That's the key, right there! We're still seeking approval outside of ourselves. We need to stop worrying about what others think and find our way based on what we feel and want. This goes to EVERYTHING Chrissie is talking about, whether it's hair, interests, goals, men, etc. We need to learn to step outside our comfort zones and not be so concerned about being rejected or making mistakes. EVERYONE has been rejected and has made mistakes and yet, have lived to see better days.
That's it, exactly. Too many of us are too concerned with what others think and say about us. Stop being so concerned about others' opinions. Whether it's about new interests, ideas, desires, men, goals, whatever. That's what Chrissie is talking about. It's about stepping outside of your comfort zone and REALLY living for self, rather than the approval of others.
I've gotten hired for good paying jobs wearing braids and twists to the interviews. I don't want to work for employers that have a problem with my natural hair texture. The only thing that's kept me in wigs and weaves is the fact that my hair is very fine and low density. It's long but has no substance to it. I try to stick to wigs and extensions that match my hair texture. I'm thinking about buying some clip in hair pieces to add volume.
I've never straightened my hair, i dont wear wigs and I get attention all of the time when I leave my house from men of all races because I am slim AND super fit. What people look at FIRST is your shape As Chrissie said, we need to start telling women the truth
Shape shape shape!! Be put together, dress elegant/sexy respectfully and you will feel good about yourself which leads to others following your energy- be drawn to you.
I wear my hair natural, but when it comes to our hair, I think the main issue is length retention. Many black women struggle with constant breakage, regardless of routine, and after a while, it eats at your self-esteem.
I’m relaxed and never had a problem growing hair, even when natural. I found for me, less is more. Less heat, less styling all the time and more buns and fros. Saved my hair every time. ❤
This is why I got locs… i loved my hair but hated that it wasn’t the length that I wanted. But seriously. The women in my family with long 4c hair do nothing to their hair. They wash it like once a month and repeat. When I say nothing I mean one wears a bun/ or Afro. The other mostly wears mini twist or braids with their hair for like a month and repeats the process. Neither one combs their hair. My hair didn’t grow because I was so in love with it i kept my hands in it and I had a new style like 2-3 times a week… over manipulation 🤦🏾♀️
Consistency is key. If you know you have high porosity hair like me, you’ll have to moisturize your ends more frequently (every 3-5 days depending on your LOC method).
Most black women struggle will hair growth because they spend time trying to make it straight. Afro hair will grown when you stop trying to fight the curls.
Love this! I'm starting to do that. My problem is that whenever I order kinky hair, it comes with a looser curl pattern, but they advertised it as more coil, I hate that...
The Sprinkle Sprinkle is really starting to market towards the “easy pickings” of ladies. Much of the advice now is tailored to those who need hand holding and those who need direct instruction from A - Z. They’re not seeing different results from their straight wig lifestyle. Most are still attracting the same problematic people who just may have a bit of extra income (hence, why they’re always asking the same 10 questions every live 🙄). Wearing natural hair is an art form. You WILL stand out which is why I LOVE that Chrissy mentioned the full person which also includes personality, disposition and temperament. It’s a whole package 💯🙏🏾❤
More wholesome men are attracted to me with my natural hair. Not saying I don’t look gorgeous having it straight but it’s mine and it makes it more charming
Thank you God in heaven you said thisss! I’ve been saying for years. Black women we need to wear our natural hair! Then the wig movement began, an intentional drag to the natural hair renaissance of the early 2000s. I began to abhor the wig movement, not because sistas wasn’t slayin and layin them wigs cause we are, now, BUT ultimately my sistas don’t realize how much detriment the wig movement has done. It has set us back. I have gorgeous waist length locs and I know my aesthetic is affirming AF to Black people, and all people, heavy!
Preach it. Sadly a good amount of black women will stay brainwashed. And will not understand the message it gives to not only others but black women themselves. Ive made conscious effort to like and share natural hair insta black women. Alot of them have gorgeous hair and many beautiful hairstyles. Disproving everything people say. That natural hair isnt beautiful or diverse in styles.
Yes! The kids these days know how to do their natural hair. They are obsessed with beauty (hair/makeup) and addicted to Sephora and Ulta. Plus they have tiktok
It should not be the norm though. Your statement indicates a sad happening in the black community. We need black men and black women together building strong and wealthy familes.
Chrissie I love you for making this video!!!! I remember Shera Seven saying recently that in order to attract hyergamous men you have to wear straight hair and I was so mad, I was like that not true! The pictures that you showed of the black women wearing their natural hair in professional styles were gorgeous
You have peace in life when u realize that people only perceive the world through lens from their own experiences and beliefs. In Shera’s world, that may be the truth but is it the truth right across the board? No. I see many black woman just existing and pull in remarkable men, the main thing that gave them access to those men was the choice of opening their pool and having great self esteem.
LOL to be fair, Shera's said 100 times that her channel isn't for 'normal' relationships (for lack of a better word) but people try to apply her words to average or poor men in their own age range or dust, and cry about the results (I'm not a disciple but she's entertaining and has good points about certain topics🤣). She focuses on getting money from OLD men, that's it, meaning most of them have an OLD mindset about beauty standards as well. OLD or unattractive men who will pay all of the bills, because he's just grateful that a younger or more attractive woman is paying attention to him. If he cheats, find a way to get more money from him or move on to the next in the roster. If he's mean, find a way to get more money from him or move on. She never said her purpose was to teach women how to get loving, loyal, hypergamous relationships and BW keep getting mad that Shera, as a mixed woman who got her dark-skinned Black husband with those methods, isn't doing what Chrissie is doing. Maybe you're new but Chrissie explained the light or mixed woman - dark-skinned man dynamic a long time ago. Shera went where her stock was highest. Chrissie's videos about not making everything a fight and supporting those who align with you will prevent future headaches 😉
@@Syncloverton Shera also mentioned in her old videos she's aware of the way black men view fair skinned "good hair" women and simply capitalized off it. She willingly married a colorist black man and made kids in the image that man hates. I feel sorry for her kids because they have to hear her spew texturism at them and never get their hair done. She also stated that yt men don't go for mixed black women. So yes, you're right. She went where her stock was highest
I’m focused on living a black life that matters - self-defined, healthy, wealthy, ideologically free, as mentally & physically free as possible, etc. Just living my life is a sort of activism that impacts those it’s meant to - just like the black women you mentioned here but on a much smaller scale ofc. They have done a lot for black women by existing the way they do (facing their personal day-to-day challenges) without having to physically engage in any literal activism.
Oh yes, many Latino and Arab men are attracted to black women. There is a whole subgenre of Egyptian songs praising black women, and in Egypt I got a lot of attention from men. But many will not marry us, though. But that doesn't mean that you can't have good experiences, too. Since a child, I have been fascinated by different cultures & got energy from new places & people I don't/didn't know. This is a good reminder that I'm on the right track! And good on you, Chrissie, that you don't let negative experiences limit you. When having more dealings with different communities, you will meet nice people as well.
My daughter is a beast with her hair she rocks in natural, in braids, in twists, blown outand occasionally wears wigs and she knocks each and every one out of the park but she prefers her natural locks....I love it❤
I totally agree with this video! I actually get more positive comments from non black people than black people about my natural hair. I have always had interests outside the community which made it easier for me to dibble dabble and mingle with all kinds of people.
We see Megan Thee Stallion kinda making her way out of the black community. Shes trying to appeal to the Japanese market especially as a big anime fan. I want her to continue going down that route.
Yes exactly 💯 I'm so glad she's expanding her brand to other cultures. She saw how bw victims are treated in the so called blk communitah and learned from it, which is smart💯
There is no black community. The majority of black people don't know each other. I wish black women would stop with this lie of a supernatural connection between black people 😂
I’ve been told all my life I’m too nice. Growing up in a Christian household it’s kinda hard to let that go but I think that’s my downfall in my personality for sure. I’m growing out of it 🤦🏾♀️
@@hmm-zoolol they def think you are an easy target or stupid. They way I combat that is having a strong cut off game. You try me then you will never hear from me again. It works more so with people I’m dating than the rest of the world though
I can relate. People will automatically view you as a target. We live in such a weird society. To add to the advice of having strong cut off game in relationships. Implement a low/no b.s. attitude. By reframing your mind. Instead of thinking how they feel, lean more into how you feel when people treat you that way. It helps one to speak up for themselves more readily. More people will respect you and they will learn how you prefer to be interacted with.
@jasminescarbrough2596, I can definitely relate as I as raised the same way. But think about it like this. You are God's child. Therefore, you deserve to be treated well. Those who do any less than that should not be taking up space in your life. Im glad you're growing out of it.
Wisdom is key. Even an apostle mocked someone to call our hypocrisy. Nice isn’t required all the time, because “nice” usually is taken to mean shut up and keep the “peace”
When I was younger they ATE me up CHEWED me up everyday in school for not doing what is stereo typically black. I got bullied for not relaxing my veryyyy 4C hair but now people love my natural hair and ' unconventional ' ways . And I'm only 21 😂😂😂😂 this goes to show this isn't an old thing .
I agree with her on that as well. Many of us are also using many products between wash days. I’m realizing now that is a VERY bad thing. I only add product or oil to freshly washed hair. I think this is a huge part of our scalp issues.
If you don’t have a scalp that dries out, oil may not be necessary but it is not factual that (all) oils clog pores. Most of the oils popular in the natural hair community are non-comedogenic (non clogging). Im not adding this to be argumentative but instead to help spread some factual information that may be useful for some looking to improve their scalp and hair health. ❤
Sometimes being genuine is the genius. I miss when black women were not catering to the likes of black men. Tina Turner, Jodie Watley even Janet Jackson.
Exactly! Most bw wear weaves etc and are still single or dating and going 50/50 with a dusty. I'm glad you adressed this myth of being more attractive to financially stable or rich men when we wear our hair straight. And yes, most bw do not know how to carry their own hair and or how to style it and most do not care to know. Black hair can be stressful to maintain, but it sets us apart from EVERY OTHER RACE OF WOMEN and i am not giving up that privilege. Plus...i look ten times better with my own than the artificial hair. I also agree on dating the best man for us, regardless of his race and dealing with who can elevate us professionally/ financially regardless of their race. I've always felt this way and it will never change.
@@tessy28 No. They have not. Being a woman of substance, alining ourselves with who and what we want to attract and good luck will get us there. Not just the way we wear our hair and that applies to all women. Just like a man with money isn't automatically a good catch. It is about the package as a whole.
@@ninawestlake14 So true! If straight hair attracted better men, black women would not be largely hypogamous because texturism is huge in the black community. They call out "we are just being honest" when really they are just operating in anti-blackness and viewing their natural features as ugly, which is something women of other races collectively do not do...as they shouldn't...and we (BW) shouldn't either.
@@ev6564 Indeed. And we're the only ones who think of our natural as childish and unfit for certain occasions. They love theirs for all occasions and so should we. Tbh, a large group of black people will never unlearn negative thought patterns about our race and features. They'll take the mental slavery to the grave. A lot of blacks associate negativity with being black wich is sad.
I’ve been cycling from loose hair to locs for over twenty years. Every 3-5 years or so I change it up. There’s a sense of freedom in that for me. So If you feel like doing it, do it. You can always change it.
I’ve never had a problem getting a corporate job with locs or braids. I honestly think it’s an excuse for some black women who feel more confident wearing straight hair!
I love the pictures of the black women, gorgeous 😍 People told me where not to go when working abroad. People who have never left the country would tell me that every single person would be racist. I had a great time in South East Asia, personally. The people were welcoming. Go and find out for yourself.
I hate that I forgot the site, but there is one that shows a LOT of natural hair styles for very short, medium and long hair. The styles were very creative and neat. Many, I've never seen before. Get creative. There's no limit to what we can do with our hair. I think more Black women need to research or simply find ways to wear their natural in ways that compliment them. Chrissie also showed some simple, yet classy styles. We really don't have a problem, other than the ones we create for ourselves.
In response to your encounter with the first coffee shop, the Arab culture is also very wealth conscious. You walking in with your designer also sparked their curiosity. They were trying to gauge your wealth status. Probably trying to see if you had a ring or anything signaling your family’s wealth. You might have had your things paid for as well, so don’t be afraid of the stare ladies!!
Regina Hall said it best with this joke: "Behind Black Girl Magic is a white man." The giggles from the white men (who were in attendance at a Black women's awards event to be clear)were quite visible. For those that pay attention, know this.
Also for Tracy Chapman- the roots of country and folk are blues, and the black community's group think is weirdly censorious about pur own artistic history.
Long story short act like a woman, not just a skin colour. ACT LIKE A HUMAN BEING like everybody else. We are not robts. We are women. Please listen to this video. You willlllllllllll have a peaceful life trust me😊
Chrissie, have you read the book “48 Laws of Power”? I think that touching on some of the themes/laws from that book for your FemStrategy would be SO helpful! It really helped me to navigate the corporate world and understand how a lot of people think and how to get ahead. And it taught me to dispose of the “fight fair” mentality I had been brainwashed to believe. I don’t think it should be applied to everything, but I think it’s a must read especially for black women who have been brainwashed to be fair and balanced and overly focused on others instead of self-survival
@@EtherealSolana absolutely, that’s why I love the book so much. It helped me understand the rules that other people, especially those looking to attain power and status, are playing by and how they think
The coffee shop experience is funny don't go to Nigeria even if you are black they will stare because they know you are not from there you will start walking funny😅😅😅
You went to the equivalent of the "country" or a town in the USA. Ondo state is considered rural-ish . So the indigenes will of course stare at you. I'm sure nobody really paid you that much attention in the major cities/states of Lagos, Abuja or Port Harcourt due to the diversity of people in those places tourists & expats included.
Why are you saying, "Don't go"? Were you kidding? I plan to go to Nigeria whether they stare at me or not. I'm sure Nigerians are used to tourists. It depends on what part of the country you find yourself in. Per Chrissie, you should be open to all experiences.
High earning men are just like any man. Once you attract them as with any man, you still need to not tolerate bread crumbing or games allpt of guys come off playing off the bat. To me high earning is a millionaire with lots of properties. These barely 6 figures guys are not all that.
Idk if dsw are insecure we might be angry due to things being unfair inherently we feel just as qualified and pretty as well.as deserving. We just feel complexion alone should not be a deciding factor on beauty.
I made the switch to micro mini braids on natural hair and experienced an uptick in compliments. I thought it was my hair but really it's just a sign that my weight loss journey is working. So many of us thinks hair makes or breaks us but it's your body. Most straight men are not looking at your hair nor will notice when you change the style.....they will notice weight gain though.
OMG at 26:01. Last week I was just thinking about DSBW grasping at the few procents of white admixture we have. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the different aspects of your heritage, but this is so sad, delusional and desperate.
Mellody Hobson is the best example for BW who aren't entertainers or artist. She has had many WM & BM mentors and mutually beneficial working relationships; came up in a field dominated by men; used her intelligence to become a self made millionaire And on the love life side, she's dark skinned, short hair, and married one of the most famous billionaires on the planet Stop *only* looking to women in the entertainment industry for strategy, especially since they get to operate by different rules than everyday/normal people. There are many successful BW influencers who are older (45+), sharing their lives and thus revealing strategy and steps you can replicate!
Nina Simone was bipolar and DID have meltdowns. And Naomi Campbell always wore straight wigs/weaves, but apart from these two details, I fully agree with everything you said in this vid.
I think wearing straight hair is partly because of dealing with white people everyday. I believe Naomi even would carry her own makeup because these white folks didnt know how to do her makeup. Let alone her hair. Even the mixed women often had straight hair. I think its become a bit of a habit for her tho. I wish she wore the curly wigs more often tho. But i do get what you mean.
@@wonzjones6599Ain't nothing "Chinese" looking about Naomi Campbell. Trying to pull some non existent asian ancestor to seem exotic as a bw is self hating and pathetic. She wasn't given her break in modelling due to this "Chinese" ancestry y'all bring up. If Naomi went around claiming some Chinese ancestry that's laughable because everybody saw and sees her as a fully black woman. And her black beauty and model talent is what got her fame.
What I’m gonna need lsbw and biracial women or just women in general to know is u can be jealous of a woman people hate a introverted dsbw and don’t be pretty and stay to yourself it will be who do she think she is as dark as she is I’m very introverted and blk people mostly assume the wrong things like I’m stuck up or i think I’m too much. And u can have nothing and your next door neighbor can have more then u and still be jealous of u the insecurities run deep with most people and they call u insecure when u call some bs out i luv being quiet and different and i want change it for anyone i want be out here accepting less cause people think cause of how i look i should accept whatever scraps and crumbs i think tf not.
Unfortunately most black women do not like natural hair so do not care to learn how to style and nuture it. I am a black woman with natural hair past my shoulders and men and women of all races comeplement my textured hair. There is nothing more beautiful that natural hair, beautiful smile, clear skin and a healthy weight. When you are in blackistan and in rachet culture, the classy styles you showed (with no baby hairs😂) will not be appealing to you.
For me personally I loved my curly hair (4a-4b) but I found that it dries out very easily not to mention frizzyness and other issues but I chose to relax my hair to gain some clarity on why I was natural in the first place. I think I was natural only due to the wave of popularity it had and chose to experiment.
@@JulieG-w4j you should check out black girl curls and other curl specialists. Curly hair needs to be washed every 5 to 7 days . Some of the hair practices possibly causes dehydration
@@JulieG-w4j Try butters in your hair! They are so helpful for sealing in moisture. I love the Oyin Hairdew leave in. If shea butter is too heavy, try shea nilotica butter, mowrah butter, mango, bacuri cupuacu, or murumuru butter 3cayg and Rainforest chica have sampler sets.
Also, just an idea, those boho knotless braids/bora bora/ pick and drop, are also a low maintenance and elegant natural hairstyle. It’s wake up and go friendly. With human hair it is minimal maintenance, I’ve had them, trust me it’s minimal maintenance. It looks like you are on a luxury vacation and they are neat. They also look natural and have braids peaking through. Braids and smaller locs are starting to become associated with luxury, because they are associated with bw on vacation. Take advantage of that while still protecting your hair. Good luck ❤
AlL these sistahs are Obviously Queens, buT let's noT get it twisted on Whitney, she neveR even "swirled" (unfortunately) let alone even Divested from Nakers or the B.C like she should've to save her life and that of her kid's though!
@@traumaqueeen YeS, she had every opportunity and Should've, not just date/marry out physically (i.e. swirl) buT DIVEST (mentally, emotionally, financially, etc.) from Blackistan and their manipulative, abusive ways period and evermore!!!
8:39 I think this is VERY interesting because Beyoncé did an entire album and was snubbed by country music fans. While I wholeheartedly believe that racism was a major factor, I don’t think that Bey did her homework on this audience. While there are many female country music stars they had some work to do before they were praised over men in the same genre. They also appeal more to working class people who want to listen to music without editing out s3x, violence and profanity all the time. I think humility would have made this situation much better, but Beyoncé doesn’t know how to do humble so she might have iced herself out of favor in country music…
I agree and appreciate this take. I felt the same way about her “not doing her homework” because the country crowd doesn’t let people in unless they feel like your values align with them. There are many Black country artists that are well-known and loved (eg Darius Rucker) because they’ve always made that type of music. Even Shaboozy was originally country and didn’t “need” Beyonce to break out in that genre, he was already famous- she just introduced him to people who don’t expose themselves to other genres outside of pop/top 40. I liked her album but I don’t think it was realistic to expect her to get any nominations when she’s not a regular in the genre.
Beyoncé has been vocally pro-black and openly supporting the democratic party. The country music industry does not welcome her because she does not run away from blackness. SNL did an entire skit on the fallout from white people realizing she’s black. The nastiest comments about her are from white men who are also now attacking Taylor Swift.
She's just desperate and clueless about the direction of her career! I don't care if you're from Texas or Alabama, ......like really? Country music all of a sudden? Who was she fooling? Lol.
@@noire9601 I have nothing against her doing a different genre. But I feel like she is forcing everyone to think her veering off into something else is her absolute best and she is wrong for that. I actually like some country music but I can’t understand turning it up to 10 like renaissance. It should have been a side project…
I think she did fantastic. She tried something new and there's nothing wrong with that. Many, many Blacks loved it. I saw them dancing to it all over the internet. I truly think a lot of YTs were jealous that she did so well. They have their "tribe" mentality, just like everyone else. Many felt that she should have "stayed in her lane". Sounds to me like they felt threatened. Whether she was accepted by them or not, the point is she wasn't afraid to venture out, which is what Chrissie is talking about.
When I officially moved into my career I wore an Afro in the early 2000s, all my mentors were non black and men … I’ve always been an open person and fluid throughout culture society and race
I figured she had to be when I saw the colors she offered. She had so many of our colors in the right hue that I googled her right in the middle of Sephora and then I bought one of her concealers. That concealer went on like foundation and holds well! It's one of my favorites now!
Hi, chrissie. Did you take down the video explaining why you stopped dds magazine. I was looking for it on patroon and on your femstrategy website and couldn’t find it. I had been meaning to watch it a while ago and never did. I was a broke college student at the time 😭😩 lol
@@LadyOO It’s on the site until 9/13: femstrategy.com/product/why-i-retired-dds-didnt-launch-the-app-what-8-years-of-online-colorism-advocacy-taught-me/
Because we as Black want to be love and accepted some do follow the crowd like the BBLs to name one. I like other Black women had a Perm not realizing and/or paying attention that I was putting a chemical in my hair that burns only paying attention to beauty, plus my sister became a great beautician. My mother was pissed I was 18 years old to have my first Perm. Now we see the Perms cause Cancer. I left the Perms over 10 years ago, I wear my natural hair and I Love it. Never going back, never wore braids or wigs. Since my hair is really Curly wash and go is my FAV. Sistas just be YOU.
I am from africa,After reading comments, Ipall I see is blk bw looking for attention from other race of men. It's like when other race of men admires them they feel happy Inside. Your blk men have been telling you to be natural in almost all the videos, but I instead saw you guys are angry when blk men tells you to be natural.
You can find any feature in Africa so idk if you need to embrace other races. It might be healthy to try to look like a certsin African tribe with certsin featurs you like. As far as pretty privileges it is largely about how you carry yourself after adulthood. Many folks get fat out of shape. If you are unkept and of any complexion you will be off putting to most folks.
Google Khoisan people of Southern Africa - high cheek bones for days! No one can tell me about European Features when the entire continent of Africa has anything you could ask for. Features look different whether you are from Ethiopia or Sudan. The continent has beauty EVERYWHERE!
@@traumaqueeenyup. Many people will call some ORIGINALLY African features “European”. It’s wild. I’m East African BANTU so my features are somewhat similar to that of South Africans bc we had a huge migration in Africa apparently. On my mom’s side my dad was said to have a more “Eurocentric” nose but even if there is possible admixture due to colonialism or trade with Indians or Arabs, the bantu in me is very dominant and I’m convinced I’m 100% African. My eyes also look a bit East asiatic
So if someone calls me black b I will still say black is beautiful because black is not a rscial.slur by law. I also am refuting blackness as bad. I will point out I know they mean it to put me down. However, stating the beauty of blackness does disempower the enemy.
Yes it does. It totally disempowers them, when they know you love yourself. I've had Yt women try it on me and it NEVER worked. After awhile they leave you alone and go looking for a REAL victim.
I’ve worn my natural hair most of my life (3 years relaxed as a young teen). What I struggle with is finding a style. Especially when you’re from a ghetto background. I don’t know how to dress or carry myself. I live in a cold country and have no style 😫
I’m a dark skinned baldie. The main thing is to keep your hair neat. I make sure that my nape and around the sides are tapered. When I let it go into a TWA, I would use a soft gel to play up my texture, add a part and maybe consider color.
If they were staring at you, they were stupid, since all Arab countries have Afro-Arab communities and many non-Afro Arabs have black admixture, black features and 3 to 4c hair. As a black Muslim woman who speaks Arabic, has lived in Egypt and has been around a lot of Arab communities, I have faced a lot of colorism and racism and awkward situations like this, but also lots of joy, appreciation and kindness. And yes, keep trying.
Did she say this was a room full of Egyptians..? There are Arab people from a variety pf countries that don’t have African-American women shaped like Chrissie in them. Her getting stared at doesn’t make them stupid it makes them enthralled. Everyone has seen fine men before that doesn’t mean meeting a new one is uninspiring. It can be jaw dropping
@@RedElephant169around fine men I tend not to stare them down. I notice that people from other cultures stare you down so hard like they’ve never seen us before or like we’ve invaded lol
@@EtherealSolana You should come to Poland 🇵🇱 the way you will get stared down as a bw will shock and amuse you. When I was at the airport with my Polish hubby the whole airport was just looking at me. I was flying from a very small city near the Ukranian border so I was the only bw there. My hubby was like "they're impressed your're here."😂
@@RedElephant169 This was not an attack on Chrissie. I've been around Moroccans, Egyptians and other Arabs for 20+ years. (More if I also count the half-Egyptian neighbours I grew up with, and classmates in kindergarten and beyond) I also speak Arabic and have lived in Egypt so I think I know what I'm talking about. Staring can have many reasons. It could be that they were enthralled, it could have been hostile - I don't know since I wasn't there. It is rude anyway. Almost all Arab countries have indigenous Afro-Arab communities for centuries. Many Afro-Arab and non-black Arab women have Chrissies shape.
Well, a video where I fully agree with Chrissie 😊. To add a caveat here, some of these examples such as Naomie , and Lupita are non black American women so being more worldly and open to other cultures come naturally to us. It’s not something we have to learn. Like for me I listen to this chanel not necessarily to learn as I already naturally did a lot of these things but I just like having this space to engage with other black women
As someone who is passionate about humanitarian causes I understand your perspective. I do think it’s important to have balance. Angelina Jolie comes to mind: beautiful talented actress but also, well known humanitarian. You can be both if you know to do so with grace.
@@lowkey3047 okay fine Condaleeza Rice idk there are other women who we can use as an example of that. Angelina is just the best example that comes to mind.
@TheSandersonSistersTBMOTH Condi Rice is a conservative republican who is not preoccupied with black issues. Your own example invalidates your argument 🙄
@@lowkey3047 She's talking about the "character" of the person and what that brings to the quality of one's life. You can learn something from everyone you meet. Even YT women.
The best thing is to not care at all about the fake black community and be natural. Don’t care about being some stereotype tbh have fun have hobbies don’t care about fitting in. Get into pottery , art, ballet , long boarding , read novels etc I’m so glad that I never fitted in it’s the grace of God on my life.
Here’s a life tip for us dsbw:
Stop being interested in what other people think, and start being interested in how YOU FEEL.
@@Morenita570 Someone’s triggered 🫢 Uhh “Constantly?” Sorry, do I know you lol
@@Morenita570 The fact that she said "a tip for US dsbw" indicates that she is following her own advice. I for one, think her tips are excellent!
That's the key, right there! We're still seeking approval outside of ourselves. We need to stop worrying about what others think and find our way based on what we feel and want. This goes to EVERYTHING Chrissie is talking about, whether it's hair, interests, goals, men, etc. We need to learn to step outside our comfort zones and not be so concerned about being rejected or making mistakes. EVERYONE has been rejected and has made mistakes and yet, have lived to see better days.
That's it, exactly. Too many of us are too concerned with what others think and say about us. Stop being so concerned about others' opinions. Whether it's about new interests, ideas, desires, men, goals, whatever. That's what Chrissie is talking about. It's about stepping outside of your comfort zone and REALLY living for self, rather than the approval of others.
@@sheritownsend5359 Absolutely! You got it 💕🤎✨
I've gotten hired for good paying jobs wearing braids and twists to the interviews. I don't want to work for employers that have a problem with my natural hair texture. The only thing that's kept me in wigs and weaves is the fact that my hair is very fine and low density. It's long but has no substance to it. I try to stick to wigs and extensions that match my hair texture. I'm thinking about buying some clip in hair pieces to add volume.
I'm glad you're using hair that matches your hair texture. Yt women do that too, nothing wrong with adding extra hair
omg having fine, low density hair as a bw is the worst😭
I use clips that match my hair and I love it ❤
I absolutely love my natural hair clip ins. I recommend! My hair isn’t the thickest either.
Clip ins are life! Easy to take in and out. Better length is what I use!
I've never straightened my hair, i dont wear wigs and I get attention all of the time when I leave my house from men of all races because I am slim AND super fit.
What people look at FIRST is your shape
As Chrissie said, we need to start telling women the truth
Shape shape shape!! Be put together, dress elegant/sexy respectfully and you will feel good about yourself which leads to others following your energy- be drawn to you.
@@minefazz4223making note of it
I wear my hair natural, but when it comes to our hair, I think the main issue is length retention. Many black women struggle with constant breakage, regardless of routine, and after a while, it eats at your self-esteem.
I agree. It's so annoying when people, even BW, say that BW can't grow hair. Like what!? We can. Most just weren't taught how to care for their ends.
I’m relaxed and never had a problem growing hair, even when natural. I found for me, less is more. Less heat, less styling all the time and more buns and fros. Saved my hair every time. ❤
This is why I got locs… i loved my hair but hated that it wasn’t the length that I wanted. But seriously. The women in my family with long 4c hair do nothing to their hair. They wash it like once a month and repeat. When I say nothing I mean one wears a bun/ or Afro. The other mostly wears mini twist or braids with their hair for like a month and repeats the process. Neither one combs their hair. My hair didn’t grow because I was so in love with it i kept my hands in it and I had a new style like 2-3 times a week… over manipulation 🤦🏾♀️
Consistency is key. If you know you have high porosity hair like me, you’ll have to moisturize your ends more frequently (every 3-5 days depending on your LOC method).
Most black women struggle will hair growth because they spend time trying to make it straight. Afro hair will grown when you stop trying to fight the curls.
If I wear wigs/extensions, I only use hair that matches my texture.
as it should
Love this! I'm starting to do that. My problem is that whenever I order kinky hair, it comes with a looser curl pattern, but they advertised it as more coil, I hate that...
@@Tam... can you suggest staright kinky staright hair?
@@Tam...you should ask for kinky straight hair
Absolutely!!@@mindingmybusiness6309
The Sprinkle Sprinkle is really starting to market towards the “easy pickings” of ladies. Much of the advice now is tailored to those who need hand holding and those who need direct instruction from A - Z. They’re not seeing different results from their straight wig lifestyle. Most are still attracting the same problematic people who just may have a bit of extra income (hence, why they’re always asking the same 10 questions every live 🙄).
Wearing natural hair is an art form. You WILL stand out which is why I LOVE that Chrissy mentioned the full person which also includes personality, disposition and temperament. It’s a whole package 💯🙏🏾❤
More wholesome men are attracted to me with my natural hair. Not saying I don’t look gorgeous having it straight but it’s mine and it makes it more charming
Thank you God in heaven you said thisss! I’ve been saying for years. Black women we need to wear our natural hair! Then the wig movement began, an intentional drag to the natural hair renaissance of the early 2000s. I began to abhor the wig movement, not because sistas wasn’t slayin and layin them wigs cause we are, now, BUT ultimately my sistas don’t realize how much detriment the wig movement has done. It has set us back. I have gorgeous waist length locs and I know my aesthetic is affirming AF to Black people, and all people, heavy!
Preach it. Sadly a good amount of black women will stay brainwashed. And will not understand the message it gives to not only others but black women themselves.
Ive made conscious effort to like and share natural hair insta black women. Alot of them have gorgeous hair and many beautiful hairstyles. Disproving everything people say. That natural hair isnt beautiful or diverse in styles.
I have thin hair too (unlike my twin who has thick dense hair). I started using collagen and now I have twice the volume (still thin but a lot fuller)
Which collagen supplement do you use specifically, please?
Liquid? Powder or pills ?
Please share what collagen you use.
@@britneyt9253 vital proteins and sports research are good ones always look out for hydrolyzed bovine as those are the ones that truly works
As far ice spice people say she looks like raw chicken so idk if it's colorist to say she needs a tan.
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It's not so much her skin, but her hair color is off...She would look better with darker hair...
@@MonicaJNYCI agree her hair makes her look even more washed out.
@@kayla.1998 exactly...a dark brown or dark auburn may work better...
Yes! The kids these days know how to do their natural hair. They are obsessed with beauty (hair/makeup) and addicted to Sephora and Ulta. Plus they have tiktok
That's my daughter 🥰🥰🥰
Your videos are a wealth of knowledge 💛
I'm in the UK and the last time I went near dating a black man was at the age of 16. I've not looked back and I'm the happiest.
So wm in the uk are open to dating bw?
@@Bobisworldof course
It should not be the norm though. Your statement indicates a sad happening in the black community. We need black men and black women together building strong and wealthy familes.
What a strange question@@Bobisworld
@@Bobisworld Is this a real question?😂
Chrissie I love you for making this video!!!! I remember Shera Seven saying recently that in order to attract hyergamous men you have to wear straight hair and I was so mad, I was like that not true! The pictures that you showed of the black women wearing their natural hair in professional styles were gorgeous
You have peace in life when u realize that people only perceive the world through lens from their own experiences and beliefs. In Shera’s world, that may be the truth but is it the truth right across the board? No. I see many black woman just existing and pull in remarkable men, the main thing that gave them access to those men was the choice of opening their pool and having great self esteem.
LOL to be fair, Shera's said 100 times that her channel isn't for 'normal' relationships (for lack of a better word) but people try to apply her words to average or poor men in their own age range or dust, and cry about the results (I'm not a disciple but she's entertaining and has good points about certain topics🤣). She focuses on getting money from OLD men, that's it, meaning most of them have an OLD mindset about beauty standards as well. OLD or unattractive men who will pay all of the bills, because he's just grateful that a younger or more attractive woman is paying attention to him. If he cheats, find a way to get more money from him or move on to the next in the roster. If he's mean, find a way to get more money from him or move on. She never said her purpose was to teach women how to get loving, loyal, hypergamous relationships and BW keep getting mad that Shera, as a mixed woman who got her dark-skinned Black husband with those methods, isn't doing what Chrissie is doing. Maybe you're new but Chrissie explained the light or mixed woman - dark-skinned man dynamic a long time ago. Shera went where her stock was highest. Chrissie's videos about not making everything a fight and supporting those who align with you will prevent future headaches 😉
@@Syncloverton Shera also mentioned in her old videos she's aware of the way black men view fair skinned "good hair" women and simply capitalized off it. She willingly married a colorist black man and made kids in the image that man hates. I feel sorry for her kids because they have to hear her spew texturism at them and never get their hair done. She also stated that yt men don't go for mixed black women. So yes, you're right. She went where her stock was highest
I’m focused on living a black life that matters - self-defined, healthy, wealthy, ideologically free, as mentally & physically free as possible, etc.
Just living my life is a sort of activism that impacts those it’s meant to - just like the black women you mentioned here but on a much smaller scale ofc. They have done a lot for black women by existing the way they do (facing their personal day-to-day challenges) without having to physically engage in any literal activism.
Oh yes, many Latino and Arab men are attracted to black women. There is a whole subgenre of Egyptian songs praising black women, and in Egypt I got a lot of attention from men. But many will not marry us, though. But that doesn't mean that you can't have good experiences, too. Since a child, I have been fascinated by different cultures & got energy from new places & people I don't/didn't know. This is a good reminder that I'm on the right track! And good on you, Chrissie, that you don't let negative experiences limit you. When having more dealings with different communities, you will meet nice people as well.
My daughter is a beast with her hair she rocks in natural, in braids, in twists, blown outand occasionally wears wigs and she knocks each and every one out of the park but she prefers her natural locks....I love it❤
I totally agree with this video! I actually get more positive comments from non black people than black people about my natural hair. I have always had interests outside the community which made it easier for me to dibble dabble and mingle with all kinds of people.
We see Megan Thee Stallion kinda making her way out of the black community. Shes trying to appeal to the Japanese market especially as a big anime fan. I want her to continue going down that route.
Yes exactly 💯 I'm so glad she's expanding her brand to other cultures. She saw how bw victims are treated in the so called blk communitah and learned from it, which is smart💯
@@AdrienneMoore-rr9xi Megan needs to divest like Tina Turner, Josephine Baker, Nina Simone and Grace Jones.
@@Aries16603And she needs to date non-Black men too.
@@Aries16603 Yeah. Dealing with the wrong crowd, will get you in trouble, every time.
There is no black community. The majority of black people don't know each other. I wish black women would stop with this lie of a supernatural connection between black people 😂
I’ve been told all my life I’m too nice. Growing up in a Christian household it’s kinda hard to let that go but I think that’s my downfall in my personality for sure. I’m growing out of it 🤦🏾♀️
Some people think you are stupid or easy for being a nice person.
@@hmm-zoolol they def think you are an easy target or stupid. They way I combat that is having a strong cut off game. You try me then you will never hear from me again. It works more so with people I’m dating than the rest of the world though
I can relate. People will automatically view you as a target. We live in such a weird society. To add to the advice of having strong cut off game in relationships. Implement a low/no b.s. attitude. By reframing your mind. Instead of thinking how they feel, lean more into how you feel when people treat you that way. It helps one to speak up for themselves more readily. More people will respect you and they will learn how you prefer to be interacted with.
@jasminescarbrough2596, I can definitely relate as I as raised the same way. But think about it like this. You are God's child. Therefore, you deserve to be treated well. Those who do any less than that should not be taking up space in your life. Im glad you're growing out of it.
Wisdom is key. Even an apostle mocked someone to call our hypocrisy. Nice isn’t required all the time, because “nice” usually is taken to mean shut up and keep the “peace”
I wish Tiffany Haddish took this advice. 😕
She's too hood to cater to different groups
Would’ve saved all of us from her
@nraexox2599 lol good one!😂
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Right! sis is just embarrassing at times. I wish the best for her. But girl you aint helping the stereotypes.
Whoaa this was good ❤
Hell yeah… I needed to hear this one.
Thank you Chrissie. I wear boho braids at my corporate job. They live for my hair.
On my first Moroccan party I was scared to death. Before long, I happily danced and sang along with the dances & songs.
I love Tracey Chapman. She’s amazing!! One of my favorite singers.
commenting so I can watch tomorrow morning.
I only do kinky straight and 4c edges wigs. I wanna grow out my hair and wigs help
Same! ❤
Excellent video Chrissie 👏🏾👏🏾
When I was younger they ATE me up CHEWED me up everyday in school for not doing what is stereo typically black. I got bullied for not relaxing my veryyyy 4C hair but now people love my natural hair and ' unconventional ' ways . And I'm only 21 😂😂😂😂 this goes to show this isn't an old thing .
I like Cyn Doll content about putting oil on scalp too much daily can clog pores. It's to put on hair shaft but, not suffocate it.
This is why I don't oil my scalp
I agree with her on that as well. Many of us are also using many products between wash days. I’m realizing now that is a VERY bad thing. I only add product or oil to freshly washed hair. I think this is a huge part of our scalp issues.
If you don’t have a scalp that dries out, oil may not be necessary but it is not factual that (all) oils clog pores. Most of the oils popular in the natural hair community are non-comedogenic (non clogging). Im not adding this to be argumentative but instead to help spread some factual information that may be useful for some looking to improve their scalp and hair health. ❤
@joyce2784 what oils do you find works on the scalp? Everything I've used so far just gives me build up! 😢
Oh, and the term is Yemeni, with the emphasis on the first part of the word.
This is such a thought provoking commentary, highly intelligent conversation.
Ice Spice is the hand that starved Cleo, not fed her lmao
Right like she literally starved Cleo, how did they have the audacity to make that comment 💀
Sometimes being genuine is the genius.
I miss when black women were not catering to the likes of black men. Tina Turner, Jodie Watley even Janet Jackson.
Exactly! Most bw wear weaves etc and are still single or dating and going 50/50 with a dusty. I'm glad you adressed this myth of being more attractive to financially stable or rich men when we wear our hair straight. And yes, most bw do not know how to carry their own hair and or how to style it and most do not care to know. Black hair can be stressful to maintain, but it sets us apart from EVERY OTHER RACE OF WOMEN and i am not giving up that privilege. Plus...i look ten times better with my own than the artificial hair. I also agree on dating the best man for us, regardless of his race and dealing with who can elevate us professionally/ financially regardless of their race. I've always felt this way and it will never change.
Weaves in general have done absolutely nothing to improve bw's dating and relationship outcomes
@@tessy28 No. They have not. Being a woman of substance, alining ourselves with who and what we want to attract and good luck will get us there. Not just the way we wear our hair and that applies to all women. Just like a man with money isn't automatically a good catch. It is about the package as a whole.
@@ninawestlake14 So true! If straight hair attracted better men, black women would not be largely hypogamous because texturism is huge in the black community. They call out "we are just being honest" when really they are just operating in anti-blackness and viewing their natural features as ugly, which is something women of other races collectively do not do...as they shouldn't...and we (BW) shouldn't either.
@@ev6564 Indeed. And we're the only ones who think of our natural as childish and unfit for certain occasions. They love theirs for all occasions and so should we. Tbh, a large group of black people will never unlearn negative thought patterns about our race and features. They'll take the mental slavery to the grave. A lot of blacks associate negativity with being black wich is sad.
I’ve been toying around with cutting my locs but it’s one of the top things men compliment me on! Plus my hair has never been healthier or longer!😊
Have you ever tried a loc bob?
Me too. I wanna be loose natural again but nobody wants me to cut my locs. But I really like the look of loose natural hair more 🥴
I’ve been cycling from loose hair to locs for over twenty years. Every 3-5 years or so I change it up. There’s a sense of freedom in that for me. So If you feel like doing it, do it. You can always change it.
Your locs are gorgeous though 😍
@@Alkemiss thank you!!
I’ve never had a problem getting a corporate job with locs or braids. I honestly think it’s an excuse for some black women who feel more confident wearing straight hair!
Love this video ❤
I love the pictures of the black women, gorgeous 😍
People told me where not to go when working abroad. People who have never left the country would tell me that every single person would be racist. I had a great time in South East Asia, personally. The people were welcoming.
Go and find out for yourself.
I did a lot of solo travel in my early 20's a great time. Definitely be safe but explore the world.
Girl you hitting!!!! Love this take. 👍🏿👀🔔⏰😳
You’re absolutely right about hair length. I started locs about 4 years ago and I’m noticing the different attention as I pass shoulder length.
I hate that I forgot the site, but there is one that shows a LOT of natural hair styles for very short, medium and long hair. The styles were very creative and neat. Many, I've never seen before. Get creative. There's no limit to what we can do with our hair. I think more Black women need to research or simply find ways to wear their natural in ways that compliment them. Chrissie also showed some simple, yet classy styles. We really don't have a problem, other than the ones we create for ourselves.
I thank you as always Chrissie for the dope/informative lives💖💖! Have a safe night to you and viewers🫶🏿
What a wonderful video.❤
🖤 thanks for the live.
In response to your encounter with the first coffee shop, the Arab culture is also very wealth conscious. You walking in with your designer also sparked their curiosity. They were trying to gauge your wealth status. Probably trying to see if you had a ring or anything signaling your family’s wealth. You might have had your things paid for as well, so don’t be afraid of the stare ladies!!
Regina Hall said it best with this joke: "Behind Black Girl Magic is a white man." The giggles from the white men (who were in attendance at a Black women's awards event to be clear)were quite visible. For those that pay attention, know this.
Dang lol
Regina Hall is HILARIOUS 😂
Send link cos I don’t believe she said this. Never heard of it actually
Also for Tracy Chapman- the roots of country and folk are blues, and the black community's group think is weirdly censorious about pur own artistic history.
I think Chimamanda Adichie is also a good example of this.
Long story short act like a woman, not just a skin colour. ACT LIKE A HUMAN BEING like everybody else.
We are not robts. We are women. Please listen to this video. You willlllllllllll have a peaceful life trust me😊
Chrissie, have you read the book “48 Laws of Power”? I think that touching on some of the themes/laws from that book for your FemStrategy would be SO helpful! It really helped me to navigate the corporate world and understand how a lot of people think and how to get ahead. And it taught me to dispose of the “fight fair” mentality I had been brainwashed to believe.
I don’t think it should be applied to everything, but I think it’s a must read especially for black women who have been brainwashed to be fair and balanced and overly focused on others instead of self-survival
The fight is never fair for bw
@@EtherealSolana absolutely, that’s why I love the book so much. It helped me understand the rules that other people, especially those looking to attain power and status, are playing by and how they think
I'm currently reading this book and it has helped me so much!
The coffee shop experience is funny don't go to Nigeria even if you are black they will stare because they know you are not from there you will start walking funny😅😅😅
Did you have that experience in Nigeria?
@@izzylabor2606 lol yes 🤣 😂 😆 in ondo state. But the people are really friendly. They just know you are not from there.
You went to the equivalent of the "country" or a town in the USA.
Ondo state is considered rural-ish . So the indigenes will of course stare at you.
I'm sure nobody really paid you that much attention in the major cities/states of Lagos, Abuja or Port Harcourt due to the diversity of people in those places tourists & expats included.
Why are you saying, "Don't go"? Were you kidding? I plan to go to Nigeria whether they stare at me or not. I'm sure Nigerians are used to tourists. It depends on what part of the country you find yourself in. Per Chrissie, you should be open to all experiences.
Black natural hair extensions for the win! Your natural texture hair not straightened will look amazing. Trust me !
Hello Yeeesss! Ooooccccuuuuurrrr... 😘👍🏾👌🏾💪🏾👏🏾
I love Brandy too. Beautiful, super talented, successful, fluid and just overall amazeballs.
What im really getting from this live is do what's best for you.
High earning men are just like any man. Once you attract them as with any man, you still need to not tolerate bread crumbing or games allpt of guys come off playing off the bat.
To me high earning is a millionaire with lots of properties. These barely 6 figures guys are not all that.
Idk if dsw are insecure we might be angry due to things being unfair inherently we feel just as qualified and pretty as well.as deserving. We just feel complexion alone should not be a deciding factor on beauty.
Speak for yourself we’re not a monolith.
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I made the switch to micro mini braids on natural hair and experienced an uptick in compliments. I thought it was my hair but really it's just a sign that my weight loss journey is working. So many of us thinks hair makes or breaks us but it's your body. Most straight men are not looking at your hair nor will notice when you change the style.....they will notice weight gain though.
I started laughing so hard around the 40 min mark. Chrissy we need the hair tutorial!
OMG at 26:01. Last week I was just thinking about DSBW grasping at the few procents of white admixture we have. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the different aspects of your heritage, but this is so sad, delusional and desperate.
This the one 😒🥴.
Always a great time 🫶🏾 thank you Chrissie 💙
To me another great example is Mellody Hobson. She is in different rooms and boards but will speak up about biases. It’s just not her whole identity.
Mellody Hobson is the best example for BW who aren't entertainers or artist. She has had many WM & BM mentors and mutually beneficial working relationships; came up in a field dominated by men; used her intelligence to become a self made millionaire
And on the love life side, she's dark skinned, short hair, and married one of the most famous billionaires on the planet
Stop *only* looking to women in the entertainment industry for strategy, especially since they get to operate by different rules than everyday/normal people.
There are many successful BW influencers who are older (45+), sharing their lives and thus revealing strategy and steps you can replicate!
Nina Simone was bipolar and DID have meltdowns. And Naomi Campbell always wore straight wigs/weaves, but apart from these two details, I fully agree with everything you said in this vid.
Naomi also benefited from her jamaican Chinese heritage. It gave her an exotic look.
I think wearing straight hair is partly because of dealing with white people everyday. I believe Naomi even would carry her own makeup because these white folks didnt know how to do her makeup. Let alone her hair. Even the mixed women often had straight hair.
I think its become a bit of a habit for her tho. I wish she wore the curly wigs more often tho. But i do get what you mean.
@@wonzjones6599Ain't nothing "Chinese" looking about Naomi Campbell. Trying to pull some non existent asian ancestor to seem exotic as a bw is self hating and pathetic. She wasn't given her break in modelling due to this "Chinese" ancestry y'all bring up.
If Naomi went around claiming some Chinese ancestry that's laughable because everybody saw and sees her as a fully black woman. And her black beauty and model talent is what got her fame.
@@wonzjones6599 her features are beautifully african nothing about her looks chinese , change your mindset
@@chocolatitac9365 I agree!!! I've seen Jamaican women and African women who look like her.
1:10:00
Amen to this!
Try it yourself. Do it!
Chrissie, this live was incredibly encouraging.
Thank you for this life-changing work that you do.
@chrissie
What I’m gonna need lsbw and biracial women or just women in general to know is u can be jealous of a woman people hate a introverted dsbw and don’t be pretty and stay to yourself it will be who do she think she is as dark as she is I’m very introverted and blk people mostly assume the wrong things like I’m stuck up or i think I’m too much. And u can have nothing and your next door neighbor can have more then u and still be jealous of u the insecurities run deep with most people and they call u insecure when u call some bs out i luv being quiet and different and i want change it for anyone i want be out here accepting less cause people think cause of how i look i should accept whatever scraps and crumbs i think tf not.
Got a clinical research internship in my lil starter locs lol
Thank you for this. ❤
Unfortunately most black women do not like natural hair so do not care to learn how to style and nuture it. I am a black woman with natural hair past my shoulders and men and women of all races comeplement my textured hair.
There is nothing more beautiful that natural hair, beautiful smile, clear skin and a healthy weight.
When you are in blackistan and in rachet culture, the classy styles you showed (with no baby hairs😂) will not be appealing to you.
I think that many of them do like it if it’s styled well, many of them are also ignorant and suffer from self hatred so there’s that
For me personally I loved my curly hair (4a-4b) but I found that it dries out very easily not to mention frizzyness and other issues but I chose to relax my hair to gain some clarity on why I was natural in the first place. I think I was natural only due to the wave of popularity it had and chose to experiment.
@@JulieG-w4j you should check out black girl curls and other curl specialists. Curly hair needs to be washed every 5 to 7 days . Some of the hair practices possibly causes dehydration
@@JulieG-w4j Try butters in your hair! They are so helpful for sealing in moisture. I love the Oyin Hairdew leave in. If shea butter is too heavy, try shea nilotica butter, mowrah butter, mango, bacuri cupuacu, or murumuru butter
3cayg and Rainforest chica have sampler sets.
Also, just an idea, those boho knotless braids/bora bora/ pick and drop, are also a low maintenance and elegant natural hairstyle. It’s wake up and go friendly. With human hair it is minimal maintenance, I’ve had them, trust me it’s minimal maintenance. It looks like you are on a luxury vacation and they are neat. They also look natural and have braids peaking through.
Braids and smaller locs are starting to become associated with luxury, because they are associated with bw on vacation. Take advantage of that while still protecting your hair. Good luck ❤
AlL these sistahs are Obviously Queens, buT let's noT get it twisted on Whitney, she neveR even "swirled" (unfortunately) let alone even Divested from Nakers or the B.C
like she should've to save her life and that of her kid's though!
Brainwashed but Christianity and the black church
Whitney could have followed Diana Ross' and older Tina Turner's blueprint. They both married VERY well off WM and were very well taken care of.
@@traumaqueeen YeS, she had every opportunity and Should've, not just date/marry out physically (i.e. swirl) buT DIVEST (mentally, emotionally, financially, etc.) from Blackistan and their manipulative, abusive ways period and evermore!!!
@@traumaqueeen Amen, and Queen Tina (R.I.P.) never returned to Tyrones either-nor Blackistan, period!!!
Great advice! ❤
true - there's no excuse to not know how to style your natural hair with all of the how-to videos on youtube.
8:39 I think this is VERY interesting because Beyoncé did an entire album and was snubbed by country music fans. While I wholeheartedly believe that racism was a major factor, I don’t think that Bey did her homework on this audience. While there are many female country music stars they had some work to do before they were praised over men in the same genre. They also appeal more to working class people who want to listen to music without editing out s3x, violence and profanity all the time. I think humility would have made this situation much better, but Beyoncé doesn’t know how to do humble so she might have iced herself out of favor in country music…
I agree and appreciate this take. I felt the same way about her “not doing her homework” because the country crowd doesn’t let people in unless they feel like your values align with them. There are many Black country artists that are well-known and loved (eg Darius Rucker) because they’ve always made that type of music. Even Shaboozy was originally country and didn’t “need” Beyonce to break out in that genre, he was already famous- she just introduced him to people who don’t expose themselves to other genres outside of pop/top 40.
I liked her album but I don’t think it was realistic to expect her to get any nominations when she’s not a regular in the genre.
Beyoncé has been vocally pro-black and openly supporting the democratic party. The country music industry does not welcome her because she does not run away from blackness. SNL did an entire skit on the fallout from white people realizing she’s black. The nastiest comments about her are from white men who are also now attacking Taylor Swift.
She's just desperate and clueless about the direction of her career!
I don't care if you're from Texas or Alabama, ......like really? Country music all of a sudden? Who was she fooling? Lol.
@@noire9601 I have nothing against her doing a different genre. But I feel like she is forcing everyone to think her veering off into something else is her absolute best and she is wrong for that. I actually like some country music but I can’t understand turning it up to 10 like renaissance. It should have been a side project…
I think she did fantastic. She tried something new and there's nothing wrong with that. Many, many Blacks loved it. I saw them dancing to it all over the internet. I truly think a lot of YTs were jealous that she did so well. They have their "tribe" mentality, just like everyone else. Many felt that she should have "stayed in her lane". Sounds to me like they felt threatened. Whether she was accepted by them or not, the point is she wasn't afraid to venture out, which is what Chrissie is talking about.
Tbh the gorgeous dark skin women receive the most jealousy it’s true
Your videos are always so refreshing and rejuvenating.
Donna Summer, too. Dionne Warwick.
When I officially moved into my career I wore an Afro in the early 2000s, all my mentors were non black and men … I’ve always been an open person and fluid throughout culture society and race
Legit NEVER knew Pat McGrath was a BLK woman, now I NEED to spend my coin
I figured she had to be when I saw the colors she offered. She had so many of our colors in the right hue that I googled her right in the middle of Sephora and then I bought one of her concealers. That concealer went on like foundation and holds well! It's one of my favorites now!
Hi, chrissie. Did you take down the video explaining why you stopped dds magazine. I was looking for it on patroon and on your femstrategy website and couldn’t find it. I had been meaning to watch it a while ago and never did. I was a broke college student at the time 😭😩 lol
@@LadyOO It’s on the site until 9/13: femstrategy.com/product/why-i-retired-dds-didnt-launch-the-app-what-8-years-of-online-colorism-advocacy-taught-me/
I'm listening to this on my way to work! Thank you for putting out this content for us 🙏🏾❤️ I love it! And it helps me so much
Great live ❤ really miss your black femininity series on TH-cam, they really helped.
Because we as Black want to be love and accepted some do follow the crowd like the BBLs to name one. I like other Black women had a Perm not realizing and/or paying attention that I was putting a chemical in my hair that burns only paying attention to beauty, plus my sister became a great beautician. My mother was pissed I was 18 years old to have my first Perm. Now we see the Perms cause Cancer. I left the Perms over 10 years ago, I wear my natural hair and I Love it. Never going back, never wore braids or wigs. Since my hair is really Curly wash and go is my FAV. Sistas just be YOU.
Everyone wants love!!! Blacks need to love themselves, first.
I am from africa,After reading comments, Ipall I see is blk bw looking for attention from other race of men. It's like when other race of men admires them they feel happy Inside. Your blk men have been telling you to be natural in almost all the videos, but I instead saw you guys are angry when blk men tells you to be natural.
The title of this video has to be the goal of all of us!
You can find any feature in Africa so idk if you need to embrace other races. It might be healthy to try to look like a certsin African tribe with certsin featurs you like. As far as pretty privileges it is largely about how you carry yourself after adulthood.
Many folks get fat out of shape. If you are unkept and of any complexion you will be off putting to most folks.
Google Khoisan people of Southern Africa - high cheek bones for days! No one can tell me about European Features when the entire continent of Africa has anything you could ask for. Features look different whether you are from Ethiopia or Sudan. The continent has beauty EVERYWHERE!
@@traumaqueeenyup. Many people will call some ORIGINALLY African features “European”. It’s wild. I’m East African BANTU so my features are somewhat similar to that of South Africans bc we had a huge migration in Africa apparently. On my mom’s side my dad was said to have a more “Eurocentric” nose but even if there is possible admixture due to colonialism or trade with Indians or Arabs, the bantu in me is very dominant and I’m convinced I’m 100% African. My eyes also look a bit East asiatic
So if someone calls me black b I will still say black is beautiful because black is not a rscial.slur by law. I also am refuting blackness as bad. I will point out I know they mean it to put me down. However, stating the beauty of blackness does disempower the enemy.
Yes it does. It totally disempowers them, when they know you love yourself. I've had Yt women try it on me and it NEVER worked. After awhile they leave you alone and go looking for a REAL victim.
Yes, the acceptance of their unique beauty and talents. And is it me or is there an epidemic of black women with blonde tresses?
I’ve worn my natural hair most of my life (3 years relaxed as a young teen). What I struggle with is finding a style. Especially when you’re from a ghetto background. I don’t know how to dress or carry myself. I live in a cold country and have no style 😫
It’s easier to dress classy for colder weather. Check out Anna Bey. As for natural hair am still trying to figure that out
Does anyone know any classy and elegant low-cut, twa hair looks I can do? I tend to lean towards low maintenance looks
I’m a dark skinned baldie. The main thing is to keep your hair neat. I make sure that my nape and around the sides are tapered. When I let it go into a TWA, I would use a soft gel to play up my texture, add a part and maybe consider color.
Diana Ross WAS an unambiguous dark skinned black woman (at least in the 60s-70s).
Diana Ross was NEVER dark skinned
Story time was funny, good times😊😊 listening to your content.
12:58 another thing about these women is they didn’t have to dye their hair blonde either to diversify their income and romance.
If they were staring at you, they were stupid, since all Arab countries have Afro-Arab communities and many non-Afro Arabs have black admixture, black features and 3 to 4c hair. As a black Muslim woman who speaks Arabic, has lived in Egypt and has been around a lot of Arab communities, I have faced a lot of colorism and racism and awkward situations like this, but also lots of joy, appreciation and kindness. And yes, keep trying.
Did she say this was a room full of Egyptians..? There are Arab people from a variety pf countries that don’t have African-American women shaped like Chrissie in them.
Her getting stared at doesn’t make them stupid it makes them enthralled. Everyone has seen fine men before that doesn’t mean meeting a new one is uninspiring. It can be jaw dropping
@@RedElephant169around fine men I tend not to stare them down. I notice that people from other cultures stare you down so hard like they’ve never seen us before or like we’ve invaded lol
@@EtherealSolana You should come to Poland 🇵🇱 the way you will get stared down as a bw will shock and amuse you. When I was at the airport with my Polish hubby the whole airport was just looking at me. I was flying from a very small city near the Ukranian border so I was the only bw there. My hubby was like "they're impressed your're here."😂
@@RedElephant169 This was not an attack on Chrissie. I've been around Moroccans, Egyptians and other Arabs for 20+ years. (More if I also count the half-Egyptian neighbours I grew up with, and classmates in kindergarten and beyond) I also speak Arabic and have lived in Egypt so I think I know what I'm talking about. Staring can have many reasons. It could be that they were enthralled, it could have been hostile - I don't know since I wasn't there. It is rude anyway. Almost all Arab countries have indigenous Afro-Arab communities for centuries. Many Afro-Arab and non-black Arab women have Chrissies shape.
@@RedElephant169 And I know that Egyptians aren't the same as Yemenis.
@4:02 and @5:26- “communi-tie…” 😭🤣🤣
Great content!! Great advice
Well, a video where I fully agree with Chrissie 😊. To add a caveat here, some of these examples such as Naomie , and Lupita are non black American women so being more worldly and open to other cultures come naturally to us. It’s not something we have to learn. Like for me I listen to this chanel not necessarily to learn as I already naturally did a lot of these things but I just like having this space to engage with other black women
👏🏾 like-minded BW..
Oh, and Des'ree and Queen Latifah!
As someone who is passionate about humanitarian causes I understand your perspective. I do think it’s important to have balance. Angelina Jolie comes to mind: beautiful talented actress but also, well known humanitarian. You can be both if you know to do so with grace.
That is a white woman. Not us
@@lowkey3047 okay fine Condaleeza Rice idk there are other women who we can use as an example of that. Angelina is just the best example that comes to mind.
@TheSandersonSistersTBMOTH Condi Rice is a conservative republican who is not preoccupied with black issues. Your own example invalidates your argument 🙄
@@lowkey3047 yes but she was still politically active that’s my point.
@@lowkey3047 She's talking about the "character" of the person and what that brings to the quality of one's life. You can learn something from everyone you meet. Even YT women.
The best thing is to not care at all about the fake black community and be natural. Don’t care about being some stereotype tbh have fun have hobbies don’t care about fitting in. Get into pottery , art, ballet , long boarding , read novels etc I’m so glad that I never fitted in it’s the grace of God on my life.