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@@andreadamon2197 I mean, they use it as a noun all the time, in an attempt to dehumanise trans people, so the smarter ones probably just forgot about it and the dumb ones just copy it...
I mean It wouldn't surprise me if a lot of them are racist too but just don't say it because they know they won't be able to get away with that kind of racism anymore At least i know a lot of racist ideology goes hand in hand with a lot of anti lgbt ideology
@@keatonickuwusu4986 - We use identifiers for a reason and reality always wins. But with the new rules in the UK regarding conversion therapy, I can't wait to see Mermaids and The Tavistock Clinic cease to exist.
@@keatonickuwusu4986 - The UK has made conversion therapy illegal, conversion therapy is exactly what Tavistock and Mermaids are doing... Goodbye to them.
So, trans women have an innate advantage over cis women in sports because of a testosterone-driven puberty, but trans men *also* have an advantage over cis men because of... a normal amount of hormones in their systems? Make up your minds before you discriminate, at the very least.
Don’t they usually complain about trans men having an advantage over women due to taking testosterone. I’ve never herd anyone say they would have advantage over men as men already produce testosterone. Also whenever there’s a video about trans women in women’s sports they always talk about how it’s totally impossible for trans men to complete with men.
another fun thing about this argument is that there are plenty of cis female athletes with polycystic ovary syndrome (which is often a cause of high testosterone levels) but that's fine. Hormones only become a problem to sports when they're socially unacceptable, it's ridiculous
@@grizzlybear2702 i normally see them against trans women competing in womens sports [despite being women] because they went through male puberty and have too much testosterone [even if a trans woman took puberty blockers and never went through male puberty they say this] and that makes them have "too much of an advantage" over cis women [they dont, assuming they've taken estrogen]
As a nonbinary amab, I feel the "bro I'm not even afab" So many transphobes think all enbies are afab, probably because of their weird "blue haired girl" stereotype
Same here. It's kind of funny that the first nonbinary people I ever heard of were AMAB. The stereotype probably comes from the transphobes' belief that nobody assigned male would ever want to give up a modicum of their male privilege, because identifying or presenting in any way feminine is considered shameful.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 I don't get why they think that, since if presenting feminine were considered shameful to men, wouldn't that make feminine men feel a bit uncomfortable in their gender role, and lead some to realize earlier than otherwise that they don't identify as men?
@@charliekahn4205 I’m not AMAB so idk but if someone as an AMAB is looked down on for presenting more feminine, would that not push many to hide or stop presenting in that way so they’re accepted? I feel like they wouldn’t solve anything by saying “okay but I am not male so I can present differently” bc the people who hold that view likely would argue the AMAB person is male (that their transness is invalid)
As a ciswoman I can completely confirm that I have hair on my face, my mom has it, and my grandmother has it. It’s completely natural and it only grows more with age.
Same. I’m a cis woman, and I have enough facial hair that my doctor wanted to test my hormones and check for PCOS. Turned out my testosterone levels were in the normal range.
as a pre-T trans guy my facial hair is the only thing I can claim as a physical connection with my gender and even then my mom always whines about how I need to pluck it off
I think it's time. I'm pretty sure I'm a girl. It only took me 30 years of life, about 20 years of explaining away that time when I thought about cutting of my pp with plastic toy scissors, 12 years of looking at pictures from that cross dressing party my then partner dragged me into, 5 years with an openly trans friend, months of pandemic isolation, realizing I miss the bra I bought for myself a few years back, and gaining enough weight to start developing man boobs. I guess self-reflection isn't my strong suit.
Denial is a hell of a drug. It took me 43 years to figure it out and finally come out. Congratulations on figuring yourself out faster than I did! May you have a beautiful journey finally becoming yourself.
Congratulations! I too was slow on the uptake and didn't figure it out until I was 30. I remember at one point I "wished I was trans" so I could transition.
"When I was 6, I wanted to be a pony" Oh yes, because 6 year olds actually want to become a pony and aren't aware that they're playing pretend (I'm being sarcastic)
There's another layer to that though, which is when the fantasy of becoming a mythical creature persists well into one's teens and adulthood. I was obsessed with shapeshifters for most of my life, and would identify most with werewolves and other oft vilified shapeshifters in fiction. To me, they're an allegory for freeing oneself from the shackles of society, and living out one's true nature. The constant feelings of wanting to become something else, anything else than what you are, is a strong indication of being trans or nonbinary. To add, even if it's just a kid playing pretend, parents should always encourage their kids' creativity and imagination. Let them be who they want, dress how they want, and explore who they were meant to be.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Interesting, I always identified with shapeshifters, too! (Especially werecats, since I actually wanted to become a cat as a kid. No joke xD) But I'm very sure I'm cis.^^ (This doesn't mean it can't be an indicator for being trans/non-binary in general. It's just not the case for me.)
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 that's a very good point! I've always identified with shapeshifters too (I'm nonbinary), my point was that there's a difference between a child pretending to be something/someone else and knowing they're a different gender than the one they were assigned at birth
I wanted to be an astronaut when I was six. I'm not sure what that says about my imagination seeings how that was rather unlikely too lol. As a teenager I joked a lot about being an alien and now I'm also nonbinary.
All through my childhood I just straight up wished I could be a shapeshifter just so I could be myself, but as a boy. And sometimes a cat person. They said I could be anything when I grew up, so I became a _man_
I find it so funny when people try to say that they won’t drink soy milk because it contains estrogen... You know what contains even more estrogen than soy? Cows milk!! 😂
The very idea of drinking the milk of any animal, after the age of 3, just grosses me out. Give me that almond, pea, or oat milks. I don't particularly like soy.
@ClarrytheClam Especially since the milk from a cow is, I dunno...Meant for their child mayhaps? Too many morons still downing coagulated cow titty water&pus whilst eating the child form whom said coagulated cow titty water&pus was meant. 😬 I swear, humans are disgustingly stupid 90% of the time. 😑
@@John_Weiss you know the funny thing is. There are a lots of Weeb Incels who advocate to get rid all of Soy products. But they frequently eats Japanese Cuisine. Oh the hypocrisy.
Just because no one understands you, that doesnt mean you are on the wrong track in life. Don't let others opinions change who you are, you are your own amazing person and remember to always be yourself. There are so many people out there who care about you and I know you can do anything you set your mind to. You are strong, you are valid and incredible, I believe in you all.
The soy milk thing is crazy, I’ve seen so many posts in parenting groups , milk allergy groups , vegan groups asking what alternative milk they can feed their male children because they don’t want to give them soy because they will grow breasts and be less “‘manly”
I've tried so hard to explain to men that while soy contains estrogen, no amount you consume will ever affect you brain function or body function and many other foods you regularly eat also contain estrogen. Half the time those conversations end up with the guy also outing himself as a racist when I mention Asian men aren't less manly despite the amount of soy they eat throughout the day.
@@RiveroftheWither I thought there was some evidence that, over time, the higher estrogen exposure from enviromental contamination can cause the breast tissue men are born with to begin to develop, explaining the rise in the 'man-boob' or moob seen in the last 30-40ish years amongst older men.
@@RiveroftheWither Also it isn't even human estrogen. It's phytoestrogen, a hormone that does similar things in plants to what estrogen does in humans, therefore was named a similar thing - but our bodies can't use it the way plants do...
@@RiveroftheWither soy doesnt contain any estrogen. It does contain some compounds called phytoestrogens. Phytoestrogens have some structural similatities with mammalian estrogens (hence the name) but it doesnt have any estrogen like effects on animals. Actually some phytoestrogens are suspected to lower chances to get certain kinds of cancer. But people like that wont do any research and will not change their minds even whem they are confronted with the facts :(
100% of the transition process for my trans daughter: Oh, you want to buy some dresses and grow your hair long? 🤷♀️ Alright. Whatever. Oh no! What a child abuser I am! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Just today, I had an "argument" with a person who thinks parents who let their kids explore themselves with no pressure are "spawn of hell who poison the children and recruit them into the ABCD army". Sir...your son bought himself a pink notebook and you beat him with a shoe. TRY AGAIN
I had a man yell in my face at the Texas Capitol (shocking, I know) that nobody would ever love my child. 🙄 It was almost worth it because when I said, “there are lots of pansexual people!” his face looked like I’d just switched to Klingon. Pretty sure he’s never heard that term before. 😂😂
@@cassietheenglishteacher And there are _plenty_ of cis-str8 men who wouldn't give a sheet that a woman who looks like any other woman has a 'Y'-chromosome. Pleny of Intersexed women who we still call women who have a 'Y'-chromosome. You can always throw that at the bigots.
thank you for acknowledging bearded trans women like me. Finally I feel defended by one of the big players rather than thrown under the bus. Presenting masc as a trans woman is who I am. Makes life even more dangerous because people expect me to hide as cis; it upsets them that I don't hide and don't conform.
I can grow a baby mustache if I leave it (in fact at one point during lockdown I did because I stopped using mirrors so hadn't been plucking, and hadn't noticed), I'm pangendered but biologically female and have had no kind of hormone therapy. Some women just are hairier than men (my legs used to be hairier than me brother's but illness has actually left them 98% smooth), and that's not even allowing for hormone imbalances like PCOS, unfortunately society still has issues with that in cis women, let alone trans. There seems to be this misunderstanding that if you're trans then you want to embrace the most extreme of that gender (eg very girlie women or very masc men), so ignorant people get confused if a transwoman is more masc presenting or a transman is more feminine presenting. When I was at uni, 20 years ago, I knew a transwoman who would get openly mocked (fortunately nothing worse but that was bad enough), even from withing the lgbtq+ community, just because she wore a dress when her legs were hairy or had stubble on her chin (didn't matter that she had to grow it out to go for permanent removal sessions, people just didn't think), they would say awful stuff like "if you want to be a woman why aren't you feminine" one even asked me to give her essonne on being more womanly...which was laughable considering my clothing style etc has always been fairly androgynous towards masculine, she was more feminine in than I would ever be. Fortunately, it just made her more definiant and intent on being herself. I've never been girly and would point that out, women don't have to be "feminine" to be women regardless of whether they're cis or trans and body hair is not a reflection of how feminine you even are (there are increasingly women models rocking their hairy legs & armpits and I love it). I'd like to think things have moved on, and maybe most within the community have become more open minded (I'd hope), but it's very dependent on where you live...also The Cis-Hets (tm)...I think they're lagging behind (even is more Liberal areas). There's just a lack of understanding all around when it comes to separating gender and personal expression etc, and it's hard to educate the people who don't want to understand (like most of these people in the posts). So, yeah, I can see how it can get risky for trans woman who are OK with their facial hair. It sucks that you have to deal with that kinda shit just being yourself. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈💜
The funniest part of the soy milk story is that 'what gives' is actually just no-one doing any research and deciding to boycott something over misinformation and rumours, same as they are doing with talking about HRT.
Or it could be the booming market for non-dairy milks? Soymilk used to be the big one, then almond milk in the last 5 or so years, and now oatmilk. There are also plenty I haven’t tried, like hemp milk, flaxseed milk etc. I like soymilk okay, but prefer oatmilk.
@@alisaurus4224 It could be, but the difference in the discussion is that there's not really an alternative to HRT :P (I get your point, don't get me wrong, but when I see people rant about how dangerous HRT is without them actually knowing how it works, what it does and what it doesn't and also not wanting to read up on it when you give them actual links to read, it really falls into the same category as the discussion about soymilk in that matter).
Why’d I just imagine an afab person just taking testosterone, flexing, screaming “I am trans!”, and then transforming into a 7ft, deep-voiced, muscular version of themselves!?🤣🤣🤣
2:37 as someone who has a binder that also covers the lower part of your stomach (the ones just for your chest were out of stock), I can confirm this is not how it works. It might be different for others, but I've never felt this.
Shades of men writing women, or straights writing gays. If you're a writer and you don't know how something works, _ask someone who does._ It's like if you're writing about a culture other than your own. Don't just guess. Take the time and do some research, and interview people from that culture, to make sure you're getting it right.
I am pretty sure that it's also not possible that a binder could hurt your diaphragm. It is inside your body and not realy on the outside. It would wherefore also be protected by your ribcage. (Here is the definition taken from Wikipedia: "Diaphragm or thoracic diaphragm, a thin sheet of muscle between the thorax and the abdomen", emphasis on between) This person has neither any clue of trans anatomy nor of human anatomy in general.
@@lucyg.1983 I've not worn a binder before, but I have been hit in the diaphragm, and I think you're correct. It's kinda tucked up under the bottom of your ribs, so if something were wrapped around the ribs like a binder the ribs would protect your diaphragm from being compressed.
What would be a safe age to begin binding? My 12yr old has expressed interest. I told them if they can research how to do it safely and bring it to me I will get them a binder
@@zlcoad1 I'm so sorry to let you down but I dont know much about a good age to start binding ^^" I never binded myself and only have my infos about what you shouldn't do from friends, so I'm not the best person to ask for that.
@@zlcoad1 As a trans masc, 12 is honestly probably a bit early for regular binder use. I'm not an expert and you should do your own research, but binding can absolutely harm the ribs over time especially if you're still growing. Your child's happiness is also very important so there's a lot of factors to consider. If they absolutely must bind, get a gc2b brand, it's the most reputable as far as i know, and buy a size larger than the sizing chart recommends. If they're concerned a size up won't do enough, remind them that they still have some growing to do, and sizing up a binder is how a lot of transmascs can go swimming so it doesn't do nothing. Start with very short periods of time, maybe an hour just in the house at first. Exercising, even something like going up the stairs can cause a lot more stress. Never EVER use ace bandages to bind, it can crack your ribs. The amount of time you use your binder is important as well as the frequency, there needs to be multiple days a week where they don't wear a binder at all. Start small and if there's any difficulty breathing or discomfort, it's time to remove it. Do your research and teach them the risks if binding so they don't push their limits. If they seem upset by not being able to wear a binder all the time it would be a good idea to make sure they have good trans masc role models. Unfortunately there are a lot of trans masc people who think you must wear a binder and never show femininity to be a trans man and hearing those views can be really damaging for young trans people. Trans bodies are beautiful the way they are and while a binder can be a useful tool to alleviate dysphoria, trans mascs are valid no matter what, binder or not. Sorry this is really long, I wish you and your child luck and it's really great that you're supporting them. If you both decide binding isn't for them, or that they aren't ready yet, there's other ways to hide a chest. Layers are your friend. T shirt with an open button up/flannel over it, hoodies, long sleeve shirt under short sleeve shirt, can all reduce or hide the appearance of a chest, depending on the size/body type. Also if you can, look into puberty blockers! it's not too late for them yet and puberty blockers are very well researched and have been used for about 30 years (I think) for various conditions. They basically pause puberty until they're old enough to either start HRT, or change their mind and go through their AGAB puberty. Puberty blockers can be life savers since you can't get hrt until you're about 16 in most places (with some exceptions but 16 is the general rule)
@@elliotmydude Thanks for this. I really appreciate it. Puberty blockers aren't an option for various reasons but they've also said that they're OK with going through female puberty (afab) at this point. I am researching binding and others ways to support my child, it's particular hard as they live with homophobic/ transphobic family members so any support I provide is part time. Of course I understand that any and all support in validating my child is important and I'm behind them all the way.
The Demi Lovato headline is definitely a candidate for Private Eye's "Bonfire of the Subs" column. (Ie. there used to be sub-editors whose job it was to check for spelling/grammar/idiotic mistakes, but then they all got fired so the papers could save money/the owners could make more profits.)
I mean technically, when you are in the womb, there is a short time when you are female, regardless of what you end up as later in the pregnancy. So, while not everyone is AFAB (assigned female at birth), everyone is AFBB (assigned female before birth)
I was told that too, but was surprised to learn that the stage of development before differentiation is a neutral state, in which both the Wolfian and Mullerian ducts are present, before hormones cause one to degenerate and the other to develop into sex-specific anatomy in most cases. So it's true that prior to that differentiation, we all have the same anatomy, but it's not so much that everyone's female then, but more like, everyone has both sets of potential anatomy, waiting to be activated.
@@kaiwannagoback5712 What Drakkon Scythe was referring to is that one of the first signs of how (for instance) boys with just one testicle they found in the abdominal area came to exist was finding out the tissues that either become ovaries or testicles start out at the location of ovaries. Some of the processes involving instructing the body to lower those into the scrotum sometimes don't work correctly, which is when one ends up stuck fully where it was formed or somewhere midway. Same with the scrotum: the reason men have that dark, slightly odd looking skin seam at the underside of their penis and balls is because that's where the swelling bodies were repositioned after being destined to be in the labia, and the skin that was layed out to become labia grew together at those places. In every way, apart from the canals for the actual reproductive material, we are more female in nature after conception than we are both.
Ive never understood the whole “kids think they are dragons” thing. When I was a kid I liked to pretend that I was a cat, but I always knew that I wasn’t actually a cat. I knew how to distinguish between games and reality, even as a toddler. I think transphobes struggle with understanding the concept of role playing
recently found your channel. i’m not trans myself, but i live in a very transphobic/homophobic family, and recently have started doing my own research, so i want to thank you for your channel and educating those who need it
Wow, I have never encountered the "trans men are supermen" argument before, and it's...kind of rad, while also being completely insane? Also, the soy milk thing makes me sigh deeply for a variety of reasons. The whole "soy gives you estrogen" idea is scientifically inaccurate, first of all - soy contains plant estrogen, which is basically estrogen for plants, meaning it doesn't do a thing to humans because we are not, in fact, plants. :P Second of all, the idea that estrogen is bad because people don't want to have it in their lattes is a confusing conclusion. I don't want insulin in my latte, either, but that doesn't mean diabetics don't have a medically necessary reason to use it. I know I shouldn't be expecting high levels of logic from transphobes on the internet, but still. Come ON, guys. :P
My experience since HRT in general is that most people did not pay attention in biology class very well (not a binder user by the way, MtF here, but still, the amount of questions that are about a very basic knowledge of biology is insane :P ).
DC comics does have a Superman XX. Maybe they saw that character's name and assumed it was tied to trans-guys? Head-canon now: Superman XX is a trans-man.
Little known fact some asexuals are actually dragons (don't tell) so if a kid is both trans and asexual they could be a dragon. for the inevitable clueless person, this is a joke.
About the soy stuff...probably because soy is a very common allergen in humans (so are tree nuts and peanuts, hence the draw to oat milk in recent years) so it's easier to just use oat milk as a substitute for dairy. Unrelated fact: a mocha soy latte is technically a three-bean soup.
I know the difficulty of finding a dairy-free latte out, for someone who is also allergic to oats, rice, and tree nuts but not soy. So no oatmilk, almond milk or other tree nut milk including coconut, or ricemilk... only soy will do. Or maybe flax milk but it has a strong taste.
Hbomberguy did a video a couple years ago about the soy stuff. The estrogens in soy are not the same as female estrogens. They are called phytoestrogens and they have no relation the only reason they are called that is because both have similar shape and scientists have too many things to name. The video is called the truth about soy boys btw :)
It's also worth pointing out that beer contains more phytoestrogens than soy products, and dairy and beef contain a lot more actual estrogen than either. So, oops.
*Harvard's health school, has a whole write up on this.* "Soy is unique in that it contains a high concentration of isoflavones, a type of plant estrogen (phytoestrogen) that is similar in function to human estrogen but with much weaker effects. Soy isoflavones can bind to estrogen receptors in the body and cause either weak estrogenic or anti-estrogenic activity. The two major soy isoflavones are called genistein and daidzein." *furthermore* "Moreover, soy phytoestrogens carry bioactive peptides that are similar to extracellular matrix (ECM) proteins in healthy skin." So effectively so that we'll sooner see soy-based wound dressings than we will soy prescribed a hormone booster. (You can already buy it in supplement form but that's not regulated and studies are conflicting in its efficacy)
About the passage at @2:28 I've never experienced what I would call "pressure" on my diaphragm from a binder, but I had an old binder that worked really well, but was probably less safe than ones from gc2b binders and the like, and if I got winded or anxious I would feel pretty restricted in my breathing by it. Luckily it worked via hooks and loops in the front (like bra hooks but a lot more and in the front) and I could unhook the lower 2-3 hooks/loops to breathe easier. So maybe this passage is accurate, but I'd say to anyone experiencing pressure on your diaphragm: your binder is too tight!
sometimes when i wear my binder and i’ve just eaten it makes me feel ill, but it’s because im overweight so my binder conflicts with my stomach area, i think that’s the only explanation for that passage lmao
The other one I can think about is if they doubled over, then maybe the binder could have rolled up/dug into their belly and pressed into their stomach and the author chose to not be too anatomically correct to keep up the tone. I have one from Underworks that does press into my stomach area and making me kind of blergh if I sit weirdly (feet up and the bend in my upper body right under my ribs).
I *think* they're thinking about how people used to say that all human foetuses start as female before sex differentiation? That used to be something you often saw in documentaries and the like. It's a hilariously incorrect oversimplification but I wouldn't expect these people to exactly appreciate the finer nuances of biology. I am very possibly giving them too much of the benefit of the doubt.
Funnily enough I am an AMAB cis woman, because the nurse filling out my birth certificate let it known they didn't think Shelby was a girls name. I guess they didn't watch the same movies that my mom did while pregnant? I hope you have the support to transition!
I have the slight feeling my parents might be homophobic or at least transphobic because they were like they them is plural and when i told them about cis they were like so now we need a word for being normal and I'm scared because I'm bi
oh i'm sorry to hear that remember that your parent might not accept you (i hope they will), a whole lot of people will. surround yourself with people that accept and support you. i send you much love and strength 💕
2:40 as someone with mostly long binders: they don't hurt on your diaphragm, they feel the same as half binders except there is also a tiny bit of pressure on your tumtum, but that's it
Jamie, I am having a really bad day and seeing you has made it a little easier to get through. Ty for always being positive and lovely. You do more good than you could know💖
About the “binder almost made me vomit” thing, the main reason I can’t really bind anymore is because if I wear it too long it will give me a migraine and make me nauseous, although that’s very likely a breathing thing since my binder only goes a little below my ribs
@@ahhh4117 Tape is really not good for you and can really damage you. Can you not just size up a binder? Chests don't need to be completely flat to be read as male, if that is your intent of course, and your health should come first or you could potentially damage something irreparably for the future :C
@@Charbified I don’t think they meant what you think they did when they said they use tape. I’m actually looking into using tape as well and there are safe ways to use it and even tapes specifically made for binding
1:56 reminds me of the new trans policy my school came out with that says, and I quote, “the district recognizes that a student may have a strong interest in maintaining the privacy of his/her gender nonconforming presentation at school.”
But they said something about feeling it in their diaphragm against their binder? I dunno, I never wore one because my boobs have always been way too big and saggy for it to be effective and I like breathing. If I did, though, it probably would have to be a longer one.
Oh god. It took me a good few minutes to realize that the binder pressing into this person’s diaphragm was *NOT* a binder one takes to school, holding folders and shit LOL
Hey Jamie! I just wanted to say that I was having a bad day yesterday but I watched this video and hearing you say “hey spuds!” instantly cheered me up. You and your videos are so wholesome and funny. Thank you so much!
Maybe there's more context to it, but in a vacuum the "Dick Owner" meme doesn't scan as inherently transphobic. It mirrors the sort of language more progressive medical facilities use when describing sex/genital specific topics such as birth control. It's actually useful in those contexts to be extra clear by saying "people with penises" or "people that can become pregnant". The "too many new genders" bit is sus though.
Right on. I've always been confused when medical intake forms ask for gender. It would make more sense to ask questions pertaining to sex/physiology (and also pronouns, so they know how to refer to you)
2:16 it's like how disney misgendered Raine, a non binary character in the owl house. in the subtitles it says "him" when in the audio it's said "them" and the character officially only goes by they/them. i dont know if they already fixed it but i dont think so
If your binder makes you feel about to hurl, either it's the wrong size, or your wearing it wrong. What we need is a trans* apparel shop like Victoria's Secret, where we can get measured for binders like afab preteens are measured for bras, as well as whatever else people need to present as themselves.
Whaaa? A hunter gatherer from a tribal society (a reject from the clan that spent their entire childhood training at that) not being femmininionmne???? HOW proposterous!!!
I finally got my first binder! My school counselor ordered it for me for free almost a year ago, but I couldnt receive it because my mom found out and she got mad. So my counselor kept it for a bit until it was safe for me to keep, as I finally got a locker. And it looks just like a Tank Top
I always enjoy it :D even when it's kind of upsetting lol End edit: I'm so tired of the "tHiNk Of ThE cHiLdReN" argument while they simultaneously pass legislation to make trans youths lives so much harder -.-
my binders have never made my diaphragm feel compressed, not even my full sized binders. usually i just feel the compression in my upper ribs, and back near where my shoulder blades stick out.
As a cis girl who got a binder for cosplay purposes, it's definitely not comfortable when you start out, but then neither are bras when it comes down to it. It's literally compressing your chest, it's not going to be painless!
binders should not cause you pain, discomfort but never pain. If it hurts you've either been wearing it too long or it's too small. Just want any baby trans mascs reading this to know that
have you done a reasonably paced piece on the difference between genetics, sex and gender? many of your videos are about commenting on how folks get it wrong (like this one) but have you ever explained it all in one sitting? i'd love to hear you talk through all that.
My daughter was 3yo the first time she told me she was a girl. At age 7, she wasn't sure, at age 14 she confirmed that she always knew she was a girl, she just felt too pressured by society at age 7 that she wasn't comfortable socially transitioning at that time. I knew I was gay when I was 5, and wanted to be the knight in shining armor that rescued the princess.
The soy latte had me in the first half because I assumed it would be a conversation on how this rumor of estrogen led to almond milk as an alternative, which leaves people with peanut allergies fewer choices. I then remembered the title of this video and became sad again.
I don't see why someone with Peanut allergies would have less options when they aren't allergic to almonds? I mean in general yes there would be less options but less options in general? Can you elaborate I'm confused
@@determinedhelicopter2948 I meant to be more broad with nuts and legumes in general. If you don't want normal milk but are allergic to nuts, you don't really have much choice of liquid to put in coffee
Yeah that video game character is Aloy from Horizon Zero Dawn/Forbidden West, pissed off gamers have been whining that she’s not feminine enough because she doesn’t have a super slim face and wear 3 layers of makeup in a post apocalyptic world where people have to survive in hunter gatherer type societies.
I've always had really really comfortable binders. They're soooo much better than bras. Sometimes they hurt a tiny bit but mine have always felt kinda comfy. I'm really careful about binding safe tho Edit: I use underworks- and I dont know what model but it goes down to a little under my chest
i started binding a bit ago and is sooo comfortable both physical and emotionally, it doesn't make my chest 100% flat so i don't have much trouble with pain or breathing, but it's good enough to make me really euphoric since the first time i tried it on
@@Mark-oz7vp i understand that for some of us it's a little complicated to get gender affirming surgeries but if you really need it i'm sure you'll get there! for now just remember that cis men can have big chests too and that the way you are on the outside does not have to determine who you are on the inside
1:51 the title writers and the actual writers are different people, so mistakes like this happen due to misinterpretation or, in this case, beligerence
On the binders thing, my bf has a long binder, and it’s literally just like a short binder, but it transitions to a normal vest where a short one would end… it’s not binding the whole way down. It basically just helps keep the binding area from riding up.
Re: "the tight press of my binder on my diaphragm"...I think probably a better description would have been "ribs", "rib cage", or "chest". Idk how something outside your body can press on your diaphragm unless their doing the Heimlich or something. I do often feel pressure from my binder specifically in my lower rib cage, around where the diaphragm is, so maybe thats what theyre getting at?? But still I think of it more as "lower ribs" than actually the binder pressing on my diaphragm.
SuperJamie!!! some of these anatomy fails are so...illogical that it's more inconcievable than bad. Like what kind of thought processes do these people have
Yes, this happens to me when I bind. I have a short torso (im 4’9”), and most brands of binders go below my sternum line. Because I’m overweight and large chested, is also tends to roll up, which specifically puts pressure on my solar plexus. So yeah. Fucking sucks.
Day twelve of telling this amazing pillar of confidence and hope for those of us who don’t have as many allies how great he is. Remember to take breaks and much love ❤️
for the binder one, that's inaccurate to how extreme it is, but if I'm binding and hit from behind or in front, it can hurt, so it's not completely false cause a binder does go around the back too
Kids are allowed to dress up as dragons and Faeries at age 6, if they want to. Pretending is encouraged for children. So, why can't Trans kids just dress how they want to, even if they will eventually grow out of it? My younger nephew loved sweatpants with pockets because he was obsessed with putting things in the pockets. My sister and brother-in-law didn't discourage him. I don't see the bloody difference!
I have an issue calling them trans prior to puberty starting. You can't tell young children apart by sex in the first place, so they literally can't transition, as they have zero reference being either gender. I can claim to be 6th dimensional human, but I don't have any experience that could allow me to even conceptualize how it would feel. Let them wear whatever because societal norms of clothing are incredibly arbitrary. Plus calling anyone who doesn't follow stereotypical gender norms trans is an almost fundamental Christian level of restrictive normalization
Recently, I watched a video by a cis, mostly straight (his words) talk about how 2 sexes makes no goddamn sense, and at the end, he listed 200+ sources with Mario music playing. His name's Forrest V- something, sounds like a Star Trek name.
Hey jammidodger! (Love the name!) Firstly i just wanna say i love ur channel and am subscribed. Secondly, i just wanna say that although this is the first video im responding to, ive seen many and just wanna thank you for what you are doing in our community. As a trans women myself, i never dreamed i would be able to live my truth. My fav video of yours was your timeline video (cudnt find it otherwise I would have commented on that one! Lol) but i have say the most touching monentd of it were when you proposed to your amazing GF and secondly when you got ur gender recognition certificate. Made me so emotional and hopeful that, that day will eventually happen for me. Much love to you and your amazing partner. Amelia Xxxxx
That headline reminds me of a note in my medical record from early in my transition: "[deadname] considers himself gender-neutral and uses they/them pronouns" (the doctor had never heard of "non-binary" and figured that "gender-neutral" would be more clinically accurate)
The soy milk one is so funny. You were so close, friend! You almost had it! But also like...does this person know that everyone just has estrogen in them already? "oh if it's so unsafe why do they give it to people" Well, how could it be that unsafe when it's...naturally present in everyone...Like human bodies are not perfect but maybe "literally all humans have had this present in their bodies, for all of history" indicates some level of...safety?
2:47 So, me and other binder wearing friends of mine have expierenced feeling sick from binding for too long. For me, as soon as the binder is off I feel better. For my friends it usually takes a bit.
For the binder, I have a really weird torso ratio, and when I hit a bump when riding in the bus, and my binder ended up rolling a little, it does hit my diaphragm sometimes. Enough to knock the wind out of me. But you need to have a very specific body to binder fit. And when my binder is actually flat against my skin like it’s supposed to be, then there’s no issue
A classmate once asked me if I have a penis. Not only is that a terrible and intrusive question, but also like, did she assume that just grew overnight? Or that it just magically appeared when I came out?
maybe you were looking for the word "awestruck". it essentially has the same meaning as "impressed", but it could be in a good or bad way, almost like "astonished", but to say that you're astonished would mean that in a way that you're more shocked or surprised than anything else, again, good or bad
Concerning the trans sports issue I recently saw an interview with a trans woman in sports (can't remember the sport) that had been kicked out of women's competition for being trans. It was the unfair advantage argument because she was male born. She said that actually she has a handicap because she is suppressing T and taking HRT so her muscles have faded but her body was still the size of a mans. Her analogy was to a truck having the V8 taken out and a four cylinder engine put in that now has to pull that big truck. I hadn't considered the reverse. A smaller body now has T powering it. Yet no one is fussing about trans men in sports. Probably due to just not understanding how trans works. I would love to hear more about this aspect, Jamie, if you read this comment.
Uhm I’m a 14 yr old and I’m gonna start to talk to my therapist to ask about transitioning f to m and I was wondering what should I know before I know this I’ve already done my own research a lot but I just wanna make sure that I have a good grasp on transitioning so could someone please tell me something I might not know.
You didn't ask a specific question so I'll rapid fire some facts: You probably won't be able to start T until you're 16 (if you choose to go on T, it's not for everyone and you don't need it to be valid). Make sure you know all of the effects before you start. (Bottom growth, chanhes in metabolism, hair growth patterns, male pattern baldness etc etc) Your grandfather on your Mothers side usually determines if you will have male pattern baldness and when it will start. Ask him when/if he lost his hair if you're concerned about that. There's many methods of taking T, if you're scared of injections, the gel works just as fast. There's also patches and i believe pills. These can work a bit slower than injections and gels but talk to the doctor prescribing it to you about what method is best for you. Binding can be dangerous, opt on the air of caution if you choose to do that. Wear it for short periods (start with an hour) and only a couple days a week. If you have any pain or difficulty breathing, take it off. Never sleep or exercise with it on. You might want to wait a couple years to start binding, or start with a size up from what the sizing chart recommends. At 14 you might have some more growing to do. If you're not out to your family you can usually pass off a binder for a sports bra. If you get a binder get a gc2b, it's the most reputable brand and the racerback design is the most like a sports bra. I want to reiterate: You do not need to bind to be valid. It always comes with risks no matter how careful you are. Depending on the size of your chest, layers can reduce or hide your chest. If you're not out and plan on coming out: give your family grace, they will make mistakes no matter how supportive they are. Depending on where you live you will have to jump through a lot of hoops to get perscribed anything. It will be annoying. You're probably to old for puberty blockers to have any significant effect but ask about it. If you have any other questions feel free to ask, I'm not on T yet but I've researched and learned about it for about 4 years. I also know a good deal about both top surgery and bottom surgery but remember to do your own research!
I'd think people moving off soy milk is more because they're largely in the vegan/environmentalist camp and soy milk is much more harmful to the environment than other plant milks. Like we aren't vegan but also go more for oat milk because of this.
@@nicole-rb4iw we love rice milk, the other thing is oat milk isn't that great nutrition wise cause it's pretty much water plus fibre, your digestive system spends all the energy it gets breaking it down in the first place. So I'd say the sort of thing to avoid with digestive issues or disordered eating, both of which we have. ... Though we have very chocolatey cereals so that's probably enough energy 😂😂😂
The first one was literally:
If you're a white human, why do you call yourself human?
I know. These people don’t seem to understand that transgender is an adjective, not a noun lol
@@andreadamon2197 I mean, they use it as a noun all the time, in an attempt to dehumanise trans people, so the smarter ones probably just forgot about it and the dumb ones just copy it...
@silvercandra
Don't even get me started on 'transgenderism'
I mean
It wouldn't surprise me if a lot of them are racist too but just don't say it because they know they won't be able to get away with that kind of racism anymore
At least i know a lot of racist ideology goes hand in hand with a lot of anti lgbt ideology
bigots be like "first the transgenders wanted pronouns, now they require adjectives too; what part of speech will fall victim to The Agenda next"
"If trans women are women why do you call them trans women"
Bro. If beautiful women are women tHeN wHy dO yOu CaLL ThEm bEaUtiFuL wOmEn
"you're right, it is just women! thanks :)"
would be an absolutely perfect response
Your pfp fits waaaaaay too well.
@@keatonickuwusu4986 - We use identifiers for a reason and reality always wins. But with the new rules in the UK regarding conversion therapy, I can't wait to see Mermaids and The Tavistock Clinic cease to exist.
@@goawayleavemealone2880 What do you mean?
@@keatonickuwusu4986 - The UK has made conversion therapy illegal, conversion therapy is exactly what Tavistock and Mermaids are doing... Goodbye to them.
So, trans women have an innate advantage over cis women in sports because of a testosterone-driven puberty, but trans men *also* have an advantage over cis men because of... a normal amount of hormones in their systems? Make up your minds before you discriminate, at the very least.
i think that just means that trans people in general are sports legends
what do they think goes on in our heads?
"yay, I'm going to be average in my future!"
Don’t they usually complain about trans men having an advantage over women due to taking testosterone. I’ve never herd anyone say they would have advantage over men as men already produce testosterone. Also whenever there’s a video about trans women in women’s sports they always talk about how it’s totally impossible for trans men to complete with men.
another fun thing about this argument is that there are plenty of cis female athletes with polycystic ovary syndrome (which is often a cause of high testosterone levels) but that's fine. Hormones only become a problem to sports when they're socially unacceptable, it's ridiculous
@@grizzlybear2702 i normally see them against trans women competing in womens sports [despite being women] because they went through male puberty and have too much testosterone [even if a trans woman took puberty blockers and never went through male puberty they say this] and that makes them have "too much of an advantage" over cis women [they dont, assuming they've taken estrogen]
As a nonbinary amab, I feel the "bro I'm not even afab"
So many transphobes think all enbies are afab, probably because of their weird "blue haired girl" stereotype
Same here. It's kind of funny that the first nonbinary people I ever heard of were AMAB. The stereotype probably comes from the transphobes' belief that nobody assigned male would ever want to give up a modicum of their male privilege, because identifying or presenting in any way feminine is considered shameful.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 I don't get why they think that, since if presenting feminine were considered shameful to men, wouldn't that make feminine men feel a bit uncomfortable in their gender role, and lead some to realize earlier than otherwise that they don't identify as men?
@@charliekahn4205 I’m not AMAB so idk but if someone as an AMAB is looked down on for presenting more feminine, would that not push many to hide or stop presenting in that way so they’re accepted? I feel like they wouldn’t solve anything by saying “okay but I am not male so I can present differently” bc the people who hold that view likely would argue the AMAB person is male (that their transness is invalid)
so true I'm enby and afab and well I'm quite different than that. i look like a boy that wears nail polish
but also most of the non-binary friends i have are amab or maybe i know equal amounts of amab and afab. i guess so yeah. equality is fun
As a ciswoman I can completely confirm that I have hair on my face, my mom has it, and my grandmother has it. It’s completely natural and it only grows more with age.
Same. I’m a cis woman, and I have enough facial hair that my doctor wanted to test my hormones and check for PCOS. Turned out my testosterone levels were in the normal range.
Can confirm. I'm a cis woman, almost 50, and the facial hair is getting a little more aggressive...
as a pre-T trans guy my facial hair is the only thing I can claim as a physical connection with my gender and even then my mom always whines about how I need to pluck it off
Same, runs in the family
Yep, I have enough to need to pluck it every day 😢
I briefly zoned out, because I'm tired, next thing I hear:
"I was born an apple"
That woke me right up xD
Lol
Bruh, my name is a litteral traduction of "Apple"... But I was born wrapped in an orange ?
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あスもませんわたしはりんご です
Well OBVIOUSLY blue shoes aren't REAL sho0es, if they were we'd just call them shoes
theyre fake shoes trying to invade our closets!!!!!!
Blue shoes shouldn't BELONG on the rack!!1!! They're just NOT SHOES!11!!1!124#$rf34%
If Ihad a million dollars I buy you a dress, not a real green dress thats cruel
I think it's time.
I'm pretty sure I'm a girl.
It only took me 30 years of life, about 20 years of explaining away that time when I thought about cutting of my pp with plastic toy scissors, 12 years of looking at pictures from that cross dressing party my then partner dragged me into, 5 years with an openly trans friend, months of pandemic isolation, realizing I miss the bra I bought for myself a few years back, and gaining enough weight to start developing man boobs. I guess self-reflection isn't my strong suit.
Congratulations that's so amazing! Your egg is officially cracked! There's no going back now, the rest of your life is ahead of you!
Best of luck to you friend
Denial is a hell of a drug. It took me 43 years to figure it out and finally come out. Congratulations on figuring yourself out faster than I did! May you have a beautiful journey finally becoming yourself.
Good for you girl! I figured out I was a guy at 30 and I'm just looking back on the many many signs wondering how I missed it.
Congratulations! I too was slow on the uptake and didn't figure it out until I was 30. I remember at one point I "wished I was trans" so I could transition.
"When I was 6, I wanted to be a pony"
Oh yes, because 6 year olds actually want to become a pony and aren't aware that they're playing pretend
(I'm being sarcastic)
There's another layer to that though, which is when the fantasy of becoming a mythical creature persists well into one's teens and adulthood. I was obsessed with shapeshifters for most of my life, and would identify most with werewolves and other oft vilified shapeshifters in fiction. To me, they're an allegory for freeing oneself from the shackles of society, and living out one's true nature. The constant feelings of wanting to become something else, anything else than what you are, is a strong indication of being trans or nonbinary.
To add, even if it's just a kid playing pretend, parents should always encourage their kids' creativity and imagination. Let them be who they want, dress how they want, and explore who they were meant to be.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Interesting, I always identified with shapeshifters, too! (Especially werecats, since I actually wanted to become a cat as a kid. No joke xD) But I'm very sure I'm cis.^^ (This doesn't mean it can't be an indicator for being trans/non-binary in general. It's just not the case for me.)
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 that's a very good point! I've always identified with shapeshifters too (I'm nonbinary), my point was that there's a difference between a child pretending to be something/someone else and knowing they're a different gender than the one they were assigned at birth
I wanted to be an astronaut when I was six. I'm not sure what that says about my imagination seeings how that was rather unlikely too lol. As a teenager I joked a lot about being an alien and now I'm also nonbinary.
All through my childhood I just straight up wished I could be a shapeshifter just so I could be myself, but as a boy. And sometimes a cat person.
They said I could be anything when I grew up, so I became a _man_
I find it so funny when people try to say that they won’t drink soy milk because it contains estrogen... You know what contains even more estrogen than soy? Cows milk!! 😂
The very idea of drinking the milk of any animal, after the age of 3, just grosses me out. Give me that almond, pea, or oat milks. I don't particularly like soy.
@ClarrytheClam Especially since the milk from a cow is, I dunno...Meant for their child mayhaps? Too many morons still downing coagulated cow titty water&pus whilst eating the child form whom said coagulated cow titty water&pus was meant. 😬
I swear, humans are disgustingly stupid 90% of the time. 😑
Well considering soy has phytoestrogen and absolutely no estrogen, your statement is 100% true.
Japan: Eats soy for millennia
Incels: SoY mIlK mAkEs YoU EfFeMiNaTe
Samurai: Are you calling us unmanly?!? __
@@John_Weiss you know the funny thing is. There are a lots of Weeb Incels who advocate to get rid all of Soy products. But they frequently eats Japanese Cuisine. Oh the hypocrisy.
the word is dumbfounded for "Impressed but badly"
Flabbergasted.
Flummoxed.
Deeply dismayed.
Astounded
Staggered
Astonished
Shocked
Just because no one understands you, that doesnt mean you are on the wrong track in life. Don't let others opinions change who you are, you are your own amazing person and remember to always be yourself. There are so many people out there who care about you and I know you can do anything you set your mind to. You are strong, you are valid and incredible, I believe in you all.
Thanks!! I'm in ur server btw!!
Ilyyyyy ur so nice and ur awesome
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@@sanityidontknowher5057 I feel your username
your comments are always some of the best under his videos
The soy milk thing is crazy, I’ve seen so many posts in parenting groups , milk allergy groups , vegan groups asking what alternative milk they can feed their male children because they don’t want to give them soy because they will grow breasts and be less “‘manly”
there is more estrogen in US tap water than you get from soy milk.
I've tried so hard to explain to men that while soy contains estrogen, no amount you consume will ever affect you brain function or body function and many other foods you regularly eat also contain estrogen. Half the time those conversations end up with the guy also outing himself as a racist when I mention Asian men aren't less manly despite the amount of soy they eat throughout the day.
@@RiveroftheWither I thought there was some evidence that, over time, the higher estrogen exposure from enviromental contamination can cause the breast tissue men are born with to begin to develop, explaining the rise in the 'man-boob' or moob seen in the last 30-40ish years amongst older men.
@@RiveroftheWither Also it isn't even human estrogen. It's phytoestrogen, a hormone that does similar things in plants to what estrogen does in humans, therefore was named a similar thing - but our bodies can't use it the way plants do...
@@RiveroftheWither soy doesnt contain any estrogen. It does contain some compounds called phytoestrogens. Phytoestrogens have some structural similatities with mammalian estrogens (hence the name) but it doesnt have any estrogen like effects on animals. Actually some phytoestrogens are suspected to lower chances to get certain kinds of cancer. But people like that wont do any research and will not change their minds even whem they are confronted with the facts :(
100% of the transition process for my trans daughter:
Oh, you want to buy some dresses and grow your hair long? 🤷♀️ Alright. Whatever.
Oh no! What a child abuser I am! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
How dare you let her live her life in a way she will be happy about herself, you monster !
@@martelraykin ikr, next thing you know they will actually pay attention to thier child's emotional needs.
Just today, I had an "argument" with a person who thinks parents who let their kids explore themselves with no pressure are "spawn of hell who poison the children and recruit them into the ABCD army". Sir...your son bought himself a pink notebook and you beat him with a shoe. TRY AGAIN
I had a man yell in my face at the Texas Capitol (shocking, I know) that nobody would ever love my child. 🙄 It was almost worth it because when I said, “there are lots of pansexual people!” his face looked like I’d just switched to Klingon. Pretty sure he’s never heard that term before. 😂😂
@@cassietheenglishteacher And there are _plenty_ of cis-str8 men who wouldn't give a sheet that a woman who looks like any other woman has a 'Y'-chromosome. Pleny of Intersexed women who we still call women who have a 'Y'-chromosome.
You can always throw that at the bigots.
thank you for acknowledging bearded trans women like me. Finally I feel defended by one of the big players rather than thrown under the bus. Presenting masc as a trans woman is who I am. Makes life even more dangerous because people expect me to hide as cis; it upsets them that I don't hide and don't conform.
You're valid and killing it!
Everyone has some facial hair, and gendered presentation is all up to the individual. You’re definitely valid ✨
I can grow a baby mustache if I leave it (in fact at one point during lockdown I did because I stopped using mirrors so hadn't been plucking, and hadn't noticed), I'm pangendered but biologically female and have had no kind of hormone therapy. Some women just are hairier than men (my legs used to be hairier than me brother's but illness has actually left them 98% smooth), and that's not even allowing for hormone imbalances like PCOS, unfortunately society still has issues with that in cis women, let alone trans.
There seems to be this misunderstanding that if you're trans then you want to embrace the most extreme of that gender (eg very girlie women or very masc men), so ignorant people get confused if a transwoman is more masc presenting or a transman is more feminine presenting. When I was at uni, 20 years ago, I knew a transwoman who would get openly mocked (fortunately nothing worse but that was bad enough), even from withing the lgbtq+ community, just because she wore a dress when her legs were hairy or had stubble on her chin (didn't matter that she had to grow it out to go for permanent removal sessions, people just didn't think), they would say awful stuff like "if you want to be a woman why aren't you feminine" one even asked me to give her essonne on being more womanly...which was laughable considering my clothing style etc has always been fairly androgynous towards masculine, she was more feminine in than I would ever be. Fortunately, it just made her more definiant and intent on being herself. I've never been girly and would point that out, women don't have to be "feminine" to be women regardless of whether they're cis or trans and body hair is not a reflection of how feminine you even are (there are increasingly women models rocking their hairy legs & armpits and I love it).
I'd like to think things have moved on, and maybe most within the community have become more open minded (I'd hope), but it's very dependent on where you live...also The Cis-Hets (tm)...I think they're lagging behind (even is more Liberal areas). There's just a lack of understanding all around when it comes to separating gender and personal expression etc, and it's hard to educate the people who don't want to understand (like most of these people in the posts). So, yeah, I can see how it can get risky for trans woman who are OK with their facial hair. It sucks that you have to deal with that kinda shit just being yourself. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈💜
My cis girlfriend has facial hair. Everyone can have facial hair and you all are valid.
Sorry but I thought you'd enjoy knowing that my sleep-deprived ass thought you said "thank you for bearding acknowledging trans like me"
The funniest part of the soy milk story is that 'what gives' is actually just no-one doing any research and deciding to boycott something over misinformation and rumours, same as they are doing with talking about HRT.
Or it could be the booming market for non-dairy milks? Soymilk used to be the big one, then almond milk in the last 5 or so years, and now oatmilk. There are also plenty I haven’t tried, like hemp milk, flaxseed milk etc. I like soymilk okay, but prefer oatmilk.
@@alisaurus4224 It could be, but the difference in the discussion is that there's not really an alternative to HRT :P (I get your point, don't get me wrong, but when I see people rant about how dangerous HRT is without them actually knowing how it works, what it does and what it doesn't and also not wanting to read up on it when you give them actual links to read, it really falls into the same category as the discussion about soymilk in that matter).
That awkward moment when idiots think being trans male means being All Might from My Hero Academia.
LMAO
Why’d I just imagine an afab person just taking testosterone, flexing, screaming “I am trans!”, and then transforming into a 7ft, deep-voiced, muscular version of themselves!?🤣🤣🤣
@@gaxalee7392 Can this be a thing? That sounds amazing.
guys i thought we agreed to not talk about this
@@gaxalee7392 yes please
2:37 as someone who has a binder that also covers the lower part of your stomach (the ones just for your chest were out of stock), I can confirm this is not how it works. It might be different for others, but I've never felt this.
Shades of men writing women, or straights writing gays. If you're a writer and you don't know how something works, _ask someone who does._ It's like if you're writing about a culture other than your own. Don't just guess. Take the time and do some research, and interview people from that culture, to make sure you're getting it right.
I am pretty sure that it's also not possible that a binder could hurt your diaphragm. It is inside your body and not realy on the outside. It would wherefore also be protected by your ribcage. (Here is the definition taken from Wikipedia: "Diaphragm or thoracic diaphragm, a thin sheet of muscle between the thorax and the abdomen", emphasis on between) This person has neither any clue of trans anatomy nor of human anatomy in general.
@@lucyg.1983 I've not worn a binder before, but I have been hit in the diaphragm, and I think you're correct. It's kinda tucked up under the bottom of your ribs, so if something were wrapped around the ribs like a binder the ribs would protect your diaphragm from being compressed.
"If tall women are women, why do you call them tall women?" Replace "trans" with any (sensible) adjective and it just sounds insane.
Right?
We don't go around saying fat women. People don't usually want to be classified that way. They are more than just tall, or fat or trans.
Just wanted to say: Please stay safe while binding!
What would be a safe age to begin binding? My 12yr old has expressed interest. I told them if they can research how to do it safely and bring it to me I will get them a binder
@@zlcoad1 I'm so sorry to let you down but I dont know much about a good age to start binding ^^" I never binded myself and only have my infos about what you shouldn't do from friends, so I'm not the best person to ask for that.
@@zlcoad1 As a trans masc, 12 is honestly probably a bit early for regular binder use. I'm not an expert and you should do your own research, but binding can absolutely harm the ribs over time especially if you're still growing. Your child's happiness is also very important so there's a lot of factors to consider. If they absolutely must bind, get a gc2b brand, it's the most reputable as far as i know, and buy a size larger than the sizing chart recommends. If they're concerned a size up won't do enough, remind them that they still have some growing to do, and sizing up a binder is how a lot of transmascs can go swimming so it doesn't do nothing. Start with very short periods of time, maybe an hour just in the house at first. Exercising, even something like going up the stairs can cause a lot more stress. Never EVER use ace bandages to bind, it can crack your ribs. The amount of time you use your binder is important as well as the frequency, there needs to be multiple days a week where they don't wear a binder at all. Start small and if there's any difficulty breathing or discomfort, it's time to remove it. Do your research and teach them the risks if binding so they don't push their limits. If they seem upset by not being able to wear a binder all the time it would be a good idea to make sure they have good trans masc role models. Unfortunately there are a lot of trans masc people who think you must wear a binder and never show femininity to be a trans man and hearing those views can be really damaging for young trans people. Trans bodies are beautiful the way they are and while a binder can be a useful tool to alleviate dysphoria, trans mascs are valid no matter what, binder or not.
Sorry this is really long, I wish you and your child luck and it's really great that you're supporting them. If you both decide binding isn't for them, or that they aren't ready yet, there's other ways to hide a chest. Layers are your friend. T shirt with an open button up/flannel over it, hoodies, long sleeve shirt under short sleeve shirt, can all reduce or hide the appearance of a chest, depending on the size/body type. Also if you can, look into puberty blockers! it's not too late for them yet and puberty blockers are very well researched and have been used for about 30 years (I think) for various conditions. They basically pause puberty until they're old enough to either start HRT, or change their mind and go through their AGAB puberty. Puberty blockers can be life savers since you can't get hrt until you're about 16 in most places (with some exceptions but 16 is the general rule)
@@elliotmydude Thanks for this. I really appreciate it. Puberty blockers aren't an option for various reasons but they've also said that they're OK with going through female puberty (afab) at this point. I am researching binding and others ways to support my child, it's particular hard as they live with homophobic/ transphobic family members so any support I provide is part time. Of course I understand that any and all support in validating my child is important and I'm behind them all the way.
@@zlcoad1 just wanted to say that you're an amazing parent and even if the situation is not perfect your child is very lucky to have you 💖
I honestly love the comment sections on Jamie's videos because they're so validating and accepting :)
Makes my day
RIGHT
The Demi Lovato headline is definitely a candidate for Private Eye's "Bonfire of the Subs" column. (Ie. there used to be sub-editors whose job it was to check for spelling/grammar/idiotic mistakes, but then they all got fired so the papers could save money/the owners could make more profits.)
It's also possibly a result of titles being written by a separate person than the author of the article
@@hiimcrazyfordrwho Possibly, but it should still have been checked by someone to catch such an obvious error :)
I mean technically, when you are in the womb, there is a short time when you are female, regardless of what you end up as later in the pregnancy. So, while not everyone is AFAB (assigned female at birth), everyone is AFBB (assigned female before birth)
I was told that too, but was surprised to learn that the stage of development before differentiation is a neutral state, in which both the Wolfian and Mullerian ducts are present, before hormones cause one to degenerate and the other to develop into sex-specific anatomy in most cases. So it's true that prior to that differentiation, we all have the same anatomy, but it's not so much that everyone's female then, but more like, everyone has both sets of potential anatomy, waiting to be activated.
@@kaiwannagoback5712 ABBA (assigned both before assessment)
@@drakkonscythe mamma mia
@@drakkonscythe AWESOME!
@@kaiwannagoback5712 What Drakkon Scythe was referring to is that one of the first signs of how (for instance) boys with just one testicle they found in the abdominal area came to exist was finding out the tissues that either become ovaries or testicles start out at the location of ovaries.
Some of the processes involving instructing the body to lower those into the scrotum sometimes don't work correctly, which is when one ends up stuck fully where it was formed or somewhere midway.
Same with the scrotum: the reason men have that dark, slightly odd looking skin seam at the underside of their penis and balls is because that's where the swelling bodies were repositioned after being destined to be in the labia, and the skin that was layed out to become labia grew together at those places.
In every way, apart from the canals for the actual reproductive material, we are more female in nature after conception than we are both.
Ive never understood the whole “kids think they are dragons” thing. When I was a kid I liked to pretend that I was a cat, but I always knew that I wasn’t actually a cat. I knew how to distinguish between games and reality, even as a toddler. I think transphobes struggle with understanding the concept of role playing
Lol that headline really did the "her pronouns are they/them" meme
recently found your channel. i’m not trans myself, but i live in a very transphobic/homophobic family, and recently have started doing my own research, so i want to thank you for your channel and educating those who need it
Wow, I have never encountered the "trans men are supermen" argument before, and it's...kind of rad, while also being completely insane? Also, the soy milk thing makes me sigh deeply for a variety of reasons. The whole "soy gives you estrogen" idea is scientifically inaccurate, first of all - soy contains plant estrogen, which is basically estrogen for plants, meaning it doesn't do a thing to humans because we are not, in fact, plants. :P Second of all, the idea that estrogen is bad because people don't want to have it in their lattes is a confusing conclusion. I don't want insulin in my latte, either, but that doesn't mean diabetics don't have a medically necessary reason to use it. I know I shouldn't be expecting high levels of logic from transphobes on the internet, but still. Come ON, guys. :P
When I qualify for my local mens parkour team I'm 100% using it to psych out the competion
speak for yourself
*_photosynthesizes harder_*
About the binder one:
Corset fanatic here: people don’t understand where organs are and how they work.
My experience since HRT in general is that most people did not pay attention in biology class very well (not a binder user by the way, MtF here, but still, the amount of questions that are about a very basic knowledge of biology is insane :P ).
DC comics does have a Superman XX. Maybe they saw that character's name and assumed it was tied to trans-guys? Head-canon now: Superman XX is a trans-man.
What's the actual story behind Superman XX?
@@melonsaway3929 He's a direct descendant of Clark Kent and lives in the 30th century.
Little known fact some asexuals are actually dragons (don't tell) so if a kid is both trans and asexual they could be a dragon.
for the inevitable clueless person, this is a joke.
Shhhhh they'll discover our hoarding plans and invasion of Denmark
@@whoahanant oops. At least I didn't mention the god thing.
@@whoahanant I guard my hoard of garlic bread very jealously.
[Looks around nervously] WHICH WE DEFINITELY ARE NOT.
phew thanks for covering us up with the end part there - twas a close one
About the soy stuff...probably because soy is a very common allergen in humans (so are tree nuts and peanuts, hence the draw to oat milk in recent years) so it's easier to just use oat milk as a substitute for dairy.
Unrelated fact: a mocha soy latte is technically a three-bean soup.
I know the difficulty of finding a dairy-free latte out, for someone who is also allergic to oats, rice, and tree nuts but not soy. So no oatmilk, almond milk or other tree nut milk including coconut, or ricemilk... only soy will do. Or maybe flax milk but it has a strong taste.
A vanilla mocha soy latte is 4 bean soup
A mocha soy latte is also a three-layer bean dip.
@@ahhh4117 LOL Love it!
Hbomberguy did a video a couple years ago about the soy stuff. The estrogens in soy are not the same as female estrogens. They are called phytoestrogens and they have no relation the only reason they are called that is because both have similar shape and scientists have too many things to name. The video is called the truth about soy boys btw :)
It's also worth pointing out that beer contains more phytoestrogens than soy products, and dairy and beef contain a lot more actual estrogen than either. So, oops.
Loved that one!
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 haha I didn’t know that, that’s awesome.
*Harvard's health school, has a whole write up on this.* "Soy is unique in that it contains a high concentration of isoflavones, a type of plant estrogen (phytoestrogen) that is similar in function to human estrogen but with much weaker effects. Soy isoflavones can bind to estrogen receptors in the body and cause either weak estrogenic or anti-estrogenic activity. The two major soy isoflavones are called genistein and daidzein." *furthermore* "Moreover, soy phytoestrogens carry bioactive peptides that are similar to extracellular matrix (ECM) proteins in healthy skin." So effectively so that we'll sooner see soy-based wound dressings than we will soy prescribed a hormone booster. (You can already buy it in supplement form but that's not regulated and studies are conflicting in its efficacy)
On a side note estrogen (estradiol) is critical to both afab and amab bodies.
i watched this with my friend and forgot that their name is spud and they got super exited when he said "hey spuds"
That's so cute! (*´▽`*)
About the passage at @2:28 I've never experienced what I would call "pressure" on my diaphragm from a binder, but I had an old binder that worked really well, but was probably less safe than ones from gc2b binders and the like, and if I got winded or anxious I would feel pretty restricted in my breathing by it. Luckily it worked via hooks and loops in the front (like bra hooks but a lot more and in the front) and I could unhook the lower 2-3 hooks/loops to breathe easier. So maybe this passage is accurate, but I'd say to anyone experiencing pressure on your diaphragm: your binder is too tight!
sometimes when i wear my binder and i’ve just eaten it makes me feel ill, but it’s because im overweight so my binder conflicts with my stomach area, i think that’s the only explanation for that passage lmao
The other one I can think about is if they doubled over, then maybe the binder could have rolled up/dug into their belly and pressed into their stomach and the author chose to not be too anatomically correct to keep up the tone.
I have one from Underworks that does press into my stomach area and making me kind of blergh if I sit weirdly (feet up and the bend in my upper body right under my ribs).
Everybody is AFAB now? That includes me, right? *suddenly magically transitioned gay sounds*
I *think* they're thinking about how people used to say that all human foetuses start as female before sex differentiation? That used to be something you often saw in documentaries and the like. It's a hilariously incorrect oversimplification but I wouldn't expect these people to exactly appreciate the finer nuances of biology.
I am very possibly giving them too much of the benefit of the doubt.
Funnily enough I am an AMAB cis woman, because the nurse filling out my birth certificate let it known they didn't think Shelby was a girls name. I guess they didn't watch the same movies that my mom did while pregnant?
I hope you have the support to transition!
That first one could be viewed as an accidental ally one if you look at a certain way.
I have the slight feeling my parents might be homophobic or at least transphobic because they were like they them is plural and when i told them about cis they were like so now we need a word for being normal and I'm scared because I'm bi
I'm sorry, I hope things get better for u x
oh i'm sorry to hear that
remember that your parent might not accept you (i hope they will), a whole lot of people will. surround yourself with people that accept and support you.
i send you much love and strength 💕
@@chouten5942 thx
@@randomdreamer5429 thank you i lukaly have an amazing found family
@Haley Maksin don't worry i will tnx
2:40 as someone with mostly long binders: they don't hurt on your diaphragm, they feel the same as half binders except there is also a tiny bit of pressure on your tumtum, but that's it
Jamie, I am having a really bad day and seeing you has made it a little easier to get through. Ty for always being positive and lovely. You do more good than you could know💖
@@springer2226 ??
0:42 “If cis women are women, why do you call them cis women?”
About the “binder almost made me vomit” thing, the main reason I can’t really bind anymore is because if I wear it too long it will give me a migraine and make me nauseous, although that’s very likely a breathing thing since my binder only goes a little below my ribs
The fuck's a binder?
Do you think sizing is in issue or does your chest expand a lot when you breathe? Mine does and thats why I use tape instead
@@ahhh4117 Tape is really not good for you and can really damage you. Can you not just size up a binder? Chests don't need to be completely flat to be read as male, if that is your intent of course, and your health should come first or you could potentially damage something irreparably for the future :C
@@Charbified I don’t think they meant what you think they did when they said they use tape. I’m actually looking into using tape as well and there are safe ways to use it and even tapes specifically made for binding
@@Wolfsgeist it’s something you wear to flatten your chest. No need to be rude about it
1:56 reminds me of the new trans policy my school came out with that says, and I quote, “the district recognizes that a student may have a strong interest in maintaining the privacy of his/her gender nonconforming presentation at school.”
What does that even mean?
@@ahhh4117 sounds like they’re trying to write off being trans as just being gnc
It looks like getting hit is the part that is causing the pain while wearing a binder
But they said something about feeling it in their diaphragm against their binder? I dunno, I never wore one because my boobs have always been way too big and saggy for it to be effective and I like breathing. If I did, though, it probably would have to be a longer one.
Oh god. It took me a good few minutes to realize that the binder pressing into this person’s diaphragm was *NOT* a binder one takes to school, holding folders and shit LOL
After the first 30 seconds of this video I stopped feeling like anatomy is a real word lmao
Exposure to stupid will do that
"Everyone is AFAB"
Me, Trans woman: WHOOHOO!
Hey Jamie!
I just wanted to say that I was having a bad day yesterday but I watched this video and hearing you say “hey spuds!” instantly cheered me up. You and your videos are so wholesome and funny.
Thank you so much!
I don't know how TH-cam brought me to you, but I love all your positive energie and every time I watch one of your videos I just have to smile :D
Maybe there's more context to it, but in a vacuum the "Dick Owner" meme doesn't scan as inherently transphobic. It mirrors the sort of language more progressive medical facilities use when describing sex/genital specific topics such as birth control. It's actually useful in those contexts to be extra clear by saying "people with penises" or "people that can become pregnant". The "too many new genders" bit is sus though.
Right on. I've always been confused when medical intake forms ask for gender. It would make more sense to ask questions pertaining to sex/physiology (and also pronouns, so they know how to refer to you)
2:16 it's like how disney misgendered Raine, a non binary character in the owl house. in the subtitles it says "him" when in the audio it's said "them" and the character officially only goes by they/them. i dont know if they already fixed it but i dont think so
If your binder makes you feel about to hurl, either it's the wrong size, or your wearing it wrong. What we need is a trans* apparel shop like Victoria's Secret, where we can get measured for binders like afab preteens are measured for bras, as well as whatever else people need to present as themselves.
5:39 oh GOD
I hate how much shit Aloy got for not being "feminine enough"
Whaaa? A hunter gatherer from a tribal society (a reject from the clan that spent their entire childhood training at that) not being femmininionmne???? HOW proposterous!!!
Oh I haven't been so early ever in my life!
Same!
*you’re actually first i think-
You beat me! Awesome job!
you're the first comment! good job!
sameeeee
Saw the notification and I dashed over, love my moment to be a Spud!
I finally got my first binder! My school counselor ordered it for me for free almost a year ago, but I couldnt receive it because my mom found out and she got mad. So my counselor kept it for a bit until it was safe for me to keep, as I finally got a locker. And it looks just like a Tank Top
I always enjoy it :D even when it's kind of upsetting lol
End edit: I'm so tired of the "tHiNk Of ThE cHiLdReN" argument while they simultaneously pass legislation to make trans youths lives so much harder -.-
my binders have never made my diaphragm feel compressed, not even my full sized binders. usually i just feel the compression in my upper ribs, and back near where my shoulder blades stick out.
As a cis girl who got a binder for cosplay purposes, it's definitely not comfortable when you start out, but then neither are bras when it comes down to it. It's literally compressing your chest, it's not going to be painless!
binders should not cause you pain, discomfort but never pain. If it hurts you've either been wearing it too long or it's too small. Just want any baby trans mascs reading this to know that
have you done a reasonably paced piece on the difference between genetics, sex and gender? many of your videos are about commenting on how folks get it wrong (like this one) but have you ever explained it all in one sitting? i'd love to hear you talk through all that.
My daughter was 3yo the first time she told me she was a girl. At age 7, she wasn't sure, at age 14 she confirmed that she always knew she was a girl, she just felt too pressured by society at age 7 that she wasn't comfortable socially transitioning at that time. I knew I was gay when I was 5, and wanted to be the knight in shining armor that rescued the princess.
The soy latte had me in the first half because I assumed it would be a conversation on how this rumor of estrogen led to almond milk as an alternative, which leaves people with peanut allergies fewer choices. I then remembered the title of this video and became sad again.
I don't see why someone with Peanut allergies would have less options when they aren't allergic to almonds? I mean in general yes there would be less options but less options in general? Can you elaborate I'm confused
@@determinedhelicopter2948 I meant to be more broad with nuts and legumes in general. If you don't want normal milk but are allergic to nuts, you don't really have much choice of liquid to put in coffee
@@nerdyneedsalife8315 Yes, that makes a lot more sense lol
Yeah that video game character is Aloy from Horizon Zero Dawn/Forbidden West, pissed off gamers have been whining that she’s not feminine enough because she doesn’t have a super slim face and wear 3 layers of makeup in a post apocalyptic world where people have to survive in hunter gatherer type societies.
I've always had really really comfortable binders. They're soooo much better than bras. Sometimes they hurt a tiny bit but mine have always felt kinda comfy. I'm really careful about binding safe tho
Edit: I use underworks- and I dont know what model but it goes down to a little under my chest
You're pretty lucky, I guess. I tried binding, but unfortunately it doesn't work for me. Guess I'm stuck with bras and hoodies for now.
i started binding a bit ago and is sooo comfortable both physical and emotionally, it doesn't make my chest 100% flat so i don't have much trouble with pain or breathing, but it's good enough to make me really euphoric since the first time i tried it on
@@basil4163 same it doesnt do as much as I would like but it's still really nice
@@Mark-oz7vp i understand that for some of us it's a little complicated to get gender affirming surgeries but if you really need it i'm sure you'll get there! for now just remember that cis men can have big chests too and that the way you are on the outside does not have to determine who you are on the inside
What brand and models do you buy?
1:51 the title writers and the actual writers are different people, so mistakes like this happen due to misinterpretation or, in this case, beligerence
Jammidodger is such a great motivation for me on my own TH-cam journey, I am glad I was motivated by this man.
On the binders thing, my bf has a long binder, and it’s literally just like a short binder, but it transitions to a normal vest where a short one would end… it’s not binding the whole way down. It basically just helps keep the binding area from riding up.
Re: "the tight press of my binder on my diaphragm"...I think probably a better description would have been "ribs", "rib cage", or "chest". Idk how something outside your body can press on your diaphragm unless their doing the Heimlich or something.
I do often feel pressure from my binder specifically in my lower rib cage, around where the diaphragm is, so maybe thats what theyre getting at?? But still I think of it more as "lower ribs" than actually the binder pressing on my diaphragm.
SuperJamie!!!
some of these anatomy fails are so...illogical that it's more inconcievable than bad. Like what kind of thought processes do these people have
Hey Jamie!
Wow this is some bad anatomy
lmao the way you edited it 20 seconds later
@@r0nium I rethink things too much :/
@@Xavier.699 i just found it funny how quickly you added "wow this is some bad anatomy"
Simply love your sense of humor! I hope you never stop educating, I learned so much bc of you. Thank you 🙏🏽
Yes, this happens to me when I bind. I have a short torso (im 4’9”), and most brands of binders go below my sternum line. Because I’m overweight and large chested, is also tends to roll up, which specifically puts pressure on my solar plexus. So yeah. Fucking sucks.
1:14 / 1:15 that head turn makes me laugh like crazy OMFG... Peak comedy
Day twelve of telling this amazing pillar of confidence and hope for those of us who don’t have as many allies how great he is. Remember to take breaks and much love ❤️
I think this is the first time I got a notification when the video was posted and not 4 days later
for the binder one, that's inaccurate to how extreme it is, but if I'm binding and hit from behind or in front, it can hurt, so it's not completely false cause a binder does go around the back too
Kids are allowed to dress up as dragons and Faeries at age 6, if they want to. Pretending is encouraged for children. So, why can't Trans kids just dress how they want to, even if they will eventually grow out of it?
My younger nephew loved sweatpants with pockets because he was obsessed with putting things in the pockets. My sister and brother-in-law didn't discourage him. I don't see the bloody difference!
thank you tod
I have an issue calling them trans prior to puberty starting. You can't tell young children apart by sex in the first place, so they literally can't transition, as they have zero reference being either gender. I can claim to be 6th dimensional human, but I don't have any experience that could allow me to even conceptualize how it would feel.
Let them wear whatever because societal norms of clothing are incredibly arbitrary. Plus calling anyone who doesn't follow stereotypical gender norms trans is an almost fundamental Christian level of restrictive normalization
As a parent, I'm far more worried about my daughter feeling unsupported than being trans.
Recently, I watched a video by a cis, mostly straight (his words) talk about how 2 sexes makes no goddamn sense, and at the end, he listed 200+ sources with Mario music playing. His name's Forrest V- something, sounds like a Star Trek name.
@@thatotherted3555 Yep!
Hey jammidodger! (Love the name!) Firstly i just wanna say i love ur channel and am subscribed. Secondly, i just wanna say that although this is the first video im responding to, ive seen many and just wanna thank you for what you are doing in our community. As a trans women myself, i never dreamed i would be able to live my truth. My fav video of yours was your timeline video (cudnt find it otherwise I would have commented on that one! Lol) but i have say the most touching monentd of it were when you proposed to your amazing GF and secondly when you got ur gender recognition certificate. Made me so emotional and hopeful that, that day will eventually happen for me. Much love to you and your amazing partner.
Amelia
Xxxxx
The description of the binder is actually pretty accurate. That's why I unfortunately can't wear one.
That headline reminds me of a note in my medical record from early in my transition: "[deadname] considers himself gender-neutral and uses they/them pronouns"
(the doctor had never heard of "non-binary" and figured that "gender-neutral" would be more clinically accurate)
*Has to use headphones due to transphobic family*
I hope things get better for you x
Aww I hope things get better for you x
The soy milk one is so funny. You were so close, friend! You almost had it! But also like...does this person know that everyone just has estrogen in them already? "oh if it's so unsafe why do they give it to people" Well, how could it be that unsafe when it's...naturally present in everyone...Like human bodies are not perfect but maybe "literally all humans have had this present in their bodies, for all of history" indicates some level of...safety?
"The XX Supermen"
That's just a. Band name.
And XX Superman sounds like a craft beer.
2:47 So, me and other binder wearing friends of mine have expierenced feeling sick from binding for too long. For me, as soon as the binder is off I feel better. For my friends it usually takes a bit.
Oh gosh… here we go 😂
I know someone who said
"You can't just morph like a frog"
No we can't but if I could I would by now
Oh god, more bad anatomy. I feel bad for Jamie having to mush his brain while watching these.
For the binder, I have a really weird torso ratio, and when I hit a bump when riding in the bus, and my binder ended up rolling a little, it does hit my diaphragm sometimes. Enough to knock the wind out of me. But you need to have a very specific body to binder fit. And when my binder is actually flat against my skin like it’s supposed to be, then there’s no issue
Yeeeeeet Jamie's back
Oh Jamie, I wish it was longer... the video that is! Thanks.
Watching an anatomy video in health class… fitting? lol
The way you said "Cause trans is an adjective"-
It was perfect
A classmate once asked me if I have a penis. Not only is that a terrible and intrusive question, but also like, did she assume that just grew overnight? Or that it just magically appeared when I came out?
maybe you were looking for the word "awestruck".
it essentially has the same meaning as "impressed", but it could be in a good or bad way, almost like "astonished", but to say that you're astonished would mean that in a way that you're more shocked or surprised than anything else, again, good or bad
I think they stopped selling soy milk lattes because oat & almond substitutes just taste nicer.
Concerning the trans sports issue I recently saw an interview with a trans woman in sports (can't remember the sport) that had been kicked out of women's competition for being trans. It was the unfair advantage argument because she was male born. She said that actually she has a handicap because she is suppressing T and taking HRT so her muscles have faded but her body was still the size of a mans. Her analogy was to a truck having the V8 taken out and a four cylinder engine put in that now has to pull that big truck. I hadn't considered the reverse. A smaller body now has T powering it. Yet no one is fussing about trans men in sports. Probably due to just not understanding how trans works. I would love to hear more about this aspect, Jamie, if you read this comment.
Uhm I’m a 14 yr old and I’m gonna start to talk to my therapist to ask about transitioning f to m and I was wondering what should I know before I know this I’ve already done my own research a lot but I just wanna make sure that I have a good grasp on transitioning so could someone please tell me something I might not know.
You didn't ask a specific question so I'll rapid fire some facts: You probably won't be able to start T until you're 16 (if you choose to go on T, it's not for everyone and you don't need it to be valid). Make sure you know all of the effects before you start. (Bottom growth, chanhes in metabolism, hair growth patterns, male pattern baldness etc etc) Your grandfather on your Mothers side usually determines if you will have male pattern baldness and when it will start. Ask him when/if he lost his hair if you're concerned about that.
There's many methods of taking T, if you're scared of injections, the gel works just as fast. There's also patches and i believe pills. These can work a bit slower than injections and gels but talk to the doctor prescribing it to you about what method is best for you.
Binding can be dangerous, opt on the air of caution if you choose to do that. Wear it for short periods (start with an hour) and only a couple days a week. If you have any pain or difficulty breathing, take it off. Never sleep or exercise with it on. You might want to wait a couple years to start binding, or start with a size up from what the sizing chart recommends. At 14 you might have some more growing to do. If you're not out to your family you can usually pass off a binder for a sports bra. If you get a binder get a gc2b, it's the most reputable brand and the racerback design is the most like a sports bra.
I want to reiterate: You do not need to bind to be valid. It always comes with risks no matter how careful you are. Depending on the size of your chest, layers can reduce or hide your chest.
If you're not out and plan on coming out: give your family grace, they will make mistakes no matter how supportive they are.
Depending on where you live you will have to jump through a lot of hoops to get perscribed anything. It will be annoying. You're probably to old for puberty blockers to have any significant effect but ask about it.
If you have any other questions feel free to ask, I'm not on T yet but I've researched and learned about it for about 4 years. I also know a good deal about both top surgery and bottom surgery but remember to do your own research!
I love his videos, they truly have help me through a lot!😃
I'd think people moving off soy milk is more because they're largely in the vegan/environmentalist camp and soy milk is much more harmful to the environment than other plant milks. Like we aren't vegan but also go more for oat milk because of this.
oat milk is also the best tasting plant-based milk alternative imo
@@nicole-rb4iw we love rice milk, the other thing is oat milk isn't that great nutrition wise cause it's pretty much water plus fibre, your digestive system spends all the energy it gets breaking it down in the first place. So I'd say the sort of thing to avoid with digestive issues or disordered eating, both of which we have.
... Though we have very chocolatey cereals so that's probably enough energy 😂😂😂
@@siginotmylastname3969 ohh interesting ty , i'll keep that in mind ! lmaoo 😭