TY for this content.The INFJ I know wouldnt share her struggles,they seem to isolate themselves from others and it hurts not knowing how much they're hurting.I find that alienating and a ppont of stress bc as an INTP I relate to many of thier strugles...they do not let you help them.
Not at all. I am the instigator of events. (As long as I have an SE backup and place to escape.) Most of my friends are from decades ago, but they tend to be scientists so they welcome heartfelt debates and maintaining connections. New friends are also of the same types. I consider it an investment to stay in contact with old friends whether remotely or in person. I do one-on-one weekly in-person visits with different individuals 9 months of the year. (I know I need to hibernate during the Winter, but folks usually have family events then any way.) I regularly touch base via email (or less often) phone. I try to do a larger event each year, but it really is about every other year. Still, my SE friends are often impressed at how I keep everyone together. It is an investment. Especially so as I grow older (61) and could be so isolated personally and professionally if I didn't recognize the value of the investment. I want to stay vibrant and involved in social life...well maybe just going out to eat. And I want to work until 72 then consult after that. Tough to do if you are isolated. I am the proverbial cat lady with 5 cats and 1 small dog, but I recognize the need to maintain long-standing friendships. This deliberate effort started after a divorce from someone who didn't want me to have friends, and I consider it a lesson well learned.
@@sylviaowega3839 I'm seeing an INTP now and she had *exactly* the same issue..both of us coming out of failed INFJ pairings.We loved them but that distance of the heart,not sharing thier hurt w us,the crumbs we got for communication.Again,I had a deep connection,she is a wonderful woman and we're friends for life but closing me.off to her pain kept me worried about her.
It's hard to remain friends with us because we're perfectionistic...we're choosy, we don't let just anyone into our circles. INFJs would rather be alone than surrounded with the wrong people...
Even as a young child, I chose to be alone, rather than make friends with all the immature and selfish children at school. I was 6 years old, and had already decided I preferred having an intelligent conversation with an adult, rather than hanging out with kids who fight over toys 😂
And yet we're so approachable and accommodating. I suppose sincerity is the common thread, people who are honest with themselves and others are always welcome because with honesty there is progress.
Dealing with others is so emotionally exhausted for me these days. I bartended for years and now that I'm older I prefer to spend time alone. Sure wish I didn't feel this way at times!
When I was going through some tough times with my family, I binge watched a bunch of INFJ videos to reconnect with the pieces of myself that my family hates me for. It’s helped me find self acceptance and to rid myself of coping behaviors that weren’t healthy for me. I initially adopted the behaviors because of the things that were said and done to me. There’s no more people-pleasing (which I realize now that being that way wasn’t good for me or the other person). I hate conflict, so I think that was the primary driver behind the people-pleasing. I also feel everything the other person feels, and preferred to feel happy than feeling disappointed (or any other tough emotion when others are upset with me). I’m getting better at allowing the disappointment and other emotions to be there without me trying to “fix” it. It’s ok if I am the perceived cause of the emotion. Also, I have gotten better at voicing my boundaries. When people don’t honor the boundaries I set, I don’t waste anyone’s time. I’ve always kind of been that way, but without the voicing part. I’m getting better at that, no matter how it makes the other person feel.
I guess I was lucky ( it didn’t feel that way at the time) I had a very toxic friendship in middle school. I learned at an early age to recognize and keep these people at arms length. I do have three besties and we’ve been friends for thirty years. I am 53 and have had to work on letting go of my judgements and personal views with my close friends and family. You have to choose to hold space for those in your inner circle. You don’t have to do it for everyone, but if you value a friendship you need to hold space without judgment or trying to change the person. Advice from a seasoned INFJ
That holding space is essentially like accepting a family member for who they are, without necessarily approving whatever it is that you find objectionable (i.e., not lowering your standards, but finding a no-judgment or no-opinion zone)-you just think of them as SOUL FAMILY, which they are.
What do you mean by 'no judgement'? Are you able to suspend your perceptions even if their behavior is morally wrong, meaning you don't see it anymore?
@@MoPoppins Could you be more specific on what you mean by "not lowering your standards, but finding a no-judgment"? Do you suspend your perceptions of wrongdoings to the point of stopping to see them?
@@uliyankadoe118 You should ALWAYS see people/things as they are. If someone does things that are morally-objectionable, that remains so, regardless of who they are-you don’t have to make allowances/excuses for their behavior. When you know that you can’t change someone or something, it’s about radical acceptance of the situation, meaning you may never like it, but like the serenity prayer, you understand that some things are fixed / hard-wired. We can’t necessarily change things outside of ourselves, so you have to gauge who or what is acceptable to you to keep in your life, going forward. If there’s something that distresses you to the point of causing serious health issues that likely wouldn’t subside, based on natural biological reactions, then you’d be wise to do everything in your power to go No Contact with such individuals or leave situations that are deleterious to your well-being. We know that the body keeps the score, so take note of the tally, and decide accordingly, and don’t gaslight yourself or allow yourself to be gaslit-your body always knows the truth, even before you understand consciously why.
@@MoPoppins Thank you for your in-depth reply! I live by listening to my body, mind, soul and spirit. But it's still not clear to me how the no-judgement space functions. Seeing morally objectionable behavior is a form of judgement. Our bodies and minds make judgements all the time - from the simplest tasks, such as what clothes or drink to enemy or friend. The spiritual teaching on no judgement seems contradictory to the wisdom of harmony.
My friendships don't last because when I feel the other person is pulling away, I take it as a rejection of my true self. On the other hand, if I detect insincerity from them first, then I will begin pulling away from them. People change and most friendships don't last forever. So in the end, I won't seek revenge against the former friend. I will just forget I ever knew them.
@@obidavekenobe A walls come after boundaries are crossed. Nothing is in a vacuum. You can set up boundaries, if the cross them you reinforce those boundaries, when they still don't learn.. walls. Its not a game I would loose due to being all to aware of them. The conscientiousness the INFJ has means they respect boundaries sometimes to their own detriment of not being symbiotic with others, especially those which incorporate some level of abuse within their relationships. No trauma bonding thank you.
@@obidavekenobe I cant argue against the trauma. It happened.. in my case, raised by single parent, had to stay one step ahead of them, their feelings / mood. Made me an anticipator, constantly watching all the details. Detail oriented. So add that to your data.
This is all so true, especially number two. Not many can last long enough to even be best friends. So my besties who are still with me until now are very rare people and I am grateful to have them.
I’m a sigma INTJ female, and having grown up in an all-narc family, there has been much to undo and reprogram in my life, but those protracted periods of isolation ALWAYS resulted in breakthrough healing & growth that could never have occurred, otherwise. I never feel lonely or bored, so when I was going through an intense healing period, a year would pass without close social contact, but it felt great-I was severing synaptic connections that needed to wither away, and forming new ones. You’ll know you’re on the right track when you no longer attract certain draining or toxic types of people, and when people react to you as your new self, since your energetic imprint will likely have transformed during your time of isolation. - INTJ turning a half-century old this year
@@MoPoppins well done you. I’m 12 years ahead of you. I was in a house of Fire signs and I’ve so much Water I think I’m grounded. 😂. The student body of my 4th grade did me my biggest favor ever. I didn’t know it then. But it sure helped later. They ostracized me then and I quickly learned how much I didn’t need them. A male with Glasses and violin player was well hated upon. So be it.
My husband and I are both INFJ. He passed away last November and I feel I’ve lost all. We cultivated a solitary world, we two seeing reality in a way that escaped most.
I listened to this to the end. I can't believe that someone has the ability to describe me very well in words. I know who I am, but to put that in words is the greatest challenge that I have.
My best friend of almost 15 years and I have been distant for months. One of the things I’ve realized about our connection is that it’s purely emotional and based on me being the hero and them forcing me out of the house. Otherwise, there hasn’t been much in terms of intellectual intimacy as of late and they seem to have no true interest in improving their situation. This causes me discomfort that I have spoken up about, but my words fall on deaf ears. My “solution” has been distance. Either you catch on or it was meant to be that we grow apart at this point. I’m not much interested in forcing connections.
Love helping you stand on your Own 2 Feet. Don't expect us to hang around after that. There is no more Need. But don't be Needy without trying to Stand on your Own 2 Feet. We will leave so fast you''ll Wonder if we were ever there.
I needed this video so bad. I was in therapy on Monday about how hard is keeping connections and now I know it's not exactly me, but a pattern of people with the same personality as me. So much gratitude for that
In short, YES! Identical in every way except cognitive function communication was a massive Battleground for years with no solid , long lasting solutions in sight... 1st I met him in person I went with a friend first thing I said when I saw him walking up was "that's the man I'm gonna marry!" dated for a year when we first met remained the best of friends including being roommates for over 10 years. Whole time I'm madly in love with him, but UNCONDITIONAL type of love...and felt we were much better off as friends...never believed him and I were compatible...little did i know it was our J/P Traits... 20 yrs, both been married, divorced, lost touch for 2+ yrs, reconnected AT THE MOST PERFECT TIME IN THE HISTORY OF PERFECT TIMING...with EVERY sign pointing to THIS ONE DUMMY... And today, we are both VERY SLOWLY seeing what may come... I can HONESTLY say that we proved the impossible is POSSIBLE and soooo fn WORTH IT!!!
The one thing I don't agree with is that we don't answer calls or texts. I am an infj and always answer asap, at least within 24 hours, and never leave anyone on read. Maybe you should use better wording, like most infj's instead of just infj's in general.
I totally agree. These are usually pretty accurate but this had a few with which I just did not relate at all, especially the one you mentioned, canceling plans at the last minute, and not wanting to speak our minds honestly.
I agree, I might struggle with my need to recharge sometimes, but I always make a conscious effort to keep in touch with my friends and to answer messages, especially if the relationship is very close.
I am an INFJ and all my life many friends have come and go. Only one person managed to stay in my life until today. We are friends for twenty years now. I attempted to walk away once, but my friend's persuasion was stronger. Now we are better than before, because we talk more. So yes. It is difficult for an INFJ to have true, long-lasting, friendships, but not impossible.
Until recently all of my friendships have been long lasting. I met my best friend of 40 years in grade 1, and all of my close friendships have been 20 years or more. It wasn't until my friends stopped communicating that there were issues. I'm quite familiar with the INFJ door slam, but I only use it to protect my peace when the relationship becomes toxic for me. I offer my friends advice when they ask for it, or if I am concerned about their health or well-being. They are always grateful and stated that my advice is invaluable to them. My ability to see multiple perspectives makes it simple to extract important information to identify the underlying issues and offer the best possible solution for each individual to overcome it. Quite simply, I offer redirection and encouragement.
I think it's the other way around. Usually it's me who come to the conclusion that somebody isn't worth my time and effort. Rarely I think the other person understands why.
Rubbish. My circle is small, but my friendships have been 'til death do us part. My best friend passed away 2 years ago. We had been friends for 54 years.
I know that I have had a few INFJ friends in the past, and found that the friendships didn’t last too long. For starters they would always doubt my loyalty, often make excuses for not honouring appointments and always see my chill, cool and emotionless mannerisms as being inattentive, dismissive, just simply being cold and uncaring, albeit that wasn’t the case at all. For instance this one INFJ friend would constantly ghost me and justify those actions for being inattentive and unappreciative, albeit that wasn’t the case at all. I know I would be the one getting hurt in the end, so a breaking point would reach and I would wind up unfriending this INFJ. -INTP
The concept of literally ‘creating a person who will love you unconditionally’ is amazing! -once they are adults you still have to make effort with the traditional rules friendship, but yeah it’s awesome
@@Diane_McDon do you have children? Babies and children love you unconditionally, after that there are no guarantees. Children, adolescents, and teens need a parent not a friend. They are humans , not a puppy.
@@kikivon3501 yes it was implied I have an adult (over 30) child that I respect as a friend. My comment didn’t include the teen & young adult years because they’re not applicable to my response
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TY for this content.The INFJ I know wouldnt share her struggles,they seem to isolate themselves from others and it hurts not knowing how much they're hurting.I find that alienating and a ppont of stress bc as an INTP I relate to many of thier strugles...they do not let you help them.
Not at all. I am the instigator of events. (As long as I have an SE backup and place to escape.) Most of my friends are from decades ago, but they tend to be scientists so they welcome heartfelt debates and maintaining connections. New friends are also of the same types. I consider it an investment to stay in contact with old friends whether remotely or in person.
I do one-on-one weekly in-person visits with different individuals 9 months of the year. (I know I need to hibernate during the Winter, but folks usually have family events then any way.) I regularly touch base via email (or less often) phone. I try to do a larger event each year, but it really is about every other year. Still, my SE friends are often impressed at how I keep everyone together.
It is an investment. Especially so as I grow older (61) and could be so isolated personally and professionally if I didn't recognize the value of the investment. I want to stay vibrant and involved in social life...well maybe just going out to eat. And I want to work until 72 then consult after that. Tough to do if you are isolated.
I am the proverbial cat lady with 5 cats and 1 small dog, but I recognize the need to maintain long-standing friendships.
This deliberate effort started after a divorce from someone who didn't want me to have friends, and I consider it a lesson well learned.
@@bootlegapplesI have those exact same problems with INFJ’s. I thought I was the outlier INTP here.
@@sylviaowega3839 I'm seeing an INTP now and she had *exactly* the same issue..both of us coming out of failed INFJ pairings.We loved them but that distance of the heart,not sharing thier hurt w us,the crumbs we got for communication.Again,I had a deep connection,she is a wonderful woman and we're friends for life but closing me.off to her pain kept me worried about her.
There’s a difference between boundaries and walls.
It's hard to remain friends with us because we're perfectionistic...we're choosy, we don't let just anyone into our circles. INFJs would rather be alone than surrounded with the wrong people...
Facts
Even as a young child, I chose to be alone, rather than make friends with all the immature and selfish children at school. I was 6 years old, and had already decided I preferred having an intelligent conversation with an adult, rather than hanging out with kids who fight over toys 😂
This!
And yet we're so approachable and accommodating. I suppose sincerity is the common thread, people who are honest with themselves and others are always welcome because with honesty there is progress.
True
Dealing with others is so emotionally exhausted for me these days. I bartended for years and now that I'm older I prefer to spend time alone. Sure wish I didn't feel this way at times!
Yup.. it's certainly not easy
Yes me too. Always with the public. It's necessary to be alone to recharge.
Me too, and I’m a bartender as well (only that I haven’t retired yet).
When I was going through some tough times with my family, I binge watched a bunch of INFJ videos to reconnect with the pieces of myself that my family hates me for. It’s helped me find self acceptance and to rid myself of coping behaviors that weren’t healthy for me. I initially adopted the behaviors because of the things that were said and done to me. There’s no more people-pleasing (which I realize now that being that way wasn’t good for me or the other person). I hate conflict, so I think that was the primary driver behind the people-pleasing. I also feel everything the other person feels, and preferred to feel happy than feeling disappointed (or any other tough emotion when others are upset with me). I’m getting better at allowing the disappointment and other emotions to be there without me trying to “fix” it. It’s ok if I am the perceived cause of the emotion. Also, I have gotten better at voicing my boundaries. When people don’t honor the boundaries I set, I don’t waste anyone’s time. I’ve always kind of been that way, but without the voicing part. I’m getting better at that, no matter how it makes the other person feel.
Well wrote,I always think others are blessed to be in our company I just don’t understand why they don’t feel that way, life can be tough😜
These videos make me feel normal. 🎉
I guess I was lucky ( it didn’t feel that way at the time) I had a very toxic friendship in middle school. I learned at an early age to recognize and keep these people at arms length. I do have three besties and we’ve been friends for thirty years.
I am 53 and have had to work on letting go of my judgements and personal views with my close friends and family. You have to choose to hold space for those in your inner circle. You don’t have to do it for everyone, but if you value a friendship you need to hold space without judgment or trying to change the person. Advice from a seasoned INFJ
That holding space is essentially like accepting a family member for who they are, without necessarily approving whatever it is that you find objectionable (i.e., not lowering your standards, but finding a no-judgment or no-opinion zone)-you just think of them as SOUL FAMILY, which they are.
What do you mean by 'no judgement'? Are you able to suspend your perceptions even if their behavior is morally wrong, meaning you don't see it anymore?
@@MoPoppins Could you be more specific on what you mean by "not lowering your standards, but finding a no-judgment"? Do you suspend your perceptions of wrongdoings to the point of stopping to see them?
@@uliyankadoe118 You should ALWAYS see people/things as they are. If someone does things that are morally-objectionable, that remains so, regardless of who they are-you don’t have to make allowances/excuses for their behavior.
When you know that you can’t change someone or something, it’s about radical acceptance of the situation, meaning you may never like it, but like the serenity prayer, you understand that some things are fixed / hard-wired. We can’t necessarily change things outside of ourselves, so you have to gauge who or what is acceptable to you to keep in your life, going forward.
If there’s something that distresses you to the point of causing serious health issues that likely wouldn’t subside, based on natural biological reactions, then you’d be wise to do everything in your power to go No Contact with such individuals or leave situations that are deleterious to your well-being.
We know that the body keeps the score, so take note of the tally, and decide accordingly, and don’t gaslight yourself or allow yourself to be gaslit-your body always knows the truth, even before you understand consciously why.
@@MoPoppins Thank you for your in-depth reply! I live by listening to my body, mind, soul and spirit. But it's still not clear to me how the no-judgement space functions. Seeing morally objectionable behavior is a form of judgement. Our bodies and minds make judgements all the time - from the simplest tasks, such as what clothes or drink to enemy or friend. The spiritual teaching on no judgement seems contradictory to the wisdom of harmony.
I do yes, and for these reasons. This has been the one constant place for INFJ accuracy I've found. Thank you for that.
My friendships don't last because when I feel the other person is pulling away, I take it as a rejection of my true self. On the other hand, if I detect insincerity from them first, then I will begin pulling away from them. People change and most friendships don't last forever. So in the end, I won't seek revenge against the former friend. I will just forget I ever knew them.
We set boundaries.
Boundaries or walls? 😅
@@obidavekenobe A walls come after boundaries are crossed. Nothing is in a vacuum. You can set up boundaries, if the cross them you reinforce those boundaries, when they still don't learn.. walls. Its not a game I would loose due to being all to aware of them. The conscientiousness the INFJ has means they respect boundaries sometimes to their own detriment of not being symbiotic with others, especially those which incorporate some level of abuse within their relationships. No trauma bonding thank you.
@@K-Man-k5n i see a pattern emerging among the INFJs. Defensiveness and guarded. Likely from trauma.
@@obidavekenobe I cant argue against the trauma. It happened.. in my case, raised by single parent, had to stay one step ahead of them, their feelings / mood. Made me an anticipator, constantly watching all the details.
Detail oriented.
So add that to your data.
This is all so true, especially number two.
Not many can last long enough to even be best friends.
So my besties who are still with me until now are very rare people and I am grateful to have them.
I've managed to isolate myself for the past year.
Headed that way myself.
2 quiet Husky will help.. A Lot.
@@dameonharrowI'm over self censoring and not being able to engage in real conversations deemed too complex, or not particularly of interest. Really?
I’m a sigma INTJ female, and having grown up in an all-narc family, there has been much to undo and reprogram in my life, but those protracted periods of isolation ALWAYS resulted in breakthrough healing & growth that could never have occurred, otherwise.
I never feel lonely or bored, so when I was going through an intense healing period, a year would pass without close social contact, but it felt great-I was severing synaptic connections that needed to wither away, and forming new ones.
You’ll know you’re on the right track when you no longer attract certain draining or toxic types of people, and when people react to you as your new self, since your energetic imprint will likely have transformed during your time of isolation.
- INTJ turning a half-century old this year
@@MoPoppins well done you.
I’m 12 years ahead of you. I was in a house of Fire signs and I’ve so much Water I think I’m grounded. 😂.
The student body of my 4th grade did me my biggest favor ever. I didn’t know it then. But it sure helped later. They ostracized me then and I quickly learned how much I didn’t need them. A male with Glasses and violin player was well hated upon.
So be it.
I have one best friend that has lasted over 2 decades. I think she's an infj as well cause she understands me😂
Well that wouldn’t mean she’s an infj but she could be entp and if introverted intj or intp infp all these types understand infj pretty well
My husband and I are both INFJ. He passed away last November and I feel I’ve lost all. We cultivated a solitary world, we two seeing reality in a way that escaped most.
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand the importance of "a solitary world".
I listened to this to the end. I can't believe that someone has the ability to describe me very well in words.
I know who I am, but to put that in words is the greatest challenge that I have.
My best friend of almost 15 years and I have been distant for months. One of the things I’ve realized about our connection is that it’s purely emotional and based on me being the hero and them forcing me out of the house. Otherwise, there hasn’t been much in terms of intellectual intimacy as of late and they seem to have no true interest in improving their situation. This causes me discomfort that I have spoken up about, but my words fall on deaf ears. My “solution” has been distance. Either you catch on or it was meant to be that we grow apart at this point. I’m not much interested in forcing connections.
‘No intellectual intimacy’ is a deal breaker for me. I even relate to cat as an intellectual being.
Me toooooo
Love helping you stand on your Own 2 Feet. Don't expect us to hang around after that. There is no more Need. But don't be Needy without trying to Stand on your Own 2 Feet. We will leave so fast you''ll Wonder if we were ever there.
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I needed this video so bad. I was in therapy on Monday about how hard is keeping connections and now I know it's not exactly me, but a pattern of people with the same personality as me. So much gratitude for that
My best friend of almost 20 yrs is infj. Im infp. It's been one hell of a ride lol. ❤
So there's hope for us? 😅
In short, YES! Identical in every way except cognitive function communication was a massive Battleground for years with no solid , long lasting solutions in sight... 1st I met him in person I went with a friend first thing I said when I saw him walking up was "that's the man I'm gonna marry!" dated for a year when we first met remained the best of friends including being roommates for over 10 years. Whole time I'm madly in love with him, but UNCONDITIONAL type of love...and felt we were much better off as friends...never believed him and I were compatible...little did i know it was our J/P Traits...
20 yrs, both been married, divorced, lost touch for 2+ yrs, reconnected AT THE MOST PERFECT TIME IN THE HISTORY OF PERFECT TIMING...with EVERY sign pointing to THIS ONE DUMMY...
And today, we are both VERY SLOWLY seeing what may come...
I can HONESTLY say that we proved the impossible is POSSIBLE and soooo fn WORTH IT!!!
Maybe my bf also is infp because were friends also since 2018
@sheenefhuzou2284 💜💜💜 that's si awesome!! Best friendship/ relationship EVER!!
@@IridescentUnicorn-vw4gp Beautiful :))
Sometimes ppl just bore me. I cant sit and talk about problems very long or surface topics without getting bored.
The one thing I don't agree with is that we don't answer calls or texts. I am an infj and always answer asap, at least within 24 hours, and never leave anyone on read. Maybe you should use better wording, like most infj's instead of just infj's in general.
I’m INFJ and it is hard to answer calls 😂. I wait after the phone stops ringing (if it is important they can leave a message )
I totally agree. These are usually pretty accurate but this had a few with which I just did not relate at all, especially the one you mentioned, canceling plans at the last minute, and not wanting to speak our minds honestly.
I agree, I might struggle with my need to recharge sometimes, but I always make a conscious effort to keep in touch with my friends and to answer messages, especially if the relationship is very close.
I am an INFJ and all my life many friends have come and go. Only one person managed to stay in my life until today. We are friends for twenty years now. I attempted to walk away once, but my friend's persuasion was stronger. Now we are better than before, because we talk more. So yes. It is difficult for an INFJ to have true, long-lasting, friendships, but not impossible.
Until recently all of my friendships have been long lasting. I met my best friend of 40 years in grade 1, and all of my close friendships have been 20 years or more.
It wasn't until my friends stopped communicating that there were issues.
I'm quite familiar with the INFJ door slam, but I only use it to protect my peace when the relationship becomes toxic for me.
I offer my friends advice when they ask for it, or if I am concerned about their health or well-being. They are always grateful and stated that my advice is invaluable to them.
My ability to see multiple perspectives makes it simple to extract important information to identify the underlying issues and offer the best possible solution for each individual to overcome it. Quite simply, I offer redirection and encouragement.
Wow, that basically described me right on. I am VERY picky about my relationships, and terrible with maintaining them.
Pro tip: Must learn to let go of their own ideals and be flexible with the ideas of others and practice their extraverted intuition (Ne).
I think it's the other way around. Usually it's me who come to the conclusion that somebody isn't worth my time and effort. Rarely I think the other person understands why.
Rubbish. My circle is small, but my friendships have been 'til death do us part. My best friend passed away 2 years ago. We had been friends for 54 years.
Yes and Yes and Yes.
I know that I have had a few INFJ friends in the past, and found that the friendships didn’t last too long. For starters they would always doubt my loyalty, often make excuses for not honouring appointments and always see my chill, cool and emotionless mannerisms as being inattentive, dismissive, just simply being cold and uncaring, albeit that wasn’t the case at all. For instance this one INFJ friend would constantly ghost me and justify those actions for being inattentive and unappreciative, albeit that wasn’t the case at all. I know I would be the one getting hurt in the end, so a breaking point would reach and I would wind up unfriending this INFJ. -INTP
Chill cool and emotionless.
Exactly how I am brother
The accent 💜
Can someone tell me what INFJ stands for? It's never said in these videos.
Introverted iNtuition Feeling Judgement
Ditto for this sigma INTJ female. 👍
YES
Haha my friends know if they want to see me they need to harass me by text
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Wrong. 37 and 43 years.
That's why I want to have kids so they can be my friends
The concept of literally ‘creating a person who will love you unconditionally’ is amazing! -once they are adults you still have to make effort with the traditional rules friendship, but yeah it’s awesome
@@Diane_McDon do you have children? Babies and children love you unconditionally, after that there are no guarantees. Children, adolescents, and teens need a parent not a friend. They are humans , not a puppy.
@@kikivon3501 yes it was implied I have an adult (over 30) child that I respect as a friend. My comment didn’t include the teen & young adult years because they’re not applicable to my response
@@Diane_McDon yeah sorry Diane, I thought I was responding to the OP, who wants to create her friend group by having babies.
@@Diane_McDon ohh yeah sorry Diane, I thought I was responding to the OP who wants to create her “friend” group by having babies.
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