Thank you! Omg. The chair perching thing. You are gifted. You drew me right in immed., and I was following your instructions, and I don’t even know how to explain, but it was huge. I had no idea. What relief and comfort and grounding you gave me. Thank you friend.❤ Wish you were in Oklahoma!
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! I appreciate your kind comments, and I'm so glad the video was helpful for you. BTW, here are some SE practitioners in Oklahoma: directory.traumahealing.org/practitioner-search/?sms=true&cs=united+states&st=oklahoma
Yes, thank you very much!!! I am having a lot of physical symptoms, so hard to get comfortable. But I have a lot of things that give me pleasure. And learning to actually focus on that in this mindful way....is soooo very appreciated...yay!!!!
Most people keep themselves distracted so they don't have to feel things we have repressed or pushed aside. It sounds like for that brief period, as this practice had you setting aside distractions, things that need to be felt and released came up. There are numerous ways to release these stored emotions and feelings. TRE, or Trauma Release Exercises is one. It did wonders for me. The Eckhart Tolle releasing the pain body is another.
I perched initially, then when I settled in my thoughts calmed I felt a wave of sadness and started to cry. I'm doing some deep healing work at the moment so it's not too surprising to find that under the surface.
Thanks a lot for this exercise. I ve been doing body based exercies for quiet some time and my biggest task so far was really feeling my body. On this journey I discovered that most of the time I was "hovering" (you call it perching .. as I m not a native speak, I have no idea what fits better :) ) while sitting and also while lying in bed or walking around. I changed to barefeet shoes which helped to feel more grounded. Now seeing your videos it really helped me to understand that it doesn't come from the outside and how much I feel there, but from the inside and my body trying to protect me. Thanks a lot for sharing the information. I have one question: how long did you need to regulate enough to sit down and sit in the chair, instead of "on" the chair? I m very aware that we are all different, but I m curious anyway. I wish you a great sunday :)
I'm glad it's been helpful for you! Becoming more embodied and easing bracing and "perching" is an ongoing practice for me. We live in a fast-paced, stressful world - and the body is constantly getting "threat" signals. So my practice is frequently tuning in to my interior state to assess bracing, then to invite and allow ease to come in. I'm not sure that there is a destination on this - just a journey of increasing awareness.
Thanks very much for this. I found it quite good! It's hard to tell exactly what is going on for me but I noticed a difference so that is awsome! Thanks again
I noticed how I am not allowing the pleasant experience to support me in the moment; I am so fast forward😂…too planned out, don’t like the hidden tension in my body and diaphragm, thank you…I am aware
I thought 5 techniques were supposed to be shown. I knew this technique before, it's the only one i got shown for a whole year, since i am in somatic experience therapy. Is that all there is?
Hi @erobird3403. I'm sorry to have caused frustration. The video is the first in a series, so the 5 techniques got sprinkled through several videos. If you go to the video section of our channel, the videos right around this one has additional techniques.
My caseload is full @massiematinfar9662, but the SE practitioners in my practice can work online with clients who are located in Illinois. For SE providers beyond Illinois, check out the SEI practitioner directory: directory.traumahealing.org/
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! The entire vide of the 5 exercises was broken up over several videos. I apologize for the confusion @kristinaasimova601 and @jonkip6903.
Hi @cinmac3, sorry for the delay in responding! Yes, @cygnus94 has it right. Perching is basically sitting lightly on something - even somewhat tentatively - rather than allowing your full body weight to be supported. Perching takes more effort as we hold ourselves up muscularly.
In SE we would say there is a likely "coupling dynamic" that is happening - the pleasant thing is "coupled" to sadness and longing. For now I'd suggest either noticing only one pleasant sensory response to the thing or choosing something that is only coupled with pleasantness. I hope that helps, @lailahreich3205!
I'm sorry that happened, @milleabel. Might I suggest trying noticing one sensory aspect of something that is pleasant to you: the smell of fresh baked bread, the sound of your favorite piece of music, the tactile feel of water moving on your skin when you're swimming, the taste of a piece of fine dark chocolate, etc. Savor the memory of the experience for just a few seconds. Don't allow yourself to go into the full memory - just stay with the chosen sensory aspect. Do this exercise over time - building the time by a bit each time. Notice what happens in your body as you savor the sensory experience. I hope this helps!
When you can't sit in a chair without pain, or being aware of pain. When you can't breathe properly because your breath stops. When you can't just sit in audience either, because you have needs no one understands in how to deal with it. When you have major dramas to deal with and no one will listen to you or interact with you and you sit alone and you need help. People go, just do this.....and they don't realise that you are disabled and cut off from doing that, and everything needs modification. When the silence cries and you are aware of everyone and everything not just yourself. Somewhere along the line the physicality has to be addressed. For me, when you can't access medical treatment, because the doctors believe you are imagining it, or you have something that is just beyond them and you learn how to heal yourself. When it all hurts and therre is no help and support. When there is just no one that will go out of their way to listen. Just sit on your chair....I have a disabled bottom, makes sitting difficult. There is discomfort, there is distress and there is upset, not just mine...there is no comfort. When its everywhere and in everything. How to deal with it, manage and cope....you learn because you have no choice. The chair support hurts, laying in bed hurts, walking hurts, it all hurts and then it stops because it goes numb and then the cry of grief comes it comes and there are no more tears left, just silent crying of the whole. Just notice....somewhere along the line action needs to be taken. Serenity comes and brought back into acceptance But somewhere along the line there needs to be physical treatment.
Thank you for sharing. I highly recommend reaching out to a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner who has completed the Advanced year off the SE training and is skilled with working with syndromal nervous systems. Here's the link to the SE Practitioner Directory: directory.traumahealing.org/ My best to you.
This is information from your nervous system. Finding an SE practitioner could be helpful with shifting some of those patterns. Here's the directory: directory.traumahealing.org/
Perhaps titration can help @greyline1012. What's the smallest piece of what's in front of you that you'd be open to holding in your hand at one time? Maybe a drop of what's in front of you? As you hold it (imaginally) in your hand, notice what it's like - what it looks like, what it feels like, what emotion comes up as you hold it, what impulse your body has as you hold it. Again - not the entirety of what's in front of you - just this one drop of it. As you take time with it - and follow what your body wants - then come back for another small amount (maybe 2 drops this time) and do the same process. You'll notice your capacity to be with the feared thing will grow - usually quite quickly.
In a situation like that, something you can do is think of a sensory slice of a pleasant memory (e.g. the feel of the water on your skin when you're swimming, the aroma of warm chocolate chip cookies, the feel of the dirt when you're gardening, etc.). Not the entire memory - just one pleasant sensory slice. I hope that helps @alejandraduque4061!
Thank you! Omg. The chair perching thing. You are gifted. You drew me right in immed., and I was following your instructions, and I don’t even know how to explain, but it was huge. I had no idea. What relief and comfort and grounding you gave me.
Thank you friend.❤
Wish you were in Oklahoma!
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! I appreciate your kind comments, and I'm so glad the video was helpful for you. BTW, here are some SE practitioners in Oklahoma: directory.traumahealing.org/practitioner-search/?sms=true&cs=united+states&st=oklahoma
Yes, thank you very much!!! I am having a lot of physical symptoms, so hard to get comfortable. But I have a lot of things that give me pleasure. And learning to actually focus on that in this mindful way....is soooo very appreciated...yay!!!!
Happy to help, @Ellenweiss1!
I felt more present in the moment. Safer. More aware the support I do have in my control. Thank you❤
You are so welcome @7oclockmiracles88!
i went into a total freeze response and my heart was racing doing that. i also had memories of my mom. not sure what just happened. 😂
You might consider finding a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner to work that through, @herusaleron6793. directory.traumahealing.org/
Most people keep themselves distracted so they don't have to feel things we have repressed or pushed aside. It sounds like for that brief period, as this practice had you setting aside distractions, things that need to be felt and released came up. There are numerous ways to release these stored emotions and feelings. TRE, or Trauma Release Exercises is one. It did wonders for me. The Eckhart Tolle releasing the pain body is another.
What about tge other 4 exercises?
@donickabudd5825, I believe my talk on this got split into several videos. Sorry for the confusion!
I perched initially, then when I settled in my thoughts calmed I felt a wave of sadness and started to cry. I'm doing some deep healing work at the moment so it's not too surprising to find that under the surface.
I'm glad you were able to notice that underneath. I hope it is helpful to your healing process.
Thanks...very grounding and helpful.
I am actually a percher especially when I sit and eat..so glad you made me aware of that..
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you this helps me feel more grounded.
I'm so glad, @caramelunicorn8023!
Thanks a lot for this exercise. I ve been doing body based exercies for quiet some time and my biggest task so far was really feeling my body. On this journey I discovered that most of the time I was "hovering" (you call it perching .. as I m not a native speak, I have no idea what fits better :) ) while sitting and also while lying in bed or walking around. I changed to barefeet shoes which helped to feel more grounded. Now seeing your videos it really helped me to understand that it doesn't come from the outside and how much I feel there, but from the inside and my body trying to protect me. Thanks a lot for sharing the information. I have one question: how long did you need to regulate enough to sit down and sit in the chair, instead of "on" the chair? I m very aware that we are all different, but I m curious anyway. I wish you a great sunday :)
I'm glad it's been helpful for you! Becoming more embodied and easing bracing and "perching" is an ongoing practice for me. We live in a fast-paced, stressful world - and the body is constantly getting "threat" signals. So my practice is frequently tuning in to my interior state to assess bracing, then to invite and allow ease to come in. I'm not sure that there is a destination on this - just a journey of increasing awareness.
@@lifecarewellness-IL thanks for the answere and "journey of increasing awarness" sound like a great advice. I will keep on traveling :) Take care
Thanks very much for this. I found it quite good! It's hard to tell exactly what is going on for me but I noticed a difference so that is awsome! Thanks again
I'm glad it was helpful, @ClaireHurst-ce1ob! You may gradually notice more as you continue to practice.
Thanks so much!@@lifecarewellness-IL
Great information! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you a lot! It's very grounding and I felt more "alive"! 🙏
Wonderful!
You're so welcome, @hazansahnaoglu!
thank you so much for sharing super valuable
You're so welcome!
Amazing thank you 🙏🏻
I noticed how I am not allowing the pleasant experience to support me in the moment; I am so fast forward😂…too planned out, don’t like the hidden tension in my body and diaphragm, thank you…I am aware
I thought 5 techniques were supposed to be shown. I knew this technique before, it's the only one i got shown for a whole year, since i am in somatic experience therapy. Is that all there is?
Hi @erobird3403. I'm sorry to have caused frustration. The video is the first in a series, so the 5 techniques got sprinkled through several videos. If you go to the video section of our channel, the videos right around this one has additional techniques.
Do you take client on line?if you do, how can I make appointment please
My caseload is full @massiematinfar9662, but the SE practitioners in my practice can work online with clients who are located in Illinois. For SE providers beyond Illinois, check out the SEI practitioner directory: directory.traumahealing.org/
Thank you
You're welcome!
Thank you!!
You're welcome!
It should yfive exercises or I read it wrong?.....
yes, she mentioned five, and no you didnt read it wrong+
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! The entire vide of the 5 exercises was broken up over several videos. I apologize for the confusion @kristinaasimova601 and @jonkip6903.
Yes me too x
what is perching?
I interpreted it as the difference between sitting on a chair versus sitting in a chair.
Hi @cinmac3, sorry for the delay in responding! Yes, @cygnus94 has it right. Perching is basically sitting lightly on something - even somewhat tentatively - rather than allowing your full body weight to be supported. Perching takes more effort as we hold ourselves up muscularly.
was amazing thank u
Glad you enjoyed it!
Wow! Tha k You!
My pleasure!
What happens if when I look at the thing in the room I find most pleasant and it makes me feel longing and sadness instead of nice feelings?
In SE we would say there is a likely "coupling dynamic" that is happening - the pleasant thing is "coupled" to sadness and longing. For now I'd suggest either noticing only one pleasant sensory response to the thing or choosing something that is only coupled with pleasantness. I hope that helps, @lailahreich3205!
I couldnt find a Plesant thing to look at - i Got brougt back to My childhood Home and i feel very uncomfortable now
I'm sorry that happened, @milleabel. Might I suggest trying noticing one sensory aspect of something that is pleasant to you: the smell of fresh baked bread, the sound of your favorite piece of music, the tactile feel of water moving on your skin when you're swimming, the taste of a piece of fine dark chocolate, etc. Savor the memory of the experience for just a few seconds. Don't allow yourself to go into the full memory - just stay with the chosen sensory aspect. Do this exercise over time - building the time by a bit each time. Notice what happens in your body as you savor the sensory experience. I hope this helps!
Thank yo
You're welcome!
When you can't sit in a chair without pain, or being aware of pain. When you can't breathe properly because your breath stops. When you can't just sit in audience either, because you have needs no one understands in how to deal with it. When you have major dramas to deal with and no one will listen to you or interact with you and you sit alone and you need help. People go, just do this.....and they don't realise that you are disabled and cut off from doing that, and everything needs modification. When the silence cries and you are aware of everyone and everything not just yourself. Somewhere along the line the physicality has to be addressed. For me, when you can't access medical treatment, because the doctors believe you are imagining it, or you have something that is just beyond them and you learn how to heal yourself. When it all hurts and therre is no help and support. When there is just no one that will go out of their way to listen. Just sit on your chair....I have a disabled bottom, makes sitting difficult. There is discomfort, there is distress and there is upset, not just mine...there is no comfort. When its everywhere and in everything. How to deal with it, manage and cope....you learn because you have no choice. The chair support hurts, laying in bed hurts, walking hurts, it all hurts and then it stops because it goes numb and then the cry of grief comes it comes and there are no more tears left, just silent crying of the whole. Just notice....somewhere along the line action needs to be taken. Serenity comes and brought back into acceptance But somewhere along the line there needs to be physical treatment.
Thank you for sharing. I highly recommend reaching out to a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner who has completed the Advanced year off the SE training and is skilled with working with syndromal nervous systems. Here's the link to the SE Practitioner Directory: directory.traumahealing.org/ My best to you.
I felt heavy and then some panic
This is information from your nervous system. Finding an SE practitioner could be helpful with shifting some of those patterns. Here's the directory: directory.traumahealing.org/
I’m frightened of what’s in front of me but know I have to face it. I hate being a “Pollyanna”
Perhaps titration can help @greyline1012. What's the smallest piece of what's in front of you that you'd be open to holding in your hand at one time? Maybe a drop of what's in front of you? As you hold it (imaginally) in your hand, notice what it's like - what it looks like, what it feels like, what emotion comes up as you hold it, what impulse your body has as you hold it. Again - not the entirety of what's in front of you - just this one drop of it. As you take time with it - and follow what your body wants - then come back for another small amount (maybe 2 drops this time) and do the same process. You'll notice your capacity to be with the feared thing will grow - usually quite quickly.
❤
Thank you!
I’m a perch girl yall
Welcome to the club, @angelawatts4390!
Ha ha. Me too, and I didn’t even know it until now!
I absolutely loved this exercise, and it came to me at just the right time. Thank you.🐢
Nothing was pleasant in the environment
In a situation like that, something you can do is think of a sensory slice of a pleasant memory (e.g. the feel of the water on your skin when you're swimming, the aroma of warm chocolate chip cookies, the feel of the dirt when you're gardening, etc.). Not the entire memory - just one pleasant sensory slice. I hope that helps @alejandraduque4061!
Is this hypnosis?
I'm not quite sure what exactly in the video you are referring to, @bjacob9998, but Somatic Experiencing is definitely not hypnosis.