Can't believe people believe a proper minimalism journey can be done in just a week! I'm still not done with mine and I'm sure so many others in the community would say the same. So inspiring for you to lay everything out like this, I know I'm gonna be taking home some of these tips!
I think it's exactly that they don't believe it can be done but they WISH it could be done. "discouraging" sounds like they haven't started and don't dare to, hearing it takes years.
Started my minimalist journey by accident. Was going to move to another town (didn't) but before the move didn't pan out I had rented a storage locker for things I wanted to keep, started packing kept coming across things hadn't used in years so started getting rid of them. That's been roughly 4 years ago and still finding things to get rid of.
@EarthatWork You mean like getting rid of overweight? I agree. It's your life so declutter where you think it helps and adjust to that. That's no competition or speed run. And it might even be a misconception that people try to reach the aesthetics ASAP instead of taking time to get an overview of the stuff you have.
I have extremely decluttered years ago. Each year I still go through and declutter. I keep onto things because I don't want to buy something again down the road.
The "haste makes waste" section is so true! I found myself decluttering aggressively with a "just get it done" mindset and ended up getting rid of things that I actively use and regularly miss! I'm now on a slow and gentle decluttering journey that is more right for me. So glad I found your channel!
I so agree about not trying to declutter too quickly. It is a process. It's good to feel all the feelings as you go through this process. If you don't, you'll likely just fill your house right back up. Great video- thanks!
I don’t think you’re boring. You’re very real and practical and give a lot of good applicable tips. I think that being grateful for the things that served you and you’re giving away brings blessings. Don’t know why people need to say mean things
I would actually think that it would be discouraging to see someone declutter their entire house in a week. That’s a very high expectation to set for the average person. I love how you emphasize that everyone’s journey is different and to not let the judgment of others influence that journey ❤️
I actually find it more encouraging to know I do not have to rush into decluttering. The more I thought I had to do it all at once, the more I procrastinated. Now I am inspired to get it going. Thank you for that! (door emoji)
Lots of people judging the declutter process (of others) often forget that declutter is not just "get rid of stuff". It's much much deeper, it's reviewing personal values, priorities, memories... Getting rid of stuff is just scratching the surface. You are a gem to share you story with us. Love from Italy 🤩🇮🇹
Good job! Very inspiring. And five years can go by pretty quickly to change any behavior. For instance, smoking, drinking, gossiping, drug use, impulsive buying, negative self talk, laziness, fears. Things take time. Why would anyone judge you for taking 5 years to overcome your struggle? You’re amazing! ❤️
Its also harder to find the time and energy to sort through things when raising children. Especially young children, but really every age seems to have its struggles. Even just normal, everyday things like leaving the home to go anywhere can become an ordeal (some days) with kids. Also, as she says, you can't force minimalism on others. This includes the ones we're raising. We can plant seeds, but we must respect their choices or we can create future hoarders. I realized this when watching an episode of Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners where a cleaner was paired up with a hoarder to help them get their place in order (the general premise of the show, tbh) and the woman explained she starting hoarding after she moved out on her own for the first time. She'd been raised by a minimalist mother who thought nothing of purging her daughters toys, so she (the daughter-turned-hoarder) never felt like anything was really hers. She didn't want to get rid of anything, and it escalated from there and then she felt overwhelmed with this problem. What really drove home her message was I'd recently went on a purge of the place and thought my then-2 year old wouldn't miss these toys that hadn't been played with in months. I was wrong. Soon after donating these things, my then-toddler asked where specifc toys were and taught me two year olds remember more than we may think. I sometimes feel like I'm drowning in "crap" (the joys of small apartments with no closets or storage) but don't want to create a future hoarder. If its not okay with them to get rid of something, I respect that. Maybe in the future I'll find a place I can afford with closets and storage space; it would make a HUGE difference having a proper place for coats, shoes, and extra bedding.
🚪 My starting point was when I had to clean out the houses of three different grandmothers (two of my own, and one of my husbands) within the same 12 months. The sheer amount of STUFF...... seeing (and feeling) the stress it caused the loved ones left behind. I did NOT want to cause that kind of unnecessary stress on anyone I love. And now I see how much better it makes ME feel as well. Win/win/win/win/win. :-) :-)
I agree, I did not want my kids to have to do this for me. I realized how much stuff my mom put away for “just in case” or “someday I may need this” and never used most of it.
My mom died and wanted everyone to get a certain special (to her) something for all her children. The trouble is no one wanted what she thought was special. We gave EVERYTHING to goodwill. Desks , dressers, three refrigerators, 3 sewing machines. It was harrowing. Tbh
Only 5 years? Well done! 10 years and counting. Each of our journeys is different. No judgement just applause and encouragement for everyone who is applying effort to better their life. 😘
The journey to becoming a true minimalist is a change in mindset, and that never happens in one week. You can remove visual clutter in one week, but from what I see from most homeowners, the clutter will return. Kudos to you for taking the time to set new habits, profit from the sale of certain items, and for making really tough decisions to let go of certain items. You are a true inspiration for all of us on this journey.
I would also like to add that the journey can be a lifelong journey with no finish line. Its a change in mindset in the kind of lifestyle you value. Eating healthy for me isn't a fad or temporary thing, it's something I plan on doing the rest of my life to maintain a higher quality of life, a lifestyle. I look at minimalism the same way. Throughout my life interests will change, things that bring joy will change but my goal to only keep what serves me or brings me joy will help maintain the quality of life I value, which to me is what minimalism is. Its never been a one size fits all concept. Anyone who has any negative opinions or judgements on the harmless way someone chooses to live their life, a life that doesn't hurt them in any way shape or form could greatly benefit from a higher threshold of offense and a new hobby.
I think you actually show the journey to get to some level of minimalism more realisticly than many other channels. Accordingly this realism actually encourages me. Greetings!
Decluttering is so much more than getting rid of stuff. It is about processing a lot of unresolved emotions: loss, scarcity, fear, control, false sense of security, identity, more loss, etc. It is incredibly hard. Thats why we have to go at our pace.
Also decluttering is constant. We’ve gotten rid of a lot, but still have more. Felt so good to drop off paint cans etc on our city’s toxic waste drop off day. They we’re sitting in the basement for a long time
🚪 Yay! I figured out how to add a door emoji! I've been trying to declutter after reading the Swedish Death Cleaning Book. I don't want my kids to to experience going through a lifetime of paperwork, crafts, etc. like I experienced when my Mom passed away. It's been VERY slow going, but I am really motivated now. The other day I bought a garden cart to get the pile of paver bricks from the front yard. It was new, they were heavy and I needed to inflate the tires. I could NOT find our electric powered, for use-in-the-home air pump. I spent all morning looking for it; I looked in with the tools shoved in the Master Bedroom closet, in the hall storage closet, in the backyard shed, in the laundry room cupboards with the auto cleaning items, in the stacked to the roof garage, even corners in the house. Two days later, I still haven't found it yet; BUT later that fateful morning turned afternoon, I did find TWO plug-into-the-car for power air pumps that in an emergency inflate tires. One had a short power cord and air hose, the other had both a long power and a longer air hose. I used it. I was horrified that I couldn't remember where we stashed the original air pump, AND that we actually had a mysterious-where-did-it-come-from EXTRA car air pump! I am now spending at least 15 minutes daily in getting rid of "stuff:" in the garage. This WILL take time, but I'm in it for the long haul. Thanks for motivating advice and sensible baby steps to do.
I agree....if you don't sort the feelings out that are attached to the items/ or why we keep so many items (hoarding) it's so easy to repeat and RE-clutter.
It’s extremely difficult to change a lifetime of habits in a few days. Decluttering (for many) needs to be a process that takes time but leads to a real lifestyle change. Doing things too quickly can cause a sense of panic until you have time to really see you don’t need all of the stuff to thrive.
Whoever said it should take just a week, I'd love to see them come out and discuss how they did it, cause I'm 2 years into my decluttering journey, and personally, doing it in 1 week, all in one go, doesn't sound reasonable, as much as I'd love to get it over it., But, if someone has actually accomplished that, good for them, let's hear about it!
I did it in a week but I had just gotten married and had only one child and didn't have much sentimental things other than pictures. I loved how it felt! But now as a family of 6 .woah one week seems extreme
It truly takes time. I wish it could be done faster but it’s a process. I’ve already donated a lot of my stuff and I find myself being stuck with things I want to sell. It is so time consuming and now I have boxes sitting there taking up space. It’s a struggle but it also encourages me not to want to ever buy or accumulate unnecessary items.
I got stuck on things I wanted to sell for a long time. Truthfully, I still do! If you are frustrated because you want to sell something but can't seem to find a buyer, consider donating it specifically to a person or organization who needs it. It's a way of reclaiming the value without having to worry about the dollars involved. Good luck!
I have piles of donation stuff but I also have to work through the emotional issues I have tied up in a few things. Zi am making progress but I am naturally a hoarder of certain things - always a just in case mindset I have worked hard to move forward from! I love your sharing here - it does help! And I have realized how far I have come! 🚪
I have had success selling stuff on Facebook Marketplace and local Facebook garage sale sites. I give a boundary of 2 weeks, if it doesn't sell. I lower the price. If it doesn't sell for at least $5 I donate it. You have already spent the money. You are no worse off if you donate it. Feels so great to live with less!
🚪I am on year 3 of my minimalism journey, and after living in my home for over 25 years, and raising 3 kids, I am happy with the progress of my journey😊
You are my favorite “Minimalist” TH-camr! I just relate to you and your journey and appreciate your approach. I began the 🚪 journey about 8 months ago and have made a small dent. Some days I’m pleased with the progress and other days discouraged but have confidence I will eventually get there. What I don’t understand is why people would waste their time watching and commenting on what they don’t like about YOUR journey . I only have time to watch or listen to things that are helpful or edifying! Keep it up because I need your ideas and encouragement as I keep pressing on.
🚪yes, I live in the Netherlands and am a minimalist since 2012. I experience minimalism as a journey and an ongoing proces. I love the respect and individual approach here. And how we treat our stuff and minimalistic differences. Thank you for sharing your life here on youtube.😘✨
Yes exactly I started with controlling purchases before decluttering anything, because otherwise it would be an endless wasteful cycle. I am at the stage where that has become my new normal and I am ready to do the first decluttering steps. Though I see many rounds ahead
Congratulations! I find the 5 year timeline encouraging. I'm still decluttering and yes, it's 30 years of stuff. It's hard to tell what you're going to need and not have to repurchase.
🚪As you said (to paraphrase): Don’t put yourself in a lifestyle box that is created by others. That includes naysayers. Although your home is a little too minimal for my taste, I admire you for reaching your long-term goal. I love that you said that it took you five years to accomplish your goal because I can’t go as fast as some other TH-camrs recommend. (I am disabled and use a cane.) Very inspiring! Thank you so much!
Omg. I love you so much for your transparency and vulnerability. I am always working to declutter my home, as clutter and excess brings me high anxiety. Also, I lost my parents when I was in my early 30’s, 4 months apart. This journey is nothing to be rushed, just like you can’t rush grief. Thank you for doing this video. ❤️❤️❤️
🚪Wow, this was eye opening. We lost our home in 2019 due to a tornado. We have 4 Connex containers full of 30 years of collections. My daughter wants me to just give away things without taking my time to look into the boxes. I'm 21/2 years into my letting go. I felt something was wrong with me in taking so long. I am making progress. I've notified family members that brought all their stuff to me to keep for them. They have had ample time to get their stuff. I begin donating useful furniture to a habitate for humanity group in April. My husband and I have already donated lots of usable clothing to various shelters. Each decision can be a struggle. "This belonged to mom/dad or grandma/grandpa". I started taking pictures for a family memorial book. I'm so tired of being the family archivist. The keeper of all things. I so enjoyed your words. Thank you.🚪
How dare anyone tell another how long it takes to do anything! Decluttering and the ongoing process to become a minimalist 🚪takes time. I've been working toward minimalism for over a year...and still have a long way to go. Changing the way you've been taught to think about your possessions is an ongoing process. Thank you for sharing your insight and your inspiration.
Thank you all for sharing!!! I am struggling to declutter, not sure a "Jones"(my real last name) can be a minimalist LOL. My lack of room is due to a few weeks housing family members running into about 5 yrs and counting. I am done making sacrifices, I am 69 and I intend to actually USE & ENJOY my vast collection of crafting items. Time may be short; my fantasy self still thinks I should keep most until I determin It isn't serving me to keep it.
Thank you all for sharing!!! I am struggling to declutter, not sure a "Jones"(my real last name) can be a minimalist LOL. My lack of room is due to a few weeks housing family members running into about 5 yrs and counting. I am done making sacrifices, I am 69 and I intend to actually USE & ENJOY my vast collection of crafting items. Time may be short; my fantasy self still thinks I should keep most until I determin It isn't serving me to keep it.
I really appreciate you acknowledging that minimalism is not an end all to happiness. I've stopped watching certain minimalists because they make me feel discontent and that all my problems are because I'm not minimalist enough. Of course, I know intellectually that it's not true, but it still affects me.
It's been over 10 years and I'm still decluttering. Truthfully, you will find a point where you have things you can let go of, but it doesn't weigh on you. You can push past that if you want to, or you can identify that point as the state where you're happy. It doesn't make you "less" of a minimalist, human, valuable person, or anything else. Everyone has a comfort point. Keep working toward yours and don't be discouraged. Learning to identify gems (what is valuable) is a learning process and takes time. You are getting there.
1 year for me too! I still feel like I have more stuff than the average person, but to me I can see the progress (just about haha) and have a bit more space to breathe in the day🚪 Let’s keep going! 😁
I think it's great you answered this comment in your video. Decluttering is a life thing, anda life changing thing as well. In German we say: Was lange währt, wird endlich gut.
It's a classic example of the Pareto-Effect! You can easily get rid of 80% in a short amount of time. But the last 20% of clutter will take a long time and multiple tries. Also, like you said, with kids (when they are growing up) there always will be a constant flow of things coming into your life and out of your life. We are still getting rid of stuff even after 4 years of getting into minimalism. It's a journey and everyone will have their own pace.
To go too fast will cause mistakes and regret! Going slower allows for grace and practicality for letting go of those sentimental and emotional items. The time it takes to declutter is dependent on how much you have to get rid of. Your story gives support to many who struggle with beginning, continuing and then finishing. Keep up the good work.
My minimalism journey started in 2017 and after 4 years I have finally gotten "there". I have nothing on my walls until I find exactly what I want because I want to be more intentional with my purchases, rather than buying things and putting holes in my freshly painted walls. I need intentionality!
My favorite piece of advice in this video is to focus on the KEEP not on the TOSS. I always feel sad about tossing stuff, but now I get to focus on being happy about keeping stuff. This is awesome. Thank you so much.
I tried to declutter 25 years ago, and did some decluttering, then I found Marie Kondo a few years ago, but it was too hard. Then I discovered you tubers like Marissa, who have helped me actually get to a point where I'm 80% minimalist. I still have the hardest category, Sentimental..... Thank you Marissa for this video , I would say that minimalism is a gradual transformation of the mind, and then of the home. Thank you for what you do !
On the contrary, I find it very encouraging that it took 5 years! Understanding that it can take years to get where I want to be helps me not feel like I've failed when I couldn't declutter in a week and get it to stay that way.
Dear Marissa (and anyone reading this), I really appreciate that you brought this *realistic* progress of minimalism to public attention, because in my humble opinion whatever people expect to achieve short term would be, well, short-term and therefore unsustainable. I realised through about 4 years of journey on minimalism, this is really about changing one’s mindset, which is not a light task for anyone. I have read Marie Kondo’s books before I embarked on the decluttering journey in 2017, and even with her books in mind, I still found it quite hard to do. In the next 4 years, I moved to a different country, quit a job, and started a master degree, and moved several flats in the meanwhile. With every move, my minimalism game got a bit better. In every new space, I think of what is it that serves me in my life. This has kept my mind off of clutter and now I can sort of say that I have a minimalistic mindset. So yes, in order for it to really work and serve your life, it does take time, years it may be. But like Marissa said, everyone has a different starting line. So don’t let this discourage you. Because every little progress is very fulfilling on its own. X
I started purging BEFORE I moved back in with my Mom. And then purged her stuff and mine which totals about 5 years. I’m no hoarder but I’m no minimalist. All said I only replace what I do have and buy way less. Feels great.🚪
I'm on like year three. I'm still decluttering and still on my minalmaism journey. I couldn't agree more Marissa. Decluttering slowly is the best way to do it .I have given brand new curtains and a runner that matches our big area rug in our family room .A big mistake .oh well someome else must've enjoyed them .I have more peace and less stress. Interestingly enough I found so much about myself that I never knew .Very interesting journey .I have had trauma with my ex - husband and two kids with severe anxiety and adhd , mood disorders ect . Now they're all adults and I'm a grandmother, and I can see a clearer path to what makes more sense in this world and what is the most important.
I love that you addressed that viewer's comment with such grace and truth! We all are all quick to judge these days, I'm no exception. I read a great quote the other day that humbled me and it was this, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle." --Plato. Your battle was hard and those five years are what you needed. No one should judge that. Sentimental hoarding is something I relate to. It really is a shackle that is very hard to break free of. Keep on sharing, Marissa. I love your channel and it has helped me! 😘
And your quote makes me think about a story that I read after Chadwick Bozeman (Black Panther) passed away, by an older actor that worked with him on another movie. He basically had judged Chadwick because he felt like he was getting special treatment, massages, and his wife was always there with him holding his hand - and then he felt bad later, because he realized he was dying of cancer and he wished he hadn’t judged him. 😞 sorry if that’s a long rambling story, but basically I agree you never know what someone is going through behind the scenes! Thanks for watching Kristin. 🤗
@@AtoZenLife Not rambling at all - it's so great to gently remind each other of this kind of thing. It's so true, that we just don't know what some people have been through.
Hi Marissa I fully understand how unpacking and reviewing your whole life, experiences and emotions took 5 years to work through as you decluttered. You had to 'park' everything as you were coping with survival andcthe changing phases (as you grew up). When you were married for a few years was God first time you had stability, support and maturity to take on the task. The one thing your other viewer needed to hear was probably how soon you registered an improvement in your life. One doesn't start into decluttering by committing to a 5-year project, but it can indeed be a few years till one realises that "Yes... I think it's all gone through and I have what we need and when serves us. " Thank you for your honesty and transparency. Very best regards. G Ire
🚪it's been a few years when my mom and I started decluttering along with starting our first yard sale with family friends, we hadn't realized how much fun we had in the process. I no longer have my mom with me and the decluttering has become overwhelming, seeing that lots of her belongings hold sentimental value. For me it's been over 5 years. I finally gave some of her remaining clothing to close friends, which i asked beforehand if they were interested in. I saw them wearing one of her summer dresses in a Zoom conference and it brought me such happiness seeing it worn by a close friend. It does take effort and work, and for those who feel hopeless : Don't give up! It is possible 🤗 find TH-camrs who inspire you. Even if it takes years, you are doing great progress 🌸 🥰🌻
decluttering is healing,... no miracle that comes overnight... I am very proud of you and your videos are motivating me to start healing as well. Thank you.
Hysterical, I’m moving and trying to declutter 20 years, 10 years post divorce. Omg it’s rugged. Even when done I will have to redo it again. You’re so right about it being different with kids…those little things are so big. Marie Kondo talks about gratitude. It’s a good thing.
I am 70 years old and recently found your videos. You are amazing and so encouraging. I have been married for 47 years so of course we have lots of stuff. I have started each day by picking a room or cabinets to declutter and reorganize the things I plan to keep. As we all know it is very time consuming but I feel wonderful when that room is done. If there is something I think my daughter might want I text her a picture of it to check before I donate it. Thanks for all you do. I really look forward to your video. God bless your wonderful family.
Your story is an inspiration to me. I can relate to what you went through. No one will understand what you're going through emotionally unless if they've been there. Like you've said. A journey of a thousand miles always begins with a single step. I have lost almost over 20 family members and I can totally relate to your story. I've just started my minimalism journey and I know one-day I'll be completely free Thank you for sharing your story with us. God bless you and your family. 🙏🥺🚪
You are not boring or drab, it makes complete sense; tidy, clean house versus clutter, chaos and stress. You come into this world with nothing: you can't take everything with you, when you pass on. In the past I have found you have a clearer mind, when you're not surrounded by needless objects; going minimal is something I've been working on myself. I have two teenagers, both enjoy collecting books, games, ornaments, Lego sets etc; but we are slowly down-sizing, and getting into the mind-set that we don't need some things, and it won't necessarily make you happy. Having things for the sake of it creates a problem, when you no longer want them: there is too much rubbish in landfill: so donating, recycling and reusing makes a difference. 🚪xx
We just never learn to respect and not judge other people. We all are in different situations, process things and adjust differently. I have just decided I will do it and there's no way I could do it on a week. Thank you for the videos, the are helping me a lot and I appreciate it.
Love how non-judgemental you are. It has given me encouragement to get started on cleaning and decluttering. Don't listen to any nay-sayers who have different ideas than you do. We are all different and look at things differently. To each their own. Just be you. That's enough. My way will not be just like yours but I love watching your videos for ideas and again, encouragement.
So proud of you! You have done so great. I love that your after picture was your family together- not just a clean minimalist house. That is so meaningful!
Took me 6 years and I'm not done yet. I thought something was wrong with me but now I'm so glad your video was in my suggestions. I don't feel guilty anymore towards myself for taking so long... Thank you.
I have done my minimalism journey two years and i'm not finished yet. It takes time to discover every thing on the journey. take it slow and be true to your self. I love your videos and how you bring your journey closer to us. we are all diffrent and have our own diffrent minimalism journey. ❤
😫 Shocked that individuals could be judging of your path! Everyone's path is different! I've been decluttering all my life. Every time I clean something I find myself putting something in it's place. The emotional baggage/damage is real. I will get there and when I'm finally able to let go, I'll be celebrating my decluttered life verses looking backwards. And you better belief that you my North Star and your five year journey have helped guide me there!!!!
I’ve been at it several years (lots of inherited items) and think doing it in stages makes it easier to change my lifestyle and thinking. If I had just dumped lots of things in short order, I think it would have left me in shock.
Ignore any negative rubbish, to be completely successful in any tasks, it depends on an individual's state of mind, influence, modivation, or having the time and great health.
When I left my husband 11 years ago, I took ALL MY BELONGINGS with me that were in our four story house.. I incoorporated everything in my tiny studio apartment, neatly on shelves and in cupboards, in under bed boxes and in my small cellar room - and then started to sort out what I really want to keep. Today, I am still living in such a tiny studio and have only about 1/4 left of what I owned before - and I am super happy with owning less! I have more room for the things that really bring me joy, for example my re-discovered love for lego, space on the floor for yoga even with my laundry stand in the room, and know that I am on my own journey! There are still a few things & areas that need my attention, but overall, I am less stressed, feel less dragged down by my belongings and enjoy the things that I have so much more, now that they can get my full attention! So yes, this journey takes as individually long as there are the different people tackling it - just like love stories, we can not really compare, nor judge one to another... 🚪
This process takes time. I’ve been on this journey now for 4 years. Each person’s journey is their own and there is no right way or wrong way. Keep going, ignore the negative comments and wish you all the very best 😊
I like your informative style! I think I am about 4/5 to the complete process of decluttering, not only for myself, but for the belongings my mom left me (including all rhe mementos HER family left to her). It is a process, and no matter how many YEARS it may take, it will have been worth it. My mantra is, there is a finite amount of stuff, so everything I deal with now amounts to fewer decisions I will need to deal with later. Bless you, Marissa, and your sweet family too!
For me it’s a constant journey. I have needed different amounts of “stuff” at different points of life, but generally I’m distilling everything down and learning what I truly want and need. I just feel it’s important for me to keep evaluating my relationship with materialism and practise impulse control with any new items.
It takes time! I had decluttered from time to time. I started seriously started decluttering my apartment in February 2021. I was going to move this year but I decided not to. I am still decluttering. I thought that I was done in July. I had plans to declutter twice a year. Nope still decluttering. I am just simplifying.
5 years is absolutely normal. I can’t just throw things out, since I am emotionally attached to a few things I own. So using them well is my way too. I am 3 years into this journey 💚
you are not alone ! Its taken me 8 years to maintain my decluttering muscles and work through trauma . I still struggle with clutter as my kids like to accumulate trinkets from random places, mail piles up , and I want to recycle my electronic clutter but I need to get my photos and personal info off hard drives and phones etc . I'm also going back to school and work. this summer though I will be leaving my job and finishing school so I can do the work needed to get rid of the last remaining things I've not had the emotional, or actual time to do.
🚪I am through the door. I am already stuck. Your video is very thought provoking - very helpful! Timing is everything. Thanks for sharing your experience, your wisdom.
🚪I am currently in the middle of my journey. I was never a hoarder and yet I never realized how much stuff I own that I don't really need. I already decluttered my whole house and now I'm trying to donate as much as I can which is taking longer than the decluttering itself LOL. You Marissa, and another wonderful japanese guy called Aki are my greatest inspiration and trust me I watched a LOT of minimalists videos. Thank you so much 😍
🚪 I’ve been working on minimalizing for almost my whole marriage, less than 7 years, and cutting down on clothes and sentimental cards has been slow for me. My hubby and I are at different stages so patience has been very important for me to learn. Your videos have helped me tackle some ares that I struggled with. I’m happy to finally say that I can sit in my bedroom and smile. No junk, no excess, no stress! Still working on my closet, but I should be done in about 6 months or less. Thank you for your videos!
I have been on my journey for three years. Moving into an apartment after having a house for four years.....it was an adjustment. But, decluttering and purging the things we don't need is so refreshing. I feel it is going to take me at least five years to get where I want to be. Keep inspiring others. There will always be someone that hers your story and may change their life for the better because of your journey. Right now.....I am purging my son's clothes. So needed. Thanks for your story.
It has taken me 5 years as well… it is a really tough journey. It’s not the same for all though. I was a semi-hoarder so I had a lot to go through. There is so emotionally that you go through while decluttering. You can do a lot but I know we’ve all been there and it ends up becoming overwhelming or it all comes back quickly. 5 years and I have been able to maintain.
I'm sooo...happy I found your channel today. You are a breath of fresh air and we have a similar mindset towards material possessions. I have been minimizing for at least two years. I feel so free!
All our lives will be extra sweet once folks learn that One Size Fits All is NOT a thing, and folks do what's best for themselves and stop judging other people's journeys. It's MATURITY Folks... maturity. 💖💖🚪
🚪 thanks for saying it took you 5 years because I definitely don’t think I’ll be done in a year like I think I’ve internalized is an appropriate time period. The reminder to just keep going and don’t worry about a timeline is really helpful.
Yeah, also 5 years. And I am still not „there“. My life situation also changed a lot in this time (kids, jobs…) so it is really work in progress. My „but“ are books, like a lot of people. At the beginning of the year I wanted to change my shelf situation and decluttered too many books. I will repurchase them one day (second hand), but this showed me that I really love rereading and therefore I will be more cautious with my books. In other areas I learned that I have to be braver in decluttering sometimes.
The person who commented your five year journey is discouraging, clearly doesn't have the emotional investment in life, family, love and sentimentality. A very cold, emotionless person. You did an amazing job and have every right to be proud. You are a true inspiration.
🚪ready yet terrified! Finding your video at just the right time, I realize that’s why the other declutter videos haven’t worked for me! People that don’t experience this cannot understand. It’s easy for them to get rid of stuff! Thank you so much for making your videos. I have felt like a failure for decades because I can’t get rid of or organize the stuff and your video has helped me see a way.
🚪30 plus years of stuff, I did 2 Totes of Christmas today and that was it that was all I could do today, I have so enjoyed your videos and especially this one, decluttering is not easy
Your videos have encouraged me and your candidates about your losses as a child resonated with me even as an only child who lost my mom 3 years ago when I was 34. Keep up the great work and thank you for being so pragmatic even when addressing haters!
It took me atleast 2 years to even look at the things boxed up after my mother's death. At the time the decisions made on items to keep made sense, but when I looked at them again now later I thought they were silly some of the things kept. It takes time and not a one and done situation.
I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I had the same feeling about holding on the materials that reminded me of my mother. Now I am holding on to her memories and kept only one of her scarves. God bless you.
🚪 I've been on my minimalist journey for at least 7 years. I also had a lot of sentimental items and items loved ones had given me that created a lot of guilt when decluttering these items. The decluttering process has been difficult at times but it's such a relief when the stuff is gone and so far I haven't had any regrets.
When you said it took 5 yrs to declutter, it gives me not only hope but also a long term plan. The big weight on my shoulders was lifted too. I am now allowing myself to take my own time on this journey.
No one understands that emotionally detaching from your stuff is a huge journey emotionally and mentally unless they go through themselves. It's not just throwing clutter away. Memories are valuable to me. I need to adjust and be ready to 'let go' so doing this in stages helps and reduce the anxiety that comes with it. It does take years from starting point to end. ❤️
A week to declutter is insane. Leave that for people who don't care about your struggle or they just like to put people down because they wish they were doing what you're doing. Keep it up! You're very inspiring and sad people will be jealous!
Some people seem to think minimalism is just about decluttering. It’s not. It’s a whole mindset and lifestyle change, and that takes a LOT of time.
I agree 👏
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It does 😭
So far I have donated over 30bags of clothes and counting
I just want to get there already lol
Can't believe people believe a proper minimalism journey can be done in just a week! I'm still not done with mine and I'm sure so many others in the community would say the same. So inspiring for you to lay everything out like this, I know I'm gonna be taking home some of these tips!
Ditto, I'm doing mine gradually, and when I'm in the mood, but I know I'll get rid of things I can't now eventually
I think it's exactly that they don't believe it can be done but they WISH it could be done. "discouraging" sounds like they haven't started and don't dare to, hearing it takes years.
Started my minimalist journey by accident. Was going to move to another town (didn't) but before the move didn't pan out I had rented a storage locker for things I wanted to keep, started packing kept coming across things hadn't used in years so started getting rid of them. That's been roughly 4 years ago and still finding things to get rid of.
@EarthatWork You mean like getting rid of overweight? I agree.
It's your life so declutter where you think it helps and adjust to that. That's no competition or speed run. And it might even be a misconception that people try to reach the aesthetics ASAP instead of taking time to get an overview of the stuff you have.
I started over a year ago and it’s gotten way better but I still have a long way to go. A week is insanely unrealistic.
I’ve decluttered for 8 years. Now I live with my husband in 320 square feet. I decluttered two cabinets today. It never ends. Don’t listen to haters.
Seriously..do not listen to haters. If they think they can do it better, go do it.
I love this!!!
I have extremely decluttered years ago. Each year I still go through and declutter. I keep onto things because I don't want to buy something again down the road.
This weekend I am gonna go through the toolbox I organized years ago because its now so full its not easy to access the tools we do need.
It has taken me 3 years and counting. I'm the only one doing it cuz my family is not on board.
The "haste makes waste" section is so true! I found myself decluttering aggressively with a "just get it done" mindset and ended up getting rid of things that I actively use and regularly miss! I'm now on a slow and gentle decluttering journey that is more right for me. So glad I found your channel!
EXACTLY 💯
Same here! I went way too fast and since then have more than once been looking for something only to realize I gave it away during decluttering.
I so agree about not trying to declutter too quickly. It is a process. It's good to feel all the feelings as you go through this process. If you don't, you'll likely just fill your house right back up. Great video- thanks!
Thanks for watching, Erika!
I don’t think you’re boring. You’re very real and practical and give a lot of good applicable tips. I think that being grateful for the things that served you and you’re giving away brings blessings. Don’t know why people need to say mean things
I would actually think that it would be discouraging to see someone declutter their entire house in a week. That’s a very high expectation to set for the average person. I love how you emphasize that everyone’s journey is different and to not let the judgment of others influence that journey ❤️
well said!!!
I actually find it more encouraging to know I do not have to rush into decluttering. The more I thought I had to do it all at once, the more I procrastinated. Now I am inspired to get it going. Thank you for that! (door emoji)
Lots of people judging the declutter process (of others) often forget that declutter is not just "get rid of stuff". It's much much deeper, it's reviewing personal values, priorities, memories... Getting rid of stuff is just scratching the surface. You are a gem to share you story with us. Love from Italy 🤩🇮🇹
Good job! Very inspiring. And five years can go by pretty quickly to change any behavior. For instance, smoking, drinking, gossiping, drug use, impulsive buying, negative self talk, laziness, fears. Things take time. Why would anyone judge you for taking 5 years to overcome your struggle? You’re amazing! ❤️
Thanks so much for the support! 🤗
Its also harder to find the time and energy to sort through things when raising children. Especially young children, but really every age seems to have its struggles. Even just normal, everyday things like leaving the home to go anywhere can become an ordeal (some days) with kids.
Also, as she says, you can't force minimalism on others. This includes the ones we're raising. We can plant seeds, but we must respect their choices or we can create future hoarders. I realized this when watching an episode of Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners where a cleaner was paired up with a hoarder to help them get their place in order (the general premise of the show, tbh) and the woman explained she starting hoarding after she moved out on her own for the first time. She'd been raised by a minimalist mother who thought nothing of purging her daughters toys, so she (the daughter-turned-hoarder) never felt like anything was really hers. She didn't want to get rid of anything, and it escalated from there and then she felt overwhelmed with this problem.
What really drove home her message was I'd recently went on a purge of the place and thought my then-2 year old wouldn't miss these toys that hadn't been played with in months. I was wrong. Soon after donating these things, my then-toddler asked where specifc toys were and taught me two year olds remember more than we may think. I sometimes feel like I'm drowning in "crap" (the joys of small apartments with no closets or storage) but don't want to create a future hoarder. If its not okay with them to get rid of something, I respect that. Maybe in the future I'll find a place I can afford with closets and storage space; it would make a HUGE difference having a proper place for coats, shoes, and extra bedding.
Agree! I've done some extreme decluttering but it only lead to another clutter
🚪 My starting point was when I had to clean out the houses of three different grandmothers (two of my own, and one of my husbands) within the same 12 months. The sheer amount of STUFF...... seeing (and feeling) the stress it caused the loved ones left behind. I did NOT want to cause that kind of unnecessary stress on anyone I love. And now I see how much better it makes ME feel as well. Win/win/win/win/win. :-) :-)
I agree, I did not want my kids to have to do this for me. I realized how much stuff my mom put away for “just in case” or “someday I may need this” and never used most of it.
@@Sgarcia2864 same here
My mom died and wanted everyone to get a certain special (to her) something for all her children. The trouble is no one wanted what she thought was special. We gave EVERYTHING to goodwill. Desks , dressers, three refrigerators, 3 sewing machines. It was harrowing. Tbh
Only 5 years? Well done! 10 years and counting. Each of our journeys is different. No judgement just applause and encouragement for everyone who is applying effort to better their life. 😘
The journey to becoming a true minimalist is a change in mindset, and that never happens in one week. You can remove visual clutter in one week, but from what I see from most homeowners, the clutter will return. Kudos to you for taking the time to set new habits, profit from the sale of certain items, and for making really tough decisions to let go of certain items. You are a true inspiration for all of us on this journey.
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I would also like to add that the journey can be a lifelong journey with no finish line. Its a change in mindset in the kind of lifestyle you value. Eating healthy for me isn't a fad or temporary thing, it's something I plan on doing the rest of my life to maintain a higher quality of life, a lifestyle. I look at minimalism the same way. Throughout my life interests will change, things that bring joy will change but my goal to only keep what serves me or brings me joy will help maintain the quality of life I value, which to me is what minimalism is. Its never been a one size fits all concept.
Anyone who has any negative opinions or judgements on the harmless way someone chooses to live their life, a life that doesn't hurt them in any way shape or form could greatly benefit from a higher threshold of offense and a new hobby.
I think you actually show the journey to get to some level of minimalism more realisticly than many other channels. Accordingly this realism actually encourages me. Greetings!
Thanks for your kind words! ☺️
Discouraging?? It was a relief to hear this. I’ve felt like a failure because I haven’t ever been able to purge in one swoop.
Decluttering is so much more than getting rid of stuff. It is about processing a lot of unresolved emotions: loss, scarcity, fear, control, false sense of security, identity, more loss, etc. It is incredibly hard. Thats why we have to go at our pace.
Also decluttering is constant. We’ve gotten rid of a lot, but still have more. Felt so good to drop off paint cans etc on our city’s toxic waste drop off day. They we’re sitting in the basement for a long time
🚪 Yay! I figured out how to add a door emoji! I've been trying to declutter after reading the Swedish Death Cleaning Book. I don't want my kids to to experience going through a lifetime of paperwork, crafts, etc. like I experienced when my Mom passed away. It's been VERY slow going, but I am really motivated now. The other day I bought a garden cart to get the pile of paver bricks from the front yard. It was new, they were heavy and I needed to inflate the tires. I could NOT find our electric powered, for use-in-the-home air pump. I spent all morning looking for it; I looked in with the tools shoved in the Master Bedroom closet, in the hall storage closet, in the backyard shed, in the laundry room cupboards with the auto cleaning items, in the stacked to the roof garage, even corners in the house. Two days later, I still haven't found it yet; BUT later that fateful morning turned afternoon, I did find TWO plug-into-the-car for power air pumps that in an emergency inflate tires. One had a short power cord and air hose, the other had both a long power and a longer air hose. I used it. I was horrified that I couldn't remember where we stashed the original air pump, AND that we actually had a mysterious-where-did-it-come-from EXTRA car air pump! I am now spending at least 15 minutes daily in getting rid of "stuff:" in the garage. This WILL take time, but I'm in it for the long haul. Thanks for motivating advice and sensible baby steps to do.
I’m like you, it took me years. And in the end, that was healthy for me to take that time to process the items and the emotions.
I agree....if you don't sort the feelings out that are attached to the items/ or why we keep so many items (hoarding) it's so easy to repeat and RE-clutter.
No one can fix these things in one week. It is a looooong process
It’s extremely difficult to change a lifetime of habits in a few days. Decluttering (for many) needs to be a process that takes time but leads to a real lifestyle change. Doing things too quickly can cause a sense of panic until you have time to really see you don’t need all of the stuff to thrive.
Whoever said it should take just a week, I'd love to see them come out and discuss how they did it, cause I'm 2 years into my decluttering journey, and personally, doing it in 1 week, all in one go, doesn't sound reasonable, as much as I'd love to get it over it., But, if someone has actually accomplished that, good for them, let's hear about it!
I think they just have no soul and burnt all their stuff 😂 how else is it possible??! 🤣
They must have gotten a dumpster and just tossed large blocks of items without looking at them. Or they didn’t own much
ya takes one day to order a bin clean out ? i guess depends the size of a horder you are
I did it in a week but I had just gotten married and had only one child and didn't have much sentimental things other than pictures. I loved how it felt! But now as a family of 6 .woah one week seems extreme
It took me two weeks, but each to their own.
🚪 Five years is inspiring to me! I have hope and I'm not as overwhelmed.
It truly takes time. I wish it could be done faster but it’s a process. I’ve already donated a lot of my stuff and I find myself being stuck with things I want to sell. It is so time consuming and now I have boxes sitting there taking up space. It’s a struggle but it also encourages me not to want to ever buy or accumulate unnecessary items.
I got stuck on things I wanted to sell for a long time. Truthfully, I still do! If you are frustrated because you want to sell something but can't seem to find a buyer, consider donating it specifically to a person or organization who needs it. It's a way of reclaiming the value without having to worry about the dollars involved. Good luck!
I have piles of donation stuff but I also have to work through the emotional issues I have tied up in a few things. Zi am making progress but I am naturally a hoarder of certain things - always a just in case mindset I have worked hard to move forward from! I love your sharing here - it does help! And I have realized how far I have come! 🚪
I have had success selling stuff on Facebook Marketplace and local Facebook garage sale sites. I give a boundary of 2 weeks, if it doesn't sell. I lower the price. If it doesn't sell for at least $5 I donate it. You have already spent the money. You are no worse off if you donate it. Feels so great to live with less!
You can sell clothes, shoes, handbags on ThredUP, information is on their website.
🚪I am on year 3 of my minimalism journey, and after living in my home for over 25 years, and raising 3 kids, I am happy with the progress of my journey😊
You are my favorite “Minimalist” TH-camr! I just relate to you and your journey and appreciate your approach. I began the 🚪 journey about 8 months ago and have made a small dent. Some days I’m pleased with the progress and other days discouraged but have confidence I will eventually get there.
What I don’t understand is why people would waste their time watching and commenting on what they don’t like about YOUR journey . I only have time to watch or listen to things that are helpful or edifying!
Keep it up because I need your ideas and encouragement as I keep pressing on.
🚪I'm one year into this journey, but already I'm feeling the benefits of this (more relaxed and less anxious in my home, plus less to clean up!)
🚪yes, I live in the Netherlands and am a minimalist since 2012. I experience minimalism as a journey and an ongoing proces. I love the respect and individual approach here. And how we treat our stuff and minimalistic differences. Thank you for sharing your life here on youtube.😘✨
I love your slow and steady approach to minimalism. It is definitely a learned skill. We are taught to just buy buy buy… we need to slow down.
Thanks Candice. 👍 Slowing down is harder than it sounds but so worth it!
Yes exactly
I started with controlling purchases before decluttering anything, because otherwise it would be an endless wasteful cycle. I am at the stage where that has become my new normal and I am ready to do the first decluttering steps. Though I see many rounds ahead
🚪you are spot on! To keep you on the right track of having less you have to do it at your pace, or you won't maintain it.
Congratulations! I find the 5 year timeline encouraging. I'm still decluttering and yes, it's 30 years of stuff. It's hard to tell what you're going to need and not have to repurchase.
🚪on year 3... With two kids and changing seasons of life,... It actually never ends! You're an inspiration!
“Respect the point you are starting from.” ❤️❤️❤️
🚪As you said (to paraphrase): Don’t put yourself in a lifestyle box that is created by others. That includes naysayers. Although your home is a little too minimal for my taste, I admire you for reaching your long-term goal. I love that you said that it took you five years to accomplish your goal because I can’t go as fast as some other TH-camrs recommend. (I am disabled and use a cane.) Very inspiring! Thank you so much!
Omg. I love you so much for your transparency and vulnerability. I am always working to declutter my home, as clutter and excess brings me high anxiety. Also, I lost my parents when I was in my early 30’s, 4 months apart. This journey is nothing to be rushed, just like you can’t rush grief. Thank you for doing this video. ❤️❤️❤️
🚪Wow, this was eye opening. We lost our home in 2019 due to a tornado. We have 4 Connex containers full of 30 years of collections. My daughter wants me to just give away things without taking my time to look into the boxes. I'm 21/2 years into my letting go. I felt something was wrong with me in taking so long. I am making progress. I've notified family members that brought all their stuff to me to keep for them. They have had ample time to get their stuff. I begin donating useful furniture to a habitate for humanity group in April. My husband and I have already donated lots of usable clothing to various shelters. Each decision can be a struggle. "This belonged to mom/dad or grandma/grandpa". I started taking pictures for a family memorial book. I'm so tired of being the family archivist. The keeper of all things. I so enjoyed your words. Thank you.🚪
How dare anyone tell another how long it takes to do anything! Decluttering and the ongoing process to become a minimalist 🚪takes time. I've been working toward minimalism for over a year...and still have a long way to go. Changing the way you've been taught to think about your possessions is an ongoing process. Thank you for sharing your insight and your inspiration.
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Thank you all for sharing!!! I am struggling to declutter, not sure a "Jones"(my real last name) can be a minimalist LOL. My lack of room is due to a few weeks housing family members running into about 5 yrs and counting. I am done making sacrifices, I am 69 and I intend to actually USE & ENJOY my vast collection of crafting items. Time may be short; my fantasy self still thinks I should keep most until I determin It isn't serving me to keep it.
Thank you all for sharing!!! I am struggling to declutter, not sure a "Jones"(my real last name) can be a minimalist LOL. My lack of room is due to a few weeks housing family members running into about 5 yrs and counting. I am done making sacrifices, I am 69 and I intend to actually USE & ENJOY my vast collection of crafting items. Time may be short; my fantasy self still thinks I should keep most until I determin It isn't serving me to keep it.
I really appreciate you acknowledging that minimalism is not an end all to happiness. I've stopped watching certain minimalists because they make me feel discontent and that all my problems are because I'm not minimalist enough. Of course, I know intellectually that it's not true, but it still affects me.
🚪 One year in and I feel like decluttering in 5 years to be a “true” minimalist is impossible! You did amazingly!!!
It's been 4 years and I'm still decluttering stuff.
It's been over 10 years and I'm still decluttering. Truthfully, you will find a point where you have things you can let go of, but it doesn't weigh on you. You can push past that if you want to, or you can identify that point as the state where you're happy. It doesn't make you "less" of a minimalist, human, valuable person, or anything else. Everyone has a comfort point. Keep working toward yours and don't be discouraged. Learning to identify gems (what is valuable) is a learning process and takes time. You are getting there.
1 year for me too! I still feel like I have more stuff than the average person, but to me I can see the progress (just about haha) and have a bit more space to breathe in the day🚪 Let’s keep going! 😁
I think it's great you answered this comment in your video. Decluttering is a life thing, anda life changing thing as well. In German we say: Was lange währt, wird endlich gut.
It's a classic example of the Pareto-Effect! You can easily get rid of 80% in a short amount of time. But the last 20% of clutter will take a long time and multiple tries. Also, like you said, with kids (when they are growing up) there always will be a constant flow of things coming into your life and out of your life. We are still getting rid of stuff even after 4 years of getting into minimalism. It's a journey and everyone will have their own pace.
The Pareto Principle has so many applications in minimalism and life in general. We are on the same page 🤗
To go too fast will cause mistakes and regret! Going slower allows for grace and practicality for letting go of those sentimental and emotional items. The time it takes to declutter is dependent on how much you have to get rid of. Your story gives support to many who struggle with beginning, continuing and then finishing. Keep up the good work.
My minimalism journey started in 2017 and after 4 years I have finally gotten "there". I have nothing on my walls until I find exactly what I want because I want to be more intentional with my purchases, rather than buying things and putting holes in my freshly painted walls. I need intentionality!
My favorite piece of advice in this video is to focus on the KEEP not on the TOSS. I always feel sad about tossing stuff, but now I get to focus on being happy about keeping stuff. This is awesome. Thank you so much.
I tried to declutter 25 years ago, and did some decluttering, then I found Marie Kondo a few years ago, but it was too hard. Then I discovered you tubers like Marissa, who have helped me actually get to a point where I'm 80% minimalist. I still have the hardest category, Sentimental..... Thank you Marissa for this video , I would say that minimalism is a gradual transformation of the mind, and then of the home. Thank you for what you do !
On the contrary, I find it very encouraging that it took 5 years! Understanding that it can take years to get where I want to be helps me not feel like I've failed when I couldn't declutter in a week and get it to stay that way.
Dear Marissa (and anyone reading this), I really appreciate that you brought this *realistic* progress of minimalism to public attention, because in my humble opinion whatever people expect to achieve short term would be, well, short-term and therefore unsustainable. I realised through about 4 years of journey on minimalism, this is really about changing one’s mindset, which is not a light task for anyone. I have read Marie Kondo’s books before I embarked on the decluttering journey in 2017, and even with her books in mind, I still found it quite hard to do. In the next 4 years, I moved to a different country, quit a job, and started a master degree, and moved several flats in the meanwhile. With every move, my minimalism game got a bit better. In every new space, I think of what is it that serves me in my life. This has kept my mind off of clutter and now I can sort of say that I have a minimalistic mindset. So yes, in order for it to really work and serve your life, it does take time, years it may be. But like Marissa said, everyone has a different starting line. So don’t let this discourage you. Because every little progress is very fulfilling on its own. X
Congrats on starting your master’s degree journey whether you will earn a Master of Arts, Master of Business Administration, etc.
@@andreawales1938 Thank you 😊I have actually just completed it! it's a MSc in psych research, tough journey but great fun.
🚪Thank you for opening yours doors to us and sharing your journey. I really appreciate all your help, tips, support and kindness. 💛
I started purging BEFORE I moved back in with my Mom. And then purged her stuff and mine which totals about 5 years. I’m no hoarder but I’m no minimalist. All said I only replace what I do have and buy way less. Feels great.🚪
I'm on like year three. I'm still decluttering and still on my minalmaism journey. I couldn't agree more Marissa. Decluttering slowly is the best way to do it .I have given brand new curtains and a runner that matches our big area rug in our family room .A big mistake .oh well someome else must've enjoyed them .I have more peace and less stress. Interestingly enough I found so much about myself that I never knew .Very interesting journey .I have had trauma with my ex - husband and two kids with severe anxiety and adhd , mood disorders ect .
Now they're all adults and I'm a grandmother, and I can see a clearer path to what makes more sense in this world and what is the most important.
I love that you addressed that viewer's comment with such grace and truth! We all are all quick to judge these days, I'm no exception. I read a great quote the other day that humbled me and it was this, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle." --Plato. Your battle was hard and those five years are what you needed. No one should judge that. Sentimental hoarding is something I relate to. It really is a shackle that is very hard to break free of. Keep on sharing, Marissa. I love your channel and it has helped me! 😘
And your quote makes me think about a story that I read after Chadwick Bozeman (Black Panther) passed away, by an older actor that worked with him on another movie. He basically had judged Chadwick because he felt like he was getting special treatment, massages, and his wife was always there with him holding his hand - and then he felt bad later, because he realized he was dying of cancer and he wished he hadn’t judged him. 😞 sorry if that’s a long rambling story, but basically I agree you never know what someone is going through behind the scenes! Thanks for watching Kristin. 🤗
@@AtoZenLife Not rambling at all - it's so great to gently remind each other of this kind of thing. It's so true, that we just don't know what some people have been through.
Hi Marissa I fully understand how unpacking and reviewing your whole life, experiences and emotions took 5 years to work through as you decluttered. You had to 'park' everything as you were coping with survival andcthe changing phases (as you grew up). When you were married for a few years was God first time you had stability, support and maturity to take on the task.
The one thing your other viewer needed to hear was probably how soon you registered an improvement in your life. One doesn't start into decluttering by committing to a 5-year project, but it can indeed be a few years till one realises that "Yes... I think it's all gone through and I have what we need and when serves us. " Thank you for your honesty and transparency. Very best regards. G Ire
🚪it's been a few years when my mom and I started decluttering along with starting our first yard sale with family friends, we hadn't realized how much fun we had in the process. I no longer have my mom with me and the decluttering has become overwhelming, seeing that lots of her belongings hold sentimental value. For me it's been over 5 years. I finally gave some of her remaining clothing to close friends, which i asked beforehand if they were interested in. I saw them wearing one of her summer dresses in a Zoom conference and it brought me such happiness seeing it worn by a close friend.
It does take effort and work, and for those who feel hopeless : Don't give up! It is possible 🤗 find TH-camrs who inspire you. Even if it takes years, you are doing great progress 🌸 🥰🌻
decluttering is healing,... no miracle that comes overnight...
I am very proud of you and your videos are motivating me to start healing as well.
Thank you.
Hysterical, I’m moving and trying to declutter 20 years, 10 years post divorce. Omg it’s rugged. Even when done I will have to redo it again. You’re so right about it being different with kids…those little things are so big. Marie Kondo talks about gratitude. It’s a good thing.
I am 70 years old and recently found your videos. You are amazing and so encouraging. I have been married for 47 years so of course we have lots of stuff. I have started each day by picking a room or cabinets to declutter and reorganize the things I plan to keep. As we all know it is very time consuming but I feel wonderful when that room is done. If there is something I think my daughter might want I text her a picture of it to check before I donate it. Thanks for all you do. I really look forward to your video. God bless your wonderful family.
Welcome to the family, Janice, and good luck with your journey! ✨❤️✨
Your story is an inspiration to me. I can relate to what you went through. No one will understand what you're going through emotionally unless if they've been there. Like you've said. A journey of a thousand miles always begins with a single step. I have lost almost over 20 family members and I can totally relate to your story. I've just started my minimalism journey and I know one-day I'll be completely free Thank you for sharing your story with us. God bless you and your family. 🙏🥺🚪
You are not boring or drab, it makes complete sense; tidy, clean house versus clutter, chaos and stress.
You come into this world with nothing: you can't take everything with you, when you pass on.
In the past I have found you have a clearer mind, when you're not surrounded by needless objects; going minimal is something I've been working on myself. I have two teenagers, both enjoy collecting books, games, ornaments, Lego sets etc; but we are slowly down-sizing, and getting into the mind-set that we don't need some things, and it won't necessarily make you happy.
Having things for the sake of it creates a problem, when you no longer want them: there is too much rubbish in landfill: so donating, recycling and reusing makes a difference. 🚪xx
We just never learn to respect and not judge other people. We all are in different situations, process things and adjust differently. I have just decided I will do it and there's no way I could do it on a week. Thank you for the videos, the are helping me a lot and I appreciate it.
Love how non-judgemental you are. It has given me encouragement to get started on cleaning and decluttering. Don't listen to any nay-sayers who have different ideas than you do. We are all different and look at things differently. To each their own. Just be you. That's enough. My way will not be just like yours but I love watching your videos for ideas and again, encouragement.
So proud of you! You have done so great. I love that your after picture was your family together- not just a clean minimalist house. That is so meaningful!
Thanks, Deb, definitely worth making it happen for them! ❤️
Took me 6 years and I'm not done yet. I thought something was wrong with me but now I'm so glad your video was in my suggestions. I don't feel guilty anymore towards myself for taking so long... Thank you.
I have done my minimalism journey two years and i'm not finished yet. It takes time to discover every thing on the journey. take it slow and be true to your self. I love your videos and how you bring your journey closer to us. we are all diffrent and have our own diffrent minimalism journey. ❤
💯 agree and wishing you the best, Froja!
😫 Shocked that individuals could be judging of your path! Everyone's path is different! I've been decluttering all my life. Every time I clean something I find myself putting something in it's place. The emotional baggage/damage is real. I will get there and when I'm finally able to let go, I'll be celebrating my decluttered life verses looking backwards. And you better belief that you my North Star and your five year journey have helped guide me there!!!!
I’ve been at it several years (lots of inherited items) and think doing it in stages makes it easier to change my lifestyle and thinking. If I had just dumped lots of things in short order, I think it would have left me in shock.
Ignore any negative rubbish, to be completely successful in any tasks, it depends on an individual's state of mind, influence, modivation, or having the time and great health.
🚪 Thank you for making this video! 🙏
When I left my husband 11 years ago, I took ALL MY BELONGINGS with me that were in our four story house..
I incoorporated everything in my tiny studio apartment, neatly on shelves and in cupboards, in under bed boxes and in my small cellar room - and then started to sort out what I really want to keep.
Today, I am still living in such a tiny studio and have only about 1/4 left of what I owned before - and I am super happy with owning less!
I have more room for the things that really bring me joy, for example my re-discovered love for lego, space on the floor for yoga even with my laundry stand in the room, and know that I am on my own journey!
There are still a few things & areas that need my attention, but overall, I am less stressed, feel less dragged down by my belongings and enjoy the things that I have so much more, now that they can get my full attention!
So yes, this journey takes as individually long as there are the different people tackling it - just like love stories, we can not really compare, nor judge one to another... 🚪
This process takes time. I’ve been on this journey now for 4 years. Each person’s journey is their own and there is no right way or wrong way. Keep going, ignore the negative comments and wish you all the very best 😊
I like your informative style! I think I am about 4/5 to the complete process of decluttering, not only for myself, but for the belongings my mom left me (including all rhe mementos HER family left to her). It is a process, and no matter how many YEARS it may take, it will have been worth it. My mantra is, there is a finite amount of stuff, so everything I deal with now amounts to fewer decisions I will need to deal with later. Bless you, Marissa, and your sweet family too!
For me it’s a constant journey. I have needed different amounts of “stuff” at different points of life, but generally I’m distilling everything down and learning what I truly want and need. I just feel it’s important for me to keep evaluating my relationship with materialism and practise impulse control with any new items.
Very well said. That's exactly what I'm experiencing.
It takes time! I had decluttered from time to time. I started seriously started decluttering my apartment in February 2021. I was going to move this year but I decided not to. I am still decluttering. I thought that I was done in July. I had plans to declutter twice a year. Nope still decluttering. I am just simplifying.
5 years is absolutely normal. I can’t just throw things out, since I am emotionally attached to a few things I own. So using them well is my way too. I am 3 years into this journey 💚
you are not alone ! Its taken me 8 years to maintain my decluttering muscles and work through trauma . I still struggle with clutter as my kids like to accumulate trinkets from random places, mail piles up , and I want to recycle my electronic clutter but I need to get my photos and personal info off hard drives and phones etc . I'm also going back to school and work. this summer though I will be leaving my job and finishing school so I can do the work needed to get rid of the last remaining things I've not had the emotional, or actual time to do.
You are an inspiration to me. I have tried to "organize" for so many years. Now, I am on a minimalist journey. Thanks for your encouragement.
🚪I am through the door. I am already stuck. Your video is very thought provoking - very helpful! Timing is everything. Thanks for sharing your experience, your wisdom.
This makes me feel so much better, the thought of getting rid of all excess in a week would make me run! 🚪
That would definitely be an overwhelming expectation. ❤️
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🚪I am currently in the middle of my journey. I was never a hoarder and yet I never realized how much stuff I own that I don't really need. I already decluttered my whole house and now I'm trying to donate as much as I can which is taking longer than the decluttering itself LOL. You Marissa, and another wonderful japanese guy called Aki are my greatest inspiration and trust me I watched a LOT of minimalists videos. Thank you so much 😍
🚪 I’ve been working on minimalizing for almost my whole marriage, less than 7 years, and cutting down on clothes and sentimental cards has been slow for me. My hubby and I are at different stages so patience has been very important for me to learn. Your videos have helped me tackle some ares that I struggled with. I’m happy to finally say that I can sit in my bedroom and smile. No junk, no excess, no stress! Still working on my closet, but I should be done in about 6 months or less. Thank you for your videos!
I have been on my journey for three years. Moving into an apartment after having a house for four years.....it was an adjustment. But, decluttering and purging the things we don't need is so refreshing. I feel it is going to take me at least five years to get where I want to be. Keep inspiring others. There will always be someone that hers your story and may change their life for the better because of your journey. Right now.....I am purging my son's clothes. So needed. Thanks for your story.
It has taken me 5 years as well… it is a really tough journey. It’s not the same for all though. I was a semi-hoarder so I had a lot to go through. There is so emotionally that you go through while decluttering.
You can do a lot but I know we’ve all been there and it ends up becoming overwhelming or it all comes back quickly.
5 years and I have been able to maintain.
🚪 I love my journey. When I started, it was all about the clutter, but as the time goes, it brings so much more......
I'm sooo...happy I found your channel today. You are a breath of fresh air and we have a similar mindset towards material possessions. I have been minimizing for at least two years. I feel so free!
Wonderful, welcome to the family. 🤗
🚪 I totally agree with you! It’s a process…
All our lives will be extra sweet once folks learn that One Size Fits All is NOT a thing, and folks do what's best for themselves and stop judging other people's journeys. It's MATURITY Folks... maturity. 💖💖🚪
🚪 thanks for saying it took you 5 years because I definitely don’t think I’ll be done in a year like I think I’ve internalized is an appropriate time period. The reminder to just keep going and don’t worry about a timeline is really helpful.
Yeah, also 5 years. And I am still not „there“. My life situation also changed a lot in this time (kids, jobs…) so it is really work in progress. My „but“ are books, like a lot of people. At the beginning of the year I wanted to change my shelf situation and decluttered too many books. I will repurchase them one day (second hand), but this showed me that I really love rereading and therefore I will be more cautious with my books. In other areas I learned that I have to be braver in decluttering sometimes.
The person who commented your five year journey is discouraging, clearly doesn't have the emotional investment in life, family, love and sentimentality. A very cold, emotionless person. You did an amazing job and have every right to be proud. You are a true inspiration.
I appreciate your pace. It’s realistic. You inspire me.
🚪ready yet terrified! Finding your video at just the right time, I realize that’s why the other declutter videos haven’t worked for me! People that don’t experience this cannot understand. It’s easy for them to get rid of stuff! Thank you so much for making your videos. I have felt like a failure for decades because I can’t get rid of or organize the stuff and your video has helped me see a way.
🚪30 plus years of stuff, I did 2 Totes of Christmas today and that was it that was all I could do today, I have so enjoyed your videos and especially this one, decluttering is not easy
Also i've been trying to be a minimalist for a 11 monts now. And being a minimalist is looking different for everyone i agree ❤ love you so much
Your videos have encouraged me and your candidates about your losses as a child resonated with me even as an only child who lost my mom 3 years ago when I was 34. Keep up the great work and thank you for being so pragmatic even when addressing haters!
Thank you so much for sharing your decluttering life with us! I appreciate your story! I'm working on having less. It's free to have less. Bless you!
It took me atleast 2 years to even look at the things boxed up after my mother's death. At the time the decisions made on items to keep made sense, but when I looked at them again now later I thought they were silly some of the things kept. It takes time and not a one and done situation.
I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I had the same feeling about holding on the materials that reminded me of my mother. Now I am holding on to her memories and kept only one of her scarves. God bless you.
🚪 I've been on my minimalist journey for at least 7 years. I also had a lot of sentimental items and items loved ones had given me that created a lot of guilt when decluttering these items. The decluttering process has been difficult at times but it's such a relief when the stuff is gone and so far I haven't had any regrets.
When you said it took 5 yrs to declutter, it gives me not only hope but also a long term plan. The big weight on my shoulders was lifted too. I am now allowing myself to take my own time on this journey.
No one understands that emotionally detaching from your stuff is a huge journey emotionally and mentally unless they go through themselves. It's not just throwing clutter away. Memories are valuable to me. I need to adjust and be ready to 'let go' so doing this in stages helps and reduce the anxiety that comes with it. It does take years from starting point to end. ❤️
It’s a journey without end, so you me might as well enjoy it.
A week to declutter is insane. Leave that for people who don't care about your struggle or they just like to put people down because they wish they were doing what you're doing. Keep it up! You're very inspiring and sad people will be jealous!