You are a beautiful person - Never forget this! You have a good heart, kind spirit and are very strong. First saw you on Blair White's show and was impressed with how articulate and insightful you are. I hope that you find someone who will cherish and love you, because you so deserve to be loved. You have so much to give and are simply such a good person. Be blessed!
Too much emphasis on hardware these days. There is more to being a women than big boobs and a v@gina. It should be how you feel on the inside, not just confirming to some gender norm on the outside.
There's a whole documentary about the way Muslims deal with homosexuality. It's kinda the way this person did it. Two guys can be together but one of them has to be trans. Usually after the surgery the gay guy dumps them and finds another feminine cock.
There’s a theory that this is why some parents push their kids to become trans. The parents are homophobic so they’d rather have a trans kid who passes as straight than a gay kid.
These are the most painful giggles I have ever heard someone do. Each “laugh” is like covering yet another painful fact or aspect of the interviewee’s life. 😢 Best wishes for Shape Shifter moving forwards . .
People were making fun of him for it on another video. It really pissed me off. They're clearly a thing Shape does when he's nervous or uncomfortable its a very normal reaction
100% a nervous/ emotional giggle. I’m so sorry Shape that you have to deal with this pain and sadness. You’re beautiful and deserve all the love and happiness.
"...it was a software issue...literally people sold me a hardware fix." That was a perfect way to express what you have been through. wow. I am so sorry for everything you have gone through but you are helping so many people. God Bless You.
As a systems administrator i got this too, and having a gay best friend since the age of 13 as a man with a wife and kids I would go to jail if they did this to him. The doctors who fast tracked this poor soul deserve every punishment samiel dishes out to them when they reach his fires. 98% of trans people are gay.....Let that sink in.
I seriously feel so awful for him. Like listening to this literally made my heart break. What the hell has happened in the last 20 years????? I was in high school in the late 90s early 00s, and we were determined to stop female circumcision, female genital mutilation, because of how awful it was to those women, and done against their will. Some FGM survivors will never know an orgasm. And then later I championed no male circumcision either, it was only done for religious reasons and NO benefit to the person. Sure penile cancer rates go down if you don't have that part of the penis to get cancer. It's akin to me saying, welp can't get appendix cancer cuz I don't have an appendix. And a lot of supporters said "the foreskin serves no purpose".....hmmmm??? Really? Because I'm pretty sure the men I've been with that had intact foreskin were MUCH more sensitive than the circumcised guys. Also if we go down that logic train......are these idiots suggesting we get rid of ALL organs or appendages that don't really serve a purpose? I think not. The absolute devastation knowing you can't, in a sense, "get off" ever......just wow. Never being able to "rub one out" after a long day, or you're just horny and hubby isn't home. These were the same things we were saying about FGM, we were depriving women of a basic human right. And to know this absolute quagmire our society is in now.....I'm so sorry this happened to you, Shape Shifter.
Because 60 Minutes and all of the major news networks are all on the same script, look what they pushed Jazz Jennings into and what they allowed to happen to that poor ch!ld (TLC's "I Am Jazz" was stunted from puberty blockers and left without s3xual function, and castrated... Jazz's life is ruined because of this whole "trans k!d" Programming NWO circus)
@Broski Snowski There have been actually trans people since before this whole "trans" phenomenon started on social media. Everyone has met a "successful", normal, every day trans person who lives "stealth" and doesn't make a big neon sign pointing to them that says "TRANS", people are just not aware of it (which was the idea for actual real trans people, to blend in to society, not make society their enemy). Real trans people agree to leave k!ds alone and they don't promote the buffoonery from the cult. Innocent, every day "qu33rs" will have to pay for all of this in the very near future.
Bc everyone tries not to be transphobic instead of helping these people who are clearly suffering from a mental illness. It's so sad. I think most of them regret removing their genitalia after some time and there's nothing they can really do to reverse it.
The first 3 times he chuckled I was like that’s a weird reaction, but watching the whole interview you realise it’s literally laughing to stop the tears from flowing. You can feel the pain in his voice and eyes and he is so brave to be so honest an open to share his story to help others! You are so strong! Thanks for this❤
Lol shut up you bitter ass bitch. Y’all are so jealous of us, it’s crazy. If she wasn’t preaching your self-hate propaganda, you would be HATING on her so bad. And don’t say you wouldn’t. I know your type. You let yourself go, and are a frumpy, and TRUMPy washed up cunt, and you hate on women that look better than you
Women have a variety of looks, watch women on the street and see what they do. Gender expression is very different than gender id. A butch woman is not trash,she sees herself as a woman. The women who wear short skirts, crop tops and heels are women, women who enjoy dressing femme. The women in the lulumons and the athleta top ids as a woman. It isn't about how you present yourself as a woman, it is identifying as a woman that makes you one, otherwise the only 'real' women would be those who dress a certain way, who dress like a Kardashian or a woman in the trump universe.
I swear. I never comment on any YT videos. This was so incredible, and he is just......WOW. So self actualized, his self awareness and depth of knowledge is beyond comprehension. The way he intelligently articulated the nuances of gender, radicalism, cancel culture, trans misconceptions, sexuality maturity, hormonal affect and the cultural pressure to conform is absolutely beyond belief. He verbalized everything I've ever wanted to deliver in a positive, thoughtful, respectful and rational way. Just floored. Impressed. Already want an update on this gem and his detransition journey and evolution into his true self. Just Incredible. 💕
This was one of the most annoying and stupid interviews on this dudes channel. Really just infuses more hate for trans people into this dumbass culture war we are battling. Another BIG win for the elites!
This is one of the first detransitioning persons that I've listened to that is making COMPLETE sense. It's terrible that the doctors, insurance companies & not even the LGBTQIA+ community are not there for them if they change their minds. It really doesn't have to be all or nothing. I admire his courage & will have to pray for him because unfortunately his ordeal is not over. Please be encouraged 💖
Of course you will never hear about detransitioning because the trans activists and their donors are getting kickbacks from Big Pharma. Transitioning, hormones, surgeries, and puberty blockers are a billion dollar business. Chloe Cole and Layla are now suing the hospital because they had irreversible surgeries and they were only 13 years old, not the legal age of consent. Blaire White is trans and is speaking out against this madness.
I totally agree with you. Shape Shifter took the fantasy out and spoke the reality of transitioning. This interview took tremendous courage and strenght. I want only the best for him going forward and the inner peace he so rigthfully deserves.
What an amazing human being. I’m saddened by your experience. Heartbroken really for you. You didn’t deserve the deceit, the bullying. You needed the right support and you didn’t get that from those around you, friends family or professionals. You are a great spokesperson for this topic. You should do a TED talk and reach more people with your story, your view, your common sense. Your experience wasn’t all for nothing because you are changing lives with this video as we speak. I’m sorry for your suffering but I hope you know how valued you are! I’m glad you are still here ❣️
Yes… I felt that too. I recognized it immediately. …Before he said anything about it. When people know what emotional pain feels like … you can see it easily in others. He was so polite , and gentle. The world can really do a lot of harm to the gentle hearted. It’s so important to teach them young to protect themselves with internal strength that isn’t there naturally. . We’re never going to change the entire world. We’ve got to learn to maneuver through it for our best outcome.
@@Bonesawisready926 ok so let me say this he breaks my heart everytime he laughs and he appears to be such a gentle soul- I love how he explains everything so eloquently / this was intense🙏 a prayer for him!
I could have listened to him speak for hours. He is so intelligent, insightful and authentic; I hope we will get an update on his journey soon. Thank you for sharing his story, Mark ❤
I’ve been 'trans' for 50+ years. What we have here is a case of mass neurosis and hysteria. I decided to go trans, male to female, about 50 years ago.I am 70 now and I am transitioning back and although it’s been difficult I feel a sense of freedom from trying to become something that I could never be.
“Seeing things black or white’s got humanity into a lot of trouble” - couldn’t agree more, what a smart, well-spoken and measured individual. Absolutely loved this interview and wishing you lots of strength, love and clarity during de-transitioning
One woman of my country is wellknown for being one of the first "Islamo-gauchiste" of internet, meaning she support massively extreme feminism, vegan, lgbt, communism, and muslim during terrorism attacks. She always went deeper into this political opinion. Recently my country got burned, not for social/political issues, just for fun and to steal expensive stuff, sold on ebay the day after. Those who did this, only wanted to destroy and to make easy quick money, they said so on tiktok. She agreed. Shz knew it was not a revolt, only an opportunity to make chaos, and having zero reaction from our government . Because she did not say the purpose of burning was a revolt against violence, like all islamo gauchistes said, because, she disagree with free violence, she has been canceled, and called a fascist. Ouch. Because she's only 99% black, and not 100% anymore, shes considered by black, as a white. And no white would ever consider her as one of them, until she kept her 99%.
Some things and situations ARE black-and-white. Please come to Ukraine, see what russian fascists are doing to us (war crimes and crimes against humanity) and then dare to say us it's ''grey area'' or complicated when it isn't. When people come to murder, abuse, torture you, when they kill defenceless people, children and elderly included... It IS black and white. You live a sheltered privileged life if you don't understand that.
@@MrDOGRUN Well, you shouldn't because some things and situations ARE black-and-white. Please come to Ukraine, see what russian fascists are doing to us (war crimes and crimes against humanity) and then dare to say us it's ''grey area'' or complicated when it isn't. When people come to murder, abuse, torture you, when they kill defenceless people, children and elderly included... It IS black and white. You live a sheltered privileged life if you don't understand that.
I hope for the day when we are free to be who we were born as, instead of having to conform to societal expectations and surgical mutilation. We are all a mix of masculine and feminine no matter our genitalia, and nobody should have to fit some preconceived binary mold.
As a therapist, I'm glad I saw this. I can remember how in the relatively recent past I believed the transition could not be a mistake. I appreciate and am grateful he said he doesn't trust psychotherapists. I think many of us are in a hurry from time to time and make hasty conclusions. Unfortunately, it is our clients/patients who will pay for our haste... Extremes are the enemy of a balanced decision. I am sure that it is possible to respect the decision to make the transition, but also to leave the necessary space to explore this decision
I dated a trans woman who was clearly not a trans woman. I do not think the behavior was overtly intentional, but transness seemed to be about getting out of a marriage, getting attention from a community that the person was not really a part of, feeling special, & creating chaos in a difficult family relationship. They were not considering surgery thank heavens, but they kept doing extraordinarily high risk things and then using them for more attention & shit-stirring. I genuinely enjoy dating trans people, but this was definitely just a straight dude just drama’ing wildly. I had to cut off the post breakup friendship after this person made friends & introduced me to a very red flaggy Dom, like you just wanted to recoil when you met him,who was busted shortly thereafter for conspiracy to traffic a child. I’m a vanilla lesbian so I didn’t appreciate the introduction to a Dom anyway. Bless the poor gal on FetLife who just wanted some light bondage and went immediately to the cops & cooperated with a sting and had to type vile vile things in order to get him put away.
man/woman, transitioned/detransitioned, he went trough a lot and is very self-aware. seems like a really good person, nothing else matters. I wish him all the best
@@woahitstheillusion9749 I agree, his story is what made him into this beautiful person :) my point was that looking at him his beautiful character overshines everything
Absolutely but he shouldn’t be blaming anyone else for what he asked to be done. What he convinced himself that needed to be done. Don’t feed yourself to an alligator then asked the alligator why it’s eating you!
@@dude3277 I feel like we all go through a blaming phase when searching for the truth. certainly, blame can be found, he seams peaceful nevertheless and I hope his health will improve...
Why? Of course people make mistakes. Just because this person affirms your beliefs doesn't mean this one person represents the rest of the trans community.
@Jarrett Currie By the "rest of the trans community" Who are you talking about? Give us a real example of where to find the "trans community". Because all that really exists is a corrupt seeping propoganda spread by extremist communists that got through a lot of school systems and was literally FORCED into other kids and adults lives. Thats not a community. Thats like saying the russians that support Putin are the Russian community. When people are forced to deal with a corrupt system that got purposefully nailed into a society, thats not a community. Thats oppression and communism. Have a nice day.
@@JarrettBC Typical. Instead of compassion and concern for others you jump to debating that it doesn't NEED TO BE HEARD? OH what are you afraid of? . What a jerk. "People make mistakes"???? How shallow and immature. There are LITERALLY nearly 100,000 members of Reddit detrans subs.. Stop denying the truth.
Every time Shape Shifter nervously laughs it breaks my heart.. I can’t imagine the pain they must go through on a daily basis… Thank you for this video! Everyone should watch this!
@@RubycellaRight, that's the problem he's discussing. Should medical professionals help sterilize autistic gay people? He's saying he didn't have a real concept of what to expect because they're propagating the lie that transitioning to another sex is even possible. Especially to confused people that are still minors?
My dude right here has educated me more about this topic in 20 mins than in all the articles I've read for yrs. Wow. So smart. He should be a motivational speaker or a counselor for kids who believe they have any of these questions about sexuality. Great interview. Also Ben Shapiro and him would have a greeaat conversation I'd be interested in hearing.
Ben Shapiro is a homophobe, and I’d never want to subject Shape Shifter to him. There are far more informed people on this issue than Ben Shapiro. Gender critical feminists have been having these conversations since the 1970s, and they did it without Ben Shapiro.
Remember, if homophobia is a contributing factor, then the anti-LGBT movement is leading to more people transitioning when they should not. And if you regularly advocate against LGBT people, no matter what you tell us your reasons are, you must want more people to suffer like Shape Shifter.
As a feminine man, I get asked all the time if I’m transit actually bothers me she’s so right when she said that that line has been blurred, Just because you’re feminine and you’re a man does not mean that you’re uncomfortable with your body or your genitals I’m very comfortable with my body . And I think a lot of us femme men go through this I went through questioning my gender for many many years.
@@KaseyAngel222 did you really listen? HE spends the whole video telling us that HE is a MAN, and regrets HIS transition, and wants to transition back to his true male gender.
@@KaseyAngel222 Doesn't matter. Biologically HE is a man and always will be. Just because you lose or add pieces to your body doesn't change what you were born as or your genetic makeup.
I appreciate your stress giggles. Talking about such a difficult situation I would expect nothing less. You did great. I appreciate your honesty and the insight you shared from your experience. Please continue to share your story!! You are eloquent, intelligent and knowledgeable. Thank you for saying yes to Mark.❤❤❤
We have men and warriors from early histories with long hair, but they were men and we have women with short hair style too, abd they're still women. The world is really messed up 😢
its not about the hair. it just helps mentally because thats what is socially considered as more feminine. u can transition with short hair but its not going to help people respect u as much, as a woman , socially/visually.
Cham watch again you missed the point. He has had all the surgeries. He is the complete trans woman, well as completely as the medical machine can do. Gender is how you feel, sex is what you are. So no doctors or surgeons can make you biological anything.🤗
His nervous laughs when he's talking about painful stuff breaks my heart. We need to talk about this more: if we can have grown adults regretting this, how in the heck can ANYONE advocate we let children castrate themselves and cause irreversible damage? It's pure madness.
@@boutiquebabe Chloe Cole, Laura "Funk God" apparently, and that's without doing any research. I'm sure there's all kinds of cases that aren't even known about since we're not even supposed to talk about any transitions that fail.
This interview should be seen be anyone who wants to transition. He is so brilliant in explaining all the details, the implications. And he is right it is a mental health.
So because one person made a mistake you think nobody else would transition? Well, shit, I better call my surgeon that it took me 3 years to find and tell him my surgery is off because of a random TH-cam video. 🙄
@@ThoseHappyHipsThat isn’t what they said. There are people who will live to regret surgery. The fact that you feel certain about your decision to have surgery doesn’t change that.
This video should be mandatory for any person, child or parent considering transitioning. Powerful and informative. Thank you so much Shape. Your experience, intelligence, courage, wisdom and voice are such a valuable asset to this day and times. Keep speaking until the whole world hears you! You’re amazing. Love and bigs hugs 🤗🤗🥰❤️
It's not "big pharma" who promote transgenderism - it's radical trans activists 🙄 Do you think "big pharma" is sitting on internet forums, convincing people they need to change sex??? Just as there are doctors who precsribe, and even SUGGEST drugs to people - psychoactive drugs and opiates, not something the person needs, there are a FEW doctors with actual medical degrees who do whatever surgeries people want, and those get promoted on transgender forums
I wish you the best of luck on your journey... you are so brave.. I have 2 children who identify as trans but I refuse to do anything drastic until they are adults and I will pray that they are solid minded and level headed enough to make completely informed decision and I plan to have them watch your story so they realize the ups and downs of transitioning.. thank you again for your bravery and for sharing your truth and experiences with all of us
Not one but 2 kids that believe to be trans??? They are probably influencing and copying one another What about the father? Are you both on the same page? Try to relocate to a state (also abroad or in the US) where law is on your side and there is less trans propaganda
I’m an androgynous woman, and Shapeshifter is completely right about the lines being blurred. I have had people outright call me “sir” to my face. A 5’1 woman with feminine features, except that I dress more masculinely and prefer having a male haircut. Instead of it being polite, it’s an insult to the idea that in spite of some of my masculine features, I’m still a woman. 10 years ago, people would have recognized me as a woman just fine. Now people dance around me, afraid to choose any particular pronoun.
Tell them your a woman. People assess gender off of secondary sex characteristics, mannerism and vioce. Maybe your energy and appearance is male. It is not life shattering to say I am female and then walk away.
Genuinely sorry you have to deal with this now. Also pointing out, there is no one way strangers can handle gendering folks that works for everyone. The approach you're getting hurts you, but helps many nonbinary people and binary trans people who can't "pass"
@@stilltrying619 and guess what ....there s about a million woman who are masculin or like male clothes and like 33 gender confused ones ... i do wish all the best !! And lets treat eachother with respect .. there are heaps of countries where male like woman are treated normal ...
@@gmy33 Yea this a big point of confusion for people, including some trans people and "pro-trans" cis people. There ARE more masculine-presenting cis women and feminine-presenting cis men than there are trans people. Also, there are trans people. Two different phenomena. Sometimes, like in Shape's case, gender-nonconforming cis people end up transitioning because their experience has a lot of commonalities with trans people's, and they didn't get the right support during their questioning process (we need better processes in place to prevent that). It's like how ADHD and autism share similar traits, and people can be misidentified, or mis-identify themselves, as having one when they have the other. Autism is rarer. Doesn't mean autism isn't a real neurotype with a real and distinct biological mechanism.
Me too, and I’ve heard him before. Listen to Blaire White interview him. It’s much longer and he goes into more detail about everything, his culture, parents, no help from psychological or medical community, the actual surgeries and complications. It’s so tragic. I wish him a blessed life and admire and respect him for being so brave to tell his story. I hope he find some peace and happiness in his life. He’s a beautiful human, no matter what.
This was extremely important. In a world where people get canceled for questioning, it is crucial we hear this side of the story. Please post more interviews like this.
Who has been canceled for asking questions? The only cancel culture I know of is book banning and burning and Christians shoving their bs down everyone's throats demanding their cults laws be law and canceling everyone else's rights that differ to theirs....but this cancel culture the right talks of is just projection, outside them it does not exist.
So brave to you Mark. Giving the possibility to hear this testimony. I am french, 65 years old. I feel so compassionate to this witness, very well articulated, about the madnesss of the world whe live in. It is the same pattern in Europe. Ideology overpowers reality and human suffering. Thanks for this post and all I feel I can do is praying for your guest. I love you both.
“That feeling that I confused for being in the wrong body, it was because I had body dismorphia.” “That was really a software issue, and those people treated it as a hardware fix.” This is very, very important stuff.
I'm part of the trans community and it's heart breaking to hear how the search for satisfaction in the physical before the mental can change your entire life. That's why even after being out for 6 years I am still not medically transitioning because I still need to work out some of my own personal issues with a therapist who isn't going to just agree with everything I say
I'm trans too. Congrats on knowing what you need! It's a mess how everyone is pressured into black-and-white Pro or Anti stances around transness right now, and neutral things like supporting people in a longer questioning period get labeled Anti.
I wish you well but please understand you were created correctly and nothing is wrong with your natural self. Please do not alter your body to the point of no return. I'm respectful to those who transition, it must be difficult but I feel sad for those who were lied to fir $ or to be used as an experiment or trend. Please don't be in a rush, love yourself and trust your instinct of others. Listen to detransitioners, they don't lie!. ❤
I think our country is just trying to not have this gender dysphoria spread to the next generation by means of intentionally butchering genitals of mentally I’ll people who identify as trans. If most people are born with this mentally I’ll gender identity disorder that is just one third of the puzzle combined with their environment and trauma, this could just be our countries way to try to prevent it from continuing along to future generations.
👏👏👏 📿📿 For your journey to unpack & heal underlying issues, that if Not resolved can lead to unhealthy decisions Mentally & Physically!!! I am so Proud of you making, your mental health Key in your journey. I have had a very close Trans friend in the 90's & since we both are challenge with mental health... linked to childhood traumas + spoke extensively of our Therapy & I became very impress & confident that Trans were under an excellent prgm. for themselves to be mentally healthy enough to take appropriate steps or not & Dr. That would also, step in and Deny appropriate steps to Protect Trans & Society!!! Once it was removed as a Mental illness, I stopped supporting T+ Movement, Not Trans people. However, breakdown of True function of Therapy is no longer in play. No Group is Safe. Not Trans, ever since Affirmation/Self-Id & Now, seeing it... Society at Large. My friend knew what a woman is & differences, had sessions specific on Respecting Women Spaces & How to integrate into Spaces. I am not sure if therapy had to reinforce or common sense 90's made it easy sessions, for her!!! Sometimes academia needs to stay in a classroom for philosophical purposes only. Women afraid or brainwash telling other women, we are wrong to make a stand on Trans-women differences for Society & Females, NOPE, wrong side & truly Anti-Trans if they really Knew, Necessity of Therapy for Trans own Happiness 🤯⏱️💣. Perhaps, since I suffer from Mental Health... personally knew a Trans in the 90's and know T+ are Radicals, I have No fear, to speak Truth, because I want to Protect Trans, even from themselves & Society, especially girls/women!!!
It’s not childish. It’s actually an intelligent trait to be able to laugh at your issues in life. Everyone’s just magically a psychologist in these comment sections, aren’t they?
@@YoMama9021 it wasn't meant to be offensive. I used the word childish because I think it s a subconcious coping mechanism to deal with trauma. Apart from this he is clearly super smart and deeply aware.
I think this helped me, ive always been a masculine woman, playing with GIJoes and ripping heads off of barbies when I was a kid, have always perceived myself as a man even though I know I'm a woman inside and out. I thought transitioning would be an answer for YEARS but this helped me be content with the fact that I can be a woman and still be masculine❤️thank you for sharing your story and being so strong🫶rooting for you!
When he began nervous laughing through talking about his trauma I felt this. The heaviness in the chest it’s almost like you can’t breathe. Sending love to this beautiful human 💚
I hear it also. The laugh at the end of some sentences; it’s like he’s about to sob and even wail. I feel so sad for him. The lie that is out there is taking so many to this end.
It is gut wrenching every time I hear it. I'm not usually very maternal and I'm not one for hugs, but I want to hold him. Those breaths make me feel how I did when my son passed. That desperation of trying to keep it together.
I feel this coping mechanism. If you don't laugh you cry. Unfortunately it can come across as uncertainty, or lack of confidence, or fear of judgement, or a million other things... But sometimes it's a little from column A and B.
When I was a fifteen I asked my therapist if I was gender neutral because I liked other girls, had traditionally masculine hobbies and liked having short hair. I was also uncomfortable with my developing body, which was now being seen through a sexual lense.This was over a decade ago, before discussion about gender neutral pronouns had made its way into the mainstream. My therapist looked and me and said, "well, let me ask you this. Why can't a girl play football or like heavy metal? Is there something bad or wrong with a girl if her favorite subject is math, or if she doesn't want to wear pink all of the time?" I said "no, that sounds kind of sexist." And it clicked for me then that by pondering the idea of identifying as another gender, I WAS conforming to gender stereotypes. I'm so glad I had that talk with my old therapist, and I wish it was something that could be discussed without being shut down and accused of being transphobic in 2023. I am fully supportive of anyone who feels the need to transition. But I've noticed that the younger generation is adopting these backward attitudes about gender that are paraded under the guise of being progressive.
I totally agree! Just cuz a guy likes makeup or a girl likes football or baggy clothes doesn’t make them wanna be the other gender or have to change. It just means u like those things nothing more nothing less.
thank you for mentioning this WITHOUT being transphobic. this is soooo true, but so many people are using this point to go against all trans people in general and i think that’s awful.
I love Shape. Been following him for quite some time. These stories are very important. I grew up in the goth scene and the gay community of the 90’s where feminine men and men who dressed androgynously were totally accepted and even celebrated. I am not sure what has changed to where trans surgeries and hormones suddenly became the norm but it is frightening because these people are so young. Getting a sex change isn’t the same as getting a tattoo you eventually regret. It’s okay to be a butch woman (such as myself), or a feminine man without surgical alteration ❤
I mean surgery options got better? Transitioning has been happening since before the 90s? But I'm glad your worldview is so narrow you can have your take
@@lilitulee there are still as many if not more complications than the 90s. Especially with “bottom surgery” on both sexes. If you ignore this, you care less about trans people than I do or Shape does.
@@lilitulee it’s not narrow actually. I accept people from all walks, but I can’t help but notice that the number of genuinely trans people was infinitesimally smaller compared to what it is today. Also, the fact that all these surgeries and procedures are causing a lot of irreversible harm. Several of my more feminine gay male friends who are now older are thankful they were not around when this trend became so infectious because they would have likely been on board when they were in a mindset of being more idealistic about such things. I understand there are plenty of folks who love the outcome of their transition and that’s great. For many however, that is not the case, and they deserve to be heard as well. I don’t understand why people feel so threatened by someone speaking their truth.
TY Mark for doing this VERY important interview & TY Shape for having the courage to share your story! You are an amazing person who is helping SO many people, especially parents with children who are struggling with similar issues. I have a couple of friends who have young daughters and I was shocked to learn about what is going on with 13-15 year old girls today Like other sane & rational people, I wondered why in the heck pre teens being given hormones and life altering surgery options??!! So I've been looking for some answers and the first thing I thought of was to follow the money..and it led me right to the greedy pharmaceutical industry, insurance companies and doctors-who are being indoctrinated into my definition of child abuse. People *NEED* to know what's really going on
My heart goes out to this person. I wish he had gotten the support he needed as a child so this never would have gotten to this. Bless him for being so honest and open. He deserves love and support.
You are sooo well spoken and aware of yourself and the issues surrounding the trans process. Refreshing! Thanks for doing this interview. I’ve learned a lot.
Did you not hear him saying he was told that male to make attraction was bad? What support did he need and not get? He made a decision and has to pay for it. Let's not blame no one. Let's blame her.
Sir, out of every interview I’ve ever watched on this channel YOU have made the most sense . Thank you so so much for speaking up and being a voice in a world like this . Your in my thoughts and in my heart ❤ and I just feel like telling you these : you are loved 🫶🏽
Saw your interview with Blaire and now this one. Thank you for sharing your story! We need more people sharing this because there is no turning back once those surgeries are done.
@@shifterofshape hey I've watched you now on multiple platforms. I think you are amazing! The media and Hollywood would have you believe anyone who comes out is brave, heroic, courageous. You are the brave one. You are making a difference doing what you are doing! Keep up the great work! Hardly anyone has the courage to speak actual truth about this whole movement. I would love to get your opinion about a number of different things. You are an inspiration!
Fantastic Shape Shifter. You articulated so much of your hard and painfully won knowledge in such a brief amount of time, so compellingly, that you really made it count. I hope this is seen by high numbers of people because it really is direct and to the point. Very well done.
Every time this person laughs I can feel their urge to cry. Hugs ❤️Also thank you for speaking on this I really respect them for sharing their thoughts on their regrets transitioning I think this perspective needs to be shared forreal
I felt the same way the whole time I was listening. His bursts of laughter often sound like sobs, and in his face I see wrenching grief. I admire the strength it must have taken to sit and express all of this to Mark and all of us. Wishing you peace and love, @ShapeShifter.
Surgeons and "therapist" used this man's struggles to make money. It is disappointing that now he can't even feel comfortable going to therapy anymore. I applaud his bravery and courage, and I hope he finds the comfort he's looking in his own body. You're beautiful, no matter if you're a feminine/ masculine men or girl!
Its an agenda...they want the confusion and the abuse because if we feminize men, we have no service men enlisting to protect the people in the Country
May GOD bless and protect you in the mighty name of JESUS! May GOD and JESUS break every chain the enemy has formed against you and liberate you! May GOD and JESUS fill you with GODliness and love to get through any challenge! GOD IS GOOD! JESUS IS GOOD! GOD is love in times of hate, GOD is strength in times of weakness, GOD is light in times of darkness, GOD is harmony in times of chaos, and GOD is all you need and more! If you need more love/strength/anything GOD is there! GOD LOVES YOU JESUS LOVES YOU! GOD BLESS!
What an extraordinarily articulate person. So many valid points on the pitfalls of transitioning without being exposed to all the necessary information. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
@@christianwoman1346 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” He’s being incredibly vulnerable and generous sharing intimate details from his life. I wish him nothing but health and happiness.
What about trans people who are happy with their transition? Every coin have two sides and not every story goes well. Sometimes ppl regret changing their sex parts but not all of them do it. It's a spectrum. Getting hormones, sex affirmation surgery is a long and expensive process. But let's be hones, it's not about that. Most ppl who praise this person use him as an example for whole trans community... Also let's take a step back, look where he came from, shitty community, hating, restricting this individual from living his truth. Probably without pressure from the environment he would give himself more time to explore his true self.
@@Anesa100 yes it’s a spectrum. Yes it is a process. But there has to be the balance of both sides, those it worked for and those it didn’t. Transitioning isn’t for everybody. Like he said in the video, there are other expressions of his true self that he could have displayed instead of going through what is quite honestly an incredibly invasive and traumatic and almost irreversible process. You don’t simply take away the issues on the inside by changing what’s on the outside. Gender dysphoria is real. This is on a scale too.
@@Anesa100 Its seens like they wanna show only the negative side from people that were confused. There are many girls that are extremely happy with their choice and outcome. following their happy lives.
I'm a guy who, as a kid, was interested in a mix of feminine and masculine things. I likes sports, and army men, and building forts, but also liked to wear my moms makeup and jewelry and was more feminine and sensitive for a boy. This didn't fly in my area so I started to go down the masculine only route and went on like that fo until later in my 20's when I moved home and had some breathing room to look at myself and question things. Trans issues were starting to become mainstream and a lot of the stories I heard sorta reminded me of myself as a kid. Being into feminine appearances, questioning myself, having boy crushes on my friends (though I was more attracted to girls) being afraid of "getting discovered", so on. So I started small, at home in private. Letting my hips relax, butt/thigh exercises, grew my hair long...was liking it, so I ordered everyone's first trans clothing item the skater girl skirt and some fishnets. I loved the way it looked and felt. Kept going, makeup, shaving, watching a lot of trans content both sfw and nsfw. I started to notice something over and over in people's transition stories, when they start they tend to go FAST. If they are on the verge of suicide that's one thing, but it seemed like a lot of people just get caught up in the good feeling and forget to slow down and perhaps sleep on some things. I decided to slow way down. It was like if I actually want to do this, then I will still want to do it in a couple years. In the meantime I continued to just lightly head in that direction. More feminine exercises/ stretches, some makeup here and there, got some booty shorts and what not...and started eating flaxseed which has testosterone lowering properties. Still totally private. Over time I started to realize that while I was enjoying all this stuff, it was sorta losing it's thrill. The flaxseed seemed to be working, too, curves were rounding and erections were waning. Liked the first part, not so much the second. One thing I was always sure of, I like my penis and I like using it. I was worried that I had made a mistake, but I still enjoyed feminine stuff it just felt more casual about it. I also had a lot more info and time to weigh things. I realized that, having held in my urges to indulge in more girly things my whole life, when I finally let myself do it it felt very freeing and empowering and all these things that you hear in people's stories. Once that initial euphoria wore off, though, it turned out I didn't actually want to go much further than that. I just assumed I did because it felt so great and it seemed to line up with other people who had gone on to fully transition. At the moment I'm just a dude with a nice ass and thick thighs who can slip into something a little more comfortable if I want. Mostly still attracted to women but in the right situation I dunno, I feel like I can be a little attracted to basically every type. So it turned out I probably never wanted to be a woman as much as I just wanted to be able to do what I wanted without gender based constraint. The early feelings and self discoveries had me thinking I was going to go all the way (prob keep the dong though I dunno why people ever want to get rid of that most born-chicks I know even wish they had a penis), then I settled on a more non-binary thing but that didn't quite feel right eventually either and then I just sorta came back to a "dude look like a lady" thing xD I still haven't gone public with any of this but I feel like I'm honing in on the androgynous look I want. TLDR: Take your time, go slow, don't overshoot what you're actually going for because you build momentum and don't want to stop.
Interesting read, thank you. I just thank God I’m old and grew up with no confusion in this regard. Men were men, women were women (and if they weren’t we never heard about it) and our roles in society were clear. As an adult I learned that it could be more complicated than that for some people, but I can’t imagine the trauma that these lovely young people are going through. All I know is natural is best. Don’t go near doctors and their scalpels and pharmaceuticals. Find natural remedies for whatever ails you. May God help all these souls who are caught up in this nightmare.
I've paused the video to read your story. I think it's good advice to take your time exploring to fully figure out who you are. I'm glad you were able to safely explore your feminine side and realise what you want from that aspect of your life. Good luck for the future and continue to enjoy yourself
I'm so glad Shape Shifter is not keeping it secret but trying to be as vocal as possible. This can really prevent many personal tragedies for other people..Cudos to you!
Yes!! I hope they keep speaking up. I just saw him on jubilee yesterday on a trans vs detrans discussion. It’s so frustrating to watch the trans try to discredit what he says. I think they just don’t like hearing the truth and that they could be making a mistake too.
So insightful. So transparent. So wise. So well-spoken and well-read. Hugs and prayers for your health, wellness, future, and happiness. I pray this next chapter has many blessings. Prayers for healing for your emotional trauma, healing for your soul, healing for your physical trauma. You are not alone. Thank you for your testimony and words of caution.
THANKYOU for being so honest and logical about this topic!!! You've mentioned many great points, but when I bring them up to people I am attacked as transphobic.... the psychology and medical field has been bullied into this, then at some point began exploiting it for the money. I hope trans people learn to hear the truth.
Not only Trans people, but people who blindly support and encourage confused children into believing that changing their gender will solve their emotional issues. It will not. It does work for some people, but for many, their emotional issues continue.
"bullied" They were quite literally terrorized and threatened with the murder of their whole families. I know they wont come out and say it but you can look it up, the scientists and medical professionals that spoke out lost their livelihoods and sawtheir dreams crushed and several were attacked and had their homes broken into and what not. Same happened during the Kyle Rittenhouse trial, whene a witnesses old residence was smeared with pigs blood by transgender antifa members. I often get threatened with death, specifically that they'll put me on a website for cannibal fetish and have some psycho livestream it... these people are not just insane and murderous they want to watch you die. This is all due to Narcissistic Rage, *Transgenderism is an insecure Narcissistic body integrity identity disorder specifically regarding the Secondary Secual Characteristics* and if you shake a Narcissist back to reality and expose them they freak out and get really angry.
They're being given what they say they want without the care and ethics in place that would be afforded to medical patients confronting other issues which seems like another form of discrimination.
Oh yeah- they are basically running Nazi-style experiments on human test subjects who are only willing because of social contagion. It’s very scary. And it’s heartbreaking, as a bisexual woman, to see half the community buy into unregulated mutilation and sterilization.
The number one thing I hear isn't that they no longer associate as a female, but getting physically castrated was the worst decision they've ever made since sex is no longer enjoyable. A fake vagina feels absolutely nothing like a real penis. This was a newer view and the second time I've heard it on this channel. The other time was that his ptsd from being molested as a child didn't get dealt with...this being ashamed of being homosexual was such a damn shame. I wish he was more supported when he was younger and the therapists actually did their job. Although there are legitimate cases...therapists should stop following trends and start trying to find root causes like they're supposed to do. You don't let someone do something they can't undo without exploring every possibility. His therapist in Massachusetts was horrible.
I'm so grateful I saw this. I got a trans daughter who hates me bc I wouldn't let her take hormones at 13 . She's 16 now . But I remember Dr's talking to her and just eager to give her hormones like it was no big deal. I love my kid boy, girl. butterfly ... whatever they wanna be but I refuse to put drugs in her that I knew even b4 watching this could make her more depressed than I knew she already was and risk finding her dead somewheres . I'm sorry but her hating me just doesn't seem as bad as losing her forever. Ty so much 4 sharing your story. And being so open about everything you went through.
Yes you’re a wonderful mother for this. No matter the situation kids will hate us parents for doing what’s right but it’s only to protect them. A lot of kids who transition young are robbed of so much especially the ability to have children. This is definitely a great video for parents to watch
For a while I resented my parents because I didn’t understand why they did what did. It has been a hard long journey but I finally begin understand, and I’m sure your daughter will too. I think it’s just a part of growing up. Understanding the nuances of life is difficult (especially as a teen), but what matters is that you love her, and that’s enough.
This is an odd takeaway, transition is different for everybody, they might need healthcare this person does not, listening to other people's stories is good but nobody knows your child's situation better than your child
@mshoney9301 my kid already looks like a girl. She's looked like that since she was little so many people used to ask is it a girl even with super short hair. God created her beautifully and perfectly. She doesn't need drugs that are gonna cause her health problems or major. Depression or some shit
@@kristinalozano7891 You do realize the people that need this healthcare suffer from dysphoria which is distress (so depression, anxiety, trauma etc) caused as a result of being transgender. So the healthcare is used to treat what you're claiming it causes and it's proven to be overwhelmingly effective. I don't know you or your child's situation but hopefully you're right
This is such an important interview and should be a necessary watch for everyone, including the parents of kids who feel like they might be transgender. You simply cannot reverse this surgery, and you might feel different later on. I cannot fathom that any therapist would not go through traumas first and they seem to have zero qualification for these kind of conversations. Kudos to this man for speaking out!
@@Lisa-chick688 yes we do. theres plenty on conservative media outlets because that's their favourite group of people to exploit for their propaganda. however i do agree we need more on politically neutral media outlets, and politically left media outlets.
Thanks for interviewing Shape-Shifter Mark. A lot of us subscribe to his channel and feel very supportive of him. In 2023 one must be quite brave to speak the truth he does. It is crucial. But, as you may imagine, attracts a great deal of negativity. Shape, we are sending you strength, love and peace of mind/relief from depression. Great interview ❤❤
My heart breaks for you. Thank you for coming forth & dispelling the myth that everything will be ok if you just have surgery after surgery. I'm grateful for this strong person to bring this kind of real to the subject! God bless you & I hope you can get back some of what you've lost.
I'm FtM... nobody ever suggested to me that gender-affirming medical care would make "everything ok", and I don't know any trans people who went into transition expecting it to solve all their problems or even all their dysphoria. When people do enter into transition with that impression, that's an issue. Medical providers are supposed to assess patients' expectations as part of the informed consent process.
@@sophia-marieyoung6773 Why do they have the surgery then, if it won't fix their problems? You don't cut off your private parts on a whim, they truly think it will help them feel better or there is no reason to do it.
@@stilltrying619 So you are going to make yourself sterile, cut off your sex organs, make yourself totally dependant on drugs and doctors for the rest of your life for what?? If it doesn't solve your "problem" why do you do it?
@@stilltrying619 The thing that baffles me is that every anti trans person out there will jump on the band wagon with “aha! See! A person regrets this!” When in reality, the rate of regret is extremely low (1-3 percent in most credible medical sources I could find). The reality of the situation is that Trans healthcare is still improving and that the direction we are moving in to give kids with gender dysphoria access to proper care will actually help decrease the already small amount of trans people with regret. I think it’s kind of irresponsible for Shape to use his voice and experience as a blanket for what trans people face with their healthcare and transition journeys.
Ive listened to a few detransitioners and they are all basically horror stories - the physical, mental and emotional toll it takes on them. But I’ve learned a lot about trans people by listening to them - and as in all things in life, it’s the activists with agendas that drive the narrative. This is probably one of the most important open and insightful discussion I’ve heard and I congratulatelate this person for their integrity.
The thing is there are hundreds of thousands of people who's transitions brought their bodies into alignment with their implicit sense of self, just as it's intended to. There are also lots of stories of people who transitioned, and are indeed trans, but had specific results in mind and are unsatisfied with what they got. There are lots of people who internally love their post-transition bodies, and would be content, but are bullied and alienated so bad they end up wishing they'd kept hiding within the shell of a cis identity. No one story sums up the experience of gender-nonconforming people, and there is no simple solution that would end all gender-noncomforming people's pain.
Shape shifter is so intelligent, articulate, and self aware, very brave in sharing story. Thank-you. I have always wanted to support people’s authenticity, but there is a new movement in trans care that is not allowing critical discussion of complex issues. Thank-you Mark for bringing these issues to public awareness.
I can relate so much to him, I have always been a feminine man and I always felt like I should have been born a girl, always felt more comfortable with other women, I am a feminine man. Luckily I never transitioned, and I just wear what I like and live as I like without the need to ruin my body. I can totally empathize with him. I want to give him a big hug
And the right person will love you exactly for who you are, the way you always will be. I have a very very good friend who's the same, and I wouldn't trade him for anything. The right one for you, will encourage the feminine outlets you allow yourself. Without judgement. It's all a spectrum and it's about finding where you fit that brings you joy, and then putting those around you who accept the same.
I guess the key issue here is that you develop enough confidence in yourself to do exactly what you are doing: live how you want. But don't expect or force people to agree or accept it and be ok with that because if it makes sense to you fuck the rest
What a gloriously intelligent, powerful and brave person. Thank you for speaking up and sharing the wisdom and knowledge you gained through your experiences. I know that you will make a huge impact on saving others from falling into the same traps you did.
Shapeshifter, I didn't catch your name, but i just want to thank you so much. You were so real, articulate, vulnerable and informative in this interview. I learned a ton. And you are amazing. I can see you being a public educator/speaker. I hope you go on to help many people avoid the pain you've been through. Much love, appreciation, and best wishes for a happy, fulfilling life. ❤
Not really, these videos are the only videos relating to transgenderism that people on both sides of the argument can agree on because obviously no matter the way you look at it, it's a horrible thing to go through. Unfortunately these detransitioning videos also always bring out a lot of transphobia because some people think too black and white and assume that some people detransitioning = transgenderism not being real.
@@mjanny6330 You either misunderstood me or you are blind. I just meant these videos bring out a lot of bigotry in the comments since bigots see these videos and use it to propagate the idea that transgenderism isn't real and whatnot.
This person is very insightful and educated on transitioning/detransitioning. People like this should get licensed to help others in this community and get laws passed to protect the young ones.
That was my thought, exactly! Who better to listen and empathize and provide support than a person who has lived/is living it! He is so well-read and understands the BIOLOGICAL ramifications as well as the PSYCHOLOGICAL. I got a lump in my throat when he said, "I was born with a blueprint, and I destroyed it." Perhaps this "path" was chosen for him so he can be a mouthpiece for others. I am sorry for his pain, though. He seems like an incredible soul.❤
@@nannybean8134 It's an extremely toxic idea that suffering is ''predestined'' or ''chosen'' or has some grand meaning. No, it doesn't. I'm not saying he can't bring something positive out of it but it was not ''meant to be'', no suffering is.
I agree that they can become activists or spoke-people or be helpful in many capacities; but I don't think traumatized people with psychological issues can or should be licensed. I mean, I don't think I should become therapist because I suffer from clinical depression. Living through something makes you experienced (in this regard) and insigtful person but it doesn't make you a professional doctor and it doesn't give you all the answers or solutions that will help other.
there still will be legit trans people regardless. im not disregarding this persons story or experience but he doesnt speak for the thousands if other trans people like us. im trans male and i never regret transitioning. i could never live my life as a woman. id probably kill myself if i hadnt done my transition. i wish him the best if he decides to de transition
Wow. I have tried researching, investigating, interviewing, observing... And in less than 30 minutes you just helped me to understand all that I have tried for years to understand. Thank you.
Hands down one of the best interviews you’ve showcased so far. Thank you! 💜 Be strong no matter your identity. I feel for this person. The world still loves you!
I recently heard someone say “there is an epidemic. It’s the lack of understanding of nuance in every story.” We have become so much more polarized, we have become almost allergic to nuance. I am glad channels like this give a voice to people with diversified backgrounds to remind us of the importance of nuance and context.
Thank you for sharing your story. “ I was lied to, Im not a woman” 😢 I hope you heal! Your life is not in vain I honestly think this will help so many other people!
My heart breaks for this person. He is very insightful as he reflects on his life and reasons for his decisions. He is much more aware of psychology, science, and medicine than many others who have walked his path. I’m sure the therapy and psychedelics have helped him understand his life. I hope he finds peace and love toward himself, and knows that he is helping others by sharing the challenges he’s faced in his life.
Many that walk "this path" get years of therapy & countless medical appointments that last for 3-4 hours each to explain how things work, what are implications & complications and only AFTER they get to try HRT. Shape has done it the other way around.
@@ozgurturna Sadly, shape's story is increasingly common, and efforts to make "Gender affirming care" mandated by legislation are only worsening the problem.
Im so thankful for this channel. Im struggling with addiction for 4 years after losing my son and baby dad and becoming homeless 2020 and mental health since i was 4 and have been suicidal everyday for the last 4 years, i have split personality, gender dysmoprhia, psycosis, depression and anxiety, have been abused in every way and been through a lot of trauma and this made me feel not so alone, id love to do one of these interviews but im from the uk but would love to raise awareness on lack of mental health and addiction support over here
Thank you for brutal honesty. It’s what we need these days. I’m not against transgender men/women. But I’m against the speed that they’re willing to make such a major change. And I’m “red line” against children/adolescents having reassignment surgeries and/or hormone therapy
We have become so silly as a human species..."I'm not against someone destroying themselves just as long as they do it at a slow pace," Is basically what you said. The progressive tolerant mindset is humanities real plague, people to afraid to call a spade a spade because they are scared of not being inclusive. Whatever that means.
I’ve been waiting for this one! 👽🦎 Shape, we’re all SO fucking proud of you. You’ve been through so much and you’re still fighting for good. You’re an incredible human and we love you. You did amazing in this interview and you’re bringing attention to an important issue, and the raw truth behind it. That’s exactly what people need to hear. Thank you so much for everything you’re doing. I hope you’re able to find peace within yourself soon. You deserve to be happy and healthy. Much love, and I hope you’re having a beautiful day. 💛
"They saw transition as a way to kill a version of themselves that was traumatised" - Shape Shifter, this is so insightful. We nee skilled caregivers, parents, best friends, therapists...communities...who can care and prevent life changing surgeries. There is so much trauma , of all kinds, in our society...and this trans issue lately (especially in the UK) is really highlighting to what extent surgery cannot provide the easefulness that dysmorphic people are seeking. No issue is singular, and complexity is incredibly hard to address. But we must start somewhere, baby steps....so we can become the best version of ourselves. Normalisation of surgical procedures - major or minor - is problematic. Any invasion of the body re-traumatises. Best of luck Shape Shifter, my heart goes out to you.
This is a person that is so intelligent and eloquent. I appreciate you being so honest and open, you speak so much sense. I wish you all the best in life. You really have so much going for you.
One of the best interviews I have ever seen for so many reasons. The pain in that voice moves me to great compassion. Thank you Mark and to Shape bravery required to accept just hard facts and also speak about it.
I wonder how many other trans individuals feel this way after the fact. I support all LGBTQ people but I do feel this is a topic that’s not widely discussed. Not sure why but it would definitely bring more awareness and insight into the community and what people go through. It’s already hard enough for them just to be who they are but I hope this person doesn’t receive any backlash. Wishing them the best moving forward!! ❤
There is a whole wave of people coming forward and speaking out now. The court cases have started. I've followed Shape for ages. May i also recommend Ritchie heron/tulip r. Chloe Cole. Exulansic. You're kidding right? There's so many but they're the first to come to mind. Chloe Cole is 18 and had a double mastectomy already.... its worse than we realise
Who cares about the backlash honestly? I know it may be rough on him, but as you stated, these stories need to be publicized because I personally feel for a lot of people, it’s a trend that they wanted to try and many end up feeling this way.
As a 41yr old man of trans experience I think it's very important stories like this are shared bc all u tend to hear of is I'm trans & it's the best thing ever but that's not everybody's story tho. Sometimes the mind can get twisted & once u get on the bus it's hard to decide to cash ya ticket back in. & Once your body has went thru certain changes u can't jus turn it around esp if u don't have thousands of dollars to afford it. & Side bar I wonder if the stuffed 🦎 a comfort thing? Anyway gratitude for sharing your story & Mark for giving him a platform to share this important story! I'm sending love, light, healing & comfort along wit all the positive energy your heart & hands can hold Beautiful!!! 🙏🏾
It reminds me of Jane Goodall, who carries one specific stuffed animal with her to speaking engagements. Some women never stop loving stuffed animals, maybe he's got a bit of that playfulness to him, too. I thought the lizard was endearing.
I don’t know whether to cry or scream! The injustice done to this man is so appalling and heartbreaking! Keep moving forward, Shape. There’s a lot of people praying for you and thank you for telling your story. God has amazing plans for you, if you’ll allow Him.
Thank you, Mark for having me and giving detransitioners a platform.
Thank you for sharing your story! Wishing you many healing blessings!!
Thank you for your courage. Truly an inspiration.
Great Interview
You are a beautiful person - Never forget this! You have a good heart, kind spirit and are very strong. First saw you on Blair White's show and was impressed with how articulate and insightful you are.
I hope that you find someone who will cherish and love you, because you so deserve to be loved. You have so much to give and are simply such a good person.
Be blessed!
thanks for sharing
”I had a software issue, and these people took me and gave me a hardware fix” that was powerful!
Yeah man.
Damn.
That one hits.
Too much emphasis on hardware these days. There is more to being a women than big boobs and a v@gina. It should be how you feel on the inside, not just confirming to some gender norm on the outside.
brilliant formula indeed.
that is the perfect way to say it.
It’s like someone says they have depression so you give em tittys
"I was so afraid of my homosexuality that I found a way to become a woman, so I wouldn't feel like a man with a man" powerfull insight!!!
Boom!!!! There it is.
There's a whole documentary about the way Muslims deal with homosexuality. It's kinda the way this person did it. Two guys can be together but one of them has to be trans. Usually after the surgery the gay guy dumps them and finds another feminine cock.
So deep
There’s a theory that this is why some parents push their kids to become trans. The parents are homophobic so they’d rather have a trans kid who passes as straight than a gay kid.
Truth hurts
These are the most painful giggles I have ever heard someone do. Each “laugh” is like covering yet another painful fact or aspect of the interviewee’s life. 😢 Best wishes for Shape Shifter moving forwards . .
People were making fun of him for it on another video. It really pissed me off. They're clearly a thing Shape does when he's nervous or uncomfortable its a very normal reaction
so much pain
100% a nervous/ emotional giggle. I’m so sorry Shape that you have to deal with this pain and sadness. You’re beautiful and deserve all the love and happiness.
Shape, you're in my prayers.
You just keep on moving forward.
There are plenty of people on your side...❤Y
Yes, she/he is so sad…
"...it was a software issue...literally people sold me a hardware fix."
That was a perfect way to express what you have been through. wow. I am so sorry for everything you have gone through but you are helping so many people. God Bless You.
Very true
SS plays the ditzy girl sometimes . . . never forget she has a bunch of degrees and is very smart! Her remark is extremely witty.
Bring on the days when this evil cult and all its perpetrators are brought down to see justice.
As a systems administrator i got this too, and having a gay best friend since the age of 13 as a man with a wife and kids I would go to jail if they did this to him. The doctors who fast tracked this poor soul deserve every punishment samiel dishes out to them when they reach his fires. 98% of trans people are gay.....Let that sink in.
I seriously feel so awful for him. Like listening to this literally made my heart break. What the hell has happened in the last 20 years????? I was in high school in the late 90s early 00s, and we were determined to stop female circumcision, female genital mutilation, because of how awful it was to those women, and done against their will. Some FGM survivors will never know an orgasm. And then later I championed no male circumcision either, it was only done for religious reasons and NO benefit to the person. Sure penile cancer rates go down if you don't have that part of the penis to get cancer. It's akin to me saying, welp can't get appendix cancer cuz I don't have an appendix. And a lot of supporters said "the foreskin serves no purpose".....hmmmm??? Really? Because I'm pretty sure the men I've been with that had intact foreskin were MUCH more sensitive than the circumcised guys. Also if we go down that logic train......are these idiots suggesting we get rid of ALL organs or appendages that don't really serve a purpose? I think not. The absolute devastation knowing you can't, in a sense, "get off" ever......just wow. Never being able to "rub one out" after a long day, or you're just horny and hubby isn't home. These were the same things we were saying about FGM, we were depriving women of a basic human right. And to know this absolute quagmire our society is in now.....I'm so sorry this happened to you, Shape Shifter.
Why won't 60 Minutes cover a story like this? Thank you Mark for bringing this side to light. This video could possibly save someone's life.
60 minutes in Australia covered a story of a young man who transitioned at a young age and regretted it immensely and was detransitioning.
Blame the therapists . Freak
Because 60 Minutes and all of the major news networks are all on the same script, look what they pushed Jazz Jennings into and what they allowed to happen to that poor ch!ld (TLC's "I Am Jazz" was stunted from puberty blockers and left without s3xual function, and castrated... Jazz's life is ruined because of this whole "trans k!d" Programming NWO circus)
@Broski Snowski There have been actually trans people since before this whole "trans" phenomenon started on social media. Everyone has met a "successful", normal, every day trans person who lives "stealth" and doesn't make a big neon sign pointing to them that says "TRANS", people are just not aware of it (which was the idea for actual real trans people, to blend in to society, not make society their enemy). Real trans people agree to leave k!ds alone and they don't promote the buffoonery from the cult. Innocent, every day "qu33rs" will have to pay for all of this in the very near future.
Bc everyone tries not to be transphobic instead of helping these people who are clearly suffering from a mental illness. It's so sad. I think most of them regret removing their genitalia after some time and there's nothing they can really do to reverse it.
The first 3 times he chuckled I was like that’s a weird reaction, but watching the whole interview you realise it’s literally laughing to stop the tears from flowing. You can feel the pain in his voice and eyes and he is so brave to be so honest an open to share his story to help others! You are so strong! Thanks for this❤
Her story. She said she’s a girl and was born a girl
@@0612freedom lol I think you didn’t see the video because he said he is a man and was born a man and regrets his transition.
@@0612freedomwatch the video you d#mb@$$
I found it very odd that he had pleasure in people being confused about whether he belonged in the right bathroom or not.
@@0612freedom
^ So cringe.
The pain in this person's voice is so intense and real. How tragic and heartbreaking.
I wish them nothing but peace and love ❤️✨
Horrifying, saga and another, holocust of, Epic, propostions.
This makes me both; sad and so, Angry!!!😮😢🙄😳🤧
He is a man and calls himself a man. You can do the same.
Him *
WOW! "Women is not a look" is such a powerful quote!!! Thanks for this video!
Isn’t it a great quote ? ♥️
This person really described what a women is and showed how sexist the trans movement really is.
@@nate2759 it's patriarchy by another name
Lol shut up you bitter ass bitch. Y’all are so jealous of us, it’s crazy. If she wasn’t preaching your self-hate propaganda, you would be HATING on her so bad. And don’t say you wouldn’t. I know your type. You let yourself go, and are a frumpy, and TRUMPy washed up cunt, and you hate on women that look better than you
Women have a variety of looks, watch women on the street and see what they do. Gender expression is very different than gender id. A butch woman is not trash,she sees herself as a woman. The women who wear short skirts, crop tops and heels are women, women who enjoy dressing femme. The women in the lulumons and the athleta top ids as a woman.
It isn't about how you present yourself as a woman, it is identifying as a woman that makes you one, otherwise the only 'real' women would be those who dress a certain way, who dress like a Kardashian or a woman in the trump universe.
I swear. I never comment on any YT videos. This was so incredible, and he is just......WOW. So self actualized, his self awareness and depth of knowledge is beyond comprehension. The way he intelligently articulated the nuances of gender, radicalism, cancel culture, trans misconceptions, sexuality maturity, hormonal affect and the cultural pressure to conform is absolutely beyond belief. He verbalized everything I've ever wanted to deliver in a positive, thoughtful, respectful and rational way. Just floored. Impressed. Already want an update on this gem and his detransition journey and evolution into his true self. Just Incredible. 💕
Love Shape Shifter's intelligence and experience. His channel is great.
This was one of the most annoying and stupid interviews on this dudes channel. Really just infuses more hate for trans people into this dumbass culture war we are battling. Another BIG win for the elites!
There’s also a lot of interviews he has done on other people’s channels. Incredible.
I felt the same reaction to his story 💔
Amen!👏👏
This is one of the first detransitioning persons that I've listened to that is making COMPLETE sense. It's terrible that the doctors, insurance companies & not even the LGBTQIA+ community are not there for them if they change their minds. It really doesn't have to be all or nothing. I admire his courage & will have to pray for him because unfortunately his ordeal is not over. Please be encouraged 💖
TERFs are here for them. We want to stop this happening to anyone else.
It's LGB anything after the B is a Political agenda. (Eugenics with extra steps)
Of course you will never hear about detransitioning because the trans activists and their donors are getting kickbacks from Big Pharma. Transitioning, hormones, surgeries, and puberty blockers are a billion dollar business. Chloe Cole and Layla are now suing the hospital because they had irreversible surgeries and they were only 13 years old, not the legal age of consent. Blaire White is trans and is speaking out against this madness.
I totally agree with you. Shape Shifter took the fantasy out and spoke the reality of transitioning. This interview took tremendous courage and strenght. I want only the best for him going forward and the inner peace he so rigthfully deserves.
They all make sense. Not just Shapeshifter.
What an amazing human being. I’m saddened by your experience. Heartbroken really for you. You didn’t deserve the deceit, the bullying. You needed the right support and you didn’t get that from those around you, friends family or professionals. You are a great spokesperson for this topic. You should do a TED talk and reach more people with your story, your view, your common sense. Your experience wasn’t all for nothing because you are changing lives with this video as we speak. I’m sorry for your suffering but I hope you know how valued you are!
I’m glad you are still here ❣️
Totally...
agreed!!
That giggle after every sentence was just devastating, you can literally feel the pain under it
It’s anxiety
it's a "laugh" that feels more like a cry.
Oh yes
Yes… I felt that too. I recognized it immediately. …Before he said anything about it. When people know what emotional pain feels like … you can see it easily in others. He was so polite , and gentle. The world can really do a lot of harm to the gentle hearted. It’s so important to teach them young to protect themselves with internal strength that isn’t there naturally. . We’re never going to change the entire world. We’ve got to learn to maneuver through it for our best outcome.
@@tilabryant5591 same thing
This hurts. Every time I hear the catching the breath and soft laugh I know it’s a cry. Beautiful soul, and thank you for sharing your story.❤
I agree,it's very compelling
@@ramonaesteves6569 *Him. He says his preference like a billion times.
@@Bonesawisready926 omg you’re right let me edit that 🤦🏻♀️
@@Bonesawisready926 ok so let me say this he breaks my heart everytime he laughs and he appears to be such a gentle soul- I love how he explains everything so eloquently / this was intense🙏 a prayer for him!
That laughing Tic he has whenever he reveals heartbreak, or trauma is actually heartbreaking
But he has a lovely heart
I wish I could give him a hug 😢
I could have listened to him speak for hours. He is so intelligent, insightful and authentic; I hope we will get an update on his journey soon. Thank you for sharing his story, Mark ❤
My heart breaks for this kind, articulate, intelligent human being. This is beyond sad.
I concur, I'm so happy that he has a good mental headspace... considering the history.
It's a mental health issue and a child abuse issue.
I definitely agree. He is a hidden jewel of relevant information.
Same this dude is so smart smh hope he can find peace with this somehow
I’ve been 'trans' for 50+ years. What we have here is a case of mass neurosis and hysteria. I decided to go trans, male to female, about 50 years ago.I am 70 now and I am transitioning back and although it’s been difficult I feel a sense of freedom from trying to become something that I could never be.
Thank you for sharing this! It's extremely important
Good for you and luckily you have the option of detransitioning unlike these days they are irreversibly mutilating kids and actually confusing them.
Good grief!
What? After 50 years?
@@andreabennington That's right. There was no sell by date for realising who I really was.
“Seeing things black or white’s got humanity into a lot of trouble” - couldn’t agree more, what a smart, well-spoken and measured individual. Absolutely loved this interview and wishing you lots of strength, love and clarity during de-transitioning
I agree 100 %
One woman of my country is wellknown for being one of the first "Islamo-gauchiste" of internet, meaning she support massively extreme feminism, vegan, lgbt, communism, and muslim during terrorism attacks. She always went deeper into this political opinion. Recently my country got burned, not for social/political issues, just for fun and to steal expensive stuff, sold on ebay the day after. Those who did this, only wanted to destroy and to make easy quick money, they said so on tiktok. She agreed. Shz knew it was not a revolt, only an opportunity to make chaos, and having zero reaction from our government . Because she did not say the purpose of burning was a revolt against violence, like all islamo gauchistes said, because, she disagree with free violence, she has been canceled, and called a fascist. Ouch. Because she's only 99% black, and not 100% anymore, shes considered by black, as a white. And no white would ever consider her as one of them, until she kept her 99%.
Some things and situations ARE black-and-white. Please come to Ukraine, see what russian fascists are doing to us (war crimes and crimes against humanity) and then dare to say us it's ''grey area'' or complicated when it isn't. When people come to murder, abuse, torture you, when they kill defenceless people, children and elderly included... It IS black and white. You live a sheltered privileged life if you don't understand that.
@@MrDOGRUN Well, you shouldn't because some things and situations ARE black-and-white. Please come to Ukraine, see what russian fascists are doing to us (war crimes and crimes against humanity) and then dare to say us it's ''grey area'' or complicated when it isn't. When people come to murder, abuse, torture you, when they kill defenceless people, children and elderly included... It IS black and white. You live a sheltered privileged life if you don't understand that.
I hope for the day when we are free to be who we were born as, instead of having to conform to societal expectations and surgical mutilation. We are all a mix of masculine and feminine no matter our genitalia, and nobody should have to fit some preconceived binary mold.
As a therapist, I'm glad I saw this. I can remember how in the relatively recent past I believed the transition could not be a mistake. I appreciate and am grateful he said he doesn't trust psychotherapists. I think many of us are in a hurry from time to time and make hasty conclusions. Unfortunately, it is our clients/patients who will pay for our haste...
Extremes are the enemy of a balanced decision. I am sure that it is possible to respect the decision to make the transition, but also to leave the necessary space to explore this decision
I dated a trans woman who was clearly not a trans woman. I do not think the behavior was overtly intentional, but transness seemed to be about getting out of a marriage, getting attention from a community that the person was not really a part of, feeling special, & creating chaos in a difficult family relationship. They were not considering surgery thank heavens, but they kept doing extraordinarily high risk things and then using them for more attention & shit-stirring. I genuinely enjoy dating trans people, but this was definitely just a straight dude just drama’ing wildly. I had to cut off the post breakup friendship after this person made friends & introduced me to a very red flaggy Dom, like you just wanted to recoil when you met him,who was busted shortly thereafter for conspiracy to traffic a child. I’m a vanilla lesbian so I didn’t appreciate the introduction to a Dom anyway. Bless the poor gal on FetLife who just wanted some light bondage and went immediately to the cops & cooperated with a sting and had to type vile vile things in order to get him put away.
man/woman, transitioned/detransitioned, he went trough a lot and is very self-aware. seems like a really good person, nothing else matters. I wish him all the best
His story does matter though... its literally what defines him as a person
@@woahitstheillusion9749 I agree, his story is what made him into this beautiful person :) my point was that looking at him his beautiful character overshines everything
Absolutely but he shouldn’t be blaming anyone else for what he asked to be done. What he convinced himself that needed to be done. Don’t feed yourself to an alligator then asked the alligator why it’s eating you!
I like her so much, I hope he finds himself and gets peace.
@@dude3277 I feel like we all go through a blaming phase when searching for the truth. certainly, blame can be found, he seams peaceful nevertheless and I hope his health will improve...
This man’s story has me in tears. He’s very brave for telling his story. It needs to be heard. ❤
❤️ 😍 💖 ❣️
Why? Of course people make mistakes. Just because this person affirms your beliefs doesn't mean this one person represents the rest of the trans community.
@@JarrettBC she is allowed to have her own opinion. Not everyone has to think the same way as you or have the same views as you.
@Jarrett Currie By the "rest of the trans community" Who are you talking about? Give us a real example of where to find the "trans community". Because all that really exists is a corrupt seeping propoganda spread by extremist communists that got through a lot of school systems and was literally FORCED into other kids and adults lives. Thats not a community. Thats like saying the russians that support Putin are the Russian community. When people are forced to deal with a corrupt system that got purposefully nailed into a society, thats not a community. Thats oppression and communism. Have a nice day.
@@JarrettBC Typical. Instead of compassion and concern for others you jump to debating that it doesn't NEED TO BE HEARD? OH what are you afraid of? . What a jerk. "People make mistakes"???? How shallow and immature. There are LITERALLY nearly 100,000 members of Reddit detrans subs.. Stop denying the truth.
Every time Shape Shifter nervously laughs it breaks my heart.. I can’t imagine the pain they must go through on a daily basis… Thank you for this video! Everyone should watch this!
❤❤❤❤
They obviously do it to themselves like
@@Rubycella Yes, but that doesn't mean you can't try to understand and feel compassion.
@@RubycellaRight, that's the problem he's discussing. Should medical professionals help sterilize autistic gay people? He's saying he didn't have a real concept of what to expect because they're propagating the lie that transitioning to another sex is even possible. Especially to confused people that are still minors?
He. He has said he is a man
My dude right here has educated me more about this topic in 20 mins than in all the articles I've read for yrs. Wow. So smart. He should be a motivational speaker or a counselor for kids who believe they have any of these questions about sexuality.
Great interview.
Also Ben Shapiro and him would have a greeaat conversation I'd be interested in hearing.
This gentleman is far too good to talk to someone like Ben, though.
Ben Shapiro is a homophobe, and I’d never want to subject Shape Shifter to him. There are far more informed people on this issue than Ben Shapiro. Gender critical feminists have been having these conversations since the 1970s, and they did it without Ben Shapiro.
Remember, if homophobia is a contributing factor, then the anti-LGBT movement is leading to more people transitioning when they should not. And if you regularly advocate against LGBT people, no matter what you tell us your reasons are, you must want more people to suffer like Shape Shifter.
As a feminine man, I get asked all the time if I’m transit actually bothers me she’s so right when she said that that line has been blurred,
Just because you’re feminine and you’re a man does not mean that you’re uncomfortable with your body or your genitals I’m very comfortable with my body . And I think a lot of us femme men go through this I went through questioning my gender for many many years.
He* It's he* not hwr
@@evqs6934He also said that he does not care if somebody calls him a her.
I am trying to understand better. What do you mean by Feminine Man?
@@reneea4248 A man who has more quote un-quote feminine qualities than masculine id say is a feminine man.
@@reneea4248 someone similar to jeffree star or james charles.
I’m so sorry that this guy suffered so much. Everyone (including the “experts” ) completely let him down. I wish him peace and all the best.
She looks like a woman and her pronouns are “she” not that hard..
@@KaseyAngel222 did you really listen? HE spends the whole video telling us that HE is a MAN, and regrets HIS transition, and wants to transition back to his true male gender.
@@KaseyAngel222 lunatics like you is the reason he regrets his transtion feeding him lies and bullshit
@@KaseyAngel222It’s clearly hard for you to understand what he has been saying. By the way , he is very articulate. Even a child can understand .
@@KaseyAngel222 Doesn't matter. Biologically HE is a man and always will be. Just because you lose or add pieces to your body doesn't change what you were born as or your genetic makeup.
I am a nurse, and worked in a "sex reassignment" unit for a while. I had to leave in less than a year. It was heartbreaking.
how so?
You should share your story too
May I ask why you say that?
I also would love it if u could elaborate
Please elaborate.
I appreciate your stress giggles. Talking about such a difficult situation I would expect nothing less. You did great. I appreciate your honesty and the insight you shared from your experience. Please continue to share your story!! You are eloquent, intelligent and knowledgeable. Thank you for saying yes to Mark.❤❤❤
"Its ridiculous to say youre a woman just because you have long hair"
THANK YOU!!!
We have men and warriors from early histories with long hair, but they were men and we have women with short hair style too, abd they're still women. The world is really messed up 😢
Women can have short hair
its not about the hair. it just helps mentally because thats what is socially considered as more feminine. u can transition with short hair but its not going to help people respect u as much, as a woman , socially/visually.
Cham watch again you missed the point. He has had all the surgeries. He is the complete trans woman, well as completely as the medical machine can do. Gender is how you feel, sex is what you are. So no doctors or surgeons can make you biological anything.🤗
DS watch again. You missed it.
The nervous laughter was almost making me cry 😢 They are so strong for going through everything they did..
Yeah that's certainly not a happy response.
I wouldn’t necessarily call it “strong” lol. So strong to be confused!
He not they. The whole point is you can be a gender bending man and not transition.
@@mike7984 dealing with abusive and unsupportive parents is not easy fam
@@Rachel-bf5us Ok I wasn’t sure so I was just trying to be neutral. Are you the gender police?
His nervous laughs when he's talking about painful stuff breaks my heart. We need to talk about this more: if we can have grown adults regretting this, how in the heck can ANYONE advocate we let children castrate themselves and cause irreversible damage? It's pure madness.
Can you cite those facts about children?
@@boutiquebabe Chloe Cole, Laura "Funk God" apparently, and that's without doing any research. I'm sure there's all kinds of cases that aren't even known about since we're not even supposed to talk about any transitions that fail.
@@boutiquebabeChloe Cole for one. I can find more names for you.
Absolutely, thousands now are coming out of the woodwork.
@@boutiquebabe Where did he even talk about "facts"? That's just something you came up with.
This interview should be seen be anyone who wants to transition. He is so brilliant in explaining all the details, the implications. And he is right it is a mental health.
So because one person made a mistake you think nobody else would transition?
Well, shit, I better call my surgeon that it took me 3 years to find and tell him my surgery is off because of a random TH-cam video. 🙄
except detransitiors are a tiny percentage of trans people. this person made a huge mistake, doesn't mean all trans people will consider it that
@@ThoseHappyHipsThat isn’t what they said. There are people who will live to regret surgery. The fact that you feel certain about your decision to have surgery doesn’t change that.
@@ThoseHappyHipsyou shouldn’t transition. You’ll never become the opposite gender no matter how many surgeries you have. That’s just the truth
This video should be mandatory for any person, child or parent considering transitioning. Powerful and informative. Thank you so much Shape. Your experience, intelligence, courage, wisdom and voice are such a valuable asset to this day and times. Keep speaking until the whole world hears you! You’re amazing. Love and bigs hugs 🤗🤗🥰❤️
Check out Jazz on the TLC show. Very sad what these people were put through by their parents and the medical professionals/government encouraging it.
Yes!
You can be trans and not get the bottom surgery
@@jayrose4748 yep Blaire White has gone that route.
Gender identity is often fluid and that’s normal. Everyone feels feminine and masculine at different times not just trans persons like me.
His nervous laugh speaks volumes to how much he is hurting. I do that too and it makes me so sad to see it. Sending good vibes to you!
"Don't trust Big Pharma." "Do your own research." Very wise words that could have changed this individual's life for the better. Wishing him well.
It's not "big pharma" who promote transgenderism - it's radical trans activists 🙄 Do you think "big pharma" is sitting on internet forums, convincing people they need to change sex??? Just as there are doctors who precsribe, and even SUGGEST drugs to people - psychoactive drugs and opiates, not something the person needs, there are a FEW doctors with actual medical degrees who do whatever surgeries people want, and those get promoted on transgender forums
Her
@kim adair not her, he said he is a man.
depends. I've heard a lot of idiots saying the same shit for justifying antivax-antimask behavior.
@@kimadair550 go away karen
I wish you the best of luck on your journey... you are so brave.. I have 2 children who identify as trans but I refuse to do anything drastic until they are adults and I will pray that they are solid minded and level headed enough to make completely informed decision and I plan to have them watch your story so they realize the ups and downs of transitioning.. thank you again for your bravery and for sharing your truth and experiences with all of us
It almost seems encouraged now a days in some ways by people and school, social media.
Not one but 2 kids that believe to be trans??? They are probably influencing and copying one another
What about the father? Are you both on the same page?
Try to relocate to a state (also abroad or in the US) where law is on your side and there is less trans propaganda
I’m an androgynous woman, and Shapeshifter is completely right about the lines being blurred. I have had people outright call me “sir” to my face. A 5’1 woman with feminine features, except that I dress more masculinely and prefer having a male haircut. Instead of it being polite, it’s an insult to the idea that in spite of some of my masculine features, I’m still a woman. 10 years ago, people would have recognized me as a woman just fine. Now people dance around me, afraid to choose any particular pronoun.
I’m sorry. I was heavily involved within the gay and lesbian communities in the early 00s… I know how it’s different now.
Tell them your a woman. People assess gender off of secondary sex characteristics, mannerism and vioce. Maybe your energy and appearance is male. It is not life shattering to say I am female and then walk away.
Genuinely sorry you have to deal with this now. Also pointing out, there is no one way strangers can handle gendering folks that works for everyone. The approach you're getting hurts you, but helps many nonbinary people and binary trans people who can't "pass"
@@stilltrying619 and guess what ....there s about a million woman who are masculin or like male clothes and like 33 gender confused ones ... i do wish all the best !! And lets treat eachother with respect .. there are heaps of countries where male like woman are treated normal ...
@@gmy33 Yea this a big point of confusion for people, including some trans people and "pro-trans" cis people. There ARE more masculine-presenting cis women and feminine-presenting cis men than there are trans people. Also, there are trans people. Two different phenomena. Sometimes, like in Shape's case, gender-nonconforming cis people end up transitioning because their experience has a lot of commonalities with trans people's, and they didn't get the right support during their questioning process (we need better processes in place to prevent that).
It's like how ADHD and autism share similar traits, and people can be misidentified, or mis-identify themselves, as having one when they have the other. Autism is rarer. Doesn't mean autism isn't a real neurotype with a real and distinct biological mechanism.
The nervous laugh speaks volumes - brilliant and honest testimony. This made me cry. Bless you
The laughs are hard to hear, because they're almost cries. They're disguising cries.
Yes I noticed the heartbreak behind each giggle. A truly courageous person ❤❤
Me too, and I’ve heard him before. Listen to Blaire White interview him. It’s much longer and he goes into more detail about everything, his culture, parents, no help from psychological or medical community, the actual surgeries and complications. It’s so tragic. I wish him a blessed life and admire and respect him for being so brave to tell his story. I hope he find some peace and happiness in his life. He’s a beautiful human, no matter what.
So sad ☹️☹️
This was extremely important. In a world where people get canceled for questioning, it is crucial we hear this side of the story. Please post more interviews like this.
No, it's not a world, it's just a part of it, precisely USA. Other countries don't have this rampant cancel culture, broaden your horizons
@@yevgeniyaleshchenko849yes,
This is an amazingly honest interview. The type that get cancelled by extremists on the right and the left.
Thank you for your brave honesty.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🤩💖
Who has been canceled for asking questions? The only cancel culture I know of is book banning and burning and Christians shoving their bs down everyone's throats demanding their cults laws be law and canceling everyone else's rights that differ to theirs....but this cancel culture the right talks of is just projection, outside them it does not exist.
@@yevgeniyaleshchenko849 have you not seen how Western Europeans act with respect to trans issues?
So brave to you Mark. Giving the possibility to hear this testimony. I am french, 65 years old. I feel so compassionate to this witness, very well articulated, about the madnesss of the world whe live in. It is the same pattern in Europe. Ideology overpowers reality and human suffering. Thanks for this post and all I feel I can do is praying for your guest. I love you both.
“That feeling that I confused for being in the wrong body, it was because I had body dismorphia.”
“That was really a software issue, and those people treated it as a hardware fix.”
This is very, very important stuff.
I'm part of the trans community and it's heart breaking to hear how the search for satisfaction in the physical before the mental can change your entire life. That's why even after being out for 6 years I am still not medically transitioning because I still need to work out some of my own personal issues with a therapist who isn't going to just agree with everything I say
I'm trans too. Congrats on knowing what you need! It's a mess how everyone is pressured into black-and-white Pro or Anti stances around transness right now, and neutral things like supporting people in a longer questioning period get labeled Anti.
I wish you well but please understand you were created correctly and nothing is wrong with your natural self. Please do not alter your body to the point of no return. I'm respectful to those who transition, it must be difficult but I feel sad for those who were lied to fir $ or to be used as an experiment or trend. Please don't be in a rush, love yourself and trust your instinct of others. Listen to detransitioners, they don't lie!. ❤
I think our country is just trying to not have this gender dysphoria spread to the next generation by means of intentionally butchering genitals of mentally I’ll people who identify as trans. If most people are born with this mentally I’ll gender identity disorder that is just one third of the puzzle combined with their environment and trauma, this could just be our countries way to try to prevent it from continuing along to future generations.
Good on you ! ... time will tell !!
👏👏👏 📿📿 For your journey to unpack & heal underlying issues, that if Not resolved can lead to unhealthy decisions Mentally & Physically!!! I am so Proud of you making, your mental health Key in your journey. I have had a very close Trans friend in the 90's & since we both are challenge with mental health... linked to childhood traumas + spoke extensively of our Therapy & I became very impress & confident that Trans were under an excellent prgm. for themselves to be mentally healthy enough to take appropriate steps or not & Dr. That would also, step in and Deny appropriate steps to Protect Trans & Society!!!
Once it was removed as a Mental illness, I stopped supporting T+ Movement, Not Trans people. However, breakdown of True function of Therapy is no longer in play. No Group is Safe. Not Trans, ever since Affirmation/Self-Id & Now, seeing it... Society at Large. My friend knew what a woman is & differences, had sessions specific on Respecting Women Spaces & How to integrate into Spaces. I am not sure if therapy had to reinforce or common sense 90's made it easy sessions, for her!!!
Sometimes academia needs to stay in a classroom for philosophical purposes only. Women afraid or brainwash telling other women, we are wrong to make a stand on Trans-women differences for Society & Females, NOPE, wrong side & truly Anti-Trans if they really Knew, Necessity of Therapy for Trans own Happiness 🤯⏱️💣.
Perhaps, since I suffer from Mental Health... personally knew a Trans in the 90's and know T+ are Radicals,
I have No fear, to speak Truth, because I want to Protect Trans, even from themselves & Society, especially girls/women!!!
his nervous childish laugh when he goes deep is the sweetest and - at the same time- most heartbreaking thing ever
It’s not childish. It’s actually an intelligent trait to be able to laugh at your issues in life.
Everyone’s just magically a psychologist in these comment sections, aren’t they?
@@YoMama9021 it wasn't meant to be offensive. I used the word childish because I think it s a subconcious coping mechanism to deal with trauma. Apart from this he is clearly super smart and deeply aware.
@@YoMama9021 it is childish....children laugh when they're uncomfortable or speak about something that makes them uncomfortable.....it is what it is
@@Tee-kc3pn All of y'all need to chill the fuck out😂 Damn😂
@@amedeot3855you described that perfectly. I do the same when talking about traumatic events in my life, it’s most certainly a coping mechanism.
I think this helped me, ive always been a masculine woman, playing with GIJoes and ripping heads off of barbies when I was a kid, have always perceived myself as a man even though I know I'm a woman inside and out. I thought transitioning would be an answer for YEARS but this helped me be content with the fact that I can be a woman and still be masculine❤️thank you for sharing your story and being so strong🫶rooting for you!
If one video convinced you that you are not trans, then you were never trans in the first place.
And that is ok of course
"Trans" is not something anyone"is, it's something some people do. It's extreme surgical and hormonal body modification
@@tonyhoffman3309 Transgender isn't a verb.
When he began nervous laughing through talking about his trauma I felt this. The heaviness in the chest it’s almost like you can’t breathe. Sending love to this beautiful human 💚
*Man, he de transitioned
I hear it also. The laugh at the end of some sentences; it’s like he’s about to sob and even wail. I feel so sad for him. The lie that is out there is taking so many to this end.
It is gut wrenching every time I hear it. I'm not usually very maternal and I'm not one for hugs, but I want to hold him. Those breaths make me feel how I did when my son passed. That desperation of trying to keep it together.
I feel this coping mechanism. If you don't laugh you cry. Unfortunately it can come across as uncertainty, or lack of confidence, or fear of judgement, or a million other things... But sometimes it's a little from column A and B.
The weight of grief, and man is she a heavy B! She will crush your chest and steal your last breath.
When I was a fifteen I asked my therapist if I was gender neutral because I liked other girls, had traditionally masculine hobbies and liked having short hair. I was also uncomfortable with my developing body, which was now being seen through a sexual lense.This was over a decade ago, before discussion about gender neutral pronouns had made its way into the mainstream.
My therapist looked and me and said, "well, let me ask you this. Why can't a girl play football or like heavy metal? Is there something bad or wrong with a girl if her favorite subject is math, or if she doesn't want to wear pink all of the time?"
I said "no, that sounds kind of sexist." And it clicked for me then that by pondering the idea of identifying as another gender, I WAS conforming to gender stereotypes. I'm so glad I had that talk with my old therapist, and I wish it was something that could be discussed without being shut down and accused of being transphobic in 2023. I am fully supportive of anyone who feels the need to transition. But I've noticed that the younger generation is adopting these backward attitudes about gender that are paraded under the guise of being progressive.
I totally agree! Just cuz a guy likes makeup or a girl likes football or baggy clothes doesn’t make them wanna be the other gender or have to change. It just means u like those things nothing more nothing less.
thank you for mentioning this WITHOUT being transphobic. this is soooo true, but so many people are using this point to go against all trans people in general and i think that’s awful.
I love Shape. Been following him for quite some time. These stories are very important. I grew up in the goth scene and the gay community of the 90’s where feminine men and men who dressed androgynously were totally accepted and even celebrated. I am not sure what has changed to where trans surgeries and hormones suddenly became the norm but it is frightening because these people are so young. Getting a sex change isn’t the same as getting a tattoo you eventually regret. It’s okay to be a butch woman (such as myself), or a feminine man without surgical alteration ❤
Same! I miss those days. It felt so much more accepting and safe
Same! Who knew they were the best times we’d ever have?
I mean surgery options got better? Transitioning has been happening since before the 90s? But I'm glad your worldview is so narrow you can have your take
@@lilitulee there are still as many if not more complications than the 90s. Especially with “bottom surgery” on both sexes. If you ignore this, you care less about trans people than I do or Shape does.
@@lilitulee it’s not narrow actually. I accept people from all walks, but I can’t help but notice that the number of genuinely trans people was infinitesimally smaller compared to what it is today. Also, the fact that all these surgeries and procedures are causing a lot of irreversible harm. Several of my more feminine gay male friends who are now older are thankful they were not around when this trend became so infectious because they would have likely been on board when they were in a mindset of being more idealistic about such things. I understand there are plenty of folks who love the outcome of their transition and that’s great. For many however, that is not the case, and they deserve to be heard as well. I don’t understand why people feel so threatened by someone speaking their truth.
TY Mark for doing this VERY important interview & TY Shape for having the courage to share your story! You are an amazing person who is helping SO many people, especially parents with children who are struggling with similar issues.
I have a couple of friends who have young daughters and I was shocked to learn about what is going on with 13-15 year old girls today
Like other sane & rational people, I wondered why in the heck pre teens being given hormones and life altering surgery options??!!
So I've been looking for some answers and the first thing I thought of was to follow the money..and it led me right to the greedy pharmaceutical industry, insurance companies and doctors-who are being indoctrinated into my definition of child abuse.
People *NEED* to know what's really going on
My heart goes out to this person. I wish he had gotten the support he needed as a child so this never would have gotten to this. Bless him for being so honest and open. He deserves love and support.
You are sooo well spoken and aware of yourself and the issues surrounding the trans process. Refreshing! Thanks for doing this interview. I’ve learned a lot.
He probably saved someone with his testimonies
Did you not hear him saying he was told that male to make attraction was bad?
What support did he need and not get?
He made a decision and has to pay for it. Let's not blame no one. Let's blame her.
@@what3ver912 shape does use male pronouns
Mark is supporting mental illness
RESPECT 100% for Shape Shifter for being transparent in telling his life experience!!
Every time you laughed at something hard for you to say, I felt it in my heart. You are so loved and incredibly intelligent.
They laugh to keep from crying, u can tell. I wish them the best
Me, too.
Me too, it brought tears to my eyes... amazing human being!
Sir, out of every interview I’ve ever watched on this channel YOU have made the most sense . Thank you so so much for speaking up and being a voice in a world like this . Your in my thoughts and in my heart ❤ and I just feel like telling you these : you are loved 🫶🏽
Saw your interview with Blaire and now this one. Thank you for sharing your story! We need more people sharing this because there is no turning back once those surgeries are done.
❤❤❤❤
@@shifterofshape hey I've watched you now on multiple platforms. I think you are amazing! The media and Hollywood would have you believe anyone who comes out is brave, heroic, courageous. You are the brave one. You are making a difference doing what you are doing! Keep up the great work! Hardly anyone has the courage to speak actual truth about this whole movement. I would love to get your opinion about a number of different things. You are an inspiration!
@@chriswhite7193 thank you. You are too kind.
Fantastic Shape Shifter. You articulated so much of your hard and painfully won knowledge in such a brief amount of time, so compellingly, that you really made it count. I hope this is seen by high numbers of people because it really is direct and to the point. Very well done.
Every time this person laughs I can feel their urge to cry. Hugs ❤️Also thank you for speaking on this I really respect them for sharing their thoughts on their regrets transitioning I think this perspective needs to be shared forreal
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@@delarivateresa8290 I said this person and that’s still wrong 😂😂so now they’re not a person? y’all are so annoying
ShapeShifter has his own channel on TH-cam. He does laugh when he's nervous 😢
@@Willowtree82 I can relate 💔it’s crazy how trauma or other life events can create certain coping habits
I felt the same way the whole time I was listening. His bursts of laughter often sound like sobs, and in his face I see wrenching grief. I admire the strength it must have taken to sit and express all of this to Mark and all of us. Wishing you peace and love, @ShapeShifter.
Surgeons and "therapist" used this man's struggles to make money. It is disappointing that now he can't even feel comfortable going to therapy anymore.
I applaud his bravery and courage, and I hope he finds the comfort he's looking in his own body. You're beautiful, no matter if you're a feminine/ masculine men or girl!
Its an agenda...they want the confusion and the abuse because if we feminize men, we have no service men enlisting to protect the people in the Country
Children shouldn’t be allowed. Period!
May GOD bless and protect you in the mighty name of JESUS! May GOD and JESUS break every chain the enemy has formed against you and liberate you! May GOD and JESUS fill you with GODliness and love to get through any challenge! GOD IS GOOD! JESUS IS GOOD! GOD is love in times of hate, GOD is strength in times of weakness, GOD is light in times of darkness, GOD is harmony in times of chaos, and GOD is all you need and more! If you need more love/strength/anything GOD is there! GOD LOVES YOU JESUS LOVES YOU! GOD BLESS!
This is the best comment I've read so far
Omg whatever! This is just ridiculous. Don't be lame therapist on your own short comings
What an extraordinarily articulate person. So many valid points on the pitfalls of transitioning without being exposed to all the necessary information. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
He is incredibly well spoken. I am really thankful for him sharing his story is such a logical and clear way.
❤ thanks.
Not logical at all he is fake character
@@christianwoman1346 that is your opinion. Focus on yourself and don’t watch videos of people that you don’t want to watch.
@@user-nb4ne5mu8f I do whatever I want just like you do whatever you want idiot!
@@christianwoman1346 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”
He’s being incredibly vulnerable and generous sharing intimate details from his life. I wish him nothing but health and happiness.
“I am not a woman. My blueprint as a male has been destroyed through surgeries and hormones.”😢 Wow 😢
Im so sad.
This is so sad I just wanna hug him 😭😭
Truth ❤️
I know 😭
He realizes the truth now.
My heart breaks for you sir. I wish more people would listen to people like you. You are so brave to come and speak out on transitioning.
she is definily a Bipolar person doesnt know what is! one mentally unstable person cant talk for others!
What about trans people who are happy with their transition?
Every coin have two sides and not every story goes well.
Sometimes ppl regret changing their sex parts but not all of them do it.
It's a spectrum. Getting hormones, sex affirmation surgery is a long and expensive process.
But let's be hones, it's not about that. Most ppl who praise this person use him as an example for whole trans community...
Also let's take a step back, look where he came from, shitty community, hating, restricting this individual from living his truth.
Probably without pressure from the environment he would give himself more time to explore his true self.
@@Anesa100 yes it’s a spectrum. Yes it is a process. But there has to be the balance of both sides, those it worked for and those it didn’t. Transitioning isn’t for everybody. Like he said in the video, there are other expressions of his true self that he could have displayed instead of going through what is quite honestly an incredibly invasive and traumatic and almost irreversible process.
You don’t simply take away the issues on the inside by changing what’s on the outside. Gender dysphoria is real. This is on a scale too.
@@Anesa100 Its seens like they wanna show only the negative side from people that were confused. There are many girls that are extremely happy with their choice and outcome. following their happy lives.
@@Anesa100 "Happy" for now, maybe. Happy for the rest of their lives . . . who knows? Only time will tell.
I'm a guy who, as a kid, was interested in a mix of feminine and masculine things. I likes sports, and army men, and building forts, but also liked to wear my moms makeup and jewelry and was more feminine and sensitive for a boy. This didn't fly in my area so I started to go down the masculine only route and went on like that fo until later in my 20's when I moved home and had some breathing room to look at myself and question things. Trans issues were starting to become mainstream and a lot of the stories I heard sorta reminded me of myself as a kid. Being into feminine appearances, questioning myself, having boy crushes on my friends (though I was more attracted to girls) being afraid of "getting discovered", so on.
So I started small, at home in private. Letting my hips relax, butt/thigh exercises, grew my hair long...was liking it, so I ordered everyone's first trans clothing item the skater girl skirt and some fishnets. I loved the way it looked and felt. Kept going, makeup, shaving, watching a lot of trans content both sfw and nsfw. I started to notice something over and over in people's transition stories, when they start they tend to go FAST. If they are on the verge of suicide that's one thing, but it seemed like a lot of people just get caught up in the good feeling and forget to slow down and perhaps sleep on some things.
I decided to slow way down. It was like if I actually want to do this, then I will still want to do it in a couple years. In the meantime I continued to just lightly head in that direction. More feminine exercises/ stretches, some makeup here and there, got some booty shorts and what not...and started eating flaxseed which has testosterone lowering properties. Still totally private. Over time I started to realize that while I was enjoying all this stuff, it was sorta losing it's thrill. The flaxseed seemed to be working, too, curves were rounding and erections were waning. Liked the first part, not so much the second. One thing I was always sure of, I like my penis and I like using it. I was worried that I had made a mistake, but I still enjoyed feminine stuff it just felt more casual about it. I also had a lot more info and time to weigh things. I realized that, having held in my urges to indulge in more girly things my whole life, when I finally let myself do it it felt very freeing and empowering and all these things that you hear in people's stories. Once that initial euphoria wore off, though, it turned out I didn't actually want to go much further than that. I just assumed I did because it felt so great and it seemed to line up with other people who had gone on to fully transition. At the moment I'm just a dude with a nice ass and thick thighs who can slip into something a little more comfortable if I want. Mostly still attracted to women but in the right situation I dunno, I feel like I can be a little attracted to basically every type.
So it turned out I probably never wanted to be a woman as much as I just wanted to be able to do what I wanted without gender based constraint. The early feelings and self discoveries had me thinking I was going to go all the way (prob keep the dong though I dunno why people ever want to get rid of that most born-chicks I know even wish they had a penis), then I settled on a more non-binary thing but that didn't quite feel right eventually either and then I just sorta came back to a "dude look like a lady" thing xD I still haven't gone public with any of this but I feel like I'm honing in on the androgynous look I want.
TLDR: Take your time, go slow, don't overshoot what you're actually going for because you build momentum and don't want to stop.
Interesting read, thank you. I just thank God I’m old and grew up with no confusion in this regard. Men were men, women were women (and if they weren’t we never heard about it) and our roles in society were clear. As an adult I learned that it could be more complicated than that for some people, but I can’t imagine the trauma that these lovely young people are going through. All I know is natural is best. Don’t go near doctors and their scalpels and pharmaceuticals. Find natural remedies for whatever ails you. May God help all these souls who are caught up in this nightmare.
I've paused the video to read your story. I think it's good advice to take your time exploring to fully figure out who you are. I'm glad you were able to safely explore your feminine side and realise what you want from that aspect of your life. Good luck for the future and continue to enjoy yourself
Too much time on your hands
Just stop
Rediculous
I'm so glad Shape Shifter is not keeping it secret but trying to be as vocal as possible. This can really prevent many personal tragedies for other people..Cudos to you!
Yes!! I hope they keep speaking up. I just saw him on jubilee yesterday on a trans vs detrans discussion. It’s so frustrating to watch the trans try to discredit what he says. I think they just don’t like hearing the truth and that they could be making a mistake too.
@@raimeyewens7518 exactly.. they perceive detransitioning as a personal attack on their life choices
@@luckydevil1601the victim mentality runs deep.
So insightful.
So transparent.
So wise.
So well-spoken and well-read.
Hugs and prayers for your health, wellness, future, and happiness.
I pray this next chapter has many blessings.
Prayers for healing for your emotional trauma, healing for your soul, healing for your physical trauma.
You are not alone.
Thank you for your testimony and words of caution.
Yep! You wanna know why??? Because SHES A MAN BABY!!!
THANKYOU for being so honest and logical about this topic!!! You've mentioned many great points, but when I bring them up to people I am attacked as transphobic.... the psychology and medical field has been bullied into this, then at some point began exploiting it for the money. I hope trans people learn to hear the truth.
Not only Trans people, but people who blindly support and encourage confused children into believing that changing their gender will solve their emotional issues. It will not. It does work for some people, but for many, their emotional issues continue.
"bullied"
They were quite literally terrorized and threatened with the murder of their whole families.
I know they wont come out and say it but you can look it up, the scientists and medical professionals that spoke out lost their livelihoods and sawtheir dreams crushed and several were attacked and had their homes broken into and what not.
Same happened during the Kyle Rittenhouse trial, whene a witnesses old residence was smeared with pigs blood by transgender antifa members.
I often get threatened with death, specifically that they'll put me on a website for cannibal fetish and have some psycho livestream it... these people are not just insane and murderous they want to watch you die.
This is all due to Narcissistic Rage, *Transgenderism is an insecure Narcissistic body integrity identity disorder specifically regarding the Secondary Secual Characteristics* and if you shake a Narcissist back to reality and expose them they freak out and get really angry.
Lovely Day...Your comment is spot on!
They're being given what they say they want without the care and ethics in place that would be afforded to medical patients confronting other issues which seems like another form of discrimination.
Oh yeah- they are basically running Nazi-style experiments on human test subjects who are only willing because of social contagion.
It’s very scary. And it’s heartbreaking, as a bisexual woman, to see half the community buy into unregulated mutilation and sterilization.
Every person thinking of transitioning should have to watch this. He did such a great job of sharing his experience.
i already transitioned but i am trans man. and im glad i did my surgeries cause i cant imagine living as a woman.
@@oblongfan1 You are a female. You are a adult human female. YOU ARE A WOMAN.
@@ash3878this is really not the place to be close-minded
@@ash3878Cope and seethe
The number one thing I hear isn't that they no longer associate as a female, but getting physically castrated was the worst decision they've ever made since sex is no longer enjoyable. A fake vagina feels absolutely nothing like a real penis.
This was a newer view and the second time I've heard it on this channel. The other time was that his ptsd from being molested as a child didn't get dealt with...this being ashamed of being homosexual was such a damn shame. I wish he was more supported when he was younger and the therapists actually did their job.
Although there are legitimate cases...therapists should stop following trends and start trying to find root causes like they're supposed to do. You don't let someone do something they can't undo without exploring every possibility. His therapist in Massachusetts was horrible.
I'm so grateful I saw this. I got a trans daughter who hates me bc I wouldn't let her take hormones at 13 . She's 16 now . But I remember Dr's talking to her and just eager to give her hormones like it was no big deal. I love my kid boy, girl. butterfly ... whatever they wanna be but I refuse to put drugs in her that I knew even b4 watching this could make her more depressed than I knew she already was and risk finding her dead somewheres . I'm sorry but her hating me just doesn't seem as bad as losing her forever. Ty so much 4 sharing your story. And being so open about everything you went through.
Yes you’re a wonderful mother for this. No matter the situation kids will hate us parents for doing what’s right but it’s only to protect them. A lot of kids who transition young are robbed of so much especially the ability to have children. This is definitely a great video for parents to watch
For a while I resented my parents because I didn’t understand why they did what did. It has been a hard long journey but I finally begin understand, and I’m sure your daughter will too. I think it’s just a part of growing up. Understanding the nuances of life is difficult (especially as a teen), but what matters is that you love her, and that’s enough.
This is an odd takeaway, transition is different for everybody, they might need healthcare this person does not, listening to other people's stories is good but nobody knows your child's situation better than your child
@mshoney9301 my kid already looks like a girl. She's looked like that since she was little so many people used to ask is it a girl even with super short hair. God created her beautifully and perfectly. She doesn't need drugs that are gonna cause her health problems or major. Depression or some shit
@@kristinalozano7891 You do realize the people that need this healthcare suffer from dysphoria which is distress (so depression, anxiety, trauma etc) caused as a result of being transgender. So the healthcare is used to treat what you're claiming it causes and it's proven to be overwhelmingly effective. I don't know you or your child's situation but hopefully you're right
This is such an important interview and should be a necessary watch for everyone, including the parents of kids who feel like they might be transgender. You simply cannot reverse this surgery, and you might feel different later on. I cannot fathom that any therapist would not go through traumas first and they seem to have zero qualification for these kind of conversations. Kudos to this man for speaking out!
Your first sentence. Facts
The parents feel they might be transgender?? you mean their kids right?
This story is so important and it is vital that more detransitioners are given a voice.
We do not hear much of detransitioning person who do exist. The media should focus on them as well.
@@Lisa-chick688 yes we do. theres plenty on conservative media outlets because that's their favourite group of people to exploit for their propaganda. however i do agree we need more on politically neutral media outlets, and politically left media outlets.
Yes
So y’all can have an opposing argument for trans rights??
@@solar5916 What rights do you think I oppose?
Thanks for interviewing Shape-Shifter Mark. A lot of us subscribe to his channel and feel very supportive of him. In 2023 one must be quite brave to speak the truth he does. It is crucial. But, as you may imagine, attracts a great deal of negativity. Shape, we are sending you strength, love and peace of mind/relief from depression. Great interview ❤❤
My heart breaks for you. Thank you for coming forth & dispelling the myth that everything will be ok if you just have surgery after surgery. I'm grateful for this strong person to bring this kind of real to the subject! God bless you & I hope you can get back some of what you've lost.
I don't think ANYONE would claim that "surgery will fix everything." That's disingenuous.
I'm FtM... nobody ever suggested to me that gender-affirming medical care would make "everything ok", and I don't know any trans people who went into transition expecting it to solve all their problems or even all their dysphoria. When people do enter into transition with that impression, that's an issue. Medical providers are supposed to assess patients' expectations as part of the informed consent process.
@@sophia-marieyoung6773 Why do they have the surgery then, if it won't fix their problems? You don't cut off your private parts on a whim, they truly think it will help them feel better or there is no reason to do it.
@@stilltrying619 So you are going to make yourself sterile, cut off your sex organs, make yourself totally dependant on drugs and doctors for the rest of your life for what?? If it doesn't solve your "problem" why do you do it?
@@stilltrying619 The thing that baffles me is that every anti trans person out there will jump on the band wagon with “aha! See! A person regrets this!” When in reality, the rate of regret is extremely low (1-3 percent in most credible medical sources I could find). The reality of the situation is that Trans healthcare is still improving and that the direction we are moving in to give kids with gender dysphoria access to proper care will actually help decrease the already small amount of trans people with regret. I think it’s kind of irresponsible for Shape to use his voice and experience as a blanket for what trans people face with their healthcare and transition journeys.
This was SPOT ON! The world needs to hear this. Thank you.
Ive listened to a few detransitioners and they are all basically horror stories - the physical, mental and emotional toll it takes on them. But I’ve learned a lot about trans people by listening to them - and as in all things in life, it’s the activists with agendas that drive the narrative. This is probably one of the most important open and insightful discussion I’ve heard and I congratulatelate this person for their integrity.
Omg, what are they doing to these poor people.
@@Jesse-bb9bc they are taking advantage of the mentally ill and feeding them lies for profit.
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Taking advantage of a population with few resources that actually address the problem.
@@denyshadials5702 how is this taking care of people? This is as bad as lobotomies.
The thing is there are hundreds of thousands of people who's transitions brought their bodies into alignment with their implicit sense of self, just as it's intended to. There are also lots of stories of people who transitioned, and are indeed trans, but had specific results in mind and are unsatisfied with what they got. There are lots of people who internally love their post-transition bodies, and would be content, but are bullied and alienated so bad they end up wishing they'd kept hiding within the shell of a cis identity. No one story sums up the experience of gender-nonconforming people, and there is no simple solution that would end all gender-noncomforming people's pain.
Shape shifter is so intelligent, articulate, and self aware, very brave in sharing story. Thank-you. I have always wanted to support people’s authenticity, but there is a new movement in trans care that is not allowing critical discussion of complex issues.
Thank-you Mark for bringing these issues to public awareness.
I can relate so much to him, I have always been a feminine man and I always felt like I should have been born a girl, always felt more comfortable with other women, I am a feminine man. Luckily I never transitioned, and I just wear what I like and live as I like without the need to ruin my body. I can totally empathize with him. I want to give him a big hug
And the right person will love you exactly for who you are, the way you always will be. I have a very very good friend who's the same, and I wouldn't trade him for anything. The right one for you, will encourage the feminine outlets you allow yourself. Without judgement. It's all a spectrum and it's about finding where you fit that brings you joy, and then putting those around you who accept the same.
I guess the key issue here is that you develop enough confidence in yourself to do exactly what you are doing: live how you want. But don't expect or force people to agree or accept it and be ok with that because if it makes sense to you fuck the rest
@@padegra I agree, the problem is that sadly the other road quite often leads to stories like the one you've just listened to.
Can u be féminine men and be attracted to women?
@@padegra He didn't say anything about expectations or forcing anyone to act in any way. You sound patronizing giving unsolicited advice.
This is pure unadulterated truth. I am honored to hear this person. May your future be filled with more love and happiness
What a gloriously intelligent, powerful and brave person. Thank you for speaking up and sharing the wisdom and knowledge you gained through your experiences. I know that you will make a huge impact on saving others from falling into the same traps you did.
Shapeshifter, I didn't catch your name, but i just want to thank you so much. You were so real, articulate, vulnerable and informative in this interview. I learned a ton. And you are amazing.
I can see you being a public educator/speaker.
I hope you go on to help many people avoid the pain you've been through.
Much love, appreciation, and best wishes for a happy, fulfilling life. ❤
I think the name was purposefully hidden to protect their identity.
Wow. Shapeshifter, you make so many valid points to think about. Thank you. Good luck on your future journey.
This person is extremely brave to come out with this view point at this day and age.
@@xw7239 As an LGBT person, that's funny. Lie harder. Conservatives deserve death.
Not really, these videos are the only videos relating to transgenderism that people on both sides of the argument can agree on because obviously no matter the way you look at it, it's a horrible thing to go through. Unfortunately these detransitioning videos also always bring out a lot of transphobia because some people think too black and white and assume that some people detransitioning = transgenderism not being real.
@@xw7239 Those are two totally different issues. You can't change your sexuality mate, and you're not brave for going back into the closet
@callie good job building a strawman of people you disagree with lol.
No, being aware of the dangers of transitioning, isn't a "phobia"
@@mjanny6330 You either misunderstood me or you are blind. I just meant these videos bring out a lot of bigotry in the comments since bigots see these videos and use it to propagate the idea that transgenderism isn't real and whatnot.
This person is very insightful and educated on transitioning/detransitioning. People like this should get licensed to help others in this community and get laws passed to protect the young ones.
Yesssss
That was my thought, exactly! Who better to listen and empathize and provide support than a person who has lived/is living it! He is so well-read and understands the BIOLOGICAL ramifications as well as the PSYCHOLOGICAL. I got a lump in my throat when he said, "I was born with a blueprint, and I destroyed it." Perhaps this "path" was chosen for him so he can be a mouthpiece for others. I am sorry for his pain, though. He seems like an incredible soul.❤
@@nannybean8134 It's an extremely toxic idea that suffering is ''predestined'' or ''chosen'' or has some grand meaning. No, it doesn't. I'm not saying he can't bring something positive out of it but it was not ''meant to be'', no suffering is.
I agree that they can become activists or spoke-people or be helpful in many capacities; but I don't think traumatized people with psychological issues can or should be licensed. I mean, I don't think I should become therapist because I suffer from clinical depression. Living through something makes you experienced (in this regard) and insigtful person but it doesn't make you a professional doctor and it doesn't give you all the answers or solutions that will help other.
there still will be legit trans people regardless. im not disregarding this persons story or experience but he doesnt speak for the thousands if other trans people like us. im trans male and i never regret transitioning. i could never live my life as a woman. id probably kill myself if i hadnt done my transition. i wish him the best if he decides to de transition
I’m so sad to hear someone who clearly has so much to offer the world be in so much pain. I could cry.
I absolutely love the way you phrased that. I couldn't agree more.
Shape is a wonderful and very intelligent person.
He has said he thinks he has borderline personality disorder too, it’s really debilitating disorder and causes a lot of emotional agony.
Lmfao wat
He is highly intelligent 😢 it’s truly heartbreaking
Wow. I have tried researching, investigating, interviewing, observing... And in less than 30 minutes you just helped me to understand all that I have tried for years to understand. Thank you.
Hands down one of the best interviews you’ve showcased so far. Thank you! 💜 Be strong no matter your identity. I feel for this person. The world still loves you!
This is the most informative talk I’ve ever heard. I really hope somehow you find happiness within yourself.
This Trans woman is interviewed on the Blaire White project podcast in a much in depth and longer interview...you might enjoy it even more
@@windwarattack2300 thank you, that’s very nice of you to write to me.
@@rhonda6791 you are so polite, its cute😅
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14:16 "It was a software issue and those people sold me a hardware fix"
Such a great way to articulate this point!! Wow
I recently heard someone say “there is an epidemic. It’s the lack of understanding of nuance in every story.” We have become so much more polarized, we have become almost allergic to nuance.
I am glad channels like this give a voice to people with diversified backgrounds to remind us of the importance of nuance and context.
WOW! What a education. Thank you Shape Shifter for being so eloquent and sharing your story. Blessings to you.
Thank you for sharing your story. “ I was lied to, Im not a woman” 😢 I hope you heal! Your life is not in vain I honestly think this will help so many other people!
My heart breaks for this person. He is very insightful as he reflects on his life and reasons for his decisions. He is much more aware of psychology, science, and medicine than many others who have walked his path. I’m sure the therapy and psychedelics have helped him understand his life. I hope he finds peace and love toward himself, and knows that he is helping others by sharing the challenges he’s faced in his life.
Many that walk "this path" get years of therapy & countless medical appointments that last for 3-4 hours each to explain how things work, what are implications & complications and only AFTER they get to try HRT. Shape has done it the other way around.
@@ozgurturna Sadly, shape's story is increasingly common, and efforts to make "Gender affirming care" mandated by legislation are only worsening the problem.
Im so thankful for this channel. Im struggling with addiction for 4 years after losing my son and baby dad and becoming homeless 2020 and mental health since i was 4 and have been suicidal everyday for the last 4 years, i have split personality, gender dysmoprhia, psycosis, depression and anxiety, have been abused in every way and been through a lot of trauma and this made me feel not so alone, id love to do one of these interviews but im from the uk but would love to raise awareness on lack of mental health and addiction support over here
Thank you for brutal honesty. It’s what we need these days. I’m not against transgender men/women. But I’m against the speed that they’re willing to make such a major change. And I’m “red line” against children/adolescents having reassignment surgeries and/or hormone therapy
Their experiments
We have become so silly as a human species..."I'm not against someone destroying themselves just as long as they do it at a slow pace," Is basically what you said. The progressive tolerant mindset is humanities real plague, people to afraid to call a spade a spade because they are scared of not being inclusive. Whatever that means.
youre braindead
Amen to THAT!!!!
Yes! It's so sad that they're just letting people hurt themselves. Give them time to figure things out.
This needs to be heard by everyone.
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Agree!!🫶❤️
a tiny tiny fraction of the population are trans you know
@@Adam-zd2bk regardless of number they still exist.
@@ashmacc7868 yeah they do. I just said they exist
This has got to be one of the most poignant interviews I've seen. So eloquent and spoken from such a place of experience.
Wow, what a story and life experience! I'm grateful to have heard this one. Wishing Shape Shifter all the happiness and peach life can offer.
I’ve been waiting for this one! 👽🦎
Shape, we’re all SO fucking proud of you. You’ve been through so much and you’re still fighting for good. You’re an incredible human and we love you.
You did amazing in this interview and you’re bringing attention to an important issue, and the raw truth behind it. That’s exactly what people need to hear.
Thank you so much for everything you’re doing. I hope you’re able to find peace within yourself soon. You deserve to be happy and healthy.
Much love, and I hope you’re having a beautiful day. 💛
All of this 🫶🏻 👏🏼
For reallll. Love shape!!
He’s such a badass. I love his mind. Don’t care what he looks like. He’s beautiful ❤
For sure 😢 Strength To Do The Interview 👍 maybe it'll help even one child 🙏🙏🙏
Parents, listen up!!! ✌️💜🕊️
"They saw transition as a way to kill a version of themselves that was traumatised" - Shape Shifter, this is so insightful. We nee skilled caregivers, parents, best friends, therapists...communities...who can care and prevent life changing surgeries. There is so much trauma , of all kinds, in our society...and this trans issue lately (especially in the UK) is really highlighting to what extent surgery cannot provide the easefulness that dysmorphic people are seeking. No issue is singular, and complexity is incredibly hard to address. But we must start somewhere, baby steps....so we can become the best version of ourselves. Normalisation of surgical procedures - major or minor - is problematic. Any invasion of the body re-traumatises. Best of luck Shape Shifter, my heart goes out to you.
This is a person that is so intelligent and eloquent. I appreciate you being so honest and open, you speak so much sense. I wish you all the best in life. You really have so much going for you.
One of the best interviews I have ever seen for so many reasons. The pain in that voice moves me to great compassion. Thank you Mark and to Shape bravery required to accept just hard facts and also speak about it.
I wonder how many other trans individuals feel this way after the fact. I support all LGBTQ people but I do feel this is a topic that’s not widely discussed. Not sure why but it would definitely bring more awareness and insight into the community and what people go through. It’s already hard enough for them just to be who they are but I hope this person doesn’t receive any backlash. Wishing them the best moving forward!! ❤
I was thinking same!
There is a whole wave of people coming forward and speaking out now. The court cases have started. I've followed Shape for ages. May i also recommend Ritchie heron/tulip r. Chloe Cole. Exulansic. You're kidding right? There's so many but they're the first to come to mind. Chloe Cole is 18 and had a double mastectomy already.... its worse than we realise
Who cares about the backlash honestly? I know it may be rough on him, but as you stated, these stories need to be publicized because I personally feel for a lot of people, it’s a trend that they wanted to try and many end up feeling this way.
@Lyric 2021 look up ex aisle and other detrans people, the hate mob is beyond vicious.
This person has already received so much backlash. Like death threat level.
As a 41yr old man of trans experience I think it's very important stories like this are shared bc all u tend to hear of is I'm trans & it's the best thing ever but that's not everybody's story tho. Sometimes the mind can get twisted & once u get on the bus it's hard to decide to cash ya ticket back in. & Once your body has went thru certain changes u can't jus turn it around esp if u don't have thousands of dollars to afford it. & Side bar I wonder if the stuffed 🦎 a comfort thing? Anyway gratitude for sharing your story & Mark for giving him a platform to share this important story! I'm sending love, light, healing & comfort along wit all the positive energy your heart & hands can hold Beautiful!!! 🙏🏾
Thank you for being cool ❤
Shape explained it was something to hold how they can change in form.
It reminds me of Jane Goodall, who carries one specific stuffed animal with her to speaking engagements. Some women never stop loving stuffed animals, maybe he's got a bit of that playfulness to him, too. I thought the lizard was endearing.
I don’t know whether to cry or scream! The injustice done to this man is so appalling and heartbreaking! Keep moving forward, Shape. There’s a lot of people praying for you and thank you for telling your story. God has amazing plans for you, if you’ll allow Him.
The more stories I hear of detransitioning, the more I pray for the young people going through these surgeries so young. 🙏🏾😔
Playing for you, Shape. What a lovely soul.
Yeah and they are pushing this on children. Crazy.
But he sought this out. It’s powerful story nonetheless
It's happening to 10s of 1000s more every day.
This interview should be mandatory viewing for anyone considering gender reassignment. Massive respect to this individual for sharing their story.