort through all the women to find his queen, and average to above average women with great charm (who never would have got access to attractive guys without being online and seeming easy) but who the guys really enjoy the company of are the ONLY ones who benefit. Oh, and less good looking girls who want short term fun (i think most are in denial here though). The average guy is the biggest loser out of this
Two sub par people
Inflated the egos of WOMEN.
This ain't on men. Don't even go there. Men are done being blamed for their bullshit.
They wanted to be part of Chad's Tinder harem. That's on them.
@@samanthanoeliaferrer No such thing as "better" just more compatible.
I always get the feeling that the dating apps are literally just forcing people to only see a few other people. Like you can't tell me there's only like 17 girls in NYC on this forsaken app.
i have definitely seen the same person multiple times on the apps before which I feel like should be statistically impossible??? lmao. plus i think dating apps themselves have algorithms to pair people up on the same “attractiveness level” (or what the algorithm perceives to be attractiveness level) which i think further limits people and contributes to this monke brain thinking
thanks 4 watchin and commenting dude, appreciate it, hope u have an amazing day :)
@@introvertedmadness not sure about the attractiveness thing, I usually see 7s and up and that AINT ME
@@introvertedmadness wtf lol
@@fireuser691 Your a fucking Adonis bro, they'd be lucky to get that godly groin.
They flood the apps with fake profiles so you spend more money on them.
6:30 This is so true. How are you going to decide if you like someone without seeing the way they joke with friends, do things for their parents, work on things they love doing? Seeing people do things and interact with others is what attracts us to them
This is how I attracted all my girlfriends in high school. They saw how I interacted with my friends and classmates and liked what they saw. Now phone addiction and social media have made people such buzzkills that it's not the same.
i couldnt deal with dating apps bc it always felt so ingenuine. choosing ppl based on looks and a very filtered curated personality feels just... not good. wrong. i really highly doubt i could ever make a real relationship off of those. im content with being single rn bc there's just no one in my life that i look at that way. but id rather have a same of like 3 flawed choices than a hundred thousand perfect people.
yeah especially when i think these apps nudge you towards just going though a high volume of profiles and making snap judgements based on like 5 seconds of seeing someone’s profile. i guess when you choose to talk to someone in person at a bar or something, you’re also making a snap judgement, but idk, it feels different doing it in a situation like that vs on a phone screen lol
appreciate the comment and you explaining your thoughts dude, interesting stuff. thanks 4 watchin and hope u have a wonderful day :)
@@introvertedmadness thanks man. love ur stuff :)
What's really interesting about dating apps is that when I was younger and on them, they really leveled the playing field. In my early 20s I went out with hundreds of women before meeting my first ex. I was a socially anxious, nerdy, twig-boy and I was able to get multiple dates per week for a two year period. In 2012, I met my ex was with her for 8 months and took some time off of dating sites. In 2013, 3 months later, just three months, I went from being able to get multiple dates a week to a couple dates a month on good months. In this 8 months I had gotten in very good shape and put on a bit of muscle and abs but it didn't do much. Was on those sites with decreasing success for 3 years eventually getting one date a month to one date ever few months. I then met my most recent ex, was with her for 2.5 years and got back on the apps after that and have been on less than 10 dates in 4 years. Now this is significant because I make 4x what I made when I was with my most recent ex, I'm 210lbs at 16-18% body fat, am very handy, and have numerous accomplishments under my belt such as going from no experience in boxing to starting to train for amateur fights in 8 months and training powerlifting and getting my weights up to the beginner competitive levels; not to mention I moved across the country and have been on a professionally upward trajectory over the last 3 years that invalidates the first 8 years of my 20s completely.
Guess what? With everything I've said, I'm single today and I'm lucky to get 1 match a week on tinder, one mach a month on bumble, I get about 1 match every 4 months on hinger, OK Cupid and POF I haven't matched with a real profile in literally years...
The apps didn't ruin dating, women not understanding the difference between the online world and the real world did.
@@deltacharlieecho4732 Brother, you'll really start feeling a difference if you tell these apps you wanna fuck men. Suddenly a match is actually obtainable
DAMN the message of this video is so on point. we should really be okay with meeting people where they're at in their life journey, rather than comparing them to an idealized version of what we think our significant other should be
That's why I date for personality and a "checkbox" of attractiveness. (Not many points for being even more attractive past a point) They're the only things that matter long term. Do I find them physically attractive enough to enjoy kissing them, and would spending a whole day with them drive me crazy or would I have tons of fun? Everything else changes one decade to the next with people if not one year to the next.
I love your content, you're like an old sarcastic, depressed man that still gives off positive vibes. Very relatable.
brb making that my tinder bio
lol anyway thanks for watching dude, i really appreciate the support :) hope u have a legendary day
It’s weird because now if you approach someone in real life it almost feels surreal.
Recently got a girl’s number at the gym and I realized how odd that must be for the current “vibe” of dating.
Never approach girls at the gym. Or even better, don't approach anyone anywhere. In today's society it is seen as creepy.
@@david29565Insane opinion to hold
@@Se7enRemain nope, not at all
@@JohnSmith-pv3kj Don't approach anyone, ANYWHERE!? How do you think people meet? I went on a date TODAY after walking up to a stranger and giving them my number. It's completely fine to approach people in a respectful and humble manner
@@david29565 what are you talking about? You’re gonna let the few psychotic women that think guys that approach them irl are creepy dictate you approaching women? There are normal women out there that don’t mind being approached. It would be in your best interest to take a chance even though women that think all guys are creeps and no one should approach them exist. I’m not the only one that doesn’t mind being approached there are a lot of women that don’t mind. I wouldn’t let the few women that blow up on social media for calling guys creepy dictate what you do in life
I also want to add that judging profiles by their photos will backfire lol. Most phone lens distort facial features by alot.
yes! and people pick the best photos of themselves. it's like going to mcdonald's and expecting the food to look exactly like it does in the commercial
@@introvertedmadness yup
The incentives are misaligned, you keep paying them until you find a partner so they obviously don't can't have you to find and keep one for long. A male friend of a friend went on 200+ Tinder dates these past 2 years and Tinder reached out to him like thanks bro for casually dating all of these women we're going to give you premium forever so you can keep up the good work!
Geez all this hypergamy is going to end up making finding a date you aren't unknowingly related to much more difficult in the future
Iceland already has this issue
Why do people even pay these things? The added "benefits" don't really max your possibility of finding a partner
Regular show episode plotline
@@abraxadabra4224 For men, they sadly do. If you pay, your profile is shown to more people :/
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Tinder is a digital pimp.
"The KEY to form relationship is to see each other CONSISTENTLY in time and VARIABLY in situations." is a stroke of GENIUS, my friend. That was worth the entire video! +1 sub 👍👍👍
This guy deserves WAY more subscribers. Thank you for helping me not worry so much about college!
aye thank you for the kind words bro :’) working on more vids about college fosho, we will tear the institution of higher learning apart brick by brick on this channel!!! lmao for real appreciate you for being here and the support, hope u have a terrific day :)
I used dating apps for 5 years until I finally gave up, all I got were 2 dates, 8 fake accounts and a whole lot of flaking and ghost. Part of the reason why I drink.
I started tabulating my "success" rate and realized one day that I got about 2 responses out of every 100 messages I sent. Tailored specifically to every girl, I might add, not just a generic "hey" but I would go through and read their profile, comment on shared interests, things like that. Not being a creeper either, generally tried to avoid comments on their appearance at all since it makes most people uncomfortable rather than being flattering.
It's just not worth it lol
This is so sad and pathetic rofl. There's more to life than dating, bud. Find a therapist.
It's a lot easier to hook up at AA meetings anyway.
THIS! This happens with 95% of men on there unless you look a certain way
@@greyadams3606 who the fuck says rofl anymore 😭😂
Seriously, dating apps destroyed my ego. I became obsessed with working out and my appearance to get the highest amount of likes on them. It was damaging to my mental health, so I left it, stopped caring about my singledom, and I've been a lot happier since.
Great point, same happened to me, I didn’t realize it until you said it, many thanks!
Working out is not a problem, the problem is working out and stressing yourself to superficially fit on someone’s interests
^yes, work out for yourself vs for others
It's criminal how little subscribers you have, this is awesome.
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thank u for sayin this dude, it touches me in a warm and fuzzy place in my heart :') appreciate you for bein here, and i hope u have a legendary rest of your day
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first we get to 10k, then we get to 100k. engagement for the algo demon.
being an average-looking person on a dating app is like slowly pushing your self-esteem through a woodchipper
"Something wacky and slightly illegal happens that only white people will get away with" LMAOOOO THAT LINE WAS GOLDEN
had me choking lol
Your Honor, I was merely "doing a little trolling" and had no intention of actually stealing the blue French Horn from the restaurant.
Me and the boys high on Molly on Christmas eve stealing ornaments off people's lawns
@@theeleanorshellstropthat sh*t killed me😂
I love the point about settling for perfect with infinity options. Infinite options are just an illusion. Most of us are mid at best. Be grateful for getting someone mid whose company you enjoy.
That "how couples met" chart at the beginning is one of the most depressing things I've seen in a while. Since the 80s, all the normal human interactions have cratered, and the two most degenerate methods have exploded.
Boomer memes from 2012 about phones were right. Now the boomers are just as phone addicted as the zoomers.
@@ThePigsmasher lmfao this shit is so true
Okay but how many of those couples stayed in their relationships, and of those who did, how many were in miserable ones?
@@91toinfinity The point is meeting someone you could be in a relationship with, not the longevity. Though that is a good question
@@91toinfinity Exactly, those same relationships most likely failed anyway. It's the same shit, different day and method of meeting someone. Usually ends in heartache no matter what.
It's not bleeps and bloops controlling online dating, its people, marketing and software engineers. They're not interested in helping people find love, they're interested in making a profit
Found my current partner through a dating app, looking back neither one of us were expecting anything, but we both engaged in actual conversation. According to his words was the only person to do so, and from my expierence I couldnt find many people who did the same. It was very lucky meeting someone like him through an app, and long term relationships only come out of it if people are willing to give others an honest shot.
"If we're going down that route then why don't we watch tv at 4x speed and eat hot dogs like the food eating competition people do" lmaooo
as a wise man once said: "life moves pretty fast. if u don't stop and look around once in a while, it might pass you by"
The problem is I DEFO watch informational TH-cam at like 3x speed for this exact reason lmao.
@@snowballeffect7812 i watched so many stanford cs lecture at 4x speed lmao
but also there’s a difference between information stuff at 4x and watching a freaking movie at 4x lmao. like if you’re gonna watch a movie at 4x speed you might as well just read the wikipedia summary
@@introvertedmadness I thought it was “you just might miss it”
i kinda wish they put a ban to these apps for like a year to see the difference it makes, the amount of people that would go out to bars/social circles more and possibly get dates would probably be higher
The biggest problem with online dating IMO is that people expect Las Vegas levels of serotonin from a text chat and all they give you to work with is hi or hey or tiny uninterested responses.
90% of all interactions are like this. I'm not a Chad by any means but I'm solid average guy 5 to 7 depending on who is scoring.
My options as a average 28 yo white guy are, women who are 40+ (massive egos still intact) or women with multiple children or our favorite, poly relationships.
What a time to alive experiencing this horrible reality.
yeah i feel like it's this big paradox where it feels like everyone is on dating apps, but it seems really hard to find a good match?? at that point we have to question whether the medium itself is the problem lmao
Do you think getting a passport and finding love overseas is available option for yourself
5:05 I think it has more to do with social media as a whole than dating apps, while for example scrolling on instagram and tiktok you see SUPER attractive people all the time which in real life you would see very sparsely
Crazy to see you growing so fast. You deserve it dude
aye thanks for saying that dude!! it’s really cool to see tho im still getting used to it a bit lol. but i mega appreciate you being here, thank you and i hope u have a magnificent day :)
I need an app where I can make a groupchat with strangers and we all meet up. I feel more comfortable meeting people in a group setting. I can judge whether they're actually nice or not that way.
The way people act nowadays gives me panic attacks. I really wish people would just be kind, and stop worrying about everything else.
DATING APPS GIVE YOU THE IDEA THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING/SOMEONE BETTER OUT THERE AND THAT'S WHY PEOPLE WONT SETTLE DOWN INTO A RELATIONSHIP!!!!!
Well I think these dating apps have so much success because we don't have as much time to be social with others organically and we don't have the occasions either. It's even worse if you live in a big city, paradoxically! In small towns people all know each other and have that element of living close and seeing each other.
we have just as much time we just spend alot more of it on phones. why go up and talk to someone new when ur bored when have all ur friends and an endless dopamine supply in ur hands.
@@joe2648 exactly. The whole 'I never have any time' is bullshit. Make the time.
@@matster77 exactly, ppl just waste alot of time sitting abt waiting for things to happen instead of getting out and making/letting them happen
What do you mean we don't have the time? you think people in the past had more time? the issue is that everyone is on their phones or tv or whatever all the time.
@@reinhardt3090 More people are working longer hours than a generation ago. Cost of everything is wayyyy higher
Easiest sub of my life. Contemplating showing this to my parents to explain our gen. Or maybe just use the points here to win future arguments. Who needs communication when you can win arguments.
it’s almost like matchmaking has been commodified and turned into a market
Here's some advice for guys using dating apps. If you get a match, chat a little but you're ultimate goal is to ask them out asap. You can't really tell what a personality is like through a phone screen and I've wasted a lot of time texting back and forth to the point of boredom. A plan B is to call them, but personally that makes me more nervous than just meeting up in person. Whatever works for you but make it clear that you're interested in them as a person, rather than an idea of a person behind a phone.
Yup, text as little as possible on the app and get their number to get a drink with ASAP or they will move on
Sorry but no... If a guy asks me to meet up asap it's a red flag for me, makes me think that he's just looking for sex. I think it's best to talk for a few days to see if you even vibe.
i havent really heard anything positive about dating apps other than its an ego booster for chicks and an ego killer and a chore for men. i much prefer face to face interactions anyway instead of texting dozens of randoms and never end up meeting most of them
It’s the same for women, I’ve been unmatched just because I didn’t have insta, when I was verified they kept calling me out as a fake when they never met me because I was too hot to be true. There’s way to many incel men on tinder, don’t blame just women.
@@kimberlymorganadams4338 95% of girls have instagram so to be fair, you are the exception not the rule. Nick's situation is common yours is not!
I think it is creating division between men and women as it brings out the worse in humam nature, tinder is pretty much attracting the most attention seeking chicks and thirsty men for them to prey upon. Since people don't socialise anymore as much, the perception men grow up with comes from social media, which would be the attention wh*r*s ... and since girls on datinv apps all go for the same guys, they project their hate toward the top 10 percent on the average guy, creating further division
@@kimberlymorganadams4338 That's because most women on dating apps are actually bots and scammers. Nice empathy lmao
The women I’ve met so far online dating have zero tolerance for any short comings in the conversation. Texting on dating apps feels like 4D chess. I’ve been afraid to make shitty jokes because in the past they’ve resulted in straight up ghosting. I swear this cannot be happening to just me
oh my goodness cause there is this one man who I have been trying to get over for months. I have been going on online date after online date and none of the men I have went on dates with have held my attention like he has and this video is making me think t's cause I met him in person, and we started off as friends, and we got to know each other thru talking and sharing stories, and it felt so much more full and meaningful than when you meet someone on an app. Like when you meet somone in person theres the introduction, the tension, the getting to know each other, the will they or wont they, ITS SO MUCH BETTER. IM NOT MESSING W THESE FUCK ASS DATING APPS EVER AGAIN. this man does not like me tho RIP but IMMA FIND ANOTHER REAL LIFE NON INTERNET MAN
Choice paralysis is real, it happens at super markets, it happens on dating apps. You’re definitely touching on something very real here but I also want people to remember that although datings apps made the scene (intentionally) worse to drive up their revenue, it’s not impossible to find someone! Just keep yourself clean cut, working on other things, developing yourself, etc, it’ll happen eventually if you do those (and even if it didn’t, having a positive attitude is good for you , maybe focus on being a good friend to the people around you instead)
I think when you meet someone, you start ti see their mannerisms and personality as endearing and cute along with their physical appearance, but on dating apps its just a photo. What photo taken on an iPhone camera can capture the beautiful nuances of someone’s features. It doesn’t capture their laugh or their smile, or their sense of humor. These are all things that make people so much more beautiful in my eyes. I don’t think that amount of beauty is ever shown through a profile pic unless you’re a supermodel
Dating Apps recreate the hierarchy we’ve moved so far away from. That dastardly statistic about 10% of men on Tinder getting all the matches.
yep, i think we have this weird culture where we feel like we need the BEST of everything, including relationships. even in this vid, i made a joke about chasing after supermodels with jordans lmao. but i feel like the truth is there is no true "best" thing, and we can all be very happy in relationships with flawed human beings :) thanks for takin the time to comment and watch dude, means a lot, and i hope you have a spectacular rest of your day!
@@introvertedmadness exactly. But people get big heads nowadays because it's so easy to get validation from random internet creeps (P.S. to everyone on insta, we know you don't look like that IRL, ya portrait mode mf)
It's very... grossly capitalistic in how these apps have you selling an idealized version of yourself on the internet. We're fucking commodifying relationships.
@@icyjiub2228 america already made housing and humans health commodities so this is the next step 😣 I bet more corporations own houses than millenials
@lannainanna1382 Legalize sex work, so sex can finally be as commodified as love and marriage.
That still doesn't change the fact that there are 49million kangaroos in Australia and 3.5million people in Uruguay which means if the kangaroos were to invade Uruguay, each person will have to fight 14 kangaroos 😤
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I'm so glad that I met my partner through high school. All this dating app stuff has completely pasted me by and it looks fucking exhausting and demoralising to engage with. I really never want to ever deal with it.
Every relationship I've been in took time to build actual feelings. I was attracted at first, but it took time and consistency for any emotions to grow. With dating apps, we're seeing people we have no broader connection with and thus, we don't feel any responsibility to give the other person a shot if we see anything we don't absolutely love. It feels hopeless.
Modern dating has brought out the worst in both male and female nature. When social media and porn exist most people don’t feel the need to start and nourish real relationships. Leading to loneliness
Not really male, most males would date whatever. Can’t say the same about women
@@TylerSolvestri people like you with your victim, no accountability mentality are part of the problem. Blaming women for your problems is nor gonna solve your problems.
@@TylerSolvestri yes some women have standards as they should and some men will date whatever not all you should speak for yourself.
The thing about meeting someone organically is that their personality can really shine through in a way that is impossible over apps. Less attractive people have way more of a chance of getting dates by approaching someone in real life than an app where you are judged solely on looks. Also seeing someone smile and talk makes them way more attractive than they would ever be in a photo. Yes, you can get rejected to your face but no risk no reward.
"please...it's tough out here". As an Asian dude trying to date in America, I totally get you bro 😆
At least yalls got fair skin and can go for the kpop vibe or something. As an Indian dude, I assure you that nobody views us as attractive.
@@thiccactus cap bro istg 75% of Indian dudes I see look like 9s (at least for me, a straight guy lol)
@@cas6112 cope
@Love Cactus Not sure what your situation but I know lot of Indian guys who were bigshots in India and who come here for college expecting to sleep with a different white girl each day lmao. That's not happening. Most people prefer to date and sleep with people of their own race. As an Indian guy you will have no issue dating other Indians girls in the US but you will most likely not have much success with white, black, Hispanic, East Asian girls.
Is it still that way? Don't you have a lot of koreaboos that fetishize Asian men?
This video gives me a lot of vindication. I spent the last 2 weeks talking to a girl every day, and we were both having a great time looking forward to a date. And when I asked for a second one, she said she had no complaints about me, but wasn't interested because "I have a very specific idea of what I'm looking for."... I guess the past 2 weeks of good vibes wasn't it. :(
Man you really said it and i feel like we all kinda feel it.
Also what weird about dating apps: We are not truly authentic on there. Everyone is a fabricated character almost and making connection becomes so hard.
I've only used hinge on and off for about a year. I've been on plenty of dates, dated a few cool girls. But it's true about peoples standards being raised ridiculously high due to such high supply of people, especially if you're a woman. I noticed most of the relationships fizzled out because something better comes along for either side. I've done it and have had it done to me.
Haven't seen any of your videos but that start with Masayoshi Takanaka is perfect
Bro its insane u only have 10k this is some insane quality
I agree with your idea. People have infinite capacity to make your life miserable but almost no influence on how happy you are. When dating just look for someone who isnt a serial killer/give you legal problems and someone who can negotiate/compromise and put in effort into the relationship. The bar should be really low, god knows so few people can even clear these few expectations.
I actually like dating apps. As someone who struggle in social situations it feels so much easier to connect through text and get a feel for the person before you meet. And there is no anxiety around if they are interested or not because when you go on a date through a dating app you alteady know there is some level of interest there.
Just started watching your videos ~2 weeks ago and I'm so happy to see your channel growing!! You really deserve it man, this is some of the realest content on youtube
aye thank you for being here and the support bro!!! goal of the channel is just always to keep it real, so you saying that is awesome to hear. thanks again for watchin and taking the time to comment, hope u have a sensational day :)
The issue with dating apps is the practicality remove scarcity those can get a date but they know they have an almost infinite amount of other options thus always leaving someone to think about said option and not being fully committed
I just don't understand why peoples standards are so high when their standards are things they themselves aren't even close to being
This video convinced me to stop using dating apps. Ever since the pandemic I have been using them because I wanted to start meeting more people but if anything it just ruined my sense of sociality
This is the best video I seen in a while. Im burnt up on dating apps. Lack of success and the feeling of alienation. It’s exhausting and stressful
legit one of the best youtube channels I've found this year. super excited for it to keep growing.
thanks bro :')
After trying online dating again for the 12th time a few months ago, it's worse than it's ever been. If you're not at least 6 feet tall, you will be ignored or just told you're not tall enough. It's beyond aggravating. I've decided I'm just staying off dating apps for good and I'll either meet someone out at a bar or doing a hobby, through friends, or not at all. I'm no longer obsessing about it and have made peace with the fact that I may die alone. Sounds defeating but it's more that I'm just done living in sadness and anger for something I only have so much control over. It's needs to be natural or not happen at all and scrolling endlessly through apps that are trying to game me to make a profit is not a system I want to partake in or support anymore. They're all so gross.
rly kind that the algorithm brought me to your videos, it's a welcome hit of nostalgia and dopamine tbh. keep on keepin on, dawg
I think that this is right on, because of the increased supply of people makes people think they have more options than they do and tend to be pickier.
That said I met my wife on a dating app so obviously YMMV.
Social media and media in general has romanticized that your perfect partner will be perfect the moment you meet. That if sparks don't fly (and usually it's not sparks, it's lust) instantly, it won't work. Barely anyone takes the time to learn about partners anymore unless they take them to bed first. A relationship ends how it starts, everytime. If a relationship starts in a bedroom, it will end in someone else's.
Got a Bumble ad while watching. Took it as a sign to subscribe
You're spot on. It's definitely had a negative impact on society as a whole, however from a guy living in a small town in Florida, where every bar is filled with drunk fishermen and botoxed-up ladies, dating apps work pretty well for me.
What could possibly go wrong when the basis of your relationship is, “She’s hot.”
Honestly tho, tinder is such a bullshit app if you are a dude. I remember me and my friends made one when we were drunk for fun and I used it for a week then realized the app is truly bullshit. I can go on a whole rant on why it’s bad but I’ll spare everyone that. I just remember I would swipe a bunch and then get told I swiped on popular users and then realize that I ain’t ever finding love
“It’s tough out here” I feel that lmao
I kinda hate them too, but on the other hand I don't wanna date people I work with and I'm at a unique place in life where I have no friends and life hundreds of miles from family. It's very hard to drum up a relationship from scratch at 25 and at least Tinder let's someone know you're looking for that instead of the assumption (which I get a lot) that I'm married and have kids.
I met my gf on Bumble. I started looking for a gf during sophomore year of college. Dating apps were simultaneously stupid fun and could also be extremely depressing. It really just depended how lonely I was feeling. It definitely felt dystopian though.
I’m glad to be free from constantly having to market myself. I’m getting engaged to my gf soon. Trying to find a nice Christian girl on dating apps was a challenge lol. But I found, her and I’m her first boyfriend/ soon to be husband
I love that you used a clip from the Conan skit “muppet faces of death.” Nicely done.
I met my wife in the early years of Tinder . However, as the trend with most things internet/apps ; it got mass adoption , focused on profit for company, and the users started being one sided and/or nothing more than advertisement to other “influencer” ventures. And as the video points out, everyones minds got warped to thinking they are a 10 and gift to humanity . Social Media in general has warped peoples minds for the worse 🤔
Underrated content. Only those who know will understand the message behind the videos.
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Mom, Asian Jakey just uploaded a new video! Nah, but seriously, you make good shit. Hell , i might even subscribe for shits and giggles
Thank you! Dating apps have totally messed up relationships and I think we are only just waking up to it. A lot of people seem to think more choice has to equal a better chance to meet someone. Looking at all the single and frustrated people on all sides seems to point to it not being the case. Honestly think they should be heavily regulated or banned. I also say this as someone who has met the girl I am currently seeing on tinder but the matches that actually go somewhere are so few and far between.
Oh tengo suerte hits so hard for the intro
We need like a non-profit dating app where you can donate if you met your match or want to support the platform
How could you scale it so it competes against tinder
“Be kind and chill the fuck out” that’s the word right there 😭😭😭❤️
i just saw ur college video and now im binging ur stuff! always nice to find a channel with some good content :)
I may of never used dating apps/websites but I still feel like nothing beats how I met my fiancé by chance and the powerful connection we instantly had for each other.
That intense bond, connection, passion & desired commitment that we happened by surprise and without expectation can’t be beat
YO. Speaking of vibes did you play a Masayoshi Takanaka song in the intro? Also great video
Plus a bunch of clips from Say Anything 😭😭😭 I’m subbing
oh tengo suerte!!! absolute heater
Just got a Bumble and a Tinder ad before the video, nicely sets the mood for this video
yo i fuck with your vibes HEAVILY, you're on point bro i used to look forward to the day all the shits online now that i kinda resent it
this guy is hilarious, i havent laughed this hard at youtuve videos in a very long time. thanks man!
This is the first video I’ve watched of yours and definitely won’t be the last. I love this format and your comedic timing is awesome. Instant sub.
Because it was discussed in the comments - how to approach women irl 101 (written by me, a woman):
1. Make sure she is not way younger than you. I got approached by mid-30s guys and my late teens and was a little disgusted ngl
2. Don't ask for her number, give her your number! That way, you have a ~20% chance that she actually texts you instead of a ~95% chance of a fake number
3. Don't do the whole heavy-eyecontact, touchy thing - it's creepy! Act natural. It's okay if you're nervous
4. Don't approach her if she has headphones on/ is reading/ is riding her bike (happened to me, no joke)
5. Don't compliment her on things she cannot change (hair, body, facial features), but on things that she decidied on (style, vibe, something that she has with her like an instrument) - you can also just say that she seems like a nice and fun person
6. If she says no or doesn't want to talk, just thank her and leave. You never know if you will meet her or her friends somewhere again, creepy is probably the worst reputation
You can't get a good sense of who these people are, though, until you meet them in person. And then at that point you've likely already put a lot of time and energy into hoping they aren't bannana nut crazy or boring. The disapointment can be immeasurable and it kills the vibe. Even a good bio tells you so little. I havn't been on dating apps in 2 years and the one time I met someone in person that I thought I'd be happy with they're already in a relationship. If I saw him on a dating app I'd struggle and hesitate and eventually swipe left. Is there no love under capitalism? (For me specificallly)
i came here from your Bay Area video, but these monologues are fuckn HILARIOUS!🤣🤣🤣
Every asian lateboomer is out here getting PTSD (post-traumatic swagger disorder) seeing that 2011 abercrombie oversized tee photo. I resonated with that heavy.
ps: big fan of this editing style. esp the green screening yourself into the video. it's parasocially dope.
found you via the almighty algorithm, holy shit your humor is right up my alley. keep it up !!!
The reality is that even the past iteration of ‘Romance’ was equally fake. It was a product of the film industry and advertising.
This is also true of our current conception of ‘love’ itself. Nothing has truly been lost.
how have I never come across this channel before, this stuff is great!
All of the girls I’ve been with, I got by talking to them in the dining room at school.
Dating apps I, even tho I get matches, I rarely go out with anyone
I want to believe you bought that blow up doll at the end just for this video but I know we've all been down bad before.
I follow you for sometime and can't help to notice you start to growth your subscribers exponentially, glad that you now start to get a bigger audience and recognition, can't wait for the next video.
We all use the dating apps, but nobody really likes them. I’ve been trying to get back to the 90’s and meet people in person again myself
They might have killed the vibe, but you sir do nothing but increase the vibes. You deserve way more views and subscribers so here's to hoping this comment tips the scale that makes you blow up in the youtube algorithm.
Dating apps are evil. I hope to never download one. 😕
I feel when meeting on dating apps, it should still be a romantic love story. My best first dates are ones you can happily tell your uber driver and they tell you that's the best story they have ever heard. Just because the connection is easy and instant doesn't mean the rest doesn't take work.
ayo that's facts and a beautiful way to look at it my dude, and true, people's love stories are wayyyy more than just how they met
Uber driver: "That's the best story I've ever heard, please give me 5 stars" **also has to put in work because of an app**
YOU BOUTTA HIT 10K AHHHHH LETS GOOOOO!!! KEEP IT GOING HOMIE
aye thank u for all the support bro 😭 started from the bottom and now we are no longer at the bottom. thanks for being an OG man, hope summer is treating you well!
ps love the blog :)