When you did not have parents who in childhood see your positives but see only your negatives it becomes very difficult in adulthood to praise yourself and also self confidence suffers a lot , the parents continue to criticise you and see your negatives even in adulthood which keeps getting reinforced though you want to keep coming out of it
Thanks for your comments Vidya. This is the time to STOP IT! Stop the pattern of lies and negativity. Take full self-responsibility to speak your truth and honour your integrity. It does NOT matter how many times lies get reinforced that does NOT make them suddenly true! The truth is you are AWESOME and nothing that anyone else says can affect you unless you allow it to. So, make sure you take full self-responsibility for your self-talk and make it is the truth backed up with evidence. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch our videos and comment. Why don't you consider joining our free Facebook community for the support of like-minded people walking to same path: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
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I told myself the story that my parents behavior had anything to do with me & that was my first mistake. I see how it all happens for us not too us in the end. Xo
All the way through this video, I was wishing I'd had someone in my life (all through my life!) who would sit and wait for me to get my thoughts together the way David does. It would've made such a difference. So now I have to learn to do it for myself! Next stop, all those videos...
I'm an HSP (do a test with 27 questions to find out if you're an HSP, by Elaine Aaron & she's written a book called The Highly Sensitive Person, I recommend it). The HSP's biggest fear is confrontation. Just the thought of it used to give me anxiety and insomnia for weeks, making me depressed & avoid the initial problem completely (the need for confrontation). What helped me was role-playing with a friend, when I needed to practise getting my point of view across in a future talk eg at work with my bully boss, or with my bully of a mother. I've learnt the outcome of the 'real' confrontation (with your boss, your mother etc) doesn't really matter. it's more important to stand up for yourself and get your point of view across & hear yourself speaking up , rather than having a positive outcome or expecting them to be able to compromise. This raises your self-esteem that you can speak up for yourself in a calm, gentle and compassionate way (when both of you are calm). They will respect you more for teaching them your point of view, which they never had a clue about before, as well as teaching them the best way to respectfully stand up for your basic human rights. All my office bosses were bullies who thought it was a good idea to lead with intimidation and fear. Rubbish bosses. What idiots. I left the corporate environment and now I work for myself (no bosses!!) and I do a meaningful job that gives me satisfaction and positive energy. I'm a care-giver to 1 lady and we love drawing and painting together - she's also an HSP. I'm learning a lot about how tricky it is to work so closely with a fussy, slow-thinking, highly curious, anxious, negative person who is also very loving, caring, clever, observant, compassionate and kind to me ie we are exactly the same!! I love her so much and I'm trying to encourage her to be as creative and imaginative as possible - to bring out the real spirit in her - and in myself. HSP's are the BEST.
I've discovered HSP topic 1 year ago, but I was deeply interested until recently. Having read about it brought me peace, comprehension, understanding. I've struggled with people since I can remember. I have been the weird relative, always set apart. The crazy. I've felt guilt all my life for being different. "I should be more social", always questioning my decisions, my motivations, all me. I think that one develops guilt about his/her sensitivity depending of the roughness of the people around us. It's fascinating how all my life I've thought of HSP related ideas without knowing of it, like that Krishnamurti quote: "It is no measure of health to be well adapted to a profoundly sick society". That wisdom was pure gold to my heart. Now, knowing about HSP just make me feel more confident, more considerate about myself.
Thanks for your comment Luis... never forget that your sensitivity is your SUPERPOWER! Celebrate and lovingly manage this wonderful quality you have so that it serves you well in life. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
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I’ve been a therapist and went on a personal journey of truth. Once I saw how we are destroying the planet, our toxic food we give ourselves our children how we mistreat other people and living things it is depressing. Disappointed others don’t follow the truth. It’s hard to enjoy the world when you are aware of all the violence corruption and hate. how we haven’t learned from the past . I need to take responsibility to go forward. I’ve been frozen in what does it matter. I think is like to get stronger and will practice again in this area Love to you all.
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I related to this SO MUCH! Especially the part about being empathetic to others but not ourselves. It’s almost like something switches in my mind and I can feel my whole self change when I am with others and helping them. I can feel my energy focusing outwards. But as soon as I’m alone it focuses inwards and it’s always so negative and self depreciating. I’m actually scared of my own inner critic 😂 and try to avoid it because it makes me feel so frustrated. It’s crazy how these things happen and how we don’t show the same kindness to ourselves. Thanks for another amazing video! X
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When this happens to me I sometimes find it helpful to name that critic. And tell them to stuff it when they say that. And allow a kinder voice to be made for you that can counter that critic. Much love and healing
Helen, after listening to David and Alexandria then reading your comment, the negative self talk is now replaced by images that take me to a wonderful, pleasurable location from my past which I believe come from my relationship with my Inner Child Many Thanks to both Alex and David
So I've struggled with the same issue that Alex was making an example of. About being an emotional sponge and letting the emotions of people around me affect me. For me, when I did my own personal investigation it boiled down to feeling unworthy. The reason why I felt I had to absorb peoples emotions is because I wanted to make them feel better, take their pain away so that they could love me. I felt that was the only way people could love me, if I become a servant to them. Also if I knew what they were feeling, I could avoid confrontation. I still need to investigate this further but its a good start.
Hi TDNR Thank you for sharing your self-development work. I agree that is a very good start, well done! I would encourage you to continue with your spiritual journey. We have a few more videos on our 'Highly Sensitive Person' video playlist that you may enjoy: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zIA1ETExZbMcBu68YArYxLEv.html Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our TH-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
I'd recommend living on your own, if possible. It makes you think just about you (very important) and puts a barrier up between you and the people you soak the emotions from. when you get home, you are in your oasis of calm and relaxation, away from needy people, noise and over-stimulation.
I don’t agree to this approach. I may be wrong but I’m hap and I’m pretty sure my mother is and my children definitely are. I have slowly seen my mother cut herself off from the world in order to “tune into herself” she now has next to no contact with anyone and is unable to cope with the outside world. Why as an jsp should you live cut off from the world. You should be out there being and doing everything that you are wonderful at. You have just got to put in place some coping strategies and learn to place boundaries. I’m only just figuring this out. However I do agree that hsp really need time with themselves to rest and relax and be creative!!!!
I definitely can relate myself to this! Yes, yes, my golden thread process lead me to the core belief that " I am never good enough" or I am not worthy or deserving of anything good in life" ...until i PROVE to others by serving them and absorbing everybody's problems and ignoring my own dreams and goals in life.
Great video I can relate as a highly sensitive person , I’m 53 and am still learning about myself. Glad to see such a great source of information. I am sure this will help a lot of people.
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Wu Wei Wisdom , is a little conflicting for me. As a highly sensitive person and having a family who doesn’t have filters or don’t thinking before they speak; it becomes a challenge to try to follow the “ yu” way. It’s more to highly sensitive.; I think this is describing more a stubborn sensitive person , rather than an empath who actually feels other’s emotion and suffers consequences and has no clue how to disengage from that environment.
Thankyou for this great video! I experience myself as highly sensitive with all the troubles as feeling easily overwhelmed etc. Now I learn here I have a CHOICE how I response and til which degree I want to be involved. Next few days I have challenging opportunities to practise and try out. It will be new behaviour for me! Scary but neccesary!!😮😊
Hi @arjaloggers4509, Thank you for your appreciation! It's wonderful to hear that you're embracing the concept of choice in how you respond to your sensitivity. Recognising that you have the power to choose your involvement is a significant step forward. Embracing new behaviors can indeed be daunting, but it's also a path to growth and self-discovery. Remember, every step you take is a step towards understanding and aligning with your true self. If you find value in sharing experiences or seeking insights, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is here for you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Best wishes on your journey of practice and discovery in the coming days! Kind Regards, David
I’m an artist and my sensitivity is one of my biggest assets, but all my life, i grew up in a family that trampled over my sensitivity, and shamed me for it in all aspects, calling me crazy as a nickname. Being sensitive was bad, being creative was bad, sharing your emotions was wrong. My mother was also neglectful and purposely mean, because she thought it would make me change and toughen up, and by mean, she would say things that no child should hear from their parent. When I first was told I’m most likely HSP, my therapist told me I should learn to filter the things that come to me, build a wall to protect my heart, because I got deeply hurt, and it’s true that this past 5 years I’ve improved a lot, I’ve been able to be confront situations of conflict better than I used to, although always shaking and it takes a heavy toll on my body, and I’ve been able to be less affected by my mother and what people say. What I haven’t been able to defeat, however, is defeating that voice inside. It’s like a bad habit that keeps coming back, and from time to time, brings me down to a debilitating and paralyzing point. Also, after some traumatizing experiences in a relationship and some friendships, I hardened myself to a point where I don’t let almost anyone in, I don’t trust mostly anyone, and I will avoid people and situations just in order to not get hurt or abandoned, I fear breaking expectations so much, I have so much anxiety when talking to my superior at work to a detrimental point, even though they’re great people, and after loosing a very dear to my heart pet, who carried me through the hardest point of my life, my emotions where so deep and painful, i simply shut down, to the point sometimes I just forget how to feel anymore. Slowly, while repressing that pain, I also forgot how to be happy, how to enjoy things, and how to find purpose, which has always been important to me. While I know I wouldn’t be able to do what I do for a living without my sensitive trait, and I love what I do, sometimes I feel so lonely. I’m scared of ending up alone, but I’m also afraid of getting deeply hurt. I’m scared of loving so much, that when I loose them, like my bird, It’ll hurt as if I was going to die once again. Only when I write the words down like this, I can realize that it still hurts so much, but when I talk to people and go through therapy, I brush over these things quickly because I don’t want to break in front of them, unconsciously. When I talk about it with others I do in a way I don’t feel anything, but I don’t do that because I want to. So in the end, I’ve been in a spiral where I want to change, I want to heal, but i self sabotage, and can’t seem to open up myself anymore, or more like, I don’t know how. I’m so afraid of feeling, that I can’t even feel anymore.
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Thank you very much for all your videos. I always depended on other people for my self worth and good feeling. One day a few months ago I felt like i couldn't continue anymore, I went onto TH-cam and tried to look up Approval addiction, and found your videos. I am a new person, a changed person, a happy person, a calm person-And I truly thank you for giving me the tools to get there
As an AA woman, being an HSP never went over well with my family, community, or tribe. No matter how well I did in work, it didn't take long before I either got bored or felt that I was treated less than a human being. I was not just called overly sensitive, but demanding. Personally, I believe that the persons giving me the hardest time were HSPs in denial.
Beautifully.❤️ Thank you for asking! Once I got diagnosed with ptsd and worked on getting regulated, things have changed so much. I don’t even think much about being highly sensitive, except to boast about it.🤗 ❤️
Hi David and Alex . Just want to let you know how grateful i am that i found you online. I Want you to know that you are literally saving lives with these teachings. ❤❤
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Wow! I did not know I was a sensitive person! Most of this video pertained to my life up to now. As I went thru the video , I had flashbacks from my childhood , that is where I learned it, Mother, unreal. Its know wonder I went thru a number of relationships, and about to burn thru another one , after 20 yrs.? I think I get it! Now , the work begins. Thankyou so much , you guys are amazing! Iam in!
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I love this conversation, it’s like the conversation I have in my head, I’ve tried to develop a logical/critical voice to argue against myself when I start falling into sensitive thinking because I react emotionally to stuff rather than considering the facts. I always hyper focus on when something negatively triggers me, then spend so much energy over analysing why I felt like that and dragging stuff up from the past and connecting stuff from years ago to this one little event that happened. I’ve noticed that when something positively affects me I don’t put as much effort into thinking why, so I’m making a conscious effort to realise what affects me in a good way and let more of that in my life
Thank you so much for this lesson that sensitivity is NOT a handicap. As someone who was shamed continually for feelings from early childhood this is such a great validation!
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The floodgate of understanding which has been unleashed since realizing I am a highly sensitive person makes me want to cry (haha!). To feel all of your life like everything is an battle I could never win and that I would be stuck having gotten the short end of the stick from birth, and then to have a profound understanding like this which leads to the acceptance and embracing of all aspects of me, there are no words. Realizing this is the only thing that has truly resonated or struck deep enough to really effect change in my life and make me feel less hopeless about my capabilities. This video is now one of my favorites and my go-to when I need to get back to center and reiterate understanding. Thank you immensely for this. I do want to say that being a highly sensitive person doesn’t necessarily make you empathic or particularly prone to constant displays of empathy. I can show it like the next person, but the thing about HSP is that you project your own reactions to things more than you are truly seeing the world or people for what and who they are, so often, your empathy is actually hindered, not bolstered, of course, you can be both empathic and highly sensitive, but people use them interchangeably too much. I don’t take on other people’s feelings as my own because I am often too wrapped up in my own responses to situations and stimuli. I just wanted to say that, but everything else in this video is SOOO accurate. Thank you!
Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it had helped you! Your sensitivity is a wonderful asset that should be cherished :) You may also find our latest video helpful: th-cam.com/video/E_2BLQrmb-I/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/WuWeiWisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
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This has become a huge problem with people being “triggered” by everything and ruled by their own victim mentality. The worst part is when they expect the rest of the world to to cater to their issues and feelings. Emotional intelligence should be taught in school. It would be hugely beneficial to EVERYONE. This is an excellent discussion on the topic.
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My definition of sensitivity. A person with fine tuned awareness of subtleties that can be beneficial in the arts, helpful when empathy is required for others, but can be detrimental when empathy is not directed towards the self, or when others’ needs are regarded as more important the their own. Emotions are felt intensely and therefore can become overwhelming or traumatic, and can lead to overreaction. Extra sensitive people can be very creative, but this can be problematic if the imagination is used to catastrophise future outcomes as an attempt to control or otherwise be prepared for the worst in hope of avoiding unbearable intense emotions. The attempt to control others future actions and emotions, comes from an inflated sense of responsibility for others emotional well-being. To stop others from being unhappy, is an attempt to avoid personalised feelings of guilt. The futile effort to control others’ thoughts, actions and emotions in a non-existent future causes anxiety due to a lack in sense of control of that which is impossible to be controlled.
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Yes, absolutely! It’s your/our sensitive nervous systems! It’s not crazy. It’s just how we’re built. Non-sensitives will/can/do shame us for it, because they don’t understand.
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I definitely am going to watch that video again and again till I get it right. I have always taken care of everyone’s emotions except my own. Especially my family. It drives me crazy how out of touch they are. I just want to fix them. But now I am going to follow Wu Wei and take care of my own emotions because truthfully nobody else ever has given me the compassion I give them. I actually went out and bought myself a full length mirror just so I can learn to love my reflection which I hated for so long. I’m pretty cute if I may say so!
Hi @user-yw1tj6qt6m, It's truly inspiring to hear about your commitment to watching the video again and ensuring you fully grasp its essence. Your dedication to taking care of others is commendable, yet recognizing the importance of prioritizing your own emotional well-being marks a significant step in your journey. Embracing Wu Wei and focusing on your emotions is a powerful act of self-compassion and understanding. The decision to buy a full-length mirror as a tool to learn to love your reflection is both brave and beautiful. It's a testament to your willingness to embrace self-love and to see yourself with the same compassion and kindness you've extended to others. And yes, acknowledging your cuteness is a delightful step towards embracing your self-worth and beauty! Remember, caring for your own emotions is not selfish; it's essential. It allows you to be more present and supportive for others from a place of strength and balance. Your journey towards self-compassion and embracing your reflection is a powerful example to others. If you ever feel the need to share your experiences or seek support from like-minded individuals, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is here for you. Join us at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ to connect with a community that understands and supports each other in our journeys of self-discovery and emotional well-being. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Your steps towards self-love and emotional balance are truly inspiring. Keep cherishing your reflection and the unique individual it represents. Kind Regards, David
As a hsp, I appreciate the tenderness in your approach, THE calm rhythm, not hectic, or overwhelming, many people who claim to know and understand hsp, overlook the actual presentaion/ communication factor, The most important communication tool any person can use to convey a message to an hsp, without triggering the hsp to shut down or shut others out, is to use consciousness of words, their meaning and pleasant tones, tone of voice is really important, along with inflection, if the speech is too hurried, or the tone to high pitched, ( trigger warning!!!) skip to next paragraph. it's like nails on a chalkboard. Many hsps immediately look for a way out. My experience as a hsp from birth has lead me to understand that the way I process the environment, is much different, than my peers, what I experience is best explained like this, I'm half in this realm, and half out, I'm able to actually see intentions. Weird right? So, say a person is thinking, only using very subtle body language, that's enough information for me to gather their thoughts, their intentions, their past experiences, and their present state of being from the ethereal realm all the way down to the material realm.and everything in between. And interaction with others doesn't need to be anything other than them just being them, no bells or whistles, excuses or explanations, just them expressing who they truly are by just being present, is enough..from there, and that place, everything will naturally un fold, and blossom.
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I love the left handedness analogy since I’m both left handed and highly sensitive. It was great comparing how I view my lefthandedness and my sensitivity. Very glad I came across this channel.
Just discovered your channel a few days ago. This video hit hard on many levels. I was in tears for the last part of the video. Things have become much more clearer now. Thanks a ton for doing this!
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Most people don't realize what's going on with them. Though I was called sensitive, I never saw myself as sensitive. I saw myself as caring. Now, I know. But, that doesn't change the fact that HSPs draw narcissistic to us. Even though we may not ask others to change for us, yet others still expect us to change for them. My family remains indifferent to me after all these years. We are on our own and must stand up for ourselves and maintain healthy boundaries.
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Yes thank U .. I like “STOP 🛑 IT” . Good for difficult Boarderline Personality Disorder.. yes THX .. need to care for myself & protect myself because I am sensitive .. only now late in life am I able to turn away from harsh & insensitive family neighbors & others as a way self care .. .. I may not know what others are thinking but I know when I’m uncomfortable .. When my needs are unrecognized .. i use Truth and compassion as my Barometer.. it’s not hypersensitive .. it’s my standards ..
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I always considered that it's my intuition that tells me what others are thinking and what they are going to do. Everytime it told me negative about others and everytime I believed it and labelled others as wrong or manipulators and avoided them. I'm then left with just myself thinking why people are like this, why they're thinking or doing this while I'm being good to them and being empathetic to them. I always then avoided such situations and people thinking that I'm protecting myself from negativity.
Hi guys! 🙂 I recently came across your videos and am currently 29 minutes into this one. I just wanted to suggest something. Whatever follows the words "I AM" is coming to find you. Why do you say, "I am a highly sensitive person" so many times, if you struggle with that reality?! 🤦🏽♀️Explore the possibility that you keep watering that plant and growing it. Or planting its seeds and reaping more of it in abundance. An alternative would be to say instead something like, "I am a balanced and centered person". Imagine reaping that in abundance. Wow. It would be heavenly. Anyway, your perspectives help the world so thank you for sharing. I hope what I just said helps you. If it doesn't, there will always be an abundance of solutions to explore in this world of ours! 😊
For me "sensitivity" means several inter-related things. I respond to the world and other people with feeling and antennae; I am active in various fine arts; I like beauty and touch; I can get hurt easily by hostility or manipulation (are they drawn to my sensitivity but afraid of it and thus "mess" with it?); I can feel overstimulated and exhausted--both energized and tired at the same time (not pleasant); I'm empathic--and very independent (perhaps, in part, a strategy for avoiding others). People close to me have also made the observation: "You're more like a woman than a man." (I'm heterosexual.) Sources of pain for me include: (apparent) disapproval from authority figures (i.e. they have more power than I, etc.); and difficulty sleeping after a day of exercise and creative work (CNS can't seem to calm down).
I understand you too. I'm highly creative since a young child. I was born sensitive and if my parents were alive they would agree. Being creative tho' is when I'm happiest X and most in peace. Even if it can be hard to wind down once the flow starts. But I remind myself I must take care of myself first. Everything else is less important.
Wow you completely blew me away when you spoke about the highly sensitive person being hard on themselves to an extreme. I have started the work on practicing kindness and noticing the emotions as they come up but it was fundamental for me to see the dialogue that you played out. I’m going to continue the work and watch more of your self love videos 😀
Hi and thanks for your kind feedback on our video - we're glad it help you! Have you watched our Highly Sensitive Person Guided Meditation ? th-cam.com/video/MfYAf9M-1Y0/w-d-xo.html If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
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Thank you so much! I realize I still have more work to do. Many years ago before and while in therapy I used to walk around feeling and almost believing I was a sponge. I used to say, "My brain is a sponge." I absorbed so much stuff while working on surviving abuse issues and PTSD. I felt as tho' I could read people's minds but it was really energy (vibes) I was picking up from the people in my life. Or comments. Often it was negative energy because they just couldn't understand what or who I was because I was a bundle of jangled up nerves/depression/ like described here, even suicidal ideation. But I could also be deeply empathetic toward like-experienced survivors. People told me their stories and I absorbed all of that too but I felt I was a comfort so it was a bit easier than the negative energy I took in. This video is so helpful in reminding me what my therapists tried helping me with but not as great as your videos in really defining what the problem really is. I always connected everything back to childhood and other abuses, but I'm realizing in the past few months that I allowed myself to be a doormat so often. With many great videos from different sources I'm finally breaking free of this monkey on my back. The pendulum does swing the other way at times in my private alone-time settings, but that's just to get me to learn how to speak up for myself and the more I practice being strong for myself, the more I expect to hit the balance so that I can handle just being in the middle and calmly state my truths and even have the ability to let it go. I have in the past done this very thing often but I seem to keep falling back into this trap whenever a challenging situation arises in my life. This video is going to help me practice being in the middle by just letting go. I do repeat to myself the AA saying, "Let go and let God." That reminds me. One of my biggest weaknesses is worrying what people think about me. That practice goes right to my childhood in so many ways, especially related to a narcissist father. Seems we EMPATHs often get partnered with a narcissist(s).We learned to be doormats thru various abuses and now we have to work hard at changing our thought processes and let go or just finally let that little child cry which it wasn't allowed. We had to be the parent so to speak and now we have to go thru the child development stage we missed by taking care of our child. Thank you for your wonderful video.
Hi Karen, Thank you for your comments I enjoyed reading them. Well done! I seems as though you are starting to take control of your thinking and beliefs. This is the first and most important step on your journey to balance, health and happiness. Of course this road has many twists and turns and we fall of our bike many times :-) We have to remember to get back on and peddle even harder!! Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David
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Thank you David and Alex for this video, I really need it as it says a lot about me. I just feel sometimes too weak to deal with others, I am trying to feel good about myself and feel peace within me.
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Todays journal/message & reminder to myself- just sharing. Imagine every single time I talk to anyone else, there's a mirror reflecting back at me. Imagine they are me. See how my face looks? Imagine if I treated people the way I talk to myself? Imagine I'm on the receiving end of myself during every single endeavor I navigate, person I encounter. How would I recieve myself? See how I'm not responsible for others feelings? See how I'm not responsible for how people receive me?There's really no one else but me bc my body doesn't know that energy I'm vibing through has anything to do with that's going on outside me. It's within me, internalized. The toxic feelings I'm projecting outwardly are the very poison I literally have ruminating within myself. I'm my own best friend/enemy. I'm reacting to things that are outside of me, blaming those things & people for how I feel, emotions I create around the story I tell myself around those experiences. I tell myself it means something or should mean something when it's not true. When in fact, no one else can create what's happening within me, but me. I create those thoughts, I create my emotions, no one outside me has the power to control me...but me. How I try to navigate through life is a reflection of who I am not the story I tell myself about what someone's thinking or believing. I don't lie to myself by saying the situation at hand/past event should/ shouldn't be happening/ happened or things should be anything other, than exactly what it is. Saying it should/n't be is my argument with reality. When I lie to myself I attract people who lie to me too. When I love me I attract people who love me. Those are my thoughts/beliefs. This control I can't have over these things or people is what gives me anxiety, not the people or expectations I had of things/people. I don't & can't know what anyone else's thinking or believing & thank goodness. It's also none of my business. The mere idea what they even think about me, I created a problem that never existed by thinking their ideas or projections, judgements of me are or ever were, my problem or my business or my reality?? I remember, what I think of me is enough to worry about. What I think of me is all that matters. I keep me comfortable bc I don't know you, I know me. No one is angry at me or bc of me. They're angry bc of the story they tell themselves about me or the story they created of how I should/shouldn't be. Their expectations of me to show up any differently than I did, isn't my problem. I don't need to control how they see me bc they're gonna see me from the place they know themselves. I remember that all I put out will be returned. If I'm good to me, I teach others how I expect to be treated. Grand rising. Go create an amazing day for yourself. There is only you.
I'm a highly sensitive person and I don't be around people I can feel their emotions and I just deal with it , so I closed myself indoors most of the time
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Your question 31:56 I believe I have to solve everyone else's problem for them so that they avoid their own discomfort. Very interesting...never really saw that. Thank you for this great tool!
Hi Anita Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! There is a mantra we use: 'It's not your job to save others, but to support them whilst they save themselves'. You may also find our other Sensitivity videos helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zIA1ETExZbMcBu68YArYxLEv.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
I feel extremely cursed with this "asset" as whenever I stand up for myself, confront someone; speak my truth/feelings I get responses like "you are too sensitive" or "you feel too much" or "you need to grow a thicker skin" instead of I can understand why you feel that way (validation) and now as a result of those repeated experiences I struggle with revealing those intimate details which of course threatens my ability to build and maintain healthy relationships bc I ultimately do not feel safe or trust that the person will respect and validate my feelings. I work in a workplace that is toxic and it is taking a serious toll on me. Having to work closely with harsh and insensitive people is so hard and it keeps me on edge all day because I am waiting for the shoe to drop always. Whenever I go out of my home I am always scanning my surroundings to see if it is safe.. PTSD. I have used marijuana as a crutch to numb myself out which of course is temporary. Anytime I talk about my feelings with parents I get eye-rolling like my feelings are insignificant. Many people are very insensitive and have no awareness of it and when you tactfully bring it to their attention they turn the tables on you and make it seem like you are asking for the world when you are only asking for basic respect. I seriously can not deal. How does one deal with this.. I work all day, live in an emotionally abusive household and workplace and there is no space for me to feel at peace and in a state where creativity can rise. How do highly sensitive people cope with narcissistic people?
Hi Jaclyn, Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. I would ask you to meditate on the statement "I am the creator of my emotions, not the victim of them!" This is a very powerful statement, and the basis of spiritual and personal freedom. Most of my clients will intellectually accept that statement but, there is a part of their mind that we label the Inner Child that refuses to accept they are the creator of ALL emotions they are experiencing. I see this as a positive situation because then your learning and spiritual growth is completely down to you, no one else! You may consider receiving some professional guidance to get you on the authentic road. But, in my experience the majority of your emotional education can be self-taught and self-experienced. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
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There is a lot of wisdom in really learning that others do not make me feel something, I choose to feel something. That being said, I struggled in a toxic career path for about 10 years, and leaving it was the best decision I ever made. Part of the choice over our feelings is choosing to stay in a toxic environment. And leaving that career was not easy - I was unemployed for quite a while, struggled with feeling lost without my profession, finding a new career path. But I'd take that struggle all over again over staying in a toxic work environment for years on end.
"Anytime I talk about my feelings with parents I get eye-rolling like my feelings are insignificant. Many people are very insensitive and have no awareness of it and when you tactfully bring it to their attention they turn the tables on you and make it seem like you are asking for the world when you are only asking for basic respect." I was in a pseudo-relationship with a narcissist for a long time, and I totally get how you feel.
@@elmosalive you clearly understand yes... Im so sorry to hear that as I know how that feels and your feelings make complete sense... the eye-rolling is def invalidating for sure... without saying a word it communicates you are full of shit or your feelings are BS. It is not nice in the least. It is abusive. And then being in a relationship with someone else who basically reinforces those feelings and experiences is not good bc it does deep damage.
Thank you for this wonderful wisdom ridge video! I honestly don’t know yet how I put that filter in place, to not sponge up everything, I honestly don’t know anymore what is mine and what is other... it’s only my first video of you both and the homework is waiting already and the golden tread is a wonderful way to see going into myself. Yes I did not learn from my parents how to deal with my sensitivity and often was told to suck it up the world is what it is, and the negative traits of me wehre highlighted or what was believed to be negative p... The world unfortunately still is that way, as I was hoping this crisis will make people more aware of what we do to ourselves and others, but nope nothing yet in my close environment... I will definitely listen in to more of your videos and I’ve started to read into your website. Thank you again and maybe the way you teach will help me learn about myself as much as I know or believe to know about others. Superpowers 🦸♀️ I like that...
Amazing Video, I am near Death over My Feelings and severe Emotional Sensitive Nature, I went through all the stages. (childhood abuse in every way, trauma survivor, many illnesses to date) You have spoken about now being at the cold stage and pushing all loved ones away, I have already caused myself 3 TIA's over how toxic i feel inside. I have been everyone's emotional roller coaster, helping, guiding, trying to make everyone feel good in their Life. day in day out....now i am stuck on the poor me and cold...I would love to talk with David James Lees, i really need a strong person at this point no room for weakness and therapist that enable this as being it's okay. I need release from this ball & chain, in search of realism and i think i found the Real...Thank you so much
Thank you for your comments I'm pleased that you found the video helpful. The biggest step is to acknowledge and accept. You can't change what you don't understand, now you understand you can change! I have NO doubt in you. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos. David
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I am so greatful that I have found your channel. The meditations are so powerful, I especially do them before going to bed and I simply fall into such a great peace.. where I can let go of everything. Thank you David! Could you make a video on dealing with body issues? I am struggling a lot with my low self image, but especially about accepting getting bald at my age (30). I know I shouldn't be focused on it but it takes control and makes me feel so down and depressed. I think it is a very important issue to deal with, especially nowadays where social media puts so much pressure on the physical image, giving it to much importance. Thank you for all the love. Philippe
I work with a 60+ year old OCPD manager and it ripped open a lot of trauma I thought I had dealt with. He has an extreme sense of entitlement to control me. I was living radically open until he came along and I've had to learn to Gray Rock. Because I have PTSD from a similar style of parent it has been quite a journey of becoming MORE sensitive to my needs. I have to flow around him without investing any energy into his personal needs. I threw away a lot trying to navigate his needs and now he is still demanding but doesn't understand why I don't react anymore. I can tell it makes him feel weak and confused, but he would not listen when I told him his actions made ME feel that way. I have dips in mental health habits and I ruminate and have trouble letting the pendulum back towards center. The silver lining is that I don't think I will fall for another person like him again. I am more up front and direct with people and less reactionary towards others, but this OCPD guy is difficult for me to stay relaxed around. I try to Gray Rock his tells, but still be myself like I don't realize he is desperate for control. Maybe he will retire soon, but I want to break the trauma bond now and keep them from forming at all.
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as an HSP, i do do do hope everyone should be educated with this so at least people have some ideas how hard it is to be HSP and try to balance life at the same time. I feel this valuable educational video just warm my heart. I wish everyone will listen to this and treat us more softly
The taking responsibility is key, to empowerment, thank you so much for putting it on the table like that. I still have a lot to learn on how to not feel everyone's emotions, i'm on my way... one step at a time as you said. Great video 🙏
Hi Shir - thanks for watching and for taking the time to comment... we're pleased to share your journey with you! You may also find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/fLqiEfimyaU/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/WuWeiWisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
Hi Shir, you may also find our latest video on the topic of Love & the Inner Child helpful: th-cam.com/video/E_2BLQrmb-I/w-d-xo.html - let us know what you think!
Hi Shir we wanted to let you know that we’ve just published a new video about the ‘3 SUPERPOWERS OF THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON’ - we hope you enjoy it! th-cam.com/video/DY3jzYOvIwM/w-d-xo.html
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
I have a solution. When the external world becomes overwhelming, go into your imagination and create what you want to happen instead. The external is created from the internal. So to stay on a level we have to go inside and balance the energy within. It eases emotions. Sensitive people like me have creative imaginations therefore we can use it in its fullest. It’s a gift. Love that David - Adopt your centre. Practice Practice.
having an informed sense of self is critical to developing appropriate boundaries in our relationships with others. the traumas that cause people to be very sensitive can get in the way. Make peace with your inner child & then learn how to integrate that child into who you are now can fill in the blanks of what & Who we are. build from there
Alex sounds like an INFj - Introverted Intuition provides insights into people lives and motives, Extroverted Feeling is the driver that likes 'harmony' and makes us put other peoples needs first, but also makes us vunerable to criticism. Learning to love yourself, being mindful of negative self talk and stopping it (you can), focus on the issue being argued not the person (yourself of another). It requires a lot of concious self analysis but the rewards are great as you mention. So this also begs the question - are INF personality types more likely to be HSP ? seems logical that probably most probably are. Good Video thanks very supportive :-)
So I don't think I'm going to end up in Rivendell, much as I want to. David's advice is awesome and sooo truthful. Now if I can just learn how to live it. Thanks so much for this!
34:21 : "...Why do you believe it is your responsibility to deal with other people's problems". This is the beginning of make things better for yourself as an HSP, it was an unconscious reflex I used to have and as David says all the time, "STOP IT!!!". You need to distance yourself from this, you need to let people solve their problems on their own.
Hi Sally Ann - here's a HSP meditation for you: th-cam.com/video/MfYAf9M-1Y0/w-d-xo.html If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
Hi , thanks for your kind feedback - we're delighted to be part of your journey! You may also find these videos helpful: self-love - th-cam.com/video/-IRP62paGZE/w-d-xo.html / inner-child - th-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/WuWeiWisdom We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x If you'd like to learn more about our unique approach to the sensitive Inner Child, we also have a full-length mp3 teaching album on this subject (includes a guided Inner Child meditation): 'Oneness ~ Loving & Healing Your Inner Child' - available here ➜ www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/
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Thank you. Your videos are really helpful, natural and sincere. I could relate to this one, especially the part about avoiding confrontation, I laughed, yes, that's me! I will follow your advice on this. I'm grateful for the work and care you put into these videos and they are a useful guide to putting some Taoist philosophy into real life.
I am on the calmer side of borderline who is also highly sensitive raised by a narrastic and an alcoholic. Learning to deal with my emotions, it is hard but your vifeos are really helping. I normally can confront people but most of the time it gets pushed down till i blow up, but lately i have been trying to explain myself in the beginning, i still get emotional and defensive, is there advice for controling my emotions while in a confrontation situation. I would love a highly sensitivity meditation, meditation is the thing that has really helped me.
My mother, probably with narcisstistic traits and full of anger and confrontation, all my childhood was saying: you are too sensitive. Long time i was thinking im a broken person
After doing work on myself and understanding my HSP as an assett I realize why personally I avoided the confrontations. I grew up in a narcissistic parent where the emotions where devalued and sensitivity mocked. As I became an adult my romatic relationships where also with narcs bc its the love I understood. Therefore as I hear this discussion I can't help but mentioning the equal importance to surrounding yourself with healthy people, whenever you can control
From an evolutionary Psy point of view, sensitive people are often highly nurturing; with a perceptual system organized to care for the young. So we probably do absorb more energy, which is hard. What’s helped me most there is energetic NLP. But this view of taking full response ability to center with the golden thread, and see ourselves as there to support, not do for- those are jewels too.
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Hi David I so wanted to answer your question to Alex about why do you believe it's your responsibility to deal with other peoples problems? with, "because that's what I have always done" quite a light bulb moment for me there, thanks for that. Taking this a step further I asked "why have I always done that?" and the answer I got shocked me a bit. I did it because it made ME feel important. It wasn't an act of altruism it was an act of selfishness, I did it to make myself feel better. Amazing stuff.
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After watching the video I looked at what I think my sensitivity is. I now think it’s a series of red light feelings as a result of a lack of adequate filtering boundaries. The absence of suitable boundaries allow a lot of energy to come in. I then get over sensitized to this overwhelm. It’s more about what’s coming in than what I’m giving out. Quite an odd set-up when I look at it. It’s a choice to fire-fight and over-react and isn’t about my sensitivity coming out from a place of Wu Wei at this moment. Does that make sense? Plan to make changes. Inner child needs help.
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Hi, thanks for watching and commenting... In this video we explain why being highly sensitive is a positive asset (your superpower!) : th-cam.com/video/DY3jzYOvIwM/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
I hope I won't be pointing to your "competition", but in my case, I've reached out internally (inner child) using a psychology method called "IFS" and it's been a game changer. That doesn't mean it's not challenging at times, I've actually gone through a few weeks of being shaken up, but I'm seeing this as a challenge, a milestone in this evolution I've decided to undertake. Moments when I'm going through rough times are not great of course, but they are now seen as a moment to ask this question : What's wrong and how may I address it. What you've said in this vidéo is so true : we HSPs want to take care of others so badly and we need to change this behaviour/view of the world!
32:45 I am an empath that would suck in every negative emotion around me. I would take on others problems as though they were happening to me. I would live it. I have learnt that when this happens.. I have to tell myself... these are not my emotions... I don't need to be burdened by them. It has helped me and I am still able to be there for others.
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I can relate to the confrontation being true though with sensitive people. I’ll try the take a deep breath and relax technique BUT my problem is conflict makes me start to cry in the moment because it will bring on extreme emotions. I think that’s why I just avoid it altogether. I will try the techniques you suggested though. My mom also avoids conflict too so that’s where I probably learned this behavior. Thanks for the tips though.
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Thank you both for doing this, sharing such powerful information in all of your videos. I am developing a habit of watching at least one video a day, while drinking tea, and taking notes and start implementing your suggestions. I am so grateful to the Universe to come across your amazing work.
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1. Increase your EQ- emotional intelligence 2. Reject early life squashing of your emotionality- they were wrong. 3. Look at the light bulbs- ie emotions- as ‘ugly’ as you may think they are- there are just emotions no such thing as negative/positive- first cognition to dismantle. 4. I realize that other people’s emotions are NOT mine- then I am able to respond( response-ability)- this contrary to current usage, responsibility means ability to respond- not to DO anything for anyone except your own interiority.
My understanding is if you are sensitive, you are also perceptive?? I became aware of this over time. I used this to my advantage with my work and it worked. I like to listen , and often find that one comment from me can sort issues. Because you stand back and watch the agro enfold, doesn't mean you are weak. Let people cool down, and then give your opinion.
When I’m being hypersensitive, I don’t see it like those around me. Then, later, after I’ve made a fool of myself, I see reality, hoping it doesn’t happen again. But each time I become hypersensitive, it’s such a different scenario that I don’t see it! Please share with me a meditation that can help with this. Thank you.
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The reason I consider myself (HSP) is simply because: -They seem to enjoy their life easily and don't care too much about anything.(it's like they have zero emotions compared to mine) -I get attached to people easily and struggle to replace them even when they don't want to spend as much time with me as before.(I start thinking no one really likes me) -And when it comes into relationships, my life just turns upside down. I get attached to a girl then get rejected, I then see how another emotionless guy comes and the girl falls for him instantly even tough in reality I know I care about her more than the other ever will. PS: I'm not a skinny nerdy clingy ugly guy, I'm infact a fit muscular intelligent artistic guy and see myself as a good looking person and someone who you can trust for life, I just hate it when others don't really appreciate any of this😔.
Hi Harouto Thanks for your comments. As we explained in the video, being sensitive is a great asset, but you must learn how to control your emotions. Being sensitive does NOT give you a 'free pass' or excuse for not controlling your emotions and feelings (what we call 'Red-Lights'.). You raise a number of issues that would be difficult for me to address here. I suggest you watch some more of our videos... particularly the 'Inner Child' series for more understanding about seeking external validation and love - here are three videos that you may find particularly helpful - let us know what you think or if they raise any more questions for you: th-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/-IRP62paGZE/w-d-xo.html You could also consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook Group, where you will find support and guidance on these type emotional issues and Life-lessons: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/WuWeiWisdom Thank you again for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos. David
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When you did not have parents who in childhood see your positives but see only your negatives it becomes very difficult in adulthood to praise yourself and also self confidence suffers a lot , the parents continue to criticise you and see your negatives even in adulthood which keeps getting reinforced though you want to keep coming out of it
Thanks for your comments Vidya.
This is the time to STOP IT! Stop the pattern of lies and negativity. Take full self-responsibility to speak your truth and honour your integrity. It does NOT matter how many times lies get reinforced that does NOT make them suddenly true!
The truth is you are AWESOME and nothing that anyone else says can affect you unless you allow it to. So, make sure you take full self-responsibility for your self-talk and make it is the truth backed up with evidence.
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literally my life in a sentence
Hello fellow Indian :)
I told myself the story that my parents behavior had anything to do with me & that was my first mistake. I see how it all happens for us not too us in the end. Xo
All the way through this video, I was wishing I'd had someone in my life (all through my life!) who would sit and wait for me to get my thoughts together the way David does. It would've made such a difference. So now I have to learn to do it for myself! Next stop, all those videos...
I'm an HSP (do a test with 27 questions to find out if you're an HSP, by Elaine Aaron & she's written a book called The Highly Sensitive Person, I recommend it).
The HSP's biggest fear is confrontation. Just the thought of it used to give me anxiety and insomnia for weeks, making me depressed & avoid the initial problem completely (the need for confrontation). What helped me was role-playing with a friend, when I needed to practise getting my point of view across in a future talk eg at work with my bully boss, or with my bully of a mother.
I've learnt the outcome of the 'real' confrontation (with your boss, your mother etc) doesn't really matter. it's more important to stand up for yourself and get your point of view across & hear yourself speaking up , rather than having a positive outcome or expecting them to be able to compromise. This raises your self-esteem that you can speak up for yourself in a calm, gentle and compassionate way (when both of you are calm). They will respect you more for teaching them your point of view, which they never had a clue about before, as well as teaching them the best way to respectfully stand up for your basic human rights. All my office bosses were bullies who thought it was a good idea to lead with intimidation and fear. Rubbish bosses. What idiots. I left the corporate environment and now I work for myself (no bosses!!) and I do a meaningful job that gives me satisfaction and positive energy. I'm a care-giver to 1 lady and we love drawing and painting together - she's also an HSP. I'm learning a lot about how tricky it is to work so closely with a fussy, slow-thinking, highly curious, anxious, negative person who is also very loving, caring, clever, observant, compassionate and kind to me ie we are exactly the same!! I love her so much and I'm trying to encourage her to be as creative and imaginative as possible - to bring out the real spirit in her - and in myself. HSP's are the BEST.
I've discovered HSP topic 1 year ago, but I was deeply interested until recently. Having read about it brought me peace, comprehension, understanding. I've struggled with people since I can remember. I have been the weird relative, always set apart. The crazy. I've felt guilt all my life for being different. "I should be more social", always questioning my decisions, my motivations, all me. I think that one develops guilt about his/her sensitivity depending of the roughness of the people around us. It's fascinating how all my life I've thought of HSP related ideas without knowing of it, like that Krishnamurti quote: "It is no measure of health to be well adapted to a profoundly sick society". That wisdom was pure gold to my heart. Now, knowing about HSP just make me feel more confident, more considerate about myself.
Thanks for your comment Luis... never forget that your sensitivity is your SUPERPOWER! Celebrate and lovingly manage this wonderful quality you have so that it serves you well in life.
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I’ve been a therapist and went on a personal journey of truth. Once I saw how we are destroying the planet, our toxic food we give ourselves our children how we mistreat other people and living things it is depressing. Disappointed others don’t follow the truth. It’s hard to enjoy the world when you are aware of all the violence corruption and hate. how we haven’t learned from the past . I need to take responsibility to go forward. I’ve been frozen in what does it matter. I think is like to get stronger and will practice again in this area Love to you all.
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I related to this SO MUCH! Especially the part about being empathetic to others but not ourselves. It’s almost like something switches in my mind and I can feel my whole self change when I am with others and helping them. I can feel my energy focusing outwards. But as soon as I’m alone it focuses inwards and it’s always so negative and self depreciating. I’m actually scared of my own inner critic 😂 and try to avoid it because it makes me feel so frustrated. It’s crazy how these things happen and how we don’t show the same kindness to ourselves. Thanks for another amazing video! X
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When this happens to me I sometimes find it helpful to name that critic. And tell them to stuff it when they say that. And allow a kinder voice to be made for you that can counter that critic. Much love and healing
Helen, after listening to David and Alexandria then reading your comment, the negative self talk is now replaced by images that take me to a wonderful, pleasurable location from my past which I believe come from my relationship with my Inner Child
Many Thanks to both Alex and David
Mother Nature is involved also!!
So I've struggled with the same issue that Alex was making an example of. About being an emotional sponge and letting the emotions of people around me affect me. For me, when I did my own personal investigation it boiled down to feeling unworthy. The reason why I felt I had to absorb peoples emotions is because I wanted to make them feel better, take their pain away so that they could love me. I felt that was the only way people could love me, if I become a servant to them. Also if I knew what they were feeling, I could avoid confrontation. I still need to investigate this further but its a good start.
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Thank you for sharing your self-development work.
I agree that is a very good start, well done! I would encourage you to continue with your spiritual journey.
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Yeah, same. Was you parentified by a parent as a child?
I'd recommend living on your own, if possible. It makes you think just about you (very important) and puts a barrier up between you and the people you soak the emotions from. when you get home, you are in your oasis of calm and relaxation, away from needy people, noise and over-stimulation.
I don’t agree to this approach. I may be wrong but I’m hap and I’m pretty sure my mother is and my children definitely are. I have slowly seen my mother cut herself off from the world in order to “tune into herself” she now has next to no contact with anyone and is unable to cope with the outside world. Why as an jsp should you live cut off from the world. You should be out there being and doing everything that you are wonderful at. You have just got to put in place some coping strategies and learn to place boundaries. I’m only just figuring this out. However I do agree that hsp really need time with themselves to rest and relax and be creative!!!!
I definitely can relate myself to this!
Yes, yes, my golden thread process lead me to the core belief that " I am never good enough" or I am not worthy or deserving of anything good in life" ...until i PROVE to others by serving them and absorbing everybody's problems and ignoring my own dreams and goals in life.
Great video I can relate as a highly sensitive person , I’m 53 and am still learning about myself. Glad to see such a great source of information. I am sure this will help a lot of people.
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Wu Wei Wisdom , is a little conflicting for me. As a highly sensitive person and having a family who doesn’t have filters or don’t thinking before they speak; it becomes a challenge to try to follow the “ yu” way. It’s more to highly sensitive.; I think this is describing more a stubborn sensitive person , rather than an empath who actually feels other’s emotion and suffers consequences and has no clue how to disengage from that environment.
Thankyou for this great video! I experience myself as highly sensitive with all the troubles as feeling easily overwhelmed etc. Now I learn here I have a CHOICE how I response and til which degree I want to be involved. Next few days I have challenging opportunities to practise and try out. It will be new behaviour for me! Scary but neccesary!!😮😊
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Thank you for your appreciation! It's wonderful to hear that you're embracing the concept of choice in how you respond to your sensitivity. Recognising that you have the power to choose your involvement is a significant step forward. Embracing new behaviors can indeed be daunting, but it's also a path to growth and self-discovery. Remember, every step you take is a step towards understanding and aligning with your true self. If you find value in sharing experiences or seeking insights, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is here for you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Best wishes on your journey of practice and discovery in the coming days!
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I’m an artist and my sensitivity is one of my biggest assets, but all my life, i grew up in a family that trampled over my sensitivity, and shamed me for it in all aspects, calling me crazy as a nickname. Being sensitive was bad, being creative was bad, sharing your emotions was wrong. My mother was also neglectful and purposely mean, because she thought it would make me change and toughen up, and by mean, she would say things that no child should hear from their parent. When I first was told I’m most likely HSP, my therapist told me I should learn to filter the things that come to me, build a wall to protect my heart, because I got deeply hurt, and it’s true that this past 5 years I’ve improved a lot, I’ve been able to be confront situations of conflict better than I used to, although always shaking and it takes a heavy toll on my body, and I’ve been able to be less affected by my mother and what people say. What I haven’t been able to defeat, however, is defeating that voice inside. It’s like a bad habit that keeps coming back, and from time to time, brings me down to a debilitating and paralyzing point. Also, after some traumatizing experiences in a relationship and some friendships, I hardened myself to a point where I don’t let almost anyone in, I don’t trust mostly anyone, and I will avoid people and situations just in order to not get hurt or abandoned, I fear breaking expectations so much, I have so much anxiety when talking to my superior at work to a detrimental point, even though they’re great people, and after loosing a very dear to my heart pet, who carried me through the hardest point of my life, my emotions where so deep and painful, i simply shut down, to the point sometimes I just forget how to feel anymore. Slowly, while repressing that pain, I also forgot how to be happy, how to enjoy things, and how to find purpose, which has always been important to me.
While I know I wouldn’t be able to do what I do for a living without my sensitive trait, and I love what I do, sometimes I feel so lonely. I’m scared of ending up alone, but I’m also afraid of getting deeply hurt. I’m scared of loving so much, that when I loose them, like my bird, It’ll hurt as if I was going to die once again. Only when I write the words down like this, I can realize that it still hurts so much, but when I talk to people and go through therapy, I brush over these things quickly because I don’t want to break in front of them, unconsciously. When I talk about it with others I do in a way I don’t feel anything, but I don’t do that because I want to. So in the end, I’ve been in a spiral where I want to change, I want to heal, but i self sabotage, and can’t seem to open up myself anymore, or more like, I don’t know how. I’m so afraid of feeling, that I can’t even feel anymore.
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You dropped me out of one year depression just by saying stubborn people are determined. Highly sensitive people are creative. Thank you.
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Thank you very much for all your videos. I always depended on other people for my self worth and good feeling. One day a few months ago I felt like i couldn't continue anymore, I went onto TH-cam and tried to look up Approval addiction, and found your videos. I am a new person, a changed person, a happy person, a calm person-And I truly thank you for giving me the tools to get there
As an AA woman, being an HSP never went over well with my family, community, or tribe. No matter how well I did in work, it didn't take long before I either got bored or felt that I was treated less than a human being. I was not just called overly sensitive, but demanding. Personally, I believe that the persons giving me the hardest time were HSPs in denial.
How are you doing now Deborah ?
Beautifully.❤️ Thank you for asking! Once I got diagnosed with ptsd and worked on getting regulated, things have changed so much. I don’t even think much about being highly sensitive, except to boast about it.🤗 ❤️
Omg such a great point.
How come I have been so lucky to have found your content? You too are amazing! Blessings!
Hi David and Alex . Just want to let you know how grateful i am that i found you online. I Want you to know that you are literally saving lives with these teachings. ❤❤
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I am a Highly Sensitive Person and it's a problem. Thank you for this Playlist. It's really helping me to improve myself.
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Wow! I did not know I was a sensitive person! Most of this video pertained to my life up to now. As I went thru the video , I had flashbacks from my childhood , that is where I learned it, Mother, unreal. Its know wonder I went thru a number of relationships, and about to burn thru another one , after 20 yrs.? I think I get it! Now , the work begins. Thankyou so much , you guys are amazing! Iam in!
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I love this conversation, it’s like the conversation I have in my head, I’ve tried to develop a logical/critical voice to argue against myself when I start falling into sensitive thinking because I react emotionally to stuff rather than considering the facts. I always hyper focus on when something negatively triggers me, then spend so much energy over analysing why I felt like that and dragging stuff up from the past and connecting stuff from years ago to this one little event that happened. I’ve noticed that when something positively affects me I don’t put as much effort into thinking why, so I’m making a conscious effort to realise what affects me in a good way and let more of that in my life
Thank you so much for this lesson that sensitivity is NOT a handicap. As someone who was shamed continually for feelings from early childhood this is such a great validation!
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Best conversation ever,my turning point,I now understand myself better and how to deal with sensitivity
The floodgate of understanding which has been unleashed since realizing I am a highly sensitive person makes me want to cry (haha!). To feel all of your life like everything is an battle I could never win and that I would be stuck having gotten the short end of the stick from birth, and then to have a profound understanding like this which leads to the acceptance and embracing of all aspects of me, there are no words. Realizing this is the only thing that has truly resonated or struck deep enough to really effect change in my life and make me feel less hopeless about my capabilities. This video is now one of my favorites and my go-to when I need to get back to center and reiterate understanding. Thank you immensely for this. I do want to say that being a highly sensitive person doesn’t necessarily make you empathic or particularly prone to constant displays of empathy. I can show it like the next person, but the thing about HSP is that you project your own reactions to things more than you are truly seeing the world or people for what and who they are, so often, your empathy is actually hindered, not bolstered, of course, you can be both empathic and highly sensitive, but people use them interchangeably too much. I don’t take on other people’s feelings as my own because I am often too wrapped up in my own responses to situations and stimuli. I just wanted to say that, but everything else in this video is SOOO accurate. Thank you!
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This has become a huge problem with people being “triggered” by everything and ruled by their own victim mentality. The worst part is when they expect the rest of the world to to cater to their issues and feelings. Emotional intelligence should be taught in school. It would be hugely beneficial to EVERYONE. This is an excellent discussion on the topic.
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My definition of sensitivity.
A person with fine tuned awareness of subtleties that can be beneficial in the arts, helpful when empathy is required for others, but can be detrimental when empathy is not directed towards the self, or when others’ needs are regarded as more important the their own.
Emotions are felt intensely and therefore can become overwhelming or traumatic, and can lead to overreaction.
Extra sensitive people can be very creative, but this can be problematic if the imagination is used to catastrophise future outcomes as an attempt to control or otherwise be prepared for the worst in hope of avoiding unbearable intense emotions.
The attempt to control others future actions and emotions, comes from an inflated sense of responsibility for others emotional well-being.
To stop others from being unhappy, is an attempt to avoid personalised feelings of guilt.
The futile effort to control others’ thoughts, actions and emotions in a non-existent future causes anxiety due to a lack in sense of control of that which is impossible to be controlled.
Strong smells, sounds, light all affect me it's crazy 😩 even environment affects me
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Same
Yes, absolutely! It’s your/our sensitive nervous systems! It’s not crazy. It’s just how we’re built. Non-sensitives will/can/do shame us for it, because they don’t understand.
Wow this is truly revolutionary to my life !!!! The more I listen the more liberated I feel !!!
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I definitely am going to watch that video again and again till I get it right. I have always taken care of everyone’s emotions except my own. Especially my family. It drives me crazy how out of touch they are. I just want to fix them. But now I am going to follow Wu Wei and take care of my own emotions because truthfully nobody else ever has given me the compassion I give them. I actually went out and bought myself a full length mirror just so I can learn to love my reflection which I hated for so long. I’m pretty cute if I may say so!
Hi @user-yw1tj6qt6m,
It's truly inspiring to hear about your commitment to watching the video again and ensuring you fully grasp its essence. Your dedication to taking care of others is commendable, yet recognizing the importance of prioritizing your own emotional well-being marks a significant step in your journey. Embracing Wu Wei and focusing on your emotions is a powerful act of self-compassion and understanding.
The decision to buy a full-length mirror as a tool to learn to love your reflection is both brave and beautiful. It's a testament to your willingness to embrace self-love and to see yourself with the same compassion and kindness you've extended to others. And yes, acknowledging your cuteness is a delightful step towards embracing your self-worth and beauty!
Remember, caring for your own emotions is not selfish; it's essential. It allows you to be more present and supportive for others from a place of strength and balance. Your journey towards self-compassion and embracing your reflection is a powerful example to others.
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Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Your steps towards self-love and emotional balance are truly inspiring. Keep cherishing your reflection and the unique individual it represents.
Kind Regards,
David
As a hsp, I appreciate the tenderness in your approach, THE calm rhythm, not hectic, or overwhelming, many people who claim to know and understand hsp, overlook the actual presentaion/ communication factor, The most important communication tool any person can use to convey a message to an hsp, without triggering the hsp to shut down or shut others out, is to use consciousness of words, their meaning and pleasant tones, tone of voice is really important, along with inflection, if the speech is too hurried, or the tone to high pitched, ( trigger warning!!!) skip to next paragraph.
it's like nails on a chalkboard.
Many hsps immediately look for a way out.
My experience as a hsp from birth has lead me to understand that the way I process the environment, is much different, than my peers, what I experience is best explained like this, I'm half in this realm, and half out, I'm able to actually see intentions. Weird right? So, say a person is thinking, only using very subtle body language, that's enough information for me to gather their thoughts, their intentions, their past experiences, and their present state of being from the ethereal realm all the way down to the material realm.and everything in between. And interaction with others doesn't need to be anything other than them just being them, no bells or whistles, excuses or explanations, just them expressing who they truly are by just being present, is enough..from there, and that place, everything will naturally un fold, and blossom.
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Thank you, I would enjoy that, but I deleted my
facebook account.
I love the left handedness analogy since I’m both left handed and highly sensitive. It was great comparing how I view my lefthandedness and my sensitivity. Very glad I came across this channel.
Just discovered your channel a few days ago. This video hit hard on many levels. I was in tears for the last part of the video. Things have become much more clearer now. Thanks a ton for doing this!
Welcome aboard!
It's like you're talking about me. Thank you so much for this video. It's the best one I've seen. It will help my journey ive no doubt.
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I love how he says “stop it!”
I’ve seen enough of their videos to have that voice tell me to stop it when I go all harsh on myself 😅
The loveliest video I have ever seen. He has very good clarity.
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When I go back to the red light thinking, I can hear you saying „ stop it” and it helps me ❤
Most people don't realize what's going on with them. Though I was called sensitive, I never saw myself as sensitive. I saw myself as caring. Now, I know. But, that doesn't change the fact that HSPs draw narcissistic to us. Even though we may not ask others to change for us, yet others still expect us to change for them. My family remains indifferent to me after all these years. We are on our own and must stand up for ourselves and maintain healthy boundaries.
Your videos are blessing me TREMENDOUSLY! I RARELY comment but this is helping me in my journey to heal from old traumas and I'm sooooo grateful!!
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Yes thank U .. I like “STOP 🛑 IT” . Good for difficult Boarderline Personality Disorder.. yes THX .. need to care for myself & protect myself because I am sensitive .. only now late in life am I able to turn away from harsh & insensitive family neighbors & others as a way
self care .. .. I may not know what others are thinking but I know when I’m uncomfortable .. When my needs are unrecognized .. i use Truth and compassion as my Barometer.. it’s not hypersensitive .. it’s my standards ..
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I always considered that it's my intuition that tells me what others are thinking and what they are going to do. Everytime it told me negative about others and everytime I believed it and labelled others as wrong or manipulators and avoided them. I'm then left with just myself thinking why people are like this, why they're thinking or doing this while I'm being good to them and being empathetic to them. I always then avoided such situations and people thinking that I'm protecting myself from negativity.
Hi guys! 🙂 I recently came across your videos and am currently 29 minutes into this one. I just wanted to suggest something. Whatever follows the words "I AM" is coming to find you. Why do you say, "I am a highly sensitive person" so many times, if you struggle with that reality?! 🤦🏽♀️Explore the possibility that you keep watering that plant and growing it. Or planting its seeds and reaping more of it in abundance. An alternative would be to say instead something like, "I am a balanced and centered person". Imagine reaping that in abundance. Wow. It would be heavenly. Anyway, your perspectives help the world so thank you for sharing. I hope what I just said helps you. If it doesn't, there will always be an abundance of solutions to explore in this world of ours! 😊
For me "sensitivity" means several inter-related things. I respond to the world and other people with feeling and antennae; I am active in various fine arts; I like beauty and touch; I can get hurt easily by hostility or manipulation (are they drawn to my sensitivity but afraid of it and thus "mess" with it?); I can feel overstimulated and exhausted--both energized and tired at the same time (not pleasant); I'm empathic--and very independent (perhaps, in part, a strategy for avoiding others). People close to me have also made the observation: "You're more like a woman than a man." (I'm heterosexual.) Sources of pain for me include: (apparent) disapproval from authority figures (i.e. they have more power than I, etc.); and difficulty sleeping after a day of exercise and creative work (CNS can't seem to calm down).
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on our video. I hope that our perception of highly sensitive people helped you understand more. David
I understand u (
@@marwaismael6362 hey - thanks for your contribution to this discussion :-)
I understand you too. I'm highly
creative since a young child. I
was born sensitive and if my
parents were alive they would
agree. Being creative tho' is
when I'm happiest X and most
in peace. Even if it can be
hard to wind down once the flow
starts. But I remind myself I
must take care of myself
first. Everything else is less
important.
@@karenkaye6087 great share - thank you! Yes, self-care is very important :)
Wow you completely blew me away when you spoke about the highly sensitive person being hard on themselves to an extreme. I have started the work on practicing kindness and noticing the emotions as they come up but it was fundamental for me to see the dialogue that you played out. I’m going to continue the work and watch more of your self love videos 😀
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Thank you so much! I realize I still have more work to do. Many years ago before and while
in therapy I used to walk around feeling and almost believing I was a sponge. I used to say, "My
brain is a sponge." I absorbed so much stuff while working on surviving abuse issues and PTSD.
I felt as tho' I could read people's minds but it was really energy (vibes) I was picking up from the
people in my life. Or comments. Often it was negative energy because they just couldn't understand
what or who I was because I was a bundle of jangled up nerves/depression/ like described here,
even suicidal ideation. But I could also be deeply empathetic toward like-experienced survivors.
People told me their stories and I absorbed all of that too but I felt I was a comfort so it was a bit
easier than the negative energy I took in. This video is so helpful in reminding me what my
therapists tried helping me with but not as great as your videos in really defining what the problem
really is. I always connected everything back to childhood and other abuses, but I'm realizing in
the past few months that I allowed myself to be a doormat so often. With many great videos from
different sources I'm finally breaking free of this monkey on my back. The pendulum does swing
the other way at times in my private alone-time settings, but that's just to get me to learn how to
speak up for myself and the more I practice being strong for myself, the more I expect to hit the
balance so that I can handle just being in the middle and calmly state my truths and even have
the ability to let it go. I have in the past done this very thing often but I seem to keep falling back
into this trap whenever a challenging situation arises in my life. This video is going to help me
practice being in the middle by just letting go. I do repeat to myself the AA saying, "Let go and let
God." That reminds me. One of my biggest weaknesses is worrying what people think about me.
That practice goes right to my childhood in so many ways, especially related to a narcissist
father. Seems we EMPATHs often get partnered with a narcissist(s).We learned to be doormats
thru various abuses and now we have to work hard at changing our thought processes and let go
or just finally let that little child cry which it wasn't allowed. We had to be the parent so to speak
and now we have to go thru the child development stage we missed by taking care of our child.
Thank you for your wonderful video.
Hi Karen,
Thank you for your comments I enjoyed reading them.
Well done! I seems as though you are starting to take control of your thinking and beliefs. This is the first and most important step on your journey to balance, health and happiness.
Of course this road has many twists and turns and we fall of our bike many times :-) We have to remember to get back on and peddle even harder!!
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Thank you David and Alex for this video, I really need it as it says a lot about me. I just feel sometimes too weak to deal with others, I am trying to feel good about myself and feel peace within me.
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Todays journal/message & reminder to myself- just sharing.
Imagine every single time I talk to anyone else, there's a mirror reflecting back at me. Imagine they are me. See how my face looks? Imagine if I treated people the way I talk to myself? Imagine I'm on the receiving end of myself during every single endeavor I navigate, person I encounter. How would I recieve myself? See how I'm not responsible for others feelings? See how I'm not responsible for how people receive me?There's really no one else but me bc my body doesn't know that energy I'm vibing through has anything to do with that's going on outside me. It's within me, internalized.
The toxic feelings I'm projecting outwardly are the very poison I literally have ruminating within myself. I'm my own best friend/enemy. I'm reacting to things that are outside of me, blaming those things & people for how I feel, emotions I create around the story I tell myself around those experiences. I tell myself it means something or should mean something when it's not true. When in fact, no one else can create what's happening within me, but me. I create those thoughts, I create my emotions, no one outside me has the power to control me...but me.
How I try to navigate through life is a reflection of who I am not the story I tell myself about what someone's thinking or believing. I don't lie to myself by saying the situation at hand/past event should/ shouldn't be happening/ happened or things should be anything other, than exactly what it is. Saying it should/n't be is my argument with reality. When I lie to myself I attract people who lie to me too. When I love me I attract people who love me. Those are my thoughts/beliefs. This control I can't have over these things or people is what gives me anxiety, not the people or expectations I had of things/people.
I don't & can't know what anyone else's thinking or believing & thank goodness. It's also none of my business. The mere idea what they even think about me, I created a problem that never existed by thinking their ideas or projections, judgements of me are or ever were, my problem or my business or my reality?? I remember, what I think of me is enough to worry about. What I think of me is all that matters. I keep me comfortable bc I don't know you, I know me.
No one is angry at me or bc of me. They're angry bc of the story they tell themselves about me or the story they created of how I should/shouldn't be. Their expectations of me to show up any differently than I did, isn't my problem. I don't need to control how they see me bc they're gonna see me from the place they know themselves.
I remember that all I put out will be returned. If I'm good to me, I teach others how I expect to be treated.
Grand rising. Go create an amazing day for yourself. There is only you.
I'm a highly sensitive person and I don't be around people I can feel their emotions and I just deal with it , so I closed myself indoors most of the time
Just learning about hsp , read a lot but this is by far the best and useful information i have heard👍🏻thank you.. confrontation with myself ..
Thanks for your kind words Karin!
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Your question 31:56 I believe I have to solve everyone else's problem for them so that they avoid their own discomfort. Very interesting...never really saw that. Thank you for this great tool!
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I feel extremely cursed with this "asset" as whenever I stand up for myself, confront someone; speak my truth/feelings I get responses like "you are too sensitive" or "you feel too much" or "you need to grow a thicker skin" instead of I can understand why you feel that way (validation) and now as a result of those repeated experiences I struggle with revealing those intimate details which of course threatens my ability to build and maintain healthy relationships bc I ultimately do not feel safe or trust that the person will respect and validate my feelings. I work in a workplace that is toxic and it is taking a serious toll on me. Having to work closely with harsh and insensitive people is so hard and it keeps me on edge all day because I am waiting for the shoe to drop always. Whenever I go out of my home I am always scanning my surroundings to see if it is safe.. PTSD. I have used marijuana as a crutch to numb myself out which of course is temporary. Anytime I talk about my feelings with parents I get eye-rolling like my feelings are insignificant. Many people are very insensitive and have no awareness of it and when you tactfully bring it to their attention they turn the tables on you and make it seem like you are asking for the world when you are only asking for basic respect. I seriously can not deal. How does one deal with this.. I work all day, live in an emotionally abusive household and workplace and there is no space for me to feel at peace and in a state where creativity can rise. How do highly sensitive people cope with narcissistic people?
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I would ask you to meditate on the statement "I am the creator of my emotions, not the victim of them!"
This is a very powerful statement, and the basis of spiritual and personal freedom. Most of my clients will intellectually accept that statement but, there is a part of their mind that we label the Inner Child that refuses to accept they are the creator of ALL emotions they are experiencing.
I see this as a positive situation because then your learning and spiritual growth is completely down to you, no one else!
You may consider receiving some professional guidance to get you on the authentic road. But, in my experience the majority of your emotional education can be self-taught and self-experienced.
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There is a lot of wisdom in really learning that others do not make me feel something, I choose to feel something. That being said, I struggled in a toxic career path for about 10 years, and leaving it was the best decision I ever made. Part of the choice over our feelings is choosing to stay in a toxic environment. And leaving that career was not easy - I was unemployed for quite a while, struggled with feeling lost without my profession, finding a new career path. But I'd take that struggle all over again over staying in a toxic work environment for years on end.
"Anytime I talk about my feelings with parents I get eye-rolling like my feelings are insignificant. Many people are very insensitive and have no awareness of it and when you tactfully bring it to their attention they turn the tables on you and make it seem like you are asking for the world when you are only asking for basic respect." I was in a pseudo-relationship with a narcissist for a long time, and I totally get how you feel.
@@elmosalive you clearly understand yes... Im so sorry to hear that as I know how that feels and your feelings make complete sense... the eye-rolling is def invalidating for sure... without saying a word it communicates you are full of shit or your feelings are BS. It is not nice in the least. It is abusive. And then being in a relationship with someone else who basically reinforces those feelings and experiences is not good bc it does deep damage.
Thank you for this wonderful wisdom ridge video! I honestly don’t know yet how I put that filter in place, to not sponge up everything, I honestly don’t know anymore what is mine and what is other... it’s only my first video of you both and the homework is waiting already and the golden tread is a wonderful way to see going into myself. Yes I did not learn from my parents how to deal with my sensitivity and often was told to suck it up the world is what it is, and the negative traits of me wehre highlighted or what was believed to be negative p... The world unfortunately still is that way, as I was hoping this crisis will make people more aware of what we do to ourselves and others, but nope nothing yet in my close environment... I will definitely listen in to more of your videos and I’ve started to read into your website. Thank you again and maybe the way you teach will help me learn about myself as much as I know or believe to know about others. Superpowers 🦸♀️ I like that...
Amazing Video, I am near Death over My Feelings and severe Emotional Sensitive Nature, I went through all the stages. (childhood abuse in every way, trauma survivor, many illnesses to date)
You have spoken about now being at the cold stage and pushing all loved ones away, I have already caused myself 3 TIA's over how toxic i feel inside. I have been everyone's emotional roller coaster, helping, guiding, trying to make everyone feel good in their Life. day in day out....now i am stuck on the poor me and cold...I would love to talk with David James Lees, i really need a strong person at this point no room for weakness and therapist that enable this as being it's okay. I need release from this ball & chain, in search of realism and i think i found the Real...Thank you so much
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The biggest step is to acknowledge and accept. You can't change what you don't understand, now you understand you
can change!
I have NO doubt in you.
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I am so greatful that I have found your channel. The meditations are so powerful, I especially do them before going to bed and I simply fall into such a great peace.. where I can let go of everything. Thank you David!
Could you make a video on dealing with body issues? I am struggling a lot with my low self image, but especially about accepting getting bald at my age (30). I know I shouldn't be focused on it but it takes control and makes me feel so down and depressed. I think it is a very important issue to deal with, especially nowadays where social media puts so much pressure on the physical image, giving it to much importance. Thank you for all the love. Philippe
I work with a 60+ year old OCPD manager and it ripped open a lot of trauma I thought I had dealt with. He has an extreme sense of entitlement to control me. I was living radically open until he came along and I've had to learn to Gray Rock. Because I have PTSD from a similar style of parent it has been quite a journey of becoming MORE sensitive to my needs. I have to flow around him without investing any energy into his personal needs. I threw away a lot trying to navigate his needs and now he is still demanding but doesn't understand why I don't react anymore. I can tell it makes him feel weak and confused, but he would not listen when I told him his actions made ME feel that way. I have dips in mental health habits and I ruminate and have trouble letting the pendulum back towards center. The silver lining is that I don't think I will fall for another person like him again. I am more up front and direct with people and less reactionary towards others, but this OCPD guy is difficult for me to stay relaxed around. I try to Gray Rock his tells, but still be myself like I don't realize he is desperate for control. Maybe he will retire soon, but I want to break the trauma bond now and keep them from forming at all.
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What is grey rock ?
These are wonderful and very wise therapists/teachers! Thanks for sharing your knowledge. ❤️
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Dr. Elaine Aron talks about Highly Sensitive People and the research that allowed her to describe this personality trait. Also very informative.
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I’m highly sensitive and this is so helpful for me...thank you!
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Guys you are much appreciated ❤
as an HSP, i do do do hope everyone should be educated with this so at least people have some ideas how hard it is to be HSP and try to balance life at the same time. I feel this valuable educational video just warm my heart. I wish everyone will listen to this and treat us more softly
The taking responsibility is key, to empowerment, thank you so much for putting it on the table like that. I still have a lot to learn on how to not feel everyone's emotions, i'm on my way... one step at a time as you said. Great video 🙏
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Wonderful information and advice. This is something I definitely need to work on. I feel responsible to make things right for others you love😊
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I have a solution.
When the external world becomes overwhelming, go into your imagination and create what you want to happen instead.
The external is created from the internal.
So to stay on a level we have to go inside and balance the energy within. It eases emotions.
Sensitive people like me have creative imaginations therefore we can use it in its fullest. It’s a gift.
Love that David - Adopt your centre.
Practice Practice.
Being a HSP is a great, beautiful, and intriguing quality to posses
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Totally agree with you
I don’t know if it is sweetie. Speaking on a personal level here. Sometimes I think it’s a curse!
I couldn't agree less. My life has been torture because of my sensitivity.
Alex is amazing to do the role playing for us 😊
having an informed sense of self is critical to developing appropriate boundaries in our relationships with others. the traumas that cause people to be very sensitive can get in the way. Make peace with your inner child & then learn how to integrate that child into who you are now can fill in the blanks of what & Who we are. build from there
Alex sounds like an INFj - Introverted Intuition provides insights into people lives and motives, Extroverted Feeling is the driver that likes 'harmony' and makes us put other peoples needs first, but also makes us vunerable to criticism. Learning to love yourself, being mindful of negative self talk and stopping it (you can), focus on the issue being argued not the person (yourself of another). It requires a lot of concious self analysis but the rewards are great as you mention. So this also begs the question - are INF personality types more likely to be HSP ? seems logical that probably most probably are. Good Video thanks very supportive :-)
Just discovered your you tubes. I am really learning a lot and can identify with a lot. Thank you! I have some direction for some action.
The pendulum theory fits me soo well!!
So I don't think I'm going to end up in Rivendell, much as I want to. David's advice is awesome and sooo truthful. Now if I can just learn how to live it. Thanks so much for this!
You can do it! Kind regards, David.
34:21 : "...Why do you believe it is your responsibility to deal with other people's problems". This is the beginning of make things better for yourself as an HSP, it was an unconscious reflex I used to have and as David says all the time, "STOP IT!!!". You need to distance yourself from this, you need to let people solve their problems on their own.
Thanks guys!
I'd love a meditation on highly sensitive people xxx
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I just learned so much about myself from this video... thank you ♡
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I wish I'll find someone who can love and understand me . As a highly sensitive person, it's so hard to live every day
Thank u david and alexandra for sharing this wisdom
Namaste
Thank you. Your videos are really helpful, natural and sincere. I could relate to this one, especially the part about avoiding confrontation, I laughed, yes, that's me! I will follow your advice on this.
I'm grateful for the work and care you put into these videos and they are a useful guide to putting some Taoist philosophy into real life.
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I am on the calmer side of borderline who is also highly sensitive raised by a narrastic and an alcoholic. Learning to deal with my emotions, it is hard but your vifeos are really helping. I normally can confront people but most of the time it gets pushed down till i blow up, but lately i have been trying to explain myself in the beginning, i still get emotional and defensive, is there advice for controling my emotions while in a confrontation situation. I would love a highly sensitivity meditation, meditation is the thing that has really helped me.
My mother, probably with narcisstistic traits and full of anger and confrontation, all my childhood was saying: you are too sensitive. Long time i was thinking im a broken person
wow you really changed my life, I hope there are ways that can be listen even more to help
After doing work on myself and understanding my HSP as an assett I realize why personally I avoided the confrontations. I grew up in a narcissistic parent where the emotions where devalued and sensitivity mocked. As I became an adult my romatic relationships where also with narcs bc its the love I understood. Therefore as I hear this discussion I can't help but mentioning the equal importance to surrounding yourself with healthy people, whenever you can control
Omg me tooo all the way same stories
💚❤ I just want to say thank you for your invaluable information and support. I feel that you have opened up my mind.
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I really need tips and advice for helping my HSP teenager, thank you!
From an evolutionary Psy point of view, sensitive people are often highly nurturing; with a perceptual system organized to care for the young. So we probably do absorb more energy, which is hard. What’s helped me most there is energetic NLP. But this view of taking full response ability to center with the golden thread, and see ourselves as there to support, not do for- those are jewels too.
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Hi David I so wanted to answer your question to Alex about why do you believe it's your responsibility to deal with other peoples problems? with, "because that's what I have always done" quite a light bulb moment for me there, thanks for that.
Taking this a step further I asked "why have I always done that?" and the answer I got shocked me a bit. I did it because it made ME feel important. It wasn't an act of altruism it was an act of selfishness, I did it to make myself feel better. Amazing stuff.
What a fucking great couple!!!! Such an inspiration! Many thanks!!!!
I really enjoy both of you! Thank you! My brother used to shame me about being “too sensitive”...
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After watching the video I looked at what I think my sensitivity is. I now think it’s a series of red light feelings as a result of a lack of adequate filtering boundaries. The absence of suitable boundaries allow a lot of energy to come in. I then get over sensitized to this overwhelm. It’s more about what’s coming in than what I’m giving out. Quite an odd set-up when I look at it. It’s a choice to fire-fight and over-react and isn’t about my sensitivity coming out from a place of Wu Wei at this moment. Does that make sense? Plan to make changes. Inner child needs help.
Oh I just love you two! Great video 🙂 thank you 🙏😌
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Being an HSP can be your greatest asset? How. I’m HSP and it’s so difficult
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I hope I won't be pointing to your "competition", but in my case, I've reached out internally (inner child) using a psychology method called "IFS" and it's been a game changer. That doesn't mean it's not challenging at times, I've actually gone through a few weeks of being shaken up, but I'm seeing this as a challenge, a milestone in this evolution I've decided to undertake. Moments when I'm going through rough times are not great of course, but they are now seen as a moment to ask this question : What's wrong and how may I address it. What you've said in this vidéo is so true : we HSPs want to take care of others so badly and we need to change this behaviour/view of the world!
32:45 I am an empath that would suck in every negative emotion around me. I would take on others problems as though they were happening to me. I would live it. I have learnt that when this happens.. I have to tell myself... these are not my emotions... I don't need to be burdened by them. It has helped me and I am still able to be there for others.
Thank you very much. Now I have learned a great deal about myself and how my behaviuor should be.
You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.
We are powerless over others -I keep reminding myself😊
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One of the best hsp videos
Thank you❤️
Wow, thank you! Kind regards, David.
I can relate to the confrontation being true though with sensitive people. I’ll try the take a deep breath and relax technique BUT my problem is conflict makes me start to cry in the moment because it will bring on extreme emotions. I think that’s why I just avoid it altogether. I will try the techniques you suggested though. My mom also avoids conflict too so that’s where I probably learned this behavior. Thanks for the tips though.
Excellent video. Very helpful. Thank you!
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Thank you both for doing this, sharing such powerful information in all of your videos. I am developing a habit of watching at least one video a day, while drinking tea, and taking notes and start implementing your suggestions. I am so grateful to the Universe to come across your amazing work.
Oh, thank you for your kind words and support Anjela :)
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1. Increase your EQ- emotional intelligence
2. Reject early life squashing of your emotionality- they were wrong.
3. Look at the light bulbs- ie emotions- as ‘ugly’ as you may think they are- there are just emotions no such thing as negative/positive- first cognition to dismantle.
4. I realize that other people’s emotions are NOT mine- then I am able to respond( response-ability)- this contrary to current usage, responsibility means ability to respond- not to DO anything for anyone except your own interiority.
My understanding is if you are sensitive, you are also perceptive?? I became aware of this over time. I used this to my advantage with my work and it worked. I like to listen , and often find that one comment from me can sort issues. Because you stand back and watch the agro enfold, doesn't mean you are weak. Let people cool down, and then give your opinion.
When I’m being hypersensitive, I don’t see it like those around me. Then, later, after I’ve made a fool of myself, I see reality, hoping it doesn’t happen again. But each time I become hypersensitive, it’s such a different scenario that I don’t see it! Please share with me a meditation that can help with this. Thank you.
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The reason I consider myself (HSP) is simply because:
-They seem to enjoy their life easily and don't care too much about anything.(it's like they have zero emotions compared to mine)
-I get attached to people easily and struggle to replace them even when they don't want to spend as much time with me as before.(I start thinking no one really likes me)
-And when it comes into relationships, my life just turns upside down. I get attached to a girl then get rejected, I then see how another emotionless guy comes and the girl falls for him instantly even tough in reality I know I care about her more than the other ever will.
PS: I'm not a skinny nerdy clingy ugly guy, I'm infact a fit muscular intelligent artistic guy and see myself as a good looking person and someone who you can trust for life, I just hate it when others don't really appreciate any of this😔.
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As we explained in the video, being sensitive is a great asset, but you must learn how to control your emotions. Being sensitive does NOT give you a 'free pass' or excuse for not controlling your emotions and feelings (what we call 'Red-Lights'.).
You raise a number of issues that would be difficult for me to address here. I suggest you watch some more of our videos... particularly the 'Inner Child' series for more understanding about seeking external validation and love - here are three videos that you may find particularly helpful - let us know what you think or if they raise any more questions for you: th-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/w-d-xo.html / th-cam.com/video/-IRP62paGZE/w-d-xo.html
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smart guy 2k19 ur not alone. sounds like my life story.
Yes please to a meditation on sensitivity. Thank you.
This will be the next video that we add to the channel! :-)
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Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️
You're welcome Cassandra. Thanks for taking the time to watch the teaching. Wishing you a Qi filled weekend ahead! Alex & David x
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