Living with a husband who took a second wife secretly and the first wife only found it to others is like a torture in this world coz injustice has began from the moment he married the second wife secretly . Lies after lies after lies followed it . Therefore , the trust that she has given him is like impossible to reverse . Either live with it or leave it .
You know you could have also put in a nikah before you got married that you didn't want your husband to marry other women I don't know why this slips through a lot of Muslim women's hands like for some reason they never mention it
@@trublacking8572 you're obviously a dumbass, if you think that a woman won't be so looked down upon by her own family, inalws, society and the husband for even mentioning such a thing. What power do u think women have? Idiot
@@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444 That is our problem. Why do you hate him? It's his right. Do you want men to hate women if they paid a high mehr to their wife which is her right. If not then dont complain about men when they have their rights.
Unfortunately there's nothing that says you have to tell your wife so I mean yeah but a lot of women don't know you can also request that your husband doesn't take a second wife before you marry them for some reason that goes over a lot of women said and the reason why I know this is because when the prophet peace and blessing be upon him daughter got married she didn't want her fiance to take any other wives and the prophet asked him are you sure you can do this and he said yes so basically by him promising not to take other wives before getting married to him he would have to hold on to that cuz it was violate the marriage so but for some reason a lot of women don't do it
I know its not necessary to disclose the second marriage to the first wife, however, if he does not do so, won't he be lying to her everytime she asks him where he has been? Lying is obviously haram and its an injustice to her that she be lied to. Further, if he gets children from a second wife, shouldn't she and her children know about it? Otherwise, there could be complications with the children being unaware that they are of the same man. Its sad to think that in a relationship supposed to be built on trust and love, there could be lying and deception of this level. Allah has made taking a second wife halal out of His absolute wisdom. We hear and we obey. If your heart cannot take being in such a relationship, then leave your husband. You don't have to do something that is harming you emotionally. Allah is kind with us. He will give you better out of His mercy. Whether you choose to patiently remain in that relationship or you choose to prioritize your own happiness, know that the Lord will take care of you.
Exactly, how can these men emotionally blackmail women by saying if you leave then you're disobeying the Decree of Allah and it's haram??? If a man is being persecuted and tortured then he should also sit down, shut up, and accept it!
Why could not the husband have been patient and dealt kindly with his first wife who was revert and left everything to live with him?It shows he is not a good muslim and this lady can leave her husband and ask Allah for better spouse than leaving Allah because of this man who uses religion only for his advantage.
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
She has to have a valid reason to leave him. Him marrying a second wife is not a valid reason. Nothing wrong with men marrying multiple women same way nothing wrong with women asking for high mehr.
@@Zainab-is2kw Nope. A man is not committing haram by marrying multiple woman neither is he compromising on his right to provide and protect. Only time is when she knows she will sin and will not be able to manage to not sin and she cannot help it. But if you didnt put it on a contract then he has the right to marry.
Living with a husband who took a second wife secretly and the first wife only found it to others is like a torture in this world coz injustice has began from the moment he married the second wife secretly . Lies after lies after lies followed it . Therefore , the trust that she has given him is like impossible to reverse . Either live with it or leave it .
After taking another wife, I hate him. I hate him so much...
You know you could have also put in a nikah before you got married that you didn't want your husband to marry other women I don't know why this slips through a lot of Muslim women's hands like for some reason they never mention it
@@trublacking8572 you're obviously a dumbass, if you think that a woman won't be so looked down upon by her own family, inalws, society and the husband for even mentioning such a thing. What power do u think women have? Idiot
@@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444 That is our problem. Why do you hate him? It's his right. Do you want men to hate women if they paid a high mehr to their wife which is her right. If not then dont complain about men when they have their rights.
@@93boxing81 I divorced him, I also hate Muslim men too! Fu 🖕
I don't think it is just... if husband did not tell his wife from the beginning.. it is the unjustice of honesty.
Unfortunately there's nothing that says you have to tell your wife so I mean yeah but a lot of women don't know you can also request that your husband doesn't take a second wife before you marry them for some reason that goes over a lot of women said and the reason why I know this is because when the prophet peace and blessing be upon him daughter got married she didn't want her fiance to take any other wives and the prophet asked him are you sure you can do this and he said yes so basically by him promising not to take other wives before getting married to him he would have to hold on to that cuz it was violate the marriage so but for some reason a lot of women don't do it
If the woman didnt discuss it before marriage then she should accept it.
I know its not necessary to disclose the second marriage to the first wife, however, if he does not do so, won't he be lying to her everytime she asks him where he has been? Lying is obviously haram and its an injustice to her that she be lied to. Further, if he gets children from a second wife, shouldn't she and her children know about it? Otherwise, there could be complications with the children being unaware that they are of the same man. Its sad to think that in a relationship supposed to be built on trust and love, there could be lying and deception of this level. Allah has made taking a second wife halal out of His absolute wisdom. We hear and we obey. If your heart cannot take being in such a relationship, then leave your husband. You don't have to do something that is harming you emotionally. Allah is kind with us. He will give you better out of His mercy. Whether you choose to patiently remain in that relationship or you choose to prioritize your own happiness, know that the Lord will take care of you.
Exactly, how can these men emotionally blackmail women by saying if you leave then you're disobeying the Decree of Allah and it's haram??? If a man is being persecuted and tortured then he should also sit down, shut up, and accept it!
@@londongirl6711 They use and misuse Islam to blackmail women and feed their nafs. This is what is destroying Islam nowadays.
My husband married second 2nd wife with out telling while I'm working abroad and using my money to for there wedding
He is jerk leave him for mental stability
Why could not the husband have been patient and dealt kindly with his first wife who was revert and left everything to live with him?It shows he is not a good muslim and this lady can leave her husband and ask Allah for better spouse than leaving Allah because of this man who uses religion only for his advantage.
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
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She has to have a valid reason to leave him. Him marrying a second wife is not a valid reason. Nothing wrong with men marrying multiple women same way nothing wrong with women asking for high mehr.
@@93boxing81 It is valid reason to leave
@@Zainab-is2kw Nope. A man is not committing haram by marrying multiple woman neither is he compromising on his right to provide and protect.
Only time is when she knows she will sin and will not be able to manage to not sin and she cannot help it. But if you didnt put it on a contract then he has the right to marry.