"getting into relationships with ppl who should have never gotten passed hello." that really hit me. how many times I've dealt with a person, who I was sure was not the one, and I got burned in the end. i'd rather wait and be single than settle on one of satan's sons lol. been there, done that. ugly ending. lesson learned.
I'm so glad you mentioned the friend that went online because the holy spirit told her to. I went on a christian dating site and the holy spirit told me quickly to delete that profile 😂. Everyone's story is different, the only formula is being able to hear the holy spirit's leading.
Bea H. Amen!!! I went online and my profile was mysteriously deleted 😂 I tried to recover it but didn't get anywhere, I think God was protecting me from something or someone (because He knows how I can get 🙈). But I totally agree with you, being in tune with the Holy Spirit in the only formula!
Exactly the same thing happend to me too Bea, I created a profile for online dating, it was for a Christian site and my profile was not accepted and they wanted me to give further explanations or sent in a complaint or something and it was like the HS told me Honey, let it go, this is not for you and I left it. I understood very clearly that this was not the path HS wanted me to take and I did not and I am so happy that I choose to walk in obedience rather. Glad to be reading simular experience across the globe :)
Confirmation that God has better. It's hard to remain patient at times, but I do desire His best and will continue to pray that God prepares and positions me. :-)
Stephanie Cole sister you are so right all glory to God that he will order our steps no matter what and put a good man in each of our lives,A godly man who will pray and show God reverence with you
Thank you so much. CONFIRMATION!!!! "Do not awaken love before it's time...." I think I will play this video for every friend that says, "You need a man...." Most are not believes, so when I get into, "We are not equally yoked...," they look at me like I have 2-heads. I am not picky. I just know what God has for me is the BEST.
shestudios I have a question? Do you think everybody is meant to be married or have children? What if you don't find your "perfect" husband? Would you feel less than? Or not worthy? I don't believe the most high wants "everybody" to be married and start a family. Some people praise being married and starting a family but is unhappy.
You read between the lines!!! LMBO... I agree with you 100%. I love the way Heather put it, "You gonna have to work out your salvation with the one you with, if you jumped into it." All I can say is I am satisfied, and don't feel I am missing out on anything. So, if there is no "Bae" for me in the future, I am good.
Bea H. Your blog was very interesting, and it gave me answers to my question and a new insight on being single. I agreed with this part whatever you desire (that it is not contrary to God’s word) can be yours. I say “can” because our choices can definitely get in the way of our blessings. Marriage is a holy, purposeful calling that takes a lot of selflessness. It is not just a soulish desire or means for physical gratification.
shestudios I was wondering I feel marriage and children is being shoved around like it is the way of life for every one. I am happy that you are content with yourself, my comment was a question for myself more so than for you.
I had to listen to this message twice! I'm 20 and people are constantly throwing comments about I need a boyfriend like what that's ignorant I need Jesus child please. Yet these adults have childish mentalities!
Excellence Baby you're young God will ordain your relationship when it's time too,until then be patient and live for Jesus!! Stay blessed and I love you 🕊
I'm 21. I can tell you from experience to stay focused. Don't ever rush a relationship. Continue to be satisfied with yourself. God will move on your behalf when it is the right time. 😌🙏🏾
Thank you for this word Heather! I’m 32 and single, and most of my friends are married and expecting children; sometimes the realization just hits me out of nowhere which builds anxiety and worry..but hearing this puts it all back into perspective and really trusting God’s leading while I am living in the here and now
Yes, I was thankfully freed from a horrible relationship. I was settling because when I met him, he was very knowledgable about christianity, and I believed that God brought us together. But praise the Lord, my relationship with Jesus became more intimate, and I learned, from many mistakes of us breaking up, getting back together, etc, that it was not his will and that it should have never went pass a hello. The relationship would have led me to the path of destruction. I can truly say that I'm done with the relationship, and I'm freed by the blood of Jesus! Sisters, pray against any soul ties that have been created by these unequally yoked relationships. They have no place in our heart and spirit and neither does hate or unforgiveness towards exes The Lord delivered me and it was his patience and love that got me through it all! Keep your eyes on the Lord, seek the kingdom, and all things shall be added unto you in Jesus name! God Bless
Thank you for this word! It's crazy but as I was reading I felt as though you were describing my exact experience dating this past year. Praise the Lord he delivered me from a man who would have only led me to my downfall. The Lord knows the contents of mans heart, his desires and intentions, and whether those are good or bad. The breakup hurt but it was for my protection that God removed him from my life.
@@xoNilushi the break up was definitely on my end. He would try to contact me every now and then, saying he changed, I would politely decline and he went back to emotional abuse. He was blocked and finally stopped contacting me.
What if you have no desire for a relationship with anyone, but All my friends want to pray for a relationship and a desire for that. Ive been in disagreements because they say "its not meant for man to be alone". Why is my singleness an issue, I have no idea.
The verse Jeremiah 29:11 has given to me 4 times with two days ..the first time was directly and the other three subliminally including in this video ..thanks Heather❤️
Thankful eternally for breaking my engagement. This the exact reason why I have been single for the last (almost) five years. No settling. Every time I like about it God reminds of what it was like to "drag that ox".
Hello, I have settled previously and I also have two children by two different men..... I was doing everything on my own which led me to nothing but destruction... but I am still faithful because God truly has my husband and he is will and wanting to love me and my children as his own
ruth thomassaint Thank you for your message, I am in the same situation except I am dating my second child's father and I don't think he is the one. Smh I feel ashamed sometimes that allowed myself, yet again, to end up having a child out of wedlock 😩
Hey Toni, I just want to encourage you, I don't think you should feel ashamed, instead rather be thankful to God for stirring in your heart and making you realise that he is not the one. I too have a kid out of wedlock, she is turning 10 today :) but I believe when the time is right, God will send me someone who's heart is conditioned to accept my daughter as his own. To me that is non-negotiable and that is where I draw the line in the sand. Yes he should have all those other Godly factors too and I will patiently wait. I will pray for you that God will give you the strength and the wisdom to make the right decision for you and your kids and that God will fulfill His purpose in your life. Blessings xo
ruth thomassaint You are not Alone! ☺ Both my daughters dads have the same demons. After I left the last one I surrendered to God. Now I live my life for Christ. So much peace and joy. No more sin. I love the scripture in Isaiah 43:18 "Remember not the former things, neither consider things of old"... we are new creatures in Christ and will move forward whole and wiser. I want a husband one day but for now I'm just enjoying my new life in Christ.
Amen😇! I agree and NEVER settling when it comes to spending the rest of my life with someone!!!! Even at 41, I KNOW my God has the best husband for me and I am completely ok until that beautiful day come🙌🏾🙏🏽🎉💍!!!
Hey, sister! I hope you’re doing good by now, though I am 3 years late on this comment. Sometimes, being overlooked is God’s protection! Better to not be noticed by someone who isn’t His will for you anyways. In the process of being single, you get to fall more in love with God, with yourself, know yourself, and walk in your purpose. When marriage comes, your one-on-one time with God will become a bit more restrained because now, there’s a unison with someone else. Better to take advantage now! I feel like that’s what God is working in you now so that when you’re ready, the relationship equation would be 1+1=2! It’s going to be a process, but beautiful and worth it ♥️
Heather, first off I just want to say that you are such a blessing in my life. Since I walked away from my last relationship- which was with one of Satan's sons- LOL ( and its not really funny but I like the way you put it) my life has changed around 360. I am fearlessly pursuing Christ, totally inlove with God and I can see God moving and speaking into my life daily. Your guidance on relationships and just you sharing who we are in Christ have made it soooo easy for me to say NO to men. Some church brother even told me my standards are too high LOL, can you believe that and he called himself a great man of God but he wanted to put his dirty paws all over me ( I discerned him in the spirit and he was after some....and today he is not in my life anylonger) and I said to him I ain't having non of that whatsoever. So "NO" to dating, no to hanging out, no to kissing. NO to men wasting my time because now it is alot easier for me to discern people's spirits since I learned to fully rely on what the HS is telling me about people. I now know my place in Christ, I understand my identity, but I came to this understanding by diligently sitting with the Lord, spending time in His presence and hearing from Him. WOW, I know I am writing alot but I just needed to share. I am happily single now, yes offcourse I would love to have a Godly husband but I am focused on Christ and my relationship with Him and that makes me so happy. In my moments of loneliness as they do crop up from time to time, I focus on God's love for me and I dive into Scripture. Thank you Woman of God for speaking the truth in love, for speaking the truth as it is. I love how you share Biblical truth and not your personal opinion. You are such a blessing to me and I love you. I pray that I will meet you in person soon. Blessings Wendy Elizabeth xo
God bless you for this, I've really been struggling lately especially since all of my close girlfriends are now married/engaged, I turn 30 next year and I'm not where I thought I would be but I know I'm where God wants me to be. I'm not gonna lie, sometimes I struggle with the comparison game but I know that I need to wait on God's timing, so thank you for this encouragement, I refuse to settle!! Instead I'll wait on God's best and be obedient to His will. Thank you Heather xx p.s I love how Logan was determined to feature in this video 😂😁
I love this video because you kept it going and stayed the course of what you had to say with Little Logan in the background, this is so cute because u didn't allow your son to distract u from what you're saying and it just shows how u can juggle kids and be patient with them while doing what God says to do, the little noises and bouncy head goes great with the message and background, this is sooooo adorable, congrats
I settled and the only good that came out of it was my son...yer there are still consequences I must still deal with because the relationship was not of God. Thank the Lord for grace and mercy.
Heather, yesterday when you posted this, it was my birthday, and I've been struggling with this topic the whole year until God finally took the guy away before I made a big mistake. God is so faithful, this video is the cherry on top of the cake, it's like he's reassuring me to trust him in everything he is doing. It has been so hard for me to let go, but its not impossible and I know that guy wasn't God's best for me, so I thank God for intervening on my behalf because he loves even if I was being disobedient! I encourage everyone to wait on the Lord, God bless you!
This video was so on time. I am so guilty of being this kind of person and of running to these things, and instead of running to God I run from him.This is so perfect! Can you do a video on being single and figuring out how to discover yourself, how to get to know your interests, passions, etc.? Also, off topic but can you do a workout video showing us women how to be fit and healthy? Different ways to eat? How to eat healthy?
Great video and message! Its so true some men you meet never should have made it past hello. It will save a lot of time and heartache if many would just take their time, and not settle.
Hi Heather! I follow you on Facebook, too:) I just wanted to leave you a message and say that I am so thankful and grateful to the Lord for encouraging you to speak to us singles. My friend and I were recently talking about how we feel out of place in our churches because we don't feel like there is support for us as singles when it comes to being able to ask questions about struggles we are having with understanding how to be single and Christian and also questions about abstinence, etc. We just don't feel that there is a space for open dialogue about these issues at our churches. As for myself, I've found it really hard to get genuine answers to those questions from married people in my church who don't seem to be able to relate. Thank you for always being so honest about your history and struggles when you were single. I find myself laughing out loud and nodding my head because I have had the same issues. Your openness and honesty have helped me a great deal.
this is the message I have been waiting for, I find myself trying to look for a partner in every guy I come across. ofcotse getting hooked up with someone would not be hard for me, but I realized that I want more if God's plan for my life. I only pray for the grace to take my eyes of all of these distractions and focus on His plans for me because there's such a strong urge to settle. Thank you Mam for being a channel of God's voice to His daughters
I thank God for your ministry and your obedience way back when He called you to do what you do today. I have learned so much over the past year from the YT videos to FB updates and blog posts. May God bless and your family abundantly.
God'a timing is PERFECT, for He is perfect! But we cannot just settle down and chill while we wait! We must seek God's presence daily and constantly, not only to be ready for marriage, but to also make God the most important thing/person in your life and so that you can walk with Him and do it will all of your heart! Stay Blessed, guys!!! xx💗💗
Like this video came literally mininutes after my cousin and were talking about no settling and woukd rather wait longer and trusting that God can reason with us and we will be happy with his choice.. Talking about confirmation and timming. Feels good when it feels like God hears you. Cause i sure have been praying about it as well.
I KNOW the Lord had me watch this! Thank you Sis. Heather for confirming what God has been saying to me. Don't settle. Period. Aaah, there is so much I could say. I am friends with someone who was interested in me. I like him as a friend, I really do. Lately, the Lord has been saying to me (and been saying through a friend), if you really don't feel this is the person, back up, even in friendship things. I have been only partially obedient (which is disobedient) still inviting him to some things maybe I shouldn't have, bc I enjoy his company. I don't feel he is my husband, and don't want to string him along. Lately I've been more sensitive about things he says or wants to do or not do with me. Consequence. I'm stepping back now. I believe he feels it to and is stepping back. I need to let the distance happen. Praise God for His word and His servants! To God be the glory!
Heather: This is so needed. Thank you for sharing this. Time and time again, I've found myself settling with people that I know was not God's best. I even find myself, as you mentioned, looking at every guy that walks by and thinking to myself is he my husband (so embarrassing to confess, but confession is the path to healing). Anyway, thank you for sharing what God placed on your heart about the waiting period for when God is preparing you for a mate. In Christ, Sierra
I saw this video n skipped pass it n God convicted me to go bak n watch it. Thnx 4 the message very encouraging. I'm in the process of seeking Gods directive.
When Jesus wants to put you back on track 🙌 i'm not in a relationship but I 'm home from universities for the holidays. my all group of friends are in relationships and i'm someone whom normally couldn't care less in being in one because other ppl are in relationship. Let me be real though, getting older makes it a bit difficult being single, but still trusting God for it's plan.
Thank you Lindsey! You truly are called of God for such a time as this! Thank you for always being a blessing. I celebrate your level of yieldedness to the Holy Spirit. Much love from Maryland!
Heather you are such an inspiration! Thank you for being the voice of women who need desperately to hear the truth about what courtship verses dating. Thank you!
Glory be unto God, for having encounter with you, God has helped me so much through you, God bless you Heather, God is speaking to me this morning, about my situation, Keep on with the good work for JESUS, Stay blessed.
You are right on TIME for me! I just broke up with my bf and of course my mom and family were saying the same things to me in their...overbearing ways lol. But when I tell you that God had me somehow come across this video. I was watching make up tutorials no where near this category and God said, Let me put this in her life because she's not hearing me! You are certainly ordained! Thank you for choosing God!
This is so true. I have experienced this in the past. I made errors then until I became obedient. well done Heather for the video. How people dislike the truth In the video I don't get it. Thumbs up 👆 from me.
Hey family of the body of Christ; just want to share my testimony in the area of relationships; So a little back story, My first ever relationship was when I was probably 17, quite young I know and didn’t know better I know; however that relationship I was cheated on, then my next relationship, I was left for someone else, the next relationship after that I was cheated on again; so after that I was heavily depressed, in so much pain, I wanted to die because the hurt within me was so intense, I was so far from God, but yet his love pursued me, when the scripture says he left the 99 for 1 he really came after to me so I began to find myself again, I spent all my time with God, learning, becoming better, growing in Christ etc, last year I met a young man which became my boyfriend cut a long story short that relationship came to an end today. I am saddened because I am human but I KNOW God is greater; the person I was in did not believe in the church, I would speak so much about our relationship being founded upon God etc and it’s like that wasn’t important to him, he didn’t see spiritual responsibilities, we were on completely two different pages; the weight of an equally yoked relationship began to sit on me so heavy as I began to think about potential children to come , marriage etc etc family I say all this to say God wants the very best for us even in the area of relationship; don’t give up, I am passionate about kingdom marriages, I am passionate about marriages succeeding if that’s even the right word to use and despite how my history has gone, I still remain confident that I will see the goodness of the lord in the land of the living psalms 27:13; so I do wanna cry but I choose to trust God and you too trust God,
Heather, this was on point. am 30 and struggle with this. very bad. to instade be jalous on others relationship. am that kinde women. never actractief to those i like. they like the one skinny ect. pff.. thanks sis for this video
Yup. The bible says. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these other things will be added unto you. Seek God first and your future spouse and whatsoever you need, God will provide. If Your Heavenly Father can feed the birds of the air, how much more you!
"getting into relationships with ppl who should have never gotten passed hello." that really hit me. how many times I've dealt with a person, who I was sure was not the one, and I got burned in the end. i'd rather wait and be single than settle on one of satan's sons lol. been there, done that. ugly ending. lesson learned.
I'm so glad you mentioned the friend that went online because the holy spirit told her to. I went on a christian dating site and the holy spirit told me quickly to delete that profile 😂. Everyone's story is different, the only formula is being able to hear the holy spirit's leading.
Bea H. Amen!!! I went online and my profile was mysteriously deleted 😂 I tried to recover it but didn't get anywhere, I think God was protecting me from something or someone (because He knows how I can get 🙈). But I totally agree with you, being in tune with the Holy Spirit in the only formula!
Exactly the same thing happend to me too Bea, I created a profile for online dating, it was for a Christian site and my profile was not accepted and they wanted me to give further explanations or sent in a complaint or something and it was like the HS told me Honey, let it go, this is not for you and I left it. I understood very clearly that this was not the path HS wanted me to take and I did not and I am so happy that I choose to walk in obedience rather.
Glad to be reading simular experience across the globe :)
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that's why I never wink, flirt, or initiate contact with men online. he's gonna find me, either online or in person, when it's time.
Rose Green that's right sister! Let God ordain it ,not you!!
Confirmation that God has better. It's hard to remain patient at times, but I do desire His best and will continue to pray that God prepares and positions me. :-)
Stephanie Cole praying for you bc I understand! 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Stephanie Cole sister you are so right all glory to God that he will order our steps no matter what and put a good man in each of our lives,A godly man who will pray and show God reverence with you
Until His Best start to show things that's not like Jesus
"I ain't trying to marry Satan's sons" Haha 😂😂
Amen! Your disobedience affects your children and the future generations! True word! Thank you Jesus!
JAchica11 what if you don't want children
Thank you so much. CONFIRMATION!!!! "Do not awaken love before it's time...." I think I will play this video for every friend that says, "You need a man...." Most are not believes, so when I get into, "We are not equally yoked...," they look at me like I have 2-heads. I am not picky. I just know what God has for me is the BEST.
shestudios I have a question? Do you think everybody is meant to be married or have children? What if you don't find your "perfect" husband? Would you feel less than? Or not worthy?
I don't believe the most high wants
"everybody" to be married and start a family.
Some people praise being married and starting a family but is unhappy.
The Elements of Me I wrote about this in my blog titled "Called Single" www.youngandvirtuousblog.wordpress.com
You read between the lines!!! LMBO... I agree with you 100%. I love the way Heather put it, "You gonna have to work out your salvation with the one you with, if you jumped into it." All I can say is I am satisfied, and don't feel I am missing out on anything. So, if there is no "Bae" for me in the future, I am good.
Bea H. Your blog was very interesting, and it gave me answers to my question and a new insight on being single.
I agreed with this part
whatever you desire (that it is not contrary to God’s word) can be yours. I say “can” because our choices can definitely get in the way of our blessings. Marriage is a holy, purposeful calling that takes a lot of selflessness. It is not just a soulish desire or means for physical gratification.
shestudios I was wondering I feel marriage and children is being shoved around like it is the way of life for every one.
I am happy that you are content with yourself, my comment was a question for myself more so than for you.
Logan is too funny 😂
I had to listen to this message twice! I'm 20 and people are constantly throwing comments about I need a boyfriend like what that's ignorant I need Jesus child please. Yet these adults have childish mentalities!
Excellence Baby you're young God will ordain your relationship when it's time too,until then be patient and live for Jesus!! Stay blessed and I love you 🕊
Excellence Baby ppl tell me that all so
I'm 21. I can tell you from experience to stay focused. Don't ever rush a relationship. Continue to be satisfied with yourself. God will move on your behalf when it is the right time. 😌🙏🏾
Thank you for this word Heather!
I’m 32 and single, and most of my friends are married and expecting children; sometimes the realization just hits me out of nowhere which builds anxiety and worry..but hearing this puts it all back into perspective and really trusting God’s leading while I am living in the here and now
Yes, I was thankfully freed from a horrible relationship. I was settling because when I met him, he was very knowledgable about christianity, and I believed that God brought us together. But praise the Lord, my relationship with Jesus became more intimate, and I learned, from many mistakes of us breaking up, getting back together, etc, that it was not his will and that it should have never went pass a hello. The relationship would have led me to the path of destruction. I can truly say that I'm done with the relationship, and I'm freed by the blood of Jesus!
Sisters, pray against any soul ties that have been created by these unequally yoked relationships. They have no place in our heart and spirit and neither does hate or unforgiveness towards exes The Lord delivered me and it was his patience and love that got me through it all! Keep your eyes on the Lord, seek the kingdom, and all things shall be added unto you in Jesus name!
God Bless
thank you for this
Thank you for this word! It's crazy but as I was reading I felt as though you were describing my exact experience dating this past year. Praise the Lord he delivered me from a man who would have only led me to my downfall. The Lord knows the contents of mans heart, his desires and intentions, and whether those are good or bad. The breakup hurt but it was for my protection that God removed him from my life.
Did you break up with him sis or did he break up with you?
Did you break up with him sis or did he break up with you?
@@xoNilushi the break up was definitely on my end. He would try to contact me every now and then, saying he changed, I would politely decline and he went back to emotional abuse. He was blocked and finally stopped contacting me.
What if you have no desire for a relationship with anyone, but All my friends want to pray for a relationship and a desire for that.
Ive been in disagreements because they say "its not meant for man to be alone". Why is my singleness an issue, I have no idea.
The verse Jeremiah 29:11 has given to me 4 times with two days ..the first time was directly and the other three subliminally including in this video ..thanks Heather❤️
Good thing she didn't edit it out :)
Danielle Reid right! Truly meant to be
Praise God, I always love it when he reassures us with his word.
She Dragon yes, always lets us know he's still there😊
memebeauty985 praise God!!!!
HAHAHHAHA Logan jumping 😂😂😂
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Thankful eternally for breaking my engagement. This the exact reason why I have been single for the last (almost) five years. No settling. Every time I like about it God reminds of what it was like to "drag that ox".
Amen to being content waiting on God during your single season!!!
Masi's Idle Moments yes we all are letting God ordain our relationship that's it that's all...leave it in his hands
Masi Empowers amen
Thanks for the encouragement Heather-we really cannot risk being unequally yoked (2 Cor. 6:14)-not worth it! Congrats on your show! God bless!
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Hello, I have settled previously and I also have two children by two different men..... I was doing everything on my own which led me to nothing but destruction... but I am still faithful because God truly has my husband and he is will and wanting to love me and my children as his own
ruth thomassaint exactly!! God is faithful! Praying for an amazing godly man to help you raise your gifts from the Lord!
ruth thomassaint Thank you for your message, I am in the same situation except I am dating my second child's father and I don't think he is the one. Smh I feel ashamed sometimes that allowed myself, yet again, to end up having a child out of wedlock 😩
Hey Toni, I just want to encourage you, I don't think you should feel ashamed, instead rather be thankful to God for stirring in your heart and making you realise that he is not the one.
I too have a kid out of wedlock, she is turning 10 today :) but I believe when the time is right, God will send me someone who's heart is conditioned to accept my daughter as his own. To me that is non-negotiable and that is where I draw the line in the sand. Yes he should have all those other Godly factors too and I will patiently wait.
I will pray for you that God will give you the strength and the wisdom to make the right decision for you and your kids and that God will fulfill His purpose in your life. Blessings xo
ruth thomassaint You are not Alone! ☺ Both my daughters dads have the same demons. After I left the last one I surrendered to God. Now I live my life for Christ. So much peace and joy. No more sin. I love the scripture in Isaiah 43:18 "Remember not the former things, neither consider things of old"... we are new creatures in Christ and will move forward whole and wiser. I want a husband one day but for now I'm just enjoying my new life in Christ.
I love that you mentioned the children & not to awaken love before it's time
Amen😇! I agree and NEVER settling when it comes to spending the rest of my life with someone!!!! Even at 41, I KNOW my God has the best husband for me and I am completely ok until that beautiful day come🙌🏾🙏🏽🎉💍!!!
That ox and donkey metaphor was so on point! Praise God! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I don't even have the option to settle. I get passed right on by. I just don't worry about it or care anymore.
Hey, sister! I hope you’re doing good by now, though I am 3 years late on this comment. Sometimes, being overlooked is God’s protection! Better to not be noticed by someone who isn’t His will for you anyways. In the process of being single, you get to fall more in love with God, with yourself, know yourself, and walk in your purpose. When marriage comes, your one-on-one time with God will become a bit more restrained because now, there’s a unison with someone else. Better to take advantage now! I feel like that’s what God is working in you now so that when you’re ready, the relationship equation would be 1+1=2! It’s going to be a process, but beautiful and worth it ♥️
Heather, first off I just want to say that you are such a blessing in my life. Since I walked away from my last relationship- which was with one of Satan's sons- LOL ( and its not really funny but I like the way you put it) my life has changed around 360. I am fearlessly pursuing Christ, totally inlove with God and I can see God moving and speaking into my life daily. Your guidance on relationships and just you sharing who we are in Christ have made it soooo easy for me to say NO to men. Some church brother even told me my standards are too high LOL, can you believe that and he called himself a great man of God but he wanted to put his dirty paws all over me ( I discerned him in the spirit and he was after some....and today he is not in my life anylonger) and I said to him I ain't having non of that whatsoever. So "NO" to dating, no to hanging out, no to kissing. NO to men wasting my time because now it is alot easier for me to discern people's spirits since I learned to fully rely on what the HS is telling me about people.
I now know my place in Christ, I understand my identity, but I came to this understanding by diligently sitting with the Lord, spending time in His presence and hearing from Him.
WOW, I know I am writing alot but I just needed to share.
I am happily single now, yes offcourse I would love to have a Godly husband but I am focused on Christ and my relationship with Him and that makes me so happy. In my moments of loneliness as they do crop up from time to time, I focus on God's love for me and I dive into Scripture.
Thank you Woman of God for speaking the truth in love, for speaking the truth as it is. I love how you share Biblical truth and not your personal opinion.
You are such a blessing to me and I love you. I pray that I will meet you in person soon.
Blessings
Wendy Elizabeth xo
God bless you for this, I've really been struggling lately especially since all of my close girlfriends are now married/engaged, I turn 30 next year and I'm not where I thought I would be but I know I'm where God wants me to be. I'm not gonna lie, sometimes I struggle with the comparison game but I know that I need to wait on God's timing, so thank you for this encouragement, I refuse to settle!! Instead I'll wait on God's best and be obedient to His will. Thank you Heather xx p.s I love how Logan was determined to feature in this video 😂😁
lol Logan is too adorable 😂😂. Love your new background Heather.
Love your new backdrop! Great message
'War Room' on the man and your situation hunny! ❤
I love this video because you kept it going and stayed the course of what you had to say with Little Logan in the background, this is so cute because u didn't allow your son to distract u from what you're saying and it just shows how u can juggle kids and be patient with them while doing what God says to do, the little noises and bouncy head goes great with the message and background, this is sooooo adorable, congrats
I settled and the only good that came out of it was my son...yer there are still consequences I must still deal with because the relationship was not of God. Thank the Lord for grace and mercy.
Thanks for Message, it was right on time, because every now and then you get that feeling of tired of being single, especially holiday time.
77deerose especially since it's engagement season !
Yes! patiently waiting for the broken engagement video...
Heather, yesterday when you posted this, it was my birthday, and I've been struggling with this topic the whole year until God finally took the guy away before I made a big mistake. God is so faithful, this video is the cherry on top of the cake, it's like he's reassuring me to trust him in everything he is doing. It has been so hard for me to let go, but its not impossible and I know that guy wasn't God's best for me, so I thank God for intervening on my behalf because he loves even if I was being disobedient! I encourage everyone to wait on the Lord, God bless you!
Such a powerful word. A lot of people need to see this video. So thankful that God uses you to reach young women.
This video was so on time. I am so guilty of being this kind of person and of running to these things, and instead of running to God I run from him.This is so perfect! Can you do a video on being single and figuring out how to discover yourself, how to get to know your interests, passions, etc.?
Also, off topic but can you do a workout video showing us women how to be fit and healthy? Different ways to eat? How to eat healthy?
Great video and message! Its so true some men you meet never should have made it past hello. It will save a lot of time and heartache if many would just take their time, and not settle.
Hi Heather! I follow you on Facebook, too:) I just wanted to leave you a message and say that I am so thankful and grateful to the Lord for encouraging you to speak to us singles. My friend and I were recently talking about how we feel out of place in our churches because we don't feel like there is support for us as singles when it comes to being able to ask questions about struggles we are having with understanding how to be single and Christian and also questions about abstinence, etc. We just don't feel that there is a space for open dialogue about these issues at our churches. As for myself, I've found it really hard to get genuine answers to those questions from married people in my church who don't seem to be able to relate. Thank you for always being so honest about your history and struggles when you were single. I find myself laughing out loud and nodding my head because I have had the same issues. Your openness and honesty have helped me a great deal.
this is the message I have been waiting for, I find myself trying to look for a partner in every guy I come across. ofcotse getting hooked up with someone would not be hard for me, but I realized that I want more if God's plan for my life. I only pray for the grace to take my eyes of all of these distractions and focus on His plans for me because there's such a strong urge to settle. Thank you Mam for being a channel of God's voice to His daughters
OMG Logan looks just like his father!
I thank God for your ministry and your obedience way back when He called you to do what you do today. I have learned so much over the past year from the YT videos to FB updates and blog posts.
May God bless and your family abundantly.
God'a timing is PERFECT, for He is perfect! But we cannot just settle down and chill while we wait! We must seek God's presence daily and constantly, not only to be ready for marriage, but to also make God the most important thing/person in your life and so that you can walk with Him and do it will all of your heart!
Stay Blessed, guys!!! xx💗💗
Great video! I'm also looking forward to the broken engagement video as I have recently experienced it.
Like this video came literally mininutes after my cousin and were talking about no settling and woukd rather wait longer and trusting that God can reason with us and we will be happy with his choice..
Talking about confirmation and timming.
Feels good when it feels like God hears you.
Cause i sure have been praying about it as well.
I love how your son fit right into the message. Great reminders sis! 💜😊
I KNOW the Lord had me watch this! Thank you Sis. Heather for confirming what God has been saying to me. Don't settle. Period. Aaah, there is so much I could say. I am friends with someone who was interested in me. I like him as a friend, I really do. Lately, the Lord has been saying to me (and been saying through a friend), if you really don't feel this is the person, back up, even in friendship things. I have been only partially obedient (which is disobedient) still inviting him to some things maybe I shouldn't have, bc I enjoy his company. I don't feel he is my husband, and don't want to string him along. Lately I've been more sensitive about things he says or wants to do or not do with me. Consequence. I'm stepping back now. I believe he feels it to and is stepping back. I need to let the distance happen. Praise God for His word and His servants! To God be the glory!
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WOW!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING LEAD TO DO THIS VIDEO. PERFECT TIMING, GOD IS SOO GOOD.
Heather:
This is so needed. Thank you for sharing this. Time and time again, I've found myself settling with people that I know was not God's best. I even find myself, as you mentioned, looking at every guy that walks by and thinking to myself is he my husband (so embarrassing to confess, but confession is the path to healing). Anyway, thank you for sharing what God placed on your heart about the waiting period for when God is preparing you for a mate.
In Christ,
Sierra
I saw this video n skipped pass it n God convicted me to go bak n watch it. Thnx 4 the message very encouraging. I'm in the process of seeking Gods directive.
When Jesus wants to put you back on track 🙌
i'm not in a relationship but I 'm home from universities for the holidays. my all group of friends are in relationships and i'm someone whom normally couldn't care less in being in one because other ppl are in relationship. Let me be real though, getting older makes it a bit difficult being single, but still trusting God for it's plan.
Amen and Amen.. The right words at the right time.. Thanks Heather.. May Jesus continue to bless you and use you to be a blessing to others..
Thank you Lindsey! You truly are called of God for such a time as this! Thank you for always being a blessing. I celebrate your level of yieldedness to the Holy Spirit. Much love from Maryland!
Please keep the relationship advice coming! I am terribly in a constant pattern, people walking in and out 😣.
omg...this is RIGHT on time!
Heather you are such an inspiration! Thank you for being the voice of women who need desperately to hear the truth about what courtship verses dating. Thank you!
Glory be unto God, for having encounter with you, God has helped me so much through you, God bless you Heather, God is speaking to me this morning, about my situation, Keep on with the good work for JESUS, Stay blessed.
You are right on TIME for me! I just broke up with my bf and of course my mom and family were saying the same things to me in their...overbearing ways lol. But when I tell you that God had me somehow come across this video. I was watching make up tutorials no where near this category and God said, Let me put this in her life because she's not hearing me! You are certainly ordained! Thank you for choosing God!
AirreaKailea that's good sister stay blessed!
Paired purpose! That speaks to me so much. I've thought about it so much but never heard it articulated as such.
I'm almost 52 and just went through a nasty divorce so I'm not sure if I should be looking at all. God's love is the most important.
Love the background. Logan is beyond funny. Gotta love our kids...
Thank you so much for this. I really needed this. The timing couldn't have been any better for this message. 💕🙏🏾
This is so true. I have experienced this in the past. I made errors then until I became obedient. well done Heather for the video. How people dislike the truth In the video I don't get it. Thumbs up 👆 from me.
Hey family of the body of Christ; just want to share my testimony in the area of relationships;
So a little back story, My first ever relationship was when I was probably 17, quite young I know and didn’t know better I know; however that relationship I was cheated on, then my next relationship, I was left for someone else, the next relationship after that I was cheated on again; so after that I was heavily depressed, in so much pain, I wanted to die because the hurt within me was so intense, I was so far from God, but yet his love pursued me, when the scripture says he left the 99 for 1 he really came after to me so I began to find myself again, I spent all my time with God, learning, becoming better, growing in Christ etc, last year I met a young man which became my boyfriend cut a long story short that relationship came to an end today. I am saddened because I am human but I KNOW God is greater; the person I was in did not believe in the church, I would speak so much about our relationship being founded upon God etc and it’s like that wasn’t important to him, he didn’t see spiritual responsibilities, we were on completely two different pages; the weight of an equally yoked relationship began to sit on me so heavy as I began to think about potential children to come , marriage etc etc family I say all this to say God wants the very best for us even in the area of relationship; don’t give up, I am passionate about kingdom marriages, I am passionate about marriages succeeding if that’s even the right word to use and despite how my history has gone, I still remain confident that I will see the goodness of the lord in the land of the living psalms 27:13; so I do wanna cry but I choose to trust God and you too trust God,
God bless you Heather Lindsey for this Message. I sure wont settle
Ugonma iroha that's good sister!! Stay blessed and I love you
Thank you so much Heather for following the Lord and helping to Inspire and encourage people to follow him as well. Thank you. :)
Gosh so on time! God I see you with this!!! Thanks K you Heather for your obedience!
This message was AWEEEESSOOMMMEEE! Definitely needed it.
Just what I needed to hear. ☺ Praise God.
How many times do we get into relationships that should have never made it passed hello! Not that’s the realest thing I heard today. 💯💯
Great vlog and really like the change of decor. And congrats on your television show! 🤗 To God be the Glory!
Literally God's mouth piece
amen obedience is the biggest blessing.
Such a timely message! & Congrats Heather on your up and coming show, I'm happy for you! God is always faithful!! All the best sis! :)
When Logan walked in so cute! Much love from New Zealand ❤️
This speaks to my situation right now. Thanking God for this message!
LOVING THE BLUE
I hate being single
Girl, that message was off the chain! Love you Heather. :)
Love the background!!! Your messages are always on time... Thanks Heather!
Wow God sent this to me🙌🙌🙌🙌
Thank you Heather Lindsey your amazing, I love your faith, your videos are helping me through a really rough time..
Your messages are so encouraging! Thank you for setting such a Godly example.
Great word.
needed this 💕 bless you!
Encouraging!!!!! Confirmation!!!!
Heather, this was on point. am 30 and struggle with this. very bad. to instade be jalous on others relationship. am that kinde women. never actractief to those i like. they like the one skinny ect. pff.. thanks sis for this video
U better preach heather!!
Right on time word!
Hi Heather, Great message and solid advice from God's Word! Blessings to you & your ministry. Amen, GGG
The background is beautiful!!
So powerful!! Thank you heather :)
Thank you Heather for this
Yup. The bible says. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these other things will be added unto you. Seek God first and your future spouse and whatsoever you need, God will provide. If Your Heavenly Father can feed the birds of the air, how much more you!
I love this message.
Logan is the cutest.. 😜
Thank you Heather!
Thank you very much. This is a great word. God bless you and your family
I love ur videos!! Thank you for trying to spreading the words of God😊
wow Logan is the cutest kid ever!!!
Point on!
I love you so much Heather you give me encouragement every time I watch your videos. ❤️❤️❤️
I so needed this!