My insecurities are so toxic that I believe that when someone says something like “everyone is beautiful” “you are beautiful” it’s complete and utter bullshit and they’re lying to make me feel better.
The girl with braces, who couldn't even look at the person she spoke too. I feel that man. I coild never EVER tell the things i tell myself to someone else. Noone deserves that
@Hamster Pile to be fair, i dont really know why im so mean to myself, it feels like i've always been like this ever since i can remember. But i am trying to change and if you struggle with the same things i wish you all the best🤗
Leilani Rubio awww thank you. I wish I could send you my info or something. I don't even know if we can email through TH-cam lol. Always remember to take time for yourself. Make yourself happy. I struggle a lot with it and depression. It's always hard but I just try to keep going. ❤
+Abby MM I know! But the critisizm I'm giving myself is the truth. Why don't I look at least average? Why am I the ONLY person in my whole *year* to have such bad skin and hair? What am I doing wrong? Why do I have bad genetics, but no one else does? Why _me_ ?
+Jimena Rivero Right now I have frizz at the top of my head and I don't know how to get rid of it. I'm already using moisturising/ repairing shampoos, deep conditioners and repairing conditioners on my roots. I made a leave-in conditioner for overnight and it didn't work -.- Whenever my mum does it though, it's perfect! It's all smooth and soft after using the leave-in conditioner on my hair. I want to ask her what the hell she does to it, but she won't understand. I need help!!!
+Jimena Rivero I'd love to talk to you but I don't have Instagram 😅 Thank you for your kind words though! They really do mean a lot me! Remember to love yourself too! 💕
I started crying when the darkskin girl started talking because I used to feel the same way about myself. Society teaches us to hate ourselves at such a young age and that European features are the epitome of beauty. There’s a divide within the black community between darkskins, lightskins and brownskins. Lightskins are praised the most because they are the closest thing to the Eurocentric standard of beauty. I think it’s fucking stupid and sad because at the end of the day we’re all black and we need to stick together. I’m thankful that I was able to see through that. And I’m so sorry that she can’t.
Alexia Hackshaw Same I used to say all those things she said to myself. So heartbreaking to think that I actually used to think like that about myself. And even more heartbreaking to think there are other dark girls still thinking that way.
Oh man, I feel terrible bc the things she said about herself, I say to myself all the time. It really hurts me to think how many dark skinned women look in a mirror and see someone not worth loving ughhhh I’m crying
Maybe im being a positive penny since im super pale, but darker skinned people are so beautiful. I wish i could show you guys what I see. The beauty industry loves to brag about being diverse, but even the dark skinned models are photoshopped to have subtle European features. Its messed up. There is so much beauty that spans across many features that vary race to race.
i wish nobody saw skin tone. i wish everyone saw just a human. it’s like looking at one dog breed verses another. both are dogs and both are cute. they will get equal amount of praise since they are both dogs. the second someone (not everyone) sees a poc person and a light skinned person they see a divide like they are too different species. they aren’t treated the same like the 2 dogs are. we are one human race not separate. everyone is beautiful and we are all different but we are all the same human race also i hope my analogy made sense it’s really hard to explain in writing.
made me cry, i had been struggling with accepting myself for 5 years that now i am comfortable with myself but sometimes those bad thoughts come back to me
tick tock I know what you have been going through, I know how painful it is. I am so glad you are accepting yourself. This made me cry too. With love, Vicky xx
I do too, every time I try to feel happy the bad thoughts flood back in. Everyone even my family sees me happy but really I am at war with myself, fighting to put on a smile so I don’t disappoint anyone...
Moral of the story: Always be kind to one another.... You never know what battles people are fighting in their own heads. No matter how we come off as a person.... At the end of the day.... When we lay in our beds alone in the dark..... We think about the things we do.... We force ourselves to think were not good enough.... & how we can be better... Some people use that as Motivation... Others use it as an excuse to feel sorry for themselves & give up. We are our Own Best & Worst critics. Interesting little video. Love you all.
Thank you guys for doing this. This is a topic that deserves a lot more attention and I’m honoured that I could’ve been a part of this video. The filming inspired us to open up about some of the issues we’ve faced when battling body dysmorphia in our most recent video! Thanks again for this - Alex
Ginger Kubicz me too if you need anyone to talk to it to about I’m here! I do that too myself and I know it know it hurts. I just don’t want to see someone else going through the things I have to go throw
Too much kids these days influenced by social media..constant images of airbrushed models. Not fair on youngsters. We are all unique and have our own DNA so fk anyone who says u aint this or that. One day u will find strength to realise u are you and you are great too. Xxx F+A+B=U xxxxx 😚😚😚
I have really low self-esteem and can't stand pictures or mirrors ever, I don't take the best care of myself cuz I never feel well enough to. All of these people look like they take really good care of themselves. What they had to say about themselves; couple of things surprised me. You will only ever have one of you, and it is all you're guaranteed to have. Love yourself.
Lizzzard Breath I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful. Don't doubt urself too much. I believeee in uuuu, I know one day u will become this badass confident version of urself, ur just having to take the hard way but that's okayyy cuz ur a fighterrrr ❤️
when Ade starting talking, I honestly felt every single word that she said especially the “no one will love you” part. As another darkskin individual it’s tough going on with your day when you put yourself down because of society’s perspective.
Omg I just cried. We can be hard on ourselves but when other people are hard on us it hurts a different way. We need to be kinder to everyone including ourselves. We all have our own preferences on whats attractive or pretty to us but theres no need to say anyone is ugly or fat because you dont find it attractive. We're all made different for a reason
Cory's face around the 2:00 mark broke my heart....everyone in that video is beautiful inside and out, the guys are so handsome (I love that body type) so its interesting to see them hate it...wow
This is too relatable. I’m kind of like the other dark skin girl. I feel I’m too dark and not “good enough” for pictures. I’m really insecure so to speak
I've been emotional about my own appearance for the last few hours now and I'm trying to get myself to see that hating on myself is not gonna help me in any way. The moment that gorgeous little girl said 'why are you so dark' I started crying so hard. Realising it's really the things other love about you that you might hate about yourself. Things you can't change that you might want to, but other people wish they had. Seeing all these beautiful people on my screen, thinking: what would they ever know about not liking yourself. Only to realise I am not the only one saying things like that and that even the people I desire to be like, wish to be someone they're not. STOP THE SELF HATRED! I'm still crying while writing this, still trying to convince myself that I am good enough to show my face to the person I like, thinking that: what if they do like me? That would be great. Thinking that: what if they don't? Will I be okay after? We don't deserve all this self hatred. Neither do we deserve it from anybody else! I want you to know: you are awesome, you are loved, love yourself and others will too! You deserve better than your own darkest thoughts. You are so much greater than those hurtful things you're trying to convince yourself of❤️
This really hit home & made me cry. Most of the things the girls said I say to myself and worse on a daily basis. It went from only happening when I looked in the mirror to simply sitting at my desk at work or waiting for the bus...I wouldn't be so cruel to anyone else😞💔 - really touching video
i literally started bawling when the younger girls were talking. God this just shows how hard we're on ourselves. All these people are so beautiful in their own ways. Everyone is beautiful.
It's called positive affirmation, if more men showed each other support and affection. We would have better men, husbands and fathers and we all know we could use more of that.🌻
I just started crying thinking about my children growing up and thinking these things about themselves.. everyone goes through it. I don't want them to know that pain..
Wow, just goes to show that everyone has their insecurities but you seem to judge yourselves overly harshly. So, here's what this random stranger sees : Jess, you have the cutest smile that lights up your whole face , especially your eyes. You have lovely thick, naturally wavy hair. Kudos for putting up with braces to correct dental issues. Ade, there is no such thing as 'too dark'. You have beautifully shaped, large, expressive eyes.Again, a lovely smile. I would love to see your hair down in all it's natural glory. Abs and Camilla, you are blessed with those classically feminine high cheekbones that sculpt your faces. You both have lovely eyes, great smiles and luxurious hair. I see nothing remotely 'masculine' in your appearances so was quite shocked to hear you describe yourselves in that way. Alex and Cory - two handsome young men with winning smiles. Muscular and strong and perfect for sweeping me off my feet ( I can dream lol ! )
This made me sob uncontrollably but I just want to hug that young black girl so badly my heart just cries out for her I wish she saw what I saw what so many other people saw.
2:47 this made me cry. I am 15 and I am an Indian. So I am a dark Indian and since childhood I have never ever felt pretty. During childhood I was criticised by society for being dark and now I am criticising myself for being dark.
This video is so important. I’ve always been extremely judgmental about myself. No matter what size, age, gender, race, or anything you are beautiful. ❤️
We are all self-critical and need to be as kind to ourselves as we are to strangers whom we envy for whatever reason. And each time I watch this sort of video, the people who call themselves ugly are always beautiful to me! Serious food for thought.
Damn I started crying especially with the last girl at the end when she said she was too dark and she was talking about her hair I couldn’t hold it together because in some way that’s how I feel about myself and it broke my heart everything she said are things I’ve said to myself
Me trying to criticize others: uhhhhhh...........y-you have..n-nice eyes? Me criticizing myself: you’re absolutely obese, you look like a shark and a whale mixed.....3hours later
All of these people: so beautiful! All of these people: terribly hard on themselves! Makes me want to call all the people I know and tell them how wonderful they are.
Every time i see about a self acceptance or body image thing i can not control myself and start crying. I just have no respect to my self and i literally hate my body. I was a cheerful kid, god what happened to that kid?
A bit of a rant but I’m thinking this is more for me. The moment from 2:28 to 2:37 is something I think about a lot. I feel big - because of course, everyone does to some degree no matter their size - but the way Camilla said that “you look like a man” is how I’ve felt for a long time. If I’m being honest I’m cute enough on the average scale. My eyes, my nose, my smile is feminine looking. But I have these cheeks and this jaw that have always made me feel masculine, not at all like my petite or attractive friends. I don’t look good in photos at all, and I wished for a long time to be beautiful and slim and most importantly to have sharp, adorable features on my face. Not chubby cheeks or be tough looking: just pretty. I’ve just wanted to feel pretty for a long, long time.
This made me cry. EVERY SINGLE person in this video is soooooo amazingly gorgeous, and beautiful. I tend to look at myself and say that I'm not pretty enough or I'm to ugly for someone to love me. But then I remember that if I think that way, I'm being a horrible rolemodle for my 3 younger siblings. Being depressed and hating yourself, is such a horrible thing to do to yourself. It breaks my heart to know that there are so many amazing beautiful people out there, that hate themselves. You need to know that it's fine to cry, and not to bottle up your emotions. ♡♡ chose to be strong. And when you trust in God to help you pull through. Your life will make a difference. But you can't make a difference if you don't know how to love yourself as you love others. The only person who can make you believe that you are Beautiful is YOU♡
Tears 😭 just, rolling down my face, throughout this video. I don’t know how any of them held it together so well, when they heard what the other thought to themselves. I think that’s very strong and brave to do. Especially, to make a video of all of them, in that vulnerable space that, they were embracing.
This Video made me cry so much so my friend thought I was physically in pain. Made me realise how hurtful it is when you say these horrible things about yourself at loud. It causes damage on the inside.
I started crying when the girl said “why dont you have lighter skin” I mean I am not the one to teach you things because I cant even help myself with my own insucurities but dark skin is beatiful girl🥺
When I was at school, people mock at me because I was so small, short, and dark. And one thing I couldn't even forgot even until now that one person told me why am I even alive. As I grow up, I take care of myself a lot, but even when people told that I look beautiful now, I still have that insecurities and don't believe at what they said and still seeing myself as small and ugly girl.
Geez, I started getting choked up and teary... The things that people think about themselves. I saw interesting, unique people who at first glance I would have thought didn't have a care in the world, yet they are at war inside themselves. Just goes to show we don't know what's going on inside...and need to take time to be kinder to each other. And be proud of ourselves and who we are. We all have a place in this world, and we are no better or less than anyone else.
the young black girl...OH my god I’m crying for her. the hatred that media has made her feel for her own skin??? her self??? something she can’t change, that’s gorgeous as is???? i just wanted to hug her the whole time
I always say to myself those kind of things, I see myself as ugly one, when i'm with my friends, i considered myself the ugliest among them that i cant even compare. when my friends or somebody i know gives me a compliment, i would rejected what they say about me and thinks that theyre trying to make me feel better. Its really sad but this is the real me.
This year, I had a realization about people going thru midlife crisis, body image & insecurity… now i realize how everyone feels.. but i pray & hope in all my years of existing, i never made someone feel inferior nor made them feel bad about themselves
am listening in awe...I don't know what to say. Am Caribbean born n raised around ppl that look like me. Healthy self image, always hears "blk is beautiful" now it's cliché to hear. I know there are colorism in all cultures, whether skin or hair, yes hair. Whites tends to chose blondes over brunettes. Darkskin in India, other parts of Asia, is seen as unattractive or linked to negative stereotypes. But, I grew up with strong sense of self and body image. Am gud on my end, but I do feel for these ppl on here. At my job, there's this African man who struggles with his skin color. He talks about it daily, and I mean daily. I think he sees it as a deterent, instead of wearing it like a badge of honor. I love all of me,of course there are parts that culd do with some fine tuning, but I just Dance in the mirror blow myself a kiss, a wink, and say hey beautiful. I don't have time to worry too much, I have other things to worry about, and my self image isn't one of them.
People always say that people are insecure because of how we compare ourselves to others, but that’s not the case with everyone. I have insecurities because I have a picture in my mind of who I want to be, what I want to look like. But I’ll never be that girl. And that makes me really sad.
+Charlotte The people giving insults to the other person are, lets call them, "hof". Now, Hof were told to tell to these people their criticism. For example, lets say you call yourself ugly. Hof goes up to you and tells you that to your face. This shows how hard people are on themselves; I wouldn't have realised until soemone said it to me.
Honestly .... I cried... It's sad what we say to ourselves .. we have to do better because a lot of society around us is not going to try to help us. They will keep us divided because that's how they rule us but if we chose to stop living brain washed then so much will change
i hate my hair its not straight enough not curly enough just in the middle where it will look good for a split second and then the wind will blow in it a certain way and just get in my face or itch the back of my neck when i wear a hoodie and have to took it behind every product ether makes it too weighed down and oily or too frizzy and the day before i was about to get a hair cut i was walking down a street and this woman in a wheel chair said something to me just randomly and i couldnt hear so i stopped and said pardon she said "you have beautiful hair its so thick" i said have a nice day and that whole time i was walking home i couldnt stop smiling sometimes your biggest insecurities are what other people think make you beautiful and unique . but i still got a hair cut and chopped like 7 inches of but thats not the point haha
Imagine seeing a little child next to you. You know they have low self esteem, maybe get bullied in school, don't like themselves. They think they're fat. Ugly. Maybe even unworthy of love and life. Now, go to that child and tell them they're right. Tell them they are a bad person, they don't deserve anything, they are worthless and ugly and too fat or too skinny and a shame for anyone. Do it even if they start crying and continue until they break. You couldn't do that, right? It would be cruel and inhumane. No one ever should tell something like that to a child. Now I want you to realize, you do that to yourself everyday. You deserve love ❤️
This made me think about my own insecurities and mad me realise that i shouldn’t hide my emotions all the time and try to act like i dont care what other people say when deep down in side there is an effect😢
For a second I thought that they were roasting each other
Looooool yh
Plot twist: they were roasting shrek
Hhhhhh i did too
Chandlez thank u this made my day !!
I thought that the first time I saw this lol
My insecurities are so toxic that I believe that when someone says something like “everyone is beautiful” “you are beautiful” it’s complete and utter bullshit and they’re lying to make me feel better.
Khalilah Anderson same
Same
same
same tho
Same
The girl with braces, who couldn't even look at the person she spoke too.
I feel that man.
I coild never EVER tell the things i tell myself to someone else.
Noone deserves that
That made me tear up. She's so freaking beautiful.
@Hamster Pile to be fair, i dont really know why im so mean to myself, it feels like i've always been like this ever since i can remember.
But i am trying to change and if you struggle with the same things i wish you all the best🤗
😭😭😭giirrlll
@Lurisha Haase - Robinson same and like sometimes people look at me weird. They stare at my teeth and it makes me very uncomfortable and weird.
Ikrrr
I'm definitely the hardest on myself.
hey me too
Leilani Rubio you are beautiful ❤ us woman gotta be easier on ourselves.
Zephyrr Sky :) thank you for this. you are beautiful too. i needed this, i hope you have a good night !
Leilani Rubio awww thank you. I wish I could send you my info or something. I don't even know if we can email through TH-cam lol. Always remember to take time for yourself. Make yourself happy. I struggle a lot with it and depression. It's always hard but I just try to keep going. ❤
Zephyrr Sky you have snapchat or something ? or if anything i'll be here for me through here :) ❤️❤️i hope you have a blessed day
This puts in perspective how critical we are on yourselves 😰
+Abby MM
I know! But the critisizm I'm giving myself is the truth. Why don't I look at least average? Why am I the ONLY person in my whole *year* to have such bad skin and hair? What am I doing wrong? Why do I have bad genetics, but no one else does? Why _me_ ?
+Jimena Rivero
Right now I have frizz at the top of my head and I don't know how to get rid of it. I'm already using moisturising/ repairing shampoos, deep conditioners and repairing conditioners on my roots. I made a leave-in conditioner for overnight and it didn't work -.-
Whenever my mum does it though, it's perfect! It's all smooth and soft after using the leave-in conditioner on my hair. I want to ask her what the hell she does to it, but she won't understand. I need help!!!
+Jimena Rivero
I'd love to talk to you but I don't have Instagram 😅 Thank you for your kind words though! They really do mean a lot me! Remember to love yourself too! 💕
I started crying when the darkskin girl started talking because I used to feel the same way about myself. Society teaches us to hate ourselves at such a young age and that European features are the epitome of beauty. There’s a divide within the black community between darkskins, lightskins and brownskins. Lightskins are praised the most because they are the closest thing to the Eurocentric standard of beauty. I think it’s fucking stupid and sad because at the end of the day we’re all black and we need to stick together. I’m thankful that I was able to see through that. And I’m so sorry that she can’t.
Alexia Hackshaw Same I used to say all those things she said to myself. So heartbreaking to think that I actually used to think like that about myself. And even more heartbreaking to think there are other dark girls still thinking that way.
Sugarrr me too
Oh man, I feel terrible bc the things she said about herself, I say to myself all the time. It really hurts me to think how many dark skinned women look in a mirror and see someone not worth loving ughhhh I’m crying
Maybe im being a positive penny since im super pale, but darker skinned people are so beautiful. I wish i could show you guys what I see. The beauty industry loves to brag about being diverse, but even the dark skinned models are photoshopped to have subtle European features. Its messed up. There is so much beauty that spans across many features that vary race to race.
i wish nobody saw skin tone. i wish everyone saw just a human. it’s like looking at one dog breed verses another. both are dogs and both are cute. they will get equal amount of praise since they are both dogs. the second someone (not everyone) sees a poc person and a light skinned person they see a divide like they are too different species. they aren’t treated the same like the 2 dogs are. we are one human race not separate. everyone is beautiful and we are all different but we are all the same human race
also i hope my analogy made sense it’s really hard to explain in writing.
you know your insecure when you can barely look at yourself in the mirror ..😬
Aleeyah Lewis ...true. But on other hand...
am always in the mirror and taking too many selfies. :) :)
+melanated woman factss
Aleeyah Lewis but you're so beautiful 🤔
Or when you look in the mirror and fake smile at what you see because you can’t even show a real one
Aleeyah Lewis I haven’t looked at my face in the mirror in months
All of these people are beautiful
tenna31 aj awesome
They really are!!!
I was the 2.1k like!
the honest loser that’s mean
and that’s the least interesting thing about them
The dark skin girl I was really tearing up she is gorgeous
She is.🥺💕
made me cry, i had been struggling with accepting myself for 5 years that now i am comfortable with myself but sometimes those bad thoughts come back to me
tick tock
I know what you have been going through, I know how painful it is.
I am so glad you are accepting yourself.
This made me cry too.
With love, Vicky xx
tick tock why
I do too, every time I try to feel happy the bad thoughts flood back in. Everyone even my family sees me happy but really I am at war with myself, fighting to put on a smile so I don’t disappoint anyone...
tick tock same :(
This also made me cry 😭
It was fantastic to have men involved in this too. It honestly shocked me to see them criticise themselves the way us women do too.
I cried when i heard the younger girls
Moral of the story: Always be kind to one another.... You never know what battles people are fighting in their own heads. No matter how we come off as a person.... At the end of the day.... When we lay in our beds alone in the dark..... We think about the things we do.... We force ourselves to think were not good enough.... & how we can be better... Some people use that as Motivation... Others use it as an excuse to feel sorry for themselves & give up. We are our Own Best & Worst critics.
Interesting little video.
Love you all.
Hena Safi ❤️❤️❤️
💖💖
Thank you for this❣❣
Thank you guys for doing this. This is a topic that deserves a lot more attention and I’m honoured that I could’ve been a part of this video. The filming inspired us to open up about some of the issues we’ve faced when battling body dysmorphia in our most recent video! Thanks again for this - Alex
DONT DO THIS SHIT AGAIN!!!!! EWERYONE IS PERFECK JUST THE WAY THEY ARE!!!!!
Ēriks Hello No, that’s the point. It proves how stupid the criticism is.
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heyy you are handsome and I like your nose :O
How did I not know this video existed until now? Clearly I have to go back and rewatch every tfnl video.
Oh man, they only said like 3 things each. I'd have been ranting for about 4 hours if I had to express all the nasty shit I think about myself.
Yeah I rip myself a new hole everyday.
Ginger Kubicz me too if you need anyone to talk to it to about I’m here! I do that too myself and I know it know it hurts. I just don’t want to see someone else going through the things I have to go throw
Copperheid I would too. I usually cry to myself about it in the middle of the night.
Me too.
Me too
Am i the only one who started crying-bless them all❤️
Im crying too watching this. Wow ..deep breath..love it when they hug each other at the end. Shows that reaching out is helping.
Too much kids these days influenced by social media..constant images of airbrushed models. Not fair on youngsters. We are all unique and have our own DNA so fk anyone who says u aint this or that. One day u will find strength to realise u are you and you are great too. Xxx F+A+B=U xxxxx 😚😚😚
"That stomach... Absolutely disgusting." Omg. SAME.
My inner voice is so loud...
Jennifer Dilbeck Sometimes it so loud but I think to myself, Dan did I just say that out loud what did I say that in my head
💯💯
Ikr! Sometimes it doesn't give me a rest, I can hear it all day ...
Same
I once had someone tell me, “you’d look so good with makeup.” That still messes me up today and I’m always super insecure about not wearing makeup
Once a guy told me I look fuckin ugly.
Bruh my own friend told me that 😔
So sorry...
Mayar Ahmed I guy I was dating once told me I looked ugly without makeup on FaceTime in front of his friends
ah someone told me that once :(
I have really low self-esteem and can't stand pictures or mirrors ever, I don't take the best care of myself cuz I never feel well enough to. All of these people look like they take really good care of themselves. What they had to say about themselves; couple of things surprised me. You will only ever have one of you, and it is all you're guaranteed to have. Love yourself.
Lizzzard Breath I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful. Don't doubt urself too much. I believeee in uuuu, I know one day u will become this badass confident version of urself, ur just having to take the hard way but that's okayyy cuz ur a fighterrrr ❤️
The black dude is sooo handsome
Bon Qui Qui ...but he doesn't see that. That is hard to overcome, when the self image is lying on the ground.
Ikr
ikrrrrr I thought the same
@@kinglami6243 can you just shut up
I like the white dude lol 😂
00:36 WOW SHE'S SO BEAUTIFUL🍫😍
Yeah😍😍😍
Ahmed Hassan dumb comment
She is
I was thinking that the entire time she's gorgeous
Ahmed Hassan because she fuckin can
when Ade starting talking, I honestly felt every single word that she said especially the “no one will love you” part. As another darkskin individual it’s tough going on with your day when you put yourself down because of society’s perspective.
You Mad? needed to hear that ❤️
I was like why would say that to your self... then the realization hit hard.
The girl with the braces I immediately started crying when she started talking it broke my heart.
The little girl omg what she said broke my heart. I don't know how anyone can have the heart to judge others based on their color.
No she means you have a stone heart
Omg I just cried. We can be hard on ourselves but when other people are hard on us it hurts a different way. We need to be kinder to everyone including ourselves. We all have our own preferences on whats attractive or pretty to us but theres no need to say anyone is ugly or fat because you dont find it attractive. We're all made different for a reason
I really can feel their pain cause thats what i do to myself every single day, i never been nice to myself as i am to others
You Pretty
i cant walk in school , without thinking other people are judging me
Being good to yourself is the best thing we can do for ourselves.
Bless.
Cory's face around the 2:00 mark broke my heart....everyone in that video is beautiful inside and out, the guys are so handsome (I love that body type) so its interesting to see them hate it...wow
This is too relatable. I’m kind of like the other dark skin girl. I feel I’m too dark and not “good enough” for pictures. I’m really insecure so to speak
You Mad? ❤️ over the time since that comment I’ve learned to love my skin much more
You Mad? You’re so kind ❤️ thank you
1:50 they’re both so beautiful! camilla has such an interesting mix of features and abs has the most beautiful skin tone and her makeup is gorgeous!
I've been emotional about my own appearance for the last few hours now and I'm trying to get myself to see that hating on myself is not gonna help me in any way. The moment that gorgeous little girl said 'why are you so dark' I started crying so hard. Realising it's really the things other love about you that you might hate about yourself. Things you can't change that you might want to, but other people wish they had. Seeing all these beautiful people on my screen, thinking: what would they ever know about not liking yourself. Only to realise I am not the only one saying things like that and that even the people I desire to be like, wish to be someone they're not.
STOP THE SELF HATRED!
I'm still crying while writing this, still trying to convince myself that I am good enough to show my face to the person I like, thinking that: what if they do like me? That would be great. Thinking that: what if they don't? Will I be okay after? We don't deserve all this self hatred. Neither do we deserve it from anybody else! I want you to know: you are awesome, you are loved, love yourself and others will too! You deserve better than your own darkest thoughts. You are so much greater than those hurtful things you're trying to convince yourself of❤️
Nobody could look into each others eyes straight saying that.
This is so sad :( I know we all have insecurities but seeing them express it really hit me, I almost cried
Jade you are a beautiful Aussie sheila
This really hit home & made me cry. Most of the things the girls said I say to myself and worse on a daily basis. It went from only happening when I looked in the mirror to simply sitting at my desk at work or waiting for the bus...I wouldn't be so cruel to anyone else😞💔 - really touching video
i literally started bawling when the younger girls were talking.
God this just shows how hard we're on ourselves. All these people are so beautiful in their own ways. Everyone is beautiful.
Jess' smile is actually so beautiful, all of these people are beautiful. I hope they all know that
those two dudes just straight up started hitting on each other at the end.
It's called positive affirmation, if more men showed each other support and affection. We would have better men, husbands and fathers and we all know we could use more of that.🌻
I just started crying thinking about my children growing up and thinking these things about themselves.. everyone goes through it. I don't want them to know that pain..
i DID NOT realize that these would hit too close to home
I want to hug all of these people
Wow, just goes to show that everyone has their insecurities but you seem to judge yourselves overly harshly. So, here's what this random stranger sees :
Jess, you have the cutest smile that lights up your whole face , especially your eyes. You have lovely thick, naturally wavy hair. Kudos for putting up with braces to correct dental issues. Ade, there is no such thing as 'too dark'. You have beautifully shaped, large, expressive eyes.Again, a lovely smile. I would love to see your hair down in all it's natural glory. Abs and Camilla, you are blessed with those classically feminine high cheekbones that sculpt your faces. You both have lovely eyes, great smiles and luxurious hair. I see nothing remotely 'masculine' in your appearances so was quite shocked to hear you describe yourselves in that way. Alex and Cory - two handsome young men with winning smiles. Muscular and strong and perfect for sweeping me off my feet ( I can dream lol ! )
You are beautiful. You are good enough. You matter. Remember that. Always ❤️
This made me sob uncontrollably but I just want to hug that young black girl so badly my heart just cries out for her I wish she saw what I saw what so many other people saw.
Song of Solomon 4:7 You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.
2:47 this made me cry. I am 15 and I am an Indian. So I am a dark Indian and since childhood I have never ever felt pretty. During childhood I was criticised by society for being dark and now I am criticising myself for being dark.
This video is so important. I’ve always been extremely judgmental about myself. No matter what size, age, gender, race, or anything you are beautiful. ❤️
We are all self-critical and need to be as kind to ourselves as we are to strangers whom we envy for whatever reason. And each time I watch this sort of video, the people who call themselves ugly are always beautiful to me! Serious food for thought.
i loved the way they paired them up. The things they said made me tear up. So brave of them to participate in this video.
The young blonde girl isn’t horrible to look at. She smiles with so much kindness and joy it is very nice to look at
Damn I started crying especially with the last girl at the end when she said she was too dark and she was talking about her hair I couldn’t hold it together because in some way that’s how I feel about myself and it broke my heart everything she said are things I’ve said to myself
You beautiful person. I love you ❤️
If that's you in your profile pic you are drop dead gorgeous. Could be a model
Me trying to criticize others: uhhhhhh...........y-you have..n-nice eyes?
Me criticizing myself: you’re absolutely obese, you look like a shark and a whale mixed.....3hours later
It's odd how they are smiling out of embarrassment and nervousness.
All of these people: so beautiful!
All of these people: terribly hard on themselves!
Makes me want to call all the people I know and tell them how wonderful they are.
This was so insightful and moving... people really need to find inner beauty. Life is hard enough.
Just a second of appreachiating what the two guys said at the end to each other and also their hug was beautiful!
Every time i see about a self acceptance or body image thing i can not control myself and start crying. I just have no respect to my self and i literally hate my body. I was a cheerful kid, god what happened to that kid?
A bit of a rant but I’m thinking this is more for me.
The moment from 2:28 to 2:37
is something I think about a lot. I feel big - because of course, everyone does to some degree no matter their size - but the way Camilla said that “you look like a man” is how I’ve felt for a long time. If I’m being honest I’m cute enough on the average scale. My eyes, my nose, my smile is feminine looking. But I have these cheeks and this jaw that have always made me feel masculine, not at all like my petite or attractive friends. I don’t look good in photos at all, and I wished for a long time to be beautiful and slim and most importantly to have sharp, adorable features on my face. Not chubby cheeks or be tough looking: just pretty. I’ve just wanted to feel pretty for a long, long time.
The fact that you're different and there's no one in this world who looks like you makes you beautiful.
This made me cry.
EVERY SINGLE person in this video is soooooo amazingly gorgeous, and beautiful. I tend to look at myself and say that I'm not pretty enough or I'm to ugly for someone to love me. But then I remember that if I think that way, I'm being a horrible rolemodle for my 3 younger siblings.
Being depressed and hating yourself, is such a horrible thing to do to yourself. It breaks my heart to know that there are so many amazing beautiful people out there, that hate themselves.
You need to know that it's fine to cry, and not to bottle up your emotions. ♡♡ chose to be strong.
And when you trust in God to help you pull through.
Your life will make a difference. But you can't make a difference if you don't know how to love yourself as you love others. The only person who can make you believe that you are Beautiful is YOU♡
I thought this was a mad roast session I was surprised this didn’t end up in a mosh pit 😂
Tears 😭 just, rolling down my face, throughout this video. I don’t know how any of them held it together so well, when they heard what the other thought to themselves. I think that’s very strong and brave to do. Especially, to make a video of all of them, in that vulnerable space that, they were embracing.
I really loved that they included men in this video
This Video made me cry so much so my friend thought I was physically in pain. Made me realise how hurtful it is when you say these horrible things about yourself at loud. It causes damage on the inside.
The Coloured girl made me weep. I didn't expect her to say exactly what I think about myself on a daily.
Damn, that made me cry. They/we are too mean to ourselves. Thank you for this. It was amazingly revealing. I was so emotional, and tearing up.
I started crying when the girl said “why dont you have lighter skin” I mean I am not the one to teach you things because I cant even help myself with my own insucurities but dark skin is beatiful girl🥺
Oh my god if i knew someone who talks to themselves like this I would give them a hug
This is really hard to watch because I call myself ugly and disgusting almost every time I'm in front of a mirror.
joyce gichana to no
Me to
When I was at school, people mock at me because I was so small, short, and dark. And one thing I couldn't even forgot even until now that one person told me why am I even alive. As I grow up, I take care of myself a lot, but even when people told that I look beautiful now, I still have that insecurities and don't believe at what they said and still seeing myself as small and ugly girl.
They all look totally awesome. Especially, those men are extraordinary.
Geez, I started getting choked up and teary... The things that people think about themselves. I saw interesting, unique people who at first glance I would have thought didn't have a care in the world, yet they are at war inside themselves. Just goes to show we don't know what's going on inside...and need to take time to be kinder to each other. And be proud of ourselves and who we are. We all have a place in this world, and we are no better or less than anyone else.
This is one of the reasons why I don’t talk to people unless I know them
Well how can you know them if you don't talk to them? 🤔
This hits home. Holy shit. They’re all beautiful and handsome. It puts shit into perspective I’m like so moved
When the girl with the braces started talking I bursted in to tears
I felt it when the black girl said her face does not belong enfront of a camera and no one wants to see it, I feel that too.
Jade looks like the girl from black mirror in the black museum episode
Kanye West slightly
not at all loool maybe just the same haircut
Kanye West i loved that episode
Leticia Wright? Lol not at all
Kanye West shitttt yessssssss
the young black girl...OH my god I’m crying for her. the hatred that media has made her feel for her own skin??? her self??? something she can’t change, that’s gorgeous as is???? i just wanted to hug her the whole time
I always say to myself those kind of things, I see myself as ugly one, when i'm with my friends, i considered myself the ugliest among them that i cant even compare. when my friends or somebody i know gives me a compliment, i would rejected what they say about me and thinks that theyre trying to make me feel better.
Its really sad but this is the real me.
This year, I had a realization about people going thru midlife crisis, body image & insecurity… now i realize how everyone feels.. but i pray & hope in all my years of existing, i never made someone feel inferior nor made them feel bad about themselves
am listening in awe...I don't know what to say. Am Caribbean born n raised around ppl that look like me. Healthy self image, always hears "blk is beautiful" now it's cliché to hear.
I know there are colorism in all cultures, whether skin or hair, yes hair. Whites tends to chose blondes over brunettes.
Darkskin in India, other parts of Asia, is seen as unattractive or linked to negative stereotypes.
But, I grew up with strong sense of self and body image.
Am gud on my end, but I do feel for these ppl on here.
At my job, there's this African man who struggles with his skin color. He talks about it daily, and I mean daily.
I think he sees it as a deterent, instead of wearing it like a badge of honor.
I love all of me,of course there are parts that culd do with some fine tuning, but I just Dance in the mirror blow myself a kiss, a wink, and say hey beautiful.
I don't have time to worry too much, I have other things to worry about, and my self image isn't one of them.
People always say that people are insecure because of how we compare ourselves to others, but that’s not the case with everyone. I have insecurities because I have a picture in my mind of who I want to be, what I want to look like. But I’ll never be that girl. And that makes me really sad.
If I was supposed to say the critisism I say to my self to some stranger we would be here all day
I spend hours a day in front of the mirror trying to fix what's wrong or what I hate about my body.
I'm a little confused
+Charlotte
The people giving insults to the other person are, lets call them, "hof". Now, Hof were told to tell to these people their criticism. For example, lets say you call yourself ugly. Hof goes up to you and tells you that to your face. This shows how hard people are on themselves; I wouldn't have realised until soemone said it to me.
You all broke my heart!!! Remember beauty is in the eye of the BEHOLDER!!! In eyes all I see absolutely strong and beautiful human beings!!!!!!!!!!
I criticize myself alot and now i feel like i should just stop.
This is one of the most harrowing, and insightful things I have ever seen. Thank you BBC Three for doing this to raise awareness.
"Your're good from the neck down. But the part everyone sees everyday is where you're the most disgusting." I say that to myself a lot
These people are definitely people who know people's pain. It's okay if you have human kindness. I accept you. I hope the pain will ease soon.
Honestly .... I cried... It's sad what we say to ourselves .. we have to do better because a lot of society around us is not going to try to help us. They will keep us divided because that's how they rule us but if we chose to stop living brain washed then so much will change
The biggest bully is sometimes yourself... and we're always trying to fit into what society expects
i hate my hair its not straight enough not curly enough just in the middle where it will look good for a split second and then the wind will blow in it a certain way and just get in my face or itch the back of my neck when i wear a hoodie and have to took it behind every product ether makes it too weighed down and oily or too frizzy and the day before i was about to get a hair cut i was walking down a street and this woman in a wheel chair said something to me just randomly and i couldnt hear so i stopped and said pardon she said "you have beautiful hair its so thick" i said have a nice day and that whole time i was walking home i couldnt stop smiling sometimes your biggest insecurities are what other people think make you beautiful and unique . but i still got a hair cut and chopped like 7 inches of but thats not the point haha
Imagine seeing a little child next to you.
You know they have low self esteem, maybe get bullied in school, don't like themselves. They think they're fat. Ugly. Maybe even unworthy of love and life.
Now, go to that child and tell them they're right. Tell them they are a bad person, they don't deserve anything, they are worthless and ugly and too fat or too skinny and a shame for anyone. Do it even if they start crying and continue until they break.
You couldn't do that, right?
It would be cruel and inhumane.
No one ever should tell something like that to a child.
Now I want you to realize, you do that to yourself everyday.
You deserve love ❤️
This made me think about my own insecurities and mad me realise that i shouldn’t hide my emotions all the time and try to act like i dont care what other people say when deep down in side there is an effect😢
This brings me to tears.Most of the words they said,are words that I say to myself....
She said “you’re so manly “, I almost broke down bc im tall and I have some “man” shoulders ig u can say
how sad- all these beautiful beautiful humans cannot see how wonderful they all are inside and out.