the more you fight against and feel shame around a subject, the more you are in danger of compromising trust with yourself, this whole topic is still so much something people women overall are ashamed off. been following you for years and glad you always bring this up x
This is so nice to hear. Men and women typically want such different things from sex it's amazing sometimes that we can ever get together. Sex should be fun for everyone involved.
this is how we know we’re on the same vibration. recently i’ve been thinking a lot about this topic and here comes Hitomi expressing exactly what i needed
one big thing that I think women don't understand is that men don't sort women between "just a friend" and "potentially something more" the same way you do with us. This means that men are generally willing to sleep with all of our female friends because friends are a higher standard than sexual partners.
@@jimbo1637 This is an issue society needs to reckon with, because men having low/no standards and being unable to form platonic bonds due to feeling detached from their humanity and the humanity of others is not good for anyone
theres nobody that exists like u. the paths youve created thru authenticity have inspired me like no other. ur so communicative & kind & open! im striving to transmute my vibrations so i can feel like u. ur perf in ur divine timing
Just discovered you recently. I love your vibe. I'm still trying to get rid of the shame around sex. I enjoy it, but I have not an environment where I can enjoy it fully yet. I just watch a video you posted in 2017 about dealing with depression. How you have grown. You are an inspiration
I have been struggling with my sensuality & sexuality. And it is so refreshing and eye opening to come across a woman who is harnessing her divine energy when it comes to the bedroom. I will be listening to this video quite a few times. Thank you, beautiful soul!
I love you talking so openly about this topic! I'm very thankful my family taught me to talk about it openly and prioritize my pleasure as well. It's so important, especially for women!! ❤
No you weren't too mean dont worry... I think its good to talk about these things, as someone who grew up thinking that women don't want to talk about sex especially. No idea where that came from. As a very intuitive person, I was doing many of these things already, but I'm always trying to better myself. The hardest part is being non-attached/needy, but as I let go of more and more old programming and emotions, it'll become easier I'm sure.
15:49 Been trying to tell this to people. Always go with the flow. Let the story unfold. See if they want to match energy with you. Connect with the people who want to connect with you. Great video
first time seeing you and experiencing your presentation, thanks for being authentic and exerting a genuine effort to spread love despite everything that's happening now and how it's affecting you. in this moment it's perfectly rational to find yourself feeling hatred towards men and choosing 2b 4b and it's admirable that you can still find it within yourself to do your thing here, I'm sure you're helping people and hopefully that helps you stay connected to who you are and what's meaningful to you. peace 🦋
By far you are one of the best relationship, life and wellness therapist I've ever met. The information you provide really sets pace for my life's ground work and beyond. All love to😊❤️
Lovely words, she is very generous in all that she shared. But she is not a therapist so just clarification on this as it is quite important. Its like calling someone a Clinical Psychologist when they are not.
Hi Hitomi ! I really enjoyed your presentation on sexual preferences and your personal advice in different situations especially coming from a younger mature woman ! I am part of the over the hill generation; but its still refreshing to hear your views and what stimulations you prefer ! Buy the way I`m glad you choose to show us your costume, it looks great on you !
Thank you so much for sharing this much-needed information for us generations. ❤ as 25 yo individual, growing up in this carnival society, I have failed to build physical connections with others. It’s very frustrating to me now … still a virgin and still afraid of “losing” myself.
Gosh I am so happy you’re posting about this! I feel like the majority of men need to hear this. It took me….15 years and multiple partners to find a partner that made sex such a sacred, and healing experience. It’s about having a partner making you feel safe and relaxed, no pressure, is purely turned on when YOU are turned on so their goal is to give you the most pleasure, is intimate in more than just dick in vagina so lots of foreplay and teasing. I was wounded so much by men making me feel like a piece of meat so when I found this partner, I discovered that I am in fact sexual and want it more but didn’t have partners who had the right intentions so they killed my desire since I wasn’t being considered in this activity that includes TWO people who both deserve the best type of pleasure. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing all of this so my other girlies can find a partner like mine to help them blossom into the sensual goddesses that they all already are. You just need a nurturing partner!
a guy here. thank you for this video. so much good information and i learned a lot. great presentation. good pacing and tone. no wonder you have so many subscribers.
I don't know. I can not formulate the topic specifically, but how can one beat the fear of sex? How can one at least try to change the negative view in one's own mind? I'd also would like you to discuss virginity and innocence, how to let them go without agonising oneself?
Explore sensuality in other forms! Dance, clothing (what makes YOU feel sexy), exercise, breathwork and pleasuring yourself. As well as having sex-positive conversations with others.
Like anything from the mind (albeit guilt and shame is sometimes deep), be open and curious, aware. Like mindfullness, know that automatic shameful thoughts and feelings come from somewhere, usually from when we are young and it doesn't come from you. Maybe you grew up in a christian family, or strict parents and they told you this and that, and it stuck in your subconscious. Don't try to push the guilt away, but dont try to hold onto it either. Repression is not good for the body, so let it out, shake it out if you need to! After being aware and not judging you can start to see it as the most natural thing. It takes time, but one way that works for me is laughing at it. Why is it, that we as a society that are born from intercourse put so much shame to it? We are born with our bodies and we are supposed to hide it? be ashamed of it? What roundabout way is that. It's like telling a lion to not hunt, a bird not to fly, or tell bunnies to "no stop doing that". Its madness and when you see things with a bit of a distanced naturalistic view and humour it fades away. The world because much more funny in a way and not so serious. Fear is clinching your muscles and being scared of imminent judgement, now try to let that go both physically and mentally. If it pops up, then let it pop up, but dont hold onto it, let your fist open up, no need to clench it. The best defense is to laugh at it, and be unfaced by it. Another way is by being nurturing with self-compassion and love just as you are. See the beauty in the marvellous body you have, and how much of a miracle we are to be alive, all the conditions that needed to be met for you to be here and now. Its fantastic.
I am so freaking grateful for you and your work ❤ this is so fundamental and close to my heart. It makes me feel closer to believing I could move past the sexual trauma.
Honestly you are the second woman I have met in my life that really knows how to explain this topics to men in a way that we can understand it better , Im glad and grateful to meet you on youtube, wish you all the best and wish more videos of you to come up , you are doing great , more in nowadays where women don't have this type of mindset and they are just being conditioned by media and some sorts of things. keep it up.
I don’t know if you’ll see this at this point, but I think it would be helpful to note that this video is primarily tips based on sexual experiences with penis-owners. There were a couple tips that are great generally, regardless of biological sex, but your target audience for this convo is 100% the penis club.
Love your conformation about pleasuring your lover! I'm single at this time in my life, but love learning about new ways about being creative with your lover! I been on semen retention for 61 days cultivation
After such videos I feel a complete reluctance to interact with the opposite sex. I don't understand anything about this topic and I don't want to disappoint anyone. I also see that it's all complicated and individual, which completely kills the desire to study it.
Hitomi id love if you did more videos on your experiences interacting with men Because I'm not sure if Im attracting bad situations or if it's just how men are I don't want to put all men in a box obviously just I notice a lot of defensiveness in them. And yes the fact that every guy immediately puts me in that sex box I'd love if u did more videos on how you feel interact with men etc xxx Thankyou xx
as a 26 year old virgin...i need all of the sex tips and advice i can get lol so when i'm ready for it...then i'm prepared so yeah, please keep the sex videos coming thank you greatly appreciate it
I totally get it re: 4B decision Great pieces in NYT recently about heteropessisism and hegemonic masculinity that align with your decision otsukare sama deshita
It's fine and encouraged to have this conversation with your partner in private. I wouldn't just go around talking openly about sex life things all the time, though, or people will think that's your only interest or hobby.
Can we make a renaissance self sufficient bed and breakfast community? You’re a goddess of nature, love, truth and light. Sex shaming is of the devil. Sexual pleasure is a gift from the living universe. You’re a Jedi master Hitomi. A beautiful fairy. 🧚♀️ I want to make this world better with you and your crew. Loved this! ❤
Thanks it was helpful pov. We men can be also very depply spiritual. Maybe not even caring for sex. But if we are not at that monk level of spirituality because we want a more "this worldish life" then it is normal that we view sex different and we maybe like the physical aspects more because the man represents the physical world ( finances, security, providing, strenght etc. ) and the woman represents the spiritual world ( emotions, deeper connection to the univers, creation, creativity etc ). You are right there should be a balance in feminine and masculine energies in us but dont be suprised when avaragely men view sex more physically. Thanks for the video!
16:58 this is so real, its so uncomfortable meeting guys with that energy, feels very needy and high pressure and ultimately suffocates the ability to connect, whether platonically or sexually!
this was on my recommended for some reason, but im surprisingly delighted to learn this perspective. Only problem is that I've never touched or gotten close to a women before lol
Life IS to short of mediocre Sex which is why I’m refusing to have Sex again with anyone until I’m with someone who I feel is gonna care bait my pleasure and not just use my body for their pleasure ❤
Make a video about light feminine energy and dark feminine energy. I really want to know your perspective on this types of femininity.. Loved the video. Listening to it just feels so empowering ❤
girly you should write a book or open your own sexual and spiritual exploration space with workshops or practices, just a thought, it's somewhere I would definitely go, and even more if it's yours🍒❤
Dear Hitomi, I am wondering if you have some insights about this. I cannot get the O and I feel like those air-toys are nice but then suddenly are too too intense! I feel like a lot of it is in my head. Do you maybe have some ideas or tips about letting go mentally?
the more you fight against and feel shame around a subject, the more you are in danger of compromising trust with yourself, this whole topic is still so much something people women overall are ashamed off. been following you for years and glad you always bring this up x
This is so nice to hear.
Men and women typically want such different things from sex it's amazing sometimes that we can ever get together.
Sex should be fun for everyone involved.
You mean penis and vulva owning partners, right???
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this is how we know we’re on the same vibration. recently i’ve been thinking a lot about this topic and here comes Hitomi expressing exactly what i needed
"WHY DID YOU SEX-ZONE ME" is brilliant and so on point
The friend zone exists for women too, the only difference is that men will sleep with their friends.
one big thing that I think women don't understand is that men don't sort women between "just a friend" and "potentially something more" the same way you do with us. This means that men are generally willing to sleep with all of our female friends because friends are a higher standard than sexual partners.
Oh no BIC cry lol
@@jimbo1637 This is an issue society needs to reckon with, because men having low/no standards and being unable to form platonic bonds due to feeling detached from their humanity and the humanity of others is not good for anyone
this feels radical considering where men often seek this kind of perspective. i wish they could all hear this. thanks hitomi
Spread the word
This was super helpful as a man thanks so much!
We appreciate you being here.
theres nobody that exists like u. the paths youve created thru authenticity have inspired me like no other. ur so communicative & kind & open! im striving to transmute my vibrations so i can feel like u. ur perf in ur divine timing
I'm listening at work, I thought my headphones were plugged in, but now my office has also been sexually educated.
Just discovered you recently. I love your vibe. I'm still trying to get rid of the shame around sex. I enjoy it, but I have not an environment where I can enjoy it fully yet.
I just watch a video you posted in 2017 about dealing with depression. How you have grown. You are an inspiration
I adore your sacred sexuality series! Please keep making these videos 🩷
I have been struggling with my sensuality & sexuality. And it is so refreshing and eye opening to come across a woman who is harnessing her divine energy when it comes to the bedroom. I will be listening to this video quite a few times. Thank you, beautiful soul!
Girl you came through! Hope you’re doing well love! Sending love always.
thank you for existing 🙏
I love you talking so openly about this topic! I'm very thankful my family taught me to talk about it openly and prioritize my pleasure as well. It's so important, especially for women!! ❤
No you weren't too mean dont worry... I think its good to talk about these things, as someone who grew up thinking that women don't want to talk about sex especially. No idea where that came from. As a very intuitive person, I was doing many of these things already, but I'm always trying to better myself. The hardest part is being non-attached/needy, but as I let go of more and more old programming and emotions, it'll become easier I'm sure.
15:49 Been trying to tell this to people. Always go with the flow. Let the story unfold. See if they want to match energy with you. Connect with the people who want to connect with you. Great video
As a virgin, this is helpful. Always be learning.
first time seeing you and experiencing your presentation, thanks for being authentic and exerting a genuine effort to spread love despite everything that's happening now and how it's affecting you. in this moment it's perfectly rational to find yourself feeling hatred towards men and choosing 2b 4b and it's admirable that you can still find it within yourself to do your thing here, I'm sure you're helping people and hopefully that helps you stay connected to who you are and what's meaningful to you. peace 🦋
By far you are one of the best relationship, life and wellness therapist I've ever met. The information you provide really sets pace for my life's ground work and beyond. All love to😊❤️
Lovely words, she is very generous in all that she shared. But she is not a therapist so just clarification on this as it is quite important. Its like calling someone a Clinical Psychologist when they are not.
Se@@gwenloca
You are a light Hitomi! this is such an intelligent and essential video, thank you xx
Hi Hitomi ! I really enjoyed your presentation on sexual preferences and your personal advice in different situations especially coming from a younger mature woman ! I am part of the over the hill generation; but its still refreshing to hear your views and what stimulations you prefer ! Buy the way I`m glad you choose to show us your costume, it looks great on you !
Thank you so much for sharing this much-needed information for us generations. ❤ as 25 yo individual, growing up in this carnival society, I have failed to build physical connections with others. It’s very frustrating to me now … still a virgin and still afraid of “losing” myself.
This is so Scorpio, even the colors your wearing
i thought the same!
Everything she does is mag- so scorpio lol, but in the best way. I wish more Scorpios would shed as she did and still bravely does.
Gosh I am so happy you’re posting about this! I feel like the majority of men need to hear this. It took me….15 years and multiple partners to find a partner that made sex such a sacred, and healing experience. It’s about having a partner making you feel safe and relaxed, no pressure, is purely turned on when YOU are turned on so their goal is to give you the most pleasure, is intimate in more than just dick in vagina so lots of foreplay and teasing. I was wounded so much by men making me feel like a piece of meat so when I found this partner, I discovered that I am in fact sexual and want it more but didn’t have partners who had the right intentions so they killed my desire since I wasn’t being considered in this activity that includes TWO people who both deserve the best type of pleasure. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing all of this so my other girlies can find a partner like mine to help them blossom into the sensual goddesses that they all already are. You just need a nurturing partner!
This was such a great video to Watch! You’re such an hypnotic person
You are awesome! Thank you Hitomi 💞
There's also the joy of releasing sexuality from your life, provided it is your choice (and no committed partner suffers).
Hitomi I will thank you every single time you bring this topic up. You are an image of healthy sexuality. Love love so so much love from America mama
a guy here. thank you for this video. so much good information and i learned a lot. great presentation. good pacing and tone. no wonder you have so many subscribers.
THIS WAS INSANELY HELPFUL. You put all that is in my mind and heart so beautifuly together. This is art. Thank you ❤
this is a goldmine, Hitomi, thank you🖤
You're my safe place
I don't know. I can not formulate the topic specifically, but how can one beat the fear of sex? How can one at least try to change the negative view in one's own mind? I'd also would like you to discuss virginity and innocence, how to let them go without agonising oneself?
Explore sensuality in other forms! Dance, clothing (what makes YOU feel sexy), exercise, breathwork and pleasuring yourself.
As well as having sex-positive conversations with others.
Like anything from the mind (albeit guilt and shame is sometimes deep), be open and curious, aware. Like mindfullness, know that automatic shameful thoughts and feelings come from somewhere, usually from when we are young and it doesn't come from you. Maybe you grew up in a christian family, or strict parents and they told you this and that, and it stuck in your subconscious.
Don't try to push the guilt away, but dont try to hold onto it either. Repression is not good for the body, so let it out, shake it out if you need to! After being aware and not judging you can start to see it as the most natural thing. It takes time, but one way that works for me is laughing at it. Why is it, that we as a society that are born from intercourse put so much shame to it? We are born with our bodies and we are supposed to hide it? be ashamed of it? What roundabout way is that. It's like telling a lion to not hunt, a bird not to fly, or tell bunnies to "no stop doing that". Its madness and when you see things with a bit of a distanced naturalistic view and humour it fades away. The world because much more funny in a way and not so serious. Fear is clinching your muscles and being scared of imminent judgement, now try to let that go both physically and mentally. If it pops up, then let it pop up, but dont hold onto it,
let your fist open up, no need to clench it.
The best defense is to laugh at it, and be unfaced by it. Another way is by being nurturing with self-compassion and love just as you are. See the beauty in the marvellous body you have,
and how much of a miracle we are to be alive, all the conditions that needed to be met for you to be here and now. Its fantastic.
I needed to hear this ❤️❗️
I am so freaking grateful for you and your work ❤ this is so fundamental and close to my heart. It makes me feel closer to believing I could move past the sexual trauma.
thanks for sharing!! I would love to hear more about getting out of your head and really just relaxing. Like why is it sooo hard 🙁
Honestly you are the second woman I have met in my life that really knows how to explain this topics to men in a way that we can understand it better , Im glad and grateful to meet you on youtube, wish you all the best and wish more videos of you to come up , you are doing great , more in nowadays where women don't have this type of mindset and they are just being conditioned by media and some sorts of things. keep it up.
Who is the first?
Beautiful and educating, as always. Thank you.
13:36 sooo trueee.. no rushing
Can you do a video on maintaining a good ph balance ? and how to care for your flower properly?
vulva! vulva! vulvaaaaa
I don’t know if you’ll see this at this point, but I think it would be helpful to note that this video is primarily tips based on sexual experiences with penis-owners. There were a couple tips that are great generally, regardless of biological sex, but your target audience for this convo is 100% the penis club.
Love your conformation about pleasuring your lover! I'm single at this time in my life, but love learning about new ways about being creative with your lover! I been on semen retention for 61 days cultivation
After such videos I feel a complete reluctance to interact with the opposite sex. I don't understand anything about this topic and I don't want to disappoint anyone. I also see that it's all complicated and individual, which completely kills the desire to study it.
thank you for this video 💖 we love you!!
"why did you sex-zone me" just changed my brain chemistry
i agree with that sex zoned thing so much. a deep friendship is so important
I’ve been practicing SR for a couple of years now. It’s a great thing to do especially if you’re looking to please your partner.
Hitomi id love if you did more videos on your experiences interacting with men
Because I'm not sure if Im attracting bad situations or if it's just how men are I don't want to put all men in a box obviously just I notice a lot of defensiveness in them.
And yes the fact that every guy immediately puts me in that sex box
I'd love if u did more videos on how you feel interact with men etc xxx
Thankyou xx
Your helping me heal on my journey 🙏🏻 I appreciate that ❤
Thank you again ❤ I liked the other one and excited to see this one
as a 26 year old virgin...i need all of the sex tips and advice i can get lol so when i'm ready for it...then i'm prepared so yeah, please keep the sex videos coming thank you greatly appreciate it
this is literally the only video you need. looking up the g spot is great too lol
I totally get it re: 4B decision
Great pieces in NYT recently about heteropessisism and hegemonic masculinity that align with your decision
otsukare sama deshita
Thank you so much for this, it's very insightful and helpful
It's fine and encouraged to have this conversation with your partner in private. I wouldn't just go around talking openly about sex life things all the time, though, or people will think that's your only interest or hobby.
Can we make a renaissance self sufficient bed and breakfast community? You’re a goddess of nature, love, truth and light. Sex shaming is of the devil. Sexual pleasure is a gift from the living universe. You’re a Jedi master Hitomi. A beautiful fairy. 🧚♀️ I want to make this world better with you and your crew. Loved this! ❤
Thanks it was helpful pov. We men can be also very depply spiritual. Maybe not even caring for sex. But if we are not at that monk level of spirituality because we want a more "this worldish life" then it is normal that we view sex different and we maybe like the physical aspects more because the man represents the physical world ( finances, security, providing, strenght etc. ) and the woman represents the spiritual world ( emotions, deeper connection to the univers, creation, creativity etc ). You are right there should be a balance in feminine and masculine energies in us but dont be suprised when avaragely men view sex more physically. Thanks for the video!
Hi...new and have been enjoying catching up on all your vids. Thank you for pouring out everything you love and sharing ❤
Why did you sex zone me? This is such powerful language! Thank you so much for sharing all that you do 🙏🙏💕
The education is so important 🤗
You're pretty amazing. This was fun and educational! Could you please do a makeup video?
That is really helpful. Thank you so much sis.
girl the 'sex zone' line????? you SAID THAT!!!!
Omg you look amazing ❤
Thank you for creating these vids ❤️
This was so beautifully put! Immediate Like & Subscribe! Please continue as I will definitely be tuning in! ❤
You look SOOOOOO good with the red and leather ❤😍
Your top is so pretty ❤
this is amazing video, thank you so much
Good video, thank you 🙏🏼
You look like Mikey Madison from Anora!! Which is a great movie btw
16:58 this is so real, its so uncomfortable meeting guys with that energy, feels very needy and high pressure and ultimately suffocates the ability to connect, whether platonically or sexually!
you feel so grounded and authentic....would love to meet u
Thank you for sharing❤
I am really glad she shares this. Understand is what every relationships needs though. to be content with each other.
this was on my recommended for some reason, but im surprisingly delighted to learn this perspective. Only problem is that I've never touched or gotten close to a women before lol
Life IS to short of mediocre Sex which is why I’m refusing to have Sex again with anyone until I’m with someone who I feel is gonna care bait my pleasure and not just use my body for their pleasure ❤
Wow, you are so on point!👏👏👏👏👏
Love this❤
Make a video about light feminine energy and dark feminine energy. I really want to know your perspective on this types of femininity..
Loved the video.
Listening to it just feels so empowering ❤
Stellar advice thank you
Great video!
Thanks for sharing😁🙏
Love is the way ♥️
Stoked for this! Are you familiar with Emily Fletcher & Ziva meditation? She's my teacher, and I feel like you would resonate with her & vice versa!
A little off topic, but i love the corset! Where did you get it from?
You look amazing
Love it🎉
can you do one just for lesbians
I highly recommend this book The Light of Iman, Available in Amazon
thx for this video
Great advice thanks for sharing
Thank you for your tips and your approach to sexuality is very healthy Hitomi
Entretaining and informative as usuall
So grateful 💛🧡❤Matthew
This is so personal but advice on scissoring esp when you’re a person who likes a partner bigger than yourself while being a top 😅😅
can every man listen to this please 👏 thank you preach Hitomi !
girly you should write a book or open your own sexual and spiritual exploration space with workshops or practices, just a thought, it's somewhere I would definitely go, and even more if it's yours🍒❤
Love this video
Dear Hitomi, I am wondering if you have some insights about this. I cannot get the O and I feel like those air-toys are nice but then suddenly are too too intense! I feel like a lot of it is in my head. Do you maybe have some ideas or tips about letting go mentally?
Awesome 👏🙌
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Hehe😍😍. Now where are you writing from 😊😊
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Ty hitomi