Ready to kick that lack of appreciation to the curb? Use these quick links to catch the highlights: 0:30 - Today’s Q from Nishala, who feels underappreciated by her team. 2:00 - Why you probably don’t get any praise when you’re the boss. 2:39 - The best move to make when you’re feeling ignored. 3:36 - How a little bragging can really catch on. 4:36 - How to stop being praise dependent. What’s next? Watch this playlist to overcome your internal self-doubt, so you don’t have to seek external validation: th-cam.com/play/PL10842720BBC66A6E.html
Dear Marie, Thank you so much for answering my Q! What you said makes a ton of sense and has really helped me shift my perspective. The 'praise fairy' and 'praise posse' techniques sound fabulous, and I can't wait to test them out! I especially love the last bit in which you mention how you should not depend on external praise or validation, but rather focus on just being your own best. That really struck a chord with me- thank you for that lovely piece of advice, Marie! I'd also like to apologize- I sent you the Q in the heat of the moment and missed out on expressing just how grateful I am for all your help! In the other emails I've sent, I took the time to express everything, but this particular Q was written in a rush. Your work is incredible, and you've truly been an inspiration for me and millions across the world! I excitedly look forward to your weekly Q&A videos and updates; the passion with which you work is contagious and something I truly admire and hope to inculcate one day. Your videos and updates make my day! :) A huge thanks to you and your team again for all the pearls of wisdom. I don't know what I'd do without you! Until next time. Lots of love, Nishchala P.S. Haha! I was actually jumping up and down when I found out that you answered my Q- super excited! :) :) :)
Yeah, it's a real problem. I don't even feel like I need direct praise, but sometimes I help do something big like paint the office or get a website up...and co-workers just nitpick it and dismiss it like it's nothing or even subpar. I really don't need them to tell me that I've done a good job with a pat on the back, but they just don't seem to care about massive and meaningful changes that are being made to the business. I try to fight the sadness, but it's a real downer.
I super praise and appreciate the one I love all the time and She hardly does the same. But she will always tell me about others she appreciates so much and she has been sick and I've been by her side as much as I can and barely get any energy from her. I'm starting to wonder if I'm even loved. I see her love and praise everyone else.
4:00 I do this regularly and the previous of praising others. I don't know if these tips actually work. I do know at my job people love and praise and appreciate me all the time it's just my personal life where it seems to be missing. I deserve both. I wish I had someone like me in my lifeMatter fact the one I love reminds me of myself very much but i am not closed off person.
I do really appreciate all the knowledge you share, Marie, and you are sure, I don't often comment your videos, even though I watch all of them, because I thought you didn't take any care of it, but, just in case, I want to thank you for all your great and kind lessons because you are great... and you always look awesome!.
I was also feeling so much under appreciated at work although it is part time and my employers always gives credit to someone who doesnt deserve it. This made my day.
Oh my God. Just today, I was talking to a friend of mine about exactly the same thing. And without having seen your video we decided to start a 21-day-bragging challenge from tomorrow. The universe was definitely in tune with us today.
You're 100% right. It's so natural to see someone who is doing really well and think, "nah, they don't need to hear how well they're doing, their success is payment enough." But everyone needs it! It's hard to see how well you're doing when you're in a successful position because it's so easy to get caught up in what you're doing and not think about how well you're doing it. Everyone needs appreciation. Great topic :)
I appreciate my three best friends: Avis Squires, Aaron Lazar, and Melinda Wilson. They love me, support me, and build me up on a regular basis. My days would be absent sun without them!!!
I was feeling unappreciated some as I exited a meeting where workflow changed and my responsibilities stayed the same. I'm glad I watched this video bc you're right. Mine didn't change bc I'm good at what I do and maybe they need me to keep doing it to keep balance.
"Be the gift that you want to receive" this sentence resonated with me the most. The bragging part is a nice habit to adapt but not being too dependent on external acknowledgment is very important. After watching this video, I decided to become a praise machine for myself and others but the praise must be HONEST & SINCERE :) Thanks, Marie :)
Loved your thoughts on this topic, and just another example of your brilliance when you noted the opening of her email. That was an "aha" moment for sure! Can't wait to start spreading appreciation dust. :)
What an inspiration! Marie Forleo - your content is always worthwhile! Self-appreciation is definitely something we should ALL be doing more of! Thank you.
I really appreciate you for sharing such valuable information. I love your advice. Very inspiring. I also appreciate my best friend, Sabrina Young for always being there for me and being my biggest cheerleader!
OMG! i love this video so much.I have been a very silent admirer of yours.And you nailed it...i thought you dont need my appreciation...You have so many others...But i simply love you. Sending you lots of love and light from India. Expecting to meet you some day somewhere...
Okay so this is the first time I am seeing your vid, but I must say this is the kind of content I’ve been waiting for! Awesome job. You are so helpful and resourceful. Subscribing :)
I feel so very unappreciated for how people used to like me they don’t accept for who I am #2 is part of it I try to be sweet #3 people are against me some maybe jealous of me even when i try to succeed in painting people are putting me back I used to be so talented and I am feeling unappreciated with my group that used to like me so much I feel like they don’t care as much lack of communication is going on
We're sorry people are treating you poorly and not accepting you for the beautiful person you are. We've got our fingers crossed you'll be able to connect with a supportive community and that things will get better soon.
I’m late but today one of my more popular friend was very pokerfaced and unmotivated today three of my other friends quickly came up to her and comforted her but I walk away almost cry and eat lunch alone on the same day not one of those three friends came to me. I’m just worthless...
It can feel hard I have found practise helps and finding one thing you are really good at and just focus on this, why you are amazing at it etc, this will build your gratitude muscle in no time
Marie, thanks for sharing great information. You are able to concisely give advice that can make a real difference in a person's life and work. Especially learning to be you own source of internal validation.
You say you don't want to give praise to get it back but then be the gift that you want to receive. Isn't the idea of wanting it back still in there? How do we get rid of that need?
Great video as always Marie! I think this is great advice and I'm so glad I watched. At the end when you said that being too dependent on other peoples validation can be a problem and that you should practice internal validation- how do I do that? I care WAY too much about what other people think- is there another video on this?
Thank you Marie! This episode came right on time for me :) Grateful that I found you and the wonderful resources you provide - I appreciate your positivity, energy, deep insight and ability to communicate it with so many of us in an inspiring and loving way :) You rock! :)
I appreciate my best friend D cuz she totally motivates me when I am feeling down, I appreciate my wonderful friend A, as she proves to me that no matter how long we have been apart, that we are always friends, and I appreciate my best friend Y, because his support is always there. Thanks Marie, you incredible human being for constantly inspiring me since I have discovered you😊🙌🙏
I recently found your site and the amazing work you do. You're beautiful, creative and generous. Looking forward to participate in your B-School sometime in the future. Thank you!
Thank you, Marie! I love your advice! It helped me too. I just went through a similar situation where I did not get praised for doing my job for over 10 years. I will put your suggestions to work. Thank you again. xoxo
It's not that the big cheese gets little praise. It said the big cheese gets constantly attacked. Because everyone wants to be the big cheese. So they're trying to take down the big cheese.
Incredible video, Marie Forleo ! I recently wrote a blog post about the need to be your own champion (katelauren.ca/life-lesson-champion/) but this video took it a step further in sharing additional tips for how to pump yourself up. You are appreciated! :)
Ready to kick that lack of appreciation to the curb? Use these quick links to catch the highlights:
0:30 - Today’s Q from Nishala, who feels underappreciated by her team.
2:00 - Why you probably don’t get any praise when you’re the boss.
2:39 - The best move to make when you’re feeling ignored.
3:36 - How a little bragging can really catch on.
4:36 - How to stop being praise dependent.
What’s next? Watch this playlist to overcome your internal self-doubt, so you don’t have to seek external validation: th-cam.com/play/PL10842720BBC66A6E.html
If you’re reading this. I appreciate you and you’re doing great ✨
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Thank you 😊
You dont know me how could you
I appreciate this sm ❤❤
Thank you, 🤗
Dear Marie,
Thank you so much for answering my Q! What you said makes a ton of sense and has really helped me shift my perspective. The 'praise fairy' and 'praise posse' techniques sound fabulous, and I can't wait to test them out! I especially love the last bit in which you mention how you should not depend on external praise or validation, but rather focus on just being your own best. That really struck a chord with me- thank you for that lovely piece of advice, Marie!
I'd also like to apologize- I sent you the Q in the heat of the moment and missed out on expressing just how grateful I am for all your help! In the other emails I've sent, I took the time to express everything, but this particular Q was written in a rush. Your work is incredible, and you've truly been an inspiration for me and millions across the world! I excitedly look forward to your weekly Q&A videos and updates; the passion with which you work is contagious and something I truly admire and hope to inculcate one day. Your videos and updates make my day! :)
A huge thanks to you and your team again for all the pearls of wisdom. I don't know what I'd do without you!
Until next time.
Lots of love,
Nishchala
P.S. Haha! I was actually jumping up and down when I found out that you answered my Q- super excited! :) :) :)
Nishchala Bhandari AYY ITS YOU!
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Yeah, it's a real problem. I don't even feel like I need direct praise, but sometimes I help do something big like paint the office or get a website up...and co-workers just nitpick it and dismiss it like it's nothing or even subpar.
I really don't need them to tell me that I've done a good job with a pat on the back, but they just don't seem to care about massive and meaningful changes that are being made to the business. I try to fight the sadness, but it's a real downer.
We all appreciate you marieforleo - Keep up the great videos :)
❤ 💯 ❤
I super praise and appreciate the one I love all the time and She hardly does the same. But she will always tell me about others she appreciates so much and she has been sick and I've been by her side as much as I can and barely get any energy from her. I'm starting to wonder if I'm even loved. I see her love and praise everyone else.
4:00 I do this regularly and the previous of praising others. I don't know if these tips actually work. I do know at my job people love and praise and appreciate me all the time it's just my personal life where it seems to be missing. I deserve both. I wish I had someone like me in my lifeMatter fact the one I love reminds me of myself very much but i am not closed off person.
I do really appreciate all the knowledge you share, Marie, and you are sure, I don't often comment your videos, even though I watch all of them, because I thought you didn't take any care of it, but, just in case, I want to thank you for all your great and kind lessons because you are great... and you always look awesome!.
I was also feeling so much under appreciated at work although it is part time and my employers always gives credit to someone who doesnt deserve it. This made my day.
Oh my God. Just today, I was talking to a friend of mine about exactly the same thing. And without having seen your video we decided to start a 21-day-bragging challenge from tomorrow. The universe was definitely in tune with us today.
You're 100% right. It's so natural to see someone who is doing really well and think, "nah, they don't need to hear how well they're doing, their success is payment enough." But everyone needs it! It's hard to see how well you're doing when you're in a successful position because it's so easy to get caught up in what you're doing and not think about how well you're doing it. Everyone needs appreciation. Great topic :)
Stop doing stuff for ppl that's what I say until they start appreciate u and they stop taking u for granted
I appreciate my three best friends: Avis Squires, Aaron Lazar, and Melinda Wilson. They love me, support me, and build me up on a regular basis. My days would be absent sun without them!!!
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Don't look for appreciation. Be the appreciator. It's a much higher calling. :)
I was feeling unappreciated some as I exited a meeting where workflow changed and my responsibilities stayed the same. I'm glad I watched this video bc you're right. Mine didn't change bc I'm good at what I do and maybe they need me to keep doing it to keep balance.
I needed this. Thank you for this, Tan! :)
Actually I do genuinely uplift and praise others, but i rarely get it back.
"Be the gift that you want to receive" this sentence resonated with me the most. The bragging part is a nice habit to adapt but not being too dependent on external acknowledgment is very important. After watching this video, I decided to become a praise machine for myself and others but the praise must be HONEST & SINCERE :) Thanks, Marie :)
Marie you are a great person. The world needs more people like you.
Your advices always motivates me. I am your fan, greetings from Mexico City
Loved your thoughts on this topic, and just another example of your brilliance when you noted the opening of her email. That was an "aha" moment for sure! Can't wait to start spreading appreciation dust. :)
Wonderful Answer! I appreciate my boss, my best friends, my parents and family, and my husband even more now xx
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“Be your own source of internal validation” yeessss
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Give what you want to get. good reminder, Marie.
What an inspiration! Marie Forleo - your content is always worthwhile! Self-appreciation is definitely something we should ALL be doing more of! Thank you.
I really appreciate you for sharing such valuable information. I love your advice. Very inspiring. I also appreciate my best friend, Sabrina Young for always being there for me and being my biggest cheerleader!
Great mantra: I am the source of self-validation! And love your romper, gfriend!
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This video is the best truth bomb I’ve seen in awhile 💯
Greate advice, I'm feeling better. Thank you
OMG! i love this video so much.I have been a very silent admirer of yours.And you nailed it...i thought you dont need my appreciation...You have so many others...But i simply love you. Sending you lots of love and light from India. Expecting to meet you some day somewhere...
Can we talk about your jumpsuit? Pretty much in love with every item of clothing you wear on this show!!! Love you!
I so needed to hear this. Thank you, Marie! People seem to fear me. I'll have to rethink the vibes I'm sending out.
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Okay so this is the first time I am seeing your vid, but I must say this is the kind of content I’ve been waiting for! Awesome job. You are so helpful and resourceful. Subscribing :)
Great perspective!
I really needed this today, thank you so much, you're amazing, as always!!! xo
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i appreciate you marie forleo & team !
this does help me now and i do appreciate you for that, thank you ✨
I’m unappreciated by my family not wanting to take me places I am about to lose my great passion I’m afraid that the concert won’t come back again
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I feel so very unappreciated for how people used to like me they don’t accept for who I am #2 is part of it I try to be sweet #3 people are against me some maybe jealous of me even when i try to succeed in painting people are putting me back I used to be so talented and I am feeling unappreciated with my group that used to like me so much I feel like they don’t care as much lack of communication is going on
We're sorry people are treating you poorly and not accepting you for the beautiful person you are. We've got our fingers crossed you'll be able to connect with a supportive community and that things will get better soon.
Thank you for this.
I appreciate YOU, Marie! ...and Josh's hilarious newscast in the wind. I've watched that thing 10+ times! 😂😂😂
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I’m late but today one of my more popular friend was very pokerfaced and unmotivated today three of my other friends quickly came up to her and comforted her but I walk away almost cry and eat lunch alone on the same day not one of those three friends came to me. I’m just worthless...
I love your videos and also your clothes! Could you post your outfits in the description? :)
Nice you doing a good work
That is such a brilliant idea! Smart Bragging!
I show appreciation all the time.. But still none for me😔
It can feel hard I have found practise helps and finding one thing you are really good at and just focus on this, why you are amazing at it etc, this will build your gratitude muscle in no time
Marie's video titles seems like astrology suggestions for me, but more precise!
Marie, thanks for sharing great information. You are able to concisely give advice that can make a real difference in a person's life and work. Especially learning to be you own source of internal validation.
You say you don't want to give praise to get it back but then be the gift that you want to receive. Isn't the idea of wanting it back still in there? How do we get rid of that need?
Love, Love, & Love your channel. Keep up the great work.
I rarely praise my boss because I worry that she’ll think I’m just kissing up. (Hopefully this is helpful for anyone in the same situation.)
I just love the way you communicate your messages!
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I appreciate for more than three people. I don't want to pick three out of that number
Hi Marie, I love your jumpsuit! Where is it from?
Great video as always Marie! I think this is great advice and I'm so glad I watched. At the end when you said that being too dependent on other peoples validation can be a problem and that you should practice internal validation- how do I do that? I care WAY too much about what other people think- is there another video on this?
Thank you Marie! This episode came right on time for me :) Grateful that I found you and the wonderful resources you provide - I appreciate your positivity, energy, deep insight and ability to communicate it with so many of us in an inspiring and loving way :) You rock! :)
That jumpsuit is fantastic though...you look fabulous gurrrrl😎
I appreciate my best friend D cuz she totally motivates me when I am feeling down, I appreciate my wonderful friend A, as she proves to me that no matter how long we have been apart, that we are always friends, and I appreciate my best friend Y, because his support is always there. Thanks Marie, you incredible human being for constantly inspiring me since I have discovered you😊🙌🙏
You're jumpsuit is super gorg!
I recently found your site and the amazing work you do. You're beautiful, creative and generous. Looking forward to participate in your B-School sometime in the future. Thank you!
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Thank you, Marie! I love your advice! It helped me too. I just went through a similar situation where I did not get praised for doing my job for over 10 years. I will put your suggestions to work.
Thank you again. xoxo
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l just love your advice!
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Good points and great advice!!! 😁
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Such a well of depth and wisdom and love and service you are :)
Where did u buy your jumpsuit? Beautiful
thanks for another book recommendation.
I loved it 😭
It's not that the big cheese gets little praise. It said the big cheese gets constantly attacked. Because everyone wants to be the big cheese. So they're trying to take down the big cheese.
that jumpsuit is a good look though fleeky
GOD BLESS YOU...🙂🙏🔥
I support & promote the 5 Love Languages, as do I Marie Forleo.
Marie, is there anything I can do when things seem/feel pointless? Thanks.
Marie Forleo!! "Almost Imortal" I'm your fan. Brazilian National Flag. Love you Marie. Xo
marie your advice is amazing and you hair is beautiful. mom, chetana and bindu
Sounds like my life as a mom and wife. I guess I'm the boss of the house and I must be awesome! lol ;)
I'm really moved by your comment. I should praise my mom more often. Thank you
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My Mother doesn't appreciate me for taking care of her.
Such a great advice in these videos! Thank you!
this jumpsuit tho!!!
I already do these, I am awesommee or what :DD
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intro song please
oh Marie, you make me smile... :) great advice #asperusual
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Marie Forleo Marie Forleo Pls read my comments below where tagging you didn't really work out so well.. 😜??
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I hove never felt love,I am 8 years oald
So true
Regina Thomasheur! Whoo #schoolofthewomanlyarts #pleasure
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Incredible video, Marie Forleo ! I recently wrote a blog post about the need to be your own champion (katelauren.ca/life-lesson-champion/) but this video took it a step further in sharing additional tips for how to pump yourself up. You are appreciated! :)
"If you feel under-appreciated, free your nipple!!!" - feminism
LMAO.