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Autistic extrovert here, and those little stranger interactions are actually SO important for me! They are so much less stressful than an interaction with people I consider acquaintances, coworkers, etc.
I’m autistic and I love these little stranger yarns. At this phase in my life I’m struggling with maintaining long-term friendships but a random little chat with a stranger helps fill up my social cup without the pressure of building a friendship or rather failing at it
I'm autistic and I actually like trying to compliment strangers on things because I see how happy it makes them and it makes me happy too. I'm not so great at other forms of small talk though 😅
I always appreciate the new ideas for tiny and rewarding habits. Whenever I leave the house for work, I always take a second to look in the mirror and say: today is going to be a great day and smile at myself. The days when it feels forced have become more and more scarce. ❤️
I often chat to strangers. Not just my work in retail but mon was a chat with someone on the bus, today chatting to someone whilst I waited for my hubby to pick me up after my eye test. Ages ago I would pop to the local cafe and sit on the big table and sit and chat with the old guys. I do early early starts anymore to do this much these days but I’m still in contact with one of those guys. Me and hubby have become friends with him x
i agree with others... small talk (think parties) very draining v. chit-chat (easy-peasy, nothing at stake, short snippets and ichit-chat is easy to escape if things get awkward...
Since you asked about autism input, when I was in college or working in person I used to hate these small interactions with strangers because they require masking and I already had to do SO much of that during the day, I was so tired. Now that I work from home and am not constantly overwhelmed by human interaction they are fine and sometimes even enjoyable. So yeah, YMMV with autistics. A good rule of thumb is to avoid talking to people if they are wearing headphones/ear muffs.
One habit that i've developed is to, whenever i'm driving on the car (expecially for a longer period) i see it as self-care and self-attention time and i start talking to myself, asking myself how i'm doing, how i'm feeling that day or talking about what has been going on recently, as you would do with a friend 😆 i love doing it, as a person whose main love language is quality time and it always makes my mood better 🥰
I do like the value you create trough your videos, I think they make a big impact. Concerning to statistical significance, I have a remark tho. Statistical significance is influenced by a lot of things, i.e. the amount of participants in a study. Concluding that something is significant is merely a statistical thing, it shows evidence that what you found might not be a coincidence. However, it does not mean that it had a big impact on the lives of these women. 5:00 Keep up the good work tho.
These are amazing! So funny I’ve literally put a ten minute timer on today before using social media and then I’ve put on your video! I LOVE the loving meditation at red lights so cool!! xx 🇵🇸♥️🧿🍉🏳️⚧️🇸🇩🏳️🌈🇮🇪
I'm autistic and I don't love interacting with strangers but it's not something that bothers me either, especially low stakes chit chatting while waiting for coffee or something.
I adore chatting to people I have never met before. Sometimes I just say a joke. For instance, I asked this young guy, in passing, if he was training for the Olympics. He had a leg cast. He burst out laughing. Another time I was passing these two uniformed men at the airport. They were studying the departure screen, so I asked them if they needed help. They were Pilots. My final story happened at the Airport Open Day. It rained and rained and rained. I haven't been that wet in the shower! When we were calling it a day I saw these police officers. I went up and asked them if they were the Water Police...we all had a good laugh!
Thanks for these tips! Also, I'm obsessed with your calm, neutral decor ... I need one of those sheer blinds for my window to hide the fence and brick wall I look out onto.
I'm autistic and I actually really love to have small interactions with stangers. I had to learn how to do them but once I did I really enjoy them. I feel happier and safer when I have them. I love these ideas! I am curious - you mentioned at least two practices that are from Buddhism without mentioning it (loving-kindness, dedication of merits). I definitely think the world would be a better place with more people doing these practices. I guess is there a fear that mentioning where these practices come from it would turn people off from them? And just as a tip to people who are already doing them; doing them for health and wellbeing can be a good reason to start doing them but eventually you'll hit a cap because focusing on the emotional shift that can happen with them can undermine other parts that are keep to the practice like non-attachment. One great way to get over the hump is to do the practice because it benefits others, that can help loosen that attachment to outcome and can get rid of that cap. This is part of why mentioning these practices without the frame of Buddhism has always kind of confused me because without an understanding of why they're recommended and what the foundation for them are, people can get discouraged easily. Regardless, love this video and the 5 minutes of movement per hour info was new to me and I'll definitely be trying to include it.
Okay I love that - I feel like I get confused re small talk / these little incidental interactions - I know people with autism talk about not liking small talk, but those interactions feel a little different! Not quite small talk. Ooh I actually don't even think about Buddhism when it comes to those practices - definitely not an intentional avoidance of the word. I would say that unintentionally, it does allow people who are uninterested in Buddhism / switch off at the mention of anything slightly "woo" - to feel more open to the ideas?
@@muchelleb Yeah I think it's a case of one name for different things. Small talk to me are topics that people are kind of expected to know about but aren't necessarily applicable or relevant to everyone - sports, celebrity gossip, certain kinds of news. But a compliment or asking for a recommendation feel very different to me because they're immediately relevant. Ahh gotcha, I think that's a limitation of my corner of the internet. That makes more sense to me and I didn't realize some of these practices had made the leap into other spheres enough to be kind of detached from it. And that makes sense that it might make it easier to connect with. I appreciate learning something new - thank you!
Hey! If you're in a 2025 planning headspace, I have a whole PLAYLIST full of tips and ideas for planning your year here -> 💫☁th-cam.com/play/PLW3yd6NHmEVoJEaHcFzj_XPHnOaSA4qUZ.html&si=dsmoLTbujUVaV5a4
Autistic extrovert here, and those little stranger interactions are actually SO important for me! They are so much less stressful than an interaction with people I consider acquaintances, coworkers, etc.
I’m autistic and I love these little stranger yarns. At this phase in my life I’m struggling with maintaining long-term friendships but a random little chat with a stranger helps fill up my social cup without the pressure of building a friendship or rather failing at it
I'm autistic and I actually like trying to compliment strangers on things because I see how happy it makes them and it makes me happy too. I'm not so great at other forms of small talk though 😅
I always appreciate the new ideas for tiny and rewarding habits. Whenever I leave the house for work, I always take a second to look in the mirror and say: today is going to be a great day and smile at myself. The days when it feels forced have become more and more scarce. ❤️
I often chat to strangers. Not just my work in retail but mon was a chat with someone on the bus, today chatting to someone whilst I waited for my hubby to pick me up after my eye test. Ages ago I would pop to the local cafe and sit on the big table and sit and chat with the old guys. I do early early starts anymore to do this much these days but I’m still in contact with one of those guys. Me and hubby have become friends with him x
i agree with others... small talk (think parties) very draining v. chit-chat (easy-peasy, nothing at stake, short snippets and ichit-chat is easy to escape if things get awkward...
Since you asked about autism input, when I was in college or working in person I used to hate these small interactions with strangers because they require masking and I already had to do SO much of that during the day, I was so tired. Now that I work from home and am not constantly overwhelmed by human interaction they are fine and sometimes even enjoyable. So yeah, YMMV with autistics. A good rule of thumb is to avoid talking to people if they are wearing headphones/ear muffs.
One habit that i've developed is to, whenever i'm driving on the car (expecially for a longer period) i see it as self-care and self-attention time and i start talking to myself, asking myself how i'm doing, how i'm feeling that day or talking about what has been going on recently, as you would do with a friend 😆 i love doing it, as a person whose main love language is quality time and it always makes my mood better 🥰
So glad I found your channel, These tips are purre gold! Thank you X
I'm At the first one and it's such a nice idea I'll definitely implement from now on!🙌✨️
Ahh I'm glad you got something out of the video!!
You had me at the thumbnail! Gorgeous happy photo of you 🤩😍❤️
If you have time i wanna hear more about your notion templates please!! Im interested to see a tour or how you use them :)
I do like the value you create trough your videos, I think they make a big impact. Concerning to statistical significance, I have a remark tho. Statistical significance is influenced by a lot of things, i.e. the amount of participants in a study. Concluding that something is significant is merely a statistical thing, it shows evidence that what you found might not be a coincidence. However, it does not mean that it had a big impact on the lives of these women. 5:00 Keep up the good work tho.
Wonderful video as always! You are improving lives!
Love the 1min intuitive movement idea!
Sounds like just the kind of thing I can handle lately, thanks for this one!
These are amazing! So funny I’ve literally put a ten minute timer on today before using social media and then I’ve put on your video! I LOVE the loving meditation at red lights so cool!! xx 🇵🇸♥️🧿🍉🏳️⚧️🇸🇩🏳️🌈🇮🇪
Ur energy, girl😍🤩🥰🥹💌🤍🦋🧿🧿🧿🧿🩷
I'm autistic and I don't love interacting with strangers but it's not something that bothers me either, especially low stakes chit chatting while waiting for coffee or something.
I adore chatting to people I have never met before. Sometimes I just say a joke. For instance, I asked this young guy, in passing, if he was training for the Olympics. He had a leg cast. He burst out laughing. Another time I was passing these two uniformed men at the airport. They were studying the departure screen, so I asked them if they needed help. They were Pilots. My final story happened at the Airport Open Day. It rained and rained and rained. I haven't been that wet in the shower! When we were calling it a day I saw these police officers. I went up and asked them if they were the Water Police...we all had a good laugh!
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safe environments, thank you for that
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Thanks for these tips! Also, I'm obsessed with your calm, neutral decor ... I need one of those sheer blinds for my window to hide the fence and brick wall I look out onto.
I'm autistic and I actually really love to have small interactions with stangers. I had to learn how to do them but once I did I really enjoy them. I feel happier and safer when I have them.
I love these ideas! I am curious - you mentioned at least two practices that are from Buddhism without mentioning it (loving-kindness, dedication of merits). I definitely think the world would be a better place with more people doing these practices. I guess is there a fear that mentioning where these practices come from it would turn people off from them?
And just as a tip to people who are already doing them; doing them for health and wellbeing can be a good reason to start doing them but eventually you'll hit a cap because focusing on the emotional shift that can happen with them can undermine other parts that are keep to the practice like non-attachment. One great way to get over the hump is to do the practice because it benefits others, that can help loosen that attachment to outcome and can get rid of that cap. This is part of why mentioning these practices without the frame of Buddhism has always kind of confused me because without an understanding of why they're recommended and what the foundation for them are, people can get discouraged easily.
Regardless, love this video and the 5 minutes of movement per hour info was new to me and I'll definitely be trying to include it.
Okay I love that - I feel like I get confused re small talk / these little incidental interactions - I know people with autism talk about not liking small talk, but those interactions feel a little different! Not quite small talk. Ooh I actually don't even think about Buddhism when it comes to those practices - definitely not an intentional avoidance of the word. I would say that unintentionally, it does allow people who are uninterested in Buddhism / switch off at the mention of anything slightly "woo" - to feel more open to the ideas?
@@muchelleb Yeah I think it's a case of one name for different things. Small talk to me are topics that people are kind of expected to know about but aren't necessarily applicable or relevant to everyone - sports, celebrity gossip, certain kinds of news. But a compliment or asking for a recommendation feel very different to me because they're immediately relevant.
Ahh gotcha, I think that's a limitation of my corner of the internet. That makes more sense to me and I didn't realize some of these practices had made the leap into other spheres enough to be kind of detached from it. And that makes sense that it might make it easier to connect with. I appreciate learning something new - thank you!
great video 💌🙏🏻
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Brilliant 🎉
Could you please make a video about Notion - How to organise your life in 2025?🤟🏻
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mi mamá siempre a donde vaya habla con extraños, siempre les saca plática xD nunca se me pegó su hábito
There is no idea 4 :-p