She doesn’t need to apologize or buy her mom anything. She has been abused by her mother and still has a heart to help her. Catering to her won’t help anything.
My mom is an alcoholic. Last June she took a bottle of pills when drunk and immediately told her boyfriend what she did. She explained to me later she wasn't suicidal, she needed help and it was a cry for help! The bottom line is YOUR MOM has to hit her bottom and want the help. She won't get sober otherwise. My mom went from the hospital to her home but then 5 days later into residential treatment for 3 months. She will have a year sober next month! She had been drinking almost every day for 20 years. So keep hope. God bless. I'll be praying 🙏
Exactly! No idk can force anyone to get it together. They've gotta want it themselves. They've gotta want to live a better, healthy, clean and sober living and if not 🤷🏻♀️ they'll fail somewhere during the process, unfortunately. The heart and mind has to be ready and willing
You’ve grown up to be a daughter to be proud of, making all the right and mature decisions. Hopefully your mom grows up one day and can see that. God bless ❤
Vicky you have been dealing with this for far to long your mom doesn't want to change you can not force her everyone giving you wrong advice you need to step away and leave your mom alone love her from a distance. I dealt with this same shit all my life with my mother with addiction and mental health and it took me many many years of doing what your doing until it drove me insane I had to walk away from her and love her from the far
It’s an addiction… she didn’t choose it. Vicki needs to educate herself on that. Then pray because it’s always easy to judge what you don’t understand .
@@MrsPete-mq4tv Having an addiction is literally someone Choosing that life. It’s definitely a choice… especially when you have a daughter who is bending over backwards trying to help. Vicky needs sympathy, too. Not just her mom.
what? Lmao they in fact DID chose their addiction. They weren’t born with it or magically got addicted without taking any substances. That bullshit of “is not a choice, addiction is an illness” it’s nothing but a way to lessen their accountability.
Sweetie, I have a addict son who is now 38. I will not give him money! He can't live in my home. I will give him food and I will forever love him. I continue to let him know he is loved! He has to be the one to decide how and when he gets clean. You have to set limits for her but especially for yourself. It is not easy but must be done. Prayers for you both
I've a similar situation, my son is 44, and for the last 25 years, I've had to do the same. I've prayed for him, taken food, and loved him from afar. His drug addiction landed him in prison two years ago. I know he's clean, and he's relatively safe. Even a mother's love can't fix everything but never lessons. ❤
@@QuellyQthese people are delusional, how is marking your kid homeless and making sure they are in danger and at risk of jail going to help? I have many friends that have gone through addiction and the ones who’s family ostracized them are all dead or in jail the ones that kept helping are the only ones that had a chance and when THEY were ready they got clean. And they have purer drugs in jail as they don’t cut them like they do on the street to keep the physical size to a minimum. If you’re glad your kid is in jail you are the issue.
@@kathychapman2350 You’re out of your mind if you think he is either safe or sober in jail! The drugs are purer and when he ends up in debt they will likely kill him if he can’t pay.. Ya, that is totally going to speed up his recovery..
This is an example of not judging another sin separate from the battle of your own. “If you can go seven days why not longer” the same can be said for that other something. Show your mother grace Vicky keep it in Gods hands and move as he directs you. I love you guys I will keep praying for you.
Right . The Bible tells us to HATE THE SIN NIT THE OERSON. That’s not them and u til they can accept his love and understand they can lean on him to get that comfort she gets from the bottle then all Cicky can do is PRAY AND THANK HIM. Praying for the same thing over and over isn’t faith. We pray and believe he hears us and after we continually thank him for it. Claim and receive.
Yes!!! Definitely DONT take cigs away from her just yet!! Shes still feeling the withdrawals. Let her get over the drinking first, then she can slowly stop smoking when she feels strong & confident in her sobriety.
@@HughMadBro I fully agree!! I am 30mths clean from a fentanyl addiction, smoking cigarettes was not a priority when I first cleaned up. I have gone from a pack a day to MAYBE one cigarette a day, more like one every 1.5 days now. Addictions take time but we do recover
I can tell Vicky is really upset. She's having trouble keeping it together. Even though I've gained a lot of respect for her and whats she's doing for her mom. I'm praying for Vicky and her mom. Stay strong Vicky. God Bless!!!
You can’t rob someone of their rock bottom! Sometimes you have to cut allllll ties and not support them with cigs and food and stuff that’s how my momma saved my life
The REALIST thing I've heard all day!! Also a plus coming from someone who struggled with addiction in the past. It's hard for someone to understand that's never been through it themselves so I hope she actually reads your comment bc it's the absolute 100% TRUTH. 🥰
This is 💯 facts and it saved my life! After having an injury at work I needed surgery and was immediately put on a high dose of fentanyl and opioids. Of course I became addicted! Eventually moving on up the issue was I had so many people around me getting their own scripts so there was an unbelievable amount of pills & money so I was never sick! I suffered but in emotional ways because my relationship with my children was suffering my kids especially my oldest son was always on my side if I needed anything he was their but he finally told me,"NO" and he gave me an ultimatum. That spiraled me and I isolated myself & went into a huge depression mode. I hit rock bottom and I knew I needed help. Once my children started having children I realized I didn't want them to see me this way, I wanted better, I wanted my relationship with my children back. I wanted me back, I missed my life,I missed the pretty girl in me, the good mother I've always been, I was tired of being tired!! I went to the doctors and got help the next day. I'm 5yrs clean, I got an amazing job. I've gotten 2 promotions in the past year making amazing $$, I bought a brand new car, off the showroom floor, everything in my home is cozy and brand new and most importantly my relationship with my children is great, but my relationship with my grandbabies is amazing❤ I am the happiest I've ever been! God bless you Vicky, you are doing everything you need to do as a daughter!
Vicky your a strong beautiful young lady.. Bless your heart for sticking by your mamma and trying to get the devil out of her all these years and making somthing of yourself! You are super strong.. Love you girl!!! ❤
Whoever you were talking to at the end. Do yourself a favor and cut ties with... business wise. You did nothing wrong by getting other people's help and input on the project..she is just intimidated and honestly just being a hater. imo. Anyway, praying for your mom and her recovery 🙏🏼
even after all the stuff vickys mom has put her through vicky is still so strong nd doesn't hold a gruj and as someone whos parents have delt with addiction I know it can be really hard accpecually since its a parent. vicky u and are ur mom will be I'm my prayers
I am a former fentanyl/heroin addict. Sometimes you have to hit your rock bottom. You have to want to stop just because you're putting her in that place doesn't mean she's going to necessarily stop. You have to want to stop. I am going on 3 years clean and sober. I lost my husband of 16 years to a fentanyl overdose which scared me straight so that was my rock bottom
I’m sorry for yours loss and wishing you the best with your 1 day at a time…. God is good… you are absolutey right… you have to want help it can’t be forced ..
This!!! And some people have many rock bottoms I've learned being in recovery myself. It's all ab when they are ready to stop! Also congrats on 3 years clean that'amazing! I'm going to be 2 years clean from h and fent in the end of July (my bf didn't use drugs and I did and I overdosed and he never let me touch it again) then in the end of August I'll be 2 years clean from m3th! And I'll be completing my 2 yr probation in June. 🎉
Your story is like mine. After 17 years my ex died of an overdose I got sober 2 months later. I've now been sober for 7 months. I've never made it over a month so I'm so happy I've gotten this far. And I'm 7 months strong I love being sober so good job keep it up I know it's hard losing someone it still hurts every day
I’m so sorry for your loss and proud of you! I have a loved one who wants to get clean from fentanyl. How did you get clean? She’s desperate for help but has tried she’s is so scared of withdrawal I’ve even looked up iboga for her any advice would be greatly appreciated! I would love to see her clean. She’s what you call a functioning addict. She’s lowered her dosage she doesn’t smoke it she takes f orally. I’m so proud of you! I’m hoping I can get my good friend help 😊
Vickey I can say the amount of support you give your mother and how you don’t judge her is amazing! Just don’t let her take advantage of you with your money. I I think just you being there and your support is enough and amazing.!
I'm 10 years clean as of May 15th. As a recovering addict i can confidently say you have to WANT the help. She will not get help until she is ready/hits her rock bottom. Maybe have a intervention with her, you and all her loved ones. Each of you write a letter to her from your heart, and tell her if she does not get the help she needs then you can no longer be in her life. You can no longer help her with anything anymore. Im praying for your mom and you!
Happy New Birthday ❤🎉 My clients , we call it their Birthday, because it’s a brand new life, and a second chance at life. God Bless 10 years of living a new life! 🎉❤
Is this is late but I’m so proud of you for getting clean !!🥹 and I’m happy that you’ve been clean this long , my mama is currently an alcoholic and a drug user and it makes me happy to know other woman out their our getting help !! I’m proud of you stranger 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Vicky one thing, don’t baby her your friend isn’t really giving you good advice. Yes be nice & express your love but do not coddle her, addicts take advantage of those kind of people. She’s your mother not the other way around. You need to remember that too, the only way she’s gonna get help is if she wants it & she clearly doesn’t want it right now
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can RELATE. I’m currently dealing with a paranoid schizophrenic father, so I completely understand what you are going through. Not a lot of people understand but I do. And you DONT deserve all this stress and drama. You are very strong but I can see you are holding back the tears. Let them flow, it’ll make you feel better. It’s hard for me to cry, too😭😖 It’s not fair that you have to deal with this. It’s not fair. You deserve a stable and loving mother. That’s what God wants for you too. But sometimes things don’t go as planned😢 I would say to get the power of attorney over her to see where that may lead. Don’t let your mom walk over you Vicky. Be kind and respectful but Keep your boundaries. Don’t allow them to be crossed. 🚫You are not crazy for how you feel about your mom. It’s NOT your fault why your mom is the way she is. Everyone puts the pressure on you but they don’t truly understand how hard it is to have a dysfunctional parent. I pray God gives you supernatural peace in Jesus name.
This was a really sweet comment and very thoughtful. It sounds like you have been through similar situations, and I'm sorry for that. I pray God gives you some peace and blesses your family❤
I’m a recovering addict and alcoholic. The best thing for me was when my family met me exactly where I was at. Mentally and physically. I needed it to be a slow process. It was so overwhelming for me I needed to isolate and be loved back to who I was before. I know it’s frustrating but you cannot control her addict brain. She can’t control it or she would😢Praying for you all!!❤ Keep loving her! She is your mama and she is like a child mentally. I’m sorry I know it’s so hard to keep fighting for someone who can’t even see what we see.🙏🙏🙏🦋
Vicky don’t let that negative energy in, just keep your faith because your faith is beautiful and your mom is lucky to have you! Keep believing in him and he will never lead you a stray. Keep your head up. You hella smart and see it how it is and that’s why I respect you. Also I liked your Van Cleef necklace/ring 😍
Don't give up Vicky.. keep praying and begging TMH God to deliver her from the demon that wants to destroy her. I see the hurt and disappointment and I wanna hug you . I'm praying for you both🩷🙏🏾🩷
My mom died when I was 17 from alcoholism and it honestly was a relief! I was the mom in the relationship and was always scared n worried of the next horrible thing she will do. She embarrassed me all my life and neglected tf outta me! I send my love n respect
Honestly I really need to do that now I don't drink as much but when I do drink sometime I overdo it and I need a natural supplement because I made it through so much and I'm happy but it's still some things in the back of my mind that made me feel like I need more healing which is okay with me but it's good to know that I can have that moment to share it with someone else also besides God because he's always there we are our own worst enemy
I love how every woman in your life gave you support and great advice on how to navigate through the situation. I really love that for you and grateful that you have the love especially right now. You’re gonna be okay❤️
Vicky you look like you have been crying😢 I lost my momma 3 years ago from dementia and I beg you show her love and kindness bc we never know when it will be your last goodbye😢 I miss my momma so much I cry daily for her it's hard walking on this earth and not seeing her or having her here for me to say mom. I love you Vicky please make amends with your momma babe❤
I have an alcoholic mother. Vicky doesn’t need to apologize. She needs to stand her ground. Her mom needs help and will always continue to blame Vicky. When I was Vicky’s age I did all the same things as her to help my mother. She doesn’t want help, Vicky needs to walk away.
Now the person in the car is giving her the realest advice and thats what she didnt want to hear.. As believers no matter what GOD had picked HER to be your mother knowing exactly what she will battle AND HE STILL SAID HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER!
God bless you sweetest Vicky you are such a good daughter and are doing your very best and always keep in mind you’re learning too. Your friend that’s driving is giving you some great advice because when the person is agitated and especially coming off a detox the cigarettes are something she will need for a while longer. I’ve dealt with people with addiction for 20yrs and she is physically not comfortable yet even after 7 days the detox symptoms and physically feeling horrible is still there along with the emotions wreaking havoc in her mind. It’s a long road and this true detoxing process can take a month just the physical part of it. I’m praying for you and lighting you a candle 🕯️ for her to heal in Jesus Name
You are such a good daughter. You are sticking by your mom doing the best you can to help her. God will reward you for this. God bless you and your mother. I'm sending prayers her way. May she open her eyes and seek Jesus to cleanse her from the darkness. ❤ 🙏🏼
I’m praying for you, Victoria and I’m praying for your mom. You put on a brave face, but I can see how much this is tearing you up inside the only thing that will fix this problem with your mom is God and love and understanding from her daughter, I know that won’t be easy, but your friend in the car with you gave you some really good advice sending you my love and prayer
God bless u Vicky, iv been right where u are with my dad but sometime u have to walk away and love her from a distance. I don't know your whole story but it's not far off from my dad and me and my siblings, we told him we can't do it no more. Vicky your good daughter but u have nothing to be sorry for u did the best u can do u need to take care of yourself. If u talk to her do off video and explain to her it's me or that cuz I can't do all this no more I love u I want to be with u alive but how much do I got to do mom. My dad finally got clean 17 years ago I was 30. We made him leave when I was 10 my sister was 11, my mom was broken so that was it. God bless u Vicky I hope she does get help but please also take care of u and your mental health🙏🙏🙏😊
Vicky. I'm not your biggest fan but you made it so far and your mom at this point is not at her bottom. You need to get her out and tell her til she gets help she can't live in your house and you won't give her money. You can't enable her. I pray for you both
So... You took her cigarettes but, she took your childhood and a good piece of your twenties.. God Bless you, girl. The Lord says to honor your father and your mother for this is right. HOWEVER, God also says it's better to tie a millstone around your neck and jump in the ocean than to mistreat a child. I'll keep yall in my prayers.
Don't get her no flowers. For what getting drunk and calling you whores and bringing on a big ass scene. I'm only speaking as a recovering alcoholic who has 5 now grown children and 8 grandchildren. Sometimes, us moms need tough love to. Doesn't mean you can't be there for her, but boundaries need to be set and stuck to.
She has been showing her mother love she had her mve in shes helped her more than once to get sober, but she wants its more than her mother does and unfortunately her mom isnt gonna get better until she wants to get better, Vicky youre doing great considering keep praying
You’re doing the best you can. You had to be the adult and now you are and so you dont have to do anything for your mother you’re already going above and beyond if your mom wouldn’t get in the car then she doesn’t deserve the ride or the thought you’re an amazing daughter.
Yes Vicki, you just need to love on your mom. I know it's not easy dealing with addiction, but your mom needs your love. God will give you the love that you need ❤
23:00. I literally cried for you and I with your friend's comment "This hurts....even if you pretend it doesn't". True r words never spoken. Thank God you have all of these people...Its important that you post all of these videos, I don't care what ANYONE says about it. If it helps even ONE other person that is feeling like you are, like I did...or he's an addict see what they are doing to themselves and/or those they care about...its most certainly worth it. Anyone who has lived through this...especially those that have experienced the worst possible outcomes will KNOW the significant impact it can have when seeing someone else dealing with the same things, and just as importantly, hearing the advice from so many people in your support system that each bring something unique in their lived experience. No doubt someone that really needs it will see it.
As a mother and a recovering addict, I hope like crazy that you and your mama are able to work past your difficulties before it's too late. I can see the pain in your eyes. I never got the chance to tell my own mother goodbye. She never got the chance to see me the way I am now 100% clean and sober almost 19 years because if her own drug induced state. It is so hard. Take life by the horns make right what you can, she is your one and only mama, I know it hurts, addiction is a cold hearted bitch but, you can do this!
She needs to baker act her I bet Carla is trying to get out of Florida for that reason & run to her "boyfriend"... Vicky will always have the best interest of her & is her closest family member so a judge would 💯 approve it!!!
@@HughMadBro if she truly does not want help they cannot make her I had a parent go through this every state Is different like she told the police her mother does not have a mental illness so she can most definitely advocate for herself when she’s sober like I said it’s easier said than done
Hunny you can’t help someone who don’t want it all you can do is pray sweetheart I know it’s hard I’m a recovering addict myself and it’s not easy I’ve also dealt with an alcoholic father most of my life it’s not easy and the homeless shelter does let you bring in cigarettes you just can’t smoke inside love ❤hang in their I’ll be praying for you and your mom.❤
19:26. I’m so glad you have a great group of friends supporting you that clearly have gone through similar situations and are giving you the same advice that I paused the video t make.
My brother Andrew passed away of an overdose on April 17th, 2024. It’s so hard knowing he’s gone. He was doing very well but wanted to go to a better rehab. He was clean and telling his story about how happy he was feeling being clean.. It suddenly happened and I never had anyone close to me pass. I can definitely understand the feeling of having a family member struggle with addiction.. It sucks and my heart goes out to you and I’m praying for you and your family. 🫶🏻
I don’t care for Vicky but no child have to go through this with a parent. She seems to go above and beyond for her mom and nothing has worked. It’s time to just wash her hands with things and love her from a distance. Can’t help someone until they want to be helped! God Bless them both and hopefully things start to change and a bond is made between them!👏🏾👏🏾
Vicky your mother is grown , she is gonna do what she wants sometimes its best to remove yourself from other people's demons ..pray for her ,help her out with a lil cash if she ask AND keep it moving she will bring you down if you let her 😢
I’m sorry you are going through and probably have been going through all of this traumatizing stuff with your mom! I can’t tell how hurt you are, I will be praying for you & for her!
My whole entire heart breaks for you. My dad was an alcoholic my whole life, he started drinking at 16, at 62 he fell, drunk. Caused his brain to start bleeding, and he almost died in his sleep. Because he refused to go to the hospital, after calling me names as your mom was you. The next day thankfully he did wake up, went to the hospital and had surgery to relieve the pressure and blood, the docs said thankfully he didn’t have an aneurism. But the day he fell, was the day he stopped drinking, and he’s now 64, with two years sober. Just keep praying for your mom. But stand firm, don’t let what she’s got going on disturb your sanity, and peace. Sometimes tough love is the best love, before my dad fell I hadn’t talked to him in 2 years, we’re working on our relationship now, it’s not perfect but it’s better. I hope it doesn’t take such drastic measures for your mom to get herself together, addiction is hard, I dealt with my dads, and my own, I’m six years sober. I will be praying for your mom, and I hope she beats this nasty sickness, do what you can, just like you are now. Again, I’m sorry you’re even having to see her this way, hear the mean things she says, and watch the told it’s taking on her. Keep your head up, and fight for her. Lots of prayers coming your families way. 🙏🏼
From someone who knows, this is hard. For me, my Son. Heartbreaking. Even when they get sober, they are dealing with so much shame and guilt. They put it on Themselves because they feel like that is how we feel as the survivors. The best thing you can do for yourself and mama is forgive. Just keep telling her, until your sick of your own voice. I love you mama and all is forgiven. Just be better.Not for me, for yourself. Whoever told you that you were not enough... They lied. You are a wonderful person and a beautiful daughter. Be strong and take care of yourself! Sometimes, we just have to surrender and let God take take the wheel. Peace be with.🙏
Praying for you both.. it's taking a toll on u boo sometimes u have to keep ur distance some people just don't want the help they will still do it behind ur back n lie to it face saying they didn't . Praying for u girly keep ur head up 🙏🏾
Bless your heart❤ I said a prayer for you and your mom and I will continue praying for y'all❤ I hope everything will be okay❤ you are a good person you are trying to help your mama❤❤❤❤ may God bless you both❤
Stay strong! Keep praying Vickie! He heard us!! Your mother is fortunate to have you, maybe it’s time to take care of you! You seem very smart, I wish you the best! My daughter moved to Tokyo and sometimes I wonder if it’s b/c of me. I don’t drink but I have a lot of health issues that caused me an addiction to pain pills. Had to get myself off 120mg of OxyContin years ago. I know I messed up years ago but I can’t get a do over. All I can do is try to not abuse even when I’m not well and hurting. May you be blessed. Always keep God first!! You next, b/c without you she is lost, then her! I’m like your momma skinny
Vicky I hope that you really look into who all is in your circle and who you talk to. Some of them are saying weird things like roses get rid of negative energy nd other things. Be careful what counselors/friends/leaders you have in your life.
Vicky girl im watching these videos and damn ... its a situation that you have to 100% hand it to god put all your hope in god and pray . Prayer is so 💪 your a great daughter and your doing everything you can ❤
I don't know you very well, but I know this situation all too well. I am 19 years clean off hard drugs. If you apologize, if you keep giving in, if you buy her cigs, if you let her keep coming back… there is a 90% chance she will DESTROY you, and you won't realize it until you are in a similar situation as her, with unresolved trauma. You won't even notice when the trauma becomes a problem. This kind of situation... she is a grown woman, with grown woman problems. Sometimes you have to cut the cord and hope that she finds her way back to life. Otherwise, you are going to go down with her. Please don't do this to yourself, your friends, your family that might be around, your future partner, or your future kids. I ruined my life for years, years I can't get back.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. You are doing the right thing by trying to get her some help. You are also doing the right thing by using tough love with her. I know this is so hard. When your mom gets better I pray she realizes what you have done for her Praying for you and your mom ❤
I’m praying for a speedy recovery for you and your family. You were not wrong about anything you’ve done because you only want to see the best in your mother. You can’t keep helping her if she’s not willing to give up on her own addiction. Once you cut ties with her she’ll come back around and change her life for the better. Life is too short to be focusing on someone who’s not willing to change. You’re do all you can do and it’s up to her rather she want to change or not. Stay strong hun❤️
Vicki, may I please suggest YOU look into going to an open Al-anon meeting for YOURSELF. It will help you and give you the tools on how to deal with the alcoholic in your life. The meetings are also filled with people who can relate and are going through the same thing you are! May God watch over you. God bless
Im sorry vicky idk that pain and stress it is in your life but u can only do so much she can only help herself but i can tell you dont let her take advantage of u, ur strong i hope ur mom realizes how much u care for her and what ur trying to do for her ur not trying to harm her and u love her and that its not to late to do something with ur life its not over and be saved again much love vicky praying for ur mom and you ❤
I see how much you love your mom and just want her to be the best version of herself and make the best choices for herself. I know this hurts you. Sending you all my support, love and hugs Vicky❤. I’m praying for you guys 🙏
Vicky, it is not your job to make amends with your mother. It is not your responsibility to fix the relationship or to keep it going. It wasn't and it isn't your fault. You can and have been healing not only without her but in spite of her. Break. Those. Cycles. 🖤
Its possible your mom didnt want to get in the car bc she wants to go drink. She is an addict afterall. And she went to the psych ward, not rehab. I hope im wrong, but its just what came to mind when you said she didnt want to go with you from the jump😢. Also, Vicky, its apparent that you have a great group of friends around you. And that is SUCH a blessing in itself ❤ Im glad you have them to talk with. I hope things get better very soon🙏
Woah Vicxy don't needs to BB her mom's. you need to keep doing wut ur doing! Continue to be strong 🙏. Everyone keeps mom in their prayers. Ole gurl in the car is giving Woah Vicxy wrong advice....
Her mom crying about cigs and stuff is just manipulation. Her mom knows why Vicky did those things and what she’s doting wrong she just can’t help herself .. Cigs are replaceable . Life isn’t
She doesn’t need to apologize or buy her mom anything. She has been abused by her mother and still has a heart to help her. Catering to her won’t help anything.
As a child of God she does need to apologize for stepping on her mom’s stuff and throwing it away.
That's cruel. If she wants to help her Mother, leave her alone. You don't know their situation.
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Understand. In this situation, you don’t care if your mom loves or likes you, you just want her to be nice to you. You’ll do anything for her.
My mom is an alcoholic. Last June she took a bottle of pills when drunk and immediately told her boyfriend what she did. She explained to me later she wasn't suicidal, she needed help and it was a cry for help! The bottom line is YOUR MOM has to hit her bottom and want the help. She won't get sober otherwise. My mom went from the hospital to her home but then 5 days later into residential treatment for 3 months. She will have a year sober next month! She had been drinking almost every day for 20 years. So keep hope. God bless. I'll be praying 🙏
🎉congratulations to your mother
Exactly! No idk can force anyone to get it together. They've gotta want it themselves. They've gotta want to live a better, healthy, clean and sober living and if not 🤷🏻♀️ they'll fail somewhere during the process, unfortunately. The heart and mind has to be ready and willing
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Congratulations to your mom ❤🙏🏼👼
Same with my father as well. It was horrible 🤦🏻♀️
You’ve grown up to be a daughter to be proud of, making all the right and mature decisions. Hopefully your mom grows up one day and can see that. God bless ❤
Girl if I had kids I'd be lucky to have you for a daught you are just so loving God bless you
I’m sorry you’ve had to watch your Mom struggle so much Vicki. Sending prayers for strength for her to get past all this. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Vicky you have been dealing with this for far to long your mom doesn't want to change you can not force her everyone giving you wrong advice you need to step away and leave your mom alone love her from a distance. I dealt with this same shit all my life with my mother with addiction and mental health and it took me many many years of doing what your doing until it drove me insane I had to walk away from her and love her from the far
Exactly, her friends are giving her TERRIBLE advice. They have no clue. Vicky needs to change her lock and love her mom from a distance.😣
It’s an addiction… she didn’t choose it. Vicki needs to educate herself on that. Then pray because it’s always easy to judge what you don’t understand .
@@MrsPete-mq4tv Having an addiction is literally someone Choosing that life. It’s definitely a choice… especially when you have a daughter who is bending over backwards trying to help. Vicky needs sympathy, too. Not just her mom.
what? Lmao they in fact DID chose their addiction. They weren’t born with it or magically got addicted without taking any substances. That bullshit of “is not a choice, addiction is an illness” it’s nothing but a way to lessen their accountability.
You don’t understand genetics then.
Sweetie, I have a addict son who is now 38. I will not give him money! He can't live in my home. I will give him food and I will forever love him. I continue to let him know he is loved! He has to be the one to decide how and when he gets clean. You have to set limits for her but especially for yourself. It is not easy but must be done. Prayers for you both
I've a similar situation, my son is 44, and for the last 25 years, I've had to do the same. I've prayed for him, taken food, and loved him from afar. His drug addiction landed him in prison two years ago.
I know he's clean, and he's relatively safe.
Even a mother's love can't fix everything but never lessons. ❤
That's not how to treat em. There's times he may actually need the money for other things and your no help to em. 😂
@@QuellyQNo…you don’t ever give them money, if he needs something she can buy it for him….handing him cash is like handing him drugs.
@@QuellyQthese people are delusional, how is marking your kid homeless and making sure they are in danger and at risk of jail going to help?
I have many friends that have gone through addiction and the ones who’s family ostracized them are all dead or in jail the ones that kept helping are the only ones that had a chance and when THEY were ready they got clean.
And they have purer drugs in jail as they don’t cut them like they do on the street to keep the physical size to a minimum. If you’re glad your kid is in jail you are the issue.
@@kathychapman2350
You’re out of your mind if you think he is either safe or sober in jail!
The drugs are purer and when he ends up in debt they will likely kill him if he can’t pay..
Ya, that is totally going to speed up his recovery..
You can only do so much. You also can’t help someone that doesn’t want it or even want to help themselves. ❤
This is an example of not judging another sin separate from the battle of your own. “If you can go seven days why not longer” the same can be said for that other something. Show your mother grace Vicky keep it in Gods hands and move as he directs you. I love you guys I will keep praying for you.
This 💯 her mom just detoxed for 7 days, MEDICALLY. They can worry about praying the cigarettes 🚬 out of her or her droppin' that later 🤦🏼♀️😆🤷🏼♀️
Right . The Bible tells us to HATE THE SIN NIT THE OERSON. That’s not them and u til they can accept his love and understand they can lean on him to get that comfort she gets from the bottle then all Cicky can do is PRAY AND THANK HIM. Praying for the same thing over and over isn’t faith. We pray and believe he hears us and after we continually thank him for it. Claim and receive.
Yes!!! Definitely DONT take cigs away from her just yet!! Shes still feeling the withdrawals. Let her get over the drinking first, then she can slowly stop smoking when she feels strong & confident in her sobriety.
@@HughMadBro I fully agree!! I am 30mths clean from a fentanyl addiction, smoking cigarettes was not a priority when I first cleaned up. I have gone from a pack a day to MAYBE one cigarette a day, more like one every 1.5 days now. Addictions take time but we do recover
I can tell Vicky is really upset. She's having trouble keeping it together. Even though I've gained a lot of respect for her and whats she's doing for her mom. I'm praying for Vicky and her mom. Stay strong Vicky. God Bless!!!
You can’t rob someone of their rock bottom! Sometimes you have to cut allllll ties and not support them with cigs and food and stuff that’s how my momma saved my life
Yup, that's how my mom saved mine as well. 6 years clean now ❤
The REALIST thing I've heard all day!! Also a plus coming from someone who struggled with addiction in the past. It's hard for someone to understand that's never been through it themselves so I hope she actually reads your comment bc it's the absolute 100% TRUTH. 🥰
This... FROM A STATE BOARD Recovery SPECIALIST 💯 this.. Vicky needs not to fund her moms downfall 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
This is 💯 facts and it saved my life! After having an injury at work I needed surgery and was immediately put on a high dose of fentanyl and opioids. Of course I became addicted! Eventually moving on up the issue was I had so many people around me getting their own scripts so there was an unbelievable amount of pills & money so I was never sick! I suffered but in emotional ways because my relationship with my children was suffering my kids especially my oldest son was always on my side if I needed anything he was their but he finally told me,"NO" and he gave me an ultimatum. That spiraled me and I isolated myself & went into a huge depression mode. I hit rock bottom and I knew I needed help. Once my children started having children I realized I didn't want them to see me this way, I wanted better, I wanted my relationship with my children back. I wanted me back, I missed my life,I missed the pretty girl in me, the good mother I've always been, I was tired of being tired!! I went to the doctors and got help the next day. I'm 5yrs clean, I got an amazing job. I've gotten 2 promotions in the past year making amazing $$, I bought a brand new car, off the showroom floor, everything in my home is cozy and brand new and most importantly my relationship with my children is great, but my relationship with my grandbabies is amazing❤ I am the happiest I've ever been! God bless you Vicky, you are doing everything you need to do as a daughter!
Tough Love Vicki. Don't give in to her nonsense.
This is exactly helping alot of people in your same situation. Thanks for sharing Vicky.
Vicky your a strong beautiful young lady.. Bless your heart for sticking by your mamma and trying to get the devil out of her all these years and making somthing of yourself! You are super strong.. Love you girl!!! ❤
Whoever you were talking to at the end. Do yourself a favor and cut ties with... business wise. You did nothing wrong by getting other people's help and input on the project..she is just intimidated and honestly just being a hater. imo. Anyway, praying for your mom and her recovery 🙏🏼
💯💯💯💯
And it’s definitely not the time to talk business 😮
even after all the stuff vickys mom has put her through vicky is still so strong nd doesn't hold a gruj and as someone whos parents have delt with addiction I know it can be really hard accpecually since its a parent. vicky u and are ur mom will be I'm my prayers
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I am a former fentanyl/heroin addict. Sometimes you have to hit your rock bottom. You have to want to stop just because you're putting her in that place doesn't mean she's going to necessarily stop. You have to want to stop. I am going on 3 years clean and sober. I lost my husband of 16 years to a fentanyl overdose which scared me straight so that was my rock bottom
I’m sorry for yours loss and wishing you the best with your 1 day at a time…. God is good… you are absolutey right… you have to want help it can’t be forced ..
This!!! And some people have many rock bottoms I've learned being in recovery myself. It's all ab when they are ready to stop! Also congrats on 3 years clean that'amazing! I'm going to be 2 years clean from h and fent in the end of July (my bf didn't use drugs and I did and I overdosed and he never let me touch it again) then in the end of August I'll be 2 years clean from m3th! And I'll be completing my 2 yr probation in June. 🎉
@@gothic0chic00011 you’ve got this .. congrats to you.. keep pushing forward ❤️
Your story is like mine. After 17 years my ex died of an overdose I got sober 2 months later. I've now been sober for 7 months. I've never made it over a month so I'm so happy I've gotten this far. And I'm 7 months strong I love being sober so good job keep it up I know it's hard losing someone it still hurts every day
I’m so sorry for your loss and proud of you! I have a loved one who wants to get clean from fentanyl. How did you get clean? She’s desperate for help but has tried she’s is so scared of withdrawal I’ve even looked up iboga for her any advice would be greatly appreciated! I would love to see her clean. She’s what you call a functioning addict. She’s lowered her dosage she doesn’t smoke it she takes f orally.
I’m so proud of you! I’m hoping I can get my good friend help 😊
Vickey I can say the amount of support you give your mother and how you don’t judge her is amazing! Just don’t let her take advantage of you with your money. I I think just you being there and your support is enough and amazing.!
Always wear seatbelt sis.
I'm 10 years clean as of May 15th. As a recovering addict i can confidently say you have to WANT the help. She will not get help until she is ready/hits her rock bottom. Maybe have a intervention with her, you and all her loved ones. Each of you write a letter to her from your heart, and tell her if she does not get the help she needs then you can no longer be in her life. You can no longer help her with anything anymore. Im praying for your mom and you!
Happy New Birthday ❤🎉 My clients , we call it their Birthday, because it’s a brand new life, and a second chance at life. God Bless 10 years of living a new life! 🎉❤
Is this is late but I’m so proud of you for getting clean !!🥹 and I’m happy that you’ve been clean this long , my mama is currently an alcoholic and a drug user and it makes me happy to know other woman out their our getting help !! I’m proud of you stranger 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Vicky one thing, don’t baby her your friend isn’t really giving you good advice. Yes be nice & express your love but do not coddle her, addicts take advantage of those kind of people. She’s your mother not the other way around. You need to remember that too, the only way she’s gonna get help is if she wants it & she clearly doesn’t want it right now
Honestly Vicki, you did the right thing. I know it’s hard to see your mom going through that but no body else is there to help her but you.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can RELATE. I’m currently dealing with a paranoid schizophrenic father, so I completely understand what you are going through. Not a lot of people understand but I do. And you DONT deserve all this stress and drama. You are very strong but I can see you are holding back the tears. Let them flow, it’ll make you feel better. It’s hard for me to cry, too😭😖
It’s not fair that you have to deal with this. It’s not fair. You deserve a stable and loving mother. That’s what God wants for you too. But sometimes things don’t go as planned😢 I would say to get the power of attorney over her to see where that may lead.
Don’t let your mom walk over you Vicky. Be kind and respectful but Keep your boundaries. Don’t allow them to be crossed. 🚫You are not crazy for how you feel about your mom. It’s NOT your fault why your mom is the way she is. Everyone puts the pressure on you but they don’t truly understand how hard it is to have a dysfunctional parent. I pray God gives you supernatural peace in Jesus name.
This was a really sweet comment and very thoughtful. It sounds like you have been through similar situations, and I'm sorry for that. I pray God gives you some peace and blesses your family❤
@@Lahteehdah Thank you 🙏🏾 and I pray the same for you and your family. God bless you❤️❤️
My mom is also a paranoid schizophrenic and a drug addict too so it makes her schizophrenia much worse.
I’m a recovering addict and alcoholic. The best thing for me was when my family met me exactly where I was at. Mentally and physically. I needed it to be a slow process. It was so overwhelming for me I needed to isolate and be loved back to who I was before. I know it’s frustrating but you cannot control her addict brain. She can’t control it or she would😢Praying for you all!!❤
Keep loving her! She is your mama and she is like a child mentally. I’m sorry I know it’s so hard to keep fighting for someone who can’t even see what we see.🙏🙏🙏🦋
Vicky don’t let that negative energy in, just keep your faith because your faith is beautiful and your mom is lucky to have you! Keep believing in him and he will never lead you a stray. Keep your head up. You hella smart and see it how it is and that’s why I respect you. Also I liked your Van Cleef necklace/ring 😍
You have done everything you could sometimes ppl have to want to get better 😢 prayers 🙏
Don't give up Vicky.. keep praying and begging TMH God to deliver her from the demon that wants to destroy her. I see the hurt and disappointment and I wanna hug you . I'm praying for you both🩷🙏🏾🩷
Me and my mom have been going through this for 40+ years.
You’re a good daughter Vicky! Never give up hope❤
My mom died when I was 17 from alcoholism and it honestly was a relief! I was the mom in the relationship and was always scared n worried of the next horrible thing she will do. She embarrassed me all my life and neglected tf outta me! I send my love n respect
I had to stop drinking by taking natural calming supplements to depression and anxiety. Magnesium, L Tryptophan. Some zinc picolinate . Raw Garlic.
Honestly I really need to do that now I don't drink as much but when I do drink sometime I overdo it and I need a natural supplement because I made it through so much and I'm happy but it's still some things in the back of my mind that made me feel like I need more healing which is okay with me but it's good to know that I can have that moment to share it with someone else also besides God because he's always there we are our own worst enemy
I feel for you
I love how every woman in your life gave you support and great advice on how to navigate through the situation. I really love that for you and grateful that you have the love especially right now. You’re gonna be okay❤️
Sending lots of love and prayers ❤
Vicky you look like you have been crying😢 I lost my momma 3 years ago from dementia and I beg you show her love and kindness bc we never know when it will be your last goodbye😢 I miss my momma so much I cry daily for her it's hard walking on this earth and not seeing her or having her here for me to say mom. I love you Vicky please make amends with your momma babe❤
Praying for you and your mother!🙏❤️
I have an alcoholic mother. Vicky doesn’t need to apologize. She needs to stand her ground. Her mom needs help and will always continue to blame Vicky. When I was Vicky’s age I did all the same things as her to help my mother. She doesn’t want help, Vicky needs to walk away.
Now the person in the car is giving her the realest advice and thats what she didnt want to hear.. As believers no matter what GOD had picked HER to be your mother knowing exactly what she will battle AND HE STILL SAID HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER!
Whoa Vickey, and Faith her self... Out there ballin'.. Stay sober, stay safe. Love ya'll
God bless you sweetest Vicky you are such a good daughter and are doing your very best and always keep in mind you’re learning too. Your friend that’s driving is giving you some great advice because when the person is agitated and especially coming off a detox the cigarettes are something she will need for a while longer. I’ve dealt with people with addiction for 20yrs and she is physically not comfortable yet even after 7 days the detox symptoms and physically feeling horrible is still there along with the emotions wreaking havoc in her mind. It’s a long road and this true detoxing process can take a month just the physical part of it. I’m praying for you and lighting you a candle 🕯️ for her to heal in Jesus Name
Prayers for you and your mom ❤🙌
You are such a good daughter. You are sticking by your mom doing the best you can to help her. God will reward you for this. God bless you and your mother. I'm sending prayers her way. May she open her eyes and seek Jesus to cleanse her from the darkness. ❤ 🙏🏼
I'm REALLY REALLY praying for you guys Vicki 🙏❤️
I’m praying for you, Victoria and I’m praying for your mom. You put on a brave face, but I can see how much this is tearing you up inside the only thing that will fix this problem with your mom is God and love and understanding from her daughter, I know that won’t be easy, but your friend in the car with you gave you some really good advice sending you my love and prayer
I’m glad you have a friend with you ❤ bc this has got to be hard for you (and her).
God bless u Vicky, iv been right where u are with my dad but sometime u have to walk away and love her from a distance. I don't know your whole story but it's not far off from my dad and me and my siblings, we told him we can't do it no more. Vicky your good daughter but u have nothing to be sorry for u did the best u can do u need to take care of yourself. If u talk to her do off video and explain to her it's me or that cuz I can't do all this no more I love u I want to be with u alive but how much do I got to do mom. My dad finally got clean 17 years ago I was 30. We made him leave when I was 10 my sister was 11, my mom was broken so that was it. God bless u Vicky I hope she does get help but please also take care of u and your mental health🙏🙏🙏😊
Vicky. I'm not your biggest fan but you made it so far and your mom at this point is not at her bottom. You need to get her out and tell her til she gets help she can't live in your house and you won't give her money. You can't enable her. I pray for you both
She won't do it. She got some type of guilt or pity for her. Fk that shit. Let her go
So... You took her cigarettes but, she took your childhood and a good piece of your twenties.. God Bless you, girl. The Lord says to honor your father and your mother for this is right. HOWEVER, God also says it's better to tie a millstone around your neck and jump in the ocean than to mistreat a child. I'll keep yall in my prayers.
Vicky is your mom okay your mom is scary when she drinks love the video Vicky god bless you Vicky ❤🎉😢😅😊
Don't get her no flowers. For what getting drunk and calling you whores and bringing on a big ass scene. I'm only speaking as a recovering alcoholic who has 5 now grown children and 8 grandchildren. Sometimes, us moms need tough love to. Doesn't mean you can't be there for her, but boundaries need to be set and stuck to.
She has been showing her mother love she had her mve in shes helped her more than once to get sober, but she wants its more than her mother does and unfortunately her mom isnt gonna get better until she wants to get better, Vicky youre doing great considering keep praying
Girl u are strong. U don't owe your mom an apology. U are trying to save her that's more than enough. My prayers are with u. 🙏❤️
You’re doing the best you can. You had to be the adult and now you are and so you dont have to do anything for your mother you’re already going above and beyond if your mom wouldn’t get in the car then she doesn’t deserve the ride or the thought you’re an amazing daughter.
Yes Vicki, you just need to love on your mom. I know it's not easy dealing with addiction, but your mom needs your love. God will give you the love that you need ❤
23:00. I literally cried for you and I with your friend's comment "This hurts....even if you pretend it doesn't". True r words never spoken. Thank God you have all of these people...Its important that you post all of these videos, I don't care what ANYONE says about it. If it helps even ONE other person that is feeling like you are, like I did...or he's an addict see what they are doing to themselves and/or those they care about...its most certainly worth it. Anyone who has lived through this...especially those that have experienced the worst possible outcomes will KNOW the significant impact it can have when seeing someone else dealing with the same things, and just as importantly, hearing the advice from so many people in your support system that each bring something unique in their lived experience. No doubt someone that really needs it will see it.
As a mother and a recovering addict, I hope like crazy that you and your mama are able to work past your difficulties before it's too late. I can see the pain in your eyes. I never got the chance to tell my own mother goodbye. She never got the chance to see me the way I am now 100% clean and sober almost 19 years because if her own drug induced state. It is so hard. Take life by the horns make right what you can, she is your one and only mama, I know it hurts, addiction is a cold hearted bitch but, you can do this!
Congratulations 🎉
@@lizwimberly3222 thank you! It was not easy but, it is worth it
I’m sorry you have to deal with this Vicky you’re a strong strong woman and so is your momma. Ik she’s gotta be very thankful for you babe🥹💚
Power of attorney
Trust me it’s way easier said than done it don’t work like that can’t nobody make her get help NOBODY especially if she can advocate for herself
She needs to baker act her I bet Carla is trying to get out of Florida for that reason & run to her "boyfriend"... Vicky will always have the best interest of her & is her closest family member so a judge would 💯 approve it!!!
@@HughMadBro if she truly does not want help they cannot make her I had a parent go through this every state Is different like she told the police her mother does not have a mental illness so she can most definitely advocate for herself when she’s sober like I said it’s easier said than done
Hunny you can’t help someone who don’t want it all you can do is pray sweetheart I know it’s hard I’m a recovering addict myself and it’s not easy I’ve also dealt with an alcoholic father most of my life it’s not easy and the homeless shelter does let you bring in cigarettes you just can’t smoke inside love ❤hang in their I’ll be praying for you and your mom.❤
People say keep this private are just ignorant. Share your stories because they help people in ways you couldnt imagine.
Understand. In this situation, you don’t care if your mom loves or likes you, you just want her to be nice to you. You’ll do anything for her.
Great Daughter Vicky (Beautiful Mom Hope Your Feeling Better) 🥰😊👍🏼
19:26. I’m so glad you have a great group of friends supporting you that clearly have gone through similar situations and are giving you the same advice that I paused the video t make.
I'm sorry sweetheart. ❤ Be strong. Survival mode is a tough gig. You're amazing 💜⚓
God bless you ❤. Stay strong. Knowing the battle might be hard ❣️
My brother Andrew passed away of an overdose on April 17th, 2024. It’s so hard knowing he’s gone. He was doing very well but wanted to go to a better rehab. He was clean and telling his story about how happy he was feeling being clean.. It suddenly happened and I never had anyone close to me pass. I can definitely understand the feeling of having a family member struggle with addiction.. It sucks and my heart goes out to you and I’m praying for you and your family. 🫶🏻
I lost my sister 8 days before you lost your brother. She had no fight left in her.
I am soooo sorry for your loss. Hugs and Prayers to you and your family.
@AngiesByKim I'm soooo sorry for your loss. Hugs and Prayers for you and your family.
I don’t care for Vicky but no child have to go through this with a parent. She seems to go above and beyond for her mom and nothing has worked. It’s time to just wash her hands with things and love her from a distance. Can’t help someone until they want to be helped! God Bless them both and hopefully things start to change and a bond is made between them!👏🏾👏🏾
Nobody, nobody, mess with my Jesus 🎶
Vicky your mother is grown , she is gonna do what she wants sometimes its best to remove yourself from other people's demons ..pray for her ,help her out with a lil cash if she ask AND keep it moving she will bring you down if you let her 😢
Yeah it’s called being real and genuine towards your mom!
I’m sorry you are going through and probably have been going through all of this traumatizing stuff with your mom! I can’t tell how hurt you are, I will be praying for you & for her!
Addiction is a cruel disease. God bless you
Vicky is such a good person and growing ❤
My whole entire heart breaks for you. My dad was an alcoholic my whole life, he started drinking at 16, at 62 he fell, drunk. Caused his brain to start bleeding, and he almost died in his sleep. Because he refused to go to the hospital, after calling me names as your mom was you. The next day thankfully he did wake up, went to the hospital and had surgery to relieve the pressure and blood, the docs said thankfully he didn’t have an aneurism. But the day he fell, was the day he stopped drinking, and he’s now 64, with two years sober. Just keep praying for your mom. But stand firm, don’t let what she’s got going on disturb your sanity, and peace. Sometimes tough love is the best love, before my dad fell I hadn’t talked to him in 2 years, we’re working on our relationship now, it’s not perfect but it’s better. I hope it doesn’t take such drastic measures for your mom to get herself together, addiction is hard, I dealt with my dads, and my own, I’m six years sober. I will be praying for your mom, and I hope she beats this nasty sickness, do what you can, just like you are now. Again, I’m sorry you’re even having to see her this way, hear the mean things she says, and watch the told it’s taking on her. Keep your head up, and fight for her. Lots of prayers coming your families way. 🙏🏼
From someone who knows, this is hard. For me, my Son. Heartbreaking. Even when they get sober, they are dealing with so much shame and guilt. They put it on Themselves because they feel like that is how we feel as the survivors. The best thing you can do for yourself and mama is forgive. Just keep telling her, until your sick of your own voice. I love you mama and all is forgiven. Just be better.Not for me, for yourself. Whoever told you that you were not enough... They lied. You are a wonderful person and a beautiful daughter. Be strong and take care of yourself! Sometimes, we just have to surrender and let God take take the wheel. Peace be with.🙏
Praying for you both.. it's taking a toll on u boo sometimes u have to keep ur distance some people just don't want the help they will still do it behind ur back n lie to it face saying they didn't . Praying for u girly keep ur head up 🙏🏾
Sending Prayers to you Vicky and your mom
Bless your heart❤ I said a prayer for you and your mom and I will continue praying for y'all❤ I hope everything will be okay❤ you are a good person you are trying to help your mama❤❤❤❤ may God bless you both❤
How does your friend look 25 and 35 all at the same time. 😮
And so masculine...
What are u on about
@@evolveausevolveausdeffo lesbian
Yeah she's got sandpaper face
I kept wondering why she liked so familiar, but I believe she is Malu Travejos ex GF
Stay strong! Keep praying Vickie! He heard us!! Your mother is fortunate to have you, maybe it’s time to take care of you! You seem very smart, I wish you the best!
My daughter moved to Tokyo and sometimes I wonder if it’s b/c of me. I don’t drink but I have a lot of health issues that caused me an addiction to pain pills. Had to get myself off 120mg of OxyContin years ago. I know I messed up years ago but I can’t get a do over. All I can do is try to not abuse even when I’m not well and hurting. May you be blessed. Always keep God first!! You next, b/c without you she is lost, then her!
I’m like your momma skinny
Your strong Vicky !! 🙏🙏💪💪🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
It's gonna take a real Miracle to save Momma now Vicky 🙏
Vicky I hope that you really look into who all is in your circle and who you talk to. Some of them are saying weird things like roses get rid of negative energy nd other things. Be careful what counselors/friends/leaders you have in your life.
Praying for her ❤
Vicky girl im watching these videos and damn ... its a situation that you have to 100% hand it to god put all your hope in god and pray . Prayer is so 💪 your a great daughter and your doing everything you can ❤
I don't know you very well, but I know this situation all too well. I am 19 years clean off hard drugs. If you apologize, if you keep giving in, if you buy her cigs, if you let her keep coming back… there is a 90% chance she will DESTROY you, and you won't realize it until you are in a similar situation as her, with unresolved trauma. You won't even notice when the trauma becomes a problem. This kind of situation... she is a grown woman, with grown woman problems. Sometimes you have to cut the cord and hope that she finds her way back to life. Otherwise, you are going to go down with her. Please don't do this to yourself, your friends, your family that might be around, your future partner, or your future kids. I ruined my life for years, years I can't get back.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this. You are doing the right thing by trying to get her some help. You are also doing the right thing by using tough love with her. I know this is so hard. When your mom gets better I pray she realizes what you have done for her
Praying for you and your mom ❤
I’m praying for a speedy recovery for you and your family. You were not wrong about anything you’ve done because you only want to see the best in your mother. You can’t keep helping her if she’s not willing to give up on her own addiction. Once you cut ties with her she’ll come back around and change her life for the better. Life is too short to be focusing on someone who’s not willing to change. You’re do all you can do and it’s up to her rather she want to change or not. Stay strong hun❤️
Vicky, I'm proud of you. You do what you feel is right, keep praying and lean on God, he will help you through this. Tough love is hard, I know.
Praying for your mom 🙏🏽💕
Vicki, may I please suggest YOU look into going to an open Al-anon meeting for YOURSELF. It will help you and give you the tools on how to deal with the alcoholic in your life. The meetings are also filled with people who can relate and are going through the same thing you are!
May God watch over you. God bless
Im sorry vicky idk that pain and stress it is in your life but u can only do so much she can only help herself but i can tell you dont let her take advantage of u, ur strong i hope ur mom realizes how much u care for her and what ur trying to do for her ur not trying to harm her and u love her and that its not to late to do something with ur life its not over and be saved again much love vicky praying for ur mom and you ❤
I am sending prayers for your mom
I see how much you love your mom and just want her to be the best version of herself and make the best choices for herself. I know this hurts you. Sending you all my support, love and hugs Vicky❤. I’m praying for you guys 🙏
Vicky, it is not your job to make amends with your mother. It is not your responsibility to fix the relationship or to keep it going.
It wasn't and it isn't your fault. You can and have been healing not only without her but in spite of her.
Break. Those. Cycles.
🖤
so many prays for you and your mother,
These two batches are 🔥🔥
I GOT TO get to Fl.
I feel sorry for Vicky! I can relate. She’s gonna feel guilty an buy her mom gifts but it doesn’t work.
Wow. I really respect you
Its possible your mom didnt want to get in the car bc she wants to go drink. She is an addict afterall. And she went to the psych ward, not rehab. I hope im wrong, but its just what came to mind when you said she didnt want to go with you from the jump😢. Also, Vicky, its apparent that you have a great group of friends around you. And that is SUCH a blessing in itself ❤ Im glad you have them to talk with. I hope things get better very soon🙏
Woah Vicxy don't needs to BB her mom's. you need to keep doing wut ur doing! Continue to be strong 🙏. Everyone keeps mom in their prayers. Ole gurl in the car is giving Woah Vicxy wrong advice....
Her mom crying about cigs and stuff is just manipulation. Her mom knows why Vicky did those things and what she’s doting wrong she just can’t help herself .. Cigs are replaceable . Life isn’t