Dr. Umar Blast Podcast Host For Trying To Convince Us There Are No Good Black Men Or Women To Marry
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In part 3 of this reasoning, Dr. Umar criticizes podcast host for fueling today's gender war.
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This is true, you don't see a married couple that's been married 40 years on a podcast telling you what to do.
Why is that? Why aren't the successful married folk on podcast sharing?
Because they’re getting criticism and ppl pray for their downfalls.
When a married woman talks she’s getting attacked by single women
@@laethyciasimms6894 💖💖
👍 👍 👍 👍 👍 👍
@@mzwetlovequeenbecause they’re busy minding their business and living their life. Plus if a couple did people are so toxic and miserable they’d be hell bent on destroying that couple’s marriage
Thank you!! This men vs women, women vs men bs has to die!
🙏🏽
Can’t die if the ppl saying men need therapy , won’t get therapy from what their mothers did to them to break them and to make them think every man is cheating. Thats what happens when the mothers bring their kids into adult situations at a young age. Especially girls. And I see a lot of sisters bringing their daughters into adult relationship situations. Now those little girls grow up not have bad relationships but creating toxic relationships because like her mom she’s accusing every man she’s with with cheating. And since she thinks that , she has a dirty attitude with the man she’s in a relationship. Everything is an argument. Everything is a fight while it’s not. You can’t lie most black men try and show women the light but they choose not to see logic and leadership
@@chuckc4724 especially for black folk! It's not helping anything
@@chuckc4724 100% agreed, does not help black folk in the long run!
@@KingCoupaSDNlmao so you think people got men cheat from their mothers, and not the men themselves that they’re interacted with?
Hurt people, hurts people, and misery loves company☝🏿..
Black people
Facts! Truth!
Real telling it like it is commentary!
Some people just enjoy hurting people
@@anthonyhenderson892
Scary truth!
100% in agreement!
Black people just can't handle the truth you guys are so use to bring manipulated and being told what you want to hear
I'm so glad he explained this. I am so tired of hearing black people have this "get over it". "Let it go" mindset.
People do not understand psychologically how the brain works overall but especially trauma. People can understand having your back broken and put in a wheelchair and that somebody will never walk again.
But they can't understand something Traumatizing somebody so bad that they can never be the same again. Age has nothing to do with anything. They're people who are Damn near 100 Still thinking about something that happened to them as a child (That greatly affected them their whole life) and we'll take it to the grave.
Mental scars cut way deeper than physical ones.
That’s a fact, but as a being it is your responsibility to face your trauma to grow as a person, if that is what you as a being want. Correct generational trauma, overcome your subconscious mental blocks to be the being you are destined to be, because at the end of the day our time is limited and regretting not taking action in your final moments will spiritually crush you.
So true
@@k1llamanjaro532 This is true and I don't respect people who don't try... Trying is all you can do but let's be honest a lot of people are not going to win because of being awesome was easy. Everybody would do it. This is why you should not traumatize children traumatize others or traumatize yourself. Once something is mentally broken it is usually broken and it will never be the same again
@@k1llamanjaro532 Thank you....well said
Yes! Dr Umar corrected him real quick. I love it!
We all need to heal ourselves. Most of us still suffer from childhood traumas that never was addressed. Work on yourself, love yourself and then you can work on a healthy relationship.
Truth! Facts!
Powerful commentary!
So many people spoke bad about Min. Farrakhan when he said we needed therapy or needed to be audited. The Church of Scientology has a good therapy program but just because is was the Church of Scientology it was blasted as something bad. This has been a focus of that Church and they're good at it. People who have been traumatized and abused need to get healing before they get married not just for themselves, but so they don't traumatize their spouse and children.
In that order! 🎯
I agree that too many of us seek external happiness through money, cars, clothes, jewelry, a good job, sports, sex, entertainment, music,and religion and yet never never nerver experience healthy bonding with safe people
Facts but in my opinion apart of healing is taking accountability. Everyone just wants to blame someone else
A unhealthy mind brings about much confusion
Intellectual and thought provoking commentary!
And Umar is taht unhealthy mind as well
There's a split between those that are brainwashed and those who understand.
Everyone is brainwashed.
Unless you literally don't watch any media at all or listen to opposing opinions.
Loving one self is the greatest and forgiving oneself
And others❤❤
Love and forgive self is first and foremost
I agree with Umar that there maybe hidden agents and subconscious motivations, but here's another factor: CONFLICT SELLS. No one wants to hear a podcast about how great black men are and how wonderful black women are, and how much we need each other. The public demand is for destruction in the name of entertainment and these podcasts hosts are selfishly farming and manufacturing hatred and resentment in hopes to get Patreon subscribers, superchats on TH-cam, and monetized video views.
Not defending those podcasts shows but some to most are exposing BW horrible ways and behavior. Too many videos of BW rather choose the so called "scammer and thugs" over BM that works a 9 to 5.
@kaofounder you are absolutely right! It's definitely other people's gain at our expense.
Folks have will expose dysfunctional behaviors for the check. See Jerry springer to content creators. It's all about the bread for that exploitation. Or sexual suggestive material for money.
That part! 👏🏾
@@DblONo7 so true. Starting to notice that. They are the agents even if they too are black that keeps us in the worst stereotypes . Pushing the negative black narrative more. Making it seem like black being as a whole does nothing right. Purposely overlooking the good. The fact it is more black businesses than ever. More black college graduates in the science etc. no one talks about it. Just the crime and dysfunction.
“ everyone is renting space in a home , but not functioning like a family “
This is so true because I've seen it and lived it.
Its not that people are afraid to approach the right people, its a lot of people who aren't doing the work to heal themselves from their own issues. So it becomes a cycle of jumping in and out relationships carrying emotional, mental, spiritual, and societal baggage. Self awareness and self actualization is the foundation of growing into a better person man and woman. Study your parents and grandparents, recognize the behavior patterns you are repeating, recognize the trauma they individually went through and see if you're carrying that residue. Your past is always with you. Make peace with your past to be the best version of yourself in the PRESENT.
True
Well said 👏🏾💯
Until I see Umar with a black wife I cannot take him seriously.
Then why watch him?
@@Maui_Gyrl_ I don’t watch him. I just come to the comment section to point out how much of a hypocrite he is.
I assume your comment is coming from the “walk the talk” standpoint but I’m genuinely curious, if he speaks like this without a wife and then gets married to a black woman and continues to speak like this, what exactly would be the fundamental difference in his message not life but the message itself?
@@SphumZAR I appreciate your genuine curiosity but I don’t do “ifs”.
be careful with that... I might be a dope dealer but that doesn't mean that I dont have the experience to teach children why dope dealing is bad.
People need to step away from unhealthy cultures
Examples??
From the yt people 😂
Black men need to start becoming traditional masculine, the lack of fathers contributes to most of these problems!
The truth is if there's no masculine & feminine role like nature intended in a relationship its about to sink...
You can be rich being a feminine black man in a relationship, but you can't be wealthy without doing dirt.
@@Tmac_305 those thinking that family isn't important. The me me me me culture
Black culture 😂
Wow wow wow wow wow Dr Umar this!!!!!!! This was really really needed. Been living with a “traumatized” person. Everyone does things to them. This always happens to them. I felt my energy constantly drained being with them. And my life too a turn. As being in an environment with a person like this is unhealthy. Now since I created boundaries. Now I’m another person to their story on doing something to them because I refuse to tolerate their manipulation and victimization game.
I know what you mean… c’est la vie
APTTMH CONGRATULATIONS staying encouraged be blessed❤❤❤
It's time to severe ties 😮
@@viberantpearl already did. Now it’s time to move out. And I do not guilt myself or shame myself to speaking to them. They would buy things as a “sorry”. Without apologizing. Someone who doesn’t apologize will never take accountability or responsibility. Very very Alarming. Thank you! 🙏🏾
What do you think you did wrong in this relationship?
I'm getting tired of the "the person I chose to mate with, sleep with, and move in with is an absolutely horrible person but I'm a saint" argument.
Very educated brother 🎉 Dr
Umar speak I listen
I listen and learn. I love it!
So, he's personally relationship is what we blacks should follow?
The internet is not a real place that is all I have to say
It is called Da Innanet 😂😂😂
I’d say that maybe ten years ago but now, I can find at least 50 people around me only that live exactly the internet way, and that’s just me with 50 that I know, the same 50 knows someone else just like them
I was homeless, got into drugs, went into prisons, then i got to know Jesus, He changed my life.. Now i make 22k weekly. have a home, a wife, a lovely daughter... A child of God. HALLELUJAH
How did you do it? Do explain please 😯
My family have been into series of sufferings lately
All thanks to Christina Ann Tucker
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my daughter's surgery (Joey). Glory to God.shalom.
Absolutely! I've heard stories of people who started with little to no knowledge but made it out victoriously thanks to Christina Ann Tucker.
How do I get connection to this woman you speak about!!?
Some great points. What I think should be added is we live in a selfish materialistic culture. It’s all around us every day. How do you expect healthy relationships to form when the foundation of the culture is so dysfunctional and toxic? I think what is most being talked about here are symptoms of this. We talk about all the problems with the plants and not about the soil it all comes from which is toxic.
He has a right to his own opinion. What he believes starts with him as number one.
Exactly. He has good information. Too many ppl are to judgemental and not open to the overall message.
Facts and opinions are two different things.
I thought decentering was taking a period of time to focus on the betterment of you. You should enter into a relationship as the best version of yourself.
I do agree there’s a direct correlation of experience with parents and relationships!
Exactly prime example abuse much❤❤❤
Nope that's not what it means at all. Normal people don't even use that terminology. When you hear it, RUN. It comes from the 🌈 brigade of the governement via psychology, academia and popular media.
I'm glad someone is raising awareness to this foolishness and black and women really need each other and we gotta get the black family back strong. And he is right there are a lot of hurt damaged people and it's a lot of miserable people in their own pain that want others to be in pain
Exactly
This is on point I ran into a channel. It was a black man and he was dogging out black woman. It was so sad.
There are so many of them on TH-cam, it's exasperating at this point. Irony is I stopped using Twitter cause of all the toxicity, now it seems like the toxic goons have all found their way onto TH-cam. 😢
Alot of them do deserve dogging out though, seeing they are the very single mothers who are raising these men into what they've become.
Nine times out of ten, it's the women that terminate the relationships and choose to be single mothers, let us not forget that.
Most of them are african and Caribbeans men tho. Also, our black American men. Im over bm but im not going white tho
@@mufasa1794thank goodness
This one of the most powerful videos I’ve seen in a long time.. what a great video. This needs to be spread and sparking conversation all over America right now. Especially for OUR COMMUNITY, but everywhere in America.
5:50 !! This!! They dont want to confront how the parenting style and culture left us in the shadows of healing and wisdom. A major spiritual component was missing despite us having the material needs met.
Dropping Knowledge from the universe 🌎 Feeding the Mind with the obvious And Common sense of Reality interesting Topics Thanks for sharing Dr Umar SALUTE 👍
I don't agree with a lot of what Dr. Umar does or says but most of the time he is on point....
Agreed 💯
We are human, but we should all strive to be a better person each day. We have breath in the body.❤❤❤
& that’s ok. No need to agree with everything, we are all experiencing life from our own perceptions, therefore witnessing reality uniquely. ❤
You must be 1 of those "Bunny-Hoppers" or "Negropeans" he be referring to 👀 Bc he's actually on point majority of the time! 🤷🏽♀️🧠
It’s because you’re not on his level when it comes to knowledge.
Black people were traumatized during and after slavery, institutional racism, discrimination in employment, education, housing, and every arena in life. Despite this American traumatization, we survived, thrived and built communities, institutions, and industry because of our melanin and DNA genius. How? Because we are the God's of earth but we forgot our spiritual mission and Godly inheritance.
Great points made by Dr. Umar especially regarding childhood trauma, upbringings and seeing toxic parental relationships that affect the type of relationships you attract as an adult.
I’ve been saying this before I knew who Dr. Umar was. We as a people really need to get it together within ourselves, families and communities. Social media also does not help there is too much idolatry of money things and relationships
You can not outrun your past. The aim is to make peace with it to move forward and keep breaking the old narratives and cycles of what used to be.
I agree
This is so real!!!!! Even when you heal your past is still with you. But you have peace with it. Dealing with it makes all the difference.
A weak mind one can easily find!
Cause if you don’t think for yourself, you will be led astray
I came from a broken home but by the Grace of God I decided what I did not want for my life
So forgiving and loving and caring and moving is the greatest thing one can do for self ❤
this is deep
Wow, I agree and can relate. PTSD is so real and definitely needs to be discussed more in these conversations about trauma and relationships.
Brilliant! I love this conversation.
man it s good to hear you
He not married either or dating but giving all the advice 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’m genuinely asking, if two people, one married and one single are giving the exact same advice on marriage, who is correct there? Same exact advice from two different people.
Right. Don’t he have multiple kids with different women too? Lol
He is a qualified psychologist so he would have more insight than the average person ❤️✊🏿💚
Two things can still be true! What he saying is still the truth!
I’m Stickin With My People Right Wrong or Indifferent 💯
Facts brother
@@angelhailu812 It’s Only Right People Think Goin Somewhere Else is Takin the Easy Way Out
Speak On!
Exactly we gotta stop allowing outside voices control OUR inside mental fortitude. Are we that weak that we allow others determine how we value each other man to woman? Unplug from social media, tv, and entertainment people .
WORD
based on what I'm seeing, patriarchy does far more harm to male/female relationships than feminism
Women trying to get men to fund their whole lives - do that from a patriarchal standpoint. Men who think they don't have to help in the household leading to resentment and disconnect - patriarchy. If more people thought fairly and outside of strict gender roles, there would be less conflict.
Feminism is a scam run by radical females to make men into slaves. A woman wanting to be taken care of has nothing to do with patriarchy. Why wouldn't a woman want a man slaving away while she does whatever she feels like? Feminism was about women doing whatever they want and then shaming men into doing what they want men to do.
You're making too much sense. This stellar comment will go over a lot of heads, but is all facts. 🙌🏾
@@tiffanysmith2407 Feminism promotes female SELFISHNESS. That is all.
Wrong, because the Black family was stronger BEFORE the feminist movement (even though there were issues). So your analysis doesn't hold up to historical facts.
You are wrong. This was how civilization was built-on gender roles. When you know your position as a man or woman, families and societies operate better. If it wasn’t for patriarchy, we would not have the things we have in our society. Stop with the new age mess.
Lmfao “these are heterosexual women?” Lmfao ahahahaha Umar is a goat 🐐
There are a lot of narratives whether legitimate or not that are being used to keep us apart. Sometimes legitimate issues are inflated to keep us at odds with each other. We need to settle our differences with each other without the interference of outsiders.
You’re right, although I don’t see us ever getting back in a good place collectively because the outsider doesn’t need both men and women to further their agenda, they just need either the men or the women, as long as one group is dysfunctional and you are able to give them the victim status then you will further the agenda of keeping them apart forever.
Sadly this happens because there are stages to this think of keeping us apart, one stage needs one group at a time, women for stage one, men for stage two etc. So in all those stages we are dealing with legitimate issues most times but we aren’t actually solving anything.
Thank you
That was a great exchange 🎉
It’s not that the past is with you it’s the memories that you decide to hold on to or not
THE BUSINESS = case in point!
"Even When You HEAL...Your...
PAST Is WITH...You " 🔥🔥🔥💣🎤
When one chose to use hurt as and excuse to do foolishness is terrible
This ‼️
“Tell me about the relationship with your father, then BOOM, everything comes out” there it is. 💯
Excellent!!!
Good is a relative term. Our community used to have a definition of a good man and woman. Now, the definitions come from outside the community.
Yep. It has been a set up. I been saying it for a good while now.
I dont live my Life to other people expectations... Live your life on your terms and I will live mine on my terms.
“ PAST IS ALWAYS PRESENT “!
There are so many ways to address all of the issues that were brought up. I have the simple answer to all of it. EVERYTHING LEADS BACK TO GOD!! We serve a God that is not of confusion. If people in general focus and committ to God the negative in the world will see a huge decrease.
yeah that must be why black ppl are so oppressed and disenfranchised, they just don't have enough faith in God...
Parents have a huge impact on their Children's lives.
Especially Father's they have a huge impact on their daughter's lives.
For their to be any kind of unity or harmony within a group of people. The group must first look inward at themselves.
Holding themselves accountable for their actions.
Honestly this is the best Umar interview I've heard very well spoken and he touched on good points
Was he asked about the school he has been building for over 10 years with poor black folks donations?
@@FuzzCuzz-f9c isn't the school already built?
@@mzwetlovequeenNo, the school doesn't even exist.
This movement started with feminism
White feminism
@coreygreene9498 But it's the BW who is finishing it.
@@distantquasar5218They're puppets, reality is that not everyone can change, let them suffer while we focus on the ones that want to progress this is for both black women and black men I love the black men and black women who at least try to progress.
BM aided W feminism. Added them to the civil rights bill.
@@nonino1644 That's a fact. Blk men got fooled and are still brainless today and I say that as a blk man. Blk culture is very feminine and while better in the past, I do have to wonder if it's always been that way. A culture where feelings matter more than physical reality and results.
Your past is always present in your current experience!
Africa it’s pure unity
Hard to find doesnt mean impossible. You will have to be single longer to ensure quality but it’s possible
As a married man and psychology major, I’ve found that People with trauma also date those who validate their initial perspectives of the opposite sex… and some date those who validate their perspectives of themselves. If they feel like a failure or unworthy of love they will find a mate that confirms those thoughts. Some also punish themselves through the people they date
🔥 as you self reflect, you'll understand and inner stand, that he's right. Family be good to one another. Everyone is dealing with life. Living it through their own perspective. Spread love and receive it. 💚
13:40 thank you
Women are looking for a Gentlemen.
Address the accusations with regard to FDMG Academy. I'm interested in hearing both sides ⚖️
I agree with the Dr 100%
TRAUMA !!!
“Your past is always present, in your current experience” well said Dr. Umar 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Good content
He nailed @1:49. No ifs, ands, or buts, about it. AND that truth applies to ALL colors and races and nationalities!!!
The elephant in the room has finally been addressed.
I'm glad that Dr. Umar was the one to address it. Well said.
Has Umar gotten married yet?
Yes Umar is Married
@@sheemuniversalshabazzallah9422 he is not married but has 2 baby mommas, don't lie lol
@DC-yn8yl why people like to lie? 😂
He himself should never speak on marriage.
Umar
He panders to women, doesnt hold them accountable for their bad decisions. He also wants single men to be stepfathers to single mothers. He isn't qualified to give advice on this topic.
He said everyone is traumatized but then said traumatized people can’t have relationships because when others try to love them, they have things in their head. In that case wouldn’t the person trying to love them also be dealing with trauma as well? Therefore no one should be in a relationship. Makes no sense at all. Everyone looking for a quick fix. Lifestyle changes can’t be found in one off answers. It take consistent effort both parties and we have forgotten that part.
I work at this venue where they throw parties all the time and have weddings there as well, and let me tell you something: women from every other race are choosing the bear on the internet but are not walking like they talk in real life. Black people really have to open their eyes. I say this because this gender war is mostly affecting black people because people from every other race are putting their differences aside and getting married at the end of the day.
Somehow that doesn’t surprise me. I’m from South Africa and we also have a gender war here but that gender war it’s only affecting the blacks. Every other race remembers their positions and play those positions very well, and then go to the internet to spread the hate they don’t even subscribe to.
Umar just did breakfast club ..go check it out ..💯💯
I had no idea! I will.❤️🙏🏽
We need to see Joshua Maponga, Obenfo Obadele Kambon & Dr Umar Ifatunde and Dr Claud Anderson link up right here
Yo past is always PRESENT......
GIVE IT A CHANCE
This I Never Knew
discussion/topic/platform is informational gold!
The Bald Head and Dr. Umar hit it out of the park with this video!
The Truth Is A Dagger To The Heart Of A Liar!
There are good people who desire and believe in healthy relationships. Both could be waiting and healing. I’m all about healthy and loving relationships. Both parties will have to be on the same page of core values and principles and willingness to work together. ☮️
I’m never going to get hitched to my masters son !!!
You have a master?
@@jaredmackey4511🤡
@@jaredmackey4511 Your forefather’s children have taken over from them
My sister 👍👍
You have power. You don't have a master... (Unless you're referring to a religious figure)
Let Umar speak man
100%. Why are unmarried people talking to other people about relationships? That's like a person who doesn't own a business telling others how to run a successful business.
"They don't have the self esteem to approach the right people." This is the truest statement ever! These people are always spending so much attention talking abut people they don't like. I always wondered why they just don't find someone who has the traits they want instead of being angry all the time. It's because they're scared to go for them and can't admit that. Wow. Some people just don't want to be happy in this life.
How many years is Dr. Umar Maried?
So i can know if i take his relationship advice or not 🤔
Yes my parents did it! And made it
BEAUTIFUL ☝🏾❤️ keep Up great work GOD BLESS 🙏🏾
Omar is preaching!
Why does it have to cause conflict for a woman to focus in being her best self outside of the standards of men?
Full black man stay by yourself best option ‼️‼️‼️‼️ until further notice
PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH
Only take advice from someone who actually maried lol 😂
What happened to men approaching women in public? And not on social media..
They stopped due to the negative outcome they get which negatively changes their perspective on life. If there wasn’t a risk of being referred to as a creep, pedo, rapist, etc just because the woman thinks she above God then men would still be approaching women in physical form.
Ite now , Where tf is the school!!!!!
It's non-existent.
The sound balance is off
I started listening then I stopped caring
Great points were made. Talk HEAVY💪🏿
My opportunity to refer to a comment Billy Carson opined, .. divide and conquer, the oldest tactic of Biblical reference(Tower of Babylon aftermath)
I have a long way to go before finding someone
Good comment on the past can still affect the present.
Dr Umar Johnson is an Angel sent from heaven to Earth 🌎 to teach us truth
Host off camera, take note.
Just because something resonates with you, no need to yell out, “Facts!” You’re a grown man, not a child. Facts are proven and objective.