Let's acknowledge that Dr.Fox was nice enough to repost this video without the sound effects that seemed to bother so many HSP's out there. :) Only an HSP would do that I think.
Agreed. And it seems like the quick edits are fewer and softer. This is very helpful and gives us HSP’s something concise to share with those who don’t understand or eccentricities. ❤
Having highly sensitive sensory processing is such an important element in HSPs. If you’re not sure, ask your parents. My mom has told me a story which was odd for her to understand. When she had me around age 1, my family went to visit the shrine of the Shias eighth imam as tourists. Apparently I suddenly start screaming as soon as they enter the shrine out of blue. They had to leave because I didn’t stop. When I cried I would cry for a long time. I’m extremely sensitive to smells, I LOVE good scents and even have vomited to bad smells. The bright lights makes me tear, but very dim light make me tired easily too. as a child I would cry because I could sense one shoe was always slightly aa tighter fit than the other. Airborne and food allergies are my lifetime struggle before I was even born!!! Sensitive skin, sharp eyes for details, strong intuitions to the point of telepathic…. I feel physical pain when I see injured people. You know you’re extremely highly sensitive as soon as you read/hear about it.
How interesting! I expect you need a lot of quiet time as that sounds overwhelming. I can understand though as I am extremely sensitive to loud noises, crowds and toxic atmospheres
I feel ya. I often puked when smelling something bad when people around me were like: what smell? Hearing? I remember my school days in black and white because the constant noise was overloading my brain. I had perpetual migrane for all of my school years and only during college that pain dissipated. Skin? I get scratches from some materials. :/ It's annoying as hell, because people think it is overreacting. :/
Haven’t dropped in on you for a long while. Love the production change! And thanks for leading with the positive aspects of an HSP. Seems to be rare even when they attempt to point out the positive aspects. Especially your examples to support the theory. Adaptability is key. Knowing this distinction makes all the difference. 😊
Thank you for a great explanation that really puts HSP into perspective. Tip for all you HSPs out there - I’ve found journaling to be the most effective tool for processing thoughts and feelings and deciding what to do about them. Looking forward to more of your insights Dr Fox!
It's not a flaw and not a curse and not a super power. Probably developed from hyperawareness, over vigalence but mixed with a elements of high emotional intellegance, empathy and caring for others etc. What is important is knowing that not everyone will explore the whys and wherefores like you do? They don't want or choose to seek the insight you do. This is your way of coping not theirs. That can feel hard when trying help resolve conflict. Step out of the drama and take comfort for yourself in your insight, self knowing, processing and willingness to understand. But you can not control others just yourself. I know my validation comes from helping and supporting others. I certainly appear extroverted but solitude helps me sometimes - to let the thoughts ebb and flow and not need to talk or explain. As I get older I get better and better at coping with being me. Not least because of you Dr Fox.....I bought your books but I still owe you... 😂❤
Great video for me. Thank you. It's a first in shining a light on my value as a highly sensitive human. I struggled for so long with sadness from cruel t.v. images, trying to fix abusive situations that I'd witness involving children, etc. and then, years later, haunted by the same memories with "could I have done more", " why wasn't I strong enough to fix that situation", etc. Now, my goal is to empty my brain of the events that hurt my soul and continue to play in my brain. This video is unique and so appreciated in my path to fix my life. Thank you immensely. Oh! I must mention that meditation, specifically, TM, was a HUGE help to me, especially functioning in a demanding work situation. I highly recommend it to all HSP for internal regulation.
Great comment. Being the oldest of four, I knew responsibility early on. I tried to rescue my sibs, friends, etc, who were broken in many ways, but I had to walk away from some. I had a love for rescuing pets too, but gave it up as I got older because the pain of losing them was too great. Too much grief, had to move on. Now I seek silence.
Very insightful, thank you! TH-cam has been getting flooded with content about HSPs lately, but it really helps to hear about it from an expert who knows what he is talking about! Sadly, many people make videos on this topic and get some important facts wrong.
I can recall being aware of problem behavior and underlying attitudes (moods) in other people as a child. As I got into my teen years this awareness became overwhelming and I started to shut myself off from it. I'm in my late 60s now and through CPTSD work, ACoA, and understanding my INFJ personality type I've let my "sensitivity" reawaken. I've never felt so *fully me.* Boundaries are important - and that includes remembering that my solitude is very important for me.
I am so extremely highly sensitive, so thank you. It tends to feel kind of like an evil. I don’t watch much TV and rarely go to movies. At theatre recent for Blue Angels and even the ads/commercials and trailers for upcoming movie releases we’re making me want to cry so hard. That whole time I was getting choked up but holding it back. And I felt embarrassed. And also like I best stay away from there, since my exposure is so rare.
Even though I work in healthcare and am very committed to my work and interested in health in a broad way- years ago I had to stop watching ER- Chicago Hospital Emergency Room - it was a very popular show and the character of Dr Greene was very likeable- I could feel my blood pressure raise as i watched it. That’s how I described it to myself, then I tell myself to cop on- ( be realistic- it’s TV etc). But it kept happening- I blamed myself for having “no boundaries” that came from a therapist- yes- I have plenty of boundaries. What I now realise is that I was going into a sympathetic response in my body- the as if I was dealing with this as I watched. At work, I can stay calm etc- and be very tuned in- but that is also in so ways a sympathetic response. It’s a relief to know this now. I came from an abusive home, tyrannical mother, enabling and culpable father, loads of kids…. I was always a see- er.
@@DannyWJaco I often ask the theater mgmt how long the trailers will last, and I only go into the theater toward the end of them. Also, when I've seen (been abruptly, shockingly, traumatically exposed to) trailers that are a different rating than the movie I'm there to see, I tell the mgmt. The trailers are supposed to be the same rating as the main feature! My local theater had a summer program of movies for sensory-sensitive kids!
I always say when I’m overwhelmed (especially shopping in a store without a list) that it’s like being a bird in a seed factory! I figured out some time ago I was a HSP when I was watching a movie and a guy got shot and they laid him out on a pool table and I almost got sick and I had to get up and go to the bathroom to get some water for my face that I was a HSP. I’ve ridden a motorcycle for almost 30 years and I’ve always said it was my Angels keeping me safe, but in reality I can sense traffic. I know when someone is going to change lanes before they do and I’m always 99% right (sometimes they don’t move lanes). So HSP has worked in my favor for this. Now I quit riding as there are to many crazies on the road. Thank you for this acknowledgement that it took me almost a lifetime to figure out. 😁
Years before I knew I was HSP, a guy-friend invited me to ride on the back of his motorcycle for a 2 hr ride into the mountains. omg! I've never been so exhausted, on every level! Never again!
@@elan007 That’s so funny! I did the same thing when I was 19 and said never again. I remember all the hot and cold air changes. But what’s really funny is I bought a bike (motorcycle) at 33 and never looked back. Enjoyed it for 30 years. Now it sits as it’s just too dangerous to ride where I live now. But I totally get what you are saying. Things can be overwhelming!
I am listening to this while enjoying a coffee on my own in a coffee shop 😉. Halve way through I felt a mixture of sadness and joy. I was aware of some of the facts before but I have never felt beeing seen so complet. Thank you very much for emphasizing the positive aspects of HSPs.
From a very young age I was aware of this trait but it was framed as a negative by others around me ‘chicken hearted’ was one if my labels as a child For many years now 56) i felt there was something wrong with me & ended up in dysfunctional relationships where i nearly lost myself (eg overwhelm & emotional dysregulation) But my rich inner life has helped me through Thank you im glad I came across this on you tube 🙏
For sure, I don't mind the drawbacks because of the gifts they come along with. thanks for seeing this. sensitivity is definitely a type of intelligence, sensitive kids are easier to condition and conditioning is learning.
Something I wonder about is this. I know I'm a HSP. Is it common for a HSP to also have extreme memory recall? I remember just about everything. People who I knew 20 or more years ago plus their names, birthdays, siblings. Some people struggle to remember. My struggle is in forgetting. It's all just there.
@@Crystalquartz964 It's a mixed bag of positives & negatives. Some things I wish to forget yet can't, somethings I'm glad I remember. It has served me well as well as other people. Case in point, I went to lunch with a friend then to the DMV to fix a problem with her vehicle registration. When she was asked for her license plate number to make the process go a bit faster, I knew it. Wanting to be sure she was okay with it; I wrote it down for her to tell to the clerk. She was so amazed that I remembered & it wasn't my car!
Thanks Doc , I could relate to these things and will watch this again for sure to help the message sink in . Alot to learn in a short video but still good to know .
Conflict with an HSP friend (or so I thought) lets me think HSP as defined by Aron is a bad thing, as in way too vague. He was a nice guy but since discovering his HSP condition he's turned arrogant, know-it-all. He's got a FB page on HSP and I told him to at least warn people about how HSP traits can often be found in autistic and ADHD people, but he just doesn't care (talk about being hyper-empathetic...). I think he has a more serious condition, like some sort of psychotic structure, but he doesn't get it. Then there's some dangerous bullsh*t going on around HSP, the supposed super intuition, the hyper-empathy (feeling the supposed emotion of the other), it seems that this is mostly projection : Intuition is projection of the other's supposed intentions, hyper-empathy is projection of the other's supposed emotion, but they take it for granted and think they know what you feel better than you do, or attack you as they feel you have negative intentions, and they think they have a super-power. That HSP thing is not wrong per say, but way too blurry, and has to be cleared of the bullsh*t spread over internet.
As a man I find being highly sensitive a curse I have to hide particular particularly from other men so I'm not seen as a cissy. I'm sick of being empathic towards other people and always thinking of others only to be used. I've no real friends so much for that.
I just found out about this a few months ago and it has been such a revelation for me. SO many people including my partner, don't often seem to understand my depth of processing, deep feelings and detailed thought processing. I used to say "why can't I be like other men who don't feel so deeply"? "Why can't I relate to other men" and "why do I struggle so much to find people who want to talk on a deeper level?" I felt like someone with a fork who lives in a world full of soup. The world needs people who have alot of empathy, care and sensitivity, despite the world saying these are weaknesses or not valuing these things, especially in men. Thank you, as I no longer feel that there is something wrong with me, and I actually now grateful that I was created this way, despite the struggles it brings.
It's amazing to hear how much you've grown and embraced your unique perspective! Your depth of feeling is a strength, and I'm glad you found this revelation-it can truly change the way we view ourselves.
When I have my extroverted moments, I get almost an urge to be around social events. I tend to feel fomo if I don't have the money to spend to be out, whether it's going on my weekly nature walk, or having social time OUTSIDE of work. I love talking with random strangers and befriending them. I'd say with my BPD im mostly extroverted, but I do definitely have my introvert side in the crowds I feel out of place in.
I am highly sensitive and I wish I could find a way to stop being triggered by things. I have had therapy, which has worked to some extent and I try to do mindfulness every day to help me get stronger but it’s still very difficult. I do love some things like photography and music which I get sometimes overwhelmed by, but I think that’s a good thing.
But is there a brain region that modulates the incoming sensory data and provide filtering, that is simply offline in HSP? Levine also talks about how early trauma can produce a disregulated nervous system that is extremely similar to one of a HSP. If its indeed a trait, what would be the societal benefit of having that in the gene pool? As deep as it is, society seems to reward traits quite opposite to HSP.
Good question. One way that being HSP is an advantage is with child rearing, especially before babies can talk. I think it’s very much a ‘help others type of trait.
@@katrinat.3032 I agree, it seems to be a help others trait. Also seems like an ideal way for healers/councelors/coaches. I suppose it clashes with what a typical expectations for men are in society.
I'm not sure this is right, but I think the Reticular Activating System is responsible for filtering out/focusing on external stimuli. It would be interesting to know if it is somehow different for HSPs
As for the last point, also total guess, but the benefits would have been evolutionary. Some members of the group who are hyper aware would maybe help keep the whole group safe. Whereas culturally, today, this trait doesn't seem to align with the ideal, in the west. In other cultures, it might be a desirable trait to have, perhaps?
I think all humans are innately (divinely?) designed with 'high' sensitivity, empathy, imagination, intuition, perception. IMO it is numbed out and poisoned out in utero and via the unconsciousness of parents, who already have their sensitivity numbed out and poisoned out of them. I provided home childcare for 20 years to pre-school age children. After a couple of years, I set a boundary to 'provide care only to families who choose not to vaccinate'. The philosophical compatibility made a huge positive difference, and the unvaccinated children are much healthier, aware, and intelligent.
I am comfortable and happy to be a HSP, what is hardest in my life is how to support my 9 year who is also a HSP. You would think being a HSP myself this wouldnt be so hard, but it is.
Thank you for this very helpful video, Dr Fox. I have found great benefit in collecting materials from charity shops (thrift shops) and making my own greetings cards to send to family and friends. I never thought I was artistic but I use my intuition to make my cards appropriate for different occasions and feel a sense of achievement when I've spent a couple of hours sticking and glueing. I think I enter a meditative state which helps my feelings of overwhelm and overthinking.
This was exact. I find it difficult in this world and I'm really fast burning out. People don't understand and I'm constantly drowned. But on the other hand I see it as a gift. I feel peoples intentions, not always nice.. If I trust myself it's a good thing. GREAT VIDEO❤ MUCH❤ FROM GERMANY
HSP (f) with non-HSP (m). Suffer from cPTSD, depression, anxiety, etc. Hubbie is prone to sneaking up on me...has done this for decades. Sometimes intentional, mostly accidental. I am never happy about it. Also makes loud noises unexpectedly - silly boy. I haven't clocked him yet, but his time is coming. There are no boundaries after 40 years.
I hope you see this. The way and intensity and how fast do you talk gives me anxiety. LOL I know it's not on purpose but it's probably what you were talking about with sensitivity. I do appreciate your videos though. Thank you
Thank you for your feedback and for still enjoying my content despite the fast pace. I appreciate your support! YOu can slow down the playback on YT, FYI.
@@DrDanielFoxDr Fox, I speed up your videos and read the captions so that I can learn more quickly (and watch more videos in the time that I have spare!)
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Hi doctor i hope you can read this. Since i was 6 years old i used to lie to make the others admire me to make them understand that i was knowing more than them or to get what i wanted. That behaviors start to change when i was teenager but always feeling special and blaming the others for my actions. Idk if it is becsuse of a low self steem since i was a child or is bpd or hpd or i dont know. Im 23 now and at this point i struggle with fantasies of power like the people noticing me that im different unqiue i know that i need help but thats it. Thanks for reading.
I had an appt with a HSP therapist. She asked if I'd ever been tested for autism? It freaked me out. She said my antisocial behaviors were a pointer. I wanted her to help me be less antisocial, not possibly validate it! I still haven't been tested. 🙃
Just a few months ago I decided to comment on TH-cam. I was worried about commenting on something and receiving negative responses for misunderstandings. The fact is that, sometimes, when I read a comment that is directed at a person and that, in my perception, is loaded with malice, or tries to undervalue that person or, I don't know, I simply perceive it, in some way, as an attack, I immediately feel like responding in favor of that other person. In fact, I made a comment in favor of someone and in a humorous tone to avoid, precisely, misunderstandings or annoyance, and it turns out that just that happened. They told me that I took the opinions of others very seriously and Sue was just that, opinions. In the end I deleted my comment and wrote another one apologizing for making a mistake in writing it, since I had not expressed myself correctly. I have to learn to moderate my "empathetic" impulses. I apologize for possible spelling errors. English is not my first language, and I'm sorry for whoever reads this whole text 😆
Arianna - Thank you for sharing. I can relate to your empathic feelings. My HSP-ness was never acknowledged until I was in my 50s. As a child I became very co-dependent as a way of coping with my strong empathy for others. I attended Codependents Anonymous (CA) and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) 12-step groups for a few months. No one around me as a child was alcoholic, but the affect of not being acknowledged is similar. It helped me heal, and learn what I'm responsible for and what others are responsible for. Blessings on your journey dear fellow HSP/Empath!
Thanks for this video i recently learned about a couple years ago that I am highly sensitive and an empath I made so much sense about my life and all these traits I have I am still on this journey but thanks to people like you it really does help
I’m definitely HSP. I also notice I can smell things that aren’t here. Example: if a waffle commercial comes on TV, then I smell toasted waffles. Another time I saw some bandaids in a magazine and I could smell them. It’s not all the time and I can’t control it. It just happens
i am a highly sensitive person,who was married to a psychopath during twenty years; we had two children , apparently the two are like him. i am destroyed is there any hope?
I disagree, it has been a lifetime curse! Depth, subtley, understanding complexity, and paradoxes are not valued in this current American Society. I have no current Psych Diagnoses, I'm just an ordinary person.
I think I'm more convinced it's a curse. I've only been aware of my high sensitivity for about a year now and the more i learn about it the more it seems like a curse. I have yet to truly feel any benefits whatsoever
@@DrDanielFox as a male in society today it's almost taboo and seen as needy and weak to express yourself to anyone. You're expected to "suck it up" and drive on. Very frustrating and draining to keep up this appearance
Interpretation... Which mentioned being investigated ? The pages I have and other images.. Printed evidence.. I just process this is distractive for various regulations
Why do so many presenters flap their hands around all the time while talking. I'm highly sensitive to that. I can't concentrate on what this man is saying cause his hands are so distracting to me.
It just feels like a curse. I feel often I am not for this world. I believe woman deserve rights and sex ism, racism and idk it seems to hurt me more than even the person expirencing it. I'll watch video then give more thoughts. How is it possible to be narcisistic if also hsp. I would think those traits would be kinda opposite. Something I notice is caffeine effects me alot I consider it another drug cus I can feel it. Ppl emotions effect me alot. Can u do a video about what's the difference between a introvert and a extrovert. And comparisons of war crimes like assad and gaza
Let's acknowledge that Dr.Fox was nice enough to repost this video without the sound effects that seemed to bother so many HSP's out there. :) Only an HSP would do that I think.
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Agreed. And it seems like the quick edits are fewer and softer. This is very helpful and gives us HSP’s something concise to share with those who don’t understand or eccentricities. ❤
That's annoying talking with your hands. He's annoying.
Having highly sensitive sensory processing is such an important element in HSPs. If you’re not sure, ask your parents. My mom has told me a story which was odd for her to understand. When she had me around age 1, my family went to visit the shrine of the Shias eighth imam as tourists. Apparently I suddenly start screaming as soon as they enter the shrine out of blue. They had to leave because I didn’t stop. When I cried I would cry for a long time. I’m extremely sensitive to smells, I LOVE good scents and even have vomited to bad smells. The bright lights makes me tear, but very dim light make me tired easily too. as a child I would cry because I could sense one shoe was always slightly aa tighter fit than the other. Airborne and food allergies are my lifetime struggle before I was even born!!! Sensitive skin, sharp eyes for details, strong intuitions to the point of telepathic…. I feel physical pain when I see injured people. You know you’re extremely highly sensitive as soon as you read/hear about it.
How interesting! I expect you need a lot of quiet time as that sounds overwhelming. I can understand though as I am extremely sensitive to loud noises, crowds and toxic atmospheres
I feel ya. I often puked when smelling something bad when people around me were like: what smell? Hearing? I remember my school days in black and white because the constant noise was overloading my brain. I had perpetual migrane for all of my school years and only during college that pain dissipated. Skin? I get scratches from some materials. :/ It's annoying as hell, because people think it is overreacting. :/
Haven’t dropped in on you for a long while. Love the production change! And thanks for leading with the positive aspects of an HSP. Seems to be rare even when they attempt to point out the positive aspects. Especially your examples to support the theory. Adaptability is key. Knowing this distinction makes all the difference. 😊
Thank you for a great explanation that really puts HSP into perspective.
Tip for all you HSPs out there - I’ve found journaling to be the most effective tool for processing thoughts and feelings and deciding what to do about them.
Looking forward to more of your insights Dr Fox!
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It's not a flaw and not a curse and not a super power. Probably developed from hyperawareness, over vigalence but mixed with a elements of high emotional intellegance, empathy and caring for others etc.
What is important is knowing that not everyone will explore the whys and wherefores like you do? They don't want or choose to seek the insight you do. This is your way of coping not theirs. That can feel hard when trying help resolve conflict. Step out of the drama and take comfort for yourself in your insight, self knowing, processing and willingness to understand. But you can not control others just yourself.
I know my validation comes from helping and supporting others. I certainly appear extroverted but solitude helps me sometimes - to let the thoughts ebb and flow and not need to talk or explain.
As I get older I get better and better at coping with being me.
Not least because of you Dr Fox.....I bought your books but I still owe you... 😂❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It's great to see self-awareness and personal growth shining through your words.
Great video for me. Thank you. It's a first in shining a light on my value as a highly sensitive human.
I struggled for so long with sadness from cruel t.v. images, trying to fix abusive situations that I'd witness involving children, etc. and then, years later, haunted by the same memories with "could I have done more", " why wasn't I strong enough to fix that situation", etc. Now, my goal is to empty my brain of the events that hurt my soul and continue to play in my brain. This video is unique and so
appreciated in my path to fix my life. Thank you immensely. Oh! I must mention that meditation, specifically, TM, was a HUGE help to me, especially functioning in a demanding work situation. I highly recommend it to all HSP for internal regulation.
Great comment. Being the oldest of four, I knew responsibility early on. I tried to rescue my sibs, friends, etc, who were broken in many ways, but I had to walk away from some. I had a love for rescuing pets too, but gave it up as I got older because the pain of losing them was too great. Too much grief, had to move on. Now I seek silence.
Very insightful, thank you! TH-cam has been getting flooded with content about HSPs lately, but it really helps to hear about it from an expert who knows what he is talking about! Sadly, many people make videos on this topic and get some important facts wrong.
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I can recall being aware of problem behavior and underlying attitudes (moods) in other people as a child. As I got into my teen years this awareness became overwhelming and I started to shut myself off from it.
I'm in my late 60s now and through CPTSD work, ACoA, and understanding my INFJ personality type I've let my "sensitivity" reawaken. I've never felt so *fully me.*
Boundaries are important - and that includes remembering that my solitude is very important for me.
Tyvm for sharing. Fellow, INFJ here...I am 61, and same as you..working through CPTSD, ACOA, too. You're post helped me. Txs.
I am so extremely highly sensitive, so thank you. It tends to feel kind of like an evil.
I don’t watch much TV and rarely go to movies.
At theatre recent for Blue Angels and even the ads/commercials and trailers for upcoming movie releases we’re making me want to cry so hard. That whole time I was getting choked up but holding it back.
And I felt embarrassed. And also like I best stay away from there, since my exposure is so rare.
It's okay to feel overwhelmed by certain stimuli, and it's important to take care of yourself. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Even though I work in healthcare and am very committed to my work and interested in health in a broad way- years ago I had to stop watching ER- Chicago Hospital Emergency Room - it was a very popular show and the character of Dr Greene was very likeable- I could feel my blood pressure raise as i watched it. That’s how I described it to myself, then I tell myself to cop on- ( be realistic- it’s TV etc). But it kept happening- I blamed myself for having “no boundaries” that came from a therapist- yes- I have plenty of boundaries. What I now realise is that I was going into a sympathetic response in my body- the as if I was dealing with this as I watched. At work, I can stay calm etc- and be very tuned in- but that is also in so ways a sympathetic response.
It’s a relief to know this now. I came from an abusive home, tyrannical mother, enabling and culpable father, loads of kids…. I was always a see- er.
I walked out of a movie recently after constant previews and ads wore me out that I had nothing left for the movie.
@@DannyWJaco I often ask the theater mgmt how long the trailers will last, and I only go into the theater toward the end of them. Also, when I've seen (been abruptly, shockingly, traumatically exposed to) trailers that are a different rating than the movie I'm there to see, I tell the mgmt. The trailers are supposed to be the same rating as the main feature! My local theater had a summer program of movies for sensory-sensitive kids!
@@elan007 Great idea! Thanks.
I always say when I’m overwhelmed (especially shopping in a store without a list) that it’s like being a bird in a seed factory! I figured out some time ago I was a HSP when I was watching a movie and a guy got shot and they laid him out on a pool table and I almost got sick and I had to get up and go to the bathroom to get some water for my face that I was a HSP. I’ve ridden a motorcycle for almost 30 years and I’ve always said it was my Angels keeping me safe, but in reality I can sense traffic. I know when someone is going to change lanes before they do and I’m always 99% right (sometimes they don’t move lanes). So HSP has worked in my favor for this. Now I quit riding as there are to many crazies on the road. Thank you for this acknowledgement that it took me almost a lifetime to figure out. 😁
Years before I knew I was HSP, a guy-friend invited me to ride on the back of his motorcycle for a 2 hr ride into the mountains. omg! I've never been so exhausted, on every level! Never again!
@@elan007 That’s so funny! I did the same thing when I was 19 and said never again. I remember all the hot and cold air changes. But what’s really funny is I bought a bike (motorcycle) at 33 and never looked back. Enjoyed it for 30 years. Now it sits as it’s just too dangerous to ride where I live now. But I totally get what you are saying. Things can be overwhelming!
I get way too triggered by people's reactions towards me. Negative or positive, I feel like a weirdo, over thinking central
Thank you. I think HSP is really a form of giftedness.
I think so too!
I am and yes. Im very impressionable.in a literal way.
I am listening to this while enjoying a coffee on my own in a coffee shop 😉.
Halve way through I felt a mixture of sadness and joy. I was aware of some of the facts before but I have never felt beeing seen so complet. Thank you very much for emphasizing the positive aspects of HSPs.
From a very young age I was aware of this trait but it was framed as a negative by others around me ‘chicken hearted’ was one if my labels as a child For many years now 56) i felt there was something wrong with me & ended up in dysfunctional relationships where i nearly lost myself (eg overwhelm & emotional dysregulation) But my rich inner life has helped me through Thank you im glad I came across this on you tube 🙏
It's amazing how our childhood labels can shape our self-perception. I'm glad you found some solace in my video.
For sure, I don't mind the drawbacks because of the gifts they come along with. thanks for seeing this. sensitivity is definitely a type of intelligence, sensitive kids are easier to condition and conditioning is learning.
You are so welcome!
Worry about every sensitive child in education. The lgbt agenda wants to tell them to cut off their genitals.
Something I wonder about is this. I know I'm a HSP. Is it common for a HSP to also have extreme memory recall? I remember just about everything. People who I knew 20 or more years ago plus their names, birthdays, siblings. Some people struggle to remember. My struggle is in forgetting.
It's all just there.
I have a huge lot of remembering. But then forget what I practically need - if i could rejig my memory skills it would help my life so much.
@@melliecrann-gaoth4789 Be careful what you wish for! LOL!
I have heard of people with this amazing memory, in fact there was a programme on TV about it a few years ago. I find the subject fascinating
@@Crystalquartz964 It's a mixed bag of positives & negatives. Some things I wish to forget yet can't, somethings I'm glad I remember. It has served me well as well as other people. Case in point, I went to lunch with a friend then to the DMV to fix a problem with her vehicle registration. When she was asked for her license plate number to make the process go a bit faster, I knew it. Wanting to be sure she was okay with it; I wrote it down for her to tell to the clerk.
She was so amazed that I remembered & it wasn't my car!
I have a strong visual memory, but not with numbers, like you remembered the license plate number.
Thank you, Dr. Fox. It seems you know me (perhaps MANY of us!)
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
@@DrDanielFox Thank you, Dr. FOX!!!! It's kind and great for you to re-post this!!!!!!! It's very useful!!!!!!!
Thanks Doc , I could relate to these things and will watch this again for sure to help the message sink in . Alot to learn in a short video but still good to know .
Conflict with an HSP friend (or so I thought) lets me think HSP as defined by Aron is a bad thing, as in way too vague. He was a nice guy but since discovering his HSP condition he's turned arrogant, know-it-all. He's got a FB page on HSP and I told him to at least warn people about how HSP traits can often be found in autistic and ADHD people, but he just doesn't care (talk about being hyper-empathetic...).
I think he has a more serious condition, like some sort of psychotic structure, but he doesn't get it.
Then there's some dangerous bullsh*t going on around HSP, the supposed super intuition, the hyper-empathy (feeling the supposed emotion of the other), it seems that this is mostly projection : Intuition is projection of the other's supposed intentions, hyper-empathy is projection of the other's supposed emotion, but they take it for granted and think they know what you feel better than you do, or attack you as they feel you have negative intentions, and they think they have a super-power.
That HSP thing is not wrong per say, but way too blurry, and has to be cleared of the bullsh*t spread over internet.
As a man I find being highly sensitive a curse I have to hide particular particularly from other men so I'm not seen as a cissy. I'm sick of being empathic towards other people and always thinking of others only to be used. I've no real friends so much for that.
Agreed
I just found out about this a few months ago and it has been such a revelation for me. SO many people including my partner, don't often seem to understand my depth of processing, deep feelings and detailed thought processing. I used to say "why can't I be like other men who don't feel so deeply"? "Why can't I relate to other men" and "why do I struggle so much to find people who want to talk on a deeper level?" I felt like someone with a fork who lives in a world full of soup. The world needs people who have alot of empathy, care and sensitivity, despite the world saying these are weaknesses or not valuing these things, especially in men. Thank you, as I no longer feel that there is something wrong with me, and I actually now grateful that I was created this way, despite the struggles it brings.
It's amazing to hear how much you've grown and embraced your unique perspective! Your depth of feeling is a strength, and I'm glad you found this revelation-it can truly change the way we view ourselves.
When I have my extroverted moments, I get almost an urge to be around social events. I tend to feel fomo if I don't have the money to spend to be out, whether it's going on my weekly nature walk, or having social time OUTSIDE of work. I love talking with random strangers and befriending them. I'd say with my BPD im mostly extroverted, but I do definitely have my introvert side in the crowds I feel out of place in.
I am highly sensitive and I wish I could find a way to stop being triggered by things. I have had therapy, which has worked to some extent and I try to do mindfulness every day to help me get stronger but it’s still very difficult. I do love some things like photography and music which I get sometimes overwhelmed by, but I think that’s a good thing.
It's great that you're actively working on managing your triggers and finding activities you love. Keep at it!
@@DrDanielFox Thanks, I appreciate the reply.
But is there a brain region that modulates the incoming sensory data and provide filtering, that is simply offline in HSP?
Levine also talks about how early trauma can produce a disregulated nervous system that is extremely similar to one of a HSP.
If its indeed a trait, what would be the societal benefit of having that in the gene pool?
As deep as it is, society seems to reward traits quite opposite to HSP.
Good question. One way that being HSP is an advantage is with child rearing, especially before babies can talk. I think it’s very much a ‘help others type of trait.
@@katrinat.3032 I agree, it seems to be a help others trait. Also seems like an ideal way for healers/councelors/coaches.
I suppose it clashes with what a typical expectations for men are in society.
I'm not sure this is right, but I think the Reticular Activating System is responsible for filtering out/focusing on external stimuli. It would be interesting to know if it is somehow different for HSPs
As for the last point, also total guess, but the benefits would have been evolutionary. Some members of the group who are hyper aware would maybe help keep the whole group safe. Whereas culturally, today, this trait doesn't seem to align with the ideal, in the west. In other cultures, it might be a desirable trait to have, perhaps?
I think all humans are innately (divinely?) designed with 'high' sensitivity, empathy, imagination, intuition, perception. IMO it is numbed out and poisoned out in utero and via the unconsciousness of parents, who already have their sensitivity numbed out and poisoned out of them. I provided home childcare for 20 years to pre-school age children. After a couple of years, I set a boundary to 'provide care only to families who choose not to vaccinate'. The philosophical compatibility made a huge positive difference, and the unvaccinated children are much healthier, aware, and intelligent.
I am comfortable and happy to be a HSP, what is hardest in my life is how to support my 9 year who is also a HSP. You would think being a HSP myself this wouldnt be so hard, but it is.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Your dedication to supporting your child's sensitivity is truly admirable.
Wow, I could relate to that! I think you are a great communicator. Thanks for the vid.
Visions is a good word to describe the memories.
Thank you for this very helpful video, Dr Fox. I have found great benefit in collecting materials from charity shops (thrift shops) and making my own greetings cards to send to family and friends. I never thought I was artistic but I use my intuition to make my cards appropriate for different occasions and feel a sense of achievement when I've spent a couple of hours sticking and glueing. I think I enter a meditative state which helps my feelings of overwhelm and overthinking.
That's wonderful to hear how crafting has brought you joy and a sense of calm! Keep up the creativity!
Excellent video!
Using my sensitivity by directing it inwards to catch feelings early is a great tip.
Thank you
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Thanks alot dear dr
Most welcome 😊
Very informative. Thank you Dr Fox 🙏
You’re welcome. Be well.
Enlightening info. Thanks.
Glad it was helpful!
They are more intelligent.
Sure. It's a gift. But,stay close to yourself. Protect yourself.
Great information and insight!
Adult HSP with highly narcissistic sister. Sorting that all out, FINALLY, so thank you for this insight.
This was exact. I find it difficult in this world and I'm really fast burning out. People don't understand and I'm constantly drowned. But on the other hand I see it as a gift. I feel peoples intentions, not always nice.. If I trust myself it's a good thing. GREAT VIDEO❤ MUCH❤ FROM GERMANY
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
@@DrDanielFox❤!
Excellent teaching video & thank you Doctor!
Glad it was helpful!
HSP (f) with non-HSP (m). Suffer from cPTSD, depression, anxiety, etc. Hubbie is prone to sneaking up on me...has done this for decades. Sometimes intentional, mostly accidental. I am never happy about it. Also makes loud noises unexpectedly - silly boy.
I haven't clocked him yet, but his time is coming. There are no boundaries after 40 years.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's important to communicate your needs and boundaries openly.
I hope you see this. The way and intensity and how fast do you talk gives me anxiety. LOL I know it's not on purpose but it's probably what you were talking about with sensitivity. I do appreciate your videos though. Thank you
Thank you for your feedback and for still enjoying my content despite the fast pace. I appreciate your support! YOu can slow down the playback on YT, FYI.
I talk like this too
@@DrDanielFoxDr Fox, I speed up your videos and read the captions so that I can learn more quickly (and watch more videos in the time that I have spare!)
good idea!
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I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Hi doctor i hope you can read this.
Since i was 6 years old i used to lie to make the others admire me to make them understand that i was knowing more than them or to get what i wanted. That behaviors start to change when i was teenager but always feeling special and blaming the others for my actions. Idk if it is becsuse of a low self steem since i was a child or is bpd or hpd or i dont know. Im 23 now and at this point i struggle with fantasies of power like the people noticing me that im different unqiue i know that i need help but thats it. Thanks for reading.
It's great that you're aware of your behaviors and seeking help. You're taking a positive step towards self-improvement.
Also a spiritual thing happens too…
I can't handle people living overhead! I moved 4x in 4 years. They don't sleep! I am in my car most of the time or at work, no one understands
That sounds really tough, I can imagine how frustrating that must be for you.
I had an appt with a HSP therapist. She asked if I'd ever been tested for autism? It freaked me out. She said my antisocial behaviors were a pointer. I wanted her to help me be less antisocial, not possibly validate it! I still haven't been tested. 🙃
Learned quite a bit. Of new things
Just a few months ago I decided to comment on TH-cam. I was worried about commenting on something and receiving negative responses for misunderstandings. The fact is that, sometimes, when I read a comment that is directed at a person and that, in my perception, is loaded with malice, or tries to undervalue that person or, I don't know, I simply perceive it, in some way, as an attack, I immediately feel like responding in favor of that other person. In fact, I made a comment in favor of someone and in a humorous tone to avoid, precisely, misunderstandings or annoyance, and it turns out that just that happened. They told me that I took the opinions of others very seriously and Sue was just that, opinions.
In the end I deleted my comment and wrote another one apologizing for making a mistake in writing it, since I had not expressed myself correctly.
I have to learn to moderate my "empathetic" impulses.
I apologize for possible spelling errors. English is not my first language, and I'm sorry for whoever reads this whole text 😆
Arianna - Thank you for sharing. I can relate to your empathic feelings. My HSP-ness was never acknowledged until I was in my 50s. As a child I became very co-dependent as a way of coping with my strong empathy for others. I attended Codependents Anonymous (CA) and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) 12-step groups for a few months. No one around me as a child was alcoholic, but the affect of not being acknowledged is similar. It helped me heal, and learn what I'm responsible for and what others are responsible for. Blessings on your journey dear fellow HSP/Empath!
Now it would be good to stop the visual ins and outs of the camera. No need to do the flash points -- its so distracting.
A good way to deal with that is to pause the video and just read the comments 😀
this makes sense ab the loud noises, i loose my shit when the dogs bark, i also have a texture thing. especially with drinking glasses
He's very good. really helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
What you call meditation I call prayer 🙏
I am definitely introverted which helps with being HSP
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Yes I was wondering why certain photos come up in my mind and o get really sensitive
They may be attached to past experiences. Hard to say for sure.
Does being a HSP make us more susceptible to developing BPD.
This is something I'd like to know too!
Me too!
best high sensitive video i found
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Thanks for this video i recently learned about a couple years ago that I am highly sensitive and an empath I made so much sense about my life and all these traits I have I am still on this journey but thanks to people like you it really does help
You are so welcome
Great video, but the audio is peaking out. Try lowering the gain, and use a good Lavalier microphone. Also dereverb and denoise in post.
Hi, thank you for the video. Do you think HSP's are more prone to develop BDP?
I don't think so but I have a video coming out in a few weeks that will help further discern this confusion.
@@DrDanielFox Thank you for the reply. Looking forward to the video:)
It is a curse people treat you like garbage
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
The sun is not a monster!!!! Bench warmers reference...
Seriously though, I always thought most people aren't all that nuanced.
I’m definitely HSP. I also notice I can smell things that aren’t here. Example: if a waffle commercial comes on TV, then I smell toasted waffles. Another time I saw some bandaids in a magazine and I could smell them. It’s not all the time and I can’t control it. It just happens
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I wish you well.
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I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
i am a highly sensitive person,who was married to a psychopath during twenty years; we had two children , apparently the two are like him.
i am destroyed is there any hope?
I disagree, it has been a lifetime curse! Depth, subtley, understanding complexity, and paradoxes are not valued in this current American Society.
I have no current Psych Diagnoses, I'm just an ordinary person.
SO HELPFUL!
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Thank you
I think I'm more convinced it's a curse. I've only been aware of my high sensitivity for about a year now and the more i learn about it the more it seems like a curse. I have yet to truly feel any benefits whatsoever
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It can be tough to navigate high sensitivity, but hang in there!
@@DrDanielFox as a male in society today it's almost taboo and seen as needy and weak to express yourself to anyone. You're expected to "suck it up" and drive on. Very frustrating and draining to keep up this appearance
Thanks.
You're welcome
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Interpretation... Which mentioned being investigated ? The pages I have and other images.. Printed evidence.. I just process this is distractive for various regulations
How about not talking from a room without any insulation?
I am distracted from the echo of his voice in the room.
Must move on....
Why do so many presenters flap their hands around all the time while talking. I'm highly sensitive to that. I can't concentrate on what this man is saying cause his hands are so distracting to me.
Snap out of it n focus on
@@Garyiscute28😮
Haha I understand! Lots of folks aren't skilled in presentation. Just listen instead of watching
Just listen to the audio, then
Just disregard the screen and listen as a podcast.
Nothing to do with borderline! .
There are overlapping traits for sure. Hope you enjoyed the video.
Hsp doesn't excist. That's borderline😂
People who read Elaine’s book and get attached to HSP become horrible invalidic people.
I haven't read that book. I wish you well.
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It just feels like a curse. I feel often I am not for this world. I believe woman deserve rights and sex ism, racism and idk it seems to hurt me more than even the person expirencing it. I'll watch video then give more thoughts. How is it possible to be narcisistic if also hsp. I would think those traits would be kinda opposite. Something I notice is caffeine effects me alot I consider it another drug cus I can feel it. Ppl emotions effect me alot. Can u do a video about what's the difference between a introvert and a extrovert. And comparisons of war crimes like assad and gaza
I’m glad you found the video helpful. Be well.
FINALLY NOW WE JUST NEED TO COMPARE IT TO BPD
Thank you Dr. Fox! 🙏🤝❤