the more you fight against and feel shame around a subject, the more you are in danger of compromising trust with yourself, this whole topic is still so much something people women overall are ashamed off. been following you for years and glad you always bring this up x
This is so nice to hear. Men and women typically want such different things from sex it's amazing sometimes that we can ever get together. Sex should be fun for everyone involved.
this is how we know we’re on the same vibration. recently i’ve been thinking a lot about this topic and here comes Hitomi expressing exactly what i needed
theres nobody that exists like u. the paths youve created thru authenticity have inspired me like no other. ur so communicative & kind & open! im striving to transmute my vibrations so i can feel like u. ur perf in ur divine timing
Just discovered you recently. I love your vibe. I'm still trying to get rid of the shame around sex. I enjoy it, but I have not an environment where I can enjoy it fully yet. I just watch a video you posted in 2017 about dealing with depression. How you have grown. You are an inspiration
No you weren't too mean dont worry... I think its good to talk about these things, as someone who grew up thinking that women don't want to talk about sex especially. No idea where that came from. As a very intuitive person, I was doing many of these things already, but I'm always trying to better myself. The hardest part is being non-attached/needy, but as I let go of more and more old programming and emotions, it'll become easier I'm sure.
I have been struggling with my sensuality & sexuality. And it is so refreshing and eye opening to come across a woman who is harnessing her divine energy when it comes to the bedroom. I will be listening to this video quite a few times. Thank you, beautiful soul!
I have honestly noticed that my wife wasn't enjoying our private time lately, but when I would bring it up she would just brush it off. I read a book on the theme and its called hidden techniques for manifesting women zorlest I have seen masive changes in our sexual lifee, definitely recommend. Great video tho
I don't know. I can not formulate the topic specifically, but how can one beat the fear of sex? How can one at least try to change the negative view in one's own mind? I'd also would like you to discuss virginity and innocence, how to let them go without agonising oneself?
Explore sensuality in other forms! Dance, clothing (what makes YOU feel sexy), exercise, breathwork and pleasuring yourself. As well as having sex-positive conversations with others.
Like anything from the mind (albeit guilt and shame is sometimes deep), be open and curious, aware. Like mindfullness, know that automatic shameful thoughts and feelings come from somewhere, usually from when we are young and it doesn't come from you. Maybe you grew up in a christian family, or strict parents and they told you this and that, and it stuck in your subconscious. Don't try to push the guilt away, but dont try to hold onto it either. Repression is not good for the body, so let it out, shake it out if you need to! After being aware and not judging you can start to see it as the most natural thing. It takes time, but one way that works for me is laughing at it. Why is it, that we as a society that are born from intercourse put so much shame to it? We are born with our bodies and we are supposed to hide it? be ashamed of it? What roundabout way is that. It's like telling a lion to not hunt, a bird not to fly, or tell bunnies to "no stop doing that". Its madness and when you see things with a bit of a distanced naturalistic view and humour it fades away. The world because much more funny in a way and not so serious. Fear is clinching your muscles and being scared of imminent judgement, now try to let that go both physically and mentally. If it pops up, then let it pop up, but dont hold onto it, let your fist open up, no need to clench it. The best defense is to laugh at it, and be unfaced by it. Another way is by being nurturing with self-compassion and love just as you are. See the beauty in the marvellous body you have, and how much of a miracle we are to be alive, all the conditions that needed to be met for you to be here and now. Its fantastic.
15:49 Been trying to tell this to people. Always go with the flow. Let the story unfold. See if they want to match energy with you. Connect with the people who want to connect with you. Great video
I love you talking so openly about this topic! I'm very thankful my family taught me to talk about it openly and prioritize my pleasure as well. It's so important, especially for women!! ❤
first time seeing you and experiencing your presentation, thanks for being authentic and exerting a genuine effort to spread love despite everything that's happening now and how it's affecting you. in this moment it's perfectly rational to find yourself feeling hatred towards men and choosing 2b 4b and it's admirable that you can still find it within yourself to do your thing here, I'm sure you're helping people and hopefully that helps you stay connected to who you are and what's meaningful to you. peace 🦋
By far you are one of the best relationship, life and wellness therapist I've ever met. The information you provide really sets pace for my life's ground work and beyond. All love to😊❤️
Lovely words, she is very generous in all that she shared. But she is not a therapist so just clarification on this as it is quite important. Its like calling someone a Clinical Psychologist when they are not.
Gosh I am so happy you’re posting about this! I feel like the majority of men need to hear this. It took me….15 years and multiple partners to find a partner that made sex such a sacred, and healing experience. It’s about having a partner making you feel safe and relaxed, no pressure, is purely turned on when YOU are turned on so their goal is to give you the most pleasure, is intimate in more than just dick in vagina so lots of foreplay and teasing. I was wounded so much by men making me feel like a piece of meat so when I found this partner, I discovered that I am in fact sexual and want it more but didn’t have partners who had the right intentions so they killed my desire since I wasn’t being considered in this activity that includes TWO people who both deserve the best type of pleasure. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing all of this so my other girlies can find a partner like mine to help them blossom into the sensual goddesses that they all already are. You just need a nurturing partner!
I am so freaking grateful for you and your work ❤ this is so fundamental and close to my heart. It makes me feel closer to believing I could move past the sexual trauma.
Hitomi id love if you did more videos on your experiences interacting with men Because I'm not sure if Im attracting bad situations or if it's just how men are I don't want to put all men in a box obviously just I notice a lot of defensiveness in them. And yes the fact that every guy immediately puts me in that sex box I'd love if u did more videos on how you feel interact with men etc xxx Thankyou xx
I totally get it re: 4B decision Great pieces in NYT recently about heteropessisism and hegemonic masculinity that align with your decision otsukare sama deshita
Love your conformation about pleasuring your lover! I'm single at this time in my life, but love learning about new ways about being creative with your lover! I been on semen retention for 61 days cultivation
After such videos I feel a complete reluctance to interact with the opposite sex. I don't understand anything about this topic and I don't want to disappoint anyone. I also see that it's all complicated and individual, which completely kills the desire to study it.
Thanks it was helpful pov. We men can be also very depply spiritual. Maybe not even caring for sex. But if we are not at that monk level of spirituality because we want a more "this worldish life" then it is normal that we view sex different and we maybe like the physical aspects more because the man represents the physical world ( finances, security, providing, strenght etc. ) and the woman represents the spiritual world ( emotions, deeper connection to the univers, creation, creativity etc ). You are right there should be a balance in feminine and masculine energies in us but dont be suprised when avaragely men view sex more physically. Thanks for the video!
Can we make a renaissance self sufficient bed and breakfast community? You’re a goddess of nature, love, truth and light. Sex shaming is of the devil. Sexual pleasure is a gift from the living universe. You’re a Jedi master Hitomi. A beautiful fairy. 🧚♀️ I want to make this world better with you and your crew. Loved this! ❤
I don’t know if you’ll see this at this point, but I think it would be helpful to note that this video is primarily tips based on sexual experiences with penis-owners. There were a couple tips that are great generally, regardless of biological sex, but your target audience for this convo is 100% the penis club.
as a 26 year old virgin...i need all of the sex tips and advice i can get lol so when i'm ready for it...then i'm prepared so yeah, please keep the sex videos coming thank you greatly appreciate it
girly you should write a book or open your own sexual and spiritual exploration space with workshops or practices, just a thought, it's somewhere I would definitely go, and even more if it's yours🍒❤
Make a video about light feminine energy and dark feminine energy. I really want to know your perspective on this types of femininity.. Loved the video. Listening to it just feels so empowering ❤
I haven’t had sex in many, many years, and I find the degree of casualness displayed here is from a different planet entirely. It’s so strange to hear that people are actually doing these things and speaking about it without qualms. Finding a partner used to be one of the most important things in my life, but now I just don’t care anymore. It’s not exactly depression that I’m feeling, but a deep disappointment, almost to the point of being appalled. Although, that being said, there are so many people out there that it shouldn’t really come as a surprise that there are others in a completely different life situation to mine. Still, “men who are attached to having sex”, like who the fuck are those men? What the fuck is happening to the human race? Just incredible.
in my experience most peoples sexual attention lasts about 15 minutes. so quality over quantity I guess xd! at this point in my life having an extra free night or two a week to blow off steam and be intimate/trusting with your companion/partner is so valuable, nothing could mess it up. personally i prefer not to overthink and get certain expectations it or gets stale or sour.
This is such a magical video.. I’ve been watching your channel for years and as a newer TH-camr I really look up to you !🤍 do you have any recommendations for mentorship for growing?
Dear Hitomi, I am wondering if you have some insights about this. I cannot get the O and I feel like those air-toys are nice but then suddenly are too too intense! I feel like a lot of it is in my head. Do you maybe have some ideas or tips about letting go mentally?
Why limit this to only people who aren’t “well endowed”? Great sex should be for everyone. I think men in general need to hear this advice, regardless of their size
Im literally screwed with a below avg 🍆😩😩 “I’m good looking” and had so many encounters with women that wanted to have sex but I would push them away because I felt I would not “pleasure” them 😭😔
Omg size does not matter! I totally understand how it could make you insecure but this will prevent you from transforming into your full potential as an intimate partner. I NEVER am excited about the body part and instead it’s the overall sexual experience, if it becomes a time of pure ecstasy. Nothing is more stimulating when a partner is confident, makes you feel relaxed and safe, reassuring, has a goal to give you maximum pleasure that is the root of their own stimulation, lots of non-penetrating activities, explorative and patient, focused on building up the tension, is intimate in the most simple ways such as kissing, sucking, rubbing etc. like hitomi says how can you get your partner to let go and get lost in the sensations especially for females since sexuality is a little more mental.
I find it difficult when a partners kink is emotionally damaging to me. Also, being with partners who don’t care if I have an orgasm even after I speak up about it.
If you feel Like your Partner expects from you to do practices that are emotionally damaging to you, thats wrongful entitlement. Your Partner is Not entitled to your Body, to Access to your Body. Accepting otherwise Makes you vunerable to futher manipulation, or cohersion. That May entrench on your Sense of Body/ autonomy and mental Liberty and can be traumatic longterm. Especially Femmes need to question believing they are physical property of men/their sexual Partners when it comes to intimacy. Of cause it is difficult to have Sex with Someone who doesnt care about you/rs!!! it makes this super vunerable experience super unsafe/dissociative for you to be in..Im sorry youre experiencing that with Someone that is supposed to make you feel Safe and entrusting. If you feel Like you can Not speak up to your intimate Partner in fear of Being dismissed/ignored/ridiculed/attacked/guilt tripped, this Person May Not be nourishing for you to be around. And you May want to consider why or how you want to grow next to such a Person (if Martyrdom and ideological imposed suffering doesnt count).
the more you fight against and feel shame around a subject, the more you are in danger of compromising trust with yourself, this whole topic is still so much something people women overall are ashamed off. been following you for years and glad you always bring this up x
This is so nice to hear.
Men and women typically want such different things from sex it's amazing sometimes that we can ever get together.
Sex should be fun for everyone involved.
this is how we know we’re on the same vibration. recently i’ve been thinking a lot about this topic and here comes Hitomi expressing exactly what i needed
"WHY DID YOU SEX-ZONE ME" is brilliant and so on point
This was super helpful as a man thanks so much!
We appreciate you being here.
this feels radical considering where men often seek this kind of perspective. i wish they could all hear this. thanks hitomi
Spread the word
theres nobody that exists like u. the paths youve created thru authenticity have inspired me like no other. ur so communicative & kind & open! im striving to transmute my vibrations so i can feel like u. ur perf in ur divine timing
Just discovered you recently. I love your vibe. I'm still trying to get rid of the shame around sex. I enjoy it, but I have not an environment where I can enjoy it fully yet.
I just watch a video you posted in 2017 about dealing with depression. How you have grown. You are an inspiration
No you weren't too mean dont worry... I think its good to talk about these things, as someone who grew up thinking that women don't want to talk about sex especially. No idea where that came from. As a very intuitive person, I was doing many of these things already, but I'm always trying to better myself. The hardest part is being non-attached/needy, but as I let go of more and more old programming and emotions, it'll become easier I'm sure.
I adore your sacred sexuality series! Please keep making these videos 🩷
I have been struggling with my sensuality & sexuality. And it is so refreshing and eye opening to come across a woman who is harnessing her divine energy when it comes to the bedroom. I will be listening to this video quite a few times. Thank you, beautiful soul!
I have honestly noticed that my wife wasn't enjoying our private time lately, but when I would bring it up she would just brush it off. I read a book on the theme and its called hidden techniques for manifesting women zorlest I have seen masive changes in our sexual lifee, definitely recommend. Great video tho
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I don't know. I can not formulate the topic specifically, but how can one beat the fear of sex? How can one at least try to change the negative view in one's own mind? I'd also would like you to discuss virginity and innocence, how to let them go without agonising oneself?
Explore sensuality in other forms! Dance, clothing (what makes YOU feel sexy), exercise, breathwork and pleasuring yourself.
As well as having sex-positive conversations with others.
Like anything from the mind (albeit guilt and shame is sometimes deep), be open and curious, aware. Like mindfullness, know that automatic shameful thoughts and feelings come from somewhere, usually from when we are young and it doesn't come from you. Maybe you grew up in a christian family, or strict parents and they told you this and that, and it stuck in your subconscious.
Don't try to push the guilt away, but dont try to hold onto it either. Repression is not good for the body, so let it out, shake it out if you need to! After being aware and not judging you can start to see it as the most natural thing. It takes time, but one way that works for me is laughing at it. Why is it, that we as a society that are born from intercourse put so much shame to it? We are born with our bodies and we are supposed to hide it? be ashamed of it? What roundabout way is that. It's like telling a lion to not hunt, a bird not to fly, or tell bunnies to "no stop doing that". Its madness and when you see things with a bit of a distanced naturalistic view and humour it fades away. The world because much more funny in a way and not so serious. Fear is clinching your muscles and being scared of imminent judgement, now try to let that go both physically and mentally. If it pops up, then let it pop up, but dont hold onto it,
let your fist open up, no need to clench it.
The best defense is to laugh at it, and be unfaced by it. Another way is by being nurturing with self-compassion and love just as you are. See the beauty in the marvellous body you have,
and how much of a miracle we are to be alive, all the conditions that needed to be met for you to be here and now. Its fantastic.
Girl you came through! Hope you’re doing well love! Sending love always.
15:49 Been trying to tell this to people. Always go with the flow. Let the story unfold. See if they want to match energy with you. Connect with the people who want to connect with you. Great video
I love you talking so openly about this topic! I'm very thankful my family taught me to talk about it openly and prioritize my pleasure as well. It's so important, especially for women!! ❤
thank you for existing 🙏
first time seeing you and experiencing your presentation, thanks for being authentic and exerting a genuine effort to spread love despite everything that's happening now and how it's affecting you. in this moment it's perfectly rational to find yourself feeling hatred towards men and choosing 2b 4b and it's admirable that you can still find it within yourself to do your thing here, I'm sure you're helping people and hopefully that helps you stay connected to who you are and what's meaningful to you. peace 🦋
By far you are one of the best relationship, life and wellness therapist I've ever met. The information you provide really sets pace for my life's ground work and beyond. All love to😊❤️
Lovely words, she is very generous in all that she shared. But she is not a therapist so just clarification on this as it is quite important. Its like calling someone a Clinical Psychologist when they are not.
Se@@gwenloca
Gosh I am so happy you’re posting about this! I feel like the majority of men need to hear this. It took me….15 years and multiple partners to find a partner that made sex such a sacred, and healing experience. It’s about having a partner making you feel safe and relaxed, no pressure, is purely turned on when YOU are turned on so their goal is to give you the most pleasure, is intimate in more than just dick in vagina so lots of foreplay and teasing. I was wounded so much by men making me feel like a piece of meat so when I found this partner, I discovered that I am in fact sexual and want it more but didn’t have partners who had the right intentions so they killed my desire since I wasn’t being considered in this activity that includes TWO people who both deserve the best type of pleasure. Thank you thank you thank you for sharing all of this so my other girlies can find a partner like mine to help them blossom into the sensual goddesses that they all already are. You just need a nurturing partner!
As a virgin, this is helpful. Always be learning.
This is so Scorpio, even the colors your wearing
i thought the same!
Everything she does is mag- so scorpio lol, but in the best way. I wish more Scorpios would shed as she did and still bravely does.
There's also the joy of releasing sexuality from your life, provided it is your choice (and no committed partner suffers).
You are a light Hitomi! this is such an intelligent and essential video, thank you xx
I am so freaking grateful for you and your work ❤ this is so fundamental and close to my heart. It makes me feel closer to believing I could move past the sexual trauma.
This was such a great video to Watch! You’re such an hypnotic person
this is a goldmine, Hitomi, thank you🖤
You're my safe place
Beautiful and educating, as always. Thank you.
thanks for sharing!! I would love to hear more about getting out of your head and really just relaxing. Like why is it sooo hard 🙁
THIS WAS INSANELY HELPFUL. You put all that is in my mind and heart so beautifuly together. This is art. Thank you ❤
Can you do a video on maintaining a good ph balance ? and how to care for your flower properly?
vulva! vulva! vulvaaaaa
Hitomi id love if you did more videos on your experiences interacting with men
Because I'm not sure if Im attracting bad situations or if it's just how men are I don't want to put all men in a box obviously just I notice a lot of defensiveness in them.
And yes the fact that every guy immediately puts me in that sex box
I'd love if u did more videos on how you feel interact with men etc xxx
Thankyou xx
I needed to hear this ❤️❗️
Thank you so much for this, it's very insightful and helpful
I totally get it re: 4B decision
Great pieces in NYT recently about heteropessisism and hegemonic masculinity that align with your decision
otsukare sama deshita
Hitomi I will thank you every single time you bring this topic up. You are an image of healthy sexuality. Love love so so much love from America mama
13:36 sooo trueee.. no rushing
Love your conformation about pleasuring your lover! I'm single at this time in my life, but love learning about new ways about being creative with your lover! I been on semen retention for 61 days cultivation
After such videos I feel a complete reluctance to interact with the opposite sex. I don't understand anything about this topic and I don't want to disappoint anyone. I also see that it's all complicated and individual, which completely kills the desire to study it.
Thanks it was helpful pov. We men can be also very depply spiritual. Maybe not even caring for sex. But if we are not at that monk level of spirituality because we want a more "this worldish life" then it is normal that we view sex different and we maybe like the physical aspects more because the man represents the physical world ( finances, security, providing, strenght etc. ) and the woman represents the spiritual world ( emotions, deeper connection to the univers, creation, creativity etc ). You are right there should be a balance in feminine and masculine energies in us but dont be suprised when avaragely men view sex more physically. Thanks for the video!
i agree with that sex zoned thing so much. a deep friendship is so important
Your helping me heal on my journey 🙏🏻 I appreciate that ❤
Thank you again ❤ I liked the other one and excited to see this one
you feel so grounded and authentic....would love to meet u
That is really helpful. Thank you so much sis.
thank you for this video 💖 we love you!!
You look SOOOOOO good with the red and leather ❤😍
Can we make a renaissance self sufficient bed and breakfast community? You’re a goddess of nature, love, truth and light. Sex shaming is of the devil. Sexual pleasure is a gift from the living universe. You’re a Jedi master Hitomi. A beautiful fairy. 🧚♀️ I want to make this world better with you and your crew. Loved this! ❤
Hi...new and have been enjoying catching up on all your vids. Thank you for pouring out everything you love and sharing ❤
I don’t know if you’ll see this at this point, but I think it would be helpful to note that this video is primarily tips based on sexual experiences with penis-owners. There were a couple tips that are great generally, regardless of biological sex, but your target audience for this convo is 100% the penis club.
I highly recommend this book The Light of Iman, Available in Amazon
as a 26 year old virgin...i need all of the sex tips and advice i can get lol so when i'm ready for it...then i'm prepared so yeah, please keep the sex videos coming thank you greatly appreciate it
Positive gaslighting is my favorite. Just saying things like "I love it when you xyz" gets women to do xyz more.
Thank you for creating these vids ❤️
Stellar advice thank you
"why did you sex-zone me" just changed my brain chemistry
can every man listen to this please 👏 thank you preach Hitomi !
Stoked for this! Are you familiar with Emily Fletcher & Ziva meditation? She's my teacher, and I feel like you would resonate with her & vice versa!
Omg you look amazing ❤
can you do one just for lesbians
girly you should write a book or open your own sexual and spiritual exploration space with workshops or practices, just a thought, it's somewhere I would definitely go, and even more if it's yours🍒❤
Thank you for sharing❤
I am really glad she shares this. Understand is what every relationships needs though. to be content with each other.
You look like Mikey Madison from Anora!! Which is a great movie btw
Make a video about light feminine energy and dark feminine energy. I really want to know your perspective on this types of femininity..
Loved the video.
Listening to it just feels so empowering ❤
Why did you sex zone me? This is such powerful language! Thank you so much for sharing all that you do 🙏🙏💕
A little off topic, but i love the corset! Where did you get it from?
Wow, you are so on point!👏👏👏👏👏
Great advice thanks for sharing
You look amazing
Great video!
This is so personal but advice on scissoring esp when you’re a person who likes a partner bigger than yourself while being a top 😅😅
Love is the way ♥️
Thank you for your tips and your approach to sexuality is very healthy Hitomi
Entretaining and informative as usuall
I haven’t had sex in many, many years, and I find the degree of casualness displayed here is from a different planet entirely. It’s so strange to hear that people are actually doing these things and speaking about it without qualms. Finding a partner used to be one of the most important things in my life, but now I just don’t care anymore. It’s not exactly depression that I’m feeling, but a deep disappointment, almost to the point of being appalled. Although, that being said, there are so many people out there that it shouldn’t really come as a surprise that there are others in a completely different life situation to mine. Still, “men who are attached to having sex”, like who the fuck are those men? What the fuck is happening to the human race? Just incredible.
girl the 'sex zone' line????? you SAID THAT!!!!
Should the NBA go back to having the jerseys made by Champion?
Thanks for sharing😁🙏
in my experience most peoples sexual attention lasts about 15 minutes. so quality over quantity I guess xd! at this point in my life having an extra free night or two a week to blow off steam and be intimate/trusting with your companion/partner is so valuable, nothing could mess it up. personally i prefer not to overthink and get certain expectations it or gets stale or sour.
Love hearing your experience
It’s funny ,I went to a try softer seminar and met a Sex therapist there and relationship counseling so this subject was right on time ☯️🕉️⚡️🥋
So grateful 💛🧡❤Matthew
Do you have any advice for parents. do you have any parent friends? what do they tell you about their intimacy?
This is such a magical video.. I’ve been watching your channel for years and as a newer TH-camr I really look up to you !🤍 do you have any recommendations for mentorship for growing?
Dear Hitomi, I am wondering if you have some insights about this. I cannot get the O and I feel like those air-toys are nice but then suddenly are too too intense! I feel like a lot of it is in my head. Do you maybe have some ideas or tips about letting go mentally?
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I gave up on dating men ESPECIALLY gen z males..
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Why limit this to only people who aren’t “well endowed”? Great sex should be for everyone. I think men in general need to hear this advice, regardless of their size
She wasn’t limiting anyone, she was really inclusive throughout the vid
it's always the men that are not cutting it.
You can tell she was sexually abused hence why she is gay. Look at the way she talks and is obsessed with sex.
Ty hitomi
Im literally screwed with a below avg 🍆😩😩 “I’m good looking” and had so many encounters with women that wanted to have sex but I would push them away because I felt I would not “pleasure” them 😭😔
Size truly does not matter, I'd say just get really good at oral and good at listening/caring about your partner and you'll have no issues.
Omg size does not matter! I totally understand how it could make you insecure but this will prevent you from transforming into your full potential as an intimate partner. I NEVER am excited about the body part and instead it’s the overall sexual experience, if it becomes a time of pure ecstasy. Nothing is more stimulating when a partner is confident, makes you feel relaxed and safe, reassuring, has a goal to give you maximum pleasure that is the root of their own stimulation, lots of non-penetrating activities, explorative and patient, focused on building up the tension, is intimate in the most simple ways such as kissing, sucking, rubbing etc. like hitomi says how can you get your partner to let go and get lost in the sensations especially for females since sexuality is a little more mental.
@@LucentSky thank you 🙏🏼
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Thank you.
I find it difficult when a partners kink is emotionally damaging to me. Also, being with partners who don’t care if I have an orgasm even after I speak up about it.
If you feel Like your Partner expects from you to do practices that are emotionally damaging to you, thats wrongful entitlement. Your Partner is Not entitled to your Body, to Access to your Body. Accepting otherwise Makes you vunerable to futher manipulation, or cohersion. That May entrench on your Sense of Body/ autonomy and mental Liberty and can be traumatic longterm. Especially Femmes need to question believing they are physical property of men/their sexual Partners when it comes to intimacy.
Of cause it is difficult to have Sex with Someone who doesnt care about you/rs!!! it makes this super vunerable experience super unsafe/dissociative for you to be in..Im sorry youre experiencing that with Someone that is supposed to make you feel Safe and entrusting.
If you feel Like you can Not speak up to your intimate Partner in fear of Being dismissed/ignored/ridiculed/attacked/guilt tripped, this Person May Not be nourishing for you to be around. And you May want to consider why or how you want to grow next to such a Person (if Martyrdom and ideological imposed suffering doesnt count).
Saludos happy Sunday
So this is to compensate not being 'well endowed". Alright, I definitely don't fit in that description.
Oh do I wish this was in my native language for me to send it to so many of my het friends back home 😂
Thanks dude.