I agree Tabitha,the hard part is deciding and starting to do recovery, it’s so nice to eat and taste and feel the food. Hope you and the farm are ok, teddy is soooo gorgeous xxx
In the process of reading your new book. It's very relevant and helpful. Actually understanding neural rewiring and how anxiety plays it's part and how we need to override the fear over and over until it's no longer a fear ❤️ definitely not a victim 💪💞
Always right although I wish you weren't because I dont face my stupid fears... I mean I think i do but gosh it SEEMS impossible yet it's very simple... THANK YOU!
Hi Tabitha. When doing your neural rewiring, as I am now, I find it hard as part of me seems to want to keep the eating disorder as if I don't I have to face up to the fact that perhaps I could have done this ages ago and wasted all those years. If that makes sense. My rational head say that is the reason to get on with it. Im trying but its scary.
I think this is a fear based eating disorder thought! Your only wasting time with this indecision, it’s like if your gonna jump off a diving board. You might look at it and think oooh that’s really high- maybe I should have practiced before. But if you just breathe and jump- you’ll see it’s actually possible! And so you jump, and what do you do, well you get back up there and repeat the jump-and just like that it becomes the easiest thing ever! It’s a weird analogy but it helps if you think of it when battling your ED (at least it did for me!)
It is hard, but part of the rewiring can include giving yourself grace for coping as best you could, all those years, and giving yourself credit for your strength in choosing recovery now. Does dwelling on past choices benefit the ED mindset or a recovery one? In any area of life, dwelling on the past can hold us back from leaping forward. xx
Your thoughts sound very familiar to me. But I actually think that all those 'wasted' years have led to me feeling like I really WANT recovery and going all in. If I hadn't suffered for years and years, I wouldn't be so f**ing determined now and KNOW that recovery is the only way. You know what I mean? Those years were not wasted. It's like I needed this experience of prolonged suffering to now be so determined and never wanna go back. Use it as a strength :-) I agree a lot with the other answers. Give yourself compassion and credit for choosing recovery, but also make peace with the past. It's over. The only place to live is NOW. And now you have the strength and knowledge to do this. :)
I have had my ED for several decades, 5 to be exact. Every day I loathe everything about this hideous illness, all the things I have chosen not to do. I am choosing recovery, everything that I see, read, hear feels as though it’s urging me to get on with it and stopping making excuses. Anybody out there with suggested starting food? I really I no idea. I live in England Thanks xx
No but that isn't what this about, is it? This is merely information/advice put out there should someone want out of the hell of an ED. If you choose not to, that is your choice. I have lost several friends to EDs, I don't think of them as morally inferior. I mourn them and am so sad that the world lost them. But I also hope that others might not see that fate.
And that, people, is why we love Tabitha
I agree Tabitha,the hard part is deciding and starting to do recovery, it’s so nice to eat and taste and feel the food. Hope you and the farm are ok, teddy is soooo gorgeous xxx
Brilliant video & absolutely spot on. Looking forward to part two! And Teddy is beautiful 😍
In the process of reading your new book. It's very relevant and helpful. Actually understanding neural rewiring and how anxiety plays it's part and how we need to override the fear over and over until it's no longer a fear ❤️ definitely not a victim 💪💞
Your book really helps and these videos gives me kick up the bum
Love that ending 'that's what it is'!
Always right although I wish you weren't because I dont face my stupid fears... I mean I think i do but gosh it SEEMS impossible yet it's very simple... THANK YOU!
This completely makes sense.
Hi Tabitha. When doing your neural rewiring, as I am now, I find it hard as part of me seems to want to keep the eating disorder as if I don't I have to face up to the fact that perhaps I could have done this ages ago and wasted all those years. If that makes sense. My rational head say that is the reason to get on with it. Im trying but its scary.
Im frustrated with myself constantly.
I think this is a fear based eating disorder thought! Your only wasting time with this indecision, it’s like if your gonna jump off a diving board. You might look at it and think oooh that’s really high- maybe I should have practiced before. But if you just breathe and jump- you’ll see it’s actually possible! And so you jump, and what do you do, well you get back up there and repeat the jump-and just like that it becomes the easiest thing ever! It’s a weird analogy but it helps if you think of it when battling your ED (at least it did for me!)
It is hard, but part of the rewiring can include giving yourself grace for coping as best you could, all those years, and giving yourself credit for your strength in choosing recovery now. Does dwelling on past choices benefit the ED mindset or a recovery one? In any area of life, dwelling on the past can hold us back from leaping forward. xx
Your thoughts sound very familiar to me. But I actually think that all those 'wasted' years have led to me feeling like I really WANT recovery and going all in. If I hadn't suffered for years and years, I wouldn't be so f**ing determined now and KNOW that recovery is the only way. You know what I mean? Those years were not wasted. It's like I needed this experience of prolonged suffering to now be so determined and never wanna go back. Use it as a strength :-) I agree a lot with the other answers. Give yourself compassion and credit for choosing recovery, but also make peace with the past. It's over. The only place to live is NOW. And now you have the strength and knowledge to do this. :)
I have had my ED for several decades, 5 to be exact. Every day I loathe everything about this hideous illness, all the things I have chosen not to do. I am choosing recovery, everything that I see, read, hear feels as though it’s urging me to get on with it and stopping making excuses. Anybody out there with suggested starting food? I really I no idea. I live in England
Thanks xx
Ur a genius…
But your choice does not have a higher place on the moral hierarchy than someone who chooses not to.
No but that isn't what this about, is it? This is merely information/advice put out there should someone want out of the hell of an ED. If you choose not to, that is your choice. I have lost several friends to EDs, I don't think of them as morally inferior. I mourn them and am so sad that the world lost them. But I also hope that others might not see that fate.
@@amysafko8817 Yes, life in all its pain and unfairness is a travesty isn't it.