My dating experiences are zero, zilch, and nada. The closest I ever got was a guy (whose name I didn't even know and had never once talked to before) asked if I wanted to get coffee with him. I internally combusted and "ran away" (not literally, but... pretty much). I am in college. This is getting ridiculous.
I'm past college already and I haven't had actual relationship experience and the reason for that might seem very odd. I have no real interest in a sexual relationship, or at least not very soon, but all the women I've dated so far wanted it far too soon and I'm starting to question the motives of humanity, that's what rubbed me the wrong way about this video "sex is important", I don't think it is, I'm totally fine with non-sexual intimacy (kissing, cuddling, etc.), but can't people think about spending time together without fucking? Reading the comments under this video made me loose even more faith, I should consider moving to Japan, since I don't fit into the western society o.o
I just went full Henderson That's nothing bad :) Have you ever heard of asexuality or demisexuality? Asexuality is when people don't experience sexual attraction (or very rarely). Asexuals often still experience romantic attraction (which seems to be what you are describing) or aesthetic attraction, but don't have the desire to have sex (and this is perfectly healthy). Demisexuality is in the realm of grey-asexuality, in that it means that you only experience sexual attraction once you have formed a close emotional bond with someone (note, this is not the same as CHOOSING to wait, you simply don't feel sexual towards someone). I consider myself a demisexual....I would say my experience in that is very similar to yours, except I've never been in a sexual situation. If you recognize yourself in those descriptions I would recommend going to AVEN online and read some more.
I just went full Henderson I'm in the reverse category. I just want sex and friendship. The whole looking for the one or finding your other half just sounds so depressing to me. lol kinda funny just thinking about the fact that after all I've done I've never kissed or cuddled.
CampingforCool41 What you're describing sounds exactly like me. Demi-sexuality that is, I have no desire to just have sex with anyone except my significant other. At times, the desire is annoying and I wish it wasn't so prominent, but I guess it's natural and masturbation does help to suppress the desire. As for the video, I've had one 2nd-stage dating experience before my current one, and it wasn't good because, like in the video, it didn't last and when it ended it destroyed me emotionally because she left me and got with one of my friends a day after. Now, my current relationship is going almost perfectly and I'm happy with it.
Hey its cool bro, we've all been there, nothing wrong with that, but you know what is even better? Running a business in the background and making fat stacks and still playing wow all day. Anyone who can do that has my eternal respect :))
Don't know that I would consider this bad, but it was definitely an interesting experience. Went out on a date with some guy I had met a few weeks before, seemed like a pretty chill dude. Half way through dinner he tells me "you know, you're the type of woman I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. Just so you know I want at least two more kids." Whoooooa nelly! A bit too fast for my liking, needless to say there was not a second date.
Well I have had a guy tell me I was too happy and optimistic about life, I'm one of those people who is just happy to be alive and thriving, I use to be depressed an on meds but I can gladly say that I'm not any more ...
Last year I started dating my ex boyfriend and it turns out I was rebound to make his girlfriend jealous and after 3 weeks of being exclusive we got back to college and he asked me not to speak to him because I was embarrassing to other people and he didn't want a bad reputation. Then he broke up with me and hooked up with his ex girlfriend again. Fun.
***** Well ain't this guy asking for trouble? Let me tell you something buddy, even if what you say is true, you no longer deserve it. Why? Well, you invaded us exactly 41 years ago and still to this day *illegally occupy* us. Turkey is like an abusive mother trying to keep it's "child" (not saying we technically belong to you though) with her by *force*. Oh and I do not hate you guys I think your country is great and beautiful. But no, saying we belong to you is like saying Bahrain is part of Iran.. it isn't. We are not Greece We are not Turkey We are Cyprus and that is how it is gonna go from now on.
Technically, all forms of entertainment are wastes of time, and can also quite often be a waste of money. One of my hobbies is listening to music. That takes time, because an album usually spans 30-40 minutes, and it takes money to buy the albums. But I like to listen to music. I also like to draw while I listen to music. That wastes time, and it wastes money on supplies to draw with, and the notebooks I use.
I'm late for this. I was dating a girl who I absolutely fell in love with, and the nicer part is that she fell absolutely in love with me. She was the first girl I dated for a longer period of time. I tried not to get too serious in the relationship because I'm still a tad young (17). I really liked her and we did everything together and spent tons of time together. One day, a couple months in, we ran into one of her exes. I didn't know they dated before, but it makes sense after I saw how touchy this person was with her. I asked my girlfriend about it later and she said "Yeah, she's my ex". Of course. I had no idea. I asked my girlfriend if she was bi-sexual. Yeah, she said yes. I don't mind, but we've been dating for months. So... this is something I should know, right? She was always a bit touchy with girls, even touchier than she is with guys, but I thought nothing of it since most girls are touchy with other girls. That or my ENTIRE school is full of lesbians. I told my girlfriend that I don't like her being touchy with girls, or even men other than me for that matter. She respected that and distanced herself from women and men alike. Until few months later, I notice she's getting touchy with girls again. Cuddly and huggy. Alright whatever, that's fine, or at least it would be if she was the same with me. I just though "okay, she's with her friends, I'll just let her be with friends. I won't get jealous or clingy or something." It wasn't until later when I had her alone that I realized, she is touchier with people in public than me, her boyfriend, in private. The next couple days at school, she was even flirting with people, guys and girls, and ignoring me. I asked her "what the fuck?" She tried to feed me bullshit, and I just left.
BDSM doesn't just mean bondage. This is what it means;Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM). It overlaps.
Isaac... Story time. Once upon a time I dated a guy named Isaac. I have no idea why. I'm pansexual, and he regularly shamed me for that, as well as calling me ugly, fat, and various other names. He told me my writing was horrible and that my art was unrecognizable as sketches of humans. It really shook me for a while. We only spoke through Skype calls, he lived in Florida, me living in AZ, which I am so grateful for, because dear god, the look on his face and the tone in his voice when he found out I was gender fluid... he would've hit me. His dad also would say in the background, "Isaac, why do you have a can of pot?" and he'd go "I don't know dad, I just came back from the party and I'm like 'why do I have this empty can of pot?'" and then he would act loopy for the rest of the day. Basically I think he was a drug addict and on top of that he was emotionally abusive. I got out of there quick xD Soon enough I met my current girlfriend, so it's all better now. :3 YAYY
I'm also pansexual and I get a lot of guys saying they would never date me because there's more competition. The girls and one trans I've dated didn't think anything of it, but the guys would always over react -.-
I've had only one bad dating experience and it really shaped me as a person. I dated this guy who went to my school and we lasted about 6 months. At first he was a very sweet guy and we got along as best friends. Then it's almost as if something snapped or changed about him. He began putting me down for my weight, my looks, my personality. he constantly called me ugly and said no one was every going to love me but him. This was my first real world relationship (i had a long distance one before this) and i didn't want to lose it and be pretty much brainwashed me into believing that everything he said was true. I did nothing to get myself out of the relationship and i really regret that. It slowly got worse to where not only was he verbally abusing me but also physically. He would push me against lockers, hit my arms, jerk my arms, and twice punched me in the face. I was so stupid to stick around but i thought "if i break up with him he is going to do worse to me" so i stayed and i continued to be beat and just emotionally torn down. He finally broke it off with me on our last day of school. It really messed me up for a while and really does stay as a burden to me. I swore off from dating after that happened but it didn't last long and i am now in a serious relationship with a guy and he knows about my past and respects me for it and does everything in his power to not alarm me or have me experience flashbacks. Let me just say if anyone, guy or girl, if you are in a relationship where someone is constantly putting you down or just straight up verbally abusing you. Get out of the relationship because within time it will get worse and no one, i repeat no one, deserves to go through abuse.
When you were talking about that last situation, Daniel, I couldn't help but think of myself because I did the same thing. Honestly, it ties into self esteem. For me personally, I wasn't used to being treated nicely by a guy and a part of me felt like I didn't deserve it. I regret it now because I could've had a great relationship but instead I spent three years in a crummy relationship and I'm now just starting over.
My girlfriend didn't know I loved her so we were just hanging out I tried to spend as much time as possible with her and then she asked me weeks later and said "You've been spending a lot of time with me... Do you love me?" In which I responded "Yes of course" She then replies with Ok. A week later I got told that she starts dating another guy. I thought to myself wow... A year later she has had 7 different relationships (excluding me!) and she was cheating on me. So yeah...
Love doesn't mean you should necessarily date. If you think that's what love is, that's not love. Maybe she wanted you to make a move or something. You could ask.
Jessica Klaus Eh? Why should the guy have to make the first move? And even if she didn't feel the same way, the decent thing to do is at least be honest instead of cheating on him and treating him like a sack of meat.
Really love this video. I've had a hard time with dating and dealing with loneliness and stuff and I also have very odd and strange passions and hobbies that most people judge me for and go running scared. So I totally understand the frustration.
A LOT of women don't know what they want in a relationship. For example, women can't love you physically until they're loved mentally. Most women don't know or admit this. Women need sex as well but a lot of them don't even know how good sex can be because most guys suck at it. I'd so respect a man who would actually study women. Men seem to think it's something to be ashamed of though. Not ALL men but most.
The only problem I have with this is you saying sex is a necessary "need", necessary part of a relationship. Kinda disregards people who aren't interested in sex at all yet still have fulfilling loving relationships. Y'know. Asexuality. Unless you just meant for you which is fine obviously. But if you meant in general...
I've only dated once (nothing particularly serious), and while it's certainly not the worst experience ever, I learned a pretty decent bit out of it. COMMUNICATION is key. Not only in telling your partner concerns you have, but getting their concerns out of them as well. It's an easy way to light up either the warning lights or the all-clear ones.
I think im a rare breed . I love video games and playing them with my bf i have alot of old school video games and id love to do cosplay sometime i love anime too and i do alot of art as well and i love cooking too. I wish alot of other women were into those things without thinking theyre nerdy or prejudging them... Im 5"8 and wear a size 0 went to modeling school and im a happy and proud video game anime watching woman HELL YEA
Utonium Ph. D. ok if you are talking to me then no i'm not.because I'm a person of my word and you might be thinking tht i'm liying and i can clearly see that because most people on the internet try to lie and make them selves look or sound better than they really are and I really dislike those kinds of people who are like that and wish that they would tell the truth and also i personally think that most people in this world should be blunt because for instance one of my friends who is a guy won't tell Anyone who he likes (you know as in relationship wise) and so i think i have found out who he likes but i cannot say that my cailm is true but i'm still trying to figure out who he likes till this day and for some wired reason if he is reading this then (tell me who you like) he will know that i'm talking to him.but anyways he isn't one of them people that make them self look better than they really are he is and honest person except for this subject. so anyway my entire goal of this post was to tell you that i am not one of those kinds of people and i don't want to make an ass of my self on youtube (although i may of just done that i don't know)
@utonium ph d are you a doushe bag because you sure sound like one calling people fakes . Everyone has their own likes and dislikes its not my specific intent to get people to like me i could care less if people like me. I like me and who I love likes me and thats all that matters. The purpose of my post was to prove a point that girls like video games and were out there and were looking for good guys who aren't doushes and I'm lucky enough to have my guy .
ya same ive gone through that my whole life because ive never been in a relationship and the first girl i asked out rejected me and i just gave up from there and i dont know where to begin searching for people who would ACTUALLY want to make me happy i mean i have friends but i need someone more than that as well
Hhhh. V-necks are my weakness. 😍 Also, I adore the fact that though he has his own opinion and shares it freely, he understands the reality that not everyone matches up to his beliefs and that differences are okay. Especially the fact that he was willing to go as far as date someone who was religious.
I have never dated a girl before (I had crushes but I never actually dated a girl before) but I do understand as well as believe the whole "no sex til marriage" thing (yes I'm a christian) but no kissing til your married? I'm sorry, but that would be really hard for me not to do.
My first and only dating experience was 3 years ago with a girl with who i was in a relationship for one month. She traveled with me and my parents in that month through the UK. She faked her interests, she lied about everything, she was flirting with other guys, tried to date with her ex-boyfriend behind my back, was very spoiled by her mother and i couldn't talk to her about anything because she never understood me, It was a bad experience but i hope i learned something out of it ...
I belive in God, but absolultly I would let my partner to kiss me and cuddle and those kind of stuff. I'm an open-mind. If you are gay, ok. If you are bi, ok. If you belive another thing, ok, but I think that I would choose to have sex after marriage. I want to be clear about something: one thing, is to stand up for what you believe and another very different thing, is to be a fanatic. Please, I want to know opinions if I'm wrong... can anyone answer me?
It's your choice. I think he's just talking about what he needs in a relationship, not what he thinks everyone should do. We should all just do what's right for us.
The Honeymoon phase is typically the first 6 months of a relationship. It's after those 6 months, it'd be a good idea to reflect on the relationship if its going anywhere and the spark is still as strong as it was the first few weeks.
11:45 Daniel, there is a great quote from a movie called perks of being a wallflower that says, "people choose the love they think they deserve". That's why people are in abusive relationships.
Holy shit it takes you 6 months to a year. To get to stage 2 which entails holding Hands! WOW how do you do it , you must share your secrets with me. We got a regular Casanova over here!. I mean do I really gotta say it? Do I? Naw you people can figure this one out for yourself. LOL
Being single for a long time gives both positive and negative attributes to your personality; I have found that I've become stronger and more independent, while at the same time I've become more picky. I feel confident about what I do and don't like and I'm not afraid to say my opinion although it seems that people often don't like that. I love getting to know new people though, and dating is so much fun. My rant is done ^_^
I dated a guy for 2 years (second stage) and it didn't work out in the end for a lot of reasons, I think the main one was just how different we were. We both liked cosplaying and video games but in the end it was the small differences that sent us on our way like our different tastes in food, music and how much time we wanted to spend together, plus he didn't want me studying philosophy and that's a big no no for me. philosophy is my favorite thing in life.
I think with dating its about balancing your standards. Set them too low and you will get someone that causes you nothing but grief. Set them too high and you will never find anyone and will be alone. Everyone has flaws, you just have to pick what you can live with and what is a deal breaker. You don't have to have a lot in common with someone if you are both open minded and willing to take part in each others interest.
I don't mind at all. It's mainly because of my looks. For many years, I've had to deal with excessive body hair and acne - which I still do today and am currently trying to fix. Until then, I can't be with anyone in this condition. It's also had negative effects on simply getting out in the world and doing things (jobs, traveling, moving out of my mom's house, etc) even though no one can see what I look like under my clothes. Also, how does my attitude bother you? I'm only criticizing myself.
My friend's boyfriend is atheist and she's Catholic. I really look up to them because they respect each other and don't push each others faiths on each other, I find that so amazing, and they still listen and are open minded to each other :)
makes you want them and try and save the relationship because you love them. Then you try to fix yourself. To a certain extent - this happens in all love relationships (we put up with fights, angers, bad times, because of the love we get or feel for that person). In a healthy relationship - that's how it should work, in an unhealthy one it is extreme (i.e. someone beats you and you still fight for the relationship because sometimes there's amazing love).
I dated this guy and during the first stage he seemed really nice, and he seemed genuinely interested in what I had to say. As time went on and on I became more of a trophy that he pulled of the shelf to show off to his friends when his self esteem was low rather than an equal.
I've never been on a date and don't ever intend to, to me it's a waste of time. Most people pretend to be someone else, or the best versions of themselves while dating someone anyways. So by the time you find out who they actually are, it's too late. All 3 of my exes have been friends with me for years, that's how I got to know them; not by accepting to go get coffee with some stranger who thinks I'm attractive. If I did that, I would be dating a lot. All past relationships have been good and ended on good terms, and I'm still fairly good friends with them (we just weren't meant to be or grew apart). I guess that's how I like things to be, simple. If you get to know someone while "dating" not only is there a high risk of you not really getting to know them, but a "version" of themselves that's watered down; but you're also attaching strings. Of course the con to not entering into the dating world is that you are limiting the choices, making your fish pond a lot smaller than it has to be. It's not a con to me since I prefer it that way (I call it filtering), but might be a con to some. :) I'm now happily engaged to my best friend and the love of my life(whom I met while gaming). ^_^
I had one girl that was a devote Christian while I was dating her and then up and out of nowhere she let some of her peers just shatter her beliefs. I personally didn't care as I was never particularly religious to begin with but it was just so surprising to see her drop her faith as quickly as she did; she dropped it all within like a day and prior she was as obsessed with her religion as one could be.
ooh my where do I start? I've had numerous bad dates as a result of online dating. I've had the emotionally unavailable men, mama's boys, broke and unambitious man, the pot head that lives at home, the spoiled rotten man, the abusive men, angry men, advisory psychotic men, and yes, even a midget. poor bastard.
worst dating experience is my son's father, he was terribly abusive and broke my jaw and 3 ribs and threw me down a flight of stairs. I loved him dearly but was not meant to be. no one male or female deserves abuse. now happily engaged to my best friend and so in love!
Abusive relationships are hard to understand, people who decide to stay in them, usually stay because they don't feel like they deserve better. It's really sad
All of my traits contradict which makes it really difficult to build a relationship. For example, I'm a people pleaser, but I'm also heartless. Because of the people pleaser trait, I end up attracting a range of different guys and I'm open minded to their hobbies like gaming and cosplaying or sports. Because I'm one of the few girls who don't care if they game all day and encourage their skills/hobbies, they fall "in love" pretty quickly and get really attached. I hate love and attachment and that's where the heartless trait comes in to play and I break it off pretty quickly. I'm pretty sure I'll never get married because once the guy shows serious feelings for me, I get very annoyed and feel suffocated and leave. Since I use to be a tomboy, I hate being treated like a princess, but that's what all nice guys think nice girls deserve. So I try not to date nice guys. My logic.
Past dating experience: My ex was a HUGE video game & Otaku nerd. We shared a TON of other common interests and it was a match made in heaven (for awhile). But he didn't like working & was content living at home off his dad. I wanted more, so it didn't work out. In the end, I feel like he dumped me for his Mithra. :S It's okay, tho. I learned many valuable experiences that allowed me to grow as a person, & find someone MUCH better (with many same interests!) who I eventually married.
My only romantic involvement with another human: I met a girl at a conference, we talked over Facebook with increasing frequency over the next few months. She was trying to flirt with me for most of this time, I didn't notice until the last two weeks. When I did notice, we moved to 'stage 2' as you call it, where we stayed for six months, until changing circumstances made staying together effectively impossible. That was two years ago, not a single date since.
I was regrettably "a girl who didn't know what she wants" I went back to my ex, who wasn't abusive but was a real duchebag to people and didn't know how to be a good boyfriend. the reason was that I was insecure and believed that I wasn't going to find anyone better that him. Luckily I met a really nice guy who gave me confidence and loved me for who I was making me feel beautiful.
Meeting people on forums is usually effective. That's how I met someone currently close to me, though she lives in a different country which is unfortunate.
Take it from me: The worst dating experience to have is being 30 and not ever having one at all when everyone else your age and younger are getting to do things you can only fantasize about - all the while knowing that it will never happen for you. I hope people who are fortunate enough to experience sex, love, and dating appreciate it because it's just not a possibility for some of us.
You're absolutely right, and like I said, they don't sound like very good friends. Like I said, if you want a relationship, try to get active and find someone who shares whatever your interests are, try to take that person out on casual dates to get to know them, and try not to rush having sex, it's not a race. Hope things work out for you man.
I've had the total opposite experience. I'm usually way nerdier than the guys I talk to, they want to talk sports and I'm sitting there thinking about Skyrim.
I was actually engaged to my high school sweetheart. We are both from a very small town and we moved out together to a bigger city when we were 19. We did everything together, even went to college together. He got into World of Warcraft in his spare time after we got out of class for the day. He started spending a large amount of time on the game and ignored me completely. He also started hiding his phone from me and acting super secretive. I eventually broke with him because
people who crave for it sees it as an essential in strengthening a relationship. i find it inapplicable, unless it's going to be a daily activity for he rest of our lives. it's kinda like video games, one day, you wake up and realize that your hand and eye coordination will never be the same again, that you just have to accept it. unlike treating SIAKS as an essential and critical factor in a relationship. you're building a house with a straw drive.
My bad dating experience is : I dated a very sweet girl who was very original and nice, but I broke up with her, twice, because we often had arguments over childish and even theoretical point of view, not even worthy bein talked about. It came to a point that I couldn't take it anymore. Result : I came back with her once and then, after I said something stupid (I regret, alot) she began arguing with me non-stop. Half a month later, she commited suicide. Regret, guilt, sorrow, self-despise.
the whole dating and love thing, its only ever about ones self and yet evolution has it that people so delicately confuse their feelings and care for one another while really only ever trying to please ones self. Loving someone is depending on them, wanting them around because socializing with them makes you feel socially accepted " being with others increased chance of survival", reproduction which increases chance of passing on alleles, them being a resource at your expense and useful.
My worst experience so far is probably the first guy I ever dated. He seemed like a perfectly nice guy but had had a past of being used by previous girlfriends because he was such a nice dude. He was six years older and so I guess I sort of assumed he'd be a little mature. However, after about two or three dates and quite a bit of texting, we got into this little fight where he got mad at me because I wasn't showing enough interest. However, what sparked the fight was my response to his sudden comment that he wasn't ready for a relationship or something along those lines. So, I said that's fine, then we won't or something along those lines. I thought I was being receptive and understanding but he got mad at me and we started fighting. And it was so strange because his responses honestly made it sound like we had known each other for far longer than we had. And one of his last messages involved him saying he was going to miss my hugs (we only hugged once or twice, really) and that he would delete my number and that this would be his last message. I'd already deleted his number because we'd come to an agreement that it wasn't going to work. However, I kept feeling bad for how things went because it had ended so abruptly with this huge argument about essentially nothing. I think almost a year later I have the guts to send him an apology. He doesn't receive it well and gets mad. A day or so later HE apologizes and proceeds to admit that it had made him uncomfortable because he had realized he had been hoping we could give it another go but that it was clear i wasn't interested in that and so he would leave me alone. Months later, he messages me again and so obviously i'm a little confused and i ask him why he's messaging me again. but because this is written word, he misinterprets it as me getting mad and proceeds to get defensive and saying he just wanted to talk but if that wasn't cool with me he'd just block me so he wouldn't message me again... So basically, it was a hot mess because our main method of communication was text and we are clearly both terrible communicators.
I'm just not into normal things. I'm a death metal fan, I'm a nerd, I love a of gothic types of things. I don't think I'll ever find a girl who would step into my room and not get creeped out by the death metal posters and gothic ornaments. The main thing with me is I really don't understand why others need human connections. I can't connect to other people and don't understand human bonding. I never feel lonely. I think I'm just meant to be by myself. I'm a true natural loner.
i've been that girl (still am) that goes back to the verbally abusive relationship, instead of the guy who would treat me with the respect people claim i deserve. my friends have pointed this out to me multiple times. so recently, i took a step back, and tried to figure out why i'm like this. i've come to the conclusion that it's because i don't feel like i deserve any better, and that the guy deserves better than me. i'm not saying that's why everyone who settles for less does what they do, but that is my personal reasoning.
I am asexual myself and I do know some asexuals want relationships but others don't and it only gets to friendship. Asexuals in a relationship may still like to cuddle, some don't. Some want a companion for life to share life with.
Oh and I'm mature enough that if things didn't work out, we could be friends. I've been in many relationships that turned into amazing friendships because of how close we were and I don't think that would have happened if we weren't exclusive to each other. One of my best friends is a boyfriend from 11 years ago. :)
I completely get what you mean about the girl talking about her ex. The last woman I went out with spent the whole date talking about her ex, including telling me that she stalked him for two years after they broke up four years ago. Add to that the fact that she had an intense fear of mentally challenged people and my career is working with the mentally challenged, I decided she wasn't the one for me. When I told her she flipped out and spent the next two days sending me harrassing texts.
Ahhh... The infamous "Why do girls CHOOSE to be with jerks or nice guys" question again. It really does seem to be the question, that no matter how many times we hear the answer, guys who are considered decent or "nice" don't WANT to accept it. And yes it DOES suck to be one of those guys who will see a girl he really likes, and the girl he wants CHOOSES to be with a guy who DOESN'T treat her the way he feels she deserves. But some women ARE attracted to those types of men. Fact of life
I dated a guy who I had feelings for since I was like 5. It's happened to be my bestfriend's brother. We liked eachother for years, so happened that we ended up getting really close during a rough patch between him and his girlfriend. They broke up, I assumed we'd date but he said he wouldn't date me until I was legal (I was 15 at the time this was happening). He explained he couldn't wait until I was finished school to be with me because "once you have sex it's hard not to have it" once I turned 16 we were still really close and everything I had hoped his opinion on waiting for me had changed. We texted all the time. He admitted he loved me and vise verser. Next thing he starts ignoring me and starts dating a girl. Now 2 years later we both have our partners, we don't speak to eachother. I realise now he only wanted to date me to take my virginity and attempt in harassing me and my boyfriend because his relationship isn't working out..
just think of the good things that you will never have when you're in a relationship. but anyways, i understand the loneliness, but it's always better to be lonely than regretting to have people enter your life... regardless if wanted or unwanted.
You have to think, "what do I really want in life?" If you're lonely, surround yourself with nice pple. You don't have to be romantically involved with anyone, because chances are is that being single isn't the real problem. Aim for higher things. If you like sports, work harder at them. Like music? practice until you're really good. try to get promotions at work(or good grades at school). You have to find consolation within urself, cause that's where you can find true happiness.
I dated a girl who didn't care for me (since I was fat and nerdy) and I got cheated on three times. I broke it off and I decided that I need to grow up before I give my trust to anyone. I still need to grow up and I would rather be friends with someone. Friends last longer.
Finally someone who agrees. When I tell people I play WoW they look at me like I'm diseased. Some people who play WoW are addiction prone, and I see how WoW can be addictive. But just like not everyone who drink alcohol turn into alcoholics, not everyone who play WoW get addicted to it and have to play 24/7. I merely just choose playing WoW over, for example, watching TV (which on the other hand, it's completely okay to sit around on your couch all day watching crap).
I know how you feel about this whole dating thing. I write a lot, game, love anime and korean dramas and telling guys this stuff I'd get a similar look like 'oh..thats cool.' but I can tell by that look they think I'm the biggest loser ever lol. Do you know how much of a jack pot it would be if I met a guy that said 'oh yea I cosplay'?! lol Pure elation! You're a good guy MrRepzion. I'm glad I'm not the only one who's experienced awkward situations like these ^^"
I guess it's a big difference between the responses you get if you're a gamer boy and if you're a gamer girl... I almost always get a (surprised and) positive response. Luckily.
Hey man at least you are being really honest with your self deep down and not trying to lie about anything in those kind of situations, genreally most people will be more happy in the long run if they are like that. But that is just my opinion on it : )
aw, thanks. It's nice to know he wasn't being silent as a way of saying "I don't really like you". Just. nervousness, maybe... I can't read his mind after all but that seems likely lol. It's good to know though that maybe it'd be good for me to step out of MY shell and say something nice... I'm kinda shy when meeting new people to. Especially guys. lol. When I'm comfortable though I chatter to much x) Anyway, hopefully I'll have the courage to say howdy next time I see him.
Repzion a way around the video response thing would be to get people to put @MrRepzion in the video title, this should send it to you on twitter. Not 100% sure but ive seen other people using this before so it should work :D
To your question as to why people date or return to an abusive partner: I think that aside of the fear and worthless feelings they experience (which would make them draw away from this relationship) they also really depend on that person and really need their love for some reason. Maybe that someone reminds them of a parent or a good friend, go tell. The fact is that an abusive person is not always abusive. Sometimes they can be very kind and (surprise) loving. What you feel towards a person...
I've had a very sad dating experience :( My girlfriend of 3 years recently left me (i'm only 19) because of my mental disorders (OCD, Depression, Social Anxiety, Asburges) I still love her so much but she doesn't even want to know me anymore :( I just can't let go of her... I hope everyone else is having better experiences
My dating experiences are zero, zilch, and nada. The closest I ever got was a guy (whose name I didn't even know and had never once talked to before) asked if I wanted to get coffee with him. I internally combusted and "ran away" (not literally, but... pretty much). I am in college. This is getting ridiculous.
Hahaha....ha...same here (last year of high school) I don't even know anymore.
I'm past college already and I haven't had actual relationship experience and the reason for that might seem very odd. I have no real interest in a sexual relationship, or at least not very soon, but all the women I've dated so far wanted it far too soon and I'm starting to question the motives of humanity, that's what rubbed me the wrong way about this video "sex is important", I don't think it is, I'm totally fine with non-sexual intimacy (kissing, cuddling, etc.), but can't people think about spending time together without fucking? Reading the comments under this video made me loose even more faith, I should consider moving to Japan, since I don't fit into the western society o.o
I just went full Henderson
That's nothing bad :) Have you ever heard of asexuality or demisexuality? Asexuality is when people don't experience sexual attraction (or very rarely). Asexuals often still experience romantic attraction (which seems to be what you are describing) or aesthetic attraction, but don't have the desire to have sex (and this is perfectly healthy). Demisexuality is in the realm of grey-asexuality, in that it means that you only experience sexual attraction once you have formed a close emotional bond with someone (note, this is not the same as CHOOSING to wait, you simply don't feel sexual towards someone). I consider myself a demisexual....I would say my experience in that is very similar to yours, except I've never been in a sexual situation. If you recognize yourself in those descriptions I would recommend going to AVEN online and read some more.
I just went full Henderson I'm in the reverse category. I just want sex and friendship. The whole looking for the one or finding your other half just sounds so depressing to me. lol kinda funny just thinking about the fact that after all I've done I've never kissed or cuddled.
CampingforCool41 What you're describing sounds exactly like me. Demi-sexuality that is, I have no desire to just have sex with anyone except my significant other. At times, the desire is annoying and I wish it wasn't so prominent, but I guess it's natural and masturbation does help to suppress the desire. As for the video, I've had one 2nd-stage dating experience before my current one, and it wasn't good because, like in the video, it didn't last and when it ended it destroyed me emotionally because she left me and got with one of my friends a day after. Now, my current relationship is going almost perfectly and I'm happy with it.
"I don't spend 14 hours a day playing World of Warcraft." .... *shuffles backward, awkwardly walks out the door*
Hey its cool bro, we've all been there, nothing wrong with that, but you know what is even better? Running a business in the background and making fat stacks and still playing wow all day. Anyone who can do that has my eternal respect :))
Haha, when he said BDSM i started to laugh and the exact moment i laughed he looked in to my soul and laughed too, im high XD
no girlfriends until marriage!!!!!
your opinion, haha
I don't see why you shouldn't at all but I don't think I would have had the self control to abstain that long
That's cool if you wanna live your life like that. I don't.
where did i hear that before oh yeah josh kwondike bar vine this one said NO BOYFRIEND UNTIL U MARRIED and i lost my shit
You have to have a boyfriend to get married ... Stupid
xXRenneeXx You can, actually.
I call dibs on this guy ;)
no srsly. i want this one.
Same
+anna sanna how annoyed/disgusted would you be if i said, "oh, hell, why not?" and get in line... behind you?
+anna sanna me too man
i have no chance though
-----a boy
HOW DARE YOU OBJECTIFY HIM?! YOU MISANDRIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1!1
Angie T misandry doesn't exist
-a troll pretending to be a feminist
Aww at 9:05 he gets all shy because after he says sex he "whispers" bdsm. Ayyy. I wonder if he's dom or sub.
I know right? My reaction exactly.
I don't even hang out with my best friends, so dating is a foreign concept to me..
Planning on dieing alone, woohoo.
Don't know that I would consider this bad, but it was definitely an interesting experience. Went out on a date with some guy I had met a few weeks before, seemed like a pretty chill dude. Half way through dinner he tells me "you know, you're the type of woman I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. Just so you know I want at least two more kids." Whoooooa nelly! A bit too fast for my liking, needless to say there was not a second date.
Well I have had a guy tell me I was too happy and optimistic about life, I'm one of those people who is just happy to be alive and thriving, I use to be depressed an on meds but I can gladly say that I'm not any more ...
Last year I started dating my ex boyfriend and it turns out I was rebound to make his girlfriend jealous and after 3 weeks of being exclusive we got back to college and he asked me not to speak to him because I was embarrassing to other people and he didn't want a bad reputation. Then he broke up with me and hooked up with his ex girlfriend again. Fun.
I am OK with no sex till marriage but no KISSING?
A bit too much if you ask me
*****
Well ain't this guy asking for trouble?
Let me tell you something buddy, even if what you say is true, you no longer deserve it. Why? Well, you invaded us exactly 41 years ago and still to this day *illegally occupy* us. Turkey is like an abusive mother trying to keep it's "child" (not saying we technically belong to you though) with her by *force*.
Oh and I do not hate you guys I think your country is great and beautiful. But no, saying we belong to you is like saying Bahrain is part of Iran.. it isn't.
We are not Greece
We are not Turkey
We are Cyprus and that is how it is gonna go from now on.
Technically, all forms of entertainment are wastes of time, and can also quite often be a waste of money. One of my hobbies is listening to music. That takes time, because an album usually spans 30-40 minutes, and it takes money to buy the albums. But I like to listen to music. I also like to draw while I listen to music. That wastes time, and it wastes money on supplies to draw with, and the notebooks I use.
I'm late for this. I was dating a girl who I absolutely fell in love with, and the nicer part is that she fell absolutely in love with me. She was the first girl I dated for a longer period of time. I tried not to get too serious in the relationship because I'm still a tad young (17). I really liked her and we did everything together and spent tons of time together. One day, a couple months in, we ran into one of her exes. I didn't know they dated before, but it makes sense after I saw how touchy this person was with her. I asked my girlfriend about it later and she said "Yeah, she's my ex". Of course. I had no idea. I asked my girlfriend if she was bi-sexual. Yeah, she said yes. I don't mind, but we've been dating for months. So... this is something I should know, right? She was always a bit touchy with girls, even touchier than she is with guys, but I thought nothing of it since most girls are touchy with other girls. That or my ENTIRE school is full of lesbians. I told my girlfriend that I don't like her being touchy with girls, or even men other than me for that matter. She respected that and distanced herself from women and men alike. Until few months later, I notice she's getting touchy with girls again. Cuddly and huggy. Alright whatever, that's fine, or at least it would be if she was the same with me. I just though "okay, she's with her friends, I'll just let her be with friends. I won't get jealous or clingy or something." It wasn't until later when I had her alone that I realized, she is touchier with people in public than me, her boyfriend, in private. The next couple days at school, she was even flirting with people, guys and girls, and ignoring me. I asked her "what the fuck?" She tried to feed me bullshit, and I just left.
Did... Did he say BDSM???
Does that mean he likes bondage???
Yes bad there is nothing wrong with that
No no, I didn't mean to sound displeased and shocked. I just got excited to hear him say that because I'm the same way.
Ooh, I'm the same way too!
BDSM doesn't just mean bondage. This is what it means;Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM). It overlaps.
SuperAlienboi
Oh neat! Thanks! :D
Isaac... Story time.
Once upon a time I dated a guy named Isaac. I have no idea why. I'm pansexual, and he regularly shamed me for that, as well as calling me ugly, fat, and various other names. He told me my writing was horrible and that my art was unrecognizable as sketches of humans. It really shook me for a while.
We only spoke through Skype calls, he lived in Florida, me living in AZ, which I am so grateful for, because dear god, the look on his face and the tone in his voice when he found out I was gender fluid... he would've hit me.
His dad also would say in the background, "Isaac, why do you have a can of pot?" and he'd go "I don't know dad, I just came back from the party and I'm like 'why do I have this empty can of pot?'" and then he would act loopy for the rest of the day.
Basically I think he was a drug addict and on top of that he was emotionally abusive.
I got out of there quick xD Soon enough I met my current girlfriend, so it's all better now. :3 YAYY
You GI beautiful you don't need Isaac. His loss
Livelovelifeeleni
Thank you.
I'm also pansexual and I get a lot of guys saying they would never date me because there's more competition. The girls and one trans I've dated didn't think anything of it, but the guys would always over react -.-
StrypedPajamaz
I know... it's annoying -.- I feel your pain
StrypedPajamaz What's pansexual?😕
I've had only one bad dating experience and it really shaped me as a person. I dated this guy who went to my school and we lasted about 6 months. At first he was a very sweet guy and we got along as best friends. Then it's almost as if something snapped or changed about him. He began putting me down for my weight, my looks, my personality. he constantly called me ugly and said no one was every going to love me but him. This was my first real world relationship (i had a long distance one before this) and i didn't want to lose it and be pretty much brainwashed me into believing that everything he said was true. I did nothing to get myself out of the relationship and i really regret that. It slowly got worse to where not only was he verbally abusing me but also physically. He would push me against lockers, hit my arms, jerk my arms, and twice punched me in the face. I was so stupid to stick around but i thought "if i break up with him he is going to do worse to me" so i stayed and i continued to be beat and just emotionally torn down. He finally broke it off with me on our last day of school. It really messed me up for a while and really does stay as a burden to me. I swore off from dating after that happened but it didn't last long and i am now in a serious relationship with a guy and he knows about my past and respects me for it and does everything in his power to not alarm me or have me experience flashbacks.
Let me just say if anyone, guy or girl, if you are in a relationship where someone is constantly putting you down or just straight up verbally abusing you. Get out of the relationship because within time it will get worse and no one, i repeat no one, deserves to go through abuse.
if games are a waste of money, what would you call all the shoes, bags and jewellery? xD
When you were talking about that last situation, Daniel, I couldn't help but think of myself because I did the same thing. Honestly, it ties into self esteem. For me personally, I wasn't used to being treated nicely by a guy and a part of me felt like I didn't deserve it. I regret it now because I could've had a great relationship but instead I spent three years in a crummy relationship and I'm now just starting over.
My girlfriend didn't know I loved her so we were just hanging out I tried to spend as much time as possible with her and then she asked me weeks later and said "You've been spending a lot of time with me... Do you love me?" In which I responded "Yes of course" She then replies with Ok. A week later I got told that she starts dating another guy. I thought to myself wow... A year later she has had 7 different relationships (excluding me!) and she was cheating on me. So yeah...
Aww I'm sorry :c
Cold bitch.
Love doesn't mean you should necessarily date. If you think that's what love is, that's not love. Maybe she wanted you to make a move or something. You could ask.
Jessica Klaus Eh? Why should the guy have to make the first move? And even if she didn't feel the same way, the decent thing to do is at least be honest instead of cheating on him and treating him like a sack of meat.
entertain7us14 Agreed 100%
Really love this video. I've had a hard time with dating and dealing with loneliness and stuff and I also have very odd and strange passions and hobbies that most people judge me for and go running scared. So I totally understand the frustration.
A LOT of women don't know what they want in a relationship. For example, women can't love you physically until they're loved mentally. Most women don't know or admit this. Women need sex as well but a lot of them don't even know how good sex can be because most guys suck at it. I'd so respect a man who would actually study women. Men seem to think it's something to be ashamed of though. Not ALL men but most.
I adore your videos...But i love the stuff you have in the background! The Chewbacca poster is a adorkable. :3
The only problem I have with this is you saying sex is a necessary "need", necessary part of a relationship. Kinda disregards people who aren't interested in sex at all yet still have fulfilling loving relationships. Y'know. Asexuality.
Unless you just meant for you which is fine obviously. But if you meant in general...
RecklessRoseRiot Thank you from an Asexual loser
I've only dated once (nothing particularly serious), and while it's certainly not the worst experience ever, I learned a pretty decent bit out of it. COMMUNICATION is key. Not only in telling your partner concerns you have, but getting their concerns out of them as well. It's an easy way to light up either the warning lights or the all-clear ones.
I think im a rare breed . I love video games and playing them with my bf i have alot of old school video games and id love to do cosplay sometime i love anime too and i do alot of art as well and i love cooking too. I wish alot of other women were into those things without thinking theyre nerdy or prejudging them... Im 5"8 and wear a size 0 went to modeling school and im a happy and proud video game anime watching woman HELL YEA
same here! With the traits
...I love all of those things, too! :o
are you one of those fake bitches that only pretend to like this stuff to feel cool? you sure sound like one.
Utonium Ph. D. ok if you are talking to me then no i'm not.because I'm a person of my word and you might be thinking tht i'm liying and i can clearly see that because most people on the internet try to lie and make them selves look or sound better than they really are and I really dislike those kinds of people who are like that and wish that they would tell the truth and also i personally think that most people in this world should be blunt because for instance one of my friends who is a guy won't tell Anyone who he likes (you know as in relationship wise) and so i think i have found out who he likes but i cannot say that my cailm is true but i'm still trying to figure out who he likes till this day and for some wired reason if he is reading this then (tell me who you like) he will know that i'm talking to him.but anyways he isn't one of them people that make them self look better than they really are he is and honest person except for this subject. so anyway my entire goal of this post was to tell you that i am not one of those kinds of people and i don't want to make an ass of my self on youtube (although i may of just done that i don't know)
@utonium ph d are you a doushe bag because you sure sound like one calling people fakes . Everyone has their own likes and dislikes its not my specific intent to get people to like me i could care less if people like me. I like me and who I love likes me and thats all that matters. The purpose of my post was to prove a point that girls like video games and were out there and were looking for good guys who aren't doushes and I'm lucky enough to have my guy .
ya same ive gone through that my whole life because ive never been in a relationship and the first girl i asked out rejected me and i just gave up from there and i dont know where to begin searching for people who would ACTUALLY want to make me happy i mean i have friends but i need someone more than that as well
Hhhh. V-necks are my weakness. 😍 Also, I adore the fact that though he has his own opinion and shares it freely, he understands the reality that not everyone matches up to his beliefs and that differences are okay. Especially the fact that he was willing to go as far as date someone who was religious.
5:26
XD luv the zoom in Dan, adds a really nice comedic touch to your vids... well more of a comedic touch
I have never dated a girl before (I had crushes but I never actually dated a girl before) but I do understand as well as believe the whole "no sex til marriage" thing (yes I'm a christian) but no kissing til your married? I'm sorry, but that would be really hard for me not to do.
Man I love MrRepzion he's the most raw, honest, concise TH-cam out there right now
''bdsm'' im doneee
haha, "is this the room for an argument?" one of my favourite sketches, after the killer joke :)
DOM OR SUB DANIEL?
DOM. OR. SUB.
+Hazy Nightmares who gives a rat's ass?! he'd be SOMETHIN ELSE either way. grrrr
Loved the little cough and whispering 'BDSM'. Made me chuckle haha
...BDSM ey? ...i like the way you think my friend :'D
My first and only dating experience was 3 years ago with a girl with who i was in a relationship for one month. She traveled with me and my parents in that month through the UK. She faked her interests, she lied about everything, she was flirting with other guys, tried to date with her ex-boyfriend behind my back, was very spoiled by her mother and i couldn't talk to her about anything because she never understood me, It was a bad experience but i hope i learned something out of it ...
*cough* BDSM *cough*
Shiyad aawp
"You know holding hands, hugs, physical affection, sex"
That escalated relatively quickly.
I belive in God, but absolultly I would let my partner to kiss me and cuddle and those kind of stuff. I'm an open-mind. If you are gay, ok. If you are bi, ok. If you belive another thing, ok, but I think that I would choose to have sex after marriage. I want to be clear about something: one thing, is to stand up for what you believe and another very different thing, is to be a fanatic. Please, I want to know opinions if I'm wrong... can anyone answer me?
It's your choice. I think he's just talking about what he needs in a relationship, not what he thinks everyone should do. We should all just do what's right for us.
Thank you! (:
The Honeymoon phase is typically the first 6 months of a relationship. It's after those 6 months, it'd be a good idea to reflect on the relationship if its going anywhere and the spark is still as strong as it was the first few weeks.
The kissing thing was dumb though like it's kissing Jesus
11:45 Daniel, there is a great quote from a movie called perks of being a wallflower that says, "people choose the love they think they deserve". That's why people are in abusive relationships.
Holy shit it takes you 6 months to a year. To get to stage 2 which entails holding Hands! WOW how do you do it , you must share your secrets with me. We got a regular Casanova over here!.
I mean do I really gotta say it? Do I? Naw you people can figure this one out for yourself. LOL
Hahaha
Being single for a long time gives both positive and negative attributes to your personality; I have found that I've become stronger and more independent, while at the same time I've become more picky. I feel confident about what I do and don't like and I'm not afraid to say my opinion although it seems that people often don't like that. I love getting to know new people though, and dating is so much fun. My rant is done ^_^
sub or dom?
I dated a guy for 2 years (second stage) and it didn't work out in the end for a lot of reasons, I think the main one was just how different we were. We both liked cosplaying and video games but in the end it was the small differences that sent us on our way like our different tastes in food, music and how much time we wanted to spend together, plus he didn't want me studying philosophy and that's a big no no for me. philosophy is my favorite thing in life.
I think with dating its about balancing your standards. Set them too low and you will get someone that causes you nothing but grief. Set them too high and you will never find anyone and will be alone. Everyone has flaws, you just have to pick what you can live with and what is a deal breaker. You don't have to have a lot in common with someone if you are both open minded and willing to take part in each others interest.
I don't mind at all. It's mainly because of my looks. For many years, I've had to deal with excessive body hair and acne - which I still do today and am currently trying to fix. Until then, I can't be with anyone in this condition. It's also had negative effects on simply getting out in the world and doing things (jobs, traveling, moving out of my mom's house, etc) even though no one can see what I look like under my clothes. Also, how does my attitude bother you? I'm only criticizing myself.
My friend's boyfriend is atheist and she's Catholic. I really look up to them because they respect each other and don't push each others faiths on each other, I find that so amazing, and they still listen and are open minded to each other :)
makes you want them and try and save the relationship because you love them. Then you try to fix yourself. To a certain extent - this happens in all love relationships (we put up with fights, angers, bad times, because of the love we get or feel for that person). In a healthy relationship - that's how it should work, in an unhealthy one it is extreme (i.e. someone beats you and you still fight for the relationship because sometimes there's amazing love).
I dated this guy and during the first stage he seemed really nice, and he seemed genuinely interested in what I had to say. As time went on and on I became more of a trophy that he pulled of the shelf to show off to his friends when his self esteem was low rather than an equal.
I've never been on a date and don't ever intend to, to me it's a waste of time. Most people pretend to be someone else, or the best versions of themselves while dating someone anyways. So by the time you find out who they actually are, it's too late.
All 3 of my exes have been friends with me for years, that's how I got to know them; not by accepting to go get coffee with some stranger who thinks I'm attractive. If I did that, I would be dating a lot.
All past relationships have been good and ended on good terms, and I'm still fairly good friends with them (we just weren't meant to be or grew apart). I guess that's how I like things to be, simple. If you get to know someone while "dating" not only is there a high risk of you not really getting to know them, but a "version" of themselves that's watered down; but you're also attaching strings.
Of course the con to not entering into the dating world is that you are limiting the choices, making your fish pond a lot smaller than it has to be. It's not a con to me since I prefer it that way (I call it filtering), but might be a con to some. :)
I'm now happily engaged to my best friend and the love of my life(whom I met while gaming). ^_^
No dating experiences, never had the desire to do so. Been asked out several times, always shot them down. Not worth it to me.
I had one girl that was a devote Christian while I was dating her and then up and out of nowhere she let some of her peers just shatter her beliefs. I personally didn't care as I was never particularly religious to begin with but it was just so surprising to see her drop her faith as quickly as she did; she dropped it all within like a day and prior she was as obsessed with her religion as one could be.
ooh my where do I start? I've had numerous bad dates as a result of online dating. I've had the emotionally unavailable men, mama's boys, broke and unambitious man, the pot head that lives at home, the spoiled rotten man, the abusive men, angry men, advisory psychotic men, and yes, even a midget. poor bastard.
worst dating experience is my son's father, he was terribly abusive and broke my jaw and 3 ribs and threw me down a flight of stairs. I loved him dearly but was not meant to be. no one male or female deserves abuse. now happily engaged to my best friend and so in love!
Abusive relationships are hard to understand, people who decide to stay in them, usually stay because they don't feel like they deserve better. It's really sad
Your videos are educational and entertaining. Keep making them.
All of my traits contradict which makes it really difficult to build a relationship. For example, I'm a people pleaser, but I'm also heartless. Because of the people pleaser trait, I end up attracting a range of different guys and I'm open minded to their hobbies like gaming and cosplaying or sports. Because I'm one of the few girls who don't care if they game all day and encourage their skills/hobbies, they fall "in love" pretty quickly and get really attached. I hate love and attachment and that's where the heartless trait comes in to play and I break it off pretty quickly. I'm pretty sure I'll never get married because once the guy shows serious feelings for me, I get very annoyed and feel suffocated and leave.
Since I use to be a tomboy, I hate being treated like a princess, but that's what all nice guys think nice girls deserve. So I try not to date nice guys. My logic.
LOL *whispers* "BDSM"
Past dating experience: My ex was a HUGE video game & Otaku nerd. We shared a TON of other common interests and it was a match made in heaven (for awhile). But he didn't like working & was content living at home off his dad. I wanted more, so it didn't work out. In the end, I feel like he dumped me for his Mithra. :S It's okay, tho. I learned many valuable experiences that allowed me to grow as a person, & find someone MUCH better (with many same interests!) who I eventually married.
My only romantic involvement with another human: I met a girl at a conference, we talked over Facebook with increasing frequency over the next few months. She was trying to flirt with me for most of this time, I didn't notice until the last two weeks. When I did notice, we moved to 'stage 2' as you call it, where we stayed for six months, until changing circumstances made staying together effectively impossible. That was two years ago, not a single date since.
I was regrettably "a girl who didn't know what she wants" I went back to my ex, who wasn't abusive but was a real duchebag to people and didn't know how to be a good boyfriend. the reason was that I was insecure and believed that I wasn't going to find anyone better that him. Luckily I met a really nice guy who gave me confidence and loved me for who I was making me feel beautiful.
Meeting people on forums is usually effective. That's how I met someone currently close to me, though she lives in a different country which is unfortunate.
Take it from me: The worst dating experience to have is being 30 and not ever having one at all when everyone else your age and younger are getting to do things you can only fantasize about - all the while knowing that it will never happen for you. I hope people who are fortunate enough to experience sex, love, and dating appreciate it because it's just not a possibility for some of us.
You're absolutely right, and like I said, they don't sound like very good friends. Like I said, if you want a relationship, try to get active and find someone who shares whatever your interests are, try to take that person out on casual dates to get to know them, and try not to rush having sex, it's not a race. Hope things work out for you man.
Repzion; 'I dont spend 14 hours a day playing World of Warcraft'
Me; -logs out of World of Warcraft- 'Psh me either.'
I've had the total opposite experience. I'm usually way nerdier than the guys I talk to, they want to talk sports and I'm sitting there thinking about Skyrim.
I was actually engaged to my high school sweetheart. We are both from a very small town and we moved out together to a bigger city when we were 19. We did everything together, even went to college together. He got into World of Warcraft in his spare time after we got out of class for the day. He started spending a large amount of time on the game and ignored me completely. He also started hiding his phone from me and acting super secretive. I eventually broke with him because
people who crave for it sees it as an essential in strengthening a relationship. i find it inapplicable, unless it's going to be a daily activity for he rest of our lives. it's kinda like video games, one day, you wake up and realize that your hand and eye coordination will never be the same again, that you just have to accept it. unlike treating SIAKS as an essential and critical factor in a relationship. you're building a house with a straw drive.
My bad dating experience is : I dated a very sweet girl who was very original and nice, but I broke up with her, twice, because we often had arguments over childish and even theoretical point of view, not even worthy bein talked about.
It came to a point that I couldn't take it anymore.
Result : I came back with her once and then, after I said something stupid (I regret, alot) she began arguing with me non-stop.
Half a month later, she commited suicide. Regret, guilt, sorrow, self-despise.
yep, that's the cycle i'm talking about when i tell people why SIAKS isn't really a big thing on determining relationships
the whole dating and love thing, its only ever about ones self and yet evolution has it that people so delicately confuse their feelings and care for one another while really only ever trying to please ones self. Loving someone is depending on them, wanting them around because socializing with them makes you feel socially accepted " being with others increased chance of survival", reproduction which increases chance of passing on alleles, them being a resource at your expense and useful.
My worst experience so far is probably the first guy I ever dated. He seemed like a perfectly nice guy but had had a past of being used by previous girlfriends because he was such a nice dude. He was six years older and so I guess I sort of assumed he'd be a little mature. However, after about two or three dates and quite a bit of texting, we got into this little fight where he got mad at me because I wasn't showing enough interest. However, what sparked the fight was my response to his sudden comment that he wasn't ready for a relationship or something along those lines. So, I said that's fine, then we won't or something along those lines. I thought I was being receptive and understanding but he got mad at me and we started fighting. And it was so strange because his responses honestly made it sound like we had known each other for far longer than we had. And one of his last messages involved him saying he was going to miss my hugs (we only hugged once or twice, really) and that he would delete my number and that this would be his last message. I'd already deleted his number because we'd come to an agreement that it wasn't going to work. However, I kept feeling bad for how things went because it had ended so abruptly with this huge argument about essentially nothing. I think almost a year later I have the guts to send him an apology. He doesn't receive it well and gets mad. A day or so later HE apologizes and proceeds to admit that it had made him uncomfortable because he had realized he had been hoping we could give it another go but that it was clear i wasn't interested in that and so he would leave me alone. Months later, he messages me again and so obviously i'm a little confused and i ask him why he's messaging me again. but because this is written word, he misinterprets it as me getting mad and proceeds to get defensive and saying he just wanted to talk but if that wasn't cool with me he'd just block me so he wouldn't message me again... So basically, it was a hot mess because our main method of communication was text and we are clearly both terrible communicators.
You are on my gay list with Jimmy Page from the 60s, Serj Tankian, Chris Cornell when he was alive, and Chris Ray Gun.
I'm just not into normal things. I'm a death metal fan, I'm a nerd, I love a of gothic types of things. I don't think I'll ever find a girl who would step into my room and not get creeped out by the death metal posters and gothic ornaments.
The main thing with me is I really don't understand why others need human connections. I can't connect to other people and don't understand human bonding. I never feel lonely.
I think I'm just meant to be by myself. I'm a true natural loner.
i've been that girl (still am) that goes back to the verbally abusive relationship, instead of the guy who would treat me with the respect people claim i deserve. my friends have pointed this out to me multiple times. so recently, i took a step back, and tried to figure out why i'm like this. i've come to the conclusion that it's because i don't feel like i deserve any better, and that the guy deserves better than me. i'm not saying that's why everyone who settles for less does what they do, but that is my personal reasoning.
Definitely. I think I have accepted it and stopped trying. Moreover, this also affects me having friends - not any real friends.
Getting stood up is certainly up there
I am asexual myself and I do know some asexuals want relationships but others don't and it only gets to friendship. Asexuals in a relationship may still like to cuddle, some don't. Some want a companion for life to share life with.
Oh and I'm mature enough that if things didn't work out, we could be friends. I've been in many relationships that turned into amazing friendships because of how close we were and I don't think that would have happened if we weren't exclusive to each other. One of my best friends is a boyfriend from 11 years ago. :)
you had me at "they don't know what they want"
"We accept the love we think we deserve." With this quote from "the perks of being a wallflower" you could say she thought she deserved the abuse.
I completely get what you mean about the girl talking about her ex. The last woman I went out with spent the whole date talking about her ex, including telling me that she stalked him for two years after they broke up four years ago.
Add to that the fact that she had an intense fear of mentally challenged people and my career is working with the mentally challenged, I decided she wasn't the one for me. When I told her she flipped out and spent the next two days sending me harrassing texts.
That song is awesome, they are great live with their new singer!
Ahhh...
The infamous "Why do girls CHOOSE to be with jerks or nice guys" question again.
It really does seem to be the question, that no matter how many times we hear the answer, guys who are considered decent or "nice" don't WANT to accept it.
And yes it DOES suck to be one of those guys who will see a girl he really likes, and the girl he wants CHOOSES to be with a guy who DOESN'T treat her the way he feels she deserves.
But some women ARE attracted to those types of men.
Fact of life
I dated a guy who I had feelings for since I was like 5. It's happened to be my bestfriend's brother. We liked eachother for years, so happened that we ended up getting really close during a rough patch between him and his girlfriend. They broke up, I assumed we'd date but he said he wouldn't date me until I was legal (I was 15 at the time this was happening). He explained he couldn't wait until I was finished school to be with me because "once you have sex it's hard not to have it" once I turned 16 we were still really close and everything I had hoped his opinion on waiting for me had changed. We texted all the time. He admitted he loved me and vise verser. Next thing he starts ignoring me and starts dating a girl. Now 2 years later we both have our partners, we don't speak to eachother. I realise now he only wanted to date me to take my virginity and attempt in harassing me and my boyfriend because his relationship isn't working out..
just think of the good things that you will never have when you're in a relationship.
but anyways, i understand the loneliness, but it's always better to be lonely than regretting to have people enter your life... regardless if wanted or unwanted.
You have to think, "what do I really want in life?" If you're lonely, surround yourself with nice pple. You don't have to be romantically involved with anyone, because chances are is that being single isn't the real problem. Aim for higher things. If you like sports, work harder at them. Like music? practice until you're really good. try to get promotions at work(or good grades at school). You have to find consolation within urself, cause that's where you can find true happiness.
"Holding hands, hugs, sex." Well that escalated quickly.
I dated a girl who didn't care for me (since I was fat and nerdy) and I got cheated on three times. I broke it off and I decided that I need to grow up before I give my trust to anyone. I still need to grow up and I would rather be friends with someone. Friends last longer.
Dont ever let anyone change who you are ... if they dont accept you just run .. just run away
Finally someone who agrees. When I tell people I play WoW they look at me like I'm diseased. Some people who play WoW are addiction prone, and I see how WoW can be addictive. But just like not everyone who drink alcohol turn into alcoholics, not everyone who play WoW get addicted to it and have to play 24/7. I merely just choose playing WoW over, for example, watching TV (which on the other hand, it's completely okay to sit around on your couch all day watching crap).
I know how you feel about this whole dating thing. I write a lot, game, love anime and korean dramas and telling guys this stuff I'd get a similar look like 'oh..thats cool.' but I can tell by that look they think I'm the biggest loser ever lol. Do you know how much of a jack pot it would be if I met a guy that said 'oh yea I cosplay'?! lol Pure elation! You're a good guy MrRepzion. I'm glad I'm not the only one who's experienced awkward situations like these ^^"
I guess it's a big difference between the responses you get if you're a gamer boy and if you're a gamer girl... I almost always get a (surprised and) positive response. Luckily.
Hey man at least you are being really honest with your self deep down and not trying to lie about anything in those kind of situations, genreally most people will be more happy in the long run if they are like that. But that is just my opinion on it : )
aw, thanks. It's nice to know he wasn't being silent as a way of saying "I don't really like you". Just. nervousness, maybe... I can't read his mind after all but that seems likely lol.
It's good to know though that maybe it'd be good for me to step out of MY shell and say something nice... I'm kinda shy when meeting new people to. Especially guys. lol. When I'm comfortable though I chatter to much x)
Anyway, hopefully I'll have the courage to say howdy next time I see him.
Repzion a way around the video response thing would be to get people to put @MrRepzion in the video title, this should send it to you on twitter. Not 100% sure but ive seen other people using this before so it should work :D
To your question as to why people date or return to an abusive partner: I think that aside of the fear and worthless feelings they experience (which would make them draw away from this relationship) they also really depend on that person and really need their love for some reason. Maybe that someone reminds them of a parent or a good friend, go tell. The fact is that an abusive person is not always abusive. Sometimes they can be very kind and (surprise) loving. What you feel towards a person...
I've had a very sad dating experience :( My girlfriend of 3 years recently left me (i'm only 19) because of my mental disorders (OCD, Depression, Social Anxiety, Asburges)
I still love her so much but she doesn't even want to know me anymore :( I just can't let go of her... I hope everyone else is having better experiences