Yep! I met a guy who's family doesnt really talk to him anymore, that was a huge red flag. He was always the victim. All of his exes seem to be a "crazy" or mad at him. I exited stage left, quickly.
I feel you. They also claim that all their "crazy" exes / friends with benefits want them back. They always try to create jealousy so you will feel the need to compete for their "time and affection."
My ex partner was like this. Always rubbing people up the wrong way and getting into fights with family members and friends due to 'their wrongdoings' . It wasn't until after I finally left (after all the abuse) that his family said about time and wished I'd left him sooner!
He was the storm. He chose to be miserable despite my help. I realise now I was trying to find my value in trying to uplift him. No more. I cut ties with home because I deserve better.
Some people just have really messed up / toxic families tho and they choose to stay away & out of the drama. They would rather be a lone wolf that roll like that.
True, if you feel the person is worth knowing then you have to dig deeper. Shoot I've seen narcissists come from supportive family and friends who they have been able to manipulate. These types of situation can be obvious like he was talking about or more complex.
@@humblewarrior7593 Exactly! There are families who support narcs.. I am an introverted woman but I have a VERY high self value and I know when to cut myself off from negativity. I do not want my future husband or soul mate having to go through this either. My inner peace and peace with my man is more important. But, I take care of my mama now. I'm old skool like that God Bless
@@nokwandajobe1021 Yes, I think these days it is a lot more common. So, I never judge someone harshly for choosing to distance themselves from relatives. However, I do pay attention to how a man treats his mother... That will tell you everything. :)
@@aleshiabowman1639 Yeah true but I've known a sociopathic narcissist who treats women his dating like sh** but treats his mother/aunts/sisters like gold. He was very calculative and manipulative ; everything he did was for show/praise and his male friends spoke highly of him whereas his baby mama and girlfriend had different stories to share.
You cannot save someone who doesn’t want to be saved even if you throw them a life raft. These kind of people are true narcissists. One is the loneliest number when it’s them. A lot of times they walk alone.
My soon-to-be ex-husband is exactly like this. He burned bridges with friends, family members, and employers. Even his own mother rarely contacts him. In the beginning, he said he didn't speak to his family because they are all selfish and only want to use him for his money. Now, he describes me the same way.
“Never eat lunch at a place called ‘Mom’s.’ Never play cards with a man called ‘ Pops.’ And never lie down with anyone who has more troubles than you do.”
I disagree with all three. What wisdom was supposed to be communicated in that particular saying? It seems, at first glance, to be in error on all three accounts.
Yup I just went through this in my last relationship and he was very good at making it seem like everyone was against him but extremely abusive and impulse driven there was definitely two sides of the story and I learned Alot about my giving the benefit of the doubt so yeh Run when told
I definitely have been there. This guy had health issues, and a whole nine yards of things. And everybody was wrong but him. Long story short, he became verbally and mentally draining. Mind you we were only dating 2 weeks 🤣🤣 I had to step..
That is something that needs to be heard. Don’t drive yourself crazy trying to fix a grown person’s problems when they aren’t getting up making an effort to fix it themselves. I’ve, also, told a couple people to seek therapy. I’m not out here to step in and take over where your mom left off.
But a lot of time their families will still deal with them. They will not tell you that their family member is not a good person to get involved with. I've experienced the grandmother of my daughter on her fathers side try to "explain away" his toxic behavior towards me. The relatives may not even talk to you that much, but will deal with them and turn a blind eye and say they don't want to "get involved" when you reach out to them about something bad that's going on in your relationship with their family member.
Something else to consider. A person with few people in their lives could be the result of bad family. If their family was terrible & trash &/or Narcissistic, it may not be their fault at all. A person who has few friends & family may have just learned to be very careful because they have been burned by Narcissists & their enablers too often.
This is facts! Dealing with a guy friend I knew for 20+ years. He triangulated his wife and I for years. This past year I found out his wife filed for a divorce. Long story short his mask started slipping and I found out he was a sociopath and a Narcissist. His wife just finally had enough! We’re not speaking anymore as of now
*ALL FACTS* Those types of guys are always trying to play " Vigilante" to justify their bad behavior. They always threaten to end the relationship when they don't get what they want.
If you are having a hard time letting go of someone but your instincts tells you to let him go and walk away - THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE AND A LIFE CHANGING REALIZATION. If they burn bridges to people who naturally loves them like fam members but they don't get along is a huge red flag.
Upgrading is only done by one's ownself. No one can upgrade another just add to the quality that is already there. Kevin you are spot on. We women always trying to do what God won't do without permission, fixin folks.
My Ex.... The King Of Nobody Understands!!! He ALWAYS has a hard luck story, never has any money, always needs a place to stay and can't figure out why none of his family and friends trust or want to be bothered with him anymore! I now avoid him like the plague!
Ooowee. I knew someone like that some years ago. Never had any money. Lives in somebody else's house. Argues with his own mother and son because they were trying to help him. I wouldn't be surprised if that person were still going through some crazy stuff and making bad decisions.
This is so TRUE! I just got out of a situation with a guy who cussed out his parents and drank all day every single day. It was bad. Like really, really, really, really, REALLY bad, but I tried to help him and I ended up with a deficit.
We are blessed to have your straight talking advice. You're so right about a guy who doesn't have people around him. I realised after I moved 200 miles. I boxed up my stuff after a year and was gone. Takers have nothing and no one.
Kev, I really appreciate you. Your videos have helped me so much to develop the intuition and see the quality of the man that I attract. I'm in a healthy relationship now but I still watch your videos every time they drop. Keep up the good work. The world needs your messages. 💖✨
Could you do a video on younger ppl, like early 20s, who haven’t had much experience dating only like one long relationship? Should their goal be to just date around and learn how to date? It can feel like you only know how to zoom in on one person at a time and only know how to be in a relationship vs weighing options and until you find someone right for you. How do we combat that “relationship spirit” ? Lol
I would suggest as a young person you see a therapist and HEAL before you start dating. Once you're on a path to healing, you move through life differently. You can recognize toxic behaviors more quickly, you'll know who to avoid. Who to pursue, boundaries, standards etc. Don't be so quick to settle down with one person. Don't have a scarcity mindset. But HEAL FIRST. Best advice I can give as a woman in her mid thirties. 💕
Another dating red flag is a flirt. When he flirts with other women in front of you after you've told him that it bothers you is a callous man, it only gets worse. Flirting in front of me is the biggest disrespect. Speaking from experience flirting in front of your lady is a gateway for a broken heart.
I mean I’m a woman and my life is in shambles 😅 but I’ve cut a lot of people off but I was bullied and abused a lot . And I’m kind of a loner now lol but I always did my best to treat people correctly (I def can be too nice ) and eventually people wouldn’t give me the same energy back and I’d just cut them off . And for a long time I think I attracted ppl that reinforced my negative self concept and I’ve def been improving a lot by myself and def meet people worth my time (is it alot of people ? No but am I happier ? Yes.) I just wish I had more people around me but a part of me has like really intense anxiety bc I don’t fuck with human nature like that anymore lmao but I’ve been slowly but surely improving 🙂 and my life is slowly starting to get better
You have no idea how helpful this was for me.... This is so true... I knew this but when it's put out like this by someone else it's really helpful to accept the truth🙏👍.... Keep up the good work
This is very true...they will definitely play the victim. When questioned they will deflect snd flip. Trust instincts, you want a relationship not a project.
I agree 💯 percent with you. I dated a guy about ten years ago, who played the victim allll the time. He was a true narcissist, thought it was all about him and that people were stalking him everyday all day. I'm so glad that relationship didn't last.
For real?! This was so on point I wanna throw my shoe at you Kev😂 Much love...I have no idea how I went from knowing and living these rules to letting them go and getting overran by two men in their storms...Now I got PTSD and they still the same snitty azzes they were when I met them...I find peace in knowing I regrouped and this video serves as confirmation that I am still moving in the right direction.
here's one - they blame women for their own emotions, but also call women sensitive for accepting their own emotions. So a man who blames everyone else for why he's angry all the time, for example. But he's responsible for his feelings.
I thought my ex was in a rough place in life too tried to help him out. He took me underwater with him and went off to live his best life. He’s in the same predicament I met him in 5 yrs later back living in his moms house etc
We can never force anyone to grow or to heal.... It's sad. I don't want to jump to conclusions, but I'm assuming he has unhealed childhood traumas. That's only something they can repair, when they are ready. Until then... People will be who they think they need to be. Rather than who you know they are....
Men and women all have had rocky relationships. Family/friends/romantic.... But not many take time to heal or reflect or grow. It sucks being an empath.
I dated a guy who acted abusive. I ended it. As that drama was in process his closest male friend told me that he’d previously gone to jail for crippling his major life gf. Scary brush.
Boy, oh, boy! Another reminder that I'd better keep my curtains closed! You've been peeking in on a woman who's had to get over her savior complex and move her life into a much better place. The guy I've mentioned in the comments on a few of your videos is the Poster Child for this. He couldn't handle being in a relationship with me because I'm "too healthy" and he couldn't tell if I was faking how I am so he was "on pins and needles all the time". I sometimes laugh about the ish that this guy tried to put me through and how unappreciative he is when he can barely tie his shoes alone. Well, I wished him well when he left and hope that he's grown up. I don't really care if it happens. I just know that he was exactly what the Universe ordered for me to get over trying to save people. He and two so-called friends, all left in the same year. I couldn't feel happier with zero drama in my life.
In the words of K Michelle’s ‘Can’t Raise a Man’, ahem: “If his momma couldn't do it what makes you think You can train a boy to be a man, it's too late” poor K’s got her issues, but if she wasn’t speaking the truth on this track 😭😭
I’ve seen two guys online who do more moving from place to place, every three Months. One is back with his family. The other goes where the wind blows him poor Thing. He works hard but, nothing to call his own. House, car, apartment etc. smh 🤦♀️
Wow this lesson is 💯 ..yes people can pull you in to feel sad for them..you keep your eyes 👀 open. Early so you don't get hurt with there karma The universe knows ..You reap with you so..💯❤ Thank you Kev much needed lesson 🙏
My friend still stays with her stupid, toxic, abusive bf and he’s one of these people you’re describing. I’ve had to walk away because she keeps going back even though it’s been really bad and is starting to affect my life and mental health too. I’ve started to notice that she gets a kick out of being the victim with her friends to the point where she is now childish and takes takes takes but doesn’t give anything back. It’s all about her. Today I walked away from her and her bullshit. I don’t want to turn into her, a victim and a martyr.
I had a first date yesterday with a man just like this. He felt controlled because someone said, “I challenge you to read XYZ book.” I said, “Could she have been emphasizing she thinks the book is really good.” Him: no. Not at all. Me: how so? Him: because of who she is and the political party she is. 🧐😳🙄
Don't even get me started on his mama... She might pretend to care about me... But she sees the pain he inflicts onto me. She will be the first to blame HERSELF for HIS actions towards me.... Before she tells him that he is wrong. She treated him that way as a child, but we all choose how we treat those we love. Especially when we went through similar childhood traumas.... He CHOOSES to hurt ME. ...and no one else. ...regardless of how terribly they treated him his whole life.
This was all facts you speak truth I went through saving people to realising that they just took advantage and the best thing to do is walk away and give yourself self love 💯
I agree with u that you should build yourself first. Spending time to 'fix' him is only a waste of time and the more you sacrificed for him the more he is likely to leave you for a brand new woman with no baggage
It actually made me scared. 😔 What if I am the one with no family? I have only my mother and my sister and I wanna cut all contact with them, because my mother was always abusive and she was treating my sister better in many ways. How should I date then? There is part of me which don't wanna have family for this reason, family equals abuse I don't want anymore
Started my self work around age 35ish, yea kinda late but I had noone to tell me things and so I had to learn the hard way! I've wasted so much time doing and being for everyone else and trying to get folks to love me . Not knowing I was and am enough!!! But that now I am 40 and kinda uninterested in doing or being anything other than for myself! Yes, I would love companionship, especially since my kids are now teens and wanting to do their own things! But I am exhausted , is this normal? 🤷🏾♀️Lol yes I am still doing the work but i am realizing just how FOS so many are!
I have no one. While i talk to my family they aren’t very supportive. And i don’t have relationships with friends. I guess I’m toxic person. Although i haven’t done anything majorly to hurt them.
Yep! I met a guy who's family doesnt really talk to him anymore, that was a huge red flag. He was always the victim. All of his exes seem to be a "crazy" or mad at him. I exited stage left, quickly.
I feel you. They also claim that all their "crazy" exes / friends with benefits want them back. They always try to create jealousy so you will feel the need to compete for their "time and affection."
My ex partner was like this. Always rubbing people up the wrong way and getting into fights with family members and friends due to 'their wrongdoings' . It wasn't until after I finally left (after all the abuse) that his family said about time and wished I'd left him sooner!
Sometimes we think, "Damn, they're really going through it." When really, they are IT.
😑🤣🤣🤣
He was the storm. He chose to be miserable despite my help. I realise now I was trying to find my value in trying to uplift him. No more. I cut ties with home because I deserve better.
He just described a NARCISSIST! They always play victim! Lure u innn, love bomb, use U, then ghost U! Leave u...
All Facts!
But I get it. Us empaths can fall for this easily. So we gotta be cautious and leery of falling into this trap. FR
Exactly
Some people just have really messed up / toxic families tho and they choose to stay away & out of the drama. They would rather be a lone wolf that roll like that.
True, if you feel the person is worth knowing then you have to dig deeper. Shoot I've seen narcissists come from supportive family and friends who they have been able to manipulate. These types of situation can be obvious like he was talking about or more complex.
@@humblewarrior7593 Exactly! There are families who support narcs.. I am an introverted woman but I have a VERY high self value and I know when to cut myself off from negativity. I do not want my future husband or soul mate having to go through this either. My inner peace and peace with my man is more important. But, I take care of my mama now. I'm old skool like that God Bless
I see this ALOT!
@@nokwandajobe1021 Yes, I think these days it is a lot more common. So, I never judge someone harshly for choosing to distance themselves from relatives. However, I do pay attention to how a man treats his mother... That will tell you everything. :)
@@aleshiabowman1639 Yeah true but I've known a sociopathic narcissist who treats women his dating like sh** but treats his mother/aunts/sisters like gold. He was very calculative and manipulative ; everything he did was for show/praise and his male friends spoke highly of him whereas his baby mama and girlfriend had different stories to share.
You cannot save someone who doesn’t want to be saved even if you throw them a life raft. These kind of people are true narcissists. One is the loneliest number when it’s them. A lot of times they walk alone.
THIS!
My soon-to-be ex-husband is exactly like this. He burned bridges with friends, family members, and employers. Even his own mother rarely contacts him. In the beginning, he said he didn't speak to his family because they are all selfish and only want to use him for his money. Now, he describes me the same way.
WOW!
He just wants to have the same expectations as he gives out im like that
He is always the victim
“Never eat lunch at a place called ‘Mom’s.’ Never play cards with a man called ‘ Pops.’ And never lie down with anyone who has more troubles than you do.”
I disagree with all three. What wisdom was supposed to be communicated in that particular saying? It seems, at first glance, to be in error on all three accounts.
Yup I just went through this in my last relationship and he was very good at making it seem like everyone was against him but extremely abusive and impulse driven there was definitely two sides of the story and I learned Alot about my giving the benefit of the doubt so yeh Run when told
I definitely have been there. This guy had health issues, and a whole nine yards of things. And everybody was wrong but him. Long story short, he became verbally and mentally draining. Mind you we were only dating 2 weeks 🤣🤣 I had to step..
😄😄😄😄 I hear you! 2 weeks and he laid all his burdens on you. Too much. Wish him better health and whatever. Take care😂😂😂
I really wish I would have heard this advice years ago. It would have saved me a lot of headache, trauma and heartache.
I wish I knew this earlier! No need to stand too close to the fire - you will get burned! Don’t try to fix someone just because you have a good heart.
One exception to this is if someone comes from a dysfunctional or toxic family.
Distancing oneself would be a great thing.
Amen! That is the only exception!
That is something that needs to be heard. Don’t drive yourself crazy trying to fix a grown person’s problems when they aren’t getting up making an effort to fix it themselves.
I’ve, also, told a couple people to seek therapy. I’m not out here to step in and take over where your mom left off.
Facts..Say that 🙏🏾
Wow Kev this is GREAT advice! your red flag series have been spot on.
You are a national treasure! Thank you for your advice!
But a lot of time their families will still deal with them. They will not tell you that their family member is not a good person to get involved with. I've experienced the grandmother of my daughter on her fathers side try to "explain away" his toxic behavior towards me. The relatives may not even talk to you that much, but will deal with them and turn a blind eye and say they don't want to "get involved" when you reach out to them about something bad that's going on in your relationship with their family member.
Something else to consider. A person with few people in their lives could be the result of bad family. If their family was terrible & trash &/or Narcissistic, it may not be their fault at all. A person who has few friends & family may have just learned to be very careful because they have been burned by Narcissists & their enablers too often.
Exactly that!
I’ve tried Iris. I didn’t like it. Too many guys who are in jail and who live outside of the US.
Wowww
Well, shyyyyt!!!! 😱
😳😳 wow!! I was considering joining iris!
Wow powerful concept about identifying people going through the storm vs being the storm.
This is facts! Dealing with a guy friend I knew for 20+ years. He triangulated his wife and I for years. This past year I found out his wife filed for a divorce. Long story short his mask started slipping and I found out he was a sociopath and a Narcissist. His wife just finally had enough! We’re not speaking anymore as of now
*ALL FACTS*
Those types of guys are always trying to play " Vigilante" to justify their bad behavior. They always threaten to end the relationship when they don't get what they want.
Kev, this is the one. Most important message I have heard you give and you've dropped a lot of knowledge. 💎💎💎
If you are having a hard time letting go of someone but your instincts tells you to let him go and walk away - THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE AND A LIFE CHANGING REALIZATION. If they burn bridges to people who naturally loves them like fam members but they don't get along is a huge red flag.
You are preaching today....preach
Upgrading is only done by one's ownself. No one can upgrade another just add to the quality that is already there. Kevin you are spot on. We women always trying to do what God won't do without permission, fixin folks.
My Ex....
The King Of Nobody Understands!!!
He ALWAYS has a hard luck story, never has any money, always needs a place to stay and can't figure out why none of his family and friends trust or want to be bothered with him anymore!
I now avoid him like the plague!
Ooowee. I knew someone like that some years ago. Never had any money. Lives in somebody else's house. Argues with his own mother and son because they were trying to help him. I wouldn't be surprised if that person were still going through some crazy stuff and making bad decisions.
This is so TRUE! I just got out of a situation with a guy who cussed out his parents and drank all day every single day. It was bad. Like really, really, really, really, REALLY bad, but I tried to help him and I ended up with a deficit.
We are blessed to have your straight talking advice. You're so right about a guy who doesn't have people around him. I realised after I moved 200 miles. I boxed up my stuff after a year and was gone. Takers have nothing and no one.
Ouch!!! Pastor used to always say if you can't say amen say ouch. Great advice and made that mistake before
Kev, I really appreciate you. Your videos have helped me so much to develop the intuition and see the quality of the man that I attract. I'm in a healthy relationship now but I still watch your videos every time they drop. Keep up the good work. The world needs your messages. 💖✨
Ladies, this is the TRUTH and why so many ladies (including myself) end up in bad relationships. LISTEN TO THIS AND LEARN!!!
This is one of your best Kev. Thank you so much for this 🙌
Hi Kev ...they always give you this sob story she cheated on me destroyed the car etc. I'm over it LOLsupersaveaho😤😢😂
Lol 😆
Could you do a video on younger ppl, like early 20s, who haven’t had much experience dating only like one long relationship? Should their goal be to just date around and learn how to date? It can feel like you only know how to zoom in on one person at a time and only know how to be in a relationship vs weighing options and until you find someone right for you. How do we combat that “relationship spirit” ? Lol
I would like to know too I am 21 myself
I would suggest as a young person you see a therapist and HEAL before you start dating. Once you're on a path to healing, you move through life differently. You can recognize toxic behaviors more quickly, you'll know who to avoid. Who to pursue, boundaries, standards etc. Don't be so quick to settle down with one person. Don't have a scarcity mindset. But HEAL FIRST. Best advice I can give as a woman in her mid thirties. 💕
Good question
Lol at credit score and exit interviews commentary. Gold as usual
Another dating red flag is a flirt. When he flirts with other women in front of you after you've told him that it bothers you is a callous man, it only gets worse. Flirting in front of me is the biggest disrespect. Speaking from experience flirting in front of your lady is a gateway for a broken heart.
They are the storm they are the wrecking ball they are the tornado 😂😂😂😂 I love this channel
I mean I’m a woman and my life is in shambles 😅 but I’ve cut a lot of people off but I was bullied and abused a lot . And I’m kind of a loner now lol but I always did my best to treat people correctly (I def can be too nice ) and eventually people wouldn’t give me the same energy back and I’d just cut them off . And for a long time I think I attracted ppl that reinforced my negative self concept and I’ve def been improving a lot by myself and def meet people worth my time (is it alot of people ? No but am I happier ? Yes.) I just wish I had more people around me but a part of me has like really intense anxiety bc I don’t fuck with human nature like that anymore lmao but I’ve been slowly but surely improving 🙂 and my life is slowly starting to get better
You have no idea how helpful this was for me.... This is so true... I knew this but when it's put out like this by someone else it's really helpful to accept the truth🙏👍.... Keep up the good work
This is very true...they will definitely play the victim. When questioned they will deflect snd flip. Trust instincts, you want a relationship not a project.
I agree 💯 percent with you. I dated a guy about ten years ago, who played the victim allll the time. He was a true narcissist, thought it was all about him and that people were stalking him everyday all day. I'm so glad that relationship didn't last.
The song “ So what” by Ciara exactly states the point he talks about when he talks about women trying to save the man.
For real?! This was so on point I wanna throw my shoe at you Kev😂 Much love...I have no idea how I went from knowing and living these rules to letting them go and getting overran by two men in their storms...Now I got PTSD and they still the same snitty azzes they were when I met them...I find peace in knowing I regrouped and this video serves as confirmation that I am still moving in the right direction.
I love your videos there is ZERO BS you keep it so real with us feels like an older brothers advice who loves us truly
You are like the big brother I needed !!! This one just hit me in my soul 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️thank God for this word.
here's one - they blame women for their own emotions, but also call women sensitive for accepting their own emotions. So a man who blames everyone else for why he's angry all the time, for example. But he's responsible for his feelings.
Projection and can drive you nuts if you don't recognize it...Good Point
Thanks Kev. Hit home🎯 🏠♥️. I'm grateful for you, your heart, and the blessings over your family.
I thought my ex was in a rough place in life too tried to help him out. He took me underwater with him and went off to live his best life. He’s in the same predicament I met him in 5 yrs later back living in his moms house etc
We can never force anyone to grow or to heal....
It's sad. I don't want to jump to conclusions, but I'm assuming he has unhealed childhood traumas.
That's only something they can repair, when they are ready.
Until then... People will be who they think they need to be.
Rather than who you know they are....
Men and women all have had rocky relationships.
Family/friends/romantic....
But not many take time to heal or reflect or grow.
It sucks being an empath.
Perfectly said.
I dated a guy who acted abusive. I ended it. As that drama was in process his closest male friend told me that he’d previously gone to jail for crippling his major life gf. Scary brush.
You dodged a bullet
Literally
Boy, oh, boy! Another reminder that I'd better keep my curtains closed! You've been peeking in on a woman who's had to get over her savior complex and move her life into a much better place. The guy I've mentioned in the comments on a few of your videos is the Poster Child for this. He couldn't handle being in a relationship with me because I'm "too healthy" and he couldn't tell if I was faking how I am so he was "on pins and needles all the time". I sometimes laugh about the ish that this guy tried to put me through and how unappreciative he is when he can barely tie his shoes alone. Well, I wished him well when he left and hope that he's grown up. I don't really care if it happens. I just know that he was exactly what the Universe ordered for me to get over trying to save people. He and two so-called friends, all left in the same year. I couldn't feel happier with zero drama in my life.
You ain't never lied!!!
In the words of K Michelle’s ‘Can’t Raise a Man’, ahem:
“If his momma couldn't do it what makes you think
You can train a boy to be a man, it's too late”
poor K’s got her issues, but if she wasn’t speaking the truth on this track 😭😭
Yes she was
True. She definitely got her issues...but she was most definitely speaking truth on that song. Facts!
Wow wow wow,such good content.💯 Accurate!
I’ve seen two guys online who do more moving from place to place, every three
Months. One is back with his family. The other goes where the wind blows him poor
Thing. He works hard but, nothing to call
his own. House, car, apartment etc. smh 🤦♀️
You are my guru! described everything I went thru. So ready for a new chapter. Thanks for guiding us thru this stuff Kev
Wow this lesson is 💯 ..yes people can pull you in to feel sad for them..you keep your eyes 👀 open. Early so you don't get hurt with there karma The universe knows ..You reap with you so..💯❤ Thank you Kev much needed lesson 🙏
My friend still stays with her stupid, toxic, abusive bf and he’s one of these people you’re describing. I’ve had to walk away because she keeps going back even though it’s been really bad and is starting to affect my life and mental health too. I’ve started to notice that she gets a kick out of being the victim with her friends to the point where she is now childish and takes takes takes but doesn’t give anything back. It’s all about her.
Today I walked away from her and her bullshit. I don’t want to turn into her, a victim and a martyr.
I had a first date yesterday with a man just like this. He felt controlled because someone said, “I challenge you to read XYZ book.”
I said, “Could she have been emphasizing she thinks the book is really good.”
Him: no. Not at all.
Me: how so?
Him: because of who she is and the political party she is.
🧐😳🙄
Crazeeeee...run girl
Don't even get me started on his mama...
She might pretend to care about me...
But she sees the pain he inflicts onto me.
She will be the first to blame HERSELF for HIS actions towards me....
Before she tells him that he is wrong.
She treated him that way as a child, but we all choose how we treat those we love.
Especially when we went through similar childhood traumas.... He CHOOSES to hurt ME.
...and no one else.
...regardless of how terribly they treated him his whole life.
This video is everything whewwwwwwwwww
His family kept his lies from me too.
This was all facts you speak truth I went through saving people to realising that they just took advantage and the best thing to do is walk away and give yourself self love 💯
I have been a victim of online scammer romance learned my lesson bigtime
Kev smart point about the fact that a man could be the actual "tornado".
I agree with u that you should build yourself first. Spending time to 'fix' him is only a waste of time and the more you sacrificed for him the more he is likely to leave you for a brand new woman with no baggage
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Kev, u official. We all needed to hear that. Thank you.
My brother been pulling this on women, I give them women one warning and then they on their own.
Kevvvvvvvvv you have blessed me tremendously with ALL your advice. God bless you man!!!
Wish I heard this earlier in my life ....never too late for good advice
Kev thanks for sharing this message it’s definitely on point
Kev, this is so on point. Your advice has been invaluable. Thank you
No patience for dating!
That’s wat 1st narcissist relationship will do. Avoid Dating
Its one thing to help someone, it's another thing to stand way too close to the 🔥 👏👏👏👏👏👏
Definitely needed to hear this one... Nice one...
omg my recent ex had no friends, and his sis didnt want to speak to him since a long time ago. AND YES, HE KEPT HAVING PROBLEMS WITH ME
What does it mean if a man on a first date tells you that " You are an investment" he clearly blurted that out.
I haven't watched Kevin's videos for years! He was spot on even back then and he's on fire now! 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
Amen!!! Great video. That's that real spill.
Iris ???!! That's sounds like my kind of place to check out thank you❣❣love your chanel 💗
All Facts 💯
This is the realest ever Kev…..🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
this vid had be saying yup every second, he speaks facts on facts. you’ve helped me sm with my confidence and independency, really appreciate you kev😁
It actually made me scared. 😔 What if I am the one with no family? I have only my mother and my sister and I wanna cut all contact with them, because my mother was always abusive and she was treating my sister better in many ways. How should I date then? There is part of me which don't wanna have family for this reason, family equals abuse I don't want anymore
This video is so on point!
You are so knowledgeable. Good going
My god this sums up my last relationship perfectly😔
Wise man and words of wisdom!!!
Started my self work around age 35ish, yea kinda late but I had noone to tell me things and so I had to learn the hard way! I've wasted so much time doing and being for everyone else and trying to get folks to love me . Not knowing I was and am enough!!! But that now I am 40 and kinda uninterested in doing or being anything other than for myself! Yes, I would love companionship, especially since my kids are now teens and wanting to do their own things! But I am exhausted , is this normal? 🤷🏾♀️Lol yes I am still doing the work but i am realizing just how FOS so many are!
That could quite possible be the best video I've ever seem of these natures. 👐
Awesome advice as always, Kev! Are you on Club House?
Learned so much ... from you kev
100% accurate Kev!
So so True!♥️
I have no one. While i talk to my family they aren’t very supportive. And i don’t have relationships with friends. I guess I’m toxic person. Although i haven’t done anything majorly to hurt them.
Ever since he came in my life everything was going crazy
Can you make a video about a man wanting to reconcile a relationship, what signs to look for that shows he has changed please 🤞🏾
This video is so good