I let go of my grudge as I was listening to this. I am amazed how this heaviness just lifted from my chest, I cried when I got to the sorrow part. When you finished I instinctively understod why the person I was holding grudge against was been mean to me, and now I know how to help that person😍 Thank you Christina🙏🏾💗
Simple but profound. Thank you for identifying the core of resentment/grudges. Sadness and pain speaks magic to my wounded heart and i was able to thoroughly grieve the disenchantment of a one sided relationship that was hidden in plain sight for over a 9 year period. I was finally able to cry my intense feelings of betrayal and abandonment out and release that unhealthy grudge once and for all. Bless you for reminding me i have the power to redirect my intentions to a higher place of healing. You know you are gifted? Deeply so. Keep sharing your light and wisdom,. The universe is in dire need of growth, more now than ever. Pleased to co create the journey... Namaste. universal wisdom
I couldn't have expressed my reactions and my feelings for Christina's message better than you do - so I borrow yours! (Also, my English is far from yours...) I'm so grateful to you both!! Namaste! 🙏♥️
Thank you so much. Tbh, being told it is necessary to forgive in order to heal has never been a helpful concept to me. This is the best, most useful thing I have ever heard and will be diving in heart first to resolve some issues that I have not been successful in letting go of. 🧡
Very helpful! Thank you!! I used to hold grudges for way too long. I always look forward to your videos every Tuesday. When this popped up I was so pleasantly surprised!! 🥰🥰🥰
Wow! This video just came out in time. I did have resentments towards people who hurted,i agree I feel low vibration when I feel hatred especially after spiritual awakening I am aware of my feelings and able to heal this. You are a huge impact in my spiritual journey. Lots of love and Namaste 🙏
That's very interesting and makes total sense. Healing does have too take place. This gives me a new outlook/ ways to letting go of grudges! Thank You Christina! Much Love n Peace
I was abused and manipulated by a very narcissistic person in my high school friend group. Today I found out she will be hosting my childhood best friend's hen night. It will be the first time for me to see that person in 3 years. I really don't want to ruin my friends day, but I'm scared of the confrontation.
“Sit With My Sorrows” 05:30 gonna keep that one as a possible Song Title As in sitting with your sorrows like you’re sitting with a friend until it’s time to both move on ie; the Grudge
You make it sound so easy! “The energy just dissipates”?? What if you sit in the emotions, feel grief for months and months and it just doesn’t change??
Beautiful message that I really needed to hear. I’m going inward to heal the child in me. I love your simple compassion. You model it well. Thank you so much.🙏❤️🦋
I have so much pain and sadness from my ex-husband that I never have had another relationship since our separation and divorce (2006). I have no desire to have relationships with anyone. When I tried to bring up the pain to sit with it, it was as if my body was trying to protect me by not allowing the sadness emotions to come up. I felt coldness, nothing. But I have nightmares about him almost every night. I wake up feeling like I've been fighting for survival all night.
Thank you so much Christina for this video, it resonates so much with me. My question is, what if the next person doesn't want to heal even when one has healed?
Thank you for this message Christina beautiful....... I went through the emotions that were surfacing from people and things i needed to finally let go of , I then used the mantra ( I cut the cord between me and ....... and let it go with love and peace... Once again thank you... by the way if you ever come to London again you should do a show at the O2 arena
But how to deal with a grudge when that person who hurt us, is still being part of our life? For example if it’s a parent you are holding grudges on ? He/She is still the same, and continues to hurt you?
I really appreciated your insights into this matter. I was able to release a grudge as a result of your wise words. I wonder if all grudges have the same seed of sorrow, though. Maybe they do, but I didn't find sorrow when I pulled back the soil where my grudge was growing to find the root. But my grudge isn't based on what someone did to me. So underneath I found righteous anger. Maybe there is sorrow under that. I'll continue reflecting on that. Regardless, your point about the energy hook resonated strongly. Once you mentioned it, I definitely became aware of the draining energy. I appreciated your remarks about looking at the wound and not just the cord lest the cord automatically reattach. Regardless of how I feel about what this person did, I can begin projecting loving kindness in her direction. Immediately upon doing that, I could feel the cord begin to disintegrate. Thank you.
I do need to let go of the anger and sorrow towards my ex boyfriend that used to abuse me. I'm glad for all your videos they help me at various times I love rewatching them alot
Funny story... I woke up a few times because of unresolved issue with neighbour. Ended up watching this and got some confidence about how it works to give me some peace. Thanks.
It somewhat makes sense rationally but no I already have tried this & remain hopeless. I saw my aunts fighting growing up & promised self that wouldn’t happen in my generation, I wouldn’t make room for grudges. Now I doubt myself that I’m capable of forgiving some things. I don’t even see it as beneficial. When my daughter almost died, both my sisters & another cousin like a sister were all horrible. All my abandonment issues resurfaced to reveal I’m indeed as alone as I’ve always sensed. I got the cousin to acknowledge that no matter how difficult she deems me, in the name & spirit of love , I’m worthy of support. I have felt the need to cut them out of my life forever.We don’t deserve one another. I’ve felt the pain of despair so intensely that no love lifts me to encourage me to seek out more of the same. I don’t feel tied to them but more of an emptiness. I’ve got no desire to celebrate them nor valid reasons to further blend my energy to get burned again. I have cut many ex my children’s fathers , out of my life & from there I make it my business to not look back & feed the wounds. It matters not if anyone understands me. I lost my interest in life prior or during all the discord. I’m trying to be responsible & of good cheer but I won’t foreign affection. Just as I was dead to them & or a nuisance , so to is any comfort in their love. The many that weren’t there for me in my darkest days ex our mother don’t merit my attention. I may be helpful to our mother cause she’s in need & alienated everyone but there is no joy. The opposite of holding a grudge, is to love evermore. I must do everything in my power to protect myself & nurture any thread of desire to hang in. That they refused to even try to be supportive tells me my job to love self is all the more important. I don’t wish ill towards another but I know better than to lean into another & that they don’t deserve a drop of me at my best. Have I abandoned my love towards them, yes & I label it self respect. My love for some can sit on a shelf to collect dust for all eternity, while I nurture my desire to continue the basics of self care.
Why some people hold grudges on small things. There can be several reasons why some individuals hold grudges over small things. One possible explanation is that they may have a tendency to magnify minor issues, perceiving them as significant offenses. Additionally, past experiences or unresolved conflicts could contribute to their inclination to hold onto grudges, as they may fear being taken advantage of or hurt again.
I hold a grudge against a coworker who is my back up. And have held it for so long. I let it go and then it resurfaces again and again. She is lazy and doesn’t do her job as my back up. I have spoken to management again and again about it. And they don’t seem to care. It is frustrating when she isn’t doing the back up stuff she is supposed to be doing for me. I speak to her about it and she isn’t malicious … I truly believe she just doesn’t care. I have tried to remember that everyone is doing the best they can in any given moment but when she doesn’t back me up it impacts me. Now it has gotten to where I am angry at her all of the time. An incident happened just today and while I was nice I let her know how I felt about what happened. If management isn’t going to do anything and I just have to suck it up … How do I let go of this grudge / resentment towards her? I cut the cord / attachment between us almost every single day. And the moment she doesn’t do her job I am back to square one in feeling this way. I have to work with her. She sits right beside me. She is my back up. I love my job other than this one item. I try to ignore her and just go about my day and don’t let it bother me. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I realize I am drawing this energy to myself and know I am responsible for what I am attracting. I truly do. I have even thought we have karma and we just keep going around and around on the wheel of karma and torn the contract up between us and when I am doing this I have forgiven her and I have said I am sorry for anything I have done that might have caused her pain. I have tried everything. I keep attracting this. How do I stop ? I am open to any suggestions. This has been going on for 11 years. I am sending lots of love and light.
Wow, thanks for sharing, very sorry to hear what you struggle with for so many years 😥. If she is there for a reason, it could be about boundaries or lack of respect/ self respect or not being heard, seen (by leaders /parents ) or understood. Or 1 chakra imbalance of not feeling safe, alone or supported, she is supposed to have your back. So could be old unhealed trauma or you are encouraged to do something new and different / get another job. Only you can tell, maybe seek help from healers or coach to dive deep into the energies and dynamic. Must be a terrible situation, but there is always choices to make and pattern / energy to shift. Hope you solve the mystery. 😊🙏❤🌟
Wow that is a long time to be in that situation, it may not be possible to let go of your resentment whilst you are still in the same job. It will always come back which you said does happen. Even though you love your job I would suggest looking for another one, as your employee's do not seem to value you enough to address your concerns about your Co worker. And your Co worker will continue to let you to do all the work. She doesn't seem to care or have a conscience. When you have left you can heal, grow and move on from your experience and your co worker and employees may realise the error of their ways and also learn from it. It's not fair what is happening and it will continue to wear your self esteem. No job I worth that
@@tavstephens6081 Thank you for your suggestions. I will be working on a couple things and there may be a possibility of something new for me. Sending lots of love and light.
@@larsstougaard7097 Thank you so much. I have a couple of things in the works. You brought up something I hadn’t thought about regarding my boundaries as I never even thought about it from that perspective. That resonated immensely for me. Much appreciated. Sending lots of love and light.
Great video on grudges. We all can learn from this one. I sure did. You are special, you are IMPORTANT, you are not alive by accident. Love yourself and try to remain positive despite the negative all around you. Life will begin to bring you comfort and peace. If you agree please comment back and let me know your thoughts????
Thank you so much! Dealing with last part of my wounding from my daughters father. He is a narcissist and the struggle is so real. I have been working so hard on this but every time I see him I feel like the cord gets right back up. How the hell do I let go when it has to do with a narcissist. Like seriously true one. Classic book case one. I healed the kidnapping, rape, taking my daughter away and the couple yrs spent with him. But he just really is irritating. Like need a bath to rid myself of his carbon dioxide laying on me irritating. Any tips?
1st step z to gather courage n take a stand against it... Everything else will then start happening. Remember "God helps those who help themselves". I am telling ds from my own xperiences. Start respecting urself 1st
Wait ...what about family ? I'm a little scared of the shift in family dynamic that will happen once I heal that grudge and cut that cord . What will happen once I start to free myself ? Just a thought .
I get that holding grudges is unhealthy and conceivably "wrong," but it definitely isn't unnatural. I don't think we should reduce people's character because of grudge holding, or make it _their_ problem. The circumstances could make it fair enough. Take me for example. I know a woman (let's call her Helen) who was very thoughtless toward my feelings. I work dining services at a university, and she temporarily came to work in 2022 summer. We did not get off to a good start, and it's my fault. I _stupidly_ started a sensitive topic (I don't want to say it). She proposed a transition in topic, and she was right. I don't remember our moments so well since then (I don't think we really interacted too much anyway), but I remember this one particular bad day. I was chatting with a girl while waiting for her desserts for a service to be ready, and Helen came in and said, "Harassing the baker, John?" I said, "And why do you assume that?" and she said, "Because you're John." That hurt me enough to sit far away from her and another coworker during a lunch break. She said, "Wow, John, you must really not like us, and I gave a facial expression that basically said, "Yeah, well..." The other coworker was like, "Oh, John," and I passive-aggressively said, "You're fine [name]." I think Helen got the message. But what's funny is she never seemed to have connected the clues _why_ I was upset with her. I mean, I heard from a coworker that Helen knew I was upset with her (they spoke). So, she knew something was wrong, but not what, and also hesitated to come to me about it. And that's the third line she crossed. First, was accusing me of harassing the girl. Second, was willingly answering my question with a "John-bashing" answer when I *clearly* showed *offense* in said question. Three, not seeing what was wrong and that her answer was insensitive. Sometimes, if a person does something wrong, it's extra wrong to require an explanation to get it; they should be able to get it on their own. Helen should've just realized how she undermined me. I feel very bad if I hurt her feelings and for the bad first impression. That's my fault. But she didn't have to insult my personality. And we'll probably never solve it, unless we talk about it. And anyway, I'm disgusted she never understood. You gotta be a real jerk to undermine someone and not get it.
Iv been procecing grief anger and sorrow for a year now, things i supressed all my life, is it ever going to release? Or is it a threat that it can become a habit / a home to feel it? Cuz u know, brain circuts and all that.. Edit: I dont want to feel it anymore it continues to surfsce no matter how i let myself feel it. Im tired of all this negative feelings. Please help
What if the person who you hold the grudge against is given the power to continue to hurt you over and over and over? How do you cut the cords with someone like that AKA custody battle and the court system has given him power.
my issue is that my grudge has been with the universe. my life has never been easy or fun. i try and try and try to get met with constant pushback while all of the “terrible” people around me get rewarded. i want to scream at the top of my lungs, just once
I don't know if its a grudge but i don't like rich people in general. I have talked to my angels about this and over last 2 years they have put generous rich people in front of me so i can see they aren't all aholes, lol. I was raised upper middle class and never wanted for anything but i never wanted anything to do with rich people. I think its some past life thing.
What if the person that hurt you and caused you sadness also hurt your children and caused them sadness, depression, anxiety, anorexia? I can let go of the grudge that he hurt me but the fact that he hurt my children is harder to let go of
Do you know or would want to guide us in a live meditation to help keep the peace in the world. Give us time to send it out to people so we can all join together in more power. Please and thank you.
Not holding any grudges just tired of being gaslit, cheated, robbed, betrayed, slandered, walked allover, treated like a damn doormat, walking on eggshells, tired of their hypocrisy, abandoned etc.
I tell you my story if someone ask one thing to delete from my life forever then it will be my school life. It was 2013 when I got admission at new school in 6th standard it was a very well known school and very big I was so excited to go there until I realised how that school going to ruin my mental health I was very introverted quite kid at that time when I saw most of the students there came from rich family and was very good at English suddenly my confidence got very Iow thought they are very smart I am nothing infront of them that was the biggest mistake I have ever made I slowly slowly started to underground myself from everyone I sit alone in class every time whenever I tries to make friend I failed everytime because I was scared to talk to them I was very introverted due to this my classmates judged me that I am dumb even some teachers also but deep down I always known that I am not this I am very different at home I don't deserved to be treated like this I was very innocent many of my classmates use to make fun of me I had bunny teeth one of the girl in my class use to make fun of me infront of everyone I suffered a lot from 6th to 10th then it was 2018 when I came to 11th standard then I decided now it's enough you have to change you can't be like that anymore after that I became a very different person jolly,funny,lovable and friendly I had made lot of friends everyone use to laugh at my joke but sadly those girls who hurt my feelings earlier bullied me left the school I wish I could show them all that I am different I still hold my school life grudges whenever I think of those girls my heart starts paining I feel to cry but because of those toxic girls I have changed now I am more confident now and have many friends thanks to them for bringing this change to me.
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❓so mam after cutting the cord should me totally discounted with those relatives
Grudge is a sign of a wound! So it have to be healed I so agree 🙏🙏🙏
Emotions just want to be heard! That’s so true I realized it a few months ago and my healing accelerated so much 💫
I let go of my grudge as I was listening to this. I am amazed how this heaviness just lifted from my chest, I cried when I got to the sorrow part. When you finished I instinctively understod why the person I was holding grudge against was been mean to me, and now I know how to help that person😍
Thank you Christina🙏🏾💗
Simple but profound. Thank you for identifying the core of resentment/grudges. Sadness and pain speaks magic to my wounded heart and i was able to thoroughly grieve the disenchantment of a one sided relationship that was hidden in plain sight for over a 9 year period. I was finally able to cry my intense feelings of betrayal and abandonment out and release that unhealthy grudge once and for all. Bless you for reminding me i have the power to redirect my intentions to a higher place of healing. You know you are gifted? Deeply so. Keep sharing your light and wisdom,. The universe is in dire need of growth, more now than ever. Pleased to co create the journey... Namaste.
universal wisdom
I couldn't have expressed my reactions and my feelings for Christina's message better than you do - so I borrow yours! (Also, my English is far from yours...) I'm so grateful to you both!! Namaste! 🙏♥️
Thank you so much. Tbh, being told it is necessary to forgive in order to heal has never been a helpful concept to me. This is the best, most useful thing I have ever heard and will be diving in heart first to resolve some issues that I have not been successful in letting go of. 🧡
Very helpful! Thank you!! I used to hold grudges for way too long. I always look forward to your videos every Tuesday. When this popped up I was so pleasantly surprised!! 🥰🥰🥰
OMG!! It really, really worked! I looked at and FELT the sadness and hurt and grief and felt such relief - instantly!! Obrigada, Christina!!
Wow! This video just came out in time. I did have resentments towards people who hurted,i agree I feel low vibration when I feel hatred especially after spiritual awakening I am aware of my feelings and able to heal this. You are a huge impact in my spiritual journey. Lots of love and Namaste 🙏
Thanks Christina! Really needed this reminder. 🤗
That's very interesting and makes total sense. Healing does have too take place. This gives me a new outlook/ ways to letting go of grudges! Thank You Christina! Much Love n Peace
Love this!Love to you and everyone who listens to this.💕
You have a way to explain that makes it so easy to understand 💗
I love how you make it so clear! It's beautiful, thank you 💚💫
Omg...this means so much to me!
Thank you Christina and her team to make this video ❤💜💚💙🧡💗
This video is just on time!! Thank you!!!
Great message I have most needed. Thank you sweet Christina❤❤❤
I was abused and manipulated by a very narcissistic person in my high school friend group. Today I found out she will be hosting my childhood best friend's hen night. It will be the first time for me to see that person in 3 years. I really don't want to ruin my friends day, but I'm scared of the confrontation.
Thank you Christina, just wanted to say how much I appreciate the videos you do.
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS. You articulate and confirm everything I think but can’t quite admit to myself. So helpful!
Thanks Christina for helping me letting go of my grudges and moving on with my life ❤️ 💕
That is so true, it makes so much sense. Thank you Christina. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
“Sit With My Sorrows” 05:30
gonna keep that one as a possible Song Title
As in sitting with your sorrows like you’re sitting with a friend until it’s time to both move on
ie; the Grudge
This resonates. I’ve also found that praying for that person allows me to release it.
Thank you Christina.
You make it sound so easy! “The energy just dissipates”?? What if you sit in the emotions, feel grief for months and months and it just doesn’t change??
Same here
Huge wound - huge grudge.
Amazing. Thus couldn't be more timely. Thank you, Christina.
Emotion: energy in motion. Still wanting to be felt because it hasn't been processed or looked at in a different way. 🤔
Great video!
Thank you!!!! I really needed to hear this 💛 love and light 😘
Liked that you mentioned how to, than other videos don't mention it. Loved it!
I found this video helpful, thank you! No Serial Killer.
Deep Gratitude 🙏🌻💛💫
Thank you for helping me along on my journey 💜
Beautiful message that I really needed to hear. I’m going inward to heal the child in me. I love your simple compassion.
You model it well. Thank you so much.🙏❤️🦋
Thank you Christina..
This has come at the most appropriate time for me. Thank you so much. I still need to do some practice.
Perfect timing as always. Thanks 😊
This is so profound. Thank you Christina ❤️
Ohhhh it helps the. Most!
Thank you for all the help and the knowledge sharing!
wow, thank you for sharing this. this is so helpful ❤️
This was so beautiful, thank you for the guidance. 🥰🙏🏼😘
Thank you dear teacher. This video is healing.
This is information I'm sure many people need.
Thank you so much Christina. This freed me!!! 🥰🥰🥰
You are so good! Thanks Christina. ❤️🔥🙏🏼
Thank so much for your practical and helpful insights combined with the spiritual wisdom of your work and video's have exceptional clarity, bless you!
I found your TH-cam channel randomly and I am in LOVE. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! Just subscribed to your podcast as well :)
Thank-you so much for an important subject. I'm continually impressed by the topics you address. I greatly appreciate all your sharing.
Yes, it helps. Thank you.
phenomenal, i love this. thank you.
I have so much pain and sadness from my ex-husband that I never have had another relationship since our separation and divorce (2006). I have no desire to have relationships with anyone. When I tried to bring up the pain to sit with it, it was as if my body was trying to protect me by not allowing the sadness emotions to come up. I felt coldness, nothing. But I have nightmares about him almost every night. I wake up feeling like I've been fighting for survival all night.
Thank you so much Christina for this video, it resonates so much with me. My question is, what if the next person doesn't want to heal even when one has healed?
This is so helpful, thank you so much
Thank you for this tool!
Thank you. I needed to hear it today. 💕
Thank you this really helped here and now and into my future! 🙏♥️❄️
Thank you so much! Very helpful 🙏🏽
Thank you for this message Christina beautiful....... I went through the emotions that were surfacing from people and things i needed to finally let go of , I then used the mantra ( I cut the cord between me and ....... and let it go with love and peace... Once again thank you... by the way if you ever come to London again you should do a show at the O2 arena
I love you! I needed this reminder
I needed to hear this today thanks 🙏🏼
But how to deal with a grudge when that person who hurt us, is still being part of our life? For example if it’s a parent you are holding grudges on ? He/She is still the same, and continues to hurt you?
I really appreciated your insights into this matter. I was able to release a grudge as a result of your wise words. I wonder if all grudges have the same seed of sorrow, though. Maybe they do, but I didn't find sorrow when I pulled back the soil where my grudge was growing to find the root. But my grudge isn't based on what someone did to me. So underneath I found righteous anger. Maybe there is sorrow under that. I'll continue reflecting on that. Regardless, your point about the energy hook resonated strongly. Once you mentioned it, I definitely became aware of the draining energy. I appreciated your remarks about looking at the wound and not just the cord lest the cord automatically reattach. Regardless of how I feel about what this person did, I can begin projecting loving kindness in her direction. Immediately upon doing that, I could feel the cord begin to disintegrate. Thank you.
I do need to let go of the anger and sorrow towards my ex boyfriend that used to abuse me. I'm glad for all your videos they help me at various times I love rewatching them alot
Funny story... I woke up a few times because of unresolved issue with neighbour. Ended up watching this and got some confidence about how it works to give me some peace. Thanks.
Thanks for sharing with us. 🙏🙏
It somewhat makes sense rationally but no I already have tried this & remain hopeless. I saw my aunts fighting growing up & promised self that wouldn’t happen in my generation, I wouldn’t make room for grudges. Now I doubt myself that I’m capable of forgiving some things. I don’t even see it as beneficial.
When my daughter almost died, both my sisters & another cousin like a sister were all horrible. All my abandonment issues resurfaced to reveal I’m indeed as alone as I’ve always sensed. I got the cousin to acknowledge that no matter how difficult she deems me, in the name & spirit of love , I’m worthy of support.
I have felt the need to cut them out of my life forever.We don’t deserve one another. I’ve felt the pain of despair so intensely that no love lifts me to encourage me to seek out more of the same. I don’t feel tied to them but more of an emptiness. I’ve got no desire to celebrate them nor valid reasons to further blend my energy to get burned again. I have cut many ex my children’s fathers , out of my life & from there I make it my business to not look back & feed the wounds. It matters not if anyone understands me. I lost my interest in life prior or during all the discord. I’m trying to be responsible & of good cheer but I won’t foreign affection. Just as I was dead to them & or a nuisance , so to is any comfort in their love.
The many that weren’t there for me in my darkest days ex our mother don’t merit my attention. I may be helpful to our mother cause she’s in need & alienated everyone but there is no joy.
The opposite of holding a grudge, is to love evermore. I must do everything in my power to protect myself & nurture any thread of desire to hang in. That they refused to even try to be supportive tells me my job to love self is all the more important. I don’t wish ill towards another but I know better than to lean into another & that they don’t deserve a drop of me at my best. Have I abandoned my love towards them, yes & I label it self respect. My love for some can sit on a shelf to collect dust for all eternity, while I nurture my desire to continue the basics of self care.
This was really helpful😢❤
Christina, Beautiful spirit guide, Thank you for your wisdom.
Did that sound cheesy lol ? I just thank you so much.
Love you Christian 👌🏻❤️
It helps ♥️🙏♥️ thank you!
Thank you xx
Many thanks for this video💯🖤🖤🖤🖤🙏🙏🙏🙏
The thing that keeps coming up for me is Jordan Peele's film "Us" and the tethered.
Tanks, thanks, thanks
Thank you
Why some people hold grudges on small things. There can be several reasons why some individuals hold grudges over small things. One possible explanation is that they may have a tendency to magnify minor issues, perceiving them as significant offenses. Additionally, past experiences or unresolved conflicts could contribute to their inclination to hold onto grudges, as they may fear being taken advantage of or hurt again.
Thank you for your brilliant explanation. whew
I hold a grudge against a coworker who is my back up. And have held it for so long. I let it go and then it resurfaces again and again. She is lazy and doesn’t do her job as my back up. I have spoken to management again and again about it. And they don’t seem to care. It is frustrating when she isn’t doing the back up stuff she is supposed to be doing for me. I speak to her about it and she isn’t malicious … I truly believe she just doesn’t care. I have tried to remember that everyone is doing the best they can in any given moment but when she doesn’t back me up it impacts me. Now it has gotten to where I am angry at her all of the time. An incident happened just today and while I was nice I let her know how I felt about what happened. If management isn’t going to do anything and I just have to suck it up … How do I let go of this grudge / resentment towards her? I cut the cord / attachment between us almost every single day. And the moment she doesn’t do her job I am back to square one in feeling this way. I have to work with her. She sits right beside me. She is my back up. I love my job other than this one item. I try to ignore her and just go about my day and don’t let it bother me. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I realize I am drawing this energy to myself and know I am responsible for what I am attracting. I truly do. I have even thought we have karma and we just keep going around and around on the wheel of karma and torn the contract up between us and when I am doing this I have forgiven her and I have said I am sorry for anything I have done that might have caused her pain. I have tried everything. I keep attracting this. How do I stop ? I am open to any suggestions. This has been going on for 11 years. I am sending lots of love and light.
Wow, thanks for sharing, very sorry to hear what you struggle with for so many years 😥. If she is there for a reason, it could be about boundaries or lack of respect/ self respect or not being heard, seen (by leaders /parents ) or understood. Or 1 chakra imbalance of not feeling safe, alone or supported, she is supposed to have your back. So could be old unhealed trauma or you are encouraged to do something new and different / get another job. Only you can tell, maybe seek help from healers or coach to dive deep into the energies and dynamic. Must be a terrible situation, but there is always choices to make and pattern / energy to shift. Hope you solve the mystery. 😊🙏❤🌟
Wow that is a long time to be in that situation, it may not be possible to let go of your resentment whilst you are still in the same job. It will always come back which you said does happen. Even though you love your job I would suggest looking for another one, as your employee's do not seem to value you enough to address your concerns about your Co worker. And your Co worker will continue to let you to do all the work. She doesn't seem to care or have a conscience. When you have left you can heal, grow and move on from your experience and your co worker and employees may realise the error of their ways and also learn from it. It's not fair what is happening and it will continue to wear your self esteem. No job I worth that
@@tavstephens6081 Thank you for your suggestions. I will be working on a couple things and there may be a possibility of something new for me. Sending lots of love and light.
@@larsstougaard7097 Thank you so much. I have a couple of things in the works. You brought up something I hadn’t thought about regarding my boundaries as I never even thought about it from that perspective. That resonated immensely for me. Much appreciated. Sending lots of love and light.
@@deegee1230 that is great to hear, hope everything will turn out for the best soon 😊♥️
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Great video on grudges. We all can learn from this one. I sure did. You are special, you are IMPORTANT, you are not alive by accident. Love yourself and try to remain positive despite the negative all around you. Life will begin to bring you comfort and peace. If you agree please comment back and let me know your thoughts????
Thank you so much! Dealing with last part of my wounding from my daughters father. He is a narcissist and the struggle is so real. I have been working so hard on this but every time I see him I feel like the cord gets right back up. How the hell do I let go when it has to do with a narcissist. Like seriously true one. Classic book case one. I healed the kidnapping, rape, taking my daughter away and the couple yrs spent with him. But he just really is irritating. Like need a bath to rid myself of his carbon dioxide laying on me irritating. Any tips?
Can I cut the cord with my Twin Flame? Thank you and so much love.
... how to heal or even deal with ongoing abuse, mental, emotional and physical especially verbal abuse
1st step z to gather courage n take a stand against it... Everything else will then start happening. Remember "God helps those who help themselves". I am telling ds from my own xperiences. Start respecting urself 1st
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Wait ...what about family ? I'm a little scared of the shift in family dynamic that will happen once I heal that grudge and cut that cord . What will happen once I start to free myself ? Just a thought .
I get that holding grudges is unhealthy and conceivably "wrong," but it definitely isn't unnatural. I don't think we should reduce people's character because of grudge holding, or make it _their_ problem. The circumstances could make it fair enough. Take me for example. I know a woman (let's call her Helen) who was very thoughtless toward my feelings. I work dining services at a university, and she temporarily came to work in 2022 summer. We did not get off to a good start, and it's my fault. I _stupidly_ started a sensitive topic (I don't want to say it). She proposed a transition in topic, and she was right. I don't remember our moments so well since then (I don't think we really interacted too much anyway), but I remember this one particular bad day. I was chatting with a girl while waiting for her desserts for a service to be ready, and Helen came in and said, "Harassing the baker, John?" I said, "And why do you assume that?" and she said, "Because you're John."
That hurt me enough to sit far away from her and another coworker during a lunch break. She said, "Wow, John, you must really not like us, and I gave a facial expression that basically said, "Yeah, well..." The other coworker was like, "Oh, John," and I passive-aggressively said, "You're fine [name]." I think Helen got the message. But what's funny is she never seemed to have connected the clues _why_ I was upset with her. I mean, I heard from a coworker that Helen knew I was upset with her (they spoke). So, she knew something was wrong, but not what, and also hesitated to come to me about it. And that's the third line she crossed. First, was accusing me of harassing the girl. Second, was willingly answering my question with a "John-bashing" answer when I *clearly* showed *offense* in said question. Three, not seeing what was wrong and that her answer was insensitive. Sometimes, if a person does something wrong, it's extra wrong to require an explanation to get it; they should be able to get it on their own. Helen should've just realized how she undermined me. I feel very bad if I hurt her feelings and for the bad first impression. That's my fault. But she didn't have to insult my personality. And we'll probably never solve it, unless we talk about it. And anyway, I'm disgusted she never understood. You gotta be a real jerk to undermine someone and not get it.
Is there something below the sadness? Like abandonment?
Iv been procecing grief anger and sorrow for a year now, things i supressed all my life, is it ever going to release? Or is it a threat that it can become a habit / a home to feel it?
Cuz u know, brain circuts and all that..
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I dont want to feel it anymore it continues to surfsce no matter how i let myself feel it. Im tired of all this negative feelings. Please help
What if the person who you hold the grudge against is given the power to continue to hurt you over and over and over? How do you cut the cords with someone like that AKA custody battle and the court system has given him power.
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my issue is that my grudge has been with the universe. my life has never been easy or fun. i try and try and try to get met with constant pushback while all of the “terrible” people around me get rewarded. i want to scream at the top of my lungs, just once
i online buy the stag befor this video its the symbol of never get frudges
I don't know if its a grudge but i don't like rich people in general. I have talked to my angels about this and over last 2 years they have put generous rich people in front of me so i can see they aren't all aholes, lol. I was raised upper middle class and never wanted for anything but i never wanted anything to do with rich people. I think its some past life thing.
What if the person that hurt you and caused you sadness also hurt your children and caused them sadness, depression, anxiety, anorexia? I can let go of the grudge that he hurt me but the fact that he hurt my children is harder to let go of
So you have some souls to care for now.
Do you know or would want to guide us in a live meditation to help keep the peace in the world. Give us time to send it out to people so we can all join together in more power. Please and thank you.
Not holding any grudges just tired of being gaslit, cheated, robbed, betrayed, slandered, walked allover, treated like a damn doormat, walking on eggshells, tired of their hypocrisy, abandoned etc.
I tell you my story if someone ask one thing to delete from my life forever then it will be my school life. It was 2013 when I got admission at new school in 6th standard it was a very well known school and very big I was so excited to go there until I realised how that school going to ruin my mental health I was very introverted quite kid at that time when I saw most of the students there came from rich family and was very good at English suddenly my confidence got very Iow thought they are very smart I am nothing infront of them that was the biggest mistake I have ever made I slowly slowly started to underground myself from everyone I sit alone in class every time whenever I tries to make friend I failed everytime because I was scared to talk to them I was very introverted due to this my classmates judged me that I am dumb even some teachers also but deep down I always known that I am not this I am very different at home I don't deserved to be treated like this I was very innocent many of my classmates use to make fun of me I had bunny teeth one of the girl in my class use to make fun of me infront of everyone I suffered a lot from 6th to 10th then it was 2018 when I came to 11th standard then I decided now it's enough you have to change you can't be like that anymore after that I became a very different person jolly,funny,lovable and friendly I had made lot of friends everyone use to laugh at my joke but sadly those girls who hurt my feelings earlier bullied me left the school I wish I could show them all that I am different I still hold my school life grudges whenever I think of those girls my heart starts paining I feel to cry but because of those toxic girls I have changed now I am more confident now and have many friends thanks to them for bringing this change to me.