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As a white woman married to an Asian man (Chinese/Vietnamese) and someone who lived in Asia for more than a decade (Japan), I noticed you said that your husband's love language is acts of service... I think that's the most common love language for Asian culture in general. Westerners like to say I Love You... Asians like to do something for you to show they love you. It seems to be a cultural norm. Do you think your husband would agree?
There are two types of poverty: one where there is a lack of family connectivity and one where there is a lack of monetary funds. Unfortunately I grew up experiencing both. It sounds like your husband lacked monetary wealth but certainly not family wealth. I have always thought my childhood would have been so much better if I had had a truly bonded family despite the lack of funds. Marissa, I can definitely see why you were drawn to this man. He is very handsome inside and out.
I wonder though if you perceive family connectivity in the same way as people from other cultures do. Maybe the so called Western people get told all the time that what we have is not good enough and that our childhood was really bad in comparison to how it should be and that is why we feel bad about it.
Your husband seems like a sensible man and I detect no bitterness despite what most would consider a difficult or deprived childhood. It just goes to show what love does, and he seems to have been happy and loved whilst growing up. What a wonderful attitude he has towards life.☕
His childhood sounds amazing to me in so many different ways. Running through the mountains with friends, breathing fresh mountain air, strong family bonds, eating a primarily plant based diet that I'm sure was grown without loads of pesticides like here in the US. Those are things every child should have but so many children are deprived of
When you are surrounded by poverty and everyone lives the same, there is nothing to be bitter about. He did not watch the Kardashians on tv and got made fun of for being poor. He lived life as is.
I kinda live in china too as a kid, my brother and i never felt deprived, we always felt so much joy and had so much fun even though there wrrent too much materials or toys we had to play with. We used nature, tree, water in the lake to enjoy ourselves. I am happy to say the 6 years of my childhood(6-12) were my happiest times as a person.
@@AtoZenLife yeah. I think your husband is handsome and a lovely husband too, and your boys are beautiful. Thanks for doing a video all about him, and bravo for both of your language abilities. At 21:31 that "drill" sounded like someone playing a note on a bassoon.
You two epitomize RESPECT. (For each other, your children, different cultures, the environment...everything). That is key, and I really loved seeing this!
I really respect your husband. As someone grew up poor, you usually would splash yourself with all the material things you can achieve to feed your craving from young but yet he is not. It is really not easy especially you have so much temptations around. I only see this value after I have reached this age. Thanks for your videos. I really enjoy it.
I'm Belgian, my husband is Japanese. We have been married for 30 years now! We have 3 lovely daughters and we are currently living in London. It's so interesting to share life with someone from a very different culture and background.
You two make a great couple. Mr Zen was brave to share his story. I grew up poor, as well. I didn't know we were poor until someone told me one day. I was probably 12 or 13. We always had love, food and a roof over our heads. Shame on that person who let the cat 🐈 out of the bag. 🛍️ 😢
I stopped doing everything I was doing immdiately when I saw THIS video on my notifications. I don´t know how he managed to tell the banana story without even getteing a teary eye. Such a moving story and makes me think so many things.... You are such a great couple, I hope you can accomplish your pinky promisse. All the best to you, guys!
I absolutely love happy intelligent couples that I can relate to. I could feel the love you have for each other, and i learnt a ton too. You'd be surprised at what a huge fan I am of yours . Lots of love💕
Your husband is such a character. Most asians are not so big with words. I'm glad that you get along. I love his childhood stories. Having less materials things does not make you poor. Happiness is what makes us rich.
Mr. Zen is a very good Man inside and outside. Wish there are more men like him. It is like introvert and extrovert. Two introverts are boring and two extroverts are crazy. You two are perfect like balancing each other.
Mr. Zen, your story is very inspirational. I grew up in Kansas City area and when I tell my children some of things I endured they did not believe me. My hoarding items are toilet paper and toothpaste, personal care items in general. I think the things I experienced as a child made me a stronger person today. Thanks for sharing.
Dear sweet universe, you two are SO cute. I started watching this video with nothing but an anxiety attack, a bowl of carrots, and a 1 hr lunch break and here I am 10 mins-in feeling calm, toasty, and vicariously joyful. I'm going to go call my hubby. Love you guys.
@@AtoZenLife I'd also love to hear more from him. As an oversea Chinese I always enjoyed stories of hardship from my great grandparents (retold by grannies). Granny often said it was that hardship that contributed us what we had today.
Lovely video ❤ Your Husband is a very nice man. I like his calmness and how sensible he is. I grew up poor, but lacked love, never knew my father, I can cope with poverty but at nearly 60 the lack of love and family is my constant companion. It truly is love that matters not possessions. Can I say that your Husband is also a handsome man with a lovely smile, his hairstyle and cut is very nice 😊 Wishing you both snd your beautiful children continued happiness ❤
Noticed this too because I also just watched the video about her own minimalism journey :) He already grew up kind of being "minimalist" but seemed like he didn't pressure her to quickly get rid of all the stuff when they started to live together. Instead, he walked along with her through her journey. So much respect between this couple. Marriage goals!
Enjoyed the video so much. I am Chinese. And the socks part make me cry. Back then, we got one new pair sock and one set of new cloths once a yr in Chinese’s new year. I am so impressed with your Chinese. Good job. I am so sure your German will be perfect in 5yrs. Love it.
You guys are great. I love when you said "I like you" he hugged you. He's literally hugging you showing you love in a "act" like the act of service sort of lol 😂
Wow..Mr. Zen is beautiful and so charming as well...so happy to be able to hear him share his story about his family... so happy that you did this video...I loved watching it 🍃
I am a Chinese diaspora, and your Mandarin puts me to shame. ❤ Thank you for all of your videos, you've been an inspiration to me and have made a significant difference in my life. 🙏
I live in S Cal, I pay $3600/month renting a two bed rooms condo. If he s paying $500 + and got his private room and shared kitchen and bathroom, it's not too bad at all. I like Mr Zen's attitude, he sounds calm and logical, like he s constantly practicing mindfulness :) and you re kind and cheerful, thoughtful and passionate, you two makes a great couple. Thanks for sharing
I don't usually comment on TH-cam videos. But this one was lovely! I am still crying!! I always thought I grew up poor, but this was beyond comprehending. You guys are amazing. Sending love and joy to both of you!!❤
I love the 5 love languages! I’m quality time and my husband is physical touch! It’s so helpful in a relationship to know which one you are! Great video! So nice to learn more about you and your husband!
OMG, I just feel in love with how adorable you guys are as a couple. And the love and respect you have for each other is such a beautiful thing to watch. Lol, the hair comments was so cute. I wish you both a looooong adventure of joy and love.. please never leave Utube Hugs n peace sent
This video/interview of your husband is nothing less than wonderful loving and a beautiful watch that actually brought me to tears. The way you related to each other...loved that he said he "never felt judged by you "and so many other expressions between you two. The countryside of China shown was really beautiful and wow- water buffalo-gentle giants that a child could actually ride.(I have a photograph on a card I bought many yrs ago and have had on a dresser "Buffalo Boy" by Gregory Lawler-so sweet- a buffalo lying in the water with a smiling brown skinned boy draped over him. It gives me a warm feeling whenever I look at it.) I just came across your videos today and I read below all the loving comments about this video with your husband. More than anything, I would wish to create a partnership with a man like Mr. Zen. Thankyou so much.
18:09 the whole mountain was your play ground. it souunds RICH in love, safety, nature, exercise, sunshine, rain, beauty, family., health...rich ...rich ...rich...rich 😊
Wonderful couple, enjoyed you sharing life and memories together. I can relate because of many parallels to my own story. Am Chinese and wife from London. I grew up in a poor rural village, no electricity. We got water from rainfall or a creek in the valley below. In fact, the village look similar to the one shown in this video. Parents had only elementary education. We were poor but I did not realize until later. Children do not realize they are poor until they meet richer people. Met my wife by chance in rural village when she was 22, graduated university, left home and traveling the world on a shoestring budget. We had nothing in common but enjoyed hanging out with each other. Not sure what she saw in me, but I admired her culture, independence, work ethic, compassion, responsible, good planner, social organizer, dependable, optimistic attitude. Here we are 50 yrs. later still happy together living in USA. I did not know her parents were wealthy until after we were married, and I visited their home 5 BR/5 bath one acre of land/tennis court in middle of London. Retired now but she worked in medical science, and I worked as an engineer and wealth management. Times have changed, our children became wealthier and better educated than us - as they should.
I admire his story, many people who have grew poor have a very strong value of many things, It Reflect their true sense of giving importance of simple things that many ignore. They are very resilient and a real survivor in many difficult situations. 🥰🥰🥰
This is such a delightful interview. Both of you make me smile and feel warm and fuzzy. You are a delightful couple and your sincere appreciation of each other completes and compliments both of you. I wish you many happy years into the future. Thank you for sharing your life with me.
It’s was so nice to see the two of you. Mr. Zen was very humble and honest. I was raised in Honduras and even though we were not poor, poor my parents always made us feel like we had a lot. Like Mr. Zen said the memories are what I treasure the most, they are priceless. Thank you for your advice and inspiration.
I don't comment a lot on videos, but this video is really touching. Mostly because you two are such a sweet couple. You seem so close and grounded in love. You guys are an image of couple goal. And you crying in your videos makes it so relatable. There are youtubers who seem to do fake crys for clicks, but you are so genuine and real and it's really touching and inspiring.
Lovely to see a mix marriages here. I’m Malaysian and my husband is Belgian. We are leaving in Malaysia. My husband lives in Malaysia for already 18 years. Our kids speak English, French, Dutch and learning Mandarin. I speak English, French, Dutch, Bahasa Malaysia and learning Mandarin. We are minimalist family as well. With the money that we saved we have been to so many places for holiday. Our children too are used to the lifestyle. We love experiences. We have been to Japan, Australia, Sri Lanka, China, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, Thailand, Indonesia, France, Belgium, Holland, Germany. people are shocked sometime to see how little things we have in our luggage when we travel. All the best with the German. I’m sure you will be able to speak in no time.
I grew up poor, so I'm watching for his viewpoint. There were a lot of kids and my parents weren't well educated. My dad was forced to quit school and work because his dad died when he was 12. My mom left school early, too. The Great Depression made them survivors. I'm the youngest. Comparing my poverty to his made us look rich. His growing up sounds like my parents during the Great Depression.
Really enjoyed this video it was nice to finally meet your husband. Marissa you and your husband are adorable 🥰 the hardships you both have endured in your life has definitely made you both very strong. I totally agree with your husband that actions speak louder than words. Love your channel!!!
I don't usually like this style of video, but I loved this! The couple's questions were cute, and I liked getting to know more about your husband! It sounds like he's lived a fascinating life!
This made me cry so much. Reminds me growing up. The fear of poverty stays with you. Even though I have money now, I still can’t stop fearing not having enough to support my family. That’s what my father taught me. Never stop working hard.
This was the most wonderful video. We're traveling in Mexico, so it took me a while to get to it, but oh, how special. I particularly loved the details about Mr. Zen's childhood. Poverty, yes, but also a lot of joy and happiness. I'm so grateful he was willing to be so vulnerable for us.
I read the 5 love languages, we both have two. I cried buckets because my husband of 41 years (46yrs together) has his love tank always full and mine is so dry and empty it is cracked. But marriage for me was not something I took lightly, so it's up to me to improve it and slowly, he has become better. I am half Chinese and half English and I married an Englishman. I have met a lot of resistence decluttering, but once it's done, he loves it. But as I only have one child (36yrs) 10,000+ miles away, I need to think about some poor soul coming in clearing out my "rubbish" when we go. Coming from a large family, I too know what it was like to do without in so many ways, but it just made me stronger and more resilient. My mother said I was a survivor.
I stayed too long in a marriage that hurt me, because I valued the concept of marriage more than I valued myself. I hope for a better situation for you.
Your husband is really handsome. I was like wow, he looked good when he was young but now he looks SO much better, he really is like fine wine. A 10/10 in looks. No wonder you fell for him.
Hello Marissa, I'm from Quebec city in Canada and english is not my first language, so sorry for my english faults. I would like to say that I really appreciate all your videos. The way you truly are, I know there is no fake stuff. I'm actually declutter my home before to sale it after 23 years of happy and sad moments and your videos and your many advices help me a lot to go through. Thank you very much and keep up your great work. You are very good in it. Aurevoir !
I was drown to ur channel to learn minimalism but had so much resonance with ur husband’s story as a Chinese myself, from China and grew up with poverty. I also had happy childhood with parents’ full love and accompany, later with their encouragement to US, and now I am also living in Europe. Both you and your husband’s stories are so touching, with hardship, poverty and grief, which made us appreciate more of our lives. BTW, your Chinese pronunciation is so authentic👍
I thought you put Zen after your name because of the peace that minimalism brings🤣🤣🤣 I am trying to get there! Thank you for sharing more of your life with us.
You two remind me so much of my own parents! My mother grew up in a Chinese village and after moving to the U.S, we have been practicing minimalistic principles ever since. Perspective is really all it takes sometimes to change your life.
It's usually those that grew up in economic hardship that truly appreciate the luxuries of modern living and not spending excessively. Comparatively speaking, living in a shed probably felt like five-star treatment when you were previously accustomed to using pailed mountain water and living in a shoebox.
Thanks Linda! If you haven’t already seen it, please go and give the latest video a like, because if we get to 10,000 likes he said he would do a declutter with me video 😆👍 th-cam.com/video/98DAHFO9l9g/w-d-xo.html
Daddy Zen has a beautiful, calm, soothing voice and presence. At first I thought you kept interrupting him, but I think that's just how the video is edited!
I'm not sure if it helps you, but we also have a near 100 year old home and in one squeaky room we replaced the top layer of the floor with plyable plastic floor that looks like a proper wood flood and feels fantastic to walk on. Anyhow it also made walking around much less noisy. This room is the upstairs living room and it really dampens the sound between the upstairs and downstairs. Bonus is that it was like 1500 dollars for the floor and the installation. It only took 45 minutes for the workers to cut the floor to perfectly fit the room. It's been two years and it's definitely my favourite floor material so far.
You guys are adorable!! I laughed when you were like, "it was love at first sight" and he was like "great" lol 5 Love Languages really helped our marriage as well!! It helped me understand hubby a lot better and vice versa. My love language is acts of service and my hubby's is physical touch, with words of affirmation a close second. Yay for FIRE!! I enjoyed learning a lot about you guys and meeting Plant Daddy Zen!!
You are such a beautiful couple. İts like you literally complete each other. Listening to Mr Zen lets me realise how ungrateful we are for the simple things in life. You both inspire me. İm trying to declutter but its taking time, and now i realise its not going to happen over night but its gonna get there eventually.
You are a lovely couple. Mr. Zen is so grateful, kind, and honest. God bless you both and your sons. Hope you have a great time in Italy...Rome, Florence, Venice, Siena.
Omg, The way you both smile at each other and the way your husband looks at you is so beautiful and romantic. I can see the love ❤️ and mutual respect and adoration you have for each other, WOW 🤩 I’m so grateful I found you today, I needed to see this. 🛐☯️💟
Just discovered your channel and love it. Hearing about the food / living situation for your husband’s family in China just made me burst into tears. I think he sounds very Arnie Schwarzenegger even when speaking English .
Okay, blown away by your language skills Marissa! Chinese is a notoriously difficult one to pick up isn't it? Also, the husband is a catch! What a sweetie + cutie. :) PS If you can learn Chinese for sure you can learn German. Ja! ;)
My very favorite way to learn languages is with Pimsleur. Not cheap (except from the library), but there's something about them teaching a word starting with the last syllable and working up to the first that leaves one with an impeccable accent.
Nice couple and family! Interestingly my first job after graduating from IIT was working for Siemens Medical Imaging Systems and lived in Schaumburg. But instead I moved to San Diego, the best weather in 48-state. I still enjoy it. The funny thing is that I have visited about 20 countries in Europe expect Germany. But I will come soon. I was born and grew up in Taiwan. My parents were from mainland.
I was so excited when this video popped up! We need a Plant Daddy video with a Plant Daddy t-shirt! I was surprised to see Mr. Zen appear as comfortable as he did in front of the camera. Thank you both for sharing such meaningful parts of your life with viewers. I found it inspiring. It was a true delight to watch you both together. I’d love to see a Q & A about your parenting styles.
I love Mr. Zen's story! I got to live in Taiwan China when I was 11 years old. I saw a lot of poor people and rich people. We lived in a American village but got to see a Chinese village in back of our houses. It was a experience I think every child should see. Please keep the video's coming ! Thank You!
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You two are so cute.
More than the five love languages, the empowered wife is great too!
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As a white woman married to an Asian man (Chinese/Vietnamese) and someone who lived in Asia for more than a decade (Japan), I noticed you said that your husband's love language is acts of service... I think that's the most common love language for Asian culture in general. Westerners like to say I Love You... Asians like to do something for you to show they love you. It seems to be a cultural norm. Do you think your husband would agree?
There are two types of poverty: one where there is a lack of family connectivity and one where there is a lack of monetary funds. Unfortunately I grew up experiencing both. It sounds like your husband lacked monetary wealth but certainly not family wealth. I have always thought my childhood would have been so much better if I had had a truly bonded family despite the lack of funds. Marissa, I can definitely see why you were drawn to this man. He is very handsome inside and out.
That’s a very insightful observation! Not everyone has the luxury of a closely bonded and loving family. ❤️ Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Well written comment TLW.
Same here! ❤️
I wonder though if you perceive family connectivity in the same way as people from other cultures do. Maybe the so called Western people get told all the time that what we have is not good enough and that our childhood was really bad in comparison to how it should be and that is why we feel bad about it.
I sooooo understand
"I never feel judged." How amazing to be able to say that.
....and rare.
Absolutely, that shone out for me too. So important
"I should get you a shirt that says Plant Daddy. Plant Daddy Zen." "I'd wear it." THIS MAN IS PRECIOUS
🤣🤣🤣 Isn’t he? 🪴👨🏻
Your husband is a breath of fresh air. Very humble and seems very kind!
Your husband seems like a sensible man and I detect no bitterness despite what most would consider a difficult or deprived childhood. It just goes to show what love does, and he seems to have been happy and loved whilst growing up. What a wonderful attitude he has towards life.☕
His childhood sounds amazing to me in so many different ways. Running through the mountains with friends, breathing fresh mountain air, strong family bonds, eating a primarily plant based diet that I'm sure was grown without loads of pesticides like here in the US. Those are things every child should have but so many children are deprived of
When you are surrounded by poverty and everyone lives the same, there is nothing to be bitter about. He did not watch the Kardashians on tv and got made fun of for being poor. He lived life as is.
I sometimes wish I grew up in poverty in India 🇮🇳 rather than grow up in opulence in the United States.
I kinda live in china too as a kid, my brother and i never felt deprived, we always felt so much joy and had so much fun even though there wrrent too much materials or toys we had to play with. We used nature, tree, water in the lake to enjoy ourselves. I am happy to say the 6 years of my childhood(6-12) were my happiest times as a person.
I know why u fell in love with ur husband...such a nice guy, well grounded, n no pretentious.. u guys deserve each other
Your husbands seems like a lovely man ❤️ I really like how complementary he is about you 😊
Well I think he is lovely, but I’m biased LOL. Thanks so much for your kind words and for watching. 🤗
@@AtoZenLife yeah. I think your husband is handsome and a lovely husband too, and your boys are beautiful. Thanks for doing a video all about him, and bravo for both of your language abilities. At 21:31 that "drill" sounded like someone playing a note on a bassoon.
Your husband seems so kind hearted and gentle. He has a great philosophy.
You two epitomize RESPECT. (For each other, your children, different cultures, the environment...everything). That is key, and I really loved seeing this!
Thanks so much, Jo! ❤️
I really respect your husband. As someone grew up poor, you usually would splash yourself with all the material things you can achieve to feed your craving from young but yet he is not. It is really not easy especially you have so much temptations around. I only see this value after I have reached this age. Thanks for your videos. I really enjoy it.
Oh my word - this was one of your BEST videos!! Your husband is too ADORABLE. You guys are too ADORABLE!! Such a fun chat. Thanks for sharing. 😄
Awww, thanks so much, Kristin! We had a lot of fun, glad you enjoyed it! 👍
Moral fiber is not cheesy; it's everything.
I'm Belgian, my husband is Japanese. We have been married for 30 years now! We have 3 lovely daughters and we are currently living in London. It's so interesting to share life with someone from a very different culture and background.
Mr. Zen is such a cool guy! He looks like he's very smart.
I think so, too. 😎
You two make a great couple. Mr Zen was brave to share his story.
I grew up poor, as well. I didn't know we were poor until someone told me one day. I was probably 12 or 13. We always had love, food and a roof over our heads. Shame on that person who let the cat 🐈 out of the bag. 🛍️ 😢
Oh dear! 😢 But it sounds like you had a happy home, which is something not even people with money can claim to have!
It was so interesting to hear your husband speak about his life. What a lovely man! You seem so well-suited.
Wow it was so cool to hear you speak Chinese, Marissa! And I looooved hearing what you love about each other and how you met. You guys are so cute! 💖
I stopped doing everything I was doing immdiately when I saw THIS video on my notifications. I don´t know how he managed to tell the banana story without even getteing a teary eye. Such a moving story and makes me think so many things.... You are such a great couple, I hope you can accomplish your pinky promisse. All the best to you, guys!
It’s always ME that gets ready eyed when he tells his stories. 😅 Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching, take care!
I absolutely love happy intelligent couples that I can relate to. I could feel the love you have for each other, and i learnt a ton too. You'd be surprised at what a huge fan I am of yours . Lots of love💕
Thank you so much for watching, and for your very kind words…waving from Germany 🇩🇪 👋
Your husband is such a character. Most asians are not so big with words. I'm glad that you get along. I love his childhood stories. Having less materials things does not make you poor. Happiness is what makes us rich.
Mr. Zen is a very good Man inside and outside. Wish there are more men like him. It is like introvert and extrovert. Two introverts are boring and two extroverts are crazy. You two are perfect like balancing each other.
That’s a keen observation! 🙌
Mr. Zen, your story is very inspirational. I grew up in Kansas City area and when I tell my children some of things I endured they did not believe me. My hoarding items are toilet paper and toothpaste, personal care items in general. I think the things I experienced as a child made me a stronger person today. Thanks for sharing.
Dear sweet universe, you two are SO cute. I started watching this video with nothing but an anxiety attack, a bowl of carrots, and a 1 hr lunch break and here I am 10 mins-in feeling calm, toasty, and vicariously joyful. I'm going to go call my hubby. Love you guys.
I read this out loud to my husband and it put a smile on both our faces! Have a great weekend. 😘
I love Mr Zen!!! Can we get him more often on the channel?! Love this video! And could he tell us more about his upbringing?!
I’m hoping we can! I will let him know we want more. 🪴👨🏻
@@AtoZenLife I'd also love to hear more from him. As an oversea Chinese I always enjoyed stories of hardship from my great grandparents (retold by grannies). Granny often said it was that hardship that contributed us what we had today.
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Lovely video ❤ Your Husband is a very nice man. I like his calmness and how sensible he is. I grew up poor, but lacked love, never knew my father, I can cope with poverty but at nearly 60 the lack of love and family is my constant companion. It truly is love that matters not possessions.
Can I say that your Husband is also a handsome man with a lovely smile, his hairstyle and cut is very nice 😊
Wishing you both snd your beautiful children continued happiness ❤
Your husband is exceptional. Truly.
I love the fAct that husband seemed patient while you were sorting out through your life getting rid of stuff. Great Qi& A
Noticed this too because I also just watched the video about her own minimalism journey :) He already grew up kind of being "minimalist" but seemed like he didn't pressure her to quickly get rid of all the stuff when they started to live together. Instead, he walked along with her through her journey. So much respect between this couple. Marriage goals!
Enjoyed the video so much. I am Chinese. And the socks part make me cry. Back then, we got one new pair sock and one set of new cloths once a yr in Chinese’s new year.
I am so impressed with your Chinese. Good job. I am so sure your German will be perfect in 5yrs. Love it.
An absolutely delightful, touching, loving video! Such a well-grounded couple.
Thank you so much Anne, take care. ✨
You guys are great. I love when you said "I like you" he hugged you. He's literally hugging you showing you love in a "act" like the act of service sort of lol 😂
That’s Mr Zen for you! 😆
Mr. Zen is so wise. Thank you to you both for sharing so much wisdom and to Mr. Zen for making the time.
"it was love at first sight - for me."
"Hahaha... Great."
LOL y'all are cute
Wow..Mr. Zen is beautiful and so charming as well...so happy to be able to hear him share his story about his family... so happy that you did this video...I loved watching it 🍃
I am a Chinese diaspora, and your Mandarin puts me to shame. ❤
Thank you for all of your videos, you've been an inspiration to me and have made a significant difference in my life. 🙏
It’s such a beautiful language. ☺️ Thanks so much for watching!
Mr.zen is humble patient and humble and the man he is today because of his parents upbringing EXPERIENCE. I luv how they make eachother laugh
I live in S Cal, I pay $3600/month renting a two bed rooms condo. If he s paying $500 + and got his private room and shared kitchen and bathroom, it's not too bad at all. I like Mr Zen's attitude, he sounds calm and logical, like he s constantly practicing mindfulness :) and you re kind and cheerful, thoughtful and passionate, you two makes a great couple. Thanks for sharing
Wow.. the struggles your husband has...yet he is so relaxed. Truly Zen moment.
You are both so respectful of one another which is so beautiful to see.
I don't usually comment on TH-cam videos. But this one was lovely! I am still crying!! I always thought I grew up poor, but this was beyond comprehending. You guys are amazing. Sending love and joy to both of you!!❤
My niece taught her children "travel not toys" the kids have been so many places and they have built so many memories.
I love the 5 love languages! I’m quality time and my husband is physical touch! It’s so helpful in a relationship to know which one you are! Great video! So nice to learn more about you and your husband!
Yes, this book is really a gem 💎. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts. 🙌
OMG, I just feel in love with how adorable you guys are as a couple. And the love and respect you have for each other is such a beautiful thing to watch. Lol, the hair comments was so cute. I wish you both a looooong adventure of joy and love.. please never leave Utube
Hugs n peace sent
This video/interview of your husband is nothing less than wonderful loving and a beautiful watch that actually brought me to tears. The way you related to each other...loved that he said he "never felt judged by you "and so many other expressions between you two. The countryside of China shown was really beautiful and wow- water buffalo-gentle giants that a child could actually ride.(I have a photograph on a card I bought many yrs ago and have had on a dresser "Buffalo Boy" by Gregory Lawler-so sweet- a buffalo lying in the water with a smiling brown skinned boy draped over him. It gives me a warm feeling whenever I look at it.) I just came across your videos today and I read below all the loving comments about this video with your husband. More than anything, I would wish to create a partnership with a man like Mr. Zen. Thankyou so much.
The story of how you met ❤️❤️❤️❤️
18:09 the whole mountain was your play ground. it souunds RICH in love, safety, nature, exercise, sunshine, rain, beauty, family., health...rich ...rich ...rich...rich 😊
I think it’s great they brought up how his mom brings them food…that’s such an expression of love when sharing food…
Wonderful couple, enjoyed you sharing life and memories together. I can relate because of many parallels to my own story. Am Chinese and wife from London. I grew up in a poor rural village, no electricity. We got water from rainfall or a creek in the valley below. In fact, the village look similar to the one shown in this video. Parents had only elementary education. We were poor but I did not realize until later. Children do not realize they are poor until they meet richer people. Met my wife by chance in rural village when she was 22, graduated university, left home and traveling the world on a shoestring budget. We had nothing in common but enjoyed hanging out with each other. Not sure what she saw in me, but I admired her culture, independence, work ethic, compassion, responsible, good planner, social organizer, dependable, optimistic attitude. Here we are 50 yrs. later still happy together living in USA. I did not know her parents were wealthy until after we were married, and I visited their home 5 BR/5 bath one acre of land/tennis court in middle of London. Retired now but she worked in medical science, and I worked as an engineer and wealth management. Times have changed, our children became wealthier and better educated than us - as they should.
The love and respect you have for each other is apparent and shines through this video. I wish you both love and happiness always.
I admire his story, many people who have grew poor have a very strong value of many things, It Reflect their true sense of giving importance of simple things that many ignore. They are very resilient and a real survivor in many difficult situations. 🥰🥰🥰
This is such a delightful interview. Both of you make me smile and feel warm and fuzzy. You are a delightful couple and your sincere appreciation of each other completes and compliments both of you. I wish you many happy years into the future. Thank you for sharing your life with me.
It’s was so nice to see the two of you. Mr. Zen was very humble and honest. I was raised in Honduras and even though we were not poor, poor my parents always made us feel like we had a lot. Like Mr. Zen said the memories are what I treasure the most, they are priceless. Thank you for your advice and inspiration.
I don't comment a lot on videos, but this video is really touching. Mostly because you two are such a sweet couple. You seem so close and grounded in love. You guys are an image of couple goal. And you crying in your videos makes it so relatable. There are youtubers who seem to do fake crys for clicks, but you are so genuine and real and it's really touching and inspiring.
Lovely to see a mix marriages here. I’m Malaysian and my husband is Belgian. We are leaving in Malaysia. My husband lives in Malaysia for already 18 years. Our kids speak English, French, Dutch and learning Mandarin. I speak English, French, Dutch, Bahasa Malaysia and learning Mandarin. We are minimalist family as well. With the money that we saved we have been to so many places for holiday. Our children too are used to the lifestyle. We love experiences. We have been to Japan, Australia, Sri Lanka, China, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, Thailand, Indonesia, France, Belgium, Holland, Germany. people are shocked sometime to see how little things we have in our luggage when we travel. All the best with the German. I’m sure you will be able to speak in no time.
That’s an amazing backstory 🤩
Blessed family, the man who is grateful for all he had and very loving woman ❤❤❤
I grew up poor, so I'm watching for his viewpoint. There were a lot of kids and my parents weren't well educated. My dad was forced to quit school and work because his dad died when he was 12. My mom left school early, too. The Great Depression made them survivors. I'm the youngest. Comparing my poverty to his made us look rich. His growing up sounds like my parents during the Great Depression.
Really enjoyed this video it was nice to finally meet your husband.
Marissa you and your husband are adorable 🥰 the hardships you both have endured in your life has definitely made you both very strong. I totally agree with your husband that actions speak louder than words. Love your channel!!!
Thanks so much for watching, Anna! It sounds like you are the “acts of service” love language as well? Or something else? Take care!
What a beautiful couple you are!!!! Ihr seid wirklich zu süß zusammen!! ❤❤❤
I don't usually like this style of video, but I loved this! The couple's questions were cute, and I liked getting to know more about your husband! It sounds like he's lived a fascinating life!
Thanks so much!
This made me cry so much. Reminds me growing up. The fear of poverty stays with you. Even though I have money now, I still can’t stop fearing not having enough to support my family. That’s what my father taught me. Never stop working hard.
This was the most wonderful video. We're traveling in Mexico, so it took me a while to get to it, but oh, how special. I particularly loved the details about Mr. Zen's childhood. Poverty, yes, but also a lot of joy and happiness. I'm so grateful he was willing to be so vulnerable for us.
He indeed sounds like Schwarzzeneger but way much more handsome and charming. Feature him more often pls so we will watch more even the commercials!!!
It's encouraging to see such a happy couple who gets on well.
I read the 5 love languages, we both have two. I cried buckets because my husband of 41 years (46yrs together) has his love tank always full and mine is so dry and empty it is cracked. But marriage for me was not something I took lightly, so it's up to me to improve it and slowly, he has become better. I am half Chinese and half English and I married an Englishman. I have met a lot of resistence decluttering, but once it's done, he loves it. But as I only have one child (36yrs) 10,000+ miles away, I need to think about some poor soul coming in clearing out my "rubbish" when we go. Coming from a large family, I too know what it was like to do without in so many ways, but it just made me stronger and more resilient. My mother said I was a survivor.
I stayed too long in a marriage that hurt me, because I valued the concept of marriage more than I valued myself. I hope for a better situation for you.
Your husband is really handsome. I was like wow, he looked good when he was young but now he looks SO much better, he really is like fine wine.
A 10/10 in looks. No wonder you fell for him.
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Your husband is so lucky to have you as his wife!👩❤👨
Your husband is so cool and calm. Much love send from Berlin, Germany to you two and to your family.
Hello Marissa, I'm from Quebec city in Canada and english is not my first language, so sorry for my english faults. I would like to say that I really appreciate all your videos. The way you truly are, I know there is no fake stuff. I'm actually declutter my home before to sale it after 23 years of happy and sad moments and your videos and your many advices help me a lot to go through. Thank you very much and keep up your great work. You are very good in it. Aurevoir !
Tu écris très bien en anglais je trouve. 😊
@@DHang-fh1gp Merci beaucoup, c'est gentil. Tu es aussi en période de désencombrement ?
That was super interessting. You guys are amazing and such a sweet couple ♥
I was drown to ur channel to learn minimalism but had so much resonance with ur husband’s story as a Chinese myself, from China and grew up with poverty. I also had happy childhood with parents’ full love and accompany, later with their encouragement to US, and now I am also living in Europe. Both you and your husband’s stories are so touching, with hardship, poverty and grief, which made us appreciate more of our lives. BTW, your Chinese pronunciation is so authentic👍
I thought you put Zen after your name because of the peace that minimalism brings🤣🤣🤣 I am trying to get there! Thank you for sharing more of your life with us.
Lol 😂😂
You two remind me so much of my own parents! My mother grew up in a Chinese village and after moving to the U.S, we have been practicing minimalistic principles ever since. Perspective is really all it takes sometimes to change your life.
Mr. Zen might have lack material things, but yet he was lavish in an organic, happy, family oriented life.
It's usually those that grew up in economic hardship that truly appreciate the luxuries of modern living and not spending excessively. Comparatively speaking, living in a shed probably felt like five-star treatment when you were previously accustomed to using pailed mountain water and living in a shoebox.
Everything is relative, right?
What a lovely man! Loved this video so much. More please 🍵🍵🍵
Thanks Linda! If you haven’t already seen it, please go and give the latest video a like, because if we get to 10,000 likes he said he would do a declutter with me video 😆👍 th-cam.com/video/98DAHFO9l9g/w-d-xo.html
Daddy Zen has a beautiful, calm, soothing voice and presence. At first I thought you kept interrupting him, but I think that's just how the video is edited!
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I'm not sure if it helps you, but we also have a near 100 year old home and in one squeaky room we replaced the top layer of the floor with plyable plastic floor that looks like a proper wood flood and feels fantastic to walk on. Anyhow it also made walking around much less noisy. This room is the upstairs living room and it really dampens the sound between the upstairs and downstairs. Bonus is that it was like 1500 dollars for the floor and the installation. It only took 45 minutes for the workers to cut the floor to perfectly fit the room. It's been two years and it's definitely my favourite floor material so far.
Thank you Mr. Zen for sharing with us!
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He's got a great voice.
Does have the Arnie edge to the sound.
Have an excellent life together!
That flashback was sooo funny 😅 still, you two seem to get along so well! Good for you! 😊
It’s actually scary how well that flashback fit into the video LOL… totally unplanned. 😂 Thanks for watching and take care!
@@AtoZenLife You're very welcome! Well, that fit perfectly, proving how right you were 😀 You too take care, you are so sweet 💕
Lovely husband ! Thank you for bringing him on. 😊
You guys are adorable!! I laughed when you were like, "it was love at first sight" and he was like "great" lol
5 Love Languages really helped our marriage as well!! It helped me understand hubby a lot better and vice versa. My love language is acts of service and my hubby's is physical touch, with words of affirmation a close second.
Yay for FIRE!! I enjoyed learning a lot about you guys and meeting Plant Daddy Zen!!
Hahaha, so many revealing moments. 😂 Thanks so much for watching, Tasha!
You are such a beautiful couple. İts like you literally complete each other. Listening to Mr Zen lets me realise how ungrateful we are for the simple things in life. You both inspire me. İm trying to declutter but its taking time, and now i realise its not going to happen over night but its gonna get there eventually.
You are a lovely couple. Mr. Zen is so grateful, kind, and honest. God bless you both and your sons. Hope you have a great time in Italy...Rome, Florence, Venice, Siena.
Omg, The way you both smile at each other and the way your husband looks at you is so beautiful and romantic. I can see the love ❤️ and mutual respect and adoration you have for each other, WOW 🤩 I’m so grateful I found you today, I needed to see this. 🛐☯️💟
You two are adorable. Mr. Zen’s story is very interesting and eye opening. Thank you for sharing. And he does have very nice hair! 😄
Just discovered your channel and love it. Hearing about the food / living situation for your husband’s family in China just made me burst into tears. I think he sounds very Arnie Schwarzenegger even when speaking English .
"Low maintenance but particular" seems to be a description of Mr. Zen. 😅 And I love Marissa' bubbly personality. 😊 Tfs
Okay, blown away by your language skills Marissa! Chinese is a notoriously difficult one to pick up isn't it? Also, the husband is a catch! What a sweetie + cutie. :) PS If you can learn Chinese for sure you can learn German. Ja! ;)
It's so beautiful to see how you love each other❤
Thank you for your kind words. 🙏☺️
@@AtoZenLife ❤🌷
Hoping to hear more from Mr. Zen- more about his life in China
Thanks, Reba! 🙌
What concepts/money wise are you teaching your kids?
My very favorite way to learn languages is with Pimsleur. Not cheap (except from the library), but there's something about them teaching a word starting with the last syllable and working up to the first that leaves one with an impeccable accent.
Wonderful interview! You are a great couple and a lovely family. Amy possibility of meeting the larger family group and hear their stories too?
It’s a possibility! Thanks for watching. ❤️
Nice couple and family!
Interestingly my first job after graduating from IIT was working for Siemens Medical Imaging Systems and lived in Schaumburg. But instead I moved to San Diego, the best weather in 48-state. I still enjoy it. The funny thing is that I have visited about 20 countries in Europe expect Germany. But I will come soon. I was born and grew up in Taiwan. My parents were from mainland.
I was so excited when this video popped up! We need a Plant Daddy video with a Plant Daddy t-shirt! I was surprised to see Mr. Zen appear as comfortable as he did in front of the camera. Thank you both for sharing such meaningful parts of your life with viewers. I found it inspiring. It was a true delight to watch you both together. I’d love to see a Q & A about your parenting styles.
I love Mr. Zen's story! I got to live in Taiwan China when I was 11 years old. I saw a lot of poor people and rich people. We lived in a American village but got to see a Chinese village in back of our houses. It was a experience I think every child should see. Please keep the video's coming ! Thank You!
Awesome couple and your husband is wonderful ❤
Your husband was so blessed to grow up that way
Thoroughly enjoyed this video. Your husband is a very sweet human.
Your hubby not only good looking he is such a wonderful , no ill feelings towards anyone.
Lucky u.
Cheers