You laid out here why the vast majority of people have no idea how to lead or when put in position to do so, they hate it. Leadership is a lonely, hard road if you have any desire to be a good person
"Err on the side of being too hard." is advice I respect and follow when starting a leadership position. I might use the term "impersonal" as opposed to hard as it speaks to a willingness and readiness to hold accountability and respect in higher regard than the warm, friendly, and personal relationship (that you also ideally want to cultivate, as long as it's authentic and part of the bigger picture and whole of things). My best leaders and managers know when to show up and channel objectivity and impersonal tone and stance and they know when it's time to animate warmth, openness, and humanity. It's highly situational and there's no formula.
as a woman in a leadership position with men you will find - for the most part - the men will be better followers and support you (as long as you are fair and strong) better than women. I have found this in my experience in the military.
I was fortunate enough to have acquired the book How to influence people and win friends by Dale Carnegie in my late 20s and it changed my life in so many ways. The title is misleading but it has value criteria for harnessing one's ability to excel in most workplace environments. Didn't help much when I worked in the meat industry but that was due to extenuating circumstances!
I came up with this when I first got promoted. I told my crew hey my whole goal is to be left alone by the top brass. That doesnt mean being not being aggressive it means being professional so we can do our jobs. If we get dialed in and the people higher up the chain see were dialed in they will let us operate and do our jobs without being micromanaged.
"Be yourself and add 6% professionalism and you'll be good." "Err on the side of being professional." Great advice, per usual. Needed that. I have some work to do.
The question for me at Times wasn’t whether or not I was prepared for the job and if I needed to announce my presence instead of President or any of that stuff. The real question was was I feeling it? There are times when I came into a position and I know exactly what I wanted to get out of it and what exactly I want to put into it and it was those times that I was the most successful. Other times I had no idea of the expectations, the tasksand the outcome. The fluidity of the circumstance is dictated the majority of the outcomes based on my ability to adapt. It is these times that are unpredictable that show the fundamental capability of a leader to deliver whatever the outcomes are supposed to be.
I remember standing in formations as a junior Marine for Battalion change of command ceremonies. One time, it was like 90 degrees on the parade deck in Las Pulgas in Camp Pendleton. Two Marines have already dropped from heat/locking their knees and both the outgoing and incoming COs gave like a 30-40 minute speech each. It was the most absurd thing I've ever seen. I couldn't tell you a single thing any of them said.
you can come in settle and quietly...just communicate your ideas to whos in charge in a quiet way..they will give you an opportunity eventually...make it about the job or team not you...its easy...just dont make it about you thats the biggest mistake...i believe we all approach differently and many ways are good...even sideways...actually sideways may be the smoothest because it prevents others from becoming early obstacles
I didn’t know you went through OCS I went through with Martin Strong in ‘86. He was a BMC who was in phase 1, and after he became commissioned he was a LCDR at phase 3.
Hearing the woman’s background and the organizational description (big organization, she was ready for this, etc), I don’t think she needed advice, she needed a tiny little confidence boost. If she’s coming up through a large organization into Director of Operations, this is NOT her first leadership/management position. It’s just one step higher than her last one, and with slightly different responsibilities.
Much love, my father was an Electrician, Forman . He did something different. Every morning, He would say . " first off , family stupid shit . We can laugh at. Second, if you have any problems with the job , co- worker. We can have it now . Or come to me later. Later, I don't like the time for . Better be. Something good.
How can I improve on this script? My position is to hear you tell me how you do your job. Listen to ways you want to implement and do it better. Then, help you accomplish your goal for the betterment of the team.
Then use a polite but firm tone and say, "Mom, this is my apartment, I am an adult now. You need to stop letting yourself in and going through my Internet browser history. Doing my laundry while I'm at work does not make this right."
While a government employee enforcing State law, the director two levels above me was known in the community as a coward. People we were supposed to be regulating could intimidate him and get whatever they wanted.
I don’t know who this guy is talking but he sounds strangely like Jocko in word choice and speech cadence. With a slightly different tone like maybe a young Jocko. Weirded me out listening to the audio, I had to look at the video.
@@kennethcurtis1856 People misspel people's names all the time. you'd have to be throwing stones at yourself buddy because I know somewhere along your life you've misspelled someone's name. secondly, all of his advice comes from seal team this seal team that. quite frankly, military life is very different than civilian life.
@@ThunderWarrior77I mean one could say that Elon Musk is the leader of a car company, a rocket company, and a social media company. None of these companies have anything to do with one another. But yet all of these companies are highly successful. Leadership concepts can be applied to any field. They are explaining how to lead people of a team. Doesn’t matter what field it is in.
@@awcshook I'm sorry but Joshua comes across very conceited laughing at the other guy anytime. he makes some little mistake about what advice he's given. he also knows very little Elon musk would do a lot more investigating before he decides who someone is or isn't and also laughing at others for their advice towards the person considering they know very little about their personal life.
So a woman is promoted and prompted by leadership, despite not knowing how to present herself as a leader? How did she get there again? ... Must be nice.
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You laid out here why the vast majority of people have no idea how to lead or when put in position to do so, they hate it. Leadership is a lonely, hard road if you have any desire to be a good person
It doesn’t have to be lonely. Lead your team consistently and they’ll carry the burden with you.
It's all about being approachable, confident, empathetic yet firm.
"Err on the side of being too hard." is advice I respect and follow when starting a leadership position. I might use the term "impersonal" as opposed to hard as it speaks to a willingness and readiness to hold accountability and respect in higher regard than the warm, friendly, and personal relationship (that you also ideally want to cultivate, as long as it's authentic and part of the bigger picture and whole of things). My best leaders and managers know when to show up and channel objectivity and impersonal tone and stance and they know when it's time to animate warmth, openness, and humanity. It's highly situational and there's no formula.
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As a woman I already know what the other women are thinking. So I really appreciate this male perspective, especially in this male dominant scenario.
as a woman in a leadership position with men you will find - for the most part - the men will be better followers and support you (as long as you are fair and strong) better than women. I have found this in my experience in the military.
Focus on competency, and you will win all the time. People respect competent people who can take charge and lead.
I was fortunate enough to have acquired the book How to influence people and win friends by Dale Carnegie in my late 20s and it changed my life in so many ways. The title is misleading but it has value criteria for harnessing one's ability to excel in most workplace environments.
Didn't help much when I worked in the meat industry but that was due to extenuating circumstances!
You look like Thanos brother. Awesome.
I came up with this when I first got promoted. I told my crew hey my whole goal is to be left alone by the top brass. That doesnt mean being not being aggressive it means being professional so we can do our jobs. If we get dialed in and the people higher up the chain see were dialed in they will let us operate and do our jobs without being micromanaged.
9:00 dont be overly friendly. Be professional
10:00 too authoritative
10:45 air confidence & authority
13:00 intro speech not important
"Be yourself and add 6% professionalism and you'll be good." "Err on the side of being professional."
Great advice, per usual. Needed that.
I have some work to do.
Dude, if you close your eyes, Dave sounds like Jocko, at twice the speed
😄 100% - with a bit higher pitch
Agreed.
I gotta buy that book. Im an individual contributor but could still use these techniques
You can also lead by example not matter your position. Get some!
This one was super good. These cocenpts are hard to articulate in a way that's useful.
The question for me at Times wasn’t whether or not I was prepared for the job and if I needed to announce my presence instead of President or any of that stuff. The real question was was I feeling it? There are times when I came into a position and I know exactly what I wanted to get out of it and what exactly I want to put into it and it was those times that I was the most successful. Other times I had no idea of the expectations, the tasksand the outcome. The fluidity of the circumstance is dictated the majority of the outcomes based on my ability to adapt. It is these times that are unpredictable that show the fundamental capability of a leader to deliver whatever the outcomes are supposed to be.
Great advice, thanks guys!
The Tyrannical, Egomaniac Voice that Jocko Uses is Perfect 😂
I remember standing in formations as a junior Marine for Battalion change of command ceremonies. One time, it was like 90 degrees on the parade deck in Las Pulgas in Camp Pendleton. Two Marines have already dropped from heat/locking their knees and both the outgoing and incoming COs gave like a 30-40 minute speech each. It was the most absurd thing I've ever seen. I couldn't tell you a single thing any of them said.
you can come in settle and quietly...just communicate your ideas to whos in charge in a quiet way..they will give you an opportunity eventually...make it about the job or team not you...its easy...just dont make it about you thats the biggest mistake...i believe we all approach differently and many ways are good...even sideways...actually sideways may be the smoothest because it prevents others from becoming early obstacles
12:00 "just be yourself and then add 6% of extra professionalism.
But what if you are going Into a similar position of leadership but a new company and new group of team members? Best approach for introduction?
04:40 "isnt going to come from the speech" 😂😂😂😂😂
Who said strong men have no intellect? Brilliant guys.
Excellent!!!
I didn’t know you went through OCS I went through with Martin Strong in ‘86. He was a BMC who was in phase 1, and after he became commissioned he was a LCDR at phase 3.
Hearing the woman’s background and the organizational description (big organization, she was ready for this, etc), I don’t think she needed advice, she needed a tiny little confidence boost. If she’s coming up through a large organization into Director of Operations, this is NOT her first leadership/management position. It’s just one step higher than her last one, and with slightly different responsibilities.
Wow, sounds a lot like our incoming CEO @ “Echo Yankee”
Much love, my father was an Electrician, Forman . He did something different. Every morning, He would say . " first off , family stupid shit . We can laugh at. Second, if you have any problems with the job , co- worker. We can have it now . Or come to me later. Later, I don't like the time for . Better be. Something good.
Real talk 🤔
How can I improve on this script?
My position is to hear you tell me how you do your job. Listen to ways you want to implement and do it better. Then, help you accomplish your goal for the betterment of the team.
Replay!!
You guys sound exactly the same 😂
I wonder if it’s something they learned to emulate in the Seals
Haha, didn’t even notice until you mentioned it
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"Brow beat us with your rank."
But its my apartment how should i command respect?
Then use a polite but firm tone and say, "Mom, this is my apartment, I am an adult now. You need to stop letting yourself in and going through my Internet browser history. Doing my laundry while I'm at work does not make this right."
While a government employee enforcing State law, the director two levels above me was known in the community as a coward. People we were supposed to be regulating could intimidate him and get whatever they wanted.
I don’t know who this guy is talking but he sounds strangely like Jocko in word choice and speech cadence. With a slightly different tone like maybe a young Jocko. Weirded me out listening to the audio, I had to look at the video.
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This guy sounds just like Jocko. I think he should pave his own way and be himself. I've heard him before and that's not how he speaks.
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somebody should’ve announced a pop filter was necessary
Dave could use a different microphone 🎤
After 10:00 - sounds good
12:20 back to no good
excuse me,but what makes Wilko or this other guy an expert to give advice in this situation? ....they have a "popular" podcast....
First is they know how to spell and they know about whom they talk.
@@kennethcurtis1856 People misspel people's names all the time. you'd have to be throwing stones at yourself buddy because I know somewhere along your life you've misspelled someone's name.
secondly, all of his advice comes from seal team this seal team that. quite frankly, military life is very different than civilian life.
@@ThunderWarrior77I mean one could say that Elon Musk is the leader of a car company, a rocket company, and a social media company. None of these companies have anything to do with one another. But yet all of these companies are highly successful.
Leadership concepts can be applied to any field. They are explaining how to lead people of a team. Doesn’t matter what field it is in.
@@awcshook I'm sorry but Joshua comes across very conceited laughing at the other guy anytime. he makes some little mistake about what advice he's given. he also knows very little Elon musk would do a lot more investigating before he decides who someone is or isn't and also laughing at others for their advice towards the person considering they know very little about their personal life.
Do a little research on their backgrounds before making comments out of ignorance.
Intent has a smell
So a woman is promoted and prompted by leadership, despite not knowing how to present herself as a leader? How did she get there again? ... Must be nice.
Jockos only claim to fame is taking responsibility for getting people killed as an officer. Hes still alive and getting rich of that mistake. Sad.
Lolol okay sweetheart. Go clean your bong - the adults are talking.
@@saucyrossy3698 Seek professional mental health help for your cranial rectal inversion. Stat✔✔
You have little command of any situation tuny man .