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My friend dated a guy. She asked a lot of questions, as you are recommending The guy ghosted her after 4 dates. Later she ran into him on the street. He said all the dates with her felt like interviews. He was a really great guy too. Emotionally available, respectful. I wonder if these questions scare off the good men too sometimes.
Yes. Early dates should be fun and maybe mildly flirty. Not a job interview. Men associate many questions with a job interview, because this is what a job interview involves. I always liked going to 1st and 2nd dates, and so on with the attitude of just having a nice time. There is plenty of time later for questions. Don't scare away a prospective good match away before having a chance to know one another 😊
Hello? Nobody said those questions should be on the first dates! First u need to establish that the person wants to get to know you better! If thats there, then you can slowly do this. I remember meeting a guy for a walk in the park for first time and he turned and asked me what i am looking for in a relationship. I mean i didnt know him for 15m and it scared me pushed me away it was as if he was up to an agenda. First goes: who are you Then: what do you want in general After that and more dates: what do you want from me?
Jonathon, I just got back from a meet and greet with a gentleman I met on POF. He couldn’t keep his hands to himself. I explained to him that I was uncomfortable with this because I didn’t know him and would be more comfortable after we got to know each other better. When he asked how long that would take, I said about eight dates. He got up and left. . . Wow ! He didn’t want to put in and time to get to know me and know each other ! I was like, you are so right ! If you don’t want to put on the time to get to know me first, good-by. . . Thank you. For giving me back my self respect !😊
I am a 54 yr old woman, never been married single mother. I am truly starting to feel like every time I try to date it blows up in my face, I'm so scared that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.
Don’t be scared. Fear promotes your reality and others can sense it. Please make peace within yourself whether you are with someone or not. You are never alone. May you be blessed with all your heart desires.
The other day, my sister got mad at me for something very tiny and she stayed mad for way too long. I felt like the punishment didn’t fit the crime. When I finally got to the bottom of things, she was carrying a wound that was unhealed and she had a Band-Aid on it and when I bumped into her, the Band-Aid fell off and she started to gush all over me. I’m saying that to say this, are you wearing Band-Aids instead of healing your wounds? And then when you’re triggered, you’re bleeding all over them.
When you meet a shark in the dating pool swim away! Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future-Sam Vaknin podcast. In this world verify everything. Fact check.Discernment. A background check is essential. Common sense first. Trust requires proof. Free of the deal breakers.
For all the people here telling her she needs to be comfortable alone - she’s 54 she’s not 18 she’s clearly comfortable being alone otherwise she would have just married any one. Dating at 54 is very hard I hear you … I found great resources in Calling in the One and love and sex anonymous- there is something called anorexia and it helped me get to the bottom of some core beliefs and why I was alone.
The first man I was with 15 yrs, was slamming dope and hid his dirty needle in my kids sock drawer, didn't need to look at the 3 fingers looking at me! Next was 17 yrs and he cheated, again no need to look at the 3 fingers looking at me! Jonathan, sometimes you don't need to look at the finger pointing at you, sometimes it's just time to go! BIG BIG HUGGS 🫂 My brother😊
What we focus on, we get more of. Focusing on what we want to move towards (green flags) rather than what we want to move away from (red flags) will certainly offer different results.
Wow! Maybe dating should be regulated by peer review. The potential couple should submit their dossiers 6 months in advance to jury of 12 peers. Interviews will follow. A stark room will suffice & must contain a swinging lamp that can be shone directly in the eyes of the candidate to keep him/her honest whenever necessary. A rendered formal opinion will be sent to each candidate. After a complete review & round of secondary questioning if necessary, the candidates may then actually meet at their own risk, of course! Celibacy anyone?!!!
Wish you could have taught these ladies and men when they were in school. There are so many ladies out there who have such unpleasant experiences. That they believe all men are like that. They struggle so much to trust men. I don't think this only applies to ladies with a bad upbringing. Glad I live in a small town, so I don't need Dating apps. Remember! There is a difference between a naive man and a good man
Jonathon, my husband let's me have a man servant, but I don't feel comfortable with the one I found. The man keeps asking me, if I'm really married. He even asked me to lend him $1,500 or to get my husband to lend him the money. So, I need to figure out a lot for midlife mastery! Who can give me accurate and precise home and marital advice??? I need someone with intense critical skills! This a whole new world for me!! Time is passing us by too fast!!! We need to act now, now, now!!!
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My friend dated a guy. She asked a lot of questions, as you are recommending
The guy ghosted her after 4 dates. Later she ran into him on the street. He said all the dates with her felt like interviews. He was a really great guy too. Emotionally available, respectful. I wonder if these questions scare off the good men too sometimes.
Yes. Early dates should be fun and maybe mildly flirty. Not a job interview. Men associate many questions with a job interview, because this is what a job interview involves. I always liked going to 1st and 2nd dates, and so on with the attitude of just having a nice time. There is plenty of time later for questions. Don't scare away a prospective good match away before having a chance to know one another 😊
Hello? Nobody said those questions should be on the first dates! First u need to establish that the person wants to get to know you better! If thats there, then you can slowly do this.
I remember meeting a guy for a walk in the park for first time and he turned and asked me what i am looking for in a relationship.
I mean i didnt know him for 15m and it scared me pushed me away it was as if he was up to an agenda.
First goes: who are you
Then: what do you want in general
After that and more dates: what do you want from me?
Jonathon, I just got back from a meet and greet with a gentleman
I met on POF. He couldn’t keep his hands to himself.
I explained to him that I was uncomfortable with this because I didn’t
know him and would be more comfortable after we got to know each other better.
When he asked how long that would take, I said about eight dates.
He got up and left. . .
Wow !
He didn’t want to put in and time to get to know me and know
each other !
I was like, you are so right !
If you don’t want to put on the time to get to know me first,
good-by. . .
Thank you. For giving me back my self respect !😊
Well done...
I am a 54 yr old woman, never been married single mother. I am truly starting to feel like every time I try to date it blows up in my face, I'm so scared that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.
Don’t be scared. Fear promotes your reality and others can sense it. Please make peace within yourself whether you are with someone or not. You are never alone. May you be blessed with all your heart desires.
The other day, my sister got mad at me for something very tiny and she stayed mad for way too long. I felt like the punishment didn’t fit the crime. When I finally got to the bottom of things, she was carrying a wound that was unhealed and she had a Band-Aid on it and when I bumped into her, the Band-Aid fell off and she started to gush all over me. I’m saying that to say this, are you wearing Band-Aids instead of healing your wounds? And then when you’re triggered, you’re bleeding all over them.
When you meet a shark in the dating pool swim away!
Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future-Sam Vaknin podcast.
In this world verify everything. Fact check.Discernment. A background check is essential. Common sense first. Trust requires proof. Free of the deal breakers.
@@sumbodyreal Well said.
For all the people here telling her she needs to be comfortable alone - she’s 54 she’s not 18 she’s clearly comfortable being alone otherwise she would have just married any one.
Dating at 54 is very hard I hear you … I found great resources in Calling in the One and love and sex anonymous- there is something called anorexia and it helped me get to the bottom of some core beliefs and why I was alone.
Hugs to all and have a wonderful week!!!
Same to you
I LOVE this Jonathon! Most are doing it backwards. What a great concept
Exactly
The first man I was with 15 yrs, was slamming dope and hid his dirty needle in my kids sock drawer, didn't need to look at the 3 fingers looking at me! Next was 17 yrs and he cheated, again no need to look at the 3 fingers looking at me! Jonathan, sometimes you don't need to look at the finger pointing at you, sometimes it's just time to go!
BIG BIG HUGGS 🫂 My brother😊
Indeed. Safety first. I'm glad to hear you survived that relationship! 🖐️
What we focus on, we get more of. Focusing on what we want to move towards (green flags) rather than what we want to move away from (red flags) will certainly offer different results.
Wow! Maybe dating should be regulated by peer review. The potential couple should submit their dossiers 6 months in advance to jury of 12 peers. Interviews will follow. A stark room will suffice & must contain a swinging lamp that can be shone directly in the eyes of the candidate to keep him/her honest whenever necessary. A rendered formal opinion will be sent to each candidate. After a complete review & round of secondary questioning if necessary, the candidates may then actually meet at their own risk, of course! Celibacy anyone?!!!
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Damn. Well said Mariad!
@@livinglargecoachingcounseling TY ❤️ For me it is as ee cummings stated it in "since feeling is first." For some it's between the ears, I guess. You?
I'm amazed at the simplicity of the message! Ask questions - love yourself - deal with your past. Challenging but simple (not easy!)... Thx
Exactly
Wish you could have taught these ladies and men when they were in school. There are so many ladies out there who have such unpleasant experiences. That they believe all men are like that. They struggle so much to trust men. I don't think this only applies to ladies with a bad upbringing. Glad I live in a small town, so I don't need Dating apps. Remember! There is a difference between a naive man and a good man
Me too, but I had to learn the hard way just like everyone else 🤪
Yes. Trust requires proof.
I just ordered your book! 😊 Excited to read it!
Hope you enjoy it!
I have to agree it takes a lot of courage for a man to be valnerable!
I've had to learn it for myself.
Jonathon, my husband let's me have a man servant, but I don't feel comfortable with the one I found. The man keeps asking me, if I'm really married. He even asked me to lend him $1,500 or to get my husband to lend him the money. So, I need to figure out a lot for midlife mastery! Who can give me accurate and precise home and marital advice??? I need someone with intense critical skills! This a whole new world for me!!
Time is passing us by too fast!!! We need to act now, now, now!!!
Thanks again, for the great work! Have a great Sunday, Jonathon!
Thanks, you too!
Enjoy the Green Flag
“Live” …. Enjoy your
Sunday 🤩💯
Thanks ☺️
Excellent information. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
My daughter uses an interesting phrase; pink flags!
I like that...
Hi Jonathan. Any chance you can have a meet and greet so we all get to meet you in person...a chance to purchase a signed/autographed book...and meet others tuned into your channel?
Jonathon has suggested he will do seminars if certain expenses are paid.