Hey women, once heard, “The treasure doesn’t chase the hunter”❣️ I’ve tried to manipulate situations but then this saying bonked me over the head!!!❣️😘
@@midnightclearschannel8344 yes he is, because i dreamt about him, and when i woke up, i had joy and Jesus, whose portrait is above my bed, told me "He is my choice for you" .
It was yesterday's video that did it for me! When he talked about the woman in a small church setting who didn't want the fact that she liked a guy to get around...I was like this is LITERALLY EXACTLY what I'm going through right now!
Story of my life. I painfully walked away from a man I loved so much, who had no plans of pursuing me. After years of God maturing my view on marriage, today im dating someone who I wouldn't have dated years ago but is an amazing friend. Thank God for every disappointment
This video is probably for me too at this point in time. It is hard to accept the possible truth that the man I like doesn't have interest in me so I have to let go of the feelings I have for him and let God heal my heart. 😢
GOD WILL HEAL YOUR HEART! I’ve been there! I thought my daughter’s dad was going to be my husband. I wanted to force it so bad. GOD HAD WAYYYY BETTER PLANS AND EXCEEDED MY EXPECTATIONS. PLEASE TRUST HIM. IT GETS BETTER. I know what it feels like when you really want someone and don’t feel like anyone else can compare, JUST TRUST IN GOD. I PROMISE.
This is exactly what Im going through right now! 1:09 Waiting for someone that I wish could be my husband, but God knows what is best for me. We corresponded for months, and he expressed interest, but then he decided to just stay friends. I was hurt and confused, and hoped he would come back around, but i think i need to accept the fact that he's not the one for me.
exactly, maybe he is also sent to test you, in order for God to see if you are serious enough, if you truly changed, and if you are, thus, ready to receive the real blessing.
@@georgiana7857GOD doesn't need to test us to see our hearts. He already knows what's in our heart. The enemy tests us to see our true motives. Is it to glorify GOD or the devil? ❤
True... I remember this young woman who wanted to marry this guy absolutely and asked us to pray for that although there were problems between them, and she did marry him but after, came back to ask for prayers to save her marriage because it wasn't working...God is good even when we are wrong...
#3 was such a hard one for me to accept!! But as a drew closer to the Lord, I lost the desire to reopen that closed door. When I finally had my gaze fully on God, He blessed me with more than I could ever ask for! I have been following this channel over a year now and it has been a huge part of building my faith and letting go of dead end relationships. Please listen to Mark, the Holy Spirit speaks through him and if you’re here that means you are supposed to hear this message! Good luck to you all ❤️
I can relate my ex who we have been on and off texted me out of no where he has a baby on the way but trying to meet up because I am visiting his state and I stopped him in his tracks he's now upset and I feel low like I really cared for him but I saw the real him.
My Goodness Mark.. One of the reasons I fell in love in my man Is because of his love for God.. We share things spiritually.. Soon to be with him..Looking forward to his Bible Study Group.. 🙏
Isn’t it divine how I was so in love with him despite all the red flags? And now when I think about him I feel a sense of disgust and irritation. What he’s done and said somehow turned me off. I just don’t view him in the same light anymore whereas before I only saw him for the potential.
I know this so well.... we "dated" the potential...... Ironically I know for myself I dated the person he COULD have been. Spiritual blindness is real and once my spiritual sight was restored, the truth was for lack of another term was nauseating. I learned much and thank God for the protection and trusting for the provision of a God fearing man. Becoming more Christ like during the waiting period and rebuilding my relationship with God.
True......both my mother and father are so completely different 🙂they never would have imagined someone like that (different countries/ nationalities, personalities etc etc...), and yet...God wanted them together. AMEN :)
That's awesome I think when it comes down to what really matters, same faith, values and mutual respect all those others differences really don't matter
Your videos are so relatable... I was interested in a guy from my church. He was patient, kind, someone I really admired. I've known him for more than a year. But something seemed wrong, and God told me to be blameless, and I didn't understand what was happening. And then it turns out that he has a secret commitment with a teenager.....I was so surprised and so, so sad. He's already commited to date her in the future??? I never thought of something like this. Once he held my hand while I was sitting next to her, I felt so sad the day after that and didn't know why..... God is so good for telling me to be blameless and wait. I had no idea what was happening, but God knew and didn't want me getting hurt.
Please keep an eye out on this situation. It's not even if it's just a significant age gap (10+ years), but if there's strong sexual vibes from one or both, a strong power dynamic at play (for example, he's a youth leader over her), there’s clear and present signs of abuse, and/or she's currently under the legal age of consent in your area (most places are 16, others are 18), then PLEASE make sure that you put a stop to the relationship and call the older man out! I get it. True love doesn't know age. When you truly love someone, as in you want what's best for them and are even willing to lay down your life for them, then that's a good thing regardless of age. But when it comes to romantic and even sexual relationships, that should only ever be the case when BOTH partners are of the legal age of consent! And people that prioritize the romance and sex over the true love DO NOT truly love their partners and are likely to take advantage of their partner whether they intend to or not. I say this as a 27 year old male youth leader for 10-13 year old kids who has had high school girls develop strong crushes on me during my ministry at church, and had a mother who was a victim of sexual abuse when she was 16 and got involved with an older man at her church. There's so much that can go wrong in the situation you described even if they both truly love one another and both have the best intentions in mind. And girls that age deserve to be treated well and protected regardless of their emotions or romantic inclinations, and deserve NOT to be exposed to potential romantic or sexual relationships that are straight-up illegal! So if you see ANYTHING illegal happening, or find evidence that there is abuse or bad stuff going on in the relationship, then PLEASE call them both out!
@@The4Tifier thank you so much for saying that. I'm still so shocked. The church took him out of all his functions. There's no kissing or anything like that, but there are messages between them, and it is really wrong. It's not love, it's not romantic.... It's normal for a teenager to admire a leader, but he should've stop that immediately. People tried to warn him about it for months, and he still wasn't able to see how bad it is even answering her messages. If there was anything physical, it would be criminal. I'm so sorry for your mom....
@@analuizadossantos9041 If they had private communications, then it was good for that to be shut down as soon as possible; especially since she was still underage. And yes, unfortunately for my mom she came from a bad family background and was of legal age when it happened (it was 14 at the time). So it really all messed her up. That’s why as a youth leader I take these kinds of things seriously. I don’t want any young girl’s story to be the same as my mother, or any of the stories of so many young girls who did get abused by an older man.
@@The4Tifier I appreciate your concern, and God appreciates it so much more. Those limits are there for a reason. When they're taken away, the Spirit of God is also gone... I hope yor mom finds healing for her wounds.
@@analuizadossantos9041 Unfortunately, she never did. The bitterness and anger from her childhood stayed with her into adulthood, and she never got help for it. It inevitably resulted in her physical and mental health rapidly declining, until her immune system essentially shut down in her 50’s and she died of leukemia. That never would have been her life had the men in her life been better than they were. If they actually cared about her, and didn’t take advantage of her, that wouldn’t have been her life. And in a way, I’m a victim of them as well. Because their abuse to her turned into abuse from her towards me. That’s why, as a youth leader who has influence over younger kids and teens, I ensure that I am a positive influence on those kids, and I never turn out like the men who failed my mother.
I hope this is a message for men too because I've known a few couples when the man wasn't interested in the woman at first then God gives them a desire for that woman.
Didn’t know that men ever changed their mind. 😂 thought it was a done deal if he doesn’t like a woman from the start. I don’t think it’s healthy or wise for the woman to be in a state of pining after a man that doesn’t like her. She needs to move on and if that guy is detained to be her husband he will turn back around. But a woman shouldn’t hold out hope for that and just live her life. That’s probably why those men changed their mind. The woman stopped paying them mind and the man picked up on that she was focusing on her and not him, so he came back around
Yes it's possible for a man who is not interested to become interested I know because of experience on the behalf of the stories from my friends. God doesn't force us to do anything but if the uninterested man is the ordained husband meant to be with the woman that has feelings for him then God will give him a desire for her.
@@Tatianarain that probably what happened with the friends that told me their story before they got married. Their women probably you didn't pay much attention to them anymore
This is true. When God matures us in our relationship with a man we have feelings for, who loves us, God will make sure both parties are fully present and capable of suffering, as well as experiencing joy, to prove the union to both.
I thoroughly enjoyed this post! Although I am NOT seeking anyone and am currently 'hidden', I strongly believe that #4 applies to me, I feel it in my spirit. Granted that I haven't met anyone yet, all of my guy friends are married, so I know that it does not apply to any of them. Don't know who this man is yet but I know that the LORD will present him to me very soon and I declare that in the name of Jesus. Amen
That’s right I thank God for protecting me from this devil 😈 and i didn’t sleep with him with in 3 weeks I got the red flag 🚩 when a gay comes and try to control you that’s when I say good bye 👋 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 and blocked my door 🚪 is always closed that’s all I needed to see thank you for your channel this helps a lot of women out there to wake the hell up 😁
You are still young, don't worry, keep sharing your thoughts and feelings with the Lord, you can bring the same matter to Him over and over and He will absolutely hear you and be there for you
#4 hits home for me big time. After getting out of a scary, abusive relationship, I told myself I wouldn't date again, just have friends. I met my now bf and realized one day he had become my best friend, though I had no romantic interest in him. Then I had a vision of us getting married in church one day and suddenly was hit with romantic feelings towards him. The next day he asks me out and tells me he was given the go ahead in prayer right after I had the vision. That day I truly believed God's timing is always right.
Can you do a topic on retroactive jealousy, the anxiety and pain associated with finding out about someone’s sexual past? It’s something I struggled with big time and it hit me like a truck, all of the thoughts and Satan preyed on that to cause mental torment. I feel a lot of men and women go through this… it’d be interesting to hear your perspective.
There’s a pastor that married virgin and his wife had a sexual past. He had dealt with the same thing as you, until he was finally honest and he confessed that, in all this time that he was a virgin, he was actually watching porn and self pleasuring himself. It has helped him get over himself and understand that God didn’t say anywhere in the Bible only perfect people can get married, as there is no one perfect out there. If God has forgiven her, then who is he to judge her, when himself was living in a horrible sin. He had to work a lot on himself and kill his ego and the feeling of superiority towards his wife, but now they are both fine and closer to each other than ever. They just had a baby as well. I hope this helps.
I understand this feeling, but the thing is that we all have a past. Your purity doesn't come from sexual past, or lack thereof... your purity comes from Jesus.
Do not dig into things you cannot handle. Why must anyone dig into someone's sexual past? How can that help? The older you are, the more past you have. What is important is whether the person at present is changed, renewed in Christ. If the person cannot accept you, that's not the person for you. Likewise, if you cannot accept someone, you are not the person for him / her. Satan is a liar
This is all about my ex. I stayed single for him convinced he would come back and waited for him to pursue to and he never did. My bf now makes me feel so calm, and I love him for his character. I wonder if the saying is true that the men who you have crushes on or give you butterflies are not the one.
Sometimes, things don't work out with that person you are interested in, or circumstances separate you from them, or you face rejection simply because God has another plan for you, or that person is not the right fit for you and your calling. Remember, rejection is not personal and your value and worth never diminishes regardless of the choices of others
I just got the clearest “No” I could have gotten about a man I had tried to be with for a second time. It is heartbreaking because we both apparently wanted to be together and I might even love him. It is me who knows this, God has given me enough signs and explicit answers about how I should be with someone that will share with me spiritually, so I am currently carrying the burden of figuring out how to close this door. I rejoice knowing God has someone more aligned to my ministry and life, but I am really sad and a little anxious about the decisions I must make in the near future. Prayers appreciated!
Thank you so much brother Mark 🙏🤍✨️❤️ The Holy Spirit is truly talking through you 🥲🙏🤍✨️... I give thanks to the Lord for you (Phillipians 1:3). May God continue to bless your ministry 🙏🤍✨️. Thank you so much ❤
Thanks Mark! 😊 Yes, enjoying the person for who they are. God always knows best. Allow God change your feelings. Lot's 😊😊😊of good knowledge and wisdom.
I definitely want to marry a real man that God has for me. I prayed to God that my future husband has all the qualities of him. Even accepting that nothing is impossible for God. That's one of the qualities I admire in God, alongside many others. I'm still praying and accepting that nothing is impossible for God. "It is possible for one who believes" Màrk 9:23
I definitely also don't want to marry a Budhist, nor an Astrologist, because both worship idols. I don't want a man that worships Idols. I want a man that worships God and God only. Not the world. I don't want be married to a man that doesn't love me, either. I also don't want someone who's disrespectful, judgemental, misogynistic, arrogant, abusive, former criminal, none of that. Not even a former substance addict will suffice, period.
So what is romantic interest then if not emotional connection? I only ever develop what I think is romantic interest after developing an emotional connection through normal non-dating interactions. Emotional connection is the first form of attraction for me not the physical. If there is no emotional connection, the person is totally indifferent to me. I don't have a lot of lists except compatibility so I always thought that the person I would be with would have to be my age. I also thought that the person would not have been previously married. What is you opinion, would God ever send us someone who is divorced?
What if you don’t recognize the signs until it’s too late? What if there are two guys? One you like better than the other one. How can you tell which one is the right one without hurting either one of them? One of them knows you like them because you talk a little bit and said things to each other. The other one might know that you don’t like them as much as the other one.
True! I asked God why I dont have romantic feelings when I did for the ones who were terrible for me. He reminded me that I asked Him to not let my feelings form too soon and overtake me. That's what usually gets me in trouble. This is so much better! Im mire sober in my thinking as nd able to make realistic controlled decisions. Im able yo take my time to seek the Lord. In my last situation I feel like I was literally drowning in emotions. It was scary and I almost didn't know who I was.
Right after getting out of church, some guy who I don’t even know via by name asked me to be his girlfriend, and I told him, does he have a relationship with Jesus? He laughed and went on about my business. On the side note, I put my list on the medium, and also, I fear for the guy safety because of my older brother.
I’m curious would the same apply if it was reversed? For men in some sense, like, would there be a case where my future wife is not who I think she is?
Mark is such a blessing, all glory and praises to God❤️ This channel has truly been a blessing to me❣️ PS-Lord where is my husband? May you order his steps so he can find me🥹I’ll continue waiting🤷🏾♀️
If we really submit to God, our list is his will for us and this will be according to Romans 12:2 In other words, do not let yourselves be conformed to the standards of the ‘olam hazeh. Instead, keep letting yourselves be transformed by the renewing of your minds; so that you will know what God wants and will agree that what he wants is good, satisfying and able to succeed. 🤗 Peace and blessings. May God bless and save everybody who is reading this in Yeshuas mighty Name 🙌🏼🤗
It doesn’t seem to make sense to equate whether someone is really “submitted” to God just because we may or may not be attracted to “whom God wills for us.” So many Christians are not even sensitive to God’s leading in mundane things and you want to critique whether someone is following God in this very important area?? A lot of people hear, imagine or misinterpret what the Holy Spirit is saying so it is very illogical to equate these things.
@@Trinitytruth7 God bless and save you. 🤗 Thank you for sharing your point of view. I shared mine in the comment you are talking about. It wasn't my intention to be somebody's shepherd. Only the LORD is our shepherd accordingly to Psalm 23.
Hi great video *! Im in a long very relationship ,and we never get to marriage all fall out . we are together, but there is no true blessings in life, no kids, no financy, friendship etc... we are just ''surviving'', I was very young wen we started and then he even didint want a relationship. He was good person , but immature, unstable he's avoidant type. Im empath secure. When I started to follow Jesus, he changed. And after two years we are celibate, cause God called for pureness, and now new guy approaching, who is godly man character, even husband material ,we meet and when started Bible study we were so connect emotionally that is scary, I never supposed to happen with someone except my boyfriend, Im so overwhelmed and doubtfull,
Can a divorced woman remarry? I'm still stuck on Mark 10:11 & Matthew 5:32. I don't want to do something outside of God's Will for me. Please break this down for me.
According to 1 Corinthians 7, the answer is no as only death dissolves the marriage bond, not divorce. Divorcées are legally divorced, but still married in the Lord’s eyes. As a single woman, I discovered this the hard way after being involved with a divorced man for awhile until the Holy Spirit convicted me with Scripture and I broke it off 2 years ago.
YES! You can remarry. The blood covenant covers all things! Leave your past behind in the freedom Jesus offers and receive the new spouse God could have for you!
I am a bit confused. I have qualities I pray over, for a man I want to be my husband. Without knowing who fits that description. A person comes after either with or without such qualities. I hope the track I'm on is right.
Me too. I don't want him to have bad qualities. Or an idol worshipper. Like a budhist or an Astrologist, a former criminal, or arrogant, either. Or anything else.
I had a crush on one of the guys in my church, until I heard him tell a married woman that she was “the best looking woman here!” Thank you for your message! ❤
I have been waiting for the female human being for over 14 years ( ordained), to make matters worse, there are young and beautiful women trying to approach me and I have to passively reject , it’s exciting and frustrating.
Mark, thanks for this video. I know I'm digressing, but I hope it's not inappropriate to ask for some straight speak about an elephant that has occupied the room for a while. I keep hearing creepy guys saying things like, "women past a certain age have to settle, you're too old to realistically get the guy of your dreams," or, "at your age, you won't get the luxury model, settle for a used (divorced) model." These creepy comments come from guys with issues who are projecting them onto women, and they're not coming from a Biblical vantage point. However, I'd really love some Biblically valid wisdom. Is there an age where the paradigm shifts from "finding THE ONE" God has for you to "finding someone, just to be marrying somebody, because that's as good as it gets?" I get sad that I didn't get married, and I don't know is God even made someone for me. I'm not looking to meet someone. I do have other dreams, and it makes me sad to think life has passed me by. Thank you if you can give me wisdom.
And the other set of women actually want a man of CHARACTER! So both sides should actually allow God to build our character in this season of waiting. A waiting season isn’t a wasted season 🙌🤍
As a woman, I'm not so bothered about the money side but would be more concerned about a workaholic or a man with a love of money. Yes, character takes time tis true, but I'm now 50, how much time does a guy need to build enough character... I admire you both for looking at yourselves to see how to prepare. I'm back to preparing in a different way, continuing to develop character. The waiting room is certainly lonely at times
@@cherithcampbell1157 true but also God won't make decisions for you as believers the belief of him being a jennie is false worship. He will open doors for you but you have to still open them just like Joanah and the whale
I have no guy in my head...I'm just believing one day I'll met him. Hard to meet an equally yoked man because they don't go to these church within the church...only woman or married couples.
I believe my list is simple: 1. Must be a born again Christian. 2. Must have work ethic. 3. Must be disciplined. 4. I have to actually be attracted to the person.
How about changing number 4 to "I will become attracted if he's my person." My husband was not my type, but after I had peace in my spirit that He was God's Will for me, he grew on me. Now he's the handsomest man I know!
It’s because the Bible’s wisdom always has something to say that there is an inexhaustible wealth of wisdom to work through. (Proverbs 25:2, Romans 11:33)
Im 54, guys my age are looking for younger girls…. So it’s kinda hard, & I don’t like older men… so what does that leave us women my age?… I tried online dating, most of these guys had high standards… so I was done…😒
Stop believing in God and beg him for something, wait around instead believe like God, believe like it already happened and be content and thankful, don't dwell on the case no more. Be like God because you are invited by Jesus to do so! Stop with that nonsense of praying for the right husband, become right first.
Mark, I would really like your take on this topic if possible. So, the man I'm off and on seeing is a Virgo zodiac sign.(hear me out I DO NOT follow horoscopes or anything like that) I started noticing that this man's pursuit was different very subtle and slower than what I've experienced before. So, I found another TH-cam creator online (J Whitfield) who talks about how Virgo men are very different from other men when it comes to those things. Do you think its possible for things to look differently from a "traditional" man's pursuit? Are there some actions that women should look for that are universal from men? Thank you.
Sis, please know if you don’t follow horoscopes, it is best not to identify characteristics based on a zodiac sign as God advises us NOT to! What I did was sit down and right down All of the characteristics/traits of a Godly Man from the best source- The Bible. From this viewpoint, you’ll be able to viable if the man is for you as well as pray to God to reveal the Man’s true intentions!! I pray this helps!
If he is a true man of God, he doesn’t identify with any demons, he identifies with Christ. Our identity is in Christ, nothing else. Zodiac signs are demons. Leave that behind before you even think to get married, it’s a huge sin. You are looking for answers in the wrong places and hoping you are gonna find what you want to hear.
Hey women, once heard, “The treasure doesn’t chase the hunter”❣️ I’ve tried to manipulate situations but then this saying bonked me over the head!!!❣️😘
I met a man who i would never have chosen, but he is the best of all i have met in my life.
Do you think he's the one, sister?
@@midnightclearschannel8344 yes he is, because i dreamt about him, and when i woke up, i had joy and Jesus, whose portrait is above my bed, told me "He is my choice for you" .
Are you stalking my life? Your videos are so relatable 😊
My goodness, me too! Lol
😂😂I know! I totally feel like this, too. It's our amazing God who led us to follow Mark's videos.
😂😂😂 tooooo relatable
It was yesterday's video that did it for me! When he talked about the woman in a small church setting who didn't want the fact that she liked a guy to get around...I was like this is LITERALLY EXACTLY what I'm going through right now!
Lol
Story of my life. I painfully walked away from a man I loved so much, who had no plans of pursuing me. After years of God maturing my view on marriage, today im dating someone who I wouldn't have dated years ago but is an amazing friend. Thank God for every disappointment
Ok. T y
I’m just praying for a man that God picked not I picked cause I feel like finding a husband is impossible but nothing is impossible when you ask God 🙏
This video is probably for me too at this point in time. It is hard to accept the possible truth that the man I like doesn't have interest in me so I have to let go of the feelings I have for him and let God heal my heart. 😢
Is clarity harder in relationships now that it was for our ancestors?
@@midnightclearschannel8344 I don't know, to be honest.
@jelenahristov4094 The Lord bless you and keep you! He has your future husband picked out for you already
@@midnightclearschannel8344 I hope so. Thank you for the encouragement. 🙂
GOD WILL HEAL YOUR HEART! I’ve been there! I thought my daughter’s dad was going to be my husband. I wanted to force it so bad. GOD HAD WAYYYY BETTER PLANS AND EXCEEDED MY EXPECTATIONS. PLEASE TRUST HIM. IT GETS BETTER. I know what it feels like when you really want someone and don’t feel like anyone else can compare, JUST TRUST IN GOD. I PROMISE.
This is exactly what Im going through right now! 1:09
Waiting for someone that I wish could be my husband, but God knows what is best for me.
We corresponded for months, and he expressed interest, but then he decided to just stay friends. I was hurt and confused, and hoped he would come back around, but i think i need to accept the fact that he's not the one for me.
Or if he pursues you but is trying to pull you back into sin...that's a no!
exactly, maybe he is also sent to test you, in order for God to see if you are serious enough, if you truly changed, and if you are, thus, ready to receive the real blessing.
@@georgiana7857GOD doesn't need to test us to see our hearts. He already knows what's in our heart. The enemy tests us to see our true motives. Is it to glorify GOD or the devil? ❤
True... I remember this young woman who wanted to marry this guy absolutely and asked us to pray for that although there were problems between them, and she did marry him but after, came back to ask for prayers to save her marriage because it wasn't working...God is good even when we are wrong...
Wow! Thanks for this ❣️
#3 was such a hard one for me to accept!! But as a drew closer to the Lord, I lost the desire to reopen that closed door. When I finally had my gaze fully on God, He blessed me with more than I could ever ask for!
I have been following this channel over a year now and it has been a huge part of building my faith and letting go of dead end relationships. Please listen to Mark, the Holy Spirit speaks through him and if you’re here that means you are supposed to hear this message! Good luck to you all ❤️
not goodluck but God bless, sister ☺️❤️
Sometimes I wish I could get right to the blessings in life, but I need the lessons so much
I can relate my ex who we have been on and off texted me out of no where he has a baby on the way but trying to meet up because I am visiting his state and I stopped him in his tracks he's now upset and I feel low like I really cared for him but I saw the real him.
My Goodness Mark..
One of the reasons I fell in love in my man
Is because of his love for God.. We share things spiritually.. Soon to be with him..Looking forward to his Bible Study Group.. 🙏
Isn’t it divine how I was so in love with him despite all the red flags? And now when I think about him I feel a sense of disgust and irritation. What he’s done and said somehow turned me off. I just don’t view him in the same light anymore whereas before I only saw him for the potential.
I know this so well.... we "dated" the potential...... Ironically I know for myself I dated the person he COULD have been. Spiritual blindness is real and once my spiritual sight was restored, the truth was for lack of another term was nauseating. I learned much and thank God for the protection and trusting for the provision of a God fearing man.
Becoming more Christ like during the waiting period and rebuilding my relationship with God.
True......both my mother and father are so completely different 🙂they never would have imagined someone like that (different countries/ nationalities, personalities etc etc...), and yet...God wanted them together. AMEN :)
That's awesome I think when it comes down to what really matters, same faith, values and mutual respect all those others differences really don't matter
Your videos are so relatable...
I was interested in a guy from my church. He was patient, kind, someone I really admired. I've known him for more than a year. But something seemed wrong, and God told me to be blameless, and I didn't understand what was happening.
And then it turns out that he has a secret commitment with a teenager.....I was so surprised and so, so sad. He's already commited to date her in the future??? I never thought of something like this. Once he held my hand while I was sitting next to her, I felt so sad the day after that and didn't know why.....
God is so good for telling me to be blameless and wait. I had no idea what was happening, but God knew and didn't want me getting hurt.
Please keep an eye out on this situation. It's not even if it's just a significant age gap (10+ years), but if there's strong sexual vibes from one or both, a strong power dynamic at play (for example, he's a youth leader over her), there’s clear and present signs of abuse, and/or she's currently under the legal age of consent in your area (most places are 16, others are 18), then PLEASE make sure that you put a stop to the relationship and call the older man out!
I get it. True love doesn't know age. When you truly love someone, as in you want what's best for them and are even willing to lay down your life for them, then that's a good thing regardless of age. But when it comes to romantic and even sexual relationships, that should only ever be the case when BOTH partners are of the legal age of consent! And people that prioritize the romance and sex over the true love DO NOT truly love their partners and are likely to take advantage of their partner whether they intend to or not.
I say this as a 27 year old male youth leader for 10-13 year old kids who has had high school girls develop strong crushes on me during my ministry at church, and had a mother who was a victim of sexual abuse when she was 16 and got involved with an older man at her church.
There's so much that can go wrong in the situation you described even if they both truly love one another and both have the best intentions in mind. And girls that age deserve to be treated well and protected regardless of their emotions or romantic inclinations, and deserve NOT to be exposed to potential romantic or sexual relationships that are straight-up illegal!
So if you see ANYTHING illegal happening, or find evidence that there is abuse or bad stuff going on in the relationship, then PLEASE call them both out!
@@The4Tifier thank you so much for saying that. I'm still so shocked. The church took him out of all his functions.
There's no kissing or anything like that, but there are messages between them, and it is really wrong. It's not love, it's not romantic.... It's normal for a teenager to admire a leader, but he should've stop that immediately. People tried to warn him about it for months, and he still wasn't able to see how bad it is even answering her messages.
If there was anything physical, it would be criminal.
I'm so sorry for your mom....
@@analuizadossantos9041 If they had private communications, then it was good for that to be shut down as soon as possible; especially since she was still underage.
And yes, unfortunately for my mom she came from a bad family background and was of legal age when it happened (it was 14 at the time). So it really all messed her up.
That’s why as a youth leader I take these kinds of things seriously. I don’t want any young girl’s story to be the same as my mother, or any of the stories of so many young girls who did get abused by an older man.
@@The4Tifier I appreciate your concern, and God appreciates it so much more. Those limits are there for a reason. When they're taken away, the Spirit of God is also gone...
I hope yor mom finds healing for her wounds.
@@analuizadossantos9041 Unfortunately, she never did. The bitterness and anger from her childhood stayed with her into adulthood, and she never got help for it.
It inevitably resulted in her physical and mental health rapidly declining, until her immune system essentially shut down in her 50’s and she died of leukemia.
That never would have been her life had the men in her life been better than they were. If they actually cared about her, and didn’t take advantage of her, that wouldn’t have been her life.
And in a way, I’m a victim of them as well. Because their abuse to her turned into abuse from her towards me.
That’s why, as a youth leader who has influence over younger kids and teens, I ensure that I am a positive influence on those kids, and I never turn out like the men who failed my mother.
I hope this is a message for men too because I've known a few couples when the man wasn't interested in the woman at first then God gives them a desire for that woman.
Really? That is amazing. I'm sure they had great stories to share
Didn’t know that men ever changed their mind. 😂 thought it was a done deal if he doesn’t like a woman from the start. I don’t think it’s healthy or wise for the woman to be in a state of pining after a man that doesn’t like her. She needs to move on and if that guy is detained to be her husband he will turn back around. But a woman shouldn’t hold out hope for that and just live her life. That’s probably why those men changed their mind. The woman stopped paying them mind and the man picked up on that she was focusing on her and not him, so he came back around
Yes it's possible for a man who is not interested to become interested I know because of experience on the behalf of the stories from my friends. God doesn't force us to do anything but if the uninterested man is the ordained husband meant to be with the woman that has feelings for him then God will give him a desire for her.
@@Tatianarain that probably what happened with the friends that told me their story before they got married. Their women probably you didn't pay much attention to them anymore
This is true. When God matures us in our relationship with a man we have feelings for, who loves us, God will make sure both parties are fully present and capable of suffering, as well as experiencing joy, to prove the union to both.
I thoroughly enjoyed this post! Although I am NOT seeking anyone and am currently 'hidden', I strongly believe that #4 applies to me, I feel it in my spirit. Granted that I haven't met anyone yet, all of my guy friends are married, so I know that it does not apply to any of them. Don't know who this man is yet but I know that the LORD will present him to me very soon and I declare that in the name of Jesus. Amen
I relate so much with the 'death grip on expectations'. Sometimes that is the first thing to let go. Thank you, Mark!
That’s right I thank God for protecting me from this devil 😈 and i didn’t sleep with him with in 3 weeks I got the red flag 🚩 when a gay comes and try to control you that’s when I say good bye 👋 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 and blocked my door 🚪 is always closed that’s all I needed to see thank you for your channel this helps a lot of women out there to wake the hell up 😁
You hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣, but thank God for his protection.
I want to believe this but sometimes i have a hard time believing God does have someone for me. I'm 44.
Why not I’m 44 too I believe I will get married again 😂
Praying for you!
@@mandy7168prayed for you too! In Jesus mighty name!
You are still young, don't worry, keep sharing your thoughts and feelings with the Lord, you can bring the same matter to Him over and over and He will absolutely hear you and be there for you
Thanks Mark for this message, FYI #1 is posted twice, #2 post was not shown but it's ok ppl can listen to it.
#4 hits home for me big time. After getting out of a scary, abusive relationship, I told myself I wouldn't date again, just have friends. I met my now bf and realized one day he had become my best friend, though I had no romantic interest in him. Then I had a vision of us getting married in church one day and suddenly was hit with romantic feelings towards him. The next day he asks me out and tells me he was given the go ahead in prayer right after I had the vision. That day I truly believed God's timing is always right.
I got chills reading this.
this is so amazing. I got chills too.
Can you do a topic on retroactive jealousy, the anxiety and pain associated with finding out about someone’s sexual past? It’s something I struggled with big time and it hit me like a truck, all of the thoughts and Satan preyed on that to cause mental torment. I feel a lot of men and women go through this… it’d be interesting to hear your perspective.
There’s a pastor that married virgin and his wife had a sexual past. He had dealt with the same thing as you, until he was finally honest and he confessed that, in all this time that he was a virgin, he was actually watching porn and self pleasuring himself. It has helped him get over himself and understand that God didn’t say anywhere in the Bible only perfect people can get married, as there is no one perfect out there. If God has forgiven her, then who is he to judge her, when himself was living in a horrible sin. He had to work a lot on himself and kill his ego and the feeling of superiority towards his wife, but now they are both fine and closer to each other than ever. They just had a baby as well. I hope this helps.
I understand this feeling, but the thing is that we all have a past. Your purity doesn't come from sexual past, or lack thereof... your purity comes from Jesus.
Well put. So deep. Nobody is perfect. Don't exalt yourself because you didn't sin like they sinned. No one is complete
@@AndreaAnderco
Do not dig into things you cannot handle. Why must anyone dig into someone's sexual past? How can that help? The older you are, the more past you have. What is important is whether the person at present is changed, renewed in Christ.
If the person cannot accept you, that's not the person for you. Likewise, if you cannot accept someone, you are not the person for him / her. Satan is a liar
This is all about my ex. I stayed single for him convinced he would come back and waited for him to pursue to and he never did. My bf now makes me feel so calm, and I love him for his character. I wonder if the saying is true that the men who you have crushes on or give you butterflies are not the one.
Sometimes, things don't work out with that person you are interested in, or circumstances separate you from them, or you face rejection simply because God has another plan for you, or that person is not the right fit for you and your calling. Remember, rejection is not personal and your value and worth never diminishes regardless of the choices of others
I just got the clearest “No” I could have gotten about a man I had tried to be with for a second time. It is heartbreaking because we both apparently wanted to be together and I might even love him. It is me who knows this, God has given me enough signs and explicit answers about how I should be with someone that will share with me spiritually, so I am currently carrying the burden of figuring out how to close this door. I rejoice knowing God has someone more aligned to my ministry and life, but I am really sad and a little anxious about the decisions I must make in the near future. Prayers appreciated!
Thank you so much brother Mark 🙏🤍✨️❤️ The Holy Spirit is truly talking through you 🥲🙏🤍✨️... I give thanks to the Lord for you (Phillipians 1:3). May God continue to bless your ministry 🙏🤍✨️. Thank you so much ❤
Thanks Mark! 😊
Yes, enjoying the person for who they are.
God always knows best. Allow God change your feelings. Lot's 😊😊😊of good knowledge and wisdom.
Remember the fruits of God's Holy Spirit. There is wheat amongst the tares.
On time God!❤❤❤❤❤❤
Master I will be waiting for you still
Siiirrr why are you watching me 😂😂 I would love to see my future husband if it's even in my dream clear clear
I definitely want to marry a real man that God has for me. I prayed to God that my future husband has all the qualities of him. Even accepting that nothing is impossible for God. That's one of the qualities I admire in God, alongside many others. I'm still praying and accepting that nothing is impossible for God. "It is possible for one who believes" Màrk 9:23
I definitely also don't want to marry a Budhist, nor an Astrologist, because both worship idols. I don't want a man that worships Idols. I want a man that worships God and God only. Not the world. I don't want be married to a man that doesn't love me, either. I also don't want someone who's disrespectful, judgemental, misogynistic, arrogant, abusive, former criminal, none of that. Not even a former substance addict will suffice, period.
Right now l am in so much confusion for over a month now.l have never felt like this .
The 1st point is absolute truth!
So what is romantic interest then if not emotional connection? I only ever develop what I think is romantic interest after developing an emotional connection through normal non-dating interactions. Emotional connection is the first form of attraction for me not the physical. If there is no emotional connection, the person is totally indifferent to me. I don't have a lot of lists except compatibility so I always thought that the person I would be with would have to be my age. I also thought that the person would not have been previously married. What is you opinion, would God ever send us someone who is divorced?
Ofc
@@YeshuaKingMessiah I don't understand...
@@anemation8661 ofc of course
Great video, Mark. Points 4 & 5 really stood out. Some great wisdom there. God bless 🙏🏾
I threw my list out the window.
What if you don’t recognize the signs until it’s too late? What if there are two guys? One you like better than the other one. How can you tell which one is the right one without hurting either one of them? One of them knows you like them because you talk a little bit and said things to each other. The other one might know that you don’t like them as much as the other one.
True! I asked God why I dont have romantic feelings when I did for the ones who were terrible for me. He reminded me that I asked Him to not let my feelings form too soon and overtake me. That's what usually gets me in trouble. This is so much better! Im mire sober in my thinking as nd able to make realistic controlled decisions. Im able yo take my time to seek the Lord. In my last situation I feel like I was literally drowning in emotions. It was scary and I almost didn't know who I was.
Im 43 yo and Im single for 15 years and praying but nobody's pursuing me haha! Where r they ?
Right after getting out of church, some guy who I don’t even know via by name asked me to be his girlfriend, and I told him, does he have a relationship with Jesus? He laughed and went on about my business. On the side note, I put my list on the medium, and also, I fear for the guy safety because of my older brother.
I am clueless. Although i keep getting teased the Narcissist is it but it does not add up!❤❤❤
The second point actually strikes a lot of cord. And its very true
Brother your contain is Spot on!
God is good all the time.
Amen! I want my next man to have boaz qualities ! 🙏🙏🙏💯❤️
I’m curious would the same apply if it was reversed? For men in some sense, like, would there be a case where my future wife is not who I think she is?
Rick Warren’s Marriage Testimony. would you Look at his testimony and comment on that please? Thank you so much for all you do!
So timely. Brilliant, Mark.
Thank you for your encouragement! I love watching these videos. Always appreciate your words of wisdom☺
Mark is such a blessing, all glory and praises to God❤️ This channel has truly been a blessing to me❣️
PS-Lord where is my husband? May you order his steps so he can find me🥹I’ll continue waiting🤷🏾♀️
If we really submit to God, our list is his will for us and this will be according to Romans 12:2 In other words, do not let yourselves be conformed to the standards of the ‘olam hazeh. Instead, keep letting yourselves be transformed by the renewing of your minds; so that you will know what God wants and will agree that what he wants is good, satisfying and able to succeed. 🤗 Peace and blessings. May God bless and save everybody who is reading this in Yeshuas mighty Name 🙌🏼🤗
It doesn’t seem to make sense to equate whether someone is really “submitted” to God just because we may or may not be attracted to “whom God wills for us.” So many Christians are not even sensitive to God’s leading in mundane things and you want to critique whether someone is following God in this very important area?? A lot of people hear, imagine or misinterpret what the Holy Spirit is saying so it is very illogical to equate these things.
@@Trinitytruth7 God bless and save you. 🤗 Thank you for sharing your point of view. I shared mine in the comment you are talking about. It wasn't my intention to be somebody's shepherd. Only the LORD is our shepherd accordingly to Psalm 23.
Amen
Hi great video *! Im in a long very relationship ,and we never get to marriage all fall out . we are together, but there is no true blessings in life, no kids, no financy, friendship etc... we are just ''surviving'', I was very young wen we started and then he even didint want a relationship. He was good person , but immature, unstable he's avoidant type. Im empath secure. When I started to follow Jesus, he changed. And after two years we are celibate, cause God called for pureness, and now new guy approaching, who is godly man character, even husband material ,we meet and when started Bible study we were so connect emotionally that is scary, I never supposed to happen with someone except my boyfriend, Im so overwhelmed and doubtfull,
Can a divorced woman remarry? I'm still stuck on Mark 10:11 & Matthew 5:32. I don't want to do something outside of God's Will for me. Please break this down for me.
According to 1 Corinthians 7, the answer is no as only death dissolves the marriage bond, not divorce. Divorcées are legally divorced, but still married in the Lord’s eyes. As a single woman, I discovered this the hard way after being involved with a divorced man for awhile until the Holy Spirit convicted me with Scripture and I broke it off 2 years ago.
YES! You can remarry. The blood covenant covers all things! Leave your past behind in the freedom Jesus offers and receive the new spouse God could have for you!
@@Patrice4931 The word of the Lord is clearer than the noonday sun on this topic. Only death dissolves the marriage, not divorce. Jude 1.
God has a good plan for you! He will bring you His plan in His perfect timing! Don't lose courage
I can imagine how you may feel. But the Bible is clear, only death dissolves a marital union.
Lean on God dear sis, He will comfort and help you 🙏🏽
I am a bit confused. I have qualities I pray over, for a man I want to be my husband. Without knowing who fits that description. A person comes after either with or without such qualities. I hope the track I'm on is right.
Thank you Mark for posting this. Its what I'm going through right now!
Excellent timing like always Mark!
I just want him to be a Christian who puts God first. For him to not be into politics and for him to love me.
I trust God to lead us to each other
Me too. I don't want him to have bad qualities. Or an idol worshipper. Like a budhist or an Astrologist, a former criminal, or arrogant, either. Or anything else.
I had a crush on one of the guys in my church, until I heard him tell a married woman that she was “the best looking woman here!” Thank you for your message! ❤
Oh my God....Amen
This video was so good and informative thank you! Very eye opening…
I have been waiting for the female human being for over 14 years ( ordained), to make matters worse, there are young and beautiful women trying to approach me and I have to passively reject , it’s exciting and frustrating.
U go pursue
U do not wait
She is waiting
He who FINDS a wife…
Oh my this was me.
Mark, thanks for this video. I know I'm digressing, but I hope it's not inappropriate to ask for some straight speak about an elephant that has occupied the room for a while. I keep hearing creepy guys saying things like, "women past a certain age have to settle, you're too old to realistically get the guy of your dreams," or, "at your age, you won't get the luxury model, settle for a used (divorced) model." These creepy comments come from guys with issues who are projecting them onto women, and they're not coming from a Biblical vantage point. However, I'd really love some Biblically valid wisdom. Is there an age where the paradigm shifts from "finding THE ONE" God has for you to "finding someone, just to be marrying somebody, because that's as good as it gets?"
I get sad that I didn't get married, and I don't know is God even made someone for me. I'm not looking to meet someone. I do have other dreams, and it makes me sad to think life has passed me by. Thank you if you can give me wisdom.
I am having difficulty understanding the difference between an emotional connection and a romantic connection?
and is it possible to start loving one person, and other person you are in relationship also love but more like a child or brother?
Why God sent man then dontbtext or call got heart broken
I believe he is stalking MY life…
This is amazing
Mark with the reality 😅
I'm 54. I am not holding out much hope.
lol I don't have a perfect guy I gave up on that.........
Nobody cane to my mind actually 😂
Hmmm interesting perspective 😊
Amen 🙏✝️🙏🧡😇🕊️
Does this go both ways, as well?
Sometimes us men have to work on ourselves in order to pursue women, since most women want a man who makes alot of money
And the other set of women actually want a man of CHARACTER! So both sides should actually allow God to build our character in this season of waiting. A waiting season isn’t a wasted season 🙌🤍
As a woman, I'm not so bothered about the money side but would be more concerned about a workaholic or a man with a love of money.
Yes, character takes time tis true, but I'm now 50, how much time does a guy need to build enough character...
I admire you both for looking at yourselves to see how to prepare. I'm back to preparing in a different way, continuing to develop character. The waiting room is certainly lonely at times
@@cherithcampbell1157 but it wouldn't be if you were to screen the right man when you were younger, women have all the power in dating.
Well part of my story is that I have a promise from God that there's an appointed time. And so I trust + wait + prepare...
@@cherithcampbell1157 true but also God won't make decisions for you as believers the belief of him being a jennie is false worship. He will open doors for you but you have to still open them just like Joanah and the whale
Sorry but this one is just confusing to me …???
Amen 🙏🙌🙏
I've watched so many of these videos over months and months and there is nothing that I have found to be helpful. It's all.maybe or you might.
I have no guy in my head...I'm just believing one day I'll met him. Hard to meet an equally yoked man because they don't go to these church within the church...only woman or married couples.
I believe my list is simple: 1. Must be a born again Christian. 2. Must have work ethic. 3. Must be disciplined. 4. I have to actually be attracted to the person.
How about changing number 4 to "I will become attracted if he's my person." My husband was not my type, but after I had peace in my spirit that He was God's Will for me, he grew on me. Now he's the handsomest man I know!
@@leilawilliams8175I absolutely agree
#2 hits hole
It’s because the Bible’s wisdom always has something to say that there is an inexhaustible wealth of wisdom to work through. (Proverbs 25:2, Romans 11:33)
YEEEESSSSSS
My ex husband treats me better cares
Amen
Im 54, guys my age are looking for younger girls…. So it’s kinda hard, & I don’t like older men… so what does that leave us women my age?… I tried online dating, most of these guys had high standards… so I was done…😒
Do you have a good church to attend or study?
Stop believing in God and beg him for something, wait around instead believe like God, believe like it already happened and be content and thankful, don't dwell on the case no more. Be like God because you are invited by Jesus to do so! Stop with that nonsense of praying for the right husband, become right first.
Mark, I would really like your take on this topic if possible. So, the man I'm off and on seeing is a Virgo zodiac sign.(hear me out I DO NOT follow horoscopes or anything like that) I started noticing that this man's pursuit was different very subtle and slower than what I've experienced before. So, I found another TH-cam creator online (J Whitfield) who talks about how Virgo men are very different from other men when it comes to those things. Do you think its possible for things to look differently from a "traditional" man's pursuit? Are there some actions that women should look for that are universal from men? Thank you.
Sis, please know if you don’t follow horoscopes, it is best not to identify characteristics based on a zodiac sign as God advises us NOT to! What I did was sit down and right down All of the characteristics/traits of a Godly Man from the best source- The Bible. From this viewpoint, you’ll be able to viable if the man is for you as well as pray to God to reveal the Man’s true intentions!! I pray this helps!
If he is a true man of God, he doesn’t identify with any demons, he identifies with Christ. Our identity is in Christ, nothing else. Zodiac signs are demons.
Leave that behind before you even think to get married, it’s a huge sin. You are looking for answers in the wrong places and hoping you are gonna find what you want to hear.
But I'm a guy 😂😂😂
Lol
Amen