The age thing rings true. It was much more difficult in my youth. So perhaps in maturity we have found gifts/lessons other types may never learn. • Tired: It is and I have to schedule for it. • Love/Hate Humans: Yes, but Karma favors love, so just invest it properly into the right people and things. • Friends: I work on friends/acquaintances by visiting at least once per week 9 months of the year with different ones. • Procrastination vs Doing: I procrastinate, but like data points/documentable accomplishments. Just signed up for an expensive course which will help me stay on course with a desired certification. I mostly prioritize because no one could do everything I want to do. • Making Money vs Rewarding/Dreaming: Luckily I have (mostly) been able to marry the two. • Long Time to Learn: Yup. I'm over 60 • Guilt for Being Not Normal: I have learned to embrace it. Was criticized for it in younger adulthood but learned (after a while) which advice was valid for me and which was not.
I'd love to hear more insight about your journey, I still feel like an outsider and odd duck in life and I'm not young nor old, just stuck and making money isn't easy relationships-null, I do have the sweetest man on the planet for putting up with my odd behavior as others call it, however I just want to fit in but at the same time don't. Weird I know, but true. Just want to be better at being a human being, better for me , whatever that even is. Ty for saying the procrastinating and the scheduling part, because I thought writing everything down and putting bullets on it all was just me, but idk y I feel like I need to, or I just forget. Idk. Anyways love to hear any advice. ty
@@amberpirone6776 I love to help (and especially train) others. One of the biggest things that happened to me is that mid-life at work several different people were saying that I gave too much of myself. Some said that I helped others at the expense of my own projects. Some said that my sharing my ideas left them open to be stolen without my getting credit. So I stopped doing so for 2 weeks as an experiment. Horrible! But what I did learn from that experience is that I had to make things WIN-WIN...if I am helping someone then it also should benefit me and/or the other person should reciprocate. Needs to have some balance to it.
My love/hate relationship goes so much deeper. It's a contradiction. I *LOVE* all living beings unconditionally, with all my heart and soul. I exist to make others happy. My purpose in life is to make this world a better place. Not just for me, or my own people, but for everyone in the world. I love with all my heart and soul. No matter who you are, I care about you. But... I've also seen the worst sides of humanity. The worst stuff you can possibly imagine... I know how deeply sick and twisted people can be. And while I try to understand and forgive everyone, sometimes my mind goes to a dark place and I think about how much I hate humans, because they're so selfish, violent, ignorant, and cruel to one another. When I encounter true evil in the worst forms, I might get so angry that I say "humans are scum" or "I wish the world would just blow up"... But that just isn't me. I feel that way only _because_ I care so much about everyone, and want the world to be a place of peace, kindness, and love. I may hate what people do, but I love people. I may hate humanity, but I love humans. I don't hate any person, even though I hate what they can be. I don't actually hate anyone, I'm just disappointed. I love everyone and would die for them, but I just want them to stop hurting each other. It would be so easy to make this world a perfect place, if everyone could just love each other as I do. Being me hurts. But I don't want to be different. If I wasn't like this, I wouldn't be able to help people the way I do. I am here to change the world, and that won't happen if I'm just like everyone else in it.
All so true, I’m the old INFJ now and I do wish I had learned some truths a lot earlier. So many years of trying to figure out why, now I know, most of my time is gone 😊
Great job for explaining who us INFJ’s are. I’m older and always knew I was different. My siblings still don’t get it and keep their distance. Luckily I had a very observant mother who helped me navigate my journey. This video was like looking in a mirror.
You're very accurate! Im the procrastinating one and love to absorb knowledge but finding one interested to listen is another thing because I love to share. Nobody seems to care about the things I find of importance. Yeah, that kinda sucks sometimes not having much in common with others! On the other hand, knowledge is power and I don't mind dining alone!
Very true. I care about things no one else seems to either. I am an endless researcher! School, 3 times but still noresults to assist in the monetary situation. Endless exhaustion. I'd love to have another infj to share life notes with.
What it's like being an INFJ: Imagine a rechargeable battery that can give more power than your electric outlet, but must be charged an hour for every hour of use. Now imagine the battery has feelings and intelligence. Now imagine the battery can intuit the NEEDS of the user and temporarily overcome its own LIMITS - at no small cost to its overall LIFESPAN. Now imagine the battery is torn between desperately craving a purpose (providing POWER, whenever wherever) while simultaneously clinging to isolation (recharge mode) because it can't determine BALANCE adequately, nor can it determine proper priorities...except through trial and error.
Is it me or did this guy just completely read & then say exactly what is happening in my mind/life?! I'm amazed how this analytical aspect of my mindset is so easily conveyed here.If it was so easy to put into words as I wished I could do... for the fact it does give a better understanding for myself about myself... ironically, if the rest of the remaining time on earth could flow that easy, I would be so ever grateful. Help, somebody get my out of my own head! Lol... we'll if any other infjs want to chat so we aren't so alone, to which is an utter nightmare however ever so beautiful, ironic isn't it... wanting both, love the contradictory aspect of this thought... however ti's true. I would love conversations that weren't so exhausting. Speaking of tiresome things.. Being tired is an understatement, it's maddening to say the least... no amount of caffeine assists.. if I drank 3 red bulls I've got about as much energy as 90 year old running a marathon without any oxygen or cane. (Sorry to all those 90 yr Olds that can actually do that, if any...just a way of description.) However no amount of corrective sleep apnea machines or add medications help. It's just the way it is I suppose. Exercise and the projects, I've got about 80 started and none finished, thought I was just a big old failure, this explains a lot. Perfectionism is a curse. This is ironic to go to the school part of it, I've started 3 different colleges and still I find myself researching everything & I get no where with the making good money. Is there anyone out there that has made it out of the info mindset successfully? I mean. I don't want to change who I am, just this world lives off of the superficial, status, monetary fake, so where do we fit in? Idk I'm over typing & thinking even as I text this. So yeah, rant done, lol. Hmu if you have an enlightening response... ciao
So glad i subscribed to this channel so I didn't miss this video. As an INFJ with a very high IQ my life has been a wold unhappy rollercoaster. Thanks so much for outlining the unique characteristics of us INFJs
I think and plan A LOT. I don’t always do the things I plan, but I believe it is an important part of my process. Now at 65 years old. I am working on a life changing project. Lots of fear, wanting all I am doing to be ‘The Best’, but using my intuition to guide me. I believe the project will be a success. It feels much better for me to be relying heavily on my intuition, after decades of trying to ‘fit in’ to how the most people do things. I’m glad that. I have learned that as an INFJ I experience and process the world differently compared to most. That’s a big one. Accept that. After I accepted that key fact….I felt more ‘in the flow’, more Synchronicity. It’s exciting being 65 and growing in my INFJ Experience. However, my life surely would have been easier and more enjoyable if I had been identified as an INFJ at an early age and instructed in how to use my ways of thinking and processing. And damn! I feel other people’s feelings. Often times don’t know whose feelings they are. Imagine if I had been educated about being empathic. So I go on…and do the best I can. Send good vibes for my project on which I am embarking. 😀
Good timing, really needed that synopsis at this moment. Focus and expectation are not friends to keep in close company. Still trying to ground the big picture.
Acceptance of being Ostracized early is Best. Really we don't need them for the common social things. Don't fall into that trap of "you must be social". They do not and cannot understand that level of discomfort. That is on them not us. Having a well rounded ( non-reactive to other Dogs and People) Husky is an awesome buffer zone. They get the attraction and attention with that fluffy coat while you can stand back. I have 2 female huskies that go into every store with me except the grocery. Plus you get that unquestioned Love from a Husky. Everyone had a dysfunctional childhood. That is past. Accept. Observe. Be Well.
Going out into this world. Yikes! Cant wait to get back to the peace of my little dwelling. My few true friends are beyond precious. Maybe I’ll get to those moving boxes eventually. Hey my brethren. Be well.
It sucks always understanding other people, because you can't really be mad at them. As for understanding things all too well, the drawback is only in combination with being a pessimist, because all value quickly diminishes into nothing. As an optimist, it can be euphoric, so it's a matter of keeping a good balance and limiting how deeply you look into the heavens or the abyss. That isn't a metaphore.
INFJs, if you want to be a winner in life: You are a born leader, you must become one. This solves the problem that you feel like you have no energy: you entrust a lot of things to others. Don't have the energy to make things happen? If you can work with people, they will do the hard work. Can't you connect with people? Don't worry, some people will automatically connect with you. Do you have these little weird character flaws? If you are rich in relationships and money, no one will care about your small character flaws. Your real problem is that the world you live in prevents you from living your life as you should. It doesn't matter that you yourself want to live your life 100% if others don't cooperate with you. And unfortunately, the world is what it is. You would be the perfect leader, a humane leader who could save the world from many fatal mistakes. But unfortunately...
Hey PSYCH-Os! 👋
*So, do you think your life as an INFJ kind of sucks in a way that's unique to your personality type?*
Comment down below 👇
The age thing rings true. It was much more difficult in my youth. So perhaps in maturity we have found gifts/lessons other types may never learn.
• Tired: It is and I have to schedule for it.
• Love/Hate Humans: Yes, but Karma favors love, so just invest it properly into the right people and things.
• Friends: I work on friends/acquaintances by visiting at least once per week 9 months of the year with different ones.
• Procrastination vs Doing: I procrastinate, but like data points/documentable accomplishments. Just signed up for an expensive course which will help me stay on course with a desired certification. I mostly prioritize because no one could do everything I want to do.
• Making Money vs Rewarding/Dreaming: Luckily I have (mostly) been able to marry the two.
• Long Time to Learn: Yup. I'm over 60
• Guilt for Being Not Normal: I have learned to embrace it. Was criticized for it in younger adulthood but learned (after a while) which advice was valid for me and which was not.
I'd love to hear more insight about your journey, I still feel like an outsider and odd duck in life and I'm not young nor old, just stuck and making money isn't easy relationships-null, I do have the sweetest man on the planet for putting up with my odd behavior as others call it, however I just want to fit in but at the same time don't. Weird I know, but true. Just want to be better at being a human being, better for me , whatever that even is. Ty for saying the procrastinating and the scheduling part, because I thought writing everything down and putting bullets on it all was just me, but idk y I feel like I need to, or I just forget. Idk. Anyways love to hear any advice. ty
Seeing how evil people are and cannot forgive them means I(we) trust very, very few people.
@@amberpirone6776 I love to help (and especially train) others. One of the biggest things that happened to me is that mid-life at work several different people were saying that I gave too much of myself.
Some said that I helped others at the expense of my own projects. Some said that my sharing my ideas left them open to be stolen without my getting credit. So I stopped doing so for 2 weeks as an experiment. Horrible!
But what I did learn from that experience is that I had to make things WIN-WIN...if I am helping someone then it also should benefit me and/or the other person should reciprocate. Needs to have some balance to it.
@@amberpirone6776 relationship advice pls?
They come to this world with an OLD soul, but don’t have the OLD wisdom to quite yet match it. Oh my how that hits home!
I agree with everything here, but I love that ending, “everyone’s life sucks, in their own unique way.” 😂
My love/hate relationship goes so much deeper. It's a contradiction.
I *LOVE* all living beings unconditionally, with all my heart and soul. I exist to make others happy. My purpose in life is to make this world a better place. Not just for me, or my own people, but for everyone in the world. I love with all my heart and soul. No matter who you are, I care about you.
But... I've also seen the worst sides of humanity. The worst stuff you can possibly imagine... I know how deeply sick and twisted people can be. And while I try to understand and forgive everyone, sometimes my mind goes to a dark place and I think about how much I hate humans, because they're so selfish, violent, ignorant, and cruel to one another. When I encounter true evil in the worst forms, I might get so angry that I say "humans are scum" or "I wish the world would just blow up"... But that just isn't me. I feel that way only _because_ I care so much about everyone, and want the world to be a place of peace, kindness, and love.
I may hate what people do, but I love people. I may hate humanity, but I love humans. I don't hate any person, even though I hate what they can be. I don't actually hate anyone, I'm just disappointed. I love everyone and would die for them, but I just want them to stop hurting each other. It would be so easy to make this world a perfect place, if everyone could just love each other as I do.
Being me hurts. But I don't want to be different. If I wasn't like this, I wouldn't be able to help people the way I do. I am here to change the world, and that won't happen if I'm just like everyone else in it.
Wow ! You are speaking my mind excatly. So I'm not the only one feeling that way. Thank you for writing down this long text.
All so true, I’m the old INFJ now and I do wish I had learned some truths a lot earlier. So many years of trying to figure out why, now I know, most of my time is gone 😊
Yep.
Great job for explaining who us INFJ’s are. I’m older and always knew I was different. My siblings still don’t get it and keep their distance. Luckily I had a very observant mother who helped me navigate my journey. This video was like looking in a mirror.
You are one lucky INFJ. Having a parent who understands (or at least tries to) makes all the difference!
You're very accurate! Im the procrastinating one and love to absorb knowledge but finding one interested to listen is another thing because I love to share. Nobody seems to care about the things I find of importance. Yeah, that kinda sucks sometimes not having much in common with others! On the other hand, knowledge is power and I don't mind dining alone!
Very true. I care about things no one else seems to either. I am an endless researcher! School, 3 times but still noresults to assist in the monetary situation. Endless exhaustion. I'd love to have another infj to share life notes with.
Yes, it’s all true. HEAVY SIGH. I’m always amazed at how you put this stuff into words. ❤
Thank you for that 💙
What it's like being an INFJ:
Imagine a rechargeable battery that can give more power than your electric outlet, but must be charged an hour for every hour of use. Now imagine the battery has feelings and intelligence. Now imagine the battery can intuit the NEEDS of the user and temporarily overcome its own LIMITS - at no small cost to its overall LIFESPAN. Now imagine the battery is torn between desperately craving a purpose (providing POWER, whenever wherever) while simultaneously clinging to isolation (recharge mode) because it can't determine BALANCE adequately, nor can it determine proper priorities...except through trial and error.
Awesomely said.
on point lol
Yes, and you're providing me more answers than my therapist, gratitude for that 🙏🏻
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Thanks for helping me understand myself! I always thought there was something wrong with me.❤
Is it me or did this guy just completely read & then say exactly what is happening in my mind/life?! I'm amazed how this analytical aspect of my mindset is so easily conveyed here.If it was so easy to put into words as I wished I could do... for the fact it does give a better understanding for myself about myself... ironically, if the rest of the remaining time on earth could flow that easy, I would be so ever grateful. Help, somebody get my out of my own head! Lol... we'll if any other infjs want to chat so we aren't so alone, to which is an utter nightmare however ever so beautiful, ironic isn't it... wanting both, love the contradictory aspect of this thought... however ti's true. I would love conversations that weren't so exhausting. Speaking of tiresome things..
Being tired is an understatement, it's maddening to say the least... no amount of caffeine assists.. if I drank 3 red bulls I've got about as much energy as 90 year old running a marathon without any oxygen or cane. (Sorry to all those 90 yr Olds that can actually do that, if any...just a way of description.) However no amount of corrective sleep apnea machines or add medications help. It's just the way it is I suppose. Exercise and the projects, I've got about 80 started and none finished, thought I was just a big old failure, this explains a lot. Perfectionism is a curse. This is ironic to go to the school part of it, I've started 3 different colleges and still I find myself researching everything & I get no where with the making good money. Is there anyone out there that has made it out of the info mindset successfully? I mean. I don't want to change who I am, just this world lives off of the superficial, status, monetary fake, so where do we fit in? Idk I'm over typing & thinking even as I text this. So yeah, rant done, lol. Hmu if you have an enlightening response... ciao
I love being part of the exclusive INFJ club.
So glad i subscribed to this channel so I didn't miss this video. As an INFJ with a very high IQ my life has been a wold unhappy rollercoaster. Thanks so much for outlining the unique characteristics of us INFJs
I think and plan A LOT. I don’t always do the things I plan, but I believe it is an important part of my process. Now at 65 years old.
I am working on a life changing project. Lots of fear, wanting all I am doing to be ‘The Best’, but using my intuition to guide me.
I believe the project will be a success. It feels much better for me to be relying heavily on my intuition, after decades of trying to ‘fit in’ to how the most people do things. I’m glad that. I have learned that as an INFJ I experience and process the world differently compared to most. That’s a big one. Accept that. After I accepted that key fact….I felt more ‘in the flow’, more Synchronicity.
It’s exciting being 65 and growing in my INFJ Experience. However, my life surely would have been easier and more enjoyable if I had been identified as an INFJ at an early age and instructed in how to use my ways of thinking and processing. And damn! I feel other people’s feelings. Often times don’t know whose feelings they are. Imagine if I had been educated about being empathic.
So I go on…and do the best I can. Send good vibes for my project on which I am embarking. 😀
Much love brother
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Good timing, really needed that synopsis at this moment.
Focus and expectation are not friends to keep in close company.
Still trying to ground the big picture.
There is nobody I would rather be !
Amen!!
Same here!!!
Acceptance of being Ostracized early is Best.
Really we don't need them for the common social things. Don't fall into that trap of "you must be social". They do not and cannot understand that level of discomfort. That is on them not us.
Having a well rounded ( non-reactive to other Dogs and People) Husky is an awesome buffer zone. They get the attraction and attention with that fluffy coat while you can stand back. I have 2 female huskies that go into every store with me except the grocery. Plus you get that unquestioned Love from a Husky.
Everyone had a dysfunctional childhood. That is past. Accept. Observe. Be Well.
Going out into this world. Yikes! Cant wait to get back to the peace of my little dwelling. My few true friends are beyond precious. Maybe I’ll get to those moving boxes eventually. Hey my brethren. Be well.
Being around people is unavoidable and tires everyone
I want to connect for a better understanding with other infjs!!!!
It sucks always understanding other people, because you can't really be mad at them. As for understanding things all too well, the drawback is only in combination with being a pessimist, because all value quickly diminishes into nothing. As an optimist, it can be euphoric, so it's a matter of keeping a good balance and limiting how deeply you look into the heavens or the abyss. That isn't a metaphore.
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Does seem to suck no matter what one does.
INFJs, if you want to be a winner in life: You are a born leader, you must become one. This solves the problem that you feel like you have no energy: you entrust a lot of things to others. Don't have the energy to make things happen? If you can work with people, they will do the hard work. Can't you connect with people? Don't worry, some people will automatically connect with you. Do you have these little weird character flaws? If you are rich in relationships and money, no one will care about your small character flaws. Your real problem is that the world you live in prevents you from living your life as you should. It doesn't matter that you yourself want to live your life 100% if others don't cooperate with you. And unfortunately, the world is what it is. You would be the perfect leader, a humane leader who could save the world from many fatal mistakes. But unfortunately...
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This is SO!!!!!!!!! True For me.