Before I do: Why We Broke Up
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"Don't hope for that relationship to work, instead put your hope in the Lord" So beautiful, I love that.
This gives me so much hope because christian relationships are advertised as fairytales. It's not always that way. It could be a couple of breakups to realize God is developing you, before it can be beautiful~
you are so right!!
Amen!!! Trust the process if God has called it. Pray pray pray Gods will over you and the person He has chosen for you as your spouse.
So true. You are right
Kpopluvr94 😒😒 ugh tell me about it. When you are eagerly waiting for what God has you get hopeful thy the next one is “it”. Although their are flaws you confusingly think are we supposed to be with eachother anyways? It’s so hard. Takes prayers and tears to let go and keep on loving. It’s true tho it’s all painted as a perfect easy picture but it’s not.
"god" ... people still believe in books written by cave men in the Bronze Age. Happiest countries in the world are the least religious and have the best education systems.
The transparency is real. Thank you for sharing because Christian relationships are not perfect at all times. Thank you!
"Pray for him to grow up" 😂😂😂😂
Shan Valentino IDK...we was only 22 tho haha
😂😂😂
Dude...he's looking at her like...omg😭😍😍😩
soooo sweet
"I can have any guy I want"
"Well go get him then" lol! ya'll. Love the authenticity. Preciate it.
Yes! Heather had healthy self-esteem and confidence.
It's hard to find Pastors who are this honest and real about relationships. You guys are a great role models and a blessing. The imperfect family man, God bless your family :)
I think Marcus Rogers is good at this too
hey friend.
I just love the way he's staring at his queen and forgets the camera's there! He's so mesmerized and probably thinking she's looking like a snack right now! Lol Daz Looove right there! God bless your marriage further! ❤️
Vanessa O. 😂 I was thinking that too
Vanessa O. yesssss I saw that so beautiful ❤❤❤❤
Ikr.. Lol.girl.you stole my thought
yasssss whew
Heather I like how you stood up for yourself and didn't tolerate his behavior at the time. I like how you two put your pride aside at the end but I LOVE how you stood your ground and didn't allow him to mistreat you even though you know he was "the one".
Yes! Definately taught me a lesson
Yes because when you know he's the one these things catch you off guard. You expect it to go smoother lol.
The way he looks at you is EVERYTHING! 😩😍
😏 = Side Eye
This was so REAL and AUTHENTIC, My fave video by far ❤️ Cornelius is deffo me in a relationship haha. Would love to see a video on the difference between breaking up because its not right and breaking up because you are afraid. sometimes it's hard to tell... especially as Christians.
I would love to see a video on that too.
I love you Breeny you're awesome! It's cool that you like to watch Heather's videos too!
" I change women like I change underwear" he def. tried it 😩😩😩 thank God you guys got it together #blessings
He said this while he was a pastor???
@@dawnthompson9149 No but I remember he was in ministry at his church
I know, that would have been a red flag for me, I would've dropped him. But I guess they worked it out, so that's good.... sketchy if he was a leader for God too...
Nobody’s perfect. God uses imperfect vessels for His glory. Regardless if this man said that God clearly changed his heart for the better.
I think he was just being petty and pretending that he didn't care. We all do it !
Adam ran away when he was accused of disobeying God. Eve was prideful. This is something we have been dealing with for generations from the curse. We have to recognize this before we let something good run too far.
I am not kissing until my wedding day either. I have not kissed in 7 years now. It is too intimate.
Cheryl Richards ive noticed God really kept me from kissing boys. like that was a huge no no. I would feel He put barriers in between me and a guy i liked if I planned on kissing him.
yep. haven't kissed since 2012.
I haven't kiss a male in 23 years, except for my son on the cheek.
Yup- 2011 I believe.
Amen. Six years for me. I wanna wait for my wedding day too.
I absolutely HATE the saying "It is what it is."
Desiree Taylor yes me too
Desiree Taylor same😩
That’s an awesome saying...the older generation would use it to point things out to you that may be “in your face” when you may refuse to see things. It’s wisdom in that phrase...👍
Well... it is what it is😂
This is the same thing I keep telling people, why when you speak to Christian couples they always want to tell singles that you got to be "whole" before GOD sends you a spouse...listen to the transparency and many internal flaws that Heather and Cornelius are sharing with us. Every Christian couple Ive spoken too have shared so many things they were still dealing with concerning relationships even "after" GOD sent their spouse. Its only through GOD's GRACE N MERCY and His PURPOSE as to why He sends you that spouse. Tfs yall and keepin it 💯✔✔✔
I actually feel like being in a healthy relationship can bring out dormant hurts and pain that need to be healed
Its called self sabotaging because of fear.
Pride is a UGLY thing. So glad the spirit moved both of you to get it right.
Thank you SO MUCH for being transparent. Relationships are not always rosy. Sometimes you break up and get back together, and sometimes you don't. Above all, I desire God's will for me or nothing else. 🤗🤗
Thanks for sharing the reality of a relationship. People always see the "perfect" image but fail to see the work behind it.
WOW! Such honesty. "What you miss brotha?" LOL!!! I'm so glad y'all got back together too. Your marriage and example is such a blessing to people all over the world :)
I love the sass you have. I'd be like "bruh you either you take me now or imma walk away from you. I don't play those games!" It's fun to see a sassy godly woman! 😂😂
Heather: I am so glad we got back together and we get to live forever and ever🤗🤗
Cornelius: *eye roll* yeah yeah yeah
😂😂😂GOSH Y'ALL ARE SO FUNNY. I could watch you all day.
Sis your highlight is POPPPPPINNNNNN! Lol great video! Love you two!!!😘😘😘
Brittany Norman you can say that again💕💕💕👏
hahah! Thanks honey!!
make up came from the watchers, read enoch, it is sinful
Now we know where Taylor gets her spicy side from, lol.
Hahha, RIGHT? The Lord is working on my spicy. lol!
Lollll.... Same thing came to mind
Lollll.... Same thing came to mind
There's no perfect when it comes to a relationship, but if you really love that person you will put in the effort for it just to be with her again.
WOW!!! This video is truly God sent....I'm facing something similar that I'm leaving in Gods hands and this video is reassurance that I need to pray for him and continue to seek Gods guidance. Thank you so much Heather and your husband. His insight really helped get a peak of a mans thoughts when his actions are off or inconsistent. This video is everything ❤️
maxine mirtil I am also in it! lol. Its interesting to get the man's perspective.
maxine mirtil Me too. Perfect timing!
maxine mirtil yup that male perspective was every thing
maxine how did it go?
People need to be open and honest when they share their testimony. It will bless more people.
I love how real you and your husband are!!!!!!
"I did the research." LOL thank you both for being vulnerable. The fact that people can see that your life is not picture pinterest perfect tears down these ideas that you all are.
LifeAsKia i
Thanks for the transparency!!!
Big take always for me were:
- make sure you are whole - especially emotionally so you don’t have rejection and selfishness destroy your marriage
- make sure you have Godly counsel in courtship in order to keep hearing from God each step of the way
- women, wait for a man to decide that he wants to court you and make a commitment to that. ‘Thinking about us’ should happen before courting process !
- women, if he is unsure, be willing to walk away because you are worth more and never have to convince a man of that!!!
Thanks guys! ❤️❤️
You look so pretty Heather! & your hair is gorgeous! Love those earrings with that shirt! Go sis!💓
This is setting women free. Thank you for sharing this. While I am embracing my singleness , I am looking forward to my man of God. These tips are helpful.
your hubby is such a good sport and the transparency is powerful. what i love about the lindsey ministry is although you both pastor, i actually see you two as regular people first. two souls made for one another and thats so awesome thanks for sharing.
I love the way you guys look at each other. I can only hope to have a relationship like that some day.
I wrote my non-negotiable's for a relationship out when I woke up this morning and then this video pops up in my notifications. Pastor Heather, thank you for being obedient to God because He is intentional and my life has been matching up with your messages. I can't fight it anymore. Thank you thank you.
She is hilarious. To the Holy Spirit, "Pray for him?? I'mma pray he grows up, that steps up to the plate!" Lol
The way he looks at her... Lord Jesus, help me wait on your man for me.
Smiled and chuckled for most of this video. Definitely reminded me of my the courtship with my husband. It's amazing how strong emotions can get. So grateful the Holy Spirit is faithful even in our weaknesses. Thanks so much for sharing, guys!!
Currently going through similar issues. Just broke up with my bf of 9 months, two days ago. It truly hurts because I believe in my heart of hearts that he’s the man of God for me. No matter how much I want things to work I will trust in the Lord. He said in his word that “ All things work together for our good “ If it is in his will for us to get married it will happen . From now on out I will seek God’s face like never before and ask that the Holy Spirit be a comforter & guide . Thank you for this video ! It was very uplifting & encouraging .
🤗. I'll be praying for you
Any updates ?
Update
Wonderful story! Thanks so much for sharing. I broke up with my ex a few months ago but the Holy Spirit tells me up keep praying for him and to be patient in the process. And I've felt the same way! I would say he's going to be some other woman's wife why pray for him! Haha. After seeing your video it's definitely confirmation that I must be obedient and keep him in prayer. And like you said in another post/ video " instead of chasing a man stay in the word and study scriptures"! Lol . Heather, you've been a blessing to me and helped me grow in Christ. I thank God for you. I'll continue to keep you and your ministry in prayer. Love you Sis.
Rita Style stay obedient sis. From the moment I met my ex I knew that was my husband. Right now, I think God doesn't want us to be together at the moment. I pray for him daily. Stay strong. I will keep you in my prayers too.
Thank you Jaune for your words of encouragement. I appreciate your prayers and will keep you in my prayers as well. Take care and God bless.
@@jaunejacksondo you have an update?
I love the natural chemistry between you two! Def something to admire 💕
This was so powerful. I'm going through a situation with a man that I know God needs us to be apart for a while. This is a blessing. Thank you!
Jauné Jackson I feel you. How do we recognise it isn't just 'us' wanting it to be that way? I know both of our greatest desire is to serve in God's Kingdom and someday in our family too. But just a few days ago him and I both knew God was calling us to make the decision of ending it. I know He's brought us closer in our relationship and its like He wants our ALL while we are apart. I'm just trusting His plan. Because losing what mattered most to be showed me that my faith really was in other things. How are things for you now?
I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 PERFECT FOR THIS GOOD GODLY MONDAY!!! AAAYYYYEEEE😁😁😁
LOL Yes I am at my desk like Okay, I am here for this on a monday! lol
Takima Howze Girl, YAAASSSSS🤣
Takima Howze me too!!!
LOL! Yes
Watching on a Monday too :O)
2019 and I needed to hear this. God’s timing is always on time.
wow. i relate. I LOVE how he admits he was full of pride. broke up with my bf a month ago cuz he was the same. acting up, full of pride, was far from jesus, etc. Ive been praying that god can soften his heart and help him mature cuz i do belive he is my husband. This gives me hope that god can change people and bring them back together
Did you get back together?
Y'all so cute together! It sickens my stomach and warms my spirit.
ashley moore 😂😂😂
ashley moore 😝 that’s a sweet comment. Haha
Wow. Cornelius is just like me! While he's talking, I see why God is changing me so much. I tend to put up a wall as well when people are getting too close to me because I don't want to hurt them nor do I want them to hurt me. And, I have commitment issues. I appreciate and love the single season because God is able to reveal these things to you and make you better for your future spouse. Thanks for sharing guys.. God bless! 😊
Krystal V M Yes me too! I was watching the video and noticed that I'm like a girl version of Cornelius, so I definitely understand where he is coming from. You are dead on about the commitment issues. lol I know for sure that God is molding me in this season.
So wise, so many of us naturally do this (push people away or run away)
So needed for the season I'm in! Blessings to you both!
This is real and makes you see that christian relationships have there highs and lows too .. I like the way you guys wait until each one is finished talking you can see the respect so clear xxxxx be blessed !!!
Heather, thank you for sharing your story. I've watched your videos for a long time now. And it is very inspirational.
I really appreciate the transparency! So glad you all decided to share!
This was seriously so helpful to me. I mean RIGHT on time! Thank you so much for being so open and speaking on things that are happening in your life!
Thanks for this video. Love Heather she keeps it 100. learned a lot from you guys tonight.
You don't know how much I needed this! I'm in this situation right now.
Love the transparency!❤️
Thanks for sharing! I love how it was Cornelius that took the reigns when yall got back together. It definitely was an indicator of being the leader in the marriage. May God continue to bless your marriage.
Thanks for this Ms Heather! I just shared this with two young people who mean a whole lot to me, especially my son! I pray that they can each gain a better perspective on their journey. Thanks again!
Wow!!! Praise God for your transparency Mr. and Mrs. Lindsey!!! God bless you guys!!!
I love Heather! She's making him recall those moments they both had to be humbled. TFS!
Heather girl that highlight is popppping! But honestly thank you both for your servanthood and transparency. God bless you both x
Wow, what an awesome story! It was really important to hear both sides. Thank you for sharing, Heather!
This Message Gives Me Hope. Amen.
oh my! Thank you both! your transparency blesses me! bless you both and the babies!! 😍
you're hair looks amazing ! love the transparency 👏🏽
Very great segment. I'm grateful for the transparency. This is helping me understand some things.
I absolutely love this video! It's very authentic and you guys are transparent and real! I love how honest you guys are! Be blessed!
This is good! I appreciate the transparency. May God continue to bless your marriage!
What a beautiful testimony! Thank you for sharing. It's refreshing to hear both perspectives so candidly.
You guys have no idea how much I needed to hear this
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm glad I saw the snippet at the instagram. Thank youuu! Continue inspiring us! God bless you guys! ❤️❤️❤️
How could anybody dislike this video? Love you guys!!!
Exactly what I needed to hear..thanks Heather and Cornelius🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you guys so much for being so open with us. This is really helpful. I can't wait for the conference next month :)
Thank you guys for this.. A mans perspective is always good!!
I love your realness Heather!!! Your personality is everything 😂😍
Wow! Love the transparency!!! Thank you so much! May God continue to be the center of your union!!!
Thanks for the video. So honest and real. Many of us still have walls up and issues we need to deal with prior to marriage. God Bless you and your husband.
Seriously my role models! Love how real & open you both are about your testimony of love & commitment to one another 💜
I love this story!!! They are being so honest! The love is real ❤️❤️❤️
The intro had me rollingggg 😂😂😂 Heatherrr you're so funny and inspiring me to be free in complimenting my future husband as well! I pray the Lord blesses you guys abundantly! Thank you for the transparant video I love it! 💕
I absolutely love this! It was helpful to see both perspectives and apply that knowledge to my own life. God bless 🙏🏽
I just want to cry right now!!!! Thank you guys soooo much for this post!!! Heather it's like you totally get me!!!! Thank you guys for your obedience!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!! And big thanks to mama Lindsey and sister Lindsey!!! Lol
I just shared this with my friend who is going through the same thing. Thank you! The timing couldn't have been more perfect! God bless!
This was sooo on time!!! Thank you guys for being transparent and obedient to God!! God is so amazing!!
So on time...exactly what I'm going through right now. God bless you guys 😊
I just love how real you guys are you just find that anymore GOD BLESS YOU
I seriously appreciate you guys for doing this video! So helpful
Thank you so much for this message. When you said you knew you were gonna marriage each other, I thought it would be 100% "perfect". Thank so much to show the reality is that.... that courting is still a learning process but you will succeed when you stay obedient to the Lord!
Aww thank you both for this beautiful video! 😍
inspiring and yall keep it real!! I love y'all!
This is good. Thank you for your honesty & transparency.
I love them both, their relationship dynamic!! I want to meet them they've been such a blessing from podcast, books, the show 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This video is so helpful as i am going through the same thing. Like been praying for clarity and patience. Its been challenging to differentiate between being patient & letting him go and its only been a month of us courting.
First off I didn't know Heather was that shorter than her husband and second, I love this love that you and your husband share for each other and pray you guys keep fighting although I know you guys will and thank you guys for being so open with us because there are people like me trying to have a godly relationship and it helps to see how successful it is to allow God to be at the center of your relationships.
lol! I always wear 5 inch heels. lol!
Great talk guys! This is why people connect with you so well... Both of you are making a difference out here!!!
Watched this last year and still relevant to my life ! Thank you 😊
Heather, you are a natural at interviewing because you were saying and asking all the things I wanted to know!
I love how he honours her speech. I love her confidence for sure, being able to own her beliefs and trust her discernment. Super inspirational.