Truly, I am too, but this situation changed A LOT when I just deleted my insta account. It was a brave action that I did, but I don't regret it. I personally didn't need it. Now I have only TH-cam, Snap (just to take photos) and Pinterest
"Buy less, choose well, make it last." - Vivienne Westwood agree, I started following designers more and realize that it helps me find my taste in fashion. It doesn't bother me anymore if I couldn't afford those things because I was inspired on 'how I can dress' instead of how 'should' I dress (following trends) that I'm not even comfortable to wear. I think fashion is a matter of how long can you use your wardrobe and simply mix and match what you have.
I love Vivienne Westwood so much. I always wore their clothes around and to hangouts with friends but I was always criticized for being too much and trying to hard or having a weird style because of the bright colours but now everyone seems to be liking her again and i'm being asked how long I've had my clothes and how pretty they are. Times really change 😭😭.
thank you for bringing me back to reality, it is so silly to always have the need to have a “label”. like no i’m not coquette downtown girl aesthetic, im me
I notice this constant cycle of a new trend appearing, fast-fashion brands starting to market it and then because fast-fashion brands are marketing it, it is no longer cool and instead is viewed as cheap. This happens with every trend nowadays and it's why I don't really follow trends anymore and instead wear classic items mostly and leave it to the color combinations and textures of clothing to give my style an edge.
One of the things I hate about aesthetics is that they try and box you in. I always found myself worrying about which hobbies or parts of myself I would have to give up to be in an aesthetic which is just terrible! We are all too unique and multifaceted to truly be one aesthetic and that’s a great thing!!
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK‼️‼️ honestly the whole aesthetics thing is a really poorly veiled attempt at trying to water people down into one dimensional caricatures of "themselves" almost like a shittily written character and honestly it sucks real bad
These trends ruined me 2 years ago, I completely lost my sense of identity, dropped all my hobbies and just made TikTok’s in my room attempting to keep up with the latest trends. I was so addicted in trying to fit in, and I didn’t realize it then but I was so unhappy and sad. At one point I kind of realized how addicted I was to TikTok and these trends so I deleted the app all together. It’s been two years and I haven’t redownloaded it since. When I look to trends now and how people act as a result of them, I honestly cringe. Like genuinely, what the hell is deer pretty? I’m so much happier now, I invest all my time in learning and doing hobbies. I don’t even care about my appearance anymore, I dress comfortably and completely stopped wearing makeup. If I could, I would tell everyone to delete the app. It literally BRAINWASHES people and it is so sick. If you think you’ll miss out on anything, trust me you won’t . The trends that stick you’ll hear about it one way or another and the ones that don’t (which are most these days) you won’t miss out on anyway because they will last a week. DELETE TIKTOK!
I don't know you and still I feel so proud of you as I read this! It's a lot that's difficult to snap out of AND it's easy to fall back into.. I also deleted everything and stopped wearing makeup, etc. What that did is allow me to actually just feel good in my own skin finally and to feel content, which is soooo unprofitable for all these companies haha
I never had TikTok and hearing stuff like this makes me so grateful I never got it, it would have messed me UP! I’m so glad you managed to rediscover your hobbies and live your life for yourself!!!😊
omg i needed to hear this so much. Thank you, ive been off social media for a month and it's been such a lonly journey 😢 I want to ask how do you dealt with loosing or finding friends that will support you in this?
also the whole classifications of “cores” and “aesthetics” lead a lot of young teen girls (like myself) to believe sticking to one aesthetic and conforming yourself to that is the only option. I’ve seen so many people comment “What aesthetic is this?” like bro it’s just cool clothes or the original posters personal style no need to add a label for everything
fr, every single time I go on pinterest there are people who ask "what's the name of this aesthetic?" under any photo or a piece of clothing. One time I came across a photo of a girl on the stairs covering her face and someone asked this stupid question, it's hilarious yet concerning.
Another scary thing is that chronically online people are obsessed with those microtrends and cores, they literally are building their entire personalities and looks based on this... Some are afraid of following their true desires and views, like, it's ok to enjoy different things and dress up however you want. Once I saw a photo of a mullet cut and one girl seriously asked whether it'd go along with her 'dark feminine energy' aesthetic...
@@dariaesh yeah and it’s really sad because in a year when the microtrend is “out” those clothes end up in landfills and the cycle continues by more people buying the new trend😓disgusting
Thank you, I'm a teen girl, and you really opened my eyes. The only problem is that everybody has social media, and if you try to be unique, you get haters for trying to 'hard' or trying to be 'different'. ALOT of it is probably caused by peer pressure. You earned a new sub
As a 22 yo girl, I deleted IG app and snapchat from my phone, I only limit my acc to very very close people, and I only follow people I enuoy their content which for me is artists, at first getting off IG and Snapchat felt overwhelming but honestly I barely miss it nowadays and my friends got used to it and when we meet they show me their pictures which honestly feels much healthier to me than viewing someone else's life thru a screen. Basically do what you believe cuz this is what really matters
People are creating new "aesthetic" everyday and some are basically the same but with different names lol. It makes people believe they can only like certain things to fit in that aesthetic. Like, voluntarily putting yourself in a box. We can like multiple things with some being the opposite of each other
you can really tell how ppl needed this video by the comment. nothing makes me die on the inside more than when people see a cool outfit and go like "what aesthetic is this? what's the name of this style?" like pls be fr
1:42 this is so real because people randomly started separating everything in “aesthetics” after the tumblr era, and its so upsetting to see that it is still a thing to this day because at the time i was just 11-12 years old, i am 18 now and i remember vividly how bad i felt because i couldn’t find an aesthetic that fully felt like myself. i cant help but wonder how many young girls or boys feel pressured to find a “core” to represent them and stick to at all times when they can just be themselves and be however they want to be perceived as, especially when tiktok is so critical about styles that arent seen more regularly
I remember when glowing up meant looking after your mental health, working on yourself such as working out and eating better, using products that ACTUALLY work for your skin, keeping your ownership to minimum (not living minimistically, but, living within your means and decluttering what is stressing you/etc), basically being a you you love and adore - it was a way to find *yourself*, learn who you are, and enhance that whilst also working on things you weren't happy with and now it's some trend used to make people feel inferior... I'm at the point I've deleted all social media other than like one app to talk to my piercer/tattooist and that's it now. It's so sad to see what the internet has become in the past years.
SOO TRUEEE "it's important to see beauty besides social media and besides fashion" PREACH. the way people are so hella focused on fashion trends and social media that they have LOST sense of what is the beauty TO THEM. like what YOU find beautiful? what YOU think looks good and interesting? not them other people not them companies trying to sell you smth but YOU? you're so so right about that and i think people now have forgotten to buy clothes for them not only look in trend but look how they need to look how they want to look, just them and for them
My 2nd year of Uni's gonna start in a few days and the whole last month I was hyperfixated on buying new clothes and wear according to my "personal style". I bought a few stuff like tops, jewellery and shoes. For a long time I have been obsessed with mary janes so I decided to buy a pair of dupes, and after I did I tried wearing it and I got hit by reality so bad. I didn't like how it looked on me and wasn't going with my overall "style". Thats when I realised how much hyperfixated I was in getting a glow up and leveling up my style while I completely ignored my "personal style". I love baggy jeans because it doesn't touch my skin and I have sensory disorder but what I was trying to buy were "skin tight" flared jeans. That is why it hit me that I was just following trends instead of what makes me feel good and myself. Now I am returning the stuff that I bought and trying to not force a "glow up" on me when I don't even need it. :)
ahh i relate to thiss so muchhh, and im going into my second year of uni too! Hope u get a bunch of clothes that make u feel good, and good luck with uni :D
Oh my god, I am so glad videos like this started appearing, honestly I always felt something weird about those trends and just something so stupid, I got quickly sick of it but I feel so damn sad that teens who shouldn't have watched that stuff that was at first for adults and now they will just go after anything
i downloaded tiktok last summer after not having it on my phone for like a year and a half, and i was dumbfounded because the landscape had completely changed. it was so shocking that every other video was a girl saying she’s insecure about something or girls envying people’s literal genetics. one of the most baffling things i saw was the expression being used of “putting makeup on a pig”, and the idea of not feeling like beauty(or true beauty) is achievable even with makeup. at face value, this doesn’t feel related to the aesthetification of style and fashion and makeup, but would it be so crazy to propose its a coping thing. idk but this topic has been on my mind since redownloading tiktok and great video xx
i completely agree w/ everything you said in this video! i hate seeing videos titled as "how to find your style and stick with it" because we should be able to wear whatever! we dont need to stick to one certain style/aesthetic
i thought it was a big problem not having a single aesthetic to fit in. thanks god i ended up in this video. thank you girl to open my eyes to a completely different perspective
I loved how you point out these “cores” make you feel as though you are dressed up, or wearing a costume. That’s a great way to describe it. I feel like all too often the clothes don’t suit me, but are rather fueled by the hope of me fitting in some kind of category. Great video!
nooo waittt but the glow up trend got me out of my depressive rut!!!! obv not following standards or fast fashion or wtv js nitpicking what i like.. IT HELPS IF U HAVE THE RIGHT MINDSET!!!!!???? I THINK??
everything u said was correct and I 100% agree it's so hard to realize these things are happening to us and how easily we get influenced nowadays everyone is dressing the same and has the same aesthetics no one is being themselves I miss when everyone was different and had there own identity.
but since COVID-19, social media became more popular and now it's causing little kids to be influenced by these lifestyles, which reduces their creativity and chance to find their own identity because they are trying to have the perfect lifestyle they see online.
At the beginning of this june i was trying to glow up. by exercising, dieting, dressing "better" and trying so many care products. i started to feel bad in two weeks because i didn't feel pretty qnd genuinely happy so i realized something balance is so important. sometimes you HAVE to eat an unhealthy hamburger and then a salad to make yourself happy, then you take a long walk so you feel energetic. You don't need to diet all the time, you don't need to look good all the time, you don't need to wake up early on holidays, you don't need to give effort on your look all the time if you're comfortable. I'm going with the flow now and I'm feeling better. No one needs to glow up, especially if you are a minor. I just wanted to share. I love the video. Cheers
THIS!!!!!i always feel the need to fit myself in a box- so that i can stereotype myself as one of the million aesthetics we read about. i keep reminding myself that its more important to just be me, but man all of this is pressurising in a way. thank you for talking about this.i appreciate it.
i remember wearing a brown puffer with squiggly designs (when it was in) and people judged it because it was new and it was different. It was an up and coming trend that people didn't know much about until people started to wear it. So this perspective of me trying something new and people perceiving it was odd that I was wearing it, also shows that trends appear suddenly and then go away suddenly as well.
My idea of a glow up is me doing the things I’ve wanted to do for ages!! Like finally buying certain skin cares, taking care of my hair better, buying the clothes I! Wanted! In my mind glow ups are a you goal. Not some trends people expect you to follow. It legit been psychologically proven that if you are 100% perfect ppl WILL find you unnerving and boring. THIS WAS PROVEN BTW. If you look perfect, perfectly symmetrical, and like everyone else people will find how you look as low-key boring. People prefer, feel more comfortable with people with “bad” features Don’t glow up for other ppl glow up for your own goals
That's why i LOVE thrifting cause not only you help prevent amount of fast-fashion clothes getting thrown away in the ocean, but also discovering your own sense of style because in the thrift stores they are not coordinate in their specific arrangement like at the malls or they are randomly put in their racks and because of that, you find a piece of gem that you haven't think of buying that. Now I'm a type of girl that loves "pink" "vintage" "modest" or any type that I find comfy and cute clothes but more specificlly midi or long dresses🥰🥰
That’s why aesthetics annoy me so much. People buy a new wardrobe every year, because they want to fit a new aesthetic. Often one aesthetics gets rebranded in so many different ways. I think trends are not always bad and can help you with your style, but don’t limit yourself to micro-trends, maybe let the trend sit for a while and then look if you still like it.
omll so glad that Ive found the blogger who has the same opinion as meee Im kinda tired of the internet, trends, soc media, cuz they just make borders around us and dont let us be free and create:(
As a woman that’s always have different aesthetic/ styles everyday to the point my coworkers waited for my “outfit of the day”, it’s still bit confusing/ frustrating for me having to reexplain TO MYSELF that “It’s okay to have different styles as long as you’re comfortable and happy wearing them! Also you’re thrifted these!” We don’t have to be exclusive nor in trend, we just have to be comfortable with our clothes!
Thank you!!! I'm so happy that im not the only one who think that way. Trends are destroying us. Overcomsuption now is crazy☠️ We lost our identity, common sense and individual way of thinking and that's concerning. And I'm saying this as 19 year old. Period. Dont stop doing your job girl!! Greetings from Poland
5:38 i couldn't agree more. when I was in high school, I had such a bad mental health because I was only ever comparing myself to girls twice my age on pinterest, tiktok, any social media tbh. once i left high school, i met more people, especially artists, people that had the same ideas and hobbies as me, except they weren't chronically online (lmao). they truly inspired me, not only to make better art, but also, regarding this video, to get a better fashion sense. they didn't dress for a 'core' or an aesthetic', they dressed just like the arts that were inspiring them (painting, poetry, jazz, litterature,...). so, my advice for people who are still stuck in this aesthetic spiral, try getting a hobby, find your true passion, live for it. it will get better
Thank you so much for this video. In my perspective, these kinds of "trends" can be sources of anxiety if you don't apply the questions you suggest, like "Do I really like this?" It's very important not to be consumed by them.
I decided a while ago I didn’t wanna be put into one box anymore because depending on how I feel on different days I want to dress differently and express myself differently.
Super de acuerdo, el "glow up" se convirtió en una forma más de convencer a las personas de comprar cosas que no necesitan y promueve constantemente un consumismo desproporcionado
Very true! Sometimes i am afraid to wear something different because people will judge, i know we should not listen to people's opinion but sometimes it hurts, social media really ruined unique styles
What a great video! Perfectly encapsulates how I have been feeling recently. Does anyone else get bothered that almost every TikTok trend and videos are to do with your appearance? ‘Deer pretty”, “symmetrical face”, “am I a Barbie, bratz or American girl doll?”. Gosh, it’s just exhausting. Plus, so many people have become self conscious of their appearance from TikTok. I started to get into aesthetics a few years ago, and to be honest it’s really exhausting. Luckily I have not fallen victim to micro trends but I have still caught myself buying things that are ‘trendy’ but are not cool now.
i also noticed most ppl on tiktok cant decide what they want to dress as a goth, gyaru and more, just wear what you want fashion clothing dont have restrictions only to follow. Specially on cosplaying i like to mix up w my clothes thats a similar for what i cosplay and thrifting was also fun.
i don't even know what i, myself find cool atp. i try being my own person when it comes to fashion, but having a limited budget makes it even harder to actually build a good wardrobe, because i usually waste my money on clothes that i regret buying 1-2 months later. i want to explore accessories and jewelry, i've been focusing only on wearing "trendy" clothes, while not even trying to express myself with little details. anyways, hopefully i'll find myself a bit more, i'm working on my journey. you should too, never give up! ty for the video love, you're extremly beautiful!😚
THANK YOU !!!!! I've been lost for the last week trying to find my fashion style because I caught myself just going in cycles with these fashion trends and i wanna change that and just be comfortable and happy about myself.
Divesting yourself from trends first involves you removing the voices around you from influencing your inner voice. When I quit Instagram, I could finally LISTEN to myself and what I WANTED. It’s been fun to figure out who I am without the need to chase trends or the idea of being a part of The Moment- live IN the moment, instead. 😊
I actually clicked because of the thumbnail, it looked nice, then got surprised but how pretty you were and stayed because of the message, you're so right! I've always been having low self-esteem since I was little, and now thanks to all trends and everything even more. I'm trying to love me, but it's hard so I get into the illusion of saying to myself: "maybe if I do this hairstyle/I buy these clothes/I do makeup (...or whatever) I will like me more". Sometimes works, sometimes it doesn't. I didn't even know how to do proper make up, nobody taught me except the Internet.
This is the first time in months ive watched a TH-cam video fully that isnt like gameplay without constantly skipping or putting it on 2x because my attention span has just been ruined by tiktok i dont know but what you’re saying isnt repetitive and thats why its nice to listen to
This vid suddenly popped up to my recommendation and I completely agree. Years ago I remember how I slowly changed into different 'glow ups' that somehow help me right now but I lost my identity back then. My surroundings demands a lot from me, specially when tiktok got popular, one of my younger friend told me I'm bunny pretty , I should wear more pink and clothes they consider girly because its popular, she often tell me things to do and say what's wrong with my look to fix and I noticed she tryna mold me into version of what she wanna achieve (that popular trend look). I'm happy she's helping me but I feel like I'm being boxed sometimes and wearing a costume when I follow the trends. I deleted most of my accounts and apps that I feel like draining me and tryna stay away from things that could make me feel I'm not enough. I'm still battling with my body issues but I feel better now, also I noticed I spend less recently, I'm happier and contented than years ago. I appreciate my natural look too than wanting to be acceptable by society's beauty standards.
I`m so motherfuckin sick of the internet and social media, never like feeling enough, even out of touch with nowdays fashion, cause it changes rapidly and I can`t take it anymore. I am so grateful for your video, it kinda opened my eyes right now on what`s going on inside of my head. Have a nice day everyone! and don`t let that shit ruin your authenticity, u are aill gorgeous and wonderful!
THIS IS WHAT I WAS NEEDING! i have to be honest... its been a while since i've seen myself with no insecurities. and the worst thing is to know that I myself am constantly talking about this with my friends!!! "omg they created a new trend", "wtf is a strawberry leg?" etc, but at the end of he day, i project this kind of things on my body. asking myself if having a nose job would be good, or go on a hard diet, etc, and this is crazy! in this current system, we are just costumers ready to buy everything, even if it will have no actual use. and worse, we start looking more and more similar, with no personal taste at all or buying the same things, even if we dont like them just because everyone is buying it lol we have to be aware to not fall for this tricks to buy and buy and buy, and compare ourselves with some tiktok or ig influencer cause it's dangerous and vicious. and thanks to your video, i've really put myself to think more about it and i guess it will be better to stay away from the internet for some time and actually just live my life hahahaha
Thank you!! I strongly needed someone to go address this, I felt like this is something that is seldom discussed and I've went down this rabbit hole for far too long now and all I did was waste my dad's hard earned money on clothes that has been rotting away in my closet for months. When I get upset at myself and say that I have nothing to wear, I'm not even kidding because I never ever put them on and now my wardrobe's full of clothes that I only wore once or twice. I have some very specific pieces of clothing that I wear in a perpetual cycle and that is literally all I need but one year ago I convinced myself to purchase a useless bunch of clothing such for aesthetic gratification. That took all the fun out of dressing up because I realized that this whole time I was merely dressing up for people who don't even know me, God knows what compelled me to buy those cheap ass chunky loafers that do not even fit me, hell I don't even prefer chunky among my shoess, the amount of money I spent for redundant aesthetic validation is crazy.
hey, I am Brazilian and I watching your videos to study english! (I think don't write so well sorry). This topic is so interesting, because here (in Latin America) we don't have access to most trends (clothes, bags, we don't have where to buy them) so if you have the clothes trends you are so rich or you buy in virtual fast fashion like Shein and need extremely consumed
I grew up poor, so a lot of my clothes used to belong to someone in the family. Still today i barely buy anything and if i do, i love antique shops, anything second hand. I decided to watch your video because i was curious and in the back of my mind i remembered that some weeks ago i bought this accessorie for my hair and I've seen several other people wearing one just like mine. Just an odd sensation and I don't think I'll be buying clothes on malls again, even if on sale. I loved that you're just sitting calmly, felt like a chat with a friend. You've won a subscriber. I love your makeup beautiful 🌟
I don’t like following trends just because that’s what’s “in” but I do appreciate when trends lead me to things I personally really like. Like flair leggings. I never liked how leggings looked on me, but they were so comfortable. And then I saw flair leggings I really liked the shape of them better than regular leggings and they were very comfortable💖
Thank you for making this video! I feel like I’m not aware on this and I’m worried how I over consumed on trending items and ended up not using it. As well, I don’t feel like it’s healthy because I’m having problems with my self identity through this social media. I wish this video popped up earlier and I’m very impressed how brave you are speaking up on this matter. Not everyone is aware about this.
omg I love this content! I’m 25 years old now but still struggle to define my identity, and after buying stuffs in trend sometimes really confused myself,like why? Do I really need these things? I think it’s an important issue for modern people 🥺
Thank you, so much. I wanted to get this out for so long, but you’ve already taken the plunge haha! So many girls in my grade are so young, and they always criticise their “flaws” such as: how their nose is too big, their lashes aren’t long enough, pimples, to the point where they bring makeup products to class to top up or hide any pimples or something not ‘appealing to the eye. But they’re / we’re teenagers, of course you’re going to get acne, it’s all apart of change in the body. I honestly feel awful, and it’s heart breaking to see. So many girls in my grade wear makeup as well, they look like 21 year olds, not 15-17 year olds. I personally went through insecurity with my pimples because they are really visible, but i learned to tell myself that they’re normal and just apart of life. Another thing I might add, Tiktok does play a huge significant factor when it comes to beauty standards. Everytime i go on there, almost every girl my age is wearing makeup, and they all look the exact same. Social media is something to blame for all of this, but no one wants to admit that its influence is impacting everyone negatively. Anyways, thank you again for this amazing video!
Knowing yourself and your style is so so important. I think when something is a trend and i find myself wanting it, i'll do a few things- 1. consider if its something ive liked for years in the past, and have actually already seen element of in my style, 2. buy 1 item thats cheap/secondhand, so i can experiment and just see if i *actually* like it, and if not, resell or donate it, or 3. sit on the idea of it for 1-2 years, wait and see if i still like it, and then invest in it!
An example of this is a lot of trends that i found i did partake in were chunky boots, sambas, and loafers. but I'd thought about it for a year before actually investing in any of them, and now i realise they were items really missing from my wardrobe and work with my style, and i wear ALL the time and will for years to come. an example of where i didn't think about it at all was as soon as ballet flats became trendy, i was interested in them and immediately bought 3 pairs. I don't own/wear any of them now cus i realised I hated it on me and just didnt fit into my style and had to get rid of them. 🥲 one trend that i have also taken part in is buying new cheetah print items, but this is one i recognised i've already owned multiple different items of for 10 years, so again is just part of my style so i will invest in new pieces of!
ur so right i've been feeling this lately I don't like going on tik tok anymore all trends are made to make women become insecure the eyebrow blindness blush blindness hairline blindness omg who caresssss these trends are leading women and young girls to over analyze their features and compare them to others
I’m sure you’re younger than me, but these are very wise words that I needed to be reminded of. The points about following people, brands, etc. that actually inspire you, not just influence you, developing your own tastes, and not feeling like you have to fit yourself in a box are especially poignant.
I'm happy you explained it. I always try to tell people to be aware of what they're going with their choices. Actually working on confidence helps alot.
I keep worrying that I don't have one aesthetic. Tbh I like a bit of everything, I am not one thing and for me that just made me feel like I was a freak who didn't have any stability and when I would see girls online have their one thing, like that's their main thing, I would get instantly depressed and felt like something was wrong with me. I consulted with my parents about this and my mom assured me that there was nothing wrong (altho I do have to say I have been through things that have made me a little unstable in my head), that I needed to get my head out of the internet and stop worrying about what other people think or what others are doing. She told me I needed to detox and take time for myself to figure out who I am and that even if who I am is a little bit of everything, then that's just the person that I am and that I need to love it.
I love this video & I have to say that deleting instagram and tiktok has helped me with this issue immensely! I literally have no idea what is trending and its a huge relief.
Once I simply started to focus on silhouttes that look nice on me (and that I find comfortable and that I personally like), colors that are complementory to my complexion and that bring me joy, as well as fabrics that are better quality (cotton, linnen, viscose), that's when I got ahold of my 'style'. These are very broad personal 'comfort boundaries' and they allow for so much variety. Million times better than any trends I ever tried to follow in the past.
girl thank u u really opened my eyes and changed my perspective on things, I was just recently blindly struggling with buying trendy scincare, but now I realize I can opt for cheaper, yet no less effective options
100% agree with what you're saying!👍🏼I'm so tired of the "glow-up" trend and seeing these fast fashion things influencers promote online. I think it's better to just find your own style and what makes you happy instead of being a sheep & following these trends shown on the internet.
The moment I realised this was 6 years ago, when I couldn’t even put on a simple outfit for the day, before logging into Pinterest or Instagram to let it choose for me. I became “obsessed” that I couldn’t let *myself decide* but rather let current trends or aesthetics decide my decision. I only have TH-cam left and deleted all my social media platforms.
it's really piss me off, when you have some clothes or combinations which are part of your style for a long time, but then they become a trend and everyone is telling you like 'Oh, so you are that fast fashion trendy girl!' it happened for me a couple times and I genuinely didn't know what to answer. like I love trends to inspire me for something new, but I would never wear something only because it's trending now
great video! the way our society currently works depends on our insecurities so they can sell us the supposed cure, but defining your self worth through outside validation is a never-ending cycle, you cannot possibly keep up with all the new demands and trends. find what you really genuinely like and you will be much happier, even if it does not match up with anyone else's idea of "cool"
Tysm for this video, more people need to know about this. I feel like sometimes if you’re not the «normalized» style on social media, you’ll get people thinking your style is weird, but its just special, like each ones of us. We all need to realize that social media IS social media and that we cant always buy those 300$ outfits and expensive skin care to «glow up». Plus social medias always create insecurities that i never heard of before just so we can fell even worse about ourselves and, like you said, buy more. I honestly am working more on confidence than following trends, because i know that its way more important to feel well than to fit in a bow. Again thank you for opening everyones eyes, your so right about this!💖
I came back after following some of your advice, and I'm saving so much money, and I restricted social media apps on my phone and told all my friends to text and call me if they need me, and I feel so free. I feel like im living life less to show people my experiences and fit in, and more for my own enjoyment. So thank you for this!
dayum right! altough i'm not a person who is affected by trends (bcs i don't like populer things) sometimes it felt bad that i couldn't place myself in any ''vibe'' but heeyy we're all unique and don't need to belong somewhere⭐ so thanks for reminding me that again😌💓bless you✨
Tbh I love almost all the aesthetics out there. I used to feel so bad about it. Like "who am I? Why do I love kinda opposite/different things" etc. But now I don't care. I love so many things. I don't have just ONE style / aesthetic.
Uhhh thanks for bringing up this topic, recently I feel never enough and will never be good enough. There are so many trends and online comparisons these days. I feel left behind and tried. Thank you again for this wonderful content.❤❤❤
a friend told me once that i needed to change my room decor because it didn’t “match my aesthetic”. and that’s because i felt that my room represented me more than my clothes 😞
Exactly girl .. that’s what I really want everybody to listen for , I’m really sick of those new trends and it’s just make me unsure about really what I love and what I don’t cause I’m a person who don’t have a specific style it just depends on my mood,so when I see the influencers and Pinterest I just feel uncomfortable, also it’s not about that only I lost my touch of styling I cannot wear something if I don’t scroll on Pinterest .. everything should be perfect and in aesthetically way in the world of social media and trends , so that’s really makes me take a step to delete ig and Pinterest . i hope everyone listen for that cause it’s really true .
Beautiful smart young girl , which is so rare bcuz everyone has been influenced by social media and they don't know that they are brainwashed , they making people think if they follow new trends and being tiktok pretty makes you cool and let you be that girl, wtf is " that girl" , and plus that we're not just having fast fashion we have also tiktok beauty standards like if u don't have button nose big eyes with long lashes and plumpy lips and and a silk hair you are not Beautiful like ughh I'm really tired i have tiktok just becuz some times i need new recipes or some tips on something , I'm being myself becuz i realized that all of that shit they do it for marketing to keep up w everything every year and don't mess any trend to buy all the items that you're buy in ut becuz u think u gonna look cool becuz it's trendy , thank u for talking about this subject, keep doing a great content like this and we'll gonna support you ❤❤❤
I absolutely love neon green and kelly green. I can never find the proper shades of green while I try to look for new clothes. Hopefully green becomes the next colour trend. I need more green! Especially green shoes, I can't find them anywhere. I had to settle on a pair of black basketball shoes and I used neon green and black beads on the laces. I've been emo for 18 years because I was born and raised as an emo. My dad was emo and my mum loved rock. Fashion has changed so much and I can't find anything that looks good when I go shopping, even online. I'm a guy but I have to shop in the womens section often because they usually have more choices. The mens section is mostly tshirts sadly. If you are a fashion designer, please use more green, I NEED IT! Also, if you cosplay, it is a good idea to buy a pair of "ballet" shoes. Walking around conventions in uncomfortable costume shoes are PAINFUL! Always bring a light pair of shoes with you so you can change them if needed. P.S, even though I am a guy I've started to wear bows because my service dog in training is a poodle. He has to wear bows in his hair to keep it out of his face. I absolutely adore my puppy so we wear matching accessories. I make the bows myself, they are very simple to make. We use "show bows" which look very fancy. If you have a poodle or a longhaired dog that wears bows, you should check out the dollar tree, they usually have a lot of ribbon.
You may have luck trying to dye white clothes green to get that color you want. There's a lot of dyes you can buy at the craft store that are user friendly.
Thank you for opening my eyes because especially for shoes because recently or a long ago, Jordan’s 4s were popular in the 2000s but now there popular ( I’m not saying that they were never popular) and I would always see girls wearing it at my school because I thought it was a “cool” trend so it lend me into wanting Jordan’s and looking at Pinterest for inpso but then i stopped and think again “ do I really want theses?” “ do they really fit my personality?” So I realized that isn’t me because I’m just following trends so thank you for opening my eyes🤍🤍
This is my first video that i saw on this topic and tbh thank goodness i did because i have been always telling.. wear what looks good on you and what your body needs. Uniqueness is important and it's totally fine if you like the trend and want to keep using/ wearing even if the trend isn't there anymore
i think the bow trend differs in some ways because people could participate without buying anything (theoretically) which i think is cool- i wish more trends were like that
for me the bow trend has been there since i was a kid cuz my mom used to put bows almost everywhere. like even on our refrigerator and stuff like that and now it's this trend and it kind of annoys me
im a teenager and snap and insta groups are so awful bc everyone just shames random people they dont even know by their looks and this honestly inspired me to stand up for this one girl and tbh i should've done it sooner
It’s so hard to stand up for the right thing when so many people are shouting you down, but I’m so proud of you for going against the grain and standing up for people. We need more people with your attitude!
the “ aesthetic life” is never going to change or help how you feel about yourself as a whole. What you have to do in life is work on your inner self✨🩷 be polite, kind and educate yourself. It is amazing when a person is interested in helping the world and has hobbies! it’s so cool and interesting to be an advocate and help animals and people in need, instead of focusing on all of these materialistic things. Yeah , it is cool and nice to take care of yourself, ofcourse,and feel confident and pretty but you shouldn’t revolve around that concept of appearance. It’s never going to fulfill you, trust me🙏🏼
period!! im so sick of the internet to be honest
Truly, I am too, but this situation changed A LOT when I just deleted my insta account. It was a brave action that I did, but I don't regret it. I personally didn't need it. Now I have only TH-cam, Snap (just to take photos) and Pinterest
YES
Just turn off your phone lil bro
Right
OMG ME TOO
"Buy less, choose well, make it last." - Vivienne Westwood
agree, I started following designers more and realize that it helps me find my taste in fashion. It doesn't bother me anymore if I couldn't afford those things because I was inspired on 'how I can dress' instead of how 'should' I dress (following trends) that I'm not even comfortable to wear. I think fashion is a matter of how long can you use your wardrobe and simply mix and match what you have.
I love Vivienne Westwood so much. I always wore their clothes around and to hangouts with friends but I was always criticized for being too much and trying to hard or having a weird style because of the bright colours but now everyone seems to be liking her again and i'm being asked how long I've had my clothes and how pretty they are. Times really change 😭😭.
do you have some designers you would recommend to follow ?
Well said!
thank you for bringing me back to reality, it is so silly to always have the need to have a “label”. like no i’m not coquette downtown girl aesthetic, im me
exactly!! and that's even cooler :)
I notice this constant cycle of a new trend appearing, fast-fashion brands starting to market it and then because fast-fashion brands are marketing it, it is no longer cool and instead is viewed as cheap. This happens with every trend nowadays and it's why I don't really follow trends anymore and instead wear classic items mostly and leave it to the color combinations and textures of clothing to give my style an edge.
exactly! couldn't agree with you more
Literally the 13 going on 30 dress.
It happened to coquette and that made me so sad because I really liked that style
the REAL way to glow up is to like yourself. that's it.
One of the things I hate about aesthetics is that they try and box you in. I always found myself worrying about which hobbies or parts of myself I would have to give up to be in an aesthetic which is just terrible! We are all too unique and multifaceted to truly be one aesthetic and that’s a great thing!!
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK‼️‼️ honestly the whole aesthetics thing is a really poorly veiled attempt at trying to water people down into one dimensional caricatures of "themselves" almost like a shittily written character and honestly it sucks real bad
FOR REAL! I thought that, because I like shopping and "basic clothes" and bonfires, I'd have to give up liking anime
@@sillygoofyliquidgoober it's basically the "what type of girl are you" crap from the early 2010s, but worse bc it's affecting more ppl.
These trends ruined me 2 years ago, I completely lost my sense of identity, dropped all my hobbies and just made TikTok’s in my room attempting to keep up with the latest trends. I was so addicted in trying to fit in, and I didn’t realize it then but I was so unhappy and sad. At one point I kind of realized how addicted I was to TikTok and these trends so I deleted the app all together. It’s been two years and I haven’t redownloaded it since. When I look to trends now and how people act as a result of them, I honestly cringe. Like genuinely, what the hell is deer pretty? I’m so much happier now, I invest all my time in learning and doing hobbies. I don’t even care about my appearance anymore, I dress comfortably and completely stopped wearing makeup. If I could, I would tell everyone to delete the app. It literally BRAINWASHES people and it is so sick. If you think you’ll miss out on anything, trust me you won’t . The trends that stick you’ll hear about it one way or another and the ones that don’t (which are most these days) you won’t miss out on anyway because they will last a week. DELETE TIKTOK!
I don't know you and still I feel so proud of you as I read this! It's a lot that's difficult to snap out of AND it's easy to fall back into.. I also deleted everything and stopped wearing makeup, etc. What that did is allow me to actually just feel good in my own skin finally and to feel content, which is soooo unprofitable for all these companies haha
This is so true deleting tik tok changed me i havent had it since 2020 and its amazing
I never had TikTok and hearing stuff like this makes me so grateful I never got it, it would have messed me UP! I’m so glad you managed to rediscover your hobbies and live your life for yourself!!!😊
“The apps are free because the person is the thing being sold”
omg i needed to hear this so much.
Thank you, ive been off social media for a month and it's been such a lonly journey 😢
I want to ask how do you dealt with loosing or finding friends that will support you in this?
also the whole classifications of “cores” and “aesthetics” lead a lot of young teen girls (like myself) to believe sticking to one aesthetic and conforming yourself to that is the only option. I’ve seen so many people comment “What aesthetic is this?” like bro it’s just cool clothes or the original posters personal style no need to add a label for everything
fr, every single time I go on pinterest there are people who ask "what's the name of this aesthetic?" under any photo or a piece of clothing. One time I came across a photo of a girl on the stairs covering her face and someone asked this stupid question, it's hilarious yet concerning.
Another scary thing is that chronically online people are obsessed with those microtrends and cores, they literally are building their entire personalities and looks based on this... Some are afraid of following their true desires and views, like, it's ok to enjoy different things and dress up however you want. Once I saw a photo of a mullet cut and one girl seriously asked whether it'd go along with her 'dark feminine energy' aesthetic...
@@dariaesh omg yes every time i go on Pinterest it’s like this and the comments are so repetitive it’s annoying
@@dariaesh yeah and it’s really sad because in a year when the microtrend is “out” those clothes end up in landfills and the cycle continues by more people buying the new trend😓disgusting
Thank you, I'm a teen girl, and you really opened my eyes. The only problem is that everybody has social media, and if you try to be unique, you get haters for trying to 'hard' or trying to be 'different'. ALOT of it is probably caused by peer pressure. You earned a new sub
yes but we can't be liked by everyone, and that's okay :)
@@iitsgi yup :)
@@Clare-o-o-o and thank you sm for subscribing me and sharing your opinion !
@@iitsgi You deserve more subs
As a 22 yo girl, I deleted IG app and snapchat from my phone, I only limit my acc to very very close people, and I only follow people I enuoy their content which for me is artists, at first getting off IG and Snapchat felt overwhelming but honestly I barely miss it nowadays and my friends got used to it and when we meet they show me their pictures which honestly feels much healthier to me than viewing someone else's life thru a screen. Basically do what you believe cuz this is what really matters
If I hear the term "strawberry legs" one more time I'm gonna lose it
I keep hearing people say that any slightly unique style is tweecore??? what the hell
@tanishkagoesnlsyes or inflamed hair follicles on the legs are referred to that
Actually this term is VERY old
People are creating new "aesthetic" everyday and some are basically the same but with different names lol. It makes people believe they can only like certain things to fit in that aesthetic. Like, voluntarily putting yourself in a box. We can like multiple things with some being the opposite of each other
this just randomly popped up in my recommended but girl you're so correct about all!!!
thank you!! i'm glad
you can really tell how ppl needed this video by the comment. nothing makes me die on the inside more than when people see a cool outfit and go like "what aesthetic is this? what's the name of this style?" like pls be fr
these videos make me ponder if i genuinely like the trendy things or if im just following the trend 😭
we all wonder that 😔
1:42 this is so real because people randomly started separating everything in “aesthetics” after the tumblr era, and its so upsetting to see that it is still a thing to this day because at the time i was just 11-12 years old, i am 18 now and i remember vividly how bad i felt because i couldn’t find an aesthetic that fully felt like myself. i cant help but wonder how many young girls or boys feel pressured to find a “core” to represent them and stick to at all times when they can just be themselves and be however they want to be perceived as, especially when tiktok is so critical about styles that arent seen more regularly
this is so TRUE and it’s why i decided to delete tiktok and instagram ♡
deleting instagram is such a good move... still can't do it
As you should girl !! Better for our mental health !
I remember when glowing up meant looking after your mental health, working on yourself such as working out and eating better, using products that ACTUALLY work for your skin, keeping your ownership to minimum (not living minimistically, but, living within your means and decluttering what is stressing you/etc), basically being a you you love and adore - it was a way to find *yourself*, learn who you are, and enhance that whilst also working on things you weren't happy with and now it's some trend used to make people feel inferior... I'm at the point I've deleted all social media other than like one app to talk to my piercer/tattooist and that's it now. It's so sad to see what the internet has become in the past years.
SOO TRUEEE
"it's important to see beauty besides social media and besides fashion" PREACH. the way people are so hella focused on fashion trends and social media that they have LOST sense of what is the beauty TO THEM. like what YOU find beautiful? what YOU think looks good and interesting? not them other people not them companies trying to sell you smth but YOU?
you're so so right about that and i think people now have forgotten to buy clothes for them not only look in trend but look how they need to look how they want to look, just them and for them
My 2nd year of Uni's gonna start in a few days and the whole last month I was hyperfixated on buying new clothes and wear according to my "personal style". I bought a few stuff like tops, jewellery and shoes. For a long time I have been obsessed with mary janes so I decided to buy a pair of dupes, and after I did I tried wearing it and I got hit by reality so bad. I didn't like how it looked on me and wasn't going with my overall "style". Thats when I realised how much hyperfixated I was in getting a glow up and leveling up my style while I completely ignored my "personal style". I love baggy jeans because it doesn't touch my skin and I have sensory disorder but what I was trying to buy were "skin tight" flared jeans. That is why it hit me that I was just following trends instead of what makes me feel good and myself. Now I am returning the stuff that I bought and trying to not force a "glow up" on me when I don't even need it. :)
thank you for this, i think this was the comment i needed to read
@@varena04 heyy, I am glad🤗
ahh i relate to thiss so muchhh, and im going into my second year of uni too! Hope u get a bunch of clothes that make u feel good, and good luck with uni :D
@@puddleduck1405 aww this is so sweet..thank you..nd good luck to u as well🫂🩷
Thank God that I deleted all my social media accounts, and this is one of the best decisions I've made, I just have pinterest and youtube
Omg ME TOOO❤❤❤
I must make a Pinterest account!
@your_gurlmaidstone YES! bestie 🎀 pinterest is much more fun than Instagram ✨️
@@DulguunSugar-f9x we're twins, bestie 🫂💞
same!
Oh my god, I am so glad videos like this started appearing, honestly I always felt something weird about those trends and just something so stupid, I got quickly sick of it but I feel so damn sad that teens who shouldn't have watched that stuff that was at first for adults and now they will just go after anything
Same
i downloaded tiktok last summer after not having it on my phone for like a year and a half, and i was dumbfounded because the landscape had completely changed. it was so shocking that every other video was a girl saying she’s insecure about something or girls envying people’s literal genetics. one of the most baffling things i saw was the expression being used of “putting makeup on a pig”, and the idea of not feeling like beauty(or true beauty) is achievable even with makeup. at face value, this doesn’t feel related to the aesthetification of style and fashion and makeup, but would it be so crazy to propose its a coping thing. idk but this topic has been on my mind since redownloading tiktok and great video xx
real trends are so stressing, i sometimes find myself feeling bad for not buying something trendy even if i don't really want it
Same 😭😭😂
First you get hyped for what you buy then later on regret your main priorities (needs) for everyday.
This!
i completely agree w/ everything you said in this video! i hate seeing videos titled as "how to find your style and stick with it" because we should be able to wear whatever! we dont need to stick to one certain style/aesthetic
i thought it was a big problem not having a single aesthetic to fit in. thanks god i ended up in this video. thank you girl to open my eyes to a completely different perspective
I loved how you point out these “cores” make you feel as though you are dressed up, or wearing a costume. That’s a great way to describe it. I feel like all too often the clothes don’t suit me, but are rather fueled by the hope of me fitting in some kind of category. Great video!
nooo waittt but the glow up trend got me out of my depressive rut!!!! obv not following standards or fast fashion or wtv js nitpicking what i like.. IT HELPS IF U HAVE THE RIGHT MINDSET!!!!!???? I THINK??
It's like losing your old self
everything u said was correct and I 100% agree it's so hard to realize these things are happening to us and how easily we get influenced nowadays everyone is dressing the same and has the same aesthetics no one is being themselves I miss when everyone was different and had there own identity.
@itsdsk before the trend of changing your entire lifestyle to fit in to 1 aesthetic
@itsdsk i agree
but since COVID-19, social media became more popular and now it's causing little kids to be influenced by these lifestyles, which reduces their creativity and chance to find their own identity because they are trying to have the perfect lifestyle they see online.
"you don't need to glow up, you need to grow up."
At the beginning of this june i was trying to glow up. by exercising, dieting, dressing "better" and trying so many care products. i started to feel bad in two weeks because i didn't feel pretty qnd genuinely happy
so i realized something
balance is so important. sometimes you HAVE to eat an unhealthy hamburger and then a salad to make yourself happy, then you take a long walk so you feel energetic. You don't need to diet all the time, you don't need to look good all the time, you don't need to wake up early on holidays, you don't need to give effort on your look all the time if you're comfortable.
I'm going with the flow now and I'm feeling better. No one needs to glow up, especially if you are a minor. I just wanted to share. I love the video. Cheers
THIS!!!!!i always feel the need to fit myself in a box- so that i can stereotype myself as one of the million aesthetics we read about. i keep reminding myself that its more important to just be me, but man all of this is pressurising in a way. thank you for talking about this.i appreciate it.
thank you for watching this video, i'm so glad you liked it 🤍
@@iitsgi i did, and it was my first time on your channel,i love it :))
i remember wearing a brown puffer with squiggly designs (when it was in) and people judged it because it was new and it was different. It was an up and coming trend that people didn't know much about until people started to wear it. So this perspective of me trying something new and people perceiving it was odd that I was wearing it, also shows that trends appear suddenly and then go away suddenly as well.
love this girl❤ hate when the internet labels clothes as certain “aesthetics”
My idea of a glow up is me doing the things I’ve wanted to do for ages!! Like finally buying certain skin cares, taking care of my hair better, buying the clothes I! Wanted! In my mind glow ups are a you goal. Not some trends people expect you to follow. It legit been psychologically proven that if you are 100% perfect ppl WILL find you unnerving and boring. THIS WAS PROVEN BTW. If you look perfect, perfectly symmetrical, and like everyone else people will find how you look as low-key boring.
People prefer, feel more comfortable with people with “bad” features
Don’t glow up for other ppl glow up for your own goals
this video is so underrated. Not only when it comes to clothing but trends in general. I feel like Tiktok and Instagram Reels really ruined uniqueness
thank you so much!
That's why i LOVE thrifting cause not only you help prevent amount of fast-fashion clothes getting thrown away in the ocean, but also discovering your own sense of style because in the thrift stores they are not coordinate in their specific arrangement like at the malls or they are randomly put in their racks and because of that, you find a piece of gem that you haven't think of buying that. Now I'm a type of girl that loves "pink" "vintage" "modest" or any type that I find comfy and cute clothes but more specificlly midi or long dresses🥰🥰
That’s why aesthetics annoy me so much. People buy a new wardrobe every year, because they want to fit a new aesthetic. Often one aesthetics gets rebranded in so many different ways. I think trends are not always bad and can help you with your style, but don’t limit yourself to micro-trends, maybe let the trend sit for a while and then look if you still like it.
omll so glad that Ive found the blogger who has the same opinion as meee
Im kinda tired of the internet, trends, soc media, cuz they just make borders around us and dont let us be free and create:(
As a woman that’s always have different aesthetic/ styles everyday to the point my coworkers waited for my “outfit of the day”, it’s still bit confusing/ frustrating for me having to reexplain TO MYSELF that “It’s okay to have different styles as long as you’re comfortable and happy wearing them! Also you’re thrifted these!” We don’t have to be exclusive nor in trend, we just have to be comfortable with our clothes!
Thank you!!!
I'm so happy that im not the only one who think that way. Trends are destroying us. Overcomsuption now is crazy☠️
We lost our identity, common sense and individual way of thinking and that's concerning.
And I'm saying this as 19 year old. Period.
Dont stop doing your job girl!!
Greetings from Poland
thank you so much!! 💗💗
5:38 i couldn't agree more. when I was in high school, I had such a bad mental health because I was only ever comparing myself to girls twice my age on pinterest, tiktok, any social media tbh. once i left high school, i met more people, especially artists, people that had the same ideas and hobbies as me, except they weren't chronically online (lmao). they truly inspired me, not only to make better art, but also, regarding this video, to get a better fashion sense. they didn't dress for a 'core' or an aesthetic', they dressed just like the arts that were inspiring them (painting, poetry, jazz, litterature,...). so, my advice for people who are still stuck in this aesthetic spiral, try getting a hobby, find your true passion, live for it. it will get better
i love this
@@iitsgi no worries, thanks to you for this amazing video!
Thank you so much for this video. In my perspective, these kinds of "trends" can be sources of anxiety if you don't apply the questions you suggest, like "Do I really like this?" It's very important not to be consumed by them.
I’m so tired of feeling insecure and left out but the reason for that is social media, the internet. I’m so tired of it.
I decided a while ago I didn’t wanna be put into one box anymore because depending on how I feel on different days I want to dress differently and express myself differently.
Super de acuerdo, el "glow up" se convirtió en una forma más de convencer a las personas de comprar cosas que no necesitan y promueve constantemente un consumismo desproporcionado
Very true! Sometimes i am afraid to wear something different because people will judge, i know we should not listen to people's opinion but sometimes it hurts, social media really ruined unique styles
What a great video! Perfectly encapsulates how I have been feeling recently. Does anyone else get bothered that almost every TikTok trend and videos are to do with your appearance? ‘Deer pretty”, “symmetrical face”, “am I a Barbie, bratz or American girl doll?”. Gosh, it’s just exhausting. Plus, so many people have become self conscious of their appearance from TikTok. I started to get into aesthetics a few years ago, and to be honest it’s really exhausting. Luckily I have not fallen victim to micro trends but I have still caught myself buying things that are ‘trendy’ but are not cool now.
i also noticed most ppl on tiktok cant decide what they want to dress as a goth, gyaru and more, just wear what you want fashion clothing dont have restrictions only to follow. Specially on cosplaying i like to mix up w my clothes thats a similar for what i cosplay and thrifting was also fun.
i don't even know what i, myself find cool atp. i try being my own person when it comes to fashion, but having a limited budget makes it even harder to actually build a good wardrobe, because i usually waste my money on clothes that i regret buying 1-2 months later. i want to explore accessories and jewelry, i've been focusing only on wearing "trendy" clothes, while not even trying to express myself with little details.
anyways, hopefully i'll find myself a bit more, i'm working on my journey. you should too, never give up!
ty for the video love, you're extremly beautiful!😚
THANK YOU !!!!! I've been lost for the last week trying to find my fashion style because I caught myself just going in cycles with these fashion trends and i wanna change that and just be comfortable and happy about myself.
i'm so happy to hear that u broke the cycle
Divesting yourself from trends first involves you removing the voices around you from influencing your inner voice. When I quit Instagram, I could finally LISTEN to myself and what I WANTED. It’s been fun to figure out who I am without the need to chase trends or the idea of being a part of The Moment- live IN the moment, instead. 😊
Oh girl more people should listen
thank you 💞 it's truly a spiral we are all in sadly
I actually clicked because of the thumbnail, it looked nice, then got surprised but how pretty you were and stayed because of the message, you're so right! I've always been having low self-esteem since I was little, and now thanks to all trends and everything even more. I'm trying to love me, but it's hard so I get into the illusion of saying to myself: "maybe if I do this hairstyle/I buy these clothes/I do makeup (...or whatever) I will like me more". Sometimes works, sometimes it doesn't. I didn't even know how to do proper make up, nobody taught me except the Internet.
thank you for your comment
This is the first time in months ive watched a TH-cam video fully that isnt like gameplay without constantly skipping or putting it on 2x because my attention span has just been ruined by tiktok i dont know but what you’re saying isnt repetitive and thats why its nice to listen to
omg that's so nice to hear! thank you so much
This vid suddenly popped up to my recommendation and I completely agree.
Years ago I remember how I slowly changed into different 'glow ups' that somehow help me right now but I lost my identity back then. My surroundings demands a lot from me, specially when tiktok got popular, one of my younger friend told me I'm bunny pretty , I should wear more pink and clothes they consider girly because its popular, she often tell me things to do and say what's wrong with my look to fix and I noticed she tryna mold me into version of what she wanna achieve (that popular trend look). I'm happy she's helping me but I feel like I'm being boxed sometimes and wearing a costume when I follow the trends.
I deleted most of my accounts and apps that I feel like draining me and tryna stay away from things that could make me feel I'm not enough. I'm still battling with my body issues but I feel better now, also I noticed I spend less recently, I'm happier and contented than years ago. I appreciate my natural look too than wanting to be acceptable by society's beauty standards.
I`m so motherfuckin sick of the internet and social media, never like feeling enough, even out of touch with nowdays fashion, cause it changes rapidly and I can`t take it anymore. I am so grateful for your video, it kinda opened my eyes right now on what`s going on inside of my head. Have a nice day everyone! and don`t let that shit ruin your authenticity, u are aill gorgeous and wonderful!
THIS IS WHAT I WAS NEEDING! i have to be honest... its been a while since i've seen myself with no insecurities. and the worst thing is to know that I myself am constantly talking about this with my friends!!! "omg they created a new trend", "wtf is a strawberry leg?" etc, but at the end of he day, i project this kind of things on my body. asking myself if having a nose job would be good, or go on a hard diet, etc, and this is crazy! in this current system, we are just costumers ready to buy everything, even if it will have no actual use. and worse, we start looking more and more similar, with no personal taste at all or buying the same things, even if we dont like them just because everyone is buying it lol
we have to be aware to not fall for this tricks to buy and buy and buy, and compare ourselves with some tiktok or ig influencer cause it's dangerous and vicious.
and thanks to your video, i've really put myself to think more about it and i guess it will be better to stay away from the internet for some time and actually just live my life hahahaha
Thank you!! I strongly needed someone to go address this, I felt like this is something that is seldom discussed and I've went down this rabbit hole for far too long now and all I did was waste my dad's hard earned money on clothes that has been rotting away in my closet for months. When I get upset at myself and say that I have nothing to wear, I'm not even kidding because I never ever put them on and now my wardrobe's full of clothes that I only wore once or twice. I have some very specific pieces of clothing that I wear in a perpetual cycle and that is literally all I need but one year ago I convinced myself to purchase a useless bunch of clothing such for aesthetic gratification. That took all the fun out of dressing up because I realized that this whole time I was merely dressing up for people who don't even know me, God knows what compelled me to buy those cheap ass chunky loafers that do not even fit me, hell I don't even prefer chunky among my shoess, the amount of money I spent for redundant aesthetic validation is crazy.
hey, I am Brazilian and I watching your videos to study english! (I think don't write so well sorry). This topic is so interesting, because here (in Latin America) we don't have access to most trends (clothes, bags, we don't have where to buy them) so if you have the clothes trends you are so rich or you buy in virtual fast fashion like Shein and need extremely consumed
I grew up poor, so a lot of my clothes used to belong to someone in the family. Still today i barely buy anything and if i do, i love antique shops, anything second hand.
I decided to watch your video because i was curious and in the back of my mind i remembered that some weeks ago i bought this accessorie for my hair and I've seen several other people wearing one just like mine. Just an odd sensation and I don't think I'll be buying clothes on malls again, even if on sale.
I loved that you're just sitting calmly, felt like a chat with a friend. You've won a subscriber. I love your makeup beautiful 🌟
thank you so much, love
I don’t like following trends just because that’s what’s “in” but I do appreciate when trends lead me to things I personally really like. Like flair leggings. I never liked how leggings looked on me, but they were so comfortable. And then I saw flair leggings I really liked the shape of them better than regular leggings and they were very comfortable💖
Thank you for making this video! I feel like I’m not aware on this and I’m worried how I over consumed on trending items and ended up not using it. As well,
I don’t feel like it’s healthy because I’m having problems with my self identity through this social media. I wish this video popped up earlier and I’m very impressed how brave you are speaking up on this matter. Not everyone is aware about this.
we're together on this
omg I love this content! I’m 25 years old now but still struggle to define my identity, and after buying stuffs in trend sometimes really confused myself,like why? Do I really need these things? I think it’s an important issue for modern people 🥺
Thank you, so much. I wanted to get this out for so long, but you’ve already taken the plunge haha! So many girls in my grade are so young, and they always criticise their “flaws” such as: how their nose is too big, their lashes aren’t long enough, pimples, to the point where they bring makeup products to class to top up or hide any pimples or something not ‘appealing to the eye. But they’re / we’re teenagers, of course you’re going to get acne, it’s all apart of change in the body. I honestly feel awful, and it’s heart breaking to see. So many girls in my grade wear makeup as well, they look like 21 year olds, not 15-17 year olds. I personally went through insecurity with my pimples because they are really visible, but i learned to tell myself that they’re normal and just apart of life. Another thing I might add, Tiktok does play a huge significant factor when it comes to beauty standards. Everytime i go on there, almost every girl my age is wearing makeup, and they all look the exact same. Social media is something to blame for all of this, but no one wants to admit that its influence is impacting everyone negatively. Anyways, thank you again for this amazing video!
Knowing yourself and your style is so so important. I think when something is a trend and i find myself wanting it, i'll do a few things- 1. consider if its something ive liked for years in the past, and have actually already seen element of in my style, 2. buy 1 item thats cheap/secondhand, so i can experiment and just see if i *actually* like it, and if not, resell or donate it, or 3. sit on the idea of it for 1-2 years, wait and see if i still like it, and then invest in it!
An example of this is a lot of trends that i found i did partake in were chunky boots, sambas, and loafers. but I'd thought about it for a year before actually investing in any of them, and now i realise they were items really missing from my wardrobe and work with my style, and i wear ALL the time and will for years to come.
an example of where i didn't think about it at all was as soon as ballet flats became trendy, i was interested in them and immediately bought 3 pairs. I don't own/wear any of them now cus i realised I hated it on me and just didnt fit into my style and had to get rid of them. 🥲
one trend that i have also taken part in is buying new cheetah print items, but this is one i recognised i've already owned multiple different items of for 10 years, so again is just part of my style so i will invest in new pieces of!
ur so right i've been feeling this lately I don't like going on tik tok anymore all trends are made to make women become insecure the eyebrow blindness blush blindness hairline blindness omg who caresssss these trends are leading women and young girls to over analyze their features and compare them to others
I’m sure you’re younger than me, but these are very wise words that I needed to be reminded of. The points about following people, brands, etc. that actually inspire you, not just influence you, developing your own tastes, and not feeling like you have to fit yourself in a box are especially poignant.
I'm happy you explained it. I always try to tell people to be aware of what they're going with their choices.
Actually working on confidence helps alot.
omg so real !!! thank you for making me understand my self. cuz that idea has been hunting me up and i couldn't explain it for myself.
My god finally!!! Yes. You don't need glow up you need to find your style which you will like and accept yourself
I keep worrying that I don't have one aesthetic. Tbh I like a bit of everything, I am not one thing and for me that just made me feel like I was a freak who didn't have any stability and when I would see girls online have their one thing, like that's their main thing, I would get instantly depressed and felt like something was wrong with me. I consulted with my parents about this and my mom assured me that there was nothing wrong (altho I do have to say I have been through things that have made me a little unstable in my head), that I needed to get my head out of the internet and stop worrying about what other people think or what others are doing. She told me I needed to detox and take time for myself to figure out who I am and that even if who I am is a little bit of everything, then that's just the person that I am and that I need to love it.
I love this video & I have to say that deleting instagram and tiktok has helped me with this issue immensely! I literally have no idea what is trending and its a huge relief.
Once I simply started to focus on silhouttes that look nice on me (and that I find comfortable and that I personally like), colors that are complementory to my complexion and that bring me joy, as well as fabrics that are better quality (cotton, linnen, viscose), that's when I got ahold of my 'style'. These are very broad personal 'comfort boundaries' and they allow for so much variety. Million times better than any trends I ever tried to follow in the past.
girl thank u u really opened my eyes and changed my perspective on things, I was just recently blindly struggling with buying trendy scincare, but now I realize I can opt for cheaper, yet no less effective options
so glad you liked it
100% agree with what you're saying!👍🏼I'm so tired of the "glow-up" trend and seeing these fast fashion things influencers promote online. I think it's better to just find your own style and what makes you happy instead of being a sheep & following these trends shown on the internet.
The moment I realised this was 6 years ago, when I couldn’t even put on a simple outfit for the day, before logging into Pinterest or Instagram to let it choose for me. I became “obsessed” that I couldn’t let *myself decide* but rather let current trends or aesthetics decide my decision.
I only have TH-cam left and deleted all my social media platforms.
I agree w this sm!! Trends shouldn’t define who you are.
it's really piss me off, when you have some clothes or combinations which are part of your style for a long time, but then they become a trend and everyone is telling you like 'Oh, so you are that fast fashion trendy girl!' it happened for me a couple times and I genuinely didn't know what to answer. like I love trends to inspire me for something new, but I would never wear something only because it's trending now
great video! the way our society currently works depends on our insecurities so they can sell us the supposed cure, but defining your self worth through outside validation is a never-ending cycle, you cannot possibly keep up with all the new demands and trends. find what you really genuinely like and you will be much happier, even if it does not match up with anyone else's idea of "cool"
Tysm for this video, more people need to know about this. I feel like sometimes if you’re not the «normalized» style on social media, you’ll get people thinking your style is weird, but its just special, like each ones of us. We all need to realize that social media IS social media and that we cant always buy those 300$ outfits and expensive skin care to «glow up». Plus social medias always create insecurities that i never heard of before just so we can fell even worse about ourselves and, like you said, buy more. I honestly am working more on confidence than following trends, because i know that its way more important to feel well than to fit in a bow. Again thank you for opening everyones eyes, your so right about this!💖
I came back after following some of your advice, and I'm saving so much money, and I restricted social media apps on my phone and told all my friends to text and call me if they need me, and I feel so free. I feel like im living life less to show people my experiences and fit in, and more for my own enjoyment. So thank you for this!
dayum right! altough i'm not a person who is affected by trends (bcs i don't like populer things) sometimes it felt bad that i couldn't place myself in any ''vibe'' but heeyy we're all unique and don't need to belong somewhere⭐ so thanks for reminding me that again😌💓bless you✨
Tbh I love almost all the aesthetics out there. I used to feel so bad about it. Like "who am I? Why do I love kinda opposite/different things" etc. But now I don't care. I love so many things. I don't have just ONE style / aesthetic.
Uhhh thanks for bringing up this topic, recently I feel never enough and will never be good enough. There are so many trends and online comparisons these days. I feel left behind and tried. Thank you again for this wonderful content.❤❤❤
a friend told me once that i needed to change my room decor because it didn’t “match my aesthetic”. and that’s because i felt that my room represented me more than my clothes 😞
Exactly girl .. that’s what I really want everybody to listen for , I’m really sick of those new trends and it’s just make me unsure about really what I love and what I don’t cause I’m a person who don’t have a specific style it just depends on my mood,so when I see the influencers and Pinterest I just feel uncomfortable, also it’s not about that only I lost my touch of styling I cannot wear something if I don’t scroll on Pinterest .. everything should be perfect and in aesthetically way in the world of social media and trends , so that’s really makes me take a step to delete ig and Pinterest . i hope everyone listen for that cause it’s really true .
Beautiful smart young girl , which is so rare bcuz everyone has been influenced by social media and they don't know that they are brainwashed , they making people think if they follow new trends and being tiktok pretty makes you cool and let you be that girl, wtf is " that girl" , and plus that we're not just having fast fashion we have also tiktok beauty standards like if u don't have button nose big eyes with long lashes and plumpy lips and and a silk hair you are not Beautiful like ughh I'm really tired i have tiktok just becuz some times i need new recipes or some tips on something , I'm being myself becuz i realized that all of that shit they do it for marketing to keep up w everything every year and don't mess any trend to buy all the items that you're buy in ut becuz u think u gonna look cool becuz it's trendy , thank u for talking about this subject, keep doing a great content like this and we'll gonna support you ❤❤❤
100%! thank you so so much 💗
I absolutely love neon green and kelly green. I can never find the proper shades of green while I try to look for new clothes. Hopefully green becomes the next colour trend. I need more green! Especially green shoes, I can't find them anywhere. I had to settle on a pair of black basketball shoes and I used neon green and black beads on the laces. I've been emo for 18 years because I was born and raised as an emo. My dad was emo and my mum loved rock. Fashion has changed so much and I can't find anything that looks good when I go shopping, even online. I'm a guy but I have to shop in the womens section often because they usually have more choices. The mens section is mostly tshirts sadly. If you are a fashion designer, please use more green, I NEED IT!
Also, if you cosplay, it is a good idea to buy a pair of "ballet" shoes. Walking around conventions in uncomfortable costume shoes are PAINFUL! Always bring a light pair of shoes with you so you can change them if needed.
P.S, even though I am a guy I've started to wear bows because my service dog in training is a poodle. He has to wear bows in his hair to keep it out of his face. I absolutely adore my puppy so we wear matching accessories. I make the bows myself, they are very simple to make. We use "show bows" which look very fancy. If you have a poodle or a longhaired dog that wears bows, you should check out the dollar tree, they usually have a lot of ribbon.
You may have luck trying to dye white clothes green to get that color you want. There's a lot of dyes you can buy at the craft store that are user friendly.
Thank you for opening my eyes because especially for shoes because recently or a long ago, Jordan’s 4s were popular in the 2000s but now there popular ( I’m not saying that they were never popular) and I would always see girls wearing it at my school because I thought it was a “cool” trend so it lend me into wanting Jordan’s and looking at Pinterest for inpso but then i stopped and think again “ do I really want theses?” “ do they really fit my personality?” So I realized that isn’t me because I’m just following trends so thank you for opening my eyes🤍🤍
This is my first video that i saw on this topic and tbh thank goodness i did because i have been always telling.. wear what looks good on you and what your body needs.
Uniqueness is important and it's totally fine if you like the trend and want to keep using/ wearing even if the trend isn't there anymore
the inspire versus influence is a really cool sentiment! love that.
Your video style is so polished and your quality is brilliant,, I can already tell you're going to be one of my favourite youtubers from now on
thank you so much :( it means a lot 💞💞
20 seconds in and this is such a breath of fresh air, like this is what everyone really needs to hear 🌼🌿
i think the bow trend differs in some ways because people could participate without buying anything (theoretically) which i think is cool- i wish more trends were like that
for me the bow trend has been there since i was a kid cuz my mom used to put bows almost everywhere. like even on our refrigerator and stuff like that and now it's this trend and it kind of annoys me
im a teenager and snap and insta groups are so awful bc everyone just shames random people they dont even know by their looks and this honestly inspired me to stand up for this one girl and tbh i should've done it sooner
It’s so hard to stand up for the right thing when so many people are shouting you down, but I’m so proud of you for going against the grain and standing up for people. We need more people with your attitude!
i may seem dumb but i needed this video to realize that i was looking for myself everywhere but not in me 😭😭
it's not dumb, but a beautiful realization
So hard these days to figure out if we really like something or if we are just following the trends !
the “ aesthetic life” is never going to change or help how you feel about yourself as a whole. What you have to do in life is work on your inner self✨🩷 be polite, kind and educate yourself. It is amazing when a person is interested in helping the world and has hobbies! it’s so cool and interesting to be an advocate and help animals and people in need, instead of focusing on all of these materialistic things. Yeah , it is cool and nice to take care of yourself, ofcourse,and feel confident and pretty but you shouldn’t revolve around that concept of appearance. It’s never going to fulfill you, trust me🙏🏼