things to do by yourself as an introvert
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One thing I love about being a true introvert is never getting bored - if you don’t like the company of others, you better like your own company 😅 I’m never short on things to do - granted, a full-time job, studies and housework ensure I don’t really have a chance to get bored 😂 I kind of want to try the pretending-to-be-someone-else bit though, it could be fun!
@Literal-Littoral you're a noobtrovert
I can totally relate. During the lockdowns I helped a lot of people that were lossing it because they are use to a lot of external stimulation and validation in order to function.
I one was heard it stated, “that boring people are boring”! I truly believe knowing yourself, cultivating your individual interest, and developing ways to remain productive (not the same as being busy) and creative are things each person that everyone can benefit from exercising in theses key areas!
@Literal-Littoral i just exist, in my own company, whatever I want to do I can do to keep myself entertained, it cannot get boring.
What about someone having no job?
@@tayluvofficial get a job
As a librarian I highly approve of your suggestion of going to the library!
Lol
My college library is little far away from my department block 🥲. It always consume time so even if I go to library I cn be there only for some minutes. 🥲🥲
That's why I rather stay in the classroom or Canteen but all alone ☺️☺️
As a p0rn-producer I highly recommend you to go and make some..
I will do it for a whole day in my next holiday in one and a half week. There are even some restaurants in the same building so I will miss nothing. I'm really looking forward to this day. :)
One of the benefits of being a true introvert is that you never get bored - if you don't enjoy the company of others, you should enjoy your own. I'm a bordering school student who is never bored - granted, I don't have much time to be bored - but I'd like to try some new things; it might be fun!
I’m very much an introvert, love my own company, never get bored and very much a home person. I do think people don’t understand how you can spend so much time on your own and do get friends that worry about me, bless them but I can’t explain to them enough that I’m ok. I won’t tell you my age as my age doesn’t go with my brain/mind age, inside I’m still young. I’ve put on my wish list for Christmas a Waterstones Voucher (I suffer from anxiety) so my goal in the New Year is to take myself to Waterstones (Plymouth, as I live in Devon). Spend hours in there looking at all the amazing books and to sit down alone in the cafe and read. I never get enough time in there as when I do go with a friend they get bored and don’t enjoy books as much as I do. There’s something about a book shop that makes me feel calm and amongst like minded people. You are such a grown up young lady and love your vlogs, never to old to watch. (I’m probably around your mums age) she should be very proud of you. You would make a great teacher as I love listening to you and learn things I wished I listened to at school. Never to late to learn eh! xxx
Working in retail has made me realise just how introverted i am... Looking forward to trying some of these on my time off 😅
Introverts make the world go round, discuss important philosophy and enjoy the joys of hobbies and goals. Not a bad thing
Researching something you are interested in and learning a new language or hobby such as embroidery in might also be fun ways to pass time as an introvert, especially when done with the few people you, as an introvert, choose to socialize with.
Great ideas! It just feels so validating to hear these things as an introvert myself. We need to recharge our batteries in our own company, but we so often feel some sort of guilt for not doing something else or doing things by ourselves. That is a mindset that has to change. It is also surprising how similar we introverts are, yet different in our own ways. I can see myself doing (and also already do) pretty much everything you mentioned in this video :)
Consider starting a commonplace book. It’s basically a book with all your knowledge but there are so many videos are on TH-cam I suggest you look up if you are interested as it’s loads of fun
the bliss of being on your own no small talk
wow, i'd really enjoying doing almost everything that you mentioned. it makes me so happy that more people are feeling like that because in my inner circle nobody would understand. They would think i'm weird.
On the street rambling point, I love the idea of The 'Flâneur' - the urban stroller, just observing and watching the busy city and urban structures bustling with activity, but not engaging yourself. Just watching...
Dear Ruby,
Thank you so much for your inspiring and peaceful content. I am also a writer (sadly I don't spend as much time writing as I want to) and I suddenly realized, that you would be a perfect main character for a book. So humble, so clever, so full of magic, but there is also a depth in your eyes, that knows the darker parts of life. I just wanted to complement your work and your charisma.
Greetings from Germany, Sarah
I do the pinterest one a lot! I always felt guilty about it, because it just feels like I'm wasting time on my phone, but it's nice to see it as an actual activity ☺
Ruby! That's Amazing! I'm so glad that you share with us these usefull advises. Thanks from Italy by an introvert 🍁❤️
You keep me really motivated whilst I’m in my third year of uni (Ngl I’m not enjoying it that much) your videos are such a boost and escape for me. Keep being you, gorgeous person xXx
in my opinion, the introverts (count me in too:)) are most likely to became an actor/actress because they usually (talking abt myself btw) dont like to be like theirselves. as an INFJ, i really dont like being in the mood of anxiety. its so bad and i cant help it to not be like that...(tried) like, sometimes when im alone in my room or any place doesnt matter. im starting to talk to myself or a mirror if there is one. and i play a witch that goes to hogwarts, or whatever i want. it helps me everytime. if you are an introvert, please try it out! bye:)
One thing i do is go to the movies in a day that usually people dont go and I sit at the back and just enjoy myself.
I saw fragments of that show you're watching on TikTok and it really IS hilarious! 🤣I would love to see the full episode!
Watch the christmas one! That's my favourite one haha!
Hi Ruby. You should watch Susan Cain's TED talk titled 'The Power of Introverts' It is really amazing.
The 2nd one if you do it quite often with just not creating your oc but also acting out random scenarios for them or create who knows different universes n sometimes recycle em (a lot of times in your life)
That becomes a mental disorder that I have and its pretty fun to have as an introvert- maladaptive daydreaming
The second one is interesting and a bit daring but if I did try, I think it will help me when I come up with characters. Because I'm always trying to find ways to make my characters more interesting and realistic.
Thanks so much for these ideas, I completely relate to finding social activities still fun but it definitely drains my energy! Thanks again!
I'm older than you are and currently don't have time to spend a whole afternoon reading, but I remember when I was single and I did, and it was always so wonderful to do that.
Hello Ruby, I love your videos! They make me feel soooo well and happy. You have a big fan in Brazil 🤎
I love your chair. Bet it's really comfy 👍
You’re such a main character and I love it.
Some fun ideas. Thanks for sharing.
I really enjoyed this video. It was so cozy and comfortable and the ideas are so unique. I can’t wait to try them out 💕 thank u
Very cool video! Btw love that autumn is one of your favourite seasons and can't wait to read your book... eek!
I love all of this!
That’s the best video by now❤
i'm so glad to know you, ruby, that i feel so much better when i listen to you❤️❤️
Beause I´m not good at writing characters, I had the idea of pretending to be Ruby sometimes^^ she´s smart, motivated, productive, very kind, and has a beautiful style^^
love this you have given me some really great ideas. I have also just started watching the Cunk On episodes and they are really good thanks for this recommendation. Your channel really inspires me
i swear i just took a test to find out if i was an introvert cause i wasn’t sure and it turns out i am and then i get the notification of this and aaaa it’s so perfect
introvertness is itself a life
The best resource I've ever seen on being an introvert is the book, "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking", by Susan Cain. I wish it had existed decades ago!
@@Yesica1993 i want to date you dear as an introvert
@@dandez3126 Yeah, right, you want to date a 50+ year old woman. Get lost.
@@Yesica1993 😂its ok i like old women but for talk
Simply, thank you🤗
I love #2! That sounds so fun and a bit like method acting.
That’s it. I’m about to hit up my local cemetery my next day off.
Dear Ruby Granger I just want to say thank you for your amazing videos and keep going🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you I benefited from the video. your follow-up from Iraq 🇮🇶
your videos are always so satisfying 💖
Some of these in already do but you have given me a few to try out. Love your videos
First one!!! Who else is?
I’m here :SD
me!
Me too
@@spiral32 yes i am here from future
me :3
Wow, thank you so much for this video!💕
New introvert Subscriber 😊💕☃️🎄🕊️🌞
In America, most of the graves are so new that there's barely any history behind them ha ha. Anyway, my Goodreads TBR and TH-cam "watch later" are so full that I'm set for life at this point...
I became a germ phob recently or a clean freak, anyway I will scrub the grout tiles for hours and I recently google searched the most dirtiest places so for anyone who wants to do something productive instead of staying on social media: clean the wall around your toilet, desinfect kitchen sink daily, desinfect laptop, remote, handles, switches, stove knobs, clean above kitchen cabinets, inside the fridge, faucets (the filter where the water comes from) use vinegar to clean it, bathtub spray with hydrogen peroxide and the inside of the toothbrush cup.
If I lived by my self this is what I would do 🫶🏽 I like my alone time
I love to study the real life evets/people that fiction books are based on.
Hello Ruby Granger,I'am From indonesia and also your new subscriber here and i love your vlogs recently and i want to watch it more..😊👋
Would you make A vlog with what the books Or the novel that you love to read and you would you make a lot of recommended those books to us that probably we will like to read it..!!📚🧡
I love your pumpkin mug
Lovely writing
Love this
Hello from Connecticut!
i never clicked this fast at a vedio exactly what i need
Was just about to skip through your sponsor read when I spotted Diane Morgan. A lot of that is up on youtube for free though lol
Virginia wolf is someone I would love to write about
These are terrific ideas. 😉
That show is amazing!!! XD
I want to try the pretending to be someone else. I would do a student doing research at library, easy. I'm not sure about the visiting the cemetery one., seems scary to me, because a ghost might follow me home. 😄 I might try it, do you bring flowers?
Do you not have to work ?
With In the first 45 min !
make a list of things to do for yourself when you don't have nothing to do or write in a diary or journal
Does anyone know the name of the song playing in the background 1:04?
“Hustle culture convinced us that it’s okay doing social things for leisure but not okay to do things by yourself”- wow this is so true!! I’ve never really thought about that before but that is such a great point!
So facts and it’s such a toxic mentality to force people to feel like they need to constantly hang out with others
Ruby, I don’t know what your future plans are but I could totally hear you doing a literary podcast (a mix academics, history, and your personal opinions on the text). You have a great voice! Some of you videos I will look at the first time and listen to the second time around!
Same here !! I'd love it ✨
do you have any recommendations of podcasts like this? ty:)
My mother always thinks because I mostly spend time alone that I’m depressed or I’m just moving around the house and honestly I just don’t mind being by myself, yes I go enjoy being around being other people but watching this video really helped me understand that being with yourself doesn’t mean you’re sad or isolated, it can be way of recharging and encouraging self love☺️
no fr cuz why are mothers like that smh
@@RED-my9hl FR my mom calls me nerdy just cuz im always reading books shes like why dont u watch tv? Also she gets mad when im always alone/by myself at home instead of socializing and stuff… like im sry if i like books more than ppl T_T
A thing I personally love doing by myself is thrift shopping! you find so many things by yourself because you aren’t distracted by other people you are with and you can spend as much time as you want to. I hope this helps someone.
Helps me! I've been wanting to thrift but have no one to go with. Perhaps I'll go on my own
Yeah I too love it. But, I'm an introvert living in the *2nd most populated country* in the world. Everytime I have to go out, it feels very hard.
Things to do as an introvert:
- whatever your interested in, do it alone - simple
Concerts, restaurants, reading, hiking - whatever. There is literally no rules.
No one wants to go to a concert, a restaurant or hiking alone.. It just maked you look like a complete zero. If you want to read alone then stay at home.
@@andersnielsen6044 Disagree
I get daunted if I have to go to family meals, get togethers, etc. I’m the quiet one in the corner.
I really enjoy being on my own, and thank you for these ideas.
My immediate family is small but holidays can be a little noisy for me. I've come to the realization that it's ok if I dont want to spend the whole time talking to everyone. Sometimes the conversations and laughter get loud, so I've learned to just quietly go to another room and read or look up something on my phone for a few minutes. Even just a couple minutes away can be a refresher and keep me in a good mood 😊
Me too -i love being with my family but I honsetly find it draining as well - especially as the rest of the family are social butterflies lol
Just keep in mind that some of those people have interesting stories - things they did when younger or maybe things they do now.
I’m also an introvert, but I do stop and think that there are many interesting people out there - and I can learn new things from them.
I think us introverts should start like a group because I'm really struggling to do things on my own I'm always at ho,e which i like but even when i want to go out i can't
One of my favourite things to do by myself is: TRAVEL. As far away and for as long as you like. I find you get much more out of it because of the following:
- no having to compromise to make someone else happy.
- no exhaustive decision making - you make ALL the decisions
-no having to wait on someone
- no one talking to you while you're trying to take in the sights and sounds of your surroundings.
- you are more acutely aware of EVERYTHING because you have to be in order to be safe, or not miss a connection or bus, etc.
I thought only terrorists and sexual abuser was travelling alone.
@@andersnielsen6044 what
Thank you, Ruby. A few other things that I enjoy doing, as an introvert, are gardening, spending time with my animals, bird watching, and knitting. =)
Sounds like such a cozy lifestyle i wish i had that😭
As an introvert I find being on my own replenishing, as being around other people is so exhausting for me. I especially like reading a good book for many hours in peace and quiet. But recently I’ve been trying to encourage myself to get outside and go public to places like cafes or parks while taking a book to read or some writing, that way I get to do what I like while also putting myself in a place where I might end up possibly being social and meeting other people. I like eating out for a treat even if it’s just me, going to a good movie or just relaxing at home watching TV, Netflix or watching an old favourite movie on dvd. Even though family gatherings are usually hard, I am now making an extra effort to try to connect and listen to others about their days, lives, stories or what’s coming up in the future, I guess it’s only the polite thing to do so.
Oh and yeah I want to tryout the act as a character for the day, but I live in a pretty small town and most people know each other here, so I don’t think I could get away with it lol 😆
I'm finding it difficult to do what you're doing 😔
I thought I was the only one who did that with graveyards! My mom is the only person who knows I do that. I love finding the oldest graves, wondering what the person's life was like, and trying to guess how they may have died.
Embodying a character out in public is honestly one of the most fun ways to spend time with yourself haha, thanks for the video!
I LOVE going to galleries on my own. I take a small notebook to art galleries and I record a stream of consciousness on each painting that takes my fancy.
My favourite activity on my own rn is Bird Watching. Good pair of binos, field guide and a notepad and that's a day out. I always take sandwiches and a flask of tea, and when you go on your own you always get into a good chat about birds with people! I think you'd like birding Ruby.
Anyway, coming back again to ask for a Vegan favourites series! Snacks, meals, sandwiches. That sort of thing. I'm trying to eat more plant based and would love an insight into your faves.
I'm a n introvert and during the summer holidays at the end of August, I got into the twilight saga and other books like them and would hide in my room for three hours or more just reading. Reading really helped me because I was not mentally there to do anything else and was struggling so much. Thanks for another amazing video Ruby!
Try reading Midnight Sun + Life and Death, if you have read the main series and finished them. I really liked how the author mixed things up.
@@Rinzler.14 I'll look into it thanks for the suggestion!
Being an introvert, I've noticed even now that I'm married I still love my alone time. I feel like it's something I need. Not always ofc, but I much prefer being alone than spending a long time with our large family. Even when I visit my family, I find my brain saying 'okay its time to go' after a few minutes
I’m currently reading “Fahrenheit 451,” and a major aspect of that society is that only social activities are acceptable as leisure time. If you’re doing anything alone, it would need to be sitting in an interactive TV parlor or driving at dangerous speeds on the highway. Only high energy/adrenaline activities, which are anathema to introverts. This is also an important aspect of other dystopias: “Brave New World”, “1984.” Being alone with your thoughts or someone else’s thoughts by reading are “anti-social” behaviors. I worry about the anti-intellectualism I see in conservative politics, particularly in the US, but also around the world. Hopefully, as long as we have introverts, we won’t lose our collective mind as a society.
You can also:
1. Paint your nails, with watching a show,
or listen to audio book, and enjoy those 30min
2. Write a poem, I know silly right. But just open a notes app an write your feeling in lyrics. I promise you, you'll love it
3. If you can, do online shopping, or just browse, make plan for presents for different occasions
I rarely comment anything on internet but thanks ruby for this video. these ideas are really unique and as someone who is currently struggling with depression it's really nice to have idea of new things to try.
It's a big world. Always go somewhere very public like a city and explore a shop or mall with something that interests you and see all the other people in the world outside of our bubbles. Bad times always end even when they seem like they don't :)
I know because I've gone through it. Sometimes depression is just our mind's way of telling us were not living out our purpose or potential
Yes. Address the cause. Go out into the world
I wouldn't say unique lmao
@@RED-my9hl your moms ayy nuss is unique
This will sound very silly but I am a huge Derry Girls fan (Irish series on Netflix). I have to bike half an hour to university and whenever I am on my bike, I feel like I am one of the Derry Girls myself and say really weird things in the Irish accent on the bike about just anything, just to make the bike ride more fun…. hahaha
Being alone for a while is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people anymore. ~ Tom Hardy
I feel so rejuvenated with your ideas! I especially love the library and your idea of choosing a random number and finding the book is delightful!
2:01 It is very fun! It’s been a habit of mine for so long to make up my own characters and personas and embody them throughout my day! Keeps me entertained beyond bounds. I have favourites now and one of those characters has been with me ever since I was 11. There are certain people who called me ‘unstable’ when they found out, but I do not agree with them, because to me this in itself is expression and exploration, all the possibilities of what I can be. It’s liberating, mind-freeing, and I find self exploration to be very entertaining when practiced this way.
This is such a good and helpful video for me because of my severe autism. I hate people. I want to live in the middle of nowhere and only see 1 or 2 people daily lol. So I’m so excited about this video!!!!!
Absolutely love these ideas! They are so unique, I'm definitely going to try some. Thank you Ruby for the inspiration! Hope you have a lovely week. 🧡
readathons and movie marathons (specially themed ones, with snacks, outfits and even a little Instagram photoshoot matching the theme) are also always fun!! also listening to albums (your favorites or some that you’re not familiar with yet) without skipping or picking what song to listen to, just pressing play and paying attention and then journaling about it (ranking the songs)
I don't need anyone for my happiness 😊. The most beautiful thing being an introvert ☺️
I absolutely love this video! My favourite thing to do is become a different character! Love this idea and its so great to spark the imagination! I love how relaxed you are in this video. Bravo!
Same! I also make Pinterest boards and Spotify playlists for it too (and sometimes I pretend to be fictional characters I love especially when doing school work) oh and sometimes I become the characters I’ve designed for books if I need inspo and stuff
introvert: someone who enjoys their own company & close friends company rather than big crowds
I just watched this in Australia! I love the idea of doing a movie night, make bookmarks (I am an artist so I usually paint them), and Pinterest! I'm crazy about Pinterest! I have many boards, particicularly crochet, easy painting, card-making, etc. Great idea for a video! Thanks Ruby xxxx
Omg…. I always thought I was really weird for pretending to be a character when I’m alone. And I don’t just think about it I go into full on acting mode. I think it’s really cool that people do this too lol
I'm actually extremely extroverted however I'm trying to learn to enjoy my own company as a self improvement thing and this was rather helpful. Thank you :)
Your idea is very attractive. Also, we can easily incorporate these ideas into our daily lives. Can't wait to wake up tomorrow morning!
I really enjoyed this video. It was also really helpful
You forget to mention Praying, or you never intended to. Whatever it's the best activity to do alone as an introvert, connecting me and God, in such a beautiful act.
Oh man! I pretend to be my comfort characters all the time, or either they're married to me. I love it and it's such a great thing for writing something, or simply daydreaming. And the best part is the problem solving part. By pretending to be one of my babes, I can see the problem that are bothering me in another prospective, or simply I write them letters, or again I'm me and they're by my side listening. The best part is when we just chill, just looking at how the rain falls, at how the sun goes down and leaves the place to a cozy winter evening ... oh man if I adore those moments!
Nature walks scare me, if I go alone. I'm in one of the safest countries in the world, but I still feel like I'm going to get abducted or robbed if I find myself completely alone outside. But other than that, I never have trouble finding things to do on my own, but I do have trouble finding things to do with others, especially because my friends tend to be a lot more extroverted and tend to be more into technology, sports, trendy things...