Overcoming the Obstacles of Infidelity (Part 1) - Dr. Bob & Dr. Audrey Meisner
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- Bob and Audrey Meisner have a dramatic testimony of having a "perfect" marriage and family of 17 years that was almost destroyed by infidelity. At the time, the Meisners had 3 wonderful kids, were in full-time ministry and leading a church, when Audrey became infatuated and had an affair with a family friend.
Although no one knew what happened, Audrey felt convicted by God to confess to Bob, and thus they began a long recovery process, dealing with their pain, shame, anger, and uncertainty about their marriage’s survival. Add to this crisis of the unexpected and unwanted news of Audrey’s pregnancy by the other man. The Meisners share honestly and with emotion about Audrey’s repentance, their slow and painful reconciliation, and Bob’s sacrificial love to claim this new baby as his own son.
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Sin will take you farther than you want to go, cost you more than you want to pay, and keep you longer than you want to stay
@Thomas Branham 💕 Love this!!!
It sure does.
My mom use to sat this! But a little different
Facts!!!
Yes, but will go so far as one allows it.
Oh wow. 5 minutes in and i’m already exhausted by this woman.
‘This Audrey’ this, ‘That Audrey’ that...
Basically shifting blame onto her hurt, inner child.
I cheated on my ex. There is no excuse. The only way forward is complete humility and acknowledgement. You are NOT the victim here. ICK.
What a true man this husband is.
"This is not me..!" Then who was that married woman in the bed with another man? We ALL fall short, we ALL do disastrous acts, and we are ALL sinners. The Bible says, " that our hearts are deceitful and desperately wicked. Who can know it?" Yes, it was you. I pray one day that you own your choices.
I just want you all to know that as a single divorced woman. Your podcast is helping me with my divorce and just in dealing with feelings I have had and how to communicate better to anyone. Thank you!
It means so much to hear that, Donna. Thank you for letting us know. If there's any way we can come alongside you personally, don't hesitate to call us at 800-A-FAMILY (800-232-6459). God bless you!
You spoke with your hearts. May this testimony bless a couple who is going through the same situation. Grace wins anytime. Thank you 🙏🏾
I am sorry in advance for what I am going to express here , and with all do respect. We men are simple, task oriented, even Christian men in ministry, however I feel that now a days , nurturing a relationship with a wife is like waking up every morning , find a nuclear bomb and deactivate it before sunset. Really, a Christian woman should know better than establishing any kind of bond with anybody but her husband.
This is not an obstacle, it's a deal breaker
According to Jesus, it's not if one repents wholeheartedly.
@@danilaroche1156🤣😊🤣
Heard their story on a different show via TH-cam , and it is powerful and is painful. Sin is real. GOD's goodness is shown.
So grateful for this couple’s testimony. Thank you for the hope it brings to struggling marriages
Thank you for sharing the great things and the pitfalls of marriage. It's the human side that gets in and you find no matter how Christian people are...we still have our humanity where we choose to do things that we probably said or thought we'd never do. We are all susceptible!!
Thank you for putting yourselves out there
She talks about how loving she is; how naturally it comes for her and then goes on to do the most unloving thing possible, the most selfish thing one can do. Then she is so self centered she only talks about her pain, which she deserved. He, on the other hand, has tears in his eyes as he shares from his humble heart. He is the hero of the story here.
He's been emasculated. I am a Christian woman. I have seen so much abuse by women towards their husbands who are Christians. These two are blind guides. They have tilled the soil to plant seeds of B.S.!
Yup, I am not happy with my friend. And this couple has a part to play in it! They sicken me.
Listened to this story in the first year of our marriage where we struggled so much we were over the brink, and now in the year of our tenth year Anniversary, where we find ourselves on the brink again. Thank you to this couple for enduring the pain of retelling te story to encourage married folks like me in this season
This story is sickening
@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot your comment sickens me more
@@jadec3453 what is moral about this story according to you? That woman is a clear narcissist…you have just been fooled by the victim play….I wonder though why you decided to reply a statement I said about the story, with which you had nothing to do, with a personal attack…perhaps that describes you as a person…no wonder you are pining over such a disgusting story…your comment sickens me more
Did you betray your husband twice?
@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot You speak the truth
I admire both of you for sharing your story. It’s inspire to all men of Bob’s decision to keep his family.
Keep your family be becoming the tail. Nonsense.
Thanks for this program and appreciate Bob n Audrey’s honesty and truth.
What’s sad is the stone casters below in the comments that have absolutely no clue who they are and what they went through.
Try shutting it and seek some humility and compassion! 😊
I know right, my marriage went through a similar ordeal
Isn't it cute that after a cheater is busted and taken to task, the cheated on husband gets promoted to "The best husband and most wonderful man alive...." when literally 15 minutes earlier, her boyfriend was digging her guts out?
Please take a moment and pray for Jeff and Shay to be reconciled in marriage. Thank you.
Love this couple, heard their story years ago on family life today, it’s so powerful!
After a similar situation with my own wife i happened to stumble into this story, looking for marriage advice vids
its so moving, i think i'll do what he did
I love half this couple.
@@Bolter024 I think there are better resources than these two. I read their book over 10 years ago (I believe it was)) . I never got from their book that she was sorry. She still sounds like an attention seeker. Her new fix is to go out and share her story constantly.
@@Lambdamale. Ah ok
This is Amazing
Thank you Jesus and thank you Focus on the family, you are truly helping families around the world.
Audrey needs to stop talking and listen more.
Yep 😁.. noted haha hahahaha 😂
Agreed but I imagine that she's quite nervous sharing such a shameful part of her life and some of us talk too much when we're nervous.
Agree to that! Weeeuuueh! 🤔🤔
@@joannecaradonna6877she is not a victim
She still feels guilty
It seems like Audrey is making a lot of lame excuses for herself.
Amasing how Bob responded, of course w Gods Help !!
Thk G that they stayed together.....saved their fam....PTL!!!!! So thankful you two stayed together .....so so GOOD!!!!
PTL for this family!
She keep acknowledging the pain and they are blowing past it
Trying to make herself look like a victim
She didn’t get “what she need” from her husband. Then, she got it elsewhere. Then the truth came out. Where is “the other Audrey” now?
Thank you for bringing me hope
I do not understand why do you have to go through this issue over and over again. Does it don't hurt you and your husband?
yeah I don’t get that either. isn’t it just a continuous reminder of what’s already been forgiven? seems weird to me
She said she was craving attention when she had the affair. Now she's getting attention from speaking engagements. Its in her interest to keep this going. Clearly, this issue hurts her husband more than her. He still looks genuinely broken over it, but she sounds like she has refined her presentation and is enjoying herself.
It is called money..
.keep the income flowing in
Because it is not about them but about God’s miraculous work in their lives . No amount of money can pay for the pain of talking about our failures as humans. We talk about difficult issues of our past to bring hope and encouragement to others .
@@rowenab1475 I'm glad you can see that.
This is occurring and has occurred for the past 7-9 years with a supposedly reformed orthodox Master's Seminary pastor. Will somebody please reach out and help us?
Stop showing pride in the things you should show humility
Talks about herself in the 3rd person ? This woman if off ? I liked being told I'm beautiful? Who doesn't?
Please help to guide me whether to stay or divorce to a pathological jealousy and controlling husband. Is there a cure for this type of behavior? We currently seeing marriage couples counseling. Does he needs psychiatrist treatment? he refused to see psychiatrist and don’t know if I am able to reconnect because I don’t to be hurt again. We married for 20 years with 3 kids . Is there hope in my situation? Please help me 🙏
yes !!
Hey bob.....sharing is caring
I really do hope that this man has totally forgiven her and she herself. 1) he doesn't really look at her. He seems still angry, but maybe I overthink stuff and 2) Audrey seems to feel so guilty and wants to talk so much and make people see exactly what has happened, almost like, dont judge me please. This is such a sad story. Sounds exactly like mine...
My husband always focuses on the truth, and he would tell you it doesn't matter how I say it. Just listen to what I say. He didn't compliment me.... pls people don't commit adultery... I am the unfaithful woman, and I hate myself for it!.... its a very selfish act . Try everything, talk to your spouse... talk to a counsellor.... look for help in the marriage. I wish I did. I tried to talk to my spouse, but not in the right way.
Now we are in so much pain.... that I never ever thought I could cause.
So he really stayed because of his children
Im not comfortable with negativity even though it was all around me as achild
Can’t you people see how sickening this is?? Anyone who thinks this is ok has a serious morality problem…this woman is clearly an evil narcissist
If anyone can help me .
" Not Just Friends " - Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D. with Jean Coppock Staeheli
I think she enjoyed the whole affair. She made the choice to sleep with this dude and let him impregnate her. I think she plays the whole christian thing and now she gets away with having an affair, not showing much remorse. I would have to cut her loose. She has an excuse for everything. She will open that door again
I had an affair and it resulted in pregnancy. The other person is saying they are going to court order a paternity test and wants to be apart of the child’s life, what do I do? we don’t want him apart of her life because we believe our marriage comes first.
That's a tough one as he prob has rights. Praying that he leaves you and your family be in peace and it works out for the betterment of everyone involved
Maybe stop sleeping with other men while you’re married? Just a thought 😮
Yeah. The other guy has a right to his child. How narcissistic of you.
you have no right to decide that now
Shameful of you....
She is narcissistic person. She is clearly talking a lot and not acting on it and making her a victim. It's a psychology. Poor husband. Forgiveness is a positive and a great negative factor in Christianity when it comes to sin.
why she spoke so loud and all the time ?
A prudent man covereth a matter...telling the whole would thus story is not wise at all. It continually humiliates both of them.
She sure talks a lot.
I've listened 2 several testimonies & they're very helpful! T commentator is irritating bc he I interrupts 2 much as what we WANT 2 kno & learn fom is t guests. His questions r great but plz restrain t personal opinions & interpretations just let us learn from their EXPERIENCE.
Excuses Excuses
I don't like that in a way she tries to justify herself. As if she likes to be a protagonist.
It sounds like the affair could have possibly been avoided completely if they understood and spoke each other's love languages.
It's not about love languages. It's about knowing how cunning, subtle and relentless the enemy is. It's spiritual. Ephesians 6.
@@danilaroche1156 avoiding accountability….that woman is just a narcissist like how all adulterers are…stop pretending the devil made her do it…it was a choice.
No it could have been avoided if they understood how selfishness works
I read their book years ago. I never got from his wife that she was truly sorry. Just excuses. I was disappointed.
Edit..Off topic, but wow he looks like John Malkovich!
Sounds like him too.
@@lancsideconstructioncoachi1533 Honestly. I feel like every time these two get on the air, he is dragged right back into the mire. She talks incessantly and he inevitably begins to break down and cry about it. It's either all a big act (it was what? 20 years ago) OR he is still incredibly torn up about it, and he needs to tell his wife to be quiet a bit.
My husband had an affair. For 3 months . He had been sleeping with her. Now he's sayings Its mistake
What should I do 😢
Did he bring it up to you or did you find out?
Audrey... Blah blah blahhhhh.....
Even Jesus got tired, that is why a men help him carry his cross to calvary. We all get tired and we need to stop and accept help but it must be from the right sources
Why did they run the father of the baby out of town? Bob and Audrey should have wanted him to be in his son's life.
they did that before she knew she was pregnant. I'm sure he found out some way, but we'll never know. Robert is now an adult, and he has the right to look up his bio-dad. We won't know what he actually did or plans to do, though. Unless he comes out with it himself
I'll pray for the 1 that doesn't like this video
Hope Creed it's the guy she cheated on with lol
@@bobberry1463 he wasn't married. He didn't commit to anyone
My goodness this woman is exhausting and full of excuses
just a nasty cheating user excusing her behavior and gaining attention and fame on social media. why do you allow these unfaithful wifes to make their excuses for stabbing their husband in the back?
So far in this broadcast I havent heard the husband acknowledge and take responsibility for the fact that the other guy was giving her what her husband was NOT giving. To me, he comes across as being on a high horse.
Reverse the genders. If a woman gets cheated on should she acknowlege And take responsibility that he cheated because there was something that she was not giving her?
If she doesnt would that be her being on a high horse?
Don’t you think you are being a bit judge mental?
Because it wasn’t his fault, dum dum.
Everyone has excuses for their bad behavior. This is why so many men are taking the red pill.
Exactly and I sounds like they are really not hearing her ..this is alittle rough for me