Feeling Unappreciated (but Know You’re Killin’ It?) Here’s What to Do about It

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  • @marieforleo
    @marieforleo  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Ready to kick that lack of appreciation to the curb? Use these quick links to catch the highlights:
    0:30 - Today’s Q from Nishala, who feels underappreciated by her team.
    2:00 - Why you probably don’t get any praise when you’re the boss.
    2:39 - The best move to make when you’re feeling ignored.
    3:36 - How a little bragging can really catch on.
    4:36 - How to stop being praise dependent.
    What’s next? Watch this playlist to overcome your internal self-doubt, so you don’t have to seek external validation: th-cam.com/play/PL10842720BBC66A6E.html

  • @thenativebrookie
    @thenativebrookie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    If you’re reading this. I appreciate you and you’re doing great ✨

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

    • @crpwifey2562
      @crpwifey2562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you 😊

    • @Mars-nm8ek
      @Mars-nm8ek 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You dont know me how could you

    • @litty_tt2227
      @litty_tt2227 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I appreciate this sm ❤❤

    • @mileyroe4877
      @mileyroe4877 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you, 🤗

  • @Nishchalab
    @Nishchalab 9 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Dear Marie,
    Thank you so much for answering my Q! What you said makes a ton of sense and has really helped me shift my perspective. The 'praise fairy' and 'praise posse' techniques sound fabulous, and I can't wait to test them out! I especially love the last bit in which you mention how you should not depend on external praise or validation, but rather focus on just being your own best. That really struck a chord with me- thank you for that lovely piece of advice, Marie!
    I'd also like to apologize- I sent you the Q in the heat of the moment and missed out on expressing just how grateful I am for all your help! In the other emails I've sent, I took the time to express everything, but this particular Q was written in a rush. Your work is incredible, and you've truly been an inspiration for me and millions across the world! I excitedly look forward to your weekly Q&A videos and updates; the passion with which you work is contagious and something I truly admire and hope to inculcate one day. Your videos and updates make my day! :)
    A huge thanks to you and your team again for all the pearls of wisdom. I don't know what I'd do without you!
    Until next time.
    Lots of love,
    Nishchala
    P.S. Haha! I was actually jumping up and down when I found out that you answered my Q- super excited! :) :) :)

    • @blakestocco
      @blakestocco 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nishchala Bhandari AYY ITS YOU!

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @mercurialpierrot7073
    @mercurialpierrot7073 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yeah, it's a real problem. I don't even feel like I need direct praise, but sometimes I help do something big like paint the office or get a website up...and co-workers just nitpick it and dismiss it like it's nothing or even subpar.
    I really don't need them to tell me that I've done a good job with a pat on the back, but they just don't seem to care about massive and meaningful changes that are being made to the business. I try to fight the sadness, but it's a real downer.

  • @EvanCarmichael
    @EvanCarmichael 9 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    We all appreciate you marieforleo - Keep up the great videos :)

  • @theprolificnetwork4670
    @theprolificnetwork4670 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I super praise and appreciate the one I love all the time and She hardly does the same. But she will always tell me about others she appreciates so much and she has been sick and I've been by her side as much as I can and barely get any energy from her. I'm starting to wonder if I'm even loved. I see her love and praise everyone else.

    • @theprolificnetwork4670
      @theprolificnetwork4670 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      4:00 I do this regularly and the previous of praising others. I don't know if these tips actually work. I do know at my job people love and praise and appreciate me all the time it's just my personal life where it seems to be missing. I deserve both. I wish I had someone like me in my lifeMatter fact the one I love reminds me of myself very much but i am not closed off person.

  • @Fancylooks
    @Fancylooks 9 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I do really appreciate all the knowledge you share, Marie, and you are sure, I don't often comment your videos, even though I watch all of them, because I thought you didn't take any care of it, but, just in case, I want to thank you for all your great and kind lessons because you are great... and you always look awesome!.

  • @vishnupriyavs4834
    @vishnupriyavs4834 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was also feeling so much under appreciated at work although it is part time and my employers always gives credit to someone who doesnt deserve it. This made my day.

  • @anjahelenfoerster
    @anjahelenfoerster 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh my God. Just today, I was talking to a friend of mine about exactly the same thing. And without having seen your video we decided to start a 21-day-bragging challenge from tomorrow. The universe was definitely in tune with us today.

  • @thinkyourreality1087
    @thinkyourreality1087 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're 100% right. It's so natural to see someone who is doing really well and think, "nah, they don't need to hear how well they're doing, their success is payment enough." But everyone needs it! It's hard to see how well you're doing when you're in a successful position because it's so easy to get caught up in what you're doing and not think about how well you're doing it. Everyone needs appreciation. Great topic :)

  • @vuanitahaslam3133
    @vuanitahaslam3133 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Stop doing stuff for ppl that's what I say until they start appreciate u and they stop taking u for granted

  • @NiamaLeslieJWilliams
    @NiamaLeslieJWilliams 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I appreciate my three best friends: Avis Squires, Aaron Lazar, and Melinda Wilson. They love me, support me, and build me up on a regular basis. My days would be absent sun without them!!!

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @ladybug4944
    @ladybug4944 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Don't look for appreciation. Be the appreciator. It's a much higher calling. :)

  • @brahmabkitty03
    @brahmabkitty03 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was feeling unappreciated some as I exited a meeting where workflow changed and my responsibilities stayed the same. I'm glad I watched this video bc you're right. Mine didn't change bc I'm good at what I do and maybe they need me to keep doing it to keep balance.

    • @aikaaa4673
      @aikaaa4673 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I needed this. Thank you for this, Tan! :)

  • @aradikas8811
    @aradikas8811 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Actually I do genuinely uplift and praise others, but i rarely get it back.

  • @HebattallahHosny
    @HebattallahHosny 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Be the gift that you want to receive" this sentence resonated with me the most. The bragging part is a nice habit to adapt but not being too dependent on external acknowledgment is very important. After watching this video, I decided to become a praise machine for myself and others but the praise must be HONEST & SINCERE :) Thanks, Marie :)

  • @cesarrice8604
    @cesarrice8604 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marie you are a great person. The world needs more people like you.
    Your advices always motivates me. I am your fan, greetings from Mexico City

  • @FortheLoveofOrganizing
    @FortheLoveofOrganizing 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Loved your thoughts on this topic, and just another example of your brilliance when you noted the opening of her email. That was an "aha" moment for sure! Can't wait to start spreading appreciation dust. :)

  • @cholenatv
    @cholenatv 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wonderful Answer! I appreciate my boss, my best friends, my parents and family, and my husband even more now xx

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @RealAlexaDanielle
    @RealAlexaDanielle 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “Be your own source of internal validation” yeessss

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @acroyogawithdao7416
    @acroyogawithdao7416 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Give what you want to get. good reminder, Marie.

  • @DrSuzanneDoyleMorrisinclusiq
    @DrSuzanneDoyleMorrisinclusiq 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    What an inspiration! Marie Forleo - your content is always worthwhile! Self-appreciation is definitely something we should ALL be doing more of! Thank you.

  • @nicolebutler3304
    @nicolebutler3304 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really appreciate you for sharing such valuable information. I love your advice. Very inspiring. I also appreciate my best friend, Sabrina Young for always being there for me and being my biggest cheerleader!

  • @JovankaCiaresHerbalist
    @JovankaCiaresHerbalist 9 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Great mantra: I am the source of self-validation! And love your romper, gfriend!

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @sarahclark4159
    @sarahclark4159 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video is the best truth bomb I’ve seen in awhile 💯

  • @amberswift1587
    @amberswift1587 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Greate advice, I'm feeling better. Thank you

  • @spiritualawakeningwithmoni3195
    @spiritualawakeningwithmoni3195 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    OMG! i love this video so much.I have been a very silent admirer of yours.And you nailed it...i thought you dont need my appreciation...You have so many others...But i simply love you. Sending you lots of love and light from India. Expecting to meet you some day somewhere...

  • @TorreySummer
    @TorreySummer 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Can we talk about your jumpsuit? Pretty much in love with every item of clothing you wear on this show!!! Love you!

  • @SunshineSurfsup1
    @SunshineSurfsup1 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I so needed to hear this. Thank you, Marie! People seem to fear me. I'll have to rethink the vibes I'm sending out.

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @a.k.1217
    @a.k.1217 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Okay so this is the first time I am seeing your vid, but I must say this is the kind of content I’ve been waiting for! Awesome job. You are so helpful and resourceful. Subscribing :)

  • @husky7985
    @husky7985 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great perspective!

  • @styleschooltv
    @styleschooltv 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really needed this today, thank you so much, you're amazing, as always!!! xo

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @ilanuga5475
    @ilanuga5475 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    i appreciate you marie forleo & team !

  • @ahmdnurbadawi7153
    @ahmdnurbadawi7153 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this does help me now and i do appreciate you for that, thank you ✨

  • @lindseyhebert5568
    @lindseyhebert5568 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m unappreciated by my family not wanting to take me places I am about to lose my great passion I’m afraid that the concert won’t come back again

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @lindseyhebert5568
    @lindseyhebert5568 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel so very unappreciated for how people used to like me they don’t accept for who I am #2 is part of it I try to be sweet #3 people are against me some maybe jealous of me even when i try to succeed in painting people are putting me back I used to be so talented and I am feeling unappreciated with my group that used to like me so much I feel like they don’t care as much lack of communication is going on

    • @marieforleo
      @marieforleo  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We're sorry people are treating you poorly and not accepting you for the beautiful person you are. We've got our fingers crossed you'll be able to connect with a supportive community and that things will get better soon.

  • @rac5205
    @rac5205 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this.

  • @SimpLeeBeth
    @SimpLeeBeth 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate YOU, Marie! ...and Josh's hilarious newscast in the wind. I've watched that thing 10+ times! 😂😂😂

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @chelsycostales
    @chelsycostales 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m late but today one of my more popular friend was very pokerfaced and unmotivated today three of my other friends quickly came up to her and comforted her but I walk away almost cry and eat lunch alone on the same day not one of those three friends came to me. I’m just worthless...

  • @ballerinaflat
    @ballerinaflat 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love your videos and also your clothes! Could you post your outfits in the description? :)

  • @anthonydias3205
    @anthonydias3205 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice you doing a good work

  • @treasuretroves5497
    @treasuretroves5497 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    That is such a brilliant idea! Smart Bragging!

  • @tierraherbert5454
    @tierraherbert5454 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I show appreciation all the time.. But still none for me😔

    • @yvonnetomlinmiller
      @yvonnetomlinmiller 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It can feel hard I have found practise helps and finding one thing you are really good at and just focus on this, why you are amazing at it etc, this will build your gratitude muscle in no time

  • @AmeyaBenare
    @AmeyaBenare 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Marie's video titles seems like astrology suggestions for me, but more precise!

  • @dianeosgood6594
    @dianeosgood6594 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marie, thanks for sharing great information. You are able to concisely give advice that can make a real difference in a person's life and work. Especially learning to be you own source of internal validation.

  • @sm90M
    @sm90M 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You say you don't want to give praise to get it back but then be the gift that you want to receive. Isn't the idea of wanting it back still in there? How do we get rid of that need?

  • @pamelathompson7544
    @pamelathompson7544 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love, Love, & Love your channel. Keep up the great work.

  • @KatieJEvans
    @KatieJEvans 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I rarely praise my boss because I worry that she’ll think I’m just kissing up. (Hopefully this is helpful for anyone in the same situation.)

  • @makermusik
    @makermusik 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just love the way you communicate your messages!

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @tamarasmith1706
    @tamarasmith1706 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I appreciate for more than three people. I don't want to pick three out of that number

  • @EdinaSzabo
    @EdinaSzabo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi Marie, I love your jumpsuit! Where is it from?

  • @Rubyisgrowing
    @Rubyisgrowing 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video as always Marie! I think this is great advice and I'm so glad I watched. At the end when you said that being too dependent on other peoples validation can be a problem and that you should practice internal validation- how do I do that? I care WAY too much about what other people think- is there another video on this?

  • @linauniversum
    @linauniversum 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Marie! This episode came right on time for me :) Grateful that I found you and the wonderful resources you provide - I appreciate your positivity, energy, deep insight and ability to communicate it with so many of us in an inspiring and loving way :) You rock! :)

  • @PathoftheGoldenMonkey
    @PathoftheGoldenMonkey 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That jumpsuit is fantastic though...you look fabulous gurrrrl😎

    • @PathoftheGoldenMonkey
      @PathoftheGoldenMonkey 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I appreciate my best friend D cuz she totally motivates me when I am feeling down, I appreciate my wonderful friend A, as she proves to me that no matter how long we have been apart, that we are always friends, and I appreciate my best friend Y, because his support is always there. Thanks Marie, you incredible human being for constantly inspiring me since I have discovered you😊🙌🙏

  • @amandaeh5972
    @amandaeh5972 9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You're jumpsuit is super gorg!

  • @RosyRiveroyourfreetime
    @RosyRiveroyourfreetime 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I recently found your site and the amazing work you do. You're beautiful, creative and generous. Looking forward to participate in your B-School sometime in the future. Thank you!

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @artbyedna9210
    @artbyedna9210 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, Marie! I love your advice! It helped me too. I just went through a similar situation where I did not get praised for doing my job for over 10 years. I will put your suggestions to work.
    Thank you again. xoxo

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @ronabrookemoore
    @ronabrookemoore 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    l just love your advice!

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @jiselaslife1800
    @jiselaslife1800 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good points and great advice!!! 😁

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @TorreySummer
    @TorreySummer 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a well of depth and wisdom and love and service you are :)

  • @mssunshine8024
    @mssunshine8024 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Where did u buy your jumpsuit? Beautiful

  • @KylieWoolen
    @KylieWoolen 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    thanks for another book recommendation.

  • @lovedishaa
    @lovedishaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved it 😭

  • @zzzcocopepe
    @zzzcocopepe ปีที่แล้ว

    It's not that the big cheese gets little praise. It said the big cheese gets constantly attacked. Because everyone wants to be the big cheese. So they're trying to take down the big cheese.

  • @teamtapp5798
    @teamtapp5798 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    that jumpsuit is a good look though fleeky

  • @Joseph444G
    @Joseph444G 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    GOD BLESS YOU...🙂🙏🔥

  • @JaKamps
    @JaKamps 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I support & promote the 5 Love Languages, as do I Marie Forleo.

  • @Jaybird196
    @Jaybird196 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marie, is there anything I can do when things seem/feel pointless? Thanks.

  • @OlavoLuisatto
    @OlavoLuisatto 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marie Forleo!! "Almost Imortal" I'm your fan. Brazilian National Flag. Love you Marie. Xo

  • @AparnaBL
    @AparnaBL 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    marie your advice is amazing and you hair is beautiful. mom, chetana and bindu

  • @Calvotribe
    @Calvotribe 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sounds like my life as a mom and wife. I guess I'm the boss of the house and I must be awesome! lol ;)

    • @vee5506
      @vee5506 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm really moved by your comment. I should praise my mom more often. Thank you

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @chrissimpson6701
    @chrissimpson6701 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    My Mother doesn't appreciate me for taking care of her.

  • @beckynetley5259
    @beckynetley5259 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such a great advice in these videos! Thank you!

  • @melaniedebernardis4349
    @melaniedebernardis4349 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this jumpsuit tho!!!

  • @DjDiLaRa
    @DjDiLaRa 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I already do these, I am awesommee or what :DD

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @NoName-mm6gh
    @NoName-mm6gh 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    intro song please

  • @earthlingreggie3986
    @earthlingreggie3986 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    oh Marie, you make me smile... :) great advice #asperusual

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @leagillact-o-graphy1690
    @leagillact-o-graphy1690 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Marie Forleo Marie Forleo Pls read my comments below where tagging you didn't really work out so well.. 😜??

    • @KaVi2023
      @KaVi2023 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @theninetofivecure on insta 🙌🏻

  • @darrenmcdonald5373
    @darrenmcdonald5373 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hove never felt love,I am 8 years oald

  • @lovelife02
    @lovelife02 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    So true

  • @ML-yr9nr
    @ML-yr9nr 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Regina Thomasheur! Whoo #schoolofthewomanlyarts #pleasure

  • @deepthisiromani2007
    @deepthisiromani2007 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    ♥️💯

  • @BeyondtheSafeHarbor
    @BeyondtheSafeHarbor 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Incredible video, Marie Forleo ! I recently wrote a blog post about the need to be your own champion (katelauren.ca/life-lesson-champion/) but this video took it a step further in sharing additional tips for how to pump yourself up. You are appreciated! :)

  • @EvaGreenFanPennyDreadful
    @EvaGreenFanPennyDreadful 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    "If you feel under-appreciated, free your nipple!!!" - feminism
    LMAO.