Hello Bishop,The ministry I am apart of a ministry that speaks about these same things . .I am Chamon Jones' sister(we have the same father).. I've never met you before but my generation of women.. especially in the church are in trouble. If my Shepard wasnt as faithful as he has been to call out my junk even when i thought I was okay..I would be divorced. I pray you keep doing what you do because there are women that are bound and don't think they are... I pray no root of bitterness gets to you because these women are also dealing with rebellion/brokeness and stubborness from generations down. I'm one who was just set free from it. But to take it a step further my generation is lacking in feminine qualities and the motherly nature because of generational curses of bitterness passsed down (for women to be bitter against men --causing this generation to not trust male authority)..so now women don't even want children the way they should desire them anymore..its sad but thank God for Ministers like you who are willing to get down in the dirt with those of us who realize we really need help. I was contentious coming into marriage and my husband was effeminate..not gay but the player type.. so the devil had one up on both of us. But our Shepard saw the need to help him to become a manly man and for me to be a feminine woman.. submissive..not hard and arguing and being controlling. This is my husband's testimony..just wanted to share.God Bless and I will be praying for you and your family.
The best move to make is to dip with the quickness.. these type of men like to test to see if you’re really about your boundaries..more fool them because we value peace
18:50 1. He works overtime to build trust and repoire 25:43 2. He isolates you. He wants to get you away from those that will talk sense into you. 31:09 3. He grooms you down from your values and standards; there is the gradual boundary violation 41:11 4. He will love bomb and flatter 43:15 5. He is pushing you to maintain secrecy 47:04 6. He makes the target feels in debt to him 50:14 7. He introduces scenarios into your life that contradict your values and boundaries and personal beliefs Wow!!!! Dr. R.C. Blakes: what a blessing with these gems! Thank you!
These types of 'men' will not leave you either. You have to be the one to walk away and when they try to come back its not because they love you. They can't regulate and sit with their own emotions so they project them on to you, slowly poisoning you. The sooner we realize our willingness to participate and not become victims is the day we take back our power. Being a victim indicates we have no personal autonomy or agency. Breaking trauma bonds are similiar to breaking a drug addiction, but its possible.
Very well said. These types of men are programmed as parasites. Slowly and gradually they wrap their tentacles around you, their host, and they pull you down down down. You will not recognize what is happening until you are in such a weakened state that you do not have the strength to fight the parasitic infestation. It takes time to build yourself up to get out.
I went on a date once with someone and when I wouldn’t kiss after the date, he waxed host!le and said to pay him for his time, gas and meals because he doesn’t hang out with friends and pay for them. I gave him the money and noped out of there. He quickly changed his tone and said “oh no. He just wanted to be appreciated. It wasn’t about the money, yada *3” Blocked him everywhere. Thanked the Lord he showed his hand early, and saved me all of that.
I believe this is what I went through for 10 years. I went through 3 evictions, lost $50k, and damn near lost my mind. I'm so glad I got out when I did. I just lost myself in a loser. Was emotionally drained. I believe because he grew up in a broken family full of prostitutes pimps and women-nizing men. Always lying cheating stealing. A bunch of devils. I'm still healing. Thank you Bishop, because I have been listening to your videos I have been getting back to myself and God.
Wow I experienced a marrage of 2 years like what you've been through. What tge Devil meant for Evil God has worked it out for your Good!!!! God BLESSED YOU TO REMOVE YOU FROM THIS ABUSE....GOD IS GOING TO GIVE IT ALL BACK TO YOU A 100 TIMES MORE!!! I AM SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE.....HE DID IT FOR ME!!!! BELIEVE AND SEEK HIS WORD...READ YOUR BIBLE....SPEAK POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS OVER YOUR LIFE....PRAY WITH OUT CEASING!!! GIVE IT TO GOD!!!! GOD TIMING IS ALWAYS THE BEST TIMING....IT'S YOUR TIME A YOUR SEASON. EMAIL ME IF YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE WHO BEEN THERE. I WILL LOVE TO BE A SUPPORT FOR YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME. STAY STRONG MY SISTA YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH! YOU ARE A QUEEN...NOW STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR CROWN AND SHOW THAT DEVIL WHO YOU ARE!!!!!! BE BLESSED!!!!!❤
You will be fine just stay in touch with the 'Comforter' HIS rod and Hus staff will Comforter you. It I'd always good decent women being conned by these losers.
It's craaaaazy, Smh. But pastor pastor , PASTOR blakes, but that type, beeeeeeen graduated, to be bold enough to have us at the same party just on the opposite side of the room, of party !!!!!!
All this happened to me…I was so far gone until on Christmas Day 2023, 2 days after he proposed to me in front of both our families. But God!!!!🙌🏾 Snatch me right out of that hell and reversed the curse! Thank you God!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
You are preaching tonight! I am an educationed woman, who's background is in law enforcement. Aside from that I grew up in an urban setting early 80's. And nothing could prepare me for the encounter of the narcissist man that i got involved with. The game was swift and calculated, and I'm still recovering almost 7 months later! I have a true testimony on only how God could bring me back to myself! What an every day uphill spiritual battle! Thank you God for deliverance, because a weaker version of myself would have never bounced back! To God be the glory! He who HE sets free, is free indeed!!!!
I feel you sis! You WILL get through it. I encountered a Covert Narcissist and it’s taken nearly 2 years to heal. They are master groomers, manipulators and abusers. ❤
Blessings to you sis. I too am healing from a groomed relationship that led to marriage of 20 + years. Found the courage and strength, with the help of the Lord, to walk away. I can really say I am free. It is hard work . I am truly grateful.
Just ended a “relationship” with a Pastor who lost his church, got divorced and was messed up. I gave him a year. He groomed me exactly the way you described.. word for word… I felt sorry for him but it became evident as the months rolled on and on he is narcissistic if not a full blown narcissist and it all started making sense HE was the villain in all his victimhood. I pray all who encounter him use their discernment and not push it aside like I did at 1st. I’ve learned some much needed lessons about myself and predators so I’m grateful for that!
Same bad experience with a Protestant Pastor in 2022! I got out after 3 month by my own. Long way of healing, since 2021. He was using my vulnerable situation after a two year „relationship“ (with a „Peter Pan“ - man) in Summer 2022! But I had the power to went out of the situationship end of August 2022! Thank‘s be to GOD! ✝️☀️🙋🏻♀️
Whether we accept the grooming behaviors of a man hinges on if we have a hunger for the validation and acceptance of a man. Women who were raised by unloving, addicted, and/or narcissistic fathers are very vulnerable to grooming. To heal this, we must step out of The Game for a while to heal our wounds, so we can gain in love for ourselves. We need to grieve what we never had, and learn to love and respect ourselves, so when these game players show up, we shut the door.
Back in the 70s, I read a book called "Why Do I Feel Like Nothing Without A Man". Although it was not a Christian book, the information was invaluable and included much of what Bishop Blakes teaches. That information coupled with my Christian beliefs have protected me from being used and abused.
Women are such awful humans honestly. You feel like nothing without a man cause you're neurotic. You live in feminist culture that preaches hate to men constantly.
the biggest problem is that women are trained to listen to the man, not have an opinion and forced to be desperate for marriage. If a women is taught her self worth, chasing goals and building herself up - she wont fall for a man like this. However, not all women are essentially good either. Some are just trying to play the man even though they have been brought up right. There is no 1 way to generalise anymore. we need to take people as they are, but we need to know who we are first, and boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Cant say it enough: Boundaries
This was so well stated I tend to notice women that have been in a bad relationship in the past now become hard to be in a relationship with I also notice men that women shouldn’t even imagine being in a relationship with but they will fight men are obviously no good 1. No employment history or long term employment 2. Some kind of record 3. No housing 4 . Owns nothing besides clothes At the age of 35 or older 5. Very rude and hostile towards any customer service staff 6. Have children they have no real relationship with 7. Dress like a teenager 8. Don’t know how to ask or take you out on a proper date 9. Have no relationship with God or any authority figure to hold them accountable. 10. Are not providers
I experienced most of these very things when I was 22 with the first man who took my virginity. My intention was for us to marry, but he strung me along for 6 long years on and off. I was raised in the church, but these types of men to watch out for were unfortunately never discussed. I lost my father at a young age and I wish I had the fatherly counsel and wisdom of a male like you growing up. It would have saved me a lot of lost time and bad experiences. Thank you for discussing topics that other pastors and elders do not talk about. Your message is a blessing for many women everywhere.
I recently got rid of a guy like this after 4 months, the difference is he tried to make me pay for everything no dates just bedroom actions. I think I wasn’t in a good place because of my recent divorce so he took advantage of that. Now that I got rid of him I can see this guy was trying to manage and manipulate me I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship and he keep pushing it. I was too naive at the time to see what he was doing, I told him straight up just because ur God fearing doesn’t mean ur a good person and I don’t want nothing to do with u. He’s a complete narcissist thank God my eyes are open now
The story of Tamar and Amnon has been discussed in my household a few times. So many women in the world are being treated just like this. After a man gets what he wants, then he discards them like trash.
I studied that story on my own for a bit. It's infuriating. Glad RC brought it up. I noticed it's almost never taught on in the church or Bible school in regards to the natural state of men.
I agree. Young women and girls need to be aware of the fallen state of men. Not only did the men around Tamar fail to protect her, but they played a role in her abuse. Even Absolom who avenged her went on to s*xually ass*ult his father's women. Unfortunately, no man is safe unless he is born again from above, and then chooses to obey God. This weeds out most men lol. Jesus was and will always be the only man to protect women. It's great news that we have a loving savior, yet disappointing in regards to men.
After finished listening this.. i started to hate my ex again..😢 our relationship was over few years ago, he was doing all this things before he tried to force me into sex and I refused..after multiple times of tempting me into sex, i broke up with him with very very heavy heart.. i now realised that he was grooming me and i start to hate him again.. please pray for me so that I can forgive him and moving on with my life with my life..
Family sharing on this knowledge is soooooo important! Dads, uncles, nephews, and cousins! Yes stay away from them who isolate you and have no friends who they’re accountable to!
I totally agree with him when he says if a man begs or demands trust they can't be trusted. The sad part is that dating is not as traditional and innocent as it was generations ago and there was Chivalry. These days really decent women are overlooked because men see women that doesn't do certain things as "Boring". I don't think they mean to be desperate per se but they are already isolated by men that rejected them They end up entertaining the wrong men out of loneliness. We have to Put on the Armour of God. Stay in Prayer.
My gosh. Yes, I went on a date like that. When a man kept touch me and I told him not to touch me and I told him not to kiss me because I don't know him like that. So I had to let him go.
Why is grooming of adults whether it is for sexual exploitation, sex trafficking, terrorism, financial theft, etc illegal, but grooming without any obvious signs of enormous exploitation, but a destroyed human victim, is not illegal?
Also because more people is into it than not. It's hard to her real victims when it's sooooo Many frauds playing a role. That's how this system works. It's a group effort to drown out the noise. The sorority KNOWS to scream at the same damn time. It's staged and all the men KNOW to go to all the pretty ones FIRST because they possibly can't be torchering someone.
I had a friend with a husband like this. He put in her mind that all her friends were no good, not as godly as he and her, bad influence, etc. He'd take over our phone conversations and say ridiculous things about my marriage that he knew nothing about knowing I'd respond negatively just so, I imagine, prove his point that I wasn't a good friend. Very sad. He truly drove everyone away from her except for the people he knew would reinforce how good he was for her.
As I’m dating…I’m so hypervigiliant of any inconsistency or bad feeling I’m out!! I’ve learnt to trust myself over the temporary feelings. The more knowledge and wisdom I seek the easier it is to spot these type of people. With that being said no one is perfect..that is why it’s important to balance the pros and the cons of the person you’re getting to know..having open communication and affective conflict resolution skills and discernment.But if a person continues to show you destructive behaviour..you have to leave! Loving yourself is truly worth any love a damaged person can give you. Thank you Mr Blake for your endless efforts❤
I’m single again at 51. This world will have you thinking you’re the only one with Godly convictions. Thank you for confirming what God has put in my spirit. Thank you!! 💕🦋💕🦋
That Bologna Sandwich take the Cake Bishop. I thank God for you teaching the way you do. This is a Sick Situation that is going on with oyr Young women and some young boys. Teach, Teach ,Teach.
32:30 when you have to remind him you don't like his hands around your throat 😢thanks for this I was raised in with abuse, thought Prince Charming arrived at 39yrs after escaping an abuser from being groomed at 14yrs - he was 25yrs. Even at 39 I was very green & believed all he fed me, a much older man again 😔
He would say you should trust me after i said i don’t trust him. He got mad that I didn’t trust him. All his actions didnt make me feel safe to trust him. Hot and cold all the times.
Yes, you hit it on the point. He manipulated me and lied to me. My spiritual sister had to wake me up from him. Oh , and it happens with kids cause he did to my boys. He said everything I wanted to hear and with the church with me. My boys and all that was a lie. I think God, he woke me up. And I followed my lord jesus christ and left him alone.
What timing! God is really directing your videos RC! I came back from my cousin's funeral in Canada late last month, and yes I was being groomed for sex by her husband now a widower! I watched this man intermittently cry at my cousin's casket, but when no one was around would throw around the words "do sex" to me all in the same day. The hugs, kisses and pat on my knee in the car ride to the funeral parlor I didn't realize was all part of his slimeball behavior. I thought I would be safe going to a funeral, but I had travelled alone. I not only confronted him to stop, but I also told his sons to bring visibility to what he was doing. He of course acted like a harmless 74 year old man and covered his tracks. When I returned home, I immediately blocked his number because he had the audacity to ask me in front of his son, "When am I coming to see you ?" and "When are you next coming to visit?" He's just my cousin's husband - HE'S NOT MY FAMILY! - but he was trying to position himself as a family friend. Ladies, NEVER TRAVEL ALONE.
I was in a marriage for 11 years to realize that I was being groomed and manipulated to the point where I lost my self-esteem, my morals, my values because he made me feel like I wasn’t enough. He downgrade everything that I did for the family and I’ve fallen in such a self damaging situation and now I have to relearn my self worth
And if nobody visits him, he was to call his so call friends, never go around your friends and family, always wants all of your time, even if he's not around, he'll keep something for you to do!!!!
This is amazing Word of God. This is confirmation why I've dumped men with these qualities. They STILL continue to call after 3 years. I left the relationship. Now. Im blocking them on my phone. Thank you for this priceless wisdom that cant be brought! Precious gems from the Lord Christ l. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I want to thank you Pastor Blakes for all your information. I was not taught by my dad. For the ones that don’t respect what you are providing…shake the dust off and keep it moving for the ones of us that are listening. We have on our spiritual ears 🙏🏾♥️
I felt so ashamed and disappointed that I allowed myself to be played as a mature woman. I literally had the thought sometimes when I was being “wooed” that it felt like grooming but I dismissed it. Pastor is hitting all the bullseyes in everything being said here.
God's people are always targeted. This is why we NEED Him to order our steps. People can't hear you and they will ignore your pleas for help. God knows this.
Paster RC, this hurts knowing that men play all types of games and there’s no limit to the things they will do. This hurts so bad. Ive been abused most of my life by men. Im to the point that Ive honestly given up on dating and marriage. Ive come to the reality that I may be single for the rest of my life. I fully understand that my value is not based on a relationship with a man but it’s based on me discovering my purpose in which our heavenly Father brought me here for! Id rather be single till my time is up in this life then to be played with in any shape or form. Im so happy that Ive come into this wisdom, knowledge , and understanding!!. I can honestly say that I am in love with my singleness ! Thank you sir!
Don't give up and give in to the thoughts. I've been abused through out my life and fight not to allow my heart to be hardened. Your person will come along everyone is not bad. I have to tell myself while I work on myself.
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes. Your videos have opened my eyes to things I have forever been blind to. The Lord really uses your gift to speak on these issues! I was groomed for 8 years by a n evil man, finally free for 3 years and currently in self discovery
God put this video in my sight tonite. Praise you, Lord! An individual was grooming me ever so slowly and I was clueless it was happening, but the Holy Spirit started ringing alarm bells. I got outta that situation as fast as my feet could carry me! Thank you RC. Beware sisters!
Good evening Queens, so glad to be here tonight. Getting ready for this one, I know it’s going to be very informative and I thank God for sending pastor and First Lady Blakes into our lives to help us understand what’s really going on with these men today, thank you for all you do for us, we appreciate it!!!!🙏 🥰❤️
I'm freshly out of a 6 year Domestic Narcissistic relationship that was almost fatal .The end result is me and my child having to move out of our place that we waited 4 years to get and only been living in for a year. I'm still going through the motions with anxiety, panic attacks, and the constant fear that they're going to come after me. At the end of it all they're still harassing calling it love .😢 Still in disbelief that I ignored all the signs and stayed faithful.
I'm glad you and your child are ok. Flee from sexual immorality,and follow JESUS Instructions. No man is worth losing your dignity over ,and possibly life . WE got to get into the word of GOD,and stay close to JESUS. GOD always gives us warnings before destruction. Always. Depart from what GOD says is SIN
Don't feel guilty: if narcissist is Actually a tactic. Give a little trust personal bait of himself to collect the most sensitive information from you in exchange.
This is truly God’s work Pastor Blakes. This information needs to be out there. I had the unfortunate experience of being groomed by what I didn’t know was a sex trafficker and he was slowly grooming me to accept disgusting treatment. Luckily, I picked up on it and I got away. I was never religious or even truly spiritual until I realized God showed me signs this man would hurt, betray, and degrade me. I was raised very sheltered so I was not aware of these things but somehow I received visions and my intuition led me to piece by piece figure out he was a narcissist (though I had no clue about these people) and every single tactic he used (even though I was this naive girl). I read several books about sex trafficking, pimping, etc. and I am very well-informed now. I got away - due to some strange level of discernment I could only say was some sort of gift. I see myself and have always - as an empath. I don’t know a lot of people quite like me, but I believe my soul was put here to help right the wrongs of evil people. This man is afraid of me now. I have been blocked. I feel as though you also feel called to this cause and I respect you for it.
Thank you so much Bishop. I wish I had them tips throughout my teens & twenties, it would have saved me so much heartache and grieve and pain by the hands of manipulative men.
The only time this happened to me a man asked me to make a sex tape and he had the whole place he worked at in on it - he was going to blackmail me. He orchestrated a man there telling me to trust him. You best believe the gut feeling was “uh that means don’t trust him.”
I just wanted to thank you so much for what you're doing for women throughout the nation, I've been following your sermons on narcissist and their behaviors, been dealing with this over 25 years and finally got breakthroughs and understanding and freedom, from that bondage everything you say really help me out a great deal of my life and I'm very thankful for you in your ministry listen to you in your family
Thank you Pastor for this wisdom. I take this serious for my understanding and to share with others. My dad never thought me these lessons. I'm rewriting my future for the better due to you and knowing the most high. Thank you and God bless.
Excellent broadcast, I believe I got myself out of the clutches of a potential groomer ..all I did was take three days to myself to sit back ..pour into me and just observe ,I noticed everything I needed to ..grateful for benefiting from wisdom in real time not having to depend on hindsight wisdom 🙏🏾🎉🙏🏾🎉🙏🏾🎉
This video reminds me my ex. He was very chaotic, never stick with his words, never on time, always making lots of false promises, love bombing and frustrating me at the same time. Pure chaos. After a couple of months I'd break up with him, than he used to make lot of promises again, just to fail in a couple of weeks. I stopped giving him new chances when I realized he was purposely failing, he used chaos to control and punish me, he is a groomer. He found another women and had other relationships and you know what? He is getting worse day by day! His last relationship ended badly, he already has 2 kids of different mothers. I hope one day he wakes up!
@@kathyhidalgo1798 last saturday I had a great date with a new man. A couple of hours before the date I was tense and paranoid thinking he would let me down the same way this ex used to do, I got trigged and almost canceled the date. Fortunately, I decided to go and it was great, new guy was super kind and respectful.
GREETINGS FAMILY! We love yall. Please share tonight on other platforms
Sharing now!! Bishop my Spiritual dad I always look forward to your teachings👂🏾❤📓📕📚🖊
Dear Pastor RC Blake's, Thank you for another enlightening and engaging message, And.. Happy Belated Birthday Mrs. Lisa Blake's
I’m glad you’re doing this it’s helping me
Okey-Dokey 👌🏾
Hello Bishop,The ministry I am apart of a ministry that speaks about these same things . .I am Chamon Jones' sister(we have the same father).. I've never met you before but my generation of women.. especially in the church are in trouble. If my Shepard wasnt as faithful as he has been to call out my junk even when i thought I was okay..I would be divorced. I pray you keep doing what you do because there are women that are bound and don't think they are... I pray no root of bitterness gets to you because these women are also dealing with rebellion/brokeness and stubborness from generations down. I'm one who was just set free from it. But to take it a step further my generation is lacking in feminine qualities and the motherly nature because of generational curses of bitterness passsed down (for women to be bitter against men --causing this generation to not trust male authority)..so now women don't even want children the way they should desire them anymore..its sad but thank God for Ministers like you who are willing to get down in the dirt with those of us who realize we really need help.
I was contentious coming into marriage and my husband was effeminate..not gay but the player type.. so the devil had one up on both of us. But our Shepard saw the need to help him to become a manly man and for me to be a feminine woman.. submissive..not hard and arguing and being controlling.
This is my husband's testimony..just wanted to share.God Bless and I will be praying for you and your family.
"Just because he can afford you, dont mean he can value you!" Thats a Word right there! 🙌🏾
When he said that it was like I bit a lemon I was like ooooo...a word indeed!!❤
MHM. Thank you PASTOR . LAWDY LAWDY , Absolutely this IS A WORD !!!
So..true 🙏🏾
Thank God for the power to stand on more Godly principles. ❤
Right? Lord Today
When I tell a man once that I don't like something and he trys it again he's out .
I say the same....dont try and mess with my peace of mind
The best move to make is to dip with the quickness.. these type of men like to test to see if you’re really about your boundaries..more fool them because we value peace
That’s my New “M.O.” moving forward 💕🙏🏽
Spread the ❤
Right, I have been told I'm too hard on a man because I don't give chances.
When you throw your trash out, don't go back and pick it up.
Absolutely 💯
Yep
Amen Sis‼️🙌🏽💯
Thank you.
Because It’s already contaminated!
It's hard to be a woman looking for love in this world...I'm so GRATEFUL FOR THE LOVE OF GOD...thank u RC
AMEN!! ❤
Amen Sister🥰 Nobody Like the LORD!!!
Amin ☦️ Thank You Lord
Amen. Some of these scenarios make me scared to date.
Amen
18:50 1. He works overtime to build trust and repoire
25:43 2. He isolates you. He wants to get you away from those that will talk sense into you.
31:09 3. He grooms you down from your values and standards; there is the gradual boundary violation
41:11 4. He will love bomb and flatter
43:15 5. He is pushing you to maintain secrecy
47:04 6. He makes the target feels in debt to him
50:14 7. He introduces scenarios into your life that contradict your values and boundaries and personal beliefs
Wow!!!! Dr. R.C. Blakes: what a blessing with these gems! Thank you!
for he he speak truth
rc giving the game for free that's how I know he care about us women
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I'm so happy for this post... Like please get straight to the point 👉🏽☝🏽👌🏽
I had to screenshot this, this is exactly what my ex did. Thanks for the timestamps.
These types of 'men' will not leave you either. You have to be the one to walk away and when they try to come back its not because they love you. They can't regulate and sit with their own emotions so they project them on to you, slowly poisoning you. The sooner we realize our willingness to participate and not become victims is the day we take back our power. Being a victim indicates we have no personal autonomy or agency. Breaking trauma bonds are similiar to breaking a drug addiction, but its possible.
Very well said. These types of men are programmed as parasites. Slowly and gradually they wrap their tentacles around you, their host, and they pull you down down down. You will not recognize what is happening until you are in such a weakened state that you do not have the strength to fight the parasitic infestation. It takes time to build yourself up to get out.
Good one. So important just in case A huge heartbreak comes and youre at the mental hospital.
Yes!
You are speaking facts
Y'all listen to this now they want to get you to depend only on them and cut others off that real
Sad sad sick world. Pls Heavenly Father distance us from these groomers/misogynist demons
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In the name of Jesus. AMEN!
Amin ☦️
I can't stand a misogynistic man 😬...he better keep those thoughts in his head then cuz that is a complete turn-off for me!!!!
I went on a date once with someone and when I wouldn’t kiss after the date, he waxed host!le and said to pay him for his time, gas and meals because he doesn’t hang out with friends and pay for them.
I gave him the money and noped out of there. He quickly changed his tone and said “oh no. He just wanted to be appreciated. It wasn’t about the money, yada *3”
Blocked him everywhere. Thanked the Lord he showed his hand early, and saved me all of that.
Sorry that happened to you! What a jerk.
@@wisdomknowledgelover6293 thank you.
* always carry cash on hand for idiots like this 📝
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I’m actually glad he showed his true colors early on and that you were able to spot the issue
I believe this is what I went through for 10 years. I went through 3 evictions, lost $50k, and damn near lost my mind. I'm so glad I got out when I did. I just lost myself in a loser. Was emotionally drained. I believe because he grew up in a broken family full of prostitutes pimps and women-nizing men. Always lying cheating stealing. A bunch of devils. I'm still healing. Thank you Bishop, because I have been listening to your videos I have been getting back to myself and God.
Yes, more likely if he grew up in a very dysfunctional household than demonic activities was the norm.
Wow. Stay committed to God and his word. Praying for you 🙏 ❤
I think we may have been married to the same loser ❤
Wow I experienced a marrage of 2 years like what you've been through. What tge Devil meant for Evil God has worked it out for your Good!!!! God BLESSED YOU TO REMOVE YOU FROM THIS ABUSE....GOD IS GOING TO GIVE IT ALL BACK TO YOU A 100 TIMES MORE!!! I AM SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE.....HE DID IT FOR ME!!!! BELIEVE AND SEEK HIS WORD...READ YOUR BIBLE....SPEAK POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS OVER YOUR LIFE....PRAY WITH OUT CEASING!!!
GIVE IT TO GOD!!!! GOD TIMING IS ALWAYS THE BEST TIMING....IT'S YOUR TIME A YOUR SEASON.
EMAIL ME IF YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE WHO BEEN THERE. I WILL LOVE TO BE A SUPPORT FOR YOU DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME.
STAY STRONG MY SISTA YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH! YOU ARE A QUEEN...NOW STRAIGHTEN UP YOUR CROWN AND SHOW THAT DEVIL WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!
BE BLESSED!!!!!❤
You will be fine just stay in touch with the 'Comforter' HIS rod and Hus staff will Comforter you. It I'd always good decent women being conned by these losers.
Didn't even realize I was in the mist of this very storm until I was taken under by the tidal wave 💔
People can be such monsters 😢
It's craaaaazy, Smh. But pastor pastor , PASTOR blakes, but that type, beeeeeeen graduated, to be bold enough to have us at the same party just on the opposite side of the room, of party !!!!!!
Yes so true but Gods grace is amazing! You can start over again this time w God in the center.
Thank you for so much wisdom we are truly living in an evil day I thank God for men like you who stand up for the truth
Good reminder “Bad company corrupts good morals”
Wow PhD women are being manipulated by GED men God bless you Pastor RC Blakes💯👊🙏
Lmaooooo
Lawddddd I wasn't prepared for that
LMBO!!!🤣
Fact
Period!
All this happened to me…I was so far gone until on Christmas Day 2023, 2 days after he proposed to me in front of both our families. But God!!!!🙌🏾 Snatch me right out of that hell and reversed the curse!
Thank you God!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you Jesus
Thank you Lord!!!!!!
To God be The Glory 😊 My God
How did God snatch you out of that hell 2 days after he proposed?
You are preaching tonight! I am an educationed woman, who's background is in law enforcement. Aside from that I grew up in an urban setting early 80's. And nothing could prepare me for the encounter of the narcissist man that i got involved with. The game was swift and calculated, and I'm still recovering almost 7 months later! I have a true testimony on only how God could bring me back to myself! What an every day uphill spiritual battle! Thank you God for deliverance, because a weaker version of myself would have never bounced back! To God be the glory! He who HE sets free, is free indeed!!!!
I feel you sis! You WILL get through it. I encountered a Covert Narcissist and it’s taken nearly 2 years to heal. They are master groomers, manipulators and abusers. ❤
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Blessings to you sis. I too am healing from a groomed relationship that led to marriage of 20 + years. Found the courage and strength, with the help of the Lord, to walk away. I can really say I am free. It is hard work . I am truly grateful.
Praise God for his goodness! Blessings
Amen 🙏🏽 ❤
We all have to learn and be strong enough to walk away !!!! 👍👍👍👍
It's very hard ❤ Thank God for His Strength and if necessary Counsel, Counselors. It's a strong hold sometimes 😢 Been there too 🙏🙏🙏
Amen ❤
Amen Amen Amen
Correct, and take accountability as well. It takes 2 to tango. We may be unsuspecting at first, but if it doesn’t sit right then LEAVE
Pray for me, I'm still stubborn and weak.
Just ended a “relationship” with a Pastor who lost his church, got divorced and was messed up. I gave him a year. He groomed me exactly the way you described.. word for word… I felt sorry for him but it became evident as the months rolled on and on he is narcissistic if not a full blown narcissist and it all started making sense HE was the villain in all his victimhood. I pray all who encounter him use their discernment and not push it aside like I did at 1st. I’ve learned some much needed lessons about myself and predators so I’m grateful for that!
Same bad experience with a Protestant Pastor in 2022! I got out after 3 month by my own. Long way of healing, since 2021. He was using my vulnerable situation after a two year „relationship“ (with a „Peter Pan“ - man) in Summer 2022!
But I had the power to went out of the situationship end of August 2022!
Thank‘s be to GOD! ✝️☀️🙋🏻♀️
So sorry you went through. Thank God HE redeemed you. As RC Blakes once said, "turn your pain into purpose."
He does not want to be around your friends and family. He always has an excuse and tries to take up all your time.
Facts. Big facts!!!! This is a tell all sign right here.....
Facts!!!!!💯💯💯💯
Yep you can only go around his people
Whether we accept the grooming behaviors of a man hinges on if we have a hunger for the validation and acceptance of a man. Women who were raised by unloving, addicted, and/or narcissistic fathers are very vulnerable to grooming. To heal this, we must step out of The Game for a while to heal our wounds, so we can gain in love for ourselves. We need to grieve what we never had, and learn to love and respect ourselves, so when these game players show up, we shut the door.
Amen 🙏
Back in the 70s, I read a book called "Why Do I Feel Like Nothing Without A Man". Although it was not a Christian book, the information was invaluable and included much of what Bishop Blakes teaches. That information coupled with my Christian beliefs have protected me from being used and abused.
Women are such awful humans honestly.
You feel like nothing without a man cause you're neurotic.
You live in feminist culture that preaches hate to men constantly.
the biggest problem is that women are trained to listen to the man, not have an opinion and forced to be desperate for marriage. If a women is taught her self worth, chasing goals and building herself up - she wont fall for a man like this. However, not all women are essentially good either. Some are just trying to play the man even though they have been brought up right. There is no 1 way to generalise anymore. we need to take people as they are, but we need to know who we are first, and boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Cant say it enough: Boundaries
This was so well stated
I tend to notice women that have been in a bad relationship in the past now become hard to be in a relationship with
I also notice men that women shouldn’t even imagine being in a relationship with but they will fight men are obviously no good
1. No employment history or long term employment
2. Some kind of record
3. No housing
4 . Owns nothing besides clothes
At the age of 35 or older
5. Very rude and hostile towards any customer service staff
6. Have children they have no real relationship with
7. Dress like a teenager
8. Don’t know how to ask or take you out on a proper date
9. Have no relationship with God or any authority figure to hold them accountable.
10. Are not providers
U sure can't say Boundaries enough!
I experienced most of these very things when I was 22 with the first man who took my virginity. My intention was for us to marry, but he strung me along for 6 long years on and off. I was raised in the church, but these types of men to watch out for were unfortunately never discussed. I lost my father at a young age and I wish I had the fatherly counsel and wisdom of a male like you growing up. It would have saved me a lot of lost time and bad experiences. Thank you for discussing topics that other pastors and elders do not talk about. Your message is a blessing for many women everywhere.
WONDERFUL WISDOM SHARED❤
Ladies please value yourselves! Not doing this was the start of all my problems! See yourself as the Lord sees you!!! Amen
I recently got rid of a guy like this after 4 months, the difference is he tried to make me pay for everything no dates just bedroom actions. I think I wasn’t in a good place because of my recent divorce so he took advantage of that. Now that I got rid of him I can see this guy was trying to manage and manipulate me I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship and he keep pushing it. I was too naive at the time to see what he was doing, I told him straight up just because ur God fearing doesn’t mean ur a good person and I don’t want nothing to do with u. He’s a complete narcissist thank God my eyes are open now
“Anyone that has to ask for your trust, is NOT to be trusted.”
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AHHHHHH is needed to hear and receive this!
Happy Birthday Lady Lisa Blakes 🎂🎁🎉🎉❤️🥰
The story of Tamar and Amnon has been discussed in my household a few times. So many women in the world are being treated just like this. After a man gets what he wants, then he discards them like trash.
I studied that story on my own for a bit. It's infuriating. Glad RC brought it up. I noticed it's almost never taught on in the church or Bible school in regards to the natural state of men.
@@amandab5222 It would be nice if this was taught in our churches, maybe young women would understanding
I agree. Young women and girls need to be aware of the fallen state of men. Not only did the men around Tamar fail to protect her, but they played a role in her abuse. Even Absolom who avenged her went on to s*xually ass*ult his father's women. Unfortunately, no man is safe unless he is born again from above, and then chooses to obey God. This weeds out most men lol. Jesus was and will always be the only man to protect women. It's great news that we have a loving savior, yet disappointing in regards to men.
I wish i heard this 9 years ago.
Hey I get it but it's better than hearing than this 9 yrs from NOW!
Same here 😊
After finished listening this.. i started to hate my ex again..😢 our relationship was over few years ago, he was doing all this things before he tried to force me into sex and I refused..after multiple times of tempting me into sex, i broke up with him with very very heavy heart.. i now realised that he was grooming me and i start to hate him again.. please pray for me so that I can forgive him and moving on with my life with my life..
Trust has to be earned and proven💯💯💯🖐🏾🖐🏾🖐🏾Amen!!!! Preach Bishop
Popping all this gum, and wearing all this mink eyelashes! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂
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Thank you Pastor because too many of us fall for the game sadly enough.
U preaching, teaching, an fussing at us like a real father!. I absolutely love how u deliver your messages!.
You are definitely speaking the truth!!! I was in a relationship with a man 4 years who said these deceitful words... so listen ladies to the truth..
Family sharing on this knowledge is soooooo important! Dads, uncles, nephews, and cousins! Yes stay away from them who isolate you and have no friends who they’re accountable to!
SO VERY TRUE FACTS💯💯💯!!!! SPEAK THE TRUTH🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿AMEN!!!!
Thanks for protecting women in ministry. It hurts to keep seeing this. So glad you're speaking on this.❤
Amen ❤
I totally agree with him when he says if a man begs or demands trust they can't be trusted. The sad part is that dating is not as traditional and innocent as it was generations ago and there was Chivalry. These days really decent women are overlooked because men see women that doesn't do certain things as "Boring". I don't think they mean to be desperate per se but they are already isolated by men that rejected them
They end up entertaining the wrong men out of loneliness. We have to Put on the Armour of God. Stay in Prayer.
You ain’t never lied about this generation of woman. So opened to every idea of a man
My gosh. Yes, I went on a date like that. When a man kept touch me and I told him not to touch me and I told him not to kiss me because I don't know him like that. So I had to let him go.
It's basically the Lover Boy Method. This is one of the most dangerous and destructive plots against women.
Why is grooming of adults whether it is for sexual exploitation, sex trafficking, terrorism, financial theft, etc illegal, but grooming without any obvious signs of enormous exploitation, but a destroyed human victim, is not illegal?
Because unknown extend damage.
Also because more people is into it than not. It's hard to her real victims when it's sooooo Many frauds playing a role. That's how this system works. It's a group effort to drown out the noise. The sorority KNOWS to scream at the same damn time. It's staged and all the men KNOW to go to all the pretty ones FIRST because they possibly can't be torchering someone.
I had a friend with a husband like this. He put in her mind that all her friends were no good, not as godly as he and her, bad influence, etc. He'd take over our phone conversations and say ridiculous things about my marriage that he knew nothing about knowing I'd respond negatively just so, I imagine, prove his point that I wasn't a good friend. Very sad. He truly drove everyone away from her except for the people he knew would reinforce how good he was for her.
the game is flat out insane... do people ever just live normally or are they always scheming like????????????
It's a 25/8 Job. They don't get tired of stealing. It's an addiction and a lifestyle.
As I’m dating…I’m so hypervigiliant of any inconsistency or bad feeling I’m out!! I’ve learnt to trust myself over the temporary feelings. The more knowledge and wisdom I seek the easier it is to spot these type of people. With that being said no one is perfect..that is why it’s important to balance the pros and the cons of the person you’re getting to know..having open communication and affective conflict resolution skills and discernment.But if a person continues to show you destructive behaviour..you have to leave! Loving yourself is truly worth any love a damaged person can give you.
Thank you Mr Blake for your endless efforts❤
Alterier motive: making money online. Isn’t it a bit hypocritical.
The information is good and true!
You are breaking down strongholds with this message! ❤
I’m single again at 51. This world will have you thinking you’re the only one with Godly convictions. Thank you for confirming what God has put in my spirit. Thank you!! 💕🦋💕🦋
I love how Bishop keeps it 💯
I'm in the doctors office and fell out laughing when you said " your greasy fingers"!! You are on point for sure with this topic!
This was hard to hear Pastor 😢I was groomed for years 😞😞😞😞😞😞 thank God for growth 😢and much therapy
That Bologna Sandwich take the Cake Bishop. I thank God for you teaching the way you do. This is a Sick Situation that is going on with oyr Young women and some young boys. Teach, Teach ,Teach.
32:30 when you have to remind him you don't like his hands around your throat 😢thanks for this I was raised in with abuse, thought Prince Charming arrived at 39yrs after escaping an abuser from being groomed at 14yrs - he was 25yrs. Even at 39 I was very green & believed all he fed me, a much older man again 😔
You can trust me....haven't I heard that before. DEFINITELY, cannot be trusted. True words from Pastor RC Blakes.
He would say you should trust me after i said i don’t trust him. He got mad that I didn’t trust him. All his actions didnt make me feel safe to trust him. Hot and cold all the times.
Yes, you hit it on the point. He manipulated me and lied to me.
My spiritual sister had to wake me up from him. Oh , and it happens with kids cause he did to my boys. He said everything I wanted to hear and with the church with me. My boys and all that was a lie. I think God, he woke me up. And I followed my lord jesus christ and left him alone.
What timing! God is really directing your videos RC! I came back from my cousin's funeral in Canada late last month, and yes I was being groomed for sex by her husband now a widower! I watched this man intermittently cry at my cousin's casket, but when no one was around would throw around the words "do sex" to me all in the same day. The hugs, kisses and pat on my knee in the car ride to the funeral parlor I didn't realize was all part of his slimeball behavior. I thought I would be safe going to a funeral, but I had travelled alone. I not only confronted him to stop, but I also told his sons to bring visibility to what he was doing. He of course acted like a harmless 74 year old man and covered his tracks. When I returned home, I immediately blocked his number because he had the audacity to ask me in front of his son, "When am I coming to see you ?" and "When are you next coming to visit?" He's just my cousin's husband - HE'S NOT MY FAMILY! - but he was trying to position himself as a family friend. Ladies, NEVER TRAVEL ALONE.
I was in a marriage for 11 years to realize that I was being groomed and manipulated to the point where I lost my self-esteem, my morals, my values because he made me feel like I wasn’t enough. He downgrade everything that I did for the family and I’ve fallen in such a self damaging situation and now I have to relearn my self worth
"ROYAL CONSCIOUSNESS"....🔥🔥🔥
Now, that is some DEEP thinking!
Thank you dearest Bishop Blakes!🙏🏿
just because he can afford you does not mean he values you!!!!!
Good evening Kings, Queens, and Saints. God bless each of you. 🙏🏽
I certainly hope that we will listen to this great advice and start valuing ourselves more.
Secrets… if he’s a loner and professes he don’t hang with other men! Boy bye!
And if nobody visits him, he was to call his so call friends, never go around your friends and family, always wants all of your time, even if he's not around, he'll keep something for you to do!!!!
The message was very great and uplifting. Women, we must know who we are in Christ and know who's we are.
YOU ARE LITERALLY THE BEST for covering this topic! Love to you and Lisa 💜💜
That is Love bombing in the beginning
This is amazing Word of God. This is confirmation why I've dumped men with these qualities. They STILL continue to call after 3 years. I left the relationship. Now. Im blocking them on my phone. Thank you for this priceless wisdom that cant be brought! Precious gems from the Lord Christ l. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I want to thank you Pastor Blakes for all your information. I was not taught by my dad. For the ones that don’t respect what you are providing…shake the dust off and keep it moving for the ones of us that are listening. We have on our spiritual ears 🙏🏾♥️
There's always signs, but we ignore them.
Come on pastor, you're preaching better than we shouting over here. Much love to you and your wife
ISOLATION😮 ON POINT BISHOP🎯🎯!!!!
I felt so ashamed and disappointed that I allowed myself to be played as a mature woman. I literally had the thought sometimes when I was being “wooed” that it felt like grooming but I dismissed it.
Pastor is hitting all the bullseyes in everything being said here.
God's people are always targeted. This is why we NEED Him to order our steps. People can't hear you and they will ignore your pleas for help. God knows this.
Paster RC, this hurts knowing that men play all types of games and there’s no limit to the things they will do. This hurts so bad. Ive been abused most of my life by men. Im to the point that Ive honestly given up on dating and marriage. Ive come to the reality that I may be single for the rest of my life. I fully understand that my value is not based on a relationship with a man but it’s based on me discovering my purpose in which our heavenly Father brought me here for! Id rather be single till my time is up in this life then to be played with in any shape or form. Im so happy that Ive come into this wisdom, knowledge , and understanding!!. I can honestly say that I am in love with my singleness ! Thank you sir!
Don't give up and give in to the thoughts. I've been abused through out my life and fight not to allow my heart to be hardened. Your person will come along everyone is not bad. I have to tell myself while I work on myself.
Thank you Pastor RC Blakes. Your videos have opened my eyes to things I have forever been blind to. The Lord really uses your gift to speak on these issues! I was groomed for 8 years by a n evil man, finally free for 3 years and currently in self discovery
I have 3 boys, I wish you had some videos for young men like this! If I had daughters I’d sit down and watch this with them. ❤
God put this video in my sight tonite.
Praise you, Lord!
An individual was grooming me ever so slowly and I was clueless it was happening, but the Holy Spirit started ringing alarm bells. I got outta that situation as fast as my feet could carry me!
Thank you RC. Beware sisters!
Speak on it!!! 👏 👏 👏 👏 it burns me up Pastor. I'm sick of it!!!
Hello family, God bless you all ❤️
VIOLATION OF BOUNDARIES!!!!🎯🎯🎯
This right here needs to go Viral for real Viral
@Creoles.nature make it happen!
Good evening Queens, so glad to be here tonight. Getting ready for this one, I know it’s going to be very informative and I thank God for sending pastor and First Lady Blakes into our lives to help us understand what’s really going on with these men today, thank you for all you do for us, we appreciate it!!!!🙏 🥰❤️
I'm freshly out of a 6 year Domestic Narcissistic relationship that was almost fatal .The end result is me and my child having to move out of our place that we waited 4 years to get and only been living in for a year. I'm still going through the motions with anxiety, panic attacks, and the constant fear that they're going to come after me. At the end of it all they're still harassing calling it love .😢 Still in disbelief that I ignored all the signs and stayed faithful.
I'm glad you and your child are ok. Flee from sexual immorality,and follow JESUS Instructions. No man is worth losing your dignity over ,and possibly life . WE got to get into the word of GOD,and stay close to JESUS. GOD always gives us warnings before destruction. Always. Depart from what GOD says is SIN
I ain't gone lie I gave him the key and he took full advantage so alot of times we are their accomplices 💯
Every.single.time
Don't feel guilty: if narcissist is Actually a tactic. Give a little trust personal bait of himself to collect the most sensitive information from you in exchange.
I know this explains why my husband put me down and would beat me. Thanks so much for this message.
They try, but they couldn't, Amen
This is so accurate. Ladies, please listen. ❤
Very solidified information and great references. Thank you.
Dr. Blakes, YOU AINT NEVA LIED
This is truly God’s work Pastor Blakes. This information needs to be out there. I had the unfortunate experience of being groomed by what I didn’t know was a sex trafficker and he was slowly grooming me to accept disgusting treatment. Luckily, I picked up on it and I got away. I was never religious or even truly spiritual until I realized God showed me signs this man would hurt, betray, and degrade me. I was raised very sheltered so I was not aware of these things but somehow I received visions and my intuition led me to piece by piece figure out he was a narcissist (though I had no clue about these people) and every single tactic he used (even though I was this naive girl). I read several books about sex trafficking, pimping, etc. and I am very well-informed now. I got away - due to some strange level of discernment I could only say was some sort of gift. I see myself and have always - as an empath. I don’t know a lot of people quite like me, but I believe my soul was put here to help right the wrongs of evil people. This man is afraid of me now. I have been blocked. I feel as though you also feel called to this cause and I respect you for it.
Thank you so much Bishop. I wish I had them tips throughout my teens & twenties, it would have saved me so much heartache and grieve and pain by the hands of manipulative men.
That's good Pastor anyone who asks you to trust them don't need to be trusted. Amen, I received this message 🙏 ❤
The only time this happened to me a man asked me to make a sex tape and he had the whole place he worked at in on it - he was going to blackmail me. He orchestrated a man there telling me to trust him. You best believe the gut feeling was “uh that means don’t trust him.”
I just wanted to thank you so much for what you're doing for women throughout the nation, I've been following your sermons on narcissist and their behaviors, been dealing with this over 25 years and finally got breakthroughs and understanding and freedom, from that bondage everything you say really help me out a great deal of my life and I'm very thankful for you in your ministry listen to you in your family
From Long Island new york
TELL THE TRUTH Bishop
Thank you Pastor for this wisdom. I take this serious for my understanding and to share with others. My dad never thought me these lessons. I'm rewriting my future for the better due to you and knowing the most high. Thank you and God bless.
Great Monday Evening Everyone.❤️
We’re here to learn from the best!
We honor and appreciate you Paps and mama Li.
Peach Pastor it’s true. Thank you for this word.
Excellent broadcast, I believe I got myself out of the clutches of a potential groomer ..all I did was take three days to myself to sit back ..pour into me and just observe ,I noticed everything I needed to ..grateful for benefiting from wisdom in real time not having to depend on hindsight wisdom 🙏🏾🎉🙏🏾🎉🙏🏾🎉
Great message! Women definitely needed to hear this one tonight. Blessings to you Bishop Blake's and Lady Lisa❤
Speak to me Pastor! Because of you I found myself in the word of God.
This video reminds me my ex. He was very chaotic, never stick with his words, never on time, always making lots of false promises, love bombing and frustrating me at the same time. Pure chaos.
After a couple of months I'd break up with him, than he used to make lot of promises again, just to fail in a couple of weeks. I stopped giving him new chances when I realized he was purposely failing, he used chaos to control and punish me, he is a groomer.
He found another women and had other relationships and you know what? He is getting worse day by day! His last relationship ended badly, he already has 2 kids of different mothers. I hope one day he wakes up!
sounds like we dated the same man lol. just sad
@@kathyhidalgo1798 last saturday I had a great date with a new man. A couple of hours before the date I was tense and paranoid thinking he would let me down the same way this ex used to do, I got trigged and almost canceled the date. Fortunately, I decided to go and it was great, new guy was super kind and respectful.
They don't wake up and that day never comes.
Omg same had to leave him 2 days ago
WOW
This was a Sermon and a Psychology class