I love how articulate you are and how you get your ideas across. It always comes off as very sisterly and humble instead of condescending and snooty. 😘
I love you. I needed this today. My mom bought me some clothing yesterday. She couldn’t really afford to do it but she did it because she was showing me love. I saw a girl on Instagram today who got her hair done. Her dad has a great job and I got jealous. Then I felt guilty because my mom had just given me nice new clothing and I felt so ashamed. I need to be humbled, and I need to show gratitude.
Gratitude will truly transform the comparison game for you! I’m still working on it daily, but it has done wonders for me. Proud of you for your honesty with yourself. Keep going love! Xoxo
Not sure where I heard this but “obsessively hating yourself is just as vain as obsessively loving yourself” I needed a reminder of that today. Thank you for all of your lovely videos! 💖
Marisol González What really helped was trying to focus on what I’m doing, rather than big generalizations about who I am. I could look at the things I had done in a day objectively. I could decide that they were good or bad without letting that spiral into “wow I’m a lazy bad person” or “wow I can’t believe you’re congratulating yourself you’re not as great as you think you are” which is how my thoughts would have spiraled before. It allowed me to still work on my behavior and improve myself without falling into a self hating trap. It still takes work, I have to consciously monitor my thoughts and make sure I’m not being too negative. It will be an ongoing process, but it made me a lot happier 😁 I hope this helped! Good luck to you!
@@marcin8865 you should ! This video was a lot more than these 4 points, this was just points to remember, but she has actually explained the process one can adopt , so i would recommend you to watch it, you'll like it hopefully 😀!
@@mushy470 Yap! Watch What it Means to Submit to Your Husband th-cam.com/video/X6vYCmApyrA/w-d-xo.html from Ascension Presents. Pretty interesting and cool stuff..
Skyaboveme If you don't like it already I would think that you might like "Old TV Time" - Its videos from around the 50s 🤗🤗 th-cam.com/video/BH_gncP_5vc/w-d-xo.html
that is exactly what self-love IS NOT. It is not self-esteem/love if it is conditional. That is exactly the philosophy of the insecure overachiever. Because the moment you do nothing and don’t „produce“ you are worthless? That is what the philosophy means
@@noneofyourbusiness2890 I do not think that loving yourself is conditional, but being proud of yourself or others can be conditional and actually should be. If your brother is a drug-addict who beats up old people and steals their money for his fix, you still love him, but what is there to be proud of?
Whoa. A true lightbulb moment. Looking back over the past 20 + years, I’m realizing that a great deal of my deep depression was caused by being TOO introspective and not seeing that mindset for what it truly was. Truth by truth my eyes are opening. Thank you!!
Yes! I had to come to that realization for myself as well. So much of my pain came from overusing the tool of introspection. So happy you are here! Xoxo 🙏🏼😘
I've once heard a quote that fits to the second topic: Don't try to be someone else than you are, but try to be the best version of yourself I think this is really inspirational ☺️💗
We need a Caitlin podcast!!! I would love to be able to listen to you talk about anything, or have conversations with people! Thank you for such refreshing and real content 💜
It’s just a little note, but I appreciate you adding “regardless of religion, creed, background...” I recently discovered your channel and blog and have become quite grateful for it. I’ve always felt a push back against embracing a traditional/feminine/homemaker lifestyle because of the belief that I couldn’t embrace that. “But I’m not Christian,” “but I’m too much of a tomboy,” “but I’m supposed to be ‘independent’,” but, but, but. You’re gentle and encouraging, yet bold, unapologetic, and straightforward. Most importantly, you’re welcoming. Thank you. (from a proud 22 y/o soldier’s wife, happy cat mom, and young homemaker- finding her way in Texas & in her own heart)
i couldnt relate more to your comment! though i've recently converted to Christ, for a long time i did feel like an outsider to the community because i too am pretty tomboyish and independent and aggressive. plus, i'm asian so i dont really see anyone like me in this community! i wanted you to know that many are in the same boat as you and that so long as we all promote nurturing and kindness to all, everyone who shares are values are welcome ♡
With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real, Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x
"Earn your confidence" love it. For me, my confidence really got stronger when i became more brave and actually DID things that were out of my comfort zone, along with changing pattern of thought, expending my perspective, having a new mindset.
I think the biggest problem with low self-esteem is that you start to be aggressive, and mostly passive-aggressive, which is the biggest reason why more and more people will turn away from you. If a person shows low self-esteem, there will definitely be well-meaning people stop to help her, but if she starts to choose to give up on herself and choose to start passive-aggressive, she is basically pushing the healthy life she could have had farther and farther.
One of my favorite videos yet! Gosh you really are a true reflection of all the thoughts going on inside my head haha!! Keep up with the wonderful content!!
treat others the same way you treat yourself AND treat yourself the same way you treat somebody very dear to you...more women need to watch your videos!
The most powerful thing that changed my self-esteemed from low to healthy, was gaining an accurate understanding of God's view of me. My value is now in who GOD thinks I am, rather than who I or other's think I am. I cannot be anything I want to be, but I can be everything God intends for me to be.
Wow thx I needed to hear that! I’m 15 and I’m not exactly sure what’s going on with me so I watch videos on self confidence or how to deal with anxiety or stuff like this cause I can’t point out what I have.. I im not typically a jealous person and I usually do good and appreciate stuff but recently this month that’s kinda changed and I’m not sure why.. like for starters my friends especially this one friend wants to make me feel constantly bad and i just dont understand why. I posted a picture and she said nothing and simply ignored it “it was on a chat”. Friends are supposed to build u up not knock u down. This makes me sad because we have great memories together and I’m a introvert so it’s hard sometimes to make friends but we have good memories and I don’t want to lose her as the friend in those good memories. She makes me feel bad about myself and tries to make jokes out of rude remarks. Maybe it’s cause I can’t “hang” with her and her jokes but I know she does not mean them from all fun and games, I just wish I could do something about it. I’m not sure if I should talk to her about it or if she will say I’m sensitive or jealous or whatever it is whenever I try to say something that I feel like she needs to change.
@@strawberrydaurto3366 My daughter is your age and she is an introvert and has anxiety. Just remember going to school, at that age is just weird and awkward for just about everyone. Finding out who you are, what you like, don't like and WHO is a forever friend and just a teacher on life's journey are all things you have to learn. You are ahead of the game though- the fact that you are aware of what your feeling and recognizing what self-respect is and wanting people around who support that.
wow, you're so right about the nurturing part, it really does raise self esteem. When you become the best version of yourself in terms of friendships, relationships and anything else - you suddenly realize that you don't even need approval from others simply because you're living to your highest standards.
When you said to focus on what I have, I paused the video and thought. I’m so lucky to actually be alive. I had life saving surgery when I was a baby. I could be in the ground now. Yes, I’ve got a large nose but I’ve got a great hourglass body. I’m not extremely ugly. I know how to do make up. God gave me life and talents. I am so blessed. Thank you for helping me realize that! 💕💕💕💕
Woah I actually agree but im a Christian too... When I focused on myself all the time is when I got anxiety! When I did affirmations... I got anxiety aswell!
I needed this so much! Thank you. You can't even imagine how greatful I am for this message. You're the type of TH-camr that God directs you to as an answer to your prayers. Love you so much!
I deleted the apps from my phone and my mood changed so much. I didn’t have those distractions anymore. I was living more in the moment. Also, I had started putting on weight again and was feeling gross. When I stopped constantly seeing others who were much skinnier than me the weight started coming off easier. I think because when I was trying desperately to lose weight again and then I was seeing others be where I wanted to be and I just wasn’t, it would lead to binge eating which put me further from my goal. I really needed to go back to this video. 💕 thank you for your videos 💕💕💕
I have not even watch the video but wanted to say You are the real life Rapunzel. You are so beautiful and look so much like a princess. (I have never told that to anyone lol)
I love that you encourage people to take ownership and not play the victim. Of course there’s some things you can’t control, but there are steps we can take to increase our confidence.
I found this video so much more positive and achievable than some of the other video telling me to act a certain way. They just seem disingenuous and make me feel like my real self is not good enough. Like I need to fake it. But working on improving myself and not being so self obsessed with HOW to do this and that, I feel a bit more confident. It doesn’t change overnight but I’m working on it.
Self esteem is earned by hard work. You know when you have sacrificed and exerted yourself in order to excel. You know when you’ve been brave. Then you will know you can overcome future challenges and deserve the success you gain. You have to live a moral life, and being Christian is huge advantage. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
Oh myyyy!! I also have big calves (like really) it's one of my insecurities!! I also have thicker thighs and wide feet but i have a slimmer upper body, which is what i hate before. But now i'm trying to love those. My first plan is through my clothes. I had always wanted to have clothes that are the latest trend or 'aesthetic' but after getting into videos about being classy and being feminine and embracing myself as a woman, my mindset changed. One video i watched, she said something like "Don't change your body for the clothes you want but change your clothes to match your body" and that really made me think. I had been the 'change-your-body-for-the-clothes -you-want' but now im changing that. It's really making me feel good and made me accept myself more now.
“Stop esteeming yourself so much!” Yes, this. I will always have flaws, never ever perfect, but (as a believer) I am highly esteemed only because of my identity in Christ.
Thank you for these videos- I love hearing the Christian perspective, it’s rare and refreshing. You reminded me to count my blessings and be happy with what I have
I am literally crying right now because I am really struggling with comparing myself to others and making enemies out of them a lot recently. Your words and energy hits the right note and made me feel calm, instant mood changer ❤ thank you 🙏😘
Oh dear lord! Less you for understanding and articulating the heightened emotional state. I get told “quit being so sensitive” and it’s rather annoying because I’m naturally a more emotional personal. I know I need to work on it and I’ve grown a lot over the years. But still. Love what you’re doing! Subscribing right now!
You are so beautiful! Thank you so much for putting a new view on femininity that is fresh and amazing! Such an inspiration ❤️❤️ Also, what do you use to film?
This is such a great message for young women. It is so easy to get stuck in this mindset of "self-love" that the world throws at you. Comparison is the thief of joy. Thankful for this message, keep it coming girl!
As a believer, one thing that really helped me almost instantly, is the simple thought that "well, God gave her that". This simple thought does 2 things: it makes you not hate that person + it makes you so more relaxed and relieved 💗
I was so sad since a few week. About my face and everything about me cos my mom keeps comparing me from other girls. Like her beauty standards are so high. Everytime I achieved them she would set them more high and point out all my flaws. I literally cried to be the best and faced so many insecurities. After watching this I feel so much better. I love you so much. Thank you so much. I am gonna thank you and God for everything and also increasing my self esteem. I really want to tell every girl out there. You are beautiful and perfect the way you are. If you are feeling crappy about yourself. Please know you are loved and god has created you in the most perfect manner he could.
This is the only video related on self-esteem that has actually helped me. I really needed it, so thank you. I love the way you make videos in order to help other women. I'm very happy to find you! 😊
I’ve struggled with low self esteem because I have battled between wanting to be like friends that I’ve had that are more like the Instagram baddie/model type and seeing the attention they get, especially from guys. Meanwhile, I know it’s not really the kind of attention I want or God would want for me, but I sometimes can’t help but feel like I’m never going to find someone that looks at me as that kind of beautiful (sexy) in practicing complete feminine elegance. So, essentially I’m tied between wanting to be moral-driven and having a fear of missing out and not fitting in, and feeling less beautiful because of it. I’m just lost in finding my true self.
This is exactly me I wanted to look like “friends” who were the Instagram model amazing dresses looking type and left real great trust worthy friends I had. And I noticed I need to let go of that and that I don’t need to looks certain way and be like them and have everything that they have. I can be free and be myself. And I’m trying to reach back out to my friends that I’ve been confident around and trust without needthing their approval like it flows naturally and I’m fine being myself but people say don’t reply on people for your self esteem but how do I find the correct friends and path ? It’s so hard because when I let go of wanting ti be and thinking I need to dress like a Instagram model and just be grateful being myself
I'm so glad I came across your channel.. I've always wanted a good role model on femininity...And you share them so perfectly.. Growing up in a house full of men, I've always been confused if I appear too weak, delicate or fragile and to combat that i try to be more tough as a kid, always wanted to be better than my brothers😂😂 but most of the time my feminine nature takes over😂 and I'm back to square one...however as years pass by I've learned to accept my feminine nature/energy as it is.. thank you so much.. I'll keep you in my prayers too😊♥️♥️♥️
Thank Did you not watch the beginning of her video? One thing she says in every video I’ve watched is anyone is welcome. Religion, background, no matter where you come from. Why would race matter ?!? People always thank her for mixed culture pics that she puts in & makes everyone feel welcome.
Thank you so much for this video! I had to pause halfway through to leave this comment. Absolutely love how you explain your points so well - it all makes sense to me now! Lots of love from Germany :)
You’re just such a beautiful soul and I appreciate that about you. The topics you cover are interesting and are explained eloquently and with love and care.Definitely need more people like you out there ♥️🙌🏻
Yesss I can relate !! Too many people think that accepting yourself and showing self love is the key to low self esteem, but when I try to do that I end up pointing out all my flaws. I guess that’s where self improvement comes in!
I came from Nikki Phillippi’s channel after she made a video of youtubers she watches and I am so glad she passed on the info! I love your channel and have binge watched your videos catching up! Although I don’t have the exact same viewpoints a ton of what you say on your channel really resonates with me and I love the way you put out the messages so inclusively to everyone. Can’t wait to see how your channel evolves through time, it’s hard to believe you are somewhat new at this...you seem like such a natural!
Someone said that the mother's love (this is all typical generalisations) is unconditional and feeds a child their understanding of intrinsic value, whereas the father's love is conditional in the sense that he loves you for who you could be, and that tomorrow you could always be a better person. And when you mentioned that as people we need to build things to be proud of, I think of what fatherlessness has robbed both sons and daughters (especially sons who need confidence in this world-- that push to become better than they are today and building a reliable track record for themselves and how they carry themselves in tight situations, being resourceful and whatnot). Its all complementary: the unconditional mother's love that reinforces intrinsic value, and the conditional father's love that reinforces potential and what you're going to do with that potential for tomorrow and for yourself. Love love love this video!
If I was half as beautiful as mrsMidwest I would never feel crappy about anything. Just what the point. (Obviously I know that there are lots of issues aside from appearance, just empathising that she is awesome)
I have big calves too. My biggest source of insecurity. But as I'm growing older, I'm starting to appreciate it more. They helped me walk and climb mountains (literally!). Thank you!
Actually you do look like a model! Not that you need to be, but you are gorgeous! By the way, thanks a lot for this video! Never thought about the topic this way before. Focusing on self improvement, Amen to that!
Guurrrlll...you are wise beyond your years. It takes some people a lifetime to come to this realization. Thank you for putting this out there! You are a blessing!
I totally agree with you that not obsessing or indulging in heightened emotional states greatly improves your mood and decreases negative feelings. Just because you have moments when you have a negative emotion, does NOT mean the thought/emotion is true and you don’t need to entertain those thoughts that make you feel awful. It’s amazing how simple it is to improve the stability of your mood, it just takes practice. I had really bad anxiety and this has helped a lot with reducing those levels of anxiety. Also, as you said, feeling gratitude is key to happiness. Everyday I feel so grateful. I’m in my third trimester of pregnancy, and I get to stay home with baby. I’m so happy to be able to be a housewife/SAHM :). I really enjoyed this video because it’s not a common opinion, as you mentioned most people are self obsessed with “loving themselves” no matter what rather than improving. Great content and very original.
sadly i stopped watching when it became apparent it was "women focused" not because of the content or target audience, just that i felt unwelcome being a guy, like i was peeking at some inside secrets not meant for me...haha. maybe i'll get over myself and pick up where i left off haha. it would be cool if a subject such as self worth was aimed at everyone as it is bigger than gender, but i understand. much love
Your example about the mail box is bad because no1 would be jealous of a mailbox. Your logic is kinda bad and you seem to parrot some view points you heard elsewhere but you have a pretty face so all is good.
1 it s ok to feel low self esteem sometimes 2 don t be sooo focused on self esteem 3 be grateful for what you have ( 5things you r grateful for ) every day 4self imrovment :nurture body social life relation ship .. 5.don t be too emotional 6 help people
Hello from a fellow housewife (from NH)! Awesome video as always! Love following you! Its been such a pleasure to hear someone with similar views, this can be so hard to find these days! Keep it up girl you’ve created something really great here!! By the way do you listen to Jordan Peterson??
Wow. I am so blessed by your videos! I cannot tell you how much peace I feel listening to your wisdom and how humbling it is to be reminded to be GRATEFUL for what I have thank you so much mrs Midwest ❤️
I love how articulate you are and how you get your ideas across. It always comes off as very sisterly and humble instead of condescending and snooty. 😘
Thissssssss! PLEASE teach us lol
Yes exactly! Seems so sincere
I love you. I needed this today. My mom bought me some clothing yesterday. She couldn’t really afford to do it but she did it because she was showing me love. I saw a girl on Instagram today who got her hair done. Her dad has a great job and I got jealous. Then I felt guilty because my mom had just given me nice new clothing and I felt so ashamed. I need to be humbled, and I need to show gratitude.
Gratitude will truly transform the comparison game for you! I’m still working on it daily, but it has done wonders for me. Proud of you for your honesty with yourself. Keep going love! Xoxo
Not sure where I heard this but “obsessively hating yourself is just as vain as obsessively loving yourself”
I needed a reminder of that today. Thank you for all of your lovely videos! 💖
Hi! Thank you for sharing your experience. I am currently where you used to be. Any tips on how you overcame that dysfunctional thinking pattern?
Marisol González What really helped was trying to focus on what I’m doing, rather than big generalizations about who I am. I could look at the things I had done in a day objectively. I could decide that they were good or bad without letting that spiral into “wow I’m a lazy bad person” or “wow I can’t believe you’re congratulating yourself you’re not as great as you think you are” which is how my thoughts would have spiraled before. It allowed me to still work on my behavior and improve myself without falling into a self hating trap. It still takes work, I have to consciously monitor my thoughts and make sure I’m not being too negative. It will be an ongoing process, but it made me a lot happier 😁 I hope this helped! Good luck to you!
Holy damn.. I obsessivley hate myself... 😔
Grand Cosmos same sis, but I’m so glad that we can work our way out of that pit
So true!
1. Gratitude
2. Self improvement
3. Step out of the heightened emotional state
4. Help others sometimes
Stop doing this. You’re stopping others from watching the video.
@guts for example i didn't.
@@marcin8865 you should ! This video was a lot more than these 4 points, this was just points to remember, but she has actually explained the process one can adopt , so i would recommend you to watch it, you'll like it hopefully 😀!
Can you make a video on behavior? I’ve never had much of a mom and I’d love to learn how to be a “lady” without over doing it
Great topic!
Yessss this!!!!
Yes this is a good topic.. Behaviour
I’ve just been in an environment where you are expected to be polite, but not excessively ladylike.
@Alex Arand What is wrong with being soft?
Thank you for creating this beautiful, beautiful, feminine community
It’s all of you!! I love my subbies so much!
@Ashlee Sweetheart submitting to your husband?
Muskaan Mittal yes God calls for us to submit
@@mushy470 Yap! Watch
What it Means to Submit to Your Husband
th-cam.com/video/X6vYCmApyrA/w-d-xo.html
from Ascension Presents.
Pretty interesting and cool stuff..
Skyaboveme
If you don't like it already I would think that you might like "Old TV Time" - Its videos from around the 50s 🤗🤗
th-cam.com/video/BH_gncP_5vc/w-d-xo.html
“Earn your confidence through self improvement”. Wow! That did it for me.
that is exactly what self-love IS NOT. It is not self-esteem/love if it is conditional. That is exactly the philosophy of the insecure overachiever. Because the moment you do nothing and don’t „produce“ you are worthless? That is what the philosophy means
@@noneofyourbusiness2890 I do not think that loving yourself is conditional, but being proud of yourself or others can be conditional and actually should be. If your brother is a drug-addict who beats up old people and steals their money for his fix, you still love him, but what is there to be proud of?
Yes self improvement is so important for self confidence 💪🏻
@@noneofyourbusiness2890 She said 'confidence'. Not 'worth'.
Me too!👍😊🌺
Hold up, that’s grandma’s sweater? It looks so nice on you, I was thinking, “I wonder were she got her sweater from.” Haha
Yes I inherited a lot of her clothes when she passed away and she had goooooood style! 🤣😍
Sarah Clutter same haha
Same 😂
You could put her in a bin bag and she'd still be flawless.
Me too! 😂
Whoa. A true lightbulb moment. Looking back over the past 20 + years, I’m realizing that a great deal of my deep depression was caused by being TOO introspective and not seeing that mindset for what it truly was. Truth by truth my eyes are opening. Thank you!!
Yes! I had to come to that realization for myself as well. So much of my pain came from overusing the tool of introspection. So happy you are here! Xoxo 🙏🏼😘
*Working on yourself is the only true way of growing as a human being.*
Stay true to yourself Mrs, you are an isle of fresh air.
its the only way to age with dignity.
Dude you're everywhere
We watch way too much TH-cam..
so so true. Love this message. We, ourselves are the only thing we can control x
I don't know what was happend to you but u r everywhere dude..like this kind of videos ..
You’re incredibly wise....I’m over twenty years older than you and I’m learning some valuable lessons from you💗
Our community is all ages! So happy to have older sisters here!😍
I have a high self esteem and I am wise and I am only 26 years old!
Same for me; she's really in a way inspired and in turn, inspires us to change our lives and relations for better. Lord bless her and her family.
I've once heard a quote that fits to the second topic:
Don't try to be someone else than you are, but try to be the best version of yourself I think this is really inspirational ☺️💗
We need a Caitlin podcast!!! I would love to be able to listen to you talk about anything, or have conversations with people! Thank you for such refreshing and real content 💜
I posted a video about how I improve my confidence, would love if you could check it out
This is such a refreshing perspective on self esteem.
It’s just a little note, but I appreciate you adding “regardless of religion, creed, background...”
I recently discovered your channel and blog and have become quite grateful for it. I’ve always felt a push back against embracing a traditional/feminine/homemaker lifestyle because of the belief that I couldn’t embrace that. “But I’m not Christian,” “but I’m too much of a tomboy,” “but I’m supposed to be ‘independent’,” but, but, but.
You’re gentle and encouraging, yet bold, unapologetic, and straightforward. Most importantly, you’re welcoming.
Thank you. (from a proud 22 y/o soldier’s wife, happy cat mom, and young homemaker- finding her way in Texas & in her own heart)
i couldnt relate more to your comment! though i've recently converted to Christ, for a long time i did feel like an outsider to the community because i too am pretty tomboyish and independent and aggressive. plus, i'm asian so i dont really see anyone like me in this community! i wanted you to know that many are in the same boat as you and that so long as we all promote nurturing and kindness to all, everyone who shares are values are welcome ♡
Awww. Good luck my dear 🤗🤗🤗
With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real, Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x
I get so excited when you upload☺️ you’re such an inspiration friend😘
Ah thank you! I was watching your office redo while I was cleaning my kitchen this morning. Love love love!
Hi beautiful
I needed this message so badly this week. God is good.
Hang in there Ma'am. God Bless.
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"Earn your confidence" love it. For me, my confidence really got stronger when i became more brave and actually DID things that were out of my comfort zone, along with changing pattern of thought, expending my perspective, having a new mindset.
I’m 16 years old and your videos help me sooo much 💛💛. Thank you 🐝
McKenzie Leinweber 17 and same
Anna Lewis sameee
Me too 💛
McKenzie Leinweber same🙋🏻♀️💕
So much love for our younger feminine ladies. You lovelies are my daisies! 🥰😍
“Earn your confidence through self improvement” This is GOLD 🙌
Your videos are like a warm hug. Excellent content, articulated in a graceful manner. Breath of fresh air!
I think the biggest problem with low self-esteem is that you start to be aggressive, and mostly passive-aggressive, which is the biggest reason why more and more people will turn away from you. If a person shows low self-esteem, there will definitely be well-meaning people stop to help her, but if she starts to choose to give up on herself and choose to start passive-aggressive, she is basically pushing the healthy life she could have had farther and farther.
One of my favorite videos yet! Gosh you really are a true reflection of all the thoughts going on inside my head haha!! Keep up with the wonderful content!!
"My life hasn't changed, my perspective changed." Wow 😍
treat others the same way you treat yourself AND treat yourself the same way you treat somebody very dear to you...more women need to watch your videos!
The most powerful thing that changed my self-esteemed from low to healthy, was gaining an accurate understanding of God's view of me. My value is now in who GOD thinks I am, rather than who I or other's think I am. I cannot be anything I want to be, but I can be everything God intends for me to be.
Wow thx I needed to hear that! I’m 15 and I’m not exactly sure what’s going on with me so I watch videos on self confidence or how to deal with anxiety or stuff like this cause I can’t point out what I have.. I im not typically a jealous person and I usually do good and appreciate stuff but recently this month that’s kinda changed and I’m not sure why.. like for starters my friends especially this one friend wants to make me feel constantly bad and i just dont understand why. I posted a picture and she said nothing and simply ignored it “it was on a chat”. Friends are supposed to build u up not knock u down. This makes me sad because we have great memories together and I’m a introvert so it’s hard sometimes to make friends but we have good memories and I don’t want to lose her as the friend in those good memories. She makes me feel bad about myself and tries to make jokes out of rude remarks. Maybe it’s cause I can’t “hang” with her and her jokes but I know she does not mean them from all fun and games, I just wish I could do something about it. I’m not sure if I should talk to her about it or if she will say I’m sensitive or jealous or whatever it is whenever I try to say something that I feel like she needs to change.
@@strawberrydaurto3366 My daughter is your age and she is an introvert and has anxiety. Just remember going to school, at that age is just weird and awkward for just about everyone. Finding out who you are, what you like, don't like and WHO is a forever friend and just a teacher on life's journey are all things you have to learn. You are ahead of the game though- the fact that you are aware of what your feeling and recognizing what self-respect is and wanting people around who support that.
Yes! You are a creation of the entire universe, so shine! :)
Walk away from.the heightened emotional state...I needed to hear this
It is so difficult to do! Sending you love. 💓
Please make a video on how you lost those 15 lbs . I am struggling to lose weight !
Yes I definitely plan on doing a video on that! In the meantime, keep your chin up. It’s definitely a difficult task!
Thank you! The point is not to feel better, but to keep working, working, working. High self-esteem is not for the lazy .
wow, you're so right about the nurturing part, it really does raise self esteem. When you become the best version of yourself in terms of friendships, relationships and anything else - you suddenly realize that you don't even need approval from others simply because you're living to your highest standards.
When you said to focus on what I have, I paused the video and thought. I’m so lucky to actually be alive. I had life saving surgery when I was a baby. I could be in the ground now. Yes, I’ve got a large nose but I’ve got a great hourglass body. I’m not extremely ugly. I know how to do make up. God gave me life and talents. I am so blessed. Thank you for helping me realize that! 💕💕💕💕
You are the ONLY TH-camr who actually speaks Facts. Actual facts that no one has ever spoken about. Thank u sooooooo much❤️❤️💋💋💋💓💓💓😘😘😘♥️♥️♥️💖💖💖💯💯💯💯💯
Woah I actually agree but im a Christian too... When I focused on myself all the time is when I got anxiety! When I did affirmations... I got anxiety aswell!
God created us and he doesn´t make mistakes. By knowing this I have started to learn how to love myself and my self-esteem has grown.
LMAO. Go tell that to a 4 YO orphan who is diying of cancer in a third world country.
@@Gwenangels That is part of life sweetie. People are going to get sick and die. It doesn't mean that orphan was a mistake.
Yes, we are all whole, and good enough. When I learned that as well, life changed!
Yay! Thank you for this content. I was taught vanity, but never femininity and the heart behind it. Loving your videos.
I needed this so much! Thank you. You can't even imagine how greatful I am for this message. You're the type of TH-camr that God directs you to as an answer to your prayers. Love you so much!
Yes! He totally did that for me last night! I'm so so excited
I deleted the apps from my phone and my mood changed so much. I didn’t have those distractions anymore. I was living more in the moment. Also, I had started putting on weight again and was feeling gross. When I stopped constantly seeing others who were much skinnier than me the weight started coming off easier. I think because when I was trying desperately to lose weight again and then I was seeing others be where I wanted to be and I just wasn’t, it would lead to binge eating which put me further from my goal. I really needed to go back to this video. 💕 thank you for your videos 💕💕💕
so what I've gathered is -
Focus on:
1. What you are grateful for
2. What you can improve on
3. Helping others
Thank you for the great advice!! :)
I have not even watch the video but wanted to say You are the real life Rapunzel. You are so beautiful and look so much like a princess. (I have never told that to anyone lol)
I love that you encourage people to take ownership and not play the victim. Of course there’s some things you can’t control, but there are steps we can take to increase our confidence.
I found this video so much more positive and achievable than some of the other video telling me to act a certain way. They just seem disingenuous and make me feel like my real self is not good enough. Like I need to fake it. But working on improving myself and not being so self obsessed with HOW to do this and that, I feel a bit more confident. It doesn’t change overnight but I’m working on it.
Writing down a gratitude list everyday really is changing my life!
So glad i found you! My new favorite channel 🌸😊
the way i was literally saying “i wish i had her living room, hair & sweater” and when u mentioned these things!😭 really caught me.
Help! We need help in how to handle difficult situations ladylike and with poise.
Thnx for choosing important topics to talk about😇
I love this channel so much, thank you 💓💓
Self esteem is earned by hard work. You know when you have sacrificed and exerted yourself in order to excel. You know when you’ve been brave. Then you will know you can overcome future challenges and deserve the success you gain. You have to live a moral life, and being Christian is huge advantage. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
Oh myyyy!! I also have big calves (like really) it's one of my insecurities!! I also have thicker thighs and wide feet but i have a slimmer upper body, which is what i hate before. But now i'm trying to love those. My first plan is through my clothes. I had always wanted to have clothes that are the latest trend or 'aesthetic' but after getting into videos about being classy and being feminine and embracing myself as a woman, my mindset changed. One video i watched, she said something like "Don't change your body for the clothes you want but change your clothes to match your body" and that really made me think. I had been the 'change-your-body-for-the-clothes -you-want' but now im changing that. It's really making me feel good and made me accept myself more now.
You're that best girlfriend I need in my life ♥️ beyond thankful for your heart to heart convos. We need more inspiring women like you
Really trying to build a similar channel, would love if you could check it out
“Stop esteeming yourself so much!” Yes, this. I will always have flaws, never ever perfect, but (as a believer) I am highly esteemed only because of my identity in Christ.
Thank you for these videos- I love hearing the Christian perspective, it’s rare and refreshing. You reminded me to count my blessings and be happy with what I have
Living for your videos right now 😁💕 so nice to see another young women being a homemaker 💜💜💜
I am literally crying right now because I am really struggling with comparing myself to others and making enemies out of them a lot recently. Your words and energy hits the right note and made me feel calm, instant mood changer ❤ thank you 🙏😘
YOU SHOULD START PODCASTING BECAUSE I NEED THIS BEFORE BED
Thank you for extra hug! Heading to 2 min and already love the point you are making! Great content👍
Thank you for watching so soon!
Oh dear lord! Less you for understanding and articulating the heightened emotional state. I get told “quit being so sensitive” and it’s rather annoying because I’m naturally a more emotional personal. I know I need to work on it and I’ve grown a lot over the years. But still.
Love what you’re doing! Subscribing right now!
Thank you thank you thank you! Such a blessing! Thank you for sharing your heart!
You are so beautiful! Thank you so much for putting a new view on femininity that is fresh and amazing! Such an inspiration ❤️❤️
Also, what do you use to film?
Emma Christine thank you! I use an iPhone 7+ and a microphone. I may have a new camera soon though!
This is such a great message for young women. It is so easy to get stuck in this mindset of "self-love" that the world throws at you. Comparison is the thief of joy. Thankful for this message, keep it coming girl!
As a believer, one thing that really helped me almost instantly, is the simple thought that "well, God gave her that". This simple thought does 2 things: it makes you not hate that person + it makes you so more relaxed and relieved 💗
This is good deep powerful wisdom of self esteem and have confidence 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Embrace the big calf! They are a mark of our Dutch and German heritage. 😋 Even if we have to custom order boots.
Omggg the tip about postponing negative self emotions till a later date is PURE FREAKIN GOLD!!!!!
I was so sad since a few week. About my face and everything about me cos my mom keeps comparing me from other girls. Like her beauty standards are so high. Everytime I achieved them she would set them more high and point out all my flaws. I literally cried to be the best and faced so many insecurities. After watching this I feel so much better. I love you so much. Thank you so much. I am gonna thank you and God for everything and also increasing my self esteem. I really want to tell every girl out there. You are beautiful and perfect the way you are. If you are feeling crappy about yourself. Please know you are loved and god has created you in the most perfect manner he could.
Your style is so cute
Ah thank you!
This is the only video related on self-esteem that has actually helped me. I really needed it, so thank you. I love the way you make videos in order to help other women. I'm very happy to find you! 😊
Big calves are in 💁🏼♀️
I’ve struggled with low self esteem because I have battled between wanting to be like friends that I’ve had that are more like the Instagram baddie/model type and seeing the attention they get, especially from guys. Meanwhile, I know it’s not really the kind of attention I want or God would want for me, but I sometimes can’t help but feel like I’m never going to find someone that looks at me as that kind of beautiful (sexy) in practicing complete feminine elegance. So, essentially I’m tied between wanting to be moral-driven and having a fear of missing out and not fitting in, and feeling less beautiful because of it. I’m just lost in finding my true self.
This is exactly me I wanted to look like “friends” who were the Instagram model amazing dresses looking type and left real great trust worthy friends I had. And I noticed I need to let go of that and that I don’t need to looks certain way and be like them and have everything that they have. I can be free and be myself. And I’m trying to reach back out to my friends that I’ve been confident around and trust without needthing their approval like it flows naturally and I’m fine being myself but people say don’t reply on people for your self esteem but how do I find the correct friends and path ? It’s so hard because when I let go of wanting ti be and thinking I need to dress like a Instagram model and just be grateful being myself
For me,I feel confident when I confess sin, and feel forgiven after getting it in the open.
These are all great points! Most of which I have never heard.
God Bless 💖
I'm so glad I came across your channel.. I've always wanted a good role model on femininity...And you share them so perfectly.. Growing up in a house full of men, I've always been confused if I appear too weak, delicate or fragile and to combat that i try to be more tough as a kid, always wanted to be better than my brothers😂😂 but most of the time my feminine nature takes over😂 and I'm back to square one...however as years pass by I've learned to accept my feminine nature/energy as it is.. thank you so much.. I'll keep you in my prayers too😊♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for addressing the super sensitivity issue. I'm in my late 50s and have struggled with this all my life.
Are black people welcome here?
Thank Did you not watch the beginning of her video? One thing she says in every video I’ve watched is anyone is welcome. Religion, background, no matter where you come from. Why would race matter ?!? People always thank her for mixed culture pics that she puts in & makes everyone feel welcome.
Thank you so much for this video! I had to pause halfway through to leave this comment. Absolutely love how you explain your points so well - it all makes sense to me now! Lots of love from Germany :)
Great video this week. Can't wait for some bonus content!!
Ronelle Bakima 🤗😉😊
U are better than my therapist haha
Studies show that the world needs more self control than self esteem. Selfism is out of control as the world is out of control.
You’re just such a beautiful soul and I appreciate that about you. The topics you cover are interesting and are explained eloquently and with love and care.Definitely need more people like you out there ♥️🙌🏻
These words are very encouraging. God bless
Yesss I can relate !! Too many people think that accepting yourself and showing self love is the key to low self esteem, but when I try to do that I end up pointing out all my flaws. I guess that’s where self improvement comes in!
I came from Nikki Phillippi’s channel after she made a video of youtubers she watches and I am so glad she passed on the info! I love your channel and have binge watched your videos catching up! Although I don’t have the exact same viewpoints a ton of what you say on your channel really resonates with me and I love the way you put out the messages so inclusively to everyone. Can’t wait to see how your channel evolves through time, it’s hard to believe you are somewhat new at this...you seem like such a natural!
OMG!! LOVE THIS!! I love this channel so much i dot even have words to express!!
Someone said that the mother's love (this is all typical generalisations) is unconditional and feeds a child their understanding of intrinsic value, whereas the father's love is conditional in the sense that he loves you for who you could be, and that tomorrow you could always be a better person. And when you mentioned that as people we need to build things to be proud of, I think of what fatherlessness has robbed both sons and daughters (especially sons who need confidence in this world-- that push to become better than they are today and building a reliable track record for themselves and how they carry themselves in tight situations, being resourceful and whatnot). Its all complementary: the unconditional mother's love that reinforces intrinsic value, and the conditional father's love that reinforces potential and what you're going to do with that potential for tomorrow and for yourself. Love love love this video!
If I was half as beautiful as mrsMidwest I would never feel crappy about anything. Just what the point. (Obviously I know that there are lots of issues aside from appearance, just empathising that she is awesome)
I have big calves too. My biggest source of insecurity. But as I'm growing older, I'm starting to appreciate it more. They helped me walk and climb mountains (literally!). Thank you!
Growing my calves at the gym right now, heheh.
Actually you do look like a model! Not that you need to be, but you are gorgeous! By the way, thanks a lot for this video! Never thought about the topic this way before. Focusing on self improvement, Amen to that!
Guurrrlll...you are wise beyond your years. It takes some people a lifetime to come to this realization. Thank you for putting this out there! You are a blessing!
Can you make a vídeo on how to make your marrige work 🙏🏻
I totally agree with you that not obsessing or indulging in heightened emotional states greatly improves your mood and decreases negative feelings. Just because you have moments when you have a negative emotion, does NOT mean the thought/emotion is true and you don’t need to entertain those thoughts that make you feel awful. It’s amazing how simple it is to improve the stability of your mood, it just takes practice. I had really bad anxiety and this has helped a lot with reducing those levels of anxiety. Also, as you said, feeling gratitude is key to happiness. Everyday I feel so grateful. I’m in my third trimester of pregnancy, and I get to stay home with baby. I’m so happy to be able to be a housewife/SAHM :). I really enjoyed this video because it’s not a common opinion, as you mentioned most people are self obsessed with “loving themselves” no matter what rather than improving. Great content and very original.
sadly i stopped watching when it became apparent it was "women focused" not because of the content or target audience, just that i felt unwelcome being a guy, like i was peeking at some inside secrets not meant for me...haha. maybe i'll get over myself and pick up where i left off haha. it would be cool if a subject such as self worth was aimed at everyone as it is bigger than gender, but i understand. much love
Your example about the mail box is bad because no1 would be jealous of a mailbox. Your logic is kinda bad and you seem to parrot some view points you heard elsewhere but you have a pretty face so all is good.
1 it s ok to feel low self esteem sometimes
2 don t be sooo focused on self esteem
3 be grateful for what you have ( 5things you r grateful for ) every day
4self imrovment :nurture body social life relation ship ..
5.don t be too emotional
6 help people
You just radiate feminine beauty. You are so well spoken, such a great video
Hello from a fellow housewife (from NH)! Awesome video as always! Love following you! Its been such a pleasure to hear someone with similar views, this can be so hard to find these days! Keep it up girl you’ve created something really great here!!
By the way do you listen to Jordan Peterson??
Amen, Sister! The best self esteem talk I have ever heard
You’re beautiful though, I just feel ugly. I need something to change my mind. 🙁
I loved this! You are so gifted & im grateful that you take time to make these videos. 💖
Wow. I am so blessed by your videos! I cannot tell you how much peace I feel listening to your wisdom and how humbling it is to be reminded to be GRATEFUL for what I have thank you so much mrs Midwest ❤️