She was Murdered by her Obsessed Stalker Ex | The Devastating Case of Clare Bernal
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- Harvey Nichols beauty consultant Clare Bernal had briefly dated store security guard Michael Pech, but after months of stalking, he took her life.
Every week in the UK two people die at the hands of their stalkers. A toxic cocktail of obsession, jealousy and violence makes stalking one of the most sinister and deadly crimes.
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My ex husband would stalk me and harrass me when I divorced him..I went to court and put a restraining order on him because he jumped the fence from my home and was watching me sleep through my window..I would go to the store and there he was..He also spray painted "I love you" on my driveway..I had enough..so I got my gun license and purchased a gun..and I moved to a different city..So far he hasn't been able to locate me..and I pray he never does..If he does find me I'm ready..Since I carry my gun on me at all times..So please men and women do not wait for things to get better or for your stalker to suddenly stop..because it will only get worse ..if you don't take action to protect yourself you could end up like this young lady...You can't count on Police to protect you..Until you end up dead is when Police take action
Wow!! May God continue to protect and shield you. Stay safe
@@Sigma2HisAlpha Thank you
Keep that gun on you all times and know how to use it........your life is important
@@bobbyswain7049 Yes I carry it on me always..I went to a shooting range to learn..Thank you for your comment
I’m happy you got away. ❤️It’s crazy the lengths they go to. I had to buy a gun too but I’m still scared. I won’t have any real peace until he dies.
Making stalking a criminal offense is not enough.
Stalkers should be bracelet cuffed, with a GPS transmitter, restricting them out of town.
Long before the stalker reaches his victim, he would be arrested.
The Same should be done with sexual offenders.
The age of social media, is a haven for potential stalkers and sexual offenders.
They don't even have to meet their victim, they can select their victim. They can gather personal information, victim's habits, and many other factors, right out of social media.
Agreed. Once a stalker, always a stalker. You can drive out nature with a pitchfork, but... They are the ones who should be stalked... by the police 24/7.
Unfortunately, liberal leaders continue to view this as mental illness first and danger second. They continue to push more lax laws on these monsters. Evil cannot be cured.
@@kate_m_k88 The mental health related issues that these people experience, is that they have an ego... that they think they are above the law, that it is ok to control someone, and if not verbally, then physically. The fact that these people have not been held responsible for their actions in the past... they have not been told no by mommy and daddy. That's the reality. If you have had a child murdered, if you have experienced the terror of being stalked as I have, they are a completely people than an emotionally disturbed person being aggressive, with mental health issues, whom you speak of. These stalkers and murderers are calculating. They do not need to be kept safe and secure as you put it. When you speak of EDPs, those are the people who do not have a plan, they do have a chemical imbalance, an alternate reality that they live, and yes it can be scary for them, and thus, yes, they need help in a safe and secure environment... but that is not the same as some jackass who can't accept that a girl doesn't want him, and so she has to die so that no one else can have her. Your stance is valid, but for the wrong argument.
People would be surprised to no how many are Really like this ...
The thing is, is that someone needs tomorrow it or the GPS device 24/7. That hasn’t happened and in fact some violent offenders committed murder while supposedly being monitored.
I am literally so sick and tired of hearing this exact story over and over all around the world and nothing absolutely nothing changes for women...
They do play out like the stories are almost scripted! It’s hard to watch knowing what is to come. It like watching a horror movie and the girl is running towards the danger in slow motion! There needs to be a specific “stalker unit” at every police station that is able to assess the situation with a questionnaire that tally’s up points per actions, if the stalkers actions score high enough he is picked up IMMEDIATELY!
I feel the same, every true crime story is an entitled controlling guy escalating aggression eventually murdering a girl. 6 women every hour die at the hands of a man and over 50% of those are cases are a man she knows.
Be fair now, yes most stalkers are men, but there are also deadly women stalkers too!!!
There are plenty of men being stalked and murdered also. And it is just as dangerous when they are. I can't imagine the fear in a stalking situation. Like you can't be yourself, be FREE, because someone is controlling your ability to move about in your autonomous right to do so. Very sad. Be careful out there people.
@@melaniemunro6696 Men die too. Killed by the angry aggression of stalking women. There are sickos on both sides of the gender scale.
What make me sooo mad is that the family or friends say "We never thought they would follow through on the threats." This is the most saddest mistake ever. Take those threats seriouslllly!!
Thank you .
1000%. How many billions of times must we be told?!!!
She should have taken them serious, it was her responsibility
It was only her responsibility to initially report him but she never did
"You're not only my daughter, you're my best friend."
That hurt to hear. Her poor, darling mother...she's so strong for being able to tell Clare's story. I admire her.
Her own mother failed her with her cowardice.
@@yeetnama9094 How do you make sense of that? How is this her mother’s doing? Smh Jesus!!!
@@yeetnama9094 so says the loser hiding behind anonymity 🙄
@@yeetnama9094 that’s my auntie, you don’t know her, so kindly do one you horrible person
@@melixzacdon’t feed the troll
*The NO Test:*
The best test of an abuser is to say "no". Depending on how they react, you'll get your answer. If they respect your "no", that's good. If they get angry, pout, guilt trip you or shame you.... *RUN!*
This is serious.
Thank you:) I'll use this when I date someone.
Yep. Been there. That's should've been a sign for me but I ignored it.
Wow... that is such a great tip! WOWOOOWWWW!!!!!! And.. also .. any sign of violence or talking about violence.. RUN!
Yes, as my abuser once admitted to me that when I said no I'm not comfortable with that. He heard challenge accepted to change my mind. ????
What a werido
Doesn’t always work, the best abusers can hide and put on a show pretending to respect your “no” and when you least expect it”BAM!” They will get you back!
Stalking needs to be aggressively punished and the perpetrators given mandatory long term counseling/supervision as it so often ends in violence and death to the victims of stalkers.
So true! Here in Alaska I experienced that breaking a restraining order , the abuser didn’t even get jail time! Alaska has the highest rate of sexual assault/abuse. The system cares LESS! If the predator is a stranger then they take it more serious, but if it was from someone that used to have a relationship woth then they don’t take it serious! Sexual abuse of a minor or breaking restraining orders with abuse has less punishment then writing bad checks, or theft with money over $ a certain amount. so that this tells victims & predators -that money/monetary items are more important than a life.. F’ing system is so backwards! I promise a predator of children gets less time then a bank robber if both found guilty!
So true. Evidence shows that they just get more and more aggressive as time goes on. It's so ridiculous. You hear time and time again of people going to the police multiple times and they do nothing and then that person is dead. Wow!?!?! I wonder who could have done that? It's so sad. These people need to be put through the ringer
They talked about her as though she was some sort of Miss Venezuela...
exactly. and restraining orders need to be easier to get... even tho most the time they don't even work tbh
@@Southamericangirl42 in their eyes she was- so after you watched this tragic story- thats on your mind??
Don't say that he was "head over heels" or "infatuated." He was obsessed and crazy not in love. You make him sound like some heartbroken bloke but he was a monster.
Quite right.
When someone is head over heels or infatuated, they wanna learn about you, spend time with you.
That's a fault of norepinephrine
Exactly!
It's all about control
Poor girl. What is really frightening here is, that even though police had been involved, yet, there was no real protection carried out, that would have saved her life. Devastating.
What do you mean by "real protection"? What could have Police done? Give 24*7 security to Clare?
The fact that he asked a co worker what a sentence for murder was... is very telling.
She was so badly let down, he should never have been able to walk free after breaking his bail conditions before the trial. This could so easily have been avoided, rest in peace Claire 😔
That's what I am saying! Doesn't make any sense! They arrested him for breaking his first release on bail conditions and released him again on bail??
This is the part I cannot comprehend!
She would be alive!!
They don't take it serious, because they are 'just women'.
Girls have to becarefull men fall in love .
At times like this you realize where exactly everyone's judicial system is really messed up. Why wouldn't someone take a psycho's words seroously.. Hello they are sick in their own crazy world and they are only thinking about their own needs and wants . So why wouldn't they let you know that they will take care of you if your against them ...
@@robertasliutas2903 the government was just after the money...bail him each time to go back to stalking her till he killed her...
One thing I'll NEVER understand is, WHYYYYYY in these situations do these crazy ass people continue to get bail??? I've been in this situation myself and the same thing happened..I had the dude arrested repeatedly and he got out on bail every damn time 🤬🤬🤬
Because the law in the UK at that time allowed for it is my guess.
Because unfortunately we live in a society where we are hugging criminals. It's so weird
Take extra precautions, it's so scary 😨
Because we live in a world now full of bleeding heart dumbasses.
They always give men the benefit of the doubt.
He's charged with threatening to kill Clare and then he's released on bail, well that makes a whole lot of sense.
No kidding. Crime and punishment seems to be lopsided these days with credit card fraudsters and the like getting 15 years in prison over $80k, and rapists and murderers getting 2 years and probation. It's so twisted!
Thank you... the police should have alerted the victim, family and given them witness protection, a refuge or a safe house. This is part of the fundamentals of public safety and policing.
@@randyrawdingii5135 THEY HAVE THEIR PRIORITIES SCREWED UP. IT SHOULD HAPPEN TO THEM TO FEEL THE PAIN.
i blame the cops and justice system. its their fault she died as they didnt do enough
Another let down by the Met!!!
All forms of stalking, including gangstalking (which is often ignored in these discussions), need to be aggressively punished.
Gang stalking is mental illness. It’s not real
I cried at the sheer bravery of the mother. She has turned pain into power 👏
A hero.
Women having power is the reason women end up like this women that died
My second husband used to sit in his car and wait for me in front of where I worked. Basically, wherever I went he sat in his car watching to make sure I didn't leave. At home he threw his dinner at me if he didn't like it. He had serious road rage, and he'd scream, or drive right up the car's bumper. When he went into the hospital for surgery I was forbidden to leave, so I slept on the radiology floor.
I kicked him out of the house, and he still followed me everywhere.
I just up and poofed to another state. I closed all my bank accounts, and instead of taking a bus or train I hitchhiked to another state. I never saw him again. But I was absolutely terrified of him.
Those are people that can't regulate their emotions. Im so glad you safe and ok
Wow, you are so brave, Rachel! Glad you escaped. 💪
Wow that’s scary. I’m glad you got away.
Congratulations. You understood the situation and resolved it effectively. The police or judiciary could never have done it so well.
Thank God you took drastic measures to survive. That's what has to happen in these situations unfortunately.
The fact that he walked into a department store unseen with a loaded gun is despicable. He should NEVER have been allowed to walk free once convicted and awaiting sentencing. Are you fucking serious?
What's really scary is that, this is happening.... Somewhere, someone is being stalked and threatened... Somewhere out there, someone is running for their lives....
One night I was running from a guy who wanted to kill me,it was such a surreal experience
Report get it on record. GUN. !!!!
Very common in Brazil unfortunately
Keep mace and a switch blade on you.
I always think that when I watch any of these crime shows!
I had a stalked in college. I had doubt that the women’s center would be able to help me, but they were AMAZING. They listened to my entire story without cutting me off, they informed me about stalking and its patterns and what my options were. They immediately brought him in and threatened to expel him if he didn’t leave me alone. They informed me that at this point there is a 50% chance it will end and a 50% chance it will get worse. I was lucky that he ended it
i'm so sorry that you had to experience any of that. i'm glad that it ended and that you're safe xx 💜
I'm sorry I did that back then. Whats your number maybe we can talk about it? Meet for coffee! Lol. Just kidding and I'm glad you are okay. Men like this make me sick
I’m really disappointed in how little our women and children are being protected. It’s really sad.
To be fair there's only so much the law can do. If someone wants to kill you they'll do it.
Well stop dating dangerous man
@@traditionalsoldier3639 That's exactly what killed her. The fact that she put an end to it. geeezzzz
@@traditionalsoldier3639🤣😂🤭
@tantalize5795 you think that's funny????? You're sick. You're probably one of these men
Watching shows like this makes it clear to me just how lucky I am to be alive and have gotten away from my stalker. May Clare rest easy.
I hope you are OK now
Glad you are still here ❤💜🤎
Same but I still live in fear 12 years later unfortunately.
@@refugeofthoughts8870
I hope you will be ok
❤
SAME!!!
These shows prove to me that women are stronger than men, in general. And so are you!
My heart bleeds for the mother. What a beautiful, strong woman. I’m glad she got those last moments in Italy, how devastating for a mother to lose their daughter and best friend.
The fact this was allowed to happen is sickening, the pitiful little boy who didn't get his own way should have been kicked out of the country long before he was given the access he required to carry out his threat.
At no point was that girl ever given the protection she so clearly needed, he was the one who it appeared had the protection, Clare was failed so completely it's an embarrassment.........
I'm staggered that he wasn't deported before this happened.
Don't get involved with a man who uses cocaine.
@@maggiesfarm7970 Unless you happen to be a cocaine dealer.......... You can't generalise, not every bloke who does a bit of blow, is bad news. That's just ridiculous, drugs didn't make this guy the sad act he was, I refuse to allow them to take the rap....
Anyway, hopefully by now, most women recognise the behaviour that these sort of blokes exhibit. And get the hell out when they do!!!!!!
When it's over, it's over!
I've never found that one hard to grasp, when she says, 'you're a lovely guy but I don't think we're right for each other', or whatever line she chooses.
I've heard most of them, + they don't always include the bit about being 'a lovely guy'.......... I'll admit, the final ruling has, on occasion, been a long way from 'a lovely guy'........ a country bloody mile away!!!!!!!
You have to deal with it, getting dumped isn't fun, in fact, being the one who does the dumping, also isn't fun, I don't know which is worse?...?....
I hate being the cause of tears + misery, + then there's the times when instead of that, you get the rage!!!!!!!
You're a total bastard for ending it, even when you've done everything possible to make it as painless as you can humanly manage......
Whatever you do, you don't do what this bloke did. Hindsight is 20:20 but the signs were there, as I said, I really hope sisters know the tell-tale signs of controlling, obsessive type weirdness + nothing like this case will happen again any time soon.
A final word to my fellow man, before I go......... We all love + lose, + when things don't work out, keep your head held high + keep on keeping on.
You then, which hardly needs saying, do what men have always done when facing the dark shadow of rejection......
You go out + get completely bloody sloshed. That's what real men do, probably always have, + until the day when love runs smoothly, they probably always will............
@@sihammer7942 the thing is, Claire DID NOTICE the signs three weeks after getting to know him and she broke it off. That didn’t stop him from stalking, harassing and eventually killing her.
You can tell women to watch out for these signs all you want, but that will never stop a psycho from doing what he does - and it just comes off as victim blaming
@@MM-we4no Fair point, did I sound as if I was blaming Clare?
Dam! I absolutely wasn't + I'm sorry if anyone thought I was. It's blokes that can't deal with getting dumped, that I hate + they're ALWAYS to blame in these cases.
It seems that laws are failing to protect women from these sad acts that can't handle rejection.
And again, if anyone thought I was blaming the victim, I apologise, but I wasn't....... In fact, now that I've just read what I wrote, if that came across as victim blaming I would question your comprehension + ability to correctly interpret what you read. I clearly stated, Clare was failed + didn't get the protection she needed.
Victim blaming?
109 people agreed with what I said.
1 person said I was blaming the victim.
I rest my case.
PLEASE keep doing this series!
More people need to know about the dangers of stalking and work to amend the laws that carry stricter punishments for this sh*t.
I was stalked for 2 years and finally I hired a private investigator and won my case. But the feeling of no help and I had to do it on my own is upsetting. You have to give up your life to protect yourself and others until they are locked away.
(( hug ))
😢😢...or if your deceased!
There is one thing to try if this happens to you: practice being unattractive. Think about it.
You can put on an act of not being desirable. There are ways. Make it seem like you aren't special. Claim you once had cancer and can't have children. Claim you are torn between liking men and women. Use your imagination. STOP feeling you need to be sincere. Pretend that "now I'm telling you the truth." Then lie. The point is to make him think he dropped you of his own volition. Make him think it was his idea to break up.
sadly I relate 100%.. 8 years of it.. your words you have to give up your life to protect yourself and others. Exactly
@@CodeE558 sorry to hear this happened to you as well.
we need to put stalkers in prison. the first time they get near someone again after a non contact order they need to be locked up, and for long. What good does it do if a woman goes to the police? our laws don't care until it's too late.
The system failed Claire so badly. There were so many chances to stop him, and he slipped through the cracks and it cost Claire her life. How absolutely sad... How would she know 3 dates with a random guy would turn out like it did. So absolutely heartbreaking. RIP Claire 🕊
It’s almost impossible to stop somebody psychopathic, dead set on violence. Unless you carry a weapon yourself most likely.
Yes, but she should not have mess with him in the first place. But never gives anyone a right to harm you.
This gave me chills. I won't classify myself as being stalked, but someone i met has been knocking at my door like 4 times over a few days
They were knocking 10 minutes ago at 6:50 a.m. i don't feel i can tell them to stop!!! I would think if they knock at 1 am and i don't answer, i don't want to be botheted. I don't think they will hurt me but their unwanted knocking bothers me. We both live in the same building. They are elderly.
When i did allow them in, my dog eventually went after them, jumping up, he's a small dog. I was taken back because my dog has never done that but he clearly doesn't trust the person.
Well, apparently, she was too embarrassed to report him sooner..and that ignorant, passive mother of hers did absolutely nothing to protect her daughter!
@@t.j.7789I hope you're doing ok now...u should report them to the police & don't think that they're not capable of hurting u.
when her granpa said "i miss her very much" i bursted into tears... very sad story. rip clare. she deserved better.
I agree... Her sweet grandfather broke my heart. The first time he spoke, I said to myself, "I like him!" I thought Clare was so fortunate to have had him as her grandfather (and he was fortunate, as well, to have had such a sweet young woman as his granddaughter.) God bless them both. 🙏🏼🌺🌺
Same 😢 so sad
Same here
His demon possessed.. he had a demon of jealousy in him.
@Pavel K. He had a demon alright very evil.
When you have a stalker, never tell them you will report them, never tell them to leave you alone, just set a date with them, let them show up there, while you make a run for it to another city, at least you'll know where they are while you escape! Stalkers have nothing to lose they live to be a nightmare!
Agree
Exactly. If someone is dangerous, the last thing to do is to be sincere.
Oh my God,this poor girl.This is awful.Stalking needs to be taken more seriously :(
The sad thing is these predators choose certain people. They will choose YOU, you don’t choose them. Sad when people victim blame.. they have NO idea.. NO IDEA….
SO true. Notice that they never pick jerks who deserve it. 🤔Almost like sociopaths and narcissists need nice people to feed off of their energy. BTW Anchorage representing!
I was told I must have given the stalker positive signals to trigger this…. Really? What about all of the signals that I gave that I don’t want any of the stalker’s attention??
Well it is true that they seek out certain types of people
Very true. They pick YOU
They picked you because you look like a victim from a mile away. Sadly
It really is ridiculous how stalking is so lightly taken. I left my abusive ex a year ago and he still cyber stalks me. Then the other day some random guy stared at me creepily and tried to follow me home. Its exhausting. Like leave me and all the other women the F alone. Geez!
Cyber stalking story of my life
Delete your social media, and remove you pics offline, and stop using your name on social media.
😂🤣
So, what you're saying is your single now?
Can they? Ugh ‼️
Sadly, Clare had no idea what she was dealing with. It wouldn’t surprise me to learn he had his eye on her long before she even agreed to go on a “date” with him.
It wouldn't be surprising if he was simultaneously stalking other victims, too.
That's true by the time they actually talk to you they been following you for months he worked with her so it's a little different but other wise that's how it generally happens
@@ponygirlusa Well at least they don't have to deal with him anymore. (I highly doubt he murdered each and every one)
@@bentheg9793 You are aware the word victim is not just for those that have been murdered right? And her family and friends, still have to deal with the consequences of his actions? Sorry if read your comment wrong. Just because he did not kill all his victims, doesn't mean they wasn't effected by what he put them through or less valid, It could of been them.
@@ponygirlusa some stalkers are like that. It seems like a lot of these guys aren’t specifically looking for victims, but kind of come upon the situation where their attachment becomes pathological or delusional
Im glad the cousin mentioned feeling of embarrassment and shame. Those feelings are real in this type of situation. No matter how much you “know” you are not to blame.
I have been stalked by 2 different people in my life. Leaving me as a very hyper vigilant adult . The 1st one was at highschool , the boy that began stalking me was a loner , almost an outsider type . And I always showed him kindness as I felt bad for him . Months and months I dealt with the letters , love songs and sonnets , threats , messages and phone calls, unwanted gifts , him waiting outside my house singing to me while my parents were at work. Until my mum checked my bebo and saw a message from him threatening to bring a particular weapon to school and kill me and himself. Sure enough, after intensive police interviews etc they found he did have that weapon ready to go that morning. Unfortunately, the school didn't really help me. The boy went away for help , but he was allowed back at school!!!! after that and he started his obsessive behaviors again . I ended up leaving highschool at 15 because of it . And haven't seen him since . I can tell you, I felt the same as Claire, maybe I shouldn't have been so nice to him. Maybe I led him on. Maybe I'm being ridiculous. He's harmless. No !!! Stalking is stalking and I am lucky I had a parent who caught on to what was happening before it was too late . It's always going to haunt me and it's always going to affect me .
wow. what a wild thing to happen to you! As a mom to a budding teen, I am terrified that a boy / man will stalk her. They can be predators. The fact that YOU left school early because of HIS actions is so unfair almost like we live in a patriarchal society or something, huh?
Kindness shouldn't place to violent people
Yeah, I know what you are talking about, there are boy types and very aggressive freaky people gang stalking me. Ever since I was stalked by a young man, jealous females have made me their target.
Now listen, they are actually very mentally disturbed, and out of anger try to prove they are who they are not, not in a million years.
I describe them with the P and B word, dangerously mentally disturbed and they know exactly they are not who they portray to be. I sure know......
I was stalked from the time I was 12, he was 15, until I was 19. He was in and out of jail and mental hospitals but when he was gone he had “friends” that would keep it up for him. Listening to this brought back so many memories and it was so familiar. God bless this mother for fighting for others after she lost her baby.
Yes, they bring in other people, for sure. Highly suspicious and threatening my personal space, very often by complete force, because believe me if I notice them approaching you will see me at least several hundred yards away in a couple of seconds
Beware any date that tries to speed up the relationship, they are aware their ‘game face’ only lasts so long. Don’t fall for it, and we all need to shoot the expression ‘getting swept off my feet’. You need those feet if you need to run! Excessive calls, gifts and jealousy are harbingers of doom. Try finding out about former relationships, how they ended, especially.
PLEASE DON’T THREATEN, just be proactive on your own behalf or it’ll be YOUR relatives speaking passively about the danger YOU WILL BE IN.
Also unnecessary clingy behavior such as making up that one was supposed to get together when it’s not true is also a red flag. Basically, the person doesn’t give you space to breathe. Even a “harmless” stalker is a psychological threat because one doesn’t know when and how it will escalate. Document everything, make photos when you are followed by your stalker to make a case against. You need systematic evidence for police, lawyer and authorities.
Why didn't this guy just blot himself Why take her out too! The world needed her the world certainly didn't need the likes of HIM!
Good advice. I wish I knew all this stuff when I was younger. I can’t even keep a relationship because of the trauma I experienced with my abuser/stalker.
The sad thing is that she did realise this fairly early on, their relationship didn't go beyond two or three dates and he still harassed her for months and murdered her. A predator is a predator.
@@alessandraa24 Yes, it doesn’t take much at all to be become a stalker’s target and the stalking can go on for years…
No woman or man for that matter, should feel embarrassed about someone harrassing or stalking them. Report them to whoever you have to so that you can remain safe...RIP Clare 🙏❤️
Nobody cares.
At first I wondered how Trisha could calmly and objectively recall and talk about the situation in those days, but found out why at the last few minutes. She wasn't consumed by anger and sorrow, but is fighting back for society! I have no vocabulary equivalent to express how I was amazed to see her strength!
Why in the blue hell did the police release him twice ?!! Stalkers should never be released that fast !! Especially in this case they knew he was relentless !!
Law prevents anyone from putting a restraining order on someone till they have done some crime against them.
Got to love our system 😔
Authorities are just so useless, well, unless you are skateboarding then they will crack your skull 💀 and throw you in the clink.
Yeah, that's how it works..for eg "you're not a killer until you killed someone"
This is true last year l couldn't get a restraining order until that person became violent! Took over a year the effect on my mental health was harrendous
Look at it from different point of view. Do you think it’s a good idea to lock someone up based on an accusation not proven.
My heart breaks for her family and friends.. especially her Mom… why any judge would have set bail not once but 2-3 times wth.. what a coward he was!!
thank you Claires mum! for fighting for the rest of us! it does makea difference! so sorry for your loss💔 ❤
We never once thought he would do something like this?
Are you kidding me? All the signs were there! I'm just shocked that she didn't report him earlier.
Even her friends told her to just "be nice" to him. Gawd.
You can't just let them out on the streets on bail, twice.. and then again, community service.. stalkers should be taken to a mental hospital and kept there, until they get over their obsession.. there's so much data about stalkers and what they do, why are the police so unable to act accordingly..?
I agree. Stalkers are mental cases. They need to be locked up in mental hospital and when they are release, they need to wear tracking device implanted into their heart like a pace maker. If they get anywhere near their victims, the device sends a shock to render them unconscious.
I think 🤔 it has a lot to do with how reactive rather than proactive law is set up.
It often seems the police don’t or won’t do much until something physical and terrible has occurred.
And maybe legally they cannot.
It’s a flaw in the system because looking backward it seems so obvious where things were heading.
Even when he has plead guilty to death threats he’s let out on bail before sentencing because he still hasn’t “really done anything “.
@@walden6272 That would be sweet. 😎✌️No doubt it would be considered “inhumane”. 🤷♂️
It’s the laws. They need to change. I’m tired of seeing women go through this bs and ending up dead. My ex has stalked, kidnapped, raped children etc and I was a victim of his as a kid too and they keep letting him out. It’s ridiculous. Some people NEED to be locked away from the world because they don’t change.
@@walden6272, Your idea is spot on, Bullseye 🎯, excellent...It's just a damn shame this can't be done because most criminals & mentally unbalanced folks get more protection & advantages that law abiding citizens don't get in the so-called justice system!!!
I had a stalker a few years ago. A housemate turned stalker. He’d become really overbearing even though we were just housemates. One day I walked into my room and found a kitchen knife next to a letter on my bed, I moved out that night so he started stalking me at work and in the streets. While a person who hasn’t gone through that might think that reporting it to the police it’s the logical thing to do, the fear of making matters worse is very real. I didn’t report my stalker as I was afraid he would physically harm me in retaliation.
I had a feeling that some women kinda go along with what men are doing, even if they don't like it, because they are afraid of the confrontation. And rightly so, knowing that they could be physically in danger most of the time.
Please never stop being aware of your surroundings! I can only imagine how terrifying that had to of been!!!
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You left out the part where you slept with him and he got attached to you.
I had a stalker and had to call the police on him. It was one of the scariest things I had to go through. The officers in my town were awesome and put pressure for him to stop. Apparently, I wasn't the only one he was stalking.
So glad you are safe.
I had a stalker when I was in high school. It was really scary and irritating. I told the situation to my father, and he told me to never say anything bad or shout to that man because it is dangerous. Before that, I was so friendly and I used to think that maybe that's the reason why he stalked me. So, I never talk to him again while he is still following me. Thankfully he didn't like that treatment and he got tired.
We MUST stop teaching our daughters to take care of everyone, but themselves...
Yes taking other's feelings more serious than our own 😢
What a tragic story. She was so beautiful and seemed to have such a good energy around her.
What a peaceful and respectful video this was such a horrible tragedy that probably could have been prevented, so happy Clare's mum is advocating for victims of stalkers. 😪
I don't think it could have been prevented
It could of been had he been arrested and not released
@@christinamcilwaine8235 he would have done it when he got out
Peaceful?
@Kimberly wrong. Not always. Mine didn't get to me and he wanted to kill me. Lets see how how able he is in 64 years well 57 now. It doesn't always happen that way
It never ceases to amaze me how people say "I never thought he would do anything!" or "I can't believe there are people out there who do this type of thing!" Like are you freaking kidding me??? clearly not enough people watching these shows!
i dont know how many times people are not aware, and people live more in a dream world than reality. The world is cruel and i filled with dangerously harmful people..people who have killed who is still free..its one of the reasons i dont want to have children..i dont want them in still world full of so much suffering, hate... i might overdue it..but the world as enough kids who dont have parents..so we should care about what is here already..help one another, and dont think that being stalked will never lead to murder...or still will never happen to me...obviously not everyone is into crime docs like us..but they dont have to..they just need to be more self aware of danger...red flags..im always on watch if i meet new people...i am careful to let new people in to my life so fast.
Or read the daily paper
Sad
@@tracydaye6059 exactly!
It stuns me how much her family knew and did nothing more than listen to the situation get worse and worse. If that was my daughter, I would have insisted she come home, job be damned. She was so young and unequipped to deal with that situation.
@@vintagetoycollector4983 yes!!! I absolutely agree!!
Wow. Powerful ending, the pure strength of her mother is so admirable. So sorry for her loss.
The fact he only got community service for his threats and stalking is disgusting. This could’ve been prevented if they had just put him in prison.
Clare and her family seem like kind folk. This is just awful. What a damaged man.
As a victim of stalking I can say authorities do not take this seriously enough. My stalker has broken my restraining order over 40 times and is just served another court date. The day that she was arrested and charged with the felony of stalking, she was released. I’m just waiting for her to snap and stab me or set my house on fire. There needs to be more serious consequences for breaking a restraining order.
Get a security system in your home. Also carry weapons with you at all times.
I hope you get a gun ): I’ll pray for you this is sickening . Gos will protect you
You lesbian?
Time to move hun
You should runnnnnn are mad sister move from her
I’m a man and I’ve dealt with a stalker, I know it’s easy to think men shouldn’t be scared but it is very scary! My stalker would sit outside my work, when she knew my kids weren’t with me she would text me saying “I saw your ex with the kids so I am gonna come over so we can hang out” I would lock my doors and turn off my lights! I moved 4 hours away for a new job and not long after she showed up knocking on my door! The house I moved into was in a farming area so my closest neighbor was a half mile away or so and I lived alone, yes I own guns, yes I’d use them if necessary but I really didn’t want to take someone else’s life! I wouldn’t let her in and actually called my brother who lived somewhat close and told him what was going on and if I wasn’t at work the next day he’d know why! She sat with her back against my front door crying and begging for at least 30 min and I finally told her if she didn’t leave I was calling the cops, she finally left but she peeled out of my driveway throwing gravel everywhere and chipped a window in my house, I slept with a gun near for awhile after but thankfully she gave up! The crazy part is I have no idea how she found my house, I had just moved there, nothing was in my name yet and it was 9 miles off the main road kind of back in the country! Stalkers can be resourceful and cunning when they have their minds set! I hate that this happened to Clare and her family, that man was a coward and a toddler that couldn’t have what he wanted so he threw a fit! What a POS!
WOW!! Dude I'm sorry to hear you went through that. 😱 For blokes being stalked, the woman can throw abuse allegations and rape = your arrested. Which is sick. AS the real victims that truly are in a abusive situation are more afraid to come forward. Not to take away from this young woman's tragic experience 😢 Just another layer to this terrible crime.
I had an X girlfriend that stalked the Hell out of me. The 1st time she came to my house, broke into my garage, and was about to break my new friends windshield with my bat....I went to confront her. She tried to kiss on me, as she told me if she couldn't have me nobody will! She called the cops right after and got US BOTH arrested. This same thing happened 2 more time. I soon realized that the legal system treats a man who's a victim incredibly different then a women victim.... it's literally not taken seriously which gives a female stalker even more power! Been single since... 15 years now
GPS hidden inside or under your car.
If they get your phone they can also install a hidden app that will send GPS info to their phone
I'm SO SORRY you dealt with that! Scary!!! It happens to men and women...and when a man is a victim, it's harder because usually the girl is believed. She can make false accusations and because your the man, people usually believe THEM! It's crazy. Glad you are ok now and safe. What a psycho.
That is a great way to describe these type of murders " a murder in slow motion"
Been on one date.
"U HAVE TO pick me up from airport"
"U HAVE to let me sleep over at ur house"
At some point we have to teach our daughters that u can't be nice and sweet to people out of fear of making them upset or any other reason. I'd never say yes to these demands he made but I'm also not 22
I almost died at the hands of my stalker, It has taken many years to recover from the mental and the physical damage I was left with. It is so sad she was taken from her loved ones.
I'm so sad that you had to go through what must have been an horrendous time? I really hope you have managed to come through it? Goodluck and Godbless.. Paul.. London.. England...
Be gentle with yourself. The pain you experienced during your active trauma caused a part of who you once were to die. It was never your fault..You are not alone. I hope the grief you live with every day becomes less of a burden for you as time goes on. You are strong.
Edit: I forgot the good part.
Blessed Be fellow traveler.
It's drawl
Same. I still live in fear so many years later and he’s been behind bars for years. The day he dies will be the happiest day of my life. I’m so mentally messed up. I’m happy you got out. Healing isn’t easy but we deserve to heal.❤️
Me too... I fully understand and biggest hugs to you ... Nights are still terrible for me, so instead of fighting it I stay up late working and go to sleep around 3-4 am. It's been a decade but that stalker still sends me letters ... It is terrible ... I understand and much love to you 🌞💝🌞💝🌞💝
Her mother's face everytime she reminisces about the beautiful memories of her daughter made my heart swell but also broke it at the same time. You can see how much she loved and adored her daughter. And she was just brutally taken away from her by some narcissistic POS coward who doesn't know how to handle rejection and then took his own life to escape taking responsibility.
Clare, you were taken too soon. Rest in paradise, beautiful soul.
That 5 days in Italy. Uff… wonderful memories.… that is so sad!
I had a stalker back in high school. Luckily my dad did what needed to be done to make him go away.
Your Dad protecting you! Great Dad!
Kill him lol ?)
That's what dads are for.
@@purplesunflower8242 Thank you.
@@difficultjourney3216 The good dads, anyway.
I'm truly disheartened by the lack of protection for our women and children. It's incredibly saddening.
Protection for everyone!
The world hates women and children.
Thank you for creating this organisation. My daughter was stalked for almost a year and it was terrifying, but fortunately we moved, and the stalker didn't find her again.
Ever since social media came into existence and became a platform that nearly everyone in the whole entire world uses that's when I felt that it became a helluva lot easier for all of the crazy ass weirdos to stalk and harass their victims
Although we should be able to use any social media platforms freely and securely, unfortunately the world we live in does not allow this. I have always believed that more harm than good will be the result. It’s the children of tomorrow I worry for.
Sad sad world, take care.
Facts and other technology
And even SM is nothing new, it's been around since the net began, just not like it is now!
Yes it is true, though in this cse they met @ work God bless you 🙏
My stalker was before the Internet. It doesn't matter, though. Stalkers are obsessed, single minded, and very resourceful. They will make time for it. It's their mission.
The whole thing was sad but Clare's grandad made me cry. That POS taking his own life makes me so mad but I hope the family got some closure from helping change the law and supporting other victims. Watching this made me realise that I had a lucky escape from someone who I just thought was ott. Thank god he stopped coming to my house or driving past me multiple times when I'd be walking, and making sure I saw him. I now realise how lucky I was as it could have been so different.
@@alexb7641 dont go to the comments till you finish the video, that will make sense right? You do realize people watch the video in different times and days?
I think its better because the UK system would have slapped him on the wrist and send him back to society where he would so it again. Glad killed himself m. If its American I would have wanted alive because they would actually punish him
@@alexb7641 don't read it maybe?
Years ago ,I had a stalker who thought "we were in love" ....I never even had 1 date/ coffee/ anything with this fella !! It was before the Stalking Laws were changed here in the USA. I was told by the police " unless he hurts you,we can't do anything" !!! Thank God he left me alone, like you !!!! I was a single Mom with 2 kids....totally alone !!! Even with our Countries Stalking Laws....it is still a Very Serious situation !!!! But IT IS a bit better than it used to be. Stay Strong & Always be aware of your surroundings !!
It’s okay to write whatever you want and watch it whenever you want
My mom is my best friend too! I couldn’t imagine how sad her mother feels but what a powerful woman and story! To be able to take pain and turn it into something so beautiful! Rest In Peace Claire and everyone else who has fallen victim to stalking ❤️
She failed her as a mother. 1 by not taking the situation serious. And 2 by not raising her with a loving and protecting father.
Thank you for sharing ! How sad , young life taken n could hv been prevented .
MY MOST SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS 🙏🏻
If only there was a manual of the big red flags etc, that every kid was given in high school
This psycho ticked every box
So terribly sad for this dear girl and her brave mum x
These stalking murders are absolutely heartbreaking and the pain doesn’t end for the family and friends of the murdered victim. Clare’s Granda broke my heart💔💔
A serous stalker doesn’t see their actions as wrong. Because they can do it. They only know it’s wrong when they’re caught. But as long as they can stalk they will.
I had to stop a stalker by just being rude to him.
I made myself as undesirable as possible. Without yelling or hitting. If I had to belch in his face, or fart. What ever to turn him off. I knew he was dangerous. He was calling me repeatedly a dozen times a day. Stalking my home. And knocking on my windows. Totally obsessed. I had to be rude to get rid of him. Police told him to stop. He’d just switch to a new tactic.
I took me years to get rid of mine , it took a murder suicide in my neighborhood to get the police to do anything and after each restraining order he would start up again. It took 8!years three restraining orders and charges of stalking and harassment to get him to leave me alone but he still tries to contact me through my family and mutual acquaintances. He pounded on my doors and windows too…. He has convinced so many that it was all in my head and all he ever did was love me… no one understands unless they have been through it….
His name was Michael too!
Wow. People are crazy. Glad you escaped.
@@martinezlucia101
My ex husband was pretty bad. I talked to an Attorney after filling several protection orders. My Attorney told me next time I file, to make it for the maximum time, 12 year’s.
So I did. He was so bad that during our divorce when the judge notified him I filed for 12 year’s of protection. He got instantly furious. And his buddy had to restrain him to exit out the courthouse. I had to wait several minutes before I could leave.
That’s another thing. If you ever have to take someone to court who has anger management issues. Or control issues. Don’t let them see where you parked your car. And don’t let them see you leave the courthouse.
This judge could see the history behind our relationship was bad. And he knew if he proceeded on our first schedule court date for appearance to divorce. I would have problems with him by himself. It was just him and me there. So the judge requested that I have proof of residence living inside my county for a year. And my ex asked if he had a witness to residence would that help? Judge agreed. I went to my attorney’s office for a “Residence Affidavit” to fill out. And asked my neighbor to come to the courthouse with me to have it notarized. My ex brought his boss to court. My ex was a contract worker.
Once the judge took all the freedom from my ex away from harassing me. He was furious.
Right! I had an exl-andlord like that. He was EVERYWHERE all the time, it was just so terrible. I quit going anywhere, doing anything, I was scared. The cops did NOTHING. It's been 3 years since but it totally changed my view of the world, of people of MEN, I just feel so depressed all the time, I really find no joy in life anymore at all except for my pets.
Clare had to lose her 22-year-old life in order for this to become a precedent for dealing with stalkers. It's amazing how everyone concerned appeared to be in slow motion about this until after she lost her life at the hands of an obsessed stalker.
The number of crime documentaries I watched that wouldn't exist if the woman's reports were taken more seriously.
Bless these mothers who have taken action to prevent further tragedies. These are brave women. So sorry for their sadness.
Stop telling girls 'he just wants to be your friend'. You don't owe anyone kindness or patience.
This poor mum. Breaks my heart 💔 I'm so glad she had that special time with her daughter on her birthday. What a devastating case. Rip beautiful
Always teach your girls don't be afraid to "hurt" people's feelings. RIP Claire, you sound like a beautiful soul. 💕🙏
"Dating" is a new phenomenon. This is why parents were once upon a time were involved in the selection process of prospective marital partners for their offspring. Once upon a time a man had to interview and receive permission from parents or a father to court an eligible young lady. It all makes so much sense now.
Yes. My parents never cared about my dating life. I found out by bad experiences sadly.
Bailed, then waked. Bailed, then walked. Bailed then went to target practice. Awaiting Sentencing and shot her. How could anyone be surprised. He SAID he would do it. He did it. Egregious outrage is echoing in my heart for a beautiful life not fully lived and a family's devastation. Very happy Mum is involved with the charity. It IS important they do this. It WILL help. But we need to do better. SO MUCH BETTER. I am so sorry darling girl.
Why on Earth was he allowed to stay in the UK???? The law needs to be changed when it comes to harassment. It happens too often.
Stalking laws should be tougher as victims more often get murdered or suffer a mental breakdown because of the stalking.
The same way that stalking should be tougher and have longer sentences, false stalking claims should be given the same sentence.
Yes! That would be a perfect way to handle it. And as you said, false claims should receive the same punishment if proven to be 100% untrue.
@@BS-dq1kz Stalking is so difficult to even prove in the first place for many reasons and nuances.
This was an absolute tragedy. I feel so bad for Clare and her poor mum. 😢
How strong and caring the mother is, God bless her 💓🙏 The stalking is a real torment, what a sad story 😢
This is incredibly sad - she did everything right 💔. Stalking needs to be taken very seriously from the very beginning, it’s not normal to aggressively text someone 50 times a day!
Not text or call them that much for that matter.
Restraining orders and arrests will NOT STOP an insane person from killing another person when they have an evil obsession to control that person. It may temporarily put off what is usually inevitable. In her case perhaps a hired body guard might have saved her, but the average young citizen cant afford it. Only the rich and famous have the resources and expect to have more threats of harm against them.
Something tells me she would have been safer staying in Italy......
We NEED to start holding the judges and court personnel, that allow these men to get out on bail, even after CLEAR evidence that he WILL NOT STOP, personally respilonsible.
They should loose their jobs. That is the only way that we will have reform in the system. The only way these women will be save.
Excellent documentary. Thanks for the upload.
I don’t understand how the entire family including Claire never see this as serious and can’t decide wether they should report him??? She should have reported it to her employer immediately as well…
Killed by my stalker gives such great insight into the dangers of obsessive behavior and I do appreciate that they don’t just focus on the perpetrator but give the victim a voice too
Seeing things like this scares the hell out of me. I've had a couple of stalkers over the years. There was really only one though that was actually quite the traumatizing experience. Like broke into my house while I was sleeping level of scary. Thankfully a restraining order has seem to work. But it's always in my mind that its just a piece of paper. And if someone really wants to hurt you, that paper isnt going to stop them. Be safe everyone..A lot of crazy people out there.
That is scary! Glad it worked out well
Wow I don’t know how I’d live my life knowing someone could be tracking my movements, I’d be paranoid! Stay safe!
@@ginger7344 thank you! So far no issues. But it's only been a little over a year. So you never know. Now I have cameras though. So I feel a little safer sleeping at night.
Here's an idea, stop living life like you are 21years old, settle down and create life. You will be fulfilled and happy.
@@marian8772 I totally agree.
I’m so glad that mother & daughter got to spend one last beautiful holiday together in Italy❤️
The amount of text and calls were enough for her to report him to police. Also, I'm sure her job had security cameras that would've backed up her claims to her employer. I also would've changed my phone number. This is so sad.
She should've never let her guard down until after the trial and he was behind bars! Dude was crazy. She should've never traveled alone, either.
They don’t care
Mom’s story she tells at 30:30, and what she says at 31:16 -just crushed me. As a dad of even a 5-year-old boy, seeing your child grow and become more relatable and able to share experiences that are just a genuinely fun time to both of you… it’s just an incredible thing to witness. I think of the things I hope to share with my son when he’s in his 20’s, and hearing this mom recounting a time where she shared a moment like that with her grown daughter- as a time of “pure gold.” How excited she was with the “best friend” her daughter had grown to be- it’s gut wrenching to know she only got a taste of it and then it was tragically taken away from her (and her daughter for that matter.) I think that part of the video hit me harder than any other part; and that’s saying something.
Why are stalkers let out on bail to continue to stalk??? This really needs to change!!
What a sad situation for this young lady and her family. You never know what people are capable of towards you until it's too late. It makes you so angry how it's all handled by authorities. So much more could have been done to protect Clare. Especially, from someone who is an immigrant. Immigrants should not get second chances they should be deported right if they get involved in serious criminal activity. RIP Clare Bernal.
I think they should be deported instantly. If they commit any sexual or violent crime especially.
A zero tolerance policy should be implemented.
What can you do if the person is not an immigrant? Do you then just deal with it
@@amirahabdi Let them sit in jail for a good long time.
Beautifully presented. Best wishes to the family.
RIP Clare🕊️
In this situation you have either get aggressive to save yourself or you have to disappear for a point to make sure of your safety. These people won't stop.
And yet the police didn't tell her that ... What do they do ?
I was stalked by two different men when I was a young teen. Thankfully my boyfriend was there when one came in the back door. To this day I scream when anyone startles me!!! My daughter thinks it's funny, but she doesn't understand what I've been through... thank goodness!!! I pray she never, ever feels that fear!!!!
Huge condolences to Clares family and friends. It's clear to see that she was just as lovely on the inside as she was on the outside. I'm so sorry for your loss.