The 9 STEPS To Find The PERFECT RELATIONSHIP Today! | Lewis Howes

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  • @empoweredfromhome
    @empoweredfromhome 3 ปีที่แล้ว +476

    I lost my husband of 30 years three years ago. He was a beautiful man: accepted people for who they were; gave me freedom to be myself; was a great listener; was thankful for people and life; but the thing I loved the most, and that can still bring me to tears when I think about it, is that he always held my hand! He held my hand in the car, on a walk, at an event, walking into the grocery store...he always reached for my hand. I miss his sweet hands.

    • @alisonheatherwestonstanden3220
      @alisonheatherwestonstanden3220 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      We will meet our loved ones again
      When your time is done on this planet earth you will feel his hands again 😇😇

    • @abel90221
      @abel90221 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Awww stop it your going to make me cry lol

    • @michellebucci3748
      @michellebucci3748 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      M

    • @waheedahewad7777
      @waheedahewad7777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Your memories of him has kept him alive so he is not gone at all.

    • @marianapopescu753
      @marianapopescu753 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🥺💞🙏

  • @sabina7978-e4y
    @sabina7978-e4y 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Today we know that emotional maturity is the most important thing, the story of our childhood is important, if we are not aware of our traumas, we transfer it to the relationship. it's not easy to find emotionally mature people

    • @jarrellneriahshamah5394
      @jarrellneriahshamah5394 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      She said you forgot one thing, fathers are the foundation of childhood! that's an actual fact that young children do a lot better in life when there's a father in the home

    • @sabina7978-e4y
      @sabina7978-e4y 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@jarrellneriahshamah5394 Fathers are the foundation of childhood only if they are emotionally mature, otherwise they destroy more or less a child's psyche and in adulthood a relationship with such a person will be problematic.
      What is the foundation of childhood is not growing up with two parents, but with emotionally mature parents. It is better for a child to have one emotionally mature parent /mother o father/ than two emotionally immature parents.

    • @fan2807
      @fan2807 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sabina7978-e4y i totally agree.i had to choose!

    • @aprililes8355
      @aprililes8355 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very true!

    • @aprililes8355
      @aprililes8355 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Jarrell Neriah SHaMaH Just as long as they're a healthy and positive role model. Otherwise, a negative and non supportive parent can have a damaging impact on a child's life!

  • @emelong3152
    @emelong3152 3 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    Are you looking for a love story or are you looking for a life story? SO PROFOUND 🙌🏼

    • @lalaheart76
      @lalaheart76 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I feel many are looking for love story thats why we have so many divorces.

    • @patriciamahoney1229
      @patriciamahoney1229 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ester Perez

  • @hoy1es1un1dia1feliz
    @hoy1es1un1dia1feliz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Minute 42! What I have been saying after my divorce: a plumber needs courses and credits to get a license to succeed; a marriage has long-term consequences when it fails, when Depresion comes into a family, kids get affected, society gets negatively affected by broken marriages... BUT NO COURSES ARE REQUIRED BEFORE HAND to encourage having tools for when the bad or not-so-good times come! So many subjects that are ONLY spoke during crises.

  • @tiffanytaylor5295
    @tiffanytaylor5295 3 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    I'm divorced 10yrs now and my children are just about to start their lives and my parents are still in good health so I'm now at the point in my life where I'm going to live it for me.

  • @samanthachadwick1073
    @samanthachadwick1073 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The Love Letter question you asked Matt Hussey is an incredible exercise for self awareness but also what we value most in a relationship

  • @happinessvanessam5367
    @happinessvanessam5367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    “I’m getting tired of this, go off and work on yourself first, then you deliver this package to someone else. 18:15 Relationship helps you become who you are”

  • @AndreaNicoleWatson
    @AndreaNicoleWatson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    The first woman nailed it with such grace and depth that’s EXACTLY what’s wrong. Now what do we do about it. Just beautiful!

    • @felipelam1978
      @felipelam1978 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Esther Perel is the best out of the whole video

  • @matasuki
    @matasuki 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    A lot of what Ester said is so intelligent and deeply philosophical. For my Evangelion fans out there you'll recognize this statement 17:00-18:00. Basically you need others to discover who you are. A world without others makes it impossible to create your identity. People are the mirror.

  • @CaseyBurnsInvesting
    @CaseyBurnsInvesting 3 ปีที่แล้ว +271

    You find the best relationships when you improve your relationship with yourself.

    • @mimiwallen
      @mimiwallen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Absolutely! It all begins with ourself before forging any other relationship.

    • @kennethconnor6957
      @kennethconnor6957 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly

    • @kennethconnor6957
      @kennethconnor6957 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Be your best first and know who you are

    • @neil2945
      @neil2945 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      It comes when you first improve your relationship with God

    • @ray_mond
      @ray_mond 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      yes. people need to stop trying to fInd 'the right one' and work on bEIng the right one... the rest will follow.

  • @reneeacomular8839
    @reneeacomular8839 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love 1 Cor 13..
    Because I saw myself how to love even the un lovable,by the grace of God.. until he passed away.. and that faith..that principles must have to be lived through our lives.. Yes the "Bible reads us when we read it." I love that statement..

  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    There must be a goal at every stage of life! There must be a goal!

  • @ENZAnKAYLIN
    @ENZAnKAYLIN 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    After 8yrs of marriage, I’m still trying to figure it out. Esther is the grand master of relationships. It puts a lot of things in perspective. Thanks for sharing thought provoking information.

  • @sandramanson1904
    @sandramanson1904 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Matthew, it was really wonderful to see you being so vulnerable ( and being conscious of letting go of wanting to appear perfect). I enjoyed your presence here more than any I have seen of you. We all need to allow ourselves to give ourselves a break and to love ourselves more! That's the message I got here from you. Thank you and many hugs!

  • @susanparkes5096
    @susanparkes5096 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My 3 things to put in that letter would be:-
    1. Appreciation of your intelligence and ability to challenge me, both physically and intellectually enough to enable me to achieve my best, but not so much that I would become discouraged.
    2. The way we worked as a team on even simple domestic tasks like cooking together.
    3. Proud of your knowledge and competence in your work, and your confidence generally as a man.

  • @karenbehymer3634
    @karenbehymer3634 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The other person in a deep committed relationship already knows. No words are necessary. Hold each other and be thankful.

  • @skyking6989
    @skyking6989 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    The only partner I need I see every day in the mirror. I'm not putting up with bs drama and problems anymore

    • @thatdudeKarim
      @thatdudeKarim 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      BS and Drama are directly related to your perception of the world, others and yourself... Emotional Stress is mostly self inflicted... It's not dating, It's life, Go Live.

    • @skyking6989
      @skyking6989 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Adam Blois I got a 6th sense about people. Believe it or not woman aren't the only ones with intuition. Men have it as well. Most men just don't listen to it. I sure do and i was right every time!

    • @dana102083
      @dana102083 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@skyking6989 you're the one attracting these dame women though..maybe take a look there? Not questioning your assessment/intuition but sounds like you're pushing accountability to others than looking at yourself. Cheers

    • @skyking6989
      @skyking6989 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @AQUAPASS I am. Just VFR right now. I don't fly near as much as I like but I'm extremely busy running my own business

  • @amandavictoriasewell7393
    @amandavictoriasewell7393 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Esther is brilliant. 100% spot on! Loneliness is the real killer if you are a lonely widow like myself!

  • @deitykush
    @deitykush 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    that first lady went dumb hard no cap... that means she did an extremely amazing job and that's no lie.

  • @ryanbaileyboxing
    @ryanbaileyboxing 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    you are presenting us with life changing information. These success coach discussions would cost me way to much to attend in real life with a 1v1 .... but listening to all these one at a time and going back to all your previous ones is going to change my mind and life. Thank you so much Lewis for everything you do

    • @joannelauer1372
      @joannelauer1372 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      May God help all of us empaths to learn from these videos to stop letting ourselves be abused by individuals who just don't get it choose not to

    • @maggieredgard230
      @maggieredgard230 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joannelauer1372 and

  • @elizabethmetteer2772
    @elizabethmetteer2772 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Attitude makes a big difference for a good relationship.Be truthful, honest, respectful of each other, supportive, have the same goal together for a good life, loving, provision, sympathy, communication, do things together and try to enjoy it or let the other person do what he wants with other males especially if its a hobby sport that you can’t do with him.Compromise but be mindful of who always end up accepting that compromise.Do not go back talks about past relationships.Believing in the same religion helps a lot vs the other person dragging you to do their religion.

  • @Satillite1111
    @Satillite1111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    There are two choices to make in a relationship in today's world. Be an adult or be stuck as being on the level as a child. Be accountable for your own actions, take the time to talk things through. Make time and evaluate your relationship on a regular basis. It's like if you want to keep your Job, you have to work at it, meaning you need to do updates and even learn new skills to evolve.
    The same relates to people. You need to do the work. Life is unpredictable, situations are unpredictable, so it means we need a support system. Plan on who you can go to when we need the tools to get us back on our feet...
    We have become high maintenance to define modern day relationships. Oh boy, complicated, yet it should be easier with all the free resources made available... So what's going on? Is it substance abuse that may be part of the problem because of the expectations?
    I'm tired of people expecting their partner's to be walking around with a smile on your person's face.... Just saying 🙃

  • @packrcch
    @packrcch 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    29:32 "my relationship with you has given me the feeling of safety and security that has helped me to go out into the world and reach my full potential."
    omg.....

  • @n9n9schannel9
    @n9n9schannel9 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I appreciate it that he chose to have an ‘unedited’ interview. I didn’t interpret it as he lost his train of thought. Instead, I interpreted it as he is being genuine, natural human reactions, his pauses allowed me to think and make notes.
    Needs:
    Safety/Security
    Companionship
    Respect for your person
    Let go of:
    Don’t question everything
    Re evaluate yourself in admit your mistakes and where you were wrong
    Guilt
    Shame
    Perfection
    Be kind to yourself
    Don’t obsessed about the past

  • @ajinubabu6528
    @ajinubabu6528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Never give up looking for love

    • @kgreenmusicofficial
      @kgreenmusicofficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You must not live in the U.S. There is not much love here, just prostitution passed off as love. My opinion🤷

    • @Trisof88
      @Trisof88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Love? Love is dead... or rather very scarce to put it more correctly.

    • @stallionshark1726
      @stallionshark1726 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love? Lol. You will learn son

    • @dancewitme211
      @dancewitme211 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      True. I read some years ago to always leave a crack in the door. In other words sometimes we may meet the right person even though at first glance we think they're not our type. Dont be so quick to shut them out.

    • @dancewitme211
      @dancewitme211 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@kgreenmusicofficial True. Most men here, young and old, are no longer interested in getting married and settling down.

  • @LivingSwedish
    @LivingSwedish 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    If you are kind to others you will attract the right people in your life 🙏🏻

    • @t-lovejones2620
      @t-lovejones2620 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I disagree. In my opinion in my experience that if you are kind to others you will attract people who would take advantage of you because they perceive you as weak or a pushover. That's the situation I'm in right now. I'm that "nice guy" but I never necessarily attract the "nice girl". I seem to attract the women who would take advantage of someone who's being respectful to them.

    • @rov3rPL
      @rov3rPL 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@t-lovejones2620 Being kind =/= being nice, perhaps.

    • @gold-hf8jx
      @gold-hf8jx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@t-lovejones2620 your probably being kind to the wrong sort of people... decent kind people wouldn't take advantage of kind decent people

    • @t-lovejones2620
      @t-lovejones2620 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@gold-hf8jx and you're right I am being kind to the wrong people type of people. And you're right because decent people wouldn't be like that forwards other decent people. I just have to figure it out and try to figure out how can I get out of this situation I put myself in.

    • @jab7168
      @jab7168 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@gold-hf8jx of course.....it is his fault.🙄

  • @judibrissette8267
    @judibrissette8267 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This woman is amazing! Such insight, so eye opening!

  • @dustievalentine
    @dustievalentine ปีที่แล้ว

    I love Kevin’s lack of filter ❤

  • @Ram69621
    @Ram69621 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Her words are drop of pearl.

  • @x3965
    @x3965 ปีที่แล้ว

    So Helpful, affirming and real talk!

  • @patriciatowns7930
    @patriciatowns7930 ปีที่แล้ว

    My the grandparents lived a wonderful happy fulfilled life they loved each other and Miss Lee

  • @clarissaduran505
    @clarissaduran505 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how into the first speaker you are. She's brilliant!

  • @barbaraglover4451
    @barbaraglover4451 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    WOW Kevin Hart you really touch my heart man thanks

  • @janebadon3988
    @janebadon3988 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow! Each guest brought a little different aspect of relationships to the table. They were all very knowledgeable,too. Great show!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for enjoying the show Jane! What's been your favorite episode or guest?

  • @actuallybusiness1622
    @actuallybusiness1622 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    *There's only one secret to succeed: NEVER GIVE UP!*

    • @patsysanders3013
      @patsysanders3013 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can't just not give up!! You have to take the proper actions to succeed!!

  • @mimiwallen
    @mimiwallen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Hmmm “perfect relationship” that could be the problem. We’re imperfect/flawed humans shooting for a perfect union. Here’s my take, first work on oneself and then bring that WHOLESOME self to that relationship. Then make of it what works for BOTH of you and not what social media tells us. What works in your union may not work in mine. Above all don’t allow outside influence ( family/friends) determine your relationship ideals. Don’t complicate things!

    • @pdlrkpdlrk9971
      @pdlrkpdlrk9971 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Perfectly said....this whole video could have been summed up with this tbh

    • @erinloo8921
      @erinloo8921 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah don't let others put there five cents in

    • @dana102083
      @dana102083 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@erinloo8921 *their

  • @suzyerichsen6184
    @suzyerichsen6184 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mistakes are a learning experience.

  • @RVSurf
    @RVSurf 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Whaw what a beautiful and sunny letter! Vulnerability shaped like a diamond! Great talk Mathiew

  • @janicedcruz7861
    @janicedcruz7861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Done.
    We're not just telling stories, we're changing lives

  • @demo3456
    @demo3456 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    The first women was amazing. She raddled off the entire issues that we face in this crumbling country. And this was all done by design. Get ready for the progressive future folks this is all what you wanted

    • @felipelam1978
      @felipelam1978 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Esther Perel is the best out of the bunch

    • @waitwhat6882
      @waitwhat6882 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Of course some moron has to make what Esther is saying political. Try again. 🙄

    • @tinaperez7393
      @tinaperez7393 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@waitwhat6882 I thought the same. Why is this person here if not to learn and apply some relationship skills which have always been needed throughout every era, it's just a light is being shined more today than ever before on the need for them, as Esther her self says.

  • @Ellitansmasterkey
    @Ellitansmasterkey 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Are you looking for Life Story or Love Story?" ♥️♥️♥️♥️🔥🔥🔥

  • @donnagarcia1884
    @donnagarcia1884 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm always inspired watching your channel with different episodes .. awesome .. thanks Lewis .. God Bless

  • @mariaguzman1552
    @mariaguzman1552 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I have been married 50 years. Married at 19 years old. We dated for 3 months. Got engaged. Before I decided to marry him I asked my self 3 questions. 1st is he a Christian, next, how long has had parents been married. Then, did he have a job. He went to Vietnam, returned got married 7 months later.

    • @tinaperez7393
      @tinaperez7393 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sorry but what's your point? Are you saying you're one of those older traditional marriages where not much was considered and roles were clear and set in stone?

    • @terishamoore8759
      @terishamoore8759 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Beautiful

  • @madeleineforrest5188
    @madeleineforrest5188 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Who is the Pastor? He was brilliant. Loved all the contributors, thank you.

    • @carolgeorge6409
      @carolgeorge6409 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes he is. What’s his name. Please start saying the names more than once and put in the notes. Love him

    • @rhondajarrett1399
      @rhondajarrett1399 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pastor Michael Todd, Transformation Church (online)

  • @CandyLaLa25
    @CandyLaLa25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I loved this so much. It was quite lengthy lol but I listened to it twice and shared it.😳🙈🙌💙

  • @keltoumj1533
    @keltoumj1533 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @joeferreira657
    @joeferreira657 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow,great lady with wide mind,bright person. very wise

  • @Danniicampbelldesign
    @Danniicampbelldesign 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    OMG! I love this interview! Thank you for sharing such truth!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So happy to hear it! 😊

  • @sandrabridgman3965
    @sandrabridgman3965 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I just love your podcasts! I learn so much from many of your guests. Thanks so much for your gift to communicate with all of these amazing people.

  • @adrianaxcx777
    @adrianaxcx777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    37:02
    Mistakes actually make relationships better very often...
    Mistakes can transform relationships but not if you sit there consistently dwelling on them...they make relationships better if you can improve from them and move on and be the thing you wanna be now...

  • @elisepecksydney
    @elisepecksydney 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow Lewis, these questions to Matthew are phenomenal questions!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Elise! 😊

  • @ibyteuback
    @ibyteuback 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I would write THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME BE MYSELF

  • @Trip14999
    @Trip14999 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this tonight ! Fiancé broke up with me can’t sleep and this helped . Thank you

    • @upupandaway5646
      @upupandaway5646 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lots of pain ,it will take time to heal ❤

  • @dustievalentine
    @dustievalentine ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m looking for BOTH! The love story that is my life story 💗

  • @SherifaNakalema
    @SherifaNakalema 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is great!

  • @clarissaduran505
    @clarissaduran505 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had the golden standard with my late husband.

  • @stefaniemuller3475
    @stefaniemuller3475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Be love. Then you doesn't need to find any.

    • @galadrielwoods2332
      @galadrielwoods2332 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We attract what we are ❤

    • @pear1ycur1y83
      @pear1ycur1y83 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@galadrielwoods2332 Not all the time though. We also attract what others need or can use. An empath can easily attract a narcissist or the other way around. We need to be aware than Some ppl that we attract can't be changed or is a lesson to us. I learned not to keep those sort of ppl around my circle or me. It can be draining

    • @galadrielwoods2332
      @galadrielwoods2332 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pear1ycur1y83 Agree.

  • @AdrianaJCantu
    @AdrianaJCantu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What exactly is chemistry? And is this felt in the first date? Overtime? Curious on people’s take.

  • @fabiusrubius1701
    @fabiusrubius1701 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I understand you better low L.H. it is difficulty to wash "sin" away. I had a similar life exp. Well he has affected my confidence too

  • @freefocusdtlb7627
    @freefocusdtlb7627 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Once again this among others I’m finding are extremely insightful, reflecting, healing and life changing
    Thank you and everyone on this video for their wisdom and experience and knowledge helping people, changing lives daily !

  • @kdpolo2000
    @kdpolo2000 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Couldn't explain it any better

  • @kaizen7519
    @kaizen7519 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow the athlete recovery vision...really enlightening👌thanks for sharing this vision

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 💜

  • @cletusmorraies7564
    @cletusmorraies7564 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Why the hell do we need to listen to these people? Anyone who wants a life long relationship need to learn to compromise, learn to give and take and not be selfish. For most of us that's too much to ask for.

    • @mariaguzman1552
      @mariaguzman1552 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree

    • @cletusmorraies7564
      @cletusmorraies7564 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mariaguzman1552 Glad someone agrees with me finally.

    • @Music_is_MyBestFriend
      @Music_is_MyBestFriend 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The idea is to choose wisely, then you don't have to 'compromise'. Compromise is a negative view. Doing things for someone you love, is not a compromise, is a gift.

  • @Marcoblankestijn
    @Marcoblankestijn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lewis, thx for all these nice youtube interviews. Lot of interviews make sense to me. They make my thought more vocal. Keep it up.

  • @jeffdorris5321
    @jeffdorris5321 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Nice work 🎆🎇✨

  • @jazminmartinez1123
    @jazminmartinez1123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Would love some timestamps with the names of each guest, please and thank you!

  • @georgec8501
    @georgec8501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lewis is the best!

  • @erinhappy-go-lucky5040
    @erinhappy-go-lucky5040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is amazing Lewis!!! Thank you for putting this together 🙏👏🥰!!!

  • @itsgracehui
    @itsgracehui 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Esther mentioned this newsletter / article does anyone have a link to that exact piece she's referencing?

  • @annalinacifani1280
    @annalinacifani1280 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I vacillated between, good point & outright laughter. Thanks for this video. It was helpful.

  • @aprilshowers3331
    @aprilshowers3331 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    That love letter🥺…I’m not crying you’re crying🥲

  • @stephaniepaul6536
    @stephaniepaul6536 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    LOVE!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here:
      podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

  • @anntv4654
    @anntv4654 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Does age matter? I'm 52 and his 27.

  • @POLYLIVING
    @POLYLIVING 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow!! The best insight EVER!!!

  • @windybaby6413
    @windybaby6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you

  • @nakachwadorcus9775
    @nakachwadorcus9775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was deep!

  • @gingermackenzie9742
    @gingermackenzie9742 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Who is the relationship guy at the end? He is great. Would be cool if their names would be in these compilation videos. Thanks Lewis, this was a great compilation.

    • @janebadon3988
      @janebadon3988 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It was on the screen soon after he started...all I remember was “pastor”. He sure is wise!

  • @amjadbashir4969
    @amjadbashir4969 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    She is brilliant!!

  • @Purposemusique
    @Purposemusique 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How cool how cool thank you sir

  • @reneembevilacqua3066
    @reneembevilacqua3066 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Who is this man? One hour in (long hair red shirt?!). He is so right on the hair stood up on the back of my neck and I stopped in my tracks amazing I would like to hear more of him

    • @hellenn2601
      @hellenn2601 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Stephan speaks

  • @cg2896
    @cg2896 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    it's true, things are so different. We can't assume anything anymore.

  • @KCTheLight1111
    @KCTheLight1111 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this was soooo good. I learned so much thank you

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 💜

  • @susanparkes5096
    @susanparkes5096 ปีที่แล้ว

    If I was told I was never going to find a life partner I would definitely not bother to meet anybody (other than the hundreds I have to meet through work, over which I have no choice).

  • @Oliveir51
    @Oliveir51 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Indians from India are incredible for that. Mariage lasts all life long. 3% failure only and mainly when the mariage is not arranged by the families

  • @alexaarrah696
    @alexaarrah696 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    About to make me cry 😭 with the vulnerable answers...I need a new with a guy who is a feeler and isn't afraid of being vulnerable...

  • @marybischoff-moore922
    @marybischoff-moore922 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing wisdom .. brilliant .. thank you ❤️🙏

  • @juliojeansimon8651
    @juliojeansimon8651 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think you should spend more time with the person is to recognize specific attitude , or common point in the relationship between two adult who understand why you have to be in relationship supportive each other, always keep positive attitude thought in mind, sometimes asking same questions several times and deviation of honesty love. It is a mindset and make sure it not offensive.

  • @armadillotoe
    @armadillotoe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Get a dog if you want a great relationship.

    • @Trisof88
      @Trisof88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They are so loving. Humans can't compete.

    • @abbyhemp509
      @abbyhemp509 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I have 3 does that make me a polygamist?

  • @CrazyBrick30
    @CrazyBrick30 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You forgot a step:
    Chapter 1: Accept your spouse for all their flaws, no matter how *NUMEROUS* they may be!

  • @snowism1
    @snowism1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Lewis

  • @claudiafegari5116
    @claudiafegari5116 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    1'20" In regards to knowing when you are properly healed, #1 is when you can embrace being fully vulnerable for somebody. If vulnerability still scares you, you have not healed enough..."

  • @craftygeekent4620
    @craftygeekent4620 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What do you do when you had that amazing connection with someone who saw you like no one else ever did before. And now you can't even talk to them anymore?

    • @sonjalivingston8241
      @sonjalivingston8241 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Take the time to heal, as we don't always have the luxury of healthy closure.

    • @Anastasia.chicago
      @Anastasia.chicago 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Learn about narcissism

  • @changethematrix
    @changethematrix 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I want to know where I can find a man I'm attracted to, has the personality, and is not taken. I rarely see anyone I'm attracted to and it's gotten much harder as I've gotten older.

  • @brandnewyorker
    @brandnewyorker 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Are you looking for a love story or are you looking for a life story?
    🙏

  • @ajinubabu6528
    @ajinubabu6528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Done

  • @NaveDelAmor
    @NaveDelAmor 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What a wise young black man!

  • @unidosmexicanos5466
    @unidosmexicanos5466 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That is good if you are not meeting a narcissist, so informed profiles on healthy relationships are fundamental issues otherwise you will put yourself in the bbq

  • @heladds
    @heladds 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mr. Lewis...I've watched a whole lot of ur interviews...this by far is one of my favorite. You are an excellent interviewer...down to earth and keep things simple and ask all the right questions. Thank you for all you do.
    Wishing u a happy and great 2022

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome,thank you for being here 💜

  • @AndreaNicoleWatson
    @AndreaNicoleWatson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A master piece

  • @mahammadfarooque8359
    @mahammadfarooque8359 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good video